ive been avoiding this... modesty.
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Modesty also includes lifestyle, including jewelry, cars, houses, etc.. Goes for all genders.
Exactly
Hence why she said at the beginning it goes beyond clothing.
That’s actually what the Bible verse she quotes was about. It wasn’t about clothes at all if you go and read it.
Yaaay finally your comment isnso true and refreshing too much emphasis on women and too little on the men.
Being a Muslim woman who wears the Hijab and observes modesty everyday of her life, this video was so humbling and beautiful. You understand modesty in such a beautiful way that we Muslim women are taught in our religion. Hijab isn’t just what we wear, but how we act, our character and how we deal with others. It all goes back to you and your relationship with God😌You are so beautiful Milena inside and out💕
I love this
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oh my goodness! God bless you! Mashallah!
Same! I was thinking the same thing…
I really resonated with the “taking the attention off of me” part and “putting the attention back on the Lord”. Because whenever I feel like crazy beautiful, sexy hot, it goes to my head a little, I become proud and addicted to the attention. And it reminds me a little of Satan how he was a beautiful angel, and he wanted all the glory to himself. And that just spoke volumes to me. Because pride comes before a fall. And wow! So true. Get the attention on Jesus. Not me. Yes! 🙌
Yes!
Representing the lord with your actions and clothes is the ideal thing to do
He didn't fall because he was beautiful though. That's not the real issue. He fall because He took the glory for Himself and the way He was created. If wearing down ( which I suppose judging by Your comment), will make You feel less sexy and hot brings You close to God, then dress down, but in my opinion... That's not where the problem is. Think about it, it's not about what You wear or even how You feel, is about in what reality You are living. If it's in a reality where only God is praised, it doesn't matter what You will wear, or how You will feel, that's why I think we will WALK on a gold streets in heaven and will be surrendered by the most fabulous things. Still... God presents will be bigger then that, so them things will mean nothing. If You in God's presents those things just disappear in my opinion and we don't care about them. Just a thought. I think it's more about God presents nothing else. All else comes next.
Yes I love it
Elizabeth, very well said!
Such an interesting perspective - I was raised as an Orthodox Christian (but never baptised) and living in warmer climes I was quite used to wearing short, cute, summery outfits. But in my late 20s I started working at an all-Muslim office. Nobody ever told me I needed to change the way I dressed as everyone there was pretty cool and open-minded about stuff like that. But over the months I worked there, something changed in my own perceptions. I distinctly remember one afternoon when a male client walked in and my 2 coworkers were dressed in pretty maxi dresses and there I was in a short skirt and a little too bold of a cleavage. I remember at that moment, I'd never felt more naked (or ridiculous) in my life. I also noticed that contrary to popular belief, these Muslim women weren't shy, bashful or lacking in confidence beneath all the layers of clothes. They exuded quiet confidence and felt secure in their beauty and femininity without feeling the constant need to flaunt parts of their bodies to convince themselves they have worth. I've long changed jobs since then but that shift in mentality stayed with me. I gradually phased out items like mini-skirts or shorts. I occasionally allow myself more revealing tops (I'm not exactly the busty type) so I feel I can get away with it but I'm very aware of how much skin I show.
I don't know why the idea of being modest being more than just clothing, but also being modest in spirit, is so mind blowing to me right now. "A gentle and quiet spirit". Thanks for sharing!
it blew my mind when I first realized that too 🤯
Christy, love this!
Milena, I’m neither a Christian nor a mother. But this video spoke to me on a spiritual level that I was not expecting. Self-respect and love is definitely, as a woman, a thing that comes easier with age. I myself have been on a similar journey of clarity in this regard, I love how you vocalise the topic of modesty! I think it’s a wonderful topic for women in general!
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I love that you are being obedient to the Lord and speaking on this topic. Too many people are afraid to speak on this topic in fear of rejection or being cancelled. We need to hear it. So proud of you!!!! 🙏🏽😊❤️
Hello Milena!
The Lord has definitely put on my heart to be modest. I still wear jeans but make sure my bottom is always covered. And short story I was at the beach with my family and heard a man who was obviously drinking talking about all the woman on the beach and how skimpy there bathing suites were and what he wanted to do to them and how turned on was even though he was a married man!!
It made me realize how men do look at us. The Lord gave me a pure example in front of my eyes how important it is to be modest.❤
Amen sis!
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my pastor always says "God can still use you while he's working on you". Well done for doing this video Milena, thanks for the courage and sharing this even though it can get backlash. But as christians we are called to do what God says, not the world ;) big love & support over here sister 😘
have been following your journey since you posted your “saving yourself for marriage” video years ago. Thank you for continuing to be bold in Christ and speaking on important topics like these! Much much love Milena ❤️
so sweet!! thank you for being here 🤎
Commenting as a spiritual follower and not a religious follower, I think this transition also comes from a place of womanhood. We learn our own worth and confidence and we mature through catching attention based on dressing a certain way and knowing that our heart and soul and mind is what is attention grabbing. Leaving the parts of our physical attraction to our spouses and not for all to see. Thank you for sharing this video!
For sure! "Everything good comes from God. Every perfect gift is from him. These good gifts come down from the Father who made all the lights in the sky." James 1:17
As a Muslim, our main principle is that we aren't objects for everyones' eyes. Our Lord ordered modesty to save us from so much unnecessary grief. Like you said, our husbands can basically see us looking sexy, but not the whole world. Modesty is something that is inward and outward for us. Covering up for us isn't oppression to us, it's just obeying our Lord. And we do it happily and willingly.
