Sam and Aaron Taylor Johnson: How She Met and Married Him
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Hollywood couple Sam and Aaron Taylor-Johnson, have recently made headlines. Their unconventional relationship has once again come under fire after Aaron was accused of cheating on his wife with his "Bullet Train" co-star, Joey King. In this video we will take a deep look into the nature of Sam and Aaron's relationship and how the couple, who have a 23 year age gap, came to be. This is the story of how Sam "Met, Hired, and Married Him". Is this a "great love story" or something more "problematic"?
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He feels like she saved him. The “love” he feels is because he feels grateful for his career.
Same with Celine Dion.
Interesting take, thank you for sharing
celine dion?!
@@normalizrdshe met her manager at 12 or 14 years old. And he started a relationship with her either when she was underage or after she turned 18. It’s been awhile since I learned about it. But look more into if you wanna know the exact details. Her manager, now her late husband, definitely groomed her (or at the very least he took advantage of how much she respected him). I’m pretty sure he was married and left his wife for Celine.
I know what that feels like and it makes it so hard to see what is really going on.
Codependency is confused with love all too often :( I feel bad for Celine too, at just 12 years old that man set his sights so disgusting
"I'm sure every woman wants a man who will gush over her like a teenager" you MET HIM when he was a TEENAGER and that's why he GUSHES LIKE A TEENAGER! Ugh!!
Right like she's kinda making me sick to my stomach
She first met Aaron when he was SEVEN YEARS OLD! She had access to Aaron because she was a “family friend “. She groomed Aaron and sexualized him.
Sam didn’t say that though, it was a journalist who was making commentary about their relationship.
You right he was a teenager, 18 is young but he was not a minor.
@@siphowarrior9080 still an age a person can be manipulated and groomed imo. bros brain wasn't even fully developed then. i'm 20 and i still feel immature and childish, not like an adult
@@sadtimesalways at any age we can be manipulated etc, look at how many fully developed brained people are getting into cults & being radicalised. My point is that she didn’t commit a crime, he was of legal age when they started their relationship. Aaron has not ONCE stated that he was abused by his wife. We can spend more energy supporting victims who speak up about abuse rather than forcing Aaron to be a victim. We don’t even know this man 💀
It's really hard NOT TO think that she groomed him because she knew him when he was so young.
17. What's so funny is if he was one yr older, at least in the US where 18 is the legal age, people would be like yeah, whatever. Age of consent written by fellow human beings is like the holy grail for people and it's kinda stupid. He wasn't a child he was a young man and wasn't groomed imo.
@Cassondra Lynch But she knew him when he was I think 11-12 years old...
@@cassondralynch6342 she knew him as a child💀
@@amorwilliams4480 Define child lol Like elementary junior high school stuff lol? I didn't see that in the vid.
@@Tboi2024 Really? I didn't hear that here. That is kinda weird lol.
I'm 30 and I would never look at a 15 year old as a sexual object. That is just a 15 year age gap. Sad no one protected him.
He was a VERY mature 18, not a CHILD!
@@joanodom2104 Thank you! Sometimes I feel like the world's gone mad. Everyone's a f'n victim or predator lol. He was 17 though just to correct ya. Still, people act like he was 12. Gimme a break. I knew damn well what I was up to at 17, and unless you're mentally disabled we all do ffs.
He was like 8 when she was 30 😮 disturbing
@@courtneybauman4816 Yeah, it would be if he remained 8. Thing is he grew up. Lmao.
@@cassondralynch6342 who sees a child they knew in that way? Definition of groo*ing
Here I am again. Anyone, as a fully fledged adult who goes into a relationship with someone who is a teenager and hasn't even had their frontal lobe develop is a groomer. At 42, Sam was too old to go out with an 18 year old even if they have a successful marriage it still feels wrong. If we are calling out Leonardo DiCaprio for dating girls old enough to be his daughter, so should we here. I don't have children by choice but I still don't think my son bringing home a woman my age wouldn't make me question how they met in the first place.
Yeah it kills me when people are like "no one says anything when it's an old man and a young girl!" Oh really, no one???
Absolutely!
@@stilted my son was preyed upon at 15 years old by a 27 year old. It was disgusting & she got her ass beat.
18 years old is not a child by any means. Period.
@@anniemihn It's not. But younger, inexperienced people should be respected by older people. That's what my mother taught me, and I live by it.
I have been DYING to see this covered properly since I found out about this couple. You're exactly the person to do it.
I really appreciate this so much, thank you! I didn’t know much about them. I hope you find this video informative ❤️
Excellent coverage.
Shameful
You can groom an adult, regardless of how much people think you can't. He was devoid of parental love an thus when she became that for him on set, she became his everything.
She kept saying how perfect he was for the roll and from the fact that his parents let him be naked on stage at 8, they clearly paid little mind to his acting. It meant everything to him to have someone actually acknowledge how good he was. Since she was attracted to him, she would have been letting that be known somehow because of the way they acted on set.
He doesn't have to be a minor too be groomed. Grooming victims are usually always head over heels in love with the groomer, that's how it works. They separate you from any other emotion support so that they become your EVERYTHING.
What? He ADORES his mother!
@@joanodom2104 I adore my father but that doesn't mean he was actively supporting my art when I was a child lmao
🙄😂 Yeah, because you can judge the situation based on what you know abot them, which is nothing. And no, you can't 'groom an adult'. Period.
@@anniemihnI'm glad you backed that up with the compelling arguing of "period"
@@corporalchloe Truth is hurting you? Good.
Honestly, I think she groomed him and doesn’t even know she did it. She gave into a feeling she had and if she were really honest with herself now it would be too hard. He may really love her, but he also has skewed views on what that means based on his relationship with his parents and their parenting as he grew up. Obviously they were very hands off so having someone much older who’s successful and already a mom and takes good care of them, presumably, offering a ready made home and family to walk right into makes sense.
