ENFPs: How To Be Productive Without Wanting To Die
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- Опубліковано 9 лип 2024
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Hey, hi, hello! Today we're talking about a topic that is approximately equally loved and abhorred among ENFPS: Productivity!
Whether you're on a Te kick and have been waking up at 5am every day for the past (...let's be realistic) two days or are currently browsing UA-cam because you cannot for the life of you stand to get down to work, this video is designed to help you gain an awareness of where your natural energy flows from and to - so that you can start harnessing it for real.
Thanks for watching, whether you're an ENFP, INFP, INFJ, ENFJ, INTJ, ENTJ, INTP, ENTP, ISFJ, ESFJ, ISFP, ESFP, ISTP, ESTJ, ESTJ, ESTP or any other MBTI type (Just kidding. There are no more.) LOVE YOU ALL. Happy producing.
"If you try to start from the beginning you'll lose steam and never get anything done" ---- OOFFFFFF! I needed that reminder.
And here I am, paused the video at 0:07 while reading comments 😂 just following the ENFP stereotype
One tip that works for me (ENFP) when being overwhelmed with things to do/what to take on first: write everything down on a to do list so you can clear your mind ('forget it'). Afterwards you can focus on 1 item at a time.I personally also color code it. Yellow = to do, red = very orgent/overdue, green = done, pink = awaiting feedback from other people. -> every time one item is completed, i put it in green to get that dopamine stimulation, boosting you to complete another one :)
thank you omg. i’m an enfp with big goals and honestly the skills and creativity to achieve them. i just have trouble getting it done. my parents are always like you need to plan every second of your day because that’s a ‘habit of successful people’. i just can’t do it. i’ve tried countless times and it just doesn’t work, i still don’t get the job done and it just makes me unhappy that i don’t have any freedom in my OWN DAY. thank you for this again, i find i work so much better when i’m thinking and finding and talking to diverse people and being engaged and learning about new or random things that allows my brain to figure stuff out and thrive, changing up even the smallest things in my life. this really resonated with me, pleasee keep going :)
Exactly. I need to talk to lots of people every day.
Woah! Love the ENFP club - everyone's comments resignate so well.
I found out that making daily to do list really helps me out a lot - I don't forget deadlines as easily. I never get the whole list done but that's ok, the following day I look on the past lists if I missed something and try to get things done..
@@octavia88 Try also making a Done List. You'll feel better being reminded of what you've accomplished. Keep up the great work!
@@hotrodpat1 my done list is the to do list with big crosses over the squares ⬜
I swear everytime you have a sit down advice chat I start to tear up. It feels amazing to know that I am not crazy and I can function in this world, I just need to hack it the ENFP way. I love this...I feel so empowered and full of hope/potential. Does anyone else feel like normal life is just hard...?
ME. Normal SJ-ish life is an ENFP torture (I'm in a low quality school with loads of repetitive work). I felt crazy and thought something is wrong with me. After this video I feel hopeful and empowered too!
Yes. I felt the same way when I watched her videos for the first time today. The feeling of finally being seen and understood… And ye normal life feels pretty hard sometimes for me too
I AM SO HAPPY YOU EXIST
What a kind thing to say. I’m so happy you exist too ❤️😊
@@heidipriebe1 This is so true: Developed treatments for human aging doing this!
“give your brain crops some water” I’m gonna repeat this to myself whenever I feel uninspired and stuck!!! This is SUCH. a helpful way of looking at productivity for Ne. Thank you ❤️
No joke, this gave me more actionable information than 50 other ENFP videos combined. You dug down to the root behavioral explanations of WHY we do and think things the way we do, and you were so articulate in explaining it all. Thank you so much; you hit a home run with this video!
Heidi is the real deal. Im on a diet of Daily Heidi.
This is like a coaching session I would pay $500 for. Pure absolute gold. Thank you so much
I'm only 4 minutes in and I'm loving this. It's like I know this but had to be reminded...especially nowadays where people are completely pushing this "Te " way of life down everyone's throats.
💯💯💯
Her best video yet! I was energized just from the first five minutes. I was starting to feel guilty and it’s the first time I felt directly connected to her.
