I'm definitely in a state of constant anxiety. The narcissist is gone, things are calm, and it is so unsettling. It's like I don't understand how to relax anymore.
I totally understand....I was like that ...can still get like that at times as one of my adult children suffers this from trauma suffered. I am 68 and only partly recovered after narcissists mother and ex.. which led to illness and lots more
Depression, paranoia, sadness low self worth, brain fog, looping thoughts bursts of crying and body pain and rashes all over, cortisol issues in my body have made this body a living hell! As I mentioned in our session … but I having a hard time shutting down my nervous system …. It’s stuck in fight or flight .
@@jessicahoskins8606am in no contact too since 8 months. Blocked all mutual friends. Much better now. I still have some psychological aftereffects. Doing some exercises, gardening....to avoid me from ruminating. Wish u the best 😊
Our mental illness, caused by narcissists, will heal over time. But trust me! the suffering narcissists will endure is just as dangerous, if not worse, and it will haunt them for eternity.
Somehow, the narcissist here stopped gaslighting me. I suspected something else was happening. He's quiet for a long time now, but I noticed something is going on. He's frequently locking himself in the bathroom in which I wondered many times. I just found out why narcissists locked themselves in the bathroom from one of the online narcissistic psychologists. My suspicion was right. He's gaslighting people online and flirting with men or women. What a dork? So stupid human being. I can't believe it. I confronted him about it. He got tongue tied, He's so surprised. How did I found out about it. I think he doesn't know I am an emphat. I could feel what's going on around me. I warned him to free the bathroom for other users. He's not the only person living in the house. If there's a emergency to use the bathroom, no one can access it. I'm watching the coward closely. I gave him an ultimatum. No bathroom locking anymore. 5 minutes is the most.
Filled with so much hate and hopelessness. Yup. Constantly depressed. Yup. Don’t recognize myself anymore. Yup. Thank God he’s leaving - I’m all used up.
mine is extrem depression and apathy. i can’t get back on track . coffee, red bulls ect don’t do anything.. but i’m happy i’m still here and away from the abuser. thank you Danish
I stopped with coffee which i consider a huge victory . I need to take up sport to get some energy . My wounds are deep and sometimes i wonder if i ever regain some joie de vivre .
Did you try some faith, a mainstream church with a nice congregation, I hit on a lovely church with really loving members, they have helped me; I go to bible study and Sunday service. But know that all churches are not full of loving people. Sometimes they resent someone new coming into their environment. It's a process. Don't get discouraged just keep trying.
@@heyjude1101 i do have a Church i have gone to for years . the Pastor was my counselor for over a year . at one point he asked me “ you do realize your in a abuseive relationship?” i just figured it was a messed up marriage. i took my wedding vows very seriously and hung on for 40 years hoping and Praying things would get better.. sadly they never did . i still have great Faith but … my Prayers were never answered 😞. i am very happy in one side and soooo sad and depressed in the other. thank you Jude for your interest 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
It took me 3 years twice. Once from my husband abuse, second time from my sister abuse. These people don't care if they destroy you. That's actually their goal. Then they call you crazy. Leave, run. I wish I knew this. I lived through this. Leave and don't let them manipulate you.
Same. Ran from hubby and his murdering son to jabe my sister use me and my kids for food stamps and house repairs. To be discarded and homeless because I refused her abuse and control. Ugh.
@@br9791 and doesn't it drive you crazy when you merely mention the word narcissist to someone and they look at you as if you are the one who is mental !!!!!!!
My narc Dad destroyed my Mother. After 65 years of marriage, my mother finally succumbed to heart failure. It was horrible as a child to watch her go through all of the abuse, not having anywhere to turn. As an adult I tried to get her to divorce him, to walk away from him. She felt responsible for him after so many years of marriage and she became his mother not his wife. He is now in a nursing rehab and they want to discharge him to me. I don't want him back. I love him as my father, but I hated him as my mother's husband. Thanks to Danish there is hope that once he is gone, I can start to rebuild myself. As my Mother did, I have many issues such as the ones Danish mentions here. It's a long hard road ahead, but with God's help, we can do it. 🙏❤️
I developed Binge Eating Order. I am still on anti-depressants that help with it. Anxiety, Major Depressive Disorder, PTSD has had years of therapies. Skin picking disorder which is mostly resolved. Lastly Cancer. After years what actually finally helped me was when you told us they have no feelings and they never cared because they can't care and they are demonic. That helped me very quickly. If only I knew earlier. Those pitch black eyes did it for me.
how did you address your skin picking disorder? I have this problem pretty badly. I also have an autoimmune disorder and haven't been healing properly and getting infections. I've resorted to getting acrylic nails to hinder the damage. so far that's the only thing that's helped me.
Hi Danish, I watch your program everyday ,it has been helping me . Today I went out with my narcissist wife,she was shouting at me and cursing me I felt like crashing the car into a tree and kill both of us. Then I thought about advice and calmed down. I am 75 years old and my wife is 68. I am more knowledgeable now. My wife and her two sisters and a brother are narcissist they got it from their father. To make things worse we 3 brothers are married to 3 narcissist sisters. Keep up the good work. Thanks
Its not too late to walk away from her and have some peace and emotional balance in your life. You dont need this toxic behaviour at this stage of you life. Walk away from her and go no contact.
The Monster gave my mother depression, trauma, anxiety and my brother schizophrenia.. killed them both. I’m not sure if they were born evil or just became demon possessed over time. Truly sad and sick stuff.
@Charmainecharmainecharmaine narcissists are thought to be possessed by 7 demonic spirits. They are therefore demonicly driven. That means it is not the person doing evil to you, but the demonic spirits in them.
@Charmainecharmainecharmaine 😢 😢 This is just a part of my long nightmare. My husband and I were mentally and verbally abused by our evil narcissistic demon of an adult daughter, For years. It got so bad that the stress cause an emotional breakdown for my husband, One day he started crying uncontrollably with him gasping for air ( this is a guy that never cried because of his upbringing of men don't cry ) He was asking what he did wrong on raising her to be so evil then he collapsed and took his last breath 4 years and 11 months ago. She always had anger issues since she was a teen, but we chopped it up as just being a teen and hormons since she seemed to be a very well-rounded person overall. We noticed the changes in her as she got older and thought she was bipolar. But it was too late for us to get her help because she was over 18. She wouldn't amit that she has mental problems and get help. By the time I learned about narcissism, it was too late. The trauma damage was already done. In those horrible years of walking on eggshells, she had us under her control because she was kicked out of her ex-husband's home for stepping out on him and the trauma she caused. She ended back with us because she was homeless and 3 months pregnant with another's man child. So, of course, we took her in. She was lying from the start, telling us her marriage failed because he was abusing her physically. I know different now. We tried to help her, going through her pregnancy and the birth, then she couldn't handle being a mother. She wouldn't do what a mother should do and we ended up raising our grandson until he was 6 years old. She hunted down for a new supply because my husband became disabled and we couldn't give her a free ride anymore. We asked her to start paying her own way because if she didn't we would end up homeless. That pissed her off, and she really got bad. She finally found a nieve 24 year old guy, 6 years younger than her, Within 3 months, she manipulated and lied to him and they moved in together. Then she trapped him by getting pregnant. My husband I ended up homeless with her stalking us and still messing with our heads using our grandson against us. Then my husband died. She destroyed me beyond repair. I have been abandoned by everyone,... She made sure of that with her lies.. I went no contact but it is slowly killing me from the inside out. I can't have a relationship with my grandson. I can't function anymore. I'm the one who is at fault somehow. And you know what.. I'm starting to believe I must be. I'm just a failure and a lost cause.. I can not heal . It hurts so much. I'm so tired of trying. I just want to die.
Please be careful everyone! I was mentally healthy when I was young, but My narcissist father and boyfriend caused me ocd and anxiety, now I’m faithful to get healed by the Grace of Jesus
Yes, right on spot! When I was younger thought it was "normal ". Then realized other families weren't like this.Our narcissistic mother made 2 brothers alcoholic. One unfortunately died in car crash due to being drunk. Mom blamed her sisters on wishing him bad luck. Crazy woman!
