Signs You Are Escaping Reality to Avoid Life
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- Опубліковано 22 тра 2024
- Escapism, or escaping reality, is a defensive reaction involving the use of fantasy as a way to avoid conflicts and problems in daily life.
It's important to be self-aware and know when we are escaping reality because recognizing these patterns allows us to address underlying issues and make conscious choices, fostering genuine personal growth and mental well-being.
So in this video, we will be exploring the common triggers and behaviors associated with the desire to escape reality, and gaining valuable insights into recognizing these patterns within yourself or others. Let's discuss the nuances of dissociation, escapism, and their impact on mental health.
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Olivine, A. (2023 Aug 31). "The Meaning of Escapism in Psychology." VeryWell Health. Retrieved from www.verywellhealth.com/escapism-7565008#toc-types-of-escapism
Noel, S. (2013 Jul 6). "It Scares Me How Much I Turn to Fantasy to Escape. Help!" GoodTherapy. Retrieved from www.goodtherapy.org/blog/dear-gt/it-scares-me-how-much-i-turn-to-fantasy-to-escape-help
Sherman, J. E. (2017 Apr 10). "Face-it Versus Escapist Coping Strategies." Psychology Today. Retrieved from www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/ambigamy/201704/face-it-versus-escapist-coping-strategies
Krissy. (2023). "5 Signs You’re Escaping From Life (And A Reliable Solution)." Tastefully Minimalist. Retrieved from tastefullyminimalist.com/escaping-from-life/#t-1627858208018
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As Thanos once said, "reality is often disappointing," and he did had a point.
No kidding
Reality is overrated. 😒
Reality is often disappointing if it stops being your norm. When you ingratiate yourself with reality and try to live more in the moment, you learn to see the niceties you didn't see before, and you set your standards off of reality. I only say this because I escaped reality 24/7 and still do at times with maldaptive daydreaming, but reality can come to be beautiful, it's just hard to see without looking hard for it, but once you see it, it can be nice
That's why addictions are so hard to break!
what does "living in the moment" mean? @@I_Am_Catholic_Crunch
Honestly yeah. The world seems to be getting more depressing. I tend to get lost in fiction to avoid having to constantly face the storm just to stay sane.
Aspecially when it's something you can't change that makes you suffer. I have than problem too
Having to live a cycle you don’t have the power to change adults don’t know how painful that can be I’ve all ready tried to end my life and almost did but even when I jumped off the bridge I didn’t die and even after the facility I feel exactly the same dead
at this point i don't feel ashamed of saying i've been doing most of these for years now (for almost a decade even). playing games, watching vtubers and avoiding the news to avoid the real world. avoiding family, friends and social gatherings because i'm tired of pretending i'm fine "socializing" with people who i can't relate to anymore (only doing it when forced to, which is most of the time). avoiding college work and studying because i don't even have the energy or motivation to do so for a career i have no interest in at this point. i feel "caged", like a slave of this grim, dark world at this point, and the only way i can escape from it is by avoiding reality (and even then, i can't avoid it forever).
same
The same goes to me. The government is doing everything to ruin my professional life while most of the society is ruining my private life. All everyone cares about is profit and to turn you into a codependent mindless obedient slave. I'm sick of being told to work nonstop without getting paid and to always sacrifice everything for people that don't even care about me. It's suffocating and I want to live my own life without being influenced by others.
Yeah like y bother to be in reality all of the time to do responsibilities full-time when u can be in reality sometimes or most times depending on the person u r and sometimes u can be in ur non-existent world no matter if it's anime, video games, going through ur thoughts personally in my opinion example through some negative moments and that's u some ppl get overly-busy in their as a escape of reality but the point of it is being in ur non-existent world can be great and cool if that's the one thing that makes u for who u r and if that's one of the only things that makes u happy we don't know all of the accusations to the science of predictability of a human brain can work mainly for everybody sorry this wasn't meant to be an offense to u psy-to-go UA-camrs just like to manage that many ppl as u know having different experiences and has different personal opinions and that's all I tried to make sense out of all of that sorry guys
I do some of these too and it became more prevalent in the later half of my high school years up until now. I don’t plan on stopping until I physically can’t anymore or until I go blind from being on my electronics for so many hours of the day. I’m not exactly trying to avoid the difficulties in daily life and if I am, it’s not the sole reason I do this. I do it because life makes me unhappy and depressed sometimes, so my main source of happiness aside from sometimes hanging with friends and family is watching videos and things I enjoy. It’s a conscious choice I make that I’m not unhappy or embarrassed about, and I don’t think anyone should feel that way about doing things they like that they prefer over reality and life. Sure maybe it’s not the healthiest decision but for some, it’s their choice. So I appreciate this video but I don’t need people telling me what to do and what choices to make in life. If I choose it and I regret it or I end up facing consequences, so be it. My life is my life
honestly i'm glad to see people i can relate to here. there were times where i felt i should be ashamed for not studying enough or for not taking my studies seriously when in reality i was too tired or numb to care. i'm glad i'm not alone with this whole "escapism" mentality. it makes me feel better.