She's knew. She's wasn't 25. she was 42. who had children his age.
my thing is: she looked at his little baby face and felt a lil something. like that is so gross by itself.
Exactly the same situation as Hugh Hefner, he didn't know.
what a dumb comment
I honestly agree with you. In his own weird way, he was looking for someone to fill that 'parental" role. His parents weren't there for him nor protecting him from predators. So by gushing over an older/successful woman, he saw his chance to fill that void and start a family of his own. Now as an adult, Sam should've shut that shit down and had a serious conversation with him about the age gap and how inappropriate their union would be. Instead she acted on impulse and caved into her urges. I'm curious to see how she would react if any of her children date someone twice their ages. What would her course of action be? Would she be accepting or reject the notion? Even though she didn't practice what she preached. Time will tell.
One thing that threw me was when Sam said that Aaron proposing was the most memorable moment of her life… not the birth of her two daughters from her first marriage… interesting…
She sounds kinda crazy
Oh boy, here we go again. I've seen this exact comment under the video of Kim Kardashian talking about her best moment in life and it wasn't about her children. And then come people like you and be like 'how dare this woman name the best moment of her life something beside giving birth to her children'.Like a woman is not allowed to enjoy her life, her triumphs and should only think about her children and nothing else
@@mirage1878 i don't have kids , but of i did , I'd imagine pushing out something I've carried for nine months out of what used to be a quarter sized hole with only myself to pull strength from...it would be one of the best moments ...just from surviving the physical pain alone. Plaus a living being that loves you wholeheartedly....yeah.
Idk how marrying a child should compare to having one though
@@vianeyboruel504 she not only married a child but she effectively groomed a child and then married him. We as women are allowed to have our own “best moments” in life and this should be without judgement, within reason. But when your best moment is the grooming and marrying of a teen- yeah, no.
So firstly you're talking about something you have no idea about. Just because you presume that would be your best moment in life doesn't mean it should be like this for all women.
And most importantly you people are throwing around some pretty serious accusations without any proofs. "Grooming is establishing an emotional connection with a minor under the age of consent". The age of consent in UK is 16.
“Teenagers have crushes on adults all the time, that doesn’t mean we should take them up on it. In fact we have a responsibility NOT to act on their attraction even if they seem mature for their age.” 18:53 Reminds me a bit of your video about the Macron’s (Emmanuel and Brigitte) Thanks once more Bee for another great documentary.
I also thought of the Macrons watching this
That’s the first thing predators say, how many female teachers have we seen abuse little boys and say things like “he’s so mature for his age” and “he came onto me he knew what he was doing” THE ADULT is 100% aware of what they are doing, it’s our job to protect our most vulnerable from exploitation not make excuses as to why being a sicko is ok..
I agree 100%, the adult needs to be the one setting clear boundaries. They are grown and should know better !
He was 17. He wasn't 12 yrs old. People are being too dramatic as f'n usual.
@@cassondralynch6342 you’re part of the issue if you’re going to excuse this behavior citing “well he wasn’t any younger” let me put it to you this way when I was 16/17 being groomed and assaulted by grown men who were in their 20’s and 30’s I didn’t know any better I thought it made me cool and desirable it wasn’t until my brain was fully developed and I was an adult did I see it for what it really was. It’s our duty not to take advantage of people in that stage of development.
honestly the mere thought of dating a teenager when you're in your 40s is sooo weird to me. like what do you even talk about
"She makes me feel safe, confident, and secure." LIKE A BABY IN THE WOMB?!?!
Yea or how any healthy partner feels in a relationship...
Uhm.... That's how you're supposed to feel with your wife or husband lol. Go heal your inner child
many people say that regardless of age gaps.
That's how you SHOULD feel in relationship my dude
Or how we should feel all on our own. We should never rely on a relationship to feel secure.
I'm 28 years old (and married) but if an 18 year old started hitting on my I would run for the hills. There's just too much brain development that still needs to happen before you're 25, and I know this because there is a stark difference in the way I see the world and behave now compared to 18. When you're that young, everything is new and feels incredibly high stakes. As you get older you develop wisdom to not rush everything. Clearly nobody was there to tell Aaron this. I agree, the responsibility falls on the adult to say no.
I'm 42 lol my Bumble has teenagers about 15% of the 18k are teens lol... I just laugh with my kids ...I'd neverrrrrr... Lololol I don't get it... She should have said "see me when you're in the 25-40 demographic"
@@exoticalBecky_Miami You sound like a normal, healthy, and responsible adult 🙏
Aaron's entire career and personal life as we know it is like, SOOOO many red flags. He has the classic signs of a child star that was taken advantage of by adults, and made to feel more "mature" for his age -- not to mention he seemed super overworked as a 6 year old like jfc. His interviews make it sound like he was so tied up in his work that he was low key having an identity crisis at the age of 17.... how he says he's never attracted to "girls", as though women his age are immature, which ew? I really wonder who the older women in his life were growing up, and if he ever dated seriously before Sam... but either way, he really was set up for something like this the way he came up.
Beyond all the ageist mysogonyst shit, it's overall gross that Sam could see someone close to her own children's age, who is obviously struggling with his self-esteem, and has little life outside of acting, and still pursue him. She shouldn't use the false equivalency of older woman/young man with older man/young woman to defend their relationship, as if history of patriarchy has nothing to do with that, and if the latter has ever been morally acceptable... So i super appreciate it that you mentioned how regardless, women can be predators.
I always feel yucky thinking about these two, like it seems really sad and like something that could blow up any day now, but no one knows them personally, and all my conjecture is really overstepping at the end of the day. The two of them have just created an island under the biggest red flag and we're just waiting for it to sink LOL.
