Nice to see something positive about a mental/personality disorder. Thanks for sharing this information. Took doctors 25 years and me changing states to finally get a proper diagnosis. Once that finally happened, everything started to make sense. BPD is something most know nothing about, nor do they even try to understand.
Got bpd-cptsd dysfunctional brain. Chaotic, lonely life, foster home, abuses, homelessness, more abuses, constant societal reject, and finally total ostracization. I've finally diagnosed last year, I am 37. But still no access to therapy, or any help. No friends, no family, no one. I know I have a lot of good qualities, but in this world, it is more disadvantages for me. Honesty, empathy, originality, creativity, integrity.. All these traits are threat to this society with severe npd and sociopathic symptoms. I dont fit in. It is a litteral hell to have to spend a life, rejected, demonized, by people that are obviously bad, but will never pay for their wrong doings, they will be rewarded. I am beyond exhausted. P.S: Also Thank You for this words😢 very much.
You are not alone in feeling this way. I am 52 and only now have found a few real friends. It is still exhausting. There is hope. I love this video as it encourages us to see the good in ourselves. I feel better than I did at your age. Hang on in there x
Well for me this is it. After 7 yrs of being in a relationship with a person with whom I have had serious doubts about a personality disorder this video is the final piece in the jigsaw that for me confirms it. Sometimes with personality disorders one has to go beyond the stigma's normally held to the positive sides of the disorder to really have a clear and balanced picture of what the situation is. As another poster has mentioned most know nothing about BPD, including even a number of long standing therapists. My own therapist over these past twelve months has slowly thrown light on what my partner is living through and therefore what I am living through as well, by explaining the 'colours of borderline' thankfully in a non judgemental way. A previous therapist, two years ago, told me I was in an abusive relationship with a perverted narcissist and that I should save my skin. To this day I hate nobody more than this therapist as by saying what he said unleashed a torrent of pain on myself and my partner that to this day still has consequences. ( There are bad therapists out there, not only mismatched therapists/patients/clients. Most information online about BPD focuses on the negative aspects and whilst often being fairly accurate and deeper than the nine traits in the DSM tend to only give one side of the personality. This beautiful video explains in detail the other side of my partner. It's an exhausting ride, with so many challenges and demands, real inner strength and understanding of ones own capacities to fully be in a relationship with a BPD sufferer needed. The compromises one has to make almost erase ones own existence, especially, in my opinion with an unaware, undiagnosed sufferer, as suffering is I feel a big part of the disorder. After these 7 yrs we as a couple are now trying to work out where we go from here as we come to the end of a cycle in our lives. The largest challenge I face myself is that my partner is not aware that she is clearly right across the spectrum or that she is even on it, for me her life story confirms it. Without getting her to look at her traits through the appropriate lens, recognise her disorder and then seek treatment I'm not sure where we can go. She has had therapy for 30 yrs and is herself currently working as an energetic therapist. It breaks my heart and makes me very isolated and lonely as even my therapist who somewhat specialises in the disorder only has a certain understanding as she has never been in relationship with a BPD sufferer. As for my partner Ive never met a more beautiful, albeit childlike person with so many attributes who also has tendency to self destruct like a volcano letting rip. What complex people we can be
Unfortunately this also includes deep hatred as well as love. Working against injustice is very important because of the super empathy for the unfairly treated, the underdogs.
This was beautiful. I was despairing that some of the things I like best about myself were merely symptoms of my disorder. And here they are reframed as strengths. Thank you for that healing moment.
Found your channel today. Working through your videos and they're piercing my walls. I'm nearly 60 and only now am I beginning to understand myself. For quite a few years, I have strongly identified with the INFJ personality type and I'm now beginning to see why INFJs associate so strongly with this label. It's because the issues you raised in this video mirror the INFJ type so closely. I believe I have quiet BPD with elements of ADHD. I also am beginning to believe that 'INFJ' is just another description of 'Quiet BPD'. To actually make some progress and to feel understood for the first time ever is...indescribable. So thanks for this series of videos. You've been a big help.
this is the only vid ive ever seen on this topic that is supposed to exist... even the most 'enlightened' takes on bpd is usually a hateful ignorant shitshow and this one here really reassured me about my life !thank u so much🙏
man! I have bpd and i messed up my last relationship. Got vacation next week and wanted to spend it with my ex to try and make up for past wrongs and we been talking and had sex a few days ago. i go to her fb and shes with a new dude. I grew up poor and extremely suicidal always and just bought some 200 dollar oakley prism glasses lately so life is pretty good so im going on my own next week! i can do me! i can do whatever i need. im fkn psycho But at least im doing ok! My ex hurt me badly but idgaf anymore. Like, i got nothing to lose in this world my guy. Hell yeah!