A special thank you, Mr. Danish, for correctly labeling this situation as a "RESPONSE", and not a "disorder". I sincerely wish that you would brainwash other psychological health "care providers" to use this correct terminology and treatment, instead of the mis-labeling, discrimination, and maltreatment that is all too common currently. ❤
I learned to not talk about it much. To give it no energy. I did not want to re traumatize myself. It would have taken longer to let go. It was a journey to feeling nothing for him. 2 years of solitude, study, sleep was my healer.
Brilliant analysis and life-saving advice, Danish! Now in the West, we"re dealing with that abuse from our central governments. The evilness of Others just never ends. 😮
Thank you sir for your valuable words. My Narcissistic ex discarded me months before our marriage. I was traumatized to my core and become suicidal . Now I am on my healing journey. lt was your videos that brought me back to life . I am really grateful to you sir 🙏
You have explained what I have gone through in better ways than any counselor I have gone too. You are the first to truly validate what I have gone through instead of trying to get me to give mercy grace or forgiveness to the perpetrators. Not one validated what they did. Even EMDR therapy makes you go back in time and actually relive the pain but I was encouraged to see it through the perpetrators eyes. Honestly just a “you didn’t deserve that. They shouldn’t have done that. That was awful. You are strong for having gone through that.” Instead of all this bilateral tapping that honestly just honed my disassociation skills even more. I guess it helps panic attacks? I just want someone to call a spade a spade and you do. Right is right and wrong is wrong. You are an absolute angel and brilliant and using your gifts to help others. I don’t feel so alone anymore. You make me feel heard and seen. Your one statement in this video shook me to my core. “When you have someone so close to you that you should be able to trust (for me- my mother / my husband) betray you of course you are going to not trust people.”
Wow, shows how bad our counseling, psychologist training is. It's all gone woke even in many Christian circles. I'm sorry you went through these horrific things. You remember and know, you did not cause it nor deserve it. No matter what abusers told you. Luke 17:3 Rebuke the sinner, if he repents forgive him. How does God forgive? When we repent sincerely with crushing sorrow. The People that tell you any different are lost themselves.
That spade?.....It's a spade!! Never forget that dear soul. I too, unfortunately get it. Trying to completely rebuild my life from scratch due to abuse on a criminal level (with no one being charged)...and I'm too exhausted to even think straight . Stay strong and look forward to life's natural justice to realign and restore and repair all the damage that is extremely undeserved ❤
@@disgustingwaterAgree totally! I made that mistake by paying for treatment centers for couples, going to local Pop therapist, who told me to "lower my standards", right in front of 'him', and w/o any suggestions to 'him'! Other $$ attempts too.. Dr Bashier is the Bomb when he clarifies and stops all the gaslighting by phonies. Wish you the Best 🙏🕊️💜
Wow creating a new personality.. that is so real it’s crazy when you look at yourself in the mirror and don’t know who you are. It’s so hard to fake a smile!
@n0426 I've had a psychologist dislike me because they thought I was so negative. They tried to tell me to start saying positive things. No way I was going to obey her ignorance!
@@deborahwales1717 what the hell. What kind of psychologist is that. One of my family members would always tell me to go pray and read the holy book. That doesn’t serve me!! Some people just don’t get it.
@@deborahwales1717 he always does and will always do. Self isolation is the best way to heal yourself mentally. It has been proven in many religions too.
@@deborahwales1717Depending on how she told you to tell nice things, it isn't necessarily a bad advice though. Not saying the pain isn't real, just... being a little bit more positive about stuff can help getting yourself out of paralysis -- And by positivity, I'm talking about being kind with yourself and "celebrating" small wins, if that makes sense. Now, without context, I can only try to make sense of it -- with my understanding -- so I might be wrong here. She might simply not be a good fit for you either, either way as long as you have a better therapist for you now!
Absolutely!!! I can't stabilize my nerves, AND my children aren't helping, because they went through the same thing! they use me,as their therepy!!!! THAT isn't helpful,to move on, but after 45 YEARS of marriage, divorced me and his children
Thank you so much for telling these things! I found myself a victim of a narcissistic mother at the age of 60, over a year ago. When I was 40, I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder and borderline personality, but the diagnoses never explained why things went this way. This list helps very much, so thank you. I also have a friend to whom I am going to tell about this, cause I think her schizophrenic symptoms may relate to her upbringing in a very "You're good for nothing" environment. Now I need to find help for my recovery, but I found new hope through this.
How much damage does narcissism cost society? This is a study that is very much needed. The damage can destroy lives as it has done to me. There needs to be a cost evaluation otherwise good people are destroyed beyond repare.
I've thought about this a lot.. Given how long it takes to come to some awareness of the issue just by the listeners here, advanced ages, soo much loss of production, financial loss, medical costs, on & on. . If like penalties were applied to the damage done by harm - intentionally - to victims of narcissistic abuse, as are to perpetrators of legal transgressions, our prisons would be even more overrun than are now We won't see this in our lifetime, but right here is a good place to start. Wish you well 🙏🕊️💜
You are spot on, i feel like i dont physically exist. My sister is a narc psychpath, she destroyed my small family of mum and dad,she continues to abuse and steal from my mother in a nursing home, she stole all our family photos,my photos,the family will,dads strong pain medication. She even took her allocation of the will before i had executed it. She has turned all my relatives against me,i thought they knew better? Recently she took my mothers rosary beads and her glasses so she cant watch tv,read or view photos. The nursing home dont care even though im paying everything including funerals ect . Im at the end. Ive had too much
@@superluvver3 If you are in charge of your mother's care, ban her from seeing your Mom.call legal aid and find out how to charge her with elder abuse.
This is crazy. I’ve been taking Xanax and have had chronic anxiety and ever since I went no contact with my gf I have been off the Xanax for 3 weeks and I feel better like I don’t need it aside from withdrawal symptoms. I gave her too many breaks through the years. I’ll never let her back in for the sake of my own mind and peace
My dad is a Narcissist and I was then married to a Narcissist for 25 years. I am 64. always in fight or flight, even when I think I am relaxed. I cannot make decisions, I have major anxiety and health issues. I am so mentally and emotionally exhausted, and I am not as productive as I was. My body is also weaker. I used to be muscular, and strong, but I had a major ankle injury, cannot workout, and I feel physically weak, and have put on weight. He stole all my money, was so abusive, and now I have to start over, which is overwhelming. He is an evil person.
I became an alcoholic to cope, which made me a prisoner to them. Kept me like scapegoat pet, made me struggle endlessly to finish school, just for a final dump off. My nervous system got completely messed up, became epileptic. No joke.
The ceaseless cleaning was spraying Lysol and repeatedly washing my hands or my showers taking over an hour because I couldn't tell if I had washed certain body parts or believed I had washed them insufficiently. As for the psychosis, I saw my abuser everywhere in any male who looked even remotely like him. OMG thank you for clarifying this. You just explained SO much and made me feel sane. Thank you
I have heard other so called experts on narcissists describe vulnerable narcissist people and all they do is describe someone like myself with cptsd and make you feel useless. I've endured one useless psychologist after another not to mention psychiatrists. They don't seem to have any knowledge on the signs of narcissistic abuse at all !!!
Isn't it so frustrating to reach out for help with a professional and they sit there and look at you dumbfounded because they don't understand and have no knowledge of these evil narcissistic demons. ????? If they can't help you why can't they find someone who can. I have to Waite until they figure out they are not helping and making me feel worst. Then they say something like our sessions are over because the insurance company only allows so many visits and they will not pay for anymore. Then I have to start all over looking for answers and a different therapist who might understand the horror I have been through. I think I'm teaching them about narcissism, which it should be the other way around.
I got discarded April 4 of 2023. I finally found a man that truly loves me and my children recently. I feel so terrible because my current partner did not cause my trauma but he has to put up with my anxiety and pain😢 I try really hard to not let my ocd depression and anger and sadness show but sometimes I break down. I trama dump at least 2 to 3 times a month. Hes so patient with me but i know it affects him. The abuse changed me i feel forever 😢
thank you Danish, i am 36 years old and have cptsd, my husband and i moved in 2023 across country away from the people who where really toxic to me that wasn't just my family. i have been wheelchair bound since age 11 for the first time in my life i can stand for a minute without hanging on to anything. my healing road is a long one and i am praying that my brain will heal to the point i can walk again your videos answer a lot of questions i have been having and it helps my husband to understand what is going on.
