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They don't have ANY story without a scapegoat... They're not ever going to live their OWN TRUTH!
Genuine fact!
Their “truth” is the false life they’ve created for themselves.
I left the set voluntarily.
I didn't want to leave my children, die, and he asked me one more time in our library we had in our house as I was dusting crystals, books, porcelain.. I said no because although I loved him, we were both along with our children and deserved to have a better life (I was his third wife and he was my first)
He then told me that in about eight minutes would be at our house with a restraining order because he isn't going to lose a third wife and he owns me.
Fortunately I have reconnected with my son once he graduated high school. It has been just over 8 years since I have heard my sweet daughter's voice or have seen her because he would make it harder on my daughter if she had anything to do with me. Eight years ago she wanted and begged for him to let me stay, see, or speak with me.
She graduates this year and I pray someday she will reconnect with me somehow.
* He put me in the streets with no access to money in the Volvo that kept me alive
I represented myself in court while he spent over $30,000 on his attorney.
P.s. My ex was in my opinion the bitch of the son of the Judge. He ran his company with low pay and false promises of becoming 50/51 partnership in the company: Industrial Resources Inc. by his "bitch".
From my understanding the company has been put out of business
I made them force me out. It cost them more than double what they were supposedly fighting to hold on to.
Now I get to go after them for damages that have substantial multipliers behind them.
@@thecustodian1023 That sounds terrible of you in my opinion.
My husband made my children pack up all the books, photos of me, my clothes, and belongings and throw them away. Then my Gemology/Geology lab and threw all the specimens I had collected over a cliff.
My son carefully hid them in the hillside so they wouldn't break and offered to go back to get them but I told him that it would be too dangerous and he means more to me than risking him getting hurt.
No children should be put in danger.
I pray for my daughter every day that she remembers her mother and how much I love her.
God they're so messed up! As painful as this is, imagine being around these freaks back in the day when there was 0 information about this disorder anywhere, when you couldn't go down a rabbit hole on the internet & educate yourself for free!... I think about that a lot 😢 I'm so grateful for this information & I pray for the day it becomes so incredibly mainstream that the victims are few to none 🙏
Absolutely!
Amen! I didn’t know what a narcissist was until last year!
I’m a hoeka Empath and I was in the dark waaaaay too long!
So grateful even though it’s a horrible reality!
It was OK back then. We just called them a$$holes and walked.
I really couldn’t put it better myself! I’m so grateful for the internet/UTUBE. These creatures we call Narcissists lied, cheated, gaslighted & basically messed up people’s lives with agenda driven promises, with no accountability whatsoever. God is coming so soon it’s not even funny because there are also many people who aid these demonic creatures to ruin peoples lives & say nothing….not even a word of warning to their potential next victim ⚠️
I know. So sad for everyone. Women in the 50's where everyone got married. I hope people today can make the connection quicker. The info does make it so much easier to want to leave and stay away. 1000 percent!!!!!!! Women back then didn't have as many options to go to school or skills and were stuck. No battered women's shelters etc.
This is so true. I literally thought i was going mad in the end. He was describing other people and projecting that onto me. Its sick. He would also then steal my words and values and try to throw them back at me as though they were his. Mind numbing
@joscampman1583 I'm confused. How did what go away?
Yep that's their mind. Word salad.
Me: "We need to get to an agreement"
*he gets angry and refuses to speak further*
*days later*
Him: "We need to get to an agreement. This is what I told you the other day. You didn't want to get to an agreement"
The whole conversation was made on a chat-box. He can check the messages. I was the one to propose to get to an agreement and he was the one that didn't want to.
The more I hear from These videos makes it sooooooooooo much easier to walk away from my narc.
The accuracy is so on point.
yeah ive lived this many times.if u dont follow their script in the movie they are directing they will do all kinds of crazy shit to try to manipulate u to play that role.if u still refuse they will write u out of their movie and of course u will not go out on a good note,they make u the bad guy and they the poor victim.its sooo damn crazy!! definately a mental illness :p
Richard ...is this toxic narcissm he's describing.
