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Yes, but this is probably the 10th video you’ve watched and you should get up and stretch but Si is sleeping... I stop when I get so blurry eyed I can read the comments. But I’m watching Dave Chapelle and other topics in the same sitting. Hard to stay focused!
I'm an ENFP and my friends and other ppl say that i'm so great at working out and i looked fit af. But ofc, that's only when I ACTUALLY worked out. Cause u kno, ENFPs don't have the discipline to commit 😂 Guess I'll have to work on that
Yes, storytelling... I have no patience because my mind is so full, and as soon as I start telling stories, in my mind, the story has already been told, but it wasnt actually, I just started :D
Telling stories: when I go out and relax, I like to observe people and I always end inventing stories out of my Intuition for the people I m observing, then I pump the story adding humour too.. Delivering all of my stories with a half serious/half humorous joking way so that the people who pay attention to me always don't know if I'm joking or not.. And at the end they eventually label me as weird
ENFP and the discipline thing is so true. I'm nearly finished with my law degree and it's SO HARD TO KEEP FOCUSED because I'd rather be drawing. But I also love to learn and to challenge myself. And I really want to help people, which is why I'm studying. I just hate the structure and deadlines because it takes the fun out of it. Apparently I'm doing a good enough job of keeping my shit together because this is my last semester of school but uuugghhh I wanna do a different project SO FRICKEN BAD! I just keep telling myself that it'll be worth it when I am done and I can do whatever I want because I'll have more time! C: Edit: The best thing about commenting here is that I don't feel like I have to change my comment for fear of sounding cray and over the top hahaha!
YESSS I hope you've graduated now and have more time for the stuff you like!! This comment gives me hope that I can follow through with an intense design degree that's gonna start soon!!
I honestly think it's better to put discipline into an enfp since early ages, in my case it helped a lot, I played volleyball and discipline was crucial
You're right about discipline. I used to think I could never be disciplined, I could read 10 books at a time coz I couldn't focus and I wanted to read them all and I end up not reading anything. But I committed myself to reading one at a time and I really did. I also disciplined myself to stop taking sugary drinks, processed food. I started exercising and intermittent fasting. Yeah, we so have that ability, and am a super enfp Altho I want a video on self awareness. It's important we calm down and really examine patterns, understand who we are and become our better selfs coz enfps are awesome ppl that always stay true to their values and beliefs
Im ENFP male n i think the skills that i really need are 1. strategy management - no focus ADHD level 2. time management - no plan are followed 3. money management - no saving at all 4. project management - lack of detail 5. Physical health management - lack of sleeps/eats
I'm struggling with DISCIPLINE.I've so many things/work to done but end up I'm doing nohing the whole day. I will do the work depends on my mood if I really really motivated then I can' stop doing it or I can do the task if it because last minute dateline. Sometime I think my brain only working during last minute. But I know this is such unproductive habit. Help me Dan.
shadia.izzati tip for your question: teach yourself to set priorities. make sure you do something fun every day. plan something a week to perhaps months in advance that you are looking forward to. this gives you motivation to come up with several things that you like and will force you to set priorities. you can't get everything finished in a day or in a week. you have multiple responsibilities. prioritizing helps. When you learned to priorities you will be able to plann your day and week😊 good luck! Greetings from a creative ENFP
I was always told growing up: "Don't speak when you're angry, don't make decisions when you're sad, and don't make promises when you're happy." As an ENFP, I have strived to live this way but I do have my moments where my emotions do get the best of me. Although it's really hard for me to not be frustrated with myself, I'm glad I get to learn and continue to try again everyday😊
*The only skills I need to master is* 1) - Social skills. Conversations are hard 2) - Keeping the friends I just made/ Not obsessing over them and their problems and being a weirdo 3) - Not falling for every nice person 4) - Not having a struggle between showing my quiet side or showing my loud side 5) - Not having a struggle between underthinking or overthinking 6) - Making friends 7) - Actually doing my homework 8) - Not having 89 tabs open on every computer 9) - Finding out how an enfp can also be a ravenclaw 10) - Figuring out if people find me funny or if Im just delusional 11) - The basic structure of a conversation 12) - Not winging everything because if I don't, I will panic and not sleep 13) - Showing my empathy, because theirs a lot and Im kinda embarrassed of it 14) - Not imagining a whole story with a person I just met 15) - Not getting really upset when someone gives me criticism 16) - Not only being a total weirdo, loud, childish person with ONLY my friends 17) - Being a perfectionist 18) - Learning maths
I feel like we're in kindergarten when it comes to the last one about communicating our shortcomings / falling thru with other people/deliverables. I would love to see a video that trains us better with this.
That's our tertiary cognitive function, extroverted thinking. Essentially it is our ability to be effective. Because it is our tertiary function, it is as if it is developed to a child level.
I’m okay at telling stories, I notice that people always pay closer attention and get excited when I’m about to tell a story, the problem is like you said I’m way too fast and I sometimes end the story thinking that everyone gets it but then I get so many questions when I’m done and it’s always questions that makes me think “was that not obvious when I was telling my story ?” I don’t know, sometimes I feel like people are going to magically get it from my head.
