I'm 71 never been married as it scares me to death thinking I'm tied down with too much responsibility. Besides I like being on my own despite it being lonely sometimes better than being miserable.
Met my girl at 16 had a baby at 17 got married at 26 . Had a second child and then a 3rd. Stayed married for 16 years. Helped her go from a size 18+ down to a size 4 and then all the guys started to notice her. She liked the attention so much that she cheated. The marriage ended at the age of 42 with her walking away with $140k in cash and me taking custody of the kids. Raised the kids. Put them through private high schools and college. I will never marry again.
Their is nothing better then being married to the right women, but the wrong one can be pure hell. I was married to my first wife for 31 years until she died of cancer. She was absolutely amazing. My second marriage only lasted 5 years. I Will NOT do it again. The woman in the US are all about themselves and the courts lean in her favor. Example: I know a guy that his wife wanted a new house. He had one built for her but he had to work two jobs to pay for it. She divorced him because he was not home enough. He has to pay her child support, alimony, and still pay the mortgage on the house. He lives in his car. True story.
That is all too often the case for a lot of guys. It makes me sick to my stomach. men have no safety net, if they don’t make one themselves. To paraphrase Don Corleone.. “Men don’t have the luxury of being careless, women and children can, but not men”
I feel you brother Calvin. I was married for 17yrs and I can tell you without a shadow of a doubt, that I'm never getting married again. Not in this life nor the next.
Marriage is a contract for security, servitude, and compliance. People stop working to better each other resulting in laziness, accepting the roles that they fall into. Some women are desperate to be taken care of instead of the pursuit of continuous improvement as if they have come to the end of their lives. I agree with you Cal that two people need to have the awareness of engagement and to never stop trying to better themselves or be lulled into being complacent.
I absolutely agree with your logic. I was married to a wonderful woman for over 40 years until she passed away. I'm not likely to hit the marriage jackpot a second time so I'm not going to try. I like the idea of being in a relationship and I also like the idea of simply being able to leave it if it isn't working. The older I get the more I value keeping things simple.
I'm 57 and never been married and never will get married, even when I retire there in the PH next year. I'm learning my lessons through guys like you by seeing and hearing what you have gone through. Thanks for sharing your experience Sir........
My brother we on the same path I am 56 years old never been married and should stay unmarried . I moved to the Philippines in February 2022 I am renting only . I am in control of my life
Dont lose your way, he got the bad experienced that does not mean you will have that kind of experience too Always look positive on the outside world Never deprive your Happiness I had so much bad experiences too in a relationship but that does not mean i will have a bad man forever I treasured good and bad experiences as just a whole lot to say its part of life that taught me to be more wiser and stronger
I think thats fine if you are in the United States; but, PH is a Catholic country. I think it is unfair to go there and bring western views, and live with someone and not marry them as per local customs. I just think its wrong to bring our values there.
I am in total agreement. I am twice divorced. I lost three children, and two homes. Additionally, I lost a subway franchise after my first marriage. I am fortunate to have four federal retirements. There is a market, where females are comfortable being a girlfriend versus being a wife. I will consider both Thailand and The Philippines. I am learning from brothers who are boots on the ground! I will be very educated on living in Asia when my time to retire.
Calvin, the reason the relationship changes after marriage is because she finally got what she wanted. And what she wanted was leverage. She gains that thru marriage and with children. If she doesn't have either, then she only has leverage with the man who would sell his soul to her. This man, she can control and manipulate and get him to capitulate to her, even marriage. If she has kids, she has 50% leverage. Marriage and kids she has 99% leverage. If she has neither, then it's only what can be agreed upon and compromised between two people. She dislikes this position the most. This is also a primary reason women hate prenuptial agreements. A prenup represents a lost of a lot of leverage.
Been there and done that! Next year I am retiring to The Philippines, and only will seek companionship. 2 divorces and a deceased fiancée; Pamala. That’s enough commitment for my lifetime .
@@skybox-fs6dv I will live in a province. I have experienced Manila; when I was much younger. I have targeted Palawan Island and Dumaguete. It’s a good chance I will settle in Dumaguete City. I will use the rest of the year to sell household items, my 2 cars, and an abundance of new auto parts. I do have a girlfriend, but I will only miss my 2019 Ford Mustang GT!
@@henrymcmiller2527 Good luck bro and many blessings to you on your permanent journey to the Philippines. Dumaguete was the very first place I ever visited in the Philippines back in 2008. We will be visiting Palawan in 2023. El Nido and Coron to be specific, plus a few other places as well. Try to pick a place that has adequate medical facilities. You will need that at some point.👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
@@skybox-fs6dv Thanks brother. My mind is set on the Philippines, but I must visit Northern Thailand, but I am most comfortable with English speaking Asians. And yes healthcare is very important. It’s comforting to know that there is a VA facility in Manila. I wish you and your family the very best.
I was just talking about this yesterday Calvin. Some, not all women operate solely on emotions and feelings, just look at that female Sheriff's deputy who help that inmate escape. I work in healthcare and I continue to encounter tons of married women who think the grass is greener outside their marriage and divorce their husbands because they're not "happy" and wreck their own homes, cause trauma to themselves, their children and not to mention the man. My ex divorced me because she was strong and independent and no longer needed me. Although it hurt at the time she did me a huge favor, I've doubled my income, I'll be paying my house off this year and can retire today at 51 if I so choose too. I agree marriage will definitely change things especially here in the west. I'll see you December sir! God bless.
Calvin, I've been married damn near 30 years. If I get divorced, I know I'm not getting married again. Too much work and giving of oneself. I would have a life partner until I lay in my grave.
I truly believe that any man going over to the Philippines who is already heading for that golden age and has already had a family, should get a vasectomy before heading to the Philippines, if will follow the rules here then the big one would be. NO REASON TO MAKE MORE BABIES. If marriage is off the table then so should making more children that you can just walk away from if the relationship doesn't work out.
Yes I agree, I speak in behalf of all women that have that desire to get married, want the relationship to last but walk in the eggshell because he doesn't offer security. Been there and done that, I have kid with him and left alone but I'm all good now. I understand why these men thinks but let's just say if you worry that then your gf also worry as well and it hurts. Some just couldn't say it, some resorts to push you away by acting complicated. I still think every woman deserves a husband, if you done the marriage part then what about those other young girls that spent 5-10yrs with you? She just wasted her youth for nothing then
@@Meakamea stay strong and something better will show up for you, the biggest thing is keep working on making yourself a better person so that you never feel the need to have a man or any other person need to make you feel better.