Thanks for the video, awesome work as always. :)
You said it so well….Broke my heart when he talked about being selfish and only thinking of himself in regards to having a family so young….. teenagers and 20 something’s are SUPPOSED to be selfish and self centered, that’s what makes growing out of that stage maturing.
@@dimplesd8931No. No one's supposed to be selfish and self-centered. Glad my teenagers and young adult children aren't. Good luck with yours.
@@AS-yz2iz Sam sure was selfish and consumed with her career, before marrying her first husband and giving birth to her 2 older children.
She herself didn't get married at a young age and didn't become a mother at a young age, because she knew what's up. She wanted to grow up and to develop as an artist and a person before all.
@@silvacleo329Sam sure had those 2 kids by Aaron, very quick.
Even if he HAD wanted to end things with Sam sooner, she locked him down early with those kids.
Jfc?
Another thought provoking episode of a controversial issue. While I personally believe the choice for her to pursue a relationship with him is morally questionable, I was surprised that I had distressed feelings on other issues regarding their relationship. Such as why were his parents so absent? Who was “handling” him on set as a minor? Who was “management” that advised them to continue dating but in secret? Thanks for more interesting content.
Thank you so much for watching as well as your feedback.
While researching for this couple, I came across some information that may answer your questions.
According to Aaron his father worked a lot and didn’t see him often. His mother quit her job and became a stay at home parent in order to take him to auditions and jobs etc. at some point, in his teens she stopped escorting him to gigs and auditions, leaving him to travel alone. He mentioned in an interview that his family lived in a very small village and didn’t have a lot of money. When he was able, he left and moved away from the village, never to go back.
I don’t know who”handled” Aaron on set or who his manager was but I saw another interview where he again mentioned that he was often “alone” without any supervision and that he was always with much older people.
Lastly, according to Aaron his publicist as well as Sam’s told them that they needed to date “in secret”.
I hope this helps and is able to answer your questions! ☺️
@@betheecommentatorthat’s how you know the people around them knew it wasn’t right, the fact that they told them this had to stay hush hush at the time was because they were afraid of the public backlash once people realized what was going on
Some families raise their children according to their child's personal maturity level vs societal norms. It's seems he was trusted to make the right decisions for himself. He got into some trouble but managed to stick to his career path and settle into a family. The optics were bad for publicity tho.
@@yesimsureienteredmynamecorrect maybe he was just lucky. Sounds like parents who couldn't care less
@@Skurwysyna not exactly. a lot of publicists tell stars not to let everyone know when they're in relationships.
Their relationship has always made me suspicious, mostly because of the imbalance in the power dynamic at the outset. The age difference is just a byproduct of that.
What I really want to know is: why were Aaron’s parents okay with him stripping naked on stage at age 8??? Why didn’t they remove him from the production?? What was wrong with all of the adults involved, that everyone seemed okay with that??? Red flags 🚩 all over the place
Yes!! That story made me so mad! Why did that happen. Should’ve never happened. He was exploited and like you said “where were the parents”???? Ugh 😣
My thoughts exactly!! Why did the adults in his life at that time, allow 8 year old him to be naked with another adult in front of other people?! Even HE thought it was weird, so why didn’t his parents? I think this is what helped normalised the relationship with Sam. Personally, I have an issue more with the imbalance of power as opposed to the age gap. For instance, if he was a 33 year old, and she was his 56 year old co-worker, then things would be totally different. But he was a CHILD that she was directing in a film, so that’s an entirely different thing.
@@AoifeNic_an_t-Saoir Except he was an adult: a man at 18, that could go off to war.
Uuuurgghh that happened that is NOT ok
@@AoifeNic_an_t-Saoir there is a big difference between 33 and 56 vs 18 and 42: Aaron had essentially zero relationship experience and would have fallen for very immature gestures and ideas of romance that a man in his 30s wouldn't. Classic example is that Sam and him danced in the rain. She totally exploited his child like idea of romance. So the age gap Does matter because their respective ages at the time matter.
I love Aaron as an actor and there's no way this grown ass woman didn't groom the teenager on her set..
She’s just as guilty as men who do it with young girls. Unfortunately, women get a pass because society doesn’t deem us as predators. If he was at least in his 20s, it would seem better, but he was so young being only 17.
So true, if this was Pedro Pascal and Bella Ramsey - I doubt anyone would be cheering him on
So true.
she's clearly not getting a pass mate 💀 this relationship is all that ppl talk about
She is not getting a pass, they call her nasty names all over social media. Male celebrities don't get even the fraction of that. Jay-Z dated beyonce when shr was 19 too like aarons age , but Jay-Z was never called groomer etc.
Regardless of him being minor or not. It was still wrong of her to go after a 19 year old.
Thank you so much for watching and sharing your thoughts!
People keep saying he’s a minor. How do people not realize that the laws are different in different countries. Age of consent is 16 in UK. They can drink at 18. He wasn’t a minor. They weren’t in America.
@Oakwood Forest no one in the comments seems to get this. Also they have been together all this time. Isn't this better if he's happy and they're happy and it works??
@@OakwiseBecoming that’s a really good distinction.
@@betheecommentator another good distinction is that the human brain isnt fully developed until you reach approximately 25 years of age!
My friend was 18 when she met a married man in his late 30s. Her whole life revolved around him. He built her career which was completely dependent on his influence. He is a well known musician. She's in her 40s now and acts like he's god or something. I have never seen anything like it. Her whole existence relies on him. It's just not normal.