Ironically I'm struggling with communication. I thought I was an introvert for most of my life - Turns out I just got anxious af around people. Because of this, I didn't spend much time around people, it feels like I lost a lot of my communication skills and my carelessness. Even tho I've worked on it, I still don't feel like I'm good at communicating and connecting to people (which is shitty, cause I wanna do all that cool people-related stuff and form deep connections, but it just doesn't seem to work as well as I'd like it to) Sometimes I wish I was a sensor, they seem so careless and like they don't overthink everything they do
Can you make a video about ways to satisfy the ENFP need for novelty, variety, and challenge while remaining disciplined? For instance I’m in college for psychology and am working receptionist and cashier jobs to complete school. How do I add spice to life without switching majors, job hopping, etc?
Join extracurriculars, try new restaurants, become an amateur anything by learning it online (UA-cam, wikipedia, whatever), lean in to spontaneity when you have free time, and if your major and job are important to you, use everything else above to keep you from swerving from that path.
I love storytelling! I play dungeons and dragons and make up the story as I play with my son. Lots of fun. We also have a deck of storytelling cards- each card has a word on it... good practice for storytelling...
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DISCIPLINE.............. I KNOW I NEED TO BE DISCIPLINED BUT THEN I LAUGH AT MYSELF AND SAY - IF I BECOME DISCIPLINED ONE DAY THE EARTH WILL STOP ROTATING 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂............. i am sorry but yea i have the explosion of energy n since all here in comment section are ENFP....... U know exactly what i am talking about😂😂😂
I agree with the discipline, although i am still training to be better at it. I found it very helpful to make the discipline or things we discipline at as our identity. (and we got our strength from our sense identity) It is like you are owning a character/ traits that you believe. For example, not drinking alcohol and sugar, is not me, and i don't do that. Washing the dishes immediately after eating is me, and i am proud of that. (i used not to be like that, but I own it, this me who clean and maintain healthy habit and change. This is me now and tomorrow.)
A tip for the enfps watching- watch it in at least 1.25x speed. This guy is too slow, and we tend to get distracted. Also, I completely agree with this video, totally worth watching. Thanks
Your best video to date. Do a series on all of them. I think another skill to develop is how to articulate the thoughts that we have so that we can express ourselves to others in a way that is clear and understandable. So many of my learning moments have been wrapped up in strong feelings and when I try to explain a mind blowing moment I've had, it doesn't come out in a way that people don't get. You know what I mean?
Discipline is my big issue. Things I love or feel committed to are easy for me but daily things I don’t like are a challenge! Thx for the great videos 😁
Thanks Dan for your awesome video! I learnt these from your video, 1) Storytelling: Enhancing your storytelling skills can help captivate others and effectively convey your ideas. Focus on building a clear narrative structure, using descriptive language, and engaging your audience with emotions and vivid details. 2) Reading people: Developing your ability to read people involves observing their body language, facial expressions, and tone of voice. Pay attention to non-verbal cues and try to understand their underlying emotions and intentions. 3) Discipline: Cultivating discipline involves setting goals, creating routines, and staying committed to your tasks. Prioritize your time, break down larger goals into smaller, manageable steps, and hold yourself accountable to follow through. 4) Self-awareness: Self-awareness is about understanding your own thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. Reflect on your strengths, weaknesses, values, and motivations. This can help you make better decisions and improve your relationships with others. 5) Follow through and Communicate: To improve follow-through, create a system to track your commitments and deadlines. Improve communication by actively listening, expressing yourself clearly, and being responsive to others' needs. Remember, practice and consistency are key to developing these skills. Keep learning, seeking feedback, and challenging yourself to grow.❤
Ouch! Discipline & Communication - too close to home there. Also self awareness to realize when I'm repeating those patterns :P Good stuff Dan, enjoying your videos!
I really got to check out the videos and I probably will if I don't fall asleep but I don't usually sleep much I just found out the ENFP thing applied to me I knew there was something odd about me for 53 years I knew it certain things were very difficult and certain things were very easy and certain things we're just nauseating and I like to being mean to my introvert wife. They said that the impasse can be really bad people that's probably me no actually if I would have been mad when we had a home invasion I would have killed that guy but instead I talked his way out of his predicament after he tried to break my neck and my hair got in the way cuz long hair is lubricant I said I would teach him how to break necks I promised who is angry I feel bad for him he could not do what he intended to do he had no plan he had no gun you don't break into my house without a gu I'm getting anxious here I don't I want to laugh or cry or something anyway I'll actually saw some problems you don't have to get rid of a corpse or anything to you? do I need hazmat gear? damn!
Me and my 9 year old boy -both off the chart ENFPs. Thanks for the advice. Am now contacting every single person I said I would in past month...can't wait to watch more of your vids. Yes Hogwash is an excellent word-like the word b.s but much more polite. xxoo
Number 2 can backfire. You start worrying about people reactions and overthink everything. Sometimes it's better just ignore something, you cannot do anything about. I was meeting my friend's pals. 2 of them literally told me, that im most awesome guy ever and it felt good. 1 of them was clearly feeling outsider and left. It kept me up whole night for some reason... People get bad vibes from you time to time and there is no way to help it. If you constantly try to read everyone, you will also read the negative emotions.
Discipline is a though one!!! Starting something exciting is easy, keeping the discipline. It also have to give satisfaction. The other skills I have under control. Introspection is my strongest skill
Omg, I'm in real estate and can 100% agree with the "I'll get that to you by tomorrow" pressure 🤣. Life got so much better when I learned to say "I'm booked up so I'll have it to you in the next few days", or send a quick text explaining that I'm human and can't get it done as well as I'd like to when I promised but still will!
