This sounds good and all, but the reality is at least for me my ex is married and moved in another state and still tries to hang out with my parents and turn the kid my kids away from me. He did succeed with one, but that relationship is rebuilding and I don’t know it’s all a mess and we are the ones that lose everything. The most precious things like family and friends because of the manipulation thur the years and they are so good. It takes years to build back up from that with healing and stuff.I don’t see the narc losing anything but your right that they don’t hVe love and that’s the worst but I do t have that either from a significant other. It’s difficult to date. The only love I have a self log now it seems like that’s probably gonna be the only love I have. Thanks to the smear campaign and trauma: we are too timid and scared to end up in that mess again!
Absoluetly, ya know God still keeps them here...trying to show him the GOOD, BEAUTIFUL that is right in front of him.... God lets it happen, they had chances, they turned their back on Our God,,, Pergatory is their demise.
I was raised by a narcissist that made my sisters and I cope with things my mother should have dealt with instead of us. We were all in constant chaos throughout our lives. After her death which we provided her burial about a year later - I saw her presence in my room trying to prank me now? When I looked up from my bed what I saw was very disturbing. My narc mom looked like "a demon" with her face was black and bulging eyes and sharp teeth which she tried to smile. It was a horrible sight. I said the "Our Father" so that she would not come back to bothered me. I asked God I cannot deal with such horror as my mother ever again. I thank Jesus Christ and she never came back.
I'm with a guy (12 yrs. now) that swept me off my feet only to knock me down. I was married once for 18 yrs. and he's NEVER been married at 58 yrs old. All his girlfriends are either drug addicts worthless people, according to him. 2 children 2 baby mommas pregnant at the same time! His son committed suicide at 17 ON Father's day! The daughter who is 23 right now wants nothing to do with him! And he wants to know why I won't marry him.
Yes I agree with avoidance being subtle let them always be dwelling on why things are happening the way they are, and not giving them the answer. I guess you could call it “ sweet suffering.”
my narcissist exhusband had no interest in God or church. in fact told me once he didnt want to hear about my "stupid God stuff' so where did we go when he suggested marriage therapy? the church. so they could tell me HE is the man He is right and i just need to do as I am told. he even said he believed he had NO SIN -- so essentially saying HE is God? and the counselor said nothing to that. i left him and that church i am so much happier now
I'm no contact atm. But it's hard, because the person keeps trying to pull me back, by guilting me. No accountability, no asking if the other person( me) is even ok. I know it's all manipulation, but it still emotionally stresses me out. Even harder because it's a family member. Smh
@ClassicDiva33 How is this person trying to guilt you? No contact means no contact. Get the police involved and one time in jail the no contact order will stick. They won't bother you after that!
you once did a vid on how they sleep and my real thought is if you still have a conscience (which is the still small voice of God within trying to get your attention), you will try to squish it, suppress that, ignore it, be nervous, stay distracted, fill up your time, be busy, smoke, drink, whatever because the LAST thing you want is to listen to that Voice, the ego is so belligerent and arrogant - so finding it hard to sleep or stay asleep is a given. my roommate who is a narc right now is constantly blaring netflix while she sleeps, constant blaring. I think (my thought) is because she is troubled by her thoughts haunting her and she is doing all she can to ignore her Self, her Soul calling her to repentance, to wake up. this is why they can't stay still or lay down peacefully. thank you Danish! @@narcabusecoach
but if we include God (which is what this is all about anyway, right? this life is a spiritual experience for those who wake up to what this is all about and why we are here), and we start facing ourselves and putting God first we do begin to have peace and when we don't, we stop, back up and look where we got off track. we do not keep blaming, we do acknowledge however, this is important to face things but then, what is it telling us about ourselves? What is familiar here? the ONLY PERSON WE HAVE THE POWER TO CHANGE IS OURSELVES and then we are FREED. God bless us. We are waking up. thank you Danish!@paulinsky53
My ex narcissist spent years turning our daughter against me. God helped me divorce him and helped me and my daughter learn about narcissism and we both got away from him. As she learned more and more about narcissism she decided to completely cut him off. He still reaches out but she has gone no contact. One day I was reading the verse proverbs 26:27 “he who digs a pit will fall into it. “ And it hit me hard the reality of God’s word. If we dig a pit for others to try to sabotage them, we will fall into it ourselves. My ex spent years trying to destroy my relationship with my daughter- and he did cause of lot of damage. But in the end he ended up destroying his own relationship with her. She and I are now close and have healed soooo much❤.
So true, a friend of mine could have prevented me from making a big financial mistake,but she stood behind and let it happen, one day in my own living room,she revealed what she knew , I said nothing,I pretended I did not understand, so she knew !!she wanted me in a pit, jealousy is as strong as the grave,,,many of my friends thought I had money,far from the truth,I did not complain about money to anyone..they could not help me anyway.Lately this has bothered me that she knew, would I let a friend fall in a pit.?I never have.i am asking God to help me to be forgiving,and to forget..
The very 1st argument we had was about God. I made it ABUNDANTLY CLEAR, that I would choose God above ANYONE and ANYTHING, including him! THAT was the beginning of my discard and my abuse. The look in his eyes was something I'll never forget. They literally turned black! Why, oh why didn't I run like hell??? I'm more angry at myself than I ever will be at him. I subjected myself to that nightmare for 7 damn years. God showed me so many times, whom and what I was dealing with. I didn't realize how manipulated I had been until I was gone from the situation. I've been out of it for just over a year. I'm still healing, but I'm standing on my feet now and my heads raised a little higher. So grateful to have come across this video!! I've been pretty upset with God 😢😢😢. This helped so much.
God would be wish the narcissist to open their mind to see the truth, God is love and the creator of all love including mankind whom he created for love. Love conquers all, God wants everyone to enjoy the reward of eternal life in heaven with him, we need to pray for and believe that with faith God will grant the grace for people to repent, and turn to him and change their lives, asking for the grace in the name of the saviour of the world the Lord Jesus Christ 🙏💖
I’m a Christian and I agree with what you’re saying. My ex-son-in-law, is THE perfect example of a narcissist! He has ruined my two granddaughters lives. The oldest has such trauma. The younger one is still trying to have a relationship with their father. She is always let down. He and his new wife makes several $$$,$$$.00 a year. Nothing is ever enough. He put in a $150,000 pool and pool house and won’t even pay for the older daughter’s college tuition. He has to be the center of attention and try’s to make people think that he’s the perfect father. I pray for his salvation. And healing for my daughter and granddaughters. Thank you for your videos. I try really hard not to have hate for him in my heart because, I know that hate isn’t pleasing to God either. God bless you!
Thank you, Danish. One thing I learned was that God is working behind the scenes. We may not see it right away. He never sleeps, working in our favor. He is making my enemies a footstool under my feet. The trap the enemy set out for me, they will fall into it themselves. What was meant for my harm, God will use for my greater good, etc., etc.
Narcissists are NEVER happy. Their arrogance is a camoflage for their self-hatred, frustration, and unhappiness. Their lack of karma is their punishment. Karma would be mercy to them, because it might force them to confront what a mess they are and change. Many narcissists I've seen are demon possessed as well.
Exactly mine would always say I’m a badass. I told him does abandoning your child mean you are a bad ass? Definitely not! Like sir sit down and humble yourself yet they keep running amuck
I believe my mom is a narcissist but I can't give up on her. But it's hard tom communicate with her. I'm looking for a way to tell her she needs help but I know that conversation won't end well..if anyone has any advice please help
My narcissist mother died we just buried her this past Friday, September 29,2023. It was a traumatic time in my life for years dealing with her and my narcissistic brother. I had to make a hard decision to stay away from them and seek therapy to get the healing that I needed. The stories I could tell is enough to write a best seller book. I’m grateful for channels like yours who speaks on the spiritual side of this evilness to make others aware. I truly appreciate it!
Go ahead and write a book about your experiences! It will probably make you and others happy. I am thinking about writing a book also! GOD bless you always! 🙏🙏 I will pray for you to heal! 🙏🙏
I, too have a narc mother & brother with whom I have not contacted for 6 years after 40+ years of their tomfoolery and using my love against me…. It’s been liberating to say the least! I would read your book seeing how it would probably be all too relatable ! God Bless You on your journey 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼✌🏽
lol yeah by becomeing the rich, the powerful, the controllers, the CEOs, the politicians. Yeah they sure are being punished with luxurious lives, what a punishment.
2 Timothy 3:16-17 New International Version 16 All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, 17 so that the servant of God[a] may be thoroughly equipped for every good work. please do not change scripture
Hebrews 4:13 Nothing in all creation is hidden from God’s sight. Everything is uncovered and laid bare before the eyes of him to whom we must give account.
Me too. This thread is in God's language, on a few levels. I do believe this thing we have all experienced is a spiritual condition, more than psychological. All of them act the same exact way and are slaves to the lie. "Do as thou wilt". There is no psychological cure or even treatment. Their delusion and denial keep's them blind to the fact they even have a problem. It keeps them as far from God as one could be. That sounds like pure hell to me and pure joy for Lucifer. Danish is right. They never know love. They never know peace. My faith is the only thing that's truly helped me. Once you see, you cannot unsee. "Be still, and know that I am God: I will be exalted among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth." Psalm 46:10 @TheRealMACA
@@mellimel9300 They're in bondage to their own destructive nature. Those that destroy are destroyers, and destroyers destroy themselves, because destroy is what they do. How can they not? That is all they know, that is who and what they are, that is what they do. As you sow, so you will reap. Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks.
I prayed for God to show me the right thing to do before I was supposed to move in with my boyfriend, I knew something wasn't right for years.. He made up so many stories... He blamed it all on a head injury which now I know didn't even happen... I didn't know what a narcissist was... He was so good at what he did... Master manipulator... After I prayed he discarded me... Wanted to remain friends.. I found out about the other woman he had had for months... I also know Now about other times he had to've been cheating.. Five years of my life was a made up story... It was A shock to my system... I now understand so much more about narcissist.. I have researched and researched... I do believe they are possessed... Evil walks among us... The devil doesn't knock on your door and say i'm the devil... But I'm stronger. My faith is good. I am so sorry for anybody who has to go through This... It is not our fault...
@@Ryan-gw3yv the narcissists in my Life are religious and absolutely self-entitled missionaries Who think that they are God-chosen ones. God seems to help them even when they harm others.
I had a narcissistic mom, and she was brutally terrible and abusive. She always thought that, No matter how bad I treat them, they will still love me no matter what I do. I went no contact for almost a year before she passed away. Now I can try and heal after a lifetime of abuse and torment. She always made me sad and feel terrible all the time. I'm just relieved she can't no longer torment me no more. Healing is going to take awhile for me. Crazy thing is, that I didn't shed one tear at her funeral, just glad it's over now. 🥴😮💨God help me 🙏
I have just divorced a narcasist. It has been tough even after wards. The world condemned me as everything turned in his favour. When my eyes were upon God I realized what the world perceived as God condemnation was in actually fact God's help for me. I can relate to this episode so much. Although he is still trying to cause drama in my life I know God is with me and protecting me. Because I can see him working in me. Jesus did say if I follow him I will be persucuted but he will give me strength to endure it.
Listen! Thank God you are away from him!!!!! The World belongs to the devil! Pray and believe that you will get thru all this! I’ve been going the unit for 6 years now too since MY divorce ! Think of our forefathers fighting for freedom for future generations . Our true freedom will be in Heaven as we await Jesus coming for us! Until then we wait with patience, hope and endurance
@@trojan403 I lost allot and the world seems to the think the more you have the more God favours you. God knows and knew what I needed And I was set free from alot of bondages. I could really work through my pain and grow spiritually. God tough me true dependence on him. Suffering build character. And it moulds you intou who God wants you to be.
Indeed. This is true. But when you genuinely give a gift to someone, and it is from your heart, and you don’t ask for it back, God does see that and acknowledge that too doesn’t He?
Karma or For every action there is an equal an opposite reaction. The Universe likes harmony and will get round to sorting it out. God's divine timing as well.
Karma is a word Christians sometimes use to mean God's just retribution being manifest is some evildoer's life. We don't think of karma as having any agency independent of the One True God, so I don't know if we believe the same as you.
I have been abused. Thinking he was punishing and tarnishing my name. Things have turned aganst himself. Although am left homeless am free. Hoping to rebuild my life. He is left alone.I thank God for everthing and I know God will never leave me alone.
@@katrinadanielle9394 You're going to pray to God to feel better about the abuse? God didn't bother to stop the abuse to begin with. Should we really give him credit and praise if she feels some healing? And would this God only give that healing if you pray for it, as if he wouldn't already want that?
You are stronger than these people with their negative comments. Trust in God, keep your faith, God has never left you and never will. He is all we have, he is all there Is. Your time will come to reap the rewards of your perseverance. Most people have faith when everything in their life is going well, but that's not faith. I'm in a very similar situation and the more people try to hurt me the stronger my faith in God gets.
God's ways are different , God never gives more than what one could handle and each one's strength is different but one thing is sure.. when the end of the strength nears God steps in & saves us from the trouble... Keep praying and reading the bible... Jesus never lies. He will wage war for you, you only need to be still.
I wrestled with God on this very issue this morning. Like Habakkuk I cried out to God, asking Him why evil people prosper while the good are expected to persevere, turn the other cheek and pretty much wait until they're in heaven to enjoy life. I'd like to have peace and joy here too.😢
Don't give up brother in Christ, the road is narrow and long. I know you will find the way, keep praying, keep seeking the Lord. I love you, God bless friend! 🙌✝️❤
IT'S ALL ABOUT GOD'S TIMING IN YOUR LIFE!!!!! I FEEL THE SAME BUT HAD TO UNDERSTAND THAT HE IS IN CONTROL AND I SERVE HIM AND NOT THE OTHER WAY... THIS IS A FAITH WALK... I ALSO PRAY THAT HIS WILL BE DONE... NOT MY WILL BUT HIM WILL!!!!!!!!!! THIS TOO SHALL PASS 😇
Exactly. I don’t wish these troubled people, the narcs in my life, harm or negative things for them. I want them to be well, to seek wellness, therapy for their own good, and for their quality of life. I want to be able to enjoy these loved ones again Instead of watching time disappear.
