Top Signs You are Dealing with A DANGEROUS FEMALE Malignant Narcissist or Sociopath
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- In. today's video Jill explains what exactly to look out for to determine if someone in your life may be a very dangerous female malignant narcissist or sociopath, and what to do if you are.
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sabotaging the lives of people is sheer entertainment for her. They live for this. The also live to pit people against each other.
Big facts so true ..Triangulating constantly
Their best friends also seem to carry the same vibes - all meshed into a hive mindset of feeding off others.
Hate to be the bearer of bad news but our culture is based on the lies of many high level psychopaths and sociopaths, we call them politicians
Yep. This is my grandmother. Then she hides her hands.
So true.
Thank you.
It took me 14 years to catch my narcissistic wife. Of course, I didn’t know she was a narcissist back then. I didn’t even know what narcissism was. A part of me always knew that she wasn’t faithful to me. It was just that whenever I voiced my concerns or asked for some reassurance, there was hell to pay. She put me through a mental gauntlet of feigned outrage, moral indignation, gaslighting, and flipping reality on its head in order to make me the bad guy. She repeatedly set what little progress I had made in trying to have a good relationship with her, back to square one. She exploited my deepest desires-to have a good marriage and to keep our family together, by always keeping one foot out the door and threatening to leave. So, I learned to carefully pick my battles…. and worse. I learned to put the blinders on and to pretend that she wasn’t up to no good. I also learned to convince myself that I was the problem. And then one day, while she was at work, I decided to clean out the car. She had a nasty habit of treating the backseat like a dumpster. As I stuffed empty wrappers, bottles, and cups into a trash bag, I found an envelope with her name on it.
Thinking it might be important, I decided to look at its contents before I threw it away. It was a letter from some guy who was clearly in love with her. He expressed how he wanted more from her than their secret rendezvous. There was no mistaking what he meant. Even though my heart was crushed, I regained my power in the very next moment. I drove to where she worked, and I angrily approached her. Her eyes fell on the letter in my hand, and her shoulders slumped in silent defeat. She quietly said, “I can’t talk right now, but I’ll be home in an hour.” “Good!” I replied. “I’ll be waiting!” Then I turned on my heel and stormed out the door. Now that the cat was out of the bag, she admitted the entire affair-including all the places where they would meet up. As difficult as that was to hear, I stood by, ready to forgive her. I was well-practiced in starting over from square one, and I eagerly waited for the opportunity to roll up my sleeves and to get to work. But she played the wounded victim as convincingly as Amber Heard, and she asked me to wait for two days while she decided what she should do. Of course, I said yes.
Even though I had been married to her for 14 years, I still had no idea what I was dealing with. In the midst of that painful discussion, she was plotting her next move. It turned out that she needed two days to think because that’s when her boyfriend would return from his business trip. She wanted to be in a relationship with him, but when he refused to leave his wife for her, she decided to stay married to me. Of course, I didn’t know any of this at the time. I only knew that after two days, she decided to stay. Being the eternal optimist that I am, I saw this as an opportunity for a brand new start, and I convinced myself that we were finally going to have a good marriage. But she didn’t share my optimism, and it was obvious that her heart wasn’t in her decision to stay. We suffered together for another 2 weeks when she blamed me for her affair. That’s when I finally threw in the towel. We divorced on friendly terms, and we made all our own arrangements for custody and child support. We only needed a lawyer to draft and file the appropriate documents. The laws have changed since those days, and you can’t do that kind of stuff anymore. Anyway, during our many conversations to dissolve our marriage, she admitted lots of things that I didn’t know about-including the fact that she was never faithful to me. If I had understood narcissism back then, I would have handled things differently. I wouldn’t have put up with her mental abuse, and I would have left her years earlier.
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I am 78 years of age, and have a sister five years younger than myself who fits the mould of a dangerous malignant narcissist perfectly. I've had a lifetime of her destructive evil ways, but three years ago, after another scene, I decided I needed to go 'no contact' to keep my own sanity. Unfortunately. this has also meant me withdrawing from her children and grandchildren too which has been a very distressing thing for me. It is unbelievable how much damage these lying, manipulating, evil people can cause to close family members. My heart goes out to similar recipients of this terrible abuse.
I just had to go no contact with my 24 year old cousin (I’m 40) that i practically helped raise. She is a narcissist who has put a rift in the family and has made up lies about my mom and now she’s trying to put my grandma against me. Her mother was practically a second mom but i had to cut ties with her too because she was her enabler. Very tough but life is much brighter because of it
absolutely . I have been through the same hell myself. Stay strong.
💯
@@brandyoctober5923 are you sure you're not the narcissist
@@noyb12345 what? How do you get that from what i wrote?
I dated a narcissist woman years ago. It took me years and years to recover and I am still not 100%. Her emotions were all staged and acted out. She was not a very good actor. She slept with several of my friends and wrecked several friendships. One of the biggest mistakes I have made in my life was opening up her diary…which she asked me to hold while she was in class! It was devastating. I was devastated. She was brilliant intellectually. She was hyper-sexual. She was emotionally abusive. She was a self-cutter. She was flirtatious with everybody. She was emotionless. She was melodramatic. She drank over-the-counter cough medicines and then sat in hot water. She was damaged. Her father was schizophrenic and she was sexually abused as a child. I stayed with her out of compassion for her and left her out of compassion for myself.
Sounds like my ex gf 😂
Sounds just like my ex-wife, but I was discarded before The spell wore off. Then it was like Bruce Willis in the sixth sense when he at the end of the movie finally learned that he was the ghost. I Mass text all of our mutual friends and her family telling my truths and fully accepting the accountability for my shortcomings. I told them all she was a narcissist, complete lack of respect, absolutely zero empathy a liar, a coward, etc. I don’t think she’s gonna try to Hoover me lol. I hate to say it, but if I knew what I know now I would’ve punched her right in the kisser and accepted the consequences. I feel more love from an escort. Don’t love me that’s fine I accept, but not reciprocating any respect and do things I wouldn’t do to my enemies. Then make me out to be the bad person and that’s why you had to be saved by some idiot that also disrespected me and slept with my wife in my bed. I’m no jealous she’s yours dumbass oh, how I wish to be a fly on the wall when she Gives you the discard. She was a married woman and you knew it so you deserve what she’s going to dish out. The only thing I miss is the seven years of darkness I won’t get back. Sorry, don’t know I was going with this lol. These people do the most inhumane things to people that love them. We should be able to slap them in the face punch them in the mouth those wounds heal quickly. It’s been two years and here I am on UA-cam ranting about how I feel about it. These people think they are gods and have no room for God in their lives. These people are the most unholy as they do the devils work. To all the people that can relate to my story, you are not alone, and I can relate, and I believe your truth. Love and healing for Those who ask
They flirt a lot, even when people don't have time for them.
They cause problems between friends.
I feel your pain!!! I was just a friend trying to help a younger girl, no intimacy. And I got railroaded and accused as being a narc myself.
100% " I stayed with her out of compassion for her and left her out of compassion for myself." 100%
Similar story
I had such a women. She has literally destroyed my life. I got severe depression because of her narcistic traits. Once I got severely depressed she left me. Now she is terrorising the next one.
