Incredible courage from Sanjana. She was obviously so afraid of losing her father’s love. And his reaction when she asked if he still loved her showed how deeply he adored her. You could see his heart break that she even doubted. Wishing them (and all these people!) the very best.
@crustyflakes3861it’s not that they’re happy they’re gay, that’s a neutral thing, they’re happy their kid felt safe enough to come out to them. They’re happy their kid knows themself
I started crying when Sanjana’s dad started tearing up. It's almost as if there was a bit of pain in him but it was overcome by his love for his daughter.
Clearly he loves her. I think there's just a part of him with expectations of marriage, grandchildren in the traditional sense that he had to cope with. It's understandable, you can't expect someone to dream their kid future for years and then discover that it will never be. At the end of the day, he's there and that's what matters.
That man was both grieving and supporting his daughter at the same time. He was not one of those "It does not matter, do what you wanna do" kind of dads. It shook him for sure. But he stayed strong for his girl. Which I thought was particularly impressive.
Sanjana's dad was definitely disappointed a bit. But he knew he couldn't do anything, he knew she was still the same person. So he went through it, kept on, and that's admirable as all hell
The girl wearing a cap and her uncle were so genuinely loving towards each other, it was so beautiful to watch and I love how supportive all the parents were 🥰
As an Indian, it took huge balls to do what she did. I’m so happy for her man. Her dad obviously is still processing but that’s still his little girl. Congrats to all the beautiful human beings, I hope you all have a beautiful full life ahead.
the desi dad had me CRYING. that's really the best reaction he could have given. just that he wants her to be happy and he will always love her. this was beautiful
Every other parent was smiling by the end, and the dad had a very stern and cold look on his face. His eye movement kinda said a lot without saying a lot.
As an Indian, I couldn't stop my tears when at the end Sanjana was like "Do you still love me?" to her dad. I may not be queer myself, but having immigrant parents who came to a new land to make their children's life easier, i was able to connect with that. Her dad's reassuring tone, and the painful love in his eyes makes me think of my dad, who is also like him. What an understanding father, and how brave of Sanjana for choosing to come out as a south-asian.
The father/daughter at the end were so sweet. Even though she specifically mentioned their differences in political views, he was so caring and accepting of her. That’s true love.
He took it hard though, I feel like he has to work a bit with that information. But seems like he will stick with her no matter what. Just has to come to terms with it.
@@simonisenberg4516 yeah it seemed like he was still processing. He might still be okay with it later on but I can't imagine that journey is going to be easy going forward. Especially with the way she told him
@@nfsking27 yep. And honestly, I wouldn't blame him coz it's like his ability to properly process this was taken from him. Kudos to him though for loving his daughter and rising to the occasion.
I thought that interaction was the purest form of love. He's clearly both scared and disappointed but the way he recognised this wasn't about him, and how he hang on his love for her through the obvious pain is incredible. What a great father. They will grow together and have an amazing path ahead of them in their relationship. His daughter has just gifted him the opportunity to love unconditionally and he's taken on the task like a pro. He adores her - the depth of his love in his eyes is impossible to misunderstand.
Their background looks like they are from middle east...Perhaps, they are Muslims..That's why must be even harder. Her dad is very nice but its so obvious he was very upset but accepting the fact and her choice
@@pinakkoladaa At 1:56 he cheered saying "salud", which is a typical way to cheer in Spanish and made me think they're probably Hispanic. I wouldn't be surprised if there was a very similar word in Arabic, though, as a lot of Spanish words have Arabic origins from the 8 centuries of cultural exchange in the Iberian Peninsula :).
When I heard that last girl say "Do you still love me?" I broke down. Took me 27 years to come out to my parents, I know that feeling of rejection. Happy for you.
I'm so sorry that you had to endure that rejection but I'm glad you are no longer feeling any need to hide who you truly are as you should never have to do that.💙
@Amariiiip can you please educate me on the significance of Sikhism with regards to her sexuality? From what I read Sikhism is supposed to be tolerant, and have no animosity towards anyone for any reasons. So why would her spiritual belief system have any significance to her "coming out" to her father?
@@jinhub2175 yeah i think he felt ambushed and didnt know how to take all the emotions at once, i felt the disappointment but i think some of it was how it was set up instead of her just coming out to him privately...tough to say but it doesnt seem like he physically abused her but was prolly pretty strict. not a parent myself tho
I agree. I'm hoping it's more along the "oh no, she won't have kids and no (biological) grand-kids" line, but she has an older brother who will likely fill that desire. That'd be better than "you dishonor our family/tradition/religion" which is often a harder pill to swallow.
as a desi queer, the father and daughter really hit hard for me. Not many desi parents react this way. What a great father, that’s unconditional love. I felt truly represented by them, they reminded me a lot of my dad and I. Proud of her, it takes a lot of courage.
it really hit home for me. i know there is no way i will ever receive this reaction from my dad. however, seeing this video doesn’t make me jealous or sad for my own situation - it just fills me with so much joy to see other desi queers out there receiving this kind of love. i was sobbing at the end. the way he kissed her hands, such a familiar and beautiful sight.
It seems like he wasn’t entirely uncomfortable with the idea, which honestly makes me respect him even more. The idea of queerness goes against his cultural grain, but he loves his daughter enough to fight against that feeling and be supportive and open minded. Any kind of cultural indoctrination is hell to push back on, even when you know down to your bones it’s the right thing to do. He’s a hell of a dad and she’s brave as fuck to bring this to him.
cried my eyes out for sanjana bc the courage you need to be brown and do that infront of your brown dad is way too immense brown dads are really like coconuts hard outside soft inside but sometimes the hardshell cause so much pain that people cannot see the soft part even if it exists thank you to sanjana's father for loving her like the way you do
My daughter is a lesbian and now happily married to her wife. When she came out I BAWLED, but only because she thought she had to worry about ANYTHING. The fact that she was worried about telling me told me I had failed her. Kids should always know that you will love them NO MATTER WHAT.
You did not fail , the fact that she confided in you shows her true connection with you . Parenting comes with no handbook we simply love unconditionally .
