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"if you are feeling lost, it's okay it means you are moving it means you have been moving it means you are looking for more it means you are a seeker! You have goals, ambitions, and aspirations!" This comforted me to another level. Thank you!
this is exactly how i’m thinking right now. i hope you are where you want to be at this moment and if not, i just KNOW you will get there. what you said is something someone so strong and used to doing it alone would say. YOU got this. WE got this❤❤❤❤❤
@@asdfdg11 yes, that is so true :/ I honestly have been feeling really lonely for the past years due to a lot of circumstances + Covid, and just adulthood I thought as humans we had the capacity to adapt to anything and still be happy, but this thought made me force myself into situations that I didn't connect with at all, which made me feel super lonely. I thought FOR A LOOONG time that the problem was ME. But after some time and some changes around me (started studying again, started doing things I naturally was always attracted to, like drawing or singing even though initially I didn't want to do anything cause I was really sad), eventually I started feeling better. I now still have bad and lonely days and thoughts. But I know nothing lasts, not even the pain or the anxiety. Even the lonelinessI moved back home and I started letting go of what didn't make me feel anything. I started pursuing the spark of joy, as little as it was then. And now what makes me feel happy is that I fully BELIEVE, with all my heart, that I am not the problem, and that there is so many people in the world that would like me and feel things just as intensely as I do. Also, I believe us who feel the loneliest are also the ones who have seen the truth: the superficiality of the world we live in. It means we think, we reflect, and if we can do that, we can also change things around us. At least, for ourselves and the small circle of people who surround us. And that is a fucking miracle
Not far from the truth. The world was never designed to be able to match all our preferences, values, sense of integrity. We can only find what truly matters to us.........within ourselves. Other people are just doing themselves........running around, using their free will.............while what we value and our sense of being lost are symptoms of not finding in the world........what matters to US.......whilst being TOLD by the world what WE should be doing.
Me too I was crying and sad, but hearing him speak, it made me feel like he really understood. And I calmed down. He gives me Pisces or water sign energy lol
I’m 36, still living with my parents. Lost my job due to vaccine mandates last year. I’m now going to Uni to finish my Bachelor of Accounting at Swinburne University in Melbourne, Australia which I’ve meaning to do for years. 14 units to go! Correction 12 units to complete, wish me luck!
Quit my job, broke up a relationship. Nothing left but me on my own, no idea what's next BUT I really really really enjoy this emptiness. I have a strong sense that something greater is coming to me and this breaktime is a chance for me to rest well and recharge before exploding with the upcoming changes. Feel so faithful and excited. Life is interesting guys. No matter it is up and down, go with the ride. U got ur destint set !
When i read the comments, I noticed that i am not alone 😢. Everyone has different story but same struggle. I am 24 years, can speak English,Japanese and Turkish yet I don’t know what to do with my life. I graduated one year ago and got into job right after graduation. Afterward i noticed that I don’t want to do that job and quit, now i am trying to change my direction and learning new thing such as trading, nft etc . But unfortunately sometimes i compare myself with my friends. They still work and look happy. On the other hand i started to learn new things, i feel like i waste my most productive time by doing things. But everyone we are not alone, we all feel same.
Three month ago i lost my job, and being very experienced and with three languages: russian, english, and turkish, applied to so many positions but got only rejection. As i dont know what else i can do i just left situation to Allah, and try to ask myself all the time what i really want, read books watch this kind of videos.
Your set of languages is impressive 😊 I learned to some extent or more English Czech Slovak Mandarin Turkish (unfortunately) German, the only decent level (not even C1) is English and Russian is my native. Basically, I can use only several of them, and I do suck in my life at my 35... What I want to say 😅 I wish I knew programming languages instead, a stack of them. F*ck my life, and I wish you all best my random friend ❤
You have described it perfectly....that feeling like there's nothing to hold onto or ground you, you literally feel like you're floating and trying to reach out for something to stabilize you, but there's nothing substantial.
Wow… I resonate with this comment so much. Literally was describing this to my sister last night and I said something very similar. I said I feel as if I am just floating and there is nothing tethering me to life. No sense of purpose.
@@BrianBloopsame here man! About to turn 30 and I spent my whole 20’s doing that. I’m choosing to think that I had lessons to learn, although they may be difficult to see right now.
When I feel like that I question why? I look at the reason and when I understand that, I try to pray to God and focus on whatever gut feeling I have regarding my future that doesn’t leave me. Also know sometimes outer factors contribute to feeling like this, it’s not your fault. You will get through the storm.
One of the hardest life lessons I’m still working on is progress isn’t linear and that’s ok. Life isn’t a race; the only finish line is death. Enjoy the ride ❤
I am 38 this year. I lost everything this Aidilfitri.. I walk out of my parent’s house with my 3 kids trying to build our life together. Please send me some of your prayers if you see my comment.
I feel so lost, I’ve been thinking for the past months “am i a failure?” because i don’t feel like doing anything or even socialising, i even prayed to God for answers and today I’ve experienced good things and Yt recommend me this video, thanks for the good words
Found this by accident?? Such a comforting and wise message! I am between jobs and don't really know what to do, where to turn. What do I want? Who can I be? What now? Listening to you makes a big difference, being reminded that it is not a bad thing to be lost. It is also a time of opportunity! Thanks.
Yeah.. all is ephemeral and tech mediated and don't depend or belong to yerself... unstability and nothing to hold value or time or see a future... all skil and life before just devalued and taken... as of nothing... struggle became to live on an artificial grid where they can turn on off and interfere...
Sometimes you have to shut the world out and imagine what would you do if money was no object and worse thing you can do is compare yourself to others or listen to their journey. That's because everyone's journey is unique to them.
Asking myself what I want creates a lot of anxiety for me and especially when people tell me "just follow your passion" really upsets me because most of the things I am passionate about do not translate monetarily. I am struggling with what to do as far as career and am getting so much unhelpful advice from every which way, it's so good to just realize I can sit where I am at and don't have to make any big decisions right now. All the best to you
I once read 'if you're lost it means you're changing'. Changing to grow and be able to overcome the uncertainty of the situation we find ourselves in. But everything is temporary, even emotions. And in this case, time is our best friend, it's the eagle that will take us up to see everything we've done and what our next step is. ❤
Really needed to hear this. I’m 37, married, still living with my parents, work part time on weekends, and have severe depression. I don’t know what to do to move forward in life. Glad to know I’m not alone. Thank you.
Ground yourself. Take your time. Make a decision. Life is about moving and tweaking. We all get lost and it’s okay. Life is unpredictable. Curveballs are good. Take rest when you need. Set up camp ⛺️ Be your own friend. Put your feet where the ground is. Be present. Check out the map” Let it really sink in. Let go of what if” Sit, there’s no rush. Take rest again. Embrace your adventurer side. Chill on your launchpad, you’ll know when to make the next move” Thank you so much for this video 🙏🏼 really needed to hear this tonight.
Really my goodness I wish I can give you a call I really am in need of talking to someone I just enrolled in college for dental hygienist and I’m so afraid I don’t know if this is the best decision for me I’m so afraid of failing
It's as if a door has opened for me. My husband passed away 4 years ago. Been married for 35 years.....I lost so so much. So I will take these precious words from this and find some comfort.
