Thanks Heidi! I really needed this today. For a long time I thought I lacked discipline and that I 'should be able to stick to things just like everyone', but you are right. Without using Ne and Fi to direct myself I was stuck in a loophole for a few years. Best thing I ever did was to accept my ENFP self and that I'm not going to have a one track career or life goals, and that's okay. I will get there in my own time and in my own way! Love to all the ENFPs out there x
Yes I agree that was a huge takeaway. I didn't know I had to satisfy Ne and Fi before letting Te take over with discipline. And I didn't know that the role of Fi was to see if it felt right.
I am having so many lightbulb moments. I just wish my younger self had known all this. Woulda saved me a lot of time trying to be how I thought I 'should' be. Trust me, being the youngest of 8 kids and going to Catholic school for 12 years, my ENFPness was NOT often celebrated nor encouraged. But self understanding at any age is a hell of a gift. "Oh look I'm not weird." Thank you for the clarity.
While this video is helpful, part of what the recurring issue for ENFPs is, is that the Ne gathering of information never stops. You get an idea, get motivated to do it because it aligns with your values and you know roughly how to get there, so your first three functions are on board. However, once you try to decide on the specifics (Si), your Ne keeps going and gives you other ideas and completely neglects Si's boundaries and commitment to the idea. This confuses Fi and Te, because you have to reevaluate if it aligns with your value system and plan how to do it all over again. Eventually you lose trust in your Ne because it only gives you hopeful fantasies without any real world progress and give in to unhealthy Si urges erupting from subconsciousness. You become dead inside, and conclude that none of your natural excitement or urges are to be trusted, resulting in a hyper-disciplined, self-denying strategy. Inevitably, you grow tired of this as you crave excitement to feel alive and, without proper awareness in that situation, surrender completely to the urges of Ne and start the whole process over again. It is hard to tell when both Si and Ne gain unhealthy dominance over one another, so as far as I can tell, all you can do is try to feel when you are becoming increasingly frustrated in life, and which part of you you are neglecting at this very moment.
Its crazy how this message got to me EXACLTY when I needed, I was just yesterday having a panic attack about being burnout and planning to do a strict rotine that I KNEW would make me feel hollow, but still wanting to do it cause of my ENTJ father pressure. Thank you.
I'm sorry to hear that. Try to do a few things a day, literally one to two things to begin with. Have a very flexible routine then add more as you get used to it. I think my mother is a TJ and she doesn't get it, so I decided to not tell her my plans anymore. Hope this helps x
Hehe an infj here it’s so funny and loving that you guys are so positive, talking about Discipline thing we INFJ are so natural at this we set are end goal, make plans to get there and work our ass off to get there sometimes we couldn’t tell if we are doing too much. We know what we want in life and how to get there but we neglect small things we need in our daily basis where an enfps are experts.
Whoah Heidi thanks for continuously following the guide of your functions to keep churning out videos like this. I feel like you've been my one true guide in helping me understand & find my way as to how I show up in this world as an ENFP..yesterday I was feeling so low because I kept on comparing myself to a TJ friend I had who has moved so far in their career & I made the choice to kinda follow my own path, but it's still not gotten me to a place where I have managed to set up my life..yesterday I felt like there was something so intrinscly wrong with me...but I woke up today & thought..hmm what if instead of thinking there's something wrong with me, or that my choices are wrong because they don't receive the same reward societally..what if I thought that they were right? That they were what worked for me..I think the fact that as Enfps we get to figure out & start accepting our functions as we start getting older, living in a TJ/Sensor world can feel like there's something seriously wrong that you can never get it right. I appreciate you. Thankyou so much.
I'm currently reading 📚 David Goggins (in case you don't know him he is all about unlocking the human potential trough self discipline rathwr than motivation) book titled CAN'T HURT ME and I want to thank you because of your channel book and bootcamp program now I can read the world better. In the book, he tells his story growing up. He was physically beaten by his dad. And grew to say things like " I'm not going to reward him by letting him see me cry" . As soon as I heard that, I knew he became avoidantly attached. I've incurred a couple of injuries in my body for going all out after hearing advice from very inspiring people on UA-cam. But, being able to read people's personalities and relationship attachment style had helped me tremendously to understand me. My family and now even authors, etc. Thank you Heidi!! Now I can see the world and all the info it provides with a grain of salt and trough the lense of an ENFP David goggings is a navy seal and went through he'll week several times. My best guess is that he is an ISTJ So I can learn from him, but I know that when he says he isolates himself, that works for him because his introverted, but for me being around people works best. I wish they taught what you teach in high school. Everything would make so much more sense!!