I'm sure the women in Iran would disagree
ma shaa Allah well said sis 🤍
In September, Mahsa Amini, a 22-year-old Iranian woman, died in the custody of the country’s “morality police” after she was arrested for allegedly wearing her hijab “improperly.”
Modesty in Islam is not the same as modesty in Christianity. In Islam it’s about the man in Christianity it’s about our relationship to God.
@@jasmineal3685 that is not true at all. In Islam modesty is practiced as obedience to God.
I’ve been following Milena for years now (pre baby Alethea) and for someone who is not religious I think it’s very important to get these different kind of views on life, and Milena really presents her views and religious beliefs in such a gracious way. Through Milena I feel like I have a better understanding of people with religious beliefs and their reasoning behind them. So thank you Milena, even though we come from different belief systems we can all still come together and enjoy your content! ❤️
One of the most solid talks on modesty I’ve heard - finally someone talking about it originating from the heart.
Agreed!
Love this video!! I am a Muslim woman who wears the hijab (head scarf) and dresses modestly so I can really resonate with everything ur saying. Modesty is a very big part of Islam, and similar to what you said in the video, one of the main reasons we wear the hijab is to be recognized as Muslim women because otherwise we would blend in with everyone else and no one would know we are Muslim by looking at us. May ur modesty journey be an easy & empowering one💓
Love this comment, I’m also a Muslim women and love this video!! 🥺💘
Yes!! May Allah guide us to the straight path 🌸
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Love this!! As a Muslim hijabi, for summer, fabric materials make a huge difference in comfort! Also the looser the clothing is, not only makes it more modest, it also allows for more airflow. My husband was concerned about having a daughter because he was worried she would not be able to do activities and sports and still be modest. I told him I would advocate for her to be able to be included and things while modest.
What fabric material do you recommend for humid summer weather?
@@DianaAlvarez-mg2nplinen and muslin. Loose denim actually worked really well, too. Keep your skin covered as much as possible to keep it out of the sun. Contrary to what everyone seems to believe, wearing more natural fabrics that cover you will keep you cooler than wearing a sports bra and spandex shorts
@@DianaAlvarez-mg2npchiffon,satin and silk are perfect materials
As someone who only wears skirts, I have been silently watching your modesty journey for months! Its so beautiful to see the Lord working, he will convict us when we are ready 😊
Beautifully said ❤️🫶🏼
I also wear skirts and this video spoke to me!🤍
What made you fully commit to only wear skirts? I’ve been wanting to do this but I love my jeans! I’ve had someone ask me about wearing skirts but it was already on my mind and heart
@@yeskeslife1483 What made you fully commit to only wear skirts? I’ve been wanting to do this but I love my jeans! I’ve had someone ask me about wearing skirts but it was already on my mind and heart
@@_.endureandpersevere._ hi elizabeth! I grew up in a church where women wear skirts, and while the bible calls for women to dress as women and men as men, standards have certainly changed since then. I find that skirts are the best way to remain modest, no seeing the shape of legs, butt etc. There are people that say that wearing loose fitting pants or shorts are just as modest, and I agree. But I prefer to wear skirts because thats what I was raised on!
I've been slowly changing my wardrobe choices, especially having 2 daughters and seeing crop tops and short shorts for them. It kind of just woke me up like they're going to look at me and do what I do. 🙏♥️
Hi Katelyn! Absolutely. Prior to coming to Christ, all I wore were crop tops and leggings. It makes me cringe to think I used to pickup my daughter from school dressed like that straight out of the gym! But man, God is SO good and He has been so patient with me in every area of my life, especially my modesty journey!! It didn't happen overnight, but over time, with God's grace, I've been able to OBEY the convictions He's placed in my heart and I've changed my entire wardrobe. I got rid of all my crop tops and I never wear just a sports bra to the gym! I've actually been wearing oversized t-shirts to the gym that cover my butt and I've never felt more COMFORTABLE and beautiful. I want to continue to dress for the LORD and not for the world or men's attention. The thought of that actually makes me sick lol. I have a 7 year old daughter who I want to be an example to on how a Godly woman should dress and what pleases/honors God. :) May the Lord continue to work in and through you, sis! God bless you and your beautiful daughters ❤
I’m a Jewish mother and just wanted to say how appreciative I am of this video. Really resonated with me and my values and you spoke so eloquently. Everyone should focus on themselves and sometimes we need to be reminded of that and we’re a work in progress! ❤️
Girl, as a Christian, wife and mommy, I am so inspired by this and feel convicted in what I wear also. I struggle to find outfit ideas so I would love a video on modest outfits!
I’m around your same age, wife, mom of 1 and due with my 2nd in May. I really appreciate this. In a world of “only fans” and people doing things for “likes” on social media. We really need more modesty in life❤️
I was so challenged by this! The heart behind dressing modestly shouldn't be shameful, but should take our eyes off ourselves and point others to God by the way we present ourselves.
