Therapy. If you have things you struggle with, don't let them fester and grow, work them out with a good therapy and therapist. I highly recommend Internal Family Systems. I'm 43 now, I let my issues fester for decades. My life has been compromised because I was too scared to face my stuff.
Don't let money, possessions, people dictate, rule your life. Most people, it seems, have a pretty screwed up life, they like to pass off as fantastic, so not to look like a failure.
I'm 65 and the biggest regret I have , giving so much energy to trying to gain acceptance from people. So many years wasted just to learn its an inside job.
I’m in this position. I definitely have no friends. I moved a lot as a kid and that kinda has been true as an adult too. I’ve always wanted friends but I see people more giving this advice. It makes me feel not so bad.
I have family members who have no ambitions whatsoever, I just could not find any richness around them. If weren't for they are my kids I'd have dumped them.
As a 60 something, the time I wasted in clubs and pubs, the money I wasted on drink. Chasing women who really didn’t deserve it. The money I wasted on so much stuff you just don’t need. I wished I had eaten better. Putting up with some much hassle and grief because I didn’t know my employment rights. I’m glad I started a pension in my early 20s, enabled me to retire at 60. Don’t take your parents, aunts and uncles for granted, they are not there forever. In life there is only one thing that matters, love.
I am 66 years old. I think everyone should try a little harder to be nicer to people and give compliments. One compliment to a stranger can make their day. No one knows what their life is like and it may bring joy to someone. I think as humans we all make mistakes in life. But hopefully we can learn from them. I live everyday of my life being true to myself and knowing that I try my best everyday.
I agree. I try my best to be kind to people but not at the expense of my well-being. I say hello, good morning and etc to total strangers in the grocery store. I'm 68 and I have been doing that for many years. I have watched many older people go from a sad look to a happy face and a big smile. Many live alone and keep to themselves for fear of being conned and hurt financially or physically hurt. It's a sad state of affairs because there are so many people totally lacking in morals.
@@genespell4340glad to know it works well for you. Cuz when I’m nice, all I get is nasty faces and assholes doing me dirty at other times. I stopped being nice a long time ago, I realized that you humans don’t deserve kindness, if you wanna be nice go ahead, but just know you all don’t deserve a hello or a thank you or anything from me. Only thing I’ll give you all is my middle finger, cuz there’s no way in hell I’m letting you all bring me down ever again. I’ll make sure to put you in your place homie. And don’t you forget it
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I would say too eny one younger do not settle down too young,and educat your self,so much too learn and see,stay healthy,look up you'r food's,🍸 plenty off water, keep fit dont worry a bout ageing if so look it up will help you understand better has were ageing all the time,try too be happy and help other's but not too much,baby's are hard work and running a house food cloth's bill's and if you wont too marry make sure he is a family man and you'r best friend,we think we know a lot when teen,'s know that's why thy say we live and learn,I know off some in there 20s and 3os find it hard whith just one,✅ now,your life fly by not meny tell you a bout your face and body changing all the time and nothing like peace off mind,and money does help,dont think it does it does,has why are so meny homeless starving in debt,worrying,yes I have nearly wrote a book,if I dont have a lazy eye I would do,dont marry fore a ring,I neaver,
The 2 biggest pitfalls in life are: 1. Not placing enough importance on relationships (often at the expense of career or money), and 2. Having children with the wrong person and becoming tied to them for life
Unfortunately 1 and 2 kind of intertwine because many people place so much importance on relationships with others it ends them up marrying and having children with multiple people who were the wrong ones 😂
I disagree with 1. There are people that feel complete with their respective careers and don't need a partner to "feel fulfilled." Also, sex isn't love. It's BS.
I'm 65. I was 35 about 10 minutes ago. I was afraid to live my life the way I really wanted because of the judgment of family members. I knew I should stand up and live my life but I kept telling myself I had plenty of time and would take care of it next year and next year and next year. One day I realized I was close to retirement and time had run out. The funny thing was all the people who were so quick to judge me were gone and had lived their lives as they dam well pleased. I gave up my dreams to avoid the judgment of others. I should have turned my back on them and followed my dreams.
Yes yes yes. I realized I was supportive of family members but then they kinda bullied me into doing what they wanted over my own dreams and needs. They all do exactly what is best for them and I really lost a lot bc I did what was best for them not me.
@allentempleton2429 "I was 35 about 10 minutes ago" really hits hard. I really hope you can now live according to your wishes and dreams, as much as you can. Beeing alive offers a lot, no matter the age. Best of luck.😊
I am 50 years old, and I don't get tired of listening to this video.. My regrets, no loving and respecting myself, and try to please others. Young viewers, you are never late for a change. You are enough! Accepted and loved yourself and others.
@@hjm5885 Gratitude for the little things we often take for granted. A blue sky, the sun, drinking water, having clothing to wear etc. The present might be bad, but the storm doesn't last forever, nothing lasts forever after all. Everything is uncertain, in a constant state of flux.
Im 57 this year. Just completed my academic journey after spending 15 years of part-time study for my diploma, degree, master, postgrad and phd, while working full-time to support myself and my family. I was self funded all the way until phd where I had govt grants. So to me, education is a privilege and I cherished it.
Sometimes, if you are trying to escape an abusive marriage, the present is absolute H*ll. I got through it imagining a happy and free future and trying to remember a younger me and what my likes and dislikes were back then. I got free and have my own place. I am totally alone but am at peace and trying to put my life back together. Happiness is sometimes something you have to work towards.
The Buddhist guy radiates calm and wisdom. He speaks with a quiet kindness about him that encourages you to listen. Also he looks straight at the camera as if he is connecting with us all. 😊 He is an inspiration. Be in the present, folks...it's all we've got! Take care everybody and make today a great day!
Don't be around toxic people or one's that bring you down, respect yourself and your opinions, your self worth. Do not let people bully you into doing things you aren't comfortable with, be true to yourself, don't worry about pleasing people, be yourself.
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I loved the guy who said that he looks at "mistakes" as lessons instead. He seemed to be very grounded and I didn't sense any regrets from him! Love your channel!
I'm not buddhist but I have always (every day) loved each and every day I've been alive - I'm 78 now. I've never wished to go back because I've lived each day.
Best piece of advice I could offer as a Millenial, would be make sure your offline world/ life is as happy as you pretend it to be online. Better yet, spend more time being present offline and in the moment with nature and those you care about.
That was very touching. Just turning 40 and looking at my little kids, has caused me to really think about the value of life. Sometimes we go through life looking to quickly move from one season to the next. It’s so important to spend time with loved ones and enjoy life experiences rather than the hustle culture that often gets pushed.
If you live a life without the need to hustle, you are already better off than most of the people. Everyone has their struggles. No matter which road you take, you will always regret about something. Best advice is to work on a balanced life. That way you are not going completely one way and miss another. Do a bit hustle, bump your yearly income to a point where the marginal cost is not worth for extra 10K. Stop right there and have kids and wife before 35. Also avoid high stress jobs that might look nice, it will mess up your relationship and mental health. Whatever comes to you, at least try it once or twice before rejecting.