Another good one could be journaling. ENFPs have so much to say to other people. I write in my journal at night to say what I want to say but what I know I shouldn't say to the person I want to. Instead I just write the journal entry like a letter to them. Then it's out of my system, I have engaged some weaker cognitive function muscles by thinking about what I am saying by writing it, and saving myself the social issue of "saying how I feel no matter the consequences".
I love these videos, as an enfp, I am always looking for fun things to learn! I especially have come to realize lately I need to be more in tune with myself, so thank you!
I did the test multiple times… I won’t make it my whole personality… I just need to be pointed into the right direction to fix my flaws … I live in a dangerous neighbourhood thus have a lot of anxiety Thank you
Self awareness is like, my weakest trait lmao. So many times I'll have a friend tell me "You tend to do things like this" or "you generally act this way" and it always blows my mind.
You are so right that we naturally lack discipline. But when we catch fire with an interest or hobby, we can develop a more organic discipline and the results are stellar!
Gimme dat 'follow through and communication' baybee. I do the "I'll just wake up early tomorrow" move with the excuses almost daily and it's destroying my entire life.
Reading People/Self-Awareness (letting shy people talk and waiting for people to formulate what they want to say..and..then..say..it) is sooo exhausting. Part of the reason for my moving to New York is that people here communicate in a more straightforward unfiltered way. What many types would view as "rude". I have to constantly remind myself to be patient with work people (private equity/finance) so as not to come across overbearing. Thank goodness for finding a tribe/friend circle that accepts and enjoys your unfiltered self because they know where you are coming from. Fitting a mold to accommodate other people's palatable way of interaction makes me not want to interact at all. However, when I see it as an act of compassion in letting someone who is not strong in communication or expression have a chance to say something, I can do it with a smile instead of a grunt.
Yeah omfg I have discipline problems and it's probably seriously damaging my life at this point. I exercised twice in the last week tho!! That's an improvement!
Yeah I really have to work on discipline, I try going to the gym, trying to start streaming, and UA-cam, trying to read all the books I can, and working 40 hours a week and hanging out with my friends as much as I can makes me feel overwhelmed but I’m trying to journal and I write down what needs to be done to push myself to accomplish all that I want
I am ENFP and if I knew this information in my past, I would not have married 4 times. I'm now divorced again. I realize now at 52 that I needed to be free from controlling people and situations.
I get this - no matter how much i try i end up getting everyone else on the path and dont get on it myself - another superpower - facilitation but at a cost to self
Many people's told me when I'm excited, I can be a unstoppable machine, but I allways looked it over, since I thought they don't mean until I found out I am an ENFP-A Personality and now I understand those peoples actually meant it, now this video got me excited to push it even harder, thank you alot 🥳
Tip #5..... As an ENFP, I totally related to the first 4. And the 5th one started to make me feel uncomfortable because I KNOW I drop the ball with following through on communication and “over committing” I hear you!
I often get in a room and instantly know what who is thinking of who in the room, how all people are feeling and whats going on. People used to insult me and asker runde question like "Why are you like that, do you have ADHD?". My answer today "No, I'm just myself. I don't ask you, why you are such a quiet follow"
Would love to see them all! But in particular, the story telling and how to hone that so that it's not just the "me" show but a way for me to help connect the room.
I feel happy that after fully finishing this video I’ve actually already got this stuff down and I don’t like bragging but ngl I feel proud of myself as an ENFP although I’m mostly good at storytelling
i’m new to learning how to develop MBTI-wise. i’m reading the comments and thinking: people that actively try to improve themselves by watching these kinds of videos are my favorite type of people! they’re conscientious and thoughtful and wish to be the best version of themselves which is healthy and they’re probably great people to be around
That’s a funny one ! I had a huge « brain file » opening up (bursting out) while on Ayahuasca one night, years ago. I saw around a dozen different situations in my life, all very vivid, where I told someone I was going to do something but I didn’t follow through after all. It was all a bunch of events from different times and places of my life, with absolutely different people. There was no way I could have recalled that many situations that were all linked to the same issue (of following through). It all came into my face (mind/consciousness) so suddenly. A huge PUNCH of awakening it was ! I decided then, that I would simply not commit anymore unless I was sure I could follow through. Today, years later, I’m still late everywhere I go 99.9% of the time (though, il put that in a different category of issue) but the commitments i fail (time wise) to follow through with, are usually flexible ones (regarding the time necessary to get them done). I definitely could be more reliable and more efficient at times. Saying No to what doesn’t turn me on is also a great way to follow through with all the things I truly want to do. Anyway, thanks for sharing again !
Oh wow guess I'm guilty on all of them at some level or another. The struggles are real, thanks for bringing awarenesss and tips on how to overcome these pitfalls.
I'd truly enjoy a video that goes more in depth with discipline!! As an ENFP, I've always had a hard time with DISCIPLINE!! And especially!! FOLLOWING THROUGH also something that I highly struggle with. Thank you so much for your channel!! I just discovered you and subscribed!! I highly enjoy your content!!
Would appreciate more videos on Self-Awareness and recognizing patterns / introspection.. I noticed the lack of that ability in myself and started working on it over the last 5+ years.. simply put.. the lack of self-awareness makes you come up with reasons for finding excuses for not meeting commitments made due to the hyper-active mind constantly pushing things out) and that is never a good thing for one's credibility ..
