1. Low self esteem or dependent 2. Lack of impulse control 3. Narcissistic tendencies 4. Emotionally Unavailable 5. Easily bored 6. She's cheated in the past 👍👍
The low self-esteem is the most common. Specially the women that know they're not physically appealing, those women are seeking most attention to feel better about themselves.
My ex cheated for the same reason you mentioned early in your video, she said she “wasn’t getting the attention she needed from me”. Funny thing is, I had expressed for years that I was not getting the effort and attention I needed in the relationship from her, but I never cheated. It was only an issue when it affected her. Selfish people will do inherently selfish things. It is their nature.
@@moleahy6880 I did because the girl was hot and I enjoyed hooking up with her. I was like 21 and too young an dumb to care or even realize what a waste of time it was and what damage it did to my view and trust in relationships now. I don’t trust relationships or even friendships anymore because of the pathetic evil shit that these girls that I dated did to me.
Hi, Courtney. I'm an anaesthetist (anesthesiologist in American) in Australia and I can confirm that a lot of affairs happen in the hospital system. The reasons are un-surprising when you think about them. The pattern I often see is a male surgeon or anaesthetist having an affair with a female nurse. Surgeons and anesthetists work long hours and often spend more time with their co-workers than with their families. They don't have much time to meet people outside of their workplace. People with narcissist traits are more likely to pursue well-paid, highly regarded professions such as medicine and are likely to be susceptible to flattery and attention. Due to studying and working hard during their teens and early adulthood, they've often missed out on opportunities to date and might feel that they could actually attract a more desirable partner. If they married before they were fully qualified (highly paid) specialists, then this might be true. At the same time, there are plenty of young, attractive nurses who, due to the limits of their profession, have limited opportunities for career advancement / income growth. They're often in relationships with low to middle-income men who they met before they were working closely with doctors. Some see high-income doctors as an opportunity to improve their lifestyle. Sometimes these workplace romances endure but often one of the participants tires of the other person and moves on to a new affair with a different co-worker. I expect that you would find a similar dynamic in other professions where highly-paid, hard-working men spend time with attractive lower-income younger women.
On top of that high stress situation make for great afrodisiacs. It however does ruin workplace atmosphere and often the female workers get the short end of the stick, literally and figuratively
I went on a first date with a woman who threw out so many red flags it was mind boggling. "How much do you make? Is that net or gross? Are you a manager? How many square feet is your house?" These were all on the first date, mind you. Sure as hell she would have cheated. There was no second date with her.
At least 70% of women you'll meet have that same interview style dating technique. Others will tell you a bit about their lives and you can judge quite quickly if you can or can't afford her as she won't stick around if you can't. The 3rd type are the ones who could get any guy they want so you have to think smart because she would have a guy if she could hold a relationship down, which obviously she can't and probably never has. It's a lot like something you've heard of before except in reverse as there's around 1-2% quality women, the rest are trash with 2-5 kids. Each child is reckoned to cost £6k pa 🤑 Some single women haven't dated in 6-15years as they got so damaged the 1st time they now don't have a clue and she'd be so sorely inexperienced in the bedroom that a block of wood laying under you would more be more fun 😂 As always most women see their genital area as the only way they've known to gain access to funding or safety not forgetting any man or woman in a high income job is highly likely to be a ruthless operator 🙌
I remember an ex and a woman I dated who had concerning thoughts on my views on cheating. Basically they didn't like my ideas... It's simple. If you cheat, you're cut out of my life. Point, blank, period. There's no discussion. I don't care for the reason. I don't date cheaters. Take your second chance with someone else. My ex had a little of that online validation need. The girl I was dating had very poor impulse control. So what you're saying Courtney certainly checks out for me.
@@dudejoe8390 they basically thought my views were too harsh. "everyone makes mistakes" that sort of thing. My retort would be something along the lines of "their second chance can be with someone else".... Then it'd be something about my attachment style and I'd tune out and go back to whatever I was doing
100%. I am no hypocrite either. Not that I would or have any desire to, but If I was in a relationship and I cheated, and you didn't just walk out of my life; you F ed up. If I cheated, you better be damn well sure it wasn't an accident.
I personally consider cheating in the same category as physical violence. It is never the answer to your problems. It always makes matters worse. People who resort to these responses do so because they're not smart enough to find a better solution. There is always, always, always better solutions than cheating and violence.
I have been both shot and cheated on. I can tell you that the betrayal of cheating is 100X more painful than a bullet wound. That pistol destroyed some skin, muscle, and bone. Her cheating destroyed not just our relationship but my ability to trust, my self-esteem, and much more. It's been almost a year and I still think about some aspect of that betrayal day after day. I very rarely notice the small hole the bullet left.
Violence is absolutely the answer when it is between that and dying, or defending the people you love. Clearly you've never been in a life or death situation before. Your comment is extremely ignorant.
Important things as well: 0:40 (First thing - Low self-esteem or dependent), 1:53 (Second thing - Lack of impulse control), 2:55 (Third thing - Narcissistic tendencies), 3:46 (Fourth thing - Emotionally unavailable), 4:37 (Fifth thing - Easily bored), 5:52 (totally agree with that as well), 6:10 (Sixth thing - She's cheated in the past), 7:10 (I'm not so sure about that, but who am I to judge), and 7:58 (to summarize all the mentioned things). Generally, the deeds are crucial in all relations as well, and not the words. Why? Because the person can say one thing, think on second thing, and at the end he or she does some other third thing as well. The deeds are the things that can decide that we can either stay or we can either leave from our partner, or partners as well. And that can be used in any life situations as well. I have reed somewhere one thing, and it goes like this (you can correct me if I'm wrong): The loved one's who loves us will find a million reasons to leave us, but there will be always one reason why will they stay with us. I have to ask two questions as well. Before I even start, I would like to apologizes if someone would understand as an insult, or maybe as a stupid question. And I ask cause of curiosity. But how would men behave if they feel lonely? Will they also cheat if they feel lonely? Thank you very much for any reply, and also thank you talking about this problem, and topic as well.
Female infidelity has been rising quickly for the past 30 years. Now it is at the same level as male infidelity for the first time in history. BUT, the worrying thing is: there’s no sign yet of a “limiting factor” so it is likely to keep rising for the foreseeable future. Women have every opportunity to cheat. They are constantly hit on, and they spend more time with flirty coworkers than with their spouses. (Hence the term “work husband” - such a disrespectful term to their life partner)… They get thousands of “matches” on dating apps, and guys hitting them up on social media. Meanwhile, their boyfriends/partners are forgotten, neglected, manipulated or even abused. They are made to raise other men’s children without ever realising it. The world’s a mess. But you cannot fully blame promiscuous women. Thirsty men, and simps, have given all their power to women and robbed men of quality relationships. For society to move forward, men need to stop chasing everything in a skirt and look at a woman’s character more critically. Watch-out for “red flags” and don’t be a chump (like I was).
Fact, Work became I have to look out for my guys, if my guys are there I have to be there. Husband and son at home but her guys where the #1 priority. Well at least one of them. Maybe he left his wife for her but I drought it.
Thanks for saying the latter, instead of putting all the responsibility onto women like "in the good old days". I personally think that people would do well, also, to basically care a bit less about sex for sex sake. And care more about things like: personal chemistry and passion and depth of emotional bond. Quality, basically.
It would be interesting to know from your wife how often men hit on them and what she thinks of it. They probably don’t tell their husband for fear of scaring them.
Courtney, I wish you made this video sooner. I proposed to my now ex when she displayed a HANDFUL of these warning signs. She also works in medicine. This video is so crazy accurate it’s scary, prophetic almost. At least we broke up before we got married and had any kids. Thank you for creating these videos - you have a lot of good and accurate information and approach topics with zero bias.
You're so right Courtney! That explains why I was cheated on, the girl I was with was lonely insecure and later I found out she has BPD, she cheated very quickly because of perceived rejection or something.
Yeah I knew a girl, I loved her but she acted very hot and cold, acted like I didn’t exist via texts but in person threw herself at me but then also rolled her eyes if I didn’t do exactly as she wanted . I believe she has borderline personality . I don’t she she knows. Some white knight manipulator took over her life when I got upset and called her out for all the nasty things she did to me. She basically doubled down and made her feel she was totally right and I was totally wrong . He also project a lot. I feel so bad for her because I always sensed she could easily be manipulated due to her strong impulses and in the heat of the moment I described her and this guy saw it and basically said to himself “Easy target” . She then claimed they were soul mates a few weeks later. I showed her legit love for a year and a half at the least, she didn’t care . Strong borderline tendency , they also fall hard for narcisssists And she seemed to be drawn to guys like that and that last guy was the biggest joke of a wanna a tough/cool/righteous/romantic guy you could ever dream of. He’s almost a walking cliche, it baffled me how she could take him seriously , he’s like a cartoon
My ex-wife cheated on me with about half a dozen different guys after she found out she was pregnant with our second kid and cheated the entire pregnancy. I found out after she left me and about a couple months before the kid was born. She fit the description of a narcissist perfectly.
My ex an RN, yup she cheated. And being in the medical field you get to see the hypergamy , the people that know, know what I’m talking about. Thank you!
Say more, please. I'm interested because my first hypothesis about this being a more surprising result was that the medical and social care fields are so dominated by women by percentage that it's inevitable many of the cheaters would come from that field without any particular causality implied. You've observed something specific though, which peaked my curiosity.
@@lunaslide_actual Of course, you're more likely to cheat with someone in your surroundings. Since you spend as much time, if not more, with people at work, a RN is more likely to cheat with a male doctor. But what photoman mitch is saying is that, woman date up, they prefer someone with more value than themselves. A doctor is seen as higher value. That's hypergamy. Woman rarely will date down and they certainly will not cheat down with a guy that's perceived as lesser value than she is or I suppose lesser value than the man she's currently with.
@@pierrelevasseur2701 Appreciate the response. Unfortunately, I wasn't clear enough. I understand what hypergamy is, I was curious if he was saying there is some greater than average expression of hypergamy among caregivers. Rereading the comment though, it seems to be more of a personal experience than clinical knowledge.
@@lunaslide_actual I don't see why that would be, a higher percentage of hypergamy among caregivers. It's possible but I don't see an obvious cause and effect factor just based on one's job description. I think a person will cheat mainly because they are not getting what they want and need from their partner. It's why I suggested in another post to read The Five Love Languages. It would be why a woman married to a millionaire would cheat, not having to worry about finances is great but if her love language is quality time and her husband doesn't provide that, she'll find it elsewhere.
I had a girl I was casually seeing and I found out she cheated on her bf with me and a few others(at least 3 men). Then she thought it was a me problem that I said "no" when she asked if I wanted to date her seriously. I had told her that if she wanted to keep seeing me she needed to break up with her bf and she did but I also told her it was never going to be a thing between us. I mean, she was (as far as I know) dating me exclusivity, but I wasn't about to commit to her. I did feel kind of bad about it but it was the best choice.
Thats all I ever asked for. If you feel you need to cheat youre already gone so just get gone. No need to do something specifically designed for me to eventually find out. Nope. Chics all cheat knowing its going to hurt. Thats why they do it. They most likely dont even find the other dude attractive. Its all spite because they cant control their emotions. They get upset over literally everything. Even shit they make up
Tell that to my ex. She constantly reminded how miserable, lonely and unhappy she was in the relationship. When I asked her to walk away. She refused. It's better to have "miserable"supply then to have none. Eventually we parted ways.
Got cheated twice now (I've been thinking for a while that maybe somehow has been my fault) but after watching this video, along with reading multiple opinions from a lot of people watching these kind of videos too I've found that the traits that you just explain pinpoints exactly the behavior that I've dealing with in my partners, and also why I'm attracted to those .. I'm a person who wants to help all the time, who wants to cheer people up, etc .. I love this video, thanks for it!
I wouldn't always blame one side or the other. You could have been stale, boring, playing it "safe" & "nice" in the way you treat her. A woman doesn't want to marry someone who treat her like his sister. Spice up your life and the relationship, push & pull is the best tactic. Or it might be her fault as well, having narcissistic tendencies and never ending attention seeking behavior that no one man can fulfill. But again, you don't solve that by cheating, that's disrespectful, rude & disgraceful. She can always breakup and hookup with whoever she finds better fit for her.
You probably know this already but stop going for broken people who need you to cater to them and cheer them up. It is not your job to fix broken women.
> and also why I'm attracted to those .. I'm a person who wants to help all the time, who wants to cheer people up, etc .. I feel you. Thankfully, in my case, I had two 1+ year-long relationships at a relatively young age (19 and 21) that simply did beaten up this side of me to a bloody pulp until it was completely gone. At some point you'll understand that support and cheering are things that are earned, and women are not excused from that just for being women, or pretty, or having a difficult past. You save these impulses for those who are actually making an effort in the here and now. Note that this is true even for friendships, regardless of gender. Romantic relationships just make this mindset even more necessary for both people involved.