Thanks for your post. Your thoughts resonate with me totally. I’m 71 yr old father, struggling with my adult 50 year old daughter who’s been diagnosed or (misdiagnosed) with Bipolar. I’m not a therapist and I feel I’m very aware of the distinctions between BP & BPD. Her &I have the most profound talks around relationships. She’s incredibly talented artistically. And still we fall apart in harsh ways instantly only to reconnect after weeks or months of no contact. I feel incredibly closely connected to her in comparison to my other 3 children. I am witnessing her struggles especially with not getting the proper care of a BPD specialist. This video’s positive BPD attributes describes her very well. I’m interested in hearing how you think you’ll manage going forward? Thanks again 😊
OK I just visited your site and watched your videos. It seems like I've been looking for you my whole life, as a therapist obviously, (which sounds incredibly intense...because it is 😀) ...but that's the whole point right? When I say this stuff to anyone else, they accuse me of being 'intense'. Duh. I'm writing this because I get the impression that I am the type of person you specialise in. Which again sounds weird, but this is just me being self analytical and self conscious. I think I'll shut up now, but yeah. Thanks for existing. You just made my life better. 👍
I would like to take an actual course to study BPD. Although it seems like the more knowledge I have the more vulnerable I feel, I have to get ahead of it at some point.
I think that would be a wonderful thing to do. While it's natural to feel vulnerable when delving into a topic that directly relates to personal experiences, it can be a powerful tool for self-awareness and coping. you can look into reputable courses or workshops offered by mental health organizations, universities, or training programs but they can be generic and a little pathologising. so it might be helpful to complement your formal education with other reading, esp not so archaic text.
I read your article on the website about this topic...it's extraordinarily beautiful. I also subscribed for the newsletter. I'm so glad people like you exist...❤❤ Stay blessed...I love you
hello im 18yrld and i been strugling for many years i finally got my oficial bpd diagnosis a couple months ago even tho my therapists had been inting on it for a couple years, i saw your video and saved it for later, i was actually drawing while lisening but i had to stop as i started tearing up, you dont see often this kinds of videos on bpd. it felt like a hugh like someone was telling me it was okey while understanding me, for that thank you
So the problem is not that I can see them. The problem is that they know that I can see them. But I only see them coz they always take they're masks off in front of me. Granted sometimes I can hear what their really saying and I respond to that. So what you're saying is, when I see them, I'm supposed to pretend that I can't see them. When I hear them, I'm supposed to pretend that I can't hear them. What you're saying makes sense. Usually I'm attacked with RAGE. Fiery burning rage. So why can't they just pretend that I didn't see or hear them. What happens to you when I see you😢
Is this a joke? I just lost 4 years to one of these. It's the first time I can honestly say I wish I never met someone. Nothing was gained but lost so much. This describes the fantasy, not the reality. What else could I expect though, just self gratification as always.
Nice to see something positive about a mental/personality disorder. Thanks for sharing this information. Took doctors 25 years and me changing states to finally get a proper diagnosis. Once that finally happened, everything started to make sense. BPD is something most know nothing about, nor do they even try to understand.
Sorry to hear about your experience :( you are not the only one… thx for the comment.
Got bpd-cptsd dysfunctional brain.
Chaotic, lonely life, foster home, abuses, homelessness, more abuses, constant societal reject, and finally total ostracization.
I've finally diagnosed last year, I am 37.
But still no access to therapy, or any help.
No friends, no family, no one.
I know I have a lot of good qualities, but in this world, it is more disadvantages for me.
Honesty, empathy, originality, creativity, integrity..
All these traits are threat to this society with severe npd and sociopathic symptoms.
I dont fit in.
It is a litteral hell to have to spend a life, rejected, demonized, by people that are obviously bad, but will never pay for their wrong doings, they will be rewarded.
I am beyond exhausted.
P.S: Also Thank You for this words😢 very much.
I am really sorry :( to read all that. and thank you for stopping by 🌻
You are not alone in feeling this way. I am 52 and only now have found a few real friends. It is still exhausting. There is hope. I love this video as it encourages us to see the good in ourselves. I feel better than I did at your age. Hang on in there x
I watched this three times and it brought me to tears. The relief. I feel seen. I feel like it's not hopeless and I'm not lost.
