Story 1: your kids aren’t at risk for diabetes and heart disease, but definitely a high risk for DEATH if they are afflicted with anorexia. This extremist parenting is terrifying.
I had students who had been in recovery from anorexia. It takes a toll on their hearts and they could have a heart attack as a teenager due to their ed
Anorexia has the highest incidence of death among the most mental illnesses. They aren’t raising healthy kids who understand the benefits of eating a balanced diet and getting regular physical activity, they’re controlling their children in an effort to make sure they never get fat (which is, of course, the same as being healthy 😒). The grandparents seem to have decent heads on their shoulders, they should take custody of those kids before they are completely unable to live healthy and happy lives because of their parents’ own unhealthy relationships with food and abusive behavior.
And they are making it into a chore instead of something fun they'd want to do. Solitary, mandatory workout hour with looming punishment instead of active family outings, sports clubs and days in the park. Hard ban on all "unhealthy food" instead of cooking healthy, tasty meals with them, educating them on nutrition and just limiting sweets and junk food. They are actively making healthy seems pretty damn bad for those kids.
Story 1: Don't make something taboo if you can help it. My dad is a vicious alcoholic but my mom never made alcohol taboo. None of us have a drinking problem.
Yeah, forcing something just creates a big opposition. My parents just never drank and neither do I or almost any of my siblings. They have a negative opinion of it, but that's literally it. They just tell us not to get drunk since it's so bad for you.
There was an update that got left out where OP confronted her parents about their favoritism. They deny it. She asked why "it doesn't matter where you get married only who you're marrying" only applies to her and not her sister. Parents have no response and hold their position. OP kicks them out as they were just going in circles at that point.
She deserved to have a grad party all for her and have her own life. Parents are a real piece of work. OP should live her life for her and hubby and there happiness
Cheers to the venue in the entitled sister story. They have a policy of not making any changes unless the original booker goes in person. No sabotaging phone calls allowed.
Story 5: I get the logic. But most of the time, when a proposal gets rejected, that's the end of the relationship. It makes or breaks it. This happened twice. 2nd time broke it.
It’s interesting that OP didn’t check in and have a thorough convo not only about when his gf might be ready but in general about wants, needs, & expectations. Why propose a 2nd time without this? Not even a check-in 6 months after the first attempt? OP needs to brush up on communication before trying to marry anyone.
@Taewills yes he should have communicated and checked in. But he gave her another year, and she gets excited about the thought of marriage. But she clearly doesn't want to marry him. I truly believe he is a placeholder for her. But when he was done, She went into panic mode, not because she loved him. Because she doesn't want to be alone. 4 years. 29 years old. I bet he also doesn't want to wait 10 more years to get married. And in his mind. She wont ever be ready.
@@willreviewsketo 29 is still young… I wrote my comment before Dusty was done. I agree with him. Their communication was off. Her being excited isn’t enough of a green light. She may not know why she’s hesitant- they should’ve sat down to try and identify what held her back. Was it an educational/career goal not yet accomplished? Financial, religious, or moral differences that make her pause? Perhaps she’s questioning her sexuality but doesn’t want to scare him off? Could be a lot of things- he made no effort to dig for the answer & find out how long it might take. As a couple they could make short term plans to move forward. Pre-marital counseling could’ve unearthed the issue.
2:54 dont keep unhealthy food in the house: ok. Taking them away when there is elsewhere?!? Berating them for eating candy?!? It's not drugs, it's food!!! (Well kinda) Educated them don't endoctrinate them.
Story 2-3: the fact that the in-laws and everyone involved with planning the wedding is ready to throw hands, hire security at a reduced price, and outright support OP is amazing
Not every woman dreams about marriage. I refused twice but still in a relationship with 2 children. 20years together. I don't need paper to love and be loved.
Disagree on 5. If anything, NAH. They want different things. He wants marriags, she doesn't. At 29 that is a deal breaker, especially if you want kids. For many of us, marriage is more than just a piece of paper.
Story 5: it sounds like she’s waiting around for something better/feels like she would be settling imo, her wanting more time and being unsure if they “work” 4 years in then she won’t ever be ready - I think the relationship was over and he made the right decision
Story 1: OP had an unhealthy relationship with food then and she still does now. Just because it went to the opposite extreme, doesn't mean it's healthy.
