Adults have no idea how to speak to, educate, motivate, and discipline children.
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Adults are always saying that respect is not given, it is earned, and then proceed to go batshit when you don’t give them respect for existing
Everyone is a hypocritical blowhard. Welcome to planet earth.
Parents do earn some respect, considering they do raise you. However, respect can be lost, which is something they don't seem to consider.
@@cryw1092 That respect can easily be lost the moment they treat you like dogshit- I mean, "discipline" you.
@@linkinajar8676 Precisely. Respect, like many things, must be maintained.
IKR I AGREE WITH YOU SO SO SOOOOOOOOOOO MUCH
"When you are raising your child, you are not raising a child, you are raising the adult they are going to become."
when youre a child look at as adults as if that they were once children and as an adult look at children and think of them more expect more. they will aim higher become better people for the next generation which will do the same to their children. This could result in a world full of much better people and less crime.
You're raising a human being
@@realswobby true
-Louis CK
I wish that my parents thought this way. Now I have to parent myself and I’m kind of sucking at it
Not going to lie, most teachers shouldn't be teaching
Same with parents. Most parents shouldn't be parenting. It's sad, but true.
Makes you wonder how they even chose teaching in the first place.
Ikr same with parents
@@yoongitrash2699 yeah your right
@@alreadyblack3341 are you a shìtty teacher? just be honest.
When I was a child, adults used to tell me "life isn't fair". This is, of course, very true. But when they said it, it always meant "life isn't fair, so I'm going to treat you unfairly".
ESPECIALLY WHEN ITS EASY TO MAKE IT FAIRRRR AHHHHHHHH
@Ay Yo Now I'm a communist.
I can relate, my dad was a huge hypocrite about it, he would always tell me life isnt fair. And then go on about how he didnt deserve his wife to leave him, all I wanted to do was sit in my room and play video games but he would force me to come out of my room, so he could yell at me about how his life isnt fair :/
All this shit only causes psychological harm. I literally so badly want to not only kill my parents but also ruin my country. This shit makes my eyes red, gives me a headache, it makes me want to treat others unfairly (like an adult) or even go out of my way to ruin someone's life (if they annoy me). From every thing I just said do you think my parents garbage assy discipline or what ever the f you want to call it helped?
I think definitely not.
This comment section woke af
I was always afraid of growing up and becoming an adult, because all the adults around me always seemed angry and miserable all the time.
I want to be one cuz given the situation I'm growing up in, gang fights at school, kids doing drugs on the bus, people being petty over who's the poorest, I might as well be an adult cuz then I can at least do shit about how I feel instead of just sitting here not being able to do anything about anything
@ɮօʊռċɛ օʄʄ honestly same but when o Was finally more happy With myself my mom changed schools so it kinda sucks now
@@desdearb i always wanted to stay a kid
Truth?
They are not, they like to scream to a kid cause he won't get angry and break your nose but when you are a adult nobody will scream at you for some bullshit.
I am 20 years old and can't utter the words "I am an adult" comfortably for that same reason. I am trying to cling onto terms like "I am a 20 year old girl" instead of "20 year old woman" just because I am still afraid to grow up because adults to me are all stubborn, angry, lack communication, fight, are disrespectful, etc and I never wanted to be that
"First they teach you to walk and talk, then they tell you to shut up and sit down."
- George Carlin
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Carlin was the fucking man. The world lost something special when he passed.
word
@@ililililil8385 Indeed he was. The guy saw through ALL (and there's a lot of it) bullshit of the world.
Yes yes yes Thousand times yes
I am a newer parent. My kid is two, and I already see myself on that bad path. Thank you for opening my eyes. And thanks for the much needed lesson. I grew up in a deeply abusive household, so I never was taught any other way. Thanks again.
Abuse breeds more abuse, abusive parents were almost always abused themselves. I hope you succeed in breaking the cycle of abuse when raising your child
Salute to you for learning your mistakes.
Hey now I didn't come here to cry.
Thanks for having an open heart and an open mind. I hope your and your kid are doing well.
You may not be perfect at parenting, but one core element to solve problems with your kids is to talk about the problem and make ends meet. I know that if my parents did that, It would've been much easier.
My parents literally made my life hell from 7th grade until 12th grade and even beyond. I pray you don’t do the same to your kids. That you treat them with respect and care rather than treating them as a burden. Don’t be the reason you’re child is suffering. Be the person that is the reason they’re happy and feel safe.
Remember that time trained psychologists literally proved that spanking your children had no positive conseuences and only caused your child psychological harm, and then parents just kept screeching about how they somehow knew better than the actual proffesionals?
I disagree.
I was smacked as a child and I really think if I wasn’t disciplined like that I would never be respectful.
@Darren Mims twas sarcasm I believe
Oh they still do. World's a fucked up place that needs to be purged, in all honesty.
@@shannonsuxx bruh
@@shannonsuxx I used to feel this way too until I got around people who were disciplined in a non physical way. To this day I still cry when people get too loud, I still flinch when people raise their hand too suddenly near me and if someone gets slightly physical with me when I'm upset I start to get very hostile because I was raised like that- it fucked me up. It's been maybe 4 years since my parents have done anything to me as I got old enough and big enough to defend myself and to this day some of that stuff still lingers and it effects my girlfriend and myself. Luckily I'm improving steadily year by year and hopefully I get that stuff out of me, but I believe there are better ways to parent your kids while still not shaping them up to be sociopaths or snowflakes.
Childhood is being told to act like an adult while being constantly reminded that you aren't an adult.
And also to stop talking
Good point there. Hahahahahahahaha. Very good point there. I think right now that immediately the system is becoming a little bit like a human hater nowadays.
man , there is no in between is there lol
The truth
But you have to speak up
Awesome Smalls
Yeah you speak up and then get beaten for it
Adults yell at kids because they know kids can't hit back. Adults give one another a modicum of respect, because no one wants to get punched in the face by someone who can actually make it hurt.
Very true man
BOOM!
And women...?
Unfortunately that is too true. My bully parents didn't start treating me less horribly until I started to hit back and scream back. Since I stopped being such a convenient punching bag they didn't use me as such anymore. Really messed up. At least it taught them to be wary of bullying my younger siblings lest they started to act out like me.
My way of getting over that is the mindset of, "the worst you can do is kill me". Mental superiority is key.
this is also probably why kids "spend too much time on the internet"
because on the internet, they are actually treated like an adult
Or like a human being in general.
oh yea i hate it when parents say: 'oh WhEn i WaS yOUr AgE BlaH blaH Blah bLah'
they try to force you in their shoes everytime you have personal needs, like i have a very old phone and a bad computer, would appreciate if i got something new, not something very expensive obviously, but instead they say, can you open it, use it? if yes fuck you get your 'needs' when you get a job, note im one of those tech savvy guys, so a decent electronic device would be appreciated, and then they turn on their back buying useless junk online and says they are cheap and everything i want is expensive, sometime ago i literally hear em blasting their phone speakers on 'how to communicate withyour child', oh yea fuck that bullshit they also mock me everytime by saying oh he does not have good grades he doesnt have the attitude to learn anymore(loud and clearly) , like cmon parents expect their kids to become what they didnt have the ability to achieve, asian parents man
There are no rules when on the web. We treat each other equally, equally pieces of shit.
"*THE INTERNET* the place where everyone is considered an adult until they say otherwise"
I'd like to say that online games like counter strike made me into a better person despite the toxicity, while enjoying the game. The interaction within it is astounding. It taught me how to speak to every type of person ranging from patient and kind to unruly and mean. That's why i considered gaming as a second parent
This man started fixing electronics, now he's aiming to fix society
Facts
Fax
I saw a mother once and her son was clearly yelled at when he jumps or walks in puddles, now he was super scared to walk into puddles and avoided them. And suddendly the mother snaps at him like “its just water! Just walk!!!“ and she yells and yells it was so dumb the kid cried because he was super conflicted it was sad to see
That's a thing. Lots of adults put children in confronting situation where kids become confused and then yelled at. Parents need rational explanation to connect with a child, always, otherwise they will get nothing but a quiet obedient fear in the end
@@maelonheplorn8893 and when you'd just try and walk up to them in the nicest possible way you can, and just try not being even close to offending them for no reason, they'd shift to yelling at you and accusing you of telling them how to raise their children, that's fucking sad. people need to be mentally evaluated before having children imo, but it's never going to work.
My parents would tell me to suck it up when I was uncomfortable, so I decided to toughen up and one of the way I did that was to stop wearing a coat when it was cold. Then I get yelled at for not wearing a coat.
I remember one time my mom was putting me on the bus, and I didn’t want to get wet so I asked her to lift me over a big puddle that was there. She did it, but the bus driver shouted at both of us saying “you can’t help her with that! What’s she going to do if you do that in the real world?” And “Your treating her like a baby and rewarding her for being scared of puddles!” It was honestly ridiculous. She made me get back off the bus and step over the huge puddle myself. .....I was in preschool, like wtf?
fucking sad i was yelled at and beaten for getting myself hurt while socializing with other kids. that's kind of goddamn medieval punishment logic.