I spent last year helping my mother die. I loved her but she was very difficult. As her cognition declined she couldnt run game any more. Its like i truly met her. Behind the front she was a scared, abused little girl.
Like a scared kitten who goes around hissing. No much more demonic.
That's the tragedy. Most of them are just traumatized lil kids. Sounds like your ma was lucky to have you. 🖖
Yep. You are nothing but their projection.
They don’t love the You. They love the You they want You to be.
Which is extremely messed up. My ex wife doesn’t even know who I am because she only loved the person she thought I was supposed to be. Which is why she always compared me to other men. Yet I couldn’t love me either for 25 years of my life because I was trying to love her.
Yes I almost took my own life at one point in my life. So glad I didn’t because my goal now is to make sure our 4 children don’t become her.
That's a dream, best thing is to be centered in yourself and have your boundaries and be honest. When they're raised in a mess it can take a lot for them to see themselves through the programming they've had before 8 years old. Struggling still even though it's only been 2 1/2 years.
@@joannoliver7077 … my children see themselves because I ask them who they are. My daughter (20) is raising her son all by herself because her ex boyfriend doesn’t have anything to do with her or his son. She has done counseling and is more put together than her own mother. She knows that a man who wants sex after the first date is no man. She dresses modestly instead of sexually. My goal as her father is to allow her to be her and yet let her know what to expect from real men vs boys in a man’s body.
My eldest son (16) just won second place in state for wrestling and he has a great work ethic and so far hasn’t made sexual advances with his girlfriend and says he doesn’t want to. He also has A’s in High School.
Second son (14) has A’s in High School and is planning on being a therapist. He speaks like an adult man and I sometimes forget he is my son when he speaks with me 😂.
Third son (8) is just 8. He still cuddles up with me sitting in a recliner. I just love on him as a father should as I did with all of my children. He’s always talking and asking questions about a million zillion things and if I can answer them I will if not I will help him find an answer. If no answer then I just explain to him in time hopefully we will get an answer.
I love my children and give to them as much as I can in a healthy manner. My father didn’t give me any affection at all and when I needed to cry as a child he told me to shut up or he would give me something to cry about. No hugs or a kiss on the forehead or cheek. Just work he didn’t want to do. My mother is why I know about affection and love. I do miss her so much.
My sister tells people my story as if it were hers. She even tells them she has 2 children (a boy & a girl) when in reality she does not. Those are my children. She is Sick-
I used to think she was crazy, but now I know she's a Narcissist.
I think we have the same Narc sister.
My brother exaggerates stories from when we were in 2nd to 3rd grade to make his sister look bad in front of his children. To get pity, victim.
You’ll get kicked off the set, fired from the show, and banned from the studio lot. Then they’ll try to black ball you in the entire industry.
I'll never forget the day my X told me his mother would ruin my reputation. I laughed hysterically. My family would NEVER listen to her and just think she's crazy and she has no access to anybody else. He looked at me in shock. He couldn't believe I wasn't afraid of her.
It sounds like you neutered him on the spot. That might have even broken him. I’m sure that Mommy made it all better for him. Great story.
Then when they realize the show ratings drop with the new main character isn’t matching you then they try to Hoover you back into the set AFTER burning the bridge of you ever wanting to deal with that movie production set.
I’m sorry but personally to me they are demonically possesses it’s not a “personality disorder” in the least!
@saulescamilla3605 Yes!!! I believe this, too. I've LITERALLY seen shadows move in their house. I mean a gigantic shadow covering a whole wall, and then it dissappears even though there is no change or movement in lighting. I've seen so much crap. My toddler used to wake up in the middle of the night screaming. When he left, it never happened again. It's been almost a year, and no more toddler freaking out in the middle of the night. That's just a taste of what I've seen. You can't convince me that there isn't some level of demonic possession happening there.