I am a teacher and my wife too. But she cheated on me with her ex because she said she didn't get enough attention from me. There's no words that can describe the pain and hurts that I have been through. Thank you for the video Courtney, it's totally accurate.
This is why it would be better if you be in a relationship with someone who is an introvert rather than an extrovert, because introverts are less likely to cheat on their partners than extroverts. Most girls and boys these days end up in relationships with extroverts, this is the reason why cheating is very common among couples. But if you're in a relationship with an introvert then it'll be very unlikely that he/she will cheat on you
WOW! Just wow! I just got dumped, and discovered she had cheated, when she was pretending to be going through a major tragedy. She checks all the boxes, that you mentioned.
"Easily bored" is a red flag for me for another reason: I tend to wonder if an easily bored person does not have a rich inner environment or is lower in self-awareness or ability to self-entertain than I might prefer to be close to.
Same, I usually asks girl on date on what's her hobbies, those easily bored type usually can't even commit to hobbies, their hobbies usually short-lived. This video just confirms my tendency to those who can't even commit to hobbies.
Maybe I am wrong, but most western women don't seem to have any real hobbies, especially things that involve using their minds, creativity, talents, etc. Most women seem to only watch tv/movies, listen to music, go clubbing/dancing with friends for fun. These types seem to be easily bored. They often don't seem interested in learning or trying something new and if they do, it's usually very casual. Even though there's plenty of female artists, writers, gamers, photographers, etc. there still doesn't seem to be enough of them.
My ex broke up with me and told her i was "boring". The actual reason was because i was focusing more on myself and giving her less attention. She was a very selfish person and lacks and accountability for her wrongs.
@@Dj.D25 > Maybe I am wrong, but most western women don't seem to have any real hobbies I've noticed that too, specially in the last 10+ years or so. There was a time up to the beginning of the 2000's where I'd meet and be friends (or more) with a LOT of women who were genuinely into music, or cinema, or books, to the point I could have 1-2 hour-long conversations with them about a single author, director, a genre and so on. Now it's as rare as diamonds. I blame the rise of social media, subscription services, and the hard shift to digital delivery. People in general - men and women - are more easily distracted and have so many easy options that they can't really cherish what they do find to like. > Even though there's plenty of female artists, writers, gamers, photographers, etc. there still doesn't seem to be enough of them. Oh no, there sure are. The problem here is not quantity, it's quality. You just need to take a hard look at the state of mainstream writing, art and entertainment in general these days (regardless of gender, by the way). Most of the younger people on those fields right now aren't there because they really love it. It's because of multiple external reasons: they couldn't do anything else remotely properly, they entered these fields to avoid 9-to-5 jobs with more responsibilities, they can't deal with any real pressure, or they feel they can use art/entertainment to 'educate' other people or 'save the world'. That's why these people can't produce meaningful art or content, and their work often feels stiff, like the author is looking down on you all the time. And of course, such people will never be capable - and sometimes not even willing - to properly discuss or have any real passion for a piece of art or entertainment (unless it's through an activism lens, of course). That's why you don't meet genuinely interesting creatives around in the real world even if there are more content creators than ever, thanks to all these subscription services, new avenues to self-publishing, social media and other ways of selling your work easier than ever. Deep down, to most of them, the music, books, movies, games they create or help create are just another job that allows them to avoid putting on a suit or dealing with 'traditional' working hours. Nothing more.
The most important thing to watch out for is self-centeredness combined with a lack of empathy. Unfortunately, people who have these traits are typically very good at hiding them during the initial stages of a relationship (3-6 months), but there are other traits that are often part of the package which are harder to hide. Here are some of the secondary traits to watch out for: 1. Can't take any kind of criticism 2. Victim of every situation/story 3. B&W (dichotomous) thinking 4. No genuine lifelong friendships 5. My way or the highway 6. Unable to resolve conflict 7. Never forgives. 8. Never genuinely apologizes 9. Fake it 'til they make it 10. Never wrong
Sounds like my ex wife sadly. I have spent the last year working on myself and improving my life, going to counselling on my own. Being a good father. Still she plays the victim card and believes she did nothing wrong in the relationship. To a point where I just kinda felt numb trying to get a little accountability from her. I recognise my faults and have/continue to work on them. She’s still in full belief she is Always right.
When I was 19 there was a married Catholic woman who wanted an affair. A friend invited me to his family's Thanksgiving for the weekend in Chicago. I was a sophomore at a Catholic college nearby. It was bizarre. The woman was about in her mid 30s and seemed burnt out from marriage. They had three children. A Catholic priest held a mass in the family's basement on Thanksgiving. It was surreal - the elderly grandfather was virulently racist and openly expressed hatred of Native Americans (my ethnicity). His adult children wouldn't say anything to stop him. Simultaneously, the grandchildren liked me (young and progressive). Then suddenly the mother made it clear she wanted an affair - a blonde Irish Catholic married mother of three children. I did not reciprocate. It just didn't make sense. But it exposed me to two realities: (1) virulent racism in the suburbs of the Midwest (very common) and (2) supposedly Conservative Christian wives can still have affairs. I was glad to leave that weekend. Decades later, I've seen affairs in the work environment (pre-covid). A lot of them are emotional affairs which at times get physical. Statistically, many affairs start at work or on facebook/social media. Historically, men were more likely to have affairs (e.g. 1950s) but now that appears to have evened out due to social media and entry of women into formerly male fields like engineering or medicine. I stay away from dating in the work environment. It would be like trying to take a stroll in hurricane weather with turbulent wind, debris and fallen power lines scattered among floods, alligators, and bull sharks - lol.
Friendly reminder; if you’ve been cheated on. I know it will be hard to move on, and let your guard down again. But please, take time to heal but don’t go into a new relationship or date with the concept that all people cheat. It’s unfair to the new person in your life and everyone deserves a chance including yourself. Cheaters NEVER deserve a second chance. You can forgive them; and tell them you hope they learn from this. BUT NEVER date them again, you deserve better.
I'm that type of guy who would give them at least three chances and then like in baseball they're out. Either they're out or I'm leaving that relationship. I believe that there is room for improvement for everybody but definitely if you're a Serial cheater you get no chances
@@mlggamer5296 Never give a cheater a second chance. It shows that you have no boundaries and don’t value yourself. Therefore you leave the door wide open for it to happen again.
@@Esteban-MK64 like I said it depends because if they want to work on themselves I probably would doesn't mean I personally don't have boundaries but what it really means like I said it means that I'm also thinking about the possibility of if they want to try and work on it and do better but it was a case where I hear from their friends that yeah they are serial cheater then I would agree with you
@@mlggamer5296 You know want man. Who am I to tell you how to live your life. My apologies for letting my past experiences get in the way of you finding your happiness.
Why doesn't that apply to men ? Because I'm telling you that has zero correlation. Also, this girl I went to HS with was a complete whore unabashedly. GB college dudes at 17 and on and on. Her father was always in the picture. So. I kinda think this is a case of correlation without causation.
I’m a professional who has dealt with situations like this for many years. The problem is actually pretty easy to solve for either gender. Immediately reject anything even remotely flirtatious from another party. Problem solved!!If you accept flirting because it boosts your ego, you’re already open to cheating!
I've been propositioned by a few women who were already in relationships but I declined I'm not a believer in breaking up homes or marriage's plus I don't like drama and dishonorable deeds .
The amount of times I've witnessed girls that very subtlety cheat on their man is insane, I've had a married women feel my arms, women that flirt etc. And other women completely stare me down or take a glance at me when their man isn't looking. It's a fucking joke and it happens so much to the point that I think of that any time I think about a relationship
Instagram is a dating app. Just because some people use it for other reasons doesn't change that. No different than people who try to say that only fans isn't a porn site. Yeah, there may be creators on it who _don't_ do sex work, but the majority of the creators do.
I think cheating to some people is because they want a better partner and by doing it behind their back they want to make sure they find someone better before they leave their partner. If they just leave, who knows if their new partner is even worse. Kind of like finding a new job before you quit your current job.
I used to work in nightclubs and I can tell you from personal experience. The ones that are working in the medical field are very well known to have a different Wilder side to them. Obviously it's not all of them. But just simply a portion.
My Ex Cheated. She used to work in a Grocery Store, but She said she Wasn't Happy working there and quit. After having been working there for many Years, she spent MONTHS unemployed. During which time, She Cheated on me and lied about it. The saddest part about this, is that I NEVER Cheated on ANYONE. And the Fact that I'm middle Aged (47) makes me feel, like I'm in a VERY precarious situation. In that it gets harder to find someone as you Age. So yeah... Her Cheating has caused DOUBLE the damage to me.
Being one of the very few people nowadays who is aware that true narcissists aren’t everywhere & are rare, I found out during therapy (after she cheated on me & we broke up) that yep, she IS a narcissist. I was astounded. Just my luck. She said it was because we weren’t spending enough time together. When she knew I was busting my ass working two jobs to get us a place together while she sat on her ass unemployed. She wasn’t getting constant adulation or attention so saw it as a valid reason to step out.
You will never be enough for some women. The last guy she dated was never enough. The next guy probably won't be either. Who wants to spend their life with that?
@@jmnthe3rd exactly. One of the many reasons I didn’t get take her back when she came crawling back. I don’t need that drama in my life. I’d rather be alone & have my peace than be with a woman who brings nothing but chaos.
@@Kal.El1 narcissism is a spectrum and most people have at least one of the traits. It’s much more common in men than women (whereas Borderline Personality Disorder is almost exclusively a woman’s disorder). It’s estimated that only about 1% of women have NPD.
Your Instagram is different. Not only is it a work Instagram, you have a lot of different things on it. A woman who has an Instagram that is only selfies or pictures of her, is 100% cheating. Also, if a woman has social media, gets with a guy and does not IMMEDIATELY start posting pictures with him, massive red flag. She's keeping him off there for a reason and the reason is cheating.
Dating as an autistic man here is downright impossible. For over 20 years, I’ve been told to hide that I’m autistic bc people will think lowly of me. I thought my parents were exaggerating, and they were. It was way worse than they let on. I quite literally have to hide the fact that I have autism for own safety. Every time people figured out that I’m autistic, there’d be someone who’d come out of the woodworks to treat me horribly and/or try to take advantage of me. Afterall, I’m autistic, so that automatically makes me less than human to most other people. I mask as best I can, but if I that drop the mask, it puts me at risk of physical assault. (Men have attacked me while calling me a “fucking freak” and I don’t even know what set them off. I never spoke to them and I remember that I was trying to unmask at the time.) Point being, my life literally depends on keeping that mask on 24/7. My mom would work at the schools I go to, but I strongly believe it was to make sure the school doesn’t do anything shady with me. Autistic people are more likely to be abused by teachers. My mom being there didn’t stop the schools from doing shady shit with me, but I shudder to imagine what they would’ve done without her there. In my teen years, I did some resumé experiments and found that people who committed vehicular manslaughter have an easier time being hired than autistic people. The one question I always asked was why? Why am I worse than someone who killed people with their car? I have had partners who treated me well, but finding them was a monumental pain. Now that I’m single again, I’ve found that I can’t let my date know I’m autistic and I can’t not her know either. If I don’t tell her, she assumes I’m weird and either leaves or cheats on me. If I do tell her, she either leaves immediately, tries to take advantage of me and/or treats me like a complete idiot. The only advice I ever get now is “you haven’t found the right one” or that I’m not confident in myself. It doesn’t matter who I ask. Even with all these people that genuinely hate me, I still work to improve myself, but it’s never enough. It genuinely seems like even though I have a well-paying job, treat my partners well (my exes will tell you that I treated them very well), my own place, have hobbies, learned a lot of social skills, learned how to be funny and improved my looks to be an 8/10, it’s still not enough. I’m debating on whether or not I should just give up on ever being able to find someone who treats me well. Basic human decency is probably too much to ask for now.
word of advice from a fellow autist - dont look at it like something that defines you. you are you, not the shit you're diagnosed with. never use autism as an excuse, just keep vibing. the second i stopped saying "its my depression/anxity/autism" is when my life started improving. take responsibility for as much as you can.