Hey, I am 20 years old. I have failed three times consecutively to get into med school and honestly this podcast was all that I needed. The constant feeling of sadness and failure and depression was making me hard to breathe. I was sick of living a life without passion and purpose. I was feeling lost. I felt like a failure bc I spend 2 years fully dedicated to my studies but still failed. I was feeling very guilty, after my results were declared I completely broke. I had no energy to do anything. Small things used to give me so much anxiety and I wanted my life to end. I feel so much lighter and better after listening this podcast. You have no idea how many people you must have helped through this podcast bc I know there must be more people like me who are feeling lost and they need someone who can comfort them. Thankyou for creating this podcast. I hope you reach new levels of success. May god bless you and stay happy ❤️
Hi, I can totally feel you! I was looking for a comment similar to problems I am dealing with and not that your suffer would make me happy or anything. I just wanted to reach out to you that I have the same problem. Trying to get in Uni which seems impossible for me and I am just trying to figure it all out...thank you for sharing your story cause it made me realize i am not alone...
Hi, I am so proud of you for trying those 3 times, even if they didn’t turn out as you’d hoped. Medicine is so competitive it’s crazy! Take your time, the career is a long term gain, and when you become the amazing doctor you’re going to be, you’ll be glad you went through the process the way you did. I once read that the best doctors are the ones that didn’t have a linear pathway into medicine, and had to really push to get in. You may not see it clearly now, but your experience with ‘failure’ and rejection will help you massively in the future. And remember to look at the bigger picture; everyone goes at their own pace, and in the end everyone will end up in the same place no matter how long it took them to get there. Keep pushing you’ve got this ❤️
You have made it a lot further than many people have even tried! I'm sure that has got to feel extremely frustrating to have dedicated yourself to something and still not gotten the outcome you wanted. My situation is different but similar in that small things have been overwhelming me too, like I am feeling almost unable to function, I know I'm going through a hard time this year with a surgery and then a divorce in progress, but the fact that I couldn't even keep up with the basic household tasks and barely keeping up with my job, I am self employed and my business has completely stalled and now I don't even know if I want to continue with it. I was feeling really down on myself until I found this video, I don't have to make any decisions now and it's OK that I am not functioning at the level I once did.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
Sometimes I think to my self “I feel different, I feel like I’m changing and then I question wether that’s right or not” well of course it is, you want to change right? If you feel different for the better and lost then it 100% means your going somewhere. I’m glad you clarified this!
This resonated with me Scott! As someone who went to school to become a psychologist, as someone who loves asking questions and diving deep, I feel very lost at this moment in my life. A new country (US), new culture, changing careers, marriage, missing home, never ending job search while in not so good financial situation all in the last year and a half... I feel burnt out but I can't catch a break because of the reality of life. We all have bills to pay. All that definitely make me question my decisions but I also do know that when we get through this, it's all going to be worth it. I wake up everyday, go to my day job that I hate, come back home tired feeling guilty for another unproductive day because I didn't do any thing to make my life get any better resulting in feeling down and not wanting to engage. I'm not here just to survive, I'm here to grow and succeed. I've always set high expectations for myself and I guess seeing myself in this situation has been one of the hardest things that I have had to go through. What doesn't kill me, will make me stronger.
I can totally relate to what you going through.. I have days where I feel so lost and un motivated but lately I just take it one day a time and maybe with time everything will make sense..
I'm in the helping field. We have days like that, where it feels like we are making progress. If you made it through psychology school, you will make it to the next step. Looking at everything you have changed onyour life, it makes sense that you are feeling on shaky ground. Lots of changes in a period of time leaves ys feeling off balance. Go kiss your wife and tell her she is beautiful. Go meet with a career counselor. You have a lot going for you.
I lost my job and feel lost now and anxious… watching your video change my attitude. It mean that i’m moving something new and seeker! Thank you for this :)
The Creator takes care of that seed and makes it grow and give it life for us only to improve the belief that the Creator is impossible to leave his servant on this land without taking care of him or causing him, but there must be full faith in him first and then trust in him in matters of life. We believe that we are the one who constitutes his life how he wants
I have a good job, a good apartment, in a “good” city…. And I am miserable. All I want is to quit, sell everything and move to Hawaii for a year. I want adventures, I want excitement, I want joy. I am drowning in my monotony. I never thought this is how my life would turn out. I thought I would be so happy.
Hey, I was like that when I was in my 9 to 5 job Now my caring role for my son and Mum is starting to come to an end I'm feeling anxious and not knowing what to do next. I knew jerk back to wanting my 9 to 5 job back......Ah, ahh, ahhh......no! Telling myself to recover from carer burnout. Telling myself not to act when unsure. This is taking waaaasy too long. Cannot chose my next course, cannot make a decision. Decision paralysis is where I'm at.......
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Thank you. I needed to hear this and cried while listening to you. I graduated college last year after studying abroad for 7 years (7 years cuz English is not my first language). I got a job but I don't feel fulfilled with it. It doesn't relate to my major at all. I have abandoned my hobbies, seeing friends, going out. When I plan to go and look for jobs I just feel frozen. I just listen to everyone saying how bad the job market is and that I should be grateful for what I currently have. I think I'll give myself some time to find a new job :). Thank you again, and I hope for everyone dealing with this same issue to feel better.
I’m 62,and very grateful for your video. I really liked what you said about being lost and that it means I’m a seeker!I’ve been on a path for my whole life. I’ve never been a conventional person. It hasn’t always been fun, but I’ve kept striving to go where most people are so afraid to go, inside themselves!! Your very good at this! Thanks again
Thank you so much for this. I just graduated college (undergrad) and feel like I have no plan and don’t know what I want to do. But you made me feel like it’s okay, I can rest here in this space for a while and take my time. I know and trust that the right things are coming for me :). Thank you 🙏
It is 100 percent ok. It took me some time to find the job I was searching for. I went back and got an additional degree. Best decision ever. My son took some time to find his way. He took a job way beneath his education. Two promotions later, he is doing very well. It's ok to take this time. I recommend that you reach out to your career counseling department to polish your job hunting skills. If you do go get a masters, try to get a graduate assistantship. Your tuition will be paid for and you'll get some mo ey. Live in the dorms, meet new people and have some fun!!!
I am only 21, I'm expected to go to college or getting a job, and everything is just overwhelming. Not to mention not having funds to do anything with my life😭
Dont mistake movement for progress and the key to life is moderation.. Also dont ever be scared of change... Its good for you and whenever change happens its when the most growth comes from within.
I’m 22, i feel lost since i was 20, It affected my art because it lost direction, my peers are doing great things, this podcast made me feel like myself again a bit❤️
I listened to this Nov 2024. It made me cry. For once I feel like im ok and I'm NOT lazy or useless. I get so sick of wondering why I'm even on this planet and I'm 52. Thank you so much.
We spend the majority of our time trying to fix ourselves or someone else….if not, then we find ourselves trying to find healthy ways to cope with reality without succumbing to self- destructive behaviors.
"Be your own friend", man that phrase was very warm. Right now im finding job for help my family, its difficult, hard, but your words became honey for me. Thanks.
I'm listening to this at a park working out a bit while I have a small break from a job I hate which gives me no free time. The imagery about camping and setting up in an Airbnb or hotel and staying a bit is beautiful and I brought tears to my eyes. I'm planning to move forward with my life but I don't want to be impulsive about it.
I have lost interest in almost everything. I am a microbiology student who began my course in the university with so much passion,but right now I feel like everything is falling apart and i feel like giving up on everything. I feel mentally weak and I can't seem to catch up with my dreams anymore. I am so lost right now! I am glad that this video came up in the suggestions when i searched "how to find my lost self" on UA-cam. I hope I get to find myself again 😢
Here are 3 little life lessons i have learned from watching This podcast.. 1- Being lost is a part of discovery 2- Just focus on the present moments, Remember to enjoy! 3- Be nice to yourself and don’t rush over things By watching your video, now i know that other people goes through the same is totally normal and it’s just a part of our human beings, thank you! 🙏🏼
This is great..i dont have anyone else telling me things like this so its easy for me to get caught up in my own thoughts and cycles..sometimes we all need to remember to take a breath and to recalibrate
It's an odd situation. I am happily married, I have a home even if it requires a lot of maintenance, I have 2 cats and my parents are still alive. I have steady work even if the pay is mediocre at best. But for some reason I always feel isolated, and I never feel safe. Like a disaster awaits any moment. Social circle has shrunk to like 5 ppl since covid and work from home. I love working from home but I do not love the new antisocial ways out here. I don't know, man, I don't know what I'm doing.