Fear not she'll be "Coming around the mountain......When she comes. SHE'LL ISOLATE YOU.
SHE'LL IMMOLATE, ERADICATE YOU!, & emaciate your SOUL, 😢but blame only YOU,
But you still you can't say ...
GOODBYE!
NO HOPE til I die, while i sigh
Free of decisions, co-dependency it's not just on occasion my knee's abrasion😢 submits me to her will.
No matter to who i spill my guts it's like a clay filled ..rut!
Why can't they ALL see her now?
Flying in her make believe suit.
My pasttime was dreaming of her on her butt.
But never can I possibly forewarn you bc u were called to be a Sacrifice!
Your
Existence will lie"*,"***$23';, ####:``[] `;##$"##
Believe her countless alibis.
TIL U CANT ESCAPE
your date of oblivion
It's your....................It's NOT FATE.
?Just deny,
The abuse ,,22*2@$2212²×224$$$"""$,2 ,' ,229 "** @“
How are you doing now? I hope you have healed some and are on the upswing
I can relate. I am still in this relationship.
Katie?Sounds like her.
No longer your problem but someone else’s!
Never feel guilty from removing someone from your life,your mental health and well being is precious
Pretty hard when your narcissist fiancé uses the child as a weapon against you
Yeah
@@generalzucc462thật sucks. One day the kid will sêê and know, too young to understand
@@generalzucc462 please un-engage yourself.. come on now..you can do it..
Last time I did that they hired thousands of gang stalkers to try and get me to kill myself.
Remember, everything they say you're doing, is what they are doing, remember their image out in public is everything, they protect that till the end and always...
Lol, there are (sadly) some similarities with a certain political party.
Is that because this type of person is more often found in politics?
In private they go super ham with it lmao. What a demon actors in human skin
Thất why i sceeenshot but their đếfênse is i dont remmeber because i got fucked up drunk and ơn drugs
@@vendomnu😂😂🎯💯🎯
@@vendomnuyes
This world if full of Kamalas😂😂
Look at how she has managed to dupe millions!🤷🏽♂️
i still cannot fathom how people live their entire lives like this
When strangers go crazy 😧.... God help us its like test ...
@@nh255 Except that I have a family history of a 125 to a 150 years of so that I can prove So far - When you have multiple family members that commit their life to satan and worship the devil - It has devastating long term generational outcomes
Exactly. After so many relationships of this how can you not realize the pattern?
@@OriontheChosen 😂😂😂 the thumbnail
@@JamilaJibril-e8h yeah very creepy
I was in a 15-year relationship with a female narcissist, I'm way too tolerant. I finally ended it after much abuse as I later learned she cared Nothing for me, showed mass disrespect, triangulation gaslight, and lying about the smallest thing. Actually, everything you mention is what she did. She was shocked when I left. I only learned afterwards about her type.
Better than me Kent....it took me 40 yrs. after the divorce to see her reality. I had NO clue about these demons but she fits the category to perfection.
The worse insult is I wasted a major part of my life with that freak and she damaged our adult offspring who still have NO clue about her but will never heard it from me even when she's long dead. She's going to have an eternity to examine her life if she can think around the flames.
Narc women don't co parent. EVIL😮
She,s not meant for you
@@HeatherGardiner-zv4czyou never have kids with narcissic women either
@@HeatherGardiner-zv4czwiser words have not been spoken. They cannot share, they are incapable.
The aging/elderly female narcissist is the worst. When dealing with evil people, distance yourself ASAP and cut off all contact. Silence is killer to their ego, because then they have no access to you, which is what they crave in order to feed their insecurity.
Very good point thanks for sharing God bless you
Sounds like my mom. She has oceans full of compassion for herself, but none for those she smears and abuses.
Same as mine, I asked her if she ever felt guilt in her life. She said no, she brought me up and damaged me a lot by ruining every relationship I had, manipulation, blackmail, lies, calling police on me, belittling me and the list goes on and on.
My mom and you mom should get together..as these two would eliminate eachother. 🤔😁😁😁😁
I think your mom and my mom are twins
I think that the most dangerous thing about a malignant narcissist is their *lies* , their malevolent character assassination(s) .
they are pathological liars. my malignant narc mom had assassinated my dad's, my sister-in-law's, my sis' and my character(because I stopped her from destroying my wife mentally). they will claw anybody in her way to be the Queen to receive all attention and love.
If they're really BAD AT IT ONLY THEIR MINIONS SND HOPELESSLY GULLIBLE PEOPLE GO ALONG WITH IT and they start to get like the BOY WHO CRIED WOLF! MORE AND MORE PEOPLE START TO SEE THROUGH THE GOOFY JUST CRINGEY NOT AT CALL CREDIBLE ESSILY DEBUNKED VICIOUS SICKO LIES and it starts to backfire. Meanwhile lots of good people have been Hurt to get to this point. Our creep here has alienated ALOT of now-,suspicious and now-hostile good people here. She's tried to isolate otherwise scapegoat smear and instigate severe bullying attacks on people with way more proven credibility for being happy healthy wholesome kind loyal and honorable than this obvious openly wicked villain will ever have. Bafflingly poor judgment. You'd think when you'd about burnt all the bridges and pretty much just burnt the location and anyone would you've strayed off course onto the thinnest ice and it's CRACKING, the savvy psychowoyuld skedaddle try to evade consequences b4 the karmic shit comes down. This bad guy is NOT THAT SMART! IDOT GRT IT! IS THERE A BRAND OF LOW FUNCTIONING SADISTIC MACHIAVELLIAN MALIGNANT ANTISOCIAL PERSONALITIED SOCIOPATHIC DARK NARCISSISTS who are. Just not that bright? Fully vicious enough but. Just not that GOOD at it. Intending to be a wicked evil master manipulator but - just NOT FOOLING ANYBODY?
Even actual rats are smart enough to avoid the cheese trap biut this human one here has to know she's on real peoples radar. Real people outside her minions and gullible pains comprising her little protective bubble.
She HAS to know she's gone too far. Is on dangerous ground. The loyal friends she backstabbing, betrays, ridicules and portrays as her bitches and pawns do - they've WARNED her to stop back off and lay low for her And their wellbeing bit you guessed it implore her t9 stop means she'll accelerate. Right at a brick wall! Instead, she continues provocations and blatant persecutions of the most vulnerable victims. Like she thinks it's a powerstruggle she has to escalate. Instead of priceless survival advice to avoid disaster! She's STUPID! THIS B IS CRAZY! ITS LIKE SHE HAS A DEATH WISH! AND SHELL TAKE THEM DOWN TOO is her clear attitude! I'd rather be her target than her accomplice or enabler about now. Instead of steering clear of obvious risky stumbling blocks for the time being she DOUBLES DOWN AND GOES BALLS OUT! WTF!! ITS CLOWN CRA,ZY CHAOS! you'd think she'd be trying to get out of her doom and seek greener pastures t9 decimate you'd think she'd at least have the sense to STOP and lay low and stay off the radar of dangerous people shes antagonize but it's like she just can't STOP HERSELF! Maybe she has other diagnoses than this one here. Because she ticks all these boxes but she sure isn't effective or in control! It's like she's a wrexking ball out of control and self destruction!