I am not religious at all, but this family is one of the only Christian families I’ve ever seen who are genuinely following the god that I believe he should be. It brings me joy to know there are real good people like this out there❤
Milena, great video 👏🏼 I grew up in the Pentecostal church, where Modesty was implemented on both men & women at a young age. You’re right, it is a heart problem, because our hearts ARE the problem. These days we’re so focused on our own emotions, instead of what the Holy Spirit is trying to convict us on. Sadly, sometimes as Christians we take the topic of modesty, to judge other Christians. The Lord once gave my mom a dream on Modesty. In her dream the Lord had spoke to her and had told her to go pray for someone, and she had replied to the Lord, “I can’t, I’m wearing pants” and He replied to her “did I ask you what you were wearing? I told you to go pray for her” and my mom had awoken from her dream. HOW POWERFUL! Is our God.. He wants us to reflect HIM, His kingdom. But that not only includes what we wear, but how we act and how we reflect HIM. Beautiful words Milena. ❤️
I also grew up in the pentecostal church, and I am still Pentecostal. I totally agree with what you said about judging other Christians, it is so sad and such a bad reflection of God!! That’s so amazing that your mom had that dream how God spoke to her!! Thanks for sharing!!
Wow this is beautiful! Thank you for sharing!
Thank you so much I love this 🙏🏼
This is the type of content our world needs! So thankful for your obedience and willingness to speak out for the Lord!
I am a Christian of a different faith but also value modesty and appreciate you having the courage to speak on this topic. In high school, I dressed modestly out of obedience but it embarrassed me to stand apart from the majority. Sadly, I didn’t feel as pretty or confident at school dances because my dresses covered me. It’s taken me into my 30’s to understand and appreciate the whys of modesty and it’s something I now am proud of rather than embarrassed about. It’s neat to see that others of various faiths and backgrounds feel similarly!
Modesty sound so 1900s old fashioned
There is a fine line between modesty for personal or spiritual reasons and modesty to attempt to control what others think. Remember it is not your responsibility to change what other people think about you.
Well, yes. It is a fine line. But mostly, the way we act or dress cannot not provoke emotions in others.
But one thing is certain, it is biblical to actually consider how people might think after they see you. It is a biblical principal and we will be held accountable. Christianity is more of a selfless pursuit. You lay down your life for others.
Came here to say this 👏🏻 A lot of males in this era of easily accessible brutal and violent online exploitation of women, have been groomed to see us as objects and have developed addiction and these objectifying lenses. Women have suffered for so long due to taking accountability for others actions and it shouldn’t be that way. It is their responsibility to undo that and see us as humans deserving of respect. I LOVE however that she immediately mentioned that ultimately modesty refers to the heart as well. Because it’s true! However we want our clothing choices to reflect who we are and what we believe in. She made a lot of good points especially about still having the option to meet somewhere in between with fashion and femininity and then also remembering that not being “part” of the world is okay and we should strive for that. How much falls under this or not can be subjective though.
I just wanted to comment and let you know the other day, when my four year old daughter and I were watching one of your recent vlogs, I see her watching you talk (normally she’s kind of in her own world and only pay attention when the kids are on, lol.) but she was watching you and says, “Wow. She’s really happy.”. And it just brought tears to my eyes that she noticed the joy that God has given you. Then later on she says “Her house looks really happy, too.” And she noticed how you are with the kids and how joyful the kids are. Again, brought tears to my eyes. That’s how I want to be and that’s how I want our home to be. Joyful in the Lord. Anyway, just wanted to let you know.
Modesty also has to do with being humble in how you present yourself to the world. Ex. using discretion when talking about personal wealth and being able to accept constructive criticism.
MILENA!!!!!!! When I tell you Ive been praying for you to feel this!🤯 never from a judge mental standpoint but rather that God has given me this revelation & conviction in modesty and I know it’s the truth according to the word of God. Truly admire you for your sensitivity to the Lord! feel free to reach out to me!! I’ve been dressing modest for as long as I can remember… it definitely is a way to honor and please God! I strongly believe Our outward appearances reflects our inward. And as the Lord says, “Be ye holy for I am Holy” love you and what you’re doing on this platform. Truly it’s powerful.
After having 2 daughters myself I find myself going down this same path, especially as my oldest gets older (nearly 6). Last summer I found her looking at me different. Not in a bad way in a coming of age way. She really observes and absorbs every pet of me now. I found myself being more conscious of what I wear and how I act and speak. Even when it seems they’re not paying attention, they are. I’ve found God talks to me mostly through my children; like a mirror reflecting Gods view back at me.
The way you spoke in this video is exactly the modest, gentle voice that God spoke of in the passage you read from the Bible. 🙏🏻
I’m also on my journey to modesty and I so appreciate this conversation from you! Especially because you’ve been on the receiving end of judgement. It reminds me to be more gentle 😊
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Yes that's so true!! The way she spoke in this video was so beautiful and different from the world
I am so proud of you!!! I am a 29 year old mom to 4 boys between the ages of 9-2! The Lord has been dealing with me for almost a year now about modesty and my boys have complimented me more when I dress modestly than when I’ve worn more in modest things. I’ve seen how their perception of beauty has changed and it is truly amazing! I’m so great full that God is changing my heart, mind and wardrobe! And I am so glad that you spoke on this topic because it is hard! Especially when you want to please the Lord as well as keep your husband’s eye. Please continue to share!❤
Wow, I love that so much. I was saved last year and I've definitely been convicted of the way I used to dress and I've changed my entire wardrobe! I also have a 7 year old daughter and it's been so beautiful to show my daughter by EXAMPLE how a godly woman should dress, apart from the world's standards and ways. God bless you and family! May the Lord continue to grant you patience, grace, wisdom, and discernment in all areas of your life, especially motherhood.