Because you genuinely are special and anyone special in the post-panddmic hyper conformist world must be extra, draining or a narc. Obviously. Was diagnosed with autism & adhd myself when younger twice (age 3 and 17), but suspect I actually have bipolar ii. Folks, mental health stigmatization doesnt make you sane it makes you evil and frankly I know why you wont hire people or befriend people who are genuinely different: because you're an egomaniac who feels special and entitled to not give a damn. You're in a state of panic and you dont like seeing reality for what it is so you need someone to blame. Ah yes, those who arent successful must be burdensome to us as a society, quick let's kill them and take them away from here! I'd be wary of the scientific authorities as well who proclaim we need to have genetically modified babies or eugenics. They want the perfect human without problems not because of its benefits, but because they're psychopaths without a shred of compassion themselves and literally believe in the law of the jungle. I mean think about it, in either warfare or hard times how does an organism survive without too much pain: they get sneaky and clever in their adaptations. And this is the true issue in our times: we are so focused on external locus of control and get upset when we're blamed but feel very comfortable and happy to have a scapegoat come in so we can rise to the top. But this is wrong because it seems to be common sense that the best way to have a better society isnt by taking peoples rights away or spending an exhausting amount of time on a hypercobformist ideological sentiment, but instead to teach people the virtue of SELF-DISCIPLINE AND SELF-RESTRAINT! Seriously folks, disciplining a child shouldn't be about punishment vs reward, but manifest destiny vs atrophy. Are you going to advance or be held back?! Because then you create power and social games which just screw up everything. But if you teach people to accept themselves for being who they are they they can accept others. If you can accept others then you can leave them alone because why?! Because they're self-discipline already and already are trustworthy. Trust, a lost art in society itself, and all because we didnt teach people to be autonomous and self-discipline humans we reinvented self-discipline and equated it with selfishness because you didnt need the system to impose its will on you and that meant the government could be smaller. So people hate all individualists (evil ones being dark triad), neurodivergents (bipolar, schizophrenia, autism, schizoid etc.) because they dont feel gravitated towards groups, they arent ooooh lookie I see shiny girl leggings, or coins. Lemme go manipulate and get some. Gimme that its mine! They raise us to be animals not human with our own souls or conscience. We can have a free society if we taught people to RESPECT their own dignity and their self-discipline. It's that simple. A society of self-discipline people is one where we dont spend our time distrusting and making people do a million little things for no reward and then risk getting cut off and burned. All my life I felt different as well and still do. The pain and alienation is so great I became a philosopher over the years seeking answers and wisdom. I'm writing books now debunking Nihilism. I think Nihilism is the worst philosophy ever created by mankind because once its embraced there is no more hope at all. Everything becomes perpetually lost, dark, meaningless etc. And we seemed to have entered it around last year.
A person's dating history tells a lot about their predispositions and how they'll behave in the future. IF a girl has a history of short-term flings where she's just using men for her own personal gain, then that may raise some suspicion. Many casual relationships may mean that she regularly acts on her hypergamous instincts by trading up every time she sees a higher value guy. That will be a recipe for disaster if you're looking for long-term stability.
Many flings to me means she’ll get bored with just one dick. If I know a woman has a high body count, I find it hard to believe she can walk away from that life all together
When I was working at a hospital I used to hear conversations among nurses and omg bro... Cheating was such a NORMAL thing to talk about and they were like solid 3. I was like damn they cheat and talk about as it's a fun thing then they talk about how annoying their kids are and how little grandma helps when they wanted to go out to bars and get wasted. I heard those types of conversations often. Before that I used to work in restaurants and well it kinda goes the same way with waitresses... It's tough out there!
food service industry is KNOWN to have the worst types (for dating). They often do drugs together and cheat often. Not sure why this is but it is well established. Never date a waitress.
Instagram brings new red/green flags all on its own. For example people who have lots of selfies have narcistic tendencies according to some study I don't remember, lol.
# 1 reason to cheat is: Low Self esteem, cheating is unethical and those with low morality do anything and here where Selfishness comes, a well known brotherhood, fires/kicks out anyone that cheats, cheaters are liars too.. cheating should be counted as a felony, had a long lecture/debate about it year ago. LOVE YOUR TOPICS, WELL DONE.
The medical field one isn't surprising. They work extremely long shifts, often times have to travel, and are working along side extremely successful males, who they probably spend more time with than they do their spouse.
@@khatdubell a woman working in the medical field with a bunch of successful and intelligent men is like a man working for a modeling agency wherein they’re constantly surrounded by beautiful women. Three things are required for cheating: Opportunity, Time, and Attraction. So a wife working as a nurse has plenty of Time spent with men they find attractive. Eventually, they’ll just need the Opportunity (medical conventions and any other number of weekend trips that doctors routinely take as part of their job) to complete the circuit and they’ll end up cheating.
The saying "once a cheater, always a cheater" is a degradation from the original Maxim authored by the Duc de la Rouchefoucauld , which was , "It is easier to find a woman who has never been guilty of an indiscretion than it is to find a woman who has been guilty of only one." Which indeed, it most certainly is.
And that is why I've been single for all these years women want you to make lots of money drive a nice car, an expensive home, etc but they want you to be accepting of them no matter what even if they have kid from one or more previous relationships.
The way you have an insight on the minds of people and breaking it down logically and critically is phenomenal. I really get to learn about how everybody really feels in a relationship!!!
I just broke up with my first girlfriend a month ago. I left her after only a month (I'm 24 btw) Why? After watching this I now know. No impulse control. She flaked me 3 times and wasn't taking the relationship seriously. Not to mention those flakes causing me to not see her for 2 weeks! Even though she was only 15 minutes away It's hard to find reliable people these days.
Histrionic, borderline or narcisstic personalities; that's the essence of it. Sexual childhood abuse in itself is a pretty good precursor. It leads not only to the mentioned disorders but also to the ability to detach sexuality from emotions which enables to all kinds of prostitution.
My wife told me in April that she was leaving me for another man. Completely out of the blue. Didn't even know she was talking to someone. She claimed she was "not happy". I said, ok then leave me, you don't have to cheat. But she was determined to be with this other guy. We had a two year old at this point.
Dated a narc off and on for a while... She discarded me, ended up with someone who beat her and then married some random guy about a year or so after she broke up with the other guy and met him at the same time.... Basically I look at this women and realize I never wanted anything to do with her or whatever she had in mind for her future. It's easier to see ppl for who they are when you are mentally, physically and emotionally secure. Focus on yourself first then whatever for you will find you dating/looking around at the right time.
Self improvement… when you pore into yourself you raise your value. By doing this you you’ll be more aware, higher standards and or just more in touch w/ what your true self wants / attracted too.
A year in the gym, building my faith, close to graduating w/ a masters… basically what I mean. Took time to do those things for me and the results were beautiful. A lot of men are externally focused… focus on self and what you can control.
I guess I don't have that experience. I got fit, I upped my money game, I've reclaimed my faith and walk with Christ. I've improved myself in every way and every woman I've dated for the past five years has some terrible red flag or is emotionally unavailable or just uses me for a meal and attention. I don't think it just suddenly works out just because you focus on yourself. There's something wrong with women as a group imo, they don't behave properly. Act like men or broken lunatics.
@@clanghampton7158 I didn't say they just change but your discernment comes from the changes you've made. Also everyone experience is different. I had dates plenty of women before and after. I also ended up choosing someone I knew from a while back because of my dating experience. I know what's outside like you said and it was easier for me to see that a person I had loved prior was the person I was suppose to be with. Will keep you in my prayer for the day. Keep working hard and looking. Plenty of women that fit any standards and have their own everything going on. Don't let a few women make you think something is wrong with all of them.
I once dated a woman who was Blonde, worked in the Medical Field, AND had cheated before (on her husband with ME). I was too naive and didn't put it all together until I discovered she had been answering ads on dating sites looking for my replacement. Valuable lesson learned, too late as it turned out.
The arts has to be one of the biggest if not the biggest. I dated a highly dysfunctional game player who worked in theatre and she told me everyone she worked with was cheating with colleagues due to the long hours and touring schedule. What I know about her only reinforced the point. So I guess the takeaway is that any profession that demands long hours that is likely to foster closer bonds with colleagues than with family is likely to produce a higher quantity of cheaters than others. I could imagine that’s very much true of education professions
My suspicion is women in certain occupations like education or social work are in environments where the dominant "moral philosophy" is more lax than women in relationships with more conservative leaning occupations. For women in occupations like finance and medicine, they are surrounded by many men of a higher status job. Add in one of those other characteristics you mentioned, and I can see the temptations.
Women without strong father figures are more likely to cheat in my experience. Seems like it’s a growing problem in my estimation. Now, you definitely want to find a woman with a strong father figure in her life but there’s also a risk there too. I’ve met a few women who had such a strong dad presence in her life that now she thinks that NO ONE is good enough for her because no one is good enough for her dad. “My perfect daughter deserves the perfect man.” It’s a better situation than the previous one but it can also be really frustrating too.
I’ve never seen it listed as a red flag on any of the videos I’ve watched but I too firmly believe a woman with no hobbies (and “no”, putting on makeup or posting on TikTok, etc are NOT hobbies) is a huge red flag.
Besides that, idk if I can ever date any girl that's a therapist, let alone in social work. I don't think they have the capability to switch that off during their off hours
Okay, I have to take a guess. A woman that tries to get together with you who is married or has a boyfriend. If you start dating, she's most likely to cheat on you.... OK now I'm going to listen to the video and see if I'm right.
Men, don't put up with the "you're just insecure" argument from your woman when you tell her you're not comfortable with her hanging out alone with other men. It's a perfectly reasonable boundary to set once you two are committed to each other. There should be literally nothing either of you could want from the opposite sex anymore. That's not you being insecure, that's you knowing your worth.
I disagree. I have many female friends that I only look at platonically, they've never put a strain into my relationships and my life would be worse off without their help. I find reasonable that my partners also have male friends. Seriously, if you don't trust someone not even as much as allowing them to speak to the other gender, don't have a relationship with them
@Juan Carlos it's really not about trust, it's about respect. There's nothing wrong with a man who doesn't want his partner to spend time ALONE with sexually available men. If you're cool with it, okay great this isn't applicable to you. If I had a serious girlfriend or a wife and she still wanted to go out with other men without me, or God forbid go to the club, then that's a dealbreaker. This isn't high school anymore.
Juan, lol you do realize 50% of people cheat right? that number is exponentially higher for people who routinely hang around the opposite sex alone without their partner in social settings (bars, clubs) or private settings( homes, hotels). Yes you should trust your partner but all i'm saying is anyone who isn't nervous about this is just naive and a sucker.
@@SHYKOOPA just because you have female friends and see them as a friends doesn’t mean your girls homeboys see her as a sister haha Those men are going to the shoulder to cry on when you and your girl go thru problems. I don’t have female friends cause they are a liability
@@SHYKOOPAYou sound beta. What man hangs around women and want nothing from them. And is comfortable with your woman hanging out with guys? She going to cheat on you if she haven't yet.
A woman once questioned why I pumped, double pumped, and then dumped. She never thought telling me about all the times she cheated on her exes was a huge red flag 🚩
I haven't ever been cheated on, at least as far as I know of and I've never cheated on anyone, though I did break up with a girl once because I wanted to sleep with two others so.. idk if that counts, but I did go through a, fairly shameful in hindsight, spree of sleeping with girls who had boyfriends when I was a teenager. I didn't really know what I was doing but I could tell the type of girl who would get lost in stories I would tell or like spontaneous activities, I knew if she was that type of girl it was gonna be pretty easy to get her to cheat cause I could just kind of plant some seeds of excitement and she'd blow it WAY out of proportion in her head until it seemed like sleeping with me was going to be the best possible use of her time. My attitude at the time was like 'meh, it's her commitment not mine idgaf' - bit less serious when you're like 18 through 22ish I suppose, drew a red line around that when I was about 25 and certainly wouldn't do it now, got fat anyway so couldn't even if I wanted to ha! - but when I drop the lbs Imma go ahead and keep that red line and uphold the bro code. But I did find it interesting that you mentioned girls with impulsive personalities, cause that was one of my main green flags back then, as in green flag she's gonna cheat on her boyfriend with me. I had some problems with impulse control too, which is the main reason I ended up getting fat, I'm 5ft 8 (which btw I'm proof all is not lost if you're under 6ft) I was 19st 7 in December, down to 18st 2 now, I'm currently in Post-Grad training to become a psychotherapist and the things I have learned in this training have improved my life, my discipline and my self-development SO much. My advice would be, if your girl has poor impulse control, first of all, be spontaneous and surprise her now and again, but see if you can get her in with a counsellor or therapist to work on it. Otherwise she's gonna be liable to be running around with the guys like what I used to be who never grew up.
Not to long ago I met a lady and we had the most incredibly romantic time. I thought we were going to be together forever. Then about a week later right out of the blue, she leaves me a john deer letter. So I called her up and she gave me a bunch of crap about me not listening to her enough or something, I mean I don't know I really wasn't paying attention. But the thing that hurt the most is I think she was seeing another guy...I never did find out who.