*God
@@purplelove3666 No it's god, because there's only one true God. I will not call a human being like that.
i'm glad you added lots of clips of him talking about the relationship, to me it felt like he was acting out a fantasy? he was speedrunning almost. teenager step-parenting??? i hope one day he gets to find his true self beyond romantic relationships or family ties. because his life story is very alarming, that man needed therapy and good support system, not a marriage :( where were his parents!!!
THIS WHOLE PART! I don't like it when men do this, don't like it when women do it. This whole thing is troubling. And all he wanted really is to be loved, needed and secure. Obviously he didn't feel that from his family.
He did say he always felt more comfortable acting and being a character. Maybe that's the character he thought he wanted to play? I feel bad for him and Sam is ick for grooming a teenager
I don’t understand why a grown adult would be interested in someone barely above a child. The difference in maturity, understanding, and life experience is just staggering.
How can they possibly have a meaningful relationship? Physical attraction, liking, a “crush” all makes sense, but a marriage befuddles me.
Especially really fresh from a divorce... So fresh the ink hasn't dried. (Not knocking flings after a divorce. That's a given but to commit?!) Also there's a reason she's so evasive about pre production and post production. In the workplace there are laws meant to protect 16/17 year Olds despite the age of consent and acting is part of those laws ...
Why would you marry someone you never dated or kissed, especially if you are 41 and a 19 year old proposes to you? Wouldn`t you at least say: "Let`s take this slow and get to know each other better", not say "yes" and get pregnant immediately?
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I’m 4 yrs younger than she was when they met. My stomach turns at the idea of being attracted to a virtual child. How gross and messy!
I feel the same but I suppose it's not impossible. At least with Taylor Wood it appears she doesn't have a thing for boys and it was a coincidence, unlike with other people I could mention *cough cough Leo cough*
I’ve always had a weird feeling about their relationship, but watching this video, especially the bits where Sam talked about how Aaron naturally embodied John Lennon, really caught my attention. In some ways, Aaron is like Lennon, and perhaps that explains his relationship with Sam as well. Both Aaron and Lennon went through a lot as kids and acted out as a result. Lennon notably gravitated toward strong older maternal figures, a result of his complex upbringing with his stern aunt Mimi and flighty mother Julia (as depicted in the film), which explained his attraction to a woman like Yoko…so maybe there’s a similar pathology with Aaron and Sam? And Yoko and Sam both have artistic backgrounds, and have received a lot of backlash for their respective relationships, both deserved and undeserved. So maybe, in a twisted way, it was fate?
i see what you’re saying but no, not really. grooming someone isn’t fate. we wouldn’t say murder or SA is fate so i don’t think that applies here either. grooming someone is a choice. she chose to groom him and alter his life completely so i don’t see how that could possibly be fate.
@@crab2195 maybe I phrased that a bit wrong. It was a twisted form of “life imitating art” perhaps?
Yea but Lennon abandoned his other child he had so he's no perfect parent figure at all
The part where she admitted that she was “impressed by his performance because of the point he’s at” got me. She stopped herself from saying “age.” She was impressed because she perceived his immaturity, yet maturity in acting the roll. That’s exactly why Hollywood kids are always targets. Talent is like a hormone to peds. Performance kids have always been targeted, because of the “mentorship” dynamics within the field. Very easy to take advantage of.
I never bought his performance as John Lennon. Lennon as a teenager did not look like a Versace model.
I feel really bad for Aaron I know he chose this but he was blatantly groomed and it’s sad that many industries ignore this grooming of young boys. 19 years old at the premiere with the DIRECTOR who is your 40something year old girlfriend. It just made me sad to see tbh.
That's ridiculous. A grown man at 19 not a boy! They have a wonderful relationship, he wanted what she wanted, simple as that. Very happy for them both. Beautiful. By the way did you not hear how happy he is? And you feel sad for him? You're not listening are you?
@@sandrabentley8111 i didn’t feel like an actual grown adult until i hit 25. Many around me also feel the same with this. bad take, sandra.
@@irelalita well, thankfully we all grow differently and 'feel' differently at any age. This young man seems to have made his mind up and is very happy with his choices in life. Not a bad call at all.
@@sandrabentley8111if the human brain isn’t fully developed until 25 years of age, wouldn’t it be safe to say her choices are very.. difficult to understand? I’m only 20 but cannot fathom someone my father’s age being in a romantic relationship with me. However it is not my life, so if he is happy now, thats great but the beginning of their relationship is hard to understand
@@sandrabentley8111many people who are being abused say that’s where they want to be, they confuse codependency with love, many don’t see it as abuse that doesn’t mean it isn’t. She was not only old enough to be his mother, she was his boss, as adults we need to protect the vulnerable (like children) not take advantage of our positions of power. This is absolutely sick and not okay.
I have always thought that she groomed him from the beginning. The interview that you played with her talking about his audition (when he was 17) and how she starts to say what she thought at the time but then she catches herself and instead says "well I won't say what I thought, I'll keep it to myself. " Then she proceeds to say he was perfect for the role because he embodied Lennon. She stopped herself because she knows he was 17 at that time and she was attracted to him. That's is 🚩 she was attracted to a minor and instead of doing what was right she acted on her attraction. If it was a 42 year old man directing a movie attracted to a 17 year old girl that auditioned for him then proceeded to enter into a relationship with her that would raise eyebrows and he would be labeled a creep [ rightfully so IMO]. Now all that being said that was the past and they are married with kids now. When Aaron is being interviewed and the interviewer presses him on whether or not kids /family is what he's always wanted. He says yes but the caveat being "since the moment I met Taylor it's what I've always wanted ." Could it be because he was 17 when he met her and still a teen when they were engaged and pregnant? He didn't really have time to ponder whether or not a family was what he wanted he was so young. I think maybe they need to both stop acting like people are not going to raise eyebrows at their relationship. They need to stop feigning shock that people have questions and that their relationship makes other uncomfortable. If you just say yeah our relationship is super unconventional but we're happy and leave it at that it leaves less room for doubt, however it feels like they keep trying to justify their relationship and try really hard to convince people that this kind of relationship is normal when it's just not. As for the Jamie King rumors I mean where there is smoke their is fire . Even in Mary Kay letourneau 's case Villi couldn't justify their relationship in the end.