My dad used to think I was a smart ass when I corrected him in stuff. That changed, however, when we were out of state and he used his credit card for a meal. He left it behind, and I knew it, but I didn’t want to be yelled at. Fast forward to when we fly home, we go buy some gas, and he realizes he has no card. I then explain to him how he left it at the restaurant p. When he asked why I didn’t say anything, I told him I didn’t want to be yelled at. He froze, then said nothing more. After he had to pay for the gas with random money he had to scrounge together, he told me to never be afraid to say something to him. That was the best feeling I ever had, and he kept his promise of never getting mad.
Imagine having a parent that can change for the better and can keep a promise
At least your father was decent enough to see and admit the fault in his logic and was able to change
Jacob Barbulescu I am very happy for you that sounds so awesome :)
That's so wholesome
then the people on the plane applauded
Parents: "Always been nice and polite to people!"
Also parents: * makes rude condescending remarks to workers just trying to do their jobs *
I remember my dad telling me to be respectful and don't swear but when he'd get angry on the road he'd call other drivers idiots because of the paranoia. I love him cuz he's a kind hippie now but not always
I swear bruh, I never got judging other people, that person lives a totally different life than you so how does that give you the right to say how they should do things? Thank God I didn't end up like that and I actually taught myself how to be humble.
That is narcissistic behavior that you describe, and it's abuse. You're right, it's wrong.
“Strange times are these in which we live when old and young are taught falsehoods in school. And the person that dares to tell the truth is called at once a lunatic and a fool.”
-Plato 427 BC
Yes, this was true when I was in school.
Relatable
@@bendeen364 lol
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gang weed nice bait m8
Parent logic:
Kid makes smart point = TALKING BACK
The dumb thing about that is that in the real world you "talk back" to make things change
Kids defending themselves: TaLkInG bAcK.
They hate jesus cause they told him the truth.
@@Z3RO5286 *he told them
i hated that and still do
Kids: Depressed, taking drugs, hopeless, absolutely crossed with everything.
Adults: *VIDEO GAMES*
Blame my friends and other stuff Important to me but never *Video Games* >:(
Gosh, I wish I could vote this ten times
I may be getting too old but cutting down on video games (and screens in general) can be a good way to not be as depressed. I challenge you to quit screens (unless absolutely necessary for school/work) and you will see your look on life improving.
Quit for how long exactly? Forever?
@@enjoyer2227 Start off with 30 days and you'll see a difference. Maybe you won't feel the need to go back to any of it. Or maybe not. But try it. It gives you an immense sense of freedom.
"edgy teenagers" a lot of the time aren't "going through a phase". They're treating you how you're treating them.
Eh, Ud say a good half the time it is a phase
Id*
@@TheNickBrotherhood that way of living was always an outlet of anger from being neglected growing up by people who couldnt even appreciate the contrary behavior or encourage it anyways. I thought okay well fuck them then they treat me like absolute shit. Anger festered and i thought yk if ill be neglected why not just give them a "edgy and miserable" emission that hits them like the bricks they throw at me. Eventually though i realized i was treating people who didnt deserve it that way and only making the problem worse. In other words eventually it comes back to bite you in my experience.
Stoned
I didnt have the privilege to do that, i feared for my life.
“Think of the Children!”
Judging by this behavior, I don’t think many adults actually do
damn. this guy is more than a computer technician.
+name Wise well beyond his years.
+FinalManaTrigger how old is he?
28 by now maybe?
+name 11/19/1988
Louis Rossmann damn.. u a young nigguh
-kids are expected to give respect to those who don’t give any to them
-kids are told to repress their emotions and to not let things out and let them go healthily
-kids are expected to be happy and obedient all the time when adults can do whatever
-they are told negative emotions will not be tolerated even though everyone experiences them. It’s only kids who are not allowed to
-they can’t have bad days or tired days
-kids have to repress their socialization with kids just to listen to another person that happens to be an adult talk
-kids are expected to be adults and to be able to read adults minds (don’t sit here, you didn’t put the paper on the right place on my desk)
-kids can’t be curious, adventurous, or let out their energy without being shamed of yelled at
-they can only have one “personality”:
Quite, emotionless, obedient, respectful, etc
-it’s the kids who are always to blame/ who are wrong
-they can’t have any control on what they do or when they do it. It’s all a schedule that benefits the adults only , not the kids
The list is endless
Colonel Breadsticks Yep exactly 👍
one of my favourites would have to be “you’re a kid, you can’t be tired”. I always heard it when I was younger and, like all of those things you listed, it annoyed the hell out of me.
Colonel Breadsticks I’m going to start taking notes on these, these could be important if I ever have a child. Thanks
I hear a lot of 'I'm an adult, you listen to me!'
"Quiet, emotionless, obedient and respectful" I mean, that was basically me until highschool when I kinda got my shit together. I was so afraid of making adults angry, it was hard for me to relax and have fun with the other kids. It was hard for me to have fun because, once I got to school, a switch was flipped and I would turn into a robot.
3 points
1) I once got yelled at by a nun for getting my chocolate milk too early
2) You had an amazing father
3) having ADHD in school was hell and teachers definitely dont know how to teach. School is like a jail sometimes lol
bruh i have autism AND adhd and yesh, being yelled at literal hell. i cant take it whatsoever
- “I hate school”
- “sOme kIDS DoNt haVe tHe OppOrtUnIty tO gO tO scHool”
Like no shit, that sucks, but I still hate school
School is literal hell
Teachers dont actually know what adhd is.
Had a teacher say he knows what its like
Next thing you know during work time i cant go to the learning center so i dont get distraction
When I was in school ( almost typed jail LOL) , I thought that I was in jail every day. They literally had bars all around the pe field too
I genuinely hate the adults with the mindset "I'm older than you so I am entitled to unconditional respect" which my dad outright agreed to having.
Existence is pain.
As 24 years old, I gave all of you entitlement to a a decent level of respect of a human being who has their own lives, hardships and worldviews.
But if you start being disrespectful or obnoxious, then that respect will start sinking down, until I decide I don't want to be around you, and say "Have a nice day" and leave.
respect is a two way street.
i ALWAYS respect everyone I know, but as soon as they don't respect ME? cmon now.
"We do it because we love you."
Bullshit fucking excuse being emotionally manipulative can’t be excused
tough love.
BudzZz
Exactly. Thank you.
pravin rao
There’s a fine line between “Tough Love” and just being an “Asshole” my friend.
@@Jdabomb93 *VERY* fine line.
What pissed me off the most as a kid growing up was when I made a valid point in my argument against my mother/father, and they considered it "Talking Back!" It always irritated me because I know deep down they didn't want to be wrong in an argument because they're the adults and see me as the ignorant child.
Facts, talking back is just replying, and replying has coincidentally never been a problem until they realized they were proven wrong.
@@xxxod It's like how conservatives say that you're being "unpatriotic" when you criticize the United States' many flaws.
@@ninyaninjabrifsanovichthes45 "or how extremist liberals call someone racist, homophobe etc when pointing out an issue" is the reply I would have given, but instead I'll say this. Why do Americans mix EVERYTHING with politics? Child raising has nothing to do with your petty political intrigues so I suggest that people like you realize that we've grown tired of statements like yours
@@snapcountersteer and yet you also make a political comment. It was a comparison.
On top of that there was no indication they were dem.
Republicans can and have critisized america too. So to assume they are dem is hypocritical of you.
@@1slayer959 "this is the reply I would have made", that's what I said. As for the rest, I'd ask you to be a bit more specific with your comment and tell me where your statement "there's no indication they're dem" apply. And it's quite obvious that their comment was a comparison, but that doesn't change the fact they had politics involved in the slightest bit
Hearing from my own parents that I should respect them simply for being my parents while I have to "earn" my respect and constantly don't receive it because of changing nonsense reasons makes me feel frustrated. Hearing from my own grandparents that I should change myself to satisfy them and my parents while claiming that they themselves will not change to satisfy my wishes because "its just how they are", makes me feel frustrated. Hearing from my former teachers how important it is to respect and help everyone while looking away as soon as I got picked on by other students, makes me feel frustrated.
I'm so frustrated that now, as a young adult, I don't care anymore. I pretend to obey and nod and smile, but on the inside, I've stopped caring a long time ago. I feel cold, empty and still frustrated. But at least I have some close friends who are different, who understand me and don't expect me to change myself for them. Those friends mean more to me than my own family and the people who "raised" me.
Yeah like my mom would not change if I told her to. Like if I would agree with my dad with anything she would just get mad at me for "ganging up against her" just because I agree with my dad with something that's right. She wouldn't listen. Like if I say she is all over the place and add facts and evidence she would just get mad at me and then day something that proves my point even more. She would also say things like "if you don't like how I'm parenting you, then go somewhere else" if I suggested something to her when shes in a bad mood
And that stupid "I gave you the gift of life" thing.
Like fuck. I didn't ask for it. Besides, life isn't a great gift. Half the time its awful. Gifts don't hurt you, make you cry, take away the things you love. Besides, giving someone a "gift" and then expecting something in return is really shitty.
@@Crash_Knight honestly though sometimes my parents use that argument yet they didn't even ask for me! I wasn't even supposed to be born and they didn't want a child but since they couldn't keep there legs closed I was born. But they still say "well I gave you life" even though they didn't even mean to! Sometimes I just can't understand them.
Mad Frog so what you’re saying is you were a mistake and your father either didn’t use protection or his condom failed.
@@XxHUNT3RN4T0RxX I guess so I never asked for the details.