Thank you for your comment, it means a lot. 💕
Well for me this is it. After 7 yrs of being in a relationship with a person with whom I have had serious doubts about a personality disorder this video is the final piece in the jigsaw that for me confirms it. Sometimes with personality disorders one has to go beyond the stigma's normally held to the positive sides of the disorder to really have a clear and balanced picture of what the situation is.
As another poster has mentioned most know nothing about BPD, including even a number of long standing therapists. My own therapist over these past twelve months has slowly thrown light on what my partner is living through and therefore what I am living through as well, by explaining the 'colours of borderline' thankfully in a non judgemental way. A previous therapist, two years ago, told me I was in an abusive relationship with a perverted narcissist and that I should save my skin. To this day I hate nobody more than this therapist as by saying what he said unleashed a torrent of pain on myself and my partner that to this day still has consequences. ( There are bad therapists out there, not only mismatched therapists/patients/clients.
Most information online about BPD focuses on the negative aspects and whilst often being fairly accurate and deeper than the nine traits in the DSM tend to only give one side of the personality. This beautiful video explains in detail the other side of my partner.
It's an exhausting ride, with so many challenges and demands, real inner strength and understanding of ones own capacities to fully be in a relationship with a BPD sufferer needed. The compromises one has to make almost erase ones own existence, especially, in my opinion with an unaware, undiagnosed sufferer, as suffering is I feel a big part of the disorder.
After these 7 yrs we as a couple are now trying to work out where we go from here as we come to the end of a cycle in our lives. The largest challenge I face myself is that my partner is not aware that she is clearly right across the spectrum or that she is even on it, for me her life story confirms it. Without getting her to look at her traits through the appropriate lens, recognise her disorder and then seek treatment I'm not sure where we can go.
She has had therapy for 30 yrs and is herself currently working as an energetic therapist.
It breaks my heart and makes me very isolated and lonely as even my therapist who somewhat specialises in the disorder only has a certain understanding as she has never been in relationship with a BPD sufferer. As for my partner Ive never met a more beautiful, albeit childlike person with so many attributes who also has tendency to self destruct like a volcano letting rip.
What complex people we can be
Sometimes I feel my BPD is a superpower. I love how deeply I feel and empathize
Unfortunately this also includes deep hatred as well as love. Working against injustice is very important because of the super empathy for the unfairly treated, the underdogs.
This made me cry
This was beautiful. I was despairing that some of the things I like best about myself were merely symptoms of my disorder. And here they are reframed as strengths. Thank you for that healing moment.
Thank you for letting me know. I am very glad 🙂
Found your channel today. Working through your videos and they're piercing my walls. I'm nearly 60 and only now am I beginning to understand myself. For quite a few years, I have strongly identified with the INFJ personality type and I'm now beginning to see why INFJs associate so strongly with this label. It's because the issues you raised in this video mirror the INFJ type so closely. I believe I have quiet BPD with elements of ADHD. I also am beginning to believe that 'INFJ' is just another description of 'Quiet BPD'. To actually make some progress and to feel understood for the first time ever is...indescribable. So thanks for this series of videos. You've been a big help.
Thank you so much!!! That is really encouraging and I will do my best to make / write good stuff for the future 🥰
I really like the reader's voice, helps me learn and soothing me to sleep. Please told him Aki said "thank you"😅
Awww I will. Thank you so so much
Thanks!
Thank you so much!! It’s a pleasure :)
this is the only vid ive ever seen on this topic that is supposed to exist... even the most 'enlightened' takes on bpd is usually a hateful ignorant shitshow and this one here really reassured me about my life !thank u so much🙏
Beautiful video. It triggered me the whole time. Extreme anxiety and sadness. And deep deep down, a glimmer of hope. ❤
Thank you for sharing your experience in such a genuine and poignant way
Thank you so much for providing this perspective ❤❤❤❤❤❤
I really like this one. It’s so nice to hear nice things for once about BPD
Yes they are not common esp not on the internet 😢
man! I have bpd and i messed up my last relationship. Got vacation next week and wanted to spend it with my ex to try and make up for past wrongs and we been talking and had sex a few days ago. i go to her fb and shes with a new dude. I grew up poor and extremely suicidal always and just bought some 200 dollar oakley prism glasses lately so life is pretty good so im going on my own next week! i can do me! i can do whatever i need. im fkn psycho But at least im doing ok! My ex hurt me badly but idgaf anymore. Like, i got nothing to lose in this world my guy. Hell yeah!