I have dated a number of cheaters. A lot of these traits came up. I call the first one "Trixie Tang Syndrome" (named for the character from The Fairly Oddparents), they constantly need reassurance and to be told how pretty, great, etc. they are. Insecurity is part of being human, an abundance of insecurity is immense unappealing. Then stuff like "I'm emotionally unavailable" or "I get bored easily" has always been a red flag to me. Saying that pretty much tells people you just shouldn't be dating. I've dated quite a few blondes... I can think of one that didn't cheat on me or just outright bail/ghost me. I'll never date another nurse or teacher again either, because holy shit those women are heartless. My longest relationship was with a blonde girl that was going to college for children's education (she now has a masters degree) and... she really fucked me over. After watching this, it definitely tracks with my own personal experiences.
I'm just gonna say the last one who cheated on me was definitely all of those 🤣... Sucks, but the worst is when they are bored or are not getting what they desire from you, but DO NOT tell you they need it from you. Such an easy thing, three years in, to just say "I need more x,y,z from you." It will literally happen if they do actually say it. Just a bummer that people do this to others when they are fully faithful, fully in, and absolutely want a relationship to work with this person. Interesting about the jobs they do though. 🤔
I caught my daughter's mom trying to cheat on me, we ended it pretty much right after since then she's emotionally bombed me and told me she had cheated on 3 other men after me, and now she's with a man she's cheated on 2 times, he's knows and still wants to be with her.
@@johnnyhandsome3424 Its not psycho to want to stop rewarding people for cheating. Not just women but men also. Putting children through that kind of mental anguish because she wanted a hot girl summer is abuse in my book. And statistically children do worse accodemically when raised in a broken family. Cheaters shouldn't get rewarded with child support, alimony, the house, and the kids. Hell family law doesn't even require evidence like criminal court does. So you get he said she said non-sense which puts the kids in the middle of an argument. The kids are the victims. Personally I could care less if a woman leaves me. A woman isn't my primary objective. She wants to leave.....leave,.....but I shouldn't be punished financially and have my kids taken away or lose my home all because she couldn't just be loyal. The person keeping the family unit together shouldn't be punished.
@@glendavis1266 forgetting to pay a bill, that's a mistake. Intentionally sleeping with someone other than your partner isn't a mistake, it's emotional and financial abuse to your husband, wife, kids. Period. Being intoxicated doesn't bar someone from responsibility. You can't undo it. Even if we didn't "punish" cheaters we certainly shouldn't be rewarding them with money because they decide to ruin a family. No.... absolutely not. Good people shouldn't be forced to pay for other people's "mistakes". If someone wants to forgive, fine whatever.....but if someone doesn't wanna forgive they shouldn't be punished for doing nothing wrong.
Today, the root cause of suffering is abundance. We are afflicted with the disease of abundance, which is inversely proportional to patience and efforts.
3:32 Omg Courtney, this happened to me today. She tried to rationalize to me that it was ok that she was dating another guy because she said we did not talk much last week.
Thank you for your video! Thanks to have revealed in which trades women will cheat most. From my perspective, women working in education, medical field and social work crave for social contact with other people and huge validation come from being a teacher, nurse or a social worker / psychologist and else. Probably they have more dependant traits, need a lot of emotional connection with the students / patients / clients 🤷♂️ As an avoiding empath, I still can get the "why". But I cannot be that type of promicuous emotional person which is probably what leads these women to cheat. Not from narcissistic needs, but more to feel that feeling of emptiness they crave at a unconscious / subconscious level 🤷♂️🤔
One type, the vine swinger. Get some of her dating history, if you see vine swinging, run for the hills. You are right, cheating is just a symptom of her other problems. Always evaluate how much time she has for you. If her availability is inconsistent, run for the hills. Try to show up unannounced, see how she reacts. If she is up to no good, she won't like your unannounced drop in.
It is common, (at least in western countries, West Europe, US ) that divorce rates are at a 35% in the first 5 years of marriage and 80% of them is filed by women. Then you are hearing remarks made by women who are married, have a few kids that they say "it is worth having a fight for an evening" and this then multiple times by different women who are living together, are married etc. So we can say that is kinda common that women think this way. And it is making you think. They just don't care what you think. They obviously take their man not very seriously and think that he is not going to walk away what ever they do.
One of my exs worked in education lol. She downgraded in every category in comparison to me, but he was also around more than me and I barely bothered to give her attention, let alone attempt to communicate. In retrospect, I really don't blame her. I was checked out and she knew it. My fault in the end, but not something I mind. It was a blow to the ego when it first happened.
Yes! This person had every point mentioned. Once social media was a thing years back on FB, it was all over. It was nothing and easy for her. Nearly killed me and took years to recover.
Courtney once again I wish you made this video before I met my ex. My ex in college had low self-esteem and always needed attention so she would invite numerous people and guys who would like her and give her the attention she needed while I was working my ass off in college
I was talking to this lady around august of last year, she said “we’re too old to be playing game” (we’re 28) so I was like okay makes sense, I talked to her for 2 months before I got fed up with the games 😂
Hmm i always had a feeling that i wasn't attracted to moto girls ( i ride a motorcycle myself) but I wasn't sure why. What you say about girls who thrive on adrenaline and are likely more impulsive might have a higher chance of cheating makes sense.
Your right about people throwing that word narcissist but also trauma is another one they say they were traumatized it’s just over reacting and another over used word that drives me crazy is toxic ..like seriously what does that even mean in most cases it does not fit the situation ..just my thoughts 😊
We are all vulnerable to cheating on partners when we seek affirmation from relationships. Once we self-validate, risk is greatly reduced. People who self-validate don’t perpetually chase affirmation. Once we realize “I am enough,” everything starts to balance.
@@timavers I'm not "self-validating", and I don't think I'm a good person because I'd never cheat. It's just not who I am. I don't need to validate myself because there was never any risk in the first place. I value the validation I get from my partner, but I wouldn't resort to cheating on them if they didn't validate me. I'd just leave. I don't avoid cheating on people because I think it's a bad thing, I just don't consider it as an option in the first place. I literally forgot that cheating was actually a thing until I saw this video in my recommended. For the record, I am male, a genius, and probably autistic, which probably makes *me* the outlier here. I imagine that what you stated does apply to most "people" but it still doesn't apply to everyone, therefore your use of the word "all" is innacurate.
Hello and Yes that is my experience. One thing I would add is all the crap on social media dumping on guys. And the mainstream media is not much better.
The type of man and his occupation or status also have a lot to do with women cheating. When I sang in a band many years ago, and I was somewhat decent looking and maybe just a little bit charismatic , but not really, women would flock to me just for singing in a band, and several cheated with me on their partners and spouses. The fact is, however, that I didn't even know they were married or were in another relationship. They were sneaky as hell. I sure did learn a lot about women during that time, and not in a good way. I ended up not being able to trust women for this reason for years. Many years have passed, and I'm older and no longer sing in a band, and most women don't even notice me...and I like that. I married a good woman...hopefully lol.
"Blonds are more likely to cheat than any other hair color"...but most blonds are not really blond. My thought is the bleach blonds are more likely to cheat. It is a stat that needs further scrubbing. But unfair to real blonds to paint them this way. My first wife cheated on me, not a blond, bleached or otherwise. The connection between spontaneity and adrenaline junkie struck me as true, but I have always been an adrenaline junkie and remember hearing many times from several different woman that I wasn't 'spontaneous enough' because I wouldn't just drop everything I was doing to out of nowhere to take an unplanned day trip or whatever. I get my stuff done by not allowing myself to be gratuitously sidetracked. You can always think of a reason to have fun, it's in the name. If you start pushing back responsibilities to have fun, you are by definition, irresponsible.
You might be on to something. People with BPD, usually change their hair colors to like blue, red, or whatever. Usually because they lack self identity. The bleach blonde could fall into that category … hmmm
I go by your point that it doesn’t go with all women because I’m on social media all the time but I’ve never cheated and I promise I won’t ever cheat. If I date someone, I truly like them. Haven’t been in a relationship for 3 years. Don’t feel the need for one. I’m still young, I’ll need a man when I’m an adult; not just now
@@dagenartur waiting til marriage and my bf supports me. idk why i said i was single for 3 years lol. i have a bf of 2 years so i don’t remember being single when i made this comment? him and i broke up before but i made a stretch saying something like that; wtf? but women engaging in hu culture is so damaging im happy that i have a man that doesn’t want to pressure me
1. Low self esteem or dependent
2. Lack of impulse control
3. Narcissistic tendencies
4. Emotionally Unavailable
5. Easily bored
6. She's cheated in the past
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The low self-esteem is the most common. Specially the women that know they're not physically appealing, those women are seeking most attention to feel better about themselves.
Dependent... So if they feel like they're the center of the universe... Even when you have children!
I agree with all except low self esteem cause most women have low self esteem that’s why makeup industry and plastic surgery makes soo much money 💰
Cheating is such a horrible, hurtful betrayal, regardless who does it.
Women cheat
@@necromancer7712and nobody is disputing that.
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@@SurvivorBri no one is disputing that
Only to overly sensitive people. If you don’t get an std then it doesn’t affect your whatsoever unless you chose to let it.
My ex cheated for the same reason you mentioned early in your video, she said she “wasn’t getting the attention she needed from me”.
Funny thing is, I had expressed for years that I was not getting the effort and attention I needed in the relationship from her, but I never cheated.
It was only an issue when it affected her. Selfish people will do inherently selfish things. It is their nature.
Exactly they want to get men jealous to leave the man and a reason to leave the man sad
Narcissists can justify almost anything they do.
So why in the hell did you waste all of those years staying in a relationship with her?
@@moleahy6880 I did because the girl was hot and I enjoyed hooking up with her. I was like 21 and too young an dumb to care or even realize what a waste of time it was and what damage it did to my view and trust in relationships now. I don’t trust relationships or even friendships anymore because of the pathetic evil shit that these girls that I dated did to me.
Key word, Selfish. Facts
Hi, Courtney. I'm an anaesthetist (anesthesiologist in American) in Australia and I can confirm that a lot of affairs happen in the hospital system. The reasons are un-surprising when you think about them. The pattern I often see is a male surgeon or anaesthetist having an affair with a female nurse. Surgeons and anesthetists work long hours and often spend more time with their co-workers than with their families. They don't have much time to meet people outside of their workplace. People with narcissist traits are more likely to pursue well-paid, highly regarded professions such as medicine and are likely to be susceptible to flattery and attention. Due to studying and working hard during their teens and early adulthood, they've often missed out on opportunities to date and might feel that they could actually attract a more desirable partner. If they married before they were fully qualified (highly paid) specialists, then this might be true. At the same time, there are plenty of young, attractive nurses who, due to the limits of their profession, have limited opportunities for career advancement / income growth. They're often in relationships with low to middle-income men who they met before they were working closely with doctors. Some see high-income doctors as an opportunity to improve their lifestyle. Sometimes these workplace romances endure but often one of the participants tires of the other person and moves on to a new affair with a different co-worker. I expect that you would find a similar dynamic in other professions where highly-paid, hard-working men spend time with attractive lower-income younger women.
On top of that high stress situation make for great afrodisiacs.
It however does ruin workplace atmosphere and often the female workers get the short end of the stick, literally and figuratively
@@onnol917 😂
Hopefully they can get chance to experience the long end of the stick occasionally, if I've understood you correctly lol
This is one of the best explanation I've seen. You've covered pretty much all angles.
@@LongHoang-gh6qs Thank you, Long!
I went on a first date with a woman who threw out so many red flags it was mind boggling. "How much do you make? Is that net or gross? Are you a manager? How many square feet is your house?" These were all on the first date, mind you. Sure as hell she would have cheated. There was no second date with her.
She was on a business trip and not a date.
At least 70% of women you'll meet have that same interview style dating technique. Others will tell you a bit about their lives and you can judge quite quickly if you can or can't afford her as she won't stick around if you can't. The 3rd type are the ones who could get any guy they want so you have to think smart because she would have a guy if she could hold a relationship down, which obviously she can't and probably never has.
It's a lot like something you've heard of before except in reverse as there's around 1-2% quality women, the rest are trash with 2-5 kids. Each child is reckoned to cost £6k pa 🤑 Some single women haven't dated in 6-15years as they got so damaged the 1st time they now don't have a clue and she'd be so sorely inexperienced in the bedroom that a block of wood laying under you would more be more fun 😂
As always most women see their genital area as the only way they've known to gain access to funding or safety not forgetting any man or woman in a high income job is highly likely to be a ruthless operator 🙌
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Asking how much you make? That is just rude!