Keep doing the right thing for yourself and your boss. People that cannot see through the narc's lies (flying monkeys) and spread lies about you for him and cannot see that you are not what he/she says, then you know who you can't trust at work. If this is too much to the point it is affecting your well-being, then it is time to switch your job location and separate yourself from that environment. I would suggest going to HR but what type of waves would that create for you later? I would seriously think about all avenues and what each one would bring you if you speak out or don't speak out about it. If you do speak out against them, the narcissist will double down and pull all of his/her tricks out of his bag against you, to the point of getting you fired or forced to quit. So, do you take the peaceful way out and save your employment record from being blemished, or take a chance on the boss handling this narc and his/her flying monkeys properly? It is literally you against them, and unfortunately, it won't bode well for you all around unless he replaces all of the employees who are stirring the pot together. I would bow out gracefully and quietly. And be sure none of them know where you work next. Narcissists are very vindictive and will stop at nothing to ruin you in some way. Especially if you try to expose them, even more so at their work. This is why it is important how we confront them. Having a conflict with one is tough and you must be very strategic in handling it. It is a losing battle that no one should ever fight. By walking out of their life and out of their field of sight you are no longer a supply to them. It sucks you have to be the one that has to make the move but that is the only escape. If you stayed and the narc got fired or forced to quit that narc still knows where you work and will still cause you issues there. They do not stop. Out of sight out of mind is your best option for it to stop. They are grown-up bullies but they have to be handled differently unfortunately. Eventually, they will get caught playing their games and as Danish said they will collapse and it will be all your fault, don't you know? No it won't be your fault, but they will blame you or whoever for their downfall believe that. Be safe.
I am recovering from my Narcissistic x- husband of 41 years. I am seeing my children move away “emotionally” from him. He can’t figure out what is happening. I am sorry for the pain they are going through. It is hard for them to accept that he is like that. Hell, it is hard for me to accept that the person I loved with all my heart is a narcissist. I pray for strength for my adult children and for myself. Life is hard but narcissist makes it harder.
Oh my dear I too was 40 yrs and separated now 9 yrs and the sons have been $$ bought and I’m having a hard time finding a lawyer. But my faith remains steadfast and He sustains even when we must take days of rest .🙏❤️
REally freaky experience when long after my dad has died in the nursing home where my mom needs constant care seeing there other patients there who are a lot like my dad was when often yelling and causing chaos wherever they go in the building in their wheel chair. Well at least my mom doesn't have to share a bed with any of them. While my mom is only always looking for the best in them too. Unless of course if one of them dared to insist it was their turn to share a bed with her and then that other darker human now 'wise' as a serpent side would be sure to come out of her. We all have a dark side. I sure hope I can cope with temptations like the temptation to get way too angry during only a minor misunderstanding after for example care givers helped to rearrange the furniture in the room when my eyesight and my short term memory is that poor.
I was married to a narcissist for 38 years. Omg! My adult children do not talk to him. I do not talk to him. We are trying to heal from the twisted mess and hatefulness he spewed. I loved him so much and now he turns my stomach. My poor kids having him as a parent. That is my biggest regret.
@@annbond5040 I put in 25, 5 children. Same, the children rarely talk to him. It's definitely a healing process for everyone. One thing I learned years before leaving him....I remember regret knocking at my door and chasing me down like a tormentor coming after me. I realized I had a choice to make at that moment....choose regret or accept my choices and move on. Tell regret to take a hike, he'll do nothing but torment you as long as you allow it. Just accept that this happened to you and your children, but now you are free to heal and begin to live, move forward, regret will ALWAYS take you backwards and keep you stuck from healing. God bless and prayers for your family.
I think that many narcissists in the later years of their lives end up nearly alone. That gives them plenty of opportunity to reflect on how they rejected love, kindness, and tenderness from many, many people in the course of their lives. Some may still reject the fact that it was their bad behavior that got them to their lonely situation. Some may break down and realize the destruction that they created. Either way, I am content knowing that I offered the few narcs that I have had in my life a chance to escape their hell. Then, I was able to walk away and cut them out of my life. I am okay with that.
I was married to one, barley got out alive with my small children!!!!! Please pray for me and daughter and son in there twentys, they have alot of similar traits, dont know how to help my children, selfish No compassion!! Thank You, Amen!!❤
God always told me to honor my mother. She was terrible to me. At 67, I took a birthday cake to her nursing home, but she totally ignored me and just talked to the other residents. 2 1/2 hours later she talked to me. I had driven 2 1/4 hours for her birthday. I left upset and drove home. I opened up my Bible and God said, "Shake the dust off your shoes." I never went back, but I did order her things that she asked for. She died 3 months later. She fell in her room early in the morning and hit her head.
I'm 67 now, can run 5k, do my own stuff, participate in my mother's care. Feel sorry for you that your own mother screwed you over. You have my every sympathy. I am gutted for you.
Your best revenge is to be happy and move on. Narc's hate it when you're happy. They hate it even more when you give zero shits about them. Stay strong.
That is so true! Narcissists do seem to live very long lives. I think part of it is that they have no stress from worrying about others, or getting involved in the care of others. They take extremely good care of themselves, but no one else. Including their own children. I suppose a very stress-free life makes for a very long life.
Amen to that God exposes my narcissist I knew she couldn’t handle it when she got exposed she took off and came back God is in my house and God rules my house so her and others the demons and demons trembling when God is here with us including her she has a rude awakening!❌🔥
@@Bonnie55317-wDon’t feel sorry for them,cos they don’t care about u..only controlling u,it makes them feel big..they cherrypick who they are nice too just to build up adoration from others..but be a wife or a vulnerable person at home and u will be punished every miniute of the day..best advise is:they won’t change not for u or any chosen victim ..get out I know not easy,as they are abusers in disguise ..just go no matter I don’t have much. I live in a big house with land etc..but I’m not willing to take this in exchange for their sick behaviour .I’ll have a lot less..but I’m going ..simply can’t take no more ..I will live alone it’s better then being with a narc.
The same for. My daughters never bear with me though they ve understood the problem in a different way and fled away and helped them to go abroad. But I am still stuck😢
This whole experience, although horrific and it did honestly cause me to question, has actually brought me closer to God, and I am truly grateful for that. Thank you for this episode. 🙏
@@deyanirazandbergen5023 I don't know, going through the trauma of being with a narcissist has made me more seriously question the existence of a God more than anything else ever has.
I've never had to rely on God's protectin intentionally so much on the day 2 day. I make it a point to pray for protection of my mental & emotional around him...
Me as well. It actually brought me closer in my quest to get closer to God. I am probably more at peace now with myself because I’ve gone on a journey of forgiving myself forgiving person, and then forgiving let it go. There’s more of a dispassionate way of dealing with it. I am very grateful actually believe it or not.
I’ve always been very passionate about my walk with Christ. However, I must say, this whole experience has amplified that passion. My light is that much brighter. My conversations with God are that much deeper and much more authentic. The fact that I was his God given gift that he actively chose to reject makes me feel less sorry for him for what’s to come, for my God said “ Touch not my anointed ones, do no harm to my prophets “… My only regret was not listening to God sooner. However, because He is a God who is full of Love, Grace and Mercy, I understand that all of it was meant for the Greater Good and that I have been forgiven by The Most High. Therefore, I regret nothing🙏🏽…
I Will Tell You!!! The Holy Spirit intervened for me!!! Pushed the Narassist out of my path! It had to be my Obedience for God to take charge of the situation of danger! Praise God I've been Delivered and Redeem!!! The chains of bondage have been broken!!!!
@HerBeautysInsideOut Yes Obedience Summission and Surrender totally to God and He will make your path clear and straight!! I pray! In Jesus Name Amen!!!
Danish, I was just crying out to the heavens 2 hours ago on why Im in so much pain and the person who abused me is just living his life while trying to destroy mine… your videos helps women like me who have been crippled by abuse and suffering ptsd. I hope someday I can reach the summit of this endless mountain I climb every single second of my life.
I detached my heart long before I discarded him he never stopped lying and cheating he actually thought I would never get rid of him he's gone and he can never come back
My mother was one. I knew something was wrong but didn’t know what. I was blessed to see her accept Jesus and change. It took many years of praying and me starting to love her in spite of how she would act towards me. I realize this is probably rare but my family got to witness changes in her as well. Praise Jesus!
With GOD all things are possible. We can see this in Daniel 4 when the Lord brought king Nebuchadnezzar to his knees and he eventually repented (he was a good example of a narcissist). It did take years, but we can see from that story that it is possible. How much more so in the new covenant where the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ empowers sinners to become children of God... Prayer is powerful! I am glad your mom received Christ's salvation and changed. Please keep sharing your story, people need to hear about it. Blessings.
A true, full fledged narcissist is possessed, and has a reprobate mind. Therefore, incapable of changing. Maybe she had lots of narcissistic traits but wasn't a true narcissist. I say this from experience of having a mother like this, but father is a true narcissist. I'm glad your mom changed, I'm hoping my mom will see the light soon
You are so right and I am comforted by your words. When a narcissist consistently abuses the one who treats them with unconditional love despite their failings, eventually God steps in to bring about their downfall.
Love can be unconditional, but our presence in their lives shouldn't be. Righteous boundaries are godly and necessary, right boundaries are wisdom. We can't afford to live without wise boundaries. When people repeatedly step across those boundaries, we need to remove our presence from their lives as their behavior isn't acceptable. We're not to be punching bags, whether physically *_or_* verbally.
I've been talking to God since covid. The main thing that hits home is "keep your eyes on your own work". Remember in school, and if your eyes wandered to your neighbor, and the teacher would catch you, that's what they said. You pay attention to your own work. God's been saying this over and over. I've learned to just do what he says, cuz it all works out in the end! 🙏♥️
@@Grace4me111 nah, the message has been clear to me "You focus on your money and I will handle your brother". I haven't had real money ever since covid started.
Amen! Im a prayer and god always listens to my prayers and he always delivers when I asked God to show me who he was and to show me everything he hid in the dark from me all kinds of stuff started coming up the dating sites the point of sides him soliciting women on Tik-Tok chatting with them interacting with them sending the money I've been with this man for fifteen years he has financially abused me I have lost my job so that he can better himself cuz he don't want to help me out with the kids as far as picking up and dropping off at school and he doesn't provide anything monetary bills daily Necessities everyday things that we need or groceries he makes tons of money any pockets all that money he saved his money I started doing a little side hustle little side job I got license to become a manicurist and that's what I do as a little part time job just to keep money coming in and putting it away but I still have to pay bills and everything else because he won't cooperate with anything
Yes, good analogy…. We cannot change others! We can only change ourselves and through Jesus Christ, God will transform & save us from our own sinfulness. The LORD in His Word, the Bible, has taught me to focus on my own sins, ask Him for help to recognize my own selfish ways, and to turn away from those things. God desires that we stay away from sinfulness, and replace those ways with God’s lovingkindness as well as obedience to His ways. A narcissist will take advantage of our kindness and our forgiveness. The Bible teaches us to not go with people who are wicked, but we somehow allow ourselves to get tangled up with those bad people. I think we are weak because we have come from growing up in families where we were not treated kindly, and therefore, we are used to putting up with demands & harshness. So… we are willing to overlook the selfishness & harshness from our loved ones…. But no matter how much we try to comply & please the narc, it’s never enough, & they’re demands never end. The narc has the characteristics of Satan, the devil. So, we must seek help!
Give them pain, addiction, and loneliness. They may get another supply but that supply will only take so much from them before they crack. I am alone I am single and am healing and learning to love myself and the world around me again. Praise God
Susan me too done all the things you said to me evil is too good a word to call them they should be sent down to the pit of hell no human been should have to endure their demonic ways. I ask God to give me the grace to forgive and forget Amen.
I asked God one night this week in prayer ‘why do narcissists seem to get away with all they do to their own children , scapegoat child and others when we have been brain damaged for most of our lives and left with many weird trauma traits to heal? Then this video pops up… I can’t say I’m not pleased to hear this even though I don’t wish any harm to anyone including my abusers but I’m happy to know God does make them pay in his way. Thank you for this explanation it has made me feel much better for all I went through living with a narc mother and narc siblings…
They will reap what they sow. God can't force anything on anyone as we have free will, he will try to get them to heal but they often can't see the help. I truly believe they are oppressed by the demonic. Watch Marc the messenger and armor of God channel for some info on spiritual warfare. 🙏
@@quasimodo614 I follow Marc the messenger and I understand they have demons in them but that doesn’t necessarily make me forget or feel better for what narcissist do to people. …
@LisachildOTMH I know its hard. Thats when forgiveness needs to come in. I ask God often to help me in this area. I've heard also we must pray for them. 🙏
@@quasimodo614 agreed on the praying for them and yes I forgive but I don’t forget and that’s the hard bit especially as one of my abusers was my mother so it’s not as easy as just forgiving when you’ve gone through years of hell.. God is who saved me and I’m grateful for his love and protection. I’m still healing but thank you for your kind words. Namaste 🙏🏽
@LisachildOTMH my mother is narcissistic also. It's crazy finding out the damage done. I thank God I found out, once you work it out you start to heal. Peace and blessings to you 🙏
Right you are Danish. You have studied the evil mind of a narcissist perfectly. They are exposed in the end. The God of this universe is slow to anger, gives everyone plenty of time and space to change. God Is Love. ❤ Narcissists reap what they sow. Seeing this happening to my narc husband. He walked out on me and sons after 32 years. It’s been 5 years now. He lives a loners life. No family, no relatives and no one to call his own. But still showing his arrogance. Nobody cares anymore. That’s his karma.
@@nmc1859It causes you to get a deeper understanding and THEN you realize that you have to truly let everything go. You can't hold on to anything and those that seek to gain will lose. Let everything go that you can't control and then you have to figure what you can control because our lives are FATED. Our lives are predestined. I am being blessed with spirituality right now. Be Blessed EVERYONE.
God brought me here, I’m 100 percent certain because I was looking for guidance about a narcissist abusing me and I needed a Christian professional to help me. I found your video so quickly with God’s help. Thank you so much, I needed to hear your words, I’m so greatful for your channel, I’m going to listen to many of your videos to help me heal and to know what I must do 🙏❤️🌟💯
I truly believe in Karma. It may take awhile but sooner or later Karma will catch up with them. I have seen it and the Narcissist was so miserable they let themself die at the age of just 49.
I am a spiritual person and I believe when people are rooting for you to fail or speaking badly behind your back (starting rumors, telling lies, trying to get others to turn against you etc.), he'll bless you in their face. You'll always know who it is because when good things happen for you, they'll be fake happy for you. They'll try to hide the fact that it upsets them (not very successfully, though) or when you tell them about other people's good news, they'll be happier for them than they were for you. I guess we should thank them, for that reason alone, for being who they are.
