I can genuinely say I never felt like a “woman” in my adult life until I started to dress modestly! It makes me feel extremely confident, beautiful, classy, and feminine. It was really amazing to me!
I would add that dressing modestly has allowed me to be more comfortable around boys haha. I don't have to worry about them looking where I don't want them to. I like that dressing modestly allows me to maintain some feminine mystery :)
*The idea of "modesty" is an absolute joke. God created us to be fully naked with NO SHAME and it was only when we started playing our own game that we started viewing our bodies as disgraceful. 99% of clothing has nothing to do with trying to be provocative, it's just the person wearing what makes them comfortable. Clothing does not influence bad actions, immoral character does.*
The idea of feminine mystery is a good one. Certain parts of your body are meant to be hidden and only reserved for your spouse. And among spouse’s, it is also good not to show the intimate parts all the time. This will help to ensure that things do not become boring during intimacy.
@@starhunter9085 ur right, God originally created for us to be unashamed in our bodies, but humans ruined that when they sinned, so now because there's sin in the world, until the second coming of Christ we need 2 be modest in our clothing
I’ve recently decided to dress modestly and I’ve never felt more beautiful. I feel more confident and feminine. I’ll never go back to dressing overtly sexy. I even removed any photos that were too sexy from my Instagram. Great video!
*The idea of "modesty" is an absolute joke. God created us to be fully naked with NO SHAME and it was only when we started playing our own game that we started viewing our bodies as disgraceful. 99% of clothing has nothing to do with trying to be provocative, it's just the person wearing what makes them comfortable. Clothing does not influence bad actions, immoral character does.*
@Edanna Poudrier politeness and courtesy don't matter when under the veil you are putting down other people. But, now she's the one just bringing it on herself.
The thing with dressing modestly, is that if you have a large chest or hips and or a naturally curvy body it's a challenge. These traits will be visible regardless. The baggiest of mens shirts cant cover that up. And if you dress in mens clothes you look 30lbs heavier. Turtlenecks and crew necks actually make my chest look larger than wearing a v-neck. Long skirts are nice if you're tall enough and they fit well and dont make you look boxy. With dress shirts the buttons pop open, gap, or they don't even close to begin with. Even a basic tee can look 'inappropriate' if you have a large chest. I got in trouble in like 7th grade for wearing a scoop neck t-shirt because taller boys could look down my shirt and my chest came in already. Later in life, this whole thing made it super hard to get dressed for work and my boss still made inappropriate comments about me. In a button down and trousers no less. Personally for me, clothes in general are hard to shop for to be modest but wellfitted not baggy, shapeless, or frumpy. I've struggled constantly and continue to struggle with it.
This comment! Its so true. I've always had that issue even dressing modestly for church or work. My chest has always been big, and my measurements have always been hourglass. Anything I wear automatically turned "sexy". People just need to wear what makes them happy.
Exactly! I have a tiny frame, 30 around the rib cage, 32 inch hips, tiny everything- and then my chest is at least DD. That’s the smallest size I can wear. Nearly everything is hard to wear and it not be showy because it’ll fit everywhere except my chest.
I definitely recommend getting some of your clothes tailored. I too am still trying to dress my hourglass body in a professional way. I’ve found that the traditional cut of clothes does not work for most people. Shirts and dresses often have to be taken in at the waist to cover what they have to without adding additional weight. Pants almost always have to be adjusted somewhere so that they will go over the hips without falling down at the waist or giving a muffin top. If you’re concerned with the view from a v-neck, you might consider using accessories to draw the eyes elsewhere. Belts can draw the eyes down enough to make your shape look taller, scarves can either cover the chest or draw attention up to the neck, and jewelry can make the cut of your shirt seem higher than it is. That way, you don’t have to be suffocated or misrepresented in your size, but you can still keep eyes naturally further away from your most voluptuous features. Ultimately, the choice is yours, and some things will never really change regardless of what you wear, but if it really bothers you that your clothes aren’t designed for you, there are ways to take that matter into your own hands.
I don’t dress very modestly, but not extremely immodest either, but the way it was titled seemed very non-judgements. Great video, doesn’t shame not dressing modestly and doesn’t shame anyone.
Point 3 about not having to worry about the dress code holds especially true when you're traveling. You won't need to worry about looking offensive when dressing unsuitably for the culture's standards or when you visit beautiful cathedrals :) Great points in this video
*The idea of "modesty" is an absolute joke. God created us to be fully naked with NO SHAME and it was only when we started playing our own game that we started viewing our bodies as disgraceful. 99% of clothing has nothing to do with trying to be provocative, it's just the person wearing what makes them comfortable. Clothing does not influence bad actions, immoral character does.*
I'm soon 17, and I love modest clothing. My mom supports me fully, which is amazing, but I really find it hard to find modest clothes in stores, I need to look from the internet or other special places for them! I'm not religious or anything, I just like modest clothing. Oh, and earthy colors! Simple, old-ish clothing really makes me feel good! And no, anyone on my family has never even tried to hint that I should wear modest life.
girl same. i'm 17 and ppl think my dad forces me bc he's muslim🙄i love to dress modestly, it's simple and stylish, it's not bc my dad is religious what's wrong w/ ppl
*Read your Bible and you'll see it says that God created us nude with no shame. This was because in God's ideal world, we embrace our bodies as a physical reflection of God's spirit. God is an artist and we're His art 🎨 therefore, when you embrace yourself, you embrace Him. The reason Adam and Eve immediately hated themselves after they sinned and covered themselves is because they, in sinning, turned away from God and therefore turned away from themselves since their bodies reflected God. God didn't give them clothes because He chose to and He was "covering us in His glory"; that entire context was telling us about how we fell out of His glory. Clothing only came into play when shame, brokenness, evil, and sin did meaning that it's a symbol of these things and the broken bond between God and man. Being ashamed of your image is being ashamed of God's and He didn't create us to be ashamed of His masterpiece and bury it down to where nobody can see it, He created us to display our art in a museum and be happy when someone gazes upon our beauty. That's why people like David, Esther and Isaiah all got elevated when they did this but Vashti, Micah and Isaiah's critics, who bashed them for it, got kicked to the curve. That's also why people today, who flaunt their bodies, make it big while people who bash them fade into nothing.*
@@starhunter9085 That's kind of sweet, but I'm not a Christian! I'm Wicca, actually!! I'm not ashamed of my body, I just prefer to cover up! It makes me feel more comfortable, and safe!
I started wearing dresses and skirts below the knee full-time since 2005 and I remember that feeling that Alethea mentioned. I felt more myself, more comfortable in who I am. It was a blessing. I, to this day, get compliments from all different types of people!
I've recently begun dressing modestly (in the last 1.5 years) and these are among my reasons for doing so. It's not often that I come across other women who also dress modestly where it isn't tied to religion, men, or the scrutiny of others. It's refreshing to find someone else who is non-judgemental and doesn't center others as her reason for modesty.
I was the same way when I was 16 I wanted to dress way my friends were dressing. They were crop tops, booty shorts and short dresses. I couldn’t wear those because my grandmother was and still is very old fashion( she was a young adult in the 1960’s) . I was awkward and self conscious about my body and my friends had boyfriends and I didn’t. The 25 year old me started dressing modestly mainly as a test to see if guys would respect me and be interested in me more if I wasn’t showing a lot of skin. I met my husband that same year. We’ve been married for three years now( I’m 28 going on 29) I love dressing modestly. My husband loves it and I feel sexy in my modest clothes. I know every girl likes to dress differently but I prefer the 28 year old modest me versus the 16 year old me.
I dress modestly and I love it. It doesn't necessarily make me feel more feminine, (I'm not big on that, I wear mostly graphic t's and other unisex or men's attire) but it sure as heck does boost my confidence level to dress in something comfortable and that I know I look good in.
I like your honesty....I also in my heart of hearts think modesty is actually correct but have been heartily pissed off by the judgemental (whether intentional or not) attitudes and blame and shame culture surrounding it (often voiced by genuine, well meaning people). So thanks, it's nice to hear this from someone normal who doesn't seem Victorian
awww, yes I think shame is what turns a lot of people away. Imperfect people will preach in imperfect ways. I pray I'm constantly growing in coming off loving in my convictions.