Smart man! 👍
I remember an ex and a woman I dated who had concerning thoughts on my views on cheating. Basically they didn't like my ideas... It's simple. If you cheat, you're cut out of my life. Point, blank, period. There's no discussion. I don't care for the reason. I don't date cheaters. Take your second chance with someone else. My ex had a little of that online validation need. The girl I was dating had very poor impulse control. So what you're saying Courtney certainly checks out for me.
Do you mind sharing their concerning thoughts? Curious to see why they disagree with you. What you said seems reasonable.
@@dudejoe8390 they basically thought my views were too harsh. "everyone makes mistakes" that sort of thing. My retort would be something along the lines of "their second chance can be with someone else".... Then it'd be something about my attachment style and I'd tune out and go back to whatever I was doing
100%.
I am no hypocrite either.
Not that I would or have any desire to, but If I was in a relationship and I cheated, and you didn't just walk out of my life; you F ed up.
If I cheated, you better be damn well sure it wasn't an accident.
@@MR-nl8xr cheating is never an accident.....it's a choice!
Nothing wrong with that 😂❤
Though I will say, JUST cuz someone cheated DONT make em a bad person….there ARE reasons 😂❤
I personally consider cheating in the same category as physical violence. It is never the answer to your problems. It always makes matters worse. People who resort to these responses do so because they're not smart enough to find a better solution. There is always, always, always better solutions than cheating and violence.
I have been both shot and cheated on.
I can tell you that the betrayal of cheating is 100X more painful than a bullet wound. That pistol destroyed some skin, muscle, and bone. Her cheating destroyed not just our relationship but my ability to trust, my self-esteem, and much more. It's been almost a year and I still think about some aspect of that betrayal day after day. I very rarely notice the small hole the bullet left.
cheating should be a crime punishable by jail time
@@DashSVK completely agree. Not to mention loss of all alimony and shared marital assets.
@@felixthecat4584 exactly, I was cheated on five years ago and it still bothers me.
Violence is absolutely the answer when it is between that and dying, or defending the people you love. Clearly you've never been in a life or death situation before. Your comment is extremely ignorant.
If he/she cheats, he/she belongs to the streets!
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That's Corey Wayne's line.
I like what you said!
Metallica: “Sad but true!🎶”
@@vpnconsult 🤟
If she has a dating app, even if it's to meet "friends", let her go. Trust!!!!! That shiz is like poison to the soul.
Whenever a lady says she’s just looking for “friends” it means she’s a h o e , same with “fun sized”
Fucking 💯 dating app are a blight on humanity, all by design too...
Important things as well: 0:40 (First thing - Low self-esteem or dependent), 1:53 (Second thing - Lack of impulse control), 2:55 (Third thing - Narcissistic tendencies), 3:46 (Fourth thing - Emotionally unavailable), 4:37 (Fifth thing - Easily bored), 5:52 (totally agree with that as well), 6:10 (Sixth thing - She's cheated in the past), 7:10 (I'm not so sure about that, but who am I to judge), and 7:58 (to summarize all the mentioned things).
Generally, the deeds are crucial in all relations as well, and not the words. Why? Because the person can say one thing, think on second thing, and at the end he or she does some other third thing as well. The deeds are the things that can decide that we can either stay or we can either leave from our partner, or partners as well. And that can be used in any life situations as well.
I have reed somewhere one thing, and it goes like this (you can correct me if I'm wrong): The loved one's who loves us will find a million reasons to leave us, but there will be always one reason why will they stay with us.
I have to ask two questions as well. Before I even start, I would like to apologizes if someone would understand as an insult, or maybe as a stupid question. And I ask cause of curiosity.
But how would men behave if they feel lonely?
Will they also cheat if they feel lonely?
Thank you very much for any reply, and also thank you talking about this problem, and topic as well.
Female infidelity has been rising quickly for the past 30 years. Now it is at the same level as male infidelity for the first time in history. BUT, the worrying thing is: there’s no sign yet of a “limiting factor” so it is likely to keep rising for the foreseeable future.
Women have every opportunity to cheat. They are constantly hit on, and they spend more time with flirty coworkers than with their spouses. (Hence the term “work husband” - such a disrespectful term to their life partner)… They get thousands of “matches” on dating apps, and guys hitting them up on social media.
Meanwhile, their boyfriends/partners are forgotten, neglected, manipulated or even abused. They are made to raise other men’s children without ever realising it.
The world’s a mess. But you cannot fully blame promiscuous women. Thirsty men, and simps, have given all their power to women and robbed men of quality relationships.
For society to move forward, men need to stop chasing everything in a skirt and look at a woman’s character more critically. Watch-out for “red flags” and don’t be a chump (like I was).
Amen
Fact, Work became I have to look out for my guys, if my guys are there I have to be there. Husband and son at home but her guys where the #1 priority. Well at least one of them.
Maybe he left his wife for her but I drought it.
Thanks for saying the latter, instead of putting all the responsibility onto women like "in the good old days". I personally think that people would do well, also, to basically care a bit less about sex for sex sake. And care more about things like: personal chemistry and passion and depth of emotional bond. Quality, basically.
It would be interesting to know from your wife how often men hit on them and what she thinks of it. They probably don’t tell their husband for fear of scaring them.
All you said is right but also girls need to stop being fat cuz there’s only a small percentage of girls we’d even want in USA
Courtney, I wish you made this video sooner. I proposed to my now ex when she displayed a HANDFUL of these warning signs. She also works in medicine. This video is so crazy accurate it’s scary, prophetic almost. At least we broke up before we got married and had any kids. Thank you for creating these videos - you have a lot of good and accurate information and approach topics with zero bias.
Always remember, it’s not the first time they cheated, it’s the first time you caught them.
To be fair, sometimes they ARE caught the first time they do it.
But yeah I generally agree with your comment.
You're so right Courtney! That explains why I was cheated on, the girl I was with was lonely insecure and later I found out she has BPD, she cheated very quickly because of perceived rejection or something.
"iT GoEs BoTh WaYs"
Yeah I knew a girl, I loved her but she acted very hot and cold, acted like I didn’t exist via texts but in person threw herself at me but then also rolled her eyes if I didn’t do exactly as she wanted .
I believe she has borderline personality . I don’t she she knows. Some white knight manipulator took over her life when I got upset and called her out for all the nasty things she did to me. She basically doubled down and made her feel she was totally right and I was totally wrong . He also project a lot.
I feel so bad for her because I always sensed she could easily be manipulated due to her strong impulses and in the heat of the moment I described her and this guy saw it and basically said to himself “Easy target” .
She then claimed they were soul mates a few weeks later. I showed her legit love for a year and a half at the least, she didn’t care . Strong borderline tendency , they also fall hard for narcisssists And she seemed to be drawn to guys like that and that last guy was the biggest joke of a wanna a tough/cool/righteous/romantic guy you could ever dream of. He’s almost a walking cliche, it baffled me how she could take him seriously , he’s like a cartoon
she cheated because of her choice. no other reason
Sh!tty excuse.
My ex-wife cheated on me with about half a dozen different guys after she found out she was pregnant with our second kid and cheated the entire pregnancy. I found out after she left me and about a couple months before the kid was born. She fit the description of a narcissist perfectly.
Seesh, sorry to hear that… how was her relationship with her father?
I'm very sorry brother, that's so painful I feel for you
That’s disgusting. Atleast you know it wasn’t you at all that was the problem .
Wow what a sickening woman
Glad she’s no longer your wife bro. She never deserved you or your children
Sorry. that's one of the most dangerous personalities to be around
My ex an RN, yup she cheated. And being in the medical field you get to see the hypergamy , the people that know, know what I’m talking about. Thank you!
Say more, please. I'm interested because my first hypothesis about this being a more surprising result was that the medical and social care fields are so dominated by women by percentage that it's inevitable many of the cheaters would come from that field without any particular causality implied. You've observed something specific though, which peaked my curiosity.
@@lunaslide_actual Of course, you're more likely to cheat with someone in your surroundings. Since you spend as much time, if not more, with people at work, a RN is more likely to cheat with a male doctor.
But what photoman mitch is saying is that, woman date up, they prefer someone with more value than themselves. A doctor is seen as higher value. That's hypergamy. Woman rarely will date down and they certainly will not cheat down with a guy that's perceived as lesser value than she is or I suppose lesser value than the man she's currently with.
I'm sayin. Everywhere I've lived, I've seen and heard about one of two things. It's either a drinking problem or cheating.
@@pierrelevasseur2701 Appreciate the response. Unfortunately, I wasn't clear enough. I understand what hypergamy is, I was curious if he was saying there is some greater than average expression of hypergamy among caregivers. Rereading the comment though, it seems to be more of a personal experience than clinical knowledge.
@@lunaslide_actual I don't see why that would be, a higher percentage of hypergamy among caregivers. It's possible but I don't see an obvious cause and effect factor just based on one's job description. I think a person will cheat mainly because they are not getting what they want and need from their partner. It's why I suggested in another post to read The Five Love Languages. It would be why a woman married to a millionaire would cheat, not having to worry about finances is great but if her love language is quality time and her husband doesn't provide that, she'll find it elsewhere.
I had a girl I was casually seeing and I found out she cheated on her bf with me and a few others(at least 3 men). Then she thought it was a me problem that I said "no" when she asked if I wanted to date her seriously. I had told her that if she wanted to keep seeing me she needed to break up with her bf and she did but I also told her it was never going to be a thing between us. I mean, she was (as far as I know) dating me exclusivity, but I wasn't about to commit to her. I did feel kind of bad about it but it was the best choice.
Don't ever feel bad for putting your own needs first. With the possible exception of your mother, no one else ever will.
bro, u did right. If she can leave someone for u, remember she can leave u for someone else as well!!
Your pee pee touched another man's skeet. Think about that.
My wife ruined my life and my son life and the nightmare stared like yours but I chose to betray my instic and marry her
Just end the relationship if you are unhappy with the guy or yourself.
Women generally can't do that. Remember that women almost always have your replacement already lined up while they're in a relationship with you.
Thats all I ever asked for. If you feel you need to cheat youre already gone so just get gone. No need to do something specifically designed for me to eventually find out. Nope. Chics all cheat knowing its going to hurt. Thats why they do it. They most likely dont even find the other dude attractive. Its all spite because they cant control their emotions. They get upset over literally everything. Even shit they make up
Tell that to my ex. She constantly reminded how miserable, lonely and unhappy she was in the relationship. When I asked her to walk away. She refused. It's better to have "miserable"supply then to have none.
Eventually we parted ways.
@@mediocreman2absolutely
And don’t jump into another relationship quickly. Wait at least a few years.
Got cheated twice now (I've been thinking for a while that maybe somehow has been my fault) but after watching this video, along with reading multiple opinions from a lot of people watching these kind of videos too I've found that the traits that you just explain pinpoints exactly the behavior that I've dealing with in my partners, and also why I'm attracted to those .. I'm a person who wants to help all the time, who wants to cheer people up, etc .. I love this video, thanks for it!
I wouldn't always blame one side or the other. You could have been stale, boring, playing it "safe" & "nice" in the way you treat her. A woman doesn't want to marry someone who treat her like his sister. Spice up your life and the relationship, push & pull is the best tactic. Or it might be her fault as well, having narcissistic tendencies and never ending attention seeking behavior that no one man can fulfill. But again, you don't solve that by cheating, that's disrespectful, rude
& disgraceful. She can always breakup and hookup with whoever she finds better fit for her.
@@BolusTube I understand that but that’s still not/never ever a reason to cheat
Especially if the one by your side cares about you
You probably know this already but stop going for broken people who need you to cater to them and cheer them up. It is not your job to fix broken women.
Dan, why on Earth would it be your fault? I don't get it.
> and also why I'm attracted to those .. I'm a person who wants to help all the time, who wants to cheer people up, etc ..
I feel you. Thankfully, in my case, I had two 1+ year-long relationships at a relatively young age (19 and 21) that simply did beaten up this side of me to a bloody pulp until it was completely gone.
At some point you'll understand that support and cheering are things that are earned, and women are not excused from that just for being women, or pretty, or having a difficult past. You save these impulses for those who are actually making an effort in the here and now. Note that this is true even for friendships, regardless of gender. Romantic relationships just make this mindset even more necessary for both people involved.
I am a teacher and my wife too. But she cheated on me with her ex because she said she didn't get enough attention from me. There's no words that can describe the pain and hurts that I have been through. Thank you for the video Courtney, it's totally accurate.
Women will always find a way to make it not their fault
This is why it would be better if you be in a relationship with someone who is an introvert rather than an extrovert, because introverts are less likely to cheat on their partners than extroverts. Most girls and boys these days end up in relationships with extroverts, this is the reason why cheating is very common among couples. But if you're in a relationship with an introvert then it'll be very unlikely that he/she will cheat on you
@@auberninja5090extrovert or introvert don’t mean shit, women will cheat regardless of what they are.