Coming off the Prescription Adderrall, I was Sad Lost and didn’t know where to go- Broke up with my Ex again after going back. Dumped a few Fake friends, and yeah. Im pretty Much Starting over again. Depression. Anxiety. Feeling Stuck.. is where I am.
Thank you very much. I am currently in the army, the only constant in my life is the constant change every day. Nothing is safe, a lot of hostility around me, so many things that are out of my control, I don't know what to choose from the things that are in my control, the feeling of loneliness and misunderstanding is huge and there is no time to rest or just be with myself. I just want to sit on the beach and watch the sun go down, but your warm and comforting words also bring out that feeling in me. Thank you very much❤
Everywhere i go, i got lost. No friend to talk, now im sick and making me lost my job. My parents push me to find job soon, but i dont even know that i can work like before. My life’s suck and i dont know where to go. Everyone have a perfect life but me.
@@aliwee9971 Going through the same situation as yours but always remember, life is simple, everyone, including you is going to leave this place one day so live in the moment. Don't think about what will happen in the future. Sorry for my bad English. Peace.
I cried so much while listening because right now I’m 26 and I feel so lost so sad all the time, I don’t know if I’m ever going to do something great and be proud of myself and I always end up comparing with all my friends that have a good stable job. I have one right now where I’m learning but don’t get so much money and I can’t find another job.. I have so much pressure for my age, pff I don’t know what’s going to happen but thank you for the video! 💫🍀🥺
Hi @danielaqm9407. I'd say our nature as humans is sedimentary. Meaning it is a result of layers upon layers. Those layers are the result of experiences. Can we control everything we experience? Nah... a lot of things just happens to us and we absorb, forming, as time passes by, a new layer, which if we live long enough will certainly have another on top of it, and so it goes. That, i believe, happens to me, to you, to our families, to our friends... (the ones you mentioned included). The link of it to what you've said on your comment is that the overall sedimentary group of layers is what we perceive of others and of ourselves. Some people have layers that benefit them to get that high paying job, others dont. And do you know why this is just fine? Because, as i said, it is a matter of the composition of layers one has. Some mainly get it by luck. Some mainly get it by effort. Everyone gets it by a certain mix of both. You dont get what you believe you want? That is okay. Yes, that might suck while being in that position, in that specific set of layers, but that is not definitive. That is not final... unless you stop living, then your last set of layers would be all you'd ever get and that'd be it; but while living, every single day you put an extra micro layer above the previous one that you too have collected. Day by day. What does it tell you? That while some layers were put there by chance, now that you know that conceptualization, you gained the power to consciously try to manage what layers you're gonna add. What layers? Well that depends on what you want. Have you decided that? Dont be afraid to choose wrongly. Thats just fine, you gotta do the fine tuning as you go, the important thing is to get the sails set and get started. Lets say it is software engineering what you want. Fine! Where are you right now regarding to that desired state of being? First of all, would you know what the desired state of being is, with a certain degree of precision? Try figuring out because thats the basis for more accurate delta calculation between the current and desired state. Is the delta visualized? Great! Now you know you want 6 and you only have 2. What do you do when that's the case? You F add 4 to the equation! And up you go. Once thats in progress, you can start comparing your OWN self throughout the days. Day 0 i was X away from the desired state. Day 1 i was X - N away from the desired state. And so it goes until either you mature enough to discover the actual desired state is other suff or you finally get to what you want. You'll get it, unless you stop living, be it by dying or by being stopped by tyranny, the latter just being another great opportunity for setting a new desired state and striving for it. And so it goes. I hope that brings you comfort in the idea that it has a way out. Just F go for it!! The algorithm is, i believe, shared!
Thanks so much for the wonderful words. I’m 24 and I feel like I’m getting older too soon and haven’t started exploring the world I guess that’s why I feel lost. Hopefully I find myself and anyone out there who also feels lost I take the time you need.
I think I know my next step is working but I don't find any place I want to work at, my parents say to just pick anything but that's not for me. I need to work somewhere that I chose and deem special to me. Whatever that means, I want to choose my experience but I feel like I'm waiting to find it. That perfect place
If we're here, you may as well put your feet where the ground is. That is so simple and freeing, but also so easily missed in the moments when you are constricted by resistance. Thank you for continuing to bring inspiration and music into our lives!
This video had me realize that I have been resisting the fact that I am lost. My consciousness unknowingly labelled it as bad, something that I should get out of as soon as possible and in the best way I could, and I was floundering in the fact that I am lost at the age of 35, 10 years in my career, not knowing where to go and not having anything to follow after. But now I know that I have come far enough to realize that I am lost, become clear enough to see where I truly am at, and that I have a picture that I can start from. The power of perspective, the power of reframing. Thank you for borrowing your lense, it both comforted me and let me see things more clearly and with power.
I retired a year ago and have been in paralysis ever since. I daily have a feeling of uselessness but no energy to do anything about it. Thank you for this... I just needed it! ❤
I took some VERY wrong turns in life and now I’m lost without a compass, a phone, or even a map 😭 I can’t seem to get back to where I knew I was supposed to be or wanted to be.
You started this off perfectly, I’m only 4 minutes into the video and you’ve given me so much peace in this lost time in my life. Not just you, but God laid this on my heart as well, before I even watched the video. You most definitely have a gift from God to counsel and help others. He deserves a big thanks and so do you❤️
Thank you so much for putting this on. I really feel lost in my life and career and I've hit a wall. This made me feel a lot better and just pause the hate on myself
I am almost 22 years of age but I feel like I have achieved nothing ever since covid, my goals since middle school was to just finish school and then go to university and become something, sadly after high school, I was going through the roughest time of my life already. Financially struggles were upon us, so I had to fixate myself on working wage jobs for at least 4 years. I am thankful to God that these times have passed but now I feel really lost. I still have university in the back of my mind but at the same time I feel like It has gotten too late, since most people on social media finish it with 23 years of age and create one of the best edit the world has ever seen (maybe I'm jealous idk💀). My ramblings aside, I thank everybody in this comment section and you for this amazing video. Helped me calm down a lot ❤️
Don't be like those others you mention, be yourself. Let them be, and be yourself. F*ck'em) cliches, forced norms, etc. Just do your thing, and be a good human. In today's world simply being a human is already a big deal ❤
I'm lost at this point of my life.. 8 months now I left my home and never look back now I am starting to ask myself where to go... I can't deny I am happy but there is still a small piece Missing 😢.. . I am the same feeling right now omg.. this is crazy... thank you so much!
I love how genuine you are. Your thoughts really helped me today. I am a creative soul who feels lost more often than not and I needed to hear this today… that creative people often feel lost. I also create many songs when I feel this way or from moments of deep sadness etc. Not the happy moments. People need to be reminded that feelings of sadness and anger, hopelessness etc are okay and necessary. Also made me smile and laugh out loud. Thank you!
Thank you. I came across this video at the perfect timing...exactly when I needed to hear it the most. Your words, your whole energy...I just felt it so deeply in my soul. We really are all ONE.