Thanks for your post. Your thoughts resonate with me totally. I’m 71 yr old father, struggling with my adult 50 year old daughter who’s been diagnosed or (misdiagnosed) with Bipolar. I’m not a therapist and I feel I’m very aware of the distinctions between BP & BPD. Her &I have the most profound talks around relationships. She’s incredibly talented artistically. And still we fall apart in harsh ways instantly only to reconnect after weeks or months of no contact. I feel incredibly closely connected to her in comparison to my other 3 children. I am witnessing her struggles especially with not getting the proper care of a BPD specialist. This video’s positive BPD attributes describes her very well. I’m interested in hearing how you think you’ll manage going forward? Thanks again 😊
Wow thank you. Can't wait to watch your channel rise. Thank you.
Aww thank you for your kind words!!!
WHAT AN INCREDIBLE VIDEO! Best video on BPd!
Thank you ☺️
This is so helpful & self-affirming. Thank you! 🙏🏽 ♥️
Thank you ❣️
Thank you so much for this video this was very empowering and I'm so glad that I found this video 😊
You're so welcome!🧡
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OK I just visited your site and watched your videos. It seems like I've been looking for you my whole life, as a therapist obviously, (which sounds incredibly intense...because it is 😀) ...but that's the whole point right? When I say this stuff to anyone else, they accuse me of being 'intense'. Duh. I'm writing this because I get the impression that I am the type of person you specialise in. Which again sounds weird, but this is just me being self analytical and self conscious. I think I'll shut up now, but yeah. Thanks for existing. You just made my life better. 👍
I would like to take an actual course to study BPD. Although it seems like the more knowledge I have the more vulnerable I feel, I have to get ahead of it at some point.
I think that would be a wonderful thing to do.
While it's natural to feel vulnerable when delving into a topic that directly relates to personal experiences, it can be a powerful tool for self-awareness and coping. you can look into reputable courses or workshops offered by mental health organizations, universities, or training programs but they can be generic and a little pathologising. so it might be helpful to complement your formal education with other reading, esp not so archaic text.
Dr Sage and Dr Fox has alot about it,Dr Ramani and Prof.Sam Vaknin,too. JazzyT, Scapegoat of two Narc's.
Thank you for you beautiful way of explaining a illness that is sometimes demonised quite a lot
I appreciate you 💓
I appreciate you too!! Thank you for taking the time to comment.
I read your article on the website about this topic...it's extraordinarily beautiful. I also subscribed for the newsletter. I'm so glad people like you exist...❤❤ Stay blessed...I love you
Wow, thank you! Stay blessed 🥹
Love your profile pic!
@@ImiatEggshellTherapyCoaching thankyou💗
Thank you. I appreciate this so much ❤
You are so 🤗 welcome!!
hello im 18yrld and i been strugling for many years i finally got my oficial bpd diagnosis a couple months ago even tho my therapists had been inting on it for a couple years, i saw your video and saved it for later, i was actually drawing while lisening but i had to stop as i started tearing up, you dont see often this kinds of videos on bpd. it felt like a hugh like someone was telling me it was okey while understanding me, for that thank you
Hug 🤗
Nailed it ❤
❤ Thank you for seeing this human behind the label😊
Absolutely !!!! A beautiful human
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all i can tell you in thank you so much
And thank YOU for the comment!
thank you
Thank you!
This is fantastic. 💣💥🙏🏽Thank you so much
Thank you so much for your comment!’means a lot 🥹
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So the problem is not that I can see them. The problem is that they know that I can see them. But I only see them coz they always take they're masks off in front of me. Granted sometimes I can hear what their really saying and I respond to that. So what you're saying is, when I see them, I'm supposed to pretend that I can't see them. When I hear them, I'm supposed to pretend that I can't hear them. What you're saying makes sense. Usually I'm attacked with RAGE. Fiery burning rage. So why can't they just pretend that I didn't see or hear them. What happens to you when I see you😢
Is this a joke? I just lost 4 years to one of these. It's the first time I can honestly say I wish I never met someone. Nothing was gained but lost so much. This describes the fantasy, not the reality. What else could I expect though, just self gratification as always.
I am sorry to hear your experience. Thank you for sharing it.
This… 🥹💯🏆❤️🔥
Thank you for your comment ❤️
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