I'm sure you didn't fail her! We hear so many horror stories of people coming out and being disowned, even by parents they thought would accept them. I was incredibly nervous when I came out to my mom as bi and we had a very strong bond. So strong that I told her when I lost my virginity immediately. We could talk about anything, I always felt safe with her.
You didn't fail. I was petrified to come out to my parents, though less so to my mother. My mother had a doctorate in sociology, my dad is an engineer. Both talked about queer topics without judgement. But that fear stems from no matter how open you think your parents are, that it could be different when it hits home. All those stories we hear about normal parents going crazy and kicking out or disowning their kids for being queer is a deep seeded fear for us even to this day. So no, you didn't fail, it is just the way culture and society has treated us that has failed and made us question everything and everyone before finally coming out and overcoming that fear.
@@02ujtb00626 sociologists can't be homophobic, the evidence of the natural occurrence of homosexuality is gigantic in sociology, if she was homophobic it would be extremely weird
7:34 stop I actually cried instantly at him saying “I can’t wait to meet her” I know that made her feel so safe and excited to bring her girlfriend around ❤️ love this
Mannnn instant tear jerker at “I can’t wait to meet her” and then the Indian dad said “I just want you to be happy.” Incredible bravery to everyone. This is so incredibly inspiring to watch.
i was bawling my fucking eyes out at sanjana and her dad. my dad and I don't have a relationship so seeing an indian dad be so accepting and patient with his kid and love her all the same meant the world to me. there are good indian parents who will love and accept their kids and that means everything to me. thank you for sharing this
He reacted similarly to my mom. We were in private, so there was yelling and a lot of tears. She was grieving the loss of the daughter she thought she had and trying her hardest to come to terms with it. I believe he would have yelled if this wasn’t recorded or public. He was forced to behave in a favorable way for social reasons. But I’m glad he really cares about his daughter. My mom took a long time to get used to it and would attempt to show acceptance while also not being able to fully hide a slightly disgusted face whenever she spoke about my sexuality. Parents have so much love for us and put so much expectations on our lives because they want us to be happy and have no issues. Sometimes parents think it would be easier on us if we fit into society perfectly.
@@nonyabigness There's nothing wrong with that, either. We are allowed to be disappointed with how our children act. So long as you support and love them in the end, I see no problem with wishing things were different. They are who they are regardless of us.
The conversation between Sanjana and her dad really touched me significantly. I mean being something of non-Western culture where the norm is significant, it took a tremendous amount of courage for her to come out. And even though her dad is still processing of what’s going on, a father’s love for his daughter is what matters most.
ancient Indian texts actually talk a lot about homosexuality and it isnt demonized or anything. makes you wonder why the country is still very conservative and harsh on this topic yet.
@@alessiocece2098Maybe you wanna be on woke thing, and perhaps against western culture. But western cultures are one of the most fair, most tolerant, most lawful, and with acceptance of diversity I have ever witnessed among all cultures. There is a reason why we eatch this video that produced in America, particupants being extreamly diverse and topic at hand is still very controversial.
@@nelsonricardocostayes in America. When my parents found out my dad threatened me and I had to leave my house. I don’t talk to my parents. Coming out is courageous regardless of where you’re from. Yes other countries may have stricter laws against it but coming out to your family takes courage.
"it's not about me" I would literally give anything to hear that from my parents. My mom made my coming out all about her and her expectations. Heart breaking.
He literally told her to not let her gayness "drag her down" and to not let it stop her from being kind and loving people, like it was some sort of curse that would only destroy her as a person unless she did something to stop it. Worst response out of the whole thing.
"Your home is your home. Whoever you want to bring to it, we trust you." Damnnnn, I'm a straight man and I still wish my parents would've told me that. Definitely going to say this to my daughters once they're old enough to understand.
The Dad who lost his virginity to his mother’s friend at 15 years old was abused. I am sorry. That is abuse. And we need to start talking about it and calling it what it is.
fr- i was taken aback when he said that. it’s so sad how normalized it is for young boys to be abused by older women. it’s not okay at all, and those boys are victims.
the uncle is so incredible. all of these stories are so uniquely beautiful but the girl and her uncle was so extraordinary. he just has such a warm and loving vibe and im so happy that she has someone like that. it was so sweet when he said he couldn’t wait to meet her girlfriend :,)
Dude the pair with the girl giving this just heart ripping question of: "do you still love me" completely destroyed me. I can't even begin to imagine how much lighter the girl must feel now and her father's reaction and very obvious love for his daugther.... man. God I just want to hug them all not because they might need it, but because I might need it I think lol.
@@SerenityReceiver ashamed? Sure, because telling his daughter and it was his mom friend in a church sunday. I got the sense he was ok with it overall. If it was his buddy, i think a high five would of happened.
Omg babygirl who has lost her parents.. I feel that Sis. Same here. From one stranger to another, I love you! I respect you for living in your truth. Much love!!!
Michaela & her uncle has the most contagious laughs & best humour. They seems have such a "best friend" type of bonding. The way uncle said "He's a serial killer" & "pay your taxes" was very fun 😂❤
Wow. I can't tell you how many Black men have told me that they "lost their virginity to an older woman". It's really a problem and it breaks my heart because he didn't lose his virginity to an older woman, he was raped. So so sad.
Although I'm not gay/bi, but as being an Indian, I(us all indians) knew how much courage sanjna showed by talking about this with her father and her not being able to speak at the end asking if her dad still loved her, it was so close to home! Glad you stayed composed and I'm sure your dad had a very difficult thought process and eventually handled it best he could!
Uncle Norris made me cry…that smile!! I could tell he got it, all, in one second and felt so honored to be told. I’m still crying from the sheer sweetness. And the dad who said “It’s not something I didn’t know it’s just something I hadn’t been told. “ That was VERY well put. He knew, he called the decoy early on!
i loved this. i came out to my parents when i was 13, my mom said "God will change you" and my dad said "I am so happy you felt you could tell me." Now my mom goes to pride parades and always talks about when i'm gonna find my perfect boyfriend/girlfriend. It took a while, but they get there. So happy everyone in this video was supportive.