The phrase "talking back" doesn't even make sense since it literally just suggest the child communicated with you in the manner expected in a conversation.
If you tell someone not to talk back to you, you are telling them you don't want to have a conversation.
I very often have to look up the definition to that phrase. The phrase "talking back" sounds more like "response" to me, even if that's not what it means in that particular context.
Imagine it like this, talking with someone is having a conversation. Talking back is not.
I'm seeing the replies coming up and all I can say is this is what ingrained toxicity does. You don't even realize how harmful these habits and ideas are because you're used to them. Your parents probably didn't either. But shit like this is confusing and oppressive, it's not used to do any sort of good, it's just used to put a child down, even when they make a perfectly good point. If they're not making a good point - why can't you tell them in an actually respectful tone why not, and then see if they have a proper rebuttal? That's the _entire point_ of this video.
@@NeonBlue27 lol ingrained toxicity. My parents were fucking amazing, don't say shit about them. They treated me with the utmost respect but also didnt take shit. There is a big difference between a child asking why and talking back or rather arguing since you dont know what talking back means. Some children also have issues with respect and have attitude problems. Not everything is so black and white, sometimes its not a point they are trying to make, sometimes children are straight up brats, just like adults.
@@ghostlandered @ghostlandered And yet here you are, going off on me, swearing at me, and so on, when I've done none of the same to you. I had an amazing mother, and have had amazing people in my life. They still had bad habits, like the one we're discussing now. Good people can still have bad habits. And you're providing a good example of my point here - the moment something you know and love is questioned, you attack furiously. Just like all those kids wanting to know why they were being punished were punished further for "talking back", rather than told and shown what the problem was, due to the parent's impulsive desire to be absolutely "in control" and shut things down instantly.
Additionally, anything "bratty" about a child is learned from environment. This can be the parents, other adults, other children, teachers, anyone. We are born as blank slates, unable to even cry out. Again, the point of this video is that children learn from what their parents do and how they treat them, and many parents, even good ones, do not realize destructive behaviors they themselves have. Our culture enforces loops of this - the children learn the behaviors from the adults - who themselves do not realize the damage they cause. With nobody aware that a thing is doing harm, nobody can tell the children it is wrong, and it stays that way as they grow up and re-teach these behaviors.
I grew up with the whole "talking back" thing. And I grew up with a supposed "attitude problem". And then I spent 20 years learning to be a better, kinder person. For several years, that was because any time I was bothered by something, everyone else treated me like a monster, when all I needed was connection, an attempt to understand me. It wasn't until I met an amazing, loving, and inspirational person that it became easier to just be a better person. And then in the process I learned about psychology and empathy to help both myself and other people with problems. And after all that, having seen countless viewpoints, worked through countless arguments, and devoted my life to trying to make things better for _everyone_, I can tell you - if a child doesn't like the adults in their life, if they don't have "respect", odds are, they have a good reason. There's a thing where a lot of adults who want respect forget that it's earned and given, not just had, taken, and demanded. A lack of it tends to stem from conflict and instability. If the domineering element can be taken out of a relationship, the respect and love flourishes and grows.
Black and white is not a thing I deal in. Only a sith deals in absolutes. I didn't call anyone a bad person or insult anyone - but you just dismissed some kids, and adults, as "straight up brats". That's pretty black and white.
I never said anything about your parents or anyone beyond that they probably have behaviors they're not aware are doing damage. That's not a personal thing, an attack, anything like that. Everyone in this world has vices. Flaws. I said it as respectfully as I could and without any insult to back it. Yet you seem really offended. I do understand, I used to jump to my mother's defense all the time because she was the one getting me help with all my issues. But she didn't do everything perfectly. Nobody does.
this is honestly why I think teens are portrayed as anti-authority/edgy always as like a bad thing even though we've got plenty of reasons to be they're anti-authority 90% of the authority they have ever experienced is the worst type of authority ever. people stop being edgy once they get out of high school because people start treating them like people.
Exactly
That's Sturgeon's Law for you. 90% of _everything_ is crap.
Ya. Their starting to become adults but everyone assumes their still a child.
I'd people my age in college still seem like idiots.
dooterscoots YES YOU ARE RIGHHHHTTT AAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH SOMEONE FINALLY SAID IT OMFG I HAD SUCH AN EDGE WHEN I WAS IN HIGH SCHOOL EVEN THO I WAS A GOOD STUDENT B/C THE AUTHORITY WERE ONLY FRIENDLY TO THE 1% STUDENTS OR THE REALLY BAD ONES THAT SKIP CLASS ETC!
I hate it when I say "I'm tired" when I come home from school and my mom or older sister says, "You don't know what tired is."
Like I don't know why those words make me feel a certain way but it just does.
Because they
1) are invalidating your feelings
2) are implying you don’t have the same capacity to feel as they do, as if you’re less than human
Or they just say: you play to much videogames...
Wtf
@ParticlE9-dhC by that logic you can't be hungry because people are starving. Or you can't cry over a bruise because people are battling cancer
Same man. Happened this week. Had to explain to my mom for half an hour of what kind of a shithole my school is. Yes, I lost my patience. Yes, i'm a "bad kid" just because I know I'm a human being.
You guys should research narcissists if this is how your parents act because there’s a 90% chance that’s what they are.
After reading these comments I'm so glad my parents actually give a crap about me
Same here
It's not that the parents don't give a crap. It's that they have no idea how to deal with kids. They want instant obedience and don't understand that you need to explain they why of things to kids. They expect kids to do as they say, not as they do, not realizing that this only teaches kids about hypocrisy. It teaches them that that is how adults behave.
Nicholas Mousseau yeh i 100% agree. like rlly why dont more people let kids go at their own pace. its fucking stupid why ppl have the "yOu NeEd To Do WhAt I tElL u ToO" like, no. just no. also 2nd and 4th grade were the single best school years ever bc, they didnt actually yell at me much, if at all. hell, those years were also the years where i got the best grades so i really think it depends on how good the teacher is how good a grade you get. btw 5th grade was THE ONLY YEAR where i got below an 80 in ANYTHING academic related (77 in social studies and i hate social studies and i can just learn that shit from yt in a better way).
Ugh show off.
Jk, happy for u.
Same here
Adults : "this guy played too much videogames"
im a gamer and im basically independent and during the lockdown im trying to be a bit more productive amd learn shit, and also get rlly good at rythm games.
@@tristantheoofer2 welp lookz like Imma start being productive as well a lil bit- maybe edit videos or stuff "xD
@@henrydoesstuff4260 ikr.
kid who was bullied ends up becoming school shooter or snaps one day*
“ HE PLAYED MARIO ODESSY AA-“
@@NameName-yj7lp those damned mario games teaching kids how to shoot full semi auto pump action,bump stock ar15s!
kids held hostage for 9 hours a day, doing stuff they are not interested in and making a confused effort to stay away from the wrath of teachers.
Sounds about right.
7 hours plus hw
@@Ryan-ic1wj bro it's so dumb
Logic
@Brittany Bennett but school doesn't teach anything important after, I'd say elementary school. "Forced" is a kind of a exaggeration, but I will say as a teenager its more imprisoning.
@Brittany Bennett I highly disagree with it being necessary on a personal level, nothing in school corresponds with my passions, beside maybe writing. So in other words, school is just a useless chore.
It's gotten so bad to the point where I don't have the desire to graduate, but I have to in order to pursue happiness.
I mean everything bit of knowledge can be obtained through the internet so whats the point of school. Intelligence in my opinion isn't based on grades,but my mom calls me a dumbass.
im pretty sure if kids act with common sense and point out stupid things theyre instantly called rebellious and badly raised
They are not, though I might be wrong on that. Honestly, the power is now going to the dishonest, because honesty is just another buzzword.
remember sjws want to be strong and independent but want YOU to be dependent on them
I was called that :)
And then I cannot even rebel against getting my hair straightened.
Parents: you'll never understand how hard it was to raise you! We were poor! We had to buy diapers and formula and a bunch of baby things. Plus we had you young. Wait until you have to pay bills and move out!
Me, 7: *cries because they keep yelling at me and I didn't understand why. They also didn't understand how to treat special needs kids which made it way worse*
Years later
Parents: jeez you don't talk to us anymore.
Me, an early teen: can I get a job? I kind of want to be prepared for when I start a family. I also want to plan ahead for when I move out.
Parents: NO! WHY DO YOU WANT A JOB? WHY DO YOU THINK MONEY IS SO IMPORTANT? JUST STAY A CHILD. Don't talk about moving out, that hurts! It makes us feel like you want to get away! (Side note: *I very much wanted to*)
Money can't buy happiness, but it can buy you entertainment and the things to survive.
Edit: I have since then mostly gotten away from them and am finishing my education up. I found a person I'm planning on starting a family with in a while and we are planning on how everything will hopefully work out, starting with the job aspect. Even if your situation with your parents seems bad, there may be an escape in a place you might not expect. Try joining after school clubs or go out with friends if you are allowed to do those.
im autistic and every day outside of my house, i feel like im stepping foot on an alien planet. school was like moving to a foreign country where you dont know the language, the culture, or the customs. i experienced so much trauma going through the educational system because people just dont know how to interact with kids, let alone kids like me (specifically myself.)
i think about it to this day and some teachers i had just shouldnt have their degree. the way they spoke to me junior and senior year. i was an adult and im being babied. was so close to socking a man in the nose, but he was a bit over twice my size so he would have crushed all my bones.