"It's easier to tame a fire than it is to try to spark one that isn't there." OMG I love this so much!! I really wish they would teach more about these kinds of approaches & methods to life/learning in school. I see so many xNFP friends of mine who struggled growing up and only flourished after graduation because before they were trying to be productive like an xNTJ/xSTJ type! Even as an INFP myself, the advice you read out loud at 6:40 about the way you can't write an essay the way others do is the most accurate thing I've heard! I always did well on my essays and LOVED cross-contextualizing/immersing in new ideas, but I took twice as long to write them because I had to deconstruct & rearrange the pieces from the original draft or outline the teachers made me follow. I wish I could have found your channel when I was still a student, Heidi. Thank you for teaching the NFP types to work with their natural tendencies & motivations!!
All the ENFPs (me included) getting excited after watching this video and getting super motivated and enthusiastic are going to forget about this one week later! Hahahahaah..... As an enfp, I've seen multiple life changing videos and read articles which I've been sure would change my life, and after a few days, bbye persistence and determination!
Enfp to enfp... consistency is also a big problem for me.
SAME HAHA
As ENFPs our desire for productivity can lead to guilt while we our going through a refractory period. We too are allowed seasons to slow down and reflect. Maybe instead of feeling guilt, we can feel a sense of accomplishment for adapting patients with ourselves, especially when this is such a hard lesson to learn. Be kind to yourselves ENFPs ❤️
Yes, guilt & shame. I get as much done yet the criticism from peers and family (I'm older at 50) for NOT being "traditional" stings!!
Heidi I owe you the biggest thank you in the world. I am an ENFP, Aquarius, dragon (Chinese astrology) and I swear I am the biggest dreamer on the planet with zero follow through. It’s not because I don’t want to be successful, it’s just that I have so many ideas and thoughts that sometimes I feel like I can’t even move. Listening to your videos gives me some clarity and is helping me take the first steps to action. You make me want to be a better ENFP and person. Thank you so so so much for your videos.
I love this. SO much. Possibly the best ENFP advice I have ever heard.
Wow, you're a God-send... I feel like if I'm consistent enough in following your advise I'd build an empire...
I have no doubt that if you want to build that empire, you can and will ❤️
Mind maps help me focus. They have a central theme. You build branches by associating ideas. Great for gathering knowledge, seeing patterns, building on your own ideas and those of others. You can draw them by hand on the back of an envelope or you can use software with products like TheBrain or MindManager. (INFP perspective)
Yes!
ENFP here. Ok so it took me 6 hours to watch this. I kept getting distracted with Olympics, organizing my trip to Cusco and buying an specific alcohol to clean stuff. I really liked the video, you are like a role model for how an ENFP can be a functioning human being. I will need to watch the video again and take notes about it. I really liked the quote from the book about mind going absolutely in all directions when writing an essay. There are just so many possibilities and they are all linked in a way. Well, I´d like to say that besides all the good information you are giving us all, you do look like a very cool person. The vibe you share is as good as mine haahhaah jk. I do get in a better mood when watching your videos. Keep up the good work
Wow it’s so eerily familiar as an infj watching this in a hall of mirrors kind of way. ( I’m only on your first point ) I have been jotting a few things down that might help infjs for a future book or article. One of the first points I made was Introverted intuition feels kinda magical but it’s only as good as what you feed it! (Whether that be books or experiences or exposure to people)
13:09 - Making self care non-negotiable before the day starts. Focusing your attention before it needs to be focused. Thats what you are doing.
The quote you were probably referencing at 11:09 is "Time management is pain management.” It's from the book Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life by Nir Eyal
Thanks so much for your videos. I bought your ENFP book a long time ago and it makes sense you've had a successful transition to youtuber/coach. You add so much value! Love your stuff. You are awesome.
Wow! That was spooky - like all my productivity problems listed.Thanks for breaking this down and giving possible solutions. I always feel soooo bad about getting stuck in unproductiveness and being sidetracked by "brain-porn" like political articles, psychological books, scientific videos etc. instead of actually doing my work. And I never get anything done in the order I "planned" it. The best advice I found for myself was from this book "The one thing" - sitting down in the morning and thinking about what task being done would have the most impact and just planning that (and nothing else) for the day. The rest comes spontaneously.