@@yamairad1 I’m so happy the lord saved you from that horrible disease of a parasite.
Now that you mention it, I also seen like the whole room so dark sometimes it felt “off” like it was sooo silent and all you could really see was the little bitty lights of the electronics and that was it. As soon as I fully left the room and went back in it was back to normal lighting and I could tell what everything was even though it was still dark.
This “dark” I speak of was so eerie and weird I couldn’t put my finger on it till after the relationship that she was indeed possessed. Never going back to that witch of a woman!
I thought my ex had a brain injury because I didn't understand.
Yes!!
Umm funny thing you mentioned that. My recent ex claims he does have a brain injury. Not sure I buy it. It's messed up for sure. I don't know what or who to believe anymore. It sucks being played.
@@terri5624 either way I'm glad you aren't with someone if they treat you badly.
@Potato-fv9ns thank you. And you're absolutely correct. No point trying to figure it all out. Complete waste of time. 😉
I mean… narcissism is a form of brain damage. It’s not passed down by heredity, but it still runs in families due to modeled behavior.
Thank you for explaining what I've dealt with all my life with a certain family member! You're a character in their fabled story. One time I refused a food she offered and she told me I loved eating it. I said, "No, I'm allergic to that." She then kept telling me how much I used to love eating it. These kinds of people, if you listen to them long enough, you'll start to question your sanity, your grip on reality.
Wow. I used to hear him say to me, you never say you're wrong about anything!! I would stop everything I was doing and look at him and say, I know you're not talking about me. I say I'm sorry all the time. Now, I understand that he was getting me confused with someone else. This is complicated sometimes. It feels good to understand that now. Thank you. 🌿
Probably he was projecting.
Same, I got the,. You never once said thank you and telling that narrative to everyone. Meanwhile I said thank you so much. He just wanted me to do it forever. He didn't get enough supple from helping as he thought he should. In his mind he was a hero. I was thankful for his help after I got sick. It was the first time he had helped. But he made sure everyone knew and hard it was for him. I eventually had to ask him to stop coming over because he was causing anxiety.
@@benmahdjoubharoun1467There is projection and there's a league beyond that which is what Richard is referring to. I was accused of a lot of things.. Like they have a psychotic break from reality in no small way.
Congratulations for leaving
Theyre predators. They will struggle to survive in the world and they will prey on anybody and anything that can give them some comfort or even temporary emotional context
They manifest their own reality.
IF you play along.
@@Fractal379 - you or someone else- it doesn’t matter… 😎
Which is exactly why the world sees them as delusional. It's really sad and pathetic at the same time
Like little kids. Imagination... All you people are my friends. You two are getting punished; you think you are better than me. I'll plan a trip and invite everyone but him because I scheme and know he can't go on that date. And I'll intentionally miss their birthday. Because I always have plans on that date. They have the mind of children but evilness of the devil.
My recent ex narc insisted we spent a Christmas together, when I know for a fact we did not. He was with someone else. Apparently. So yeah, I'm no longer part of the cast 😂😂😂 thankfully
So true. And there’s no way to break through it. If you go out of character, off script, It doesn’t shake them out of it. It makes things worse instead of better.
Distance works but when you do that the narcissist plays like they're the sweetest thing on earth.
This made me roll my eyes but in a sad way. Like in an “ I know, I know… but”These posts of knowledge are helping me to stay strong, they are not going to change and it’s deeper than I can understand. Thank you for your educational posts.
You said it! Exactly! That's how I feel with them! It's like they set you on a stage and gave you a role to play in their stage production.
Really true. I also believe that narcissism is a trait in a much wider psychosis ..
Yes I wonder about psychosis. I'll have to look that up
❤🎉❤Best day of my life happened when he finally said get out AGAIN 🎉🎉🎉
Amen!!!
I realized from a pretty young age that the only pain that mattered to my mother was HER pain. She certainly understood pain, but if it didn't happen to HER, it didn't happen, basically. She's completely unable to register other people's pain.