I was also raised in the church and dressed immodestly for many years. I started wearing maxi dresses with shawls and things to church and immediately felt relief. I didn’t need to worry about bending over or how I sat because I was fully covered! It can be challenging to not look frumpy, but there are MANY cute outfits to wear that do not show off your body. I have a baby girl and desire to be a living example to her. I loved this video. Truly appreciated this video and your transparency. God bless your journey, sister!
thank you so much for being so vulnerable. I completely get where you're coming from saying that you're not proud of the way you may have dressed in the past, but I think having so many people be exposed to pictures of maybe what you may not wear now reveals the process of change and conviction and its beauty in God. thank you for sharing; this was incredibly valuable ♥
Yea a LOT of vulnerability 🙌🏽💯
The couldn’t have come at a better time. This whole week I’ve had a tugging at the heart for clothing , dressing more for the stage of life I’m in and wearing things that are practical, yet stylish, and also in a way that my daughter can see me and emulate in a way that is modest and appropriate.
Keep inspiring. We’re always learning and growing!
The level of spiritual discipline that you have is so refreshing. The peace I get from watching you speak or Clea and raise your kids is amazing. Love all you do!
I just wanted to say that I have noticed your modesty. I at one point wouldn’t have wanted my husband to follow you JUST because you’re a beautiful woman. But you have become so honoring to yourself and now my husband recently started following and listening to your podcast because I know I don’t have to worry about that! (I say this in the sweetest way. The lord is teaching me to be more modest in this season too so this is such a relevant and beautiful video.) ❤ I just wanted to say it’s very noticeable and I absolutely love it.
I’m muslim, I don’t wear the hijab but I always try my best to dress modestly. Even though you are not of my religion, but you believe in God like I do and in those values and morals which I really love♥️ I love listening to this and relating! Thank u
I recommend that you search maybe hijabis and what they wear, because many have gotten really good at knowinf what can be worn covered but also not making you sweat and easy for breastfeeding etc! :) Like Leena Asad etc
When I first got saved I was instantly convicted of my wardrobe. I ended up getting rid of 90% of my clothes because I was, for lack of a better word, a “hoochie mama” lol. I was in longer t-shirts and loose pants for awhile but I’m a fashionista and missed dressing feminine so I’m currently trying to find my “modest style” if you will. I pulled together some really cute holiday outfits but it’s definitely a journey. I have to say, for someone who has spent most of her life in virtually no clothes, it feels good to keep my body to myself. ❤
Girl, I'm right there with you! I'm so glad to hear that. God is REAL and He really does change us from the inside out when we put our faith in Jesus and trust in Him! I used to dress provocatively, I was always going out, drinking, having casual sex with men but when I came to know Christ and made Him my Lord & Savior -- He changed ME from the inside out. I no longer drink, I have been celibate for 3 years, and I have changed the way I dress completely.. I no longer dress for men's attention/approval, but I dress to bring glory to God & I choose to dress in a way that honors/pleases Him!! God bless you, sister. May the Lord continue to work in and through you. ❤
I'm also currently at the loose stuff phase. I think I'll stay there until told to move lol.
As someone who has followed along on your journey for YEARS, and gone on my own journey of modesty throughout these years, this is so beautiful and refreshing to see! I’m so happy and excited for you, and I pray you continue to have grace for yourself as you learn. Also, I love Joana and her Instagram and it’s so fun to see worlds collide.
Your obedience to God speaks volumes on how you've matured as a person! Thank you for speaking the truth!! It is tough to see who is set a part these days and appreciate you calling out not just what you wear, but your words and actions. It all stems from the heart!
For winter time i choose tights/legings 100% merino wool. not itching :D And long boots. Skirt/dress long, from wool or polyester. No cotton/linen :)
Yes!! God changes our hearts! I dealt with a similar conviction. I used to only wear crop tops & tank tops before Christ. I remember one day after being born again, I wore a sports bra to the gym and the entire time I was there, I felt so convicted. I stopped wearing sports bras to the gym and I got rid of the cropped tops in my closet. No one told me anything, I just felt convicted by the Holy Spirit.. you are right sister, it is worth it! To surrender and to be obedient! Thank you Jesus for changing me from the inside out. ❤🥰
I’m a Christian and I love crop tops there nothing wrong with crops too
Just an opinion on modesty being difficult to style fashionably. If you look into classic style, the pieces that never go out of fashion, most classic pieces are quite modest and effortlessly beautiful. For me, when I have felt my personal style to be too revealing, it's always when I have tried to follow a trend. Trends are just a momentary flash in the pan, and then they move on. I've found that tailoring my closet to more classic items has made modesty easy, and my shopping as a whole a lot more conscious, and intentional.
Be high value woman that a modest woman
But like, what does that even mean, and how do we shop and find "classic items"? How do I know what a classic item is?
Jeans being immodest has me mind blown 🤯 I don’t dress bad, but I think if men can wear jeans, we can too! We both have butts 🤷🏻♀️
Honestly, men shouldnt be wearing jeans the way they do!! Especially the skinny jeans!! Not modest at all
Tight jeans are basically leggings showing all the crevices of your ass cheeks and legs. Men dont wear it tight.