What goes around, comes around, and what goes up must come down. They do not plan well, even though we wish them well. And it is impossible for them not to eventually reap what they sow. They are essentially not spiritual people, or they would not keep doing these things. And they miss the opportunity to grow enough spiritually to meet their own needs.
@@lizh1988 You explained this phenomena well. Saying , "They are not Spiritual people or they would not keep doing these things." To me, that is it in a nutshell. !
God hates ugly. It took me a while to realize that I was dealing with a narcissist he was so proud and delusional especially when he started making money he even abandoned me and his son but now he is all alone and lost all the money and the cars he was bragging about! This video is so so real. Thanks for sharing
Truth. Karma is not just about you or somebody else's so-called judgment. It's about recompense, restoration, healing, compensation, divine retribution and reward. There are levels to Karma just like there are levels to when it comes to Judgment--but the most important things are to learn, understand, and grow. A lot of times we get stuck in our own growth process.
If we include God or having a spiritual life (like learning to meditate!) we eventually come to this understanding in order to be able to let go and to learn whatever it is in this or any situation that has brought it to us. we are in the process of purifying ourselves on our way back to God and everything comes back to us (thoughts, words, actions) so it is better to "let go and to let God" and then try to learn what WE did to attract it and repent (in other words to learn the lesson in it and to humble our ego) giving it to God. I agree with you. God bless, we are waking up...................
I never worry about this. Repentance would need to happen. Where there is repentance, there is forgiveness. Where there is forgiveness, there is a new brother or sister. The battle belongs to God. We are to be wise as serpents and gentle as a dove. When we do that, God will work. Our job is to cast out fear.
Listening to you helps me understand what demons I am dealing with in this individual. Although I grew up with a narrcasist family. I wasn' prepared to also meet one outside of this family. I thought I was meeting someone kind loving that loved me. Only to find out a Narc set me up with another Narc. So they are all possed by these evil demons. God help me in Jesus Name and through his blood. Amen
Sounds like my ex-husband. There are kind men out there. You have to date a lot of people to find them. A lot of first dates. I was very clinical about it. Basically treating it like a job interview for life. I met my boyfriend on a dating website. I made up a extra 50 question test for him to take. It was morals and things that were important to me. Everything my ex-husband failed. My boyfriend passed with flying colors. Birth order also plays a part too. We are both the oldest in our families. Before, I was with a baby of the family. He was spoiled rotten narcissist. I am introverted. My ex was extroverted. That was a problem. Me and my boyfriend are introverts. We also have 85% things in common. It took me a year to find him. We also each did not have children. Nor do we want any or feel bad about not having any. Blending families causes problems. We do have a stresser, I am partially disabled. Arthritis and back injury. Getting worse. My boyfriend is ex army EMT. My ex-husband did not love me when he found out about my illness. He accused the Dr of lying. My boyfriend has been great. My boyfriend also came from a narcissistic family. He knows all the crazy stuff that goes on.
Hell I am it actually doesn't matter u r from which part of the world practicing which religion... narcissistic abuse is all the same... Your story is relatable
I swear that's what just happen to me. Of course he won't be honest and just tell me who pointed him in the direction but then again what men dont get is... if a woman's asking, She already knows
You've covered things quite thoroughly, Danish. At the conclusion of a lifetime of abusing others, my former husband died two years ago at the age of 67. Years before his death, however, he had devolved into everything he'd ever dreaded. He'd grown fat, paranoid, lonely, surrounded by cockroaches and filth. I am always torn. Because I know of the unspeakable abuse he suffered throughout his childhood, my heart breaks for him. On the other hand, I feel vindicated, for the pain he inflicted on me and our son for the 12 years we were together, and the subsequent 15, during which we co-parented. Ultimately, I feel this life contained many lessons for us both, all intended by God, for good, and out of which good has come. Thank you, Danish Bashir. You are a blessing to us all.
My 2 cents: Don't feel sorry for these narcissists. They spend their life tormenting others for their own selfish gain & pleasure. I too was abused as a child. I've spent my life trying to love & help others. I say, hold them accountable for their evil. Don't let them off the hook. They certainly wouldn't let you off the hook! They wouldn't feel sorry for you. They wouldn't pray for you.
You are correct. He leaves them to a reprobate state. Not by His choice but by theirs. He has given them a lifetime of chances but they chose to abuse the power they have. We all have power. We all do not chose to manipulate and control and play games with it hurting people on purpose and never being accountable. If we do wrong we feel bad and try not to hurt people and make the same mistakes and learn from what we have done. They don't care.
Prayers for anyone who has been abused by a narrsscist. And may God bless your life 🙏 with healing 🙏 and God's restoration in your life 🙏 I rebuke the spirit of infirmity in Jesus name expose them 🙏
@@freedomwarrior5087 I believe you are right. It goes with their disorder. They are never held accountable so the problem couldn't be them they think. After enough people walk out of their lives and won't have anything to do with them you would think they would stop and think "what did I do?" But it doesn't work like that for them.
So is my mother. The most frustrating thing about her is that she NEVER admits she's wrong, even when it's clear that she is. She finds a way to twist things or gaslights,, in order to make me think I'm the one with an issue. I have come to truly hate her as I've gotten older because I see who she really is. She used to get away with making me feel like I was the worst person when I was a kid but no more. I call her out on everything now.
I have suffered, a lot over the years, because of family members and friends! I've walked away from all of them. So now I'm sitting back enjoying my life. Karma never forgets where they live!! Ameen to that 🙏🏻♥️
I moved away from a pair of narc's who were neighbours. There were already noisy but in addition were converting their garage into a man's den (t.v. darts board, drinks, even a noisy washing machine etc. without planning permission.) Imagine my smile when we sold the house to a building surveyor! God works in mysterious ways :).
Feeling like I was a gift to the Narcissist and used in some way by God to give him a chance to change his ways (he refused, of course) is helpful to me. I feel validated and as if I didn't lise ten years of my life being abused but rather given the opportunity to offer a better life to someone who unfortunetely did not choose to take it, is helpful to me. I can see how it would be that way when he stands before God and God says,"I sent you Melissa - what happened?" Lol. I appreciated this new insight.
Totally agree that God punishes the narcissist. Mine narcissist. Died to cancer a year ago. The stunts he came up with was beyond being mean. How many times I was threaten embarrassed ect. & turning my family against me. Of course being blamed when in his fits of rage. I could write a book! I am trying to bring closure. I loved that man that became a monster. Thanks for the encouragement!
My narcissist past away a few months ago. I poured all my love into him for decades. I couldn't find the strength to leave him. Recently he found out he had cancer and in 7 days he was dead. I battled with the feelings that he got away with everything and never had to pay for his evil doings. I'm in therapy now. I am experiencing a Rollercoaster of emotions. Thank you for this video. ❤
I’m still dealing with mine. His daughter with someone else, won’t even acknowledge him. Our son who still lives at home can’t stand to be in the same room as him. I can’t stand to be in the same room. I feel like I’m in eternal hell and I’ll never be able to get away. He came from a loving, Christian family, who did nothing but love and lift him up, but he turn out to be pure evil. Like someone said, I can write a book, but it would be the longest book in history. I find myself praying morning, noon and night for help out, but here I am, still stuck. Getting away is the hardest thing to do when someone won’t allow you to get a second job. He wants me to be insecure and penniless. I also don’t want to leave my son and dog with him. The emotional roller coaster he has put them on, makes me cry every day. Thank you for your video, it has enlightened me and makes me feel that God hasn’t given up on me.
Don't LOOSE Hope ..i'm also still dealing with mine..After 40years as a born again believer..praying & offering all to GOD.. i've seen GOD really change them or our situations..GBY
You cannot just pray for total healing. have to do the painful, difficult work of your own emotional recovery. It is WRONG to mislead people, that through prayer, God will just heal you. Unfortunately it does not work that way. Pray, but go to therapy, read books on Narcissism, watch videos, journal, join support groups. If all you do is “pray for total healing”, you will never heal.
@@mauimarianne It's amazing how powerful a relationship with Creator is. I think that in all of my reading of comments at Maui videos recently, that maybe I've seen your screen-name. Love to you all.
Thank you, Danish. My mother used me relentlessly all her life. I was just a tool to her. I just went no contact over a week ago. My brother already committed suicide. So I guess she's going to be alone with her cowardice, knowing that she's going to die alone. Unless my dad dies first. She already told me once that if my dad dies before her, she will commit suicide because she can't stand to be alone. I don't feel righteous saying this, though. I am still so hurt that it had to happen this way. Going to see a therapist today.
Sorry about your brother. Narcissists make people take their own lives which for me is the most unforgiving sin. May he rest in peace wishing you healing and peace. God bless ❤
I’m so sorry to hear about your brother. Your mother sounds very similar to mine. Difference is my brother passed when he was 27(was just us 2 kids). My dad passed 5 years ago and my mother lied her way into another man’s life within the year-after 55 years of marriage all she did was talk smack about my father before he was even in the ground! I went “no contact” after that. It broke my heart to listen to her lies. And once dad was gone, there was nobody else for her to mistreat and use, so i was bearing the brunt of all of her abuse. The last straw was here telling lies to my 3 sons and them choosing to believe. So now my sons don’t speak to me or include me in their lives. Sad to say, it will be a blessing for you if she kills herself. Just saying. Wish mine had before she ruined my entire life.
Stay strong, warrior! Let time heal all wounds. Before you know it, you'll have forgotten all the rottenness and betrayal. Forgive your enemies and yourself. If you can, avoid looking at or watching your enemies' downfall. Hand over all the weight you carry to God and trust Him to bring you through. Keep your love, joy and peace at all costs.
@@LyrielonwindMy mother told me that if I self-deleted, it would be only to spite her and my father. Then my father said it one time... That hurt. He usually parrots when she says, because he doesn't think for himself at times, and I thought he love dme, but now I'm realziing that It all seemed to be a lie. The fake "love" is just disgusting. Sadly, I'm not sure if it's fake, or if it's real and he just is damaged and doesn't know what he's doing. It's too painful.
Both parents and sibling . I left directly after school never to return . Relocated and broke off all contact, it allowed me to find God, counseling. Its been over 30 years and by Grace i cintinue to heal and find these amazing videos
Thank you for this 🙏🏾My husband is a covert narcissist and I am divorcing him after 10 years. I pray for him every day. His parents are also narcissists. His dad has cancer and I see my husbands health is getting worse because he is constantly cheating, I gave him everything of myself and almost lost myself before God revealed everything so I could change the locks and go no contact. I do pray he will change because he has been like this for 30+ years I do not want to see him perish, but God will not be mocked, I have to forgive him because I also want God to forgive me for my sins. I will continue to pray so that there is no hate in my heart towards him, but ultimately he will have to pay the consequences all the evil he has done to primarily the women in his life, I am the only woman that he used who is praying for him because I thought he was a Christian when I married him, but he never was. It was all a sham. So sad but God is healing me and he’s fighting for me.❤️🙏🏾
A smart narcissist will go to church every Sunday. Helps so much to reinforce their false facade. They are fake & phoney; have most everyone fooled. I will always wonder what my narcissistic & psychopathic father was daydreaming about in church every Sunday. Obviously he wasn't interested in what the Priest was saying. My guess is he would daydream about serial-killing people he hated. Or was he thinking of all the women he cheated with behind my mother's back? He's dead now, thank God, so all I can do is guess as to what was going through his mind all those years during church.
@@rishitadabhi7870 thank you. It’s all God strength I’m clinging to. You will get through this ❤️🩹🙏🏾 pray and get therapy to address any childhood wounds you may have - you can break those patterns and set better boundaries and stick to them 🤗❤️🙏🏾
I pray the best for you. Your situation sounds like mine. A fake Christian who cheated and always had an excuse to where it was somehow my fault for pushing him away. SMH the manipulation and lies
I saw my father, a malignant narcissist, on his deathbed, encounter Satan who was waiting for him. This was in the presence of a priest who also saw it. My father was terrified.
They choose it, because they are not in their right minds. They are in league with the devil, in bondage to destruction. They are most pitiable, but pity does them no good, it's wasted. They have no respect for anyone or anything, not even Life. They are of the darkness.
You defined my mother perfectly. I'm on my healing journey from a lifetime of narcissistic abuse by my mother. I'm in a much better head space today. I used to wonder why my mom is still alive, but after hearing your video, I now understand. I appreciate your perspective, wisdom and videos. Blessings to you and everyone on this channel who has a narcissist in their lives. 🙏❤️
Your experience is similar. My mum is narcissist too and I thought that living long is good explanation as my mum is the longest living member of her family. She was told that all her children will stop talking to her and it did happen
@SanarInconsciente I started last July after I read, "Recovering from Narcissistic Mothers, a Daughter's guide by Brenda Stephens. The book was eye-opening. I followed with going to therapy. I meditate, pray every day, and I practice Self-care.
I tried many times to bring my narcissist closer to God, taking him to mass sometimes, reading from the Bible and teaching him how to pray the rosary. It was a complete failure because he started to mock me. He tried to convince me that God didn’t exist. He made jokes about spiritual matters and even tried to make me change my religion. It was a very sad experience. I had to ask God for forgiveness because I couldn’t save his soul. God did forgive me and he set me free. I don’t know what happened to my narcissist, I left him. I also don’t think about him anymore. When I came across your videos I remembered many incidents. I will keep commenting when I have to say something, but otherwise this chapter of my life is gone with the wind. Thank you for enlightening me.
I was my x’s third wife. Over the years, he laid the full blame on his 2 x’s not taking any blame for his marriage failures. I became disabled during our marriage , and he didn’t want to deal with it. Now he has left me with no financial help - I’m still waiting to go thru mediation and to have my divorce finalized. I hope to have a decent judge who can see through his BS.
So thrilled see all the comments online they are there to encourage us to keep pushing forward when some days We feel helpless…i told my friends what was happening in my life ..asked them to help me stay focused and not become the doormat again…We long for them to be the way they were..but it is a disease they cant recover from ..leaves us finally with no other options. .God Bless
Excellent video. The thing which I was not prepared for when my own narcissistic mother passed away was how I felt absolutely nothing for her passing. You might as well have told be the price of beans in Mexico or the what the weather was like on a certain day 50 years ago, I had no joy no pain no grief and no relief . Nothing. I have grieved for people I hardly knew at all. But as a survivor of her abuse she no longer existed as a person to me. Sad. But that's what they do to their victims. And we move on. Thanks Danish for your videos.
Much Appreciation for your Divine input. God Rescued Me after 30yrs & 5 kids. God audibly spoke to & said "I'm rescuing you from this; I have a better life for you". Halleleujah!