WOW! Just wow! I just got dumped, and discovered she had cheated, when she was pretending to be going through a major tragedy. She checks all the boxes, that you mentioned.
"Easily bored" is a red flag for me for another reason: I tend to wonder if an easily bored person does not have a rich inner environment or is lower in self-awareness or ability to self-entertain than I might prefer to be close to.
Same, I usually asks girl on date on what's her hobbies, those easily bored type usually can't even commit to hobbies, their hobbies usually short-lived.
This video just confirms my tendency to those who can't even commit to hobbies.
Maybe I am wrong, but most western women don't seem to have any real hobbies, especially things that involve using their minds, creativity, talents, etc. Most women seem to only watch tv/movies, listen to music, go clubbing/dancing with friends for fun. These types seem to be easily bored. They often don't seem interested in learning or trying something new and if they do, it's usually very casual.
Even though there's plenty of female artists, writers, gamers, photographers, etc. there still doesn't seem to be enough of them.
@@Dj.D25 bingo..u beat me to it..I agree 💯 percent.
My ex broke up with me and told her i was "boring". The actual reason was because i was focusing more on myself and giving her less attention. She was a very selfish person and lacks and accountability for her wrongs.
@@Dj.D25 > Maybe I am wrong, but most western women don't seem to have any real hobbies
I've noticed that too, specially in the last 10+ years or so. There was a time up to the beginning of the 2000's where I'd meet and be friends (or more) with a LOT of women who were genuinely into music, or cinema, or books, to the point I could have 1-2 hour-long conversations with them about a single author, director, a genre and so on.
Now it's as rare as diamonds. I blame the rise of social media, subscription services, and the hard shift to digital delivery. People in general - men and women - are more easily distracted and have so many easy options that they can't really cherish what they do find to like.
> Even though there's plenty of female artists, writers, gamers, photographers, etc. there still doesn't seem to be enough of them.
Oh no, there sure are. The problem here is not quantity, it's quality. You just need to take a hard look at the state of mainstream writing, art and entertainment in general these days (regardless of gender, by the way).
Most of the younger people on those fields right now aren't there because they really love it. It's because of multiple external reasons: they couldn't do anything else remotely properly, they entered these fields to avoid 9-to-5 jobs with more responsibilities, they can't deal with any real pressure, or they feel they can use art/entertainment to 'educate' other people or 'save the world'. That's why these people can't produce meaningful art or content, and their work often feels stiff, like the author is looking down on you all the time.
And of course, such people will never be capable - and sometimes not even willing - to properly discuss or have any real passion for a piece of art or entertainment (unless it's through an activism lens, of course). That's why you don't meet genuinely interesting creatives around in the real world even if there are more content creators than ever, thanks to all these subscription services, new avenues to self-publishing, social media and other ways of selling your work easier than ever. Deep down, to most of them, the music, books, movies, games they create or help create are just another job that allows them to avoid putting on a suit or dealing with 'traditional' working hours. Nothing more.
The most important thing to watch out for is self-centeredness combined with a lack of empathy. Unfortunately, people who have these traits are typically very good at hiding them during the initial stages of a relationship (3-6 months), but there are other traits that are often part of the package which are harder to hide. Here are some of the secondary traits to watch out for:
1. Can't take any kind of criticism
2. Victim of every situation/story
3. B&W (dichotomous) thinking
4. No genuine lifelong friendships
5. My way or the highway
6. Unable to resolve conflict
7. Never forgives.
8. Never genuinely apologizes
9. Fake it 'til they make it
10. Never wrong
You're describing a narcissist
Sounds like my ex wife sadly. I have spent the last year working on myself and improving my life, going to counselling on my own. Being a good father. Still she plays the victim card and believes she did nothing wrong in the relationship. To a point where I just kinda felt numb trying to get a little accountability from her. I recognise my faults and have/continue to work on them. She’s still in full belief she is
Always right.
You hit all 10 on my ex girlfriend.. cptsd borderline narcist type. I feel bad for her kids
When I was 19 there was a married Catholic woman who wanted an affair. A friend invited me to his family's Thanksgiving for the weekend in Chicago. I was a sophomore at a Catholic college nearby. It was bizarre. The woman was about in her mid 30s and seemed burnt out from marriage. They had three children. A Catholic priest held a mass in the family's basement on Thanksgiving. It was surreal - the elderly grandfather was virulently racist and openly expressed hatred of Native Americans (my ethnicity). His adult children wouldn't say anything to stop him. Simultaneously, the grandchildren liked me (young and progressive). Then suddenly the mother made it clear she wanted an affair - a blonde Irish Catholic married mother of three children. I did not reciprocate. It just didn't make sense. But it exposed me to two realities: (1) virulent racism in the suburbs of the Midwest (very common) and (2) supposedly Conservative Christian wives can still have affairs. I was glad to leave that weekend. Decades later, I've seen affairs in the work environment (pre-covid). A lot of them are emotional affairs which at times get physical. Statistically, many affairs start at work or on facebook/social media. Historically, men were more likely to have affairs (e.g. 1950s) but now that appears to have evened out due to social media and entry of women into formerly male fields like engineering or medicine. I stay away from dating in the work environment. It would be like trying to take a stroll in hurricane weather with turbulent wind, debris and fallen power lines scattered among floods, alligators, and bull sharks - lol.
Itsa 50 50women too
Friendly reminder; if you’ve been cheated on. I know it will be hard to move on, and let your guard down again.
But please, take time to heal but don’t go into a new relationship or date with the concept that all people cheat. It’s unfair to the new person in your life and everyone deserves a chance including yourself.
Cheaters NEVER deserve a second chance. You can forgive them; and tell them you hope they learn from this. BUT NEVER date them again, you deserve better.
I'm that type of guy who would give them at least three chances and then like in baseball they're out. Either they're out or I'm leaving that relationship. I believe that there is room for improvement for everybody but definitely if you're a Serial cheater you get no chances
@@mlggamer5296 Never give a cheater a second chance. It shows that you have no boundaries and don’t value yourself. Therefore you leave the door wide open for it to happen again.
@@Esteban-MK64 like I said it depends because if they want to work on themselves I probably would doesn't mean I personally don't have boundaries but what it really means like I said it means that I'm also thinking about the possibility of if they want to try and work on it and do better but it was a case where I hear from their friends that yeah they are serial cheater then I would agree with you
@@mlggamer5296 You know want man. Who am I to tell you how to live your life. My apologies for letting my past experiences get in the way of you finding your happiness.
@@Esteban-MK64 no problem.
I'm honestly very surprised that a father wasn't brought up. Women that grew up without a father are very high risk.
Why is that?
100% this
10000%
Why doesn't that apply to men ? Because I'm telling you that has zero correlation. Also, this girl I went to HS with was a complete whore unabashedly. GB college dudes at 17 and on and on. Her father was always in the picture. So. I kinda think this is a case of correlation without causation.
Anybody who posts "gaming" as a handle or interest has no value in life or value of opinion. Gamers are worse than OF models.
I’m a professional who has dealt with situations like this for many years. The problem is actually pretty easy to solve for either gender. Immediately reject anything even remotely flirtatious from another party. Problem solved!!If you accept flirting because it boosts your ego, you’re already open to cheating!
I've been propositioned by a few women who were already in relationships but I declined I'm not a believer in breaking up homes or marriage's plus I don't like drama and dishonorable deeds .
The amount of times I've witnessed girls that very subtlety cheat on their man is insane, I've had a married women feel my arms, women that flirt etc. And other women completely stare me down or take a glance at me when their man isn't looking. It's a fucking joke and it happens so much to the point that I think of that any time I think about a relationship
I've slept with quite a few women with partners.. it damages u, u lose trust for women
Hypergamy
Instagram is a dating app.
Just because some people use it for other reasons doesn't change that.
No different than people who try to say that only fans isn't a porn site.
Yeah, there may be creators on it who _don't_ do sex work, but the majority of the creators do.
I think cheating to some people is because they want a better partner and by doing it behind their back they want to make sure they find someone better before they leave their partner. If they just leave, who knows if their new partner is even worse. Kind of like finding a new job before you quit your current job.
It’s called “monkey branching”
My theory is that the main reason people cheat is fear of being alone.
There's a saying in Chinese called riding a donkey to look for a horse
They cheat because they have no morals and are trashy
@@MikeyP109 My theory is that everyone is a different flavor and having options is all women are about. duh.
I used to work in nightclubs and I can tell you from personal experience. The ones that are working in the medical field are very well known to have a different Wilder side to them.
Obviously it's not all of them. But just simply a portion.
I'll add a seventh one from personal experience:
If she's constantly worried about you cheating, that's a huge, crimson flag.
This is so accurate man
Unless you gave her reasons, yeah
That's definitely true. But think carefully and wonder if that big red flag is actually just a mirror.
@@SOLARITY333it’s a mirror that she’s looking into. Because she’s projecting her own bad behaviors.
My Ex Cheated. She used to work in a Grocery Store, but She said she
Wasn't Happy working there and quit. After having been working there for many Years, she spent MONTHS unemployed. During which time, She Cheated on me and lied about it. The saddest part about this, is that I NEVER Cheated on ANYONE. And the Fact that I'm middle Aged (47) makes me feel, like I'm in a VERY precarious situation. In that it gets harder to find someone as you Age. So yeah... Her Cheating has caused DOUBLE the damage to me.
Being one of the very few people nowadays who is aware that true narcissists aren’t everywhere & are rare, I found out during therapy (after she cheated on me & we broke up) that yep, she IS a narcissist. I was astounded. Just my luck.
She said it was because we weren’t spending enough time together. When she knew I was busting my ass working two jobs to get us a place together while she sat on her ass unemployed. She wasn’t getting constant adulation or attention so saw it as a valid reason to step out.
You will never be enough for some women. The last guy she dated was never enough. The next guy probably won't be either. Who wants to spend their life with that?
@@jmnthe3rd exactly. One of the many reasons I didn’t get take her back when she came crawling back. I don’t need that drama in my life. I’d rather be alone & have my peace than be with a woman who brings nothing but chaos.
Trash
@@Kal.El1 narcissism is a spectrum and most people have at least one of the traits. It’s much more common in men than women (whereas Borderline Personality Disorder is almost exclusively a woman’s disorder).
It’s estimated that only about 1% of women have NPD.
The right place, the right time, and it can happen to anybody!
And don't lie and say you never thought about it.
The best predictor of future behavior is recent past behavior. Great points 👏👏👍
* any woman who uses phrases like “Living my best life.” Or “My truth.”
Your Instagram is different. Not only is it a work Instagram, you have a lot of different things on it.
A woman who has an Instagram that is only selfies or pictures of her, is 100% cheating.
Also, if a woman has social media, gets with a guy and does not IMMEDIATELY start posting pictures with him, massive red flag. She's keeping him off there for a reason and the reason is cheating.
Being single and being alone lonely is less painful than heart break 😮
Dating as an autistic man here is downright impossible. For over 20 years, I’ve been told to hide that I’m autistic bc people will think lowly of me. I thought my parents were exaggerating, and they were. It was way worse than they let on. I quite literally have to hide the fact that I have autism for own safety.
Every time people figured out that I’m autistic, there’d be someone who’d come out of the woodworks to treat me horribly and/or try to take advantage of me. Afterall, I’m autistic, so that automatically makes me less than human to most other people. I mask as best I can, but if I that drop the mask, it puts me at risk of physical assault. (Men have attacked me while calling me a “fucking freak” and I don’t even know what set them off. I never spoke to them and I remember that I was trying to unmask at the time.) Point being, my life literally depends on keeping that mask on 24/7.
My mom would work at the schools I go to, but I strongly believe it was to make sure the school doesn’t do anything shady with me. Autistic people are more likely to be abused by teachers. My mom being there didn’t stop the schools from doing shady shit with me, but I shudder to imagine what they would’ve done without her there.
In my teen years, I did some resumé experiments and found that people who committed vehicular manslaughter have an easier time being hired than autistic people. The one question I always asked was why? Why am I worse than someone who killed people with their car?
I have had partners who treated me well, but finding them was a monumental pain. Now that I’m single again, I’ve found that I can’t let my date know I’m autistic and I can’t not her know either. If I don’t tell her, she assumes I’m weird and either leaves or cheats on me. If I do tell her, she either leaves immediately, tries to take advantage of me and/or treats me like a complete idiot.