Literally saw this video and said “THANK YOU” before even clicking on it. I’ve gone the hyper structure route before seeing it work for others and always wondered why I felt so burnt out and uninspired when I was doing all the “right” things to be productive. The wanting to learn about anything and everything and seeking novelty resonates so much within me. Definitely saving this video for future reference!
Thank you so much for all the pragmatic, no-BS tips!!! Bookmarked forever.
P.S. Daily meditation was a game-changer for me on this front -- and I initially didn't think I was even capable of it. I started with 5-minute guided meditations and worked up from there (now up to 45-minute non-guided instrumental tracks!). 10/10 recommend for improving emotional regulation and focus.
I love this!! I got the idea of doing '1 minute a day' of meditation from a friend who was doing it... I thought one minute surely couldn't make a difference, then we fell out of touch and caught back up a few years later and she was regularly going to 5 day meditation retreats... I was like damn, okay. I stand corrected hahah.
The planning an essay advice is so amazing!! I used to write all my essays overnight before the deadline (so I HAD to be productive), with minimal planning and just write it from start to finish and then do well because I’m a good writer, but get comments about structuring it better 🤣
Amen!
Wow, I finally understand why I felt so unproductive within 3 years of my job. I felt myself slowing losing itself to the world. Your nuggets of wisdom really resonates with me, thank you for the advice! I'm a new fan and just subscribed to yr channel! :)
Thank you thank you thank you. I'm about to start my third year teaching and I'm so tired of not being organized and grading in a timely manner. I love the social part of the job but it's necessary to do the other tedious things too, I know I can do it and these tips are sooooo helpful! I'm excited now 🥰
OMG, YOU are my LONG LOST TWIN, or my previously undiscovered new BFF. 😂I feel SO seen! Thank you for creating these videos, I have seriously wondered if I was a crazy person because NO ONE thinks like me, but EVERY. SINGLE. THING. you said in this video is relatable! 🙌
I love the idea of ENFPs compiling "life" in a diverse way.
I find myself waiting for "the plants to grow" all the time with utter impatience - thank you for your message to give ourselves permission to get moving first.
I would love a video about ENFPs dealing with the forced routines of motherhood and trying to get anything else done. Diapers, laundry, baths, school schedule...are so life- draining even though the kids themselves are so life-giving. Have you come across this feeling with ENFP moms you have run across? I feel like ENFPs thrive as young singles, it is like our natural habitat for implementing most of what you talk about. Marriage & kids are so fulfilling but make being an ENFP much trickier. Thoughts?
This is such a great point! I'm still trying to figure that out and we already have teenagers. 🤣😣
50 y.o. ENFP here, I agree. Looking back what would have changed all the downsides was a partner who appreciated my qualities. My former husband was a good monitorial provider yet didn't value the quality time we had (the children & I or him & I). Thus I NEVER got my "well" filled with validation water. My partner now is ENFJ...it would have been a blast to raise children with him!
@@Recusant_ He refused to test yet I'd say definitely a Sensor. The SJ combo for me is the toughest to be around. NJ, not so bad.
Yes!!! The forced routines of motherhood and trying to get anything else done….have turned me into someone I don’t like. 😢
A video about coping with that would be greatly appreciated.
I'm a 43yo ENFP with 2 young children, 5 & 10. I like to stay busy but need to learn to monitor my energies as I often feel burn out. My friend Leah tells me that whatever I get done in a day is enough. I can rest in that. That is hard but I'm trying to believe it so that I can feel good & not guilty over what I was able to do/not do.
To keep up on my house I try to do 1 thing a day the same every week like dust every Monday, floors every Tuesday, bathrooms every Wednesday and so on. That helps with keeping up on the daily of laundry, dishes, homework.
I think the hard part about this "life" is that we're not applying our fun, creative sides to motherhood. How can we do that in a way that turns these mundane demands into something we love?? Can we simply view it differently, possibly as building into something vital? I don't know.