I had malfunctioning daydreaming because of my narcissistic mom. I was a crazy delulu man living in another reality. Also I had suicidal thoughts all my youth. The day I woke up, I felt pathetic. That was my brain trying to protect me for the merciless emotional abuse. That happened like 5 years after she died. Now I'm broken AF and I don't have any reason to live. I'm poor, I'm trying to escape poverty but I have no opportunities to make it. I don't wanna become a hobo, I don't have any vice, I'm not a bad person but I'm so fucked up... Why did I deserve this fate? what did I do wrong?
You didn't do anything wrong to deserve bad treatment by any abuser! But, you should probably seek out a good professional counselor to establish a course of treatment. Good luck.
Danish you truly are a God send!!!!! It truly is amazing to me how so many of us have so many different experiences and problems because of a narcissist, but thank Almighty God we have help from people like you, thank you so very much, and many blessings to you!!!!!!!!!😊😊😊
@@WendyHannan-pt7ez Despite the fact,Mostly people going through the same horrible path can't explain better or even equal to Danish's depth of understanding of complexities. He's the most best therapist. Alot of praise to him!
Wow this video is so helpful and validating. I often have imposter syndrome and feel like I'm making up all my experiences. I'm guessing it's from the gaslighting, projection and family denial and scapegoating
I'm sooo glad I found your precious work ✨️ 😌 ☺️ 💓 ✨️ because I always was afraid because I thought I have an earlier form of dementia but through your videos I finally know that I was just a survivor of narcissistic people's v1olence. Thank you, dear Danish
I am a Survivor as well she told everybody I was crazy while she was cheating on me with the whole hood she dared to do it Even with My 24 years son But nobody belelieved she said I was crazy thanks God I left her I moved next to My mom 's far from her And thanks to this vídeo I know now she is a narsicts abuse your videos are helping people thorougout the world.now I know I'm not crazy thanks.those people are demons on earth they don't give a damn about people's feelings.leave,run the sooner the better.by the way I'm Dominican I've never been abroad though.
Danish, thank you for validating my experience with demon manifestation. Recently, I realized that event wasn't his actually changing into demon but a revelation of the demon to me. I hope that makes some sense. Your work is important, you are saving lives.
I've experienced most of these "alterations" ..it's all subsiding slowly.( my dissosociated state i called LaLa Land, hearing his voice constantly, severe anger outbursts, EUPD, Fibromyalgia, and much more).It really is like being born again..I did two years of music therapy writing songs about my experience of narcissistic abuse and recording it on an album..wow, it relieved me so much from all the pain and anxiety..but Danish, your explanations are truly enlightening, so thank you.
I reckon I should submit myself for psychological studies, considering that I survived a narcissistic mother, then a narcissistic and abusive life partner, then dealt with the systemic narcissistism of a large educational institution and numerous insane employers and the institutional narcissism of the freemasons. I'm not saying I'm completely healthy after all that, but I'm still standing!
@@Barbreck1I completely agree with you. The last sentence of your first comment reveals that you view yourself as a survivor and not a victim. I believe that is a major part of the battle. Perspective!! My best to you.
@@Barbreck1 Exactly that. He has the capacity to remove evil from the whole world at any time yet does not. He uses it to get his way. Then when we need his help the most he shits on us and when we don't need him he gift bombs us so hard we can't begin to properly and correctly manage and use what he's giving us.
Thank you for sharing Danish. I started experiencing panic attacks and when it got frequent like twice a week especially while swimming at night, I knew it's time to leave the relationship at every cost. 😢
✅ All of the above I thank you, Danish, for laying it all out there. I had a narcissistic mother and have a narcissistic sister. Raised that way + lived that way. I'm on my journey of healing. 🌹When I heard you say about how do I regain my personality when I never had one - I almost fell off my chair! That's me! I needed validation and there it is.
Il mio trauma dopo 3 anni con un narcisista, mi ha portata ad ingrassare 20 chili, ad avere ansia perenne e aritmie cardiache quando cercava di tornare ancora, ancora e ancora. Ora sto cercando di ritrovare e salvare me stessa. Non gli do più l opportunità neanche di parlare con me. L ultima volta stavo per finire al pronto soccorso con una tachicardia. Mai più!!!!!
After one year of analysing my situation of being bullied my narcissist brother & nephew, I am now fighting them💪💪💪 . Hope & pray I will win bcoz this fight is not just for me but for my deceased sibling & late father🙏🙏🙏🥰🥰🥰
Please seek shelter and help anywhere you can. Do it quietly but do it as soon as possible. The first step is getting to safety. The second step is to begin healing. You are not alone. I am praying for you. Many of us have found peace again and you can too
Been there too. Still having trouble waking up in the dark and wrestling with demons, but finally able to get relief through prayer and going back to sleep. It takes time being away with no contact, I'm beginning to see some hope again. Don't give up.
Completely relatable. The bits of good in life do not balance out the horrible and too stupid to be real anymore. You just want out of this rigged unwinnable game you are being forced to play.
@gathoniterry1362 I've had to sleep on a couch for 3yrs. If I tried to sleep in a bed, I would be on pain. I'm OK on the couch now. I came very close to harming myself over 2yrs ago. But I'm still here. It is a hard journey that takes time. I have found it helpful to watch channels like this regularly and to arm myself with knowledge. There are are a few different types of narcissistic people. It helps to learn how to spot these different types. After 3yrs I don't need to watch these channels as much as I used to, even though my landlord is also a vulnerable narcissist. I have being learning to set boundaries to keep her away. They can be very clever at disguising what they are. She even fooled me pretending to be sooo kind! You soon figure it out though. These people can never be reasoned with! If it's a friend or family member then try talking to them about something that they have done that has upset you. That can be your first clue when you watch them stonewall you. I am now 98% certain that friend I had lived with for years, is an altruistic narcissist. I've never had any freewill with her or her daughter! Arm yourself with as much knowledge as possible! I know how it makes you feel. My last landlord was a kind narcissist and very dangerous. He ran a massive smear campaign against me and turned all the neighbours against me! I was so unwell I stopped taking care of myself and even 2yrs later I am just beginning to emerge from under it. Once this starts happening then you know that you are beginning to develop into someone with strength and inner power for great good!
I struggle everyday with the lingering effects from the trauma damage. Its been over 4 years since i went no contact. Ive been destroyed beyond repair and I go through everything you are talking about every day. I never had mental problems but now I do. I also have several issues with my physical health. Ive been destroyed beyond repair. I will never heal. Im dying from the inside out. It sucks to feel your body just rotting away. Continuing to get worse and getting new mental and physical health issues as time passes. No one can help me, nor do they care. I don't tell my story over and over anymore like i use to when i was reaching out for support and help. I have finally realized that nobody understands or they just don't want to hear about it because they don't care. They said they did but they were lying. That shattered any trust i had left in me which wasnt much. It is what it is and I have accepted that im going to live in misery until I die.
👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼 I have been helped by so many of your videos. This one really hit home!!! The clear descriptions of mental alterations combined with clearly explained steps towards healing were exactly what i needed today. I have every alteration but psychosis. But I have had dreams since moving out that felt like reality and had me waking up exhausted. I have experienced some degree of healing, but now I have a better idea of what steps to take in the areas where I am still in more of a holding pattern. Because of this video, I also feel really validated in how I ended up in my current state. Thank you.
Dissocation. Disconnecting. A big habit. I did it in the beginning so I could heal and not look. And trauma dumping; that I can change right now. "You are the very best." Real healing. Thank you
Thank you for the info and the tip about the book. I have found no care locally for this model. Thank god for the internet. And generous people like you.
I don't know who I am an introvert or extrovert I'm literally like okay this person is that I should be like them around he's loud I should be walking in egg shells he's that she's that I gotta be like that I was a very bubbly light hearted person but years of narcs abuse just made a person I no longer know I wanna go on deep self discovery journey
Wow, this was such powerful information and makes perfect sense. Just completely amazing explanation. Goodness, why do the mental health providers not realize the connection between narcissism and mental illness and how to actually go about reversing it? No, they just hand out a pill and you talk for an hour every week. I'm not putting it down, if it helps you then that's all that matters, but my goodness, this explanation was so, so clear. I feel like 10,000 light bulbs have just gone off in my mind.
Wow, Danish, this was an excellent video!!! I went no-contact with a narc female friend of mine (just a platonic friendship) about 3 years ago. I find myself still ruminating and rehearsing conversations I SHOULD have had with her but was too timid to do so.