Absolutely spot on. What you said is true. I know a narcissist who Crashed their vehicle shortly after purchasing it, caught an STD straight after a discard, children don't want to see him. He's often angry, upset and suffers from deep depression. His pay back has stemed from greed, Selfishness, mistreating , abusing, taking others kindness for weakness and ungratefulness. "KARMA AT ITS BEST" 🥴
I sincerely hope and pray that for every tear the Narc made you cry, and for every tear he made everyone else CRY..THAT AT THE LAST 15 OR 20 YEARS OF HIS LIFE..HE CRIES 20 TEARS FOR EVERY SINGLE TEAR THAT HE CAUSED 😢
Do no harm. Never wish revenge. That's for God only. Find forgiveness. If not for them for yourself. For as long as you hang on, they still hold power over you. May God bless you and hold you.
I can definitely understand why you are feeling that way because when you live with a narc 'you' are the one who is seeing them get away with so much stuff. You see how it effects your children as well. The narc also manipulates the love and connection you have with your children so be mindful of that. They will make it look like you are to blame. That you're just crazy. Before you know it your children are treating you with the same action's. Best thing to do is literally HAND IT OVER TO God...Just speak with Him and tell him 'everything' and that you need His help in order to free yourself from this very heavy burden and all of the horrible feelings that come along with it. Your children may or may not ever choose to resurface but that's their choice. Pray for them. Keep moving forward and bring newness into your life. NEW positive people, experiences, classes etc. 💜💌
Yes,your observations are spot on. They do live a very long life and are given sooooo many chances to the point that it gets annoying. They have a void inside of them which they cannot fill .. such a terrible way to live,to always be whining and complaining and to never actually know the value of the things/people they have in their lives. Being thankful for what one has in life is the foundation of all abundance. No wonder the narcissist feels lack ALL the damn time! But there is one thing though,that I definitely do wish on my narcissist - awakening! And 'there is no coming to consciousness without pain' - Carl Jung.
My MIL was one of these. My wife went through Hell growing up and myself by proxy. I did have some fun with her lack of self awareness, though. However, after praying for her for over 40 years, she finally came to be a loving mother about 9 months before her death. Two things caused this. 1. Her husband died and she had to have her legs amputated due to diabetes. Things she could not avoid like a wall she could not penetrate. 2. The other thing was her unforgiveness of her father, long dead. When she finally forgave him, she blossomed for the first time in her life and was able to experience love. It was really a beautiful thing to see. Sadly, it was way too short and she finally had he last heart attack. But my wife was able to see her as her mother, finally. That was a gift.
Every word You spoke ,is spot on ! I dealt with aNarcissist for 6 years,and she died over a month ago,as far as I know she was alone. I went zero contact 3 years ago,and she was in bad temperment,and failing health,and a lot of it was her own doing. I could never satisfy her,and she accused me of many things. She never admitted her faults openly or privately. I married a wonderful lady who is a Blessing and we courted shortly after I broke up with the narcissist. I thank God every day for the breakup,and the woman I Love as my wife. Good things come to those who wait,and the narcissist was a blessing in disguise as she made me appreciate the Blessing God gave me after the Breakup. I have my friends,and my family and I are on the mend from the bad relationship.
Danish always calms my spirit by setting things straight. He is right when he says the narc is left to dry out and die by his kids who leave early because they just can't stand to be around them. I pray for those who have lived this life. It is not an easy one, especially if you have to carry the parent who isn't a narc..I know everyone leaves and you are left to carry the load alone..then they die and you are left to care for the narc and that is the ultimate test of God. Help us all who struggle under the load. We can't do it on our own. God bless you all and know it won't last forever...♥️🙏
Our God is so merciful. Even though I love my narcissistic friend he has broken my heart over and over. I tried to model God’s love toward them. Now, no contact. It is so painful. Hoping God will heal my broken heart and redeem his soul. Thank you Danish your words help.
I totally understand what you are saying, I had to separate from one of my sisters who causes hurt and pain for years. God is merciful, he wants his children to live in peace.
This was a confirmation to my soul. I am currently facing “agrravated assault” because of a narcissist. Please keep me in prayer for all the prayer warriors. If you know of any non-profits that assist women of domestic violence in the U.S. particularly GA, please reply.
I will pray for you. My sister had me arrested for aggravated assault also because she wouldn’t leave my home after threatening to kill me. Her husband assaulted her when I took her to his house. It was eye opening for me! I stayed in jail 6 days & the minute I walked in everyone turned to me & said “Why, are you here? You don’t belong here!” I told them my sister had me arrested & 6 women jumped up & said “Let’s pray!” We held hands & prayed! I felt such peace while I was in jail. My case was finally dismissed after the Judge saw what a nut case my sister was in court. I finally realized that my Father & my 5 siblings were all narcissists. They all abandoned me & turned my mother against me. Now @ 92 my 3 sisters & 2 brothers have had my Mom sign a durable power of attorney so my family cannot have any contact with my Mom. They’ve cut me out of the will & have lost 27 family members. I was the oldest of 6 children & was taught to do everything for everyone. It was my normal & never thought about it. I’m not like my Father or siblings, I’m like my Mom. But, she has always been too weak to ever say Stop! It’s sad how family can manipulate you for years & you finally wake up & see the torture & evil that is your family. I know God allowed for me to be arrested to remove me from the evilness & selfishness of my family. Jesus saved me! He will save you also! I will pray for you. It’s a struggle but have faith!!🥰🙌🏻🙏
So, my ex is a narcissist. She constantly put me through the emotional wringer as we were in our relationship, and guilt tripped me into marriage. She cheated (i don't know if she was ever faithful, or even capable of it now), and left me high and dry basically also choosing her friends over us. Our divorce was finalized in April, her son committed self deletion in May. While I loved him as my own, and i would never wish this on anyone... God does look after his own, and I would advise those who are hurt not to take revenge. Just be still. Peace will come. 🙏🙏🙏
I decided to completely discard ex i was crying like a baby in pain i sent a voice message saying " i am sensing you are done with me to be in good books of your family and society you have replaced me for someone else whom your family chose will never find peace and happiness....i end this relationship and i am giving the closure.... trust me at that time i never knew the meaning of narcissist... and after watching your videos about god as well dark energy what ever i said was true God made me do all this... O God protect and help everyone from such dark energy person,🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
My narcissist past away a few months ago. I poured all my love into him for decades. I couldn't find the strength to leave him. Recently he found out he had cancer and in 7 days he was dead. I battled with the feelings that he got away with everything and never had to pay for his evil doings. I'm in therapy now. I am experiencing a Rollercoaster of emotions. Thank you for this video. ❤
Let Jesus christ be your therapist. Let him heal you and give you peace in your brokenness. I pray you will come to know Jesus christ in a very intimate way.. because only then will real healing and life start❤
Danish you are wiser than your years..I agree with what you have said and also consider that we will all stand before God and make an account of our lives.. If they don't repent in this lifetime, our testimony may very well be used against them when they stand before God to make an account of their life and why they chose to live it that way.. I pray that they do repent, because it is truly a fearful thing to fall into the hands of the living God..
It is so good to know all these evil things done in the secret by parents is getting exposed. It took us a long time to get this kind of help and many had to suffer silently and endure a lot of sufferings if not for the internet.
Link to my best resources:
linktr.ee/narcabusecoach
@yogaofhealth1800 The Most High God controls both Good and Evil.
The las two videos were so deeply personal. My heart feels every word
This sounds good and all, but the reality is at least for me my ex is married and moved in another state and still tries to hang out with my parents and turn the kid my kids away from me. He did succeed with one, but that relationship is rebuilding and I don’t know it’s all a mess and we are the ones that lose everything. The most precious things like family and friends because of the manipulation thur the years and they are so good. It takes years to build back up from that with healing and stuff.I don’t see the narc losing anything but your right that they don’t hVe love and that’s the worst but I do t have that either from a significant other. It’s difficult to date. The only love I have a self log now it seems like that’s probably gonna be the only love I have. Thanks to the smear campaign and trauma: we are too timid and scared to end up in that mess again!
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Thank you Sir. ❤
They were not fighting us, they were fighting God himself.
Gates, Fauci, Schwab, Soros, Trudeau and unfortunately many, many more especially in positions of power.
Because they are 😈
That’s so true
Absoluetly, ya know God still keeps them here...trying to show him the GOOD, BEAUTIFUL that is right in front of him.... God lets it happen, they had chances, they turned their back on Our God,,, Pergatory is their demise.
I didn’t realize it till recently, but yes, my mother had set herself up to be like a god in our lives, and that was usurping God’s plans for us.
The best thing that can happen to a narcissist is to be left alone. They will be their own burden.
They self sabotage ! They are their own worst enemy!
I was raised by a narcissist that made my sisters and I cope with things my mother should have dealt with instead of us. We were all in constant chaos throughout our lives. After her death which we provided her burial about a year later - I saw her presence in my room trying to prank me now? When I looked up from my bed what I saw was very disturbing. My narc mom looked like "a demon" with her face was black and bulging eyes and sharp teeth which she tried to smile. It was a horrible sight. I said the "Our Father" so that she would not come back to bothered me. I asked God I cannot deal with such horror as my mother ever again. I thank Jesus Christ and she never came back.
I'm with a guy (12 yrs. now) that swept me off my feet only to knock me down. I was married once for 18 yrs. and he's NEVER been married at 58 yrs old. All his girlfriends are either drug addicts worthless people, according to him. 2 children 2 baby mommas pregnant at the same time! His son committed suicide at 17 ON Father's day! The daughter who is 23 right now wants nothing to do with him! And he wants to know why I won't marry him.
Avoidance must be subtle they must not know they are being shunned.
Yes I agree with avoidance being subtle let them always be dwelling on why things are happening the way they are, and not giving them the answer. I guess you could call it “ sweet suffering.”
I told him, "You are going to deal with God for everything you did to me."
I told him that God will punish him
I wish I would have told him in the past it was my relative moving to Florida
Good
I wish I could believe this. They just seem to thrive and don't care anyway while we withdraw from the world and are damaged😊
my narcissist exhusband had no interest in God or church. in fact told me once he didnt want to hear about my "stupid God stuff' so where did we go when he suggested marriage therapy? the church. so they could tell me HE is the man He is right and i just need to do as I am told. he even said he believed he had NO SIN -- so essentially saying HE is God? and the counselor said nothing to that. i left him and that church i am so much happier now
Being NO CONTACT with a narcissist is a BLESSING!!! There’s no better peace than to be in God’s presence & leaving them demons behind ‼️.
💯 true but being under a parental narcissist makes it so much more difficult to move away from them!! If you have done so then BRUH YOU COURAGEOUS!!
I'm no contact atm. But it's hard, because the person keeps trying to pull me back, by guilting me. No accountability, no asking if the other person( me) is even ok. I know it's all manipulation, but it still emotionally stresses me out. Even harder because it's a family member. Smh
@ClassicDiva33
How is this person trying to guilt you?
No contact means no contact. Get the police involved and one time in jail the no contact order will stick. They won't bother you after that!
@@daughteroftheking2200 it's a family member. No contact on my part, but they call and leave messages
You said a Mouthful! It's Blessed Peace! ❤
May God do justice and heal us all ❤
Perfectly said.
Amen 🙏 x
Amen 🙏🏾
Amen to that 🙏 ❤
Amen
My experience with a narsasist led me back to God ❤ praise God!
same here!
Yes me as well ❤❤❤ what better outcome could there be???? 🤓🤓🤓🤓
God can use ANYTHING for the good 🤍 praise Him. Thank you Jesus 🕊️
Same thing ❤
Me too
There is no peace for the wicked.
none whatsoever
you once did a vid on how they sleep and my real thought is if you still have a conscience (which is the still small voice of God within trying to get your attention), you will try to squish it, suppress that, ignore it, be nervous, stay distracted, fill up your time, be busy, smoke, drink, whatever because the LAST thing you want is to listen to that Voice, the ego is so belligerent and arrogant - so finding it hard to sleep or stay asleep is a given. my roommate who is a narc right now is constantly blaring netflix while she sleeps, constant blaring. I think (my thought) is because she is troubled by her thoughts haunting her and she is doing all she can to ignore her Self, her Soul calling her to repentance, to wake up. this is why they can't stay still or lay down peacefully. thank you Danish! @@narcabusecoach
but if we include God (which is what this is all about anyway, right? this life is a spiritual experience for those who wake up to what this is all about and why we are here), and we start facing ourselves and putting God first we do begin to have peace and when we don't, we stop, back up and look where we got off track. we do not keep blaming, we do acknowledge however, this is important to face things but then, what is it telling us about ourselves? What is familiar here? the ONLY PERSON WE HAVE THE POWER TO CHANGE IS OURSELVES and then we are FREED. God bless us. We are waking up. thank you Danish!@paulinsky53
@paulinsky53Exactly….! ‘Prevention is better than cure’
@narcabusecoach 😊 where is God whe people get abused. Nowhere to be seen
I told mine “For years I thought you were a victim of demonic possesion. Now I know you are the demon”
Yeah.. even I used to think so..
😂😂😂😂 Nailed it
It's like they have million of demons that speaks from within
Exactly. They are the representatives of Satan on Earth.
That's a really great way to put it!
My ex narcissist spent years turning our daughter against me. God helped me divorce him and helped me and my daughter learn about narcissism and we both got away from him. As she learned more and more about narcissism she decided to completely cut him off. He still reaches out but she has gone no contact. One day I was reading the verse proverbs 26:27 “he who digs a pit will fall into it. “ And it hit me hard the reality of God’s word. If we dig a pit for others to try to sabotage them, we will fall into it ourselves. My ex spent years trying to destroy my relationship with my daughter- and he did cause of lot of damage. But in the end he ended up destroying his own relationship with her. She and I are now close and have healed soooo much❤.
That’s great happy for your recovery
❤❤❤wooow Iam so happy for you and your kid.🎉 God bless you❤
This helped me so much waiting for my turn with my kids and grandkids can't wait till there eyes are all opened to whom is the victim and villian
So true, a friend of mine could have prevented me from making a big financial mistake,but she stood behind and let it happen, one day in my own living room,she revealed what she knew , I said nothing,I pretended I did not understand, so she knew !!she wanted me in a pit, jealousy is as strong as the grave,,,many of my friends thought I had money,far from the truth,I did not complain about money to anyone..they could not help me anyway.Lately this has bothered me that she knew, would I let a friend fall in a pit.?I never have.i am asking God to help me to be forgiving,and to forget..
This gives me hope, going through this now. Much love x
I think the Narc ignores what God is doing in their lives. They keep God at arms length just like they do everyone else.