I have watched dozens of your videos, but this is the first time I am leaving a comment. You do a GREAT job of interviewing your guests!! You’re a natural. You are clearly interested in what they say, and you seem to draw them out. I am 72, and I love to hear what people 82 and 92 are saying. But if you were interviewing me, I would give you very different answers from what your guests say. I decided about 15 years ago to put NUTRITION over everything, and I got my wife of 25 years then to agree 100% with me. We follow a few nutrition-centered doctors on UA-cam, and we began reading about nutrition. We gave up “eating for taste” and went entirely for “eating for best health and longevity”. I grow my own sprouts and microgreens indoors. We eat fresh cooked beans, never canned food, and have hundreds of pounds of 18 kinds of dry beans in our garage. We also started going to the GYM every 3 or 4 days for at least an hour. Now at 72 I can say that our decision and discipline has really paid off. Our friends are overweight, lacking in energy, having surgeries, and popping pills for this and for that. We take zero meds, have ideal weight, and we go skiing all winter with season passes. My doctor told me that I have the blood pressure of a healthy 18 year old. I am still planning investments decades into the future. Enjoying life tremendously. ADVICE: Start a focus on nutrition, health, and longevity EARLIER IN LIFE. Don’t wait until your 50s. Give up restaurant eating! They are focused 100% on taste, which means overloaded sugar, salt, and oil. Restaurants are not focused on nutrition because their customers are not focused on nutrition! But sickness and disability do not have to come with old age! Age means very little if you take care of yourself! This takes discipline, but it becomes an unconscious habit. The WORST part of being older and taking great care of yourself is watching everyone else GET OLD AND SICK and being powerless myself to help them! Why do I take such good care of myself? Because I want to feel good and enjoy my wonderful life with my 71-year-old hottie and see what happens next in the world!! I want to have robots someday and a self-driving car. I want to see Elon take people to Mars.
I'm 47 believing in nutrition and keeping body fit without supplements, i agree with the writer 100%, the earlier we take care of our bodies in terms of food who consume and physical fitness the better. 🇿🇦
Yes agreed, it's never to late to get fit. I'm 47 and very active and try to eat well, it makes a difference for mental health as well a fit body too!!
Im in a long term marriage - 30 years- and the "secret" is to always remember that "NOBODY is as perfect as you.....think you are!" LOL . Youre not always right and neither are your ways . So many small things that u just need to LET GO.
Find your own path to happiness. I felt I should have waited for the right husband for me, not what others thought was the right person for me. Choose a career that is right for you, not one that society says defines success. Define what happiness and success are for you!
Through out our life all we do is use our mind and body. To have a good life you need the health of your mind and body both. Habits like exercise, eating in moderation helps the body. More importantly having a peaceful mind helps the mind and body both. Not being too self-centred, caring for others and meditation will contribute towards a peaceful mind. We can't be perfect all the time but it is a good habit to try and correct any mistakes we made. I am 80 years old. I am healthy and I can be happy about the way I have lived when I look back. This is my experience. Wish everybody a happy and healthy life ❤
Working a job that makes you happy isn’t as shallow as it’s made to seem. Working a job that allows you to do the things that make you happy - such as the freedom it provides, the life it allows you to live, the connections with people you make and the comfortability that hopefully comes along with it is what is the meaning of having a job that you love represents.
It's NEVER too late. ABSOLUTELY NEVER TOO LATE. Ignore the past, don't worry about the future. Live today. The decisions and things that you do today will make your future better. Thinking about the past, worrying about the future will only have negative effects on today. Time spent on them is time that could have been spent on productive, joy creating things. For reference, I am 71.
Allowing others to dictate to me , my experiences and limited beliefs. I believed all the nonsense and belived I was never good enough, thinking these people knew best, as they were family, lovers, teachers and friends. I am now 60, went back to school and have a new lease on life, therapy has brought me to myself and I am not who they said i was. I always did for others and now i do whats right for me. Its hard at my age but I must find sweetness in life and deserve my next chapter to be my best chapter. Listen to your inner voice , not others, who are not out for you and explore your limited beliefs and emotions. Find love where ever you are and realise its a privelege to still be here!!
Allison, I'm two years older than you and I SO wish you success! When I meet family or go back to visit them, the shock is almost physical. It's like going back in time. They've aged but not changed. And they treat me as though no time has passed. I left the US the first time for two years in my twenties to get a master's degree, went back for one year to get a teaching credential.(One brother told me when I returned: "You were gone for two years. Now you're back and everything goes on as before." As though two years living abroad among strangers and finding out so much about myself and the world didn't change anything, because *his* life and world never changed!) I then left for the final time 32 years ago. I have learned so much about who I really am when I'm somewhere where nobody "knows" me and I'm not being treated like a 15-year-old with no education, no professional career, no life experience. I've spent the decades changing and getting past the limitations put on me by my family's narrative for who I am and how I should be treated, and the limited options envisioned in my typical American suburban neighborhood. I'm respected in my career and valued by many for what I have to offer. Thank God I got away and could fulfill my REAL self. I've lived more than half my life away from family expectations and roles and their fixed and unchanging ways and characters. I see them all still so STUCK in being who and how they were 35 years ago, and when I meet them they cannot see or respect that I'm a totally different (better, happier, respected, successful) person than I was as a child and teenager. They have not changed or grown or mellowed, and they measure their lives by money earned, not contribution to the good of others. It's awful going back. I hope never to do it again. I don't hate them, it's just hard to be treated as someone you are not and never were, because it's easier for them not to change. And because they simply can't imagine (and have never asked about) a whole adult life lived separately from them. Breaking free from the constraints of people who *tell* you who you are instead of *asking* who you are and being open to letting you become who you are is SO worth it. It may cost you, you will have a lot to overcome and learn, but it's what makes life worth having. You can only be you. Go be the best you that you can! I wish you the greatest success in being YOU.
@@FigaroHey thanks so much as I sit here in a flood of tears, alone and free to be me. Be well my friend and soo happy you are the cycle breaker! Love...
I think the best is making mistakes, which is inevitable and learning from them. Rather than letting that mistake freeze you in time. For me, I have to listen to my gut and learn to trust it.
1:28 for me. Acceptance of your inabilities and what you didn't accomplish. I guess you find peace instead of feeling defeated. Some things aren't meant to be.
I've never wanted a fancy ring. When I go get married one day, I hope to have a simple, wooden wedding ring. It's more my style and would be much more meaningful to have a personal design etched on it than a fancy diamond that costs more than what I make in a few months. I've never understood the need to have fancy, expensive things, ESPECIALLY something that should be a symbol of your love and connection to another person.
@@Ellary_Rosewood You sound like a woman of character. I hope you meet a man who knows value when he meets it. (Unasked for advice from someone who prepares people for marriage and counsels married people: if you meet someone and start talking and it's the best conversation of your life and you just want to keep talking or meet up and talk again as soon as possible, *that* is something that successful couples consistently report as part of their story of how they met. If you meet and date and are wondering, "Could this be the one?" but you don't feel like you want this conversation to continue, like this is the person you feel you can discuss everything with, move on. Look for the one who wants to tell you everything about his day and hear all about yours, for whom you are the one person he feels like telling everything to, and vice-versa, and that's a great sign that "this is the one." I meet couples where one of them - usually the man, because men don't as easily open up and talk as women - knew right away that they'd met someone special because of how much they enjoyed talking to the girl. When that's mutual, when you can meet for a half hour and talk for hours and can't wait to meet up and continue the conversation, trust it.)
That and any woman who mentions one of those stupid 'rules' like 'the engagement ring should cost: Factor x your monthly salary' is not of marriageable quality and you should never propose to her. She has an immature, selfish and destructive perspective on what marriage really is. Move on.
Live in the present moment. I was too loyal and caring to too many people who didn't deserve it.. All the while neglecting my own needs. I regret it I'm 68 now and I feel that I spoiled many precious years of my youth... My wings have been cut many times growing up. No music, no sport, then alone to raise 3 children all by myself... I didn't know better, today I am so much wiser. I try not to overthink, until I came upon this question. I'm working on finding a new purpose and occupy all this free time. I'm not used to it.
My mother died at the age of 101 last Fall. I believe she regretted never having getting a college education and pursuing a musical education. Church provided her with choir and directing a bell choir which she loved. Her children were her life. She was concerned about us until the day she died. My sister and I cared for her at home with Hospice. Be true to your nature even if you do have regrets. The caring of us and the love she gave us outweighed the regrets. I understand that about myself also. Living a loving and giving life can be a purpose to your being.
Master your emotions is one of the biggest key to life! It’s super hard but practice practice practice also Live in the Moment! There’s nothing like today that’s why it’s called the present.