One of the most helpful tips I ever read was to give yourself the opportunity to procrastinate within the project. So devide the project in different areas - for example if you are writing a thesis for university it might be helpful to have the practical part, the research part and the writing all going at the same time instead of doing it in a specific order. That way you may do something else than originally planned entirely, but still be satisfied with the outcome.
I think it aligns nicely with lots of the tips in the video as well.
I love that actually!! Thanks for sharing it 👏
This is so true ❤
Hey Heidi, as a fellow ENFP, thanks so much for putting out this material uniquely to our mental processes. As you said in your other videos, the world is populated and structures are made for and by SJ types so we can feel 'lazy' or 'out of place' for not fitting in so easily.
I'm benefitting so much from this material. Thanks so much! :)
HEIDI! This just changed my life. I don’t need to wait to find out for sure, I know it did. Thank God for you!! You are such a blessing, full of so much wisdom! Can’t thank you enough for the different videos you’ve shared that have really hit home for me, and have helped me tremendously. What a gem you are!! 💎
Thank you for this outrageously kind comment - it honestly made my day ❤️
@@heidipriebe1 It's true!
Oh wow! I need some ENFP friends. This feels so right and the first bit with the “Humans aren’t real” tee shirt, had me in stitches. This is so me and now I can laugh and think how funny I am instead of how awful.
I just looked up Heidi Priebe as she is the author of The ENFP Survival Guide that I read. Well, you know, the ENFP way. I read the first 3 chapters of it or so, then jumped ahead, then back, then put it down and now just picked back up.
After happily seeing that she’s got a YT channel, I went straight to this video. I really struggle with productivity. Due to the nature of my job, music artist and producer, I find it kinda hard to implement the first tip she gives in the video about reading up on a lot different things. Biodiversity, I think she says. I need to get those programmed drums right and it is a very detail-oriented task, let alone tracking any other instrument. Anyway, I'll keep watching now…
The title had me LAUGHING SO HARD 🤣🤣🤣
Ikr 🤣🤣😫
Thanks as always, Heidi, for being the voice of compassion for our ENFP selves. I'm self-employed and collapsed mentally during the 2020 shutdown by mid-October, unable to work or think, and turned to MBTI to help me restructure my life in a sustainable way that didn't take a busy city for granted (since who knows when it will be available or taken away again due to the pandemic). Gradually I have gotten back on track by adding in loads of diverse input, as you advise, and it truly does work. I had assumed I needed people as the main interaction since we're extroverts, but I quickly found that who those people were needed to vary widely from day to day. I also realized that to stay on track my extroverted intuition absolutely demands diverse thinking -- films, museums, books, landscapes, activities, conversations-- it just has to get changed up for my brain to continue to crank. But I was still feeling a lot of shame around this need. After all, I'm inordinately proud of being my genuine self like any Fi, so why couldn't I make my brain work without needing the world so much? I was feeling like a drug addict, but with information and experience, UNhelpfully comparing myself to my INFJ and INTJ besties, who can and have gone months without needing this stuff like I do. I love this video! You'll laugh because I avoided it for weeks after you first posted it, precisely because I was too busy castigating myself for needing it. You're a true gem 💎 I can schmooze any therapist out there into thinking I'm fine, but you see us ENFPs wrestling the demons and always name them accurately. I so appreciate you and second the chorus: I am so very glad you exist! Thank you, thank you, thank you.
This feels like a Master Class, thank you for uploading this when I most needed it. Keep up the great work!
I know im an ENFP because not only did this speak to my soul but it described so much of my current process.
Wow, this is the best ENFP productivity video on the internet hands down. 👍
So helpful, thank you! I have an Si tip I've been learning recently; Si is literally about body awareness too. I spent a lot of my life ignoring physical sensations in my body, such as hunger, thirst, tiredness and pain. It eroded my health until I became very sick a few years ago. But paying attention to my body and the messages it sends me has allowed me to start an upward health spiral. The best part has been that since doing this, my intuition has become much more effective as well. I realised that Si and Ne are actually a great team. Ne becomes much more powerful when has somewhere to land in physical reality. Paying gentle attention to my bodily needs has been surprisingly effective in helping that Ne insight to land somewhere I can actually use.
