Narcissistic perspective when you do not block them but do not respond either.
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Always block the narcissist!!
That’s very true. In my particular case the covert narc is my sister. I blocked her number but now she has a new number and texted me with the info. I wasn’t able to prevent that of course but I’d rather her know that I’m deliberately ignoring her. They can’t handle being insignificant so I’m sure it’s almost torture. Works for me.
Using normal relationship advice with a narcissist is like taking a knife to a gunfight. It becomes a do what you must at all cost situation for your own survival.
I moved to another state, and felt a huge weight lifted off me when I did. It took 2 years to stop looking over my shoulder, until I moved. He still texted last year and had someone else call, but I blocked those numbers as well. He's on his third wife so you think he'd be distracted by now.
Don't bet.on it
Your so right ...I ended up fighting for my sanity.no joke ...he nearly took that ..I was drowning head just above the waterline and I only just managed to.stay afloat .Iv never hated someone more.
@@Joshualuv13 I hate my ex narc too. They bring out the worst in normal people like us.
I agree. It's survival! And after many painful years I refuse to walk thru his door one more time. I refuse all communication.
I kept blocking but he kept changing his number and contacting me, I finally had to change my number and I haven't heard from him in a year thank God
Hey, how's it going now? Update? Did he find a way to contact?
Sometimes I feel it's hurtful tp ghost anyone. We can be very clear about our boundaries & reasons or ghosting them...whether they listen or not.
Nope. I block him. I don't want no contact.
I don't need him nor want him. I didn't cry everyday just to be left for someone else and for him to come back and mess with my emotions. He thought wrong.
Exactly...where there's even a remote chance of communication there's always a chance of temptation and relapse ...took me 3 years to finally get there .
Omg I would never relapse with ex narc. Not in a million years. All daughter and me do is milk him every chance we get.
7 years free of the sicko except having to deal with his crap cuz we have 16 yr old daughter.
So true block and keep it moving
He’s absolutely right. I wasn’t strong enough to say no. I would say no but he would manipulate me into a yes. No contact. It’s still hard because being blocked doesn’t stop them but it’s a big step. A lot of people don’t have my number so any time I see a blocked number it gives me anxiety because I know it’s him so I had to block numbers unknown number as well so I don’t even see it until later but unfortunately even though it’s blocked he can still leave a voicemail and sometimes he does. Sometimes it’s unblock me or I need you to call me asap and other times it’s him insulting me. So I’m at the point of changing my number. Good luck with your situation and stay strong.
Change your number then.
Disable your voicemail. Anyone who doesn't reach you can leave a text message.
Living down the street from each other makes it even worse..
When you have a child with them it becomes complicated.
No it doesn’t. Block them & stay away they don’t deserve the child either. They’ll just ruin their life too
My ex narc told me one of the times I discarded and blocked him, that by blocking him he knew that I still had feelings for him.....so in my final discard I simply deleted him from my contacts so I can appear that I am totally indifferent towards him. If he ever reaches out, I just don't respond back.
I didn’t I love watching him talk to himself 😂 it gives me peace ✌️ 😂
When you block someone they can't find you in their browser if they are logged in as them in their social media. That is very helpful for safety.
Continue to stand your ground. . I kept reaffirming the fact that I no longer wanted him to be a part of my life. Even after he offered a fake apology. I accepted the apology and told him that he cannot continue to be a part of my life anymore. Then I asked him to delete my phone number from his phone. Then when he showed up at my house he was asked to leave without any conversation. Overtime he gave up. I've been narc free for over a year now. I believe there's a healthy and constructive way to switch the power dynamic. After all you are dealing with a child mentality in an adult's body.
I thought i was the only one who noticed that they are little crying children inside of an adult body!! I swear its like that with both my parents..🙄😂 its like they forgot to mature first before they had kids
They are like children.
Thank you!
Block and move on
Blocking does nothing, they will just make another account. I know I'm being stalked by a narcissist who doesn't want to leave me alone. In fact the cyber stalking wasn't enough, now she goes to my church to keep her eye on me smh
He would play sick
This is Facts!!! I let my narc ex husband back and he annihilated me!!!!! LEFT ME FOR DEAD, BUT GOD AND HIS MERCY!!!! IM STILL HERE!!!! WON'T LOOK BACK!!!!
Yes block move on..no more torture..just their presence in your orbit is unhelpful toward healing. Do not want their energy close
Mine showed up on my doorstep..