This interviewer actually seems to respect the older generations, as we were taught to respect our elders. This is lacking in society today. Therefore I appreciate this young man. He's wise beyond his years.
I liked the remark about too much ambition making you miss out on real life. And I loved 'woman is a very dangerous animal and very expensive'! Lots of sincerity in these testimonies.
This one was particularly interesting and entertaining. I’m a senior citizen and even I drew a lot from what was said here. BTW, there are others out there doing this similar stuff as you, but your personality, to me, makes you the most interesting!
Very touching video with very important insights from everyday people who've been around long enough to understand the value of all their experiences. Well done. I get very similar feelings when I watch Randy Kanaka's "Sitting with dogs." Both he and you elicit the most remarkable insights from just... talking about things with others... you with other people... and Randy with rescued dogs in animal shelters. Both of you gift us all with... a future and a hope. And my happy heart tears up with joy every time I watch you boys do your "interviews." It reminds me life is always valuable and whether lessons are learned or cherished or cast aside, as long as we live and breathe we are all still blessed and gifted with a future and a hope. At the end of every one of your videos, that's what you leave me with... that's what I'm thinking about... a future and a hope... and I can't help but smile. Thanks. :)
1) Don’t get sucked into buying junk you don’t need. ✅ 2) Avoid all forms of STRESS. Avoid negative people. Family, coworkers, debt. ✅ 3) Never live in the past or future only the PRESENT. ✅ 4) Your mate is the most important decision you’ll make in your life. Choose wisely. ✅ 5) Never miss an opportunity to shut up. ✅
I'm in my 60s and I regret befriending sooo many people that I've helped out , spent lots of time with them and their families... now they don't know me... should of been more selected in choosing people as a "friend"
Yeah. Helping disinterestedly is easier for me because I'm an introvert and can only have so many people in my life as it gets exhausting. I help because people need help. Whatever the help is, whether it takes a year or two minutes, I treat it like holding a door open for a stranger coming into a store behind me: an act of help that doesn't need to lead to friendship. For me friendship has to be based on a real meeting of minds and sharing of values that are deep and meaningful and not likely to change over time. I think - many cultures think - that Americans use the word "friend" very loosely. Other languages have words that clearly indicate when an acquaintance has moved from the formal zone of neighbor, coworker, guy you chat with at the gym (no matter if it's over thirty years) to someone you confide in, invite to your home, share milestones with, trust your kids with. You even address them differently before and after you both acknowledge that shift into friendship has taken place. But American history relied on strangers pulling together for survival, so you had to assume and rely on "friendship" almost instantly in the wilderness. I think it makes it hard for Americans to distinguish between "friendliness" and "friendship" and can lead to a person having a lot of shallow "connections" and no deep, lasting friendships and wondering why it's not satisfying.
Such a sad comment! Similar here. But my further thought is that I'm going to be happy in the last portion of my life and give no one the power to disturb my peace. I've come to value peace as my most important possession so I discard anything or anyone who disturbs my peace. This has been the path to happiness for me so I recommend it for you too. Sadly most people can be replaced with a good dog as far as happiness goes🙀
I regret not moving to NYC in my 20s to start the career I am still trying to flourish in at age 60. As a "beach" girl", I didn't want to give up my healthy lifestyle... now, I live in an ugly European capital city and I hate it. Moving home "to the beach" in two weeks! Yay!
Career has always been important to me, but a healthy lifestyle is non-negotiable. So, I'm not as outwardly successful as most my age. @@brandonarmstrong2053
I’m in my early 70’s. My two biggest regrets are that I didn’t allow my wife to follow her “foolish” (or so I told her AFTER we were married) dream, and I put too much time and effort into working a menial job, and I neglected my wife and children in doing so.
I think a commonality is that the older you get you realize the greatest mistakes come not from the things you did do, it’s from the things you didn’t do and know you could have or should have long ago.
I didn't hear that in their responses - although I hear people say it lots. My only regrets are things I did that I shouldn't have. I was impulsive and emotional/hormonal. I'm 78.
love hearing perspectives from people who have been on this earth longer than me. I"m 48y old Dad, and want to accomplish everything that I can, after some hurdles in life. thanks for sharing.
Advice to you dad: tell your kids EVERY DAY, that you love them and are proud..my only son died when he was 16years old.. suddenly..I regret not telling him every day that I loved him but he knew, that he was my life.
At 71 I learned not to allow anyone or anything to tell me what to say or think. I now go out of my way to use all of the knowledge given to us to learn the truth. I trust my instincts more because of my age. For example: I had to go all the way back to 1948 to learn the origin of modern day corruption in government………….stuff like that.
My advice would be : just accept the natural flow of life, don't fight it. Accept what is going on, even when it is tough because it will be easier to deal with it. Doesn't mean you have to be happy about it, but if you go with the natural flow, you won't feel so much despair. And oftentimes what seems like a bad thing isn't actually the case in the long run. Of course some events can be truly awful and very hard to go through. But they always teach you things about life.
My dad died with lots of regrets. He cheated on his wife for 8 years before he left her with lots of young kids, I know he left for the Se X. The lady he married was married three times, she had kids from all of her marriages. Then he got prostate cancer, no more Se X. And all the kids from his old marriage and new marriage all got in trouble, were drug addicts and went to jail, some died from overdose in random fields of grass and had no funeral. He basically destroyed us all. In the end he didn't even want a funeral for himself. A lot of us were actually glad when he died, which is disturbing in itself. He regretted his whole life. Sad story.
My friend, your dad is trying to teach you one important lesson: not to live the life he'd had. Good luck. (btw, don't forget to forgive your teacher.)
This is sad for you. It’s unfortunate since we cannot pick our parents. But perhaps did this allow you to become the father to a child the way you wanted your Dad to be? 🙂
As a 26 year old I am constantly thinking of what should be the best step forward. Listening to these beautiful people I think I need to worry a bit less and follow what feels right. ❤
be grateful, forgive and love own self and others. Respect, be kind and stay humble. Stop criticizing yourself and others. Life is cause and effect. that's what I've heard
Thank you Will and the Sprouht. I am 25 years old and I'm learning a lot about the lessons in life from the perspectives of these old wise beautiful people. They really earned wisdom throughout their life. ♥️♥️♥️
How lovely. I’m 62 and have had and still am having - a ton of fun. I went skydiving in my 60th. Going to dive the Barrier Reef this Christmas. My advice - wear life loosely. My only regrets are letting BS stuff take up my headspace. Big hugs to you.
As a genXer I'm gratefully in between the pie in the sky younger generation and the older and wiser older generations. As a stage 4 cancer survivor and a lifetime of Buddhist I relate to the wise words here. Loved this piece and miss dynamic, vibrant Manhattan!! ❤ 🍎
All very valuable lessons to share with us. 2:00 WHAT IF? I definitely agree with her wholeheartedly. I personally have wasted valuable energy, time and action worrying about What If?
Without doubt one of the best UA-cam channels on the Internet, and TRUST ME, I only give credit where it's due, and NO, I don't know the guy. Just keep doing what you're doing my friend. 🖖
No regrets. The only bumps I had, were created by other people, that wanted to me to fail because I chose a unconforming lifestlye. Misery loves company!
Learn to be content, to know yourself and to focus on doing things you love. If you are content (not necessarily happy, no one is happy all the time), then you radiate it outwards and it attracts people. Not all people, but the right kind. If you try to impress people and want them to like you, it's forced behavior, it does not work and you will be unhappy about yourself. And no one is attracted to a miserable person. (Unless it's an abusive manipulator, who you don't need to have around in the first place). Start with yourself, learn who you are and BE yourself. Find your place in world and society and content state of mind and the rest will unroll by itself...
I’m getting up there I’m 36, I’ve learned to listen more than I speak and always think before you speak. I believe this life is about love, loving each other and not being too selfish.