Unrelated to my earlier comment, I would also like to see a video on how suppressed/underdeveloped E can lead to enhanced 'ability to read the room' and how to deal with the anticipatory nervousness (that could spiral into anxiety).
Number 5 hit me so hard! hahahahaha 1 to 4 has been a work in-progress, but 5 just woke me up saying, "why aren't you improving on this one, yet?" i love your channel!
I have a problem with point number 1. I can't really talk much except about the things I like or abstract stuff. Number 5 is perhaps my biggest problem. Lately I'm aware of 'that' behavior (Let's do this! And then I disappear for a long time). Honestly, I think that's born out of fear of missing out. :( Maybe you can elaborate more about point number 5? I want to be a more committed and focused person. Anyway, thank you for your insights Dan! This one speaks to my soul. :D
Hey Feraldy, you're very welcome! Looks like I will do something on story telling. Really a bad story teller can ruin the most interesting adventure, and a good story teller can make cooking breakfast sound like a life changing epic...so doesn't matter too much about your interests.
Hogwash 👍 great word. This video is so helpful. I’d love to develop my storytelling and self-awareness. I feel I can amuse my family with my stories but I’m not always as comfortable with strangers 😊
I am currently working on point 5 and 4. They are really important!!! My next move would be the point 3. I don't like to read people too much (to have my own peace XD and my current skill is enough to keep me outside of danger...), so I will let the point 2 be. And the first point would be the most komplex skill for me to develop, because I am using at least two foreign languages in my daily life...
Hi, I'm ENFP:)))))) I improved my social acuity skill with help of psychology, philosophy, profiling (I always wanna be like Sherlock or Mentalist). So now I can understand almost any person and situation from the deep inside (like, if simply, my boss want me to work more, but indeed he means just to give him more reports). life becomes sooooo much easier guys! I have problems with discipline ((( I had a great time management for 1.5 years, but last half a year I just got tired of this routine, and now I can't normally discipline myself((( But I've started to have a plan to make a plan to make a plan how to solve all this stuff in my life😂
Thanks for this vid. One of the vids about ENFP that described me so well 😁😂 And while listening to this vid and reading the comments, i had some reflections and evaluations to myself. i'm already developing these skills at my early age (slowly but surely) 😁 Thanks God! I think being a psych grad also helped me in my development.
This is so on point. Whilst i feel i have managed to hone in on these skills I do struggle with things like your more routine and repetitive subjects such as maths. Im just happy in one month school is over for me and i can finally pursue my passion.
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am enfp and have the hard time to watch this until its finished. i replayed it atleast 3 times cuz i got distracted. gahahaha
Ha, that actually helps my stats, so keep it up! Say no to focus :)
Obsessive compulsive method acting disorder. I don't have a personality I borrow them.
Yes, but this is probably the 10th video you’ve watched and you should get up and stretch but Si is sleeping... I stop when I get so blurry eyed I can read the comments. But I’m watching Dave Chapelle and other topics in the same sitting. Hard to stay focused!
Omg same wtf o:
Not to mention,with many other tabs opened at the same time #ENFP problem
I’m an ENFP and I learned very early not to over-promise. So now I tend to under promise and over deliver.
Good stuff
Preach!
Oh I'd love to that too!
damnnn! claps hands :D
over-promise, yes, that is how I motivate myself :)
Honestly, if an ENFP works out and gets a great bod we're unstoppable :)
This motivated me so much to work out now hahaha, I think it was the "unstoppable" part that inspired me, thank you anyway!
Hm. But I already have so many projects. When will I find the time 😂
*working out
*distracted
I'm an ENFP and my friends and other ppl say that i'm so great at working out and i looked fit af. But ofc, that's only when I ACTUALLY worked out. Cause u kno, ENFPs don't have the discipline to commit 😂 Guess I'll have to work on that
I study sports and nutrition, guess I'm on the right way😂😂
Hey ENFP's! I'm an INFJ and when I learned about y'all I realized I freaking love you guys! Have a great day!
Dope! Thank you on behalf of the tribe! My girlfriend is an INFJ, and you guys are badass yourselves!
Love You!!! 😍😍❤️ - An ENFP
and I freaking love INFJ!! Really!
Love you too x
You're awesome! 😘😘😘😘😘
Yes, storytelling... I have no patience because my mind is so full, and as soon as I start telling stories, in my mind, the story has already been told, but it wasnt actually, I just started :D
Same lmaoooo😂
Telling stories: when I go out and relax, I like to observe people and I always end inventing stories out of my Intuition for the people I m observing, then I pump the story adding humour too.. Delivering all of my stories with a half serious/half humorous joking way so that the people who pay attention to me always don't know if I'm joking or not.. And at the end they eventually label me as weird
I get that weird label too.
So many people can’t tell when I’m joking but sometimes I honestly just do it to find myself funny 😂😂😂
Yes!
Super late comment. I get the "weird" comment a lot too. I take it as a compliment. To me, it means I'm different.
ENFP and the discipline thing is so true. I'm nearly finished with my law degree and it's SO HARD TO KEEP FOCUSED because I'd rather be drawing. But I also love to learn and to challenge myself. And I really want to help people, which is why I'm studying. I just hate the structure and deadlines because it takes the fun out of it. Apparently I'm doing a good enough job of keeping my shit together because this is my last semester of school but uuugghhh I wanna do a different project SO FRICKEN BAD! I just keep telling myself that it'll be worth it when I am done and I can do whatever I want because I'll have more time! C:
Edit: The best thing about commenting here is that I don't feel like I have to change my comment for fear of sounding cray and over the top hahaha!