Mine used to do that until I left the state. I’m still in fear that one day he’ll just pop up. Living in fear and anxiety is crippling.
same whether he's blocked or not he'll show up tapping on my bedroom window. last time he left within 10 minutes and sent one text and 4 calls. no response was given
So true. About 3 weeks ago he said his father died. He told me 3 days after the fact. I don’t believe it. It’s hard to confirm because he lives in another country.
People die. That's not your concern. Also, narcs say things that are untrue to get you
Even death of a loved one is a piss poor excuse for a narcissist to lure you back into their presence so as hard as it may be you have to be okay with letting go of loved ones from a distance..
Facts! He just didn't let up! He stalked me, loitered round my flat, rang me persistently (60 times in 80 minutes), texts galore at all hours, even turned up randomly at my work place! OMG. Horrifying! It ended up in Crown Court. He was given a custodial sentence.
He gives me panic attacks
These demons sorry dear
Yes, I understand and it’s the same here. I m hurting myself by thinking about it. He is an abuser
Thanks.
The someone dying is.right.on.point! When my ex was getting exposed as a hobosexual adulterer in counseling he would do two things out of the blue to avoid admission and repentence: First, ask one of the counselors how they felt when their father died and then go on about his own father as if he loved him when he vocalized to anyone who would listen how he hated him while he was alive. Second, he would get up, check the hallway, check the room door, make sure the door locks loudly clicking the lock and then tearfully talk about confidentiality, trustworthiness, betrayal of trust. All this to avoid admission even though there was clear evidence and facts. Bold, no shame.
Thank you for the honest truth!!!
You are welcome
It really does depend on the person. Sometimes blocking will up the ante and they will take it as a challenge, or go on a smear campaign. It's quite a strong statement when sometimes grey rocking and distancing can be less dramatic. I also find the brutality of blocking quite difficult to come to terms with. I guess a part of me still wants things to change and work out.
Block, they won't stop manipulating
Spot on! This is the case. Thank you.
Facts. If I don't take calls then he will text mean things which will cause me to respond. He made a mean comment then followed up with he needed me to watch his kid, wtf
You Dan block his number for voice, i suppose also for SMS, you can block his e-mail. Just Google all those. Anything can be blocked. Except him showing up at your door. I. That case you get a restraining order, but that's not a prevention.
If he Calls you from a new, unknown number, and you happen to pivk up, just close the call and block the number. He will run out of numbers.
Thank you, this happened to me , he did and said the exact things he knew would get to me and make me respond, but I've left again and blocked all the avenues that I know are him but he had so many fake accounts with different names and pictures but I definitely am never letting him back in I promise that !!!!!!!
But I didn't know the first time, I'm still new to the Narrcissist knowledge but everything I know now could have really been life changing for me before the fact and not after though I really do appreciate having this info for the Future !!!!
Thank you, Thank you, Thank you !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Said the Libra Woman
I give him zero fuel. Blocking gives him attention. I post nothing. Not does he have access to my very limited social media. He is also 15 hours away, so it's not been an issue so far. I'm sure his new supplies of the street give him barely enough to get by.
I tried not blocking initially, but that didn’t work out cos as long as they can Hoover back in, you’re always going to be ‘expecting’ his message and that alone is playing his game. I blocked everywhere and that was the best decision ever
That is so true, that's what they think. I just wanted him to stop insulting me for no reason no stop- no conversation just insults. So I blocked him everywhere and even his private number. I think he gave up.
Thank you for this. I didn't realize this. I thought as well I was testing my own strength bye not totally blocking him. I Unfriended him and took myself off relationship status all together, 2 yrs ago. He still has me as being in a relationship with him. I keep telling him to take it off but he won't.
Thats creepy. I hope you have yourself hidden on all accounts. I have mine setup so my ex cannot even find me, and unfriended his friends and privatized my accounts so he cannot vicariously view my account through them. I would keep that information known to your family and friends in case something comes up. Because that not just creepy but I think a violation of some kind. You would think if you unfriend someone they can't hold that status with you. Facebook needs better creep-proofing. Stay safe ❤️🙏❤️
Well if you keep telling him anything then you’re obviously not going no contact and you’re violating your own boundary. Regardless if it’s creepy or not; it doesn’t matter. Stop worrying about what he is doing or not doing and focus on yourself.
Maybe if you block him on FB then maybe he can't be "in relationship" with you. Then you can have a friend test what the result is on the ex's profile.