Watching her as she saw planes crashing into the Twin Towers on 9/11 for instance, there was no emotion whatsoever. She couldn't seem to comprehend why everyone was so "traumatized". "Bad things happen" she said. Also, "I'm kind of impressed those guys had the balls to carry that out.".
Needless to say, I've not been in contact with her for over 20 years.
Fake plane, blue beam and detonation. Tell your mom she can stop being in awe. My x said can I be the one who decides who lives and who dies. They like power. The power to step on an ant. One guy told me he killed a caterpillar between his fingers. A week later he told me he was in the hospital all week, no idea what's wrong. I said on a long shot, maybe it was that caterpillar (he had tried to upset me as he described it's death). He went silent. I said let's look it up. Sure enough they are one of the most poisonous insects and you never want to touch them in that manner. I think that lesson helped him as I ran into him later.
That quote makes your mom sound awesome 😂 I’m sorry.
que "Because of you" by Kelly Clarkson.
Double the mind f**k when the person treating you like a character in their story is an actual film director. Looking back I now see how close to serious injury, or even death, I was, as his games got more twisted the more he had me in his power. (8 years free) 👍
So true my mum calls me my sibling's name 90 percent of time.
“ You have a job to do & you better do it “ crazy but true.
She once told me as she played the therapist role(I kid u not)that she works best with people who listen to her directives. I never asked her for any guidance. It’s crucial to be educated to these types. They’re nuts. In fact, she volunteered, “I’m crazy.” I didn’t understand why she said it. Now, I see she was serious
My dad -HUGE narcissist- literally used to say all the time while driving that everyone around him was an extra in his movie 🎥 whenever someone got in his way he would bitterly sarcastically joke how they were “right on que” because of course everyone in his movie was out to get him as well
😔 and it's very scary the first time that happens its scary enough the first time they become a volcano of violent aggression, but when you're suddenly in the firing line for a story you know nothing about its terrifying and I was completely unarmed to defend what I didn't even know about.
Sounds like every employer there is too!
So my NPD ex had a full psychotic break so yes this is 100% on point.
Exactly! I as an empath did my job for 20 years of marriage to the ex narcissist yet he didn’t do a single thing for me. At the same time I had his narcissist family and my narcissist family constantly abusing me. I with our children were discarded thank God. I went into a clinical depression from exhaustion and narcissistic abuse just before he left. I recovered and worked and raised our kids alone. The ex and his super narcissist parents didn’t speak a word throughout the marriage. I now think that the satanic demon inside the ex had me under a spell to serve him. Then when he left
I was free of him. I finally wiped out the lot just 5 years ago by no contact for life to the ex, his narc family and my narc family. Now it’s just me and my kids and grand kids and my good friends. I love me again and nurture me.
❤ 🌞 💪
Sounds alot like my story. For real. I'm an empath. My ex husband- textbook narcissist. Traumatic experience at the end of my marriage.
Kick me off the Set.
So much I can relate to here in my current situation. Thank you for adding yet another piece to this absurd, insane story I'm living right now. It's encouraging. I appreciate your generosity and courage in putting this stuff out for all of us to experience.
I've heard the most accurate descriptions of what happens from you. Everything is spot on.
"You are the daughter" was the straw that broke the camel's back. I walked away.
@joscampman1583 I realised that she would never, and could never change and my life would become more unhappy and stressful if I stayed. It broke my heart as it wasn't just my mum, it was a whole part of my family who then shunned me. But for the first time in 5 decades I put my own needs first and got help to start healing. I'm in a MUCH better place now. I've found who I was meant to be all along. Away from enmeshment, co-dependency and all the toxicity.
I walked away after being kind to the Narc mom to have her turn around and verbally attack me and my husband. Signs of a Narc, your not good enough, your always wrong
@@audrinastark6154 ❤️
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I've heard that I should obey because I'm younger (I'm 40+ lol). Let them eat their own shit alone.