The very 1st argument we had was about God. I made it ABUNDANTLY CLEAR, that I would choose God above ANYONE and ANYTHING, including him! THAT was the beginning of my discard and my abuse. The look in his eyes was something I'll never forget. They literally turned black! Why, oh why didn't I run like hell??? I'm more angry at myself than I ever will be at him. I subjected myself to that nightmare for 7 damn years. God showed me so many times, whom and what I was dealing with. I didn't realize how manipulated I had been until I was gone from the situation. I've been out of it for just over a year. I'm still healing, but I'm standing on my feet now and my heads raised a little higher. So grateful to have come across this video!! I've been pretty upset with God 😢😢😢. This helped so much.
Now this one is soooo true I agree
God would be wish the narcissist to open their mind to see the truth, God is love and the creator of all love including mankind whom he created for love. Love conquers all, God wants everyone to enjoy the reward of eternal life in heaven with him, we need to pray for and believe that with faith God will grant the grace for people to repent, and turn to him and change their lives, asking for the grace in the name of the saviour of the world the Lord Jesus Christ 🙏💖
They think they are bigger than god
Yes
I’m a Christian and I agree with what you’re saying. My ex-son-in-law, is THE perfect example of a narcissist! He has ruined my two granddaughters lives. The oldest has such trauma. The younger one is still trying to have a relationship with their father. She is always let down. He and his new wife makes several $$$,$$$.00 a year. Nothing is ever enough. He put in a $150,000 pool and pool house and won’t even pay for the older daughter’s college tuition. He has to be the center of attention and try’s to make people think that he’s the perfect father. I pray for his salvation. And healing for my daughter and granddaughters. Thank you for your videos. I try really hard not to have hate for him in my heart because, I know that hate isn’t pleasing to God either. God bless you!
This world is not our home. He has a small time with his “stuff”…eternity is more important 💜 Your daughter is the rich one, not him.
May your granddaughters heal and recover from all the trauma
@@InvertedEarth you’re right. Thank you.
@@narcabusecoach thank you so much.
Your grand daughter will achieve her desires. Universe will help her. She will be the role model for others.
"When the wicked thrive like grass, and all evildoers flourish - it is that they may be destroyed forever." Psalms 92:8.
🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Yes, amen.
AMEN
Wow so true look at pdiddy ... God is avenging for all his victims
Thank you, Danish. One thing I learned was that God is working behind the scenes. We may not see it right away. He never sleeps, working in our favor. He is making my enemies a footstool under my feet. The trap the enemy set out for me, they will fall into it themselves. What was meant for my harm, God will use for my greater good, etc., etc.
Amen, only those who are truly spiritual will reap spiritual rewards. 🙏
Isaiah 54:17 No weapon formed against thee shall prosper…
I think the longer they go, the harder they fall or possibly doomed to hell. They are truly evil creatures.
Couldn't agree with you more.
I am not a Christian, but agree with all you've said. 🤗
Narcissists are NEVER happy. Their arrogance is a camoflage for their self-hatred, frustration, and unhappiness. Their lack of karma is their punishment. Karma would be mercy to them, because it might force them to confront what a mess they are and change. Many narcissists I've seen are demon possessed as well.
Well said!! 100% agree
I hear you but I do pray 🙏 for them night and day to change 🙏 and also leave them alone in God's hands ✋️ 🙏
Yes!!! I agree 💯
Exactly mine would always say I’m a badass. I told him does abandoning your child mean you are a bad ass? Definitely not! Like sir sit down and humble yourself yet they keep running amuck
I believe my mom is a narcissist but I can't give up on her. But it's hard tom communicate with her. I'm looking for a way to tell her she needs help but I know that conversation won't end well..if anyone has any advice please help
My narcissist mother died we just buried her this past Friday, September 29,2023. It was a traumatic time in my life for years dealing with her and my narcissistic brother. I had to make a hard decision to stay away from them and seek therapy to get the healing that I needed. The stories I could tell is enough to write a best seller book. I’m grateful for channels like yours who speaks on the spiritual side of this evilness to make others aware. I truly appreciate it!
Apparently, my nasty ass narcissistic ex birthday is 29th September 😵
.....I am sorry f I r ur loss😢..
Go ahead and write a book about your experiences! It will probably make you and others happy. I am thinking about writing a book also! GOD bless you always! 🙏🙏 I will pray for you to heal! 🙏🙏
@@melindagandaria5083 Thank you I appreciate that be encourage. God bless you 🥰
I, too have a narc mother & brother with whom I have not contacted for 6 years after 40+ years of their tomfoolery and using my love against me…. It’s been liberating to say the least! I would read your book seeing how it would probably be all too relatable ! God Bless You on your journey 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼✌🏽
Narcissists reap what they sow
No, a lot of them DON'T.
We ALL do. We just don't always get to witness it.
I'm still waiting
lol yeah by becomeing the rich, the powerful, the controllers, the CEOs, the politicians. Yeah they sure are being punished with luxurious lives, what a punishment.
“Everything is laid bare before the One to whom we must give account”
2 Timothy 3:16
2 Timothy 3:16-17
New International Version
16 All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, 17 so that the servant of God[a] may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.
please do not change scripture
Hebrews 4:13
Nothing in all creation is hidden from God’s sight. Everything is uncovered and laid bare before the eyes of him to whom we must give account.
I like this thread.
Me too. This thread is in God's language, on a few levels. I do believe this thing we have all experienced is a spiritual condition, more than psychological. All of them act the same exact way and are slaves to the lie. "Do as thou wilt". There is no psychological cure or even treatment. Their delusion and denial keep's them blind to the fact they even have a problem. It keeps them as far from God as one could be. That sounds like pure hell to me and pure joy for Lucifer. Danish is right. They never know love. They never know peace. My faith is the only thing that's truly helped me. Once you see, you cannot unsee. "Be still, and know that I am God: I will be exalted among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth." Psalm 46:10 @TheRealMACA
@@mellimel9300
They're in bondage to their own destructive nature. Those that destroy are destroyers, and destroyers destroy themselves, because destroy is what they do. How can they not? That is all they know, that is who and what they are, that is what they do. As you sow, so you will reap. Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks.
Its so refreshing to find someone that recognizes and isn't afraid to speak on the spiritual side of narcissism.
So true! Had the same thought. ❤ The highest truths are only to find within a spiritual context.
Yes, I've been looking for some spiritual answers for a couple of years.
The tea on npd telsha she goes in deep also.
Please heal all victims from that abuse. It's a terrible thing to go through. I pray all those that Exspirenced this that they get restored.
In Jesus’ name. Amen.
In Jesus name, Amen. 🙏
In Jesus Name. Amen
In Jesus name. Amen
Thank you very much. 💕
I survived a narcissist...due to my abilities and my Faith. Thank God.
100% agree - I always ask God to reveal to me what I need to know - and He does in uncanny ways
I asked God to reveal to me what I was suppose to do and he did in an amazing ways
I prayed for God to show me the right thing to do before I was supposed to move in with my boyfriend, I knew something wasn't right for years.. He made up so many stories... He blamed it all on a head injury which now I know didn't even happen... I didn't know what a narcissist was... He was so good at what he did... Master manipulator... After I prayed he discarded me... Wanted to remain friends.. I found out about the other woman he had had for months... I also know Now about other times he had to've been cheating.. Five years of my life was a made up story... It was
A shock to my system... I now understand so much more about narcissist.. I have researched and researched... I do believe they are possessed... Evil walks among us... The devil doesn't knock on your door and say i'm the devil... But I'm stronger. My faith is good. I am so sorry for anybody who has to go through This... It is not our fault...
Yes, one day I heard that "Evil always touch you by the things you most would like or wish" and is totally true.
Mark 11:24 is all you need to prove 2 cor 13:5. Amazing job dear daughter of light.
@@Ryan-gw3yv the narcissists in my Life are religious and absolutely self-entitled missionaries Who think that they are God-chosen ones.
God seems to help them even when they harm others.
Matthew 10:28
Do not fear those who kill the body but cannot kill the soul,
but rather fear Him who is able to destroy both soul and body in hell.
Someone able to deal with cancer can we find? About poems i know too
The living word of God Amen! Praise Jesus! Narcissists are sometimes demons and sometimes give into flesh
Amen !
Sometimes me own ego thinks they won’t get karma or justice but I know God doesn’t allow wicked to rest.
I had a narcissistic mom, and she was brutally terrible and abusive. She always thought that, No matter how bad I treat them, they will still love me no matter what I do. I went no contact for almost a year before she passed away. Now I can try and heal after a lifetime of abuse and torment. She always made me sad and feel terrible all the time. I'm just relieved she can't no longer torment me no more. Healing is going to take awhile for me. Crazy thing is, that I didn't shed one tear at her funeral, just glad it's over now. 🥴😮💨God help me 🙏
I have just divorced a narcasist. It has been tough even after wards. The world condemned me as everything turned in his favour. When my eyes were upon God I realized what the world perceived as God condemnation was in actually fact God's help for me. I can relate to this episode so much. Although he is still trying to cause drama in my life I know God is with me and protecting me. Because I can see him working in me. Jesus did say if I follow him I will be persucuted but he will give me strength to endure it.
How do your mean "what the world perceived as condemnation was actually in fact Gods help for me"?
Could you explain that a bit more for me?
Listen! Thank God you are away from him!!!!! The World belongs to the devil! Pray and believe that you will get thru all this! I’ve been going the unit for 6 years now too since MY divorce ! Think of our forefathers fighting for freedom for future generations . Our true freedom will be in Heaven as we await Jesus coming for us! Until then we wait with patience, hope and endurance
@@trojan403 I lost allot and the world seems to the think the more you have the more God favours you. God knows and knew what I needed And I was set free from alot of bondages. I could really work through my pain and grow spiritually. God tough me true dependence on him. Suffering build character. And it moulds you intou who God wants you to be.
I so hear you I really do. Been there , so gross. Took me years to heal from it. Still healing actually.
@@trojan403Genesis 50:20 comes to mind.
I tell my husband "Remember God. Is listening and the Universe knows what your doing"what ever goes around comes around.
They don't care..
Indeed. This is true. But when you genuinely give a gift to someone, and it is from your heart, and you don’t ask for it back, God does see that and acknowledge that too doesn’t He?
@@OrionOlamPiksie what kind of a gift are you talking about?
What does your husband reply with?
Karma or For every action there is an equal an opposite reaction. The Universe likes harmony and will get round to sorting it out. God's divine timing as well.
I am Indian. In our country karma is considered main thing . Happy to see world also believes in karma .
Karma is a word Christians sometimes use to mean God's just retribution being manifest is some evildoer's life. We don't think of karma as having any agency independent of the One True God, so I don't know if we believe the same as you.
I'm not Indian but I sure love the idea of karma however it comes about. Bring it on.
Me too based in Delhi. N trust me karma is for real.
@@PoojaGupta-zi7om I trust you my friend thank you.
We definitely do believe in Karma.
I say this to my enemies "The power behind me is more powerful than the power behind you 😊
That's a good one. 👍
I say to the evil, the one who stand behind me is stronger than you.
Its not my fight.
@@Anouk-lb5bl I always say that "The Power behind me is More powerful than the power behind you" my spiritual advisor told me that
@@susanfeldman-rm7ht i have seen your OP.
Amen 🙏 ❤
I have been abused. Thinking he was punishing and tarnishing my name. Things have turned aganst himself. Although am left homeless am free. Hoping to rebuild my life. He is left alone.I thank God for everthing and I know God will never leave me alone.
Except he did leave you.......
Praying that everything gets better for you and it will🎉
@@katrinadanielle9394 You're going to pray to God to feel better about the abuse? God didn't bother to stop the abuse to begin with. Should we really give him credit and praise if she feels some healing? And would this God only give that healing if you pray for it, as if he wouldn't already want that?
You are stronger than these people with their negative comments. Trust in God, keep your faith, God has never left you and never will. He is all we have, he is all there Is.
Your time will come to reap the rewards of your perseverance.
Most people have faith when everything in their life is going well, but that's not faith.
I'm in a very similar situation and the more people try to hurt me the stronger my faith in God gets.
God's ways are different , God never gives more than what one could handle and each one's strength is different but one thing is sure.. when the end of the strength nears God steps in & saves us from the trouble... Keep praying and reading the bible... Jesus never lies. He will wage war for you, you only need to be still.
The peace of God is everything 🙌
Amen
🙏🏻🕊.
I wrestled with God on this very issue this morning. Like Habakkuk I cried out to God, asking Him why evil people prosper while the good are expected to persevere, turn the other cheek and pretty much wait until they're in heaven to enjoy life. I'd like to have peace and joy here too.😢
You can have peace if you want... everything just take time.
Don't give up brother in Christ, the road is narrow and long. I know you will find the way, keep praying, keep seeking the Lord. I love you, God bless friend! 🙌✝️❤
IT'S ALL ABOUT GOD'S TIMING IN YOUR LIFE!!!!! I FEEL THE SAME BUT HAD TO UNDERSTAND THAT HE IS IN CONTROL AND I SERVE HIM AND NOT THE OTHER WAY... THIS IS A FAITH WALK... I ALSO PRAY THAT HIS WILL BE DONE... NOT MY WILL BUT HIM WILL!!!!!!!!!! THIS TOO SHALL PASS 😇
Keep doing what is righteous and you will be blessed "in this land" as scripture says. You will have blessings in this life, God promises so.
Exactly. I don’t wish these troubled people, the narcs in my life, harm or negative things for them. I want them to be well, to seek wellness, therapy for their own good, and for their quality of life. I want to be able to enjoy these loved ones again Instead of watching time disappear.
I am dealing with this at work and my reputation has been ruined! Please pray God will win and I can work in peace and not egg shells …
Keep doing the right thing for yourself and your boss. People that cannot see through the narc's lies (flying monkeys) and spread lies about you for him and cannot see that you are not what he/she says, then you know who you can't trust at work. If this is too much to the point it is affecting your well-being, then it is time to switch your job location and separate yourself from that environment. I would suggest going to HR but what type of waves would that create for you later? I would seriously think about all avenues and what each one would bring you if you speak out or don't speak out about it. If you do speak out against them, the narcissist will double down and pull all of his/her tricks out of his bag against you, to the point of getting you fired or forced to quit. So, do you take the peaceful way out and save your employment record from being blemished, or take a chance on the boss handling this narc and his/her flying monkeys properly? It is literally you against them, and unfortunately, it won't bode well for you all around unless he replaces all of the employees who are stirring the pot together.
