The book that changed my social life
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- There has been only one book that has fundamentally changed the way I interact with people.
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Hahaha wow! Seriously? Oh well, not it’s out.
Looking forward to your videos bro!
Better Ideas just popped up on my recommendations and now I’m hooked 😁
Thanks, I enjoyed the information. :)
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The book that changed my social life forever was Orwell's 1984. Since I read it, I quit socializing with anyone.
@Cool Cool You're joking right?
*mission failed succesfully*
I mean I had to analyze it and write essays for it for my hsc in year 12 so that pretty much traumatized me :'D
Thoughtcrime is enough fam ;D
You mean that you’re not talking to anyone? Hard to believe
1) Make the conversation about the other person
2) Remember and use peoples names
3) Give Genuine Compliments
4) Focus on the person you are talking to
@Inner Voice ok sociopath 👌
@Inner Voice wtf u miserable asshole? What was it? Mommy issues?
1) Make conversation about something genuinely interesting, not just to the other person. Sometimes that is indeed the other person but most of the time it's not.
2) Works if you're talking to a dog. People are more complicated than that.
3) Only when they are deserved. Feel free to show scorn in equal balance.
4) Only if they have your attention. Let them know when they're disappointing you.
I don't know, but I've been socializing like that since birth... I'm not manipulative, I'm a people pleaser.
I hate socializing, but I'm so good at it, I just don't take the first initiative,but once the conversation start I make 'em feel special making them stick around longer. I don't mind it, but it sucks sometimes.
@@magotchii5225 yeah is worth it, most people welcome nice words
Reading a book is easy but implementing it in your life is the real work
Most things that books cover, we already know... It's just implementing that into your lifestyle is the hardest part. You're facing the hindrances after all
the real work*
& when you manage that you can be proud of yourself
reading interesting books are easy.
That’s the part no one talks about. Being genuinely curious is an endearing quality when you’re subordinate. It is a playful challenge when you are seen as an equal. But when you are perceived as having a greater quality of life than another person, your genuine curiosity is a compliment. For most quality social advice to work, you have to put hard work into multiple areas at once.
"If you want to be interesting, be interested."
'if you want to be cool turn down the ac'
My Ouma would say this. God bless her
-spongebob
Wrong
There is nothing wrong if you are interesting or not , Cool or not
All of it just rules created by society that u have to be cool and interesting to fit in this society and to make friends.
But the fact I don't care about fitting in society or making friends if I have to change myself.
people dont care how much you know until they know how much you care
After 2 same people read this book
1: How are you doing?
2: No how are YOU doing?
1: No you tell me about you
2: No I want to hear about you
1: I am fine but how's your life going
2: It's good how's your day
Hahahaha
this is the very conversations I was hoping his advice could help me try and avoid.
ad nauseum
xD I know my boss probably read this book or some derivation of the book and she does whats in the book always.. it feels weird
Oblivion in a nutshell 😂
I have social anxiety and I'm reading 'How to Be Yourself: Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety' by Ellen Hendriksen who is a therapist who struggled with SAD herself. Definitely give it a read, it helps me a lot.
Hey may I recommend a very good book to give your brain stretch " how not to be yourself "
i kako ide
How was the book? How much did you like it?
“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.”Carnegie. Thanks as always! Your a BIG inspiration to my channel
- Justin McElroy
1000%
Did he establish Carnegie Mellon school
Sure, butt kissing does magic 😉
Becauss people are selfish sacks of fucking shit and only care about there shitty ass lives
“The Lost art of Listening”
You’re welcome.
Perfect description.
That reminds me of something... "The Lost art of Listening". Have you heard of it?
I'm ordering it.
"searching reddit for answers" pretty much my life
😂😂😂
Ohhhh my god shouldn't be laughing this much 😂😂😂
@Lawman Don't be like that my guy
Red Pill Reddit.
Reddit should start it's own browser
As someone who started reading this book because of this video, I want to point out towards the end about you saying some people need someone pretending they care, I refer back to the book about people hearing cheap praises and that people don't like flattery but genuine appreciation. So although some people need to hear some sort of validation of their day, it should come from a genuine place because if you fake it, people will notice it and think less of you. I just thought of reminding that from the book. I really think you made a great video that peaked my interest of this book so I'm grateful to come across your channel. Thank you for your incite and sharing your views.
thank u sir
"piqued" your interest
Too many compliments can make people think you're disingenuous so use them wisely and time them well
yes! it's best to compliment when people are proud about something or work hard on something.