@@DRPenha lol okay. being LGBTQ destroys will, huh? i think even if that were factually correct, youd be hard pressed to find LGBTQ people who dont work their asses off for something. we have will. dont you worry about us, sweetheart
@@DoraScarlet if you really love someone you want the best to them, not accepting everything they do. Because the best to them most of the time is not what they think is the best. That's why parenting is correcting and correcting is true love.
@@DRPenhaYes, but being a good parent also means accepting your children for their intrinsic qualities. You don't try to make your child shorter if they end up taller than you were expecting. Same for sexuality.
the uncle w the cap genuinely loves that girl. it’s unconditional truly like a parental figure. also the other parents even if they have different ideals they just want their kids to be happy. i wish well for everyone in this video!
The instant the last pair had the "do you still love me question" and the dad held her hands n kissed them, it was like he didnt even have to say i still love you, the gesture implied it all 😭💕
Sanjana and her dad's conversation made me tear up Being an Indian myself, I came out as bisexual to my parents on my 18th birthday and my dad's reaction was exactly that The processing, would take time to accept but emotionally mature enough to be happy in my happiness. He's done the best he could and we've come a long way Gave me flashbacks More power to her, keep thriving Sanjana ♡
@@scarlett-dx4uvI think it was a lot to take in at the moment for him and he was a bit caught off guard. I think he was also worried for her and hurting to think of the possible hurt she has gone or will go through because of homophobia.
to the girl with the cap, that relationship you have with your uncle is so beautiful. I started crying immediately he said he was excited for you, so precious.
7:14 that reaction is soo wholesome I started bawling my eyes out the moment I saw it! It just looks so innocent and sweet, yet caring and supportive at the same time… He seems so gentle and kind, as the conversation continued his loving side truly came out… He warmed my heart ♥️
@jessicaj9743 jessica, u do know ur parents had sex to have you, right? they committed the sin of lust too, but i don't hear u talking about that, do i? let people live their lives the way they want, u should try to not dictate how others might feel in the "future" about THEIR LIFE.
@@shishibrat exactly. As a Christian, I dislike that other Christians think it’s okay to push their beliefs and my religion onto others. It’s not okay.
Awww that father daughter exchange at the end made me cry. That Dad was crying because his daughter was crying! She was so nervous and it’s clear he loves her!!
That last "do you still love me?" broke me 😭💜 11:08 This video was absolutely wholesome, and i wish more families could be this understanding and accepting 🥺
The last part made my eyes tear up.....she was so scared...she was expecting a hesitant "ummm...yeahhhh" but then again, she has the nicest and the most loving father I Have seen....she was so relieved at the end ❤
6:18 the way he stopped speaking and started looking around wondering if Ashton Kutcher was going to pop up and say he was punked. So reassuring that there are parents who completely love, support, understand, are happy for their kids to feel comfortable with coming out. Love this so much 💜🏳️🌈🫶🏻🏳️⚧️💜
the last daughter/father made me cry. i wish them both nothing but the best going forward! i truly hope they find the upmost happiness moving forward in honesty and love
This was incredibly touching. Had to have the conversation with my dad about whether or not he would be attending my same-sex wedding this year, and he said he wouldn’t be, because “That day will not be a day of celebration for me. That day will be a day of deep, deep pain.” So watching this feels incredibly bittersweet.
I’m so sorry you have to go through that. Just know there are so many strangers out here that are so happy for you and cheering you on. I hope you have a beautiful wedding!
@jessicaj9743are you real? Honestly, it's this your hill to die on? All the problems in the world and you're choosing this over being kind, compassionate and making others happy? I feel so, so sorry for you and the people in your life.
7:08 “Its the healthiest relationship I’ve ever had.” Uncle: he’s a serial killer 😂 I literally dropped my phone laughing so hard. I’m so glad she has this uncle in her life! ❤ Is he taking applications? Can I be taken in too? Lmao
Unc was so cool about it, his “I’m not happy for you, I’m ecstatic for you” was a beautiful response! And I also love how the other dad with dreads knew her daughter had a decoy and he been had a poker face for just as long as she’s been hiding it 😂
If my kids asked me that, I'd break down. The thought in my head would be: "I have failed as a Father, if I give off that air that I'd stop loving them". I'd just wanna hug them, but I'd feel like a horrible person because my kids felt like that, especially her tone, god as a father that broke me.
This episode made me SO happy. I lost my parents when I was 21. These parents are so understanding and caring, I almost felt like they were talking to me, I felt accepted and loved. Thank you Cut.
I came out to a select few people, then my aunt found out and told my entire family behind my back. My uncle and grandma thought I was Purposely choosing this lifestyle, and after that I never had the same relationship with them. It also opened my eyes to the fact that I didn’t need toxic family members in my life. No longer have any contact with most of them. Best decision I ever made.
As someone who is Indian, it was so cool that the dad still loved and accepted her. I feel like it could have gone the opposite way in some cases and hearing her cry and say do you still love me hurt.
THE WAY SHE CACKLED WHEN THE DAD KNEW THE PROM DATE WAS A DECOY 😭😭
Ikr! 😂😂😂
3:49
Right! He def knew! 😂
DRINK UuUuUuP
"So he was a decoy" hahaha i love him 😂
Michaela's uncle's so cool and funny "he's a serial killer" "she" "owww" loved his face!
that played out so perfectly
IT WAS SO CUTE
and followed up with “is an Aquarius” 😂 most lesbian introduction ever I love it 💗
Yes!!! So cute 🥹
7:05
"So he was the decoy!" Has me CRYING laughing
THE WAY HE SANG DRINK ON LMFAOOOOOOOO
Bro was just happy he guessed right
DRINK ON 🎵🎵🎵🎵
Incredible courage from Sanjana. She was obviously so afraid of losing her father’s love. And his reaction when she asked if he still loved her showed how deeply he adored her. You could see his heart break that she even doubted. Wishing them (and all these people!) the very best.