Oh my God same here I read that book and I noticed that as well, I am into psychology so I learned about attachment style.. so glad I am not the only one who thought that way
I also am a big fan of goggins and read his book. I would warn though if you’re someone who struggles with toxic shame or ptsd from trauma some of bros teachings can be counterproductive to cultivating lasting change
It's really good that you keep reinforcing this idea of function integration across the board. I too often think about switching out of one function for another I 'need more'. Will have to think more about this
Yes, a lot of types would marvel at being able to read a book and imbibe information and analyse for that long and see that as a discipline of its own. ENFPs and INFPs can achieve so much when really motivated.
I was feeling so depressed because of ignoring my real feeling and just going with what should i do and almost crying while studying, i told myself that may require a mental specialist help , But this video helped me a lot and dirdcted me that u are wasting your energy and ruining your soul by meeting others' expectations so thank u ❤
Just started ENFP Soul Bootcamp which has actually served as a container where more discipline and structure can thrive. Instead of scrolling through UA-cam, or scrolling through Heidi videos looking at all the shiny objects, I'm focused on immediately putting into practice the ones on UA-cam related to Meyers-Briggs Type. I'm new to M-B theory, and must say it blew my mind when I learned that TJ types get an intrinsic reward (dopamine! dopamine!) purely from doing things in an organized way that culture happens to call "discipline". I actually get a similar process dopamine hit as I go along and "discover" what my best process is in the midst of doing things. Refining processes creatively is actually my biggest driver and can apply to many different areas of life, so it feels like I'm hopping around and can't decide which one thing I love the most, but in reality it's discovering the process of mastery most joyous and insightful to me -itself - that connects the dots through it all.
As an INFP, I also enjoy gathering, integrating and sharing knowledge, but in the form of electronic mind maps rather than as videos. Others can edit and build on them, something that satisfies the altruist in me. I find myself working hard on these and losing track of time, because the work is intrinsically satisfying. Up through middle age, I was more so a knowledge hoarder. It took a while to figure out that a catch and release strategy for knowledge fishing is more in keeping with who I am.
A million percent. I loathe repetition. It's like you can translate me!! A reframe around what the world wants us to be to recognise the skills and strengths we do have is phenomenal! Thank you
OMG! THANK YOU! I thought I was having a mental breakdown. This made so much sense to me. I felt like I had no purpose, no motivation, no discipline! I now know what I need and where I want to get to!!! Thank you!!!!🎉🎉🎉
Is it true that ENFP's are cheats? Are they a risky choice when looking for long term commitments? And especially when looking for a partner WITHOUT a long sexual history??? Please help, I really would appreciate some credible, rational answers (no thinking/answering with emotionally-biased side of the brain, but instead the 'rational, BRUTALLY-HONEST side', please). 😕
Hi Heidi, thanks so much. I did have that idealized vision of discipline. I tend to always skip the sitting with feelings process before chossing my course of actions and then wonder why I'm so unmotivated and easily distracted. You are helping me taking my needs and feelings into account. Thanks.❤
INFP Dominant introverted Feeling (Fi) Auxiliary extraverted Intuition (Ne) Tertiary Sensing (Se or Si) Inferior extraverted Thinking (Te) "People who prefer Introversion use their dominant process/function in their inner world because this is where they are naturally drawn and where they direct and receive energy (reflect and contemplate). Since their dominant process is used in their inner world, we don't see it in action. Rather, we tend to see their auxiliary process since it is this process that they extravert, show the world." Introverted Feeling (Fi) ISFP/INFP: Seeks harmony of action and thoughts with personal values. May not always articulate those values. Empathetic, sensitive, and idealistic. Keyword: Valuing. Ne (extraverted) - brainstorming. When dominant process is exaggerated - Introverted Feeling: carry the weight of the world on their shoulders, hypersensitive, pompous, feel sorry for themselves
Thanks for these videos. It's hard when you feel like you don't know what you should be doing. I often feel like I'm drifting aimlessly but these videos are giving me more self awareness. Very helpful 💗
I just love you… every time I watch your vids… I feel seen. Taking a big gulp of self- compassion. We are all built different and I need to respect my build and way of being.