@@michaelanthony679 I got myself a man now and he is an open minded person, he doesn't even feel threatened that I'm half younger Nad have 2 kids. We are going to the states, I've been blessed after all the pain I went through with my past. And yes I am better person than before, thank you sir😊
As a witness to this Calvin, I couldn't disagree with your list, for its spot on. Why us men can't get out of that thinking marriage would last forever. Especially if you going to live in a country where you don't know the culture or women very well. You said it in many of your past videos, us Americans are not their first choice and we probably are not even second on their list. So count the odds againt us even bigger. We truly don't know how she thinks because deep conversations are not enough had. It's a finanicialship before relationships with the pinays. Love comes later - shout out to Calvin who tells the truth. EXPOSED
You are Right. Each Attempt has the odds of being worse than the first. in most cases. I know there are some exceptions to the rules.. But the exception is not the rule. I've been married for 35 years. I always said I would remarry if I got divorce. But as I got older. I think I got a little bit wiser. But to each his own but I definitely agree with you Calvin. Continue blessings to you in your family.
"It's all about happiness for me from here on out. I'm responsible for my own happiness; I'm not going to put it in the hands of someone else anymore. I'm not going to be fooled into thinking that happiness lies outside of me." Wow. This really resonates with me. I know exactly where you're coming from.
Once again I agree with you 100 percent! You and Marilyn are helping each other live your best life. You and Marilyn are GREAT life partners for each other.
Everyone has their own opinion which is truly respected on marriage. As long as a couple both agree to be partners for life that’s great you both happy, but if one wants marriage and the other doesn’t they should be fair and let the other go to be happy and find that marriage they want in their hearts and not try to hold them unless they want to be held on to.
Calvin, I’ve been watching you for a wile , just got back from Philippines for one month , decided not to go through with plans to get with the girl I was with !!! Towards the end of month she started to give silent treatment and after watching this vid , it hit me !!! Loved all 7 reasons !!! Calvin , you are a good man just a few years older , also you are smart and level headed !! I’m sure if we met we would get along !! Take care brother
Hopefully you didn't spent too much money on her. The one lesson I learned is never to spend a lot of money on a woman until one is 💯% sure that she is in to settle down.
Calvin you bring up 7 really good points. I've seen good marriages but they are the exemption , very rare in todays world. The brother closest to me has been married 3 times & each time it seemed to get worse for him. Cost him more each time. Not fun. Especially during the rockiest times he was emotionally drained & couldn't think straight until it was over with. So I've managed to stay single but have had many girlfriends in the past. I keep remembering what my brother went thru each time the girl friends started getting serious. When they couldn't budge me the sex stopped the silent treatment started. To me it just made it easier to cut that relationship off ! Now when a beautiful woman turns my head I remember how much marriage has cost my brother. A perpetual courtship with no marriage involved has all the advantages but none of the real devastating hazards.
Oh my I think you made this video for me I have been a farmer you have touched on good points Calvin I totally agree with you I don’t want sadness anymore either . I can still remember the first time when things went bad take care Calvin enjoy your day
Thank you very much, my dear Calvin, for sharing your great "7 Reasons Why I Will NEVER Get Married" video. I really enjoyed this one in particular. Have a wonderful day every day and best regards/Ned 👏💪🏽👏
Hey Calvin my dear friend, Great video as usual. Thank you for sharing brother. Please stay safe and healthy, and God bless you and your family always.😊 😊 😊 ❤️ ❤️ ❤️
I got my divorce settled after 15 years of marriage in 2020. 2 years of Therapy once a week, she got both Rottweilers, My new Lincoln Navigator, All (5) children begged to live with me but the judge ordered them to her, my bass boat ordered to her which she sold for$1,000 worth$12,000, completely emptied my main checking account. Last week she filed for bankruptcy, living on section 8, and failed to get custody of my children who have their own bedrooms and vehicles. Did I mention she was found guilty of Welfare fraud last year?? Definitely passing on the marriage scene. My kid's playing in the pool as I type this.👌
I couldn't have said it better Mr. Calvin. Like you sir, I also experienced this BS! The best way to keep your happiness, assets and income safe is to NEVER PLAY THE GAME!!! This video is a must for all the people that need a wake up call. Cheers!
I was visiting with two high school buddies and their wives. Both couples have been married 45+ years. I was complimenting them on having successful marriages, when one friend interrupted me to say and the other friends wife chimed in to agree, “we just don’t have anyplace else to go!”
thank you Calvin 😊 Be Happy always ❤ Love , Blessings . i will go to sleep with a Smile on my Face now , this Really clears it straight , it makes Sense , and no more Block in my Heart , about the thought , of getting devorced . Or Being Worried of the Complicated attitudes after Marriage , As You Say Calvin ,, it keeps Her Honest ,, i like that . and so much more of your Brilliant things Spoken in this Video . Thank You from Amsterdam , The Netherlands , see you Brother . i am thinking about this ... is truly his brothers keeper . yes about You Calvin .
Calvin, thank you for sharing.... In my humble opinion, marriage is not for everyone nor is each marriage the same...I believe that a marriage has many pros and cons and depending on what it is you seek, dictates where a person should be....as one who has been married twice, divorced twice these are the pros and cons as I see them: Pros: 1. Marriage is sign of true love..it tells the woman you have stopped looking, that she is it. 2. Shows trust, that she is your present and future. The woman doesn't live on pins and needles..that you don't wake tomorrow, tap your head and say I'm moving out today, I'm not happy. 3. It's a mutual contract with the person you love, that you will be around for better or worse.. 4. Your children are not bastards, they live in a lawful wedded couple's union. 5. As a Christian the Bible calls for marriage.... 6. It's a presentation to the family and the public that you are committed to one another. The Cons: 1. A huge financial loss if it ends in divorce. 2. After marriage many couples stop taking care of themselves, gain weight, no longer care about how they look even give up hygiene 3. Become less attentive to their partner's needs.. 4. They forget what brought them together.. 5. The odds of failure as a couple increase... My final take is this, if we are not interested in marriage fine, but do tell her from the first date...don't drag her along and waste her youth thinking you will marry her...be fair If from the beginning she knows you don't want marriage and she still hangs around, then it's on her... Finally, robbing the woman of her dream to marry is the cruelest thing a man can do, our life is short...
