100% someone who shifts the narrative to her own meaning would be exhausting to be in connection with.. too many mindgames.. shes not type A personality shes type toxic
The fact the lady told her she wasnt ready yet, needed a bit more work, and her walls were too high, and this lady translates that to "not worthy of love" shows the matchmaker was indeed correct.
Exactly. If you can't take constructive criticism and hear what you're being told without getting defensive.... Yea, you're not ready to be in a committed, communicative relationship. She's not ready to *give* love.
@trrulieeeee See, you did exactly what the lady did. Kinda funny. No one said anyone was unworthy of love and she didn't paraphrase what the lady said. Since nothing the matchmaker said translated to her being unworthy of love. She told her she wasn't READY yet. Those are 2 very different things. If you don't see that then accountability isn't your strong suit either.
Not to disagree with you but I think the matchmaker understood her a little differently. She said she's the leader type and is also looking for a leader type. You can't have two leaders. That's like a horse with two heads...so the lady understood her wants are not realistic for a relationship that will work... as a matter of fact I don't even believe the type of man she's looking for would give her a second glance based on what she puts out
TBH she can end up dating a guy that's relatively half as dominant as her and I'm sure he'd tell her twice to stfu before telling her to kick rocks. I've never heard of a leader wanting to deal with another leaders bullshit when "leading". -Alright babe I'm done organizing the itinerary for our trip. We leave at 8am tomorrow to make good time. -no, actually I say we leave at 11 because 8 is too early and I don't want to take this route. -fine bitch go on your own then. I'm out.
Yea. I don’t think “feminine energy” has anything to do with it. It seems to be more about being a bit high strung. Being a leader is fine and all, but a leader of what?
Relationships are give and recieve. In a healthy relationship the'power'continually shifts from one to the other and depending on the situation. You have to be able to swim and float.
@@happierpathyou get to say whatever you want and only one will get to have a final say. That doesn’t mean you can’t convince them to say the final say.
Can't say didn't make any progress she could have came a very long way and that's why she's more confident in wanting to look for love. Even if she's not at 100% doesn't mean she started at the same level she is now.
Right, she obviously knows her own male clientele as well so she was basically letting her know that none of them would likely go for her. I'd rather reject someone up front than suggest them to go on potentially bad dates if that were my whole profession. No bad reviews on my site! 😅
Just doesn’t work does it lol. Imagine them trying to make a decision, they will never get anywhere. I can imagine arguing all the time, especially on her behalf nagging, aaaah
@@taffydavis471 Yeah, this attitude is baffling to me. You want someone with enough of a backbone to actually be a leader in a relationship, and then to just exist in a constant state of challenging them. In what universe is that game fun? No man on Earth wants this.
@@magicman9552 good that humans aren't cars. Also there will be tons of men who will be ready for her. I thought men complained that they don't have the high end at the dating pool?
The matchmaker was honest and direct - you can’t have two leaders in a relationship who both want to run things. She didn’t say the woman was “unworthy”, just that her walls are too high.
I love the part where she's offended at the idea of changing herself for partnership, yet the whole point of partnership is that both parties are gonna have to do some changing to make things work. Nobody goes unchanged in a long term relationship.