*Read your Bible and you'll see it says that God created us nude with no shame. This was because in God's ideal world, we embrace our bodies as a physical reflection of God's spirit. God is an artist and we're His art 🎨 therefore, when you embrace yourself, you embrace Him. The reason Adam and Eve immediately hated themselves after they sinned and covered themselves is because they, in sinning, turned away from God and therefore turned away from themselves since their bodies reflected God. God didn't give them clothes because He chose to and He was "covering us in His glory"; that entire context was telling us about how we fell out of His glory. Clothing only came into play when shame, brokenness, evil, and sin did meaning that it's a symbol of these things and the broken bond between God and man. Being ashamed of your image is being ashamed of God's and He didn't create us to be ashamed of His masterpiece and bury it down to where nobody can see it, He created us to display our art in a museum and be happy when someone gazes upon our beauty. That's why people like David, Esther and Isaiah all got elevated when they did this but Vashti, Micah and Isaiah's critics, who bashed them for it, got kicked to the curve. That's also why people today, who flaunt their bodies, make it big while people who bash them fade into nothing.*
This is my life. I used to dress flashy but lately as I'm approaching my 30s I started dressing very modest. Honestly I like dressing like this and it helped me to focus on my career. I usually rotate my suits or I wear just black work pants, black button down shirt with comfy cardigan with black loafers. I replaced my chanel purse with a backpack. I feel my best with this outfit but people are extremely critical and tell me that I need to change how I dress. I am tired of hearing advice from others
Thank you thank you thank you for talking about the sexual assault museum -- it's a real slap in the face for people who say "if you're dressed immodestly you're asking for it" and you express yourself so eloquently instead of descending into rage (like I do)
Literally everything you said was so true! This is my second video of your and I subscribed after the first one. I related so much to this as a Christian teenage girl. I'm trying to be more intentional about dressing modestly (especially since I need a wardrobe update anyway) and this channel (and you) are such a gift from God. Anyway long story short thank you soooo much!!!!!!!
Me too. My cousins try to get me to wear tight things, saying no guy will ask me out but I dress modestly because i feel comfortable in long skirts and dresses
hey, in case their comments do bother you, I just want to say this- I've dressed against the norms all my life, nowadays I choose modesty. It stands out a lot, so yes, it gets attention. If you stay strong, one day the comments will just feel like jokes and you will be able to brush them off with a light heart.
thank you for not shaming other women for what they wear or just natural things that happen to most people(cellulite, acne). and i’m super grateful that you touched on victim blaming. i definitely do not dress modestly but i enjoy watching videos from both sides, and unfortunately i’ve seen a few women basically victim blaming and saying that men “cant help but sexualize women in short/tight clothing. once again, thank you!!
I like this much more than Classically Abby and Girl Defined because you seem like a real person and are just being chill and having a conversation with us.
One young girl I talked with on UA-cam that Embraced long skirts and dresses all the time said she has more self-respect and self-worth. And guys respect her more.
The more covered up I am the more comfortable I am too! So funny, because before coming to God I was the opposite. His redemptive nature is so so good.
I find it very difficult to dress modestly and still be attractive due to my large chest. There are so many things that would look cute and modest on someone else's body, but looks like a hooker on me. Lol I've learned to deal with it and find fashion that makes me feel good about myself, but it can be a challenge.
Stephanie Casper thanks for the tip. My problem is that tailoring is pretty expensive, and I’m bad at doing it on my own. Also, my standards of modesty are just not as strict anyway so I don’t really mind, it’s just I sometimes clash with my mom. Thanks though x
EVERYONE dress how you want to dress, cloth you put on your own damn body doesn’t determine how much respect you deserve and the worth you have as a human being. edit: if you genuinely feel happy dressing modestly i support you 100% but don’t use that as a act to shame other ppl who aren’t
Gumball 4870 Calm your tits she did a excellent job on her video but I love the message that the UA-camr and what the person that wrote this comment conveys 😌
It does not determine how much respect you deserve but it does determine how much respect you're going to get on the first meeting and thats just the harsh reality
I like your tone and how you spoke for yourself instead of telling people what they should do. Very well spoken. I also like how you referred to current studies so people can check things out for themselves. It was eye opening even for me and I grew up very conservatively as you did.
I’m not religious at all - & I was fully expecting this to be another girl defined brainwashed video, but this was so refreshing! It was so interesting hearing why you prefer dressing ‘modestly’ (I hate that way of describing it too) & it was so nice you weren’t trying to force your opinion in aggressive way like so many people do! I thought it was so fab you mentioned the what were you wearing exhibition as it completely shatters the whole ‘if you don’t dress modestly you are encouraging assault to happen’ narrative. I’m pleased you feel most comfortable dressing modestly instead of feeling like you have to - even though I personally really enjoy dressing ‘not modestly’ it was cool to hear your opinion 🥰
I was raised tremendously strict as a preacher’s daughter. I still dress modestly. Your clothing would not be “modest” according to our religious standards as your dress is tight and your dresses/shorts are short. They would freak out. lol I love how you dress. A beautiful way of being more modest.
Love this video, I’m subscribing. I came from a Christian home growing up, and I have since left Christianity but one thing I am glad I learned from my time in the church was dressing modestly. I feel like I get more respect, especially from my friends who are much older than me. I LOVE feeling comfortable all the time, never having to worry about wardrobe malfunctions, etc. but I think the thing I love the most is that, ironically, dressing modestly actually makes me stand out (I live in South Florida). I also think dressing modestly has allowed me to stay close with my male friends- because their girlfriends are less threatened by me since they know I’m not showing my body around their boyfriends. I also wear full coverage bottoms, while everyone else here my age wears thong bikinis. I wore one twice, and the number of men staring at my ass truly enraged me. I get angry when men stare at me. That is honestly the greatest benefit and the main reason I usually dress modestly- I HATE when people stare. I’m ranting. Anyway great video 😂
Thank you. I'm old enough to be your grandmother (or close to old enough) and dressing modestly is the most comfortable, confidence building way to clothe yourself. After a lifetime of wearing modest clothes that are reasonably fashionable, I can't imagine myself ever doing anything else. I appreciate your well considered video.
These are all reasons why I usually dress modestly, don’t get me wrong I’d like to wear some “sexier” things sometimes but I just feel uncomfortable when I do for pretty much all of the reasons she stated. Much more confident dressing modestly. Can’t stand wearing tight clothes.
This is a great video! I moved to a primarily Orthodox Jewish neighborhood a few years ago and it made me much more aware of what I wear; initially I wanted to be considerate of my neighbors modesty values, but almost immediately I realized that I felt better about myself inside and outside. Another side effect, I've been sewing since I was 6 and while I've always loved making my own clothing, I became more creative and began noodling with immodest clothing and sewing it into something unique and "me." People are surprised when they ask where I got my dress and I explain that I bought a cheap spaghetti strap dress and a fat quarter or two, maybe add some lace, and I wind up with a super nifty outfit!
Great video I love dressing modestly it does give you more confidence you actually forget everyone around you and when you do then you know you're doing it right. Tnank you
I completely agree with all of this. I used to dress incredibly immodestly (which wasn’t necessarily a bad thing), but now that I dress modestly I feel SO much more comfortable & better about myself honestly
Great video! I am enjoying dressing more feminine which naturally includes classy and modest attire and I'm loving it! I grew up in Phoenix too and just moved to Denver a year ago. Also wanted to add, great editing in this video 😍
I did not realise how negative my inner voice was until I tried to branch out with my style. I was raised fundamentalist Christian. Even though I am a non religious adult the modesty standard that was set for me growing up is hard to shake. I am also about 6'0 tall so clothing can be a struggle. I am currently reevaluating my fashion choices. For years I would look at clothes and think "how much of me does this cover?" "how much of me can I hide?" What does that say about my self worth? Now I'm looking at clothes and challenging those thoughts by instead asking " how does this make me feel?" "is this me?" regardless if it is modest.
I came here prepared to write a whole paragraph on why women shouldn't slut-shame each other and why the way we dress should be tailored to what makes us comfortable, but I found myself pleasantly surprised on how respectful you where to all forms of dress, and how kind your opinions where. It made me both happy and angry. Happy, because I like it when people are kind, and angry because of how low my opinions have fallen.
Honestly, I admire your willingness to say this online. Idk where exactly I fall in this debate, but I always see people yelling a point online and loudly agreeing/disagreeing with a video in the comments section without actually listening to the video. I appreciate that you watched all the way through and interacted with the thoughts presented in a rational way even though it seems that you disagree with her stance. Your level-headedness is helping to restore my faith in humanity.
@@stephaniecasper7578 I agree with a lot of her points and disagree with others. I just like to know all the facts before I form an opinion, because being irritated (ironically enough) irritates me, and there's no point in being irrational and making someone feel bad just because you disagree with them. Feelings aren't facts, and with such a nuanced subject as the way people dress, no single person is right or wrong. Clothing is a form of self expression, and as long as what the person is expressing isn't offensive, i don't really care. I personally dress modestly, but that's just because where I live, it's kinda unsanitary so like... wearing long skirts/pants to protect oneself from the semi-sentient life-forms on the costco benches always sounds like a good idea lol.
