The Truth About Polygyny and Women

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  • Опубліковано 2 гру 2024

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  • @mohamedaddani3718
    @mohamedaddani3718 3 місяці тому +20

    I object to the title : “Love is for weak men”. Our prophet SAAW shared he loved his wife Aisha in kitab Bukhari in a saheeh hadith, despite being the best creation in the universe. Change it plz. Thanks

    • @Azrael-2025
      @Azrael-2025 3 місяці тому +6

      Why is Aisha رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهَا always singled out? What about the other wives? He ﷺ loved them too.

    • @Azrael-2025
      @Azrael-2025 3 місяці тому +8

      Prophet Muhammad ﷺ loved Khadija رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهَا the most. However, that doesn't mean he didn't love his later wives too.

  • @chicken5706
    @chicken5706 3 місяці тому +17

    The argument that a man who loves one woman is weak is incredibly foolish. What tempers and regulates the extremeness of love is the rememberance that only Allah deserves our full heart and submission. Even a woman - as devoted as she is to the one she loves - must regulate that love and direct her ultimate devotion to Allah if her husband asks her to commit a sin. A monogmous man can still maintain his frame and not be destroyed if he loses his wife. What is weak is being so afraid of getting hurt that you need to have more shallow love for multiple women rather than a deeper connection with one. You are ruled by fear and an inability to be vulnerable. THAT is weak.

    • @NaomiDuarte-u8r
      @NaomiDuarte-u8r Місяць тому +1

      Allahuma Barik, I was thinking the same thing the entire time.

  • @1marzouq
    @1marzouq 3 місяці тому +5

    A lot of modern Muslim women don’t want to hear what he is saying. However, he is correct!!!!

  • @sbinti1152
    @sbinti1152 3 місяці тому +17

    What is he saying...seriously telling men that being in love with one woman is weak?! The rasul.saw was with khadijah until she died. Was he weak?
    When he started engaging in polygyny was because of revelation from Allah. There were reasons for him to marry his wives it was for the strengthening of tribes and families, it was not from his desires. What he is saying is toxic to the youth that is listening to him. This brother should stop projecting his desires as the truth. Telling men that he should ' diversify' so he doesnt get his heart broken is so stupid. Does he think that women want to get married now knowing men are like this.? These youtube daaees should focus on telling men how to be better husbands and fathers. There are so many muslim dead beat fathers around. Its more important to raise good children and to maintain love in the family. This brother is influenced by red pill BS.

    • @rottenfreddy3759
      @rottenfreddy3759 3 місяці тому +3

      Idk he has given great advice but this video was disappointing.

  • @SK-fn7iw
    @SK-fn7iw 3 місяці тому +3

    So how about if a woman gets heartbroken... Whats her back up plan? When she's put all her love and commitment into one man... Its not easy either way for a man or woman... Women go through depression etc too.. after all that what can she then do? Genuine question and would appreciate mature answers and input.

  • @LightSpark3421
    @LightSpark3421 3 місяці тому +13

    This is disgusting and has nothing to do with Islam . Don't use Islam as an excuse if you can't love your wife!
    Narrated Abu `Uthman:
    Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) sent `Amr bin Al As as the commander of the troops of Dhat-us-Salasil. `Amr bin Al- `As said, "(On my return) I came to the Prophet (ﷺ) and said, 'Which people do you love most?' He replied, `Aisha.' I said, 'From amongst the men?' He replied, 'Her father (Abu Bakr)'.
    The best of mankind loved his wife Aisha (RA) which he expressed many times.

  • @sumamat5093
    @sumamat5093 3 місяці тому +2

    Being a wife in a polygamous marriage i can say that only those men who are financially strong, hell responsible, physically strong and those willing to lend a listening ear to each wife CAN sustain and maintain multiple households. Also he must marry patient religious and obeidient women becos even if one wife annoys him the repercussions go around to all houses(unless the man is emotionally strong).
    Also there comes times when wives maybe pregnant together and unwell so thats a rough time for the whole setup and can take a toll on the man.

  • @alanab5735
    @alanab5735 Місяць тому +1

    The only men who don't do polygyny, as in having real relationships with multiple women, is because he cannot get multiple women. 🤭 Excellent points overall about the weakness of men & monogamy.

  • @lightening791
    @lightening791 3 місяці тому +11

    So men are pursuing polygyny in case of a break up and heartbreak 😅. People always say women are the weaker sex but women are actually very pragmatic and resilient. We get over breakup fast

    • @ryanhaque1107
      @ryanhaque1107 3 місяці тому

      Good for you

    • @tah9665
      @tah9665 3 місяці тому +1

      Men are not a part of women - when a woman loses a man, she loses nothing.
      But women are from the rib of man - when a man loses a woman, he is watching a piece of his self go.