My 1st cousin’s parents did this to her. She’s almost 60 years old and guess what?…she still ends up in Florida in some eating disorder clinic down there every few years. She was 20 when she went the first time. They’ve screwed their kids FOR LIFE. Disgusting
When I was young I always felt bad for the friends I had whose parents were ugly to them due to the parents own flaws. It was always the angry, overweight, sloppily dressed overbearing moms that treated not only their daughters poorly but bullied kids at school. I witnessed moms tell their daughters to suck in their guts...that the dress should look like it does on the mannequin...I've even seen one mom pinch someone else's kid to make her walk faster so her daughter could get off the bus on a field trip. I felt so horrible for them...can you imagine the humiliation? I mean...I was beaten and tortured and didn't have a good childhood but...they were their real parents and it didn't make sense to me. That first story angered me. I can't imagine giving my son a complex in lieu of teaching him moderation and giving him options thus letting him decide what he feels comfortable with. He's 6'4"...15 years old...and we are cursed with high metabolic systems. So ya...he's tall and slim. He just started working out regularly and I stay out of it. He let's me know he needs food high in protein to reach his goal so I buy them. He asks for weights and I buy them. That's the line. Don't cross it. Children are just adults we are going to be on equal ground with at some point...don't do damage that risks the loss of a future friend.
@@SheSheBoom21 we were all the same...we grew up and we were always the way we are...most parents don't realize that their children can choose to love them but not like them as people. If I don't like someone...I don't have to stick around. I want to raise my kid to be someone I would be friends with if in another life we were to meet as strangers. That's all we can aspire to do. Otherwise...we've failed them.
Story 1: they may not be at risk as kids but they are at a very high risk when they are adults as they have a high chance of binge eating all of the unhealthy stuff once they were away from their parents.
Story #1: Take the kids out of that house. They're going to get so messed up. Story #2 Parts 1, 2, & 3: The OP's parent need to stop rewarding the little sisters poor behavior, poor planning, and lack of sound judgment. OP really should have named dropped the little sister so every guy could avoid her. I'd go no contact with anyone that advocated for the little sister.
Wasn't the sister that was trying to ruin the dress by throwing mud and got tackled pregnant? And then after that moves in with the parents but there's no mention of a baby?
Re the comment about story 1: re the comment about diabetes. Do they know ie this can also be caused by stress? They have been stressing their kids out about food
Story 4: you put a ring on a man and he is more desirable and on a woman it makes her off the market. I don't make the rules that's just the way it goes. When I met my husband I knew I don't think she's prepared to be locked down. And he clearly is I think that's a red flag because they are in very different spots . It feels like she is making sure someone better doesn't come along. Breaking up was the right choice, you don't have to marry the second you get the ring, but if she is to scared to even take it, it isn't right.
You think you gave your kids eating disorders? Nah, Nah. What they did was plant seeds, watered them everyday , made sure they had enough sunlight, fertilize them with top shelf shit, and watch them grow into big ass trees of eating disorders. This isn't going to end happily.
Oh, and taught their daughter that ultra controlling behaviour is fine when done out of love and good intentions. Don't see how's that a problem. But yes the danger of junk food made the damage to their physical, mental and emotion health worth it.
Story 1: your kids aren’t at risk for diabetes and heart disease, but definitely a high risk for DEATH if they are afflicted with anorexia.
This extremist parenting is terrifying.
Actually, disordered eating can cause diabetes and heart disease. So they didn’t actually eliminate those risks
Eating disorders can end in death. Terrible parenting.
One has anorexia and the other balemia. Totally wrong and f***ed up
I had students who had been in recovery from anorexia. It takes a toll on their hearts and they could have a heart attack as a teenager due to their ed
Anorexia has the highest incidence of death among the most mental illnesses. They aren’t raising healthy kids who understand the benefits of eating a balanced diet and getting regular physical activity, they’re controlling their children in an effort to make sure they never get fat (which is, of course, the same as being healthy 😒). The grandparents seem to have decent heads on their shoulders, they should take custody of those kids before they are completely unable to live healthy and happy lives because of their parents’ own unhealthy relationships with food and abusive behavior.
They didn’t have them be outdoorsy active kids they put workout machines in their rooms! That says it all
Story 1: parents aren't afraid of having unhealthy kids, they're afraid of having fat kids, plain and simple.