I just uploaded my first video right now about my anxiety and depression journey, then youtube suggested this video. I'll rewatch this vid a lot. It comforts me today and motivates me. Thank you so much 🙏
When there’s a disagreement, when I need to say YES or when I need to say NO, when I need to state my needs, and ask for them to be met... When I need to create boundaries... There's a possibility and a probability, that someone will inevitably, most likely, be disappointed in me... So I engage in every encounter, interaction, and relationship... In a way that ensures, that the person disappointed in me... NEVER ends up being me! I aim to never repress, never suppress. I aim to never lose a part of myself. Radical honesty only: 100% of the time. Always, all ways.
Thank you very much for this video. In a way, it's true that most of the times we all struggle to make our lifes fit a societal script instead of acknowledging that everyone's life is unique and has its own challenges and rewards.
I'm in a job that I both like and dislike at times, so it's a big part of the reason why I'm lost. I also don't know if I want to live life and see if I meet someone through activities I like, or if I want to put myself out there through online or speed dating. I feel very conflicted. However, "being soft" has really grounded me through hobbies like yoga, Pilates, meditation, painting, journalling, writing and reading. These make me slow down and be intentional with my time while also appreciating where I'm currently at in my life. I'm trying new things like Zumba and having a lot of fun, despite feeling lost.
Absolutely me right now, I have no idea what direction to go in literally. 31, still living with my mom, back at university but not sure about the course im on, left a 7 year relationship, healing, growing ... It's just alot. I hope one day I'm finally grounded, hoping that for everyone in the comments aswell. X
I am glad that I am a part of community lead by our very own bro..Scott here...very difficult to find a person who truly understands and connects with you...I know I can vouch on you..thank you for your kind words.🙏🏼
Thank you for this. I've had a really difficult string of events that I've had to deal with within the span of four months - losing my job, a job I was really passionate about but feel like I don't care about anymore because of the way I was treated at my place of work, finding a job that pays much less and that I have to move across the country for, finding out some really difficult things about a parent, and now getting surgery two weeks before I leave. I feel so lost, I don't know who I am, what I want to do, who I want to be, how and when to process everything, I recently deleted social media in the hopes that I can be bored more often which might lead to me finding out hobbies and activities I like. I'm terrified to move because I don't know anyone in the city. I feel incredibly unmoored, but at the same time, I feel like I am becoming, that I am in the process and that the adventure is seeing where all this leads me, WHO all of this leads me to. It's so scary.
WOW this is what I need to hear right now!, I've been lost for about 3 to 4 months+ feeling wrong about bloking negative critics, but after hear this, I think that is the right decision I've ever made , Thank you, Mr.Scott
Stumbled on to this tonight… It’s exactly what I needed to hear. You’re “speaking words of wisdom, let it be”… I finally feel good about being lost. Thanks Scott, I will plan to join in on your next zoom session, if I can figure out how to join.
Thank you💗I'm 21, packed my bag, moved to a foreign country and am on my own for the first time in life. The days where I'm on a bliss of recognizing my own growth and how far I've come feels amazing, exciting and filled with hope. But before and after experiencing that bliss, the inner turmoil of feeling lost, doubting my purpose, what I'm supposed to do, who I'm supposed to meet will never fail to greet me, live inside my head and wreck my soul. I've been struggling with this for years now, since having graduated from high school, and I always thought that once I get 'there', everything will be fine and I wouldn't have to deal with feeling lost ever again. But now that I'm here, I've come so far from where I've started, and the feeling of anxiety, lost is still a real part of my everyday life. I guess what I'm trying to say is- Thank you for making this video and giving me hope that there's a possibility of finding peace in the storm. Instead of making it my enemy, I might just befriend it.
The fact that your video reached me when I needed it most is a message for me. I thank you deeply and from the bottom of my heart ♡. It comforted me. Much love from Saudi Arabia ❤️❤️
Wow Scott! You got me crying over here because I felt like I was having a conversation with with a friend because of the way you talked to everything that is on my mind. Thank you!
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always lost :/
I don't feel lost but I have so many obstacles that want to get in my way. I'm so scared 😮
Thanks this video help me a lot
V
The map you put behind of the "roman" empire is so wrong and false in many aspects. Its fake and wrong informations.
"if you are feeling lost,
it's okay
it means you are moving
it means you have been moving
it means you are looking for more
it means you are a seeker!
You have goals,
ambitions,
and aspirations!"
This comforted me to another level. Thank you!
Complete and utter cope.
Im stuck… i dont think I can look at it this way.
@@pharaohosam Coping is a good thing, surely. Only strong people cope.
Ah so calm to hear this, sometimes I think lost is bad for me but not at all. When I lost I understand about myself more.
Society makes it seem like we have to go so fast and know what we are doing all the time. Anything less, we're told we're failures.
Especially social media
Speak!!!
this is exactly how i’m thinking right now. i hope you are where you want to be at this moment and if not, i just KNOW you will get there. what you said is something someone so strong and used to doing it alone would say. YOU got this. WE got this❤❤❤❤❤
Agree! hmmm tired and exhausted.
I swear once you start to get used to the feeling of being lost and not having any ground beneath u, you start to understand you are your own home
So profound😮 I have recently discovered this too!❤
I like that
It gets lonely sometimes.. any advice what you do?
@@asdfdg11 yes, that is so true :/ I honestly have been feeling really lonely for the past years due to a lot of circumstances + Covid, and just adulthood I thought as humans we had the capacity to adapt to anything and still be happy, but this thought made me force myself into situations that I didn't connect with at all, which made me feel super lonely. I thought FOR A LOOONG time that the problem was ME. But after some time and some changes around me (started studying again, started doing things I naturally was always attracted to, like drawing or singing even though initially I didn't want to do anything cause I was really sad), eventually I started feeling better. I now still have bad and lonely days and thoughts. But I know nothing lasts, not even the pain or the anxiety. Even the lonelinessI moved back home and I started letting go of what didn't make me feel anything. I started pursuing the spark of joy, as little as it was then. And now what makes me feel happy is that I fully BELIEVE, with all my heart, that I am not the problem, and that there is so many people in the world that would like me and feel things just as intensely as I do. Also, I believe us who feel the loneliest are also the ones who have seen the truth: the superficiality of the world we live in. It means we think, we reflect, and if we can do that, we can also change things around us. At least, for ourselves and the small circle of people who surround us. And that is a fucking miracle
Not far from the truth. The world was never designed to be able to match all our preferences, values, sense of integrity. We can only find what truly matters to us.........within ourselves. Other people are just doing themselves........running around, using their free will.............while what we value and our sense of being lost are symptoms of not finding in the world........what matters to US.......whilst being TOLD by the world what WE should be doing.
i am crying while watching your podcast because i feel like there's someone out there who also understands what i am feeling.
I am with you , I am going through a lot too but this is temporary and the universe has our back , never give up , God bless
Me too I was crying and sad, but hearing him speak, it made me feel like he really understood. And I calmed down. He gives me Pisces or water sign energy lol
Feeling lost is always a sign of a new beginning✨️
Hope soo
Really 😢???? Then I hope so
Thank you 🙏 ❤
I’m 36, still living with my parents. Lost my job due to vaccine mandates last year. I’m now going to Uni to finish my Bachelor of Accounting at Swinburne University in Melbourne, Australia which I’ve meaning to do for years. 14 units to go! Correction 12 units to complete, wish me luck!
WOW! That's amazing! Hope you enjoy your journey!
All the best!!!!
u can do it
All the best! There are great things waiting ahead of you! ❤
Good luck mate 🙌🙌🙌
Quit my job, broke up a relationship. Nothing left but me on my own, no idea what's next BUT I really really really enjoy this emptiness. I have a strong sense that something greater is coming to me and this breaktime is a chance for me to rest well and recharge before exploding with the upcoming changes. Feel so faithful and excited. Life is interesting guys. No matter it is up and down, go with the ride. U got ur destint set !