The biggest mistake that I and most younger people have made is not paying enough attention to retirement plans “money” I’m 73 years young and in order to retire and live comfortable I had to move to Colombia SA. Where my American dollar goes almost 4 times further then is the US. So please think of your retirement.
You have a wonderful gift for drawing out the private thoughts of these people. Clearly, they see something in you that makes it easy for them to open up. I'm glad you enjoy what you are doing with this talent, and I appreciate these videos..
I am 75 and regret that I was an underachiever. I didn't realize how much that held me back. However It is possible nothing could have been about that since my personality defined who I am. I also wish I had paid more attention to the older people in my life, as I deprived myself of their wisdom. However I have noted that the younger people have no interest in my life experience, and it is painful for me to watch younger ones making terrible decisions that would not need to happen if only they would have asked me or another older person who has faced the same challenges throughout our lives. I think it is human nature to learn from their own mistakes though, but it is so unnecessary.
You are a STAND-UP guy. You really respect your audience while questioning them. This is a trait not often scene in the days of "swipe right/swipe left" on life. Well done, and keep up the great work! Chris in Astoria!
Great video as always, it got me wandering how would it be to interview people who are less "polished/living normal lives" instead. Try different locations, nursing homes, Hiking trails, Slums etc , mediation centres etc
Ouch! Some very pertinent life lessons in there... particularly about judging people too harshly and too early. (note to self). Happy holidays Sprouht!
I have achieved all of my career and professional goals and dreams, and this July will mark the 20th anniversary of my participation as a runner in the "Running of the Bulls" in Pamplona, Spain. If you want to avoid regrets over those things which you do not or did not achieve with your career then start your "bucket list" in your 20's like I did and not in your 60's and 70's like most people. Also, you will not achieve any thing of substance especially professionally or with your career unless you are willing to take risks and put your ass on the line. The surest way of feeling regretful about your career or with the professional component of your life is by playing it safe. My life is complete, and I have absolutely no regrets.
This is a great channel. Younger people will get the most from it but will most likely not pay too much attention to it. For us older people (I'm 64) this gives comfort to know that you are not alone in your doubts and regrets. One makes the best decision at the time with the knowledge one has but looking back it wasn't always the best decision. On the other hand, I have not found anyone who can say with conviction that they have not put a foot wrong and have lived a perfect life. I do think though that mindfulness or living in the present is a very good start.
I’m 15 years from 80 but I’ll tell you what I have observed my whole life. Do what you must to survive financially but do what you love for a career. Your first love is the person you are meant to be with. If you blow that or give it up for money or status or position you’ll spend the rest of your life regretting it. It may be life’s most bittersweet lesson. And nothing is worth your children. Nothing. That’s what I’ve learned oh and a guy who cheats always will because they find doormats who put up with them. That’s all. Good luck out there. ❤
What is YOUR best piece of advice to someone in their 20s? How can we live our best life?
We need more advice becouse I am one of the 20s
Therapy. If you have things you struggle with, don't let them fester and grow, work them out with a good therapy and therapist. I highly recommend Internal Family Systems. I'm 43 now, I let my issues fester for decades. My life has been compromised because I was too scared to face my stuff.
Take risk and don't worry about failure.
Try to be with positive thinking people. It will help a lot.
Be clean and kind in your heart.
Don't let money, possessions, people dictate, rule your life. Most people, it seems, have a pretty screwed up life, they like to pass off as fantastic, so not to look like a failure.
What should we focus on then?@@wanderingwarrior5626
I'm 65 and the biggest regret I have , giving so much energy to trying to gain acceptance from people. So many years wasted just to learn its an inside job.
Very good point.
I’m in this position. I definitely have no friends. I moved a lot as a kid and that kinda has been true as an adult too. I’ve always wanted friends but I see people more giving this advice. It makes me feel not so bad.
Let people accept u as u r.
That's very unfortunate! Better make hay while the sun shines!!
@mariabenham7716 I married a man 20 yrs younger so I think we making hay
“Ambition is an incredible thing, but don’t be so focused on it that you lose all the richness around you.”
Love that!
Yes, the total gem of this video ❤
Kinda like how the Buddhist guy said the present is happiness.
I have family members who have no ambitions whatsoever, I just could not find any richness around them. If weren't for they are my kids I'd have dumped them.
@@aaazzz1212But no ambition at all is different from that quote
As a 60 something, the time I wasted in clubs and pubs, the money I wasted on drink. Chasing women who really didn’t deserve it. The money I wasted on so much stuff you just don’t need. I wished I had eaten better. Putting up with some much hassle and grief because I didn’t know my employment rights. I’m glad I started a pension in my early 20s, enabled me to retire at 60. Don’t take your parents, aunts and uncles for granted, they are not there forever. In life there is only one thing that matters, love.
Yes I’m with you mate. I’ve wasted so much money trying to find the right woman only to be taken down at the end of the day.
@@patkelly6349yeah, there is no such thing as the perfect woman. They’re all fake. Every single one of them
@@patkelly6349
I am 67 and have found the one word in dealing with all women "INDIFFERENCE".
I love the French fellows comments.
I am 66 years old. I think everyone should try a little harder to be nicer to people and give compliments. One compliment to a stranger can make their day. No one knows what their life is like and it may bring joy to someone. I think as humans we all make mistakes in life. But hopefully we can learn from them. I live everyday of my life being true to myself and knowing that I try my best everyday.
I agree. I try my best to be kind to people but not at the expense of my well-being. I say hello, good morning and etc to total strangers in the grocery store. I'm 68 and I have been doing that for many years. I have watched many older people go from a sad look to a happy face and a big smile. Many live alone and keep to themselves for fear of being conned and hurt financially or physically hurt. It's a sad state of affairs because there are so many people totally lacking in morals.
Hear, hear!
@@genespell4340glad to know it works well for you. Cuz when I’m nice, all I get is nasty faces and assholes doing me dirty at other times. I stopped being nice a long time ago, I realized that you humans don’t deserve kindness, if you wanna be nice go ahead, but just know you all don’t deserve a hello or a thank you or anything from me. Only thing I’ll give you all is my middle finger, cuz there’s no way in hell I’m letting you all bring me down ever again. I’ll make sure to put you in your place homie. And don’t you forget it
Absolutely agree. I always talk to strangers, especially young people working in customer service. They appreciate the genuine attention I give them.
I wholeheartedly agree.
Some people allowed mistakes to actually freeze them in that moment of time. Well said! Move forward, there is NO life back there.
the 75 year old gentleman that stated when asked "how does it feel to be 74?" he stated "bad"...why? "Because I dont have any energy any more"...
this guy and everyone needs to change their diet to the carnivore diet to get their energy back. At 74 he should have good health & energy. Doctors will just give you a Rx but, that does not heal the body...
YOU need to take YOUR health into YOUR own hands by changing your diet.
carnviore channels: Dr Ken berry, shawn baker md podcast, Homestead how, Kelly Hogan, Dante freedom carniovre (something like that), Dr Chaffee, Nutrition with Judy, Steak and butter gal
(all of these have interivews with so many people that healed their bodies from everything at ALL ages (20's 30+ 70, 80 year olds) You are never hungry, after a week or so no sugar craving or carb cravings)
library will have books on carnivore diet.
Do not settle with sickness...humans are NOT meant to have no energy at any age including this gentlemen at 74.
carnivore diet reverse type 2 dibetes, brain fog, anxiety, depression, obesity, mood swings, fatigue etc etc EVERYTHING
seriously look into this diet. it works.
6:49 So true.
