When ENFPS Thrive and Survive (and Sometimes Fail)
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- Опубліковано 23 сер 2024
- The absolute worst thing that can happen to an ENFP is getting trapped in routine and repetition. What can ENFPs do to get out of that and kick themselves into taking action on their dreams, to thrive and survive?
In order to reach our full potential, us ENFPs have to be able to face fear first, and take an action that commits us to our chosen path... easier said than done.
However, under pressure, with the back against the wall - where some other types break - ENFPs THRIVE and in this video I discuss how us ENFPs can turn this to our advantage to pursue our dreams and reach our maximum potential.
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My friend is an ICU surgeon who says he thrives in that position because if it’s not life or death he won’t get out of bed.
I'm so happy I found you on UA-cam, Dan. Being an ENFP who's struggled with finding my own path and quitting my job, I found your videos very refreshing. In fact, it helped me work around my mental and emotional struggles slowly. Thank you and keep the videos coming! :)
As a fellow ENFP, this video just changed my life. THANK YOU!
PS. I also find a lot of us have a tendency to think we need “permission” to do the things we want to do. An example would be “oh, I need to do XYZ to have permission to do this thing I want to do.” And it is like you said, a lie and an excuse to keep us from doing what we want. You are amazing brother! Again, thank you!
So true
You're welcome, Justin, glad I've helped! :)
so true about the permission thing...
It was easy to move across the country in the hopes of getting that first radio job in a small town when I was 21. It worked out and led to 20+ years of adventure! When I quit my job 10 years ago I struggled financially, but it led to some other really cool experiences and eventually back on the air. Two months ago the station sold and I am being forced to get serious about UA-cam. Finances are tight again, but I have to make this work! The hardest part is finding ONE niche (way too many interests as an ENFP!) and making myself set an upload schedule and sticking to it. I have to do it, so I will!
All of that is soooo ENFP!!😂
Glad I found your channel, I am listning to a lot of your videos and they make sense. I am an older (late 50's) ENFP. For most of my life I was a freelance in community arts and training and I loved it. I got burnt out, really ill, left the city and now I have been stuck out in the sticks for more years than I care to think about....doing a dull job and wondering how the hell I am going to find my way out. The whole world has shifted and the work I used to do would be too hard physically now, and there's not much funding for it anyway. I feel completely lost.
@artyjane , have you found some new inspiring things to do since this comment from a year ago ?
@@sandramargolis I started paddle boarding, got the chance to go on holiday several times, threw a lot of things away, including old clothes, tried to make new connections and look for new work opportunities, but nothing yet. Decided to appreciate the job for now - people are nice and there are worse jobs; it got me through the pandemic and allowed me to be at home more to do a lot of clearing and finish the house. Thanks for asking.
Holy moly! I can relate so much! I’ve been putting myself into crazy situations all my life and then growing from them
I just cried because you described my feelings and situation in the past months so perfectly because I didn't understand why I'm unhappy. But because of you I know: I feel trapped. This daily routine of sensless work I do everyday is killing me inside. I want to do something with people but I don't know how to change that. I would have to study and that costs so much in switzerland. I just don't know what to do so i made excuses and talked to myself like: It's not that bad, other people can do that too, other people would be happy if they had a job like you. But my inner voice said that so I don't feel that trapped anymore, but I still do. Thank you for this video it was very emotional for me and probably will change my life from now on. (I'm an ENFP-T)
This video attacked me so much!
I am a 25-year-old ENFP. When I was 16, a freshman in college, I had to choose a program/degree with a national licensure exam for a scholarship grant. I selected Accounting to become a CPA. Saying that the road taken was smooth would be a lie; nonetheless, I was good. I survived and passed the board exam on my first take. When I was preparing for the boards, I was full of pressure. I never felt what anxiety meant until it was 1 week before the exams. My parents' struggles to send me to school, the expectations of the people in my school, and the expectation of my relatives - gave me a mixture of pressure and determination. I also conditioned my mind that my degree wouldn't really have a purpose if I could not get a license (although you can still work as an accountant, of course, even if you're not a CPA) just to add an extra push to myself. I really studied hard and became so focused.
Obviously, Accounting was not my first choice. I only selected it for practical reasons thinking that someday I can pursue what I really want.