Changing yourself without a partner is so unnatural unless you want to change a bad habit that you have a problem with. My personality hasn’t changed since I met my bf and his personality hasn’t changed either. We’re just compatible that’s it. If you want to get into a relationship with a mindset that you need to change you’re not ready for one. You’ll most likely put yourself in a very toxic situation where you and your partner are completely different to the point that you’re annoyed with each other all the time and you’re forcing yourself to be someone you’re not. Of course I compromise in my relationship but I would never call that “changing myself”. I just make sure me and my partner are happy and we make decisions that are good for both of us but I would never settle down for someone who doesn’t meet my standards in the first place. The woman in the video shows narcissistic tendencies and probably has some mental health problems that’s why she can’t have a successful relationship. However this “matchmaker” is a scammer lol. I never had a dating app and I never went to a matchmaker I don’t know if it’s normal in the US (I’m from Europe) but paying someone 350$ for a visit where they tell you, you can’t find a partner is INSANE. The way she worded her expectations is kinda childish but still if someone is a matchmaker and they can only match one type of women they’re a shitty matchmaker if that’s even a real thing because it sounds like some psychic shit. Anyway saying she needs to be more feminine and her problems will go away is stupid as well. It’s much more deeper than that. She’s probably still dealing with a lot of stuff and needs to go to an actual psychiatrist (a doctor) not a therapist because the therapy aint working. EDIT: Okay so many people misunderstood what I was trying to say. By changing yourself I meant a big change that everyone will notice. For example if you’re very introverted and meet with your friends once every 3 weeks/month and then you suddenly force yourself to become an extrovert and meet new people almost every single day and go to every party because you don’t believe anyone would want to date an introverted person then that’s what I call unnatural change. It’s obvious that we “change” everyday but it’s unnoticeable so I wouldn’t point that out.
@alicja5602 what? Changing yourself happens constantly, even if you don't realize it. If you're changing only qhen you have partners then you have personal problems you need to deal with, it's completely natural to change when you don't have a partner.
She didn't say it, but she was also rejected because she stated she'd like to be the boss in the relationship, as well as him, and it doesn't work like that. No relationship or marriage ever succeeds when both people are trying to be leaders, because there can only be one leader. One leader, and one supporter. So long as she has that mentality of wanting to be an equal leader, she'll never have a successful relationship. I'd have rejected her as well. She's 38, she should know full well that marriages never work if the wife is trying to be the boss/leader in the relationship as well.
She’s seeking out specific type of men that don’t prefer women like her, and the lady was nice enough to tell her the truth so she won’t waste her money and energy.
Who tf is looking for a 38 year old woman who wants to make ALL the decisions in the house? There's no future for younger guys, and older guys can't be bothered with this nonsense.
She clearly hasn’t listens to her therapist any more than she listened to the matchmaker. She doesn’t want a relationship, she wants a business partner.
@@thatsrealroughbud...2394 marriage is a partnership…but this woman wants someone more like an employee…I would have to see the benefits package that went with that “marriage”.
What you want is irrelevant when what you want doesn't want you. Good job matchmaker for not setting a man up with a toxic woman who doesn't know self reflection or how to be a woman.
That's what I was thinking, too. The therapists these days are more like yes men. They're all about confirming one's feelings and crap rather than making people face accountability.
She literally said her problem in the first two sentences. The men she is attracted to are not attracted to her. That's not something a matchmaker can magically change.
Yeah, she wasn't trying to diminish her but letting ber know what she deals with and what she sees in her work. I've seen another matchmaker online say the same thing but in the inverse. She said the men who come to matchmakers are 1. Rich 2. Older 3. Want a certain type of woman physically: pretty, thin, young looking, simple-minded, the barbie type. But that comes along with a certain mentality. The women that would actually make them happy are actually more of the intelligent, bosses , mature women, but those women aren't beautiful. Also she mentioned that they want loyal women, but the barbie types are seldom loyal. She said these men need to date older accomplished women, but they aren't attracted to them. So it's the conundrum of men and women not wanting those that would suit them and being attracted to those who will not act how they want. She said she actually stopped being a matchmaker for this reason.
She also says she's a leader-type personality and is looking for someone who is also a leader type. Matching 2 dominating people will almost certainly create a lot of conflict unless they are more calm & level-headed. She does not give off the vibe of being a calm, level-headed person. More like a drama queen that ran straight to the internet for validation and attention.
@wikus2411 exactly! The way she took the lady's words and then put her own meaning on it, and the meaning was insulting. That demonstrates that she's not level headed. Ppl that take others' words and make them into weapons when they weren't being used that way.. TOXIC! i personally think it's sad ppl spend so much time in "therapy" and they never actually become healed of their character flaws. I feel bad that they are being strung along in this system. I have seen family members in therapy for years, never any improvement in their mental state if anything, she is worse. I had trauma too from growing up, so I went to therapy. I switched therapists twice because they weren't working for me, then recognized it wasn't helping me and decided to do my own healing. I'm def doing alot better than I was at that point in my life. I personally see therapy to be equivalent to our medical system, which in alot of ways keeps u sick by giving treatments, but no cures. Not saying it's all bad, I think there's a place for them both, but some ppl just simply need Jesus.