And they are making it into a chore instead of something fun they'd want to do. Solitary, mandatory workout hour with looming punishment instead of active family outings, sports clubs and days in the park. Hard ban on all "unhealthy food" instead of cooking healthy, tasty meals with them, educating them on nutrition and just limiting sweets and junk food. They are actively making healthy seems pretty damn bad for those kids.
That’s a really good point. Eg other ways to exercise. They didn’t teach them about enjoying exercise like playing outside.
Story 1: Don't make something taboo if you can help it. My dad is a vicious alcoholic but my mom never made alcohol taboo. None of us have a drinking problem.
Yeah, forcing something just creates a big opposition. My parents just never drank and neither do I or almost any of my siblings. They have a negative opinion of it, but that's literally it. They just tell us not to get drunk since it's so bad for you.
There was an update that got left out where OP confronted her parents about their favoritism. They deny it. She asked why "it doesn't matter where you get married only who you're marrying" only applies to her and not her sister. Parents have no response and hold their position. OP kicks them out as they were just going in circles at that point.
Shout out to the maid of honour who rugby tackled the sister. That right there is why she is a hero 💪😆
Story 1 - The kids never learned moderation.
She deserved to have a grad party all for her and have her own life. Parents are a real piece of work. OP should live her life for her and hubby and there happiness
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Cheers to the venue in the entitled sister story. They have a policy of not making any changes unless the original booker goes in person. No sabotaging phone calls allowed.
Story 5: I get the logic. But most of the time, when a proposal gets rejected, that's the end of the relationship. It makes or breaks it. This happened twice. 2nd time broke it.
That’s a sad way to proceed
@nicoleparreira1024 i agree. But sometimes the person doesn't actually see a future with you, and if you're not on the same page. Well..
It’s interesting that OP didn’t check in and have a thorough convo not only about when his gf might be ready but in general about wants, needs, & expectations. Why propose a 2nd time without this? Not even a check-in 6 months after the first attempt? OP needs to brush up on communication before trying to marry anyone.
@Taewills yes he should have communicated and checked in. But he gave her another year, and she gets excited about the thought of marriage. But she clearly doesn't want to marry him. I truly believe he is a placeholder for her. But when he was done, She went into panic mode, not because she loved him. Because she doesn't want to be alone.
4 years. 29 years old. I bet he also doesn't want to wait 10 more years to get married. And in his mind. She wont ever be ready.
@@willreviewsketo 29 is still young…
I wrote my comment before Dusty was done. I agree with him. Their communication was off. Her being excited isn’t enough of a green light. She may not know why she’s hesitant- they should’ve sat down to try and identify what held her back. Was it an educational/career goal not yet accomplished? Financial, religious, or moral differences that make her pause? Perhaps she’s questioning her sexuality but doesn’t want to scare him off? Could be a lot of things- he made no effort to dig for the answer & find out how long it might take.
As a couple they could make short term plans to move forward. Pre-marital counseling could’ve unearthed the issue.
2:54 dont keep unhealthy food in the house: ok. Taking them away when there is elsewhere?!? Berating them for eating candy?!? It's not drugs, it's food!!! (Well kinda)
Educated them don't endoctrinate them.
Story 2-3: the fact that the in-laws and everyone involved with planning the wedding is ready to throw hands, hire security at a reduced price, and outright support OP is amazing
Proposal story: I think gf is waiting to see if something better comes along if she doesn’t know after four years.
I think you are right. She is definitely waiting for something.
Same because if she knows she wants to marry him they could have a long engagement
Not every woman dreams about marriage. I refused twice but still in a relationship with 2 children. 20years together. I don't need paper to love and be loved.
Story 3: wait a few months? More like having to wait another 3 years to get a space again.
Disagree on 5. If anything, NAH. They want different things. He wants marriags, she doesn't. At 29 that is a deal breaker, especially if you want kids. For many of us, marriage is more than just a piece of paper.
Story 5: it sounds like she’s waiting around for something better/feels like she would be settling imo, her wanting more time and being unsure if they “work” 4 years in then she won’t ever be ready - I think the relationship was over and he made the right decision
Is it me or some of these stories are getting crazier by day?
That last one needed the petty confetti but I loved it!