You also have to be honest with your compliments.
Queen Zey the fewer compliments you give, the more powerfull each becomes.
leanderdigerud my compliments my be life changing then
My compliments are given because beauty moves me and often makes me cry. Its easier to say, you look beautiful, than ball my head off! : ) I say that to strangers too.. No underlying agenda. It just spills out of me, like for art or a garden.
But thank you for prompting me to look up "disingenuous". I didn't know what it meant.
And I am NOT being sarcastic. Nor disingenuous. : ) Though your comment does help me to understand some people's reactions to me. Most frustrating though, when I don't feel believed. But those who know me, know its real. I don't give them out if its not real.
I’m definitely gonna read this book. I’m tired of this constant social anxiety. I just want friends...
Me too
Don't waste your time. It isn't going to help much and everything written isn't anything you don't know
How it's going now?
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*Sees title*
My initial thought: DEATHNOTE
Person doesn't want to be freinds with me? DELETE!
after writing the cause of death, details of the death should be written in the next 6 minutes and 40 seconds. if the cause of death is written within 40 seconds of writing the persons name it will happen. if the cause of death is not specified, the person will simply die of a heart attack.
Light
First thing that came to my mind too😹😹
*The Bible*
"Sometimes people just need somebody who pretends like they care..."
I couldn't agree more.
Smile. Remember and use a persons name. Be lavish with your compliments. Can confirm that book is a masterpiece.
Be genuinely interested. other peeps know shit you don't, you know shit they don't.
I hate it when people keep pronouncing my name every other sentence.
@@fealdorf i hate u
Problem with this attitude is 99% of the people won't reciprocate in kind, they will be endlessey talking about themselves. This will drain you. I don't want the 99% to like me. I want to be with the 1% who also like me and are interested in me or i will rather be alone. My goal is not other people liking me.
@@nicksmith-cx1fx Did you just contradict yourself?
There is this girl in my class who always gives out compliments to people but they don’t seem genuine and it’s like she’s doing to make friends. Compliments are tricky
Complimenting cynics and cold people is always tricky. I feel for her, trying to connect with people like you.
I live in a cold city, where people look at you with suspicion if you suggest going for coffee.
This book and "How to stop worrying and start living" have been changing my life since the first time I read them. I sometimes just listen to the audio book on Spotify or read a chapter when I have the need to. I never thought a book could have this impact on my life.
I'll have to check this one out. Probably not related but one book I find myself going back to is "From Poverty to Power". I can literally flip to any page and be mesmerized with the wealth of knowledge.
@Inner Voice who's the one here that needs a life, someone who writes comments about books or comments telling people to get a life? Hope this is a troll hahaha
that Inner Voice bitch is a looooser
@Inner Voice hm still a loser lmao
I'll try this one too 👍
Once the people around me realize that they are in the presence of greatness we all get along just fine.
It's funny... as soon as I read the title I was thinking about that exact same book without even watching the video. Great book!
Law of attraction
Holy crap me too
I was thinking of this book in college today, and came home to see this video in my recommendations
Law of attraction is the worst book ever
I genuinely ask people about their life's. But the conversation dies anyway, because I run out of questions and they don't ask me something...
Because they are not doing their part, they focus on what they care only...
I'm 100% certain that you can still be the one getting the conversation going...
What kind of questions do you ask?
Open or closed? Yes or no or questions that require more of an answer?
And what do you ask about?
Boring stuff or stuff that they actually like to talk about?
When yoy talk to them, are you listening and build the conversation out of what they say? Or just like yeah yeah yeah, next question
I have just started preparing things like "what do you think about endgame?" I haven't had the opportunity yet but I hope it gets me somewhere:D
It's very common. Many people I know talk only about themselves. Annoying.
It happens to me and I always end up thinking that people perceive me as a weirdo and I cry
I’ve kept “how to win friends and influence people” and Marcus Aurelius “meditations” in my book bag every where I go for the past 5 years. Good stuff
Is meditations a good read?
@@mohak1990y Reading the Bible is a better choice, Mediations if you read close enough is the Bible without God.