#1 is pretty much every day of my life. Real life is so boring that I end up living in escapism until I go to bed.
Yeah it started for me when I basically lost my best friend to the stupidest shit I could ever imagine
I agree
On god
Timestamps
1). Over- reliance on entertainment 0:31
2). Physical disconnection 0:54
3). The illusion productivity 1:33
4). Excessive risk-taking 2:10
5). Chronic procrastination 2:50
6). Self-imposed social isolation 3:21
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
I feel called out
@@ArgzeroYTsame lmao
Got all those signs
Omori fits to this video so much. Escaping reality to not face conflicts, traumas and consequences for your own will, Omori 100% tells us about it.
Thanks for joining us early! Glad you noticed the reference :)
Now I need to finish that game
Can you do a video to how to make connection between loneliness and the life itself
@@ArtsyStaff81794 nah
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I don't need any signs, I already know that. It's a conscious choice that I am doing
Same.
Me too. I used to consider suicide, but not anymore.
@@brianj.841 That's great! Your life is worth a lot, especially when you consider that there is a God in the Heavens that loved you so much that He gave His own life to save yours
I often find it difficult to care about reality when fiction or daydreaming tend to be so much more fulfilling or interesting or enjoyable. Why would I want to limit myself to reality, when it always seems to be more difficult, more painful, more exhausting, and just… worse?
It's because monkey loves physical things, while real functional human brain loves to use their imagination. this psychology thing is just another root rule that binds the mind. this world is already full of totalitarianism, escapism is the only way to make your mind remain sane.
you are right, but avoiding reality for too long and self-isolation will lend to depression
my comment just got deleted because the youtube/this channel or whoever deleted my comment can't stand the reality that I talk from a different perspective. they're trying to escape reality by deleting my comment lol don't listen to this hypocrite that's trying to escape the reality by being from unproductive into productive just because he wanna tell himself that he's doing better by being productive. escapism is not just using fantasy, it can be by working, creating things, talking to people, go out into the nature to escape the reality of boredom that's going to attack you if you're doing nothing.
don't listen to this hypocrite youtube/youtuber or whoever delete my comments, they're trying to escape reality by deleting my comments. do whatever you want, you owe nothing to them
If you run away from reality, it will chase you. You see it is something you can never escape from. Escapism is like a temporary solution but when you come to your senses reality is knocking at your door. My question is,
How much are you going to run away? When are you going to face reality?
I haven't lived a day of my life in reality-at least not the one everyone else is living in. Escapism has been my defence since my earliest memories. When real life tries to intrude, it's bleak, and mundane, and tremendously disappointing. My perception of how things should be is never met and in effect makes me withdraw more. The more you escape, the impossibly higher standards you inadvertently set for everything around you. As an adult, I think back on every attempt to connect with life and how futile it has proven to be-I never made friends despite genuinely trying, never forged relationships, or succeeded in 'real life' accomplishments. I'm still escaping, even in watching this video, from the tiresome, predictable existence masked as real life-and I haven't a clue how to find fulfilment in it.
I’m with you. I don’t have advice. But I know life is like fishing. There’s a million reasons why you can’t catch that fish, and you’ll kill yourself trying to control every variable. But accepting that and living in the moment is the only way to enjoy it and I want to enjoy that.
Find some kind of employment and hope that things somehow get better from there, might not be a viable solution but without knowledge of any variables in your life (Don't give me them, I am a stranger on the internet.) it's the best I can recommend and might be your best shot.
I’m glad it’s not just me, I felt also like I have been escaping from reality at a young age. Even now barely able to tolerate the day to day because it feels so draining and painful. Sometimes I feel bad when my friends tell me to move on and I don’t. Because it’s like stuck, like a wad of gum that won’t budge out of my hair. It just lingers there.
The issue is really that the solution isn't as easy. But I think most of the time there seems to be one or multiple root causes for it.
In my case it was because I suffer from dysphoria to the point that I was basically at war against my own skin. I am in therapy now but the way of healing is a long and tough one...