Any insights!? Because I'm flabbergasted and baffled by this wacky phenomenon ! What a circus!
And the courts running protection for them. And catering to their manic whims.
@@Xrispy_Yream_Zonuts yep , most agents of the Court $ystem are cluster B/toxic themselves , that's why the Justice $ystem is so dysfunctional , not to mention absorbently *expensive* !
I tried to tell people but without a sister and mom or wife looking out for you, it’s not even worth trying in this world.
The jezebel demon is one of the worst trust me. Maranatha.
I have one as a neighbour
@@shelbiemaerose4380Now, that's funny! LMAO!😂
How exactly is that funny
@AngelicaLady The Queen of Demons, living in just a house? No way would never happen. Also, when a crime happens, a lot of people are interviewed, and at least one will always say, "It was the "quiet" neighbor next door." Jezebel is anything but quiet. Yes, I found this funny.
@@stacyfandel5025wait till you get one
I've always been highly suspicious of people who want to give you a big hug the first time they meet you. I've found that throughout my 60yrs on this planet, those who are overly friendly at the first meeting are the ones that will hang you out to dry at the drop of a hat!
I have been there and I feel STUPID 🤬🤬🤬
My mother, brother, daughter, her father are this. It's hell at the moment.
Pray for me 🙏
I will, hope things are going well for you now 🕊️
Maybe, it’s YOU. YOU ARE YOUR FAMILY’S NARCISSIST. Read covert narcissistic personality disorder.
I hope the best for you
Spot on, every word 100% true, can confirm. If being a narc was illegal and they were all in jail, the world would be so much better.
Theyll never get jail time bexause that would mean most politicians and world leaders would be behind bars forever.
And smaller!
It would be heaven without them!
I wrote a sci-fi short story about a future in which narcissists are executed, once discovered, because of the pain they bring to society. So instead of being dictators and tyrants, narcissists have to hide their true nature. Always pretending to be happy and agreeable. They are miserable and powerless and most end up killing themselves because they have no way to dominate other people. It was very therapeutic for me to write that story....
@S t e p h a n i e Facts.
Dealt with one at a workplace. She instigated a workplace mobbing/narcissistic smear campaign against me. It basically went from her love bombing me to trying to destroy me by any means. Unfortunately, she happened to be a manager of the department I was in. It was truly shocking and hard to even comprehend. She was, and likely still is, a total coward that seems to have no ability to self-reflect.
She probley was interfered with by her Father, now its say back time
@@johnwilliams2479 Not sure what you're talking about. Whatever the case, there's no justification for someone to attempt to inflict harm on others because someone may have had a rough past. I know it happens all the time, but it's never justified. Self-responsibility and accountability is where it's at.
I find jobs to be riddled with people like that. Narcissists are not rare! A full blown dark triad, psychopath type might be 1% of the population of something, but not narcissists!
Unfortunately I have found in my 20 years experience in multiple jobs the shit often floats to the top.
@@seektruth707 revenge on the World s Male population
I dated a dangerous female narcissist for two months and she ran havock to my life for three years. I could write a book to tell dozens and dozens of stories. Police involved multiple times and so often that the police got tired of responding to my calls. She went to jail twice for attacking me in public. She pulled knives on me multiple times and the most annoying question I would hear was, "what did you do to her to upset her so much?" There was nothing more than not wanting to be with her so she was going to destroy my life.
She broke 3 cell phones, grabbing them out of my hand when trying to call the police. She destroyed a laptop of mine when I was working at a cafe. She then lied during the act so no one would come to my aid. She saw me walking down the street one day and yelled out of her car that I stole her purse. Three guys came running up to me and demanded her purse back that I never had. She drove by again and said, "I hope they beat your ass." When these guys heard her say that, I think it finally clicked that it was bulls***. The stories go on and on. From getting me banned from going to places I liked to hangout, to turning friends against me. To damaging my property and preventing me from working.
Her name wasn't Lisa was it? Sounds exactly like a psycho I dealt with years ago.
I tend to repel narcissists. I am not a narcissist myself, but very avoidant personality and depressed. It causes problems for me, but narcissists are not one of them! I have very few friends, but I honestly think it's because there are way more narcissists than we want to believe are out there. Also, sometimes they are on a spectrum...some are psychopathic, sociopathic or evil and sometimes they aren't murderers, but just awful people.
I tend to naturally repel narcissists (they hate me for some reason), but I attract psychopaths (they like me for some reason).
I've learned to keep to myself or keep people at a distance, it helps.
Before I was like catnip to them, narcissists I mean, I am and INFJ/empathic due to my hyper vigilant nature from a dysfunctional childhood.. I healed myself, I changed my life totally. Every time I felt I was doing something wrong and that I should feel shame, I would push through and make myself do it, eventually I got to a point where I wasn’t a people pleaser anymore I was quite the opposite.. Now narcissists instinctively avoid me or hate me upon contact. It’s beautiful.❤ When I do meet one and they talk to me, they regret it. I make their lives a living fucking hell.
I am a living testament of being a victim of a female narcissist. The mother of my child accused me of domestic violence and had me put in jail. She put bruises on herself and said I did it. She had told child protective service that I abused my son and had put a restraining order against me. She did all of that because I did not want to be with her anymore. I warned other men about my experience
Minus the child, I’m going through the same thing.
Family women gone? (sis cousins aunts, mothers, weak dads)Let them go! as Yhwy was testing them, he had you already. lose them now! they were never there for you, and defended her, and her ways. there is no middle ground or greater good possible with them.
@@klulis1 - This happened to you?
@@proph9916 yes. you need to know that they wont change. my sisters are her friends, so i've lost them both. she is constantly feeding poison to them, and so i have had to leave them alone as well. my not wanting this person in my life hurts them for some reason though they aren't the ones in a relationshit with her. they only see the outside, i see more than that, and always will. she is bitter that i dont want her back. i'm firm in keeping her away. and she will stay away. they corrupt those you care about. it's hurtful. and there is little chance they would return. so you would have to let them go... forever. you know this person is no good for anyone. as a Sigma INFJ i knew far more than they will ever know, yet they never listened,. they took on feminists personalities as a result of her presense in their lives. so as a man, i'm no longer worthy of their love and support, no matter how bad or good i'm doing in life.she made them traitors.
@@klulis1 - The same with me. My mom passed away before this horrible situation happened to me. But my father turned his back to me and is friendly with her, my auntie is friends with her and even call her, my female cousins call her and check up on her. After what they saw what she did to me, they did not care. I was in complete shock how I am being treated by my own family.
My daughter to a T. She has kept my granddaughter from me for almost a year and she enjoys the pain it causes me. She is a serial cheater, triangulates 2 men against each other, vandalized her ex-husband 's house, has told horrific lies about my husband, has no empathy, and on and on and on! Listening to this was scary! It made all the incidents make sense! Thank you!
I grew up with one of these. My sister, 3 years older than me once said, I was the worst thing to ever happen to her. I endured abuse, both physical and psychological from her and my father, with mum being the enabler.