Halfway through the video, I felt the urge to note down these stuffs so I can read it when I get unproductive, but then I feel lazy & have to watch the video once again for that...so let's just skip that, but then my mind keeps on thinking about that only...!!😆
Every day ENFP struggles🙂
I’ve spent months researching ways to become more productive, and years integrating new ways that inevitably fail. Your video is singlehandedly THE MOST valuable thing that I have found to date. It works. THANK YOU!!
same 😢 so happy to have found this video
This channel is seriously a godsend! Very impressed as an enfp your editing and organizational skills. And you also seem to have a lot of knowledge about a lot of different things which makes me happy. This whole video was just preaching to the choir. I’ve been talking about starting a UA-cam channel/podcast for over a year now. You’re definitely an inspiration ❤️
I eventually started a channel. Growth has been organic which I appreciated. Now I’m stuck. 🥺🤣
The overthinking and boredom and everything else keeps me standing still but these tools help a lot.
What a beautiful compliment! You are gorgeous!❤️
This is excellent advice for me as an ENFP, especially the farm crop analogy! One thing I’d add that I noticed for myself is if I am not doing anything creative I will feel very unmotivated. Even just a bit of creativity like a new project always ignites some energy for me. Just realized this again when I was assigned a group project at work that required some brainstorming and creative thinking, and once I got going with the project I suddenly felt excited again and not as depleted at the end of the workday. Discussed with my therapist and decided I NEED to have creative projects going or I burn out. The extra projects don’t cause more burnout, rather the opposite, get me excited and motivated.
Also I used the writing structure advice today! Thank you!
Your advice is so helpful! I had no idea people could get me like this! “easier to tame a fire than start a fire.” This is changing my life by not “changing” my life but embracing what what an ENFP brings and desires. Thank you so much for being thorough and articulate!
Heidi! I just want to say a sincere thank you for you have helped me so much in terms of understanding my underlying issues as to why I behave in certain ways. With your insight on ENFPs and attachment styles, I have true hope for improving and healing myself! You are the best and have a wonderful gift. Keep on scintillating and changing the world, girlie! 🤗❤️
Something that seems to help me "hypnotize" myself into doing things is having certain playlists for various tasks. I might be way out of the mindset for working out, cleaning, working, etc... but those playlists magically shove my mind on track.
After re-watching this I realize how important it is for me to have like minded souls that understand that level of depth and that channels that same energy.
Always so damn refreshing coming back to this! I feel like if some ENFPs are stuck, it does not take much for us to get out of that rut and get going. We just have to turn our heads and open up and look what amazing possible options there are out there for us. That puzzle forms itself after some natural flow and when we least expect it we truly have synched into that kind of natural flow that just works for you and you and me and you.
I am crying. Thank you so much! I needed to hear that right now 😭❤💫💯
This is amazing. I really needed to hear all of this.
Thank you so much! I have been getting so depressed recently in my effort to get my life together. I think you might be right that that feeling comes from repressing my true nature. "Without wanting to die" is no joke!
This was so great!
Omg that is so relatable! Thank you for these videos, finally I feel someone gets me and doesn’t blame me for being lazy.
LOVE THIS!!! THANK YOU!!!!
this video just popped up in my recommended section and i’m sooo glad it did. this was very eye-opening and helpful for me (as someone who is an ENFP with severe ADHD). thank you so much :)
This was great. Thank you so much!
This is awesome! There is hope!!!
This is painfully spot on
This is SUCH gold
Half way in, this is brilliant. Thank you!
I love this thank you so much!
I LOVE THIS VIDEO SO MUCH 🥺🧡 THANK YOU.
From an ENFP who wants to grow and be a better human 😊
Thank you so much. Seriously. From the bottom of my heart.
your vids are an absolute blessing
I AM SOOOOOOOO ON BOARD WITH YOU ON EMOTIONS HEIDI. I APPRECIATE YOU PUTTING THIS OUT THERE.
