Yeah but you don´t have evidence... You know if you don´t see scares on your skin you don´t have evidence... But yeah it should be a crime. But without evidence sadly no crime.
@wendylou8963 - I have the same situation as you. So glad to be alone and free in my beautiful home. It has taken me 12 months to get rid of all the junk he forced me to buy, now I see space and it helps me feel amazing again (in and out).
the devil always hunts Christians and is jealous of their belonging to God. He is by nature a thief, a destroyer, a killer - he creates facades and fakes. @@IShallNotBeSilent
When my narcissistic spouse is home, our home is a living hell. When he's gone, things feel so light. He had a massive rage fest today and then expected me to act like it never happened. He is a monster that we are forced to hide away from. And, you're right, no one comes here anymore. I'm saving to escape.
My narc husband is chasing away my children one at a time. And he blames me. I see the manipulation, it has many faces, but I see them all. He’s lost our respect, he may end up dying alone.
I moved out of my parents house when my narcissist mother was on a trip. I had secretly rented a flat and when they were gone, I grabbed a mattress and some clothes, stuffed it in my car and left. When she returned I was gone. Boom. Today and 30 years later I shake my head in disbelief that as a young person (21 years) I had to act like I was escaping from someone holding me captive.
im almsot there. im 23 living with my abusive MIL due to my own narc parents and having a child w her son. we are planning our escape. and keeping it secret so she doesnt somehow sabotage it or do something insane
For making it hell for you, one would think they would be happy and helpful for you to start adulting on your own. BUT instead they make it difficult, sabotage it, and do nothing to help and have you distracted on the emotional roller coaster.
They hate it lol. That's why by my father who's. Narcissistic demon. By him I always relax fully. Drink his pop eat his food. Relax on his couch. My mom let's me stay sometimes lol. My dad hates it. Every day he has a bad day is generally a good day for me 🤣 pooing in his toilet as I write this 😂😭
Absolutely true point to point. There is a strange negative energy in the house, no signs or efforts of change, prosperity in the house. No birthdays or festivals celebrated with joy and peace, no visitors or guests coming. You just feel suffocated in the house, in their presence. You feel better outside the house. Yes OCD thing also true with both extremes. Have separated from the person but still have nightmares of his presence in the house, room. Really scary at times. It's very difficult to heal from such things and go back to our past normal selves. Need lots of courage.
We definitely celebrate my narcs birthday ( I feel so fake) but I hate my own bdays now..I no longer want to celebrate them with the narc.. I go out just by myself during the day, and do something special for myself..and enjoy my peace abs quiet.
You are so true - strange negative energy, no joy or celebrations, you feel better outside the house. Oh, we did "celebrate" birthdays, but there was no joy, no peace. As feeling better outside the house - listen to this (you probably won't believe it): I was feeling so paranoid, I even told my husband a couple of times, and I told him I go outside when I'm scared. He always said "Why do you go outside if you're scared? Why do you go outside to where they are? Why don't you stay inside the house?" Du-uh, because "they" are inside the house. I feel safer outside than in my own house.
Living with a narcissist is like enduring a relentless nightmare. They strip away the peace and warmth of your home, turning it into a battlefield of manipulation and control. Every conversation becomes a calculated attack on your self-worth, leaving you doubting your reality. The outside world sees their charm, but behind closed doors, they wield their narcissism like a weapon, isolating you and making your home feel like a prison. You slowly lose yourself as they twist your mind, turning your sanctuary into a living hell.
I lived with one for 18 months. After the 3rd month, when the Love Bombing ended, she wanted to argue with me every moment she was awake. I was constantly criticized, ridiculed, and yelled at by her. She was living with me rent-free because of her massive credit card debt. It would take me a year to get her out of my home. 6 weeks after the break-up, she went on her Smear Campaign. She targeted my family, friends, and co-workers. When she ran out of tactics to go after my inner circle, she went to my work and tried to get me fired. I don't do social media, but she harassed me through fake people profile emails and Instant Messenger. Also, she has been signing me up for computer spam. The on-line harassment is anonymous but been going on for 16 years. I wish you well.
Ooh...my...!you've described my husband how I wish I had someone abroad I go visit and get away from all these am so tired feel like am loosing my mind😢😢 my home is hell 😢
I left that narcissistic husband 6 1/2 years ago, and I’m now with someone who wants me to be ME. I had been married over 40 years, and I’m still adjusting to being free. But I’m getting there!!!
Man that was my life with my husband. He controlled everything. There was always bad energy in our home. He made sure he ruined most holidays. And no one ever came over.
I've been married to mine for 37 years. I married him when I was 18 and he was 25. We have 5 grown kids. I've been disabled for over 20 years, and am in a wheelchair. He has never made any changes to our home so that I can get to different rooms and use my home. I'm relegated to our bedroom, bathroom and living room. I feel imprisoned. Plus, since I am unable to keep house or even get into the kitchen, he continually piles stuff up like a hoarder and doesn't care that it is a total mess. No one can visit because of this. Every room is a hoarded mess. I feel like he is abusive in this way. And if I get on him about any small thing, it is seen as a personal criticism. He will then take it out on our kids...our youngest is 19 and she and he really can't stand each other. She wants a close relationship with him, but he acts like he can barely stand her, is always running his mouth off, saying negative things about her. If I could afford to, I would be done with this. He makes all the money and I would be homeless. I deserve better, and so does our youngest, who still lives at home. Just wanted to share.
@@heyokaempath5802 I am praying for you and your daughter.🙏. You DO deserve better. Can a local church or social services give you help to get more independence from this situation. It is so frustrating and dangerous! In the meantime ignore him!
@@heyokaempath5802 Oh, my. That sounds like a difficult scenario, difficult for you but I must say that I'm a horrible nurse-type person and couldn't take care of anyone so it has to be difficult for him too? It sounds like a challenging life for you that's for sure. I'm sorry to hear that. I hope things change for you!
I had a sad epiphany recently....my life, as I knew it before, stopped since living with 'my' narcissist....everything good in my life, and about me, ended. They crush and destroy everything.
Hoarding, dark energy, isolation, terror, money wasted & a total mess: You hit the hammer right on the nail! If I didn't know better, I'd think you were talking about me! You described my life with that psychopath so perfectly! And I thought nobody knew & nobody understood! The hoarding was horrendous. There was no communication. No joy, no celebrations, no creativity, no visitors. The evil energy was so thick you could cut it with a knife. The horror, the terror. And with the hoarding (it was so bad you couldn't even walk) and the evil energy, there'd be no way I'd invite someone over for coffee. And the finances were the biggest mess, money was wasted. I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy. As soon as I got out of that mess, I became a minimalist. I'm no longer a minimalist because I no longer feel I need that title. I just have what I need/want/what brings me joy and don't have what I don't need/want. And the first thing I said "I want the love in my house to be so thick you can cut it with a knife".
Same here. He would waste so much money on equipment, or materials like steel. I remember when $6000 steel tresses sat junking up the place for years. Same with farm equipment that just sat. He would never let me spend money on the house, and I couldn't throw away anything, or clean up the tools and supplies he would drag in the house by the door. Stuff that belonged in the barn, but had to be inside by the door.
Christmas " celebration"🎄was the worst ...Always fierce fighting and total drama, including fallen trees, burning trees etc. Since I am living alone, I gift myself Christmas Peace: just sitting in silence , stillness and peace. I invite nobody, don' t have a tree, don' t cook anything, simply enjoy - thoroughly - the absence of drama.🕯️
@gift myself Christmas Peace: same Christmas here. No gifts, no tree. I do cook so I can have our culture's traditional Christmas dinner. I sit down and enjoy that lovely meal in total silence. Christmas oddly seemed to agitate the demons of my family. I feel peace as I type this. My very intelligent children understand my reasons and respect my tradition. Continued peace with you.
@@mellifergold I dreaded the holidays too... Trees thrown on the street with all the ornaments.. destroyed and took away presents..etc.. I enjoy the peace of the holidays now but have never gotten the joy of decorating back.
@@325aliceI ...but then, you are probably also simply glad and grateful that those days are over and won' t be coming back and perhaps with time you ' ll find the freedom to live your own life just as you prefer without the shadows of the past 💟
You can never relax around these demons.I have my space back but until all their belongings are gone,I still feel a dark force and perpetual bad luck and I have always been a lucky person.
The terror-I never knew what I was coming home to after work. I never knew what was going to make him go dark, followed by his maniacal laughter at my tears once he accomplished his goal of knocking me down to nothing. It's amazing how the heaviness is gone and how positivity can remain now that he's found new supply and moved out.
I would purposely stay late at work (I was on salary at this particular time, so I could stay late), because I knew, the minute I walked in that door, the abuse would begin.
I'm also trying to get out so desparetly.. But financially dependant now... I wish he would find new supply and leave me! I'm so scared of what he would be capable of if I leave him😢
@Colorburstbaby meanwhile good men are out here praying they find someone like you... it's just so messed up. I'm working on healing my childhood wounds from narcissistic parental abuse it's so lonely most days. I'm praying God has a real one for me one day when I'm ready to truly love someone. It's not that I don't want to love somebody I just never was taught how to love myself and say no to people
@OriontheChosen Thanks for your comment, it made me realize I never knew how to love myself, after a lifetime of parental abuse and ending up with 2 narcissistic psychopath parents, in addition to 2 narcissistic psychopath siblings. That's probably why I ended up with a narcissistic psychopath husband. My parents & 2 siblings didn't love me, and the husband was the same way.
Our house was on the other hand full of people coming and going all the time, it felt like living in a caffe where I was a barista, and it was a relief for me because my parents were nice when the guest were around and I was allowed to help myself to the sweets. And yes, money is the narcissist’s most precious asset. They love your money more than anything in the world.