As a kid, I wasn’t allowed to leave the table until all veggies were eaten. To not eat them was met with a beating with what was dubbed “The Stick”.
She’d scrape her veggies onto my plate so she could leave the table and my father would beat me with the stick, until I ate what she’d left. I was four years old, couldn’t communicate properly what had happened and she never owned up. She also never personally felt the pain of The Stick. I don’t communicate with her or my family anymore and I live with CPTSD.
Been there. Rejoice! We survived.
So sorry...I also have been through hell.
I pray in Jesus name for you now...Amen...
SOunds like my wife. I also grew up with narcissistic abuse.
Are you a brother or a sister to her?
@@TruthPoliceLegend I’m her brother.
I had a friend like this for 6 years, I started withdrawing myself slowly but surely but she kept contact with my husband. 7 months ago my husband walked out on our family to be with her. I have since realized that my ex showed clear traits of a covert narcissism but I missed it. I had a very loving and sheltered life growing up. I never realized people like this existed. Let me just say this last few months has been hell on earth, my ex has adopted all her sneaky and bad behaviors and I have become enemy nr 1 to both of them. But God has carried me every single day, held my hand and protected me against all attacks. The people that left because of the smears were never really there for me in any case.
Just remember, two narcs like that will not last together...
I can identify with your loving and sheltered upbringing. I also did not realise people like that existed until I was an adult. You have had a lucky escape. Live well, love yourself and do whatever you can to take care of you. Life is short, don't waste another second on them x
Their relationship will burn up and I he will try to make contact with you. What ever you do… do not bring his toxicity back into your life They both share the same psychopathy and to invite one is to invite the other back into your life. Don’t do it. These people do not change or get better. I speak from personal experience. Stay strong and love god.
Wow how cruel I know how the best friend thing feels as I had that happen to me and my first love I caught them together one day , my prayers are with you , my faith in Jesus saved my life
That’s sad, sorry to hear.
My girl and I have both had relationships with narcissists in the past. Man, this is such a chill relationship we have lol. I don't think a fight ever lasted more than a few minutes, and we always apologize when we were wrong or unreasonable. I never had that before.
do you love her ? do you have chemistry ? physically with her ? does this really happen ?
Luckyyyyy!!!
I've been targeted by multiple women like this. Their coincidentally combined efforts ruined my friendships, relationships, love life, and jobs. Do not underestimate them! Run while you can!!!
All the best
I had a mother and daughter duo, raging malignant narcissists and did all those same things to me, they are jealous and cannot handle my presence or my happiness. To me, these people are mentally and emotionally ill, ignorant, small-minded and pathetic. I consider them stalkers. 20 years of non-stop doing and saying anything they can to try and make me look bad, with no idea of how childish and petty they look. I love that me just being myself drives them so crazy. They will never admit they are jealous of me and insecure and childish.
A good way to do slow no contact, is to put phone calls and text message on mute, so you don't see them right away and respond later, they don't like not getting fast responses. Good excuses for responding late are: I was sleeping, I was taking a shower, I was doing laundry, My phone was charging in another room, keep it ligitimate and boring. When I was involved with a woman like this I had to do this to slowly get away. She would bring up memories of event we went to or things we did and hours later I would just respond OK. Eventually she stopped trying and went away on her own. She emailed me with some sort of emergency and I never responded, the last I heard from her was a mass invite to a party she was having, I never responded. Next August will be 10 years since I last spoke to her, she still haunts my mind.
The can do this trick of living in our mind🤔
I think they create a false image of themselves when we first meet them - this is their initial gambit
@Peter Shaw so true, they love bomb us in the beginning then the abuse starts and if we are not careful and see the signs for what they are, we can spend a lifetime thinking it is our fault and trying everything and hoping things will go back to how it was in the beginning, meanwhile they have manipulated the whole relationship and blame us. It is evil and demonic. It is hard to explain it to others. I always say, you don't know until you know!
ultimately she won.. she's still in your head haunting you. that's quite a significant thing..
UNFORTUNATELY AFTER BEING WITH ONE OF THESE EVIL POS UR NEVER THE SAME, U TRY TO FIGURE OUT IF MAYBE SHE WAS RIGHT, IT F&#KS WITH UR HEAD EVEN WHEN U KNOW U DID NOTHING BUT LOVE AND TREAT THEM GOOD, HANG IN THERE ONE DAY THEY WILL GET JUST WHAT THEY DESERVE, GOD BLESS ANYONE WHO WAS OR IS GOING THREW THIS, MY ADVICE IS RUN IF U HAVE CHILDREN TAKE THEM AND RUN, NO CONTACT UNLESS ITS ABOUT UR CHILDREN, BE VERY CAREFUL REMEMBER THESE SICK POS ARE PURE EVIL....
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When spiritual teachers describe non-duality and claim that evil doesn’t exist my reply is “You never met my mom!”.
If evilness is not a thing, narcs do a close imitation.
Evil is as evil does!
Evil exists
After my situation, a woman emailed me a whole page of spiritual quotes telling me that evil doesn't exist. Never once asked me how I was doing.
Lol. My brother
My mother would roast u like a chicken. She will make u feel lower then a gophers basement. U will need a step ladder to leave her house.
Yep they are competitive even to the point where it makes no sense with whom they are being competitive/jealous of. To me they are the scariest type of humans to deal with, they are in the category of sociopath and psychopaths yet not enough alarm is raised about these types of behaviors.
My wife said she wanted a divorce because I was a better ⛷️ than she… I’m 🇫🇮/ 🇨🇭, of course I’m a better skier.
@@DrDeuterondummies. I would have a ski race for fun with my wife. Lol....
Yeah ít REALLY is. Thểyee pathetic. A cockroach conpeting with a tiger. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
My older sister is a malignant narcissist and all my life she has belittled me, her smear campaigns have left me with hardly any relationship with my family members. Her hate is so intense that it has spilled onto my children. I have gone no contact with her and trust me that is the only way because if you are in contact with them they find ways to covertly hurt you.
Even when you go no contact, they approach people around as if they are concerned for you. It's really just an excuse for them to gossip about you and try to poison your relationships.
My own mother is exactly this. I have removed that miserable person from my life. Absolutely no contact and have her blocked and where I live knows she is not allowed. This persons behavior is unacceptable. But remember everyone. You are strong and you can destroy these demons.
or at least continue to not let her past your doorstep!!! thats step #1 the rest is healing #2 finding your dreams, goals and keep your mind and heart constructivley busy, and #3 engage in gentle hobbies
@@oppressednolonger1497 yes! I love this!
@@missboozehound you got this
I have a sister like this as well, who I had to cut off. She is more so a sociopath than just a narcissist. Abusive to everyone around her.
Too late for me. Found out after 13 years of marriage and three kids. Now ruined and alone without my babies. She's a monster.
You were alone all along
Not just you. With mine since she 15/ me 18. I'm now 44 and just found out she's cheating for 18 years. Married, kids, house, jobs everything. Realized she has no functional concience.