I'm also on the spectrum. Keep the head up even if the way you feel you interact with the outside world is alien, I get it. I think the best advice I could give is don't shut down, it's really easy as a on the spectrum person to just not engage with the outside world cause it's comforting but ultimately you will drift further and further away from society unless you address everybody and how you feel. Don't let it be a disability cause I refuse to believe that it is. We are worthy of healthy social connection and it's out there you just need a good attitude. Well wishes.
Same and im so dysfunctional because not many communicated correctly with me, if at all.
But im intelligent they said.
Not to your allistics social game.
As a guy on the spectrum who's getting older, I cringe less now at highschool memories of myself than I do at memories of how the staff would act and what they'd say.
At least with aliens, they would be able to tell that you aren’t familiar with the customs because they’re a different species. Autistic people look just like everyone else.
I'm currently 17 years old and still living with my parents (I've just graduated HS and go to college in the fall), and I have been told NUMEROUS times that within the house it's "a dictatorship, not a democracy". Everything they say goes. I have absolutely no input, no rights, no anything. If I say something they don't like or make some mistakes, things that they perceive as "privileges" (like electronics, seeing friends outside of school, etc.) are taken away from me. I must always ask for permission to use my phone or tablet--in fact, that's how I'm writing this comment right now.
I don't have a lot of friends, I suffer from social anxiety, and I have self-harmed and attempted suicide twice in the last 2 years. My parents know of this, but I'm always given the "I'VE HAD IT WORSE THAN YOU" talk. When I say that I'm not like them, they say to me that "If you think you can live so much better on your own, then you can leave this house". When I tell them I can't do that, they tell me to not "complain" and just be happy. I CAN'T just be happy. How can I be happy when the two people I love so much bash me for expressing my own ideas? How can I be happy when they mock me for the problems I have not physically, but mentally? How can I be happy when they refuse to give me the help I need, when they call me "stupid" for hurting myself, when they blame me for wanting to end my life?
It's so funny when they have the audacity to say that they're just trying to show me how hard life really is and want me to think for myself. Isn't a family supposed to support each other when the going gets tough? I mean, you can show me and tell me your experiences, but what good is making me feel like a piece of shit gonna do for me? Also, how can they expect me to think for myself when I'm not even allowed to do something simple like using the internet or expressing my feelings freely?
Looking at these comments, it makes me feel less alone in my situation--to know that people go through similar things comforts me a little. I just wish that my parents would just try to understand.
*UPDATE*
Hi, everyone! I've gotten a lot of support from this comment thread and haven't looked back at it for so long until now. I'm currently 20 years old (going on 21 this year) and I still, unfortunately, live with my parents. However, here's what happened in my absence: when I started college, I was able to live in a dorm and made great friends that I still interact with. I officially was diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder and Generalized Anxiety Disorder, and immediately received treatment via therapy and antidepressant medication (both of which I've stopped doing altogether due to lack of time and transport). However, upon returning home for the summer break, my parents and I got into a giant argument (because I had finally snapped while trying advocate for myself), where they kicked me out of the house for a year. I stayed with my extended family and they helped me with money and traveling back for school when it started up. Needless to say, I was going through a lot of bullshit.
I made "amends" with my parents, but it was mostly because my mom wanted me back home. I was struggling a lot with my finances--paying for school and the dorm I was staying at plus food--so I decided I was gonna suck it up and move back in because, at the end of the day, it would benefit me more long-term to do that instead.
While I'm not in the most ideal situation, I'm not the same kid that my parents bullied before. I had a lot of time to reflect on myself and to heal somewhat, and I've come to terms with the fact that my parents will likely never change. It doesn't matter if I'm miserable or if my life is on the line--they will always act in ways that make them feel comfortable, even if it's at my expense. Some days are harder than others, but I can confidently say that I am in a much better place mentally than I was 2-3 years ago. So, hey, I'm doing better now and I have to owe a lot of that to people like you guys. You were my first step to getting the help I needed and deserved, and for that, I'm grateful for you all. :)
I encourage you to do two things: First, when you get to college, seek therapy through your university. Many colleges will have therapy services for students for fairly cheap, sometimes free. But make sure you call and make an appointment as soon as you get on campus, maybe even a couple days before, because from my experience college therapist offices fill up quick.
Second, become independent from your parents as soon as humanly possible. They seem like incredibly toxic people that you need to be away from. See about getting a job on campus (again, something you'd want to look into as soon as you move in), and save up money. If your parents are financially supporting you while you're in school, good. They don't need to know you have a job, you can save all the money you get from your job and let them pay for your basic needs. If they're not financially supporting you then try to save at least 10% of each paycheck to go towards an apartment. Once you become independent from them and no longer rely on them financially, you would probably be better off heavily restricting your contact with them, at least for a little while.
I genuinely hope things get better for you.
Oh i really hope you make as some bigshot just so you can refuse to give them any money whatsoever, you got this though.
You explained my situation perfectly.
I'm now 18 and living in this dictatorship household being the youngest of 4 siblings, I have never had a saying in anything.
I'm always wrong because I'm the youngest. My input in whatever is invalid all the time. Often, they discuss important decisions without me, even if they were about me.
It gets so fucking frustrating when you are unable to do anything about it.
I get the fucking condesending babytalk in arguments. The immediate "you are young therefore you are wrong". I've been made fun of when I cried about important things. I've been heavily criticised because I simply lack a lot and never will be good enough for them. I am the reason of all problems they have and I have been told so all the time (immature irresponsible pieces of shit). I never know how to do anything according to them (might as well let them wipe my ass for me)
I can't remember my childhood for god knows why (I have a sneaky fucking suspicion it's because of them) and my memory has deteriorated so bad that I can't recall memories that my peers remember as the palm of their hand. so my family is my only lens to my past. They could be lying and probably are. Figured so when I caught them red handed in the occasional things I actually do remember. And they are using this gaslighting as a very effective method to use me like always.
I became so dependent on them, I always doubt myself and cannot do the simplest things without asking for their help. I can't stand up for myself. I don't have sense of my identity and who the fuck I am. Eveything gets fucking confusing and overwhelming all the time.
And the worst of it all, they sugarcoat all of this with their flattery words and fake nice persona. They are manipulative assholes and whenever I try to point out what's wrong about them, I always get dumbstruck and can never bring out exact situations since I always forget. I just have this constant gut feeling that something is wrong and that I'm living with snakes.
I became a horrible person because of it. I became so hostile and angry at everyone and frankly so annoying whenever I get upset. I am indecisive and I gravitate towards toxic friends while pushing the good ones away because I get insecure whenever someone knows too much about me in fear that they might use me when they most likely won't. I just became a bad judge of character with trust and anger issues.
I get genuinely surprised when they listen to me when I try to give my two cents. Happened more often lately so I guess I'm finally on my way to get recognised.
I am wasting my life away doing chores half assedly the whole day while numbing my brain from the intrusive thoughts by watching youtube and listening to music constantly.
I can't leave this house because I'm living in a third world country with very harsh streets.
Therapy is out the question for now, Since there are no genuine therapists here as far as I asked about, and I do not have any money for now.
It's comforting to know I'm not the only one suffering of this.
Please get out of there as soon as you can financially like someone before me said.
As for me, I'll just wait things out as my only solution while trying to fix myself as it is my responsibility.
Hang in there buddy, I've considered suicide a couple of times. But I know damn well it ain't worth it.
I just want to cling to this tiniest hope that shit will eventually get better, maybe I am stubborn, but I want to prove to myself and to them that I am stronger than whatever they throw my way. Fuck them and the suffering they've done to me.
Good luck, mate. Can't wait for you to make six figures with a loving social circle while your family regrets they ever treated you poorly.
@@moodymoods9261 hope you find a way out man I know it's hard out there. Stay strong stay fit and believe in yourself i hope you're doing better now
That's a free ticket to the nursing home for them
when you're a child you're always told life only gets harder but believe me, It's only gotten better.
no it's really not
Michael F for me it has been better, i have a lot more freedom and FINALLY at 18 i have less restrictions on technology and going out with friends
I guess that is different from person to person :P For me it definetely got easier :)
@@j1430
>restrictions on technology
Ah, yes, the #1 way to handicap your children in a world built on technology. I hate people.
@@Pro_Triforcer oh yeah my access to technology was heavily restricted. My parents are still superstitious in fact and think computers will damage your eyes and phones may cause cancer lol.
I would legitimately buy a parenting guide from Louis here.
I would legitimately be ok with legally issuing these
I will never have kids and I would still buy that
The only problem is that parents don't know how to explain to children why they have to do stuff or can't do something.
Kids are not dumb. They learn very fast. All they need is a loving and caring environment with logic for human behavior.
Anything that goes wrong with a child is the fault of the parent. 100%. No exception.
It's the parents job to show kids right from wrong. Explain stuff in society and behavior in different contexts. What are values for why do we need them etc.
So if parents don't know how to act and talk to their kids it's even worse for people who have no experience in pedagogy.
Parents also don’t think they need to explain something to someone who is inferior to them, a kid being right over a parent is blasphemy
But what if the kid is orphaned or apart of the system?