He wasn’t a minor in UK. Age of consent is 16 there. It’s even lower in many countries in Europe. I’ve known British people who left home and were on their own by age 16. So this outrage is a bit cultural-centric. These morals and values are cultural specific and not universal.
@@OakwiseBecoming I’m from the uk and it’s still frowned upon. I don’t know anyone my age that if they dated a 16/17 year old we would think they are an absolute weirdo especially if the person was in their 40s
@@OakwiseBecoming also 16/17 is still classed as a minor so you’re incorrect
@@OakwiseBecoming So 40 year olds dating teenagers is a more universally morally acceptable 🙄 and thinking a relationship between a 40 yr old and a teenager is inappropriate is "cultural-centric" ? Wow that's backwards .
@selenagomezkilldemi No they are not incorrect, in the UK the age of consent is 16. Without getting into the morals of it, it is annoying to see almost all of the comments relating to the laws of the USA. In the interests of accuracy, sex with a 16 year old is not illegal in the UK under most circumstances, including this one, just so you know
My take is two things can be true at once. Their relationship is deeply problematic & the public, up until very recently, has been giving older men a pass.
It's so wild to me that she was born the same year my mom was born and had her first child the year I was born. The thought of my mom dating a 32 year-old is uncomfortable, but her having met that person when he was in his teens?? And in a significant position of authority over him? Oof
I think it is healthy that people react when young people enter into relationsships with such a big age difference. The power dynamic is very scewed, there is no way around it and many of these relationsships are just a "trophy" thing... BUT, there are always exceptions and although cautios we must also be open-minded to those. We have no right to try to ruin people's happiness, it is rare to find. Wonderful video as always Bee. Had no idea who these people were but after the video I felt like I knew them :)
Once again you make such great, valid, balanced points! Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us!!
And, thank you for your continued support ☺️☺️❤️
The only exception i’ve ever seen with a large age gap is juliette mills and maxwell caulfield who are still together decades later - aaron and samantha may make it but its usually the exception to the rule
Man, grooming is so fucked up. I was reading a reddit post of an adult man who found out that his dad met his mom when she was 15 and his father was in his 20s. It rocked the guy's world, and completely changed his relationship with his father because, even though the parents said they didn't date until the mom was 18, it was morally wrong. His dad assured him that he wasn't attracted to children, he and the mom just had a "spark" . He talked to his mom in private and she said she was happy, and if for some reason she was no longer happy, she felt like she could safely leave the marriage. But what is there to do beyond that to rectify that situation? It shouldn't happen in the first place, but there is nothing legally stopping an 18 year old from being in a relationship with a giant age gap, even if the public can speculate they started dating before that. I am in no way saying grooming or dating barely legal teens is ok. I hate it. I think it's gross.
But, I think we are at this point where when we see relationships with giant age gaps involving teens, we can agree it's wrong, but we don't have a way to properly cope with relationships that make it beyond those initial stages. This relationship has progressed to the point of there being children involved. Even if Aaron says "yes, we had a power imbalance and in retrospect, I was taken advantage of, but I love the life we built together and I don't want it any other way", then what? Or Sam says "the public harassment has broken me and I can't do this anymore, so I'm leaving the relationship and taking the kids with me." Is exploding what has become a family really a victory? What is the best charted course for this relationship now that we are here? I don't know and I don't think anyone else can know. Best we can do is try and educate kids about these things, for adults to keep their friends in check, and keep publicly talking about how this isn't ok. This isn't a Hollywood problem, it's an issue everywhere.
Thanks BE, another interesting video, done respectfully and with tons of great interviews.
My parents also met when my mother was 13 and my father 19. I was so conditioned to feel like it was a normal age gap that I also got groomed at 13, by a man who was 19. It was awful.
My parents started dating when my mom was 16 and my dad 21 and got married and had me in less than a year. My mom was barely 20 when she had me, and now, being 20 myself, I find it all gross and terrifying. My dad laughed it off as "age doesn't matter" and how my mother's abusive upbringing made her mature for her age.
My mom had dreams to be a doctor, and my father didn't approve because he wanted her to be a present mother to her children. Now she's stuck as a school teacher at 41, with no masters degree. It's very infuriating.
This is really thoughtful
@@uhhhhhdellie I’m so sorry to you and your mother. I hope both of you are healing and that your mother left that prick.
@@uhhhhhdellieWow. Pretty sure you should let this one go.
It wouldn’t be frowned upon so heavily if they started dating when he was in his 30 and her in her 50’s like Demi and Ashton. He was a literal child when they met and fell in love!
That’s a very good distinction
So true.
Absolutely. It's not even the age gap that bothers me, it's what you just said. It just doesn't sound right. I also find it very selfish.
Just wanted to say that I really enjoy your videos and your efforts to stay objective.