I like this wayyyy more watchable than unmentionable nuisance that keeps popping up EVERYWHERE. You didn't attack people or force your beliefs on anyone.
I'm a young Christian, homeschooled girl who wants to dress modestly some days. But sometimes after I fight with my parents or they scold me, I don't want to in the moment. Then, dressing modestly feels like a cage made by my parents instead of something I choose because sometimes my father can be a bit too strict. I don't know how to balance it all because sometimes I want to because of the reasons you listed in addition to some others but I also feel smothered by rules sometimes. Idk if anyone will see this comment but I don't know what to do.
I should say, I did have a sleazy male neighbor harass me for dressing modestly. He told me he wanted to see my body. To wear something else. As if it was his right! I barely know him. So I bought some GIANT abayas and wear them just to get my mail. In defiance of this older neighbor who was a teenager back when they referred to women as "broads." I would like all women to be free and feel free to dress in whatever way makes them happy and feel like themselves (when you are on your own time). Whether you feel attractive and confident dressing sexy or covered up, you should not have to endure harassment or be afraid. If you dress sexy for a boyfriend on your arm: Congratulations for landing a man in this day and age! You have done the impossible, and I'm very happy for you. Be proud. You're a superhero. For the readhead girl: I also cover up for sun protection. Especially in the eyeball-burning summer heat here in Las Vegas, NV. I met a young woman once who wistfully lamented that she could wear pink every day. She didn't feel it would be socially acceptable. I encouraged her to do it anyway. I said there are so many shades of pink, she could make it look like a completely different color everyday. Baby pink, orange-pink, peachy-pink, rose/mauve, lavender-pink, purple-pink, etc. I hope she is out there happily and defiantly wearing pink each day of her life! We ladies just can't seem to win when it comes to clothing. No matter who we are, our age (cause MGTOW says I'm too old at 54 to be considered attractive), or our body type. I'm sad for the large-busted ladies commenting on here that there's no way to hide it, and they get scrutinized and criticized. While as a smaller-busted female, I felt societal pressure to get breast augmentation when I was young, and that pressure is still out there. After watching "Botched," I'm glad I never did it. I don't think it's really about our clothing. Maybe it's time we accepted that it's a set-up. Do men go through any of this? Are we just being punished and abused for being "Female"?
I love your "arguments" for modesty, because it keeps out religion (which I, as an atheist often find very unnerving xD) and just focuses on really good points. My clothing style is most often quite covered but still "sexy"in the sense of "oh, its a bodycon outfit, highwaisted jeans, tight turtleneck and a belt around the waist" or something like that, but im not into showing a lot of skin, exactly because its just soooooo uncomfortable
I think comfort and confidence really blend here. My first rule of dressing isn't modesty per say, it's just that before without clothing in a fitting room or in my bedroom I am usually at peace with my body and it's way of inhabiting the world, but put on clothes and I feel exposed! it's so easy to be thrown off-center. Dressing immediately sets my body in a context and prescribes which ideals my body is measured against. If my clothing makes me paranoid about body movement or troubled because it immediately fits wrong or creeps up when my weight fluctuates, If tightness is holding my body in and puts all my lumps and bumps out there, I die a little inside and I won't have it. I tend not to think of my clothing choices in terms of modesty, because being actually sexually appealing in clothing to some degree reminds me that whatever my breast and belly size I have a sexual self that can work in the right clothing visually. That me-sized, adjustable, comfy clothing that suits my idea of reasonable sexuality and doesn't need to be altered is rare, though. I have a lot of heartache from things that I leave in fitting rooms and things I probably should have. Modest clothing has all the same creativity and feminine fun and tends to be more forgiving and travel better, not only into a business wardrobe, but between seasons, since I live in a place that gets serious autumns and winters.
I like how logical and universal you made this video about modesty (aka not based on your personal spiritual beliefs). As a non-believer I still greatly value modesty. As a classical orchestra musician I work in a field still dominated by men, and I came to the conclusion that modesty is not only comfortable and practical, but also speaks of seriousness and self respect in the eyes of the general public, so as a consequence colleagues treat you in a respectful manner. I don't say all women who dress immodestly lack self respect (which in opinion means showing their private parts), but I have enough male friends to notice how they treat and speak about women who dress too revealing vs women who don't. Sometimes the bros are hilariously disgusting🤣 and it's entirely under our control if we want that kind of attention or not. Unfortunately modest outfits don't protect us entirely from being assaulted in any way, but the probability is much lower in less revealing clothes. (For example I can't go out without being catcalled in a tight mini skirt, but I can if I am just wearing a midi skirt - as sad this is, it's true.)
I appreciate all of the thought you’ve put in to both sides of the spectrum, and as a mom who homeschool three kids and is a conservative Christian, I also see things from your mom’s point of view (as well as yours). I also watched your video on your vision for this channel and so appreciate the heart behind it and wanting to help teenagers, while being saddened that you felt abnormal at church. I’m so very sorry that happens... it is deeply heartbreaking to me as I’ve seen some of the after effects spiritually as well. Thank you for also trying to see the point of view of moms and being willing to restore your relationship with your own mom. Have a wonderful weekend
Honestly the past few months I DO feel like I'm getting more for my money buying long sleeves & hemlines. You actually confirmed that to me now! Th sweetheart❤
This is my mom's account. But I am growing up in a family where we need all these rules and i don't hate it. if I wear a bikini I would feel naked. That is the stuff I wear underneath. I will back talk anyone who tells me I should dress differently. Never be embarrassed about it. EVER. ( I feel like the Amish girl of the city lol) Also I love this the only skirts I ever see are mini skirts.
I like this video but I don't agree that trendy pieces are necessarily less modest. It depends on the fashion trends. 12 or 13 years ago it was trendy to wear baggy and actually deliberately unflattering clothes. There was a popular fashion blogger during that time called Man Repeller. I played a part in a sketch where I was playing a character who was much older than I was, and I chose very conservative clothes including a brown cardigan sweater and a guy told me that's what trendy high school girls were wearing and I realized he was right. A few years ago floor length blanket sweaters were all the rage. So I don't think there's a connection between immodesty and clothing manufacturers saving money on fabric.
I have had several modesty dress videos pop in front of me on youtube, I guess because once I watched the first one, I clicked on another because I was curious as to the reasons those women were choosing to dress a certain way. However most of the other ones were just bad, their reasons revolving around men and attention, just frivolous reasons and as if women have to live their lives to satisfy other people (very unhealthy), also what would look modest to one person might look immodest to another (so there would be no end to the demands). However your video is the first real and healthy one I have come across! I also like that you realize that modesty will look a bit different to different women, according to their consciences and environment, and you did not tie your reasons to men or other people's opinions. If women are going to try to dress in a way that "men" find modest, there is no end to the discomfort and erasure of her own self that she will need to do, because there are some men who will sexualize anything and any woman (regardless of what she is wearing). All you have to do is look at Islamic dress, and how uncomfortable most of it is for the woman (at some point it just becomes about controlling and objectifying women). I also like how you mentioned that museum about r*pe, showing what women were wearing. I like that your reasons are for YOU and your comfort. For me I would never wear long sleeves to the gym in the Summer or when it is hot (I wear short sleeves mostly when it is hot), but for you that is modest. I think if more women embrace dressing in a way that boosts their own comfort and expresses self worth (since our bodies are the temples of the Holy Spirit), then most women's dress would automatically become more modest and less tight that what some women wear today. Also yes modest dress (middle ground dress, as I like to call it) would boost women's confidence more and make them less insecure about their bodies and less focused on frivolity. In the end, thinking about the modesty discussion after watching these videos, I think the terminology needs to be shifted to comfort. I realize that this post turned out long, but thumbs up to you for having the right reasons as to why you choose to dress the way you do, and for respecting other women's choices (that comfort and the concept of modesty will vary among women), while promoting the comfort and confidence that comes with choosing comfortable clothes over skimpy clothes. Lasty, I would like to conclude with this Bible verse: "“Therefore I say to you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink; nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food and the body more than clothing?" Matthew 6:25
my hand just farted lol. You are an awesome voice about being modest and being in style, and it's doable. I shop in thrift stores because I try to sell vintage clothing on ETSY, and where I live here in Utah we have so many great thrift stores with great clothing and good prices. I think some stores that take in clothing always have stuff you can redo or wear as is, because because you can wear just about anything nowadays. What happened in about 1997 is that pop starts like Brittany Spears came on the clothing scene and my own daughter had a hard time finding jeans that were not hip huggers and with her long waist it was hard finding clothing to cover her up, but we got through it
I like that this is literally just a "why I like it" video, not a "why everyone should do this" video. I've gone both ways and agree with everything you've said but also get sick of the heat and am outside a lot so as cute as your top (dress??) is, I'm probably gonna skip that while it's still almost 100° lol but in the fall or early spring? Oh Hell yeah, that's super cute! P.s. Trendy clothes are super cheaply made but so are modest one's from what I've seen the last 10 years or so. I get so mad shopping at all because everything is see-through anymore! I started wearing littler pieces because I wanted to grind my insecurities into dust and feel confident in anything and I accomplished that but also, a bralette is super easy to throw on without worrying about if what you're still trying to cover is showing or not. A lot of full shirts that are marketed toward modest dressing are thin and you don't even realize your bits are showing until you're in some public bathroom and then you're horrified. I've unfortunately found, at least in my area, that if I buy things that aren't modest I tend to have a better chance at finding items that don't surprise me later.