So accurate, my mom would complain about some random person doing something, then I grew to know that within a week she would be complaining that I did that same thing, even if was totally out character for me and wouldn't make any sense to anyone who knew me. It was one of those major patterns I noticed her doing. What you said about their connection to reality is so true. If she watched a movie even and latched onto a certain character she would start to seem to think I was that character, they really can't tell the difference between reality and fantasy. I thought her apology was sincere because she actually said that she realized over time that she had a false reality in her head. She was what I think of as a late stage narcissist, she came to realize that she had this problem, but it still didn't change her unwillingness to be healthy. I came back into her life and she continued the same exact behaviors except she escalated more quickly this time! Going back into contact with one of these mentally ill people really is enabling their illness because to them it only means that what they did was okay. Like giving a five year old what they want just because they cry and then say they're sorry. Which feels like an insult to 5 year olds, but of course the five year old feels more remorse than the grown adult does and is only an innocent child. These people have the qualities of an undeveloped child and justify this somehow, I think because normal people just continue to put up with it so they don't have to.
Thank you 🙏 for your teachings from Australia 🇦🇺
You have had previous mention to the idea of a “Room 101”. It was brilliant.
As I watched this (and many other of your videos) I am always taken back to that concept in order to understand my role in a mess such as this.
It was a turning point for me.
What's "Room 101"??
@@jangunning1676 Room 101 in George Orwell's 1984 symbolizes a person's deepest and worst possible fears. In the context of a narcissistic relationship, it represents what fears/traumas that may have been hidden. In theory, it is what holds you back from releasing the narcissistic partner fully and forever. Furthermore, the narcissist exploits it to control and manipulate their victim, making it all the more sinister. For healing to occur, the person must confront their personal "Room 101" and face these core fears, ultimately working towards overcoming their self-love deficit and breaking the cycle of abuse.
Oh yeah, my first shocker was my dad doing all of this in one night. It is freaky interacting with someone I thought I lnew. It seems that he can't be in reality anytime he is expected to be honest and have an adult to adult interactions.
I agree Richard at least in my NPDs case
Holy crap FACTS. This is what my mother would do.
This articulation just made so much more of my childhood make sense. Only child raised (micromanaged) by 4 parents/step-parents who all fit the cluster B profile. In one house I was the golden child, and the scapegoat in the other. Punished for falling off the pedastal and mocked for being bright simultaneously was quite a mind trip. Current results are 38, single, childless, isolated but finally at peace.
Now that i have seen it with my own eyes...i believe it
I don't know if you realize you paraphrased the BIG Book of AA? They wanna run the show & they're in full flight from reality with little regard for the damage they cause. Hurricane story. The general public needs to be made more aware of this epidemic.Great clip Richard. ❤
Yes, true re AA. I am a recovered alcoholic but I'm also an empath. Just got out of his movie he was directing. Not a long cast member because I figured him out so he was working on new supply anyway. God love him ♥️ 🙏 I'm praying for him today. From a distance. As I heal myself.
@@terri5624 Bless you're 💓 heart and congratulations! We are definitely not alone, but it can feel like it. That terminally unique, fatally cool brainwashing has destroyed too many. Isn't nice to just be a Human Being? ❤️🌄 ❤️
@PixieCropCircleDuster thank you 😊 it definitely is yes. ❤️
Yes. Please kick me off the set. There is NOTHING worse than them keeping you on the set and continuing the abuse.
Soo not a person to them.
Spot on...I was told about things I'd said to his mum ( died 10 years before we met) , things I'd said to him in work etc and I honestly didn't know if he was being funny or really believed it! More and more it happened, their reality is all askew, mixed up with every situation and supposed ( in their mind alone) reality they've been part of! Scary to be on the receiving end as you worry about a psychotic break being imminent!
