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  • Why guys lose interest. Why guys reject you. Why guys ghost you. Why guys play games. When guys lose interest it can be hurtful. Rejection is hard. Here are 3 possible reasons a guy has rejected you or lost interest. When guys lose interest it can be difficult but you can overcome it by bettering yourself and making adjustments.
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  • @bjaded6695
    @bjaded6695 3 роки тому +423

    Nobody has time to play mental games with these men. I’ll just stay single. Ridiculous

  • @LisaGemini
    @LisaGemini 3 роки тому +851

    Girls, girls, girls: If he's not asking you out on a date, he's just not into you. Texting and calls mean nothing if you're not spending face time together.

    • @azchanna
      @azchanna 3 роки тому +26

      Agreed i cutoff a guy he is a lawyer but he wasn’t serious ? He would text me hi and I would respond and he wouldn’t text back until a day later, he told maybe 🤔 1 day we would go out for coffee

    • @annamayyy9771
      @annamayyy9771 3 роки тому +25

      @@azchannalol guys that text hi are a no go 😂🚮

    • @cutlyfe
      @cutlyfe 3 роки тому +28

      But they’re guys that would do these things and still not take you seriously

    • @PassportBrosAndBlondeManWeaves
      @PassportBrosAndBlondeManWeaves 3 роки тому +6

      @@cutlyfe exactly

    • @KimKim-bt9jo
      @KimKim-bt9jo 3 роки тому +7

      What if he ask you out for a date but haven't taken you out plus no texting,no calling? I don't understand this

  • @tanyataylor5310
    @tanyataylor5310 3 роки тому +456

    We don't have to chase them we can move on as well. We women have to stop waiting for guys to catch up to where we are. The right guy will come.

  • @tracyhowell2781
    @tracyhowell2781 3 роки тому +84

    If he lose interest, I lose interest as well. We both can just move on, no need to waste time.

  • @kekimar8397
    @kekimar8397 3 роки тому +156

    Guys can be so sneaky, petty, and childish sometimes. Why does everything have to be so complicated? It can be so frustrating.😵

  • @joyrose9597
    @joyrose9597 3 роки тому +432

    Always act like you don't care,they love that

    • @farrahslim6701
      @farrahslim6701 3 роки тому +146

      Pretty much. Guys say they want someone who cares but when we show it they ghost

    • @joyrose9597
      @joyrose9597 3 роки тому +73

      @@farrahslim6701 I always stressed,I don't want a relationship, they go nuts trying to have a relationship,, they want what they can't have, plus they love your Independence, don't let them come to your house because then the mystery is over, don't even let them know where you live meet them somewhere 😂 flip the script

    • @bacheera1
      @bacheera1 3 роки тому +6

      Lol very true

    • @queenchica6623
      @queenchica6623 3 роки тому +17

      I don't want him to be interested because I'm not. I just want mine and then I'll ghost until I want some more🤷‍♀️

    • @joyrose9597
      @joyrose9597 3 роки тому +14

      @@queenchica6623 that's a booty call😂

  • @ijeBeauty
    @ijeBeauty 3 роки тому +197

    “Again, cross your fingers that guys like that lose interest” 😂😂😂
    “He’s not thinking about you when you’re away... he’s just chasing easier prey” 🤦🏾‍♀️

  • @ReinaBRamos
    @ReinaBRamos 3 роки тому +80

    "People like to see standards and boundaries" ... and if he doesn't, run because he is most likely the controlling type

  • @flyandshy00
    @flyandshy00 3 роки тому +347

    If a man hasn't texted me in 6-7 days - I block.

    • @DC-mk2xn
      @DC-mk2xn 3 роки тому +20

      @I M A QYN......I delete!!!!😂😂😂

    • @annamayyy9771
      @annamayyy9771 3 роки тому +2

      Me too

    • @flyandshy00
      @flyandshy00 3 роки тому +22

      @Carmen W That's an issue, they might text me again and I might not remember why I deleted them.

    • @zelmahenry7300
      @zelmahenry7300 3 роки тому +6

      Just delete their number

    • @qesther1241
      @qesther1241 3 роки тому +39

      If a man doesn’t text or call when he says he will, ignore him when he finally does call or text.

  • @prayalways
    @prayalways 3 роки тому +84

    Single life looks better every day " the love of many shall wax cold". Interesting insight

  • @TheTouchofklass
    @TheTouchofklass 3 роки тому +212

    This video was good and reason #3 is a fact for sure. The guys who have lost interest in me have been f-boys. They are jealous, insecure, manipulative, controlling, wanted me for sex or clout. They didn’t like the fact that I had boundaries in place. Me saying “no” or I can’t” was problematic to them. I do realize that I need to work on myself in some areas, because these men keep drawing themselves to me. I’m actually glad that the f-boys lost interest in me, because I don’t have to worry about their sorry behinds anymore.
    Oh, and by the way, I refuse to chase/waste time with men that want me to lower my standards so they can get some 🐈.