It's kind of embarassing when someone uses you as a poster child or shining examples for the congregation to follow and I kind of wish people would stop doing that but I enjoyed your video
perks when wearing modest clothing: no more guys staring at your butt when you bend over, hoping to catch a look you'll probably feel a lot more comfortable and not like your going to get dress coded! you can move around a lot easier and you dont have to feel super uncomfortable and a lot more i cant say cause its the middle of the night and my brain is dead
Oh I love your channel!!! Buuuuuut, I need to know where you got your dress!!!! Honestly, I’m working more towards dressing modestly because it’s easier and I want to recapture my femininity. I’m still a bikini babe and I love a sexy date night dress, but for everything else. Simple modest, feminine clothing.
Thank you so much Michele! I really appreciate you watching my videos! I got this dress from Anthropologie through my Nuuly Subscription! :) I really appreciate you liking my channel!
Same for me. When I am teenager, I have skin problem. It will came at my chest, leg, hand. Etc. And I am sure especially when you are teenager, it can impact you negatively. But surprisingly, it does nothing to me other than a little bit annoyance. And I believe its because I wear modestly. Its not Im purposely hiding them. It is my style to wear long sleeves, dresses that does not show my leg, hand and chest. Due to that, most of my friend does not know about the skin problem, even myself forgot about it sometimes!
I have multiple reasons for loving dressing modestly, but honestly one of the biggest ones is the fact that I’m always cold 😂😂 Sooooo modest dressing helps me not feel like I’m in Antarctica all the time 😂👍
I don't like to show too much skin because I feel judged when I do. I don't feel like I can wear the same clothes as others because I'm curvy and normal clothes look more revealing on me.
as a muslim i feel a 100% of what you are talking about. if you are looking for awesome modest pieces that are more fabric and you get your moneys worth -- modanisa.com (turkish website) really good quality, niswa fashion, and veiled collection are some of my favorites.
I have always loved fashion and I always strived to dress appropriately for the season, occasion and as well as my age and body type. I never showed belly unless I was out on the beach-meaning sand or water not boardwalk. I don't judge a woman who does, it just isn't me and never was. That said I like body conscious clothing. Most of the time, I only expose only one thing- like your modest bliss outfit showed off some pretty shape and if I show shape, I cover legs, arms and decolletage. So there is shape, leges, arms and décolletage. When I feel like showing off I cover 2 out of 4. Only on very rare occasions like parties and after 5 would I show off 3 out of 4. I would feel ridiculous showing off all 4 like wearing a low cut tight, sleeveless, fitted short dress. I can only remember doing that once and I was in the Caribbean, out with my husband dancing to a reggae band. I never wore that dress again, but I didn't regret buying it either. The thing I dislike about modesty culture is that it seems immodest especially if you talk about it in mixed company, "Hey I want to talk about how I cover my butt because it is so fine. " But even when the audience is all female, it seems like humble bragging. Bragging can't be modest.
Can u share your testimony? Im really curious. I really like ur vibe. And u look like u grew up in church maybe can u do a video on ur faith? Ik its a fashon channel.but i have been struggling lately to refind myself and ur video hit me really nicely
I really like your perspective! I don't consider myself as someone who dresses super modestly, so I appreciated that your video is not preachy (i.e. dressing differently is a sin/immoral sorta vibe). I understand some people do dress modestly for religious reasons, but I feel like that can also lead these same people to judging others because of their views. Your video is very accessible because it doesn't take that judgemental tone at all which is nice :)
I'd like to add, that if you choose to dress modestly, that people will pay more attention to YOU, not the clothes you're wearing or the parts you're showing or close to showing. I wouldn't say I dress modestly on purpose, but I do feel most confident when I don't have something showing that I feel less comfortable with. Confidence is sexy. My point being, if I were to go out for an evening and I wear a black dress that has a high collar, and wear a killer piece of jewelry with it, vs, going out with a really low cut top. I would always get more compliments on my fashion sense, my choice of jewelry, how nice my hair looks, etc. The low cut top (showing a lot of boobage - which I have some of those tops just fyi) instead sends a msg to look at your boobage, not the whole person. kwim? I'm shaming no one, but I tell my granddaughter this frequently. Right or wrong, certain things we do send out a message into the world. If you don't want people reacting to that "message" then change the message. (And FYI, I'm not referring to the granddaughter's clothes).
I feel so so much more comfortable in modest clothing, because it means when i bend over or stuff, it wont show anything, because i hate showing skin. plus my asain parents have a problem with booty shorts and crop tops, but i dont mind because i do too XD
I love this because you didn’t attack people who didn’t dress modestly.
Cristina Lozano Classically Abby needs to take notes
Jai Offord STRAIGHT UP
Jai Offord her video was beautiful
Natalie’s Art whos classicslly abby or this ones
Jai Offord ?
I actually am so much more confident when I dress modestly!
Seriously girl, me too!! Thanks for watching :)
Me too
That’s awesome!! Do whatever you feel the most comfortable in
Same!
Ikr!! When I show more skin I always get insecure about who’s looking at me.
I can genuinely say I never felt like a “woman” in my adult life until I started to dress modestly! It makes me feel extremely confident, beautiful, classy, and feminine. It was really amazing to me!
Somebody please tell Classically Abby that THIS is how you speak to people about modesty.
the classic abby girl is a nightmare
And the girl defined train wrecks. 🤦♀️
GCF actually is more personable and real
I will
I was gonna comment this lol
I would add that dressing modestly has allowed me to be more comfortable around boys haha. I don't have to worry about them looking where I don't want them to. I like that dressing modestly allows me to maintain some feminine mystery :)
grear thoughts👌🏽
@Sonya S *You rock!!* No additional words needed. : )
*The idea of "modesty" is an absolute joke. God created us to be fully naked with NO SHAME and it was only when we started playing our own game that we started viewing our bodies as disgraceful. 99% of clothing has nothing to do with trying to be provocative, it's just the person wearing what makes them comfortable. Clothing does not influence bad actions, immoral character does.*
The idea of feminine mystery is a good one. Certain parts of your body are meant to be hidden and only reserved for your spouse. And among spouse’s, it is also good not to show the intimate parts all the time. This will help to ensure that things do not become boring during intimacy.
@@starhunter9085 ur right, God originally created for us to be unashamed in our bodies, but humans ruined that when they sinned, so now because there's sin in the world, until the second coming of Christ we need 2 be modest in our clothing
I’ve recently decided to dress modestly and I’ve never felt more beautiful. I feel more confident and feminine. I’ll never go back to dressing overtly sexy. I even removed any photos that were too sexy from my Instagram. Great video!
But you're not in the pic?
Me too. You go girl
Yess ☺️🙏🏻
*The idea of "modesty" is an absolute joke. God created us to be fully naked with NO SHAME and it was only when we started playing our own game that we started viewing our bodies as disgraceful. 99% of clothing has nothing to do with trying to be provocative, it's just the person wearing what makes them comfortable. Clothing does not influence bad actions, immoral character does.*
With classically Abby going around it is important we all thank for not being judgemental towards those who do not wish to be modest
I agree
But if the point is to not be judgemental, why do you judge Abby for judging? Just curious.
@@laurengaskell2098 you've got to be kidding me
@Edanna Poudrier politeness and courtesy don't matter when under the veil you are putting down other people. But, now she's the one just bringing it on herself.
@@pinecone189 I never felt Abby was judgy.
The thing with dressing modestly, is that if you have a large chest or hips and or a naturally curvy body it's a challenge. These traits will be visible regardless. The baggiest of mens shirts cant cover that up. And if you dress in mens clothes you look 30lbs heavier. Turtlenecks and crew necks actually make my chest look larger than wearing a v-neck. Long skirts are nice if you're tall enough and they fit well and dont make you look boxy. With dress shirts the buttons pop open, gap, or they don't even close to begin with. Even a basic tee can look 'inappropriate' if you have a large chest. I got in trouble in like 7th grade for wearing a scoop neck t-shirt because taller boys could look down my shirt and my chest came in already.