I would bow out gracefully and quietly. And be sure none of them know where you work next. Narcissists are very vindictive and will stop at nothing to ruin you in some way. Especially if you try to expose them, even more so at their work. This is why it is important how we confront them. Having a conflict with one is tough and you must be very strategic in handling it. It is a losing battle that no one should ever fight. By walking out of their life and out of their field of sight you are no longer a supply to them. It sucks you have to be the one that has to make the move but that is the only escape. If you stayed and the narc got fired or forced to quit that narc still knows where you work and will still cause you issues there. They do not stop. Out of sight out of mind is your best option for it to stop. They are grown-up bullies but they have to be handled differently unfortunately. Eventually, they will get caught playing their games and as Danish said they will collapse and it will be all your fault, don't you know? No it won't be your fault, but they will blame you or whoever for their downfall believe that. Be safe.
Document everything
Danish, you are empowering the victims. God Bless you
Bad advice empowers narcissists. All Religion is led by narcissists.
You are backwards with just as Danish is
I am recovering from my Narcissistic x- husband of 41 years. I am seeing my children move away “emotionally” from him. He can’t figure out what is happening. I am sorry for the pain they are going through. It is hard for them to accept that he is like that. Hell, it is hard for me to accept that the person I loved with all my heart is a narcissist. I pray for strength for my adult children and for myself. Life is hard but narcissist makes it harder.
Oh my dear I too was 40 yrs and separated now 9 yrs and the sons have been $$ bought and I’m having a hard time finding a lawyer. But my faith remains steadfast and He sustains even when we must take days of rest .🙏❤️
Things will get better. Keep moving forward ❤
REally freaky experience when long after my dad has died in the nursing home where my mom needs constant care seeing there other patients there who are a lot like my dad was when often yelling and causing chaos wherever they go in the building in their wheel chair. Well at least my mom doesn't have to share a bed with any of them. While my mom is only always looking for the best in them too. Unless of course if one of them dared to insist it was their turn to share a bed with her and then that other darker human now 'wise' as a serpent side would be sure to come out of her. We all have a dark side. I sure hope I can cope with temptations like the temptation to get way too angry during only a minor misunderstanding after for example care givers helped to rearrange the furniture in the room when my eyesight and my short term memory is that poor.
I was married to a narcissist for 38 years. Omg! My adult children do not talk to him. I do not talk to him. We are trying to heal from the twisted mess and hatefulness he spewed. I loved him so much and now he turns my stomach. My poor kids having him as a parent. That is my biggest regret.
@@annbond5040 I put in 25, 5 children. Same, the children rarely talk to him. It's definitely a healing process for everyone. One thing I learned years before leaving him....I remember regret knocking at my door and chasing me down like a tormentor coming after me. I realized I had a choice to make at that moment....choose regret or accept my choices and move on. Tell regret to take a hike, he'll do nothing but torment you as long as you allow it. Just accept that this happened to you and your children, but now you are free to heal and begin to live, move forward, regret will ALWAYS take you backwards and keep you stuck from healing.
God bless and prayers for your family.
I think that many narcissists in the later years of their lives end up nearly alone. That gives them plenty of opportunity to reflect on how they rejected love, kindness, and tenderness from many, many people in the course of their lives. Some may still reject the fact that it was their bad behavior that got them to their lonely situation. Some may break down and realize the destruction that they created. Either way, I am content knowing that I offered the few narcs that I have had in my life a chance to escape their hell. Then, I was able to walk away and cut them out of my life. I am okay with that.
It's always everyone else's fault and they are never accountable.
I was married to one, barley got out alive with my small children!!!!! Please pray for me and daughter and son in there twentys, they have alot of similar traits, dont know how to help my children, selfish No compassion!! Thank You, Amen!!❤
Dear Friend, only God can help the children. If He wakes them up, they will understand you too, and forgive you for leaving the abusive relationship.
Hi from Germany. My sisters and I suffer from a narcissistic bad father and your channel is like a therapy. Thank you from Germany.
I was having same issues and i needed help😢💔
@jamlemo 💯 reliable, helped me
I suffer from a narcissistic father. What a nightmare. I have 8 years no contact. The best advice completely cut contact and run. Live a peaceful life
@@peace9107The best advice ❤
K n Rao says mrityunjay heals
God always told me to honor my mother. She was terrible to me. At 67, I took a birthday cake to her nursing home, but she totally ignored me and just talked to the other residents. 2 1/2 hours later she talked to me. I had driven 2 1/4 hours for her birthday. I left upset and drove home. I opened up my Bible and God said, "Shake the dust off your shoes." I never went back, but I did order her things that she asked for. She died 3 months later. She fell in her room early in the morning and hit her head.
Wow .
It's funny almost sounds like a playback from my neices page of her mom
Don't blame you one iota, good for you.
I'm 67 now, can run 5k, do my own stuff, participate in my mother's care. Feel sorry for you that your own mother screwed you over. You have my every sympathy. I am gutted for you.
Hard story but i think God ending it by this way so you dont have to suffer anymore
I totally believe in this and i am waiting for the narcissist in my life to get punished soon
Honey, don’t waste your time with the narcissist. Live your best life and forget about the narc! That’s the worst punishment anyways..
Don’t wait for him to get his just deserts you’re still focusing on THEM when you do that. Put him out of your mind and focus on yourself.
M watching them ,karma is hitting them but in a very slowly way...because narc parents going in their old age
Your best revenge is to be happy and move on. Narc's hate it when you're happy. They hate it even more when you give zero shits about them. Stay strong.
Karma arrives, in due Time.
That is so true! Narcissists do seem to live very long lives. I think part of it is that they have no stress from worrying about others, or getting involved in the care of others. They take extremely good care of themselves, but no one else. Including their own children. I suppose a very stress-free life makes for a very long life.
Truth!
Exactly
Stress free!? Hardly, they are filled with a crippling anxiety and fear unable to do things very disorganized and predictable! Very boring people!
@@GreasyBaconManBut they don't care about anyone. They have no empathy or worry about anything. That can sustain their physical nody
I agree with this
God exposes all dark things come to light. Thank you for this video
Amen to that God exposes my narcissist I knew she couldn’t handle it when she got exposed she took off and came back God is in my house and God rules my house so her and others the demons and demons trembling when God is here with us including her she has a rude awakening!❌🔥
Amen 😂
You shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free.
I am married to a covert narcissist for 40yrs. Most painful he has done is brainwashed my children against me. Praying for his Karma.
Sadly that is my story too. What strategies do you use to deal with such horrendous evil used against you. ? My heart is breaking too.
@@Bonnie55317-wDon’t feel sorry for them,cos they don’t care about u..only controlling u,it makes them feel big..they cherrypick who they are nice too just to build up adoration from others..but be a wife or a vulnerable person at home and u will be punished every miniute of the day..best advise is:they won’t change not for u or any chosen victim ..get out I know not easy,as they are abusers in disguise ..just go no matter I don’t have much.
I live in a big house with land etc..but I’m not willing to take this in exchange for their sick behaviour .I’ll have a lot less..but I’m going ..simply can’t take no more ..I will live alone it’s better then being with a narc.
me too
The same for. My daughters never bear with me though they ve understood the problem in a different way and fled away and helped them to go abroad. But I am still stuck😢
He will get his. God Will punish ALL narcissists and evil wicked people. He did for me and God will do it for you!!!!!!!
Narcissists get away with it to some point, until they can't anymore and everything comes crushing down! Karma from God. 🙏
Yupp I’m seeing karma play in people’s life so deeply right now it’s crazy
The best part about leaving a narcissist is leaving a narcissist!!! It's possible friends ❤❤
It's kind of like how happy you feel when you buy a boat and how happy you feel when you sell it.
This whole experience, although horrific and it did honestly cause me to question, has actually brought me closer to God, and I am truly grateful for that. Thank you for this episode. 🙏
It is said that the fastest way to find your own Light is being close to a Narcisist! So, im a way they are key pieces to our enlightment!
@@deyanirazandbergen5023 I don't know, going through the trauma of being with a narcissist has made me more seriously question the existence of a God more than anything else ever has.
I've never had to rely on God's protectin intentionally so much on the day 2 day. I make it a point to pray for protection of my mental & emotional around him...
Me as well. It actually brought me closer in my quest to get closer to God. I am probably more at peace now with myself because I’ve gone on a journey of forgiving myself forgiving person, and then forgiving let it go. There’s more of a dispassionate way of dealing with it. I am very grateful actually believe it or not.
I’ve always been very passionate about my walk with Christ. However, I must say, this whole experience has amplified that passion. My light is that much brighter. My conversations with God are that much deeper and much more authentic. The fact that I was his God given gift that he actively chose to reject makes me feel less sorry for him for what’s to come, for my God said “ Touch not my anointed ones, do no harm to my prophets “… My only regret was not listening to God sooner. However, because He is a God who is full of Love, Grace and Mercy, I understand that all of it was meant for the Greater Good and that I have been forgiven by The Most High. Therefore, I regret nothing🙏🏽…
I Will Tell You!!! The Holy Spirit intervened for me!!! Pushed the Narassist out of my path! It had to be my Obedience for God to take charge of the situation of danger! Praise God I've been Delivered and Redeem!!! The chains of bondage have been broken!!!!
Praise God 🙏 this gives me hope ❤
I am praying this for my self!! I need to be obedient and not react!!
@HerBeautysInsideOut Yes Obedience Summission and Surrender totally to God and He will make your path clear and straight!! I pray! In Jesus Name Amen!!!
Please pray for my little daughter and i.
@@missmissy5170 I will! In The Precious Name Of Jesus!
Danish, I was just crying out to the heavens 2 hours ago on why Im in so much pain and the person who abused me is just living his life while trying to destroy mine… your videos helps women like me who have been crippled by abuse and suffering ptsd. I hope someday I can reach the summit of this endless mountain I climb every single second of my life.
Same here.
Try doing the "How to forget” it helps immensely
I detached my heart long before I discarded him he never stopped lying and cheating he actually thought I would never get rid of him he's gone and he can never come back
You will get through this, as hard as it is. Perhaps the deepest message of this journey is that we cannot do it without God.
I'm so sorry for everything you've went through. I hope peace and healing find you
My mother was one. I knew something was wrong but didn’t know what. I was blessed to see her accept Jesus and change. It took many years of praying and me starting to love her in spite of how she would act towards me. I realize this is probably rare but my family got to witness changes in her as well. Praise Jesus!
With GOD all things are possible. We can see this in Daniel 4 when the Lord brought king Nebuchadnezzar to his knees and he eventually repented (he was a good example of a narcissist). It did take years, but we can see from that story that it is possible. How much more so in the new covenant where the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ empowers sinners to become children of God... Prayer is powerful! I am glad your mom received Christ's salvation and changed. Please keep sharing your story, people need to hear about it. Blessings.
God is great❤
It shows that nothing is impossible for Jesus to do. Thanks for sharing.
A true, full fledged narcissist is possessed, and has a reprobate mind. Therefore, incapable of changing. Maybe she had lots of narcissistic traits but wasn't a true narcissist. I say this from experience of having a mother like this, but father is a true narcissist. I'm glad your mom changed, I'm hoping my mom will see the light soon
I'm so glad you said that. I was wondering if they could even be saved. I pray God saves my husband so he won't go to hell. He;s treated me horribly.
You are so right and I am comforted by your words. When a narcissist consistently abuses the one who treats them with unconditional love despite their failings, eventually God steps in to bring about their downfall.
Love can be unconditional, but our presence in their lives shouldn't be. Righteous boundaries are godly and necessary, right boundaries are wisdom. We can't afford to live without wise boundaries. When people repeatedly step across those boundaries, we need to remove our presence from their lives as their behavior isn't acceptable. We're not to be punching bags, whether physically *_or_* verbally.
@@cacatr4495 Amen
I have witnessed this too.
When they show you their true colours they are very scary
I've been talking to God since covid. The main thing that hits home is "keep your eyes on your own work". Remember in school, and if your eyes wandered to your neighbor, and the teacher would catch you, that's what they said. You pay attention to your own work. God's been saying this over and over. I've learned to just do what he says, cuz it all works out in the end! 🙏♥️
@@Grace4me111 nah, the message has been clear to me "You focus on your money and I will handle your brother". I haven't had real money ever since covid started.
Be about your business
Amen! Im a prayer and god always listens to my prayers and he always delivers when I asked God to show me who he was and to show me everything he hid in the dark from me all kinds of stuff started coming up the dating sites the point of sides him soliciting women on Tik-Tok chatting with them interacting with them sending the money I've been with this man for fifteen years he has financially abused me I have lost my job so that he can better himself cuz he don't want to help me out with the kids as far as picking up and dropping off at school and he doesn't provide anything monetary bills daily Necessities everyday things that we need or groceries he makes tons of money any pockets all that money he saved his money I started doing a little side hustle little side job I got license to become a manicurist and that's what I do as a little part time job just to keep money coming in and putting it away but I still have to pay bills and everything else because he won't cooperate with anything
Amen
Yes, good analogy…. We cannot change others! We can only change ourselves and through Jesus Christ, God will transform & save us from our own sinfulness. The LORD in His Word, the Bible, has taught me to focus on my own sins, ask Him for help to recognize my own selfish ways, and to turn away from those things. God desires that we stay away from sinfulness, and replace those ways with God’s lovingkindness as well as obedience to His ways.
A narcissist will take advantage of our kindness and our forgiveness. The Bible teaches us to not go with people who are wicked, but we somehow allow ourselves to get tangled up with those bad people.
I think we are weak because we have come from growing up in families where we were not treated kindly, and therefore, we are used to putting up with demands & harshness. So… we are willing to overlook the selfishness & harshness from our loved ones…. But no matter how much we try to comply & please the narc, it’s never enough, & they’re demands never end. The narc has the characteristics of Satan, the devil. So, we must seek help!
Give them pain, addiction, and loneliness. They may get another supply but that supply will only take so much from them before they crack. I am alone I am single and am healing and learning to love myself and the world around me again. Praise God
Susan me too done all the things you said to me evil is too good a word to call them they should be sent down to the pit of hell no human been should have to endure their demonic ways. I ask God to give me the grace to forgive and forget Amen.