Bro, great view of the beach 🏖…you are making me salivate at the thought of being there now. Damnit! Also, I glad you aren’t wearing Boobe’s extra, extra, extra small t-shirt in this video 😂. Enjoy your time at the beach!
As I mentioned in my previous comment, when a man isn't honest about his intentions (not interested in marriage) he literally robbes her of the opportunity to marry...almost every woman dreams of marriage...this concept of marriage is programmed in every woman...we can argue that many marry for the wrong reasons, a better economic situation, green card, etc..however, assuming you made a good choice in selecting the woman, marriage is equal to true love and total trust..
Just sad that you had bad experience in the past and that prevents you from having a wonderful future. Sure there are many reasons to never get married, especially in the usa, but in the phils, you marry for life.
I hear you... Just don't close your mind completely to that possibility one day. You can still meet that woman that is willing to give you her world to be part of your's too, and you can in turn give her that security and validation that she chose wisely. I could very easily have that mindset with more than one failed marriage, but I also see that as robbing myself of something good that I could experience one day with the "right" person. The people in my past that didn't deserve my vows shouldn't be the reason I close doors for myself now or in the future. 🙂
Great words @RayMahannah. I hope Calvin keeps an open mind about Marilyn. From the outside, Marilyn seems to be a loving and supportive woman that is willing to give Calvin her loyalty, her faithfulness, her love and her care, until his dying day. If Calvin would ever choose to take one more chance at marriage, I pray it's with Marilyn. Brother Calvin, I certainly can't blame you. I'm on wife#2 and I don't think I would marry again if something were to happen to my wife. I have a wonderful Filipina wife this time around. We are good for each other and are committed to following the LORD's guidance for our marriage. It makes all the difference in our marriage. God Bless You Brother Calvin! 🙏🏾💪🏾
Hi Calvin. Checked out you video. Two things I noticed from your argument about not marrying again. Although it might not have been intended, 1) it sounds as though there's no intention of full commitment. Just run even if it's your fault. 2) nothing my friend is ever free, especially that "milk." Live your best life and be happy bro.
Calvin I thoroughly enjoyed this Video Blog , ye say like tis and it makes so much sense on many levels. Especially now in this part of history when greed and corruption is rife no matter where ye are, it works Brother May the Gods be good to ye and Family in the PI.🇮🇪☘️🇵🇭☘️🇺🇸
Helped some people over the past few days. Thanks for the reminder! I 100% agree with you about marriage. I have never been married but I don't think it's the ideal plan. Life is too short to be going around making huge mistakes like that.
ABSOLUTELY! If two people want to be with one another - to be a team that complement each other, they don’t need an official document for that purpose. All too often, the marriage becomes a tool of control - leverage used by one party over the other. The sad reality is that the ‘institution’ of marriage (which has its roots in the construct of religion with a splash of governmental intervention) affects the daily lives of millions of people. Insurance benefits for spouses and children are largely tied to marital status. Income taxation is strongly tied to the legal ‘dependency’ status of family units. I have known people that have gotten married in order to provide insurance coverage for an accidental pregnancy. I have known older couples who have gotten divorced (although they didn’t want to and they still stayed together) because of the benefit implications of either Social Security and/or the need for one of them to go into assisted living! This seems to be more of an issue of personal liberty to me - and, I agree with you Calvin: the best way to avoid the pitfalls and misery is to not get married.
Wonderfully divorced since 2008, no kids, no alimony. I will never get married again, the risk is waaaay greater than the reward. I get on crack at this life and I am going to spend it being happy as I can possibly be.
I have to say I have not always agreed with you. However, you are spot on with all your seven points and I am sure you can think of more reasons. My first wife was ok but I just wanted to be free. Yes it was extremely costly. Then I get over here from the States lived with the girl for eight years and then we got married. The biggest issue is soon after the ink was dry on the contract I guess she figured she no longer was required to respect me and she could do whatever the hell she pleased. Well if it’s broke beyond repair stop wasting time and money trying to put shatter pieces back together again.
This one really hit home for me. I got divorced in 2003, I filed for it in 2001, my wife refused to sign the papers… things almost got ugly. I said I will never sacrifice my happiness, sanity and wellbeing for another person ever again. Was it easy for you to build your house without being married? “Why buy the milk when you can rent it?” I love that
Thank you Calvin 57 American on his second marriage. After I get divorced i don’t want a 3rd bite at the apple. Coming to the Philippines to rent the cow 👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾
I agree with all your reasons and more power to you because of them. I’m 49 and have never been married or have kids ( as far as I know lol) the divorce courts favor the women more than men plus the term Grey Divorce is more of a reality because you have less time to recoup any financial losses. My parents have been married 45+ years but those marriages are few and far between nowadays. I enjoy my freedom and I can choose to be single or have a short fling but in the end it’s just me. We came into this world alone and we will leave alone. Might as well be happy and enjoy it on our own terms. Stay strong and stay single my brother 👊
Mr. Calvin, I respect your personal thoughts and opinions on marriage but encouraging subscribers to live or continue living unmarried is related to being a fool is ridiculous in my opinion. God is the one who instituted marriages. I've failed and marriage myself and plan to marry again instead of living in sin, but being a fool is uncalled for because you, me, and perhaps more than 50 percent of marriages has ended in divorce. Once again, I truly respect your personal decision and I'm sure that perhaps most agree with you but I'm just expressing my opinion. There are many Expats have and will continue to come to the Philippines and find true love, and some for the first time. I think they should be encouraged with caution. Marriage is not about "me" being happy although I plan to be happy pleasing my wife. (Sacrifice) By the way, I think that you and your live in partner makes a great couple. Hope you change your mind and turn it over to the Lord 😉
My brother, show me where in the scriptures does it say that the state has to dictate whether two people are married and provide a marriage license? I'll wait. In fact the scriptures teaches that if you lay with a woman she is already your wife end of story. Was there a marriage license from the state involved in the marriage of Rebecca and Isaac or did the scripture simply say that when he entered her she became his wife.
@@maximuscryptosx9424 I come in peace my friend. I heard the same video that you did. I'm not trying to spread anything. I've been subscribed to this channel for a long time. Apparently you're being convicted yourself. No need trying to curse or attack me. I can handle it brother. Calvin don't need anyone speaking for him. He's from Kentucky! He can handle it..... Nice try brother
I understand what u are saying brother but just understand that Calvin is coming from a practical wisdom. U are coming from a spiritual wisdom in which I understand and agree with but don't expect Calvin understand something he has yet experience personally. But I'm sure your prayers are welcomed.