Perhaps even Google might give you the answer to what happens in this case. Without having to test it in real life.
I'm doing this now. she can see and like my social. and everytime she reaches out i greyrock her and now I've even cut the reactive abuse back, out. I see why no contact is better... and now I see how this relationship might as well have been with a hard drug, I just can't seem to drop her and never look back.
Not all Narrisst text Alot of them silent treatment you the whole relationship but will talk to you from time to time but when you realize who they are and start texting them the will actually text back two words and blame you and when you text them back alot they will never respond
As i passed the bar exsam and started to work as a lawyer, my ex bf narcissist wrote to me message on Facebook. I just said: if u write to me message again i will give all documents to the public prosecutor as proofs that u dont pay taxes for ur firm u have and i will put u in jail.
He never again wrote to me message 😊😁
Yay, good one!
Love it!
I had one ex bf, who's not exactly a narc, but he's someone who's too "currageous" in Business ans cane close to bankruptcy, then fled the country. He ows me abd some people money.
One day, a few years later, he reached out by sending me a LinkedIn invitation.
I got so agitated that i wrote him back immediately to: never reach out to me again, to delete all m contacts abs forget he ever even knew me. Well, unless he's decided to pay me back my money. I never heard from him again.
But a few years later again I met him in a shopping mall and looked trough it. Another time i ran into him twice in the sane day with his new family. We didn't know eachother.
Very good
Why block someone? It shows that u care. Don't do shit. Concentrate on yourself, just mute them. Don't be emotional:) It's not gonna help
Correction. HE needs to be careful
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Facts!!!
Hes popping up ost like crazy
Very true
I understand why blocking is necessary as hard as it is. I wasn't good with blocking because I would find it so harsh and eventually unblock. I stopped responding for a week and this is exactly what happened and I felt tempted to respond or even look out for the messages even though I would ignore. With me it does take time in order to stick to but it's dangerous to keep that open because you could end up being sucked back in before you know it.
I did that and i regretted it. He created a huge drama btw me and his new supply. He was telling her that i was running after him, possessive and crazy haha shy i didn't block this clown
I blocked mine...he had the cops calling me and showing up at my house...the police charged me with uttering threats...now I got to go to effing court. Fml...it never ends.
Yes they will everything to get your reaction so make sure you block every angle they can contact you. If you have children with you find a way to get a third party to transfer the kids so you don't have to deal with them personally. If you have to deal with them make sure you meet in a public like a mall or a police station to transfer your child or children lastly ask the court to get a restraining order against them or change the court or for access for your child like i did. They can't take rejection period.
My children ate his step children he would try to go through my kids so I blocked him from their phones then he started going through my kids friends. So yeah they will do anything.
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It’s so hard to block him. Today, he texted me and I purposely didn’t respond. Then 2 hrs later he called, I picked up. When will I have the strength to stop?. A while ago I was trying and succeeding and he actually said “I love it when you play hard to get”
@@Anastasia11101 Thank you, you really encouraged me
What happens when the narcissist see you with someone new?
You don’t want them knowing your stuff.
An ex of mine who does this / contacts me when our old mutual friends die to open the line of communication - 15-20 years later.
Then he posts coded messages with my birthday in them that would put me down or call me out on not contacting him back… it just shows the maturity level I’m glad I got away from.
He doesn’t need to see pics of the kids I have with the imperfect, yet dedicated husband who makes me so happy.
Nope. He does not need to know their names. He doesn’t need to know what I made for dinner for my family… or where we might be staying.
There is a level of manipulation that is chilling.
Keep that as far from your future and your present as possible. For your own good.
Remember:
It’s not about love or care of feelings of warmth and generosity or helpfulness.
It’s about control.
Over you.
You wanna give them access?
A foothold back into your world?
My new friend (reached out to me because she also dated the narc) will not block him. She let's his messages come through and ignores them. It's getting on my nerves because I wonder if she secretly wants him back. I definitely do NOT but it gives me pause...
Nartistic ex will get upset either way media or in person u just stand ur grounds. Ex will greive over u tell they lose interest and move on they know they can't control u and ur not interested their bullshit.
Block he tried to get back and its dangerous to you and your life xx
Im tryin to figure out what is on your shirt.
Haha me too!
On the other hand, my STBX doesn't post very much on social media: at least not the accounts I know about. She may have other accounts under false names for all I know.