    • @coconut1794
      @coconut1794 3 роки тому +2

      Yup. My story exactly and where is he now? Texting me that he misses me. I don’t operate like those women he deals with.
      They just do whatever and deal with whatever to be with him.

    • @paisleydragonhostler3714
      @paisleydragonhostler3714 2 роки тому +2

      Me too, Queen. Straight facts.

    • @julianamendez7311
      @julianamendez7311 2 роки тому +5

      Too many F boys and not enough good men. I mean, do they even exist? Sex it’s the first damn thing on their mind. They don’t seem to care about anything else. They just pretend to play nice to get what they want. Stay woke ladies. It’s VERY FRUSTRATING

  • @theresebryant2526
    @theresebryant2526 3 роки тому +41

    You know what I really like about this young man? He tells ladies not to work on capturing a man. Don't work on him. Either he's in it, or he's not. Simple.

  • @MiaCarter7
    @MiaCarter7 2 роки тому +24

    Meanwhile women just ask for love, respect, loyalty, and attention. Idk why love has to be a puzzle game for some dudes

  • @TanzaniteHayley
    @TanzaniteHayley 3 роки тому +155

    There’s only 1 reason he loses interest. He doesn’t see you as the one he wants to introduce to his mum, basically you’re not ‘the one’ in his eyes.
    This has nothing to do with when you slept with him, if you’re coming across as too into him too quickly, if you want a relationship and he doesn’t.
    The point is, changing your behaviour, leaning back, waiting before you sleep with him, having high standards or over pleasing him, won’t make him want you.
    It’s a feeling that is difficult to describe.
    If a man likes you, he doesn’t care if you sleep with him on the first date or 10th. He isn’t more hooked on you because you replied after 3 hours instead of right away.
    Infatuation is blind, he’ll be hooked on you for you, and visa versa. No tips or tricks will magically transform you into the one in every man’s eyes.

    • @thiacari
      @thiacari 2 роки тому +12

      Agree! Even if I sleep with a guy on the first date, if he's into me, he's into me all the way, doing everything he can and aiming for long term, even proposing early on.
      Nothing, NOTHING will magically change this, no amount of beauty, humour, money or sex.

    • @sweetvonbettie1
      @sweetvonbettie1 2 роки тому +8

      Agree. If he the one n genuine like u n into u , oversharing, and all the above wouldn't scare him away.

    • @aquilajefferson4960
      @aquilajefferson4960 Рік тому +4

      This goes both ways too, if you the one, they will stick around, if not, they will find a way out!

    • @TheFilthyFinch
      @TheFilthyFinch Рік тому +2

      A man's only issue's with women in this day and age is or sexual history/past/body count, attitude and sense of entitlement towards men.
      We, as women, should seek to completely turn this around before it is too late, teach the next generation of young women to respect themselves and their bodies.
      To not throw themselves at hundreds of men and then cry and complain when and self respecting or quality man says no to them.

    • @ssissigui8846
      @ssissigui8846 Рік тому

      This is partly true for the sexual intimacy. It depends on why you want to wait . If you want to wait just because you do not want to be perceived as a whore (not my words , since it does not mean that but you understand what I mean) , then yes it true. That won't change anything. But if you are doing it for yourself just because you like to know a person better, I feel like you can just until you feel confortable. Moral of the story is : don't do things for other, protect yourself.

  • @gingerlemon865
    @gingerlemon865 3 роки тому +133

    This dude never ages

  • @sophisticatedmm3632
    @sophisticatedmm3632 3 роки тому +40

    #3 is sooo deep. The drip/ breadcrumbs that guys do with inconsistent contact or feign a connection that isn't there. Ladies bow out quickly & let these men go quickly.

  • @MsSunShyne08
    @MsSunShyne08 3 роки тому +178

    It is amazing how us women can know things but in the back of our mind ignore it until it's spoken out verbally. You drop some real-life nuggets and this video. It's one of those simple cases of we knew what we knew but now that we've spoken it it can't be ignored. Thanks for the real-life input

  • @MosherMike
    @MosherMike 2 роки тому +16

    Reason 4: We're attracted to how you look initially, but find out after you're boring, only talk about yourself and what you want.

  • @msj8216
    @msj8216 3 роки тому +110

    I know a guy who tried to claim I was clingy, even, when I saw him once or twice a week for two hours, had a job, took a trip to Las Vegas without him, went to college, had a side hustle, and not a phone person. Guys would come up with anything to break up with women. This is the same guy who claim I harassed his mom about him while he was gone and I NEVER met/spoke to his mom

    • @PaulsMom93
      @PaulsMom93 3 роки тому +16

      Wow smh

    • @kaoshi_kutie
      @kaoshi_kutie 3 роки тому +18

      He sounds crazy!! Blessing in disguise ❤️

    • @chelsieromero4874
      @chelsieromero4874 3 роки тому +19

      Yep he's a narcissist. That's called manipulation. All those things he accused you of he actually did all those things. Better believe he harassed your mom about you😳🤣🤣🤣...Girl glad you are not entangled with that crap💩

    • @greyonyx08
      @greyonyx08 3 роки тому +8

      Oh well he's a psycho. Be glad he showed that part of himself to you.