The only advice I ever get now is “you haven’t found the right one” or that I’m not confident in myself. It doesn’t matter who I ask. Even with all these people that genuinely hate me, I still work to improve myself, but it’s never enough. It genuinely seems like even though I have a well-paying job, treat my partners well (my exes will tell you that I treated them very well), my own place, have hobbies, learned a lot of social skills, learned how to be funny and improved my looks to be an 8/10, it’s still not enough. I’m debating on whether or not I should just give up on ever being able to find someone who treats me well. Basic human decency is probably too much to ask for now.
word of advice from a fellow autist - dont look at it like something that defines you. you are you, not the shit you're diagnosed with. never use autism as an excuse, just keep vibing. the second i stopped saying "its my depression/anxity/autism" is when my life started improving. take responsibility for as much as you can.
Because you genuinely are special and anyone special in the post-panddmic hyper conformist world must be extra, draining or a narc. Obviously. Was diagnosed with autism & adhd myself when younger twice (age 3 and 17), but suspect I actually have bipolar ii.
Folks, mental health stigmatization doesnt make you sane it makes you evil and frankly I know why you wont hire people or befriend people who are genuinely different: because you're an egomaniac who feels special and entitled to not give a damn. You're in a state of panic and you dont like seeing reality for what it is so you need someone to blame. Ah yes, those who arent successful must be burdensome to us as a society, quick let's kill them and take them away from here!
I'd be wary of the scientific authorities as well who proclaim we need to have genetically modified babies or eugenics. They want the perfect human without problems not because of its benefits, but because they're psychopaths without a shred of compassion themselves and literally believe in the law of the jungle. I mean think about it, in either warfare or hard times how does an organism survive without too much pain: they get sneaky and clever in their adaptations.
And this is the true issue in our times: we are so focused on external locus of control and get upset when we're blamed but feel very comfortable and happy to have a scapegoat come in so we can rise to the top. But this is wrong because it seems to be common sense that the best way to have a better society isnt by taking peoples rights away or spending an exhausting amount of time on a hypercobformist ideological sentiment, but instead to teach people the virtue of SELF-DISCIPLINE AND SELF-RESTRAINT!
Seriously folks, disciplining a child shouldn't be about punishment vs reward, but manifest destiny vs atrophy. Are you going to advance or be held back?! Because then you create power and social games which just screw up everything. But if you teach people to accept themselves for being who they are they they can accept others. If you can accept others then you can leave them alone because why?! Because they're self-discipline already and already are trustworthy.
Trust, a lost art in society itself, and all because we didnt teach people to be autonomous and self-discipline humans we reinvented self-discipline and equated it with selfishness because you didnt need the system to impose its will on you and that meant the government could be smaller.
So people hate all individualists (evil ones being dark triad), neurodivergents (bipolar, schizophrenia, autism, schizoid etc.) because they dont feel gravitated towards groups, they arent ooooh lookie I see shiny girl leggings, or coins. Lemme go manipulate and get some. Gimme that its mine! They raise us to be animals not human with our own souls or conscience.
We can have a free society if we taught people to RESPECT their own dignity and their self-discipline. It's that simple.
A society of self-discipline people is one where we dont spend our time distrusting and making people do a million little things for no reward and then risk getting cut off and burned.
All my life I felt different as well and still do. The pain and alienation is so great I became a philosopher over the years seeking answers and wisdom. I'm writing books now debunking Nihilism. I think Nihilism is the worst philosophy ever created by mankind because once its embraced there is no more hope at all. Everything becomes perpetually lost, dark, meaningless etc. And we seemed to have entered it around last year.
A person's dating history tells a lot about their predispositions and how they'll behave in the future. IF a girl has a history of short-term flings where she's just using men for her own personal gain, then that may raise some suspicion. Many casual relationships may mean that she regularly acts on her hypergamous instincts by trading up every time she sees a higher value guy. That will be a recipe for disaster if you're looking for long-term stability.
Many flings to me means she’ll get bored with just one dick. If I know a woman has a high body count, I find it hard to believe she can walk away from that life all together
When I was working at a hospital I used to hear conversations among nurses and omg bro... Cheating was such a NORMAL thing to talk about and they were like solid 3. I was like damn they cheat and talk about as it's a fun thing then they talk about how annoying their kids are and how little grandma helps when they wanted to go out to bars and get wasted. I heard those types of conversations often. Before that I used to work in restaurants and well it kinda goes the same way with waitresses... It's tough out there!
Those are bottom of the barrel women. Run from those
food service industry is KNOWN to have the worst types (for dating). They often do drugs together and cheat often. Not sure why this is but it is well established. Never date a waitress.
All Facts. Restaurant/Bar workers, Flight Attendants, n women who work in warehouses. If ya woman works in a warehouse, she has cheated 😂
Oh and nurses be FREAKS. I went in a nurses house once and she had a stripper pole in the middle of her living room 😂
Instagram brings new red/green flags all on its own. For example people who have lots of selfies have narcistic tendencies according to some study I don't remember, lol.
# 1 reason to cheat is: Low Self esteem, cheating is unethical and those with low morality do anything and here where Selfishness comes, a well known brotherhood, fires/kicks out anyone that cheats, cheaters are liars too.. cheating should be counted as a felony, had a long lecture/debate about it year ago. LOVE YOUR TOPICS, WELL DONE.
The medical field one isn't surprising.
They work extremely long shifts, often times have to travel, and are working along side extremely successful males, who they probably spend more time with than they do their spouse.
Supposedly in the US at least, a number of nurses put themselves through college by being exotic dancers.
@@khatdubell a woman working in the medical field with a bunch of successful and intelligent men is like a man working for a modeling agency wherein they’re constantly surrounded by beautiful women. Three things are required for cheating: Opportunity, Time, and Attraction. So a wife working as a nurse has plenty of Time spent with men they find attractive. Eventually, they’ll just need the Opportunity (medical conventions and any other number of weekend trips that doctors routinely take as part of their job) to complete the circuit and they’ll end up cheating.
The saying "once a cheater, always a cheater" is a degradation from the original Maxim authored by the Duc de la Rouchefoucauld , which was , "It is easier to find a woman who has never been guilty of an indiscretion than it is to find a woman who has been guilty of only one."
Which indeed, it most certainly is.
Oh snap. This is gonna be a riot. Keep your flame shield up, Courtney.
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@@CourtneyRyan See the money went bad in, and before, 1971 so we all have to suffer. ua-cam.com/video/amBvPxILUA8/v-deo.html
And that is why I've been single for all these years women want you to make lots of money drive a nice car, an expensive home, etc but they want you to be accepting of them no matter what even if they have kid from one or more previous relationships.
The way you have an insight on the minds of people and breaking it down logically and critically is phenomenal. I really get to learn about how everybody really feels in a relationship!!!
She read an article and she's relaying common sense. That was hardly a deep psychological analysis.
Only you can ever truly know how you feel.
I just broke up with my first girlfriend a month ago. I left her after only a month (I'm 24 btw)
Why? After watching this I now know. No impulse control. She flaked me 3 times and wasn't taking the relationship seriously. Not to mention those flakes causing me to not see her for 2 weeks! Even though she was only 15 minutes away
It's hard to find reliable people these days.
You did the right thing
@@battletested2934 thanks
I love she mentioned HOBBIES! Those girls who don't have one will easily get bored having their hands not full
Histrionic, borderline or narcisstic personalities; that's the essence of it.
Sexual childhood abuse in itself is a pretty good precursor. It leads not only to the mentioned disorders but also to the ability to detach sexuality from emotions which enables to all kinds of prostitution.
Nowadays it is better be left alone then dealing with all the chaos ,dysfunction, & drama. Having peace of body, mind & spirit is bliss.
That's the conclusion I came to.
My ex girlfriend met every single criteria and surprise surprise, she cheated on me
My wife told me in April that she was leaving me for another man. Completely out of the blue. Didn't even know she was talking to someone. She claimed she was "not happy". I said, ok then leave me, you don't have to cheat. But she was determined to be with this other guy. We had a two year old at this point.
Dated a narc off and on for a while... She discarded me, ended up with someone who beat her and then married some random guy about a year or so after she broke up with the other guy and met him at the same time.... Basically I look at this women and realize I never wanted anything to do with her or whatever she had in mind for her future. It's easier to see ppl for who they are when you are mentally, physically and emotionally secure. Focus on yourself first then whatever for you will find you dating/looking around at the right time.
How exactly does that work? How would somebody only find you after you focus on yourself?
Self improvement… when you pore into yourself you raise your value. By doing this you you’ll be more aware, higher standards and or just more in touch w/ what your true self wants / attracted too.
A year in the gym, building my faith, close to graduating w/ a masters… basically what I mean. Took time to do those things for me and the results were beautiful. A lot of men are externally focused… focus on self and what you can control.
I guess I don't have that experience. I got fit, I upped my money game, I've reclaimed my faith and walk with Christ. I've improved myself in every way and every woman I've dated for the past five years has some terrible red flag or is emotionally unavailable or just uses me for a meal and attention. I don't think it just suddenly works out just because you focus on yourself. There's something wrong with women as a group imo, they don't behave properly. Act like men or broken lunatics.
@@clanghampton7158 I didn't say they just change but your discernment comes from the changes you've made. Also everyone experience is different. I had dates plenty of women before and after. I also ended up choosing someone I knew from a while back because of my dating experience. I know what's outside like you said and it was easier for me to see that a person I had loved prior was the person I was suppose to be with. Will keep you in my prayer for the day. Keep working hard and looking. Plenty of women that fit any standards and have their own everything going on. Don't let a few women make you think something is wrong with all of them.
I once dated a woman who was Blonde, worked in the Medical Field, AND had cheated before (on her husband with ME). I was too naive and didn't put it all together until I discovered she had been answering ads on dating sites looking for my replacement. Valuable lesson learned, too late as it turned out.
Why were you messing with another man's wife? Pathetic behavior by you.
The arts has to be one of the biggest if not the biggest. I dated a highly dysfunctional game player who worked in theatre and she told me everyone she worked with was cheating with colleagues due to the long hours and touring schedule. What I know about her only reinforced the point.
So I guess the takeaway is that any profession that demands long hours that is likely to foster closer bonds with colleagues than with family is likely to produce a higher quantity of cheaters than others. I could imagine that’s very much true of education professions
lol.
Nothing said about cheating while away. Might be a fling with a good looking man while in summer college!
My suspicion is women in certain occupations like education or social work are in environments where the dominant "moral philosophy" is more lax than women in relationships with more conservative leaning occupations.
For women in occupations like finance and medicine, they are surrounded by many men of a higher status job. Add in one of those other characteristics you mentioned, and I can see the temptations.
Women without strong father figures are more likely to cheat in my experience. Seems like it’s a growing problem in my estimation.
Now, you definitely want to find a woman with a strong father figure in her life but there’s also a risk there too. I’ve met a few women who had such a strong dad presence in her life that now she thinks that NO ONE is good enough for her because no one is good enough for her dad. “My perfect daughter deserves the perfect man.” It’s a better situation than the previous one but it can also be really frustrating too.
Interesting prospective.
I’ve never seen it listed as a red flag on any of the videos I’ve watched but I too firmly believe a woman with no hobbies (and “no”, putting on makeup or posting on TikTok, etc are NOT hobbies) is a huge red flag.
You basically described many who use dating apps and those "online models"
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Besides that, idk if I can ever date any girl that's a therapist, let alone in social work. I don't think they have the capability to switch that off during their off hours
100% agree with this. I have been married to a teacher and a nurse, and both cheated.
Okay, I have to take a guess. A woman that tries to get together with you who is married or has a boyfriend. If you start dating, she's most likely to cheat on you.... OK now I'm going to listen to the video and see if I'm right.
Men, don't put up with the "you're just insecure" argument from your woman when you tell her you're not comfortable with her hanging out alone with other men. It's a perfectly reasonable boundary to set once you two are committed to each other. There should be literally nothing either of you could want from the opposite sex anymore. That's not you being insecure, that's you knowing your worth.
I disagree. I have many female friends that I only look at platonically, they've never put a strain into my relationships and my life would be worse off without their help. I find reasonable that my partners also have male friends.
Seriously, if you don't trust someone not even as much as allowing them to speak to the other gender, don't have a relationship with them
@Juan Carlos it's really not about trust, it's about respect. There's nothing wrong with a man who doesn't want his partner to spend time ALONE with sexually available men. If you're cool with it, okay great this isn't applicable to you. If I had a serious girlfriend or a wife and she still wanted to go out with other men without me, or God forbid go to the club, then that's a dealbreaker. This isn't high school anymore.
Juan, lol you do realize 50% of people cheat right? that number is exponentially higher for people who routinely hang around the opposite sex alone without their partner in social settings (bars, clubs) or private settings( homes, hotels). Yes you should trust your partner but all i'm saying is anyone who isn't nervous about this is just naive and a sucker.