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How a grown woman falls in "love" with a teenager has nothing to do with his life experiences or tenure as an actor; because he hadn't built any. Same reason you see old men get married to those young blonde girls; LUST.
i'm sorry but 'they renewed their vows recently!' isn't imho an argument for 'their relationship is going strong'. i can recall a bunch of celebrity couples who did that and not long after decided to part ways 😔
Yep ask Heidi Klum and Seal or Nick Cannon and Mariah 🙄
But it's hardly like renewing vows is a death knell of relationships
@@annnee6818 I’m of two minds about it. My parents had a “living room” wedding in the late 60’s. Preacher, them and their parents and they were married for 48 yrs till mom’s death. I asked them in their 40’s when a lot of their friends were renewing their vows why they didn’t do it so they could have a “real” wedding with pics and a party etc? They said, “what would change except we’d spend a lot of money to feed some people and then come home to you and your brother after a short vacation? Better to just go on a better/longer vacation and skip all that.” 😂 Now that I’m married I get it. We had a “real” wedding but I don’t need to be publicly preformative to validate our relationship. If our friends want to renew their vows and they invite us we will go with bells on but so far all of the couples we know haven’t done that. Most folks would rather spend their money on something more tangible but maybe the rules change when you’re rich and have money to burn? Would you/have you done a vow renewal(s)?
He was the only thing I liked about Bullet Train 😂❤
That said , he sure was exploited from 8 years old. So sad.
Omg yes that interview really was upsetting and disturbing. Very sad. No 8 year old/child should be subjected to that
But he's happy now, that's all that counts.
Yes is sad😢
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if joey king can pull all of these A list hot men, it makes me feel like I can too. She hasn’t changed her face to match instagram girls and reminds me men still like grounded women who don’t need to continuously change their facial features. And I mean this in the nicest compliment kind of way. Personality really does make a difference
I'm torn on this. I as a woman couldn't see myself dating someone so much younger, nor would I want my children to date anyone with such an age gap.
I think both of them had some experiences in life influencing this outcome. Aaron didn't seem to have much in terms of relating to people his own age growing up and Sam had cancer. Sometimes after surviving cancer, people start to live more young, like it's their last day because they've already came face to face with mortality.
I however don't doubt their connection is genuine. The way they both look at each other, even after 10+ years, speaks volumes. After finishing this video, I spent a good few hours browsing interviews and articles about them and I don't see Sam trying to control or influence Aaron at all which would be something to raise immediate red flags.
You made such good, valid points! Thank you for sharing your thoughts and breakdown on this topic and particular couple. You’re very fair and balanced. I love that ❤️
It’s definitely genuine.
All I see from their interviews is that he's a scared little boy looking for mama's validation. That's not genuine, that's just trauma bonding and it's especially prevalent in codependent relationships such as the one Aaron and Sam have, and Sam knows it pretty well, because she has had the experience, the cerebral development, to realize whether if her emotions are appropriate or not, what it's right and wrong and how to choose properly. Stop the delusion that from grooming can come out a genuine connection, because the only connection that stems from it is one that is manipulative and abusive, because all relies in the insecurities and affirmations of one person over the other.
Something similar happened with the youngest actor from Home Improvement. I would like to hear your take on Mary Kay LeTourneu (sp?) who met and had a relationship with her second husband when he was 12. I saw an interview with them many years later where she kept egging him on by repeatedly saying "Who was the boss back then? Who was the boss back then?"
Yes I remember the Mary Kay story. I can definitely do that one. Thank you for the suggestion
@@betheecommentator I hope you do. That interview really bothered me b/c she wasn't willing to take accountability for her actions and she died still believing she did nothing wrong. Instead, she was deflecting the blame on him.
They ended up getting married and I believe divorced. She died of cancer years ago.
@@MichiganCrimeTime Yes, I remember that. They had 2 daughters. Her life before her first marriage is also interesting: her father was a politician who had 2 families
@Liz D. yes, and he acted more maturely than her. I always felt bad for him.
I have some family members who either had a mother die or an abusive mother and they BOTH date women older than them. Consistently. I have two family members with “mommy issues” with a mix of “daddy issues” and I always thought it was interesting why they chose women older than them. They are both attractive and they seemingly date these much older women. I’m not shaming the older women and they are attractive as well, but yea it’s just interesting
That is very interesting re: the correlation of age gaps relationships and the parental relationships or lack thereof.
Thank you for sharing your take on this topic
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Joan Collins and Percy Gibson??? 32yrs age gap.
Shortly after their 2001 wedding, reporters asked Collins about the substantial age difference between she and Gibson, a theater executive. Conscious of her advanced years, but none too concerned about it, the glamorous octogenarian joked, “If he dies, he dies.”
Another fantastic piece of journalism! Thank you for such impeccable attention to detail.
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If this was reversed, with him being older, there would be no video, no argument, no predator or grooming accusations, it would be ACCEPTED! We do not know when the physical relationship began. It is the obvious typical sexism once again!
Thank you for commenting and sharing your take on this topic with us!
Nah it would definitely be talked about
Both my Grandfathers were older then my Grandmothers. My Grandfather is Norwegian and they had a wonderful life until she died of ovarian cancer. He was 21 years older then her. My other Grandfather is 12 years older and they are still together. He wasn’t her boss but he met her on the job. They are African American. I never heard anything about grooming or taking advantage of my Grandmother’s. My GM in Norway was very happy and had 4 kids. My mom married a man 10 years younger then her. He was a great guy that died of cancer. I feel if you are of age and that’s what you want to do then do it. Tomorrow is not guaranteed to anyone. Just my opinion.✌🏾
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Whether male or female, grooming is wrong.
Omg. Im dying to watch this!!!! Wow what a great idea to discuss!
They were a highly requested couple to discuss! I look forward to hearing your take on this! ❤️
@@betheecommentator same girlfriend ! Im gonna listen after meeting! 🤜🤛💥
It's nice that they are still together and raising a family, but still predatory behavior from her in the beginning. She was way older and really powerful, had more life experience and he was barely out of his teens.
What if HE was thé one taking advantage?
That guy interviewing him 24-26 minutes in is SO irritating. Let the kid answer FFS. Stop talking over him. How the hell do interviewers who do this get their jobs in the first place? Such basic etiquette. A child should be able to understand.