Maybe look into yourself and wonder what exactly it is that you're missing. Not just the dissatisfaction from your surrounding but yourself aswell.
Is there something you wanted to do but never dared to do because you'd be scared of what would be happening?
That being said: I am not a professional on that, so maybe try to get some form of therapy from a skilled professional. ^^
It was said so clearly
Was relatable once for me too
#savesoil #7stepstoMentalHealth
I escape the reality in order to survive ~~
Yes, same here. I have CPTSD.
Same❤
Same. It's definitely not good in the long run however.
@@aniE1869 True. So very true.
Oof. I dont know. I have adhd and depression and it feels like its a owm afflicted cycle but also like a better way than another burnout
I do this really, I'm scared to live in my current reality. I wish I could hide from the world and I find that daydreaming helps me to do just that but then again its affecting me negatively.
daydreaming will lend to depression sooner or later 😢
@@Yuri-nc9vl What can I do, my life isn't giving at the moment.
Everything scares me, my friends are always 'too busy' to hang out, I don't enjoy socializing, I only ever talk to my mom, everyday life is boring asf, so I mostly spend my free time daydreaming, watching tv and gaming. Idk what else I should do. I feel like I'm trapped by my fears and my screens sometimes and I feel like I should be doing other things, but I just don't know how. People have given me countless of tips, like 'just make some new friends', but I just don't want to.
Sounds about right. I’ve dealt with this experience since 3rd grade, and it continues to grow as I turn 27 this year.
Even if it’s mentally unhealthy, I did enjoy the times in my daydreams when I needed to find some positivity in my negative life.
Damn somehow I felt that
The only thing that makes me feel anything anymore are daydreams and video games. Can relate.
@@TOEndirefr
Escape is ok, sometimes even necessary. As long as you are meeting your responsibilities (paying bills, taking care of those who rely on you, keeping an active eye on things around you, etc.) and not a danger to yourself or others, good ahead and take a break! Just choose methods that allow you to be safe and able to function 100% of the time!
I don't even need to watch this to know I escape reality. I know I escape reality because I want to. I don't want to be in this real reality. It's evil, it's depressing, it hopeless, and it hates me. I wish there was a permanent way to escape besides suicide, because even though I wish I was dead, I wouldn't feel this way if reality wasn't evil. Fantasy worlds that I see are more real than the real world, so I would rather go to those
I feel the same way. Video games movies or anything cinematic creating a fantasy means everything to us. It just puts a suicidal plan on hold for a while.
@@ericshawnthompsonjr.510
Fictional people make way more sense than real politics at all times.
@@monkeywrench1290 I agree. They really do.
I am trying to avoid the fact that I am completely incapable of existing as myself in this world.
so I exist as myself in my fantasy world
Oh... are you getting help?
@@cheyblake2475 trying to, therapy and the like, doesn't change anything tho because a therapist can't change the objective unlucky streak I'm on
Wow nothing's ever been more relatable than this statement
I'm removing myself from conflict with others. It's sort of the implosion of multiple one sided friendships. They claimed they cared, but when I needed them, even came out and said "I could really use my friends" and they "not gonna happen", you know it's the end of that friendship. They said they cared, but they never talked to me. However, they all loved talking ABOUT me with my other "friends". Not to mention the constant lies and manipulations. They made me feel like I'm unlovable, and made me feel like a subhuman piece of trash. They wanted me to consider how they felt, but not once did they consider mine. Shit, I'm getting carried away. I don't even know if this comment belongs here, but I've gone too far to just stop/delete it.
Must say the "self imposed isolation" hits home, but I don't really have many friends I can talk to. They all abandoned me when I needed them...
@banishedmage9741 my family has actually grown closer lately. Sure, we all have our issues. But since my mom passed a few years ago, we're starting to come back together.
And I'm sorry to hear you had the same/similar experiences with friends. It sucks. Know what's messed up? When I would see that they were feeling like shit, I felt guilty. My exact reasoning was apparently "I just made them feel the way they made me feel...", and it would hurt me to see them like that, while they had no issue seeing me hurting.
I hope you are/were able to find friends that make you feel good about yourself. Everyone deserves to have people that make them feel wanted.
"Fake people attract fake scenarios. They mask their doom and blast it on others. "
You're probably attracting negative life forces because you have value, don't undervalue your diamond because of fake diamonds
@xajicz I saw a thing from a motivation app that said something along the lines of like "I'm brought into people's lives to because I have an abundance of what they need" or something like that. Basically I attracted people because I have qualities they need in their life.