Now that I am 25 with a good stable job (related to accounting/finance) which is not so taxing compared to my first job (audit), I am thinking that I should be starting to really work on my dreams since I have plenty of time in my hand. I know I can strategically make something happen. I know I have dreams deep in my heart - it's just that I don't know what to pursue. I have so much passion inside me. I want to pour it into something I desire. I just can't remember or know what is/are that/those thing/s (I can't choose). I want to be in that focused mode again. Of course, I have some ideas, it's just that I am afraid to admit and commit. Thanks to this channel, which I just recently discovered. With this, I will slowly build myself, look introspectively, work hard, and take responsibility. It's on me now. I know I can do this! We, ENFPs, can all do this! Thank you so much! Your videos really help people like me.
Good for you! I've wasted a lot of time doing what I didn't want. I found Barbara Sher's book very helpful when I was 40. Now I'm 64. And I'm going thru it all again.
You’re scaring me...
about myself!! 😱
Actually, you’re really helping me learn more about myself. But, you know... 😬
Take a leap of faith! INFJ here:) best decisions
Ok, I'm gonna quit my job..
Yes!
Thank you Dan.. Your video is awesome.. You described my struggle "I would tell my friends 'Ohh I'm so excited to start my youtube channel and I've got that idea and that and that...and I'll do that and that.. And i like always get lost in my dreams that I think m not committed enough to make them true..because after months they come up to me and they r like "hey what about your channel ".. And I'll be like "oh I realised I had to do some other things first, wait until I work more on my video making skills and buy a better phone and..... "and the list never stops.. M so tired of myself..
Woah. Same here, from an ENFP.
Exactly what I needed to hear and what was lurking in my thoughts lately. Also cracked me up which is always a plus...I too did the if I won a million dollars thing...a few times, lol. Thanks.
Awesome, glad I've helped! :)
This channel is a gold mine.
Now I still gotta find out what I really want (well actually there are A LOT of things I really want, but I can't choose)
Stability with my current job while being a single parent is what keeps me from following through.
That is so true
I keep on making excuses
But I'm just really scared that what I want isn't what I really want because I'm interested in so many things and I'll realise that only after I commit..
Anyway thanks for the video
Your tips are great!
I'm really glad I found your channel😁
I do that, too.😊
Ok I am sold! *Hits subscribe button* These videos help me to understand myself in so many ways. Many times than I care to mention I felt something was wrong with me, I couldn't understand why I am constantly all over the place, why do I always say "I operate better under pressure" (sounds crazy), or why I could never make my mind up, or even why am I here right now typing from my desk at a job I could careless about other than "it pays me?!" Thank you sir are a scholar and gentleman!!
Now I just realized that the best things in my life happened after I took some big risks. It makes sense now after I saw your video.
Oh, forgot to mention that after taking those risks, I fell into depression and almost killed myself. Glad I didn't, cz now I am so happy with my life.
The failures aren't always easy... I feel you
Probably the most useful UA-cam video for me that I can even think of
I quit my job last week to start my composing business and I’m really glad this channel exists
Good luck!
As much as I love this and agree with what you're saying, I think money would be huge a factor for a lot of people including myself as to why we can't just do what we want and pursue our dream 100% starting tomorrow ahah
Maybe
When I started this video, I was like, "Hmm, I wonder what Dan's gonna say here". Three minutes past, and I'm like, "Whoa, this is SO RELATABLE!"
You know it's going to be good with an Eminem thumbnail :)
Thanks for posting Dan! Another incredibly relatable video for me!I find myself making roundabout plans because I am weary about following through with what what I actually want. I have also noticed when there is a deadline that is urgent at work, I just go and do what needs to be done objectively and efficiently instead of pondering the most ideal course of action to take. The down time and feeling stagnation honestly kills my momentum!
Thanks for the videos
Incredibly inspiring!
Also, do you have any seminars in the KC area anytime soon?
You're very welcome Myles! Right now I only have two events planned one for Prague and one in Vancouver. I do plan on doing more and some smaller events as well starting later this year. Are you subscribed to my emails? I'm going to survey there regarding locations etc.
@@enfp Hey Dan, I just saw your response. I am subscribed to your e-mails and your channel. I will be on the lookout for your future events.
Excellent video, that resonated with me deeply! Especially as I am definitely in that transition phase, and I'm afraid to pull the trigger. (I'm an ENFP)
I think you are my new hero Dan. Law of attraction à la max. I needed this right now.
I love the colors in this video, and thank you for the advice!! Now, to implement.. brb rewatching
I'm trapped by this Covid. I started a new business but I'm so missing groups of people. I want to quit but I have a client who is extremely successful.
All the likes! I don't get anything done without pressure or a hard and fast deadline! And coming from Canada too, I never found the pressure I needed to actually push me towards success.
I’m so thankful for you’re videos! Keep me coming. I watch a couple every day.