Ikr made me cry
“I’m not happy for you… I’m ecstatic for you” that made me tear up! Best response ever!
I loved that comment ❤
That’s just sick
@@ryanlindback9393 "Sick" as in "cool" or "disgusting"?
Same. So lovely
@@iwannabeadored69420 they TOTALLY meant as in cool (im being sarcastic btw cause they def meant it in a mean way)
"I'm not happy for you. I'm ecstatic for you" that was so wholesome omg. Had me in the first half, though xD
SAME!
Like I’m on my couch crying it was so beautiful 😭😭
@crustyflakes3861it’s not that they’re happy they’re gay, that’s a neutral thing, they’re happy their kid felt safe enough to come out to them. They’re happy their kid knows themself
Cried so hard
Same, I was like "oh no" then the second part had me sobbing 😭
I started crying when Sanjana’s dad started tearing up. It's almost as if there was a bit of pain in him but it was overcome by his love for his daughter.
honestly! i was so so happy for her.
@@notjadalolllliterallyy
He looked disappointed ngl
Clearly he loves her. I think there's just a part of him with expectations of marriage, grandchildren in the traditional sense that he had to cope with. It's understandable, you can't expect someone to dream their kid future for years and then discover that it will never be. At the end of the day, he's there and that's what matters.
That man was both grieving and supporting his daughter at the same time. He was not one of those "It does not matter, do what you wanna do" kind of dads. It shook him for sure. But he stayed strong for his girl. Which I thought was particularly impressive.
Sanjana's dad was definitely disappointed a bit. But he knew he couldn't do anything, he knew she was still the same person. So he went through it, kept on, and that's admirable as all hell
The girl wearing a cap and her uncle were so genuinely loving towards each other, it was so beautiful to watch and I love how supportive all the parents were 🥰
Yes! It seem like a very organic and genuine relationship 🥰
his eyes were so warm and sparkly towards her, he has such love for his niece
They were supportive because they were on camera and it’s bad to be against same sex relationship nowadays.
@@mokaLARE I disagree
They seemed so genuine
@mokaLARE You’re real fun at parties huh?
As an Indian, it took huge balls to do what she did. I’m so happy for her man. Her dad obviously is still processing but that’s still his little girl. Congrats to all the beautiful human beings, I hope you all have a beautiful full life ahead.
Agreed
Happy for her 😊❤
LITERALLY
Anybody else notice their faces at the end when she said I wish I could be involved in their lives like my brother is 😬
@@playdoug12 you like to imagine stuffs isn't it?
the desi dad had me CRYING. that's really the best reaction he could have given. just that he wants her to be happy and he will always love her. this was beautiful
if the dad disagrees w his daughter being lgbt or other ppl being lgbt he’s homophobic
Cause it was on a camera.
@@PROVOCATEURSK 😅 I'm on the fence about him..
I think he took it hard honestly
Every other parent was smiling by the end, and the dad had a very stern and cold look on his face. His eye movement kinda said a lot without saying a lot.
10:15 “To talk, to communicate, to pay your taxes” had me dying broo I can't get over it.
As an Indian, I couldn't stop my tears when at the end Sanjana was like "Do you still love me?" to her dad. I may not be queer myself, but having immigrant parents who came to a new land to make their children's life easier, i was able to connect with that. Her dad's reassuring tone, and the painful love in his eyes makes me think of my dad, who is also like him. What an understanding father, and how brave of Sanjana for choosing to come out as a south-asian.
im indian and i came out to my parents (and they accepted me) and ive been so happy ever since and i feel the same for sanjana :)
@@fruitycola5090 I am so happy for you!!!
@@fruitycola5090that's really nice
What's brave about that?
@@mbabazipeninah1240 its really risky to be open and honest about that kind of thing, so its brave to bring it up instead of hiding who you are.
The father/daughter at the end were so sweet. Even though she specifically mentioned their differences in political views, he was so caring and accepting of her. That’s true love.
It was an interesting contrast to the other guy's response to what could make him disown his niece.
He took it hard though, I feel like he has to work a bit with that information. But seems like he will stick with her no matter what. Just has to come to terms with it.
@@simonisenberg4516 yeah it seemed like he was still processing. He might still be okay with it later on but I can't imagine that journey is going to be easy going forward. Especially with the way she told him
@@nfsking27 yep. And honestly, I wouldn't blame him coz it's like his ability to properly process this was taken from him. Kudos to him though for loving his daughter and rising to the occasion.
I thought that interaction was the purest form of love. He's clearly both scared and disappointed but the way he recognised this wasn't about him, and how he hang on his love for her through the obvious pain is incredible. What a great father. They will grow together and have an amazing path ahead of them in their relationship. His daughter has just gifted him the opportunity to love unconditionally and he's taken on the task like a pro. He adores her - the depth of his love in his eyes is impossible to misunderstand.
10:10 that girl needed to hear that from her dad more than anything else
i were literally tearing up when i heard his voice. 😂💀
The way the last girl asked “do you still love me?” made me bust out in tears 🥲 11:08
The fear 😢😢
Their background looks like they are from middle east...Perhaps, they are Muslims..That's why must be even harder. Her dad is very nice but its so obvious he was very upset but accepting the fact and her choice
she is me but with the courage to actually say it
Ditto
@@pinakkoladaa At 1:56 he cheered saying "salud", which is a typical way to cheer in Spanish and made me think they're probably Hispanic. I wouldn't be surprised if there was a very similar word in Arabic, though, as a lot of Spanish words have Arabic origins from the 8 centuries of cultural exchange in the Iberian Peninsula :).
When I heard that last girl say "Do you still love me?" I broke down. Took me 27 years to come out to my parents, I know that feeling of rejection. Happy for you.
dude im tearing up at that
Me too!!😭 I came out at 28, & although my dad shows he loves all of us, he stopped saying the words every night
I'm so sorry that you had to endure that rejection but I'm glad you are no longer feeling any need to hide who you truly are as you should never have to do that.💙
6:55 Her dad was broken inside when he heard the news, you could see his reaction through his eyes.
that moment hit me right in the heartstrings
As someone who personally knows Sanjana and her dad, he has been super supportive following her coming out. Proud of you girly❤️
I know so happy for them but I wish they kept more of their replies!