I'm currently reading that book! It's all about listening and being interested in others
You get tired of doing that. The things that you received are that they forget about you when they found their tribe.
Agreed, I personally try my best to always let the other person talk about themselves and listen but whenever I talk about myself to someone who is genuinely listening, it can be a powerful feeling.
It's insane when you realize how much value can be taken from a couple pieces of paper with words on them. I can safely say that picking up the habit of reading books has changed my life for the better!
@@fnchrstphr truth
@Inner Voice
Inner Voice Haha I'm natural man :) appreciate the compliment!
This reminds me of the book 'the fifth agreement'
@Inner Voice Get a life and stop insulting people that haven't done anything to you.
The book? “How to win friends and influence people” by Dale Carniege
Heyy fatty!!
Na that's deathnote
Thanks
Total carnage.
great comment for people who don't have the patience to wait 55 seconds into the video
i like it very much when people say my name when starting a conversation instead of just “hey you”
Good morning mr shelby
By the owdahh of the peaky fakinn blinders!!
This really got me deeply:”even carrying on basic human conversation was something I didn’t really know how to do very well”. Infact, my case it’s not WAS and DIDN’T, it always has been that way for 30++ years to the point i start questioning the point of my existence
U should start a podcast i would listen
@Inner Voice omg my inner voice is telling me to do that
JustMeGina #metoo
Inner Voice u clearly have issues based on how u speak. Someone give this man a hug
Gaawwd the last thing the internet needs is another Podcast.
That's literally active listening, which I do whenever my friends want to talk about their issues. The goal for me is to try and get as much information laid out as possible, so that both of us have a clearer perspective of what's going on. Main rule in it is to not talk about yourself
"...focus on what Peter Parker was saying." 😂👌
Was planning to comment this lol
Hahaha I'm glad he didn't Google his name I actually thought it made it pretty funny ! 😂
@@bjk837 agreed. I never thought ignorance can be this kind of good humor source. Joey always teaches us something. :D
Power comes with great responsibility
@Apple Zheng Yang That guy will always be known as spider-man
Social anxiety is the fear of negative judgement from others. So you're worried about how others perceive YOU. You're focused on yourself and your image, how you come across. Being in the moment and focusing on the other person is the natural antidote to that. A.k.a. "getting out of your head".
I also find that the more I meditate (with Holosync), the more I am genuinely interested in other people because over time, my perspective widens more and more. You naturally start to become curious how other people see the world instead of wanting to convert everybody to your way of thinking.
Why UA-cam is recommending this to me 🙂 is my social awkwardness that obvious 🙂
Strong the awkwardness in this one is.
content marketing
probably
1. In order to become better socially, you have to be interested in what the other person has going on in their life. Genuine question them.
2. Make them feel valued. Compliment them. Use their name liberally. Compliment their personality. Focus on the other person.
Amazing book. Rereading it currently. This book actually helped ask a girl out(she said yes) get a job and promotion, and deal with my kids.
Definitely a must read
wait, hol'up
Nice
This book is amazing. I'm a 17 years old teenager and used this book to feel more comfortable around partys and it helped me so much but also the way I interact with my friends has changed.
i always had that book on my desk but never read it. Now, I definitely will!!
Moazzam Tahir I have books that I read and read back the part that are read
Same! I was thinking 'that sounds familiar'...
Lol I threw the book out a few days ago because it’s been on my bookshelf for years & I’ve never read it
I read that book 4 years ago and it literally changed my life and my relationships with ppl ❤
I knew EXACTLY what book you were going to talk about.
When growing up I had social anxiety due to childhood physical and mental abuse to the point where I would physically shake when someone spoke to me.
A few years ago I met a diagnosed sociopath. Honestly not the first person you’d trust or expect to help, but he talked to me through text (I found it easier that way) and we had a lot of things in common (surprisingly) he understood what I went through.
He talked a lot about himself and the way he views people and the world. He introduced me to psychology; pointing me in the right directions to self improvement. He gave me this book on our last day together.
He told me, “this book will change your life. Once you read it, you can’t go back.”
I read it. I read it again. I cherish it.