    • @msj8216
      @msj8216 3 роки тому +5

      @@chelsieromero4874 Actually.... he got information about me from my brother's ex girlfriend and then he tried following my brother and old classmates facebook page.

  • @DrCassie-PsyD
    @DrCassie-PsyD 3 роки тому +166

    This was right on time. Been going through this mess with a guy for 2 1/2 years. This is exactly what he's been doing.

    • @MrzBadaBing
      @MrzBadaBing 3 роки тому +34

      Don’t waste anymore time that’s way too long for some grown man to get his shit together I realize I’ve been waiting months or years for something it’s gonna be too late for them

    • @petcal2004
      @petcal2004 3 роки тому +9

      Me too... We deserve better

  • @candacecasey5634
    @candacecasey5634 3 роки тому +129

    Makes sense I don't like guys who come on too strong in the beginning so I get it.

    • @roxannedwyer1419
      @roxannedwyer1419 3 роки тому +15

      Same here... I will go running for the hills

    • @JesusSaves77799
      @JesusSaves77799 3 роки тому +15

      I agree! It makes it seem like something is wrong with them when they do that. They might be a fantastic person but the overwhelming responses and endless texting can make me feel panicked and want to close the door and not open it again because I am afraid that it will keep happening. (And I have done this too in the past so it’s a great lesson to be learned!)

    • @celiaartemis5485
      @celiaartemis5485 3 роки тому +10

      So true. It's just not sane and healthy. It gives of desperate vibes because he just needs "anyone" and right now!! 😬

    • @chelsieromero4874
      @chelsieromero4874 3 роки тому

      Same here👏💯

    • @chelsieromero4874
      @chelsieromero4874 3 роки тому

      @@roxannedwyer1419 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😆Same💯

  • @msve3730
    @msve3730 2 роки тому +27

    "The respect you require is more than the respect he planned to give you"
    -Kev Hicks 💯💯💯💯💯 this is golden. Far too many times ill run across these guys that come to realize I require more than just here and there text messages.

    • @xj1762
      @xj1762 2 роки тому

      Good Afternoon you are correct and most times the text message is no dammmmmmmm good👎

  • @SM-cg5uy
    @SM-cg5uy 3 роки тому +17

    Losing interest is a two-way street. If he turns away, boy, bye....he doesn't get a second chance. Fun to tell them to bugger off when they crawl back though.

  • @sheilaatieno5222
    @sheilaatieno5222 2 роки тому +14

    Relationships are just too hard I think I wanna be alone

  • @jamishepard98
    @jamishepard98 3 роки тому +47

    This was good. 🎯 #1 and 2 can relate to a woman or a man. Clingy, needy men are overwhelming and burdensome. When a man tries to win you over by over sharing, that can be a turn off, too. Men and women should have a life outside of one another. 💯

  • @celiaartemis5485
    @celiaartemis5485 3 роки тому +108

    The last date i had told me I was "too much of a mystery" and that I presented "too much of a challenge". After the first month, he lost interest and went on to the next girl. 😂

    • @lisabradford8180
      @lisabradford8180 3 роки тому +46

      dammed if you do and damned if you don't😒

    • @UniqueSol504
      @UniqueSol504 3 роки тому +38

      He just wanted you to be microwaveable...quick & hot like a hot pocket..smh
      You continue to be you and the right guy will cherish how you move...

    • @chelsieromero4874
      @chelsieromero4874 3 роки тому +39

      He just wanted to bang😑...He realized you had high standards. Continue to do you and don't lower your standards for any man💯

    • @daphnesmith1812
      @daphnesmith1812 3 роки тому +23

      Code for I'll have to work for the 🐈.. He was a lazy dater....next...

    • @aniawalczak1168
      @aniawalczak1168 3 роки тому +14

      He was to lazy

  • @herstory1012
    @herstory1012 2 роки тому +9

    Mr. Hicks is the most underrated relationship coach on UA-cam. People don't like the truth! Thank you sir for your service x

  • @momoworld4869
    @momoworld4869 3 роки тому +70

    Thanks Kev. I just went through this to your 3rd point. Ultimately, it's his loss. I have a lot to offer he was unworthy of my value and worth. I'll take the L as a blessing instead of a loss.

    • @mssunshine5961
      @mssunshine5961 3 роки тому

      I did too.

    • @redfather5342
      @redfather5342 3 роки тому

      Lilke what

    • @3arhodes
      @3arhodes 3 роки тому +3

      Im trying to see it that way but it hurts. Especially when he acted so interested then turns around a week later and post on online him kissing some chick.

    • @rontalks8953
      @rontalks8953 3 роки тому +1

      @@3arhodes exactly!! Lol women wanna say "its his loss" but deep down they hurt that he didn't live up to the expectation you wanted. That's how I know a lot of these women are looking for providers and not an actual dude they like genuinely like.