I thought it was just me lol. I really wanted to hear Aaron speak because it’s not often they do interviews.
There is a massive difference in life experience between a 19 year old & a person in their mid-twenties, let alone someone in their 40s. The fact that she agreed to marry someone before their frontal lobe is developed is troubling. She’s the adult, she should have been the voice of reason.
Also, side note Sam is the same age as my mom & Aaron is the same age as my oldest sister, this adds an additional layer of ick to the situation for me 🤢
I started dating my husband when he was 23 and I was 19. It's not really that big of a deal. We've been married for 30 years. The age difference of this couple, in addition to other factors, is disturbing, though.
@@AS-yz2izthose are two different damn ages you weren’t old ass hell
How they met was a bit shady but I wish them every happiness especially as children are involved.
Guy's don't look at women as "predators" and the idea of being groomed is laughable to an adult male. Most of us have no problem with older women coming onto us, we encourage it in fact!
so you think this is okay?
Wooo I've been waiting for this 🙏 had no idea there was cheating allegations with joey king!
I know! It’s not a lot info on this couple because they are very private but I hope you find this informative
She beat cancer twice!! It makes sense why she fell for a younger guy. Her life perspective is permanently altered
Yes! I’ve been waiting for someone to mention that angle! Thank you for commenting and sharing your take with us
I was just thinking of that, she almost died twice so, her perception of life is different.
Yes, yes and yes. Spot on!
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The actor Patrick Dempsey also married an older woman; she was his 1st wife; he was 21; she was 48
Oh I didn’t know that
The way that I see it is that I want to grow older with my partner, I don’t want to be 20 years younger than my 60 year old husband, I know some women don’t mind that but I do. Same goes to if I had a 20 years younger husband at the age of 60, I wouldn’t want a 40 year old man taking care of me at my old age, I would fee l guilty. I want to create a life together where we are both equals and there’s no imbalances of any kind. But to each their own, at the end of the day she’s the lucky one because I would love to have a man that’s so in love with me the way that he is with her.
Very interesting, thank you for sharing your opinion. To each, their own. I definitely see what you’re saying. My uncle and his wife have an age gap of 25 years. He’s in his late 50’s and I know they’ve had some issues in regards to where they’re at in life. He wants to settle down and relax and she wants to be very social and active 🤣
It’s interesting that there’s a quote here that says that people don’t bat an eye when men get together with younger girls. But I’ve also heard the opposite. In fact I’ve heard of a lot of cases where older male celebs get flack for age gap relationships.
Thanks for pointing out that quote and sharing your thoughts on the topic. Like you, I’ve heard the opposite too. I’ve heard both older male and older female partners receive backlash.
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I'm 33 years old and wouldn't even THINK about dating an eighteen year old. That's how gross and inappropriate it would be to me.
My bf was 13 years Younger....but he was looking for older girlfrend to help him...as he says ....it would be easier for me to have 11 years older husband....but the Younger Man was more mature than the older and more serious with me
I wonder if she were more conventionally attractive if people would still be so harsh? were people like this with Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher?
i don't remember them being as harsh with Demi and Ashton, but those circumstances were a tiny bit different. Ashton was around 25 and the age gap was 15 years. 25 and 40 is a lot less scandalous than 17 and a 42 year old boss. :/ just my two cents though. :)
I also wonder that. But when it comes to Ashton and Demi, he was 25 when they met, not 18 and the age gap is only 15 years old, not more than 20. Imo, its a big difference from one case to another. My husband is 12 years older than me, but I met him when I was 30 yo.
I dont believe that age gaps of more than 15 years will work on the long run. I predict they will get divorced in the near future.
whether people want to admit it or not, her looks definitely play a role in how harshly they judge
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I found Celine Dion’s marriage much more disturbing. Would love for you to cover that.
Hi there, I actually did Celine Dion’s marriage. If you check my videos you’ll see it there ☺️
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I think it can be true love or he felt greatful towards her. Perhaps she was a guardian figure he craved. Maybe she given him lectures, advices and wisdom of life during the shoot and it made him admire her. Maybe he thinks his admiration is romantic love rather like the love for a teacher or a parent. He's probably confusing it all but what he feels is definitely a strong feeling of some sort which he wanted to preserve through institution of marriage. Maybe he thought that was the only way. At age 42 she knew what she was going for. She was awed by his validation and probably loved feeling young. Midage crisis I must say. I'm 38 so I kind of understanding her ignorance to reality. Did she groom him, I don't think so. But she could had ignored him easily, but didn't. Because she rather feel good, great, like a teenager again, then to let the man grow up and see what's he's missing. I get hit on by much much younger guys, even guys in their early 20's. My reaction is hysterical towards them. I tell them I have a son their age and give them the mom look. I don't have a son their age, but my point is it's very very easy to push away much younger guys when you are gushed over by them. Women in their 30s,40s,50s are very wise. Things like this I don't accept. Specially when he's a teenager? Com'n....guys in their 30s with much older woman is okay, u know the guy is matured and wise enough. A 17,18,19 year old boy? No no no...not right!!! Creepy and wrong
I remember when they just started dating I felt that the journalists were so vicious because she wasn't your typical Angelina Jolie beauty and he was known to be such a hearthrob. That sorta sucked for her and was mean.
It's not mean...reality...I wish we wld stop viewing female abusers as the victims....JAAAAIL!
Guess no one realizes that a groomer can indeed have their victim married to them for all their life and "happy". 🤦🏻♀️
There's recently been a very popular case in Mexico about this exact topic, of a man who is 15 years older than his wife, who was 8 when he met her, and later started dating when she was 15 yo.
And guess what? They're still married to this day, "happy". But when you watch interviews between the two of them, you see her doing the exact same body movements and the seeking of approval from her to her older partner as Aaron does with Sam.