After that book I wanted more. I read, did more research on my own and discovered so many amazing and wonderful things... I gained confidence and started to love myself. I lost my bad habits, lost weight and lost almost all my ‘friends’ who used me when I was vulnerable. I stand up for others when they need me. I’m hard to criticise.
The curse is that I find myself manipulating people all the time. I get bored easily when I have to carry a conversation and I’ve started judging a lot. Relationships are also a struggle because my standards are too high.
I have a good amount of patience but when I snap I can bring the person to tears and make them feel awful. I just hope I don’t become what I’ve always hated.
At least I don’t shake anymore.
The Female definitely you too are a self centered psychopath.
Lol so you’re a demon now?
With great power comes great responsibility. The downside of having a lot of knowledge is that daily matters and small talk isn't stimulating enough and we don't know how to implement what we've learnt into the real world.
However, you may not shake anymore, but leaning over to manipulating and getting bored of people can just be a new way your symptoms are showing? That makes sense to me , at least. I hope you get the support you need and deserve!
guess you're a sociopath now
Sounds like you read and put into practice too much the 48 laws of power?
Is it just me or does anyone else feels uncomfortable when a person uses your name more than twice in a conversation and starts to ask too many questions about you?
Its all about the balance
The question has to be tailored into something the asker can follow up with his own input. That‘d make a healthy and normal conversation instead of an interview.
Ime not giving intrviews this week.
I had a coworker who was very curious and also very aggressive so he would excitedly and aggressively ask lots of questions about peoples lives. Noooooo! Too much!
You can always redirect the question back to them. Usually that’s how it goes and you both learn more about each other
I once gave a genuine compliment to my friend for her gym regime, and my other friend tells me when would I begin, to which I said I don't know but atleast i can encourage this girl to continue her regime. This girl instantly said I don't need any sort of motivation. I said good for you. That's the end of conversation!
You could have continued the conversation by saying something about self-discipline.
It's like a game of associations: regime-motivation-discipline-procrastination-things to do when procrasrinating-youtube-... Ha ha
This can be a turnoff to me. I am someone that will notice others investigating me and flattering me so they can feel good about their own insecurities
Better Ideas: You should remember names
Also better Ideas: When Peter Parker met Leonardo DiCaprio... Whatever I forgot his name
HAHAHA
@UCwjimEU25P7j6brm3IzZWuQ He was going for the real name, not the character name. As he said he forgot Peter Parkers name - Tobey Maguire.
How to forget Tobey Maguires name? :D
@@yanzi8543 *swoosh"... Just like that..
@@sagelioneldsouza8230 and just like that Peter Parker became a person in real life :D
Spider man meets Gatsby
This was my first self-improvement book also, the beginning of something really big!
I think mine too, although I now see it a grossly flawed, it at least started a new paradigm shift
@@Hadezul2 *flawed how?*
@@alexbecker4149, the book promotes a submissive mind and behaviour that works great in some circumstances, but not others. It assumes that everyone around you is shy, repressed and self-absorbed. The problem with this book is its advice is absolutely not a good idea for anyone who finds themselves in an environment where they are bullied, ostracised, and pitied. It makes no account for the existence of sociopaths, cliques, or people who simply see you as beneath them.
@@Hadezul2 *yeah, that's a tricky situation. if someone is not open to being your friend, because they don't need you and have leverage over you, you can't win their heart.*
*That's like a war situation, either get out or acquire enough leverage over them so that you can fight back.*
*Did you read about the Gervais principle / power talk / identifying psychopaths?*
*I also recommend reading the book The 48 laws of power and The art of War. For understanding how psychopaths operate.*
*Also if they just seem like assholes but aren't psychopaths you can still turn them around.*
@@alexbecker4149 Hi thanks. I've not read them, but I did read People Skills by Robert Bolton and highly regard that book over HTWFAIP
This is cool, since my dad had actually recommended this book to me.
This is what Gary Vee preaches:
“Perspective”
As you mentioned in your video, it is your perspective that changed and as a result everything else changed with it
Summary of the video:
Just make people feel valued. Care about them.
1) Show interest in others. Talk to others about what's going on in their lives because everyone thinks about themselves.
2) Give complements, use their names.