With the internet now, I don't know if I agree with "No exception". My parents are feminists and I'm curving a little bit towards MGTOW/MRM/TRP, not totally to say I'm one of them, I'm just procrastinating to study heavily both Feminism and The Red Pill.
I agree with Chileal, you can’t expect a kid to preform like a model adult and that sometimes they might make their own mistakes,
I’m glad I don’t need to worry about radicalism, we should just strive to be better people
@@chilael6892 true, not always
Honestly, growing up I have always just felt so helpless at everything ever. You‘re just expected to know things, but you aren’t allowed to try and get experience as the risks are never worth it.
Want to be a teen, be curious and adventure? Congrats, you now have a criminal record that will make getting a job hard, just because you trespassed somewhere by accident.
Want to take that one extra course in school/college/uni because you‘re interested? Well, if you fail it will drag your total grade down and you have wasted time.
Want to work in a certain field? Well, better strap in for over 40 years of being stuck in it, because requirements are ridiculous and switching specialized professions is impossible. Oh, and you also get no chances to get a full overview of that job before because it‘ll waste time.
This entire concept of punishing minor failure with ridiculous consequences has made me both a apathetic nihilist and irrationally stressed over every even minor decision. I was punished with teasing and no help by adults when I went to a clinic to both take care of a genuine disability and also this extreme anxiety, depression and stress. I don’t feel proud when I look back at 15 year old me managing my mother with cancer, family disowning me and my father passing, all at the same time. I wasn’t strong, I was a kid with burnout that was forced and expected to be an adult yet I was treated and mocked like a child. Fuck Boomers.
:’( ikr
Worst : my boomer mom takes everything from my hand i dont figure out in seconds. Fucking pricks.
not to mention how the trivial things you can do as a teen to learn and grow (relationships, bad hairstyles, friendships, etc.) is ALSO belittled, and so you end up not being prepared in the real world when you've never had a relationship, never experienced with fashion trends, and been lonely the majority of your life.
Respect can only be earned, not bought or extorted.
+Jovan Janevski agreed
Respect is already earn when we meet someone, is up to the person no to lose it.
Louis Rossmann they say respect is earned but how are teachers supposed to expect you to follow the rules (to respect them) when they don't show the same respect to you.
+carlric No, no we don't. Courtesy and respect are two completely different things. If you act like a poop to someone new, you'll lose the courtesy, not the respect you never even earned.
Comment's two years ago but I wanna say anyway - People use respect to mean two things, respect as in common courtesy one shows to a fellow man/woman and respect as in deference to authority, and people often equivocate between the two to twist things in their favor.
When they say "Stop being a wise-ass" The only proper response is "Stop being wrong".
Hayato.
Hayato.
@@Jam13B1B1 DIO!
Hayato
Oh? The Jojo memes are approaching?
My dad: why don’t you ask me for help on your homework anymore?
Also my dad: _literally yells at me when I don’t know what to do or just can’t understand lt instead of actually helping_
That's why i don't do homework
I would literally hide homework from my parents when I was a kid and I would just cheat from my peers whenever I got the chance. This literally made me unable to learn math all through out school because I simply couldn't catch up. Report cards would come I'd get f's and barely scrape by with d's just to pass. My dad would yell and beat me. I'd get further discouraged and mentally scarred, and the cycle would continue on top of all the other fucked up things that would happen to me besides what went on at school. All the way up until I got my high school diploma and thankfully I graduated on time.
@@grapeboi9256 jesus christ
Yeah, I dont even talk to my dad because of that
stopped offering to help a friend of mine because they couldn't stop taking out their frustrations on me :/
Parents: *see this video*
Parents: is that talk-back I hear
All the parents are angry cause they too were the same abused kids and are finally happy that THEY can have the power and they aren’t gonna let anyone take that away from them.
Whenever I've showed my parents anything to highlight their missteps, they point and go "see, that's bad parenting" or laugh. It just showed to what lengths I'm secondary to their personal needs when it was their sole decision to bring me into this world. Any complaint and it's talk-back, like come on.
I teach Kid's TKD. A while back, i had a young boy who would always never shut up.One day i got very angry with him because he keept interupting me. So i send the other kids to do their task and took him to the small room that was next to the hall. I kneeled down to get to his eye level, and he was fucking terrified. So i explained to him in a normal and friendly way why it's not only disrespectfull to me but also his partners, how hard he makes it to teach sometimes, yadda yadday yadda, all things this kid has probably heard a thousend times. His mood shifted, and he agreed to try and better himself. As he got back to his partner, i heard him say " It wanst that bad, he didn't even scream to me". I was confused and asked why i would scream at him, and he answerd ' because you were angry?" . I walked of shaking my head, more confused then before.
This kid probably get's yelled at constantly by his teachers, Parents, whatever, would you not start yelling back at some point. Also, he is now one of my favourite students.
Sounds like he's one of us ADD kids. You have to engage his mind and his body to keep him still. Even then we find a way to talk! Haha good story man.
I was raised in a family that did nothing but yet. Now I'm 32 with yelling issues. I either talk quietly or yell loudly.
Very relatable, but my teachers demanded i be medicated; never making the effort you did.
MLU8811 ❤️. Nice. I’m glad you had that, and I’m sure they would appreciate it. Teachers can really fill a role that we didn’t have modeled at home... and it can make an impact even if we only know them for a short period of time
god's work, man. we need more people like this.
Maybe children just need to be shown some respect at some point, to be able to learn how respecting others is done. Also if the big scary giants stopped being hypocritical for a second, it would help in the 'being respected' department, methinks.
More specifically, baby boomers were the worst parents of all time.
I wonder what made them bad parents though. Ya know what I mean? All I know is that they grew up during a prosperous time in America, but many baby boomers, like kids today, didn't grow up benefiting from that because their family was poor or discriminated against. Plus plenty of people with decent childhoods grow up to be good parents, so I don't think them growing up during the economic boom is the reason, or at least not the only reason. Baby boomers are quite a mystery to me. My grandparents (my grandma especially) weren't the greatest parents towards my mother, and they're both boomers (though I know that not everyone in that generation is the same, I think that I see the bad parenting pattern from the go by boomers here). What made them the way that they are?
@@mynameisreallycool1 cold war propaganda. The constant rejection and demonization of a lifestyle that didn't necessarily focus on acquiring as many resources as possible for yourself. That and heavily emphazing the values of Christianity and tearing down secularism for decades to "fight" communism. After all, the Bible demands unquestioning obedience of a child to their parents under pain of death.
@@mynameisreallycool1 Since the boomers' parents worked a ton because they wanted to avoid to have their children relive the Great Depression v2.0 of misery and despair, boomers didn't receive enough attention as kids, thus they weren't taught critically important lessons which only their parents, namely their biological fathers, could give them, and grew up being seriously messed up.
That...is not true. The Bible says to obey your parents “in the Lord” meaning if what your parent is telling you to do is against what’s God says then they don’t have to obey. So if a parent is abusing their kid according to the Bible the kid doesn’t have to obey the parent and let them keep abusing them.
“the Bible demands unquestioning obedience of a child to their parents under pain of death.” I was talking about this. Sorry.
In a nutshell, the Boomer parenting method is to expect complete obedience from their children while refusing all responsibility for the result.
Not just the boomer. Even the gen x method😞
That’s the boomer attitude to everything. Expect everything but blame the younger generation for the problems you caused
@@manaman9625 I'm gen z. I'm saying gen x because my mum acts like that
Many xennial got the toxic boomer trauma. I saw a psychiatrist like that once. Its generational
I think we've hit on something here. Anyone want to elaborate?
I never understood the "don't be a wiseass" stuff. I thought my ass was in school to become wiser?
Same.
Aight, you got me there
That’s something a wise ass would say, lol.
I actually said this to my mom years ago and got grounded for a day lollll
I later explianed "Look a wiseass is someone that's trying to make you look dumb on purpose. I'm not trying to make you look bad I just am feeling like the thing you want me to do in this instance makes no sense"
I wonder how many adults saw this, thought “yeah, that’s so wrong!”, then kept doing it lol
I would say a small amount, I'm a zoomer and I can't relate to 99% of the things said in the video, even though my parents never watched this video.
【 Chilael 】
I’ve had a similar experience
The most striking thing in my mind is what often happens when people take their phones out in many of my teachers’ classes.
Nothing.
They won’t get angry, shout, or anything. The one response I’ve ever heard from a teacher when someone pulled out their phone was just the words “natural selection.”
@@sitonthemelon2742 that teacher is a savage 😂😂😂
"this is so right, id never act like that, my kids ALWAYS do EXACTLY what i say"
I remember being so emotionally scarred from middle school. It was when I raised my hand for a question I knew the answer to that no one else knew. My teacher saw me and ignored me so I excitedly called out the answer. She screamed at my face and proceeded to humiliate me in front of the whole class for calling out the answer. From then on, I never rose my hands in class nor participated.
Me to. In dont participate in any school realeted thing. I only take the information and then go home.
Now in college, it was so shocking to me to have teachers say "just yell out the answer!" like I just couldn't, I HAD to raise my hand or I couldn't speak, it is such a conflicting moment.
This is so sad.