I would say too eny one younger do not settle down too young,and educat your self,so much too learn and see,stay healthy,look up you'r food's,🍸 plenty off water, keep fit dont worry a bout ageing if so look it up will help you understand better has were ageing all the time,try too be happy and help other's but not too much,baby's are hard work and running a house food cloth's bill's and if you wont too marry make sure he is a family man and you'r best friend,we think we know a lot when teen,'s know that's why thy say we live and learn,I know off some in there 20s and 3os find it hard whith just one,✅ now,your life fly by not meny tell you a bout your face and body changing all the time and nothing like peace off mind,and money does help,dont think it does it does,has why are so meny homeless starving in debt,worrying,yes I have nearly wrote a book,if I dont have a lazy eye I would do,dont marry fore a ring,I neaver,
Yeah hits hard. Can feel like that after you've continued living your life too.
This was meaningful to me
The 2 biggest pitfalls in life are:
1. Not placing enough importance on relationships (often at the expense of career or money), and
2. Having children with the wrong person and becoming tied to them for life
#2 for sure!
Unfortunately 1 and 2 kind of intertwine because many people place so much importance on relationships with others it ends them up marrying and having children with multiple people who were the wrong ones 😂
omg...#2!
I disagree with 1. There are people that feel complete with their respective careers and don't need a partner to "feel fulfilled." Also, sex isn't love. It's BS.
I soooo agree w ur comment. The former was my ex, the latter was me!!
I'm 65. I was 35 about 10 minutes ago. I was afraid to live my life the way I really wanted because of the judgment of family members. I knew I should stand up and live my life but I kept telling myself I had plenty of time and would take care of it next year and next year and next year. One day I realized I was close to retirement and time had run out. The funny thing was all the people who were so quick to judge me were gone and had lived their lives as they dam well pleased. I gave up my dreams to avoid the judgment of others. I should have turned my back on them and followed my dreams.
Oof. This is some reality right here. I wasted my 20s and 30s with that mentality. In my 40s, I'm doing it MY WAY on MY TERMS.
Did I love being in my 30s. I accepted to become 30, all because of Neil Diamond.
Yes yes yes. I realized I was supportive of family members but then they kinda bullied me into doing what they wanted over my own dreams and needs. They all do exactly what is best for them and I really lost a lot bc I did what was best for them not me.
what was your dream?
@allentempleton2429 "I was 35 about 10 minutes ago" really hits hard. I really hope you can now live according to your wishes and dreams, as much as you can. Beeing alive offers a lot, no matter the age. Best of luck.😊
I am 50 years old, and I don't get tired of listening to this video.. My regrets, no loving and respecting myself, and try to please others. Young viewers, you are never late for a change. You are enough! Accepted and loved yourself and others.
You are not too late either my friend!
You're great at doing interviews. You have a calm and leveled demeanor, not like so many obnoxious social media hosts these days. Its refreshing.
His bank account is attached, of course he is
The guy who’s mum was a Buddist gave him the best advice “Be happy with the present” Exactly
..then what?
and if the present is bad?
nonsense... look at Gaza
@@hjm5885 Gratitude for the little things we often take for granted. A blue sky, the sun, drinking water, having clothing to wear etc. The present might be bad, but the storm doesn't last forever, nothing lasts forever after all. Everything is uncertain, in a constant state of flux.
@@hjm5885 ...it too will pass.
I'm 67.... my best advice is >>>> KEEP YOUR BIG MOUTH SHUT>>>>>>> DON'T EXPLAIN & >>>>>>>>>MOVE SILENTLY..... !!!! Think before speaking !!
😂😂😂
nice one
Excellent ! Before opening mouth, engage brain.
I had a sage share with me a while back. He said, You know how easy it is to become an overnight genius today? Think twice before You speak
Lol 😂😂😂😂
Im 57 this year. Just completed my academic journey after spending 15 years of part-time study for my diploma, degree, master, postgrad and phd, while working full-time to support myself and my family. I was self funded all the way until phd where I had govt grants.
So to me, education is a privilege and I cherished it.
¡Muchas felicidades! 🎉
Congratulations, as someone who works full time and find it difficult to study new releases in my own field. I feel that is a major accomplishment.
Congratulations!
can you be my mentor? I want to follow same route.
Well done. I graduated as a nurse 3 months before my 60 th birthday. I love my life now.
"Always be in the present because that's where happiness is." Wonderful 💕
I thought the same.
Sometimes, if you are trying to escape an abusive marriage, the present is absolute H*ll. I got through it imagining a happy and free future and trying to remember a younger me and what my likes and dislikes were back then. I got free and have my own place. I am totally alone but am at peace and trying to put my life back together. Happiness is sometimes something you have to work towards.
what present? like the one in Gaza ?
THE BEST ADVICE!
Wow I need to see this
The Buddhist guy radiates calm and wisdom. He speaks with a quiet kindness about him that encourages you to listen.
Also he looks straight at the camera as if he is connecting with us all. 😊 He is an inspiration.
Be in the present, folks...it's all we've got! Take care everybody and make today a great day!
“Always be in the present. The present is happiness”. I’m 52 and married 30 years and absolutely agree with this.
"Have an empathy for people who are not as lucky as you!" Beautiful❤
I am 36 and my life advice is - Judge people from their behaviour towards you and others NOT by what they speak!
Don't be around toxic people or one's that bring you down, respect yourself and your opinions, your self worth.
Do not let people bully you into doing things you aren't comfortable with, be true to yourself, don't worry about pleasing people, be yourself.
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I loved the guy who said that he looks at "mistakes" as lessons instead. He seemed to be very grounded and I didn't sense any regrets from him! Love your channel!
that buddhist gentleman has a great life philosophy
I came here looking for this comment. I heard him the loudest.
He's like yoda
@@keomalahamer108 and yet he's so peaceful..lol
@@irah866 definitely...it seems effortless
I'm not buddhist but I have always (every day) loved each and every day I've been alive - I'm 78 now. I've never wished to go back because I've lived each day.
Loved the women at the 5 minute mark, always facing her husband and listening intently, could see her thinking deeply, lucky man.
I wonder how she answered the question though...
This is wonderful. I need to hear more from the Buddhist gentleman. I feel like he's got a point of view that would do me good to hear.
He seemed very wise.
Nam Myoho Renge Kyo. 🙏
Check out kadampa meditation centre near you- a Buddhist tradition that teaches precisely these mindsets and more.
You can watch buddhist videos that say the same things.
He does! but you don't have to be buddhist. I've lived every day as if it was my last - I'm 78 now.
Best piece of advice I could offer as a Millenial, would be make sure your offline world/ life is as happy as you pretend it to be online. Better yet, spend more time being present offline and in the moment with nature and those you care about.
That was very touching. Just turning 40 and looking at my little kids, has caused me to really think about the value of life. Sometimes we go through life looking to quickly move from one season to the next. It’s so important to spend time with loved ones and enjoy life experiences rather than the hustle culture that often gets pushed.
If you live a life without the need to hustle, you are already better off than most of the people. Everyone has their struggles. No matter which road you take, you will always regret about something.
Best advice is to work on a balanced life. That way you are not going completely one way and miss another. Do a bit hustle, bump your yearly income to a point where the marginal cost is not worth for extra 10K. Stop right there and have kids and wife before 35. Also avoid high stress jobs that might look nice, it will mess up your relationship and mental health. Whatever comes to you, at least try it once or twice before rejecting.
Im 71. Like the Asian man said, don't get stuck in some past moment, good or bad.
thank you !