Absolutely true. I now realized it's time to direct my own life and kick the actor out of my life.❤
But of course, you were never given the script... 😅
I'll never forget hearing my psychologist tell me that my ex narcissist husband "didn't see me as a person". 4 years later and a lot of work, I now understand what she meant. Richards work has been instrumental in my healing journey.
He kept telling me lies about me TO me! Bonkers!
I used to tell my NPD ex that I'm in a relationship with him and he's in a relationship with himself. Many times I felt like a piece of furniture. He never seemed fully present... and this explains why. And yes, he would accuse me of things that I had never done... things other people had done in the past. Or things HE had done. It's like some evil entity has taken over their body and they're really not in control... the entity is. And it goes in and out of them at will.
They don't live their own truth and try to distort yours along the way.
And when the day comes you’re kicked off the set, REJOICE IN IT!
This really helps in trying to understand them!!! We are a character in their story!!!! 🎉
Yes. Yes. Yes. Sister is this person. Yes.
Nothing new that I hear is shocking to me. It's enlightens me because it's my real reality of what's really going on.
I now fully see that the level of delirium usually directly correlates to one’s ability to accept their own reality for exactly what it is or has been all along
Sadly this is so true that my spouse is actually a budding author and has now gone so far down her rabbit hole that I’m a literal character in her stories that she believes I embody. You cannot be more literal in the sense of story making into reality…it has hurt me so deeply that I’m not the hero she once wrote about in our story together.
So true, they wiped us out from their story it was just about them we were just their supply nothing more. He wiped at our children also as well as me. Their in a dream state, one day they will wake up to reality and find the stage removed and all the characters have walked away.
@@christinav3383 Stay strong we're in a moment where we have to pick up our own pieces off stage - it's tough especially right now cause it's still so raw and going through the sad state of separation as well - with kids also - so it makes it hard to bear but we can get through this if we stay resolute and puzzle our lives back together. Much Love!!
Devaluation stage. Don't be too sad. It's like being in kindergarten and actually caring what they think.
These people create their own movies in their heads! We're all characters in their stories in their heads.They have little or no grasp on reality!
I agree, and I've always felt this way. I felt like a walk on a cameo an appearance.
It is indeed! I’ve being cast in for his mother, his brother, some of his enemies, and what else!
❤Everybody wants to be a Dorector❤
There is a lot of truth in this.
This is so true, the mis-placed acusations.
Now IT has to play the actor role by itself. Such a crazy one man show.
I think they also listen to your reasoning to use it as their own, also direction in what they can get away with ... there truly is thievery for the script because they struggle with their own core identity.
The narcissist parent and add dementia it's absolutely nuts.
They get nicer sometimes
U described my sister. I am 7 years older and through our child hood and my 20’ s every thing seemed wonderful. She was my little sister and I did everything for her. Not sure when this changed. But now I must cut her off. 5 times she stopped talking to me. Always critical, accusatory, and just plain mean. I just want to stop feeling. Stop crying and hurting. Been 8 months now. And still I miss her or the way it was. I know it will never change.
Omg how true, I just wish I had known all this sooner. It’s almost like it was a super slow process that gradually got worse over time. And only until a couple years ago, I had no clue it was narcissistic traits.
My mother is like this. Would randomly come into my room as a child and wake me up to tell me off about something I hadn’t done. Or call me out of the blue to start an argument about a conversation we’d never had.
She also had full on delusions which were explained away as being messages directly from god. Because she’s obviously so special.
I’m in my mid 40s now and have had nothing to do with her for quite a few years. The strangest thing looking back is how normal her behaviour seemed to me, even as an adult. I wouldn’t bat an eyelid at the crazy things she’d say and do. I guess that’s why it’s so easy to fall into abusive relationships when you get older, if you’ve always accepted the batshittery.
100%
💯🎯.