Are they both Sikh? X
@@Ie4hyes she is
this makes me so happy and proud for her 💗
@Amariiiip can you please educate me on the significance of Sikhism with regards to her sexuality?
From what I read Sikhism is supposed to be tolerant, and have no animosity towards anyone for any reasons.
So why would her spiritual belief system have any significance to her "coming out" to her father?
the uncle was so sweet, ‘im not happy for you, im ecstatic for you.’ had me in tears. protect this man at all costs
Sanjana was so vulnerable to do this video, you could tell there was a lot at stake for her here. I hope she feels healing with her parents ❤
For sure. I felt it through the video.
Her dad gonna beat her ass at home where there r no cameras
Her dad looked big time disappointed
@@jinhub2175 yeah i think he felt ambushed and didnt know how to take all the emotions at once, i felt the disappointment but i think some of it was how it was set up instead of her just coming out to him privately...tough to say but it doesnt seem like he physically abused her but was prolly pretty strict. not a parent myself tho
I agree. I'm hoping it's more along the "oh no, she won't have kids and no (biological) grand-kids" line, but she has an older brother who will likely fill that desire. That'd be better than "you dishonor our family/tradition/religion" which is often a harder pill to swallow.
as a desi queer, the father and daughter really hit hard for me. Not many desi parents react this way. What a great father, that’s unconditional love. I felt truly represented by them, they reminded me a lot of my dad and I. Proud of her, it takes a lot of courage.
it really hit home for me. i know there is no way i will ever receive this reaction from my dad. however, seeing this video doesn’t make me jealous or sad for my own situation - it just fills me with so much joy to see other desi queers out there receiving this kind of love. i was sobbing at the end. the way he kissed her hands, such a familiar and beautiful sight.
sorry if this is rude but what is desi queer?
@@aaliyahi9948 i love this comment 😭❤
It seems like he wasn’t entirely uncomfortable with the idea, which honestly makes me respect him even more. The idea of queerness goes against his cultural grain, but he loves his daughter enough to fight against that feeling and be supportive and open minded. Any kind of cultural indoctrination is hell to push back on, even when you know down to your bones it’s the right thing to do. He’s a hell of a dad and she’s brave as fuck to bring this to him.
@@aaliyahi9948 That's really beautiful, I hope you can make peace with it even if others don't support it
cried my eyes out for sanjana bc the courage you need to be brown and do that infront of your brown dad is way too immense brown dads are really like coconuts hard outside soft inside but sometimes the hardshell cause so much pain that people cannot see the soft part even if it exists thank you to sanjana's father for loving her like the way you do
"Brown" people could stop this in 1 generation by just ignoring their families.
why did you say brown so many times
@@symto2494because brown is brown and brown 👍
Bro "brown" people are literally just ...."brown"...that's it. Tf is all this coconut shit
I'm equally shocked that he didn't lose his shit over the fact that she's lost virginity without being married. Good on him.
My daughter is a lesbian and now happily married to her wife. When she came out I BAWLED, but only because she thought she had to worry about ANYTHING. The fact that she was worried about telling me told me I had failed her. Kids should always know that you will love them NO MATTER WHAT.
Well said! I wish all parents were like you ❤️
You did not fail , the fact that she confided in you shows her true connection with you . Parenting comes with no handbook we simply love unconditionally .
I'm sure you didn't fail her! We hear so many horror stories of people coming out and being disowned, even by parents they thought would accept them.
I was incredibly nervous when I came out to my mom as bi and we had a very strong bond. So strong that I told her when I lost my virginity immediately. We could talk about anything, I always felt safe with her.
You didn't fail. I was petrified to come out to my parents, though less so to my mother. My mother had a doctorate in sociology, my dad is an engineer. Both talked about queer topics without judgement. But that fear stems from no matter how open you think your parents are, that it could be different when it hits home. All those stories we hear about normal parents going crazy and kicking out or disowning their kids for being queer is a deep seeded fear for us even to this day. So no, you didn't fail, it is just the way culture and society has treated us that has failed and made us question everything and everyone before finally coming out and overcoming that fear.
@@02ujtb00626 sociologists can't be homophobic, the evidence of the natural occurrence of homosexuality is gigantic in sociology, if she was homophobic it would be extremely weird
7:34 stop I actually cried instantly at him saying “I can’t wait to meet her” I know that made her feel so safe and excited to bring her girlfriend around ❤️ love this
Uncle Norris is such a lovely dude 🥰
Safe ❤
Gross
Aww
Mannnn instant tear jerker at “I can’t wait to meet her” and then the Indian dad said “I just want you to be happy.” Incredible bravery to everyone. This is so incredibly inspiring to watch.
@jessicaj9743 tf
When she said she didn’t want to lose him, that got me 😭
@@josiebello4666 absolutely lost it there 😭
Two things.
1. I can tell deep down the dad is disappointed
2. He would probably have been more disappointed if it was his son
As a straight woman this had me crying my eyes out. The parents/uncle were all so genuine and kind. Unconditional love, beautiful!
same
Same
Same! Love and acceptance in today’s world brings me the biggest happy tears. ❤
Same man...I haven't cried this much in a whileee
I wish my parents accept my decisions everytime as much as how these people being accepted by their parents/guardians. I'm happy for them tho.
The uncle's reaction at 8:16 was almost hurt, like he thought she knew him better than that and that he loves her and only wants the best for her 😢❤
i was bawling my fucking eyes out at sanjana and her dad. my dad and I don't have a relationship so seeing an indian dad be so accepting and patient with his kid and love her all the same meant the world to me. there are good indian parents who will love and accept their kids and that means everything to me. thank you for sharing this
6:04 Facts. Don’t associate with those bottom feeders. They are the worst among us.
I don't think he was accepting. He just knew there were cameras.