Later in life, this whole thing made it super hard to get dressed for work and my boss still made inappropriate comments about me. In a button down and trousers no less. Personally for me, clothes in general are hard to shop for to be modest but wellfitted not baggy, shapeless, or frumpy. I've struggled constantly and continue to struggle with it.
This comment! Its so true. I've always had that issue even dressing modestly for church or work. My chest has always been big, and my measurements have always been hourglass. Anything I wear automatically turned "sexy". People just need to wear what makes them happy.
Repent.
Exactly! I have a tiny frame, 30 around the rib cage, 32 inch hips, tiny everything- and then my chest is at least DD. That’s the smallest size I can wear. Nearly everything is hard to wear and it not be showy because it’ll fit everywhere except my chest.
I definitely recommend getting some of your clothes tailored. I too am still trying to dress my hourglass body in a professional way. I’ve found that the traditional cut of clothes does not work for most people. Shirts and dresses often have to be taken in at the waist to cover what they have to without adding additional weight. Pants almost always have to be adjusted somewhere so that they will go over the hips without falling down at the waist or giving a muffin top. If you’re concerned with the view from a v-neck, you might consider using accessories to draw the eyes elsewhere. Belts can draw the eyes down enough to make your shape look taller, scarves can either cover the chest or draw attention up to the neck, and jewelry can make the cut of your shirt seem higher than it is. That way, you don’t have to be suffocated or misrepresented in your size, but you can still keep eyes naturally further away from your most voluptuous features. Ultimately, the choice is yours, and some things will never really change regardless of what you wear, but if it really bothers you that your clothes aren’t designed for you, there are ways to take that matter into your own hands.
Jesus Trying heh u aint no jesus get tf out
I don’t dress very modestly, but not extremely immodest either, but the way it was titled seemed very non-judgements. Great video, doesn’t shame not dressing modestly and doesn’t shame anyone.
Another perk, especially for me as a redhead, you don't get as sunburnt if you're covered up. 😉
I’m not a redhead but I am part Irish and I can’t tan to save my life, I feel you girl.
Haha this made me laugh. I burn decently easily too.
Repent
Please repent..
Jesus Trying heh Why are you commenting this on every comment? Most of these aren’t even saying anything that could possibly warrant repentance.
Point 3 about not having to worry about the dress code holds especially true when you're traveling. You won't need to worry about looking offensive when dressing unsuitably for the culture's standards or when you visit beautiful cathedrals :)
Great points in this video
So true!
*The idea of "modesty" is an absolute joke. God created us to be fully naked with NO SHAME and it was only when we started playing our own game that we started viewing our bodies as disgraceful. 99% of clothing has nothing to do with trying to be provocative, it's just the person wearing what makes them comfortable. Clothing does not influence bad actions, immoral character does.*
I find it more comfy and less anxiety provoking to dress modestly.
I'm soon 17, and I love modest clothing. My mom supports me fully, which is amazing, but I really find it hard to find modest clothes in stores, I need to look from the internet or other special places for them! I'm not religious or anything, I just like modest clothing. Oh, and earthy colors! Simple, old-ish clothing really makes me feel good! And no, anyone on my family has never even tried to hint that I should wear modest life.
Girl! You need to check out the thirty store! I find the cutest stuff!!
girl same. i'm 17 and ppl think my dad forces me bc he's muslim🙄i love to dress modestly, it's simple and stylish, it's not bc my dad is religious what's wrong w/ ppl
*Read your Bible and you'll see it says that God created us nude with no shame. This was because in God's ideal world, we embrace our bodies as a physical reflection of God's spirit. God is an artist and we're His art 🎨 therefore, when you embrace yourself, you embrace Him. The reason Adam and Eve immediately hated themselves after they sinned and covered themselves is because they, in sinning, turned away from God and therefore turned away from themselves since their bodies reflected God. God didn't give them clothes because He chose to and He was "covering us in His glory"; that entire context was telling us about how we fell out of His glory. Clothing only came into play when shame, brokenness, evil, and sin did meaning that it's a symbol of these things and the broken bond between God and man. Being ashamed of your image is being ashamed of God's and He didn't create us to be ashamed of His masterpiece and bury it down to where nobody can see it, He created us to display our art in a museum and be happy when someone gazes upon our beauty. That's why people like David, Esther and Isaiah all got elevated when they did this but Vashti, Micah and Isaiah's critics, who bashed them for it, got kicked to the curve. That's also why people today, who flaunt their bodies, make it big while people who bash them fade into nothing.*
@@starhunter9085 That's kind of sweet, but I'm not a Christian! I'm Wicca, actually!! I'm not ashamed of my body, I just prefer to cover up! It makes me feel more comfortable, and safe!
I started wearing dresses and skirts below the knee full-time since 2005 and I remember that feeling that Alethea mentioned. I felt more myself, more comfortable in who I am. It was a blessing. I, to this day, get compliments from all different types of people!
I've recently begun dressing modestly (in the last 1.5 years) and these are among my reasons for doing so. It's not often that I come across other women who also dress modestly where it isn't tied to religion, men, or the scrutiny of others. It's refreshing to find someone else who is non-judgemental and doesn't center others as her reason for modesty.
I was the same way when I was 16 I wanted to dress way my friends were dressing. They were crop tops, booty shorts and short dresses. I couldn’t wear those because my grandmother was and still is very old fashion( she was a young adult in the 1960’s) . I was awkward and self conscious about my body and my friends had boyfriends and I didn’t. The 25 year old me started dressing modestly mainly as a test to see if guys would respect me and be interested in me more if I wasn’t showing a lot of skin. I met my husband that same year. We’ve been married for three years now( I’m 28 going on 29) I love dressing modestly. My husband loves it and I feel sexy in my modest clothes. I know every girl likes to dress differently but I prefer the 28 year old modest me versus the 16 year old me.
I dress modestly and I love it. It doesn't necessarily make me feel more feminine, (I'm not big on that, I wear mostly graphic t's and other unisex or men's attire) but it sure as heck does boost my confidence level to dress in something comfortable and that I know I look good in.
I like your honesty....I also in my heart of hearts think modesty is actually correct but have been heartily pissed off by the judgemental (whether intentional or not) attitudes and blame and shame culture surrounding it (often voiced by genuine, well meaning people). So thanks, it's nice to hear this from someone normal who doesn't seem Victorian
awww, yes I think shame is what turns a lot of people away. Imperfect people will preach in imperfect ways. I pray I'm constantly growing in coming off loving in my convictions.
*Read your Bible and you'll see it says that God created us nude with no shame. This was because in God's ideal world, we embrace our bodies as a physical reflection of God's spirit. God is an artist and we're His art 🎨 therefore, when you embrace yourself, you embrace Him. The reason Adam and Eve immediately hated themselves after they sinned and covered themselves is because they, in sinning, turned away from God and therefore turned away from themselves since their bodies reflected God. God didn't give them clothes because He chose to and He was "covering us in His glory"; that entire context was telling us about how we fell out of His glory. Clothing only came into play when shame, brokenness, evil, and sin did meaning that it's a symbol of these things and the broken bond between God and man. Being ashamed of your image is being ashamed of God's and He didn't create us to be ashamed of His masterpiece and bury it down to where nobody can see it, He created us to display our art in a museum and be happy when someone gazes upon our beauty. That's why people like David, Esther and Isaiah all got elevated when they did this but Vashti, Micah and Isaiah's critics, who bashed them for it, got kicked to the curve. That's also why people today, who flaunt their bodies, make it big while people who bash them fade into nothing.*
This channel is truly underrated👍
Aww thank you!
bro this is THE FIRST PERSON who i have seen that is actually respectful lol, go give the others a lesson
This is my life. I used to dress flashy but lately as I'm approaching my 30s I started dressing very modest. Honestly I like dressing like this and it helped me to focus on my career. I usually rotate my suits or I wear just black work pants, black button down shirt with comfy cardigan with black loafers. I replaced my chanel purse with a backpack. I feel my best with this outfit but people are extremely critical and tell me that I need to change how I dress. I am tired of hearing advice from others
I strongly agree with "forgetting about the outfit" and "no wardrobe malfunctions".