Awesome, Anthony! :)
I am from India.. so here it's not just me who decides my path.., it's our family members who want us to complete the thing I chose like 5 years back.. I am struggling to now complete the course bcoz there s no interest left anymore.. and it takes 6 months and hell lot of focus to pass the toughest exam in commerce in India.. I know I can pass if I commit to it.. but there s a loss of interest towards it.. Bcoz I know this isn't for me.. yet I need to do for keeping up the word I have given to my parents.. bcoz I chose it long back going against everyone around me.. now how could I align my thoughts to complete it and get lifetime freedom.. bcoz everyone s ready to allow me to do anything I wanna do only if I complete this course..
I am from india too what you doing
@@zink5664yaa that CA thing .
3:21 this part is hilarious... -ly true
AND 7:01 "six months to an ENFP is like a lifetime" T_T spot on... and also hilarious
And this was inspiring. Another brilliant video.
Your channel is like a diamond in my life.
Rare, valuable, and meaningful.
Except not created by child slaves... Well, there was the one video editor we had back in 2017 but how was I to know he was 7?!
@@enfp That went from 0 to 100 real fast 😂
I legit started laughing out loud when you started talking about excuses. Sooo me
Every body has to live their own deal, just because your moves worked for you, doesn’t mean it’s the right path for everyone else.. I sure wouldn’t tell people to quit their jobs & relationships in a snap decision.. that’s crazy shi8 !
First sensible comment I have read so far. So many ppl are just sucking this personality type shit in. The spectrum for difference in every type is massive. We are not all the same. What happened to ppl just wanting to be individuals? Alarm bells went of in my head when he said plan to quit your job. Firstly if I am not mistaken we do things on impulse. I dont plan anything. It never works. It was an example, but very careless if this is supposed to be advice. I'm afraid it's generic. Most people will get it but then there is the minority of people like me who go. Hang on a minute I don't believe that. So many so desperately want to belong that are afraid to voice a differing opinion. As they think ppl won't like them. I am not that person. My look on things is deeply important to me. I would rather have my voice heard then be popular. I wish ppl would voice what they think more. I like to talk about things and hearing a differing point of view is music to my ears. You got it bang on. What's right for some isn't for others. Might as well give me advice as according to my Sun sign. On the other hand if it works for you, great.
I m so happy I ve got familiar with it channel ...I was in dire need of that xd
Thank you so much for this video Dan! I just recently found out about this channel after i took the personality test on yt just for fun and now i have been continuosly watching some of your vids to slowly get to know my self. And i can tell you that it really gave sooo much sense now. I understand why things are in my life and why i do them. And rn, this video is just sooo relevant to me you have no idea. THANKS A WHOLE LOT AGAIN! Please keep doing what you are doing! You are sooo awesome for doing this ❤
Thanks, Ivan, I'm glad you like it! :)
This is such a blessing thank you for this amazing video!
You're welcome! :)
Love the channel. Some extra motivation to get me excited about my day! Thank you
You're very welcome!
I ask myself every day in life what I want, I also get an answer every time, the problem is, the answers are different each time ..
I don't believe you
Aw shucks, you know our stuff, thank you!
Hahahaha all test put me in enfp and normally I can really relate, but this video is soooo opposite of what I am like. By default I make all work and persobal relations - and my commitments - super important. Putting more pressure on will just make me ignore my boundaries and overexpend where it wasnt necessary. Challenging myself is my default; the moment I notice i could take a step forward i am literally unable to postpone. I have never been able to put myself in only one job, and I always pick up on hard conversations, because No Way am I gonna let myself be limited by discomfort or fear or the judgement of others. So where's that video about how enfp's can thrive without overdrive, and complement their devotion to a better world and their creativity with at least a little simplicity and time to process? Because I'm so done with getting stuck on lack of energy all the time :(
Yeah I always plan to do so something and keep delaying until it drives me crazy and then suddenly it’s kinda too late and I do it anyway and I’m like wow, allright I just did that. And so I keep putting myself in impossible situations but over time I figured: I don’t feel like doing this, but I’m going to hate myself if I don’t do it, so I end up doing it, which feels good... afterwards 😁
Absolutely true, in big same as in small decisions! I always have to take the jump in the cold water, as we say in Germany.
I even fall into depression if I linger too long! When I was really down last month, I decided to switch rooms with my little daughter so she had more space, put all the furniture up and down the stairs in 2 1/2 days and was ready in time for her sleepover party.
Since then I cannot stop anymore, I hardly need sleep.
Is there a break-mechanism I can use, because I fear I will exhaust myself if I keep going like this for too long? I am not 20anymore, when I could work 5 or 6 days without sleeping if I had to.
