7 Triggers for Avoidant Attachment in Anxious-Avoidant Relationships

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  • Опубліковано 25 чер 2024
  • //7 Triggers for Avoidant Attachment in Anxious-Avoidant Relationships//In this enlightening video, we delve deep into the intricate dynamics of anxious-avoidant relationships. If you're curious about attachment styles, particularly the avoidant attachment style, and how they impact your connections with others, this is a must-watch.
    We explore the 7 common triggers that can set off avoidant behaviors within these relationships. From understanding attachment theory to recognizing the signs of dismissive avoidant attachment, we'll guide you through it all. Whether you're dealing with an anxious attachment style or fearful avoidant attachment, this video offers valuable insights.
    Don't miss out on unraveling the complexities of attachment styles in relationships and discover ways to heal and foster healthier connections. Join us as we navigate the intricate terrain of anxious-avoidant dynamics and provide you with practical tips to enhance your relationship experiences.
    If you're ready to explore the fascinating world of attachment styles and gain a deeper understanding of your own, hit that play button now!
    Chapters
    00:00 Introduction
    02:07 What is avoidant attachment?
    02:47 What are the signs of avoidant attachment?
    03:40 What is the impact of avoidant attachment in relationships?
    04:42 Signs of anxious-avoidant relationships: "The Anxious-Avoidant Trap"
    06:26 7 Triggers for avoidant attachment and dating
    19:58 Final Thoughts
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 29

  • @CLamour91
    @CLamour91 4 місяці тому +6

    God I never realized how prevalent these issues are in relationships. I can’t believe other people go through this

  • @michellericher9289
    @michellericher9289 6 місяців тому +9

    6:30 video starts with 7 triggers
    1)saying I love you. May feel like it’s too soon.
    2) future talking. Master of future talking. Then they can become elusive. Commitment to the action.
    3) conflict can be triggering. Conflict was a signal of danger. Stay present.
    4) commitment. It can feel like encroaching on their freedom. 2 of you rising together
    5) boundary violations. They need to be respected. Ask permission.
    6)demanding behavior. Delivery makes all the difference. Language matters and making requests.
    7)criticism. It ignites their deepest fears.

  • @philipramsden4975
    @philipramsden4975 4 місяці тому +10

    Mine was an LDR for 3 months. I was going to be attending a conference in her city and she was super excited about it. Talking about all the things she wanted to do with me and show me. Ghosted me in the middle of a conversation the day before I was flying in. Totally bummed me out. I haven't heard from her since. I'm pretty secure, but she did trigger my anxious side and I chased for a few weeks. I wish I had known about all this before this happened.

  • @kingaberlakovich5585
    @kingaberlakovich5585 7 місяців тому +9

    Do they respect our ( anxious) sensitivities???

  • @gebronthomasson6960
    @gebronthomasson6960 7 місяців тому +4

    She talked engagement and moving in.. her idea on engagement .. and I was ready we were one week from moving in and she ended it..yes I am Anxious her DA..

  • @Braveheart0803
    @Braveheart0803 15 днів тому

    This will help me abundantly in communicating my needs to my avoidant partner.

  • @spiceystonefemme
    @spiceystonefemme Місяць тому +1

    This is very enlightening. Thank You

  • @kaylabrown9273
    @kaylabrown9273 5 місяців тому +1

    Thank tou for this information! I have been trying to get out of the talking stage with a guy who is definitely my soulmate i know thats cliche, but this has been helping me figure out if this is a person who i can form a relationship with and heal also with, when and how to set th w boundaries so to know if or when i should walk away as well. Tho im hoping by addressing the hot cold issues with jim when we get close will help change behavior in time.

  • @CURTSUMIDA
    @CURTSUMIDA 3 місяці тому

    I wish we had seen this two weeks ago. I’m positive that things will work out however definitely helpful Mahalo

  • @ChadEAult
    @ChadEAult 7 місяців тому +6

    If an avoidant wants independence why do they chase or pull you into a relationship?

    • @brianamacwilliam.attachment
      @brianamacwilliam.attachment  7 місяців тому +1

      Thank you for your question, I think you’ll find this short helpful: ua-cam.com/users/shortsfKpsUqCt4jU?si=rzhA9BaG9TBfQ22-

    • @gebronthomasson6960
      @gebronthomasson6960 7 місяців тому +6

      Because they too desire intimacy but are scared of it..their core wounds surface..and they flee..or pull away..

    • @ChadEAult
      @ChadEAult 3 місяці тому +1

      Everyone is different: in my experience she seemed to be addicted more to attention than love. She compartmentalized everything. It did feel to me much like a player energy. Lie by omission, extremely independent, constantly out and about, bringing in new friends, new endeavors, it’s all very passive aggressive controlling. By that I mean if she filled up her schedule she wouldn’t have to spend more than enough time than she leftover to spend with me. It’s deceptive and manipulative as well. Whether they realize they or doing it or realize how it hurts you is of no point. It’s how they operate. The interesting thing was during Covid. I would tell her that was the best out relationship ever was. Because I finally felt closeness and a sense of normalcy. So change is totally possible. Their fears rule over their feelings. And they slip back into what’s comfortable.

  • @johnkosakowsky1168
    @johnkosakowsky1168 7 місяців тому +2

    I am the avoidance one. I was married 43 years and I felt I was so much at fault because I could not learn ASL and she was qualified $50 per hour. I loved her . Then she got ataxia. Doctor gave her 3 years I got 7 years. I am afraid of being the same for relationships. As I feel so ashamed. I considered I had a great marriage but I couldn't please her.

  • @khadidjaalya2627
    @khadidjaalya2627 7 місяців тому +1

    I wish I learned these things a couple of years ago, I would have navigated my relationship differently with more ease

  • @gebronthomasson6960
    @gebronthomasson6960 7 місяців тому +3

    My ex was only really “ intimate “ touchy feely when drinking but shut down when not. So they need it but it’s shame based mindset due to abuse issues

  • @janetadams3467
    @janetadams3467 5 місяців тому

    Spot on...wish I'd been clearer on these things but I have done some things right which is encouraging. I'm going to learn more in case I meet another one or perhaps help the past one as a friend!

    • @brianamacwilliam.attachment
      @brianamacwilliam.attachment  4 місяці тому

      I’m glad the video resonates. I hope it helps you on your journey.

    • @senik64
      @senik64 Місяць тому

      it is not you responsibility to help/save them. choose yourself!

  • @rncegnlish
    @rncegnlish 2 місяці тому

    Open heart

  • @TRY.Serenity
    @TRY.Serenity 6 місяців тому

    Open heart 😅❤

  • @spiceystonefemme
    @spiceystonefemme Місяць тому

    Do you talk about the other anxious attachment styles or just avoidant?

  • @gebronthomasson6960
    @gebronthomasson6960 7 місяців тому +1

    Your first one I heard to say from manipulation.. like sexual abuse..

  • @shallnoTfear
    @shallnoTfear Місяць тому

    Yup, this reaffirms I would avoid avoidants! No thanks.

  • @ubermensch9688
    @ubermensch9688 5 місяців тому

    You’re gorgeous :)

  • @joeb5578
    @joeb5578 Місяць тому

    What's wrong with the low volume level on this?

  • @user-vd9hv8vv9t
    @user-vd9hv8vv9t Місяць тому

    Open heart