And I've always found it funny that I've seemed to get more help and stuff from the kindness of strangers, than I ever did those "friends".
@reddragonlegacy exactly! The same tho, most people are around you to try to get your energy! Sometimes people are the weirdest things ever...
I realized I had no one I trusted or cared about, or who cared about me, but for me, it was more like, I never had anyone anyway, and I had just tricked myself and not seen it.
I love projecting myself on characters I relate to, I feel understood
Real life is really depressing. I don't what I'd do without fictional worlds and entertainment. Also please keep up the Omori references 🙏
I think without fictional worlds we would find something fulfilling to do.
Thats why I hate the internet Era.
Without it we'd probably also do shit to "escape from reality"
But this would have to be something more engaging than tiktok, or games.
At this point even a book would be great to read, even tho its kind of an escapism on its own, but I dint even have the straight to read one
I unfortunately am guilty of most of these signs. I feed myself with entertainment regularly, I procrastinate a lot by leaving my homework at a very later time and not having the energy for productivity, and at one point I felt I was living in isolation. Because most people used I talked to are either gone or busy, and even if there are, I tend to avoid them. I currently feel that my mental state is shattered and I want to fix it.
A lot of times we may feel like we are just driftwood floating through a sea of monotony through this mundane existence, stuck on autopilot. Everything just feels like a cycle, rinse and repeat of our daily routine inside the void. But we gotta break free from this mold and get out of our comfort zones and face reality head on. It might be an overwhelming task even to start small. But remember, a small step is a big step to making change in your life.
I see that we're not alone,we are all stuck together.Lets fight our fears together even when it's gonna be hard.Lets remember that we're really great and strong.
Btw,i love these type of contents ❤
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💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾We got this
I definitely fit most of these.I love escaping from reality but I’ve learned overindulging in anything is not healthy. Also I find myself lost in thought with my real world problems. I can’t even escape that😅
yea am just an introvert that just never cared about anything or anybody but tbh i kinda got used to it and frankly i think am really liking social isolation afterall some people are just not worth going out to tbh
I literally never felt so related to a video like this, especially the 1st 2nd 5th and 6th.
1, 5 and 6 is me. I have depression, social anxiety and depersonalization. I don't go out, I stopped watching news, I was forced to stop going to school because of this and I lost the will to live, so I just procrastinate, play games, chat with the few friends I still have, sometimes write, sometimes draw, but I lost even the passion for these things. I hate myself for being such a disappointed to my loving sister, mother and father, other family members just don't care. Thankfully I started therapy so hopefully it will help me. Thank you for doing these videos ❤
i’ve actually never related to smth more.
Wow. I over rely on TV & movie, physical disconnection, & realize I've always had chronic procrastination and I have noticed I've been drinking more because my reality and financial challenges have been EXTREMELY difficult since losing my job due to COVID. It like I'm so overwhelmed it's like I get parylized.😊
i feel called out but i do that for years now so everything normal
I've started a comfort character journal a while ago, it's basically a bullet journal but I print 3-4 pictures of one of my Comfort Characters for one page and then I decorate the page with those pictures, decorative papers, washi tape, stickers and more. Then I leave a little space to glue a pice of lined paper onto the page to write down their name and some of their traits which inspire me. I also write down some quotes of them all over the page, it's like an art journal.
Recently I kind of lose myself in it, though, always journaling to distract myself from my problems I don't want to confront, distracting myself from them. It's comforting but unsettling at the same time..
I have been concerned about this exact thing with my brother. Thank you for sharing this, God Bless You and stay safe 🙏 ❤️
My remedy to escapism is to turn the opposite direction and to charge at my problems head on with a good plan in mind, of course. My celebration ritual after finishing my real world tasks is to escape into fiction. Being grounded and immersed in reality all the time is great, but a bit of fiction feels great.
Reality is often disappointing
have a glass of water every time psych2go vid has at least a single omori reference and you will stay hydrated for life
Looks like I found the secret to eternal hydration. The power of Omori references!
Now that I am in a much better place.... Really grateful for such videos which gave a sense of what I am not living and seek healing
Thank you for posting!❤️
I really don’t see enough downsides to avoid reality. I’ve already been feeling left out from a career path, dating life & love life. If I stop comparing myself to others that means I shouldn’t be inspired anymore. The way I see it with autism Life ain’t for me. My self worth & self esteem could still go low. It’s only a matter of time. Having money to do all the favors about my wants and needs works for me. Escapism is the good thing happening to me. It’d be nice to have someone to escape with as well. That’s not even possible right now at all. I have friends and family but I can’t maintain them everyday without having my “me time”. The only reasons I haven’t killed myself yet is because my artwork, Art showcasing events, entertainment UA-cam videos, survival, traveling when affordable and continuously working a minimum wage job for the money. Probably staying for my mom as well but besides that. Without money, coping skills, outlets or anything to live for I wouldn’t be here now. My entire existence is a privilege. I never asked for that. My definition of self care is that I am a bill. Also my second definition of self care is routines & habits.