Cant believe what an echo this is Danish, thank you so much for sharing, the atmosphere you could cut with a cheese knife, 30 years of siezures at night and being trapped in my bedroom . Its taken me 55 years to come through the trauma bond cant believe how much stronger I am these days.
I feel like you were listening to our conversation last night. My daughters and me were duscussing all of these things; the hoarding, the animals, throwing our things away, the heaviness in the air when they are here and what relief can be felt when they are gone. There is definitely a spiritual presence involved.
I know this sounds funny, crazy maybe. But when my ex narc(murderous pshyco) went to town, i would take off all my clothes and run around the outside of our house😂 thank goodness we lived in a very isolated area. Many people will understand the feeling of freedom when they are gone. You no longer have a gun pointed at your head, and he is not trying to look at you through the key hole of your bedroom door. I coul go on. You poor friends out there, it is better to leave with nothing than to leave in a mortuary van. I did and at 73 i am alone and exept for ptsd... I am happy now. My love goes out to you all.❤
I think it's sad that narcs really don't know how to be happy. When their lives are good, they 😢 ruin them with more chaos. & you will get sucked into their chaos if you get too close.
Fibromyalgia with full body pain. Often felt like I was carrying him (I am 5'3" he is 6'1" and 250+ lbs) Many times I felt taller than I am and cannot look in the mirror when that happens. Also stage 1 lung cancer, thankfully contained and removed. He is blocked everywhere. I have had to get help with blocking him from my mind and body. This still needs more work to clear, but its hard going because I believe demons are involved. We all need help from Source and to be as strong as we can be ❤
I do interior design and I am very good at it, the more I accomplished, the more compliments I got the more he was brimming with anger. He systematically started making things disappear, then started bringing in things from dumpster diving in consignment store dumpsters. He started screwing around in the kitchen as if it was a workshop, put epoxy on garage tools and put them in a 15k Decor oven to "bake" the enamel. Then he stopped trash service. Why? He had to go through all the trash before taking it to put in restaurant dumpsters. Keep in mind that he drove a Mercedes, wore Versace and had a couple Rolexes. Far from broke. But, he began cutting his own hair, putting all kinds of crap in the dishwasher and we had 2....broke both. Then he started burning household garbage in yet another unfinished project (outdoor fireplace) and left.....fire started from the ash floating into our neighbor's wooded back yard and a fire started burning their landscaping and it cost our insurance 42K. He was jealous, controlling and covert. Around every corner, he caused another disaster resulting in yet ANOTHER fire so bad we had to move out for 1 YEAR! There is much more but I can tell you he was an ultra narc, a liar, manipulator and he was in it for the long game. I dated him 5 years before marrying. Found out from my attorney he was still legally married during that time. His son's suffered, his ex wife went no contact and mouths kept shut about his antics. It took 3 years to get out of that transactional so called marriage. I was gaslighted and breadcrumbed, was confused and didn't know why I had anxiety, fear and trepidation. It altered my life, I got out, was getting physically ill. Lots of therapy and family support. Lastly, I want to convey that anything I cherished, enjoyed, paid for....he would destroy. Soulless meat suits walking the earth. BEWARE of love bombing! That's where it started.
Yes same situation with my narc wife and son😈👹 they throw away some of my artistic work like trash. Disrespect and gas lighting all year around. Really tired of been abused , thinking of selling the house and live on my own 👍
@ I identify with that comment. It's devaluing you, and the things that are meaningful to you, they are disrespectful and they will misappropriate your things, especially if it's sentimental to you. I was not loved, I was used as an appliance. At my age you would think I would have caught on. Frankly, I was in disbelief. The situation was a mind bender, I suffered the consequences. I am staying single, difficult for me to trust anyone.
Now i can go to the grocery store and if a dark energy is close to me my heart starts to hurt. Its like living in a tomb i hated going home with that energy. I could of had a great day or a fun time and the cloud of that home came over me as soon as i came into the environment. Evil entities reside
So true. It is a living hell indeed. I have to hide my true feelings until it is safe to get out. He is obsessed with minimal items in the home. He hates that I have my mother's things in my home since she died. He doesn't treat my things with any respect and has broken several things of mine with no remorse whatsoever. 😢
@@psalm91.777 I'm sorry. I know what you mean. He broke the last present which was an ornament from my mother before she died. He didn't care. He said "I don't want to hear another word about this".
@@psalm91.777 Sadly not yet. I'm trying, but have nobody to help and I have a multitude of health issues. We went up the street a couple of days ago and he shouted at me the whole time because he had to carry my bag. He said I suppose you're going to need to sit down somewhere in an irritated voice. He thinks I make my health conditions up, despite me being in pain and taking medication daily from the GP.
I'm amazed that you nailed every single thing I go through on a daily basis. No exaggeration, I mean everything. And I'm proud to say that after 27 years of that pure hell I went through, that I finally got the courage and strength from the good lord above to leave that monster and I've been gone for 3 weeks and I'm not going to lie but I'm terrified. I'm not going back but it's scary being alone. Please pray for me. I want to thank you for your videos.
🙏🙏🙏 and please feel free to add me to your prayers so that I can find a way to leave mine. He says henwill change, and in a couple of ways, he has, but not in most ways. I make just over too much for most help, but barely enough to rent even though I am in the cheaper Midwest. I can't rent, though, because he destroyed my credit by adding me to his credit card without my permission, and also, because then I can't afford to pay any of the bills. SMH, I have a dear friend in another state offering me a place to stay, but husband won't let me drive, he has taken parts off cars to keep them from running and I know nothing about fixing them. He also forced me to give him my inheritance that he claims is now gone... All I need are lots of prayers, the more, the better. Oh, and some of my confidence back.
It’s a low feeling. Like you know not to show too much happiness. If you do show happiness or joy, they might quickly dampen your good mood. It’s not like this every single day BUT the risk is ALWAYS high. The risk of waking up the monster within them
Even with growing up in a dysfunctional home as a teen I was organized and I loved to rearrange my room. Even though all the turmoil in the beginning with 2 kids I could keep up with the drama and it seemed like he resented having a family life. I would rearrange the furniture and try to keep the house looking fresh and different and that would bother him. I would paint and decorate the house and try to make the house feel homey and comfortable and no matter what I did I never truly felt like I was home, his disappointment in me weighed down all my efforts and I slowly gave up trying to make a home. It kills the spirit to try to reach for a love that doesn't respect your efforts and damages everything inside you. And add the mental and emotional chaos and with the infidelity and insults and it makes it hard to function and live.
One thing the narc in my family enjoyed the most was giving away the things we had to his acquaintances (who weren't even poor or needy), without even asking us to look like a charitable person. One such example was giving my brother's harmonica which he had bought with brother had bought with his own savings to some other kid, while promising that he'd get him another one. A promise which he obviously never kept.
So much rings true in this -the people in the home and the animals are subservient to the things and money …the hoarding and then the throwing out or “regifting” of gifts -there is a book “Love People Use Things” sadly in my home it was “Use People Love Things” you are a survivor and thriver helping others with these videos
it very true a single narcissist can turn a home into hell no to mention all the narcissists psychopaths together where i live have turn the city into hell all of them barking like dogs everywhere i ask myself all that it,s happening because their end is very near
Dear Bashir, I'm living with a narcissist husband and going through the EXACT SAME THINGS with him everyday! I'm stuck in his country and have nowhere to go literally and have felt awful everyyyyyy single day so far! YOU DO KNOW EVERYTHING about the narcissists and let me tell you something else! I was born in a very district Muslim family, then I became an atheist, then an agnostic, but living with a narcissist I have gone through the same night terrors, feeling like the devil is watching me while I sleep, in my dreams I saw black figures staring straight me, sometimes telling me to yell at him, sometimes I float in the air and see my own body on bed beside him and as soon as I'm getting in my body I somehow realise that the demons want to attack me or choke me, I can't say Bismillah because they hate it and so many other things happened since I married him that I have believed in God's And devils existence! It's not a 100% psychological! Demons do exist and they most of the times control narcissists emotions and actions
I know it wasn't supposed to be funny, but when you said you'd rather be homeless than live with a narcissist right at the beginning of the video, I could not stop laughing. Thank you for all your hard work making these videos. I just love your style.
I always enjoy your content. And your hair looks really nice! My ex-narc was a hoarder, spender, and after a while I noticed poor grooming and hygiene. Once they were “sure of me” and had a place to live, their repulsive habits emerged.
Here's my list before watching, just to compare our lists ;) 1. Expecting any cleaning or cooking will be done by you. 2. Awake and being loud especially when you need sleep. 3. Walking around undressed 4. Unfinished projects all over the house 5. Your stuff is also their stuff 6. Triangulating you with anyone else around. Ok i need to learn more! Gonna watch now..
That video describes the hellous 4 year narcissistic abuse relationship I was in with my narcissist. I finally escaped, I'm in a safe place now and getting help to heal and move on with my life. Thank you Danish for your helpful and informative videos ❤
Thank u so much for this episode. Finally i have the explanation i have been looking for since my son was diagnosed with ADHD. No doctor would tell me. The doctors said he just had ADHD but I knew it had to be something more because it wasnt just not being able to keep.things in order. He would hoard, destroy and steal, lie with ease, torture animals and laugh and he was just a little boy, and the list goes on. And that was from an early age and exploded in attack against me when instarted saying no to him, notngiving him what he asked for, and redirecting his behavior.. he absolutely never changed in any respect.despite years of therapy. Thank u for talking about this from a spiritual perspective because i think this is the core of what is going on. It is not when he came to this world that he was a person affected by a medical condition. It is that the condition of his spirit is reflected in his body and that means he was born that way, reflecting who he truly is. If u look at the illnesses u have, it is your body reflecting where the illness of your soul lies. And as to demons, im not going to gonas far as tonsay my son is a demon, but i feel very.comfortable saying he is accompanied by demonic forces and they have taken over because he chose to let them in because he thought that would be an easy way to get what he wanted with no work and who cares who gets hurt. I pity him. He has barely evolved despite all the love and example i modeled.for him. The only one who helped me get through these 18 years was God. I never let go of his hand or i would have been consumed.