Me now
how did it go
How are you now
@@ProEray everything is recovering now. a new self new life new way new opportunities after all of that suffering. it's like a rebirth
@@shahnur2011 everything is like a rebirth now
People really make you feel guilty for stopping and taking break for yourself. ...neglect them and take your time.
I know right that’s messed up. Life is a marathon not a sprint
Yes i experienced that..they see those who stop as losers
Yea
When i read the comments, I noticed that i am not alone 😢. Everyone has different story but same struggle. I am 24 years, can speak English,Japanese and Turkish yet I don’t know what to do with my life. I graduated one year ago and got into job right after graduation. Afterward i noticed that I don’t want to do that job and quit, now i am trying to change my direction and learning new thing such as trading, nft etc . But unfortunately sometimes i compare myself with my friends. They still work and look happy. On the other hand i started to learn new things, i feel like i waste my most productive time by doing things. But everyone we are not alone, we all feel same.
Three month ago i lost my job, and being very experienced and with three languages: russian, english, and turkish, applied to so many positions but got only rejection. As i dont know what else i can do i just left situation to Allah, and try to ask myself all the time what i really want, read books watch this kind of videos.
Your set of languages is impressive 😊 I learned to some extent or more English Czech Slovak Mandarin Turkish (unfortunately) German, the only decent level (not even C1) is English and Russian is my native. Basically, I can use only several of them, and I do suck in my life at my 35... What I want to say 😅 I wish I knew programming languages instead, a stack of them. F*ck my life, and I wish you all best my random friend ❤
At least you have me now i’m 26
feeling the same way here and i'm 26~
oh my god, sameee, thx god i'm not alone 😢
"Let the lostness warm you. You are an adventurer and you are making your way, and you deserve this rest." Beautiful reminder! Thank you Scott.
You have described it perfectly....that feeling like there's nothing to hold onto or ground you, you literally feel like you're floating and trying to reach out for something to stabilize you, but there's nothing substantial.
Wow this!! This describes me so perfectly. I feel like I want to do so much and I don't know whwre to begin or how to keep going in one set direction
It’s Very Difficult to Exist in that space.
@@Dontae.Hawkins it's so hard 😔
Wow… I resonate with this comment so much. Literally was describing this to my sister last night and I said something very similar. I said I feel as if I am just floating and there is nothing tethering me to life. No sense of purpose.
@@BrianBloopsame here man! About to turn 30 and I spent my whole 20’s doing that. I’m choosing to think that I had lessons to learn, although they may be difficult to see right now.
Lately Ive been waking up and feeling like nothing is right in my life, it doesn't feel the same anymore.
same with me
Me too
When I feel like that I question why? I look at the reason and when I understand that, I try to pray to God and focus on whatever gut feeling I have regarding my future that doesn’t leave me. Also know sometimes outer factors contribute to feeling like this, it’s not your fault. You will get through the storm.
same here
It's been a week and I'm really feeling that way as well
Thank you, this is very comforting. I feel so lost in life right now.
Same.
Same.
You’re not alone
@@freebirdfrommontana bro where are you from
@@freebirdfrommontana india
One of the hardest life lessons I’m still working on is progress isn’t linear and that’s ok. Life isn’t a race; the only finish line is death. Enjoy the ride ❤
I am 38 this year. I lost everything this Aidilfitri.. I walk out of my parent’s house with my 3 kids trying to build our life together. Please send me some of your prayers if you see my comment.
I feel so lost, I’ve been thinking for the past months “am i a failure?” because i don’t feel like doing anything or even socialising, i even prayed to God for answers and today I’ve experienced good things and Yt recommend me this video, thanks for the good words
Hope you’re doing better 1yr later.
Found this by accident?? Such a comforting and wise message! I am between jobs and don't really know what to do, where to turn. What do I want? Who can I be? What now? Listening to you makes a big difference, being reminded that it is not a bad thing to be lost. It is also a time of opportunity! Thanks.
Yeah.. all is ephemeral and tech mediated and don't depend or belong to yerself... unstability and nothing to hold value or time or see a future... all skil and life before just devalued and taken... as of nothing... struggle became to live on an artificial grid where they can turn on off and interfere...
❤ Same here.
Sometimes you have to shut the world out and imagine what would you do if money was no object and worse thing you can do is compare yourself to others or listen to their journey. That's because everyone's journey is unique to them.
Asking myself what I want creates a lot of anxiety for me and especially when people tell me "just follow your passion" really upsets me because most of the things I am passionate about do not translate monetarily. I am struggling with what to do as far as career and am getting so much unhelpful advice from every which way, it's so good to just realize I can sit where I am at and don't have to make any big decisions right now. All the best to you
Same here!!! I love this content I subscribed ❤❤❤
I once read 'if you're lost it means you're changing'. Changing to grow and be able to overcome the uncertainty of the situation we find ourselves in. But everything is temporary, even emotions. And in this case, time is our best friend, it's the eagle that will take us up to see everything we've done and what our next step is. ❤
Thank you so much. I love this comment
@@rabbitlively I'm glad u like it! ♥️
Really needed to hear this. I’m 37, married, still living with my parents, work part time on weekends, and have severe depression. I don’t know what to do to move forward in life. Glad to know I’m not alone. Thank you.
Same.
Us bro
That would make most people depressed. Your job is probably trash too. Keep watching videos bro.
Yeooo
You are not alone ❤️🙏🏾
Ground yourself.
Take your time.
Make a decision.
Life is about moving and tweaking.
We all get lost and it’s okay.
Life is unpredictable.
Curveballs are good.
Take rest when you need.
Set up camp ⛺️
Be your own friend.
Put your feet where the ground is.
Be present.
Check out the map”
Let it really sink in.
Let go of what if”
Sit, there’s no rush.
Take rest again.
Embrace your adventurer side.
Chill on your launchpad, you’ll know when to make the next move”
Thank you so much for this video 🙏🏼 really needed to hear this tonight.
Very well said
@@jaysouthmusic8230 Saying is good feeling is very bad and hell. No job for 2 years :(
We are never Lost..we are doing the Best we can 😊
Beautiful
@@cheker120 🤗
Sometimes we actually are, and it's necessary for our growth! And that's what the video is about.
@@farahfarzana8752 i am glad it is helping you :)
When you feel lost that means that you going somewhere ❤
Really my goodness I wish I can give you a call I really am in need of talking to someone I just enrolled in college for dental hygienist and I’m so afraid I don’t know if this is the best decision for me I’m so afraid of failing
It's as if a door has opened for me. My husband passed away 4 years ago. Been married for 35 years.....I lost so so much. So I will take these precious words from this and find some comfort.
I am sorry for your loss.😢❤️
Why do you feel lost? At least you were loved. Some of us were denied it completely and suddenly, and the person who hurt us is still Alive.
@@Oystermato stfu gtfo this thread isn't about you.
@@Oystermatowell at least you have no empathy
Hey, I am 20 years old. I have failed three times consecutively to get into med school and honestly this podcast was all that I needed. The constant feeling of sadness and failure and depression was making me hard to breathe. I was sick of living a life without passion and purpose. I was feeling lost. I felt like a failure bc I spend 2 years fully dedicated to my studies but still failed. I was feeling very guilty, after my results were declared I completely broke. I had no energy to do anything. Small things used to give me so much anxiety and I wanted my life to end. I feel so much lighter and better after listening this podcast. You have no idea how many people you must have helped through this podcast bc I know there must be more people like me who are feeling lost and they need someone who can comfort them. Thankyou for creating this podcast. I hope you reach new levels of success. May god bless you and stay happy ❤️
You're so strong for being where you are.