Leaving this one run while I make lunch ❤️💪🔥☯️🖖🦋
I was in a childrens choir. We practice tuesdays and performed sundays in church. And all other days i practised the songs at home, loud. Everywhere. In the bathroom in the hall, at the table everywhere all the time. For 5 years. As a teenager i didnt thing church was cool anymore and quit church and therefore also quited the choir. Then at the age around 16 i once accidently out of habit, sang a song in the bathroom. My mother asked me why i was singing that song. Where did i learn it? Was i mocking or why was i singing it. I said i always liked to sing and liked music a lot for these beautiful melodies
that kept on beeing in my head. I missend the choir and if it wasnt a church choir but any other choir i wouldnt have left it.
She then said: you were never in any choir.
I was flabbergasted. For days i kept on asking her what she meant. But dispite the fact that i had siblings testifying i had really been in that choir: she kept on saying that i had never been in any choir ever, that i was liying. And she never changed that. When i asked: how is it possible all people in this house testify i really was in that choir? Her answer was: i would have remembered if you were in a choir. I do not remember and therefore it didnt happen.
So it was hard to realize as a teenager your mother is outside of reality. I had noticed behore she had different versions of events but this was a complete absense of memory.
It is so strange.
The worst thing is i also dissociate when things i dont want to hear or feel happen, i fly away in my head. Even when they are only small things. So officially i was "emotionally neglected" (CEN) as a child but i now see myself do it. To my horror. I dont take it out on others and not deny it but if anyone has tips how to beat dissociation, please answer in comments. So i sometimes do not feel much my blood pulls out of me and then its hard to remember afterwards. I do remember everything but if its something i dont like the feeling of topic shame is too overwhelming and like a fuse break: everything just blocks. And people think im distand and aloof. Idont want to be. I want to be affectionate and a relatable and have deeper friendshipsand be able to speak in front of people without toxic shame. Just be like anyone else nothing more nothing less
Thanks. I just wish I was able to give a non narc as much attention.
Richard nails it perfectly every time!
Al-Anon. Learn self care no matter what others may do.
I found the confusing me with the ex to be something I’ve experienced. He had so many before me, that I didn’t know about. So it must’ve been easy for him to just pull a rabbit out of his hat so his speak. Yes, it is hard to know that we are not a real person to someone with this disorder. But all those things combined seem to fit psychopathy dissociation, etc. I believe it is the overlapping of all of those things that makes it so dangerous thank you Richard.
They do not know who they are😅
Your eyes kills me!
I have experienced this!!!!!
Oh my goodness, yes, sir!
They might even convolute what constitutes as a relationship, and try to change and influence the criteria for what is.
Their dillusional, completely.
Yes. Very confused and ungrounded. Cannot differentiate.
Oh my God, am I a narcissist?
I used to blame these mixups on her having a few drinks. Lately, the mixups are coming without any drinking. The lack of interest in even trying to get it right was quite a shock. That’s when I realized that what Richard just said here is exactly the way it really is. Everything is split up into many acts in the play. And the acts do not have to match or make sense and neither do the characters.
Thank you so much for this! It is hurtful but it helps so much to get along with experiences with a narz!
this is so on point, i have been going crazy sometimes over this , and you are the first person pointing this out! this is very valuable info - but it has to be experienced, otherwise it sounds like science-fiction ( non-experiencers ) . thank you lots for your work!
You described my ex-wife to a "T"
Divorce was final on the 18th.
I always knew "I wasn't a person"
Thanks for the insight 😊
My Dad was an actor. And when he was playing a role, he would bring that role home. My Mom told him to stop it.
He is right. We are all actor 's on a stage . Either you are the puppet or the puppet master.
Hit the nail on the head here!
Having a narrative
My mother-in-law always did this to my husband. It would infuriate him, but he managed to keep his anger hidden from her when he would tell her that she keeps telling ‘that story wrong’……and she’ll bring it up again, at a later date, at yet another family reunion, claiming that she has the story correctly.
my old friend was this , I cut off all communication
You have some profound understanding of this topic!!!
Just been through this.
You're totally right
Nice way to express it. And Real!
I used to say, "You're talking about the wrong wife!" 😅😅😅. Girl, run...