Exceptionally helpful and a comfort, Danish. Thank you. I fully recommend helping ones self out with exceptional attention and care to sleep, nutrition and exercise, as well as therapy and community inclusion. I'm hoping we continue to talk about what we went through and keep it real about the somatic effects of this abuse. Your wording was also exceptionally careful (not easy to do!). Bonus points! This was and is a horror movie but I'm a strong Queen (and you can't crush a Queen, baby). WE will ascend but we must keep ourselves safe from those monsters. Love and healing wishes for all.
It is nearly impossible to "be yourself" and grow healthier when your survivor-related health issues have immobilized you and made your physical appearance honestly ugly. I do not exaggerate, nor do I have body dysmorphia. While I have never been especially good-looking, now every time I glance in the mirror, I am re-traumatized and flashbacks are triggered, because I am unrecognizable. I am not OK, nor ever will be, with looking ugly--why should I. There must be many who are experiencing this situation. Fortunately for Mr. Danish, as well as others, he does not have this extra challenge. I can see why he and those like him, still believe in a kind God. Those like me cannot, unless we have become delusional as a result of our experiences. Thank you again, Mr. Danish, for your caring and support. ❤
This is exactly how the narc WANTS you feeling. Ugly and traumatized. You are not. You are made in the image of God and will heal by watching these videos and evaluating yourself daily which the narc cannot do. You will grow and your narc will be the same person hurting others and working for the devil.
Thank you for this one Danish 🙏 This is very helpful. Stabilisation is my goal. I am less hard on myself now that I know more about CPTSD and dissociation. My family doesn't take mental health seriously. They want me to just get over it. I didn't know there was any other way than living in survival mode. I thought this was normal. When you healed your dissociation did you have bad memories return? I'm scared of this. I don't think i can handle it. I've had a couple of memories return and its brutal.
his action of the final block on messenger shocked me so much!! and he kept me in a confused and extremely anxious state i even reach the point where i dont want to wake up the second day!!
I have had to deal with a bully at work (I have left now), I have been dissociating on and off for a few weeks now. I wish it felt like magic and not a nightmare 😢. Btw, I have diagnosed CPTSD from childhood abuse.
I'm so glad that there is NPD specific trauma healing available now because when I was going to therapy since age 18 I felt so much of it was a terrible waste of time, I did EMDR for nine straight years another modalities of talk therapy. Thank you for your videos they are so important to me and they are helping me understand more deeply.
The joke for me was after 7 years of abusing me and almost our child, he had the nerve to claim I was abusing him, and I ran him into to ground after I left him, there was no level of abuse he did not do! constantly feeling stuck in the same place, constantly paranoid, and am sick of feeling full of hate and poison and trauma dumping!
The narcissist breaks down the mind as a muscle so you need all of your strength to build it back up like with weightlifting. Involuntarily the mind gets exercise but the whole experience is arduous. Like being inside of a spiritual war with the enemy secretly there and never letting you know the entire time.
The most important thing to work on is the lack of the ability to love, or let people love you knowing that the world is seeming like hell just due to the staggering amount of damaged covert narcissists we all grew up presented with constantly rather than a real person.
I had that too… it’s called agoraphobia… give yourself time. Self compassion, self love… meditation… learn about cptsd, Pete Walker has a brilliant and invaluable book called Surviving and Thriving from CPTSD. Meditations on UA-cam, get outside and go for a walk. Try and tune out everything and everyone around you. ❤❤❤❤ praying for you
I have that too. The more I stay home, the harder it gets to go out. So the solution is to do the opposite I suppose, a little at a time. It helps to have someone go with me.
Hi Danish, I just wanted to say that you are wonderful person and you are helping to understand what is going on in a body and mind after narcissistic abuse. It's very important to look at yourself with compassion and listen what your body is telling you, because it's the best advisor. Thank you so much for your work!
I think instead of “forgiving” our tormentors; we should forgive ourselves and get to a point we just don’t care about them anymore. FTW I had a psychotic breakdown. Didn’t know reality from my mind. Lots of people taking advantage.
I had a friend who was very judgemental..when i got married to my narcissist..she said i was pathetic and didnt talk to me to 4 years..After i endured HELL like no other... understatement believe me..She contacted me again..i love my friend but when i asked "Boy ..i have a story for you"She proceeded to tell me she was mad at me and didnt want to hear..I felt i could still maintain our friendship..but realized i was totally changed after narcissist abuse and it was too painful for the victim blaming ...
Pour into yourself even if you don’t have the energy, Go get a massage , get treat yourself with Starbucks, reward yourself, after sometime you will start feeling better ✅
Book a 1:1 session with Danish
danish.dayschedule.com/session
Hello Danish, FYI...I tried this link and it's not working. Also the link in your email. I would like to book a session with you. Thanks.
@@Deborah-uw5ip Hi Deborah. Apologies for the inconvenience caused. The link is working now
@@narcabusecoach Thank you, I'll try it now.
I'm definitely in a state of constant anxiety. The narcissist is gone, things are calm, and it is so unsettling. It's like I don't understand how to relax anymore.
I totally understand....I was like that ...can still get like that at times as one of my adult children suffers this from trauma suffered.
I am 68 and only partly recovered after narcissists mother and ex.. which led to illness and lots more
I can understand that
They train their victims to be in fight or flight mode constantly. Over time you can heal and become more relaxed.
@@cassiebennet4262🙏🏾
You can't heal unless you get away from them.
Depression, paranoia, sadness low self worth, brain fog, looping thoughts bursts of crying and body pain and rashes all over, cortisol issues in my body have made this body a living hell! As I mentioned in our session … but I having a hard time shutting down my nervous system …. It’s stuck in fight or flight .
You described it perfectly. It took me a year and a half after breaking up and no contact to feel 95% healthy in mind and body again
@@jessicahoskins8606am in no contact too since 8 months. Blocked all mutual friends. Much better now. I still have some psychological aftereffects. Doing some exercises, gardening....to avoid me from ruminating. Wish u the best 😊
I'm sorry honey it may pass with time. Don't lose your faith. God bless!
Have you tried full spectrum CBD oil , it is good for anxiety, depression, lack of sleep and concentration etc.
I know what you mean. Stuck in survival mode.. horrible way to have to live.
Our mental illness, caused by narcissists, will heal over time. But trust me! the suffering narcissists will endure is just as dangerous, if not worse, and it will haunt them for eternity.
I hope so. He is diabolical 😢🙏😓
Somehow, the narcissist here stopped gaslighting me. I suspected something else was happening. He's quiet for a long time now, but I noticed something is going on. He's frequently locking himself in the bathroom in which I wondered many times. I just found out why narcissists locked themselves in the bathroom from one of the online narcissistic psychologists. My suspicion was right. He's gaslighting people online and flirting with men or women. What a dork? So stupid human being. I can't believe it. I confronted him about it. He got tongue tied, He's so surprised. How did I found out about it. I think he doesn't know I am an emphat. I could feel what's going on around me. I warned him to free the bathroom for other users. He's not the only person living in the house. If there's a emergency to use the bathroom, no one can access it. I'm watching the coward closely. I gave him an ultimatum. No bathroom locking anymore. 5 minutes is the most.
Amen 🙏 😢
This makes me so sad. It’s not the narcissist’s fault.😢
Nada que no quiero
Trauma dumping. I’ve done this for years and didn’t know what it was. Now I do. Thank you.
I AM A WARRIOR NOT A WORRIER!!!! 🙏🙏🙏AMEN🙏🙏🙏🙏
@PetrinaDanielsMcMoore-ps9pn very good!
Filled with so much hate and hopelessness. Yup. Constantly depressed. Yup. Don’t recognize myself anymore. Yup. Thank God he’s leaving - I’m all used up.
Let him. Take it from me! I am freed now x relief
🙏🏾
mine is extrem depression and apathy. i can’t get back on track . coffee, red bulls ect don’t do anything.. but i’m happy i’m still here and away from the abuser. thank you Danish
I stopped with coffee which i consider a huge victory .
I need to take up sport to get some energy .
My wounds are deep and sometimes i wonder if i ever regain some joie de vivre .
God bless you and give you strength and grace my friend. Pray , you are precious to God .
@@user-np4ge5wy4o Gods the ultimate narcissist. Why pray to someone that treats his whole creation like shit when he can fix all of it at any time?
