NARCISSISTIC GASLIGHTING TACTICS
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- Опубліковано 6 кві 2024
- #narcissismawareness #narcissisticgaslighting Learning about specific methods of gaslighting and finding ways to see them for what they are can be a huge step forward in our healing from narcissistic abuse.
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I was definitely not perfect. My main mistake was staying in the relationship and putting up with years of abuse.
Same here except only a year and a half. After we learn, not even a day and a half would happen. Vulneribilty is their target.
Don’t blame yourself. What I’ve done is just apologize to my old self for putting me in that situation and moved on. They are shiftless demons, it’s not our fault.
Calculated, manipulative lying with the intent to shift reality. You are a gem!
34 yrs of this. At the end he said “I hold you COMPLETELY responsible for the state of our marriage. Yes, I contributed to it but it’s all your fault. I will never forgive you for what you’ve done to bring us to this point. WE need to work on this but YOU need to make changes and I don’t mean in the future , I mean NOW! We don’t need to be having this same convo 2 weeks from now, understand?”. Yeah, two weeks later I was gone and filing for divorce. I saw, truly, with such clarity it scared me. I knew I had to get out quickly or it was going to escalate even more. I would have been a complete prisoner. He lost his mind at the end and thought he could scare me into staying. WRONG!
Thank you!!!!! My narcissist definitely makes it a "we" problem to my face, but then makes it a "me" problem when I'm not around.
I just opened perfume my npd sister gave me and bottle was beautiful and i'm on an antidepressant which seems to have made me feel a lot better, she gave me Tommy Hilfiger costume too, i thought i should unblock her, but then i listened to this and thought better of it, its like you said, they never tell truth and gaslighting and abuse would continue, i didn't speak tonher for 6 months, she was lovely at first then the constant putting me down started again and when i confronted her, she just got angry and berated me!❤❤ It is hard because i don't want it to be like this!❤❤×❤
This is so true ! Namaste crazy making , gaslighting , double standards , hypocritical behavior plus silent treatment , gossiping behind my back .
Thank you ! As always you are spot on !
Said no narcissist ever: you’re right 🫡🇺🇸🦅
Thank you! The flying monkeys called me to tell me I hurt the narcissist abuser. And... after 20 years of me trying, I should have given them one final ultimatum. And then if they are abusive.... "then" leave.
Thank you behind the mirror lady. You helped me free myself from my abuser. I am eternally grateful🤗
My mother in law is a flying monkey. It's like living in hell.
The narcissist I dealt with would also never take responsibility by using the "we" thing, even if trying deflect from themselves and use it to get you to accept responsibility for what you didn't do. Though I can see how some may because mine definitely uses the we for a lot of other things.
An excellent tutorial into a dynamic that denies all logic. Imo the hurdle to cross is acknowledging that yes, there are a subset of humans whose whole survival depends on predation both minor and major. The mind understands that yes this exist but not seeing the camouflage. An analogy could be why we stop at stop signs and red lights. (Except the narc driver, weve all seen that.) We learn quite early that is avoiding an extreme danger. After becoming even moderately knowledgeable in this spectrum of manipulation you now stop automatically any toxic leaning interaction. No explanation will be needed because its caught so early no one , not even a narc would assume they could question your self care actions. If they do just say "my personal self care". It will blow their mind...That's all that is necessary and begin your no contact journey.
You are soooo awesome!!!!!!!! I think you should get a billion Nobel prizes!!!!! It's like they want us to believe our brain doesn't work....👍❤❤❤
The term has always bothered me and I had a hard time understanding it, I prefer the term "lying". It's normally applied to a situation. They say "abc" then when they refer back they claim they said "xyz" while trying to convince you you're remembering it wrong. It's just lying. It's also re-writing history and reality. Ultimately you either allow them to re write reality or you don't interact with them. Those are the only two choices they give you.
I’ve been saying this for decades. People want to have industry specific terms not realizing that lay people may not understand. This is a large part of why the abuse going unchecked. Call a thing a thing. They are liars.
Gaslighting is lying the same way armed robbery is just stealing. There is a reason we use a specific term.
@@LookingBehindtheMirror ahh okay. I think maybe the point I've missed is that it's a deliberate attempt to change reality or make the other person think they are crazy. As you point out, it is far worse than just a lie. Your insight on these topics is so good. You're one of the best channels out there. Thank you for taking the time to run your channel.
@@daft4682psychopaths gaslight, it is intentional. Narcissists confabulate as you have kind of stated 👍
Then you have comorbidities complicating things.
The term gaslighting is indeed overused when describing narcissism.
As much as I agree with what you’re saying, gaslighting is actually much more insidious and manipulative than simply lying is. Anyone can be manipulated within the ‘right’ conditions. (That’s essentially how all cults originated) 😌
Aww 🥰 your doggie is so adorable, and is perfect 🐶❤ I always appreciate your videos I feel so vindicated and not alone 🥰
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FANTASTIC info. Thank you!!!
Thank you !
Do you have any videos regarding how/when you/we can know the trauma bond has broken or is breaking?
Thank you!
Even gangstalking or network stalking??