@@ganjafarmer5208yeah thats what u think
@@tj-bk1ebI got that feeling too
@@ganjafarmer5208yeah exactly
“It’s not something I expected”?? Mom was in some deep denial 😂
So many beautiful moments in this video but that interaction alone stuck out to me because like what??? 😅😭
She is actually full of it because the MOMENT I saw him on screen I said out loud "his mom already knows"
There Is NO way she didn't know... I'm sorry 😭
this is the exact comment i was looking for ...the closet is glass
I think it was a loving way of saying it was something she had been hoping wasn't true.
The uncle is so sweet and funny. He seems like an amazing parental figure to her
The dad with the braids is HILARIOUS! 👏😹
“Drinkkkk ooooonnnnnn!”
as an indian, im incredibly proud of her. the father seemed understanding and loving but still processing. respect 💪💪
He was disappointed. Let’s call it what it is. But his love for his daughter is what’s helping him
He reacted similarly to my mom. We were in private, so there was yelling and a lot of tears. She was grieving the loss of the daughter she thought she had and trying her hardest to come to terms with it. I believe he would have yelled if this wasn’t recorded or public. He was forced to behave in a favorable way for social reasons. But I’m glad he really cares about his daughter. My mom took a long time to get used to it and would attempt to show acceptance while also not being able to fully hide a slightly disgusted face whenever she spoke about my sexuality. Parents have so much love for us and put so much expectations on our lives because they want us to be happy and have no issues. Sometimes parents think it would be easier on us if we fit into society perfectly.
@@nonyabigness There's nothing wrong with that, either. We are allowed to be disappointed with how our children act. So long as you support and love them in the end, I see no problem with wishing things were different. They are who they are regardless of us.
@@CaptivePuppetThat’s really similar to me too unfortunately 😢. Can’t even think about telling my dad.
My dad should really take notes :D
The conversation between Sanjana and her dad really touched me significantly. I mean being something of non-Western culture where the norm is significant, it took a tremendous amount of courage for her to come out. And even though her dad is still processing of what’s going on, a father’s love for his daughter is what matters most.
Actually it was "more normal" in "non-western" culture, than in "western"....
ancient Indian texts actually talk a lot about homosexuality and it isnt demonized or anything. makes you wonder why the country is still very conservative and harsh on this topic yet.
@@morijin5568 exactly! english/british colonialism....
@@alessiocece2098Maybe you wanna be on woke thing, and perhaps against western culture. But western cultures are one of the most fair, most tolerant, most lawful, and with acceptance of diversity I have ever witnessed among all cultures. There is a reason why we eatch this video that produced in America, particupants being extreamly diverse and topic at hand is still very controversial.
@@axps4964 so colonialism for you is "western culture"?
Sanjana and her dad brought me to tears. I hope that their upcoming years are filled with love.
"I'm not happy for you.....I'm ecstatic for you." Beautiful.❤
All of these people should be so proud of themselves to come out on the internet too. It's a very courageous thing to do
That’s stupid
''courageous'' in America? lol, no it's not. now if this was in the middle east.. *that* would be courageous!
@@nelsonricardocostayes in America. When my parents found out my dad threatened me and I had to leave my house. I don’t talk to my parents. Coming out is courageous regardless of where you’re from. Yes other countries may have stricter laws against it but coming out to your family takes courage.
@@nelsonricardocosta we don't have to play the oppression olympics
@@nelsonricardocosta that wouldn't be courageousn that would be stupid.
The girl with her uncle was so cute and wholesome. You can feel how much they truly love and accept each other!
Nobody going to mention that he got statutory raped
The Indian dad has me in tears, what beautiful, unconditional love
"it's not about me"
I would literally give anything to hear that from my parents. My mom made my coming out all about her and her expectations. Heart breaking.
@@not_you_i_dont_even_know_youi hope you're okay..
He literally told her to not let her gayness "drag her down" and to not let it stop her from being kind and loving people, like it was some sort of curse that would only destroy her as a person unless she did something to stop it. Worst response out of the whole thing.
@@harryb9390I don't think, that's what he was trying to infer tho
@@fusku4life what was he trying to infer then?
0:24 rest in peace...🙏
So sad 😢
Moshi Moshi hinata 😊
the indian man is such a good dad. you can tell this conversation just bonded them and healed something within their relationship. just beautiful.
"Your home is your home. Whoever you want to bring to it, we trust you." Damnnnn, I'm a straight man and I still wish my parents would've told me that. Definitely going to say this to my daughters once they're old enough to understand.
Lies
Thats nice
Sanjna’s dad I can tell is going to absolutely love the person she brings home someday for him to meet.
Unless from Pakistan, in which case blood might be spilt
@@johnwayne8494 They're sikh, so they're far more likely to be Indian.
@@ARCHITACADEMY wasn't me that said it but I'm assuming they meant "unless the person she meets is Pakistani"
@jessicaj9743pls shut up in everyone's comments bro. you're not changing anyone's mind
That's stupid if her dad actually loves her he wouldn't care I'm sokh as well and we are taught all is one
“Someone who looks IN your eyes and not AT you” 😭💕
bro that uncle was so wise what a g
what does it mean? im confused what he meant
@@fenansyoutubeHe means someone who sees you for the person you are, and respects you, rather than just looking at your body
@@taylorp.-zm7hu ty😊
The Dad who lost his virginity to his mother’s friend at 15 years old was abused. I am sorry. That is abuse. And we need to start talking about it and calling it what it is.
Yep I was IN SHOCK when he said that. He was unfortunately raped
Came to comments for this. I was hoping I wasn't the only one that caught that .... and he's likely not the only one
fr- i was taken aback when he said that. it’s so sad how normalized it is for young boys to be abused by older women.
it’s not okay at all, and those boys are victims.
FR, I was like, sir! that's not normal.
Sadly, it's common in the black community for older women to take the virginity of underaged boys
the uncle is so incredible. all of these stories are so uniquely beautiful but the girl and her uncle was so extraordinary. he just has such a warm and loving vibe and im so happy that she has someone like that. it was so sweet when he said he couldn’t wait to meet her girlfriend :,)
It's why she had, long ago, chosen him as her most respected "adult".