Thank you thank you thank you for talking about the sexual assault museum -- it's a real slap in the face for people who say "if you're dressed immodestly you're asking for it" and you express yourself so eloquently instead of descending into rage (like I do)
Literally everything you said was so true! This is my second video of your and I subscribed after the first one. I related so much to this as a Christian teenage girl. I'm trying to be more intentional about dressing modestly (especially since I need a wardrobe update anyway) and this channel (and you) are such a gift from God. Anyway long story short thank you soooo much!!!!!!!
Wow thank you so much girl! Such an encouraging comment! If there is a video you would like me to make in the future just let me know!
Agreed! As another Christian woman, married three years, sending love to a sister in Christ! 😘
Thank you Katt!
I dress modestly and all my girl friends and sisters say I dress like a lil grandma! 😭
Me too. My cousins try to get me to wear tight things, saying no guy will ask me out but I dress modestly because i feel comfortable in long skirts and dresses
Repent.
Who cares about guys asking you out? Jesus is !pre important.
hey, in case their comments do bother you, I just want to say this- I've dressed against the norms all my life, nowadays I choose modesty. It stands out a lot, so yes, it gets attention. If you stay strong, one day the comments will just feel like jokes and you will be able to brush them off with a light heart.
@@be6083 thank you!! Nothing wrong with a modest wardrobe. 💕
thank you for not shaming other women for what they wear or just natural things that happen to most people(cellulite, acne). and i’m super grateful that you touched on victim blaming. i definitely do not dress modestly but i enjoy watching videos from both sides, and unfortunately i’ve seen a few women basically victim blaming and saying that men “cant help but sexualize women in short/tight clothing. once again, thank you!!
I like this much more than Classically Abby and Girl Defined because you seem like a real person and are just being chill and having a conversation with us.
One young girl I talked with on UA-cam that Embraced long skirts and dresses all the time said she has more self-respect and self-worth. And guys respect her more.
I dress modestly because i feel comfortable when my body is covered and because the bible says so
The more covered up I am the more comfortable I am too! So funny, because before coming to God I was the opposite. His redemptive nature is so so good.
@Faith in Home Amen.
Right!❤ Jesus!
I dress modestly too. I always ask myself "Can I meet my Savior& King in this outfit?" Long sleeves& long skirts are soo wonderful.
@@shaunlucia524 Amen sis☺😊..I also ask myself "would Jesus want me to wear this" whenever i'm buying my long skirts or dresses.
I find it very difficult to dress modestly and still be attractive due to my large chest. There are so many things that would look cute and modest on someone else's body, but looks like a hooker on me. Lol I've learned to deal with it and find fashion that makes me feel good about myself, but it can be a challenge.
Same boat 🙋🏽♀️
Definitely try tailoring and accessories. They can be game changers for dressing modestly and still stylishly.
Stephanie Casper thanks for the tip. My problem is that tailoring is pretty expensive, and I’m bad at doing it on my own. Also, my standards of modesty are just not as strict anyway so I don’t really mind, it’s just I sometimes clash with my mom. Thanks though x
Tracey,I sew my own clothes ! Fun and cuz my body is shaped in a way I can make clothes cute modest and flattering on me
You've totally nailed it! It completely resonates with my experience as well. Plus, I love your dress!
I love that you live in Phx, I do too! And it’s awesome to see you drawing modestly even in an extremely hot climate.
thank you for speaking about this in a way that doesnt attack others! the way you dress should be for YOU and not about others:)
I love these thoughts. This resonates so much with me. I especially agree with the professionalism part.
Seriously! It helps a lot!
I LOVE this video! I'm Muslim ❤
Good! ❤️ Thank you so much for watching!
Repent.
@@jesustryingheh6864 Yes
Repent for the kingdom of Heaven is at hand. Jesus is coming back. Accept the his sacrifice...time is short.
@@mariabelyves5055 what does jesus have to do with any of this-
What a lovely, peaceful and joyful video delivered warmly, genuinely and kindly. Very well done-thank you!
EVERYONE dress how you want to dress, cloth you put on your own damn body doesn’t determine how much respect you deserve and the worth you have as a human being. edit: if you genuinely feel happy dressing modestly i support you 100% but don’t use that as a act to shame other ppl who aren’t
Periodt we stan
If you don’t like the video go away
Gumball 4870 she never said she didn’t like the video, she was just saying dress how you want.
Gumball 4870 Calm your tits she did a excellent job on her video but I love the message that the UA-camr and what the person that wrote this comment conveys 😌
It does not determine how much respect you deserve but it does determine how much respect you're going to get on the first meeting and thats just the harsh reality
LOL, in the long middle of summer, the illustration of Phx AZ halfway from earth to the sun at 2:48 feels so true!
I like your tone and how you spoke for yourself instead of telling people what they should do. Very well spoken. I also like how you referred to current studies so people can check things out for themselves. It was eye opening even for me and I grew up very conservatively as you did.
why cant this girl be promoted 24/7 by youtube 👁👄👄
Thank you for mentioning the museum with the "what were you wearing?" part!!! 👍👏🙏💜
I’m not religious at all - & I was fully expecting this to be another girl defined brainwashed video, but this was so refreshing! It was so interesting hearing why you prefer dressing ‘modestly’ (I hate that way of describing it too) & it was so nice you weren’t trying to force your opinion in aggressive way like so many people do! I thought it was so fab you mentioned the what were you wearing exhibition as it completely shatters the whole ‘if you don’t dress modestly you are encouraging assault to happen’ narrative. I’m pleased you feel most comfortable dressing modestly instead of feeling like you have to - even though I personally really enjoy dressing ‘not modestly’ it was cool to hear your opinion 🥰
The authentic teachings of ISLAM already taught me the beauty in being modest, not just in your clothes but also in your character. ☺️💕
I loved your take on modesty because you didn’t convict those who may not dress modestly.
i just started to dress modestly recently and i feel way more comfortable in myself, i love it i reccomed giving it a try!
I was raised tremendously strict as a preacher’s daughter. I still dress modestly. Your clothing would not be “modest” according to our religious standards as your dress is tight and your dresses/shorts are short. They would freak out. lol I love how you dress. A beautiful way of being more modest.
Amazing video this makes me feel better dressing modestly ❤️
Aw I’m so glad! Thank you!
Love this video, I’m subscribing. I came from a Christian home growing up, and I have since left Christianity but one thing I am glad I learned from my time in the church was dressing modestly. I feel like I get more respect, especially from my friends who are much older than me. I LOVE feeling comfortable all the time, never having to worry about wardrobe malfunctions, etc. but I think the thing I love the most is that, ironically, dressing modestly actually makes me stand out (I live in South Florida).
I also think dressing modestly has allowed me to stay close with my male friends- because their girlfriends are less threatened by me since they know I’m not showing my body around their boyfriends.
I also wear full coverage bottoms, while everyone else here my age wears thong bikinis. I wore one twice, and the number of men staring at my ass truly enraged me. I get angry when men stare at me. That is honestly the greatest benefit and the main reason I usually dress modestly- I HATE when people stare. I’m ranting. Anyway great video 😂
I love the fact that she doesn’t care about if people dress immodestly or attack them
Thank you. I'm old enough to be your grandmother (or close to old enough) and dressing modestly is the most comfortable, confidence building way to clothe yourself. After a lifetime of wearing modest clothes that are reasonably fashionable, I can't imagine myself ever doing anything else. I appreciate your well considered video.
These are all reasons why I usually dress modestly, don’t get me wrong I’d like to wear some “sexier” things sometimes but I just feel uncomfortable when I do for pretty much all of the reasons she stated. Much more confident dressing modestly. Can’t stand wearing tight clothes.
This is a great video! I moved to a primarily Orthodox Jewish neighborhood a few years ago and it made me much more aware of what I wear; initially I wanted to be considerate of my neighbors modesty values, but almost immediately I realized that I felt better about myself inside and outside. Another side effect, I've been sewing since I was 6 and while I've always loved making my own clothing, I became more creative and began noodling with immodest clothing and sewing it into something unique and "me." People are surprised when they ask where I got my dress and I explain that I bought a cheap spaghetti strap dress and a fat quarter or two, maybe add some lace, and I wind up with a super nifty outfit!
Great video I love dressing modestly it does give you more confidence you actually forget everyone around you and when you do then you know you're doing it right. Tnank you
I completely agree with all of this. I used to dress incredibly immodestly (which wasn’t necessarily a bad thing), but now that I dress modestly I feel SO much more comfortable & better about myself honestly
I dress modest because I grew up in a Christian home and I am so thankful I did.