YESSS I hope you've graduated now and have more time for the stuff you like!! This comment gives me hope that I can follow through with an intense design degree that's gonna start soon!!
I honestly think it's better to put discipline into an enfp since early ages, in my case it helped a lot, I played volleyball and discipline was crucial
You're right about discipline. I used to think I could never be disciplined, I could read 10 books at a time coz I couldn't focus and I wanted to read them all and I end up not reading anything.
But I committed myself to reading one at a time and I really did. I also disciplined myself to stop taking sugary drinks, processed food. I started exercising and intermittent fasting.
Yeah, we so have that ability, and am a super enfp
Altho I want a video on self awareness. It's important we calm down and really examine patterns, understand who we are and become our better selfs coz enfps are awesome ppl that always stay true to their values and beliefs
Awesome work Miss Super ENFP :)
i feel you
Make a video on all them brother!
I agree; all of them.
Im ENFP male n i think the skills that i really need are
1. strategy management - no focus ADHD level
2. time management - no plan are followed
3. money management - no saving at all
4. project management - lack of detail
5. Physical health management - lack of sleeps/eats
S.M.A.R.T. Method
I'm struggling with DISCIPLINE.I've so many things/work to done but end up I'm doing nohing the whole day. I will do the work depends on my mood if I really really motivated then I can' stop doing it or I can do the task if it because last minute dateline. Sometime I think my brain only working during last minute. But I know this is such unproductive habit. Help me Dan.
MOODETH
MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
shadia.izzati tip for your question: teach yourself to set priorities. make sure you do something fun every day. plan something a week to perhaps months in advance that you are looking forward to. this gives you motivation to come up with several things that you like and will force you to set priorities. you can't get everything finished in a day or in a week. you have multiple responsibilities. prioritizing helps. When you learned to priorities you will be able to plann your day and week😊 good luck! Greetings from a creative ENFP
that's completely me!!
shadia.izzati same
I was always told growing up: "Don't speak when you're angry, don't make decisions when you're sad, and don't make promises when you're happy."
As an ENFP, I have strived to live this way but I do have my moments where my emotions do get the best of me. Although it's really hard for me to not be frustrated with myself, I'm glad I get to learn and continue to try again everyday😊
As an ENFP I can say that to find discipline is to find a reason to do it
*The only skills I need to master is*
1) - Social skills. Conversations are hard
2) - Keeping the friends I just made/ Not obsessing over them and their problems and being a weirdo
3) - Not falling for every nice person
4) - Not having a struggle between showing my quiet side or showing my loud side
5) - Not having a struggle between underthinking or overthinking
6) - Making friends
7) - Actually doing my homework
8) - Not having 89 tabs open on every computer
9) - Finding out how an enfp can also be a ravenclaw
10) - Figuring out if people find me funny or if Im just delusional
11) - The basic structure of a conversation
12) - Not winging everything because if I don't, I will panic and not sleep
13) - Showing my empathy, because theirs a lot and Im kinda embarrassed of it
14) - Not imagining a whole story with a person I just met
15) - Not getting really upset when someone gives me criticism
16) - Not only being a total weirdo, loud, childish person with ONLY my friends
17) - Being a perfectionist
18) - Learning maths
I feel like we're in kindergarten when it comes to the last one about communicating our shortcomings / falling thru with other people/deliverables. I would love to see a video that trains us better with this.
That's our tertiary cognitive function, extroverted thinking. Essentially it is our ability to be effective. Because it is our tertiary function, it is as if it is developed to a child level.
I’m okay at telling stories, I notice that people always pay closer attention and get excited when I’m about to tell a story, the problem is like you said I’m way too fast and I sometimes end the story thinking that everyone gets it but then I get so many questions when I’m done and it’s always questions that makes me think “was that not obvious when I was telling my story ?” I don’t know, sometimes I feel like people are going to magically get it from my head.
Sometimes it's hard to meet other enfps. It's nice to see others on here 😊 also I met a really nice enfp cashier the other day and it made my day
Just because you said it, I need to share this today :) www.dreamsaroundtheworld.com/dreamers
Ironically I'm struggling with communication. I thought I was an introvert for most of my life - Turns out I just got anxious af around people. Because of this, I didn't spend much time around people, it feels like I lost a lot of my communication skills and my carelessness. Even tho I've worked on it, I still don't feel like I'm good at communicating and connecting to people (which is shitty, cause I wanna do all that cool people-related stuff and form deep connections, but it just doesn't seem to work as well as I'd like it to)
Sometimes I wish I was a sensor, they seem so careless and like they don't overthink everything they do
Can you make a video about ways to satisfy the ENFP need for novelty, variety, and challenge while remaining disciplined? For instance I’m in college for psychology and am working receptionist and cashier jobs to complete school. How do I add spice to life without switching majors, job hopping, etc?
Great question
Join extracurriculars, try new restaurants, become an amateur anything by learning it online (UA-cam, wikipedia, whatever), lean in to spontaneity when you have free time, and if your major and job are important to you, use everything else above to keep you from swerving from that path.