This list was spot on.
Oh my gosh, when I saw the thumbnail I immediately thought of OMORI, and then I clicked and saw you’d themed the whole video off of OMORI and now I’m literally fangirling!!! Couldn’t have picked a better fit for the topic
I have been dissociating and practicing escapism all my life & it keeps me sane🥹
I decided my mmm thing. I have huge respect for your channel it has my ❤
The part of the day that I look forward to the most is always when I go to sleep, since I can dream as much as I want without few distractions. This happens every single day.
I have major exams coming up that will most likely determine the rest of my future so yea, this video really hit home... especially the procrastination part
Like the proverbial hitting the nail on the head
I haven't watch psych2go in a long time so I'm a bit surprised bcuz of a different voice but I like it your voice sounds so soothing ❤
When I saw this video in my notifications I had to watch asap because I know I've been doing this. Knowing stuff I do to escape reality and noticing that I do it nearly everyday is concerning ngl, I want to change to be a better person, it's hard I know and i know it's not easy but for me just taking the first step is hard, almost impossible. I'm drowning in my own thoughts and just doing my chores in autopilot while just ignoring important stuff from my college, I don't like the course I'm taking there but I'm not even trying to study and this is a enormous problem. I'm stuck in a cycle of self sabotage and avoiding stuff. I really need help. And I will get.
Oh, I'm intentionally escaping from reality. When reality is straight out of Pink Floyd, can you really blame me? "You run and you run to catch up with the sun but it's sinking / Racing around to come up behind you again / The sun is the same in a relative way, but you're older / Shorter of breath and one day closer to death."
I don't know. Maybe happiness isn't for everybody. What should I do, cry about it? Life goes on, and I must go with it, one way or another.
Life is not about happiness, is about surviving and gathering experience.
@@Yuri-nc9vlIf that's true, then there's not much in life that I want. Which tracks with my experience.
Bro, if you realize you feel bad, you should try getting some help. Being happy isn’t easy, but, idk, I guess the best we can do is try. If we’ve been put in this world, we might as well try to get the best of our lives, right? That’s what I believe. So… if you can, get help. Could be professional help. It helped me get a glimpse of what I really wanted to do to be happy and get kind of back on track again, maybe it’ll be the same for you. Like, try finding things you can do that would actually make your life a bit better, even if not much. That exercise alone can be valuable. Wish you luck, bro
@@rikitikitavatiki Happiness comes and goes so it IS a part of life. So I won't listen to people who tell me never to expect it. Life is more than just surviving too.
This art style is actually so cute 💖
Thank you!! We will share your compliment to the Naphia
Totally agreed ✨️🩷✨️ I really love the art style of this channel ❤️💝💖💗🩷
Art style is beautiful
This is great stuff, and it is good to not rely on escapism all the time, however, I think in a future video we could focus on the root causes of why we have to escape in the first place.
Feels more like life is a drama initialized by one's predecessors if I am brutally honest 😢
Point 1 seems to hit me the most here but I feel like going to work, following appointments and taking good care of my home and my physical self are good counter points.
Very important for me!😊❤
I needed it badly!
Thank you very very much @Psych2Go!
ahh this is totally true, as every year fall and winter seasons are a menace to me and a sign for never ending further worsening of my mental health without not able to do anything much about it
I want to escape reality so badly... I just want peace and a quiet life... I feel overwhelmed from being here, on earth...