Bout to buy that dang book. Thank you!
YOU ARE CHANGING MY LIFEEEEE THANK YOUUUUUUUUU
Thank you so much for this amazing video!
Thank you so so much! This is so helpful.
Heidi, thank you for this channel
I really need to hear this right now. Thank you so much!
thank you so much for this
This is one of the juiciest content I’ve ever consumed in my youtube history. Thank you so much for helping so many ENFPs
This has helped me so much. Thank you so much for sharing!
Thank you for making me feel like less of a weirdo ☺️
Best video ever!!
Thank you Very Much!!!
I love you! It’s so weird how much I’ve learned in the past few years about myself. You are a godsend!
While listening I suddenly remembered that yesterday, in a moment of frustration I LITERALLY asked the universe, out loud, while walking down the street, for a FORMULA. I have needed this simple outline all my life. Thank you.
Bookmarked forever. I feel like Heidi just read my mind ❤️
You are amazing!! This one video has had more impact on my life than, well, anything...ever. I've watched it many times, over many days, yet gain something new each viewing. I'm reading, The Comprehensive ENFP Survival Guide. Great stuff. Too much of my life I've been stuck. I want to break free. You are helping me do that. Thank you so very much! I feel inspired every time I listen to your videos or read your book. Nothing else I've ever read or heard has come close to being as helpful as this one 34 minute video. Thank you so much for sharing.
(Is it really 34 minutes long?!?! I've listened to it so many times, and still wished it were longer. WOW. Congratulations!!! Enjoy this special imaginary trophy from my attention span. (Don't worry, it's not a real squirrel, just an imitation. The imaginary gold It's fake made of is real though.)
17:05 thank you so much for that advice!
Heidi, big thanks for sharing all this knowledge. It just feels great to be understood and receive your exceptional guidance!
Thank you so much!! This makes so much sense! I can feel my dopamine increasing already! :)
you are God sent... thank you
Again, Brilliant video. Thank you
I love you with my whole heart
👍👍👍👍👍 She's so right... it's astounding.
Thank you so helpful!
This video was so helpful 🥺🥺❤️ you're the coolest Heidi 😘
this popped up on my reccs at the best time possible 🥵 thank you! 🥰
Your channel is so underrated. Thank you for this video
I feel SEEN! This was absolutely amazing and helpful from start to finish!!
That FI advice on doing something comfortable and conductive to being focused is good for me. I have issues around being scattered. Si as a path to mindfulness... love it! But my most resonant,favorite piece of advice is making small progress through taking small steps over time. I actually totally forgot you told us this in the camp too! One of my main issues in life has to do with acountability and trusting myself to do things i told myself i would do. That includes things like meditation in the past and getting exercise, for example.
Aaaaand journaling about my emotions and other things. There is perfectionism in me that acts as blockage to my productivity. I have to admit, if i had healthier connection to Fi (i had stress over letting fantasies flow in my head) then i also would feel better.
Edit : I love the advice on writing down ideas then working or organizing with those afterwards. If i only had been allowed to or thought of that in high school...
this is everything i've ever wanted to know 😭 thank you so much for the work that you do
This video!
This just answered so many questions!
I’m exhausted emotionally and mentally trying to focus on, and run my own business… excluding all other interests…
I’ve been doing it the wrong way for me!
Thank you! You just gave me hope back.
Thank you! Thank you!
Waiting patiently for your next book ❤️
So so good. Every Enfp must watch. The best I have seen on UA-cam thus far.
This is soooo validating and helpful! Thank you so much! ❤
Super useful video! Thank you so much for making it! I struggled with productivity during the pandemic so much, but now that things are opening up I've been slowly getting much better at working again. I realized that I really needed a change of environment and social interaction to feel motivated
This helped a lot and solved my writing block. Thanks!
This was mindblowing ! I cant express how much i felt related to everything you were raying ! Thx a lot i think the world needs more videos and info like the one you give
Really learned a lot from the survival guide, and now I'm way stoked to explore your channel! The content you cover keeps me mindful of my thoughts/actions, and I'm very thankful for that. Keep up the great work!