Such great and practical advice. It took me a year to gather data on the next career move. At first i beat myself up for taking so long then i realized id rather take my time and feel confident than rush the process and shoot myself in the foot.
Thanks Heidi, I just love your videos and I am getting so much insight and clarity about how I operate in the world and how to follow my passion. I always felt like somewhat of an alien and understanding my ENFPness is so helpful.
As I was told, long ago: Artists do not get motivated, they become inspired. I used to think I was trying to be disciplined and looking for my motivation to be disciplined. There was none and there never will be, without inspiration. Which can be positive (I will give you a cookie, if you'd only ....) or negative (If you don't get this lobby cleaned up in 5 minutes I will write you all up for what I saw happen) or both (..but, if you do, I'll take you out for coffee!) I feel no inspiration to make a mundane pork chop, so there will be no dinner. What's that? Yes, I do want that orange marmelade ... and, garlic. Lots of garlic. Dinner will be ready in 20 minutes. Give me vinegar and a potato then go away. Like that.
Thank you Heidi for this cool video. Totally agree ... As an ENFP, when working on my goals I have so much energy and enthusiasm =) Only more Ni Ti tasks I struggle a lot and procrastinate .. e.g. : gathering lots of ideas for a new course, and making it fun and interesting: no problem ! But then structuring it and making an assessment for example is very hard (more "logical" / filtering / structured thinking). Sometimes existing methodologies are a solution so I can work in Te mode (e.g. teaching models). I don't have NTJs in my surroundings ^^ Would be open to any advice of other people (teachers)! Cheers to all!
Amaaaaazing perspective. I spoke about discipline yesterday during a wellbeing session I host at work and I asked, "Is hard work the same thing as discipline?" We shared a lot of opinions etc, but the way you explained it in this video around "lacking direction " really resonated with my soul. There's no point in working hard to be disciplined if you're not aligned with the results and you don't love the process. 💯 Otherwise, we end up beating ourselves up for not being disciplined when really there's something deeper we need to explore.
Wow super helpful. Do you have any videos guiding the exploratory process and internal check in to discern and choice your end goal that aligns with us at a soul level?
YOU ARE STRAIGHT UP RIGHT DISCIPLINE IS SUBJECTIVE , those types who disciple themselves in some things are often undisciplined in their relationships and friendships
Me, an enfp, read the title : "How to NOT approach self-discipline" ? Wow, that's an interesting and very uncommon title ! *read it again* Wait, oh, my bad
I'm an INTJ mother of an almost 18 year old ENFP son. I'm terrified for his future and it is extremely stressful for me. How is he going to make it in life? Despite my efforts in teaching and skill building with him throughout his life, he's got none of what I have that has helped me make it in career and self-improvement.
Discipline isn't the word for it. I feel like it's assertiveness that's my issue. Looking at the sub-variants A and T I'm definitely more leaning towards T. I hate it and that's why I'm here. Lol
I understand what u wanna say but i think the biggest problem, at least for me, is that for the things i'm interested in or think i'm interested in take too much of time to learn those things in order to do them. I'm 25 now and i think i'm in that "information" phase for 4 years now, i really don't have the time to start learning then exploring. So can i somehow bypass that stage? Or to explore through maybe journaling, meditating, visualizing, basically finding in my head what (and why) i'm most interested in and than pursue them?
This is a great question. I think if ENFPs can somehow create content while they are exploring, then others could benefit from this journey and of course we would love that. Art Journaling, vlogging, photography, tutoring in something we are learning about, micro blogging. My ENTP husband says I should write how to guides for each thing I pursue. We’re very good at gathering information. We just need a place to cull it together so that other people can see/ experience it.
You should test everything ! But not with a "i will learn everything to the core" but with a "i'm gonna do an introduction on this topic" and as time pass you'll see that some topics are "arf it's great because i love the learn new things but i'm not really a fan of this thing when we go in depth" and others are "this so interesting i want to learn more and more" start all simultaneously (you may not not be able to keep up with everything after some time bc everything demands you more time and this is precisely thanks to this that you are going to be forced to make a choice and then it will become clear what you actually like and what you like a little less or not at all 😊
You can do this during your weekend you don't have to study in college every topics that interest you because a lot of them are gonna be great for "yeah it's great knowing one thing or two about this subject but nothing more" and others are gonna be "i really want to know more" and these one are the one that you truly want to do
Hello Heidi. What is the difference between INFP and ENFP? Is it ONLY the introvert and extravertedness of each? Because as an ENFP, I often feel introverted, although my tendency leans more towards ENFP.