I don't care what a narc thinks...He tried the death in family.....Nooooo
My ex narcissist was blocked on all levels. I guess he has my mom's number. My mom got a text from him saying he has Cancer. ...... really... 👎
When the abusive person is your Son how do you walk he pressed me when over the boundaries if disrespect I told him he 48hr it was not my intent to put him out I snapped because I been enduring his narriccistic abuse until breaking point I literally couldn't handle the abuse he has been gone 5 days no remorse but he won't respond to the text so 1 day have not communicated with him I'm tired of feeling guilty lies upon lies then I got angry it honestly feels it's gets a charged out seeing me angry I don't agree with my male friend b he flips the script after I stay calm pushes the boundaries
makes me so angry I literally have gotten sick it's affecting my health I have had a migraine for 2 days I feel he staying silent figuring out a way to manipulate Ai called him out on the abuse
his silence in his mind his punishing me at this point I have to protect myself if allow him back in my home he is holding resentment because I stated you have been gone for5 days so I can only feel you found another residence I told to come & pick up property no response he is going to text when I'm lease expect it if attempts can't allow him back because the longer each day is the more anger is building on me because of his abuse now feel he will cause me harm because it's been 7 days part of me feels he may act remorseful step over threshold
I had enough after 5 days no call to let me know what's going on you are gone for days I'm so suppose accept walk over me I'm suppose to just accept the abuse just let you constantly harm me? You reels advice is the only solace
If keep accepting then worse can happen In now after all these yrs watched the show snapped you can pushed over the edge if you ignore the red flags unfortunately harsh reality hit like ton of ton of bricks unfortunately for me because I literally can't handle this pain💕
Is your son a minor? You should call family services for advice. I feel your pain. My daughter was getting abusive and it raises your BP and I actually got out of breath with all her anger and fearing the propensity. Family services came cuz she made a false claim and it backfired on her. They told her I can call the police next time and she'll be taken to juvenile jail. I'm not a Jerry Springer drama person to call the police but they put the scare in her and thank God she's been somewhat better and Prozac has helped her to not start the anger tantrums. So tough when it's your kid so I hear ya.
What if to respond to the narcissist something like this - "here's an email address of my lawyer. From now on I won't communicate with you anymore and I'll block you everywhere. If you want to talk to me, communicate through my lawyer"
So, is it a good or bad idea?
Don’t work. I did the same. I have even signed divorce papers and all he has to do is sign but he won’t. I’ve had my lawyer contact him and he acted like he wanted the divorce when he spoke to my lawyer. So my lawyer set a time to meet him to have him sign he was a no show. My later tried to reach him about the no show and he wouldn’t answer his phone or call him back. It doesn’t stop them. They will find another way. Maybe a protective order will work but the system failed me. The judge said that she didn’t believe I was afraid of him.
@@leeannecollins2769 thank you for your response! I'm absolutely not surprised at his behavior:((( I wish you to find a successful solution to your problem! Don't stop! You WILL DO it!!!
i just had to remove and block someone that was crazy they own guns and lose thier memory during thier episodes i do not like doing things like this being mean to people its extremely painful to do this to people
What about people who basically don't put any effort in. Like at all even after no contact.
Hey! I blocked him on my phone, but the calls enter when they're private calls. I get about 10 private calls a day and it makes me very anxious. Anyone know a good phone blocking service for android? The ones I've used don't help blocking at all and the calls keep coming through 😭
Report him to the police for harassment. Thats enough to do it. It may be enough to get an order to cease and dissist but you may have to see a judge its a pain in the arse. Be safe!!
@@evonne315 thank you so much! ❤️ God bless!
Change your number.
Number and address change
What about when you have a child in common, legally cannot block them because of it due to family court? Whats their view when you dont respond then?
I have a question . If you decide to pull away and give them their space. You no longer interact with them text them or call them. Does that mean that you have decided to move on. Because this is kind of confusing. It seems like both people do this to each other and it becomes a loop. How do you break the cycle?
I don't really care anymore I have other things going on now & he is a fraud & a clown to me now. I stay busy & I don't really have time to entertain him or watch the show😅
No texing ever
No way in hell
What's the first step to get away of you live with the person
Make an escape plan.
This doesn’t happen if your narc has a new partner.
@@veebliss1266 I guess I got lucky. So sorry to hear yours is still harassing you. I hope you can find a way to disappear and he can’t find you. If you have kids together it might be hard to do. My heart goes out to you.
@@juliepatchouli3944 no kids so glad it didn’t happen I can imagine it’s only worse with them , thank you for the support