@@richleon1474 No need to attack me because you're probably living in sin trying to justify yourself. I responded respectfully to "Calvin" but apparently I see people are being convicted.. I'm not your judge brother! Do your thang! You don't have to answer to me... No need to try to impress me by talking scripture. I've been here for a long time to know that Calvin don't need nobody talking or defending him. You know that! Like I've already said, you must be feeling convicted yourself... Do your thang brother! .. Nice try
This reminds me of that torture scene from the movie _Hot Shots Part Deux:_ *Interrogator:* I see you are no stranger to pain. *Colonel Walters:* I've been married. *Interrogator:* (nods in agreement and sympathy) *Colonel Walters:* Twice! *Interrogator:* (winces as his colleague silently gasps in the background) Oi!
I've been married for 14 years . If this doesn't work out, I will never get married again too. The stakes are too high but so far I've been very lucky and grateful. By the way, her family is from Bantayan Island
Yes, happiness comes from within. Everything starts at home. I know all to well No one will take care of me as well as I do. Simply because no one knows me like I do. Don't need no one. I came into this world without anyone or anything and I will leave the same way. You will too.
Brother you will leave this world on your own, that's true, but you didn't come into to it on your own, no sir. A woman brought you into it and a woman could take you out of it just as easy. ☺️
Most natural vaginal births occur because the BABY is forcing it's way out. At best, the mother only assists this process by pushing. The baby will come out one way or the other. And if it's a C-section, the doctor is the one bringing the baby into the world. Just to be technically accurate here.
Lmao Calvin 🤣imagine saying that in the west 🤬but 100%right told my Filipina gf I not need a government piece of paper to say we are one! But either one mess up n look out 🤣 keeps the flame burning lol
Hmmm.....Calvin....you have some interesting reasons. Of course some of your reasons I wondered about...# 5. I took that as you saying " My way or the highway. I have been married 3 times all to black woman and I was the one that divorced them. It wasn't until I met my philipina wife that in kuwait that changed my attitude and perspective on marriage. She has been the best thing in my life . My first wife lasted 9yrs, second 5 yrs, third about 4 yrs. Now with my philipina we are going on 14 yrs this coming Nov. Its what you make it Calvin. I realized early on that I couldnt bring my western minded ways and thinking about relationships into my marriage with may now philipina wife. I could talk allot about this subject. Just letting you know Calvin since you do have a good woman and she obviously sees you as a good man then do what is right. Ok be well and take care.
Don't put words in my mouth. I said I'm responsible for my own happiness. IF we don't see eye to eye we can part ways. You're in the twilight zone of marriage and don't know it 🤣
Married 3x. One kid from one woman and one more from a second. I paid child support most my life. Always carried a mortgage for.the family. No more kids, and no marriage. Been single for over 10 years. I'm 54 in Davou, and retired. I'm just free and chilling.
My ex-wife before the marriage, I love you I love you. After six years of dating, her new words fxxk you fxxk you lol. Divorced 10 months later. The filipina I met in 2015 was beautiful, once she thought she had me, she started gaining weight and getting a lot of tattoos. She became americanized from the Philippines. Thank God I dodged a bullet 🙏
I'm 71 never been married as it scares me to death thinking I'm tied down with too much responsibility. Besides I like being on my own despite it being lonely sometimes better than being miserable.
Met my girl at 16 had a baby at 17 got married at 26 . Had a second child and then a 3rd. Stayed married for 16 years. Helped her go from a size 18+ down to a size 4 and then all the guys started to notice her. She liked the attention so much that she cheated. The marriage ended at the age of 42 with her walking away with $140k in cash and me taking custody of the kids. Raised the kids. Put them through private high schools and college. I will never marry again.
Heart felt.
its traumatic to get married again
That's one reason to never ever date a big woman.
@@NYJGreatness Today at the age of 60 she is living with her parents and bigger than the size 18 she was before...and no man in her life
Hypergamy Right There
Their is nothing better then being married to the right women, but the wrong one can be pure hell. I was married to my first wife for 31 years until she died of cancer. She was absolutely amazing. My second marriage only lasted 5 years. I Will NOT do it again. The woman in the US are all about themselves and the courts lean in her favor. Example: I know a guy that his wife wanted a new house. He had one built for her but he had to work two jobs to pay for it. She divorced him because he was not home enough. He has to pay her child support, alimony, and still pay the mortgage on the house. He lives in his car. True story.
It's sad not knowing the worth of a good man !
That is all too often the case for a lot of guys. It makes me sick to my stomach. men have no safety net, if they don’t make one themselves. To paraphrase Don Corleone.. “Men don’t have the luxury of being careless, women and children can, but not men”
DAMED SHAME ...I am blessed to be single and will remained that way
He's lucky he still has his car...
Damn that story is far worse than my story.
I feel you brother Calvin. I was married for 17yrs and I can tell you without a shadow of a doubt, that I'm never getting married again. Not in this life nor the next.
Marriage is a contract for security, servitude, and compliance. People stop working to better each other resulting in laziness, accepting the roles that they fall into. Some women are desperate to be taken care of instead of the pursuit of continuous improvement as if they have come to the end of their lives. I agree with you Cal that two people need to have the awareness of engagement and to never stop trying to better themselves or be lulled into being complacent.
I agree Mr. 7 Mile and Greenfield :)
Some women have the Wisdom to know not to fall into that trap who we can learn from and admire, it's a rare breed but they are not all the same.
I absolutely agree with your logic. I was married to a wonderful woman for over 40 years until she passed away. I'm not likely to hit the marriage jackpot a second time so I'm not going to try. I like the idea of being in a relationship and I also like the idea of simply being able to leave it if it isn't working. The older I get the more I value keeping things simple.
The first time it's a triumph of hope over reason, the second time it's the triumph of stupidity over experience.
I'm 57 and never been married and never will get married, even when I retire there in the PH next year. I'm learning my lessons through guys like you by seeing and hearing what you have gone through. Thanks for sharing your experience Sir........