I agree. They are born that way. Psalm 58:3-5 KJV. Also Genesis 3:15 about two different seedlines. However, they still have a choice and free will to do good or evil.
My childhood miseries and constant worries make total sense now. It's actually comforting to know I really didn't have a problem/was crazy. Your videos are so spot on. Thank you so much for sharing and now helping so many people!!!
The air feels heavy, that was my childhood around my parents. If they weren’t fighting the air was heavy with bitterness. No love, no hugs, no kisses. I spent most of my time alone.
I experienced regular sleep paralysis at my father’s house as a child from the chronic stress of hearing him screaming at his wife. They were terror manifest
A year or so ago I moved in with my friend and her mother because her mom was terminal and needed help with care. I didn't realize my friend was a narcissist , but I'm convinced that's why we went through a haunting. I saw a woman that looked like her in the house twice, and I did have nightmares. I think your right about the spiritual side of dealing with a narcissist.
my monster father in law infested our domicile from 2014 to 2020, demonstrating all of these behaviors. Worst part was we employed him in our family business, meeting his ridiculous demand of having a salary higher than my wife and I who operate our business. He brought nothing to the table and it was constant sabotage to everything. When our house flooded in 2020 and he spearheaded the "renovation," it drove us to the breaking point. but thank god we cut him entirely out of our lives and he can no longer abuse any of us anymore.
The second half is bang on. I've always enjoyed being alone because I was free from living in terror, even if it was just a little while. The financial narcissist is my husband. Money is his sole motivation, and he's in debt that he'll never come out of.
Yep, I was the black sheep of the family. The darkness and evil are a real thing and felt very strongly. I moved into my crafting studio and only go into the house when necessary. He keeps stating he will not be alive ten more years. It may sound harsh, but that statement let's me see a light at the end of the tunnel. Oh, it is my properties that he refuses to leave. I am not going to spend time and money fighting evil, so, I travel a lot, make crafts and do craft markets until his self proclaimed 10 years is up. In the mean while, I am getting my ducks in a row, and living a different life. He pays for a storage unit that is nothing but his parents things when they passed. I refused it to be in my home. Thank you Danish, and be blessed!
@@Stardustpal25 Yes, But I am moving on and healing and he knows it. I am happier than I have ever been knowing I am in charge of me and my future. Well, The Most High, My Father is in charge of my life and future, and He has my six.
I can empathize. About 12 years ago I let a "friend" in need come into my house to rent a room. It wasn't long before my house was filled with boxes of junk this dumpster diving lunatic brought in. In 2020 I had had enough and finally stood up for myself and got him to clear a great deal of it out. I suffered a lot during that process but at least have a living and dining room again. The room he rents is piled high with junk and is not livable. Luckily, he has a new supply and spends most of his time away from here. The down side is that he will show up once a week or so to inflict some emotional abuse. We had an argument about a week where he made sure to remind me how much he hates me and that I will never be able to get rid of him.
@@jamesplumhoff3215 My heart goes out to you. I have learned to not show any reaction or emotion and most of the time I do not even respond. I am just a tough nosed one that when I found out what all this was about, I turned hard nosed and went in for the fight for my life and freedom. I have learned to not even care. I have something within me, that when it clicks, it is over and there is no going back......well, It Clicked, and he knew the moment it did and that he had really messed up and it was over. So now he is trying to make me suffer. I told him I was "Not" sitting here holding his hand and dying. So I travel, leave him at home, and I love it. I know everyone is not like me though, and it brakes my heart to see so many going through this that feel trapped with no way out.
My peaceful home. My safe, beautiful home. Has turned into something very different. I've never had raised voices here. But now I do. I've never felt unsafe here. But now I do. And apparently it's all my fault. Odd that. As It was never like it till he came along.
It's like living in a Mine Field. Every step is frought with misery and anxiety. You sense deep down when they are about to kick off, it's palpable. Run to the hills and don't look back.
Narcs and demonic energy are linked. I used to wake up constantly and I would feel so scared for no aparent reason, I thought. After the narc left I stopped being scared, the energy changed.❤
I use to get headaches what felt like daily. I thought maybe my job had mold in the building or something. Since he’s been gone, the only time I get headaches is if I’m dehydrated or haven’t eaten enough. In July 2022, I went with my family to Florida from Texas (we drove). I felt at such peace while there. The entire drive back to Texas, I just felt a sense of dread and kept thinking “I REALLY don’t want to go home.” I sobbed most of the drive home. After getting home, EVERYTHING escalated. My house was my safe haven before allowing him to move in. The second he got there, the energy shifted and I felt anxious. Initially I just assumed it was due to the anxiety I developed during the pandemic and the winter storm. I was so wrong.
A narcissist used to visit and sit in my lounge. It was not anything he specifically did but it was enormously depressing, I would cry after he left, sometimes in front of him. I had lost my husband less than a year previously so I thought it was grief. It was partly grief, and also the realisation that I was now a target for this kind of person. It is not only men who are narcissists. A woman will bump into you in the supermarket claiming to be a neighbour and wanting to know you better. All the time they are triangulating with another neighbour who has been offended by your happiness for a long, long time and wants to bring you down. On no account let these people into your home, do not WhatsApp them either. Anything you say will be held against you.
The sad thing is that I really do have medical conditions that I can’t even do most of the things that would be normal daily activities and instead of stepping up to the plate he vilifies me to every single person he can. Smudging was a thing that did help me as soon as he left town. You have been a light in a very dark tunnel. Thank you, Danish.
Danish, I can relate to every comment of yours. My Childhood home is a beautiful joint family home built like a Palace by my Grandfather, but once my Narcisstic Mother (and my Father who is not a Narc, but a Follower of my Mother's needs to the Nth core) took over the entire property and evicting all my cousins, it was a Nightmare to me. I ran away as a teenager 3 times. Preferring Homelessness than this Horrific Home.
My wife is a narcissist. I thought she had OCD but after watching your program I now understand that OCD is part of narcissism. No one comes to our house. My daughter doesn't want to speak to her and keep my grandchildren away from my wife. I watch your programme every night before going to bed , it helps me to analyse my wife's action what's coming next. I have been listening to her all my life. Now I know what's behind her actions. I am a very calm person I now know her all the wicked actions a big thanks to you I am managing my life better now. I am 75 years old. Life became hell after I retired because I am spending more time at home living with the devel .
I could never figure out why I never felt peace in my home. I had no idea he was covertly sabotaging any peace or joy i tried to bring to our lives. 35 years of confusion! Thank goodness I finally came out of the fog.
I learned very quickly that I could not live in the same home as my narcissistic ex. I thought that if I had my own space it would improve. I rented the 1st floor of a garage apartment and he rented the top floor. It didn’t work. He constantly expected me to let him in whenever he wanted and wouldn’t respect my need for privacy. I refused to let him in and he busted my door open. He tried it again, but I had rolled my upright piano to the front door and blocked it and he couldn’t get in! 😊 He tantrumed so badly that I actually packed up a moving van secretly 12:48 while he was at work and was about to drive to another state when he arrived earlier than I expected and then begged me crying not to leave. Too late for him. Best decision I ever made.
I'm sorry you went through all of that as a child. I'm glad you are bringing awareness to all the things we didn't know existed when we were growing up. We thought it was just our family that was the odd ones.
SO ACCURATE!! ❤ The last year before separation (2014), I couldn't stand being in the house anymore. I did yard work. I lived all day out in a gazebo I bought and was emotionally checked out.
I'm so glad you mentioned the "obsessed with cleaning" (and order I'll add) because it's hella true. The worst people I know are either cleaning obsessed (and order obsessed) or living in a super dirty and chaotic in order terms, place. It's likey are trying desperately to control life by those (not a health issues thing involved, those are exeptions). That and how they don't respect your stuff, how they almost laugh at your suffering for your things getting lost or broken.
I am 62 years olds, and just discovered less than a year ago, that there was a name that explained why my 82 year old mother was/is the way she is. And she has become worse as she grows older. She is a Narcissist. It explains a WHOLE LOT! I have since gone no contact. My slightly younger brother understanding that she was the reason for his depression, and health issues, and low self esteem, etc... He has gone no contact as well. Best thing he's ever done for himself and his marriage.
My father died two weeks ago. He wasted away from Parkinsons disease. My eldest sister (his eldest daughter and golden child) didn't even bother coming to the funeral. She did show up for the luncheon wearing a cottage core green dress up above her knees and complained about the free food. My sister is 50 years old. I was always the scapegoat/lost child. I never expected I would be the one to be a caregiver for my dying father but the disease made him soft and gentle and meek. I got the dad I always wanted these last several years and despite his illness, it meant everything in the world for me to be able to connect with him. I always was a daddy's girl, even though he seemed to resent he for even existing for the first 40 years of my life. But now that he's gone, we're all grieving in this house. And after not showing up to his funeral, my sister started showing up at our house and other elder family members to ask to stay with them. None of them want her around. She doesn't care, and since my mom is already grieving and vulnerable, she's letting herself be taken horrible advantage of just to keep our other family members from having to carry that load in their own home. She's left her bags all over the kitchen and living room. She's complained about the water pressure. Called other family members to complain about the water pressure so that my mom is too embarrassed for words. She stops by all hours of the day or night always needing something right now but then forcing others to wait hours for her to leave or show back up and get her junk out of their house. She's only "homeless" because she attacked my brother in law a year ago and but a chunk out of his arm. He was trying to keep her from taking his keys. She's already totaled 4 rental cars on his company account so he can't afford to lose his only vehicle. He called the police that night out of fear that she would escalate the violence and ever since then, she had decided he's abusive and she doesn't feel safe living in their house. He's been funding her life away from him thinking she was just angry and needed to cool off. That was a year ago. She's used up all their money. He had to take a loan out on his 401k just to keep his bills paid... And he's now he sole caregiver of their 4 kids, whom she now claims he is abusing as well. So far she's drained about 80k from her husband and 24k of my mother's credit card with zero to show for any of it. She was taking cash from him, promising to pay bills, then actually paying those bills on my now widowed mother's credit card. She returned the card to her at my dad's funeral luncheon, without telling her she hasn't been paying anything on it. So now she's crashed out in our home. The home our father just died in after she hardly came to visit him in his time of need when it would have meant everything to him. She claims it's hard to forgive him for kicking her out of his house one time 26 years ago. And she's only here to drain what is left of my mother's resources and energy. It really does feel like a demon moved in and refuses to leave.