Play mental games. Make the simple more complex and interesting in the imagination.
I love storytelling! I play dungeons and dragons and make up the story as I play with my son. Lots of fun. We also have a deck of storytelling cards- each card has a word on it... good practice for storytelling...
Story telling ! And discipline !
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Dan! Dan! You’re the man! Can you do a video on storytelling?
DISCIPLINE.............. I KNOW I NEED TO BE DISCIPLINED BUT THEN I LAUGH AT MYSELF AND SAY - IF I BECOME DISCIPLINED ONE DAY THE EARTH WILL STOP ROTATING 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂............. i am sorry but yea i have the explosion of energy n since all here in comment section are ENFP....... U know exactly what i am talking about😂😂😂
bruh i feel you 100%
Priya Mandlekar yep feel it
I agree with the discipline, although i am still training to be better at it.
I found it very helpful to make the discipline or things we discipline at as our identity.
(and we got our strength from our sense identity)
It is like you are owning a character/ traits that you believe.
For example, not drinking alcohol and sugar, is not me, and i don't do that.
Washing the dishes immediately after eating is me, and i am proud of that.
(i used not to be like that, but I own it, this me who clean and maintain healthy habit and change. This is me now and tomorrow.)
A tip for the enfps watching- watch it in at least 1.25x speed. This guy is too slow, and we tend to get distracted.
Also, I completely agree with this video, totally worth watching. Thanks
Your best video to date. Do a series on all of them. I think another skill to develop is how to articulate the thoughts that we have so that we can express ourselves to others in a way that is clear and understandable. So many of my learning moments have been wrapped up in strong feelings and when I try to explain a mind blowing moment I've had, it doesn't come out in a way that people don't get. You know what I mean?
I know exactly what you mean. It can be frustrating...
Discipline is my big issue. Things I love or feel committed to are easy for me but daily things I don’t like are a challenge! Thx for the great videos 😁
You're welcome Julie!
Discipline is my biggest need,then Follow Through. Especially with healthy routines.
Im an ENFP.
Today I came to know that why crowd loves to hear me from college time... especially when I make them visualize any story.
😂 follow through and communication. This is something I think I will always have to be mindful of and continue to work on.
Thanks Dan for your awesome video! I learnt these from your video,
1) Storytelling: Enhancing your storytelling skills can help captivate others and effectively convey your ideas. Focus on building a clear narrative structure, using descriptive language, and engaging your audience with emotions and vivid details.
2) Reading people: Developing your ability to read people involves observing their body language, facial expressions, and tone of voice. Pay attention to non-verbal cues and try to understand their underlying emotions and intentions.
3) Discipline: Cultivating discipline involves setting goals, creating routines, and staying committed to your tasks. Prioritize your time, break down larger goals into smaller, manageable steps, and hold yourself accountable to follow through.
4) Self-awareness: Self-awareness is about understanding your own thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. Reflect on your strengths, weaknesses, values, and motivations. This can help you make better decisions and improve your relationships with others.
5) Follow through and Communicate: To improve follow-through, create a system to track your commitments and deadlines. Improve communication by actively listening, expressing yourself clearly, and being responsive to others' needs.
Remember, practice and consistency are key to developing these skills. Keep learning, seeking feedback, and challenging yourself to grow.❤
I’m definitely guilty of the last point. I am trying to let people know if I can’t do something in time rather than letting people wait!
Ouch! Discipline & Communication - too close to home there. Also self awareness to realize when I'm repeating those patterns :P Good stuff Dan, enjoying your videos!
I really got to check out the videos and I probably will if I don't fall asleep but I don't usually sleep much I just found out the ENFP thing applied to me I knew there was something odd about me for 53 years I knew it certain things were very difficult and certain things were very easy and certain things we're just nauseating and I like to being mean to my introvert wife. They said that the impasse can be really bad people that's probably me no actually if I would have been mad when we had a home invasion I would have killed that guy but instead I talked his way out of his predicament after he tried to break my neck and my hair got in the way cuz long hair is lubricant I said I would teach him how to break necks I promised who is angry I feel bad for him he could not do what he intended to do he had no plan he had no gun you don't break into my house without a gu I'm getting anxious here I don't I want to laugh or cry or something anyway I'll actually saw some problems you don't have to get rid of a corpse or anything to you? do I need hazmat gear? damn!
Me and my 9 year old boy -both off the chart ENFPs. Thanks for the advice. Am now contacting every single person I said I would in past month...can't wait to watch more of your vids. Yes Hogwash is an excellent word-like the word b.s but much more polite. xxoo
Number 2 can backfire. You start worrying about people reactions and overthink everything. Sometimes it's better just ignore something, you cannot do anything about.
I was meeting my friend's pals. 2 of them literally told me, that im most awesome guy ever and it felt good. 1 of them was clearly feeling outsider and left. It kept me up whole night for some reason... People get bad vibes from you time to time and there is no way to help it. If you constantly try to read everyone, you will also read the negative emotions.
Discipline is a though one!!! Starting something exciting is easy, keeping the discipline. It also have to give satisfaction.
The other skills I have under control.
Introspection is my strongest skill
Omg, I'm in real estate and can 100% agree with the "I'll get that to you by tomorrow" pressure 🤣. Life got so much better when I learned to say "I'm booked up so I'll have it to you in the next few days", or send a quick text explaining that I'm human and can't get it done as well as I'd like to when I promised but still will!