    • @itwasaizensplan007
      @itwasaizensplan007 3 місяці тому

      ​@@ryanhaque1107 no need to get emotional😂

    • @mahadilyas5125
      @mahadilyas5125 2 місяці тому

      That’s true that women are more resilient and can endure more pain than men in general, these are some of the the qualities of a woman, so I don’t know what point u are trying to prove here. Both men and women are created and wired differently, we are physically different, biologically, psychologically etc, so one strength of a man can be weakness of a woman and vice versa. I don’t know about men pursuing polygamy just for the sake of not feeling it too much in times of heartbreak and break up, that’s simply not true for a lot of men who pursue polygamy. There are different reasons as to why men pursue polygamy

    • @Lancer5ive
      @Lancer5ive Місяць тому

      Because women don’t have genuine love

  • @Jojo98495
    @Jojo98495 3 місяці тому +3

    This was actually very interesting

  • @phoenixknight8837
    @phoenixknight8837 3 місяці тому +27

    BarakAllahu feekum! But can we men even afford it and handle running back and forth between homes dealing with multiple personalities and stress? It is an extremely difficult time to even be able to run one successful household. Time is ticking and soon we will leave this dunya and not be tormented by the fitra nafs.

    • @moonwalkerr87
      @moonwalkerr87 3 місяці тому +1

      Do misyar marriage with career oriented sisters who don't want financial support. No need to worry about finances. But the women have to do be willing to do it by their own will.

    • @RachidB1
      @RachidB1 3 місяці тому

      Men can deal with it easily. Feminine men like you can't though.

    • @s0ne01
      @s0ne01 3 місяці тому +1

      Depends on the needs of the individuals maybe the sister is older doesn't want children or to have intercourse and just wants to have companionship.

    • @Bhghih
      @Bhghih 3 місяці тому +1

      Im sorry to say, but you are not helping, just unhelping. Maybe try to change your approach

    • @user-ve4zw6jp9i
      @user-ve4zw6jp9i 3 місяці тому

      ​@@RachidB1where da money @😂

  • @hnsfamily
    @hnsfamily 2 місяці тому +2

    This video makes me want to be single

  • @alm_alb
    @alm_alb 3 місяці тому +8

    Really glad he’s doing podcasts with other people- inshallah he will reach more people.

  • @ayub1993
    @ayub1993 3 місяці тому

    Masha’Allah Alhamdullilah!

  • @samsungvvvcmini8853
    @samsungvvvcmini8853 3 місяці тому +2

    When a man marries 2 3 or 4. The women becomes a part time single mother. Isnt that bad for the ubringing of the children. Wot does islam say acbout it plz.

  • @khalidkhatri100
    @khalidkhatri100 3 місяці тому

    Much Needed Uplifting Of Masculinity 👌🏻

  • @vanessaallan7311
    @vanessaallan7311 14 годин тому

    So does the woman go to husband suggesting to entry Polygamy or is it the husband.
    In FLDS the woman will invite her.

  • @asmaatorka1805
    @asmaatorka1805 3 місяці тому +2

    You can do more podcasts to advice women so they can be in their feminine energy and talk about woman nature ❤

  • @generalali7609
    @generalali7609 3 місяці тому +4

    Wait fitrah equal biology? Since when? Also if you make a statement like that then we can do what ever we want that comes naturally because it is fitrah. This is a shortsighted way of explaining this because is gives you what you want.

    • @Tresdrole123
      @Tresdrole123 3 місяці тому

      M*sterbation is also fitra but Islam sets clear prohibition and solutions agaibst it.

    • @thestallion7815
      @thestallion7815 3 місяці тому

      Exactly!

  • @aamiralikhan6328
    @aamiralikhan6328 3 місяці тому

    What about a 35 year old man who has never had a grlfrnd and still is unmarried wwhat about his level of functioning in the world

  • @user-io4jg8x
    @user-io4jg8x 3 місяці тому +3

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  • @shaamilsuaib3224
    @shaamilsuaib3224 2 місяці тому

    Ustaadh barakallahu feekum
    I miss the days when i saw your khutbas/reminders yrs ago on dailyreminder/digital mimbar
    Back then I'd say you were more inspiring as a role model for muslim men.
    You seem to have quran and sunnah as the lens to view concepts including masculinity back then.
    Now, Allahu A'lam, but on the outside seems you are having masculinity as the lens and the Qur'an and sunnah as the object or concept under scrutiny. Which creates sometimes true but often times distorted views/call to action.
    Dont get me wrong, no man would honestly say modern feminism is good. But dont counter extremes (feminism) with another extreme.

  • @rosebud679
    @rosebud679 3 місяці тому

    46:30 "...she's into polegeny, alright, she's a third wife or something" proceeds with biggest nose scratch. 😂

  • @AishabintAbuBakr-l5z
    @AishabintAbuBakr-l5z 3 місяці тому +2

    Is your current 3 wives enough for you atm Gabriel?

  • @Ak-qj1lf
    @Ak-qj1lf 3 місяці тому

    How many wives does Romani have

  • @tarickhammoud9545
    @tarickhammoud9545 3 місяці тому

    I think hes ✅️, but maybe not for all men.

  • @thruefact
    @thruefact 3 місяці тому +1

    I am a woman, and i agree with him

  • @amargamentedoce
    @amargamentedoce 2 місяці тому

    Cristiano Ronaldo is monoganous ❤️‍🔥 to understand you d have to BE a portuguese 😅