@@ageckomiller 27 years since the baby trap. Been downstairs for the past 2 years ..will never sleep in the same bed with her again told my 18 year old I cant stay much longer.... been stacking cash
@@ageckomiller So sad. Let's be strong for our kids.
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My ex partner & mother of my 2 children, conned me out of my home, all my money & property investments, turned many people against me & I lost my business & livelihood. I haven’t seen my daughter for 4 years due to Parental Alienation & have just reconnected with my son but he’s damaged. I’m suffering with CPTSD as a result. It’s horrific but most people don’t get it. Because she has control of our children & everything I work for my life. I’m in a really tricky situation.
Check out Narcdaily
She also self inflicted injuries, called the police & took out a restraining order. Truly horrific
@@antonyhunt1375 That means you've got a lot of good coming to you to make up for it. Please take heart. I understand the human picture is hard to stomach but there's a better one. So draw that better one and focus on it so when your daughter comes back you'll be ready for her.
So you've met my crush from High School!
Hey, I just wanted to say that I am so sorry that you went through all of that. I am the child of a narcissist who alienated me away from my mother. I just want to say that it does get better and with therapy your son will learn the truth & will learn the real you. It took me until I was an adult to see past the narcissist and although it’s still a struggle.. my relationship with my mother is much better. Always have hope, it’ll be ok.
You just described my thankfully dead mother. She was far worse than what anyone who has a decent mother can imnagine. Cold, malevolent, manipulative and sadistic only scratch the surface of her evil. The defining characteristic of these monsters is their sense of entitlement. Watch out for that alone, and you'll greatly shrink the pool of people you need to avoid.
They don't think the world owes them something - they think it owes them everthing, They'll stop at nothing trying to get it.
i have a malignant narc mom too. her outer layer = holy(go church very frequent), kind, helpful, love to praise others. those who really know her try to avoid her like ghost. they really stop at nothing to achieve to be the center of attention and love, she even tried to kill other family mother's character just to take over her place to be the Queen. Their jealous knows no boundaries.
My evil 'mother' would always say 'You should be more thankfull to me" she thought of herself as a fantastic mother...while the opposite was true. I could honestly strangle her to death for all the hurt she caused...all out of victimhood off course.
Thats terrible. Its her house, right? So she humiliates you and give you the choice 'If u cant obey go find another house!' may be? Mine said that all the time. She is an elderly institution now, i told her "who is in another house now mom??" That felt sooo good. Bitter but sweet. Hope ure o.k. Stay monk mode come back stronger! @MonkMode33
My sister was a malevolent narcissist sociopath. At age 6 i clearly remember her saying that she was going to kill me. In my infancy my first memory was of my sister hitting me in the head with blunt objects and this was a daily attack. So yeah she was clearing out to destroy my life. In 2020 I started to pray for God to help me. I can't go through this again so I asked God to judge her according to what was in her heart. She died a year later of covid-19 two days after Thanksgiving. And yes I was thankful.
wow, I would have been a little frightened if that prayer came true... but glad you outlived her. please continue your healing. I know exactly what you went thru, different town, different year etc etc but SAME narc/sociopath.
Surviving this kind of individual will make you a lot stronger than before however don't become too hardened and put it behind you x
It’s almost destroyed bc I allowed it to go on for way too long.
I’m trying to be strong but the way society is towards men it makes it so much harder…
They will also tell you things (in private, of course) that will cause you to freeze in shock & horror, w/crazy eyes, like The Bride of Chuckie, then wink @ you w/a smirk while chewing their food as my mother often does.
THIS.
Good warning. Some people don't believe that a person can be that calculated and hateful. Some of these Narcissistic women have a group of Narcissistic women to support their every move. Each plays a different role, like good cop - bad cop. QUESTION: who would you support if there were two sides, The Narcissistic woman or her target?
I lived this situation for 5 years: good cop, bad cop...all I can say is ...I am grateful I did not comit suicide...this is DANGEROUS and I had no idea this type of NPS exists...now I am more educated on this..still I think is terrifying...
I had a boss who was obsessed with me, she told people she needed to “break me”.
Omg GROSS!🤣☠️🤮🥳🥶🤡☠️👻
The f? What?...
are you a guy or girl?, this keeps happening too me and its always a female boss, they hate me because i don't supplicate too them like the other weak ass dudes at my job and they take it really personal
Funny how SHE IS the one thật brêaks. 😂😂😂😂😂 im the katana, she jist the paper suiciding everutime .😂😂😂😂😂😂 the dimmbass plan trying to break me always backfires. How could loswrs beat winners?
Great podcast Jill! So accurate. This was my ex GF I met at the gym. You describe her traits 100% correctly. Every guy she flirted with at the gym was "just a friend." The gym was her hunting ground. Just pure evil, ruthless, cheater with no boundaries for anyone. So reassuring to hear your podcast. I left in cold silence, blocked her and never said a single word to her after I found out what she is and did behind my back. Dangerous in every sense possible. No more walking on egg shells or being abused/used.
It's like meeting the same lady at a club at night very often and having a good time but the minute she finds out that you know she's really a vampire she comes after you for blood to protect her identity.
It's taken decades to learn to recognize the competition and envy because these traits were normalized where I came from.
I have an older sister like this and a sister-in law like this. They are the worst! So deceptive and calmly cruel.
I have met someone just like this, pure evil. Could have destroyed me completely, haunting really! Well timed, thanks Jill x
"Im sorry you were bullied as a child, but you dont have to take it out on me" Is all you have to say when finally confronting a "Bully" which is all Narcissists are. Keep it real people. Its very very hard to face your fears when saying this to them, but it always works. They like it when people address their suffering.
I'm a retired cop. I've met this woman many times, unfortunately.
Same hêre.
What do u suggest when the abuser is “10:44” bc I’m fucking terrified of her?
@@LauraLittleford-e3n 10-44 for my agency meant something different from what you're hinting at (like weather is bad or whatever). Can you be more specific?
It's so hard to believe that anyone truly gets joy from hurting others. I mean I personally can understand at times feeling the desire to push the envelope with people that have hurt you but ultimately I just can't relate to anyone that genuinely feels good knowing they caused others harm
Scary, isn't it? Makes me feel not so bad for being more or less a loner or not very social
I was married to one with this compound disorder for three years until I backed out slowly with the least damage to my future as possible. She is a state licensed therapist, preying on her patients for supply.
She did every one of the things that you described.
that is sad that she pretends to be a healer when in fact is the opposite.
@cherryrose254 Karma will catch up to her. I don't think want to know what happens then.
Had this in the family with my younger sister. She destroyed and manipulated the whole family and put herself in a victim role, so that she could cause harm and being covered.
I’m crying so hard.. I’m 61yrs old and married to my friend. We did it to help each other after 23 years. We married a year ago, and it was the worst mistake I’ve ever made! She’s trying to trap me here! Cut me off from grandkids and family! Girl, you just described my entire life! I’m about to run, but yes! Doing it slowly! I don’t want her to sabotage my escape! I’m so upset, but so happy I found you!
run dont leave slowly, run. she will kill you and your whole family if you do not.
What a predicament..