I am a 28 year old introvert and spiritual man and when I realized that for the past 6 years I have been doing most of what is mentioned in the video I visited a psychologist for the first time. I thought I had schizoid personality disorder, but she assured me that I didn't and that I was most likely in a phase of recovery from long-term depression (which I thought I had overcome). I did exactly 4 months of CBT sessions, which I stopped last December. That doesn't mean everything is 100% perfect now. However, I regained my confidence, I started exercising again, communication with my parents improved significantly, I found the strength to distance myself from all those who I thought were my friends (yes, I have no friends anymore, but I became a much better friend to myself ), I have been clean from alcohol for over 4 years, I know what things I shouldn't feel bad about, and what things I need to work on to be even happier, although the path is not always obvious, but if everything in life were easy then it wouldn't be very interesting. Isn't that right? :)
as a recovering person with childhood trama, this is exactly explanation of my life, I indulge in a lot of drug use, and driving wreckless
I often turn to my imagination to escape reality. Now to the point I have found reality lacking what I long for, and making mundane things feel impossible to get through. I've found what I do is called Maldaptive daydreaming. It happens even if I don't want it to now. My brain goes into auto-pilot , and my mind goes off on an adventure any time I'm doing anything mundane. It's lead me to a very bad mental state, and I often feel like I'm failing on having a productive, and meaningful life. It's made me cut off friends since they don't act like the image I make up in my mind of what a friend should be. I learn maldaptive day dreaming is usually rooted in trauma, and neglect. Mine stems from both in my youth, and my obsession with fantasy worlds as a kid. I would often play pretend, or just day dream as a kid, and it was found normal. Now as a young adult my day dreaming is unhealthy mentally, and physically.
I think I can somewhat relate. I used to think I want to go to an alternate reality permanently due to the struggles of adulthood and my mental health issues, but nowadays I learned that permanent escapism is unhealthy and it's better off to balance fantasy with reality. I still somewhat focus more on fictional media and daydreaming to help me cope, but at least I'm better off living in the present moment and I have therapy once every other month.
This video represents all of me every single sign talked about here but I feel escaping reality is the only way to feel good within yourself
well better than people that bullies other to make themself feels better
@@hakusei2675 Valid point
I've noticed I have been daydreaming a lot lately, fortunately I have been going outside to take walks and spend time with other people when they're available. I'd say it definitely helps.
Yes definitely me. I could tell it even before watching this video.
1. I watch hate content on what I've true grudges on and often curse the people inside my house but I think it's kinda powerful. I've certain experiences.
2. Physical disconnection is something very familiar to me.
3. I believe this would help me but contrary to this, I try my best to sleep. I can't be sure whether it's because of my antipsychotics.
4. I do really risky things but doubt whether it's a response whatever hating my true self. I really conquer fulfilment of my grudges.
5. I'm procrastinating. In fact I never used to do them at all as my parents do them. Sometimes, I only have to study but I get lost in harmful unpleasant(sometimes pleasant) daydreams.
6. I'm a loner. I have fear of making friends and many people think that I'm dangerous and disgusting. I often don't find them talking to me. The truth is, I'm not anyone like that but I'm stigmatized because of my lack of faith and difference in interests. Although, is that a good reason for others to isolate me?
I've been like this in my whole life. I had so many painful memories that I've indulged myself into gaming and watching anime. Now in my 4th Year of College and I realized how much I don't have much discipline and don't know basic life tasks like doing chores, it made me had a hard time adjusting life.
This is a really good video, and i see most of us fit into this
my story
"life is so depressing, nothing makes sense life is hard and its always going to be hard. its all just greedy and bad people agh i wish i wasn't born its so imperfect here... and there's no way to even fix it, wrong people in power we cant do anything just listen to authority even if they're detrimentally wrong...
imagination and escaping from this world feels so much better, i can be happy and live in my head... *proceeds to waste years*
but then- why were we born in the first place? whats the purpose of all this... exitance, pain, suffering..."
*research research into all of this*
to be happy sound the best but- we cant be *just* emotions right? if the purpous of life was jus to be happy and feel good then society would be in chaos because of the natural vain desires of humans (aka seeking pleasure in partying, drugs, relationships, drama, gossip,escapism) , and then we'd all jus ruin our lives- not think. become rabid animals. nah animals would be better than us smh.
so its not for continuous happiness...
okay so truth is, fact is, that; "life is hard for everyone, not just you"
okay so this life is MEANT to be hard.
then why would i WANT a hard life? wouldn't it be better just not to have those negative emotions?
This life was MEANT for the hardships BECAUSE for all the effort and struggle we put in THIS WORLD, all our efforts and hardships will pay off and much much much more in the REAL WORLD. you dont only live once- theres a world after this world ends.
how do i know? welp, Allah is the truth (The forming of an embryo was not discovered until around 1959ish, how was it in the Quran which was revealed 1400 years ago? along with many many more scientific proofs which are mindblowing, search it up) therefore whatever the Quran is telling us about the future is also THE truth. reality. its going to happen. إِنَّ
and then once i realised, i noticed more miracles, like HAVE YOU SEEN HOW THE HUMAN BODY AUTOMATICALLY WORKS??? HOMEOSTASIS (ONE XAMPLE)??? AND THEN U GOT ALL THE *DIFFERENT* ORGANISMSEACH WITH DIFFERENT AND UNIQUE STRUCTURES? i cant tell you how much wonder i am in, and how in awe i was. you, yes you reading this, are a Miracle! if you didnt matter, you wouldnt have existed. you matter and your existing, so do your best.
one query i always had with islam was that, why are we "slaves" of Allah? i dont like being bound, i like being free. but then you realise that we're all slaves to something whether that be the government or your own rabid desires without a leash or anything else. youre always a slave. so its best to be a slave to your Lord, who knows you better than you know yourself.
anyways tysm to you reader, take care of yourself and heres a cookie 🍪
He has a point!