Yes. I'm on the healing process. No contact at all
I asked God one night this week in prayer ‘why do narcissists seem to get away with all they do to their own children , scapegoat child and others when we have been brain damaged for most of our lives and left with many weird trauma traits to heal? Then this video pops up… I can’t say I’m not pleased to hear this even though I don’t wish any harm to anyone including my abusers but I’m happy to know God does make them pay in his way. Thank you for this explanation it has made me feel much better for all I went through living with a narc mother and narc siblings…
They will reap what they sow. God can't force anything on anyone as we have free will, he will try to get them to heal but they often can't see the help. I truly believe they are oppressed by the demonic. Watch Marc the messenger and armor of God channel for some info on spiritual warfare. 🙏
@@quasimodo614 I follow Marc the messenger and I understand they have demons in them but that doesn’t necessarily make me forget or feel better for what narcissist do to people. …
@LisachildOTMH I know its hard. Thats when forgiveness needs to come in. I ask God often to help me in this area. I've heard also we must pray for them. 🙏
@@quasimodo614 agreed on the praying for them and yes I forgive but I don’t forget and that’s the hard bit especially as one of my abusers was my mother so it’s not as easy as just forgiving when you’ve gone through years of hell.. God is who saved me and I’m grateful for his love and protection. I’m still healing but thank you for your kind words. Namaste 🙏🏽
@LisachildOTMH my mother is narcissistic also. It's crazy finding out the damage done. I thank God I found out, once you work it out you start to heal. Peace and blessings to you 🙏
Right you are Danish. You have studied the evil mind of a narcissist perfectly. They are exposed in the end. The God of this universe is slow to anger, gives everyone plenty of time and space to change. God Is Love. ❤
Narcissists reap what they sow.
Seeing this happening to my narc husband. He walked out on me and sons after 32 years. It’s been 5 years now. He lives a loners life. No family, no relatives and no one to call his own. But still showing his arrogance. Nobody cares anymore. That’s his karma.
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Danish I want to say "I'm sorry" for what happened to you when it came to your father. I listened, I heard you, and I understood.
Similar happened to most of us visiting this channel. It is good he is able to help us. This is abuse one can't only study in books to understand.
Truth.
You have to actually suffer through it to actually understand the pain. No one believes what you suffer unless they did as well.
Yep it like being a member of a secret club..only involuntarily.
I am more than a gift
@@nmc1859It causes you to get a deeper understanding and THEN you realize that you have to truly let everything go. You can't hold on to anything and those that seek to gain will lose. Let everything go that you can't control and then you have to figure what you can control because our lives are FATED. Our lives are predestined. I am being blessed with spirituality right now. Be Blessed EVERYONE.
God brought me here, I’m 100 percent certain because I was looking for guidance about a narcissist abusing me and I needed a Christian professional to help me. I found your video so quickly with God’s help. Thank you so much, I needed to hear your words, I’m so greatful for your channel, I’m going to listen to many of your videos to help me heal and to know what I must do 🙏❤️🌟💯
God also helped me too to find danis's videos....thank you god for showing me the path.
@@gourabmallick8796 I pray we both find the healing we need 🙏❤️
"the first shall be last annd the last shall be first" is a verse that just came to my mind 💖
I am not convinced this gentleman is a Christian.
I concur@@grlnexdoorable
You can’t help true narcissists. No need for revenge. Just leave them and avoid them as much as possible. They have their own karma.
I truly believe in Karma. It may take awhile but sooner or later Karma will catch up with them. I have seen it and the Narcissist was so miserable they let themself die at the age of just 49.
Narcissistic don't know how to detatch from blaming ,judging condemning others, constantly.
I am a spiritual person and I believe when people are rooting for you to fail or speaking badly behind your back (starting rumors, telling lies, trying to get others to turn against you etc.), he'll bless you in their face. You'll always know who it is because when good things happen for you, they'll be fake happy for you. They'll try to hide the fact that it upsets them (not very successfully, though) or when you tell them about other people's good news, they'll be happier for them than they were for you. I guess we should thank them, for that reason alone, for being who they are.
They remain earthbound entities because they turn their back to the light.
What goes around, comes around, and what goes up must come down. They do not plan well, even though we wish them well.
And it is impossible for them not to eventually reap what they sow. They are essentially not spiritual people, or they would not keep doing these things.
And they miss the opportunity to grow enough spiritually to meet their own needs.
@@lizh1988 You explained this phenomena well. Saying , "They are not Spiritual people or they would not keep doing these things." To me, that is it in a nutshell. !
I have been treated this way very severely.
@@shelbyartist9152 It happens just to show us the people we don't need to be around
God hates ugly. It took me a while to realize that I was dealing with a narcissist he was so proud and delusional especially when he started making money he even abandoned me and his son but now he is all alone and lost all the money and the cars he was bragging about! This video is so so real. Thanks for sharing
Truth. Karma is not just about you or somebody else's so-called judgment. It's about recompense, restoration, healing, compensation, divine retribution and reward. There are levels to Karma just like there are levels to when it comes to Judgment--but the most important things are to learn, understand, and grow. A lot of times we get stuck in our own growth process.
If we include God or having a spiritual life (like learning to meditate!) we eventually come to this understanding in order to be able to let go and to learn whatever it is in this or any situation that has brought it to us. we are in the process of purifying ourselves on our way back to God and everything comes back to us (thoughts, words, actions) so it is better to "let go and to let God" and then try to learn what WE did to attract it and repent (in other words to learn the lesson in it and to humble our ego) giving it to God. I agree with you. God bless, we are waking up...................
I never worry about this. Repentance would need to happen. Where there is repentance, there is forgiveness. Where there is forgiveness, there is a new brother or sister. The battle belongs to God. We are to be wise as serpents and gentle as a dove. When we do that, God will work. Our job is to cast out fear.
Your job is also, to guard your “ heart with all diligence “. It’s in your Bible.
1 gives them a chance and time to change
3. Let's them live in dissatisfaction
2. Cuts off supply
Listening to you helps me understand what demons I am dealing with in this individual. Although I grew up with a narrcasist family. I wasn' prepared to also meet one outside of this family. I thought I was meeting someone kind loving that loved me.
Only to find out a Narc set me up with another Narc.
So they are all possed by these evil demons.
God help me in Jesus Name and through his blood. Amen
Amen. Never be influenced by The Evil One.
Sounds like my ex-husband. There are kind men out there. You have to date a lot of people to find them. A lot of first dates. I was very clinical about it. Basically treating it like a job interview for life. I met my boyfriend on a dating website. I made up a extra 50 question test for him to take. It was morals and things that were important to me. Everything my ex-husband failed. My boyfriend passed with flying colors. Birth order also plays a part too. We are both the oldest in our families. Before, I was with a baby of the family. He was spoiled rotten narcissist. I am introverted. My ex was extroverted. That was a problem. Me and my boyfriend are introverts. We also have 85% things in common. It took me a year to find him. We also each did not have children. Nor do we want any or feel bad about not having any. Blending families causes problems. We do have a stresser, I am partially disabled. Arthritis and back injury. Getting worse. My boyfriend is ex army EMT. My ex-husband did not love me when he found out about my illness. He accused the Dr of lying. My boyfriend has been great. My boyfriend also came from a narcissistic family. He knows all the crazy stuff that goes on.
Hell I am it actually doesn't matter u r from which part of the world practicing which religion... narcissistic abuse is all the same... Your story is relatable
I swear that's what just happen to me. Of course he won't be honest and just tell me who pointed him in the direction but then again what men dont get is... if a woman's asking,
She already knows
Use me As an example how Narcs Harm my Life.
You've covered things quite thoroughly, Danish. At the conclusion of a lifetime of abusing others, my former husband died two years ago at the age of 67. Years before his death, however, he had devolved into everything he'd ever dreaded. He'd grown fat, paranoid, lonely, surrounded by cockroaches and filth. I am always torn. Because I know of the unspeakable abuse he suffered throughout his childhood, my heart breaks for him. On the other hand, I feel vindicated, for the pain he inflicted on me and our son for the 12 years we were together, and the subsequent 15, during which we co-parented. Ultimately, I feel this life contained many lessons for us both, all intended by God, for good, and out of which good has come. Thank you, Danish Bashir. You are a blessing to us all.
My 2 cents: Don't feel sorry for these narcissists. They spend their life tormenting others for their own selfish gain & pleasure. I too was abused as a child. I've spent my life trying to love & help others. I say, hold them accountable for their evil. Don't let them off the hook. They certainly wouldn't let you off the hook! They wouldn't feel sorry for you. They wouldn't pray for you.
Please don't feel torn. He CHOSE evil over good.
Thank you God. Thank you Universe for keeping me safe and removing him and his accomplices from my life. Amen.
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You are correct. He leaves them to a reprobate state. Not by His choice but by theirs. He has given them a lifetime of chances but they chose to abuse the power they have. We all have power. We all do not chose to manipulate and control and play games with it hurting people on purpose and never being accountable. If we do wrong we feel bad and try not to hurt people and make the same mistakes and learn from what we have done. They don't care.
Prayers for anyone who has been abused by a narrsscist. And may God bless your life 🙏 with healing 🙏 and God's restoration in your life 🙏 I rebuke the spirit of infirmity in Jesus name expose them 🙏
I think in most cases they don't believe they've done any wrong, they're perfect.
@@freedomwarrior5087 I believe you are right. It goes with their disorder. They are never held accountable so the problem couldn't be them they think. After enough people walk out of their lives and won't have anything to do with them you would think they would stop and think "what did I do?" But it doesn't work like that for them.
Right
@@susanbarnyak7393 They think it was just bad luck, not a repeating pattern.
I am so happy that there is justice. My mother is a malignant narsacisst.
So is my mother. The most frustrating thing about her is that she NEVER admits she's wrong, even when it's clear that she is. She finds a way to twist things or gaslights,, in order to make me think I'm the one with an issue. I have come to truly hate her as I've gotten older because I see who she really is. She used to get away with making me feel like I was the worst person when I was a kid but no more. I call her out on everything now.
I have suffered, a lot over the years, because of family members and friends! I've walked away from all of them. So now I'm sitting back enjoying my life. Karma never forgets where they live!! Ameen to that 🙏🏻♥️
I moved away from a pair of narc's who were neighbours. There were already noisy but in addition were converting their garage into a man's den (t.v. darts board, drinks, even a noisy washing machine etc. without planning permission.) Imagine my smile when we sold the house to a building surveyor! God works in mysterious ways :).
Right they not worth energy
@@joanramsey4002 indeed he does! 🙏🏻♥️
@@tiger-resssparkle2686 yes indeed ♥️🙏🏻
Only those who believe in God
Feeling like I was a gift to the Narcissist and used in some way by God to give him a chance to change his ways (he refused, of course) is helpful to me. I feel validated and as if I didn't lise ten years of my life being abused but rather given the opportunity to offer a better life to someone who unfortunetely did not choose to take it, is helpful to me. I can see how it would be that way when he stands before God and God says,"I sent you Melissa - what happened?" Lol. I appreciated this new insight.
Totally agree that God punishes the narcissist. Mine narcissist. Died to cancer a year ago. The stunts he came up with was beyond being mean. How many times I was threaten embarrassed ect. & turning my family against me. Of course being blamed when in his fits of rage. I could write a book! I am trying to bring closure. I loved that man that became a monster. Thanks for the encouragement!
became??? they become monsters at a very young age last i checked.
Praying God will heal your heart from the pain and hurt!!!
My narcissist past away a few months ago. I poured all my love into him for decades. I couldn't find the strength to leave him. Recently he found out he had cancer and in 7 days he was dead. I battled with the feelings that he got away with everything and never had to pay for his evil doings. I'm in therapy now. I am experiencing a Rollercoaster of emotions. Thank you for this video. ❤
I’m still dealing with mine. His daughter with someone else, won’t even acknowledge him. Our son who still lives at home can’t stand to be in the same room as him. I can’t stand to be in the same room. I feel like I’m in eternal hell and I’ll never be able to get away. He came from a loving, Christian family, who did nothing but love and lift him up, but he turn out to be pure evil. Like someone said, I can write a book, but it would be the longest book in history. I find myself praying morning, noon and night for help out, but here I am, still stuck. Getting away is the hardest thing to do when someone won’t allow you to get a second job. He wants me to be insecure and penniless. I also don’t want to leave my son and dog with him. The emotional roller coaster he has put them on, makes me cry every day. Thank you for your video, it has enlightened me and makes me feel that God hasn’t given up on me.
Don't LOOSE Hope ..i'm also still dealing with mine..After 40years as a born again believer..praying & offering all to GOD.. i've seen GOD really change them or our situations..GBY
Praying for total healing after years of abusive marriage,God is watching and payback time is irreversable
You cannot just pray for total healing.
have to do the painful, difficult work of your own emotional recovery.
It is WRONG to mislead people, that through prayer, God will just heal you.
Unfortunately it does not work that way.
Pray, but go to therapy, read books on Narcissism, watch videos, journal, join support groups.
If all you do is “pray for total healing”, you will never heal.
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It's amazing how powerful a relationship with Creator is.
I think that in all of my reading of comments at Maui videos recently, that maybe I've seen your screen-name. Love to you all.
Thank you, Danish. My mother used me relentlessly all her life. I was just a tool to her. I just went no contact over a week ago. My brother already committed suicide. So I guess she's going to be alone with her cowardice, knowing that she's going to die alone. Unless my dad dies first. She already told me once that if my dad dies before her, she will commit suicide because she can't stand to be alone. I don't feel righteous saying this, though. I am still so hurt that it had to happen this way. Going to see a therapist today.
Sorry about your brother. Narcissists make people take their own lives which for me is the most unforgiving sin. May he rest in peace wishing you healing and peace. God bless ❤
I’m so sorry to hear about your brother. Your mother sounds very similar to mine. Difference is my brother passed when he was 27(was just us 2 kids). My dad passed 5 years ago and my mother lied her way into another man’s life within the year-after 55 years of marriage all she did was talk smack about my father before he was even in the ground! I went “no contact” after that. It broke my heart to listen to her lies. And once dad was gone, there was nobody else for her to mistreat and use, so i was bearing the brunt of all of her abuse. The last straw was here telling lies to my 3 sons and them choosing to believe. So now my sons don’t speak to me or include me in their lives. Sad to say, it will be a blessing for you if she kills herself. Just saying. Wish mine had before she ruined my entire life.
@@DJ-nh6wq I am so sorry. The pain that these people do is unfathomable for sure
Stay strong, warrior! Let time heal all wounds. Before you know it, you'll have forgotten all the rottenness and betrayal. Forgive your enemies and yourself. If you can, avoid looking at or watching your enemies' downfall. Hand over all the weight you carry to God and trust Him to bring you through. Keep your love, joy and peace at all costs.
@@LyrielonwindMy mother told me that if I self-deleted, it would be only to spite her and my father.
Then my father said it one time... That hurt. He usually parrots when she says, because he doesn't think for himself at times, and I thought he love dme, but now I'm realziing that It all seemed to be a lie.