I appreciate you for taking the time to put this together 🙏🏽😌
Thanks Carla
Lol. So me. I have to talk about what I am working on like it was do yesterday to get the best I can do out of me.
Perhaps that worked for you, but my ENFP self would lose its sanity when I jumped full blast into something I haven’t steadily set my one foot into.
Good call
You are amasing!
Thank you... This is what I needed.
You're welcome!
This is so true
You hit the nail on the head
Thanks Ashley!
I wish I can travel like you
Before I did it, I wished I could travel like me. So, you've already completed stage one :) Check out this playlist: ua-cam.com/play/PLpmjiF9LDICEgCWw2fWkuuDKeoZOpGQzS.html
hahaha homeless in Costa Rica, please, I want to meet with that kind of. Also, travelling is a way in where you push yourself to achieve that goals that you need, right?. Need is the mother of creativity. We ENFP don´t get involve as easy with just create abundance without a reason, should be a strong propose or a good motivator. I mean , to survive is a good reason, but to find a external one that push you above and beyond must be a must haha. Greetings from Costa Rica.
I'm an ENFP T and I was also playing the lottery when I was a kid, as a matter of fact I spent much money of what I earned selling stuff buying tickets lol!
I am trapped in my life. I am with my job for the last 8 years in factory based. I am so unhappy with this. Fear stop my I want to start making shoes 👞 👟
I wanted to make shoes since I was 16 but never do it I am 32 need to do it now
How do you practically make pressure against the daily tasks of life? My example is: How do I make uploading documents on a daily basis for work seem like its a NOW or NEVER mentality? I hope this makes sense.
How does an Enfp create that pressure to get stuff done?
Its what im doing now thanks for remind me
You’re really calling me out 💀
Awesome!!!!
Thanks Lisa
Why are you outing me like this? Rude. 😋✨💖✨
Inspiring. Love canadians
Thank you!
The video as really good and I caught something but I couldnt make it through the entire vid😂😂 #attentionspanofanenfp ... Any other enfps in the same situation?
Hitting home with the too smart for our own good...
Its weird flattering right?
@@enfp Hihhhihi! Exactly!!
Okay i need advice. I am an ENFP pharmacy student in my 8th semester (we have 10 sems in total). I have been feeling like this is not the career for me as it is too structured, for 2 years now. Should i still continue my studies as this maybe just a commitment issue, or should i stop procrastinating and just quit. It would be a stupid decision as i already spent so much time, money and energy but it's also stupid i think to just stay when I don't want to persue this career. Or maybe i am just bullshiting to get out of this commitment.
What's your tuition /debt situation?
@@enfp No debts as such, but i am pretty much broke. I am a female in my early 20s and my parents pay for the tution as i live with them. (That's the culture here) Need a "real" job if i want to be independent.
DO NOT DROP OUT. FINISH YOUR SCHOOL
😸3:55 - Ya, you got me!! Too true.
:)
3:38 stop calling me out😅
This is so true lol
Hi friend,
I love your enfp info, but can you talk faster please. 😊 esp since these are targeted for enfp’s. It’s true info, but the delivery is like soooo drawn out.
You can turn up the speed on UA-cam to 1.5 or 2x speed if you can't handle it ;)
you can speed up the video on 1.5 or 2 using the settings!
It took him ages to get to the point. Even when he did, his delivery was all over the place. He said the same thing with different words over and over. I dislike being critical but personally that was so generic. Good on him for trying to help people deal with the positives and negatives of your personality type. I have tested over and over and still get ENFP. However I didn't empathise with what he was saying at all. An ENFP in my mind wouldn't plan to quit thier job in 6 months! I thought we were an impulsive bunch. I have walked out of many jobs not really taking it into consideration the reality. I get the need for more motivation but for a 5 min video should have been done dusted in the first minute. Again. I don't feel advised at all. More confused than what I was to begin with. However I won't judge his authenticity just by this video. I am not a judger. Just get to the point Dan man.
Yup me to a T.
I am past the traditional job age,l I and I have never been a 9-5 person. But I do know that things do need to change, but I keep running into roadblocks . This is not good and I wish I could find one or more answers I have ideas but no answers. Guess I need to see more of your videos..
Keep watching I guess :P
Ummm........it's the whole "COMMITMENT" -thing.....that i have The problem with........ -sad ENFP😑
When you don't commit to anything, you ultimately commit to a life of nothing...
I guess the message is "Jump off the cliff and build the wings on your way down".
@@dorijancirkveni Tbh its like being Peter pan. You just need faith, trust, and pixie dust
Dreams Around The World words of wisdom
😂😂😂😂