    • @3arhodes
      @3arhodes 3 роки тому +4

      @@rontalks8953 well, i liked him cause he seemed sweet and good hearted. I wasn't attracted to what he can provide for me. I guess it's my fault cause somehow in the back of my mind I felt safe cause i thought he was a good guy. And would never play me out. But I learned my lesson never judge a book by his cover.

  • @desireemarshae
    @desireemarshae 3 роки тому +23

    You’re a genius.. that last one ESPECIALLY is why I think this last guy lost interest in me. I made it very clear that I don’t have casual sex and ever since that conversation it slowly but surely went down to minimal conversation to now where I only hear from him once every 2-3 weeks (the drip). So you really hit it on the head Kev.. Everything I was thinking is what you said.
    Bottom line don’t compromise when it comes to your standards ladies! Better to weed em out sooner than later. If he wants boyfriend benefits without the title let alone the WORK. Safe to say you’re gonna be wasting your time.

  • @missmiss6516
    @missmiss6516 3 роки тому +50

    Present,sir. I was the easy one, no boundaries,presented no challenge to him. He probably got bored. I don't blame him.

  • @LonjeMarie7
    @LonjeMarie7 3 роки тому +53

    If I guy runs out that fast yeah the wrong intentions anyway nice video. Ladies NEVER meet a guy you really really like and drop everything just for him. Stay in your purpose stay busy keep your standards

    • @moniqueocean
      @moniqueocean 3 роки тому

      You don't have to "stay busy" if it means enjoying relaxing, being present, still and slow down to enjoy the simple joys of life. Its the rushing and filling in all our free time that confuses ourselves and why we end up giving to someone or something that isn't what we really need or want in our lives. You can spend time alone not filling it in with a zillion and one things so you can distract yourself from what your heart or mind is needing to process about our own lives, people we may be dating etc. Power of Now eckart tolle!

  • @EllieMandyArt
    @EllieMandyArt 3 роки тому +120

    Jokes on him because I lost interest when he asked me for my number. 😌

  • @tonyaglobal
    @tonyaglobal 2 роки тому +4

    Hardest video i've had to watch.The truth is indeed BITTER! But what needs to be heard needs to be heard. Thanks Kev.

  • @jessicakashtann3424
    @jessicakashtann3424 3 роки тому +32

    I clicked this vid right away! Favorite youtuber!

  • @DarkMatter11k
    @DarkMatter11k 3 роки тому +91

    Kev, you really do this. You're the guy friend every girl should have. I definitely did number one, and can see (now that you've put it into perspective) how divulging so much about yourself could wreak of low self esteem. I just didn't want him to be confused about who I am, because I'm so used to being misunderstood. But if I'm being honest with myself, if I were more confident I wouldn't be so concerned about perceptions of me that aren't reality. Love what you do. Thank you❤

  • @Peacelovehappiness101
    @Peacelovehappiness101 3 роки тому +147

    Try to balance yourself through the first conversations. Each guy has an image, some type of expectations, it's your job to not make him change his mind.
    And how do you do that? By being yourself while balancing your first impression.

    • @Peacelovehappiness101
      @Peacelovehappiness101 3 роки тому +14

      @@HappyBeeTV-BeeHappy Most relationships start with what attracts us from a physical standpoint.
      Picture a guy seeing a woman he's attracted to, to the point of approaching her.
      From that approach, he already thinks highly of that woman purposely from what he's attracted to.
      Somewhere within the first impressions, dates and all, the guy lost interests from who the woman is as a whole. Who's at Fault?
      The guy or the woman?
      The correct answer is no one, because both people were being themselves. However, the woman that made him step forward, might not be as attractive a most would think on the inside. That's a concrete idea of what can follow from the point where 2 people are trying to get to know one another.

    • @Peacelovehappiness101
      @Peacelovehappiness101 3 роки тому +12

      @@HappyBeeTV-BeeHappy I do think a woman can change a man's mind the same way a man can change a woman's mind to the point where the person loses interests. It's all about the way the person carry themselves. Getting to know someone can shed light on lots of things one won't see from just a physical view. You may believe what you please, but the truth is the truth.

    • @Peacelovehappiness101
      @Peacelovehappiness101 3 роки тому +8

      @@HappyBeeTV-BeeHappy You don't care, that's your personal opinion and I respect that. You can't speak for others. Speaking from a place of hurt can easily be identified.

    • @bakbak2031
      @bakbak2031 3 роки тому +1

      Wym by balancing yr 1st impression

    • @Peacelovehappiness101
      @Peacelovehappiness101 3 роки тому +8

      @@bakbak2031 It means don't try too hard, keep everything in a very balanced level.

  • @rachellegoodwin4868
    @rachellegoodwin4868 3 роки тому +52

    With this Covid-19 its kinda hard to like date someone. Guys play to many games. I just want a friend nothing more nothing less. He gets butt hurt because I'm not on the same page.