The point you made about pets for me was a clue to a cursed ❤🔥home while growing up several decades ago. We had a beautiful sheltie dog named Duke from puppyhood and this is a gentle breed, but as he got older he became less friendly towards family members, even biting people. I remember my Dad put an ad in the paper to rehome the dog. No one responded. He was labelled a dog with a "vicious streak." This was not true. It was NOT a genetic aberration. He was being abused, physically abused in some cases, but also confinement abuse (i.e: kept in a small cage, which he could not turn around in, in the basement at night, not a proper bed or at least a crate). He was fed a poor diet, the cheapest possible dry food which at times he wouldn't eat because it was also mushy and stale, and table scraps from time to time was the only plus as at least during these times he was given real meat. I took him outside for a lot of walks regularly until I left home for college. One day I was walking home from high school and this German Shepard was following me. I was afraid of this dog and also puzzled. On the front porch of the door step he refused to leave. He didn't growl or show aggression, but still I was afraid. There was no other way for me to enter the house. The gate to the back was locked. I was going to just open the door and abruptly close it. It didn't work. The dog followed me in. Duke was right there at the entrance. The German shepherd just simply sniffed Duke, and Duke also sniffed him. No aggression whatsoever. They sniffed each other for several minutes and then the dog left. It didn't occur to me until much later that this was a "wellness check." 😢I wish I would have caught on. What was it about Duke that was so compelling to the German Shepherd, that caused him to escape from his yard and come over to our house to check on him? Urine holds a lot of information. The German Shepherd sniffing the urine that gave off clues of distress is what probably did it. I wish I would have known this at the time. I would not have left when I did. He died when he was only 9 years old. A perfectly nice sweet dog ruined as a result of narcissistic abuse. 😥💔🦮 RIP Duke! I had the ability to detect auras, but it was overshadowed by my need to survive.
I definitely agree with the spiritual thing. I had the worst nightmares I’ve ever experienced and during the day, in that environment, I felt as though something or someone was watching me or standing/moving behind me and I would often catch myself swivelling around to see if something or someone was there. Sometimes I would catch something in my peripheral vision. I thought I was going insane because that had never happened before. The depression every day of waking up in that persons home, it didn’t feel like a home. It was soulless. I landed up moving into my room and locking myself away and I couldn’t bare to be in the same room as this person. I’ve finally locked into what’s actually happening and am looking to move out. For my sanity. Being codependent on a narcissist is like a living torture hell.
Wow thank you I felt a lot of resonance with almost everything you spoke about in this video. It was such an honest window into the darkness of a narcissistic home. Thank you
100% Danish. Excellent video! I suffered Thirty three years of this, before I finally left. I used to have night terrors, when I would suddenly jump out of my sleep, in a cold sweat, and unable to breathe, gasping for air, shaking and screaming. What I found very strange, was that the narcissist didn't do anything to help me. He would either stay sleeping, or turn on his side, away from me. I would feel weak and exhausted the following day, but he would be up really early, opening the curtains, and shouting at me, to get up, and when I did, it was just another day of berating me, or silent treatment, unless he was going to work. When he was working, it brought relief, and the black clouds lifted. I was allowed to be myself when he was gone, but the black clouds descended again, when he returned. My daughter is still living in the house, until her wedding in November. He is giving her a terrible time. She stays with me and my husband as often as she can. My daughter's wedding should be the best day of her life, but having the narcissist at the wedding is not sitting well with those who know him, and especially me. I have no contact with him, and to come face to face with him again, I have no idea how I will feel. My new husband has never met him, nor does he want to. He is very protective of me. I have told him to ignore the narcissist, and don't be reactive, as this is what narcissists want. Any reaction is still supply. Focus should be on my daughter and her husband to be, and for their sake, it must be a day to remember for all the right reasons. The narcissist is insisting on my daughter inviting his new circle of "friends", to the wedding, but my daughter has never met them, and she knows they are not his "friends", but the friends of his new supply. He has no friends. I know he is trying to appear to be Mr Popularity, at the wedding..."look at me...I have moved on and loving life...look how everyone loves me...I'm so popular...see, you were the problem... I'm well over you". The narcissist is showing signs of threatening behaviour towards my daughter, and she told him the police were just a phone call away. His reply was, "they'll never believe you". His new supply has no idea what she is getting into, but it's not my job to tell her. She will find out for herself, eventually.
My narc husband. is a hoarder. The garbage is full of nonsense. I cleaned it all out one year when he was at work, took everything to the garbage dump, now it’s full of crap again. Before we lived together my house was clean and tidy. As soon as I clean, he purposely goes and makes a mess. I don’t even bother to clean anymore, just do the bare minimum.
My nex is this way. He gets mad if you throw out garbage. I insisted he toss a mattress a buddy of his messed up when he stayed with us. I don't know what the guy did, but it looked like he'd unalived someone on it. The nex still fusses about tossing the mattress, but not the fact that his friend destroyed it.
@@Hatbox948 I have someone who starts an incident because I threw away some cherries that looked bad. I thought they were grapes! He insisted I threw them away not because they were bad, but that I knew that he liked them. That's some Olympic level mental gymnastics for sure.
Great video Danish! Words of Exact Truth! They're misers who feel all powerful controlling other's financial stability. Because l was a minor when my dad passed away, my narc mom held me hostage by withholding and using my own inheritance money against me. These parents do not guide and teach you to become responsible, self reliant adults. Instead they treat you like prisoners and blame you for the misery in their lives.
3:03 it did not sound odd to me, that Narcs need animalistic supply, because they themselves are alien to humanity, so ... they go after lesser life forms and enjoy the animals' dependencies for the control.
This is spot on. 5 years ago I walked away from everything including property after almost 32 years of this. I don't know how I survived or why it took so long for me to get out. It felt like an escape. Although I struggle on my own and don't have all the nice things anymore it was worth leaving. No more walking on eggshells. No more wondering what was going to happen that day.
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Narcissistic abuse should be a crime.
Yeah but you don´t have evidence... You know if you don´t see scares on your skin you don´t have evidence... But yeah it should be a crime. But without evidence sadly no crime.
Not gonna happen. All lawmakers are narcissists.
Trust me, they get away with murder. They must be the luckiest human beasts on earth.
It is a crime but they get away with it 😢
Evil energy so true 👍 👌 💯 🙌
My home was my haven until he turned it into a fight arena. He's gone so it's my haven again❤
I ended up leaving my home. I was so angry that someone destroyed my space. But like he says "id rather be homeless" than deal with that junk
@wendylou8963 - I have the same situation as you. So glad to be alone and free in my beautiful home. It has taken me 12 months to get rid of all the junk he forced me to buy, now I see space and it helps me feel amazing again (in and out).
My narc son moved back home and it was scary. I figured I was going to have to leave a place I loved but he actually left. I'm still in shock.
Same here 👍
That dark energy is real. Even when they claim to be Christian 😢
I think it is worse when they hide behind Christianity and use God. And there are a lot of them. Have a great day!
@@IShallNotBeSilentSo true!
Mine did same
the devil always hunts Christians and is jealous of their belonging to God.
He is by nature a thief, a destroyer, a killer - he creates facades and fakes.
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Now and again , I used to see a dark shadow out of the corner of my right eye.in the lounge. Since he left , it has gone...
When my narcissistic spouse is home, our home is a living hell. When he's gone, things feel so light. He had a massive rage fest today and then expected me to act like it never happened. He is a monster that we are forced to hide away from. And, you're right, no one comes here anymore. I'm saving to escape.
Me too I am working on a plan
Stay strong x
Take care of yourselves.
My 3 year old granddaughter says Daddy is a monster 😢
My narc husband is chasing away my children one at a time. And he blames me. I see the manipulation, it has many faces, but I see them all. He’s lost our respect, he may end up dying alone.
I moved out of my parents house when my narcissist mother was on a trip. I had secretly rented a flat and when they were gone, I grabbed a mattress and some clothes, stuffed it in my car and left. When she returned I was gone. Boom. Today and 30 years later I shake my head in disbelief that as a young person (21 years) I had to act like I was escaping from someone holding me captive.
Now, that was true bravery! I'm so glad you escaped! ❤
im almsot there. im 23 living with my abusive MIL due to my own narc parents and having a child w her son. we are planning our escape. and keeping it secret so she doesnt somehow sabotage it or do something insane
@@annjohnson8437 thank you 😊
That's EXACTLY what it feels like..
I feel like a "hostage"...
For making it hell for you, one would think they would be happy and helpful for you to start adulting on your own. BUT instead they make it difficult, sabotage it, and do nothing to help and have you distracted on the emotional roller coaster.
They don't want you to feel comfortable.
100% They have to have you uncomfortable in order for them to feel comfortable. That they control the energy in the room
They hate it lol. That's why by my father who's. Narcissistic demon. By him I always relax fully. Drink his pop eat his food. Relax on his couch.
My mom let's me stay sometimes lol. My dad hates it. Every day he has a bad day is generally a good day for me 🤣 pooing in his toilet as I write this 😂😭
At all
Bullseye…I experience it daily.
Bullseye…I experience it daily.