I can get to group circuit training session no problem 5 to 6 days a week even if I'm like low in mood, but sitting in front of Laptop doing work I have to do all sorts of mental gymnastics...how do I solve this, what do you mean intrinsically motivated, and what is a TJ, TE FI
I agree and disagree with this video. I agree that once we find our true direction, motivation comes. But there are some things in life that suck and we have to do. And sometimes we have to fulfil society's expectations to a certain extent.
Thanks Heidi! I really needed this today. For a long time I thought I lacked discipline and that I 'should be able to stick to things just like everyone', but you are right. Without using Ne and Fi to direct myself I was stuck in a loophole for a few years. Best thing I ever did was to accept my ENFP self and that I'm not going to have a one track career or life goals, and that's okay. I will get there in my own time and in my own way! Love to all the ENFPs out there x
Yes I agree that was a huge takeaway. I didn't know I had to satisfy Ne and Fi before letting Te take over with discipline. And I didn't know that the role of Fi was to see if it felt right.
Love you too!
I am having so many lightbulb moments. I just wish my younger self had known all this. Woulda saved me a lot of time trying to be how I thought I 'should' be. Trust me, being the youngest of 8 kids and going to Catholic school for 12 years, my ENFPness was NOT often celebrated nor encouraged. But self understanding at any age is a hell of a gift. "Oh look I'm not weird." Thank you for the clarity.
While this video is helpful, part of what the recurring issue for ENFPs is, is that the Ne gathering of information never stops. You get an idea, get motivated to do it because it aligns with your values and you know roughly how to get there, so your first three functions are on board. However, once you try to decide on the specifics (Si), your Ne keeps going and gives you other ideas and completely neglects Si's boundaries and commitment to the idea. This confuses Fi and Te, because you have to reevaluate if it aligns with your value system and plan how to do it all over again. Eventually you lose trust in your Ne because it only gives you hopeful fantasies without any real world progress and give in to unhealthy Si urges erupting from subconsciousness. You become dead inside, and conclude that none of your natural excitement or urges are to be trusted, resulting in a hyper-disciplined, self-denying strategy. Inevitably, you grow tired of this as you crave excitement to feel alive and, without proper awareness in that situation, surrender completely to the urges of Ne and start the whole process over again.
It is hard to tell when both Si and Ne gain unhealthy dominance over one another, so as far as I can tell, all you can do is try to feel when you are becoming increasingly frustrated in life, and which part of you you are neglecting at this very moment.
Well said this is me too a tee often
Wow. You just described my whole life.
my whole life was described here omg
This is my entire life and I believe the cause of my life long depression.
Its crazy how this message got to me EXACLTY when I needed, I was just yesterday having a panic attack about being burnout and planning to do a strict rotine that I KNEW would make me feel hollow, but still wanting to do it cause of my ENTJ father pressure. Thank you.
I'm sorry to hear that. Try to do a few things a day, literally one to two things to begin with. Have a very flexible routine then add more as you get used to it. I think my mother is a TJ and she doesn't get it, so I decided to not tell her my plans anymore. Hope this helps x
Hehe an infj here it’s so funny and loving that you guys are so positive, talking about Discipline thing we INFJ are so natural at this we set are end goal, make plans to get there and work our ass off to get there sometimes we couldn’t tell if we are doing too much. We know what we want in life and how to get there but we neglect small things we need in our daily basis where an enfps are experts.
Whoah Heidi thanks for continuously following the guide of your functions to keep churning out videos like this. I feel like you've been my one true guide in helping me understand & find my way as to how I show up in this world as an ENFP..yesterday I was feeling so low because I kept on comparing myself to a TJ friend I had who has moved so far in their career & I made the choice to kinda follow my own path, but it's still not gotten me to a place where I have managed to set up my life..yesterday I felt like there was something so intrinscly wrong with me...but I woke up today & thought..hmm what if instead of thinking there's something wrong with me, or that my choices are wrong because they don't receive the same reward societally..what if I thought that they were right? That they were what worked for me..I think the fact that as Enfps we get to figure out & start accepting our functions as we start getting older, living in a TJ/Sensor world can feel like there's something seriously wrong that you can never get it right.
I appreciate you. Thankyou so much.