    • @roxannedwyer1419
      @roxannedwyer1419 3 роки тому +5

      Same here sis. A friend in need is a friend in deed...

  • @Ashley-fg2mu
    @Ashley-fg2mu 3 роки тому +40

    I'm told often I " don't act like I care enough " tho.

    • @melt3713
      @melt3713 3 роки тому +19

      Cause u can smell the 💩💩💩

    • @clairemosier1274
      @clairemosier1274 3 роки тому +8

      Well hey sis. Im another one of the millions of Ashleys and Ive also been told the same. Ive had men lose it and act almost frantic because they didnt think I was head over heels.

    • @Rocanala
      @Rocanala 3 роки тому +16

      I’m tired to playing games. How about I be me (and continue working on me) whether I have someone or not.

    • @chelsieromero4874
      @chelsieromero4874 3 роки тому +3

      @@melt3713 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣😆

    • @daphnesmith1812
      @daphnesmith1812 3 роки тому +2

      @@Rocanala but at least understand dating for most men is a game...

  • @Michelle-ks4cm
    @Michelle-ks4cm 2 роки тому +8

    This video changed my life and my understanding of relationship shit!! "Stop trying to adjust your standards to create an avenue for these guys to get close to you" Thank you so much

  • @everydaytherapist7315
    @everydaytherapist7315 2 роки тому +3

    In other words, even if you're very excited about a man, play it cool and keep some distance. Don't give in too soon. Great advice!

  • @aminabesmilin4691
    @aminabesmilin4691 3 роки тому +43

    Woooooooooow this came right as I needed it!!! I’ve been praying for this!!! I needed it to be crystal clear that’s what i prayed for! Thank you 🙏🏾 and thank you father for hearing my prayers, answer received.

  • @bunnybear9883
    @bunnybear9883 3 роки тому +30

    yes i definitely am so reliant and pour all of my feelings, past situations and emotions entirely too fast, in the first 2 WEEKS! I have learned and in the future I am planning to have that person EARN that piece of me. I am still going to allow myself to be vulnerable and not be closed off but it has to be gradually and not all at once💯

    • @prjdghyt
      @prjdghyt 3 роки тому +6

      It's better if you are the one asking him questions. That way you know what kind of mind he has and you can figure out if he's a match for you. I actually freak out when guys ask me personal questions because I don't like sharing things too soon as I'm a very private person. 😅 Interview him. Ask him questions on a lot of topics. That's what I always do and they always enjoy talking to me. 😂 Ask him what he thinks about a certain topic that isn't love-related. Men enjoy talking and explaning. Exchange views on a topic. It's ok because while doing it you guys discover if you have the same views and also gives him a glimpse of the type of woman you are. 😊 The guy I'm talking to, our first conversation - he asked me about "history". Then I went on to ask him about literature, politics, and religion. We didn't flirt. 😂😂😂 And I only replied once a day. We'd exchange long paragraphs in a single message and now he wants to talk to me more than once a day. 😂😂😂 The truth is I talk about those stuff even with friends it's normal for me because I'm curious about everything.

  • @againstallodds404
    @againstallodds404 3 роки тому +22

    Sounds like another full time job, this should not be this difficult. I can understand your advice though.

  • @AwesomeAndrew
    @AwesomeAndrew 3 роки тому +9

    Personally I like a woman that shares all about herself early on, drama is the number 1 problem

  • @arlenepayne309
    @arlenepayne309 3 роки тому +26

    I think it's pretty stupid that you can't tell your partner that they contribute to alot of your happiness, or that they make you feel happy to be around them alot. That totally sounds like the person has been mentally damaged or never loved properly. You should run, because healthy people make each other happy and like to be together a lot.

    • @chelsieromero4874
      @chelsieromero4874 3 роки тому +6

      With the right man you can tell him anything love. You probably have not found the right guy. Don't give up!

    • @teasha7953
      @teasha7953 2 роки тому

      Yes👊

  • @HonEbaby143
    @HonEbaby143 3 роки тому +16

    #3 Kev... #3... that's what I realized. And you know what? I feel bad he left, but I'm not gonna chase someone who doesn't choose me. Good words today.

  • @nickyannajones
    @nickyannajones 3 роки тому +62

    Thats why when i was being a (honest) player they were falling in love left and right. I had no interest in a relationship so my behavior was totally different thanwhen i was ready. Interesting

  • @maya6173
    @maya6173 3 роки тому +36

    Man, you just saved my life Kevin, by speaking two words, "Da Drip". I knew I wasn't crazy!!! This man talking about he loves me after the first date... smh. He almost got me. Thanks for your expertise, you video provided an answer right when I asked the question....just smh😃😄😀😅❤❤❤

    • @TheBellePerspectiveTV
      @TheBellePerspectiveTV 3 роки тому +9

      Right!! He was saying all these wonderful things and he almost had me until I told him I need exclusivity before I give up my body. I want to get to know him better before I spread my legs....Chile, he started the drip. He tried to keep up, I’m not going to lie. He did. Telling me he would show himself, etc. it had only been 2-3 weeks. He started the drip

    • @TheBellePerspectiveTV
      @TheBellePerspectiveTV 3 роки тому +8

      When he started to get frustrated -he even told me that other women would have given it up already! I got upset and told him chase after them other chicks then. He apologized and tried “acting” again. 🤣🤣

    • @maya6173
      @maya6173 3 роки тому +9

      @@TheBellePerspectiveTV Man, this dude started all this stuff on Feb. 2. He had a group fb site called "Da Drip"! I thought it was the meaning for "style". Nope, it was the quick/slow love bomb to get some ass...I dunno what's wrong with people these days...all this extra out here.