Absolutely true point to point. There is a strange negative energy in the house, no signs or efforts of change, prosperity in the house. No birthdays or festivals celebrated with joy and peace, no visitors or guests coming. You just feel suffocated in the house, in their presence. You feel better outside the house.
Yes OCD thing also true with both extremes.
Have separated from the person but still have nightmares of his presence in the house, room. Really scary at times. It's very difficult to heal from such things and go back to our past normal selves.
Need lots of courage.
We definitely celebrate my narcs birthday ( I feel so fake) but I hate my own bdays now..I no longer want to celebrate them with the narc.. I go out just by myself during the day, and do something special for myself..and enjoy my peace abs quiet.
You are so true - strange negative energy, no joy or celebrations, you feel better outside the house. Oh, we did "celebrate" birthdays, but there was no joy, no peace. As feeling better outside the house - listen to this (you probably won't believe it): I was feeling so paranoid, I even told my husband a couple of times, and I told him I go outside when I'm scared. He always said "Why do you go outside if you're scared? Why do you go outside to where they are? Why don't you stay inside the house?" Du-uh, because "they" are inside the house. I feel safer outside than in my own house.
Courage ... His own mother used that word oh I need to pluck up the courage 😢 yet I had to live with him .
Heavy is true. I cannot breathe. The stress is insane.
Living with a narcissist is like enduring a relentless nightmare. They strip away the peace and warmth of your home, turning it into a battlefield of manipulation and control. Every conversation becomes a calculated attack on your self-worth, leaving you doubting your reality. The outside world sees their charm, but behind closed doors, they wield their narcissism like a weapon, isolating you and making your home feel like a prison. You slowly lose yourself as they twist your mind, turning your sanctuary into a living hell.
I lived with one for 18 months. After the 3rd month, when the Love Bombing ended, she wanted to argue with me every moment she was awake. I was constantly criticized, ridiculed, and yelled at by her. She was living with me rent-free because of her massive credit card debt. It would take me a year to get her out of my home. 6 weeks after the break-up, she went on her Smear Campaign. She targeted my family, friends, and co-workers. When she ran out of tactics to go after my inner circle, she went to my work and tried to get me fired. I don't do social media, but she harassed me through fake people profile emails and Instant Messenger. Also, she has been signing me up for computer spam. The on-line harassment is anonymous but been going on for 16 years. I wish you well.
I feel like you've been to my home..!
VERY ACCURATE..
They make it seem so uncomfortable
@@kelly450 yes totally agree 👍
Ooh...my...!you've described my husband how I wish I had someone abroad I go visit and get away from all these am so tired feel like am loosing my mind😢😢 my home is hell 😢
I left that narcissistic husband 6 1/2 years ago, and I’m now with someone who wants me to be ME. I had been married over 40 years, and I’m still adjusting to being free. But I’m getting there!!!
Amen 🙏 God is with you it is well. Am also praying for someone who we can relate well with. Am leaving my almost 15 yrs in marriage
So happy for you 🎉
Man that was my life with my husband. He controlled everything. There was always bad energy in our home. He made sure he ruined most holidays. And no one ever came over.
All five were my experience with 52 years of marriage. So glad I'm finally free.
I can relate. Facing that now and will probably be happier than I think!
I've been married to mine for 37 years. I married him when I was 18 and he was 25. We have 5 grown kids. I've been disabled for over 20 years, and am in a wheelchair. He has never made any changes to our home so that I can get to different rooms and use my home. I'm relegated to our bedroom, bathroom and living room. I feel imprisoned. Plus, since I am unable to keep house or even get into the kitchen, he continually piles stuff up like a hoarder and doesn't care that it is a total mess. No one can visit because of this. Every room is a hoarded mess. I feel like he is abusive in this way. And if I get on him about any small thing, it is seen as a personal criticism. He will then take it out on our kids...our youngest is 19 and she and he really can't stand each other. She wants a close relationship with him, but he acts like he can barely stand her, is always running his mouth off, saying negative things about her. If I could afford to, I would be done with this. He makes all the money and I would be homeless. I deserve better, and so does our youngest, who still lives at home. Just wanted to share.
@@heyokaempath5802 I am praying for you and your daughter.🙏. You DO deserve better. Can a local church or social services give you help to get more independence from this situation. It is so frustrating and dangerous! In the meantime ignore him!
@@heyokaempath5802 Oh, my. That sounds like a difficult scenario, difficult for you but I must say that I'm a horrible nurse-type person and couldn't take care of anyone so it has to be difficult for him too? It sounds like a challenging life for you that's for sure. I'm sorry to hear that. I hope things change for you!
Oh my gosh 😢 I'm so 😢 😞 I don't know what to say. Going on 19 years myself... 🤔
I had a sad epiphany recently....my life, as I knew it before, stopped since living with 'my' narcissist....everything good in my life, and about me, ended. They crush and destroy everything.
Narcissist also love starving their children and trying control their childrens money flow so many double standards. Good video on this topic!
Hoarding, dark energy, isolation, terror, money wasted & a total mess: You hit the hammer right on the nail! If I didn't know better, I'd think you were talking about me! You described my life with that psychopath so perfectly! And I thought nobody knew & nobody understood!
The hoarding was horrendous.
There was no communication. No joy, no celebrations, no creativity, no visitors.
The evil energy was so thick you could cut it with a knife. The horror, the terror.
And with the hoarding (it was so bad you couldn't even walk) and the evil energy, there'd be no way I'd invite someone over for coffee.
And the finances were the biggest mess, money was wasted.
I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy.
As soon as I got out of that mess, I became a minimalist. I'm no longer a minimalist because I no longer feel I need that title. I just have what I need/want/what brings me joy and don't have what I don't need/want. And the first thing I said "I want the love in my house to be so thick you can cut it with a knife".
Same here. He would waste so much money on equipment, or materials like steel. I remember when $6000 steel tresses sat junking up the place for years. Same with farm equipment that just sat. He would never let me spend money on the house, and I couldn't throw away anything, or clean up the tools and supplies he would drag in the house by the door. Stuff that belonged in the barn, but had to be inside by the door.
Christmas " celebration"🎄was the worst ...Always fierce fighting and total drama, including fallen trees, burning trees etc.
Since I am living alone,
I gift myself Christmas Peace: just sitting in silence , stillness and peace. I invite nobody,
don' t have a tree, don' t cook anything, simply enjoy
- thoroughly - the absence of drama.🕯️
@gift myself Christmas Peace: same Christmas here. No gifts, no tree. I do cook so I can have our culture's traditional Christmas dinner. I sit down and enjoy that lovely meal in total silence. Christmas oddly seemed to agitate the demons of my family. I feel peace as I type this. My very intelligent children understand my reasons and respect my tradition. Continued peace with you.
@@2anthro 🙏
@@mellifergold I dreaded the holidays too... Trees thrown on the street with all the ornaments.. destroyed and took away presents..etc..
I enjoy the peace of the holidays now but have never gotten the joy of decorating back.
@@325aliceI ...but then, you are probably also simply glad and grateful that those days are over and won' t be coming back
and perhaps with time you ' ll find the freedom to live your own life just as you prefer without the shadows of the past 💟
👍
Also there’s a darkness in them in their eyes and surrounding them
So true!
You can never relax around these demons.I have my space back but until all their belongings are gone,I still feel a dark force and perpetual bad luck and I have always been a lucky person.
The terror-I never knew what I was coming home to after work. I never knew what was going to make him go dark, followed by his maniacal laughter at my tears once he accomplished his goal of knocking me down to nothing. It's amazing how the heaviness is gone and how positivity can remain now that he's found new supply and moved out.
Yeah it's like thank God they found a new victim right?
I would purposely stay late at work (I was on salary at this particular time, so I could stay late), because I knew, the minute I walked in that door, the abuse would begin.
I'm also trying to get out so desparetly.. But financially dependant now... I wish he would find new supply and leave me! I'm so scared of what he would be capable of if I leave him😢
@Colorburstbaby meanwhile good men are out here praying they find someone like you... it's just so messed up. I'm working on healing my childhood wounds from narcissistic parental abuse it's so lonely most days. I'm praying God has a real one for me one day when I'm ready to truly love someone. It's not that I don't want to love somebody I just never was taught how to love myself and say no to people
@OriontheChosen Thanks for your comment, it made me realize I never knew how to love myself, after a lifetime of parental abuse and ending up with 2 narcissistic psychopath parents, in addition to 2 narcissistic psychopath siblings. That's probably why I ended up with a narcissistic psychopath husband. My parents & 2 siblings didn't love me, and the husband was the same way.
I lived with one for 14 years and it is true once he left I slept so good!!! It is spiritual warfare ✝️I was never my true self
Narcissism is a demonic spirit. You are CORRECT. Spiritual warfare is the only way to banish it, and the battle is the Lord's! 🙏🏻
Yes your right it's spiritual warfare . Everyday.
Our house was on the other hand full of people coming and going all the time, it felt like living in a caffe where I was a barista, and it was a relief for me because my parents were nice when the guest were around and I was allowed to help myself to the sweets. And yes, money is the narcissist’s most precious asset. They love your money more than anything in the world.
Cant believe what an echo this is Danish, thank you so much for sharing, the atmosphere you could cut with a cheese knife, 30 years of siezures at night and being trapped in my bedroom . Its taken me 55 years to come through the trauma bond cant believe how much stronger I am these days.
Awesome that you’re healing I am too now 60 years later. God is blessing me keep up the good work
14 And no marvel; for Satan himself is transformed into an angel of light.2 Corinthians11-14
"Id rather be homeless" omg 100 percent
A narcissist can turn you this way. A state of confusion.
I feel like you were listening to our conversation last night. My daughters and me were duscussing all of these things; the hoarding, the animals, throwing our things away, the heaviness in the air when they are here and what relief can be felt when they are gone. There is definitely a spiritual presence involved.