Hi, I can totally feel you! I was looking for a comment similar to problems I am dealing with and not that your suffer would make me happy or anything. I just wanted to reach out to you that I have the same problem. Trying to get in Uni which seems impossible for me and I am just trying to figure it all out...thank you for sharing your story cause it made me realize i am not alone...
Hi, I am so proud of you for trying those 3 times, even if they didn’t turn out as you’d hoped. Medicine is so competitive it’s crazy! Take your time, the career is a long term gain, and when you become the amazing doctor you’re going to be, you’ll be glad you went through the process the way you did. I once read that the best doctors are the ones that didn’t have a linear pathway into medicine, and had to really push to get in. You may not see it clearly now, but your experience with ‘failure’ and rejection will help you massively in the future. And remember to look at the bigger picture; everyone goes at their own pace, and in the end everyone will end up in the same place no matter how long it took them to get there. Keep pushing you’ve got this ❤️
You have made it a lot further than many people have even tried! I'm sure that has got to feel extremely frustrating to have dedicated yourself to something and still not gotten the outcome you wanted. My situation is different but similar in that small things have been overwhelming me too, like I am feeling almost unable to function, I know I'm going through a hard time this year with a surgery and then a divorce in progress, but the fact that I couldn't even keep up with the basic household tasks and barely keeping up with my job, I am self employed and my business has completely stalled and now I don't even know if I want to continue with it. I was feeling really down on myself until I found this video, I don't have to make any decisions now and it's OK that I am not functioning at the level I once did.
This resonates with meee! altho not the med school part but the feeling lost part
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him
His name is Fatherabulu, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
He is Fatherabulu has great powers, he can help you.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked he up now online. impressive
1 minute in and you’ve already perfectly described my every thought in daily existence.
Same here. 😯
Sometimes I think to my self “I feel different, I feel like I’m changing and then I question wether that’s right or not” well of course it is, you want to change right? If you feel different for the better and lost then it 100% means your going somewhere. I’m glad you clarified this!
Thank you so much bro
Agree
This resonated with me Scott! As someone who went to school to become a psychologist, as someone who loves asking questions and diving deep, I feel very lost at this moment in my life. A new country (US), new culture, changing careers, marriage, missing home, never ending job search while in not so good financial situation all in the last year and a half... I feel burnt out but I can't catch a break because of the reality of life. We all have bills to pay. All that definitely make me question my decisions but I also do know that when we get through this, it's all going to be worth it.
I wake up everyday, go to my day job that I hate, come back home tired feeling guilty for another unproductive day because I didn't do any thing to make my life get any better resulting in feeling down and not wanting to engage. I'm not here just to survive, I'm here to grow and succeed. I've always set high expectations for myself and I guess seeing myself in this situation has been one of the hardest things that I have had to go through. What doesn't kill me, will make me stronger.
Hows everything going 2 weeks later?
I can totally relate to what you going through.. I have days where I feel so lost and un motivated but lately I just take it one day a time and maybe with time everything will make sense..
I'm in the helping field. We have days like that, where it feels like we are making progress. If you made it through psychology school, you will make it to the next step. Looking at everything you have changed onyour life, it makes sense that you are feeling on shaky ground. Lots of changes in a period of time leaves ys feeling off balance. Go kiss your wife and tell her she is beautiful. Go meet with a career counselor. You have a lot going for you.
Wondering the same
This is me at the moment, you couldn’t have said it better.
"When you're lost, it means you're discovering something new" Yo, that's a bar.🔥
I lost my job and feel lost now and anxious… watching your video change my attitude. It mean that i’m moving something new and seeker! Thank you for this :)
Same! Recently lost my job!
I love how his advice and insights come from a place of geniune care for others and not forcing others to act with urgency.
Love the analogy of planting a seed and letting the laws of nature do the rest :)
The Creator takes care of that seed and makes it grow and give it life for us only to improve the belief that the Creator is impossible to leave his servant on this land without taking care of him or causing him, but there must be full faith in him first and then trust in him in matters of life. We believe that we are the one who constitutes his life how he wants
I have a good job, a good apartment, in a “good” city…. And I am miserable. All I want is to quit, sell everything and move to Hawaii for a year. I want adventures, I want excitement, I want joy. I am drowning in my monotony. I never thought this is how my life would turn out. I thought I would be so happy.
It's your sign to try something different!
Hey, I was like that when I was in my 9 to 5 job
Now my caring role for my son and Mum is starting to come to an end I'm feeling anxious and not knowing what to do next.
I knew jerk back to wanting my 9 to 5 job back......Ah, ahh, ahhh......no!
Telling myself to recover from carer burnout.
Telling myself not to act when unsure.
This is taking waaaasy too long.
Cannot chose my next course, cannot make a decision.
Decision paralysis is where I'm at.......
Take a break, this will help to bring clarify and yes we do not have to figure it all at once.
Listen to your body.
Sit in the discomfort.
I’m feeling similar
I wanna LIVE
I have the same feeling 😢
Thank you for this.
I am a ball of anxiety. I am exhausted. I needed to hear that the Darkness is okay.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this
Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
Microdosing helped me get out of the pit of my worst depressive episode, a three year long episode, enough to start working on my mental health.
Can dr.porassss send to me in UK?
Your kindness and concern for other peoples well being is a beacon of light. Brilliant, shining like a lighthouse.
This is actually how I’m feeling right now LOST
Funny how life works, this found me exactly when I needed it
Thank you. I needed to hear this and cried while listening to you. I graduated college last year after studying abroad for 7 years (7 years cuz English is not my first language). I got a job but I don't feel fulfilled with it. It doesn't relate to my major at all. I have abandoned my hobbies, seeing friends, going out. When I plan to go and look for jobs I just feel frozen. I just listen to everyone saying how bad the job market is and that I should be grateful for what I currently have. I think I'll give myself some time to find a new job :). Thank you again, and I hope for everyone dealing with this same issue to feel better.
take some time - you got this!
I’m 62,and very grateful for your video. I really liked what you said about being lost and that it means I’m a seeker!I’ve been on a path for my whole life. I’ve never been a conventional person. It hasn’t always been fun, but I’ve kept striving to go where most people are so afraid to go, inside themselves!! Your very good at this! Thanks again
You are so gifted! Not only are you saying the right words, but how you’re saying them in a calm manner 🙏🏾
Thank you so much for this. I just graduated college (undergrad) and feel like I have no plan and don’t know what I want to do. But you made me feel like it’s okay, I can rest here in this space for a while and take my time. I know and trust that the right things are coming for me :). Thank you 🙏
It is 100 percent ok. It took me some time to find the job I was searching for. I went back and got an additional degree. Best decision ever. My son took some time to find his way. He took a job way beneath his education. Two promotions later, he is doing very well. It's ok to take this time. I recommend that you reach out to your career counseling department to polish your job hunting skills. If you do go get a masters, try to get a graduate assistantship. Your tuition will be paid for and you'll get some mo ey. Live in the dorms, meet new people and have some fun!!!
I am only 21, I'm expected to go to college or getting a job, and everything is just overwhelming. Not to mention not having funds to do anything with my life😭
Bro any update there? How are u now?
Dont mistake movement for progress and the key to life is moderation..
Also dont ever be scared of change... Its good for you and whenever change happens its when the most growth comes from within.
I’m 22, i feel lost since i was 20, It affected my art because it lost direction, my peers are doing great things, this podcast made me feel like myself again a bit❤️
I finally hear something positive about my negative feelings. I hope you are right and better days will come because I feel so so lost.