Agreed and what’s interesting is lots of men find skirts or dresses MORE appealing than jeans anyway. So it doesn’t make a difference really😬
Men and women jeans are not the same women jeans are made to draw attention to your butt. Men jeans today are a little too tight. I think jeans that don't draw so much attention to your butt is more appropriate but if you are a woman with a large behind and it's unavoidable then I get it.
Totally agree. Women need to be able to wear slacks to work or jeans out on the town and not be called immodest.
One of my favorite videos so far. I’ve totally noticed the change in you and it’s so encouraging. When I first found your channel I found a lot of wisdom in the way you rear your kids, but I didn’t agree with all the things you used to wear. It’s just so lovely to see God growing us all. Thank you for sharing this and allowing yourself to grow in modesty, and thank you for helping me to grow in being more lovey with my children. Bless you and your beautiful family
Milena ! I’ve been a follower since before your wedding it’s so crazy to see how you have grown immensely. Not just outwardly I honestly see the most change in you through your heart and words .You are a true testament to being a woman of god ! I have seen over the years how you fully stepped into your role as a wife and mother all while allowing the lord to lead you . And you’re a continuous inspiration to me and I’m sure to plenty of other mothers who are walking through life in similar circumstances
Thank you for honoring the lord and being an example for other believers!!
the part about even modesty toward other women really moved in my heart, i never want anyone to feel like i’m a threat to their view on themselves or even around their husband- thank you for sharing this milena
Milena! The Lord needed me to watch this today! i've been married for 1 year now and literally about 3 months in the Lord really started opening my eyes in this way. I've also struggled alot with being a kind of lukewarm believer, constantly battling new age beliefs. I have been feeling the conviction towards modesty so much because for me, I really want to be seen differently, seen as a believer and when the He put that word modesty on my heart WHEWW CHILE! I thank him so much for putting it on my heart and honestly you sharing this is just more confirmation for me. Go Queen! xx
I started to dress modest when I began being a teacher even tho I’m not religious. I thought “I have to teach to teenagers so they have to be focused on what I say and not on what I look like”. And now I dress modest in all aspects of my life , that’s how feel comfortable, and I love that you says to dress modestly allow us to shine trough our kind words. And modesty makes us not want to compare one another. I loved this conversation Milena ! You are such a beautiful soul and so inspiring ❤
You know what? I don't agree with you, and that's totally ok. I enjoyed listening to your pov, and that's what humans should do - we should learn from each other. Good for you for being on your journey. I personally don't dress in a way in which I expose what I believe to be too much, but I also don't think I should try to cover my skin or my body because the world oversexualizes women. The world does that wrong - that's the world's problem - but there's nothing wrong about me, my body, or what I choose to put on. I don't like to expose myself, but I'm not going to cover myself to mitigate the world's perversity. Hopefully this makes sense. Sending you love during your journey.
If we truly understood how men are wired differently than us. They are visual. What we think of “so what it’s just some skin” it’s a temptation for them to sin, at least in their heart. As a Christian, if we truly love others (our brothers especially in this case) we wouldn’t want to be someone who makes it more difficult for them to remain pure. The world will be the world, we cannot control. But the temptation should not come from Christian women. God bless!! ❤
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Its not about the worlds view or how they sexualize women. The reason they do is because they know the science behind human brains. Its the way we are created…modesty is always better…
@@svetlanalukyanov5775 if I see a man showing off his muscles or more it temps me to “sin”. We are NOT wired differently. I am a far more sexual person than most men I’ve met 😂
@@alliepruett1094 thats what you think haha! Men dont need a women to show off muscles to get turned on.. lets keep it at that! :)))
I love the whole part about not judging people and not pushing them too hard. My mother always emphasized modesty so much and her standards were so high that I never felt I fit her standard and just gave up trying to be as modest as she would have liked and that led me to be less and less modest. Everyone is on their own journey with it and we should be each other's guides, not judges.
Omg I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately and now your video came out. This is so nice to hear and start a conversation about and to know someone is going through the same thing. The main stream media is all about taking off your clothes and unfortunately young girls look up to that and it’s easy to be influenced by it that’s why it’s hard to be modest in this time and age. I think modesty is so beautiful and feminine. You’re so young and mature and guiding young girls to a good path. God have really blessed you with knowledge and wisdom. I love the part about it’s a slow process and the gym clothes that’s how it’s going for me. I’m really happy that someone is opening up the conversation 💗
I'm enjoying watching your videos and following you on instagram so much lately! Because you are not the same Milena I followed 4 years ago, and you are probably not the same Milena we will see next year. The Lord has been working on your life and your family so much, especially this past year, and it's been such a blessing to witness that! It shows that there's always room for change in our lives if we let God be in control. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences!
I’m so, so, so happy you made a video about this because it just confirms every conversation I’ve had with the Lord in private. I want to cry tears of joy because I thought I was making things up in my head because no one talks about this and everyone looks the same and I’m like where do I start?
Beautiful take on modesty!! I love the way you approach modesty in humility and shared your journey, thank you 💖. This video encouraged me on my journey with modesty. May God continue to bless you and use you in this crazy world!
I am a Muslim but really relate to so many of the things you say and feel! Loved this video. 💕 Definitely not an easy topic to talk about!