Story 7 is just AMAZING 😂😂😂 Petty confetti 🎉🎉🎉🎉
😂😂😂😂 that last story made my day 😂😂😂😂😂❤
Story 1: OP had an unhealthy relationship with food then and she still does now. Just because it went to the opposite extreme, doesn't mean it's healthy.
My 1st cousin’s parents did this to her. She’s almost 60 years old and guess what?…she still ends up in Florida in some eating disorder clinic down there every few years. She was 20 when she went the first time. They’ve screwed their kids FOR LIFE. Disgusting
I'm the scapegoat kid in my family but my sister and me actually have a really good relationship. She's not a brat luckily.
Is OP’s sister still pregnant or was that a ploy to try and get the venue?
No. She lied. That's why she is no longer engaged.
@@willreviewsketoHoly shit... what a terrible person
I missed that update about the sister and her fiancé breaking up
That's what I was wondering too!
When I was young I always felt bad for the friends I had whose parents were ugly to them due to the parents own flaws.
It was always the angry, overweight, sloppily dressed overbearing moms that treated not only their daughters poorly but bullied kids at school. I witnessed moms tell their daughters to suck in their guts...that the dress should look like it does on the mannequin...I've even seen one mom pinch someone else's kid to make her walk faster so her daughter could get off the bus on a field trip.
I felt so horrible for them...can you imagine the humiliation? I mean...I was beaten and tortured and didn't have a good childhood but...they were their real parents and it didn't make sense to me.
That first story angered me. I can't imagine giving my son a complex in lieu of teaching him moderation and giving him options thus letting him decide what he feels comfortable with. He's 6'4"...15 years old...and we are cursed with high metabolic systems. So ya...he's tall and slim. He just started working out regularly and I stay out of it. He let's me know he needs food high in protein to reach his goal so I buy them. He asks for weights and I buy them. That's the line. Don't cross it. Children are just adults we are going to be on equal ground with at some point...don't do damage that risks the loss of a future friend.
Love this response. People don’t realize that their children will become their friends or they will stop talking to them and walk lives.
@@SheSheBoom21 we were all the same...we grew up and we were always the way we are...most parents don't realize that their children can choose to love them but not like them as people. If I don't like someone...I don't have to stick around. I want to raise my kid to be someone I would be friends with if in another life we were to meet as strangers. That's all we can aspire to do. Otherwise...we've failed them.
Story 1: they may not be at risk as kids but they are at a very high risk when they are adults as they have a high chance of binge eating all of the unhealthy stuff once they were away from their parents.
They are still at risk of heart problems and diabetes, 1 & 2. Because they are now binge eating and stressing about eating. Life is all about balance
Story one. Child abuse comes in many forms
Anoyatrons, I'm buying stock😊
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Story #1: Take the kids out of that house. They're going to get so messed up.
Story #2 Parts 1, 2, & 3: The OP's parent need to stop rewarding the little sisters poor behavior, poor planning, and lack of sound judgment. OP really should have named dropped the little sister so every guy could avoid her. I'd go no contact with anyone that advocated for the little sister.
Oh man, I’ve heard the separate parts of story 4 at different times and didn’t realize they were the same people. Wow, what a terrible sister.
Perhaps she's hoping for something better/more.
Wasn't the sister that was trying to ruin the dress by throwing mud and got tackled pregnant? And then after that moves in with the parents but there's no mention of a baby?
Re the comment about story 1: re the comment about diabetes. Do they know ie this can also be caused by stress? They have been stressing their kids out about food
Story 4: you put a ring on a man and he is more desirable and on a woman it makes her off the market. I don't make the rules that's just the way it goes. When I met my husband I knew I don't think she's prepared to be locked down. And he clearly is I think that's a red flag because they are in very different spots . It feels like she is making sure someone better doesn't come along. Breaking up was the right choice, you don't have to marry the second you get the ring, but if she is to scared to even take it, it isn't right.
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You think you gave your kids eating disorders? Nah, Nah. What they did was plant seeds, watered them everyday , made sure they had enough sunlight, fertilize them with top shelf shit, and watch them grow into big ass trees of eating disorders. This isn't going to end happily.
Oh, and taught their daughter that ultra controlling behaviour is fine when done out of love and good intentions. Don't see how's that a problem. But yes the danger of junk food made the damage to their physical, mental and emotion health worth it.
Yeah you really hurt your kids