I'm 40 and didn't marry or have kids...it hurts my soul
I have watched dozens of your videos, but this is the first time I am leaving a comment. You do a GREAT job of interviewing your guests!! You’re a natural. You are clearly interested in what they say, and you seem to draw them out. I am 72, and I love to hear what people 82 and 92 are saying. But if you were interviewing me, I would give you very different answers from what your guests say. I decided about 15 years ago to put NUTRITION over everything, and I got my wife of 25 years then to agree 100% with me. We follow a few nutrition-centered doctors on UA-cam, and we began reading about nutrition. We gave up “eating for taste” and went entirely for “eating for best health and longevity”. I grow my own sprouts and microgreens indoors. We eat fresh cooked beans, never canned food, and have hundreds of pounds of 18 kinds of dry beans in our garage. We also started going to the GYM every 3 or 4 days for at least an hour. Now at 72 I can say that our decision and discipline has really paid off. Our friends are overweight, lacking in energy, having surgeries, and popping pills for this and for that. We take zero meds, have ideal weight, and we go skiing all winter with season passes. My doctor told me that I have the blood pressure of a healthy 18 year old. I am still planning investments decades into the future. Enjoying life tremendously. ADVICE: Start a focus on nutrition, health, and longevity EARLIER IN LIFE. Don’t wait until your 50s. Give up restaurant eating! They are focused 100% on taste, which means overloaded sugar, salt, and oil. Restaurants are not focused on nutrition because their customers are not focused on nutrition! But sickness and disability do not have to come with old age! Age means very little if you take care of yourself! This takes discipline, but it becomes an unconscious habit. The WORST part of being older and taking great care of yourself is watching everyone else GET OLD AND SICK and being powerless myself to help them! Why do I take such good care of myself? Because I want to feel good and enjoy my wonderful life with my 71-year-old hottie and see what happens next in the world!! I want to have robots someday and a self-driving car. I want to see Elon take people to Mars.
Great attitude! Love it! So true about having healthy habits.
All true! At 62 I’m going to dive the Barrier reef this next winter. Keeping fit gives me so many opportunities. Wish I had started earlier!
I'm 47 believing in nutrition and keeping body fit without supplements, i agree with the writer 100%, the earlier we take care of our bodies in terms of food who consume and physical fitness the better. 🇿🇦
great advice! i want to live a long time but only if i can be healthy for a long time.
Yes agreed, it's never to late to get fit. I'm 47 and very active and try to eat well, it makes a difference for mental health as well a fit body too!!
Im in a long term marriage - 30 years- and the "secret" is to always remember that "NOBODY is as perfect as you.....think you are!" LOL . Youre not always right and neither are your ways . So many small things that u just need to LET GO.
Find your own path to happiness. I felt I should have waited for the right husband for me, not what others thought was the right person for me. Choose a career that is right for you, not one that society says defines success. Define what happiness and success are for you!
very true! If one can ignore societal pressure the result will probably be better. I did not ignore.....to my peril.
@margaretames6522 are you still married?😢
Through out our life all we do is use our mind and body. To have a good life you need the health of your mind and body both.
Habits like exercise, eating in moderation helps the body.
More importantly having a peaceful mind helps the mind and body both. Not being too self-centred, caring for others and meditation will contribute towards a peaceful mind.
We can't be perfect all the time but it is a good habit to try and correct any mistakes we made.
I am 80 years old. I am healthy and I can be happy about the way I have lived when I look back.
This is my experience.
Wish everybody a happy and healthy life ❤
Working a job that makes you happy isn’t as shallow as it’s made to seem. Working a job that allows you to do the things that make you happy - such as the freedom it provides, the life it allows you to live, the connections with people you make and the comfortability that hopefully comes along with it is what is the meaning of having a job that you love represents.
Very true
2:24 love his honesty. He is one out of thousands that is not in denial
It's NEVER too late. ABSOLUTELY NEVER TOO LATE. Ignore the past, don't worry about the future. Live today. The decisions and things that you do today will make your future better. Thinking about the past, worrying about the future will only have negative effects on today. Time spent on them is time that could have been spent on productive, joy creating things. For reference, I am 71.
Allowing others to dictate to me , my experiences and limited beliefs. I believed all the nonsense and belived I was never good enough, thinking these people knew best, as they were family, lovers, teachers and friends. I am now 60, went back to school and have a new lease on life, therapy has brought me to myself and I am not who they said i was. I always did for others and now i do whats right for me. Its hard at my age but I must find sweetness in life and deserve my next chapter to be my best chapter. Listen to your inner voice , not others, who are not out for you and explore your limited beliefs and emotions. Find love where ever you are and realise its a privelege to still be here!!
Allison, I'm two years older than you and I SO wish you success!
When I meet family or go back to visit them, the shock is almost physical. It's like going back in time. They've aged but not changed. And they treat me as though no time has passed. I left the US the first time for two years in my twenties to get a master's degree, went back for one year to get a teaching credential.(One brother told me when I returned: "You were gone for two years. Now you're back and everything goes on as before." As though two years living abroad among strangers and finding out so much about myself and the world didn't change anything, because *his* life and world never changed!) I then left for the final time 32 years ago. I have learned so much about who I really am when I'm somewhere where nobody "knows" me and I'm not being treated like a 15-year-old with no education, no professional career, no life experience. I've spent the decades changing and getting past the limitations put on me by my family's narrative for who I am and how I should be treated, and the limited options envisioned in my typical American suburban neighborhood. I'm respected in my career and valued by many for what I have to offer. Thank God I got away and could fulfill my REAL self. I've lived more than half my life away from family expectations and roles and their fixed and unchanging ways and characters. I see them all still so STUCK in being who and how they were 35 years ago, and when I meet them they cannot see or respect that I'm a totally different (better, happier, respected, successful) person than I was as a child and teenager. They have not changed or grown or mellowed, and they measure their lives by money earned, not contribution to the good of others. It's awful going back. I hope never to do it again. I don't hate them, it's just hard to be treated as someone you are not and never were, because it's easier for them not to change. And because they simply can't imagine (and have never asked about) a whole adult life lived separately from them.
Breaking free from the constraints of people who *tell* you who you are instead of *asking* who you are and being open to letting you become who you are is SO worth it. It may cost you, you will have a lot to overcome and learn, but it's what makes life worth having. You can only be you. Go be the best you that you can! I wish you the greatest success in being YOU.
@@FigaroHey thanks so much as I sit here in a flood of tears, alone and free to be me. Be well my friend and soo happy you are the cycle breaker! Love...
I think the best is making mistakes, which is inevitable and learning from them. Rather than letting that mistake freeze you in time. For me, I have to listen to my gut and learn to trust it.
1:28 for me. Acceptance of your inabilities and what you didn't accomplish. I guess you find peace instead of feeling defeated. Some things aren't meant to be.
I agree. 100 %
Love yourself, try to do what makes you happy, be kind, respect others, save a little money!
Engagement/wedding rings should not cost you a fortune. Buy what you can afford, don't go into debt. You can always upgrade later .
So true ❤
I've never wanted a fancy ring. When I go get married one day, I hope to have a simple, wooden wedding ring. It's more my style and would be much more meaningful to have a personal design etched on it than a fancy diamond that costs more than what I make in a few months. I've never understood the need to have fancy, expensive things, ESPECIALLY something that should be a symbol of your love and connection to another person.
@@Ellary_Rosewood You sound like a woman of character. I hope you meet a man who knows value when he meets it. (Unasked for advice from someone who prepares people for marriage and counsels married people: if you meet someone and start talking and it's the best conversation of your life and you just want to keep talking or meet up and talk again as soon as possible, *that* is something that successful couples consistently report as part of their story of how they met. If you meet and date and are wondering, "Could this be the one?" but you don't feel like you want this conversation to continue, like this is the person you feel you can discuss everything with, move on. Look for the one who wants to tell you everything about his day and hear all about yours, for whom you are the one person he feels like telling everything to, and vice-versa, and that's a great sign that "this is the one." I meet couples where one of them - usually the man, because men don't as easily open up and talk as women - knew right away that they'd met someone special because of how much they enjoyed talking to the girl. When that's mutual, when you can meet for a half hour and talk for hours and can't wait to meet up and continue the conversation, trust it.)
That and any woman who mentions one of those stupid 'rules' like 'the engagement ring should cost: Factor x your monthly salary' is not of marriageable quality and you should never propose to her. She has an immature, selfish and destructive perspective on what marriage really is. Move on.