I love this entire message! ❤The obedience, the vulnerability, how relatable your walk is and the grace you are showing to others and imploring on others to have with eachother❤️
I just wanted to say how much I appreciate your grace + gentleness in this video. I've also been burned by hurtful comments regarding modesty and a general attitude of shame around the conversation which in my experience is never helpful and always hurtful. this was humble and honest and vulnerable and I so so appreciate that
the ending has me confused. The part about women being modest takes away feeling threatened by eachother, because at a baseline, isn't jealousy in the first place a sin??? so whether someone isn't being "modest" it's not on THEM, it's on YOU to not feel jealous or "threatened?"
The denominations that only wear skirts and dresses are so incredibly toxic in my experience. I grew up in that church, and I can’t express how ridiculous it was. One time I went to a church camp when I was 5, and I got pulled aside and told to go change bc my dress was just above the knee. I was 5. I did not even understand why. Why were they sexualizing that? I was 5! That stuck with me because it was so confusing. Not until I was older did I understand what happened.
I love modesty in every aspect you described, as long as it’s not coming from a place of oppression from other people.
I agree. This reminds me of dress codes at school, sexualising children’s knees and shoulders. It keeps kids from learning and represents a form of punishment in the summer for their wardrobe and bodies. This whole topic is not addressed at all like that outside of the US. European schools don’t have a ‘school dress code’ unless it is a private school with certain extra rules for uniforms or school attire. Girls are not made to feel ‘wrong’ and distracting.
As a revert from Catholicism to Islam and a Hijabi - I absolutely love that you’re using your platform to speak on this topic that God calls all people of the book (Jews/Christians/Muslims) including men to have (modesty). All the points you touched on were pure gold and I could relate to many if not everything u mentioned❤ praying for you sister ! PS I love that you were brave enough to speak on something you’re struggling with instead of waiting 🤍
This video put a smile on my face! I’ve also changed how I present myself to the world. I ran competitively in college. Our uniforms and practice clothes attracted attention to our bodies, but it was normal and I didn’t think anything of it. After college, I realized how detrimental my clothes could be in my walk with Christ. I wear skirts/dresses at least to the knee (even found cute workout ones that are great for loungewear!), and God also deals with me in regard to hair, jewelry, and makeup. There’s so much in His Word if we just look for it and pray on it, just as you said!
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Please never stop talking about this and show your journey. I am struggling so much rn with this. I pray the Lord can help me through this time of what to wear. I feel very lost tbh, and coming across videos like these are so helpful. I feel less shameful and less of a sinner and it feels good to hear that some things will take a bit longer but that the Lord is more focused on our hearts 🙏🏽 May God continue to use you as a vessel to share his word in such a powerful and sweet way.
I love this! As a young mom/woman in society today, we are constantly seeing what beautiful “is” on social media and it has affected me so much. I struggle with finding my own style and sense of self because I feel like if I don’t look or dress like the girls on social media, I’m not beautiful. Thank you for speaking on this and I pray for all women in their journey to find confidence in their own selves💕
Yes because I see so much Christian girls dress modesty but it look too frumpy I want to still dress like how I was dressing I like the way I dress I love FashionNova PrettyLittleThing etc
I’ve been on this journey since I was 17. It didn’t fully kick in until I had my second baby at 22. I am a very young mom (23 with a 4 year old and 1 year old)… so I felt like dressing modest was for older moms. I wanted to fit in with my peers who didn’t have children yet. God really put it on my heart and I’ve slowly changed. I don’t think I will switch to no jeans, but I have switched to no holes in my jeans. I rarely wear shorts unless I’m at home just because I truly don’t want anyone else to look at my body. I am not protecting people from “stumbling”. I am protecting myself from other people’s unwelcomed thoughts or opinions or worse! My husband loves it even though he was a little confused at first as to why I was doing it since I wasn’t dressing super exposed before I felt the conviction on my heart. How beautiful it is to love the Lord! How amazing is it that we have a living Holy Spirit within us to guide our hearts!
I want to thank you for making this video - for multiple reasons. One, because as an expectant mom I truly enjoy your content and look up to you as an example of what a godly wife/mother should be, and being on a modesty journey myself, I really appreciate that you are talking about the difficulty of the journey. And I'm also glad that you brought up the different body types, because I started my modesty journey (and mine consists of only skirts/dresses) at a time when I happened to be gaining a significant amount of weight, and so it's been such a struggle to find modest clothes that fit my changing body type (ESPECIALLY now that I'm pregnant). It's like, they don't make clothes for women that aren't either sexual or frumpy. It's so hard to find an in-between, and it's also hard when you have a particular style that you like but can't find affordable pieces that will fit you in a modest way. I live in NY and the winters can get quite cold here too, so I understand your hesitancy with converting to only skirts/dresses - it's a struggle, sis! What's saved me is wearing fleece tights but I know sometimes that's not enough. To each their own journey. Anyhow, thank you for being brave enough to talk about this topic even though you didn't want to - I look forward to seeing how you grow! Also, if you ever want to do a "modest look-book," I'd totally love that, because I love your fashion sense and would love to get inspiration!
I’ve been seeing a big change in you, and love to see it! Just me being honest I felt like you were swaying away from the word and more the world trying to be liked and relatable but this year I see a change in you and love seeing this Godly woman. I mentioned before how I didn’t like all the gym clothes and bra tops and crop tops you were wearing and since I was watching with my daughter I wasn’t watching you as much - but I definitely see a change in you ❤
I can honestly say that i've been waiting for this video from you for years! I started following you when you just got married. Please do not get me wrong - i never judged you, but i also never understood why you are not dressing as modestly. I guess it also has to do a lot with american christian culture that i am not a part of and it is hard for me to understand. Anyway, just wanted to say that it's so so so amazing to see how much you have changed and that God is working with your views and you are so open to changes. Really proud of you and bless you! Thank you for a beautiful and honest video. It was really encouraging to watch!