My brother we on the same path I am 56 years old never been married and should stay unmarried . I moved to the Philippines in February 2022 I am renting only . I am in control of my life
57 and never married as well brutha .. totally relate
Dont lose your way, he got the bad experienced that does not mean you will have that kind of experience too
Always look positive on the outside world
Never deprive your Happiness
I had so much bad experiences too in a relationship but that does not mean i will have a bad man forever
I treasured good and bad experiences as just a whole lot to say its part of life that taught me to be more wiser and stronger
I think thats fine if you are in the United States; but, PH is a Catholic country. I think it is unfair to go there and bring western views, and live with someone and not marry them as per local customs.
I just think its wrong to bring our values there.
@@canaryinacoalmine7267
who said anyyhing about living with them?
I am in total agreement. I am twice divorced. I lost three children, and two homes. Additionally, I lost a subway franchise after my first marriage. I am fortunate to have four federal retirements. There is a market, where females are comfortable being a girlfriend versus being a wife. I will consider both Thailand and The Philippines. I am learning from brothers who are boots on the ground! I will be very educated on living in Asia when my time to retire.
Calvin, the reason the relationship changes after marriage is because she finally got what she wanted. And what she wanted was leverage. She gains that thru marriage and with children. If she doesn't have either, then she only has leverage with the man who would sell his soul to her. This man, she can control and manipulate and get him to capitulate to her, even marriage. If she has kids, she has 50% leverage. Marriage and kids she has 99% leverage. If she has neither, then it's only what can be agreed upon and compromised between two people. She dislikes this position the most. This is also a primary reason women hate prenuptial agreements. A prenup represents a lost of a lot of leverage.
Been there and done that! Next year I am retiring to The Philippines, and only will seek companionship. 2 divorces and a deceased fiancée; Pamala. That’s enough commitment for my lifetime .
@@henrymcmiller2527 Good luck bro. Will you be living in a city or in a province area? Just curious!
@@skybox-fs6dv I will live in a province. I have experienced Manila; when I was much younger.
I have targeted Palawan Island and Dumaguete. It’s a good chance I will settle in Dumaguete City. I will use the rest of the year to sell household items, my 2 cars, and an abundance of new auto parts. I do have a girlfriend, but I will only miss my 2019 Ford Mustang GT!
@@henrymcmiller2527 Good luck bro and many blessings to you on your permanent journey to the Philippines. Dumaguete was the very first place I ever visited in the Philippines back in 2008. We will be visiting Palawan in 2023. El Nido and Coron to be specific, plus a few other places as well. Try to pick a place that has adequate medical facilities. You will need that at some point.👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
@@skybox-fs6dv Thanks brother. My mind is set on the Philippines, but I must visit Northern Thailand, but I am most comfortable with English speaking Asians. And yes healthcare is very important. It’s comforting to know that there is a VA facility in Manila. I wish you and your family the very best.
I was just talking about this yesterday Calvin. Some, not all women operate solely on emotions and feelings, just look at that female Sheriff's deputy who help that inmate escape. I work in healthcare and I continue to encounter tons of married women who think the grass is greener outside their marriage and divorce their husbands because they're not "happy" and wreck their own homes, cause trauma to themselves, their children and not to mention the man. My ex divorced me because she was strong and independent and no longer needed me. Although it hurt at the time she did me a huge favor, I've doubled my income, I'll be paying my house off this year and can retire today at 51 if I so choose too. I agree marriage will definitely change things especially here in the west. I'll see you December sir! God bless.
same here bro
Damn, Calvin, you know just how to say what we all need to hear!
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Calvin,
I've been married damn near 30 years. If I get divorced, I know I'm not getting married again. Too much work and giving of oneself. I would have a life partner until I lay in my grave.
I truly believe that any man going over to the Philippines who is already heading for that golden age and has already had a family, should get a vasectomy before heading to the Philippines, if will follow the rules here then the big one would be. NO REASON TO MAKE MORE BABIES. If marriage is off the table then so should making more children that you can just walk away from if the relationship doesn't work out.
Yes I agree, I speak in behalf of all women that have that desire to get married, want the relationship to last but walk in the eggshell because he doesn't offer security. Been there and done that, I have kid with him and left alone but I'm all good now. I understand why these men thinks but let's just say if you worry that then your gf also worry as well and it hurts. Some just couldn't say it, some resorts to push you away by acting complicated. I still think every woman deserves a husband, if you done the marriage part then what about those other young girls that spent 5-10yrs with you? She just wasted her youth for nothing then
@@Meakamea stay strong and something better will show up for you, the biggest thing is keep working on making yourself a better person so that you never feel the need to have a man or any other person need to make you feel better.
@@michaelanthony679 I got myself a man now and he is an open minded person, he doesn't even feel threatened that I'm half younger Nad have 2 kids. We are going to the states, I've been blessed after all the pain I went through with my past. And yes I am better person than before, thank you sir😊
I totally agree with you.
As a witness to this Calvin, I couldn't disagree with your list, for its spot on. Why us men can't get out of that thinking marriage would last forever. Especially if you going to live in a country where you don't know the culture or women very well. You said it in many of your past videos, us Americans are not their first choice and we probably are not even second on their list. So count the odds againt us even bigger. We truly don't know how she thinks because deep conversations are not enough had. It's a finanicialship before relationships with the pinays. Love comes later - shout out to Calvin who tells the truth. EXPOSED
You are Right. Each Attempt has the odds of being worse than the first. in most cases. I know there are some exceptions to the rules.. But the exception is not the rule. I've been married for 35 years. I always said I would remarry if I got divorce. But as I got older. I think I got a little bit wiser. But to each his own but I definitely agree with you Calvin. Continue blessings to you in your family.
Hello Calvin love love your content! I cannot wait to visit one day! Thank you again for the beautiful landscape! much love to you and your family :)
Amen! We as men are responsible for our own happiness. Can't no one make you happy like yourself!
"It's all about happiness for me from here on out. I'm responsible for my own happiness; I'm not going to put it in the hands of someone else anymore. I'm not going to be fooled into thinking that happiness lies outside of me." Wow. This really resonates with me. I know exactly where you're coming from.
ur right
Once again I agree with you 100 percent! You and Marilyn are helping each other live your best life. You and Marilyn are GREAT life partners for each other.
This blog was so tight. ...that l had to send you a second message. You're the man!!
What's up Agymah?
If it (the relationship) ain't broke, don't break it (by getting married). Wise words, brother.