I'm currently reading 📚 David Goggins (in case you don't know him he is all about unlocking the human potential trough self discipline rathwr than motivation) book titled CAN'T HURT ME and I want to thank you because of your channel book and bootcamp program now I can read the world better. In the book, he tells his story growing up. He was physically beaten by his dad. And grew to say things like " I'm not going to reward him by letting him see me cry" . As soon as I heard that, I knew he became avoidantly attached.
I've incurred a couple of injuries in my body for going all out after hearing advice from very inspiring people on UA-cam. But, being able to read people's personalities and relationship attachment style had helped me tremendously to understand me. My family and now even authors, etc.
Thank you Heidi!! Now I can see the world and all the info it provides with a grain of salt and trough the lense of an ENFP
David goggings is a navy seal and went through he'll week several times.
My best guess is that he is an ISTJ
So I can learn from him, but I know that when he says he isolates himself, that works for him because his introverted, but for me being around people works best.
I wish they taught what you teach in high school. Everything would make so much more sense!!
Oh my God same here I read that book and I noticed that as well, I am into psychology so I learned about attachment style.. so glad I am not the only one who thought that way
I also am a big fan of goggins and read his book. I would warn though if you’re someone who struggles with toxic shame or ptsd from trauma some of bros teachings can be counterproductive to cultivating lasting change
It's really good that you keep reinforcing this idea of function integration across the board. I too often think about switching out of one function for another I 'need more'. Will have to think more about this
Spotting the obvious things that we somehow all forget/ignore to apply to our lives is so enfpish and so necessary. Love You and thank You ❤️
Thank you Heidi! Another ENFP video 🥰. Oh how kind you are to us.
Yes, a lot of types would marvel at being able to read a book and imbibe information and analyse for that long and see that as a discipline of its own. ENFPs and INFPs can achieve so much when really motivated.
I was feeling so depressed because of ignoring my real feeling and just going with what should i do and almost crying while studying, i told myself that may require a mental specialist help ,
But this video helped me a lot and dirdcted me that u are wasting your energy and ruining your soul by meeting others' expectations so thank u ❤
Just started ENFP Soul Bootcamp which has actually served as a container where more discipline and structure can thrive. Instead of scrolling through UA-cam, or scrolling through Heidi videos looking at all the shiny objects, I'm focused on immediately putting into practice the ones on UA-cam related to Meyers-Briggs Type. I'm new to M-B theory, and must say it blew my mind when I learned that TJ types get an intrinsic reward (dopamine! dopamine!) purely from doing things in an organized way that culture happens to call "discipline". I actually get a similar process dopamine hit as I go along and "discover" what my best process is in the midst of doing things. Refining processes creatively is actually my biggest driver and can apply to many different areas of life, so it feels like I'm hopping around and can't decide which one thing I love the most, but in reality it's discovering the process of mastery most joyous and insightful to me -itself - that connects the dots through it all.
As an INFP, I also enjoy gathering, integrating and sharing knowledge, but in the form of electronic mind maps rather than as videos. Others can edit and build on them, something that satisfies the altruist in me. I find myself working hard on these and losing track of time, because the work is intrinsically satisfying. Up through middle age, I was more so a knowledge hoarder. It took a while to figure out that a catch and release strategy for knowledge fishing is more in keeping with who I am.
Heidi lookin so pretty today
“Maybe you’re not done gathering information” 🤯
A million percent. I loathe repetition. It's like you can translate me!! A reframe around what the world wants us to be to recognise the skills and strengths we do have is phenomenal! Thank you
OMG! THANK YOU! I thought I was having a mental breakdown. This made so much sense to me. I felt like I had no purpose, no motivation, no discipline! I now know what I need and where I want to get to!!! Thank you!!!!🎉🎉🎉
Love your take on this. Relieves the guilt of not being like others.
Is it true that ENFP's are cheats? Are they a risky choice when looking for long term commitments? And especially when looking for a partner WITHOUT a long sexual history???
Please help, I really would appreciate some credible, rational answers (no thinking/answering with emotionally-biased side of the brain, but instead the 'rational, BRUTALLY-HONEST side', please). 😕
I think about this often but have never been able to explain it so eloquently, thank you for the insight! This video was incredibly helpful 💗
Yay another banger
Hi Heidi, thanks so much. I did have that idealized vision of discipline. I tend to always skip the sitting with feelings process before chossing my course of actions and then wonder why I'm so unmotivated and easily distracted. You are helping me taking my needs and feelings into account. Thanks.❤
You make so much sense and I'm so thankful to have found your channel! I have always struggled with this concept.