Better days are ahead I be having to remind myself that all the time
You're like a warm blanket on a cold, dark night. Thank you for all you do 😊
True. He is like a warm blanket on a cold, dark night. Thanks for all he does 😊
Thank you. Being creative & lost sucks. Everything feels so tough! That sounds amazing right now. I need a compass.
I feel a sense of comfort that I’m not alone in this “lostness”, have many negative emotions. Thank you for speaking about this.
I listened to this Nov 2024. It made me cry. For once I feel like im ok and I'm NOT lazy or useless. I get so sick of wondering why I'm even on this planet and I'm 52. Thank you so much.
We spend the majority of our time trying to fix ourselves or someone else….if not, then we find ourselves trying to find healthy ways to cope with reality without succumbing to self- destructive behaviors.
"Be your own friend", man that phrase was very warm. Right now im finding job for help my family, its difficult, hard, but your words became honey for me. Thanks.
I'm listening to this at a park working out a bit while I have a small break from a job I hate which gives me no free time. The imagery about camping and setting up in an Airbnb or hotel and staying a bit is beautiful and I brought tears to my eyes. I'm planning to move forward with my life but I don't want to be impulsive about it.
I have lost interest in almost everything. I am a microbiology student who began my course in the university with so much passion,but right now I feel like everything is falling apart and i feel like giving up on everything. I feel mentally weak and I can't seem to catch up with my dreams anymore. I am so lost right now!
I am glad that this video came up in the suggestions when i searched "how to find my lost self" on UA-cam. I hope I get to find myself again 😢
Here are 3 little life lessons i have learned from watching This podcast..
1- Being lost is a part of discovery
2- Just focus on the present moments, Remember to enjoy!
3- Be nice to yourself and don’t rush over things
By watching your video, now i know that other people goes through the same is totally normal and it’s just a part of our human beings, thank you! 🙏🏼
This is great..i dont have anyone else telling me things like this so its easy for me to get caught up in my own thoughts and cycles..sometimes we all need to remember to take a breath and to recalibrate
It's an odd situation. I am happily married, I have a home even if it requires a lot of maintenance, I have 2 cats and my parents are still alive. I have steady work even if the pay is mediocre at best. But for some reason I always feel isolated, and I never feel safe. Like a disaster awaits any moment. Social circle has shrunk to like 5 ppl since covid and work from home. I love working from home but I do not love the new antisocial ways out here. I don't know, man, I don't know what I'm doing.
Anxiety
Oh please
Coming off the Prescription Adderrall,
I was Sad Lost and didn’t know where to go- Broke up with my Ex again after going back. Dumped a few Fake friends, and yeah. Im pretty Much Starting over again.
Depression. Anxiety.
Feeling Stuck.. is where I am.
Can we get in contact?
I'm jobless longtime and still live with my parents, broken heart. Now I'm in journey to healing and I'm learning Deutsch for future
I just got rejected from the nursing school I have worked so hard to get into. Thank you for this. So motivating, this isn’t the end of my journey
so soothing bro, will be comforting to someone in need in the incessant chaos going on in life.
Thank you very much.
I am currently in the army, the only constant in my life is the constant change every day. Nothing is safe, a lot of hostility around me, so many things that are out of my control, I don't know what to choose from the things that are in my control, the feeling of loneliness and misunderstanding is huge and there is no time to rest or just be with myself.
I just want to sit on the beach and watch the sun go down, but your warm and comforting words also bring out that feeling in me. Thank you very much❤
Everywhere i go, i got lost.
No friend to talk, now im sick and making me lost my job. My parents push me to find job soon, but i dont even know that i can work like before. My life’s suck and i dont know where to go. Everyone have a perfect life but me.
Hey how are you now? I'm sorry to hear you're goin through that, I'm currently struggling as well...
It would be nice to hear that things have changed for the better for you ❤
There’s no different right now. I’m stuck
@@aliwee9971 I'm sorry 🥺🥺
@@aliwee9971 Going through the same situation as yours but always remember, life is simple, everyone, including you is going to leave this place one day so live in the moment. Don't think about what will happen in the future.
Sorry for my bad English. Peace.
I cried so much while listening because right now I’m 26 and I feel so lost so sad all the time, I don’t know if I’m ever going to do something great and be proud of myself and I always end up comparing with all my friends that have a good stable job. I have one right now where I’m learning but don’t get so much money and I can’t find another job.. I have so much pressure for my age, pff I don’t know what’s going to happen but thank you for the video! 💫🍀🥺
Hi @danielaqm9407. I'd say our nature as humans is sedimentary. Meaning it is a result of layers upon layers. Those layers are the result of experiences. Can we control everything we experience? Nah... a lot of things just happens to us and we absorb, forming, as time passes by, a new layer, which if we live long enough will certainly have another on top of it, and so it goes. That, i believe, happens to me, to you, to our families, to our friends... (the ones you mentioned included). The link of it to what you've said on your comment is that the overall sedimentary group of layers is what we perceive of others and of ourselves. Some people have layers that benefit them to get that high paying job, others dont. And do you know why this is just fine? Because, as i said, it is a matter of the composition of layers one has. Some mainly get it by luck. Some mainly get it by effort. Everyone gets it by a certain mix of both.
You dont get what you believe you want? That is okay. Yes, that might suck while being in that position, in that specific set of layers, but that is not definitive. That is not final... unless you stop living, then your last set of layers would be all you'd ever get and that'd be it; but while living, every single day you put an extra micro layer above the previous one that you too have collected. Day by day.
What does it tell you? That while some layers were put there by chance, now that you know that conceptualization, you gained the power to consciously try to manage what layers you're gonna add.
What layers? Well that depends on what you want. Have you decided that? Dont be afraid to choose wrongly. Thats just fine, you gotta do the fine tuning as you go, the important thing is to get the sails set and get started.
Lets say it is software engineering what you want. Fine! Where are you right now regarding to that desired state of being? First of all, would you know what the desired state of being is, with a certain degree of precision? Try figuring out because thats the basis for more accurate delta calculation between the current and desired state.
Is the delta visualized? Great! Now you know you want 6 and you only have 2. What do you do when that's the case? You F add 4 to the equation! And up you go. Once thats in progress, you can start comparing your OWN self throughout the days.
Day 0 i was X away from the desired state.
Day 1 i was X - N away from the desired state.
And so it goes until either you mature enough to discover the actual desired state is other suff or you finally get to what you want. You'll get it, unless you stop living, be it by dying or by being stopped by tyranny, the latter just being another great opportunity for setting a new desired state and striving for it. And so it goes.
I hope that brings you comfort in the idea that it has a way out. Just F go for it!! The algorithm is, i believe, shared!
you are young please pull yourselves up. there is hope
Thanks so much for the wonderful words.
I’m 24 and I feel like I’m getting older too soon and haven’t started exploring the world I guess that’s why I feel lost. Hopefully I find myself and anyone out there who also feels lost I take the time you need.
I’m glad I stumbled upon this video after graduating college feeling lost. I feel rushed and feel like my goals are out of reach.
Take it one day at a time, plan your steps little by little and just enjoy the journey
I think I know my next step is working but I don't find any place I want to work at, my parents say to just pick anything but that's not for me. I need to work somewhere that I chose and deem special to me. Whatever that means, I want to choose my experience but I feel like I'm waiting to find it. That perfect place
If we're here, you may as well put your feet where the ground is. That is so simple and freeing, but also so easily missed in the moments when you are constricted by resistance. Thank you for continuing to bring inspiration and music into our lives!
This video had me realize that I have been resisting the fact that I am lost. My consciousness unknowingly labelled it as bad, something that I should get out of as soon as possible and in the best way I could, and I was floundering in the fact that I am lost at the age of 35, 10 years in my career, not knowing where to go and not having anything to follow after. But now I know that I have come far enough to realize that I am lost, become clear enough to see where I truly am at, and that I have a picture that I can start from. The power of perspective, the power of reframing. Thank you for borrowing your lense, it both comforted me and let me see things more clearly and with power.