@@roumdboi grew up homeschooled and in college I normally just shout out the answer or even randomly speak with the professor if she gives a pause long enough to interject without busting up the lesson too bad. I intentionally like to send professors on tangents because I find that information far more valuable than the lesson as planned. It's interesting to see most kids reactions to someone just speaking up and not raising their hand. Almost annoyance at my will not having been broken to remain silent. Half these kids are on their phones or asleep in class so the professors love an ative student who participates
Tanned Banana And the worst part is, many of these teachers then expect you and even grade you for participation!
They break any motivation and excitement to participate and learn which causes you to not participate, develop a terrible work ethic, and have lower self esteem and then they are dumbfounded at why you don’t want to participate and why you feel so tired during their classes.
This computer technician knows more about humans then some psychologists I’ve met. And that’s no exaggeration. I’ve taken a psychology class with a professor who’s so bad every person who’ve taken therapy with her went to someone else cause they ended up worse.
yeah it's sad but true sadly🤣
As a 17 year old Senior in highschool this is still a accurate as ever. I can technically vote since I'll be 18 by the next general election and I'm enlisting into the Army yet still i am treated like a 5 year old by adults
This. ^ They're telling me that I'm childish as fuck, or that I'm acting like a old man. But yeah, they threat me whatever they like.
@@gkotta_kedamono 18 now and still treated like a 5 year old.
I heard a relevant joke once.
A young man with a limp walks in to a bar. The bartender notices he is missing a leg, and asks him what happened.
The young man tells him how he saw his friends get injured and killed in war, and that he was honourably discharged after getting his leg blown off.
The bartender, moved by the story, then offers him a drink on the house, to which the young man responds "No thank you, I am not old enough to drink yet"
@Eran Riblo I think that’s just your grandma
@@skankydanky9737 you still have years before older adults stop being dicks to you, sorry about it :(
I was being bullied and harassed in middle school by my old friends. It was a daily trip to the bathroom to cry my eyes out and hide from the constant hell I couldn’t escape.
Principal called me a liar and a brat. He was also a child predator. I was homeschooled after that.
mstrblik I guess a better term would be former friends. I had a very similar experience growing up. One of my former best friends would bully the shit out of me at school (probably to look "tough") while still being my best friend outside of school
mstrblik Yeah, messed up my self esteem for years. These days he's in prison for dealing drugs
You're lucky you had the opportunity to get homeschooled. My parents knew I was harassed daily, but were all hand-wringing and "Oh, but there's nothing we can do! There's no other schools to send you to! But we can't stop worrying about you every day!" Yeah, that really helps. :/
This is why I want to slap people who offer "positive vibes" during tough times.
ShyGurl I’m learning because I don’t wanna get slapped or we’re gonna have to fight
@@FireMinstrel i had this through 3 schools through 6 years. Suicidal thoughts and 3 theraphys since 7 years now :)
The best part are still situations like this:
Mom: **has done my laundry my whole life and never requested me once to do it myself**
Me: **realizes that since I‘m a grown-ass adult now, I should maybe learn how to operate the freaking washing machine already**
Me: So mom, which type of laundry soap goes into which part of the machine’s soap container and which clothes can I wash together at a certain temperature? I don’t wanna mess anything up and ruin the clothes or the machine or both in the process.
Mom: *OMG How the hell do you not know how the fucking washing machine works?! You’re so spoiled and pampered! Back in my day, I did my own laundry since I was a toddler, combined with that of my siblings because I didn’t even have enough clothes to fill one! Oh, where did I go wrong with you?!*
Me: Mom, stop. Mom, pls.
Becoming an adult isn’t all sunshine and rainbows when you don’t know how to do things that you really should be able to do at this point. Just because I‘m legally an adult now doesn’t mean I automatically know how to do things I was never taught to do. I moved out now though, and the simple joy of successfully managing to do simple things like shopping or laundry or doctor’s visits all by myself is glorious. It’s probably gonna fade once these things become casual, so I‘ll enjoy it while it lasts. This feeling is probably is also the reason for the dilemma addressed at the beginning of the video where young people, once given their freedom, get on the wrong track and end up in bad positions. I suppose those are the ones who were overwhelmed by the sudden freedom from the homely discipline they gained and weren’t taught how to handle being free. They say if you release a bird who‘s known nothing but captivity into the wild, it will get mauled by the first threat it comes across. Making the cage it grows up in stronger(aka „moar discipline!!1!“) will change nothing about that, it will only make the sudden freedom all the more overwhelming. However, properly teaching it how to handle obstacles will help it in the long run and it will be grateful for such useful teachings.
This has been my life, as well. I was very sheltered and had things done for me, but then I'm magically expected to know everything once I'm a legal adult.
Yup, my dad keeps trying to do that to me as well.
I'm thankful for UA-cam. Back in 2008, I FINALLY learned how to PROPERLY take a shower; how to PROPERLY shave and groom myself; and how to PROPERLY brush my teeth. Meanwhile, all my father cared about was, "HEY! Is your nose buried in a book? It's NOT?!?! Then, my foot will be buried in your ass!"
It's worse when parents neglect their children. They'll grow up into adults not knowing what the f^ck to do with themselves..
@@Feber2001 LOL! Dude, read my comment from two days ago. What my parents failed to teach me, UA-cam succeeded.
At 16, I started college through a program offered by my high school. It absolutely blew my mind when I was treated as an adult by my professors, especially my chemistry professor. From day 1, it was pretty clear that he wasn't the best at teaching, but he was a very intelligent and nice guy. He made conversations with students before and after class as if everyone was his friend. Sure, my high school had some of the best student-teacher relations on earth, but high school teachers still berate students for trivial shit because that's what they were taught to do. College, especially community colleges, have a whole new style of teaching that I wish middle and high school teachers were able to replicate.
i'm 16 and taking college classes through my school in the fall and this made me soo much more at ease about it lol. teachers really give you a scare story with "oh it's gonna be so much harder in college!" that even though i know objectively they're wrong (my mom's a college professor), it's just a bit scary
Background no one asked for:
I was physically and verbally abused growing up from parents. Yeah, teachers could be shit but the worst was the parents and other kids. No one wanted to be around me, and I don't blame them for that because I didn't know how to interact. I was hyper active and weird. So much anime and creepy pasta. I ate whenever possible trying to smoosh down all of the feelings.
I developed PTSD, had Depression and anxiety from a young age. Went through a lot of stuff where I just wanted to give up.
I'm really glad he brought up Stockholm Syndrome because I would always see it in my sisters. They would look at me like I was a monster for wanting to stand up to the abuse. They said "You're making it worse" And "It's your fault mom is in a bad mood."
I like to watch these videos for that bit of reminder to stay mindful with the way I act and treat others.
I've been put into situations and mental states that left me mentally scared and it's easy to have a melt down and snap off on people if you once felt like every day was a life or death situation.
I hope someday society will have an upgrade and teach empathy and mental strength in schools.. and have the teachers do the same..
and a society that if a kid needs to be taken out of a home, there's a safe place for them to go.
Do your sisters still have Stockholm Syndrome?
The lack of explaining things is what absolutely disgusts me in most adults, which is even worse than when they interact with children. Does it kill all these people inside to take 2 minutes time to explain their intention of what they want to do, instead of just shouting instructions without any kind of context?
My cousin has not invited my parents to her wedding, which they did not take very well, because after all, they were "family". They happily recited all they did for them and / or their parents. Or my aunt (who is my godmother), now expressing remorse for not having been there for me. Of course not to me, but to my father, who has relayed that information to me.
And all I am thinking of is: "Well, what did you expect?". When we had family gatherings, we children were relegated to the upstairs play room to entertain ourselves, while the adults all sat downstairs and drank their asses off. When dining, we always had our own table where we had to sit, often in a different room from the adults, even when aged 13+. No one bothered to come to us or talk to us, so how does everyone expect the "bond of kinship" to have formed? At the end, it is all just entitlement on their part, wanting to be seen a certain way without having to have to put in the energy and work to justify such a view.
Nel yup you definitely didn’t grow up in a Italian family
Ren G I’m kind of glad you brought up this point. Parents called me out as having no common sense for being unable to find shit. They’d be like “On the counter” and expect me to know exactly what they mean, no real explanation nothing. Always bothered me.
So many people act like the title of "family" entitles them, and I don't understand it. If you wanna be my family, show it. Don't just recite it when it's convenient.
We had a kid's table at some of our family gatherings too. I actually liked it! Who wants to sit with the adults and listen to their adult conversations anyway? However, it is true that I have no bond with pretty much anyone in my extended family. I can't even remember all of my aunts'/uncles' names without having to pause and think about it.
The best thing my parents ever taught me was how NOT to parent a child.
Same for me
That is what you are supposed to LEARN from YOUR PARENTS
How did I find myself here, and who are these wise strangers?
Bet his parents just told him to "WEAR CONDOMS" haha, shits real.
And sometimes there's no greater gift than that.
"adults do not discipline their children well"
Nigeria: laughs in belt.
Tru
That's the point of the video though
That’s a bad way of doing things
Guatemala: laughs in belt as well
3rd and 2nd world basically
biggest shock for me growing up is the realisation that "adults" are just grown up kids they never questioned the things they do
I despise that "I'll give you something to cry about" line that teaches us to hold in our emotions and or face harsher punishment
@Paradoxical Nightmare let's be honest, who didin't
I've been listening to that from my mom's boyfriend when dealing with his five-year-old lately.