INFP Dominant introverted Feeling (Fi)
Auxiliary extraverted Intuition (Ne)
Tertiary Sensing (Se or Si)
Inferior extraverted Thinking (Te)
"People who prefer Introversion use their dominant process/function in their inner world because this is where they are naturally drawn and where they direct and receive energy (reflect and contemplate). Since their dominant process is used in their inner world, we don't see it in action. Rather, we tend to see their auxiliary process since it is this process that they extravert, show the world."
Introverted Feeling (Fi) ISFP/INFP: Seeks harmony of action and thoughts with personal values. May not always articulate those values. Empathetic, sensitive, and idealistic. Keyword: Valuing.
Ne (extraverted) - brainstorming.
When dominant process is exaggerated - Introverted Feeling: carry the weight of the world on their shoulders, hypersensitive, pompous, feel sorry for themselves
Thanks for these videos. It's hard when you feel like you don't know what you should be doing. I often feel like I'm drifting aimlessly but these videos are giving me more self awareness. Very helpful 💗
never stop making videos. thank you
Wow, bang on the money with timing once again!! Thank You Heidi 🙏🙏
I just love you… every time I watch your vids… I feel seen. Taking a big gulp of self- compassion. We are all built different and I need to respect my build and way of being.
Wow, just wow. Thank you for this Heidi!
Such great and practical advice. It took me a year to gather data on the next career move. At first i beat myself up for taking so long then i realized id rather take my time and feel confident than rush the process and shoot myself in the foot.
This is so great, and puts words to what I'm struggling with. THANK YOU.
Thanks Heidi, I just love your videos and I am getting so much insight and clarity about how I operate in the world and how to follow my passion. I always felt like somewhat of an alien and understanding my ENFPness is so helpful.
This was a much needed insight! Thanks Heidi 5:16
Thank you so much i needed this i was feeling lost now i think i found what i was missing gonna fix it in no time
Thank you i always like your ideas
As I was told, long ago: Artists do not get motivated, they become inspired. I used to think I was trying to be disciplined and looking for my motivation to be disciplined. There was none and there never will be, without inspiration. Which can be positive (I will give you a cookie, if you'd only ....) or negative (If you don't get this lobby cleaned up in 5 minutes I will write you all up for what I saw happen) or both (..but, if you do, I'll take you out for coffee!) I feel no inspiration to make a mundane pork chop, so there will be no dinner. What's that? Yes, I do want that orange marmelade ... and, garlic. Lots of garlic. Dinner will be ready in 20 minutes. Give me vinegar and a potato then go away. Like that.
Landed on the first video for this channel without knowing a lot of it was focused on ENFPs -- ha! Oh, I've found a treasure trove I need to dig into.
Thank you Heidi for this cool video. Totally agree ... As an ENFP, when working on my goals I have so much energy and enthusiasm =) Only more Ni Ti tasks I struggle a lot and procrastinate ..
e.g. : gathering lots of ideas for a new course, and making it fun and interesting: no problem ! But then structuring it and making an assessment for example is very hard (more "logical" / filtering / structured thinking). Sometimes existing methodologies are a solution so I can work in Te mode (e.g. teaching models). I don't have NTJs in my surroundings ^^
Would be open to any advice of other people (teachers)!
Cheers to all!
So good, Heidi! You are right on!
Amaaaaazing perspective. I spoke about discipline yesterday during a wellbeing session I host at work and I asked, "Is hard work the same thing as discipline?"
We shared a lot of opinions etc, but the way you explained it in this video around "lacking direction " really resonated with my soul.
There's no point in working hard to be disciplined if you're not aligned with the results and you don't love the process. 💯
Otherwise, we end up beating ourselves up for not being disciplined when really there's something deeper we need to explore.
Brilliant! Very helpful
needed this at the moment, thank you ❤️
I love your videos so much! Watching them has become my reward after studying hahah:)
Great take on motivation!
This is AWEEEEEEE SOOOOME (Translation really awesome)!!
Thanks so much! Loving it; Oddly Im Virgo & ENFP and at times the two seem to circle against each other.
Same here. I think it is a gift. Organising and being creative. That can be amazing.
Thank you!!! I needed this ❤️
Heidi you saved my butt again today with this video. Thank you so much!!