Everyone has their own opinion which is truly respected on marriage. As long as a couple both agree to be partners for life that’s great you both happy, but if one wants marriage and the other doesn’t they should be fair and let the other go to be happy and find that marriage they want in their hearts and not try to hold them unless they want to be held on to.
If you find a lawyer, doctor, dentist, professional woman (or pinay), marry that woman ASAP, as long as she ticks most boxes and she's not crazy.
No truer words ever spoken, thank you bro.👍🏽
This was a fantastic look at things. I completely agree.
Easy to get married when she's young and looks good
Calvin is the.Master of Common Sense. Great inspiration bro. 💯
Calvin, I’ve been watching you for a wile , just got back from Philippines for one month , decided not to go through with plans to get with the girl I was with !!! Towards the end of month she started to give silent treatment and after watching this vid , it hit me !!! Loved all 7 reasons !!! Calvin , you are a good man just a few years older , also you are smart and level headed !! I’m sure if we met we would get along !! Take care brother
If shes giving you that sort of treatment be aware 100%she have another man sad to say this but I'm a woman I can sense it
Find another one
@@RLV_RLV true some women if you don't give what they want they act childish so many women out here better find one
Hopefully you didn't spent too much money on her. The one lesson I learned is never to spend a lot of money on a woman until one is 💯% sure that she is in to settle down.
@@ernestmalonkane8668 somehow yes but it's require to spend in a relationship not just free
The fact that you accept your mistakes is sobering! PEACE!
Calvin you bring up 7 really good points. I've seen good marriages but they are the exemption , very rare in todays world. The brother closest to me has been married 3 times & each time it seemed to get worse for him. Cost him more each time. Not fun. Especially during the rockiest times he was emotionally drained & couldn't think straight until it was over with. So I've managed to stay single but have had many girlfriends in the past. I keep remembering what my brother went thru each time the girl friends started getting serious. When they couldn't budge me the sex stopped the silent treatment started. To me it just made it easier to cut that relationship off ! Now when a beautiful woman turns my head I remember how much marriage has cost my brother. A perpetual courtship with no marriage involved has all the advantages but none of the real devastating hazards.
Some people like marriage
Some people love marriage
Some people disagree.
Some people can't sustain a marriage
To each is own.
Oh my I think you made this video for me I have been a farmer you have touched on good points Calvin I totally agree with you I don’t want sadness anymore either . I can still remember the first time when things went bad take care Calvin enjoy your day
man, ive listened to this 4 times, you are so correct
Thanks for sharing valuable content Calvin 🍀🌴
Thank you very much, my dear Calvin, for sharing your great "7 Reasons Why I Will NEVER Get Married" video. I really enjoyed this one in particular. Have a wonderful day every day and best regards/Ned 👏💪🏽👏
Calvin you're a wise men & thank you for sharing your knowledge.
You're welcome Timothy.
Calvin, l agree with you 100%. Only the exs spouse ,lawyers and the courts systems benefit from marriages. Two thumbs up for this one!!
Hey Calvin my dear friend, Great video as usual. Thank you for sharing brother. Please stay safe and healthy, and God bless you and your family always.😊 😊 😊 ❤️ ❤️ ❤️
It’s ok to have a spiritual marriage, just no marriage with any government contract
Are you really asking someone else for what is ok or not ok for you to do with your own life?
@@michaelanthony679 do you see a question mark
@@moneylineparlay105 LOL
I got my divorce settled after 15 years of marriage in 2020. 2 years of Therapy once a week, she got both Rottweilers, My new Lincoln Navigator, All (5) children begged to live with me but the judge ordered them to her, my bass boat ordered to her which she sold for$1,000 worth$12,000, completely emptied my main checking account. Last week she filed for bankruptcy, living on section 8, and failed to get custody of my children who have their own bedrooms and vehicles. Did I mention she was found guilty of Welfare fraud last year?? Definitely passing on the marriage scene. My kid's playing in the pool as I type this.👌
Thanks for sharing. Glad you're working through this.
Beautiful scenery. Beautiful advice. Live well Calvin.
I couldn't have said it better Mr. Calvin. Like you sir, I also experienced this BS! The best way to keep your happiness, assets and income safe is to NEVER PLAY THE GAME!!! This video is a must for all the people that need a wake up call. Cheers!
I was visiting with two high school buddies and their wives. Both couples have been married 45+ years. I was complimenting them on having successful marriages, when one friend interrupted me to say and the other friends wife chimed in to agree, “we just don’t have anyplace else to go!”
@Gerry Burks so true. Many long term married couples hate each other.
I'm with you Calvin.
I will be renting my next and future cows.
Thank you, Calvin for your informative vlogs.
thank you Calvin 😊
Be Happy always ❤ Love , Blessings .
i will go to sleep with a Smile on my Face now ,
this Really clears it straight , it makes Sense ,
and no more Block in my Heart , about the thought , of getting devorced .
Or Being Worried of the Complicated attitudes after Marriage ,
As You Say Calvin ,, it keeps Her Honest ,, i like that .
and so much more of your Brilliant things Spoken in this Video .
Thank You from Amsterdam , The Netherlands , see you Brother .
i am thinking about this ... is truly his brothers keeper . yes about You Calvin .
Thanks for your video and to remind me again about important lessons learned and so easily overlooked or ignored.
Calvin,
thank you for sharing....
In my humble opinion, marriage is not for everyone nor is each marriage the same...I believe that a marriage has many pros and cons and depending on what it is you seek, dictates where a person should be....as one who has been married twice, divorced twice these are the pros and cons as I see them:
Pros:
1. Marriage is sign of true love..it tells the woman you have stopped looking, that she is it.
2. Shows trust, that she is your present and future. The woman doesn't live on pins and needles..that you don't wake tomorrow, tap your head and say I'm moving out today, I'm not happy.
3. It's a mutual contract with the person you love, that you will be around for better or worse..
4. Your children are not bastards, they live in a lawful wedded couple's union.
5. As a Christian the Bible calls for marriage....
6. It's a presentation to the family and the public that you are committed to one another.
The Cons:
1. A huge financial loss if it ends in divorce.
2. After marriage many couples stop taking care of themselves, gain weight, no longer care about how they look even give up hygiene
3. Become less attentive to their partner's needs..
4. They forget what brought them together..
5. The odds of failure as a couple increase...
My final take is this, if we are not interested in marriage fine, but do tell her from the first date...don't drag her along and waste her youth thinking you will marry her...be fair
If from the beginning she knows you don't want marriage and she still hangs around, then it's on her...