This video is partially helpful cause i’m actively running from reality. It’s sad…
Tremendous amount of trauma in my childhood, caused me to dissociate. It’s still a problem for me. Not to the point that I black out or lose track of my life. But….it is more often than I want it to occur. 🙁💔.
That moment when you wish you could let yourself slip out of the bs for even an hour, so then see this sort of video and laugh and laugh and laugh.
This video is exactly me and I've been aware of it for years now... I mainly blame modern technology and how easy it is to escape into so many forms of media right at our fingertips. It's a way to escape from past traumas without ever fully allowing myself to heal and actually live my real life. How the world is these days certainly doesn't help either... It's both comforting and sad to see just how many other people have the exact same issue. I believe that something will happen in our lives to make us embrace reality again if we haven't already ourselves.
I do hope we can go back to reality, instead of being stuck in a digital purgatory for the rest of your lives.
I would not blame technology, but rather the people using it making fiction so damn good compared to real life. If it would not be for tech, we'd most likely want to live in books or smth
I believe this reality escapism is like being trapped in a world you like, looks enjoyable, is wonderful. Reality, on the other hand, is the monotone, sad, hard world. Of course like any "noob" we want the easy world. However the easy world could kill us if we stay too much in it. Like choosing between spending time with 2 friends that care about you but easily could swipe you off, both killers. You have to find the right combination to not die from one or both (aka staying sane).
I feel myself drifting a lot, my goal changing to only trying to survive each day. I can barely focus and each time I set a a goal, I end up just procrastinating more than anything. Not to mention my mind has just had a constant wave of overthinking. Over and over and over and over. I sometimes don’t even see the point of living yet I keep going and when I try to vent to my friends. Sometimes I just feel empty, and I feel alone a lot, wanting to venture out, to share my passion of writing but end up stuck in my own head. Sometimes I think it’s better to isolate myself but then I’m left with my own thoughts, I even have trouble with my job because of this behavior.
this has been me lately,it's hard to be happy with reality when everything is saddening
Yey I'm early!! (Still watching the video)
Oh no... the points... it's too accurate
This video is to real and true ive been trying to avoid things like homework and important projects like the 3 i have tommorow that i havent begun with yet but its good to see im not alone
Edit: never finished those projects almost passed out from stress
Sorry last edit: im even procrastinating by watching these videos and just balling my eyes out everytime i dont wanna see a therapist i just need to find the courage to talk to my parents
Yea I like draw every single day, when I get a test or quiz there will be a guarantee be one or two drawings per page. And sometimes ((often)) I go into auto walk when I think of a lot of things. I also day dream a lot and soon out. I dread school and going to school. I just want to be in bed and sleep forever.
I relate to a lot of these lol
Ahaha me too I would really like to just stay in bed forever although I always sleep late haha dreams are so weird and tragic for me..
right on time
I am in the video!
I am escaping reality by acting like this character
1:27 I FEEL THIS AND 1ST TIME SOMEONE IS UNDERSTANDING OMG!!!
I FEEL LIKE I AM THERE BUT NOT, ITS JUST SURREAL
My sign of escaping reality was me avoiding this video for a week so I didn’t have to think about how I’m escaping reality for just a little bit longer
Exactly me for past few months and still now
I have just moved yo s very rural location and i have no car, nor been sble to drive since i became disabled. Yes, i do this, as vant get out of the house. I realate to this in almost all the subject you mention.
It’s almost as if a world built on practices of distraction and isolation can lead people to want to try and avoid it
Because of this, my ex boyfriend and me broke up: he was the one trying to escape from reality after having a very bad new. At the end, it jeopardized our relationship as we never spent any time together and we started having daily discussions because of this until we broke up.