    • @chelsieromero4874
      @chelsieromero4874 3 роки тому +5

      😳😳😳Yeah, no man can love you that quick. Not even a jerk! That's a big red flag right there🚩

    • @chelsieromero4874
      @chelsieromero4874 3 роки тому +1

      @@TheBellePerspectiveTV 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😆

  • @JesusSaves77799
    @JesusSaves77799 3 роки тому +22

    Great video, and who cares if the guy has “lost interest” but still keeps you on a weekly drip. He just couldn’t keep up so cut him loose! If he really lost interest he wouldn’t still be contacting you once a week. But the real woman for a real man needs an every day great partner!

  • @MysticButterfly22
    @MysticButterfly22 3 роки тому +20

    Thanks Kev, it took me a long time to figure this out with dating men. But, now I get it loud in clear. Handle them with Sweet but Sour at times. Keep men on their toes.😉💪🏾

  • @TheBellePerspectiveTV
    @TheBellePerspectiveTV 3 роки тому +10

    When I tell you this came....ON TIME! Literally met a guy 3 weeks ago, and #3 is exactly what he started to do. I Googled some reasons and couldn’t find a solid answer. Then your video popped up, he’s out!

  • @CharmingDiva
    @CharmingDiva 3 роки тому +54

    Never had to do all this or go though this in the 90 when Dating.... ugh it's so hard now. But I just lose interest and move on now.

    • @nicolageorge5257
      @nicolageorge5257 3 роки тому +16

      It is definitely harder its because the men have option not necessary quality options but options that they don't have to put too much effort into

    • @PassportBrosAndBlondeManWeaves
      @PassportBrosAndBlondeManWeaves 3 роки тому +15

      @@nicolageorge5257 yep but they don't want to settle until they get old because they need someone to care for them it's all bs

    • @daphnesmith1812
      @daphnesmith1812 3 роки тому +14

      It's a job to date now...it's just not fun anymore...ugh

    • @nicolageorge5257
      @nicolageorge5257 3 роки тому +10

      @@daphnesmith1812 gurlll it's harder than a day job 😪 😂😂

    • @rontalks8953
      @rontalks8953 3 роки тому +1

      Because dudes are hip to game more now that's why lol

  • @BeautyGraphicDesigner
    @BeautyGraphicDesigner 3 роки тому +4

    So many great points but The Drip... that's good! Never thought about it like that, and that makes so much sense! Much appreciated 🙏🏾

  • @Misssixty510
    @Misssixty510 3 роки тому +10

    Thank you for this. I don’t feel like I’m overly needy or any of the other things you listed, my standards are aligned with my needs as a woman, mentally emotionally, spiritually and physically. I’ve been celibate for years now, because of my standards.
    I have definitely been put on a “drip” by someone who perused me pretty hardcore for almost two years and I never slept with.
    The slow drip is devaluing behavior, I get that now.

  • @maggief1851
    @maggief1851 3 роки тому +35

    I was put on the drip ,the next time I told him he didn't need to call again I met someone else.😂😂

    • @FernandoGarcia-nz9el
      @FernandoGarcia-nz9el 3 роки тому +1

      How long were you put on the drip?? Did you tell him how you felt about him??

    • @maggief1851
      @maggief1851 3 роки тому +10

      @@FernandoGarcia-nz9el I did not get a chance to know him well ,he never wanted to reveal too much.We were just getting to know eachother it took about 3-4 months.I didn't feel any sort of way it takes me a while to get attached to people

    • @chelsieromero4874
      @chelsieromero4874 3 роки тому +3

      @@maggief1851 That's my girl👏👏👏💯

    • @KimKim-bt9jo
      @KimKim-bt9jo 3 роки тому +8

      @@maggief1851 same.. 3 months and still getting to know phase.. also he never give out any info about himself or his family or anything at all.. so bye2 to his sorry bottom

  • @lindabarry7867
    @lindabarry7867 3 роки тому +50

    It’s not ‘he’ lion. It’s ‘she’ lion. The lioness does the hunting.

    • @KevHick
      @KevHick  3 роки тому +21

      You’re right. I wasn’t thinking. The female lions are the primary hunters. Single male lions hunt for themselves though.🙌🏾

  • @greyonyx08
    @greyonyx08 3 роки тому +13

    I let an old fwb go after he went a month without talking to me. He's tried to reach out on social media and texted me once but I block him every time. I don't entertain game playing anymore.