Finally, robbing the woman of her dream to marry is the cruelest thing a man can do, our life is short...
Wise words brother
Excellent comment. I agree.
Another chapter of logical and enlightened wisdom!
Thank you
In these days marriage is a very bad choice.
Especially for someone like me I'll be entering the twilight zone with a 3rd marriage.
Twilight zone...thats what you call it. My buddy's been married 4 times...separated from the last one and just had a kid with his new girlfriend smh
Avoid the west at all cost
Bro, great view of the beach 🏖…you are making me salivate at the thought of being there now. Damnit!
Also, I glad you aren’t wearing Boobe’s extra, extra, extra small t-shirt in this video 😂.
Enjoy your time at the beach!
I won't penalize my new woman with old baggage. I married my Filipina!!
LOL.....
As I mentioned in my previous comment, when a man isn't honest about his intentions (not interested in marriage) he literally robbes her of the opportunity to marry...almost every woman dreams of marriage...this concept of marriage is programmed in every woman...we can argue that many marry for the wrong reasons, a better economic situation, green card, etc..however, assuming you made a good choice in selecting the woman, marriage is equal to true love and total trust..
Just sad that you had bad experience in the past and that prevents you from having a wonderful future. Sure there are many reasons to never get married, especially in the usa, but in the phils, you marry for life.
I hear you... Just don't close your mind completely to that possibility one day. You can still meet that woman that is willing to give you her world to be part of your's too, and you can in turn give her that security and validation that she chose wisely. I could very easily have that mindset with more than one failed marriage, but I also see that as robbing myself of something good that I could experience one day with the "right" person. The people in my past that didn't deserve my vows shouldn't be the reason I close doors for myself now or in the future. 🙂
Great words @RayMahannah. I hope Calvin keeps an open mind about Marilyn. From the outside, Marilyn seems to be a loving and supportive woman that is willing to give Calvin her loyalty, her faithfulness, her love and her care, until his dying day. If Calvin would ever choose to take one more chance at marriage, I pray it's with Marilyn.
Brother Calvin, I certainly can't blame you. I'm on wife#2 and I don't think I would marry again if something were to happen to my wife. I have a wonderful Filipina wife this time around. We are good for each other and are committed to following the LORD's guidance for our marriage. It makes all the difference in our marriage. God Bless You Brother Calvin! 🙏🏾💪🏾
Hi Calvin. Checked out you video.
Two things I noticed from your argument about not marrying again. Although it might not have been intended, 1) it sounds as though there's no intention of full commitment. Just run even if it's your fault. 2) nothing my friend is ever free, especially that "milk."
Live your best life and be happy bro.
Amen brother
Good video.......works both ways. A relationship that works is great until it isn''t and you both move from there.
Thx brother, wise words 👌🏾
"Rent or Buy", lol that had me rollin'. Good stuff!
Calvin I thoroughly enjoyed this Video Blog , ye say like tis and it makes so much sense on many levels. Especially now in this part of history when greed and corruption is rife no matter where ye are, it works Brother May the Gods be good to ye and Family in the PI.🇮🇪☘️🇵🇭☘️🇺🇸
"I'm no longer buying the cow: I'm rentin' it."
Another great video as always Calvin, and enjoy your beautiful day..
AMEN! Divorce It's very painful and I will not divide my s*** up anymore in my sixtes.
Helped some people over the past few days. Thanks for the reminder! I 100% agree with you about marriage. I have never been married but I don't think it's the ideal plan. Life is too short to be going around making huge mistakes like that.
ABSOLUTELY! If two people want to be with one another - to be a team that complement each other, they don’t need an official document for that purpose. All too often, the marriage becomes a tool of control - leverage used by one party over the other.
The sad reality is that the ‘institution’ of marriage (which has its roots in the construct of religion with a splash of governmental intervention) affects the daily lives of millions of people. Insurance benefits for spouses and children are largely tied to marital status. Income taxation is strongly tied to the legal ‘dependency’ status of family units. I have known people that have gotten married in order to provide insurance coverage for an accidental pregnancy. I have known older couples who have gotten divorced (although they didn’t want to and they still stayed together) because of the benefit implications of either Social Security and/or the need for one of them to go into assisted living!
This seems to be more of an issue of personal liberty to me - and, I agree with you Calvin: the best way to avoid the pitfalls and misery is to not get married.
I was in bantayan a couple days you got there. Must of just missed you Calvin
We messaged you on your community page.
Wonderfully divorced since 2008, no kids, no alimony. I will never get married again, the risk is waaaay greater than the reward. I get on crack at this life and I am going to spend it being happy as I can possibly be.
I have to say I have not always agreed with you. However, you are spot on with all your seven points and I am sure you can think of more reasons. My first wife was ok but I just wanted to be free. Yes it was extremely costly. Then I get over here from the States lived with the girl for eight years and then we got married. The biggest issue is soon after the ink was dry on the contract I guess she figured she no longer was required to respect me and she could do whatever the hell she pleased. Well if it’s broke beyond repair stop wasting time and money trying to put shatter pieces back together again.
im 35 now and i was separated a yr ago and as listening to ur vlog i have kearned that i might better stay alone than remarry.
I guess you and Marilyn have made an agreement. I've never been married. I love my freedom. It's just not for me 🤠
This one really hit home for me. I got divorced in 2003, I filed for it in 2001, my wife refused to sign the papers… things almost got ugly. I said I will never sacrifice my happiness, sanity and wellbeing for another person ever again. Was it easy for you to build your house without being married? “Why buy the milk when you can rent it?” I love that
I fkn love this guy. I Was also in relationship for 18yrs. Never married. No divorce for me. 😁
Appreciate the wisdom sir.
Good one Calvin
Interesting and informative 🇯🇲
That's so funny, renting the cow lol.never heard that before 🙂
Marriage is a signed contract where what's yours is hers and what's hers is hers.
And don't forget the third party in every western marriage, the government. They always find a way to get their cut as well.
Thanks for the warming Calvin. Jellyfish stings can be extremely painful like getting a divorce and have to start all over.