Did you try some faith, a mainstream church with a nice congregation, I hit on a lovely church with really loving members, they have helped me; I go to bible study and Sunday service. But know that all churches are not full of loving people. Sometimes they resent someone new coming into their environment. It's a process. Don't get discouraged just keep trying.
@@heyjude1101 i do have a Church i have gone to for years . the Pastor was my counselor for over a year . at one point he asked me “ you do realize your in a abuseive relationship?” i just figured it was a messed up marriage. i took my wedding vows very seriously and hung on for 40 years hoping and Praying things would get better.. sadly they never did . i still have great Faith but … my Prayers were never answered 😞. i am very happy in one side and soooo sad and depressed in the other. thank you Jude for your interest 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Danish you are a valuable jewel to this UA-cam community .
I thank you deeply for all your wise support .
This video was especially helpful. 😊
The BEST ❤
@@annrodriguez2891 SO true!
It took me 3 years twice. Once from my husband abuse, second time from my sister abuse. These people don't care if they destroy you. That's actually their goal. Then they call you crazy. Leave, run. I wish I knew this. I lived through this. Leave and don't let them manipulate you.
Hubby did that and they've been doing it since cave man days, still ruling but once you know, thank you everyone!
Same. Ran from hubby and his murdering son to jabe my sister use me and my kids for food stamps and house repairs. To be discarded and homeless because I refused her abuse and control. Ugh.
Ufffff you just explained my life story 😢
@@br9791 and doesn't it drive you crazy when you merely mention the word narcissist to someone and they look at you as if you are the one who is mental !!!!!!!
You are a survivor and an inspiration to others who have suffered from narcissistic abuse. ❤
My narc Dad destroyed my Mother. After 65 years of marriage, my mother finally succumbed to heart failure. It was horrible as a child to watch her go through all of the abuse, not having anywhere to turn. As an adult I tried to get her to divorce him, to walk away from him. She felt responsible for him after so many years of marriage and she became his mother not his wife. He is now in a nursing rehab and they want to discharge him to me. I don't want him back. I love him as my father, but I hated him as my mother's husband. Thanks to Danish there is hope that once he is gone, I can start to rebuild myself. As my Mother did, I have many issues such as the ones Danish mentions here. It's a long hard road ahead, but with God's help, we can do it. 🙏❤️
😢🙏🏾 Thank God for giving you clarity.
I developed Binge Eating Order. I am still on anti-depressants that help with it. Anxiety, Major Depressive Disorder, PTSD has had years of therapies. Skin picking disorder which is mostly resolved. Lastly Cancer. After years what actually finally helped me was when you told us they have no feelings and they never cared because they can't care and they are demonic. That helped me very quickly. If only I knew earlier. Those pitch black eyes did it for me.
Binge eating I do tooo 😢omg skin picking too
@Scott0909-j7m…yes, I have witnessed the pitch black eyes with my husband and mom!!!
how did you address your skin picking disorder? I have this problem pretty badly. I also have an autoimmune disorder and haven't been healing properly and getting infections. I've resorted to getting acrylic nails to hinder the damage. so far that's the only thing that's helped me.
@@xox___neen same here
@@WhoMe-xq9eu What skin picking mean
Hi Danish, I watch your program everyday ,it has been helping me .
Today I went out with my narcissist wife,she was shouting at me and cursing me I felt like crashing the car into a tree and kill both of us. Then I thought about advice and calmed down. I am 75 years old and my wife is 68. I am more knowledgeable now. My wife and her two sisters and a brother are narcissist they got it from their father. To make things worse we 3 brothers are married to 3 narcissist sisters. Keep up the good work. Thanks
Stay clear as much as possible, I'm no therapist but that would be my advice. Too many narcissdist to handle in that family.
Its not too late to walk away from her and have some peace and emotional balance in your life. You dont need this toxic behaviour at this stage of you life.
Walk away from her and go no contact.
The Monster gave my mother depression, trauma, anxiety and my brother schizophrenia.. killed them both. I’m not sure if they were born evil or just became demon possessed over time. Truly sad and sick stuff.
@Charmainecharmainecharmaine narcissists are thought to be possessed by 7 demonic spirits. They are therefore demonicly driven. That means it is not the person doing evil to you, but the demonic spirits in them.
I feel your pain. My evil narcissistic demon daughter killed my husband, her father.. I've been destroyed beyond repair.
@@terrydyer2490 I’m so sorry. May you heal and be comforted ❤️🙏 May I ask how she did? Or what mental illness it caused?
@Charmainecharmainecharmaine 😢 😢 This is just a part of my long nightmare. My husband and I were mentally and verbally abused by our evil narcissistic demon of an adult daughter, For years. It got so bad that the stress cause an emotional breakdown for my husband, One day he started crying uncontrollably with him gasping for air ( this is a guy that never cried because of his upbringing of men don't cry ) He was asking what he did wrong on raising her to be so evil then he collapsed and took his last breath 4 years and 11 months ago. She always had anger issues since she was a teen, but we chopped it up as just being a teen and hormons since she seemed to be a very well-rounded person overall. We noticed the changes in her as she got older and thought she was bipolar. But it was too late for us to get her help because she was over 18. She wouldn't amit that she has mental problems and get help. By the time I learned about narcissism, it was too late. The trauma damage was already done. In those horrible years of walking on eggshells, she had us under her control because she was kicked out of her ex-husband's home for stepping out on him and the trauma she caused. She ended back with us because she was homeless and 3 months pregnant with another's man child. So, of course, we took her in. She was lying from the start, telling us her marriage failed because he was abusing her physically. I know different now. We tried to help her, going through her pregnancy and the birth, then she couldn't handle being a mother. She wouldn't do what a mother should do and we ended up raising our grandson until he was 6 years old.
She hunted down for a new supply because my husband became disabled and we couldn't give her a free ride anymore. We asked her to start paying her own way because if she didn't we would end up homeless. That pissed her off, and she really got bad. She finally found a nieve 24 year old guy, 6 years younger than her, Within 3 months, she manipulated and lied to him and they moved in together. Then she trapped him by getting pregnant. My husband I ended up homeless with her stalking us and still messing with our heads using our grandson against us. Then my husband died. She destroyed me beyond repair. I have been abandoned by everyone,... She made sure of that with her lies.. I went no contact but it is slowly killing me from the inside out. I can't have a relationship with my grandson. I can't function anymore. I'm the one who is at fault somehow. And you know what.. I'm starting to believe I must be. I'm just a failure and a lost cause.. I can not heal . It hurts so much. I'm so tired of trying. I just want to die.
@@terrydyer2490wtf….
Please be careful everyone! I was mentally healthy when I was young, but My narcissist father and boyfriend caused me ocd and anxiety, now I’m faithful to get healed by the Grace of Jesus
Aww x hugs same here
@@PricelessJesus yes! God is slowly healing me as I've been trying to say.
@aida_9902 hmmm, I'm interested in your username. Is that from the opera aida by verdi?
anxiety
depression
dissociative disorder
complex traumatic disorder
post traumatic stress disorder
High blood pressure, and it's accompanied ailments, as well.The narc can literally kill you! And blame you .
Addiction
I got Chronic Fatigue and Fibromyalgia after years of narcissistic abuse.
I'm overcoming decades of severe narcissistic abuse and I battle with most of these things especially chronic fatigue and complex PTSD
I am going thru the same things. I know u and I are not alone. So many walking wounded from Narc abuse!
@@mia_1969 I realize this now more than ever Mia these channels and the people spreading awareness about these issues have been so impowering for me.
Yes, right on spot! When I was younger thought it was "normal ". Then realized other families weren't like this.Our narcissistic mother made 2 brothers alcoholic. One unfortunately died in car crash due to being drunk. Mom blamed her sisters on wishing him bad luck. Crazy woman!
So true! My parents, brothers too, I'm blessed to have come out half sane at all!
A special thank you, Mr. Danish, for correctly labeling this situation as a "RESPONSE", and not a "disorder". I sincerely wish that you would brainwash other psychological health "care providers" to use this correct terminology and treatment, instead of the mis-labeling, discrimination, and maltreatment that is all too common currently. ❤
I learned to not talk about it much. To give it no energy. I did not want to re traumatize myself. It would have taken longer to let go. It was a journey to feeling nothing for him. 2 years of solitude, study, sleep was my healer.
Brilliant analysis and life-saving advice, Danish! Now in the West, we"re dealing with that abuse from our central governments. The evilness of Others just never ends. 😮
Thank you sir for your valuable words.