  • @SouthernSweetTee
    @SouthernSweetTee 3 роки тому +15

    I'm soooo glad I found this video. Your last point 100% explains a guy I'm kinda talking to right now. Yep, thank you so much. Let me get rid of this dude and stop wasting my time. Glad we never had sex.

    • @clarisset7948
      @clarisset7948 3 роки тому

      How long have you been talking to him?

    • @SouthernSweetTee
      @SouthernSweetTee 3 роки тому

      @@clarisset7948 known each other for 4 years total, but trying to actually date and getting know each other better it's been 5 months.

  • @clu73ify
    @clu73ify 3 роки тому +34

    So when they come back and love bomb it is not because they have changed, grown and matured it is only to make sure they can continue wasting your time in the future?

  • @yvette3831
    @yvette3831 3 роки тому +11

    💯 glad you are so transparent and truthful.

  • @sarahmitchell4010
    @sarahmitchell4010 3 роки тому +46

    Tough pill to swallow, but I’m dealing with the 3rd sign. It’s a shame some men can’t be upfront.

    • @faithfulworkz3674
      @faithfulworkz3674 3 роки тому +9

      Very tough.... same here

    • @tanyataylor5310
      @tanyataylor5310 3 роки тому +13

      Exactly. It truly is a shame that grown men feel the need to lie and just to get some sex. Disgusting really. Not a sincere bone in their bodies.

    • @tashaequeen8935
      @tashaequeen8935 3 роки тому +9

      They just ghost before they can be honest..smh💔

  • @missvegan1967
    @missvegan1967 3 роки тому +9

    I disagree with this advice. If a guy loses interest it was never there to begin with or only for superficial reasons. He’s just simply confused.

    • @KevHick
      @KevHick  3 роки тому +2

      People can and do have changes or heart all the time.

  • @jesuslovesyouandI
    @jesuslovesyouandI 3 роки тому +9

    This is sooo true it makes me laugh. My recent situationship was exactly like this when he realised I had high standards. Checking in every week to create some false intimacy. SMH!!

  • @angellatedesco687
    @angellatedesco687 2 роки тому +12

    It's because you are right about them from day one and you call them out on it. This goes for the players that think they are slick and have women figured out. When they meet a strong woman who will not fall for their crap. Bottom line they are immature and they just cannot handle you.

  • @cyrenebader598
    @cyrenebader598 3 роки тому +4

    Word! Have I learnt, related and seen exactly what you share on this channel for the past year that I've been following you! I can almost hear your voice in my head everytime a red flag arises😂 and believe it or not what subsequently unfolds always turns out to be on point and in alignment with what you teach! I just want to express my gratitude and respect for you 🙏💚

  • @evette3059
    @evette3059 3 роки тому +2

    Omg! Thank you for this! I definitely needed to hear this.

  • @CrochetStudent36
    @CrochetStudent36 3 роки тому +8

    On point AS USUAL!! 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

  • @amandanicole8059
    @amandanicole8059 2 роки тому

    This is golden!! Had to watch two times back to back and definitely saving to watch again.

  • @latonyajackson3810
    @latonyajackson3810 3 роки тому +14

    Wow, that third scenario I have experienced.

  • @NinaAngelina25
    @NinaAngelina25 3 роки тому +1

    Great video!!! You hit the nail on the head.

  • @Communitychoud
    @Communitychoud 2 роки тому +7

    What annoys me is why can’t they just say im no longer interested and don’t want to date …
    They really will string you along :/

  • @cm9859
    @cm9859 2 роки тому +1

    I just found your video today 4/8.
    Really excellent information.
    Makes alot of sense too.
    Men nowadays are so picky.
    Multiple dating apps, larger populations.
    They can constantly be on look out to find younger, prettier, better?
    All very sad and dishearting.
    People getting bored so easily is due to their emotional immaturity.
    Too many choices, outside influences.
    Your advice is excellent.

  • @jennasmom79
    @jennasmom79 3 роки тому +4

    I appreciate you sharing the make perspective. Our wiring can be so different.

  • @christolyncarter9468
    @christolyncarter9468 3 роки тому +4

    Thank you Kev, you just said a MOUTHFUL. #3 was me, but got smart real quick with the ex's Where's Waldo , Disappearing Acts, Blues Clues, Bull *is games.
    Now when I even think a dude is trying to play me, forget gazelles, I make like a Cheetah and 🏃‍♂️!

  • @mariamjackson2994
    @mariamjackson2994 3 роки тому +3

    Thank you Kevin. You've healed a big wound.

  • @janine1111
    @janine1111 2 роки тому

    #1 and #2. is it for me. Learning....basically all of them! Golden video, Kevin, thank you!

  • @HabA-qn1nv
    @HabA-qn1nv 3 роки тому +1

    I watch so many youtubers like yours but your videos are by far the best and so spot on

  • @shirleygordon3482
    @shirleygordon3482 3 роки тому +7

    Eye opener 👁👁thank you....