Thank you Calvin 57 American on his second marriage. After I get divorced i don’t want a 3rd bite at the apple. Coming to the Philippines to rent the cow 👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾
Im 67 and i totaly agree with you
I agree with all your reasons and more power to you because of them. I’m 49 and have never been married or have kids ( as far as I know lol) the divorce courts favor the women more than men plus the term Grey Divorce is more of a reality because you have less time to recoup any financial losses. My parents have been married 45+ years but those marriages are few and far between nowadays. I enjoy my freedom and I can choose to be single or have a short fling but in the end it’s just me. We came into this world alone and we will leave alone. Might as well be happy and enjoy it on our own terms. Stay strong and stay single my brother 👊
Mr. Calvin, I respect your personal thoughts and opinions on marriage but encouraging subscribers to live or continue living unmarried is related to being a fool is ridiculous in my opinion. God is the one who instituted marriages. I've failed and marriage myself and plan to marry again instead of living in sin, but being a fool is uncalled for because you, me, and perhaps more than 50 percent of marriages has ended in divorce. Once again, I truly respect your personal decision and I'm sure that perhaps most agree with you but I'm just expressing my opinion. There are many Expats have and will continue to come to the Philippines and find true love, and some for the first time. I think they should be encouraged with caution. Marriage is not about "me" being happy although I plan to be happy pleasing my wife. (Sacrifice) By the way, I think that you and your live in partner makes a great couple. Hope you change your mind and turn it over to the Lord 😉
He's not encouraging anyone to do either. He's talking about himself. I suggest u keep your God to yourself and stop trying to a spread that bs
My brother, show me where in the scriptures does it say that the state has to dictate whether two people are married and provide a marriage license? I'll wait. In fact the scriptures teaches that if you lay with a woman she is already your wife end of story. Was there a marriage license from the state involved in the marriage of Rebecca and Isaac or did the scripture simply say that when he entered her she became his wife.
@@maximuscryptosx9424 I come in peace my friend. I heard the same video that you did. I'm not trying to spread anything. I've been subscribed to this channel for a long time. Apparently you're being convicted yourself. No need trying to curse or attack me. I can handle it brother. Calvin don't need anyone speaking for him. He's from Kentucky! He can handle it..... Nice try brother
I understand what u are saying brother but just understand that Calvin is coming from a practical wisdom. U are coming from a spiritual wisdom in which I understand and agree with but don't expect Calvin understand something he has yet experience personally. But I'm sure your prayers are welcomed.
@@richleon1474 No need to attack me because you're probably living in sin trying to justify yourself. I responded respectfully to "Calvin" but apparently I see people are being convicted.. I'm not your judge brother! Do your thang! You don't have to answer to me... No need to try to impress me by talking scripture. I've been here for a long time to know that Calvin don't need nobody talking or defending him. You know that! Like I've already said, you must be feeling convicted yourself... Do your thang brother! .. Nice try
This reminds me of that torture scene from the movie _Hot Shots Part Deux:_
*Interrogator:* I see you are no stranger to pain.
*Colonel Walters:* I've been married.
*Interrogator:* (nods in agreement and sympathy)
*Colonel Walters:* Twice!
*Interrogator:* (winces as his colleague silently gasps in the background) Oi!
😂😂😂
Yeah don't get married in the Philippines if you ever change your mind. Very hard to get an annulment
Thanks for another awesome video
Hug for brother Calvin from Croatia.
Cheers Denny 💪🏾
A lot of good women here in the Philippines Calvin never too old to get married I prefer to stay single
Well said, I'm right there with you Calvin. Thats why I've decided to rent the cow going forward in my relationships.
Yup, the quality of relationship deteriorate after marriage.
I've been married for 14 years . If this doesn't work out, I will never get married again too. The stakes are too high but so far I've been very lucky and grateful. By the way, her family is from Bantayan Island
Yes, happiness comes from within. Everything starts at home. I know all to well No one will take care of me as well as I do. Simply because no one knows me like I do.
Don't need no one. I came into this world without anyone or anything and I will leave the same way. You will too.
Brother you will leave this world on your own, that's true, but you didn't come into to it on your own, no sir. A woman brought you into it and a woman could take you out of it just as easy. ☺️
Most natural vaginal births occur because the BABY is forcing it's way out. At best, the mother only assists this process by pushing. The baby will come out one way or the other. And if it's a C-section, the doctor is the one bringing the baby into the world. Just to be technically accurate here.
I like your comments on marriage true fact bro .I been there what you mean . Stay safe God bless you always 👍👌🇨🇦
if it ain't broke don't fix it my feelings exactly calvin although my younger self was the hopeless romantic but that proved costly
Very smart commentary. Seems obvious to many of us.
"Rent the cow". LOL
Lmao Calvin 🤣imagine saying that in the west 🤬but 100%right told my Filipina gf I not need a government piece of paper to say we are one! But either one mess up n look out 🤣 keeps the flame burning lol
King shoulders! I'm never getting married. I'm poly. So it's always going to be a fire and replace any woman who wants to step from my triad.
I wish I was Captain Kirk & beam myself to the Philippines
Calvin you're very lucky to have a classy girl .... marriage is very difficult today .. trying to find partnership is very rare to find...
Easy to get into ,hard to get out of
Hmmm.....Calvin....you have some interesting reasons. Of course some of your reasons I wondered about...# 5. I took that as you saying " My way or the highway. I have been married 3 times all to black woman and I was the one that divorced them. It wasn't until I met my philipina wife that in kuwait that changed my attitude and perspective on marriage. She has been the best thing in my life . My first wife lasted 9yrs, second 5 yrs, third about 4 yrs. Now with my philipina we are going on 14 yrs this coming Nov. Its what you make it Calvin. I realized early on that I couldnt bring my western minded ways and thinking about relationships into my marriage with may now philipina wife. I could talk allot about this subject. Just letting you know Calvin since you do have a good woman and she obviously sees you as a good man then do what is right. Ok be well and take care.
Don't put words in my mouth. I said I'm responsible for my own happiness. IF we don't see eye to eye we can part ways. You're in the twilight zone of marriage and don't know it 🤣
Married 3x. One kid from one woman and one more from a second. I paid child support most my life. Always carried a mortgage for.the family. No more kids, and no marriage. Been single for over 10 years. I'm 54 in Davou, and retired. I'm just free and chilling.
My ex-wife before the marriage, I love you I love you. After six years of dating, her new words fxxk you fxxk you lol. Divorced 10 months later. The filipina I met in 2015 was beautiful, once she thought she had me, she started gaining weight and getting a lot of tattoos. She became americanized from the Philippines. Thank God I dodged a bullet 🙏
Excellent reasons not to get married. You are 100% right.