She won’t kill me and my whole family. She’s become morbidly obese ver the last 10 years and can’t even get out of her chair without a hydraulic lift, and then she steps straight onto a mobility scooter. She never leaves the house except to go gamble. I’m a musician for my living. I’m active, fit, decent looking for my age, and don’t sit in front of the tv watching reality shows and soap operas all day and night. She’s not dangerous. She’s just toxic. Thank you for caring. It’s helps to be able to talk about it.
Glad you are feeling better.
Just wanna let you know it does get better.
There is always hope.
@@specialtwice4975 thank you for the encouragement. I’m almost there! I just got a day job and possibly an apartment! I haven’t worked since 2005 so it’s a little daunting, but I’m ready! I have a lot to be grateful for these 4 months later! I’ll be on my own soon. (So weird saying that cuz I did my life right. I retired very early and traveled a lot, but it’s so weird to feel so insecure about a job or living in an apartment building at my age Lol.. It’s gonna be so great!)
Meet the parents and another one that was like the worst of both of my parents. Being in a relationship with these people who I loved and had empathy for nearly killed me - quite literally. 👍
Being a anti social dude has worked out well for me. I thankfully never met someone like this.
Lol. You are funny
i bet your cat is a narc.
Be bad though if you did meet another anti social dude
Spot On!! Run! Run Fast...
This is absolutely true! It's scary, the self harm thing is real.
I had a hellish 3 years with one. My mother was one. Both of them were mentally and at times physically abusive. So after escaping both, I married the most loving person I could find. You’re looking for the Mother of your kids at the end of the day.
The women in my life (mom, sister, and maternal aunt) were way more brutal than any of my male relatives. Jezabels to the max.
They are demonic
Religious scriptures are right about women.
we should put these narcs into a reality show. Let all these vicious snakes fight each other in the ring, their drama, lies, backstabs. I guess it will be more interesting than MMA.
@@KapilKumar-gg1ok No they weren't. My narcissistic sister became a narcissist because our older brother was a sadistic psychopathic monster who terrorized, tortured and traumatized his younger siblings on a daily basis for shits and giggles, and destroyed our adult lives.
When I was only around 10 or 11, he exposed genitals to me, and once shoved his tongue in my mouth pretending to teach me and the neighborhood kids how to do CPR. Then once he tried to rape my sister (the one became a narc) at knife point.
What gender does the majority of raising the world's children and all the dirty work? And what gender starts wars, commits most of the murders, rapes, violence, and starts wars causing death and destruction mostly to women and children, and other horrible anti-social behaviors? THE MALES.
Stop being such a ignorant woman-hater. Men who hate and disrespect women are just stunted little boys, fucking pussies that need to grow some fucking balls.
@@KapilKumar-gg1ok Narcissist aren't born. They are created by severe childhood abuse, trauma and neglect. Their brains are profoundly traumatized, like all victims of horrible childhood abuse, but some become narcissists to survive, like my sister, and some don't, like me, who's became an empath.
Been no contact for 2 weeks. She txt me out of the blue, asking where I was and said she needs to walk. Immediately I run over something that took my new truck tire. That was confirmation.
Be careful! When i was still married to him, my ex put nails in my tires. I caught him after only doing 2, but he had the equipment there to nail all 4 of them.
Thank you for this video. I knew that my wife was a high level narcissist but I accepted her because I loved her. Then she cheated on our marriage after 25 years. Once I figured her out she did EVERYTHING that you outlined in your video. I lost my children, home, car, guns, etc…. I got full custody of my children a week later. She has physically, emotionally, and financially destroyed us. She also wants to destroy my lucrative career that has provided her and the children an easy life. She has turned into pure evil. I am a science guy, but have come to consider the possibility of demonic possessions, just because I am so confused that the person whom I have loved for so long, could turn like that at the flip of a switch.
All along it was hidden just like the bottom of an iceberg. My ex husband was living a double life from the start but it took years to uncover. So dark and evil. It's mind blowing!!!
Did you see the black eyes
It makes you feel like a "natural born sucker" does it not...sure did me.
However, I always had my deep faith in the Father to sustain me
She faked her devotion to paint a pious picture and I bought it but she's in for harsh reflection in the next dimension.
😢😠 💖🗽🍀🕊
You finally saw the real person behind the mask.
I once knew a social path. She would deliberately stir things up between her parents and then step back and watch the battle unfold with absolute delight.
Great video! Apparently I am a target for these types of people. My narcissist older brother made my childhood a nightmare. Then many years ago, I made the mistake of helping a coworker out when she needed a babysitter. I think she saw my kindness as a weakness and decided I was the perfect friend for her. I even tried to un-friend her many times over the years and just couldn't shake her. She was a snake too. She would know that I was gone somewhere and call the house - then act all surprised that I wasn't there when my husband answered - just to try to get chummy with him. Because I felt sorry for her, I would invite her to family get togethers. So she got really close to my family. She and my brother started seeing each other secretly. I'm not quite sure why they felt they needed to sneak around - I guess it just added to the thrill? They are actually a perfect match - between the drugs, drinking and desperate need to impress other people. They got married this last year and I get so much enjoyment knowing they are together. My Dad actually said it best when he said thank goodness they are both off the market and can't make anyone else miserable.
You are so right about them not feeling remorse, regret or guilt! I flat out asked my narc about an incident, whether he felt those things and holy smokes, he DIDN'T. He seemed shocked I'd even think he would feel that way. So sad.
They do that and expect you to see it coming. They’re committed.
Sometimes they say things knowing that the answer will hurt you. I got to a point where I knew what she would say before I even asked the question. What ever would hurt the most would always be her answer.
You just described my mother. All 5 of her children including me, have nothing to do with her. She's 80 years old now and nobody, not her grandchildren will speak to her. She did horendous things over the years. Some siblings don't speak to each other now because of her. They don't understand who she really is yet.
I am a magnet for these woman and have refrained from any further dating, I'm done.
Have you sought counseling of any kind?? Not a judgy question just thinking of a way you could “start over” after clearing out those narc cobwebs.
@@DrPhilGoode Yes had therapy for that and other things.
@@peekaboo4390 not all therapists are good ones. They are like a pair of shoes.. have to try them on to see which ones fit.
@@tranquility9325 I agree but I hit the jackpot with mine and consider myself to be lucky in that regard. So many if not most do not find that essential fit. We both have a navy background, similar sports interests and live close to each other.
This is mind-blowing. There are certainly degrees of these traits that were/ are present in some of the people I've had in my life... and I had no idea. None.
I somewhat survived 35 years of a narcissistic wife who literally couldn’t keep her pants on, triangulated me with others non stop, undermined me for decades, and cheated me out of any type of pleasure for decades. One insidiously sick evil woman.
Sounds like we had the same wives... Sorry for your pain... I know first hand what it is like.
But why you let it happen? 35 years? I would get 14 oder 15 years until kids can decide to which parent they want to go. Or did you were under some kind of mind control from her. Once met such a woman I needed several months to get away from her - she was a mind hacker really evil and scary. Very luckily no kids involved. What I learnt for myself I was weakened due unfortunate life circumstances therefore I partly fell under her control. She had a army of broken ppl she commanded. It was surreal if you entered a paranormal Psycho Horror movie. What bothers me many ppl don't believe me, even some friends that was so frustrating cause the battle against her sucked energy out of me.