My Narcissistic ex discarded me months before our marriage. I was traumatized to my core and become suicidal .
Now I am on my healing journey. lt was your videos that brought me back to life . I am really grateful to you sir 🙏
I think I've developed ptsd. I practically jump out of my skin everytime he's coming home from work😮😢
yeah …your body is telling you to leave …because it only gets worse
In all of your videos I feel as if you are talking EXACTLY about me, a Victim of a massive Narcissist
You have explained what I have gone through in better ways than any counselor I have gone too.
You are the first to truly validate what I have gone through instead of trying to get me to give mercy grace or forgiveness to the perpetrators.
Not one validated what they did.
Even EMDR therapy makes you go back in time and actually relive the pain but I was encouraged to see it through the perpetrators eyes.
Honestly just a “you didn’t deserve that. They shouldn’t have done that. That was awful. You are strong for having gone through that.”
Instead of all this bilateral tapping that honestly just honed my disassociation skills even more.
I guess it helps panic attacks?
I just want someone to call a spade a spade and you do. Right is right and wrong is wrong.
You are an absolute angel and brilliant and using your gifts to help others.
I don’t feel so alone anymore. You make me feel heard and seen.
Your one statement in this video shook me to my core.
“When you have someone so close to you that you should be able to trust (for me- my mother / my husband) betray you of course you are going to not trust people.”
Wow, shows how bad our counseling, psychologist training is. It's all gone woke even in many Christian circles.
I'm sorry you went through these horrific things. You remember and know, you did not cause it nor deserve it. No matter what abusers told you.
Luke 17:3 Rebuke the sinner, if he repents forgive him.
How does God forgive? When we repent sincerely with crushing sorrow.
The People that tell you any different are lost themselves.
You have illustrated, perfectly, why I will not seek counseling. Thank you for validating me! ❤
That spade?.....It's a spade!!
Never forget that dear soul.
I too, unfortunately get it. Trying to completely rebuild my life from scratch due to abuse on a criminal level (with no one being charged)...and I'm too exhausted to even think straight .
Stay strong and look forward to life's natural justice to realign and restore and repair all the damage that is extremely undeserved ❤
@@disgustingwaterAgree totally! I made that mistake by paying for treatment centers for couples, going to local Pop therapist, who told me to "lower my standards", right in front of 'him', and w/o any suggestions to 'him'!
Other $$ attempts too..
Dr Bashier is the Bomb when he clarifies and stops all the gaslighting by phonies.
Wish you the Best 🙏🕊️💜
Wow creating a new personality.. that is so real it’s crazy when you look at yourself in the mirror and don’t know who you are. It’s so hard to fake a smile!
@n0426 I've had a psychologist dislike me because they thought I was so negative. They tried to tell me to start saying positive things. No way I was going to obey her ignorance!
@@deborahwales1717 what the hell. What kind of psychologist is that.
One of my family members would always tell me to go pray and read the holy book. That doesn’t serve me!!
Some people just don’t get it.
@@n0426 she was highly unprofessional.
But God has helped me.
@@deborahwales1717 he always does and will always do.
Self isolation is the best way to heal yourself mentally. It has been proven in many religions too.
@@deborahwales1717Depending on how she told you to tell nice things, it isn't necessarily a bad advice though. Not saying the pain isn't real, just... being a little bit more positive about stuff can help getting yourself out of paralysis -- And by positivity, I'm talking about being kind with yourself and "celebrating" small wins, if that makes sense.
Now, without context, I can only try to make sense of it -- with my understanding -- so I might be wrong here. She might simply not be a good fit for you either, either way as long as you have a better therapist for you now!
A Mental Merry-Go-Round …..So Exhausting …..😔
Absolutely!!! I can't stabilize my nerves, AND my children aren't helping, because they went through the same thing! they use me,as their therepy!!!! THAT isn't helpful,to move on, but after 45 YEARS of marriage, divorced me and his children
thanks for your words! Yes,long, scary rollercoaster!!!!!!
Thank you so much for telling these things! I found myself a victim of a narcissistic mother at the age of 60, over a year ago. When I was 40, I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder and borderline personality, but the diagnoses never explained why things went this way. This list helps very much, so thank you. I also have a friend to whom I am going to tell about this, cause I think her schizophrenic symptoms may relate to her upbringing in a very "You're good for nothing" environment. Now I need to find help for my recovery, but I found new hope through this.
How much damage does narcissism cost society?
This is a study that is very much needed. The damage can destroy lives as it has done to me.
There needs to be a cost evaluation otherwise good people are destroyed beyond repare.
I've thought about this a lot.. Given how long it takes to come to some awareness of the issue just by the listeners here, advanced ages, soo much loss of production, financial loss, medical costs, on & on. . If like penalties were applied to the damage done by harm - intentionally - to victims of narcissistic abuse, as are to perpetrators of legal transgressions, our prisons would be even more overrun than are now
We won't see this in our lifetime, but right here is a good place to start.
Wish you well 🙏🕊️💜
Thank you, I don’t know what else to say. I appreciate your input and look forward to better days. God Bless you
Danish your insight is REMARKABLE !!! Thank You
You are spot on, i feel like i dont physically exist. My sister is a narc psychpath, she destroyed my small family of mum and dad,she continues to abuse and steal from my mother in a nursing home, she stole all our family photos,my photos,the family will,dads strong pain medication. She even took her allocation of the will before i had executed it. She has turned all my relatives against me,i thought they knew better? Recently she took my mothers rosary beads and her glasses so she cant watch tv,read or view photos. The nursing home dont care even though im paying everything including funerals ect . Im at the end. Ive had too much
You will have to fight the evil with good to your mom. Get her new glasses. That kind of thing. It is a nuisance but it will help your mom
@@superluvver3 If you are in charge of your mother's care, ban her from seeing your Mom.call legal aid and find out how to charge her with elder abuse.
This is crazy. I’ve been taking Xanax and have had chronic anxiety and ever since I went no contact with my gf I have been off the Xanax for 3 weeks and I feel better like I don’t need it aside from withdrawal symptoms. I gave her too many breaks through the years. I’ll never let her back in for the sake of my own mind and peace
I pray your feeling OK dealing withdrawal. I know the hell of withdrawal from opiates and a little bit from benzo's. Stay no contact and stay strong
My dad is a Narcissist and I was then married to a Narcissist for 25 years. I am 64. always in fight or flight, even when I think I am relaxed. I cannot make decisions, I have major anxiety and health issues. I am so mentally and emotionally exhausted, and I am not as productive as I was. My body is also weaker. I used to be muscular, and strong, but I had a major ankle injury, cannot workout, and I feel physically weak, and have put on weight. He stole all my money, was so abusive, and now I have to start over, which is overwhelming. He is an evil person.
I became an alcoholic to cope, which made me a prisoner to them. Kept me like scapegoat pet, made me struggle endlessly to finish school, just for a final dump off. My nervous system got completely messed up, became epileptic. No joke.
The ceaseless cleaning was spraying Lysol and repeatedly washing my hands or my showers taking over an hour because I couldn't tell if I had washed certain body parts or believed I had washed them insufficiently. As for the psychosis, I saw my abuser everywhere in any male who looked even remotely like him. OMG thank you for clarifying this. You just explained SO much and made me feel sane. Thank you
I have heard other so called experts on narcissists describe vulnerable narcissist people and all they do is describe someone like myself with cptsd and make you feel useless. I've endured one useless psychologist after another not to mention psychiatrists. They don't seem to have any knowledge on the signs of narcissistic abuse at all !!!
Isn't it so frustrating to reach out for help with a professional and they sit there and look at you dumbfounded because they don't understand and have no knowledge of these evil narcissistic demons. ????? If they can't help you why can't they find someone who can. I have to Waite until they figure out they are not helping and making me feel worst. Then they say something like our sessions are over because the insurance company only allows so many visits and they will not pay for anymore. Then I have to start all over looking for answers and a different therapist who might understand the horror I have been through. I think I'm teaching them about narcissism, which it should be the other way around.