The fake "love" is just disgusting.
Sadly, I'm not sure if it's fake, or if it's real and he just is damaged and doesn't know what he's doing.
It's too painful.
Both parents and sibling . I left directly after school never to return . Relocated and broke off all contact, it allowed me to find God, counseling. Its been over 30 years and by Grace i cintinue to heal and find these amazing videos
And boy does exposure tick them off!
I always feel better after listening. Thanks, Danish.
My pleasure
Me too!!! He explains so well I can understand what I ve been through.
Same here thank you
Oh yes thank you sooooo much for helping us our creator will help you back .
When we do good and help others we will see it .
Thank you for this 🙏🏾My husband is a covert narcissist and I am divorcing him after 10 years. I pray for him every day. His parents are also narcissists. His dad has cancer and I see my husbands health is getting worse because he is constantly cheating, I gave him everything of myself and almost lost myself before God revealed everything so I could change the locks and go no contact. I do pray he will change because he has been like this for 30+ years I do not want to see him perish, but God will not be mocked, I have to forgive him because I also want God to forgive me for my sins. I will continue to pray so that there is no hate in my heart towards him, but ultimately he will have to pay the consequences all the evil he has done to primarily the women in his life, I am the only woman that he used who is praying for him because I thought he was a Christian when I married him, but he never was. It was all a sham. So sad but God is healing me and he’s fighting for me.❤️🙏🏾
A smart narcissist will go to church every Sunday. Helps so much to reinforce their false facade. They are fake & phoney; have most everyone fooled. I will always wonder what my narcissistic & psychopathic father was daydreaming about in church every Sunday. Obviously he wasn't interested in what the Priest was saying. My guess is he would daydream about serial-killing people he hated. Or was he thinking of all the women he cheated with behind my mother's back? He's dead now, thank God, so all I can do is guess as to what was going through his mind all those years during church.
You are beautiful and amazingly strong. I wish to be more like you. I'm going through something very similar. Be blessed ❤
@@rishitadabhi7870 thank you. It’s all God strength I’m clinging to. You will get through this ❤️🩹🙏🏾 pray and get therapy to address any childhood wounds you may have - you can break those patterns and set better boundaries and stick to them 🤗❤️🙏🏾
I pray the best for you. Your situation sounds like mine. A fake Christian who cheated and always had an excuse to where it was somehow my fault for pushing him away. SMH the manipulation and lies
Same here your situation is similar to mine😮
Agreed darkness looms large in their life - and they can’t satisfy themselves, never happy, and they don’t understand love!
I saw my father, a malignant narcissist, on his deathbed, encounter Satan who was waiting for him. This was in the presence of a priest who also saw it. My father was terrified.
Satan always had control of him. Jesus said , I will never leave you or forsake you. It is us that shuts the door 🚪 to our heart. 😢 How sad.
What happened????
Yeah. More details please
They choose it, because they are not in their right minds. They are in league with the devil, in bondage to destruction. They are most pitiable, but pity does them no good, it's wasted. They have no respect for anyone or anything, not even Life. They are of the darkness.
@@DebraCollins-fq4jothat’s absolutely right
You defined my mother perfectly. I'm on my healing journey from a lifetime of narcissistic abuse by my mother. I'm in a much better head space today. I used to wonder why my mom is still alive, but after hearing your video, I now understand. I appreciate your perspective, wisdom and videos. Blessings to you and everyone on this channel who has a narcissist in their lives. 🙏❤️
Your experience is similar. My mum is narcissist too and I thought that living long is good explanation as my mum is the longest living member of her family. She was told that all her children will stop talking to her and it did happen
@@aniabrandt7 blessings to you 🙏
How are you doing your process of healing from my mother?
@SanarInconsciente I started last July after I read, "Recovering from Narcissistic Mothers, a Daughter's guide by Brenda Stephens. The book was eye-opening. I followed with going to therapy. I meditate, pray every day, and I practice Self-care.
@@ricardajames5769 thanks for that, will be sure to get a book
You really understand how a narcissist mind works! Thank you for all you do, I feel like I’m healing more and more everyday.
Danish is very wise. Is he a Christ follower?
@@danilaroche1156he is a Muslim and yes we believe in Christ
I tried many times to bring my narcissist closer to God, taking him to mass sometimes, reading from the Bible and teaching him how to pray the rosary. It was a complete failure because he started to mock me. He tried to convince me that God didn’t exist. He made jokes about spiritual matters and even tried to make me change my religion. It was a very sad experience. I had to ask God for forgiveness because I couldn’t save his soul. God did forgive me and he set me free. I don’t know what happened to my narcissist, I left him. I also don’t think about him anymore. When I came across your videos I remembered many incidents. I will keep commenting when I have to say something, but otherwise this chapter of my life is gone with the wind. Thank you for enlightening me.
God has such a beautiful way of unveiling the truth ❤.
I was my x’s third wife. Over the years, he laid the full blame on his 2 x’s not taking any blame for his marriage failures. I became disabled during our marriage , and he didn’t want to deal with it. Now he has left me with no financial help - I’m still waiting to go thru mediation and to have my divorce finalized. I hope to have a decent judge who can see through his BS.
So sorry you are going through this. They sure do leave you at your most vulnerable/worst! 🤗
Bless you with abundant strength God never fails
So thrilled see all the comments online they are there to encourage us to keep pushing forward when some days We feel helpless…i told my friends what was happening in my life ..asked them to help me stay focused and not become the doormat again…We long for them to be the way they were..but it is a disease they cant recover from ..leaves us finally with no other options. .God Bless
Excellent video. The thing which I was not prepared for when my own narcissistic mother passed away was how I felt absolutely nothing for her passing. You might as well have told be the price of beans in Mexico or the what the weather was like on a certain day 50 years ago, I had no joy no pain no grief and no relief . Nothing. I have grieved for people I hardly knew at all. But as a survivor of her abuse she no longer existed as a person to me. Sad. But that's what they do to their victims. And we move on. Thanks Danish for your videos.
I had sorrow for each of my parents when they passed, but it was more grief for the opportunities they lost or the rejection of my caring.
I felt absolutely the same and even guiltily that I had no feeling of greaf only the lost opportunity of having a mother daughter relationship 😢
Much Appreciation for your Divine input. God Rescued Me after 30yrs & 5 kids. God audibly spoke to & said "I'm rescuing you from this; I have a better life for you". Halleleujah!
Absolutely spot on. What you said is true. I know a narcissist who Crashed their vehicle shortly after purchasing it, caught an STD straight after a discard, children don't want to see him. He's often angry, upset and suffers from deep depression. His pay back has stemed from greed, Selfishness, mistreating , abusing, taking others kindness for weakness and ungratefulness. "KARMA AT ITS BEST" 🥴
the narcissist i dealt with passed away in a motorcycle accident
@@marylnmonroe sad that he passed bad Karma too
I sincerely hope and pray that for every tear the Narc made you cry, and for every tear he made everyone else CRY..THAT AT THE LAST 15 OR 20 YEARS OF HIS LIFE..HE CRIES 20 TEARS FOR EVERY SINGLE TEAR THAT HE CAUSED 😢
Do no harm. Never wish revenge. That's for God only. Find forgiveness. If not for them for yourself. For as long as you hang on, they still hold power over you. May God bless you and hold you.
Amen@@DH-gk8vh
I can definitely understand why you are feeling that way because when you live with a narc 'you' are the one who is seeing them get away with so much stuff. You see how it effects your children as well. The narc also manipulates the love and connection you have with your children so be mindful of that. They will make it look like you are to blame. That you're just crazy. Before you know it your children are treating you with the same action's. Best thing to do is literally HAND IT OVER TO God...Just speak with Him and tell him 'everything' and that you need His help in order to free yourself from this very heavy burden and all of the horrible feelings that come along with it. Your children may or may not ever choose to resurface but that's their choice. Pray for them. Keep moving forward and bring newness into your life. NEW positive people, experiences, classes etc. 💜💌
Yes,your observations are spot on. They do live a very long life and are given sooooo many chances to the point that it gets annoying. They have a void inside of them which they cannot fill .. such a terrible way to live,to always be whining and complaining and to never actually know the value of the things/people they have in their lives. Being thankful for what one has in life is the foundation of all abundance. No wonder the narcissist feels lack ALL the damn time!
But there is one thing though,that I definitely do wish on my narcissist - awakening! And 'there is no coming to consciousness without pain' - Carl Jung.
My MIL was one of these. My wife went through Hell growing up and myself by proxy. I did have some fun with her lack of self awareness, though. However, after praying for her for over 40 years, she finally came to be a loving mother about 9 months before her death.
Two things caused this. 1. Her husband died and she had to have her legs amputated due to diabetes. Things she could not avoid like a wall she could not penetrate.
2. The other thing was her unforgiveness of her father, long dead. When she finally forgave him, she blossomed for the first time in her life and was able to experience love. It was really a beautiful thing to see. Sadly, it was way too short and she finally had he last heart attack. But my wife was able to see her as her mother, finally. That was a gift.
Every word You spoke ,is spot on ! I dealt with aNarcissist for 6 years,and she died over a month ago,as far as I know she was alone. I went zero contact 3 years ago,and she was in bad temperment,and failing health,and a lot of it was her own doing. I could never satisfy her,and she accused me of many things. She never admitted her faults openly or privately. I married a wonderful lady who is a Blessing and we courted shortly after I broke up with the narcissist. I thank God every day for the breakup,and the woman I Love as my wife. Good things come to those who wait,and the narcissist was a blessing in disguise as she made me appreciate the Blessing God gave me after the Breakup. I have my friends,and my family and I are on the mend from the bad relationship.
Danish always calms my spirit by setting things straight. He is right when he says the narc is left to dry out and die by his kids who leave early because they just can't stand to be around them. I pray for those who have lived this life. It is not an easy one, especially if you have to carry the parent who isn't a narc..I know everyone leaves and you are left to carry the load alone..then they die and you are left to care for the narc and that is the ultimate test of God. Help us all who struggle under the load. We can't do it on our own. God bless you all and know it won't last forever...♥️🙏
This is sooooo true. Only GOD ALONE can save the one who has to live with a narc. Mercy!
Our God is so merciful. Even though I love my narcissistic friend he has broken my heart over and over. I tried to model God’s love toward them. Now, no contact. It is so painful. Hoping God will heal my broken heart and redeem his soul. Thank you Danish your words help.
If you model God's love toward yourself, it could be better because you need and will appreciate the love, unlike some people.
I totally understand what you are saying, I had to separate from one of my sisters who causes hurt and pain for years. God is merciful, he wants his children to live in peace.
This was a confirmation to my soul. I am currently facing “agrravated assault” because of a narcissist. Please keep me in prayer for all the prayer warriors. If you know of any non-profits that assist women of domestic violence in the U.S. particularly GA, please reply.
Christian Women's Center in Griffin GA
Pray for me too, going through the same
I received- free domestic counseling in Michigan when my x was arrested. Best thing ever. One year !!!
I will pray for you. My sister had me arrested for aggravated assault also because she wouldn’t leave my home after threatening to kill me. Her husband assaulted her when I took her to his house. It was eye opening for me! I stayed in jail 6 days & the minute I walked in everyone turned to me & said “Why, are you here? You don’t belong here!” I told them my sister had me arrested & 6 women jumped up & said “Let’s pray!” We held hands & prayed! I felt such peace while I was in jail. My case was finally dismissed after the Judge saw what a nut case my sister was in court. I finally realized that my Father & my 5 siblings were all narcissists. They all abandoned me & turned my mother against me. Now @ 92 my 3 sisters & 2 brothers have had my Mom sign a durable power of attorney so my family cannot have any contact with my Mom. They’ve cut me out of the will & have lost 27 family members. I was the oldest of 6 children & was taught to do everything for everyone. It was my normal & never thought about it. I’m not like my Father or siblings, I’m like my Mom. But, she has always been too weak to ever say Stop! It’s sad how family can manipulate you for years & you finally wake up & see the torture & evil that is your family. I know God allowed for me to be arrested to remove me from the evilness & selfishness of my family. Jesus saved me! He will save you also! I will pray for you. It’s a struggle but have faith!!🥰🙌🏻🙏
So, my ex is a narcissist. She constantly put me through the emotional wringer as we were in our relationship, and guilt tripped me into marriage. She cheated (i don't know if she was ever faithful, or even capable of it now), and left me high and dry basically also choosing her friends over us. Our divorce was finalized in April, her son committed self deletion in May. While I loved him as my own, and i would never wish this on anyone... God does look after his own, and I would advise those who are hurt not to take revenge. Just be still. Peace will come. 🙏🙏🙏
You were so on point. They can’t stand to be by themselves. Always in the midst of a crowd whether they like them or not.
We need to repent daily from our wrong deeds. Try to live a life with love, caring and respect to one another.
I just dropped a woman who is a narcissist I turned it all to God prays the Lord Jesus Christ 🙏🙏
I decided to completely discard ex i was crying like a baby in pain i sent a voice message saying " i am sensing you are done with me to be in good books of your family and society you have replaced me for someone else whom your family chose will never find peace and happiness....i end this relationship and i am giving the closure.... trust me at that time i never knew the meaning of narcissist... and after watching your videos about god as well dark energy what ever i said was true God made me do all this... O God protect and help everyone from such dark energy person,🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
My narcissist past away a few months ago. I poured all my love into him for decades. I couldn't find the strength to leave him. Recently he found out he had cancer and in 7 days he was dead. I battled with the feelings that he got away with everything and never had to pay for his evil doings. I'm in therapy now. I am experiencing a Rollercoaster of emotions. Thank you for this video. ❤
Let Jesus christ be your therapist. Let him heal you and give you peace in your brokenness. I pray you will come to know Jesus christ in a very intimate way.. because only then will real healing and life start❤
@@Heseesyou Thank you.
You didn’t deserve any of that evil and I wish you peace and love in your healing. Stay true to the good kind person that you are 🙏
@@lizwilliamson8332 Thank you. God bless you.
Sending prayers
It's really lovely how you are inclusive of all religions.
Danish you are wiser than your years..I agree with what you have said and also consider that we will all stand before God and make an account of our lives..
If they don't repent in this lifetime, our testimony may very well be used against them when they stand before God to make an account of their life and why they chose to live it that way..
I pray that they do repent, because it is truly a fearful thing to fall into the hands of the living God..
It is so good to know all these evil things done in the secret by parents is getting exposed. It took us a long time to get this kind of help and many had to suffer silently and endure a lot of sufferings if not for the internet.