@@MichaTheLight you just get in a routine and try and keep everything on course and a stable environment for the children. After decades you’re so worn out and beaten down you just don’t care anymore. But I’m free now. Praise God
@@Harmonious-jm3sy very sad. I hope the kids are on your site. I'am ambiguous you know when kids see their dad abused and worn out by the evil wife this is also bad. I think I couldn't do what you did, sure I don't know your real story. But I'am to intolerant against abuse I couldn't function anymore and I would get aggressive or leave. I hope you recovered well God bless you.
Very similar experience
I am on charges now after finally wanting a divorce after 15years. She beat herself and called police. Ive lost my house. My kids. My dog. My personal items. My reputation. Been a good husband and a good father. I hear my house all the trees and plants are dead. Holes in the walls.
Living in a van under a bridge.
Yikes!! Im sad that she has devastated you so badly!!
Try your best to prove to the police that she is faking it with all possible means so that you can get back as much as you can of your items and stuff. You will start again and be stronger anyway. I lost my dad's house by my narcissistic mother and I started again like five years ago and still building my new life. Karma will take its path. Just don't trust any woman in the current time until you are really strong. My fault is that lately I fell in love with a man who proved to be a typical psychopath and the shock is so strong for ma, especially that I am still weak having no money and no house of my own.
I'm so sorry that monster has done that to you Peter.
Joy and Wayne.. thanks for your thoughts. Considering we dont know each other and you dont even know if uour reading truth i honestly apreciate you.
Strangely fate is sometimes kind. The sick woman... who i still care for (is rhe mother of my son) has assaulted care workers and an ambulance worker as my aged mother still lives in the house with her (the aged mother is terrified and hospital phoned police). So fate would have it that she has 'hung herself' (not literally) and now on charges for breaching my mothers AVO. It seems that she has undone herself. She needs help. I am extremely fortunate (although unlucky in the first place) as i was destined for 6months jail for false charges of domestic abuse. We will see how it pans out...
But you cant help crazy. Crazy is as crazy does and in my case.... rhere is light breaking at end of tunnel.
But did you know?... ppl in my position are very alone and YOUR comment wven though its small makes a HUGE difference to someone who is alone and without hope. I thank you both. Will pray for you both.
@@peterRobinson10101 Thank you for taking the time to respond Peter - and with such encouraging news! There’s a truth in the observation that these destructive manipulators will eventually bring themselves undone and the truth will be revealed. It’s so satisfying to see it has happened for you in a timely manner and hopefully there’ll be a poetic resolution for you and your loved ones.
Did you have cameras in my home?! Everything you said rings true. Hundreds of unfounded CPS reports. You nailed it.
I have experienced all of the things you outlined in this video (unfortunately). My first response was to try and reason with her. I kept saying to myself "Why is this happening? Why is she saying those things". Things that were beyond hurtful. Things said and done just to damage me. Towards the end I remember saying to her "Where is this coming from, none of this is pleasant for me, in fact its really disturbing." Her response was interesting. She simply said "Well this is very entertaining for me." One of the very last conerstions I had (in which she said something truly horrible) I responded by saying "Oh my God, you are poison." Any resonalble person would have been upset by that, not her, it seemed to make her happy. Her response was....."A snake can't be harmed by it's own poison."
Oh but they do get harmed in the fact that they never change neither do evolve in life.
They do destroy and poison everybody else around them though with this mental illness they have
Thank you for describing my mother to the tee. Love, peace and justice.
malignance and narcissistic traits transcend all boundaries of creed, colour gender and sexual orientation. Truly universal!!
Great content as always - thankyou for it...
This was straight up no nonsense and can be found in both men/woman. My ex wife is this way still even after 25 years divorced from her and I sent this video to a female friend that is going through this same thing with a male narcissist. Thank you for making this video
It's been three years since I got rid of her . Feeling so much better and relieved 😃
You just described an ex girlfriend absolutely perfectly, scarily accurate as if you knew her personally
This is such a good description of these awful human beings. Thanks for the video
I am a victim of one of these people. She killed her last husband (emotionally abused him to the point of suicide). Asian
My sister did as well, years after their divorce. I hope there is a special place for them in the afterlife
@@marybettygriffin5320 I’m so so sorry. These people are dangerous and have an unending hatred.
Yea mine left her ex with their daughter out of the blue he committed suicide and she also had a sugar daddy that died recently he didn’t even know her real name pathetic
I am so so sorry you had to go through that, that is absolutely heartbreaking and I hope you heal❤️ it’s disgusting how these people abuse others until they become severely depressed, I think my step dad is going down the same road. He’s been upping the dose of his antidepressants over the years all because of his incredibly rude, abusive and devilish wife. I was thinking earlier today that she’s going to send him to an early grave, I think she wants to destroy him, I dont think he can grasp that her intentions are evil, she’s pure evil.
@@pandariver9233 I think it’s literally demonic.
Thanks for reminding me of everything I now see in my ex. I don't know why I ever questioned.
Hi Jill, it is always refreshing to me to watch your videos. You are very correct on what you say, I've dealt with narcissists literally my entire life and I unfortunately continue to do so, they have absolutely no morals in them nor even the slightest degree of empathy towards other people. May God bless you and keep you safe! Regards M.
My daughter in laws mother is a malignant narcissist. I never knew she was like this until my son and her daughter got engaged. It was a nightmare, until we all went completely no contact with her. Life has been so peaceful now that she’s no longer in our lives.
had a couple of harsh times with one... they really can mess up to the point that even solid friends of you start being manipulated.
brilliant analysis. super incisive/comprehensive
Stone cold truth.
I live in an apartment building full of destructive narcissists. I shine my light private mostly because otherwise I am mobbed by ruthless tactics to extinguish it. Need to move to healthier environment
I haven’t seen anyone talk about this aspect: the narcissist in my life will mimic my pain. I know they pretend 24/7. What I mean is, she will literally pretend to have the same symptoms that she heard me complain about a day before. At first I really believed we might occasionally suffer same things but then I noticed she would only have minimal ability to describe what was happening and get frustrated at having to give details even tho she desperately wants attention and sympathy. But she is angry at me trying to look close at what’s wrong- nothing is physically wrong. She wants drama and sympathy and control - all at once.
run... and hide
When I was giving birth my husband was legit huffing and puffing and the nurses kept asking if he was okay…
I wish I could say something, but I won't. I can tell you that you are spot on, everything, each subject, what these individuals will do, especially when you are married, being blackmail, setup, threatened, as a black man, and you never heard of the topic of narcissism. I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy. this video, and you are 100% correct. I'm strong and, I've educated myself on the subject for years now. Thanks again! Much respect to you 👏
Very good & clear explanation of what a malignant narc is, whether male or female. Best Ive come across so far 🎯👌👍
No empathy, no conscience ... that's why she claims to be Christian. It's a front to mask her true character.
Jesus, talk about them, a wolf in sheets cloths.