3) Focus. Pretend the person in front of you is the only person in the world.
i have the opposite problem, i make everybody feel valued just bc im nice and i focus on the good things in ppl (as long as they are not evil or sth), idk it comes naturally to me. and then everybody thinks they’re special to me because i was nice to them and basically i do what you say all the time without having read that book or watched your video. i didn’t talk much as a kid but i listened to everybody so i think i just noticed what people wanted to get from a „good conversation“.
the „problem“ with that ist that i do it everytime unless somebody is mean or rude or sth, but then i seem to disappoint them when i treat everybody the same. and im like dude i was just being nice lol. and no, i don’t flirt or anything, it’s the same for both sexes. so be careful and only use these strategies on ppl you really want to get closer to
that must be...lonely..
I am 53. For the last 5 yrs or so I have stopped being social in any way. I am not sure what happened? Life gets hard as we age.
When I was about 12 years old, my Dad started giving me financial economic and investing books to read and I was successfully investing money as a teenager.....then when I was about 16-17 my friend gave me novels about the war in the jungles of Vietnam and that made me a bit crazy and made me want to go into the Special Forces and I eventually became a Recon Ranger (Special Forces) in the Marines and that changed me and my life and gave me discipline and also made me a bit crazy and wild, but all ended well.....then in my early 20's I started reading the positive self help books and listened to tons of tapes and eventually CD's and many courses all in the arena of Think and Grow Rich and How To Win Friends and Influence People and the list goes on, and that was very helpful and life changing and I should have never stopped those books audios and courses but between those books and the Marine Corp it gave me discipline and helped to do well in college.......then I was balanced enough to become a serious successful currency trader in the Futures markets....but then all my positive life and investing and business success started going down hill from a bad relationship that turned my life upside down and I lost my focus and just started bouncing around and traveling and partying and fun and way too many different girlfriends looking for the right one, but the right one never appeared. So I started spending more and more time in South America looking for something that wasn't there....so I thought maybe Miami Beach would be the answer to whatever I was looking for and eventually I realized South Beach and Miami was the last place I should be.....So I left the country again over 10 years ago and I never moved back to the US....I finally realized that it must be me or at least that is what I thought....then 9 years ago down here someone gave me a Bible and that is the book that has changed everything in me and my life....so I've come to the conclusion that it isn't really me with the problem, even though I have problems and I am not perfect, but I was looking for something that is very hard to find because we live in a fallen world that is owned and controlled by an evil fallen entity known as the Devil .. Satan .. Lucifer and many more names. He is the King of this world and pure evil.....and like most people, I was oblivious to the fact that he is real and does exist. To make a long story shorter, I will end it here. Read your Bible first (KJV) and foremost. Life is short. You must get on track with GOD or things won't go well for you, especially when you leave this world. Read and watch tons of Godly UA-cam videos and watch what happens to your life. Adios from the mountains of Guatemala Lake Atitlan.............and by the way, I am 53 years old now and a completely different person I AM now because of the Bible....its the only book that has saved my life and hopefully it will save my soul..............
I had an aneurysm trying to read this. Punctuation goes a long way, my friend.
Thank you for wasting my time :(
*NKJV 😛
KJV, that's most probably the version of the bible from which Satan stole all the commas and full stops to then make dick pics in ASCII-art.
I read it before I had amazing social circle at high school , now I got to college and it's a whole different society so I felt like reading it again and now this vid from 3 years pops up on my fyp it's kinda crazy
Glad I watched this. Quite inspirational - also thanks for explaining that there is actually something to be gained from liking it. Never understood why people used to ask for it before.
I definitely don't want to talk about myself all the time, I can't imagine I am alone in that lol.
I was in a similar place when I discovered and read that book. When I applied its advice I had much less positive experiences. I recommend People Skills by Robert Bolton. This book made me realise I was surrounded by aggressive people who will never appreciate the "submissive" behaviour practices encouraged in HTWFAIP.
1) focus on the person ur talking with in your conversations
2) make them feel valued: use there names, give genuine compliments, compliment on their Personality (ur a good listener..)
3) focus on the person ur talking with and show that you care about them
You just described the introvert king, our Lord and saviour, Keanu Reeves
May the Keanu be with you. Amen!
@@astranoel895 ...and also with you.
Hail Hydra
😂😂
@@astranoel895 May The One be with you.