I know this sounds funny, crazy maybe. But when my ex narc(murderous pshyco) went to town, i would take off all my clothes and run around the outside of our house😂 thank goodness we lived in a very isolated area.
Many people will understand the feeling of freedom when they are gone. You no longer have a gun pointed at your head, and he is not trying to look at you through the key hole of your bedroom door. I coul go on. You poor friends out there, it is better to leave with nothing than to leave in a mortuary van. I did and at 73 i am alone and exept for ptsd... I am happy now. My love goes out to you all.❤
Labor Day 2012 was the day i had enough. 12 years completely free today ❤
I think it's sad that narcs really don't know how to be happy. When their lives are good, they 😢 ruin them with more chaos. & you will get sucked into their chaos if you get too close.
I experienced bad skin breakout because of my ex narc
After leaving him, my skin is soooo clear ❤
Fibromyalgia with full body pain. Often felt like I was carrying him (I am 5'3" he is 6'1" and 250+ lbs) Many times I felt taller than I am and cannot look in the mirror when that happens. Also stage 1 lung cancer, thankfully contained and removed. He is blocked everywhere. I have had to get help with blocking him from my mind and body. This still needs more work to clear, but its hard going because I believe demons are involved. We all need help from Source and to be as strong as we can be ❤
I do interior design and I am very good at it, the more I accomplished, the more compliments I got the more he was brimming with anger. He systematically started making things disappear, then started bringing in things from dumpster diving in consignment store dumpsters. He started screwing around in the kitchen as if it was a workshop, put epoxy on garage tools and put them in a 15k Decor oven to "bake" the enamel. Then he stopped trash service. Why? He had to go through all the trash before taking it to put in restaurant dumpsters. Keep in mind that he drove a Mercedes, wore Versace and had a couple Rolexes. Far from broke. But, he began cutting his own hair, putting all kinds of crap in the dishwasher and we had 2....broke both. Then he started burning household garbage in yet another unfinished project (outdoor fireplace) and left.....fire started from the ash floating into our neighbor's wooded back yard and a fire started burning their landscaping and it cost our insurance 42K. He was jealous, controlling and covert. Around every corner, he caused another disaster resulting in yet ANOTHER fire so bad we had to move out for 1 YEAR! There is much more but I can tell you he was an ultra narc, a liar, manipulator and he was in it for the long game. I dated him 5 years before marrying. Found out from my attorney he was still legally married during that time. His son's suffered, his ex wife went no contact and mouths kept shut about his antics. It took 3 years to get out of that transactional so called marriage. I was gaslighted and breadcrumbed, was confused and didn't know why I had anxiety, fear and trepidation. It altered my life, I got out, was getting physically ill. Lots of therapy and family support. Lastly, I want to convey that anything I cherished, enjoyed, paid for....he would destroy. Soulless meat suits walking the earth. BEWARE of love bombing! That's where it started.
My narcissistic father had all these traits. You are correct.
@@michaelbergstein2015 my condolences. Truly. These people are rotten to the core.
Yes same situation with my narc wife and son😈👹 they throw away some of my artistic work like trash. Disrespect and gas lighting all year around. Really tired of been abused , thinking of selling the house and live on my own 👍
@ I identify with that comment. It's devaluing you, and the things that are meaningful to you, they are disrespectful and they will misappropriate your things, especially if it's sentimental to you. I was not loved, I was used as an appliance. At my age you would think I would have caught on. Frankly, I was in disbelief. The situation was a mind bender, I suffered the consequences. I am staying single, difficult for me to trust anyone.
Now i can go to the grocery store and if a dark energy is close to me my heart starts to hurt. Its like living in a tomb i hated going home with that energy. I could of had a great day or a fun time and the cloud of that home came over me as soon as i came into the environment. Evil entities reside
After two months living with d nar, I suddenly develop a heart palpitations.and he hated my visitors for no reason..am now living alone and happy
So true. It is a living hell indeed. I have to hide my true feelings until it is safe to get out. He is obsessed with minimal items in the home. He hates that I have my mother's things in my home since she died. He doesn't treat my things with any respect and has broken several things of mine with no remorse whatsoever. 😢
I can't have any decorations or anything he breaks it all, 22 years married
@@psalm91.777 I'm sorry. I know what you mean. He broke the last present which was an ornament from my mother before she died. He didn't care. He said "I don't want to hear another word about this".
@@MR-ly4xt that's terrible, I am sorry, did you leave? I am trying to soon
@@psalm91.777 Sadly not yet. I'm trying, but have nobody to help and I have a multitude of health issues. We went up the street a couple of days ago and he shouted at me the whole time because he had to carry my bag. He said I suppose you're going to need to sit down somewhere in an irritated voice. He thinks I make my health conditions up, despite me being in pain and taking medication daily from the GP.
precisely the lack of respect and remorse for our things is also a nasty sign😢
No love. Rage! No birthdays or vacation plans for sure. No friends. Lonely mess!
I'm amazed that you nailed every single thing I go through on a daily basis. No exaggeration, I mean everything. And I'm proud to say that after 27 years of that pure hell I went through, that I finally got the courage and strength from the good lord above to leave that monster and I've been gone for 3 weeks and I'm not going to lie but I'm terrified. I'm not going back but it's scary being alone. Please pray for me. I want to thank you for your videos.
Bless you🌿🤍
@@kelly450 thank you so much and bless you as well.
U will survive and thrive! Join a recovery group consider a friendly church w/ women who can support you. Not stuffy religion. Support n growth.
I understand. Been there. Join a group of ladies who can support u.
🙏🙏🙏 and please feel free to add me to your prayers so that I can find a way to leave mine. He says henwill change, and in a couple of ways, he has, but not in most ways. I make just over too much for most help, but barely enough to rent even though I am in the cheaper Midwest. I can't rent, though, because he destroyed my credit by adding me to his credit card without my permission, and also, because then I can't afford to pay any of the bills. SMH, I have a dear friend in another state offering me a place to stay, but husband won't let me drive, he has taken parts off cars to keep them from running and I know nothing about fixing them. He also forced me to give him my inheritance that he claims is now gone... All I need are lots of prayers, the more, the better. Oh, and some of my confidence back.
I am happy at work but when I come back I stay at the gate for hours wondering whether to get in or not.
Yes, this is right!
I haven’t wanted to meditate when the narcissist is home.
Now I know why!
Thank you, sir.
@@AlEdJedLee , Yes I feel that! My prayer life, devotional time, and relationship with the Lord was suppressed whenever he was around.
I'm so sorry for all your trauma. I've grown up in a narcissistic family but yours is worse... Peace to you my brother! 🙏🏻🙌🏻
It’s a low feeling. Like you know not to show too much happiness. If you do show happiness or joy, they might quickly dampen your good mood. It’s not like this every single day BUT the risk is ALWAYS high. The risk of waking up the monster within them
I really liked the comment about the air feels heavy. it really hit home for me!!!
Absolutely..
Had a family but never a HOME!
Spot on video - I am living with a narcissist & I need to ESCAPE ASAP - no lease renewal
Even with growing up in a dysfunctional home as a teen I was organized and I loved to rearrange my room. Even though all the turmoil in the beginning with 2 kids I could keep up with the drama and it seemed like he resented having a family life. I would rearrange the furniture and try to keep the house looking fresh and different and that would bother him. I would paint and decorate the house and try to make the house feel homey and comfortable and no matter what I did I never truly felt like I was home, his disappointment in me weighed down all my efforts and I slowly gave up trying to make a home. It kills the spirit to try to reach for a love that doesn't respect your efforts and damages everything inside you. And add the mental and emotional chaos and with the infidelity and insults and it makes it hard to function and live.
Right on Danish. When the narcissist left my house it was like a dark cloud left with him.
One thing the narc in my family enjoyed the most was giving away the things we had to his acquaintances (who weren't even poor or needy), without even asking us to look like a charitable person. One such example was giving my brother's harmonica which he had bought with brother had bought with his own savings to some other kid, while promising that he'd get him another one. A promise which he obviously never kept.
So much rings true in this -the people in the home and the animals are subservient to the things and money …the hoarding and then the throwing out or “regifting” of gifts -there is a book “Love People Use Things” sadly in my home it was “Use People Love Things” you are a survivor and thriver helping others with these videos
it very true a single narcissist can turn a home into hell no to mention all the narcissists psychopaths together where i live have turn the city into hell all of them barking like dogs everywhere i ask myself all that it,s happening because their end is very near
Dear Bashir, I'm living with a narcissist husband and going through the EXACT SAME THINGS with him everyday! I'm stuck in his country and have nowhere to go literally and have felt awful everyyyyyy single day so far! YOU DO KNOW EVERYTHING about the narcissists and let me tell you something else! I was born in a very district Muslim family, then I became an atheist, then an agnostic, but living with a narcissist I have gone through the same night terrors, feeling like the devil is watching me while I sleep, in my dreams I saw black figures staring straight me, sometimes telling me to yell at him, sometimes I float in the air and see my own body on bed beside him and as soon as I'm getting in my body I somehow realise that the demons want to attack me or choke me, I can't say Bismillah because they hate it and so many other things happened since I married him that I have believed in God's And devils existence! It's not a 100% psychological! Demons do exist and they most of the times control narcissists emotions and actions
Call on King Jesus. Demon's must flee.
I know it wasn't supposed to be funny, but when you said you'd rather be homeless than live with a narcissist right at the beginning of the video, I could not stop laughing. Thank you for all your hard work making these videos. I just love your style.
He let us know how horrible his narcissist mate was lol.he really is venting 😂
I always enjoy your content. And your hair looks really nice! My ex-narc was a hoarder, spender, and after a while I noticed poor grooming and hygiene. Once they were “sure of me” and had a place to live, their repulsive habits emerged.