I got discarded April 4 of 2023. I finally found a man that truly loves me and my children recently. I feel so terrible because my current partner did not cause my trauma but he has to put up with my anxiety and pain😢 I try really hard to not let my ocd depression and anger and sadness show but sometimes I break down. I trama dump at least 2 to 3 times a month. Hes so patient with me but i know it affects him. The abuse changed me i feel forever 😢
thank you Danish, i am 36 years old and have cptsd, my husband and i moved in 2023 across country away from the people who where really toxic to me that wasn't just my family. i have been wheelchair bound since age 11 for the first time in my life i can stand for a minute without hanging on to anything. my healing road is a long one and i am praying that my brain will heal to the point i can walk again your videos answer a lot of questions i have been having and it helps my husband to understand what is going on.
You CAN heal. I did it from many ailments: physical, emotional and mental. Godspeed to your further healing!
@@Deborah-uw5ip Praise the Lord for the healing he has done for you and thank you for your testimony and encouragement ❤️🙏
@@sjf8305 You're most welcome. Yes, Jesus saved me many times, but I also did a lot of work/research Lol
I had malfunctioning daydreaming because of my narcissistic mom. I was a crazy delulu man living in another reality. Also I had suicidal thoughts all my youth. The day I woke up, I felt pathetic. That was my brain trying to protect me for the merciless emotional abuse. That happened like 5 years after she died. Now I'm broken AF and I don't have any reason to live. I'm poor, I'm trying to escape poverty but I have no opportunities to make it. I don't wanna become a hobo, I don't have any vice, I'm not a bad person but I'm so fucked up... Why did I deserve this fate? what did I do wrong?
You didn't do anything wrong to deserve bad treatment by any abuser! But, you should probably seek out a good professional counselor to establish a course of treatment. Good luck.
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Danish you truly are a God send!!!!! It truly is amazing to me how so many of us have so many different experiences and problems because of a narcissist, but thank Almighty God we have help from people like you, thank you so very much, and many blessings to you!!!!!!!!!😊😊😊
The best therapist for narc abuse in the world!!
I swear by it😊🎉🎉
Yes, I agree.
He’s lived it , that’s the difference . 🙏
@@WendyHannan-pt7ez Despite the fact,Mostly people going through the same horrible path can't explain better or even equal to Danish's depth of understanding of complexities.
He's the most best therapist.
Alot of praise to him!
Wow this video is so helpful and validating. I often have imposter syndrome and feel like I'm making up all my experiences. I'm guessing it's from the gaslighting, projection and family denial and scapegoating
I'm sooo glad I found your precious work ✨️ 😌 ☺️ 💓 ✨️ because I always was afraid because I thought I have an earlier form of dementia but through your videos I finally know that I was just a survivor of narcissistic people's v1olence. Thank you, dear Danish
And I'm a surviver
I am a Survivor as well she told everybody I was crazy while she was cheating on me with the whole hood she dared to do it Even with My 24 years son But nobody belelieved she said I was crazy thanks God I left her I moved next to My mom 's far from her And thanks to this vídeo I know now she is a narsicts abuse your videos are helping people thorougout the world.now I know I'm not crazy thanks.those people are demons on earth they don't give a damn about people's feelings.leave,run the sooner the better.by the way I'm Dominican I've never been abroad though.
@@user-o6ue45hz8nr2ap I hope you will stay resilient, angel 😇🙏
Danish, thank you for validating my experience with demon manifestation. Recently, I realized that event wasn't his actually changing into demon but a revelation of the demon to me. I hope that makes some sense.
Your work is important, you are saving lives.
I've experienced most of these "alterations" ..it's all subsiding slowly.( my dissosociated state i called LaLa Land, hearing his voice constantly, severe anger outbursts, EUPD, Fibromyalgia, and much more).It really is like being born again..I did two years of music therapy writing songs about my experience of narcissistic abuse and recording it on an album..wow, it relieved me so much from all the pain and anxiety..but Danish, your explanations are truly enlightening, so thank you.
I reckon I should submit myself for psychological studies, considering that I survived a narcissistic mother, then a narcissistic and abusive life partner, then dealt with the systemic narcissistism of a large educational institution and numerous insane employers and the institutional narcissism of the freemasons. I'm not saying I'm completely healthy after all that, but I'm still standing!
I've been thru numerous narcissistic predators too! God heals, God knows! Vengeance is mine sayeth the Lord!
@@susanawright7757 God is the greatest abuser of them all. The very definieition of a completely insane and malignant narcissist.
@@Barbreck1I completely agree with you. The last sentence of your first comment reveals that you view yourself as a survivor and not a victim. I believe that is a major part of the battle. Perspective!! My best to you.
@@susanawright7757 Are you serious? Gods the biggest narcissistic abuser of all!
@@Barbreck1 Exactly that. He has the capacity to remove evil from the whole world at any time yet does not. He uses it to get his way.
Then when we need his help the most he shits on us and when we don't need him he gift bombs us so hard we can't begin to properly and correctly manage and use what he's giving us.
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Yes everything true sir.
I’m also same problems.
I still jump at shadows/slightest movement. Tidying/cleaning is definitely not my thing, I wish it was. lol
Thank you for sharing Danish. I started experiencing panic attacks and when it got frequent like twice a week especially while swimming at night, I knew it's time to leave the relationship at every cost. 😢
Thankyou for letting me find you too ❤❤❤
✅ All of the above
I thank you, Danish, for laying it all out there. I had a narcissistic mother and have a narcissistic sister. Raised that way + lived that way. I'm on my journey of healing.
🌹When I heard you say about how do I regain my personality when I never had one - I almost fell off my chair! That's me! I needed validation and there it is.
Il mio trauma dopo 3 anni con un narcisista, mi ha portata ad ingrassare 20 chili, ad avere ansia perenne e aritmie cardiache quando cercava di tornare ancora, ancora e ancora.
Ora sto cercando di ritrovare e salvare me stessa. Non gli do più l opportunità neanche di parlare con me. L ultima volta stavo per finire al pronto soccorso con una tachicardia. Mai più!!!!!
Very relevant advice for me. Thankyou so, so much. I don't know what I would have done without you.
After one year of analysing my situation of being bullied my narcissist brother & nephew, I am now fighting them💪💪💪 . Hope & pray I will win bcoz this fight is not just for me but for my deceased sibling & late father🙏🙏🙏🥰🥰🥰
Thank u so much for that 🙏🏼❤️
Im suicidal n suffering from chronic insomnia due to abuse from a narcissist
Please seek shelter and help anywhere you can. Do it quietly but do it as soon as possible. The first step is getting to safety. The second step is to begin healing. You are not alone. I am praying for you. Many of us have found peace again and you can too
Been there too. Still having trouble waking up in the dark and wrestling with demons, but finally able to get relief through prayer and going back to sleep. It takes time being away with no contact, I'm beginning to see some hope again. Don't give up.
Completely relatable. The bits of good in life do not balance out the horrible and too stupid to be real anymore. You just want out of this rigged unwinnable game you are being forced to play.
@gathoniterry1362 I've had to sleep on a couch for 3yrs. If I tried to sleep in a bed, I would be on pain. I'm OK on the couch now. I came very close to harming myself over 2yrs ago. But I'm still here. It is a hard journey that takes time. I have found it helpful to watch channels like this regularly and to arm myself with knowledge. There are are a few different types of narcissistic people. It helps to learn how to spot these different types. After 3yrs I don't need to watch these channels as much as I used to, even though my landlord is also a vulnerable narcissist. I have being learning to set boundaries to keep her away. They can be very clever at disguising what they are. She even fooled me pretending to be sooo kind! You soon figure it out though. These people can never be reasoned with! If it's a friend or family member then try talking to them about something that they have done that has upset you. That can be your first clue when you watch them stonewall you. I am now 98% certain that friend I had lived with for years, is an altruistic narcissist. I've never had any freewill with her or her daughter! Arm yourself with as much knowledge as possible! I know how it makes you feel. My last landlord was a kind narcissist and very dangerous. He ran a massive smear campaign against me and turned all the neighbours against me! I was so unwell I stopped taking care of myself and even 2yrs later I am just beginning to emerge from under it. Once this starts happening then you know that you are beginning to develop into someone with strength and inner power for great good!
@@mrsqueakthecat.8061 I get it. It takes a long time for the good to begin to outweigh the bad!
I struggle everyday with the lingering effects from the trauma damage. Its been over 4 years since i went no contact. Ive been destroyed beyond repair and I go through everything you are talking about every day. I never had mental problems but now I do. I also have several issues with my physical health.