0:54 “backhands, curse words, the Bible, and some holy water” this made me laugh too much 😂
8:52 “if I truly love you, then why shouldn’t I be happy for you?”
Really got me in the feels. I’m happy she got the support 🥰
@jessicaj9743You're going to hell.
@jessicaj9743 quit yapping
@jessicaj9743 congratulations, you’re number 20
Dude the pair with the girl giving this just heart ripping question of: "do you still love me" completely destroyed me. I can't even begin to imagine how much lighter the girl must feel now and her father's reaction and very obvious love for his daugther.... man. God I just want to hug them all not because they might need it, but because I might need it I think lol.
This is my favorite comment haha I feel the same way. SENDING YOU HUGS 🫂
wait...we just gone slide past this man got assaulted by his momma friend at 15??? my nigga you a victim 😭
Only legally. He seems completly fine with it.
@@kidray7611and this is where we’ve gone wrong as a society. Take a step back and realize what you’re saying
@@kidray7611 he didn't "seem fine with it" to me.
FRRRRR
@@SerenityReceiver ashamed? Sure, because telling his daughter and it was his mom friend in a church sunday.
I got the sense he was ok with it overall. If it was his buddy, i think a high five would of happened.
Omg babygirl who has lost her parents.. I feel that Sis. Same here. From one stranger to another, I love you! I respect you for living in your truth. Much love!!!
Michaela & her uncle has the most contagious laughs & best humour. They seems have such a "best friend" type of bonding. The way uncle said "He's a serial killer" & "pay your taxes" was very fun 😂❤
Wow. I can't tell you how many Black men have told me that they "lost their virginity to an older woman". It's really a problem and it breaks my heart because he didn't lose his virginity to an older woman, he was raped. So so sad.
my jaw was on the floor. his MOM’S FRIEND
Were you there !?
@@Pogouldangeliwitzjust say you don’t know what rape is… so ignorant
@@Zahriaaaaa just say you don't know the complexities of life... so innocent
@@Pogouldangeliwitzjust say you’ve never heard of a law…so innocent
Although I'm not gay/bi, but as being an Indian, I(us all indians) knew how much courage sanjna showed by talking about this with her father and her not being able to speak at the end asking if her dad still loved her, it was so close to home! Glad you stayed composed and I'm sure your dad had a very difficult thought process and eventually handled it best he could!
Yes i was pretty shocked at his reaction on that one, but us indians are evolving!! Lol
I would probably disown her. Who wants that? All your relatives kids are doing good and you get a weird one.
@@martinvanburen4578 you should be ashamed of yourself for saying that 😂
@@twermm you should be ashamed of yourself for disagreeing 🤣🤣🤣🤣 and seven generations before and after
@@martinvanburen4578promise me you won't have kids
i didnt expect to end up crying this was so vulnerable and raw.. the last question completly tore me im glad they were met with acceptance and love
"SO HE WAS THE DECOY" its like a mystery he been waiting to solve lmao
Uncle Norris made me cry…that smile!!
I could tell he got it, all, in one second and felt so honored to be told.
I’m still crying from the sheer sweetness.
And the dad who said “It’s not something I didn’t know it’s just something I hadn’t been told. “
That was VERY well put. He knew, he called the decoy early on!
his smile was SO genuine. he seems truly lovely
The way her voice broke asking if he still loved her absolutely gutted me, I'm so glad she has this man for a father.
Dad knowing her date was a decoy sent me! 😂😂
"Don't let this drag you down from being a complete person who can give love to everybody." WOW
Class act
what u mean
@@alisharahman2709 The old Indian dad is a class act
i loved this. i came out to my parents when i was 13, my mom said "God will change you" and my dad said "I am so happy you felt you could tell me." Now my mom goes to pride parades and always talks about when i'm gonna find my perfect boyfriend/girlfriend. It took a while, but they get there. So happy everyone in this video was supportive.
The worst thing that can happen is to have supportive parents in something that will destroy you.
@@DRPenha lol okay. being LGBTQ destroys will, huh? i think even if that were factually correct, youd be hard pressed to find LGBTQ people who dont work their asses off for something. we have will. dont you worry about us, sweetheart
@@DRPenhasomeone’s miserable, you are already destroyed by hate and jealousy, have a good long look in the mirror and let people live their life
@@DoraScarlet if you really love someone you want the best to them, not accepting everything they do. Because the best to them most of the time is not what they think is the best. That's why parenting is correcting and correcting is true love.
@@DRPenhaYes, but being a good parent also means accepting your children for their intrinsic qualities.
You don't try to make your child shorter if they end up taller than you were expecting. Same for sexuality.
"I'm not happy for you, I'm ecstatic for you" stop that is gonna make me cry 😭
the uncle w the cap genuinely loves that girl. it’s unconditional truly like a parental figure. also the other parents even if they have different ideals they just want their kids to be happy. i wish well for everyone in this video!
The instant the last pair had the "do you still love me question" and the dad held her hands n kissed them, it was like he didnt even have to say i still love you, the gesture implied it all 😭💕
I'm glad he still said it though.
Sanjana and her dad's conversation made me tear up
Being an Indian myself, I came out as bisexual to my parents on my 18th birthday and my dad's reaction was exactly that
The processing, would take time to accept but emotionally mature enough to be happy in my happiness. He's done the best he could and we've come a long way
Gave me flashbacks
More power to her, keep thriving Sanjana ♡
I feel like her dad didn't support her. Like deep down he was disappointed. I could just see it in his eyes
@@scarlett-dx4uv perhaps yes, but at the end it's her love life not his
@@scarlett-dx4uvI think it was a lot to take in at the moment for him and he was a bit caught off guard. I think he was also worried for her and hurting to think of the possible hurt she has gone or will go through because of homophobia.
@@gothgf16 i thought also cause he was being video d
.i kinda want to see the the aftr
@jessicaj9743shut up. You are in every comment
"hes a serial killer" omg that was amazing im crying🤣🤣🤣🤣
sanjana and her dad making me cry so much, I love how supportive and loving he is :(
to the girl with the cap, that relationship you have with your uncle is so beautiful. I started crying immediately he said he was excited for you, so precious.