Here's my list before watching, just to compare our lists ;)
1. Expecting any cleaning or cooking will be done by you.
2. Awake and being loud especially when you need sleep.
3. Walking around undressed
4. Unfinished projects all over the house
5. Your stuff is also their stuff
6. Triangulating you with anyone else around.
Ok i need to learn more! Gonna watch now..
That video describes the hellous 4 year narcissistic abuse relationship I was in with my narcissist. I finally escaped, I'm in a safe place now and getting help to heal and move on with my life. Thank you Danish for your helpful and informative videos ❤
Thank u so much for this episode. Finally i have the explanation i have been looking for since my son was diagnosed with ADHD. No doctor would tell me.
The doctors said he just had ADHD but I knew it had to be something more because it wasnt just not being able to keep.things in order. He would hoard, destroy and steal, lie with ease, torture animals and laugh and he was just a little boy, and the list goes on. And that was from an early age and exploded in attack against me when instarted saying no to him, notngiving him what he asked for, and redirecting his behavior.. he absolutely never changed in any respect.despite years of therapy. Thank u for talking about this from a spiritual perspective because i think this is the core of what is going on. It is not when he came to this world that he was a person affected by a medical condition. It is that the condition of his spirit is reflected in his body and that means he was born that way, reflecting who he truly is. If u look at the illnesses u have, it is your body reflecting where the illness of your soul lies. And as to demons, im not going to gonas far as tonsay my son is a demon, but i feel very.comfortable saying he is accompanied by demonic forces and they have taken over because he chose to let them in because he thought that would be an easy way to get what he wanted with no work and who cares who gets hurt. I pity him. He has barely evolved despite all the love and example i modeled.for him. The only one who helped me get through these 18 years was God. I never let go of his hand or i would have been consumed.
I agree. They are born that way. Psalm 58:3-5 KJV. Also Genesis 3:15 about two different seedlines. However, they still have a choice and free will to do good or evil.
My childhood miseries and constant worries make total sense now. It's actually comforting to know I really didn't have a problem/was crazy. Your videos are so spot on. Thank you so much for sharing and now helping so many people!!!
I will have my stomach churn whenever i approach the house door.
Praise be to God for my focus is now on My Lord. 🙏❤
The air feels heavy, that was my childhood around my parents. If they weren’t fighting the air was heavy with bitterness. No love, no hugs, no kisses. I spent most of my time alone.
I see light blue 💙 in the background, which represents the Throat Chakra, because I hear TRUTH on this topic, and no LIES. Thank you.
You are a CYCLE BREAKER Danish a rare 💎. Keep up your amazing work waking souls up from abusive relationships
I experienced regular sleep paralysis at my father’s house as a child from the chronic stress of hearing him screaming at his wife. They were terror manifest
A year or so ago I moved in with my friend and her mother because her mom was terminal and needed help with care. I didn't realize my friend was a narcissist , but I'm convinced that's why we went through a haunting. I saw a woman that looked like her in the house twice, and I did have nightmares. I think your right about the spiritual side of dealing with a narcissist.
my monster father in law infested our domicile from 2014 to 2020, demonstrating all of these behaviors. Worst part was we employed him in our family business, meeting his ridiculous demand of having a salary higher than my wife and I who operate our business. He brought nothing to the table and it was constant sabotage to everything. When our house flooded in 2020 and he spearheaded the "renovation," it drove us to the breaking point. but thank god we cut him entirely out of our lives and he can no longer abuse any of us anymore.
The second half is bang on. I've always enjoyed being alone because I was free from living in terror, even if it was just a little while. The financial narcissist is my husband. Money is his sole motivation, and he's in debt that he'll never come out of.
Yep, I was the black sheep of the family. The darkness and evil are a real thing and felt very strongly. I moved into my crafting studio and only go into the house when necessary. He keeps stating he will not be alive ten more years. It may sound harsh, but that statement let's me see a light at the end of the tunnel. Oh, it is my properties that he refuses to leave. I am not going to spend time and money fighting evil, so, I travel a lot, make crafts and do craft markets until his self proclaimed 10 years is up. In the mean while, I am getting my ducks in a row, and living a different life. He pays for a storage unit that is nothing but his parents things when they passed. I refused it to be in my home. Thank you Danish, and be blessed!
An awful way to live .
@@Stardustpal25 Yes, But I am moving on and healing and he knows it. I am happier than I have ever been knowing I am in charge of me and my future. Well, The Most High, My Father is in charge of my life and future, and He has my six.
I can empathize. About 12 years ago I let a "friend" in need come into my house to rent a room. It wasn't long before my house was filled with boxes of junk this dumpster diving lunatic brought in. In 2020 I had had enough and finally stood up for myself and got him to clear a great deal of it out. I suffered a lot during that process but at least have a living and dining room again. The room he rents is piled high with junk and is not livable. Luckily, he has a new supply and spends most of his time away from here. The down side is that he will show up once a week or so to inflict some emotional abuse. We had an argument about a week where he made sure to remind me how much he hates me and that I will never be able to get rid of him.
@@jamesplumhoff3215 My heart goes out to you. I have learned to not show any reaction or emotion and most of the time I do not even respond. I am just a tough nosed one that when I found out what all this was about, I turned hard nosed and went in for the fight for my life and freedom. I have learned to not even care. I have something within me, that when it clicks, it is over and there is no going back......well, It Clicked, and he knew the moment it did and that he had really messed up and it was over. So now he is trying to make me suffer. I told him I was "Not" sitting here holding his hand and dying. So I travel, leave him at home, and I love it. I know everyone is not like me though, and it brakes my heart to see so many going through this that feel trapped with no way out.
My peaceful home. My safe, beautiful home. Has turned into something very different. I've never had raised voices here. But now I do. I've never felt unsafe here. But now I do. And apparently it's all my fault. Odd that. As It was never like it till he came along.
It's like living in a Mine Field. Every step is frought with misery and anxiety. You sense deep down when they are about to kick off, it's palpable. Run to the hills and don't look back.
Holidays were hell.
@@wendyg8758 , you're spot on with that!! Same for me as well. More stress, hassle and attitude than peace, comfort and joy.
Narcs and demonic energy are linked. I used to wake up constantly and I would feel so scared for no aparent reason, I thought. After the narc left I stopped being scared, the energy changed.❤
I got a covert a cat. She would leave it alone for 4 days at a time. The cat became like a demon like her. Crazy
I use to get headaches what felt like daily. I thought maybe my job had mold in the building or something. Since he’s been gone, the only time I get headaches is if I’m dehydrated or haven’t eaten enough.
In July 2022, I went with my family to Florida from Texas (we drove). I felt at such peace while there. The entire drive back to Texas, I just felt a sense of dread and kept thinking “I REALLY don’t want to go home.” I sobbed most of the drive home. After getting home, EVERYTHING escalated. My house was my safe haven before allowing him to move in. The second he got there, the energy shifted and I felt anxious. Initially I just assumed it was due to the anxiety I developed during the pandemic and the winter storm. I was so wrong.
A narcissist used to visit and sit in my lounge. It was not anything he specifically did but it was enormously depressing, I would cry after he left, sometimes in front of him. I had lost my husband less than a year previously so I thought it was grief. It was partly grief, and also the realisation that I was now a target for this kind of person. It is not only men who are narcissists. A woman will bump into you in the supermarket claiming to be a neighbour and wanting to know you better. All the time they are triangulating with another neighbour who has been offended by your happiness for a long, long time and wants to bring you down. On no account let these people into your home, do not WhatsApp them either. Anything you say will be held against you.
Thank you for all your videos. They're extremely helpful
The sad thing is that I really do have medical conditions that I can’t even do most of the things that would be normal daily activities and instead of stepping up to the plate he vilifies me to every single person he can. Smudging was a thing that did help me as soon as he left town. You have been a light in a very dark tunnel. Thank you, Danish.
Danish, I can relate to every comment of yours. My Childhood home is a beautiful joint family home built like a Palace by my Grandfather, but once my Narcisstic Mother (and my Father who is not a Narc, but a Follower of my Mother's needs to the Nth core) took over the entire property and evicting all my cousins, it was a Nightmare to me. I ran away as a teenager 3 times. Preferring Homelessness than this Horrific Home.
My wife is a narcissist. I thought she had OCD but after watching your program I now understand that OCD is part of narcissism. No one comes to our house. My daughter doesn't want to speak to her and keep my grandchildren away from my wife.
I watch your programme every night before going to bed , it helps me to analyse my wife's action what's coming next. I have been listening to her all my life. Now I know what's behind her actions. I am a very calm person I now know her all the wicked actions a big thanks to you I am managing my life better now. I am 75 years old. Life became hell after I retired because I am spending more time at home living with the devel .
SAME!! SAME!!! I will NEVER live with them again!
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You described this exactly… only those who live with such creatures can truly understand that this description was exactly right on.
Thanks, Danish. Narcissists make life hell with everything they do and everything they say.
I could never figure out why I never felt peace in my home. I had no idea he was covertly sabotaging any peace or joy i tried to bring to our lives. 35 years of confusion! Thank goodness I finally came out of the fog.
Thank you for describing my childhood with such understanding.
I learned very quickly that I could not live in the same home as my narcissistic ex. I thought that if I had my own space it would improve. I rented the 1st floor of a garage apartment and he rented the top floor. It didn’t work. He constantly expected me to let him in whenever he wanted and wouldn’t respect my need for privacy. I refused to let him in and he busted my door open. He tried it again, but I had rolled my upright piano to the front door and blocked it and he couldn’t get in! 😊 He tantrumed so badly that I actually packed up a moving van secretly 12:48 while he was at work and was about to drive to another state when he arrived earlier than I expected and then begged me crying not to leave. Too late for him. Best decision I ever made.
Oh my gosh, it's like you've been here watching EVERYTHING. 100% ACCURATE
I'm sorry you went through all of that as a child. I'm glad you are bringing awareness to all the things we didn't know existed when we were growing up. We thought it was just our family that was the odd ones.