Good on you for following Jesus Christ
Great video! I am enjoying dressing more feminine which naturally includes classy and modest attire and I'm loving it! I grew up in Phoenix too and just moved to Denver a year ago. Also wanted to add, great editing in this video 😍
I did not realise how negative my inner voice was until I tried to branch out with my style. I was raised fundamentalist Christian. Even though I am a non religious adult the modesty standard that was set for me growing up is hard to shake. I am also about 6'0 tall so clothing can be a struggle. I am currently reevaluating my fashion choices. For years I would look at clothes and think "how much of me does this cover?" "how much of me can I hide?" What does that say about my self worth? Now I'm looking at clothes and challenging those thoughts by instead asking " how does this make me feel?" "is this me?" regardless if it is modest.
I came here prepared to write a whole paragraph on why women shouldn't slut-shame each other and why the way we dress should be tailored to what makes us comfortable, but I found myself pleasantly surprised on how respectful you where to all forms of dress, and how kind your opinions where. It made me both happy and angry. Happy, because I like it when people are kind, and angry because of how low my opinions have fallen.
Honestly, I admire your willingness to say this online. Idk where exactly I fall in this debate, but I always see people yelling a point online and loudly agreeing/disagreeing with a video in the comments section without actually listening to the video. I appreciate that you watched all the way through and interacted with the thoughts presented in a rational way even though it seems that you disagree with her stance. Your level-headedness is helping to restore my faith in humanity.
@@stephaniecasper7578 I agree with a lot of her points and disagree with others. I just like to know all the facts before I form an opinion, because being irritated (ironically enough) irritates me, and there's no point in being irrational and making someone feel bad just because you disagree with them. Feelings aren't facts, and with such a nuanced subject as the way people dress, no single person is right or wrong. Clothing is a form of self expression, and as long as what the person is expressing isn't offensive, i don't really care. I personally dress modestly, but that's just because where I live, it's kinda unsanitary so like... wearing long skirts/pants to protect oneself from the semi-sentient life-forms on the costco benches always sounds like a good idea lol.
I like this wayyyy more watchable than unmentionable nuisance that keeps popping up EVERYWHERE. You didn't attack people or force your beliefs on anyone.
Beautiful dress! You look awesome in modesty. Great info in your video.
I'm a young Christian, homeschooled girl who wants to dress modestly some days. But sometimes after I fight with my parents or they scold me, I don't want to in the moment. Then, dressing modestly feels like a cage made by my parents instead of something I choose because sometimes my father can be a bit too strict. I don't know how to balance it all because sometimes I want to because of the reasons you listed in addition to some others but I also feel smothered by rules sometimes. Idk if anyone will see this comment but I don't know what to do.
I just love living in long dresses, and do not feel like myself in revealing clothing. Also, I walk everywhere and am rarely harassed if I'm covered.
Same me either .
I should say, I did have a sleazy male neighbor harass me for dressing modestly. He told me he wanted to see my body. To wear something else. As if it was his right! I barely know him. So I bought some GIANT abayas and wear them just to get my mail. In defiance of this older neighbor who was a teenager back when they referred to women as "broads."
I would like all women to be free and feel free to dress in whatever way makes them happy and feel like themselves (when you are on your own time). Whether you feel attractive and confident dressing sexy or covered up, you should not have to endure harassment or be afraid.
If you dress sexy for a boyfriend on your arm: Congratulations for landing a man in this day and age! You have done the impossible, and I'm very happy for you. Be proud. You're a superhero.
For the readhead girl: I also cover up for sun protection. Especially in the eyeball-burning summer heat here in Las Vegas, NV.
I met a young woman once who wistfully lamented that she could wear pink every day. She didn't feel it would be socially acceptable. I encouraged her to do it anyway. I said there are so many shades of pink, she could make it look like a completely different color everyday. Baby pink, orange-pink, peachy-pink, rose/mauve, lavender-pink, purple-pink, etc. I hope she is out there happily and defiantly wearing pink each day of her life!
We ladies just can't seem to win when it comes to clothing. No matter who we are, our age (cause MGTOW says I'm too old at 54 to be considered attractive), or our body type. I'm sad for the large-busted ladies commenting on here that there's no way to hide it, and they get scrutinized and criticized. While as a smaller-busted female, I felt societal pressure to get breast augmentation when I was young, and that pressure is still out there. After watching "Botched," I'm glad I never did it. I don't think it's really about our clothing. Maybe it's time we accepted that it's a set-up. Do men go through any of this? Are we just being punished and abused for being "Female"?
I love your "arguments" for modesty, because it keeps out religion (which I, as an atheist often find very unnerving xD) and just focuses on really good points. My clothing style is most often quite covered but still "sexy"in the sense of "oh, its a bodycon outfit, highwaisted jeans, tight turtleneck and a belt around the waist" or something like that, but im not into showing a lot of skin, exactly because its just soooooo uncomfortable
Your outfit is beautiful. Couldn't stop watching the video just so I can look at what you're wearing. Simply gorgeous!
I think comfort and confidence really blend here. My first rule of dressing isn't modesty per say, it's just that before without clothing in a fitting room or in my bedroom I am usually at peace with my body and it's way of inhabiting the world, but put on clothes and I feel exposed! it's so easy to be thrown off-center. Dressing immediately sets my body in a context and prescribes which ideals my body is measured against. If my clothing makes me paranoid about body movement or troubled because it immediately fits wrong or creeps up when my weight fluctuates, If tightness is holding my body in and puts all my lumps and bumps out there, I die a little inside and I won't have it. I tend not to think of my clothing choices in terms of modesty, because being actually sexually appealing in clothing to some degree reminds me that whatever my breast and belly size I have a sexual self that can work in the right clothing visually. That me-sized, adjustable, comfy clothing that suits my idea of reasonable sexuality and doesn't need to be altered is rare, though. I have a lot of heartache from things that I leave in fitting rooms and things I probably should have. Modest clothing has all the same creativity and feminine fun and tends to be more forgiving and travel better, not only into a business wardrobe, but between seasons, since I live in a place that gets serious autumns and winters.
You have such a sweet voice, I could listen to you for hours
I like how logical and universal you made this video about modesty (aka not based on your personal spiritual beliefs). As a non-believer I still greatly value modesty. As a classical orchestra musician I work in a field still dominated by men, and I came to the conclusion that modesty is not only comfortable and practical, but also speaks of seriousness and self respect in the eyes of the general public, so as a consequence colleagues treat you in a respectful manner. I don't say all women who dress immodestly lack self respect (which in opinion means showing their private parts), but I have enough male friends to notice how they treat and speak about women who dress too revealing vs women who don't. Sometimes the bros are hilariously disgusting🤣 and it's entirely under our control if we want that kind of attention or not. Unfortunately modest outfits don't protect us entirely from being assaulted in any way, but the probability is much lower in less revealing clothes. (For example I can't go out without being catcalled in a tight mini skirt, but I can if I am just wearing a midi skirt - as sad this is, it's true.)
I love modest clothing not that I feel not confident about myself but It helps to express myself through clothes and can have crazy layerings
I appreciate all of the thought you’ve put in to both sides of the spectrum, and as a mom who homeschool three kids and is a conservative Christian, I also see things from your mom’s point of view (as well as yours).
I also watched your video on your vision for this channel and so appreciate the heart behind it and wanting to help teenagers, while being saddened that you felt abnormal at church. I’m so very sorry that happens... it is deeply heartbreaking to me as I’ve seen some of the after effects spiritually as well. Thank you for also trying to see the point of view of moms and being willing to restore your relationship with your own mom. Have a wonderful weekend
Thank you for the sweet comment! I really hope this channel continues to be helpful to you as well as your kids in the future! Thanks for watching!
You know what I REALLY wish would come back in style? Long Denim skirts! I still love those to this day!
Thank you for not attacking people who dress modestly. Someone needs to share this to Classically Abby
Honestly the past few months I DO feel like I'm getting more for my money buying long sleeves & hemlines. You actually confirmed that to me now! Th sweetheart❤
You're welcome!
This is my mom's account. But I am growing up in a family where we need all these rules and i don't hate it. if I wear a bikini I would feel naked. That is the stuff I wear underneath. I will back talk anyone who tells me I should dress differently. Never be embarrassed about it. EVER. ( I feel like the Amish girl of the city lol) Also I love this the only skirts I ever see are mini skirts.
She also speaks so logically
Just found your channel and I love your attitude So I’m your newest sub :)
I like this video but I don't agree that trendy pieces are necessarily less modest. It depends on the fashion trends. 12 or 13 years ago it was trendy to wear baggy and actually deliberately unflattering clothes. There was a popular fashion blogger during that time called Man Repeller. I played a part in a sketch where I was playing a character who was much older than I was, and I chose very conservative clothes including a brown cardigan sweater and a guy told me that's what trendy high school girls were wearing and I realized he was right. A few years ago floor length blanket sweaters were all the rage. So I don't think there's a connection between immodesty and clothing manufacturers saving money on fabric.