“I’m not happy. I’m ecstatic.”
MY HEART.
11:25 around that made me CRY it was so wholesome
6:17
"dad, i'm lesbian"
the dad: *looks around for 20 years*
"let me drink again"
7:32 ughh yeah this energy yup you can tell how much he cares for his neice/daughter. they way they laugh together, that's family.
7:14 that reaction is soo wholesome I started bawling my eyes out the moment I saw it! It just looks so innocent and sweet, yet caring and supportive at the same time…
He seems so gentle and kind, as the conversation continued his loving side truly came out… He warmed my heart ♥️
SAME!! It makes me think… I hope my parents feel the same when/if I marry a woman
@jessicaj9743 jessica, u do know ur parents had sex to have you, right? they committed the sin of lust too, but i don't hear u talking about that, do i? let people live their lives the way they want, u should try to not dictate how others might feel in the "future" about THEIR LIFE.
@@creatingforkatiethey should. it’s the same as normal regular marriage tbh🤷🏾♂️
@@whyiseverythingChRoMe. I agree. I hope so. Same with my siblings
@@shishibrat exactly. As a Christian, I dislike that other Christians think it’s okay to push their beliefs and my religion onto others. It’s not okay.
That uncle-niece/daughter dynamic is so cute!!
Also, Sanjana girl, you pretty!!!
The mom who didn’t know her son was gay really shocked me 😂
Not possible right. That guy is so gay you can smell it from miles away😂
She knew just playin it off
Ikr- he is so obvious
IKKKK ALLL THE SIGNS ARE RIGHT THERE
Some people just don’t have gay-dar
Literally when sanjana asked and could barely get out “do you still love me?” The tears FLOWED
Awww that father daughter exchange at the end made me cry. That Dad was crying because his daughter was crying! She was so nervous and it’s clear he loves her!!
The black Dad and his daughter. She didn't expect that much love. I'm happy she can find acceptance from someone she loves and values so much. ❤
9:28 “so he was the decoy!!!”
“Drink up” 😂😂
"someone that looks in your eyes, not at you" is so cute omg
That last "do you still love me?" broke me 😭💜 11:08
This video was absolutely wholesome, and i wish more families could be this understanding and accepting 🥺
Bro 💀not lgptq
The last part made my eyes tear up.....she was so scared...she was expecting a hesitant "ummm...yeahhhh" but then again, she has the nicest and the most loving father I Have seen....she was so relieved at the end ❤
6:18 the way he stopped speaking and started looking around wondering if Ashton Kutcher was going to pop up and say he was punked.
So reassuring that there are parents who completely love, support, understand, are happy for their kids to feel comfortable with coming out.
Love this so much 💜🏳️🌈🫶🏻🏳️⚧️💜
the last daughter/father made me cry. i wish them both nothing but the best going forward! i truly hope they find the upmost happiness moving forward in honesty and love
This was incredibly touching. Had to have the conversation with my dad about whether or not he would be attending my same-sex wedding this year, and he said he wouldn’t be, because “That day will not be a day of celebration for me. That day will be a day of deep, deep pain.” So watching this feels incredibly bittersweet.
@jessicaj9743shut up 😭
I’m so sorry you have to go through that. Just know there are so many strangers out here that are so happy for you and cheering you on. I hope you have a beautiful wedding!
@jessicaj9743are you real? Honestly, it's this your hill to die on? All the problems in the world and you're choosing this over being kind, compassionate and making others happy? I feel so, so sorry for you and the people in your life.
He doesn't deserve to be there. All the best to you and your partner, hope you know a lifetime of happiness xxx
I'm so sorry that your Dad has that attitude. All the very best for a long and happy marriage 💖💖💖
10:51 her uncles smile at the end of the clip is the cutest most wholesome thing and i loved it
7:14 his little ‘aww’ ☹️💞
6:47 WHAT DO YOU MEAN it's not something you expected ????????????????? it's basically written all over him xD
FOR REALL
7:08 “Its the healthiest relationship I’ve ever had.” Uncle: he’s a serial killer 😂 I literally dropped my phone laughing so hard. I’m so glad she has this uncle in her life! ❤ Is he taking applications? Can I be taken in too? Lmao
I know, he’s awesome 🥹
Unc was so cool about it, his “I’m not happy for you, I’m ecstatic for you” was a beautiful response!
And I also love how the other dad with dreads knew her daughter had a decoy and he been had a poker face for just as long as she’s been hiding it 😂
"Do you still love me" at the end broke me I genuinely started crying
If my kids asked me that, I'd break down. The thought in my head would be: "I have failed as a Father, if I give off that air that I'd stop loving them". I'd just wanna hug them, but I'd feel like a horrible person because my kids felt like that, especially her tone, god as a father that broke me.
aahww he is the sweetest. 7:40 i 'm not happy, i m estatic
This episode made me SO happy. I lost my parents when I was 21. These parents are so understanding and caring, I almost felt like they were talking to me, I felt accepted and loved. Thank you Cut.
Im so sorry that happened to you, its a shame that that still happens
7:59 lmaoo the brown dad he acted the way i knew he would act lol
"Hes a serial killer" had me rolling on the floor laughing. Like where did that come from??? 😂😂😂😂
I came out to a select few people, then my aunt found out and told my entire family behind my back. My uncle and grandma thought I was
Purposely choosing this lifestyle, and after that I never had the same relationship with them. It also opened my eyes to the fact that I didn’t need toxic family members in my life. No longer have any contact with most of them. Best decision I ever made.
I’m crying!!! This is such a special moment to be witnessing and I’m glad everyone was loving and accepting of it
Because of the cameras.
I cried for all of them. Just the pure love and acceptance. I’m glad they have people who love them so
The way Sajana's dad said i just want you to be happy broke me to tears.
As someone who is Indian, it was so cool that the dad still loved and accepted her. I feel like it could have gone the opposite way in some cases and hearing her cry and say do you still love me hurt.
The ending is so heartwarming