So so true! You may enjoy my video on email management as well
Another good one could be journaling. ENFPs have so much to say to other people. I write in my journal at night to say what I want to say but what I know I shouldn't say to the person I want to. Instead I just write the journal entry like a letter to them. Then it's out of my system, I have engaged some weaker cognitive function muscles by thinking about what I am saying by writing it, and saving myself the social issue of "saying how I feel no matter the consequences".
I love these videos, as an enfp, I am always looking for fun things to learn! I especially have come to realize lately I need to be more in tune with myself, so thank you!
Guilty over number 5! I need that superpower!
I did the test multiple times… I won’t make it my whole personality… I just need to be pointed into the right direction to fix my flaws … I live in a dangerous neighbourhood thus have a lot of anxiety
Thank you
1 & 3 ! Even if you already have done much in your video on enfp and discipline.
Do not over promise & discipline
Spot on. Amazing how we are experts at recognizing patterns yet repeat them too!!
Self awareness is like, my weakest trait lmao. So many times I'll have a friend tell me "You tend to do things like this" or "you generally act this way" and it always blows my mind.
Something to work on I suppose :) My ENFP videos should help you develop this.
You are so right that we naturally lack discipline. But when we catch fire with an interest or hobby, we can develop a more organic discipline and the results are stellar!
Storytelling, discipline, and self-awareness!
Gimme dat 'follow through and communication' baybee. I do the "I'll just wake up early tomorrow" move with the excuses almost daily and it's destroying my entire life.
#5 for me. Communication for sure
Agreed
Making overpromisis is kind of a big problem.. 🤦🏻♀️
The last one was 100% the one that I related to the most, I really have to work on that one, thank you for this video !!
I vote for 1. Storytelling and 3. Discipline
Reading People/Self-Awareness (letting shy people talk and waiting for people to formulate what they want to say..and..then..say..it) is sooo exhausting. Part of the reason for my moving to New York is that people here communicate in a more straightforward unfiltered way. What many types would view as "rude". I have to constantly remind myself to be patient with work people (private equity/finance) so as not to come across overbearing. Thank goodness for finding a tribe/friend circle that accepts and enjoys your unfiltered self because they know where you are coming from. Fitting a mold to accommodate other people's palatable way of interaction makes me not want to interact at all. However, when I see it as an act of compassion in letting someone who is not strong in communication or expression have a chance to say something, I can do it with a smile instead of a grunt.
Well said
Yeah omfg I have discipline problems and it's probably seriously damaging my life at this point. I exercised twice in the last week tho!! That's an improvement!
I've always wanted to be better at storytelling. I am good but a few other people I know are amazingly great at it and I want that superpower.
Yeah I really have to work on discipline, I try going to the gym, trying to start streaming, and UA-cam, trying to read all the books I can, and working 40 hours a week and hanging out with my friends as much as I can makes me feel overwhelmed but I’m trying to journal and I write down what needs to be done to push myself to accomplish all that I want
I am ENFP and if I knew this information in my past, I would not have married 4 times. I'm now divorced again. I realize now at 52 that I needed to be free from controlling people and situations.
I get this - no matter how much i try i end up getting everyone else on the path and dont get on it myself - another superpower - facilitation but at a cost to self
Many people's told me when I'm excited, I can be a unstoppable machine, but I allways looked it over, since I thought they don't mean until I found out I am an ENFP-A Personality and now I understand those peoples actually meant it, now this video got me excited to push it even harder, thank you alot 🥳
You are welcome!
@@enfp 🖤🙌🏻
That thing you said about applying something to my code really stuck a chord! That's exactly how it feels when I make a life change.
Oh I am such a story teller! It’s important to learn how to stay on topic and finish the story
Tip #5..... As an ENFP, I totally related to the first 4. And the 5th one started to make me feel uncomfortable because I KNOW I drop the ball with following through on communication and “over committing” I hear you!
I often get in a room and instantly know what who is thinking of who in the room, how all people are feeling and whats going on. People used to insult me and asker runde question like "Why are you like that, do you have ADHD?". My answer today "No, I'm just myself. I don't ask you, why you are such a quiet follow"
Would love to see them all! But in particular, the story telling and how to hone that so that it's not just the "me" show but a way for me to help connect the room.
I feel happy that after fully finishing this video I’ve actually already got this stuff down and I don’t like bragging but ngl I feel proud of myself as an ENFP although I’m mostly good at storytelling
That''s great :)
Please make a video on Follow through and communication! Dan you're changing lives!
Thanks man!
i’m new to learning how to develop MBTI-wise. i’m reading the comments and thinking: people that actively try to improve themselves by watching these kinds of videos are my favorite type of people! they’re conscientious and thoughtful and wish to be the best version of themselves which is healthy and they’re probably great people to be around
Welcome aboard Hobi!
That’s a funny one ! I had a huge « brain file » opening up (bursting out) while on Ayahuasca one night, years ago. I saw around a dozen different situations in my life, all very vivid, where I told someone I was going to do something but I didn’t follow through after all. It was all a bunch of events from different times and places of my life, with absolutely different people. There was no way I could have recalled that many situations that were all linked to the same issue (of following through). It all came into my face (mind/consciousness) so suddenly. A huge PUNCH of awakening it was ! I decided then, that I would simply not commit anymore unless I was sure I could follow through. Today, years later, I’m still late everywhere I go 99.9% of the time (though, il put that in a different category of issue) but the commitments i fail (time wise) to follow through with, are usually flexible ones (regarding the time necessary to get them done). I definitely could be more reliable and more efficient at times. Saying No to what doesn’t turn me on is also a great way to follow through with all the things I truly want to do. Anyway, thanks for sharing again !