Ive been destroyed beyond repair. I will never heal. Im dying from the inside out. It sucks to feel your body just rotting away. Continuing to get worse and getting new mental and physical health issues as time passes.
No one can help me, nor do they care. I don't tell my story over and over anymore like i use to when i was reaching out for support and help. I have finally realized that nobody understands or they just don't want to hear about it because they don't care. They said they did but they were lying. That shattered any trust i had left in me which wasnt much.
It is what it is and I have accepted that im going to live in misery until I die.
This channel and this film greatly help to the persons who have been abused by the narcissists, Thank you so much ❤
Appreciate you
Very helpful content. Thank you so much. It explains quite a few things I am experiencing and I am happy to hear that I am not the mad one
👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼 I have been helped by so many of your videos. This one really hit home!!! The clear descriptions of mental alterations combined with clearly explained steps towards healing were exactly what i needed today. I have every alteration but psychosis. But I have had dreams since moving out that felt like reality and had me waking up exhausted. I have experienced some degree of healing, but now I have a better idea of what steps to take in the areas where I am still in more of a holding pattern. Because of this video, I also feel really validated in how I ended up in my current state. Thank you.
Dissocation. Disconnecting. A big habit. I did it in the beginning so I could heal and not look. And trauma dumping; that I can change right now. "You are the very best." Real healing. Thank you
Thank you for the info and the tip about the book. I have found no care locally for this model. Thank god for the internet. And generous people like you.
Thank you so much for your work for us! Its so right on point and helps us to understand whats going on within ourselves 🙏🏻
Thank you so much ❤❤❤
Danish, I'm not paranoid but I am exhausted. I am concentrating on improving my life.
Two narcissists including one covert. I think i am borderline now. Walking in the morning helps a lot. Sport. Working and socializing is a challenge
You’re really smart. It all makes perfect sense! Thank you so much!
Sandy Williamson Rudiger (civil rights activist) 🙋🏻♀️✝️♋️
Thank you for posting this video. Very enlightening, acknowledging the damaging effects of being ard narcissists.
I don't know who I am an introvert or extrovert I'm literally like okay this person is that I should be like them around he's loud I should be walking in egg shells he's that she's that I gotta be like that I was a very bubbly light hearted person but years of narcs abuse just made a person I no longer know I wanna go on deep self discovery journey
Wow, this was such powerful information and makes perfect sense. Just completely amazing explanation. Goodness, why do the mental health providers not realize the connection between narcissism and mental illness and how to actually go about reversing it? No, they just hand out a pill and you talk for an hour every week. I'm not putting it down, if it helps you then that's all that matters, but my goodness, this explanation was so, so clear. I feel like 10,000 light bulbs have just gone off in my mind.
This should be codified in legal terms as assault
Excellent!!! You definitely are an expert and this video has highly elevated my trust in your knowledge and wisdom. Thank you so much 💙
Wow, Danish, this was an excellent video!!! I went no-contact with a narc female friend of mine (just a platonic friendship) about 3 years ago. I find myself still ruminating and rehearsing conversations I SHOULD have had with her but was too timid to do so.
You are such a blessing Danish! Thankyou so much ❤
Exceptionally helpful and a comfort, Danish. Thank you. I fully recommend helping ones self out with exceptional attention and care to sleep, nutrition and exercise, as well as therapy and community inclusion. I'm hoping we continue to talk about what we went through and keep it real about the somatic effects of this abuse. Your wording was also exceptionally careful (not easy to do!). Bonus points!
This was and is a horror movie but I'm a strong Queen (and you can't crush a Queen, baby). WE will ascend but we must keep ourselves safe from those monsters. Love and healing wishes for all.
The dehumanizing treatment.
It is nearly impossible to "be yourself" and grow healthier when your survivor-related health issues have immobilized you and made your physical appearance honestly ugly. I do not exaggerate, nor do I have body dysmorphia. While I have never been especially good-looking, now every time I glance in the mirror, I am re-traumatized and flashbacks are triggered, because I am unrecognizable. I am not OK, nor ever will be, with looking ugly--why should I. There must be many who are experiencing this situation. Fortunately for Mr. Danish, as well as others, he does not have this extra challenge. I can see why he and those like him, still believe in a kind God. Those like me cannot, unless we have become delusional as a result of our experiences. Thank you again, Mr. Danish, for your caring and support. ❤
This is exactly how the narc WANTS you feeling. Ugly and traumatized. You are not. You are made in the image of God and will heal by watching these videos and evaluating yourself daily which the narc cannot do. You will grow and your narc will be the same person hurting others and working for the devil.
Thank you for this one Danish 🙏 This is very helpful.
Stabilisation is my goal. I am less hard on myself now that I know more about CPTSD and dissociation. My family doesn't take mental health seriously. They want me to just get over it. I didn't know there was any other way than living in survival mode. I thought this was normal.
When you healed your dissociation did you have bad memories return? I'm scared of this. I don't think i can handle it. I've had a couple of memories return and its brutal.
Isn't this the portal into a new yes completely new theory on psychodynamics?
You MADE the breakthrough!!!
his action of the final block on messenger shocked me so much!! and he kept me in a confused and extremely anxious state i even reach the point where i dont want to wake up the second day!!
This is a great analysis-rumination over past events never feeling safe and the cortisol being up is downstream from so many problems -thank you
I have had to deal with a bully at work (I have left now), I have been dissociating on and off for a few weeks now. I wish it felt like magic and not a nightmare 😢. Btw, I have diagnosed CPTSD from childhood abuse.
I'm so glad that there is NPD specific trauma healing available now because when I was going to therapy since age 18 I felt so much of it was a terrible waste of time, I did EMDR for nine straight years another modalities of talk therapy. Thank you for your videos they are so important to me and they are helping me understand more deeply.
The joke for me was after 7 years of abusing me and almost our child, he had the nerve to claim I was abusing him, and I ran him into to ground after I left him, there was no level of abuse he did not do! constantly feeling stuck in the same place, constantly paranoid, and am sick of feeling full of hate and poison and trauma dumping!
Danesh, Thank you so very much! I've been studying Narscissism in depth for 10 years. No one has explained these weird confusing things we experience.
The narcissist breaks down the mind as a muscle so you need all of your strength to build it back up like with weightlifting. Involuntarily the mind gets exercise but the whole experience is arduous. Like being inside of a spiritual war with the enemy secretly there and never letting you know the entire time.
The most important thing to work on is the lack of the ability to love, or let people love you knowing that the world is seeming like hell just due to the staggering amount of damaged covert narcissists we all grew up presented with constantly rather than a real person.
I was in confused state with 35 years of narcissistic father and impacted my relationships.
I recite Qur'an morning & evening daily, I'm feeling better now, exercise in the morning too
I am afraid to drive and leave the house because he betrayed me so badly......how do I treat that.....
I had that too… it’s called agoraphobia… give yourself time. Self compassion, self love… meditation… learn about cptsd, Pete Walker has a brilliant and invaluable book called Surviving and Thriving from CPTSD.
Meditations on UA-cam, get outside and go for a walk. Try and tune out everything and everyone around you. ❤❤❤❤ praying for you
I have that too. The more I stay home, the harder it gets to go out. So the solution is to do the opposite I suppose, a little at a time. It helps to have someone go with me.
Hi Danish, I just wanted to say that you are wonderful person and you are helping to understand what is going on in a body and mind after narcissistic abuse. It's very important to look at yourself with compassion and listen what your body is telling you, because it's the best advisor. Thank you so much for your work!
Yes, I am currently getting myself back. It does take a while. Months. But it is happening.
I think instead of “forgiving” our tormentors; we should forgive ourselves and get to a point we just don’t care about them anymore. FTW
I had a psychotic breakdown. Didn’t know reality from my mind. Lots of people taking advantage.
ANGER
I had a friend who was very judgemental..when i got married to my narcissist..she said i was pathetic and didnt talk to me to 4 years..After i endured HELL like no other... understatement believe me..She contacted me again..i love my friend but when i asked "Boy ..i have a story for you"She proceeded to tell me she was mad at me and didnt want to hear..I felt i could still maintain our friendship..but realized i was totally changed after narcissist abuse and it was too painful for the victim blaming ...
Your voice and tone sooths me. Thank you
Pour into yourself even if you don’t have the energy, Go get a massage , get treat yourself with Starbucks, reward yourself, after sometime you will start feeling better ✅
Well said ❤