Honestly, modesty is a touchy topic with me as well. I feel like for so long it's been drilled in females heads that we need to be modest for the sake of the "male gaze" and it was always so off putting to me. But I love how you touched on how 1)men can be immodest 2) modesty is far beyond what you wear and 3) taking into account body shapes and how certain women are shamed for the body that God gave them! It's a personal journey with that person and the Lord. Great job with this video :)
Mia we have to be honest here if we walk in the average church you already have around 9 out of 10 men dressing modest. It's a lot more common for women to dress inmodest so that's why the focus is on them mostly. Both need to be modest but it's simply just more of a women's issue. Out of curiosity what's touchy about it to you? With scripture saying don't be a stumblingblock Luke 17:1-4, Paul in 1 Corinthians 8:13 said even though he can eat meat he won't if it causes a weaker brother to stumble and much more. It's pretty straightforward in scripture and the biggest struggle I think is people just not wanting to lay down their own desires and selflessly serve like we're called to do.
we need to talk on the judgment we sometimes get because we chose to dress modestly. I remember I was 15 when my mum would call me "boring", "a nun" or say things like "you dress too cover, it looks bad" (and this was because I liked to wear long jeans and loose t-shirts or choosed not to show cleavage). Now I'm 30 y/o and I still choose to dress modestly (granted I learned to make it nicer), I like it and feel secure,confident and pretty, but those words for sure hurt me at the time. I still get coments from her telling me "why you keep covering yourself? you are pretty, show yourself more", the way I dress is not because I feel ugly or insecure, and is definetely not because I want to "hide" myself but rather because I like people to see me for who I am and not for the clothes I wear.
I love that you brought the topic of modesty up. Our bodies are temples and are sacred. The world teaches differently, that we should show it off and I know that is not of the Lord and what pleases Him. You are definitely being guided by Him to share this. Thank you .
hi Milena, I’ve been waiting and wondering when you were going to speak on this topic. You handled it so well and with so much grace and truth. I love all that you’ve been learning from the Lord about this topic and have also felt very convicted on how I’m choosing to clothe myself. Thank you for being bold and obedient to the Lord, it’s amazing to see how God is using you ♥️
I grew up SUPER conservative, dresses and skirts only . Even though I tried to fight it and didn't understand it growing up, I kept it in my adult years. One day I just woke up and realized why it's important to dress this way, and I've been convinced that every other girl out there that is truly seeking the heart of God will one day come to this realization as well. Thank you for proving my point!! And may God help you on your modesty journey ❤️💕
Praise God for your willingness to talk about modesty! I remember (probably over a year ago) you mentioned on Instagram that you weren't ready to talk about this yet, but I am so thankful you are now. You did a beautiful job explaining how external modesty is a reflection of what's inside your heart. When I was convicted of modesty, I went through the same steps you're going through and I'm still working through my thoughts on certain types of clothes. Also, thank you for the reminder that modesty is dressing and acting in a way that glorifies God and not myself! I think I've been lacking in that lately.
I grew up being in a catholic house hold but 2 years ago I converted to Islam. Modesty was a big change in my life and just recently 3 days ago I started covering my hair with a hijab and I’ve never felt this happy in my life knowing I’m doing it for GOD. And just then I see you post this video it’s so beautiful knowing your in the right path ❤
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Something I have always found encouraging is that we should not be ashamed of showing our growth process - whether it's showing our children or friends, etc. I love that you're openly sharing your process of growing in the Lord through modesty.
I am all for the modesty. As I became a mom I noticed that less and less my focus was on being "seen" and more on being comfortable and adapting to my role as a mom. "Does this show my butt if I'm picking up my kids" "will someone completely see down my shift if I have to bend over". To dress that way was no longer practical but it was also no longer comfortable. I felt I was constantly trying to cover myself up and not expose too much yet I'd wear these things 🤦♀️ duhh wear clothes that cover more and make me feel comfortable in my own skin.
Crop tops are amazing under certain dresses, rompers, and overalls. They look like regular shirts under all of those, but since it’s less fabric they’re not as bulky underneath and are cooler for the summer :)
Modesty has been such a journey for me as well !!! The holy spirit has changed my heart on a lot of things 🥰😇. As women we should lift eachother up and lead one another to christ. The verse in Peter about gentle and quiet spirit, God has been putting that on my heart so much lately. ♥️
It reminds me of the verse :
Quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to get angry. James 1:19
And yes being slow and careful of the things that come out of our mouth, selective. There is life and death in the tongue!
I love the conversation. I am a Christian and I choose to wear only skirts and dresses. I lived in Canada for many years and found a lot of ways to warm it up. Modesty is a journey, I’m so happy for you that you’re on it. There’s so much freedom ❤
I get it but on the other hand I think women shouldn't 'hide' just because men can't keep their thoughts together. I don't think you should dress too revealingly - of course not. don't understand me wrong but when a guy passes by with huge muscles and a tight shirt I could have 'dirty' thoughts too but I CHOOSE NOT TO. men should learn that too... see us as a woman (as a human being) and not as a s** object...