Bro i literally watch ur videos every time I have free time...... It's like I am attending classes in school except I like the classes..... Ur are awesome 👍
*The Power of Now*
thank you so much,this video help me a lot in my social life especially when i try conversation with the people that i never met,the first action that i did is give them a compliment to start a conversation,and remember all people have their own anxiety and main character in their life so when you making a mistake just dont give a damn to what other people think about you,they dont acctually think about every single mistaken that you made they worried about their own life (im in progress learning english so please if you feel their mistake in this comment feel free for give me a compliment thank you)
There's an episode of Friends I like where Phoebe enters a party where she doesn't know anyone. She says something like, 'this is great I don't know anyone here so I don't have to bother talking to anyone or caring'. I love that! I think there is sometimes too much focus on pushing people to talk and have clunky awkward conversations when perhaps they just don't like the company!! Nothing wrong with that. I'm a big fan of going to parties and just eating and getting around for a bit. If noone talks to me, who cares! But more often than not while I'm over indulging in food, I somehow end up on the sidelines *omg I'm starving big workout today, you go to the gym? Yes I do have you been thinking of joining etc etc* with dte ppl or shy ppl having a chat and we become some kind of group together for the rest of the party.
I read the Book after seeing this Video two Months ago and it Helped me a lot. Its not just super helpful advice but also some general Rules about how to interakt properly with people. Its unbelivable, I just didnt know such things bevor reading this Book. Thank you very much for influencing me in reading this Book, it was a trip. (a friend of mine is also reading it now and likes it a lot)
I knew it! Same here bro, that is THE book😊 Remembering people's names is so simple and yet so powerful. It's sad how very few people do it nowadays.
Important to rewatch this video because as much as I mostly prioritize the other person in the conversation and listen, I'm mostly good with it but I can still fall into trying to jump to talk about myself when I really don't need to.
I'm glad that I found one of the most underrated channels ever!
NO DOUBT, NO REGRET
You deserve my sub
Tell me about this 10 years from now. It does not work. If you tease people into being selfish, that is what you get. You fall for this because you need people too much. Let them be and be yourself too.
That sounds like a great book. I just reserved it at the library. Can't wait to read it.
I work in a gym and this book has helped me deal better with complaints and sales as well. It's a must read for everyone.
First hear, then listen, accept, receive, swallow, rethink, think what to say, then speak.
Then realise... They got tired of waiting and walked away.
The book that eradicated my hair
0:11 look at his eyes
Smile triggers along with anxiety to calm the mind
This book is the best book Ive ever read in my life. I read it every year to remind myself of its very powerful principles!
Wow, this was one of the best videos out there on human interactions. Nice summary of the book itself. Appreciate it. Awesome research and an amazing quality video. Good work.
I don’t like compliments. I feel people feel superior when they lend their judgement. Like “Oh. Hey Ann. I judge you as pretty. I judge you as smart. “. Like who cares what you like about me.
Ann Tweardy
Deep:) (non-sarcasm)
0:09 Looks like joey did 100 PUSHUPS 100 SITUPS 100 SQUATS and 10 KM JOG till he became bald.
I see you are a man of culture..
👊👴
Lmao opm routine cracks me up everytime just because of how inaccurate it is
Toxic Fart hahahahhaha
don't forget, he probably also never uses the air conditioner
I read this book after graduating college. It is a great book. I’m so happy this changed your life. I combined this book with observing people in real life and social media, and my.life improved as well.
Great book. I can totally recommend. Helped me make friends at uni
Whats the name of the book tho?
I too read the book, and that too many times..it helped me soo much understanding people, I could make friends easily, attract ppl in my life, n all...but it just made me more of a people pleaser too, if someone isn't interested in me at all, or smtimes ppl are backed off due to my keenness to know them..so I'd recommend sm more books to balance out its ppl focussed approach..how to value ur own time, sanity, build a self esteem, having less but genuine and caring friends, and being able to trust ppl with ur secrets, fears n all to form deep relationships. This book made me too much aware of ppl's psychology, and I stopped making any mistakes, I started being cautious n alert abt my behaviour n what I say..basically i stopped screwing up n making mistakes, which are smtimes necessary to form deep connections..fights, misunderstandings have got their own role.
The main thing that Hurts me is that I was not socially awkward or shy before, as far as I remember..now I have become due to many circumstances..