I retired a year ago and have been in paralysis ever since. I daily have a feeling of uselessness but no energy to do anything about it.
Thank you for this... I just needed it! ❤
I took some VERY wrong turns in life and now I’m lost without a compass, a phone, or even a map 😭 I can’t seem to get back to where I knew I was supposed to be or wanted to be.
This is what the modern world represents imho
This is so helpful for my life right now. It is so comforting to know that we share these lost times. Thank you.
You started this off perfectly, I’m only 4 minutes into the video and you’ve given me so much peace in this lost time in my life. Not just you, but God laid this on my heart as well, before I even watched the video. You most definitely have a gift from God to counsel and help others. He deserves a big thanks and so do you❤️
Thank you so much for putting this on. I really feel lost in my life and career and I've hit a wall. This made me feel a lot better and just pause the hate on myself
I am almost 22 years of age but I feel like I have achieved nothing ever since covid, my goals since middle school was to just finish school and then go to university and become something, sadly after high school, I was going through the roughest time of my life already. Financially struggles were upon us, so I had to fixate myself on working wage jobs for at least 4 years. I am thankful to God that these times have passed but now I feel really lost. I still have university in the back of my mind but at the same time I feel like It has gotten too late, since most people on social media finish it with 23 years of age and create one of the best edit the world has ever seen (maybe I'm jealous idk💀). My ramblings aside, I thank everybody in this comment section and you for this amazing video. Helped me calm down a lot ❤️
We have the same situation brother
@@Селфи-щ3и good luck brother
Don't be like those others you mention, be yourself. Let them be, and be yourself. F*ck'em) cliches, forced norms, etc. Just do your thing, and be a good human. In today's world simply being a human is already a big deal ❤
That monologue in the beginning felt like he took it right from my brain
I'm lost at this point of my life..
8 months now I left my home and never look back now I am starting to ask myself where to go... I can't deny I am happy but there is still a small piece Missing 😢.. . I am the same feeling right now omg.. this is crazy... thank you so much!
I love how genuine you are. Your thoughts really helped me today. I am a creative soul who feels lost more often than not and I needed to hear this today… that creative people often feel lost. I also create many songs when I feel this way or from moments of deep sadness etc. Not the happy moments. People need to be reminded that feelings of sadness and anger, hopelessness etc are okay and necessary. Also made me smile and laugh out loud. Thank you!
Yes, it's important to feel, what we call the good or bad
Need this badly today. Ended up tearing up, thank you for being kind in your words. Boomarking to watch this again on repeat
Same!!!!!
I can't believe this video still hasn't hit a million views. Every word is so comforting to me.
Thank you. I came across this video at the perfect timing...exactly when I needed to hear it the most. Your words, your whole energy...I just felt it so deeply in my soul. We really are all ONE.
I just uploaded my first video right now about my anxiety and depression journey, then youtube suggested this video. I'll rewatch this vid a lot. It comforts me today and motivates me. Thank you so much 🙏
You have changed so much since the last time i watched you… im so happy for you
When there’s a disagreement,
when I need to say YES
or when I need to say NO,
when I need to state my needs,
and ask for them to be met...
When I need to create boundaries...
There's a possibility and a probability,
that someone will inevitably,
most likely,
be disappointed in me...
So I engage in every encounter,
interaction, and relationship...
In a way that ensures,
that the person disappointed in me...
NEVER
ends up being me!
I aim to never repress,
never suppress.
I aim to never lose a part of myself.
Radical honesty only:
100% of the time.
Always,
all ways.
I’m literally so lost, and so hard on myself, thank you for these words and the repetitiveness I needed it! 🙏🏻
Thank you very much for this video. In a way, it's true that most of the times we all struggle to make our lifes fit a societal script instead of acknowledging that everyone's life is unique and has its own challenges and rewards.
I never felt so comforted and understood. Thank you so much
I'm in a job that I both like and dislike at times, so it's a big part of the reason why I'm lost. I also don't know if I want to live life and see if I meet someone through activities I like, or if I want to put myself out there through online or speed dating. I feel very conflicted. However, "being soft" has really grounded me through hobbies like yoga, Pilates, meditation, painting, journalling, writing and reading. These make me slow down and be intentional with my time while also appreciating where I'm currently at in my life. I'm trying new things like Zumba and having a lot of fun, despite feeling lost.
Good for you man
Absolutely me right now, I have no idea what direction to go in literally. 31, still living with my mom, back at university but not sure about the course im on, left a 7 year relationship, healing, growing ... It's just alot. I hope one day I'm finally grounded, hoping that for everyone in the comments aswell. X
November 2024 anyone?
Here I am!
yes! feeling lost 🫨 but seeing this video made me feel bit more hopeful 🎉
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Me ❤
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I am glad that I am a part of community lead by our very own bro..Scott here...very difficult to find a person who truly understands and connects with you...I know I can vouch on you..thank you for your kind words.🙏🏼
I can’t put into words how much your videos help me day to day.
Thank you for this. I've had a really difficult string of events that I've had to deal with within the span of four months - losing my job, a job I was really passionate about but feel like I don't care about anymore because of the way I was treated at my place of work, finding a job that pays much less and that I have to move across the country for, finding out some really difficult things about a parent, and now getting surgery two weeks before I leave. I feel so lost, I don't know who I am, what I want to do, who I want to be, how and when to process everything, I recently deleted social media in the hopes that I can be bored more often which might lead to me finding out hobbies and activities I like. I'm terrified to move because I don't know anyone in the city. I feel incredibly unmoored, but at the same time, I feel like I am becoming, that I am in the process and that the adventure is seeing where all this leads me, WHO all of this leads me to. It's so scary.
i cried watching this...listening to the words 'be ur friend'...thank you so much
WOW this is what I need to hear right now!, I've been lost for about 3 to 4 months+ feeling wrong about bloking negative critics,
but after hear this, I think that is the right decision I've ever made , Thank you, Mr.Scott
Stumbled on to this tonight… It’s exactly what I needed to hear. You’re “speaking words of wisdom, let it be”… I finally feel good about being lost. Thanks Scott, I will plan to join in on your next zoom session, if I can figure out how to join.
Thank you💗I'm 21, packed my bag, moved to a foreign country and am on my own for the first time in life. The days where I'm on a bliss of recognizing my own growth and how far I've come feels amazing, exciting and filled with hope. But before and after experiencing that bliss, the inner turmoil of feeling lost, doubting my purpose, what I'm supposed to do, who I'm supposed to meet will never fail to greet me, live inside my head and wreck my soul. I've been struggling with this for years now, since having graduated from high school, and I always thought that once I get 'there', everything will be fine and I wouldn't have to deal with feeling lost ever again. But now that I'm here, I've come so far from where I've started, and the feeling of anxiety, lost is still a real part of my everyday life. I guess what I'm trying to say is- Thank you for making this video and giving me hope that there's a possibility of finding peace in the storm. Instead of making it my enemy, I might just befriend it.
Brilliant! Can I ask with how much money did you moved out and how you live? (like shared, own appartement?) I want to do the same..
I bet u’re asian, anyway good luck with ur journey ❤
Can i ask how did manage to do it? did u have any savings ?
The fact that your video reached me when I needed it most is a message for me. I thank you deeply and from the bottom of my heart ♡. It comforted me. Much love from Saudi Arabia ❤️❤️
Wow Scott! You got me crying over here because I felt like I was having a conversation with with a friend because of the way you talked to everything that is on my mind. Thank you!