I acctually needed this video 2 Jears ago
I've been feeling like this for so long. Even though I have good days, the urge to just disconnect is insane. I don't remember a time when I felt completely connected to reality and I feel like I'm always in-between. I don't know how to stop it and I honestly really wish I could. It isn't nice and cozy anymore. It's lonely and miserable and I wish I was someone different, better and present. I need money, but without having a job to make money I can't visit my therapist... This is a vent. I'm holding on by a thread, I don't know what to do anymore and I really need help.
wisdom
Some people just need to realize that they've been chasing others but never truly themselves, when all they truly needed to find true happiness was to chase themselves for themselves and not others, for if one is good, good comes. If one is bad, bad comes. It is just the same for whether one's self is good or bad.
"But what if I don't have anything good about me?" My response to that is how do you even know that when you haven't even chased yourself? When you chase something you naturally focus on it and when you didn't truly chase yourself, you didn't truly focus on yourself. And we all know how the lack of focus affects things, and for those who don't, well, your progress slows down. Your distractors wins. And when you apply this knowledge to not focusing oneself. You lose. Your distractors win. Your progress slows down. And even if you truly didn't have anything good, why not make good? If you don't have it, go get it. If you're hungry, go get food. "But what if I really can't?" Here's where the phrase if you can't love yourself, you can't love others, come in. Because if you truly loved yourself, you'd truly know yourself and you'd do anything to get what yourself best needs. See the words "you'd truly know yourself?" To truly know one's self, one must first chase oneself. One must truly focus on himself. And now if you truly loved yourself you'd definitely understand what others truly need best and if you didn't. You wouldn't be able to understand others which would lead to being not "good" enough. So I tell you all. Love yourselves and love others. Truly chase yourselves for if together we chase ourselves. Together we can find and increase the capability to love one another in a world where we'd maybe used to think that we weren't good enough. "Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself” - The Bible.
Please spread this to everyone you know, guys. It's all I ask of you all.
My problem is probably not wanting to reconnect with reality even though I feel the increasing pressure of knowing I can't live like this forever
i can relate to those signs, feeling ashamed of telling but i also binge eating and watching movies so that i can feel various emotions from those movies. In reality, i often feel lost or empty or bland so i reach out to movies to fulfill my feelings. But as i've grown older, for now, i don't wanna escape my real situation anymore. I wanna take responsibility for myself and face any feeling that comes to me. Actually, escaping is just a temporary strategy, even now i still don't know how to face and figure out the way to quit that routine, but i'm tryna be more aware of moments and feelings i have and not avoid any hard feeling. Bcz i've been binge watching movies till i was watching but cannot feel anything or u can say i cannot relate or feel the feelings of characters, and i don't think that's a good idea if i keep living aimlessly. Bcz i genuinely understand, appreciate and love myself, so i wanna at least quit the routine and try to face my real self and life. I hope i can receive some kind words or piece of advice to improve my situation for the better. If that's so, I rly appreciate your helps 🤍
Thanks for so meaningful and valuable video as always ❤❤❤
Today’s topic and contents are especially really helpful and beneficial to me 😂😂😂
Thank you for your kind words, they mean a lot to us.
I'm doing this now, I will continue to do this and I've been doing it for my entire life, I spend the day trying to turn my mind off and I spend my nights talking to myself, sounding like the second coming of Aristotle, the best I can hope for is that things get better about 2 and a half years in the future, though, since I'm telling the entire world this in youtube comments, I find even that doubtful.
Your voice is so soothing ❤
Every time I try to talk to people in my family and show them my common interests they just get mad and when I ask about what they like and what they want to talk about they just tell me no
Sleeping is my escapism, It's the only time I don't have to feel anything that goes with reality. It's also the reason I love dreaming too. It's like I'm watching my life but in third person so I don't have to control anything about myself.
To be fair...if reality wouldn't suck so hard, maybe less people would try to avoid it...
I feel like I’m spiralling, I can’t physically or mentally keep up with my responsibilities like going to uni/studying, seeing/messaging friends, socialising, religious activities, checking/responding to emails/texts, I even lost my therapist from not replying to their emails and missing sessions but at the same time I’m doing nothing mostly all day just watching UA-cam, cleaning, cooking, praying, eating and daydreaming/overthinking
Yeap, that's me. I spend over 4 hours reading books and manhwas every single day , while I should be figuring out what to do with my life....
Being honest, I feel kinda lost. I was in my second year at the university when I found out that it wasn't what I really wanted to study, and now this is my second year without studying. To not feel improductive, I started learning English. Recently, I feel like studying abroad, but I don't know where to start...
This is definitely me.
I ❤ the cartoons. ! Plump and Chibi
The title called me out already 😭
This is oddly satisfying. I can't explain why, but I love it.
I relate to everything here