That’s my mom, nice Christian fraud
My (then) wife did exactly that, a holier-than -thou fraud.
I have a former husband who acts this way and I actually had legal grounds for a tort against him on the grounds of slander and assault because of his smear campaign. One of my sisters is part of his circle to this day.
Get support and do remove yourself from their toxic behaviors!
You have exactly described my neighbour, Jill. Exactly. I've gone No Contact unbroken for more than 3 years and she is still laying traps for me which consistently fail. Her vicious smear campaigns will never end. I maintain Journals and discreetly photo/video any evidence she puts out - it's insurance. I don't know what she'll do next as she has already tried getting police involved in her manipulations - to no avail. (I have to add that, quickly realising her toxicity, I discarded her quietly and politely 4 years ago, and for that she is determined to make me pay!)
The one that bothers me is named Jill also. She's a snake and is after me to prove I'm crazy.... shes obviously obsessed. She took my ex and I never cared. So she tried to hurt my family. Sinister stuff. You don't happen to live in California do you?
They don't love you ❎" they love that you love them" ☑️
They know right and wrong, they don't care. They make a show of being better than others, though they have no respect for themselves.
Thanks Jill. I know I'm not alone. Everything you talked about is happening to me right now. Even brainwashing/coaching and grooming our children into corroborating her claims. It's absolutely insane. Been living this nightmare since Dec 2019. Channels like yours give me strength.
Can’t help but feel a little envious of those with such short amount of abuse. Even though abuse is abuse. But for some of us. As infants we were born with both parents/entire family like this. Which is also why I caught myself in narc relationships because nothing they do could’ve been worse than my entire life.
You’ve learned to be resilient in ways that’s self destructive.
Wow...This is my ex-wife, from A to Z. I found out she had double life(s)/cheating during the whole 10 years of our marriage. Despite the abundance of evidence for this, she denies everything and tells everyone that I am the one who is not mentally well. She took away my business, my money and eventually even my health. (I became a heart patient.) But it wasn't enough for her. I have little children with her and although we're divorced, she still does everything to make my life a living hell. Thank you for uploading this video, Jill.
They will say you are the mental one if you are or not but the thing is you will be after but it will make sense.
Good luck Mike in overcoming this situation.
Awesome job !!!
Congratulations!!
Please, keep going!
The whole world needs you!
Don’t ever give up.
Hi Jill. Great video. I lost my entire career to a female work colleague who got me fired on a list of fabricated allegations after I challenged her for inappropriate behavior in the workplace. That was 6 years ago and I'm still unemployed. She was a classic narcissist who used her expertise & knowledge to bully others and gained promotions by fooling management that she was a go-getter.
Hi Jill.Spent your whole video nodding my head in agreement. You described my daughter in detail. Thanks for your wisdom.
You've just described my mother to a tee. She actually enjoys causing caos within the family for disrespecting and trying to seduce all of her sister's husbands and/or boyfriends, including my own. Her smile when someone calls her out for it is truly horrific. And then, the smear campaign begins....
Gross , her trying to pick up on everyone’s husbands
My sister was the same - slept with my boyfriend when I was 21, in my own house 😢 it devastated me. This continued to be a pattern of behaviour with every man in my life and to try and take every friend I ever had … attacked me, physically and emotionally abusive - finally ended the nightmare when our mother died, I do not miss her one bit!
It's always that disgusting smile! It makes my blood boil
Same
I feel you in that and for mine, the boyfriends she gets ends up being creeps like her. Obv as a child if you mention any SA from her boyfriend. “ it didn’t happen and you are gross for thinking my bf would like you”
Now I am in my 20s. Recently saw him again after 10+ years.(not by choice) and he hit me with the same creep shit thinking I’d take it. And the audacity.
And if I didn’t. You’d know the gaslighting, silence treatment, guilt trips and a whole world of awful/tortuous feelings to hit you with. That’s not just temporary.
You hurt them by having a reaction that they hurt you.
My parents are still not divorced
We kept the secret of my moms affairs. Nothing is ever enough for her
She has everything I ever wanted
Good children and all. But yet she needs more than 1 husband, 1 boyfriend. They are ‘important’ to her yet she isn’t loyal to any of them.
She is one messy women.
Terrified of others finding out she’s actually rotten inside.
I guess initially she would come across as Pollyanna on steroids!
I met a similar narc but less intense!
The first red flag is their lack of empathy one will notice after knowing them for a little while; one is suddenly walking on eggshells and their instantaneous mood shifts in the negative arena🥴
sooooo true. my mother is exactly like this. she used to verbally abuse me infront her firends just to show how much "effort" she is putting out as a mother/educator
❤you do know what your talking about. My 2nd wife was the worst person I've ever met. I tried many times to leave her but she would always found me. She wasn't happy unless she was hurting someone. I finally got her out of my life. It's been 14 years and it still bothers me. I have a hard time with trusting another woman. I do wish I could find a life partner. I'm so lonely. Thank-you for showing others that my problems were and are real.
Work on yourself. Find and do things you enjoy. Read Psalms.
I’m sorry you had to endure such evil , I am also afraid to trust again after 3 lives were cheaters and abusive and have a couple of narcs in the family , I’m lonely too , what part of the world are u in? I’m in Cincinnati Ohio
Great video! You nailed it! My ex was exactly like you described here. It has been almost 30 years since I slowly exited her life. This was before I even knew what a narcissist was but I slowly became boring and started smoking weed and drinking, started getting a beer gut, not eating right, stopped getting haircuts, quit my job, got on unemployment, all this to make myself unattractive to her. She was a demon. Slept with my friends. Told lies about me to them. Told lies about them to me. Stole my credit card. Told lies about me to her friends. They hated but never met me. Called my parents in the middle of the night and told them I was a drug addict, because I started using weed. I told my parents why and they agreed I was doing the right thing. They told me to run away, but I knew I had to back out slowly. She falsely accused her ex-husband of molesting their 4 year old daughter. And there’s so much more. She was everything you said in your video. But my God she was gorgeous and an amazing partner in the sack. Sadly, not just with me. She had many partners. She pitted me against my friends. She was evil epitomized.
Great video!! You are helping people realize that monsters exist and they are out to destroy you. I’m sorry you had to go through what you did to learn what you have, but you came out such a strong person! Thank you!!!
I had one just like that, good luck brother, they are amazing in bed and they are addicting, actually they become very selfish in bed, and they can withhold sex also for a long time, they are evil
It is interesting you mentioned she was very attractive. Seems people have to be careful not to fall headlong for beauty only...could be the worst trap!
@@Aikunle78 That’s what young people do too often. Beauty’s only skin deep. Ugly runs to the bone.
My ex fPN completely destroyed everything. I'm so blessed to have her out of my life which is what I'm thankful for everyday even 12 years later. Never ever make compromises for others except small stuff. However these people are extremely manipulative and change the way they are depending on circumstances so it's very hard if not impossible to detect. Lesson learned. Pay attention to Jill...
This is the most accurate and terrifying description to date of my son’s girlfriend.
I mistakenly challenged her and called her out before I really understood the gravity of what she was and we now have zero contact with our 23 year old son.