I agree with this!! this topic is definitely not one-sided-- I was just sharing my personal experience as a wife and mama ☺️
I think this is my issue too. It had me thinking about women only wearing dresses and being so oppressive when I can see a man’s butt in a pair of pants as well? I 100% get what she is saying about modesty in general.
I appreciate you talking on it applying to men too. People like to make it the woman’s job, but it’s also the man’s job to be modest and to treat a woman, modest or not, with respect.
Love this! I came from a very legalistic background where I only wore skirts & now I'm kind of the black sheep because I've added pants to my wardrobe. I've come to learn that modesty, as you said, is so much more about the heart & wanting to cover because of the Lord & like you also said, to let his love shine! ❤️
I am just obsessed with this video. Thank you for being vulnerable for your followers. I dress pretty modestly, but this really has opened my mindset on it ALL. Thank you for obeying the Lord!
My cousins used to tell me growing up that they were taught “modest is hottest”
Honestly it is… I see so many beautiful girls who show skin who always get cheated on sadly :/ but the women who cover up and have a beautiful spirit and joyful smile are always looked at and sought after
@@shell7142dressing modestly won’t stop someone from cheating on you if that’s what someone wants to do. Dressing modestly in itself is not enough to attract the right kind of partner.
Yes I have dressed “modest” for the last few years, once I have children of my own, I hope to be a role model to them 💕 make more videos about this!!
@@kameronmoore2392sorry if that was the take away for you. Not what I meant.
@@shell7142 and?? People who are cheated on have nothing to do with it. The cheater has complete control of their own actions.
Wow. I really felt this. I have decided not to long ago, to start dressing more “modestly”. I made the comment out loud to my husband, and our oldest daughter who is 12 asked me what that meant. I of course was stumbling on my words to say, and didn’t know exactly how to put it besides having more respect for myself, what I’m showing of my body and to whom… but this, this video has made some more valid points and I think I will have sit down and show her some of these scriptures now and talk more into depth with it. As her becoming a young lady, I believe it’s very important for her to hear this and have a better understanding. Then as her two younger sisters get older, they will know as well. I try to instill it always, for them all to learn, but I must set the example in my household. Thank you ❤ God knew exactly what I needed to hear.
I love this so much! I just had my first daughter and I feel so different about what I do, how I dress, what I take in vain within myself. Cause she is constantly looking at me and will continue to do so as she gets older and she’s going on 6 mo. Also for my son on what to look for in a SO.
THANK YOU for this video!!! Back in May I joined a young adult woman’s group and when I met some of these ladies it was life changing. They holiness they live is truly something special. After a couple of get-togethers the Lord started to show me my reality. My reality of making others see ME and not the Lord. I immediately cleaned out my closet and started to change the way I dressed. (I still find myself here and there taking a piece or two out, which I love bc its showing my growth). To make the long story short, my family members started to admire the changes they started to see. Anyways, its been a beautiful journey so far and I know I still have sooooooo much to work on. It was so nice to see this video, again, thank you. You’ll be in my prayer sister🤍✨
I understand modesty for nuns or people who are celibate, but if you're having sex, I just find the whole thing hypocritical. That's just what I feel in my heart. How are jeans immodest? I think people have sex on the brain too much. Skin is natural, boobs are for feeding babies, people need to get sex off the brain!
This video was very encouraging and I felt i was called to join you on this journey learning what it means not only to be modest in front of men but also in front of friends and sisters in Christ.
👏🏻Here 👏🏻 for 👏🏻 this! This is such a beautiful, vulnerable and honest video of your “in-progress” journey of modesty. Thank you for sharing with us!
I love this video. When I opened my Bible app for the verse of the day it was “Do not conform to the pattern of this world.” Romans 12:2. This video is a great reminder that me dressing in a modest way isn’t wrong and also to remember to be modest with my mind & the things that I say. ❤
Thank you for this video. Sometimes it is hard for me to dress modestly because of how I compare myself to other 19-year-old girls. This just boosted my confidence. So, thank you!
So great that you are already thinking about this at such a young age, I wish I did too earlier! Don’t compare yourself to others, you don’t need to please anyone with your dressing! (except God, if you are a Christian)
@@histamiiini Yes! Thank you :)
Milena you have heart of Gold. The way you encourage and rebuke people is like a mother. You might be young, but speak so maturely.
I’ve dressed modestly most of my life now and I have say you are so right about it being a challenge each day. Like I still want to be fashionable but modest so I have to work extra hard in finding items that are stylish. But it’s also such a fun new challenge each day
You spoke so beautifully Milena, and I love how you’re taking us on your journey with you. So courageous, and you really reminded me of how the Lord is the only one who knows the true intentions of our heart. God Bless you 🙏🏻🤍
My sister in law is a dresses and skirts only modest woman and she was raised that way whereas I am new on this journey and I’m still learning and this video was so beautifully put and really helped me see things from a different perspective.
Take the attention off me and put it on my face showing the joy the Lord has given me 🙌🏼🙌🏼 absolutely love how you worded that. Thank you for speaking on this hard topic! ♥️
This will bless so many people ❤️ This is exactly the type of video I was searching for when I first felt convicted about my own modesty! It’s a scary topic so many Christian influencers avoid but you handled it with genuine love & grace for whoever watches this ☺️