  • @veronicavillafranco2473
    @veronicavillafranco2473 3 роки тому +1

    Love this!! Really gave me some insights...now I'll know how to handle it ..thanks Kev...I love you and your videos ❤️❤️

  • @xj1762
    @xj1762 2 роки тому +2

    Good Afternoon Kev! Once again thank you for the words and wisdom on some men mindset🤔 asking a guy to be responsible for you and his answer is nope because that's toooo much to handle 👀Big eye Opener and it shows what or where you stand in his life. Most men just want to spend a night and leave and the word responsible is not in there vocabulary. 🤔

  • @marib1881
    @marib1881 2 роки тому

    This was the lesson I was never taught. I have no brothers and though I have an outstanding, active, loving Dad..., his primary lesson from him to me was my physical protection and physical security.
    I have been told I am such a gentle and sweet soul. Very kind, trusting, an open book, warm, inviting, Etc. Etc. To be all of this for "some" men, based off of their dating history... it made me look hella extra, love bombmy, and feeling that they didn't deserve what I naturally put out just being myself. It's not to say I wasn't metered in my approach. I was, I just didn't meater myself enough. Lesson learned. ✅️
    I have adjusted. Just have to put it into practice upon my next encounters. Thanks for being the "big" brother / or just brother some of us never had. All these nuggets have helped me on my spiritual and personal growth. I completed your binge watch playlist. I recommend any and every woman that finds this man's page to just do that. Every other video he makes after that just reinforces what he has already covered in that playlist for many messages over the years. Be empowered, be encouraged, be discerning, be safe. ❤️

  • @shaimaali7202
    @shaimaali7202 3 роки тому +2

    Thanks for the 3rd point!!!!!

  • @lebohangtwani5293
    @lebohangtwani5293 3 роки тому +3

    Kev is the bomb. Thanks Kev

  • @xxjessabugxx
    @xxjessabugxx 3 роки тому +2

    Well said 👏🏽I always love watching your videos

  • @KendraLBrown-rl7nr
    @KendraLBrown-rl7nr 2 роки тому

    You dropped REAL GAME on this one. Just like medicine, if we take this in it'll do us some good. I'm going to re- listen to make sure it soaks in

  • @Comeherekitten
    @Comeherekitten 3 роки тому +6

    Wow! I never talk enough, never available enough

  • @evaortiz9459
    @evaortiz9459 3 роки тому +3

    WOW! For the past two years I have driven myself crazy trying to figure out my situation! I’ve always known it wasn’t me per se , it really is him! Point three is me, ugh! I know now what I have to do! (Even though I’ve known this for a long time)!

  • @SR-rz9uj
    @SR-rz9uj 3 роки тому +6

    Damn, #1 is all me. In my defense, I am autistic so can be totally dumb in pacing, social cues, and lack self control. Working on myself a bit more then hiring you. I need a lot of hand-holding lol Your videos have been great!!

  • @HereInMyVerona
    @HereInMyVerona 3 роки тому +2

    So good. Thank you.

  • @ikr2377
    @ikr2377 3 роки тому +4

    He was good, but when I started to text so much he couldn't deal with it

  • @m0bz0mb39
    @m0bz0mb39 2 роки тому

    Surprisingly helpful thanks dude

  • @janetoliver4266
    @janetoliver4266 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you so much for your insight ful videos, London England

  • @marlenerami3151
    @marlenerami3151 2 роки тому

    Thank you for sharing your wisdom and experience. This is good information

  • @tywanbrown3034
    @tywanbrown3034 3 роки тому +1

    Wow Kev, this video came right on time for me to send to my friend. # days ago we were talking on this subject

  • @ja9393
    @ja9393 3 роки тому +1

    Woww you are so intelligent, enjoyed and agree with everything you said.

  • @judithhaven8820
    @judithhaven8820 3 роки тому +1

    I really appreciate your insight ❤️. Thanking GOD for you.

  • @mamamia1906
    @mamamia1906 3 роки тому +1

    Kevin this hit me hard... I got it and it’s been heard... noted.., and I am paying attention... This is every guy in my DM right now

  • @bwalls0103
    @bwalls0103 2 роки тому

    Wow! This is good information. Yep. Well, the strongest bull is a compliment so it's well.
    Thank you for the explanation!

  • @ijadamaatsara
    @ijadamaatsara 2 роки тому

    Great reminders

  • @SkyePhoenix
    @SkyePhoenix 3 роки тому +14

    There's a guy... that texts me just about every day. No real conversations... just short texts. I don't think he's interested.

    • @zelmahenry7300
      @zelmahenry7300 3 роки тому +8

      He's not

    • @CeeShelli
      @CeeShelli 3 роки тому +16

      He's bored. He fills his time with small talk with you.

    • @zoenicholson1776
      @zoenicholson1776 3 роки тому +5

      Block him

    • @sexydiva012
      @sexydiva012 Рік тому

      Girl take away yourself!! 😞 It happened me to and I blocked and delete.