Oh wow guess I'm guilty on all of them at some level or another. The struggles are real, thanks for bringing awarenesss and tips on how to overcome these pitfalls.
Wow so far one of the most valuable contents I’ve ever received! Thank you
You're welcome, Wenny! Thanks for the kind words. :)
Discipline is a real problem for me!
I'd truly enjoy a video that goes more in depth with discipline!! As an ENFP, I've always had a hard time with DISCIPLINE!! And especially!! FOLLOWING THROUGH also something that I highly struggle with.
Thank you so much for your channel!! I just discovered you and subscribed!! I highly enjoy your content!!
Would appreciate more videos on Self-Awareness and recognizing patterns / introspection.. I noticed the lack of that ability in myself and started working on it over the last 5+ years.. simply put.. the lack of self-awareness makes you come up with reasons for finding excuses for not meeting commitments made due to the hyper-active mind constantly pushing things out) and that is never a good thing for one's credibility ..
That's a good idea, thanks! :)
I owe you so much Dan!!
About discipline... I really try to arrive on time! There are tons of channels telling us that we're always late. I hate it!
Yes!! Awesome ENFP-ness.😄👍🌈🌈
I dont think he realizes he is saying penis !! hahaha
Unrelated to my earlier comment, I would also like to see a video on how suppressed/underdeveloped E can lead to enhanced 'ability to read the room' and how to deal with the anticipatory nervousness (that could spiral into anxiety).
Number 5 hit me so hard! hahahahaha 1 to 4 has been a work in-progress, but 5 just woke me up saying, "why aren't you improving on this one, yet?" i love your channel!
I have a problem with point number 1. I can't really talk much except about the things I like or abstract stuff.
Number 5 is perhaps my biggest problem. Lately I'm aware of 'that' behavior (Let's do this! And then I disappear for a long time). Honestly, I think that's born out of fear of missing out. :(
Maybe you can elaborate more about point number 5? I want to be a more committed and focused person.
Anyway, thank you for your insights Dan! This one speaks to my soul. :D
Hey Feraldy, you're very welcome! Looks like I will do something on story telling. Really a bad story teller can ruin the most interesting adventure, and a good story teller can make cooking breakfast sound like a life changing epic...so doesn't matter too much about your interests.
I am the same man. When it's things I like, I am non stop, charming and engaging. When it's anything else i look like an idiot
Guilty of almost all…. Especially story telling as a good enfp 😅. The video is very useful
Hogwash 👍 great word. This video is so helpful. I’d love to develop my storytelling and self-awareness. I feel I can amuse my family with my stories but I’m not always as comfortable with strangers 😊
I am currently working on point 5 and 4. They are really important!!! My next move would be the point 3. I don't like to read people too much (to have my own peace XD and my current skill is enough to keep me outside of danger...), so I will let the point 2 be. And the first point would be the most komplex skill for me to develop, because I am using at least two foreign languages in my daily life...
Please all of them! Thank you so much!
Thank you! You nailed it. Even laughed as you were describing ENFPs pitfalls as they are exactly what I struggled with.
imagine roasting me so bad it hurts but this is too true to be real
Hi, I'm ENFP:)))))) I improved my social acuity skill with help of psychology, philosophy, profiling (I always wanna be like Sherlock or Mentalist). So now I can understand almost any person and situation from the deep inside (like, if simply, my boss want me to work more, but indeed he means just to give him more reports). life becomes sooooo much easier guys!
I have problems with discipline ((( I had a great time management for 1.5 years, but last half a year I just got tired of this routine, and now I can't normally discipline myself(((
But I've started to have a plan to make a plan to make a plan how to solve all this stuff in my life😂
My sense of humor: 3:48
#5 was so scary. I do that. Thanks for the advice. 😊
And omg on following through. Guilty!! I feel like I would be able to all the things I promised and sometimes I’m not able to 😩
watching stranger accurately exposing my behaviours kind of embarrassing tbh. thank you btw
Such an AMAZING video!💗💗💗
Thank you! :)
Thanks for this vid. One of the vids about ENFP that described me so well 😁😂
And while listening to this vid and reading the comments, i had some reflections and evaluations to myself. i'm already developing these skills at my early age (slowly but surely) 😁 Thanks God! I think being a psych grad also helped me in my development.
I’m not that good at storytelling 😅 I get lost in my thoughts and don’t know which parts are important to tell so can you do more about it? 🙌🏽
OMG I can so relate to the #5... I have problems with my boss because of that. Wanna cry.
This is so on point. Whilst i feel i have managed to hone in on these skills I do struggle with things like your more routine and repetitive subjects such as maths. Im just happy in one month school is over for me and i can finally pursue my passion.
Just found the video and these are so precisely what I am struggling with. Thank you, wish I could get through these.
Glad it was helpful!
Thank you, I am glad you find it useful
Self awareness 👍🏻
I make the same mistakes over and over and over and over...I could go on, but you get the picture 🤣
Great work.
I would be great if you could make videos on all of them or you could just make one video pointing us to resources or books we can use.