Live in the present moment. I was too loyal and caring to too many people who didn't deserve it.. All the while neglecting my own needs. I regret it
I'm 68 now and I feel that I spoiled many precious years of my youth... My wings have been cut many times growing up. No music, no sport, then alone to raise 3 children all by myself... I didn't know better, today I am so much wiser. I try not to overthink, until I came upon this question. I'm working on finding a new purpose and occupy all this free time. I'm not used to it.
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That's true. a lot of people today have been
having lots of disappointments in trading in light of helpless direction and awful consultants
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Could you suggest a consultant for me?
My mother died at the age of 101 last Fall. I believe she regretted never having getting a college education and pursuing a musical education. Church provided her with choir and directing a bell choir which she loved. Her children were her life. She was concerned about us until the day she died. My sister and I cared for her at home with Hospice. Be true to your nature even if you do have regrets. The caring of us and the love she gave us outweighed the regrets. I understand that about myself also. Living a loving and giving life can be a purpose to your being.
Look within and find out who you are and don't let others define you.
Master your emotions is one of the biggest key to life! It’s super hard but practice practice practice also Live in the Moment! There’s nothing like today that’s why it’s called the present.
This interviewer actually seems to respect the older generations, as we were taught to respect our elders. This is lacking in society today. Therefore I appreciate this young man. He's wise beyond his years.
I liked the remark about too much ambition making you miss out on real life. And I loved 'woman is a very dangerous animal and very expensive'! Lots of sincerity in these testimonies.
“ Sometimes you have to get off the river flow and enjoy the shore “
Great quote by that person!
This one was particularly interesting and entertaining. I’m a senior citizen and even I drew a lot from what was said here. BTW, there are others out there doing this similar stuff as you, but your personality, to me, makes you the most interesting!
All of them are gems but I love most the Buddhist man's life philosophy. Enjoying, appreciating the present.
Very touching video with very important insights from everyday people who've been around long enough to understand the value of all their experiences. Well done. I get very similar feelings when I watch Randy Kanaka's "Sitting with dogs." Both he and you elicit the most remarkable insights from just... talking about things with others... you with other people... and Randy with rescued dogs in animal shelters. Both of you gift us all with... a future and a hope. And my happy heart tears up with joy every time I watch you boys do your "interviews." It reminds me life is always valuable and whether lessons are learned or cherished or cast aside, as long as we live and breathe we are all still blessed and gifted with a future and a hope. At the end of every one of your videos, that's what you leave me with... that's what I'm thinking about... a future and a hope... and I can't help but smile. Thanks. :)
"Did you master your emotions?"
-yeah, it took me 70years...
Deep
2:30
1) Don’t get sucked into buying junk you don’t need. ✅
2) Avoid all forms of STRESS. Avoid negative people. Family, coworkers, debt. ✅
3) Never live in the past or future only the PRESENT. ✅
4) Your mate is the most important decision you’ll make in your life. Choose wisely. ✅
5) Never miss an opportunity to shut up. ✅
Thanks for these greats! Are able to shed light on the last point on shut up. Thanks
I'm in my 60s and I regret befriending sooo many people that I've helped out , spent lots of time with them and their families... now they don't know me... should of been more selected in choosing people as a "friend"
Yeah. Helping disinterestedly is easier for me because I'm an introvert and can only have so many people in my life as it gets exhausting. I help because people need help. Whatever the help is, whether it takes a year or two minutes, I treat it like holding a door open for a stranger coming into a store behind me: an act of help that doesn't need to lead to friendship. For me friendship has to be based on a real meeting of minds and sharing of values that are deep and meaningful and not likely to change over time. I think - many cultures think - that Americans use the word "friend" very loosely. Other languages have words that clearly indicate when an acquaintance has moved from the formal zone of neighbor, coworker, guy you chat with at the gym (no matter if it's over thirty years) to someone you confide in, invite to your home, share milestones with, trust your kids with. You even address them differently before and after you both acknowledge that shift into friendship has taken place. But American history relied on strangers pulling together for survival, so you had to assume and rely on "friendship" almost instantly in the wilderness. I think it makes it hard for Americans to distinguish between "friendliness" and "friendship" and can lead to a person having a lot of shallow "connections" and no deep, lasting friendships and wondering why it's not satisfying.
Hadn't thought about it in quite tge way you put it, but I think you might be right.
Very interesting comment from a non American
Such a sad comment! Similar here. But my further thought is that I'm going to be happy in the last portion of my life and give no one the power to disturb my peace. I've come to value peace as my most important possession so I discard anything or anyone who disturbs my peace. This has been the path to happiness for me so I recommend it for you too. Sadly most people can be replaced with a good dog as far as happiness goes🙀
@cynthiawadeson8843 wow powerful comment -i hope your wish comes true-peace n later years -its what we wld all hope for
I regret not moving to NYC in my 20s to start the career I am still trying to flourish in at age 60.
As a "beach" girl", I didn't want to give up my healthy lifestyle... now, I live in an ugly European capital city and I hate it. Moving home "to the beach" in two weeks! Yay!
I feel like in 20 years you won’t regret that. Most people regret working too much or taking career over life. What’s your thoughts on that?
Career has always been important to me, but a healthy lifestyle is non-negotiable. So, I'm not as outwardly successful as most my age.
@@brandonarmstrong2053
If you're still trying to flourish in a career at 60, you're wasting your life working.
@@lilyw.719not if you love what you do for work
May i ask which european capital city it is?
Having emotionally regulated parents during one’s developmental years like she said she had is such a gift….
I’m in my early 70’s. My two biggest regrets are that I didn’t allow my wife to follow her “foolish” (or so I told her AFTER we were married) dream, and I put too much time and effort into working a menial job, and I neglected my wife and children in doing so.
Where's your wife now? 😢
@@loveonlytee483
Amazingly - right by my side! She’s been such a wonderful wife, mother, and grandmother. I’m so lucky to have her!
what was her dream?
Just appreciate the present , health , air quality, friendship
Never give up, never lose hope, always keep faith, it helps you to cope.
I think a commonality is that the older you get you realize the greatest mistakes come not from the things you did do, it’s from the things you didn’t do and know you could have or should have long ago.
I didn't hear that in their responses - although I hear people say it lots. My only regrets are things I did that I shouldn't have. I was impulsive and emotional/hormonal. I'm 78.
love hearing perspectives from people who have been on this earth longer than me. I"m 48y old Dad, and want to accomplish everything that I can, after some hurdles in life. thanks for sharing.
As a 67 year old mother of sons, I would say if you are a Dad of sons, they will need you and your advice a lot, even when you are older
Advice to you dad: tell your kids EVERY DAY, that you love them and are proud..my only son died when he was 16years old.. suddenly..I regret not telling him every day that I loved him but he knew, that he was my life.
@@lmb4876So sorry for your loss. I think you did a lot for him and he felt that you love him. It’s not only about words.
At 71 I learned not to allow anyone or anything to tell me what to say or think. I now go out of my way to use all of the knowledge given to us to learn the truth. I trust my instincts more because of my age. For example: I had to go all the way back to 1948 to learn the origin of modern day corruption in government………….stuff like that.
My advice would be : just accept the natural flow of life, don't fight it. Accept what is going on, even when it is tough because it will be easier to deal with it.
Doesn't mean you have to be happy about it, but if you go with the natural flow, you won't feel so much despair.
And oftentimes what seems like a bad thing isn't actually the case in the long run.
Of course some events can be truly awful and very hard to go through. But they always teach you things about life.
I am in my early 70’s. I am happy to be alive after surviving a heart attack and cancer. I do my best to be happy and positive everyday. ❤
Thank for giving us these lessons. You're really helping us so as we don't make same mistakes. Thank you.
My dad died with lots of regrets. He cheated on his wife for 8 years before he left her with lots of young kids, I know he left for the Se X. The lady he married was married three times, she had kids from all of her marriages. Then he got prostate cancer, no more Se X. And all the kids from his old marriage and new marriage all got in trouble, were drug addicts and went to jail, some died from overdose in random fields of grass and had no funeral. He basically destroyed us all. In the end he didn't even want a funeral for himself. A lot of us were actually glad when he died, which is disturbing in itself. He regretted his whole life. Sad story.