I'm 26 and incapable of living without the two of them's support. I can't do anything about what happens to that kid nor do I have the emotional stamina to anymore.
I'm so tired.
I'm finally getting ready to leave thanks to some good situations and the absolute fear of being here anymore and my one regret is that that kid is going to grow up with that shit.
@ɮօʊռċɛ օʄʄ LMFAO.
@@_VI701 plenty of folk.
@@NeonBlue27 You are 26 and cannot escape their support? More like I'm too weak to live on my own
“People who get nostalgic about childhood were obviously never children.” - Bill Watterson
M1zzu q what if you are still a child and just wish to be a child with more free time
Na, it's got more to do with how our brains work, it's why nostalgia is a nice fuzzy feeling; our brains try their best to forget about our bad memories, and unless you've done something to remember a certain bad memory ie: told people about it a couple of times, you're going to forget about it and only carry on important information that you've learned from the experience.
@@Chilldude579 that doesn't happen to me lol, it's not universal
@@violetbitch9492 exept it is, I don't expect you to understand but you can't know what you don't know.
@@Chilldude579 except I remember every bad thing that happened to me lol, unless there's even more which would be sad
There are 3 ways kids treated unfairly will end up:
1. A complete shut in that will bottle up their emotion until it all comes out at the wrong time.
2. A sociopath that knows psychological warfrare and can break anyone without throwing a punch.
3. A reckless danger to society that never learned respect, and never gives any as a result.
Yes! My boyfriend and I went to school together our entire lives, we both look back fondly on our 8th grade teacher Mr. Walker. We STILL talk about the stories he would tell and the lessons we learned from his wisdom. Best teacher we ever had, we’re still using what he taught us 9 years later. He treated everyone with kindness and respect. I hope he is still doing well
When my dad was a kid, he had a teacher who had this thing where he would whap someone on the back of their head (full force) with his knuckles when they didn't pay attention or when they didn't focus. It got so bad one point his friend wore his dad's army helmet to school, half to be a wise ass and the other half because it would have genuinely protected his head. One day my dad comes home with a huge bruise on the back of his head, and his dead (my grandpa who i never got to meet) went down to the school and said:
"I don't care if you give the boy a detention, or write him up. But if he comes back home with another bruise I'm driving back up here and I'm gonna beat the shit out of you."
That was one of the few stories my dad shared with me, and yet it's stayed with me for a damn long time. I hope I can one day be a father like that, protecting his kid from some rat-fuck teacher who is miserable with his life and job.
Or we can just not have any rat-fuck teachers! Yeah that’s never gonna happen... but you grow into a good parent like that! I will too
Why is he miserable? Often ppl arent appreciative of the profession. Yes some shit teachers but it baffles me that usa teachers have to fork out their little pay for teaching materials and still get disrespected by students n parents alike.
That's assault
That guy's job wouldn't last a week in this day and age
I can safely say that schools have always been a great place to foster what I call organized bullying. A kid is acting out of line? Take out your frustration on him by berating him until he breaks down crying, and then stare shocked when he eventually gets violent and lashes out because of the abuse you gave him. Is it really any small wonder why children grow up fucked up nowadays when they've put up with abuse from both school teachers and parents alike?
uhh dude that would be salt kids shouldn’t be crying, they’re not babies anymore. Gotta face the fact that the world is a tough place with no room for cry babies
@@kayzeaza *Kid gets bullied at home and at school therefore living a constant life of misery*
"Lol just toughen up pussy"
*Kid gives up on life and shoots up his school*
"Why are children shooting up schools???"
I fucking hate America.
@@kayzeaza Your comment is the exact reason this dude made a 20 minute video ranting about why kids have depression. Also I hope you never raise children with that mindset.
@@Jepsonduel don't worry, hes 14 and VERY badass. in 4 years he'll stop
@@kayzeaza only weaklings refuse to cry. People who are actually tough can face their emotions head on when they need to.
It's frustrating how you notice every cough and have to remind yourself that this wasn't recorded in 2020.
I almost forgot what regular colds were.
As someone who can't smell or taste anything for 3 days now,and remembering that one dude on the subway who would pull his mask down to cough a week ago...
This triggers me Vietnam flashbacks
@@athoswolff776 What the actual fuck? What was the point of the mask then. I hope you get better soon.
Something upsetting, im my middle school we was the worse grade theought the whole 6-8th. Because the teachers were more loose and fun, but when we left the school they fired the whole of the good teachers in the school and replaced them with horrible teachers.
Apparently the elementary was more strict (i moved to the school before the 6th grade year started) and they didn't know how to handle freedom.
I remember learning how to drive and I didn’t know the first thing about driving. I didn’t even know which pedal did what. My mom dismisses my questions and tells me to just drive. And the first thing I do is drive the car into the neighbor’s yard.
Then she yells at me for not knowing any better as if it’s instinct to know how to drive a car and it’s still something she brings up from time to time.
She later admitted that she has a hard time walking me through step by step and that she can’t teach me. That’s not the problem though, it’s that she has no patience and no ability to think ahead to strategize
In all honesty going slow is a good idea. Having a teacher explain it to you is the best thing
yeah dont learn to drive from family, you should learn from an instructor who can keep calm
Thank God I don't have this problem. Well, most of the time, since I'm still a teenager but some classmates of mine are really annoying when it comes to explaining stuff to them.
Your mother also was unable to manage her emotions. She probably has baggage from the past
Reminds me of when my grandma told me to "just cut the chicken".
I had no idea how, where to cut, where to avoid, etc. I was so tempted to just take the knife and slam chop the fucking bird right down the middle.
"WHAT? YOU TOLD ME TO CUT THE CHICKEN. SO I JUST CUT THE CHICKEN."
there's a reason we think the chill teachers are the best
Chill teachers are simply people who haven't forgotten about their own past
eh, at my school nobody liked the "chill teachers" because they were the ones who got you failed. We had teachers who didn't hold class themselves. They literally went through the textbook, assigned a chapter to each student, had them do a project with a presentation for it, and the rest of the class was supposed to get all their info from that presentation. If someone had a bad presentation, then the class just wouldn't get that info unless they learned it on their own time.
@@animalobsessed1 wow, now I remember when I did a presentation one time and after I was done my teacher went to the board to explain smth, that I tried to explain in my presentation, so that everyone in class actually understands it. Then I thought that I wasn't good enough, but now I know that it's totally fine, because I was still young and not a fully grown adult/teacher. So in reality it means that my teacher did the right thing here 🤯
ActiveAnimals That isn’t a chill teacher, that’s a dissociated teacher.
Chill teachers teach you a subject, and don’t get upset when not everyone soaks it in in one read through.
Me: **Dies from old age**
My mum in heaven: *_”It’s because of those games you always play!”_*
Lol. Usually it's not the video games fault for something but the parents. They don't like to take responsibility though.
and everytime the kid has a valid point, the parent instantly shuts them down with 'Im ThE PaReNT, sO i KnOw BeSt!"
I really don't see why they can't just talk with their kid and explain why they should do something and actually convince them instead of saying "I said so". Following something blindly because someone told you too isn't going to motivate someone very much.
Or a slap and "Stop backtalking"
Or because I said so.
@@SantanaBanana47 Nah
Don't scroll down unless you're prepared to like all the comments
Hah, you're about halfway down the comment section, but i've given pretty much everyone a like anyway.
Lol ikr
I know what I signed up for.
Faceless Solaire I feel called out
You caught me. lol
*Good Parent:*
"What did you learn today?
*Bad Parent:*
"DID YOU GET AN A+?!?"
Another version:
*Parent:*
What did you learn today?
*Me:*
Well, we did XY and Z as well as ABC, which was very interest-
*Parent:*
_ignores everything without even looking at you_
My father in a nutshell:
A IS NOT ENOUGH I NEED A+! YOU WANNA END UP A FAILURE?!
My mom always used to ask how my day went and if I said anything other than the typical 'good' or 'fine' then I was given a lecture about how my generation takes everything for granted and that I should be gratful I can even go to school because 'when I was your age I had to do all the house work before I could even think about my education' (which my grandma told me was completely false, my mom just failed school so bad that she didn't care to show up)
My mom does both
Bad parent: B's are not exceptable in this house!
My Parents: Well, a C is okay. It's the only one you have and Math has never been your strong suit. Keep trying and ask for help if you get stuck again.
Me: I GOT AN A+ in GEOMETRY!!!!! I CAN ACTUALLY DO MATH THAT MAKES SENSE!!!!
My Parents: WE LOVE YOU SO MUCH!!!! VERY PROUD!!!!!!
I realize I'm late here lol. For me I was always treated with a sarcastic undertone like "oh well you know everything." Like no, it's insane to think that I know everything. Maybe I'm smart and I can figure shit out without you explaining every detail to me. This was fucking infuriating because it was literally daily at some points. It was only recently with my younger brother I saw them doing this and I told them "when I was younger it wasn't that I felt I knew everything, I was tired of being treated like I knew nothing."
I spent years getting low marks in math, C and E grades sometimes outright failing... Until I got a new teacher, he congratulated me for raising my hand and answering the most basic question in the world... He told the class to clap for me, not in a condescending way but he was genuinely passionately impressed with me! He did this with anyone in the class, and eventually I got my first A+ in math in his class.
Genuinely, people don't understand how important teachers are.
What about gaslighting?