I really love your thoughts in this and how you express yourself. Impactful. Thank you !
Aw thank you so much! You are so welcome
This is so much better approach to modest fashion and style, love this.
Your dress is gorgeous! I have just discovered your channel:) Congrats!
thank you for not attacking others for how they dress !!
I have had several modesty dress videos pop in front of me on youtube, I guess because once I watched the first one, I clicked on another because I was curious as to the reasons those women were choosing to dress a certain way. However most of the other ones were just bad, their reasons revolving around men and attention, just frivolous reasons and as if women have to live their lives to satisfy other people (very unhealthy), also what would look modest to one person might look immodest to another (so there would be no end to the demands).
However your video is the first real and healthy one I have come across! I also like that you realize that modesty will look a bit different to different women, according to their consciences and environment, and you did not tie your reasons to men or other people's opinions. If women are going to try to dress in a way that "men" find modest, there is no end to the discomfort and erasure of her own self that she will need to do, because there are some men who will sexualize anything and any woman (regardless of what she is wearing). All you have to do is look at Islamic dress, and how uncomfortable most of it is for the woman (at some point it just becomes about controlling and objectifying women). I also like how you mentioned that museum about r*pe, showing what women were wearing.
I like that your reasons are for YOU and your comfort. For me I would never wear long sleeves to the gym in the Summer or when it is hot (I wear short sleeves mostly when it is hot), but for you that is modest. I think if more women embrace dressing in a way that boosts their own comfort and expresses self worth (since our bodies are the temples of the Holy Spirit), then most women's dress would automatically become more modest and less tight that what some women wear today. Also yes modest dress (middle ground dress, as I like to call it) would boost women's confidence more and make them less insecure about their bodies and less focused on frivolity.
In the end, thinking about the modesty discussion after watching these videos, I think the terminology needs to be shifted to comfort. I realize that this post turned out long, but thumbs up to you for having the right reasons as to why you choose to dress the way you do, and for respecting other women's choices (that comfort and the concept of modesty will vary among women), while promoting the comfort and confidence that comes with choosing comfortable clothes over skimpy clothes.
Lasty, I would like to conclude with this Bible verse: "“Therefore I say to you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink; nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food and the body more than clothing?" Matthew 6:25
my hand just farted lol. You are an awesome voice about being modest and being in style, and it's doable. I shop in thrift stores because I try to sell vintage clothing on ETSY, and where I live here in Utah we have so many great thrift stores with great clothing and good prices. I think some stores that take in clothing always have stuff you can redo or wear as is, because because you can wear just about anything nowadays. What happened in about 1997 is that pop starts like Brittany Spears came on the clothing scene and my own daughter had a hard time finding jeans that were not hip huggers and with her long waist it was hard finding clothing to cover her up, but we got through it
Thank you! I totally relate to your daughter because I have a long waist as well and I'm so glad high waisted is back in fashion!
I like that this is literally just a "why I like it" video, not a "why everyone should do this" video. I've gone both ways and agree with everything you've said but also get sick of the heat and am outside a lot so as cute as your top (dress??) is, I'm probably gonna skip that while it's still almost 100° lol but in the fall or early spring? Oh Hell yeah, that's super cute!
P.s. Trendy clothes are super cheaply made but so are modest one's from what I've seen the last 10 years or so. I get so mad shopping at all because everything is see-through anymore! I started wearing littler pieces because I wanted to grind my insecurities into dust and feel confident in anything and I accomplished that but also, a bralette is super easy to throw on without worrying about if what you're still trying to cover is showing or not. A lot of full shirts that are marketed toward modest dressing are thin and you don't even realize your bits are showing until you're in some public bathroom and then you're horrified. I've unfortunately found, at least in my area, that if I buy things that aren't modest I tend to have a better chance at finding items that don't surprise me later.
List what you want to accomplish, and dress accordingly. Are our clothes are in line with our goals?
It's kind of embarassing when someone uses you as a poster child or shining examples for the congregation to follow and I kind of wish people would stop doing that but I enjoyed your video
perks when wearing modest clothing:
no more guys staring at your butt when you bend over, hoping to catch a look
you'll probably feel a lot more comfortable and not like your going to get dress coded!
you can move around a lot easier and you dont have to feel super uncomfortable
and a lot more i cant say cause its the middle of the night and my brain is dead
Oh I love your channel!!! Buuuuuut, I need to know where you got your dress!!!! Honestly, I’m working more towards dressing modestly because it’s easier and I want to recapture my femininity. I’m still a bikini babe and I love a sexy date night dress, but for everything else. Simple modest, feminine clothing.
Thank you so much Michele! I really appreciate you watching my videos! I got this dress from Anthropologie through my Nuuly Subscription! :) I really appreciate you liking my channel!
Same for me. When I am teenager, I have skin problem. It will came at my chest, leg, hand. Etc.
And I am sure especially when you are teenager, it can impact you negatively. But surprisingly, it does nothing to me other than a little bit annoyance.
And I believe its because I wear modestly. Its not Im purposely hiding them. It is my style to wear long sleeves, dresses that does not show my leg, hand and chest.
Due to that, most of my friend does not know about the skin problem, even myself forgot about it sometimes!
I have very similar standards. Thanks for the video!
I have multiple reasons for loving dressing modestly, but honestly one of the biggest ones is the fact that I’m always cold 😂😂 Sooooo modest dressing helps me not feel like I’m in Antarctica all the time 😂👍
I love how calm her voice is 😁😂
I don't like to show too much skin because I feel judged when I do. I don't feel like I can wear the same clothes as others because I'm curvy and normal clothes look more revealing on me.
as a muslim i feel a 100% of what you are talking about. if you are looking for awesome modest pieces that are more fabric and you get your moneys worth -- modanisa.com (turkish website) really good quality, niswa fashion, and veiled collection are some of my favorites.
I have always loved fashion and I always strived to dress appropriately for the season, occasion and as well as my age and body type. I never showed belly unless I was out on the beach-meaning sand or water not boardwalk. I don't judge a woman who does, it just isn't me and never was. That said I like body conscious clothing. Most of the time, I only expose only one thing- like your modest bliss outfit showed off some pretty shape and if I show shape, I cover legs, arms and decolletage. So there is shape, leges, arms and décolletage. When I feel like showing off I cover 2 out of 4. Only on very rare occasions like parties and after 5 would I show off 3 out of 4. I would feel ridiculous showing off all 4 like wearing a low cut tight, sleeveless, fitted short dress. I can only remember doing that once and I was in the Caribbean, out with my husband dancing to a reggae band. I never wore that dress again, but I didn't regret buying it either.
The thing I dislike about modesty culture is that it seems immodest especially if you talk about it in mixed company, "Hey I want to talk about how I cover my butt because it is so fine. " But even when the audience is all female, it seems like humble bragging. Bragging can't be modest.
Thank you so much for mentioning "What were you wearing?" 🙏💜💚🖤
Can u share your testimony? Im really curious. I really like ur vibe. And u look like u grew up in church maybe can u do a video on ur faith? Ik its a fashon channel.but i have been struggling lately to refind myself and ur video hit me really nicely
I really like your perspective! I don't consider myself as someone who dresses super modestly, so I appreciated that your video is not preachy (i.e. dressing differently is a sin/immoral sorta vibe). I understand some people do dress modestly for religious reasons, but I feel like that can also lead these same people to judging others because of their views. Your video is very accessible because it doesn't take that judgemental tone at all which is nice :)
I'd like to add, that if you choose to dress modestly, that people will pay more attention to YOU, not the clothes you're wearing or the parts you're showing or close to showing. I wouldn't say I dress modestly on purpose, but I do feel most confident when I don't have something showing that I feel less comfortable with. Confidence is sexy.
My point being, if I were to go out for an evening and I wear a black dress that has a high collar, and wear a killer piece of jewelry with it, vs, going out with a really low cut top. I would always get more compliments on my fashion sense, my choice of jewelry, how nice my hair looks, etc. The low cut top (showing a lot of boobage - which I have some of those tops just fyi) instead sends a msg to look at your boobage, not the whole person. kwim?
I'm shaming no one, but I tell my granddaughter this frequently. Right or wrong, certain things we do send out a message into the world. If you don't want people reacting to that "message" then change the message.
(And FYI, I'm not referring to the granddaughter's clothes).
I feel so so much more comfortable in modest clothing, because it means when i bend over or stuff, it wont show anything, because i hate showing skin. plus my asain parents have a problem with booty shorts and crop tops, but i dont mind because i do too XD
I've been watching leveling up u-tube channels about how to look expensive. Modesty is part of that
equation.