And yes, they were criticized heavily because it's grooming 101, just like it is in this case, which they also tried to normalize by sharing their "fairytale story" of how they met and how they have "make it work", sounds familiar?
Hope people can see that a groomer's victim is always a victim, even though if they look "happy", I would dare to say, especially if they look "happy".
I'm about to turn 17 on the 22nd so with that perspective,, WHAT DOES A 40 SMTH YEAR OLD HAVE IN COMMON WITH A 17 YEAR OLD??? like you can only talk about the weather for so long??
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Honestly she's twice his age adults know better he was a teenager obviously going through something and being lonely and vulnerable. She definitely groomed him. And she was aware.
this will be a new one for me - i've never heard of these people lol. usually i am familiar with your subjects!
They were a highly requested couple. I didn’t know much about them either, well…until this. Let me know what you think?! ☺️
@@betheecommentator well, i watched, and i feel like i still don't know who these people are! but also i feel like that might not matter to the conversation at hand. to me, the gender roles don't matter - if it is "wrong" for an older man and a younger woman, the same is true for an older woman and a younger man - or same-sex or nonbinary couples for that matter. i don't think age is necessarily worrisome on its own - it is when the intersectionality of power and consent come into play WITH age that alarm bells start to go off. if someone is a minor, if someone is someone else's boss, etc., then it is a problem. period.
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I don’t think Aaron approaching Sam telling her he was going to marry her meets the definition of grooming, BUT it’s still gross.
Is Aaron complaining? Is he in therapy because of his marriage?
what sam just doesn't wanna understand that it's not about age gap relationships, it's about the fact that they met when he was a TEENAGER and she was an ADULT WOMAN
They seem very in love, but my brother is 21 and imagining him Married to a lady in her 40s makes me want to throw up 🤢
Was everybody naked?
No, just the boys😒
I know, that interview was upsetting 😣
I don't understand why they were. So weird
so she was also his first serious relationship? he literally doesnt know anything else, any kind of connection by that point he would have openly accepted. starved of connections with others and then taken advantage of by a woman 24 years older. crazy
Him being naked live on stage with adults at aged 8 is beyond alarming. How was that okay in any context?
I agree. Out of this whole story THAT was the part that bothered me the most. Ugh 😩
I’m impressed with the video. You used the facts and didn’t lie or twist things. People have tried to make it seem like she met him the day he was born. The facts is they met when he was 18. People might not like it but it’s not illegal. I was obsessed with this couple & their love story as an Aaron fan. I will trust what the couple says not angry women online.
While Aaron is very talented, he isn't incredibly smart. He said so himself. He was a teenager who was away from his parents and was going the wrong way. She swooped in and "saved" him and his career. He was a minor and she was more than twice her age when they met. She was his boss and ultimately had a huge say over his future. Whatever bs she says, she still took advantage of him. If he was an actress and she a male director, best believe we'd never hear the end of it.
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I just don’t know what this GORGEOUS young man sees in this old lady! He can do WAY better.
Thankfully most of us don't marry a face! There are many more important qualities in a relationship.
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Right? Like I LITERALLY never heard of her until him! ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
This has been a great video as usual U killed it! I do have to say however their marriage has lasted so long and they have beautiful happy and healthy children that perhaps this is an exception? They are still head-over-heels with each other... But it's definitely a very intriguing situation
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I’m no expert on this at all. You ask a great question, that I don’t have the answer to.
There's a song called "Vanessa father" touches on this topic well imo
I remember watching him in Angus, Thongs and Perfect Snogging and then subsequently saw news stories about his relationship with Sam. I’m 6 years younger than she is, and whilst I thought he was a very handsome young man he’s far too young for me to look at in that way. Plus the power dynamics with her being his director are so imbalanced.
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She definitely trapped him.
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I feel like age gap relationships are the last taboo. I'm 34 and my bf is 61. We have a home, cars, bills, a child, etc. A normal life like every other couple. I don't know that I would dare someone this much older than me again but like everything it has its pros and cons. One of my favorite things is there is no baggage. No drama. No jealousy. His ex wife and I are on good terms and see each other often. I think if two consenting adults want to be together then good for them 😊
The issue isn’t their age gap, it’s when they met (He was 17-18, she was 40 and left her entire family for him).
@@quietrainydays yep, adults need to stay away from teenagers. Let them grow and figure things out.
Normal couples are married .
I feel sorry for you
Did you grow up without a father? I’m not asking with mean intentions but I grew up without a father and have always been drawn to older men. Not 60😂 but like 10-15 years older
some people in the comments didn't understand that's the negative reaction about the marriage wasn't about the age gap, but because she groomed him
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What grosses me out is she knew him when he was soooo young!
If you love someone, age doesn't matter, she's your director doesn't matter, people's opinions don't matter. Just the two of you. Don't waste life or great things happening to u because a small but loud base wants to give their opinion on ur life.
He has free will and can leave if he is not happy.
I’m 25 and seeing those photos of him at 17 it’s so clear he’s just a child and there’s nothing to be attracted to. I believe he was grinned and feels he owes her for giving him a career.
People are taking it too far.
Actually, I'm very angry at the folks talking about GROOMING, who are you to judge? They've been married for 10 yrs, and the marriage is still going. Wish them the best. Per some standards it's normal for a man to marry someone 30 yrs younger then him. Lord forbid that the woman is older than her husband. Tina Turner married a younger man, their marriage lasted till she died, very happy together, they loved one another dearly, and I'm sure Tina's husband still loves and misses her.
I certainly wouldn't have a romantic relationship with an 18 year old. But if the roles were reversed, we would all be calling her a gold digger. Why do women always attack each other?