SO ACCURATE!! ❤ The last year before separation (2014), I couldn't stand being in the house anymore. I did yard work. I lived all day out in a gazebo I bought and was emotionally checked out.
I'm so glad you mentioned the "obsessed with cleaning" (and order I'll add) because it's hella true. The worst people I know are either cleaning obsessed (and order obsessed) or living in a super dirty and chaotic in order terms, place. It's likey are trying desperately to control life by those (not a health issues thing involved, those are exeptions). That and how they don't respect your stuff, how they almost laugh at your suffering for your things getting lost or broken.
My family , my (ex)husbands , my son ! Enough! No contact forever ! Thank you , Dan ! God bless you !
I am 62 years olds, and just discovered less than a year ago, that there was a name that explained why my 82 year old mother was/is the way she is. And she has become worse as she grows older. She is a Narcissist. It explains a WHOLE LOT! I have since gone no contact. My slightly younger brother understanding that she was the reason for his depression, and health issues, and low self esteem, etc... He has gone no contact as well. Best thing he's ever done for himself and his marriage.
My father died two weeks ago. He wasted away from Parkinsons disease. My eldest sister (his eldest daughter and golden child) didn't even bother coming to the funeral. She did show up for the luncheon wearing a cottage core green dress up above her knees and complained about the free food. My sister is 50 years old.
I was always the scapegoat/lost child. I never expected I would be the one to be a caregiver for my dying father but the disease made him soft and gentle and meek. I got the dad I always wanted these last several years and despite his illness, it meant everything in the world for me to be able to connect with him. I always was a daddy's girl, even though he seemed to resent he for even existing for the first 40 years of my life.
But now that he's gone, we're all grieving in this house. And after not showing up to his funeral, my sister started showing up at our house and other elder family members to ask to stay with them. None of them want her around. She doesn't care, and since my mom is already grieving and vulnerable, she's letting herself be taken horrible advantage of just to keep our other family members from having to carry that load in their own home.
She's left her bags all over the kitchen and living room. She's complained about the water pressure. Called other family members to complain about the water pressure so that my mom is too embarrassed for words. She stops by all hours of the day or night always needing something right now but then forcing others to wait hours for her to leave or show back up and get her junk out of their house.
She's only "homeless" because she attacked my brother in law a year ago and but a chunk out of his arm. He was trying to keep her from taking his keys. She's already totaled 4 rental cars on his company account so he can't afford to lose his only vehicle. He called the police that night out of fear that she would escalate the violence and ever since then, she had decided he's abusive and she doesn't feel safe living in their house. He's been funding her life away from him thinking she was just angry and needed to cool off. That was a year ago. She's used up all their money. He had to take a loan out on his 401k just to keep his bills paid... And he's now he sole caregiver of their 4 kids, whom she now claims he is abusing as well. So far she's drained about 80k from her husband and 24k of my mother's credit card with zero to show for any of it.
She was taking cash from him, promising to pay bills, then actually paying those bills on my now widowed mother's credit card. She returned the card to her at my dad's funeral luncheon, without telling her she hasn't been paying anything on it.
So now she's crashed out in our home. The home our father just died in after she hardly came to visit him in his time of need when it would have meant everything to him. She claims it's hard to forgive him for kicking her out of his house one time 26 years ago. And she's only here to drain what is left of my mother's resources and energy.
It really does feel like a demon moved in and refuses to leave.
The point you made about pets for me was a clue to a cursed ❤🔥home while growing up several decades ago. We had a beautiful sheltie dog named Duke from puppyhood and this is a gentle breed, but as he got older he became less friendly towards family members, even biting people. I remember my Dad put an ad in the paper to rehome the dog. No one responded. He was labelled a dog with a "vicious streak." This was not true. It was NOT a genetic aberration. He was being abused, physically abused in some cases, but also confinement abuse (i.e: kept in a small cage, which he could not turn around in, in the basement at night, not a proper bed or at least a crate). He was fed a poor diet, the cheapest possible dry food which at times he wouldn't eat because it was also mushy and stale, and table scraps from time to time was the only plus as at least during these times he was given real meat. I took him outside for a lot of walks regularly until I left home for college.
One day I was walking home from high school and this German Shepard was following me. I was afraid of this dog and also puzzled. On the front porch of the door step he refused to leave. He didn't growl or show aggression, but still I was afraid. There was no other way for me to enter the house. The gate to the back was locked. I was going to just open the door and abruptly close it. It didn't work. The dog followed me in. Duke was right there at the entrance. The German shepherd just simply sniffed Duke, and Duke also sniffed him. No aggression whatsoever. They sniffed each other for several minutes and then the dog left. It didn't occur to me until much later that this was a "wellness check." 😢I wish I would have caught on. What was it about Duke that was so compelling to the German Shepherd, that caused him to escape from his yard and come over to our house to check on him? Urine holds a lot of information. The German Shepherd sniffing the urine that gave off clues of distress is what probably did it. I wish I would have known this at the time. I would not have left when I did. He died when he was only 9 years old. A perfectly nice sweet dog ruined as a result of narcissistic abuse. 😥💔🦮 RIP Duke!
I had the ability to detect auras, but it was overshadowed by my need to survive.
You experienced sleep paralysis, stress and trauma can be triggers. Also you're more vulnerable for spirits if youre stressed and anxious
I definitely agree with the spiritual thing. I had the worst nightmares I’ve ever experienced and during the day, in that environment, I felt as though something or someone was watching me or standing/moving behind me and I would often catch myself swivelling around to see if something or someone was there. Sometimes I would catch something in my peripheral vision. I thought I was going insane because that had never happened before. The depression every day of waking up in that persons home, it didn’t feel like a home. It was soulless. I landed up moving into my room and locking myself away and I couldn’t bare to be in the same room as this person. I’ve finally locked into what’s actually happening and am looking to move out. For my sanity. Being codependent on a narcissist is like a living torture hell.
I AM GLAD FOR YOU THAT YOU ESCAPED!!! THE FAM. ITS SAD BUT EVEN IF ITS YR FAMILY. YOU HAVE TO PROTECT YOUR SANITY AND YOUR HEALTH
Danish Bashir....you're really brilliant at expressing what life is like in that sort of 'home' environment. Uncannily accurate. Thank you.
Wow thank you I felt a lot of resonance with almost everything you spoke about in this video. It was such an honest window into the darkness of a narcissistic home. Thank you
100% Danish. Excellent video! I suffered Thirty three years of this, before I finally left.
I used to have night terrors, when I would suddenly jump out of my sleep, in a cold sweat, and unable to breathe, gasping for air, shaking and screaming. What I found very strange, was that the narcissist didn't do anything to help me. He would either stay sleeping, or turn on his side, away from me.
I would feel weak and exhausted the following day, but he would be up really early, opening the curtains, and shouting at me, to get up, and when I did, it was just another day of berating me, or silent treatment, unless he was going to work. When he was working, it brought relief, and the black clouds lifted. I was allowed to be myself when he was gone, but the black clouds descended again, when he returned.
My daughter is still living in the house, until her wedding in November. He is giving her a terrible time. She stays with me and my husband as often as she can.
My daughter's wedding should be the best day of her life, but having the narcissist at the wedding is not sitting well with those who know him, and especially me. I have no contact with him, and to come face to face with him again, I have no idea how I will feel. My new husband has never met him, nor does he want to. He is very protective of me. I have told him to ignore the narcissist, and don't be reactive, as this is what narcissists want. Any reaction is still supply. Focus should be on my daughter and her husband to be, and for their sake, it must be a day to remember for all the right reasons.
The narcissist is insisting on my daughter inviting his new circle of "friends", to the wedding, but my daughter has never met them, and she knows they are not his "friends", but the friends of his new supply. He has no friends.
I know he is trying to appear to be Mr Popularity, at the wedding..."look at me...I have moved on and loving life...look how everyone loves me...I'm so popular...see, you were the problem... I'm well over you".
The narcissist is showing signs of threatening behaviour towards my daughter, and she told him the police were just a phone call away. His reply was, "they'll never believe you".
His new supply has no idea what she is getting into, but it's not my job to tell her. She will find out for herself, eventually.
My narc husband. is a hoarder. The garbage is full of nonsense. I cleaned it all out one year when he was at work, took everything to the garbage dump, now it’s full of crap again. Before we lived together my house was clean and tidy. As soon as I clean, he purposely goes and makes a mess. I don’t even bother to clean anymore, just do the bare minimum.
My nex is this way. He gets mad if you throw out garbage. I insisted he toss a mattress a buddy of his messed up when he stayed with us. I don't know what the guy did, but it looked like he'd unalived someone on it. The nex still fusses about tossing the mattress, but not the fact that his friend destroyed it.
@@Hatbox948 I have someone who starts an incident because I threw away some cherries that looked bad. I thought they were grapes! He insisted I threw them away not because they were bad, but that I knew that he liked them. That's some Olympic level mental gymnastics for sure.
@@jamesplumhoff3215 My nex was that way too. Everything was a big deal to him.
Great video Danish! Words of Exact Truth! They're misers who feel all powerful controlling other's financial stability. Because l was a minor when my dad passed away, my narc mom held me hostage by withholding and using my own inheritance money against me.
These parents do not guide and teach you to become responsible, self reliant adults. Instead they treat you like prisoners and blame you for the misery in their lives.
Yes spot on. There’s an addiction involved. But they hide it all.
Spot on again!
3:03 it did not sound odd to me, that Narcs need animalistic supply, because they themselves are alien to humanity, so ... they go after lesser life forms and enjoy the animals' dependencies for the control.
This is spot on. 5 years ago I walked away from everything including property after almost 32 years of this. I don't know how I survived or why it took so long for me to get out. It felt like an escape. Although I struggle on my own and don't have all the nice things anymore it was worth leaving. No more walking on eggshells. No more wondering what was going to happen that day.
One of most effective video ever made. You are 1000%true.