So sorry to hear that😢that might be a lesson you learn not to follow his path and make a great life for yourself🙏🏽🌸
My friend, your dad is trying to teach you one important lesson: not to live the life he'd had. Good luck. (btw, don't forget to forgive your teacher.)
Hi, please forgive your father. I pray for find and understand Jesus Christ. Peace from God to you. You will overcome
Indeed parents can destroy everyone’s lives ..
This is sad for you. It’s unfortunate since we cannot pick our parents. But perhaps did this allow you to become the father to a child the way you wanted your Dad to be? 🙂
Stay calm and carry on
As a 26 year old I am constantly thinking of what should be the best step forward. Listening to these beautiful people I think I need to worry a bit less and follow what feels right. ❤
be grateful, forgive and love own self and others.
Respect, be kind and stay humble.
Stop criticizing yourself and others.
Life is cause and effect.
that's what I've heard
Thank you Will and the Sprouht. I am 25 years old and I'm learning a lot about the lessons in life from the perspectives of these old wise beautiful people. They really earned wisdom throughout their life. ♥️♥️♥️
How lovely. I’m 62 and have had and still am having - a ton of fun. I went skydiving in my 60th. Going to dive the Barrier Reef this Christmas. My advice - wear life loosely. My only regrets are letting BS stuff take up my headspace. Big hugs to you.
As a genXer I'm gratefully in between the pie in the sky younger generation and the older and wiser older generations.
As a stage 4 cancer survivor and a lifetime of Buddhist I relate to the wise words here.
Loved this piece and miss dynamic, vibrant Manhattan!! ❤ 🍎
Opening UA-cam to a Sprouht video is always a treat. Great job Will.
Thank you man!
@@Sprouhtseriously, well done to you !
All very valuable lessons to share with us. 2:00 WHAT IF? I definitely agree with her wholeheartedly. I personally have wasted valuable energy, time and action worrying about What If?
Without doubt one of the best UA-cam channels on the Internet, and TRUST ME, I only give credit where it's due, and NO, I don't know the guy.
Just keep doing what you're doing my friend. 🖖
No regrets. The only bumps I had, were created by other people, that wanted to me to fail because I chose a unconforming lifestlye. Misery loves company!
People in fact wish you to fail. People are evil. Get to a big farm, away from as many people as possible.
So true
YEP! Pass the topics [negatives] RIGHT ON BY; DISTANCE, IMMEDIATELY! JOURNEYS TOO SHORT & BEAUTIFUL THRU ALL THE RIGHT, WRONG &/OR INDIFFERANT....
Stay calm enjoy life and carry on golden words. Have empathy for those not fortunate as you. Do what you love. These are golden words no doubt
I have learned a LOT in 9 minutes than what the "education" system had taught me. Thank you, all!🙏
Learn to be content, to know yourself and to focus on doing things you love. If you are content (not necessarily happy, no one is happy all the time), then you radiate it outwards and it attracts people. Not all people, but the right kind. If you try to impress people and want them to like you, it's forced behavior, it does not work and you will be unhappy about yourself. And no one is attracted to a miserable person. (Unless it's an abusive manipulator, who you don't need to have around in the first place). Start with yourself, learn who you are and BE yourself. Find your place in world and society and content state of mind and the rest will unroll by itself...
The pain of Discipline is far less than the cost of Regret 🌟
I’m getting up there I’m 36, I’ve learned to listen more than I speak and always think before you speak. I believe this life is about love, loving each other and not being too selfish.
The biggest mistake that I and most younger people have made is not paying enough attention to retirement plans “money” I’m 73 years young and in order to retire and live comfortable I had to move to Colombia SA. Where my American dollar goes almost 4 times further then is the US. So please think of your retirement.
Great advice!
"So please think of your retirement"
No.
@@MeJustMe101 It's a mistake!
I made that same mistake 😢
You have a wonderful gift for drawing out the private thoughts of these people. Clearly, they see something in you that makes it easy for them to open up. I'm glad you enjoy what you are doing with this talent, and I appreciate these videos..
I ordered the 365 day journal yesterday and feel so blessed to be a part of your community. Bless you for the lovely work you are doing. ❤️
Can someone post the link to the journal? You get great resources and a supportive community. Let’s make 2024 our best year yet. 🎉
Love that, Jane!@@janedeuber1596 - the link to the journal is in our description - and right here: sprouht.com/products/365-day-journal
All of these people are gems, the gent in the shades and suit coat was exceptional.
I am 75 and regret that I was an underachiever. I didn't realize how much that held me back. However It is possible nothing could have been about that since my personality defined who I am. I also wish I had paid more attention to the older people in my life, as I deprived myself of their wisdom. However I have noted that the younger people have no interest in my life experience, and it is painful for me to watch younger ones making terrible decisions that would not need to happen if only they would have asked me or another older person who has faced the same challenges throughout our lives. I think it is human nature to learn from their own mistakes though, but it is so unnecessary.
You are a STAND-UP guy. You really respect your audience while questioning them. This is a trait not often scene in the days of "swipe right/swipe left" on life. Well done, and keep up the great work! Chris in Astoria!
Great video as always, it got me wandering how would it be to interview people who are less "polished/living normal lives" instead. Try different locations, nursing homes, Hiking trails, Slums etc , mediation centres etc
some of these are in our plans for 2024!
@@Sprouht looking forwad to them
Yeah seems like these people are more well off.
Present is happiness... Be here now... It's hard... But it's the real happiness
Wonderful. The guy with the Buddhist mother--so grounded.
My favourite is the gentlemans advice: I don't believe in mistakes but I believe in lessons that help push you forward
Wow, love these videos. Eye-opening every time. Thank you for doing this.
Age 53. My past regrets are worrying about insignificant things and not investing earlier. Other than that I've lived a great life.
Ouch! Some very pertinent life lessons in there... particularly about judging people too harshly and too early. (note to self). Happy holidays Sprouht!
I have achieved all of my career and professional goals and dreams, and this July will mark the 20th anniversary of my participation as a runner in the "Running of the Bulls" in Pamplona, Spain. If you want to avoid regrets over those things which you do not or did not achieve with your career then start your "bucket list" in your 20's like I did and not in your 60's and 70's like most people. Also, you will not achieve any thing of substance especially professionally or with your career unless you are willing to take risks and put your ass on the line. The surest way of feeling regretful about your career or with the professional component of your life is by playing it safe. My life is complete, and I have absolutely no regrets.
Not learning from mistakes is the biggest mistake. Mistakes should be a positive learning experience.
Have empathy! Ambition is incredible, don’t loose the richness around you!
“Emotion is dangerous ”，agree.
All good advice; I’m nearly 61 and this rings so true more so now as I realise there is less time ahead than behind you.
Thanks Will, your spontaneous interviews are always very insightful.
Happy Holidays.
This is a great channel. Younger people will get the most from it but will most likely not pay too much attention to it. For us older people (I'm 64) this gives comfort to know that you are not alone in your doubts and regrets. One makes the best decision at the time with the knowledge one has but looking back it wasn't always the best decision. On the other hand, I have not found anyone who can say with conviction that they have not put a foot wrong and have lived a perfect life. I do think though that mindfulness or living in the present is a very good start.
I’m 15 years from 80 but I’ll tell you what I have observed my whole life. Do what you must to survive financially but do what you love for a career. Your first love is the person you are meant to be with. If you blow that or give it up for money or status or position you’ll spend the rest of your life regretting it. It may be life’s most bittersweet lesson. And nothing is worth your children. Nothing. That’s what I’ve learned oh and a guy who cheats always will because they find doormats who put up with them. That’s all. Good luck out there. ❤
Then I just have to not have any of those status bs or the position thing like that, whilst not caring about myself. Thank you.