Now I have lost myself..I don't know how I am..I don't know how I was..or what I like. And that sucks.
what's happened?
dude this is litterly what im going through, did you find a way out?
@@ItzSlashyyy Not really! But now I think, it can be managed..don't worry, it will be fine♥️
@@ГлебНиколайчук-е1м That's exactly what i don't know😂
In a world more connected than ever, genuine listening is scarcer than ever
The pool guy at the hotel I’m staying at was like “good morning alyssa” as he handed me a towel and I was like.... dude.. we’ve only met once & you remembered? THANKS
I wish I had the kind of brain that remembers names after one meeting.
I didn't know Peter Parker was in The Great Gatsby. must've been a day I slept through class...What about focus?
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Sebastian Alcala omygosh samee!
What's the book exactly?
Same!
Lucky YOU!!!
I’ve always been the listener and the person who asks questions about others but they never do the same for me
I was expecting another type of video, however it was also interesting because all of these tips are things I do naturally with people I meet or with my friends. But be careful to behave this way only with people who are deserving your attention, because a lot of people would love to talk about them and be sure to notice that a real friend will also have interest in you and ask questions about you. It never has to be a monologue instead a dialogue ! You all deserve to find a real friend that has interest in who you are, otherwise you better stay alone and wait to find a real one :-) Love
I'm reading this book and this book changed my leading way and make me a better team player, which actually make me a better professional and give me a better position in the company. So yes, this book changed my life.
Aight wow that's honestly opened my mind so much already, and I can see other people I aspire to be like portraying these qualities. This channel is amazing, so much value. Subbed and definitely gonna pick us this masterpiece.
Crazy that was the very first book I purchased because someone knew that I wanted to start a UA-cam channel and they recommend me that book🔥🔥🔥🔥
Great book. 📕 Read it the first time and now review the audiobook annually for a refresher. which I really need sometimes. Thanks for sharing. 👍
You have a lovely sense of subtle comedic timing. Genuinely humourous while still taking the subject matter seriously.
Very engaging! Thank you. 🙏🏽
My anxiety always comes when one person inevitably asks a closed ended question. The conversation always has that brief, but painfully awkward silence, where both people are trying to decide to either end it or come up with an entirely new thread. That moment of tense silence has always been the biggest social landmine for me. I always find myself preemptively ending the conversation and leaving to find something else instead of trying to think of a natural transition to a new topic.
I read this book many years ago and I've applied the principals many times. After 30 years I am alone and have no friends though I've applied those principles and have helped many people through my life. Through the years I've realized that what people really admire is money and beauty. Handsome people can be jerks and don't do anything in this book but they attract people. Many scientific research showed that beauty and money make people respect you. A few years ago I've helped a female friend through a difficult time in her life. I've listen to her many times when she had no friends. I traveled once 6 hours so she wouldn't be alone on her birthday. I took her to a nice restaurant and the whole time she was talking about this handsome guy that sent her a card for her birthday. Many of those principles don't work anymore unless you are rich and beautiful. I know a loving woman that is a living example of Dale Carnegie principles. I see her at church events and I can tell that not many people come to talk to her. She is a little chubby, short and not the kind of very attractive but she has a good heart. She is always alone. I see her being rejected in parties all the time. I've been to a few meet up groups and I see the same pattern. The jerk Joe who owns a company and could care less about other people has all the attention.
*Bonus points if you learn...to care*
def feel valued when people listen and remember my name for sure it is a great feeling.
bonus points if you learn how to actually care :')
Very good book, I like to read it again every so often but as many people said, the challenge is not in knowing what it says but actually putting it into practice. Personally, I started to become self-aware of many moments in my daily life where I would want to interact with someone around me and did not and eventually started going for it every time. Not only did I met tons of people but it allowed me to learn a lot about myself and change my perspective on others and how I approach interacting with people.
"People's favorite hobby and people's favorite topic and the one they're most comfortable talking about is things to do with themselves." Except INFJs. We would rather talk about you. And yes, I realize the irony of this comment.
focus is a foundational skill in the art of zen
I THOUGHT THE THUMBNAIL WAS THE DEATHNOTE OMG
I've often that when I show interest in people, they talk about themselves, rarely reciprocate any interest in me, and it becomes this one-sided affair.