It's always fun when you remember certain things about your parents or what they did and when you decide to confront them about it, they just instantly shut you up by going ''Uh. I never did that. ''I don't know what you're talking about.'' ''You must be imagining things''.
This is one of the surest ways to make your child end up with huge self doubting issues. I still do to this day, I doubt myself about lots of things from my ideas, choices, etc. It's difficult for me to make a choice on certain occasions because I'm just not sure of myself at all, I doubt myself.
It's crazy how common gaslighting actually is, especially with younger kids who don't know any better. But as you said, gaslighting is incredibly damaging to kids' self worth and confidence.
Yep. This is also why I have crippling anxiety!
@Some characters aren't allowed even though I knew my parents were full of shit, there's always that small lingering feeling that I shouldn't confront anyone about things that are hurting me.
Like my mom always says, “ it’s not the person that shits in the bushes that remembers it, but the person that steps in it”
Look up narcissistic abuse, it will help you heal. The mean things you were taught to say to yourself, the insecurity you were forced to learn, you can recover from this trauma. You are valid, and you are good enough, friend.
8:45 Once, when I was 13, I was kicked out of the class just for smiling. SMILING...... Some teachers want to be dictators and the only power they feel in life is when they are pushing around their "students".
I laughed while the teacher was fixing something (cause I never talk while the teacher is talking) and she got so mad, she spent an entire hour explaining why we should stfu
Exact same thing happened to me
yeah dude that surely happened
Dude that exact thing happened to me too. The teacher brought me out into the hallway and interrogated me for a good 5 minutes as to why I was smiling so much. He suspected I was making fun of him somehow, and riling up my friends to laugh at him. Thats what he said anyway.
Old teachers in a nutshell
Your video perfectly explains why I dislike military culture. I had to serve the army for two years, and while I understand the importance of serving your country, there were quite a lot of bad commanders I encountered who only knew how to scream at their soldiers, even when they didn't do anything wrong. The commanders I truly respected were the ones who still treated their inferiors like human beings, even though we were in a regimented environment.
I am a shamed of my self i was a person like this .and one day when i was thinking about my childhood and how i thought. And then i realized I remembered and how much it affected me.im sorry lottle ones but i hope its not to late to fix this cycle of mental abuse like this.at home and school.
I'm in university and they still treat us this way. First day in class, prof pulls out the code of conduct and threatens to expel us for breaking the rules. Then they warned us that improper citation is plagarism, and when you ask them a question, they flip out when not addressed as 'doctor' before telling you 'you should have payed attention'. Then they get angry because no one wants to ask questions in class.
Are you in an instituition or a boot camp? XD
But yeah, some people just dont know that they are talking to fully grown adults.
I've had jobs where they treat you like you are still in highschool.
中原マリ first year English teacher. Other than that my professors have been some of the most chill people I have met.
Yeah, as a university student myself I can relate to having professors who would publically shame you in front of the rest of the class for asking a question over something they think you should already understand, and then later complain that nobody ever asks questions. Most of them aren't like this, though, but a few of them are.
Same shit in Corporate Dogma.
Authoritarianism abounds, it's a common human trait which is ultimately idiocy (irrationality).
Childhood is everyone expecting everything while no ones taught you anything.
As a child I am...literally tearing up! Thank you so much
This man is a role model in every sense of the world. Words cannot express how much I respect him and what he does.
I hold my emotions for so long untill i just break out crying and get incredibly angry and then the day after that i feel fresh and new then it slowly builds up again. I think its because how i was raised when i was little.
Human Person I’m in the same cycle
And it's dangerous. My dad was raised that way and he hated it. He still does. It's one of the flaws he has and even though he tries hard not to fall into it, he still does.
When he blows up, it's big and frightening and I have to remind him of the fact he's acting like his mother. That usually helps.
It one of the reason why I refuse to continue the cycle. Try as he might, my dad can't break free of it. As an adult, it falls to me to do so.
Yeah i have those too. But now I just started to accept mi emotions and cry when i feel like it or get angry happy sad etc. I dont know how to describe the feeling I get every time it happens it like a feeling of freedom among all the "just man up" "men dont cry" "dont be a girl/baby"
Just gotta let it out at some point it would be nice if there wasn’t that much to let out anyway
I feel u, but i dont show my emotions. When my parents are near and try ‘fun stuff’ or do something ‘funny’ i fake laugh and smile cuz i have no more emotions
"Assume the best" this makes me smile.
better drugs
i think it’s cute how it’s phrased “raising” a child when so often it feels more like you’re consistently being put down for not fitting the standard of adult.
From apple bully to a parenting professional. This guy has no limits
"If you want to know what a man's like, take a good look at how he treats his inferiors, not his equals." Sirius Black. Might be from a so called "kids book", but I think the quote relates to a lot of teachers/parents in these situations and shows their own lack of character when dealing with kids.
It's also a good example to how blind Black himself is to his own failings. He never treated Kreature with any kind of respect and thus, Kreature betrayed the Order.
it's E for everyone but most people think it stands for "kids". Just because it's for kids doesn't mean it can't be enjoyed by all.
Justas Yeah there is a thin layer that kids can read about and enjoy but when you really go deep into the lore, it’s definitely not for kids and that’s why I love it
Except kids aren't teachers or parent's inferiors. They often behave superior to them and have superior content of character.
"Theyre doing parenting for them, not the kid"
this is why i'm subbed to you
Yeah im ganna sub him too
*Incited childhood memory pops up of having a two week in-school suspension in a room with no working light, not allowed to open the blinds and a 15 minute lunch break that was after everyone else's lunch*
Kids really are treated like shit...
that should be illegal
@@youtubechannel-hp5vj it is illegal
the best felling is when you prove your dad/mom wrong
Teach children that just because they made a bad decision, that does not make them a bad person.
@samantha tang welp by your spelling i see you stood up to that statement and didnt get taught anything.
@samantha tang good point, now translate to english please.
@samantha tang not a troll. pointing out your stupidity. you are the one that seems like a troll thought since you said teaching is brainwashing.
@samantha tang I am from Serbia, not America. Quite racist of you to assume im American because i can speak english way better than you.
samantha tang weeb
To be respected by definition means to be admired. You cannot force respect. The best you'll get is fear. If you want to be respected be worthy of admiration. I wish more adults understood this.
There is a difference between ignorance and apathy
@@xryeau_1760 What does that have to do with the comment?
@@sardonicsardonyx359 They don't care about gaining respect is my point
Saying you have to give respect to earn respect is contradictory.
“Nobody’s civil anymore! No one thinks what it is like to be the other guy” -Arthur Fleck
Who's that
@@jawallin8734 JOKER YOU UNCULTURED BUFFOON
@@jawallin8734 the Joker
@@Chuked Please calm down.
@@Chuked says someone who clearly didn't fucking learn the message...
old video, i know, but it seems to be being kicked around by the algorithm, so it gives me an opportunity to say this: when you brought up having the worst assumed of you day one, that totally shook me. i've been grappling and dealing with all the abuse i suffered during childhood and that's somehow a facet i've never realized. when i was in middle/high school, the first week of every new year would be spent reading out loud and memorizing the code of conduct, this fucking behemoth of a book full of every little thing that they expected us to do wrong. every time i think i've reached the end of analyzing my trauma, i find some new foxhole i've completely overlooked. jesus christ.
These videos really helped me realize how shitty my parents treated me. I feel so gross now for not seeing it sooner
I'm glad you see it now, though.
I always realized this. I've always told myself I won't be like them with my child. I am glad you finally realized this because if not you probably wouldve treated your children just as bad.
It's not your fault for not realizing it sooner. After all, you were raised by them. You didn't know any different.
I realized it when I went on I had a play date at a friend's house and realized how kind their parents were
I have always known
The vicious cycle of breaking and shattering children by forcing them through broken systems and chronic abuse just to pawn them as a showcase and a status symbol to others like a cool car reducing their existance to a constant environment of pain and misery then they have to be reserved reactionary violent and untrusting to survive these things, it's sickening and what you've said really hits home I hope the future for all of us is brighter
And then there treated like they are monsters and that this is their fault
The things most parents need to start saying is, I’m sorry, thank you, and most importantly I’m wrong
I remember how emotionally broken I was in middle school. My classmates were toxic and my teachers always bring me down a level. My math teacher was the worst due to her throwing insults at me if I got an answer wrong or if I needed help on something. Even though I’m in high school and the teachers are actually friendly there, I will never participate in anything school related or even be social with anybody just because of my middle school experience
You should try sports dawg it might be hard for the first year or two but it teaches you a lot, wrestling really helped me
@@jawallin8734 yeah wrestling allowed me to meet some kind teammates who help me improve and encourage me.
My middle school was filled with absolute ASSHOLES. I would try to talk to a kid or join a conversation and be friendly and they would literally ask me "Why are you talking to me?" As if I didn't have the right to talk to them. Maybe they like to think they were superior or something. I became more and more quiet and withdrawn after those years. I tried sports though and many of those kids were kind and accepting. They try to get me to smile sometimes because I look sad or emotionless all the time. They are good people. They help me improve and encourage me. You will find people like this if you just keep trying new things and challenges. Don't let failure define you. Use it to learn and keep trying. That is how you grow. Believe in your potential through effort. Explore your passions and curiosity and meet good people along the way.