@@SHYKOOPA just because you have female friends and see them as a friends doesn’t mean your girls homeboys see her as a sister haha
Those men are going to the shoulder to cry on when you and your girl go thru problems. I don’t have female friends cause they are a liability
@@SHYKOOPAYou sound beta. What man hangs around women and want nothing from them. And is comfortable with your woman hanging out with guys? She going to cheat on you if she haven't yet.
A woman once questioned why I pumped, double pumped, and then dumped. She never thought telling me about all the times she cheated on her exes was a huge red flag 🚩
I haven't ever been cheated on, at least as far as I know of and I've never cheated on anyone, though I did break up with a girl once because I wanted to sleep with two others so.. idk if that counts, but I did go through a, fairly shameful in hindsight, spree of sleeping with girls who had boyfriends when I was a teenager. I didn't really know what I was doing but I could tell the type of girl who would get lost in stories I would tell or like spontaneous activities, I knew if she was that type of girl it was gonna be pretty easy to get her to cheat cause I could just kind of plant some seeds of excitement and she'd blow it WAY out of proportion in her head until it seemed like sleeping with me was going to be the best possible use of her time.
My attitude at the time was like 'meh, it's her commitment not mine idgaf' - bit less serious when you're like 18 through 22ish I suppose, drew a red line around that when I was about 25 and certainly wouldn't do it now, got fat anyway so couldn't even if I wanted to ha! - but when I drop the lbs Imma go ahead and keep that red line and uphold the bro code. But I did find it interesting that you mentioned girls with impulsive personalities, cause that was one of my main green flags back then, as in green flag she's gonna cheat on her boyfriend with me.
I had some problems with impulse control too, which is the main reason I ended up getting fat, I'm 5ft 8 (which btw I'm proof all is not lost if you're under 6ft) I was 19st 7 in December, down to 18st 2 now, I'm currently in Post-Grad training to become a psychotherapist and the things I have learned in this training have improved my life, my discipline and my self-development SO much. My advice would be, if your girl has poor impulse control, first of all, be spontaneous and surprise her now and again, but see if you can get her in with a counsellor or therapist to work on it. Otherwise she's gonna be liable to be running around with the guys like what I used to be who never grew up.
Women who say they are bored all the time 🚩🚩🚩🚩
Former girlfriend cheater - nurse, lonely, impulsive, needed lot's of validation.
Not to long ago I met a lady and we had the most incredibly romantic time. I thought we were going to be together forever. Then about a week later right out of the blue, she leaves me a john deer letter. So I called her up and she gave me a bunch of crap about me not listening to her enough or something, I mean I don't know I really wasn't paying attention. But the thing that hurt the most is I think she was seeing another guy...I never did find out who.
I'm just glad you weren't paying attention.
@MediocreMan yep...she told me that we had one in a million chance of being together..
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*The connection between emotional dissatisfaction and the likelihood of cheating is something that often gets overlooked.*
I have dated a number of cheaters. A lot of these traits came up.
I call the first one "Trixie Tang Syndrome" (named for the character from The Fairly Oddparents), they constantly need reassurance and to be told how pretty, great, etc. they are. Insecurity is part of being human, an abundance of insecurity is immense unappealing.
Then stuff like "I'm emotionally unavailable" or "I get bored easily" has always been a red flag to me. Saying that pretty much tells people you just shouldn't be dating.
I've dated quite a few blondes... I can think of one that didn't cheat on me or just outright bail/ghost me. I'll never date another nurse or teacher again either, because holy shit those women are heartless. My longest relationship was with a blonde girl that was going to college for children's education (she now has a masters degree) and... she really fucked me over.
After watching this, it definitely tracks with my own personal experiences.
I work with nurses and they're generally horrible people.
I'm just gonna say the last one who cheated on me was definitely all of those 🤣... Sucks, but the worst is when they are bored or are not getting what they desire from you, but DO NOT tell you they need it from you. Such an easy thing, three years in, to just say "I need more x,y,z from you." It will literally happen if they do actually say it.
Just a bummer that people do this to others when they are fully faithful, fully in, and absolutely want a relationship to work with this person.
Interesting about the jobs they do though. 🤔
I would add sexually active from young age and promiscuity to the list as well, but that would fall under the "lack of impulse control" category.
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I caught my daughter's mom trying to cheat on me, we ended it pretty much right after since then she's emotionally bombed me and told me she had cheated on 3 other men after me, and now she's with a man she's cheated on 2 times, he's knows and still wants to be with her.
I wish society would begin deeming cheating in a marriage with children as abuse.
Why so she won’t leave you? You sound psycho
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Its not psycho to want to stop rewarding people for cheating. Not just women but men also. Putting children through that kind of mental anguish because she wanted a hot girl summer is abuse in my book. And statistically children do worse accodemically when raised in a broken family.
Cheaters shouldn't get rewarded with child support, alimony, the house, and the kids. Hell family law doesn't even require evidence like criminal court does. So you get he said she said non-sense which puts the kids in the middle of an argument. The kids are the victims.
Personally I could care less if a woman leaves me. A woman isn't my primary objective. She wants to leave.....leave,.....but I shouldn't be punished financially and have my kids taken away or lose my home all because she couldn't just be loyal. The person keeping the family unit together shouldn't be punished.
Punishable by jail
No people make mistakes.
@@glendavis1266 forgetting to pay a bill, that's a mistake.
Intentionally sleeping with someone other than your partner isn't a mistake, it's emotional and financial abuse to your husband, wife, kids. Period.
Being intoxicated doesn't bar someone from responsibility. You can't undo it. Even if we didn't "punish" cheaters we certainly shouldn't be rewarding them with money because they decide to ruin a family. No.... absolutely not.
Good people shouldn't be forced to pay for other people's "mistakes". If someone wants to forgive, fine whatever.....but if someone doesn't wanna forgive they shouldn't be punished for doing nothing wrong.
Today, the root cause of suffering is abundance. We are afflicted with the disease of abundance, which is inversely proportional to patience and efforts.
3:32 Omg Courtney, this happened to me today. She tried to rationalize to me that it was ok that she was dating another guy because she said we did not talk much last week.
Thank you for your video!
Thanks to have revealed in which trades women will cheat most.
From my perspective, women working in education, medical field and social work crave for social contact with other people and huge validation come from being a teacher, nurse or a social worker / psychologist and else.
Probably they have more dependant traits, need a lot of emotional connection with the students / patients / clients 🤷♂️
As an avoiding empath, I still can get the "why".
But I cannot be that type of promicuous emotional person which is probably what leads these women to cheat.
Not from narcissistic needs, but more to feel that feeling of emptiness they crave at a unconscious / subconscious level 🤷♂️🤔
Great content, loved the stats you had on people who cheat.... Providing the viewers with more of those stats is definitely welcome!
One type, the vine swinger. Get some of her dating history, if you see vine swinging, run for the hills. You are right, cheating is just a symptom of her other problems. Always evaluate how much time she has for you. If her availability is inconsistent, run for the hills. Try to show up unannounced, see how she reacts. If she is up to no good, she won't like your unannounced drop in.
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I honestly think a lot of women would cheat if they had the opportunity. I think they're constantly looking for the next best thing.
According to the internet scads of women would cheat if they’re knew they would not get caught. Is that true? Maybe…maybe not!
It is common, (at least in western countries, West Europe, US ) that divorce rates are at a 35% in the first 5 years of marriage and 80% of them is filed by women.
Then you are hearing remarks made by women who are married, have a few kids that they say "it is worth having a fight for an evening" and this then multiple times by different women who are living together, are married etc.
So we can say that is kinda common that women think this way. And it is making you think.
They just don't care what you think. They obviously take their man not very seriously and think that he is not going to walk away what ever they do.
One of my exs worked in education lol. She downgraded in every category in comparison to me, but he was also around more than me and I barely bothered to give her attention, let alone attempt to communicate. In retrospect, I really don't blame her. I was checked out and she knew it. My fault in the end, but not something I mind. It was a blow to the ego when it first happened.
Yes! This person had every point mentioned. Once social media was a thing years back on FB, it was all over. It was nothing and easy for her. Nearly killed me and took years to recover.
Nice outfit Courtney and thank you for telling me the red flags about women who cheat
Happy Friday and enjoy the weekend
Onto Sunday video 😊
Have a great weekend my friend! ❤️
@@CourtneyRyan thank you friend😊
@@CourtneyRyan gotta wear red for your Friday videos 😬 (RED Fridays, Remember Everyone Deployed by wearing red every Friday, until they all come home)
This can easily fit male or female behavior. This was a great video
Courtney once again I wish you made this video before I met my ex. My ex in college had low self-esteem and always needed attention so she would invite numerous people and guys who would like her and give her the attention she needed while I was working my ass off in college
I was talking to this lady around august of last year, she said “we’re too old to be playing game” (we’re 28) so I was like okay makes sense, I talked to her for 2 months before I got fed up with the games 😂
Hmm i always had a feeling that i wasn't attracted to moto girls ( i ride a motorcycle myself) but I wasn't sure why. What you say about girls who thrive on adrenaline and are likely more impulsive might have a higher chance of cheating makes sense.
My dad use to tell me, women who drive fast are fast 😂
Maybe that’s why cops stop them. Pullover mam.
Your right about people throwing that word narcissist but also trauma is another one they say they were traumatized it’s just over reacting and another over used word that drives me crazy is toxic ..like seriously what does that even mean in most cases it does not fit the situation ..just my thoughts 😊
i subbed to your channel because you have a different perspective on things but at the same time put out good videos great job Courtney 👍
Thank you for your feminine grace and style. Sometimes its the little things. There is hope for men in this world!
We are all vulnerable to cheating on partners when we seek affirmation from relationships. Once we self-validate, risk is greatly reduced. People who self-validate don’t perpetually chase affirmation. Once we realize “I am enough,” everything starts to balance.
I'm not vulnerable to cheating at all. Not everyone is a mindless animal, Tim.
@@Tzavaotthen you are self-validating, which was included in the original comment. Congrats.
@@timavers I'm not "self-validating", and I don't think I'm a good person because I'd never cheat. It's just not who I am. I don't need to validate myself because there was never any risk in the first place. I value the validation I get from my partner, but I wouldn't resort to cheating on them if they didn't validate me. I'd just leave. I don't avoid cheating on people because I think it's a bad thing, I just don't consider it as an option in the first place. I literally forgot that cheating was actually a thing until I saw this video in my recommended.
For the record, I am male, a genius, and probably autistic, which probably makes *me* the outlier here. I imagine that what you stated does apply to most "people" but it still doesn't apply to everyone, therefore your use of the word "all" is innacurate.
Circumstances we are unaware of.
Hello and Yes that is my experience.
One thing I would add is all the crap on social media dumping on guys. And the mainstream media is not much better.
Here before it blows up.
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The type of man and his occupation or status also have a lot to do with women cheating. When I sang in a band many years ago, and I was somewhat decent looking and maybe just a little bit charismatic , but not really, women would flock to me just for singing in a band, and several cheated with me on their partners and spouses. The fact is, however, that I didn't even know they were married or were in another relationship. They were sneaky as hell. I sure did learn a lot about women during that time, and not in a good way. I ended up not being able to trust women for this reason for years. Many years have passed, and I'm older and no longer sing in a band, and most women don't even notice me...and I like that. I married a good woman...hopefully lol.
"Blonds are more likely to cheat than any other hair color"...but most blonds are not really blond. My thought is the bleach blonds are more likely to cheat. It is a stat that needs further scrubbing. But unfair to real blonds to paint them this way. My first wife cheated on me, not a blond, bleached or otherwise.
The connection between spontaneity and adrenaline junkie struck me as true, but I have always been an adrenaline junkie and remember hearing many times from several different woman that I wasn't 'spontaneous enough' because I wouldn't just drop everything I was doing to out of nowhere to take an unplanned day trip or whatever. I get my stuff done by not allowing myself to be gratuitously sidetracked. You can always think of a reason to have fun, it's in the name. If you start pushing back responsibilities to have fun, you are by definition, irresponsible.
You might be on to something. People with BPD, usually change their hair colors to like blue, red, or whatever. Usually because they lack self identity. The bleach blonde could fall into that category … hmmm
I go by your point that it doesn’t go with all women because I’m on social media all the time but I’ve never cheated and I promise I won’t ever cheat. If I date someone, I truly like them. Haven’t been in a relationship for 3 years. Don’t feel the need for one. I’m still young, I’ll need a man when I’m an adult; not just now
in 5 years you will change yor opinion, youll come back to the streets
@@dagenartur waiting til marriage and my bf supports me. idk why i said i was single for 3 years lol. i have a bf of 2 years so i don’t remember being single when i made this comment? him and i broke up before but i made a stretch saying something like that; wtf? but women engaging in hu culture is so damaging im happy that i have a man that doesn’t want to pressure me