Thank you for your efforts
Love and appreciation ❤
This was great
This is so good😭 thank you
omg thank you Heidi! you are right, i cannot skip Ne and Fi😢
Wow super helpful. Do you have any videos guiding the exploratory process and internal check in to discern and choice your end goal that aligns with us at a soul level?
thanks all of this and I totally relate to it.
YOU ARE STRAIGHT UP RIGHT DISCIPLINE IS SUBJECTIVE , those types who disciple themselves in some things are often undisciplined in their relationships and friendships
Thank you so much for this!!!
Me, an enfp, read the title : "How to NOT approach self-discipline" ? Wow, that's an interesting and very uncommon title ! *read it again* Wait, oh, my bad
love you too
My Girl!!! Loved.... read a book in bed for 7 hours... I get it ❤❤❤
My spirit brother is an INFJ...
I WOULD LOVE TO EXTEND YOUR INSIGHTS TO HIS CIRCUMSTANCES.
Man things go badly for enfps when they ignore Fi. Like the Ne-Te loop- just going in efficient circles.
"I don't know what my call to action is" very ENFP hshsyslde
I'm an INTJ mother of an almost 18 year old ENFP son. I'm terrified for his future and it is extremely stressful for me. How is he going to make it in life? Despite my efforts in teaching and skill building with him throughout his life, he's got none of what I have that has helped me make it in career and self-improvement.
Help him find his passions, what lights him up 💡 ✨
Discipline isn't the word for it. I feel like it's assertiveness that's my issue. Looking at the sub-variants A and T I'm definitely more leaning towards T. I hate it and that's why I'm here. Lol
I understand what u wanna say but i think the biggest problem, at least for me, is that for the things i'm interested in or think i'm interested in take too much of time to learn those things in order to do them. I'm 25 now and i think i'm in that "information" phase for 4 years now, i really don't have the time to start learning then exploring. So can i somehow bypass that stage? Or to explore through maybe journaling, meditating, visualizing, basically finding in my head what (and why) i'm most interested in and than pursue them?
Good point. I’m 32 and I’m still “gathering information” 😅
This is a great question. I think if ENFPs can somehow create content while they are exploring, then others could benefit from this journey and of course we would love that. Art Journaling, vlogging, photography, tutoring in something we are learning about, micro blogging. My ENTP husband says I should write how to guides for each thing I pursue. We’re very good at gathering information. We just need a place to cull it together so that other people can see/ experience it.
You should test everything ! But not with a "i will learn everything to the core" but with a "i'm gonna do an introduction on this topic" and as time pass you'll see that some topics are "arf it's great because i love the learn new things but i'm not really a fan of this thing when we go in depth" and others are "this so interesting i want to learn more and more"
start all simultaneously (you may not not be able to keep up with everything after some time bc everything demands you more time and this is precisely thanks to this that you are going to be forced to make a choice and then it will become clear what you actually like and what you like a little less or not at all 😊
You can do this during your weekend you don't have to study in college every topics that interest you because a lot of them are gonna be great for "yeah it's great knowing one thing or two about this subject but nothing more" and others are gonna be "i really want to know more" and these one are the one that you truly want to do
So useful!
Omg I love u❤
Do you cover the other personality types? You seem to have a very efficient grasp on the types. I think your insights could help the other types.
thank u
wow
Can I just say that treat yourself is not the solution for us lol
I have ADHD, so the motivation aspect does not apply. There are other things I need to do to keep myself motivated.
Hello Heidi. What is the difference between INFP and ENFP? Is it ONLY the introvert and extravertedness of each? Because as an ENFP, I often feel introverted, although my tendency leans more towards ENFP.
How do we find the purpose and meaning?
I can get to group circuit training session no problem 5 to 6 days a week even if I'm like low in mood, but sitting in front of Laptop doing work I have to do all sorts of mental gymnastics...how do I solve this, what do you mean intrinsically motivated, and what is a TJ, TE FI
Fi = remember the why. So easily neglected
#StopfightingYourself
real eu fazia isso pra ir pra escola pra jogar futebol eu me animava e ia kkkkkk
I agree and disagree with this video. I agree that once we find our true direction, motivation comes. But there are some things in life that suck and we have to do. And sometimes we have to fulfil society's expectations to a certain extent.
Is this vid also applicable to INFPs?
No!
It’s not applicable to ENFP neither.. though it makes superficial sense.