Therapy ONLY works, if the person themselves put in the Work to change, not bitch and complain about the same thing every appointment.....nothing will ever change then!!
Sounds like she wants her opinion to also hold weight in the relationship and decisions to be made with her. Sounds like she wants a man who knows his strengths AND weaknesses understands they are a team and let her lead in the areas she is strong in in where he may not be as well as know how to follow like any real leader does.
@@JirehaNikole ? If that's your opinion on men then I hate to break it to you lady but I think you need to fix your taste. Stop attracting bad men. What you listed is the bare minimum and if you haven't gotten that, why did you stick around?? You attract what you are, so, upgrade yourself.
I was thinking that, you can spend years in therapy and go nowhere if they can’t challenge you and push you to grow. Some people just seek out a therapist to reassure them and validate themselves. lol
Why not? There are so many things to do and rule over not just in the family but in life in general, plenty of room for leadership. My grandfather was a colonel. But my grandmother was the one who ruled the household and she was a teacher. They loved each other, respected each other opinions, so I'm not sure why 2 people can't be equals. When in fact that is exactly the type of relationship me and my own husband have for 10 years now.
@ninjawizard3865, no, that is not true. She ran the household. But followed her husband when his job required relocation. I guess if you truly belive that equal partnership is impossible nothing that I say will change your opinion. And that is fine.
Everybody knows the Vatican has two Popes and thst the United States has two Presidents. Next election Biden and Trump will be running the country together.
It’s sounding like, she found a therapist who told her what she was ready and willing to hear, not someone to help her do what the matchmaker said, because in 10 years you haven’t learned to listen and take advice/criticism.. that’s the one robbing her😅
@@jessimarim_m9387I think she does therapy and just goes with the motions. Doesn’t actually grow or try. Just does it to do it. Doesn’t actually want to change.
When it comes to relationships, it is give and take so if you are not into that, you really are wasting time. Just hire someone. Good for the matchmaker not to take her money knowing her current state won't work
Yes she’s weeding out those not for her, while also displaying it in a masculine way. The type of man she wants, wants a wife not another leader. You can be a woman & display strength but real men who are attracted to women are attracted to feminine females & this lady displays too much testosterone
Essentially, for $350, the matchmaker found you worthy of hearing the truth, respected you enough to tell you the truth, and even offered suggestions for self-improvement. In one hour.
The matchmaker definitely offered more help than therapy for 10 years! I’ve been in therapy a handful of times. And my first thought going in is “when will I have what I need to not be here anymore”. Therapy isn’t supposed to be a lifelong thing. Get your tools and move on.
Even my therapists said most people don't need to be in therapy for more than 3 years. After that you're not making progress, you're just paying for a boat.
Not true. I see a therapist for life time because I am always experiencing new issues that could be a trauma that settles but I have someone to talk thru it that knows me.
@@AmyCoello Then your therapist has failed to prepare you to handle those things. Two things happen in therapy. You go because of an issue...you deal with that issue and learn how to deal with similar issues while finding the root cause. that doesn't take 20 years, or 10, not even 5. You should also walk away with the tools to help yourself deal with future issues. If you keep coming back for the same "issues" in a different form....You HAVE FAILED to listen and your therapist has failed to provide you with tools to deal with life.
And here's the actual problem. She took the honest criticism as an insult, NOT as friendly advice to actually do something about it. The MAIN problem of this generation.
Dude, she's almost 40. So unless your about 60-70, kind of a dumb comment about generations. I'd say its more of either men not being in their daughters lives or being told like every other girl "they're a princess". Thats nothing new. The difference today is that we enable delusional people instead of help them. Mostly because the generation before her and I destroyed most of the free mental facilities that would handle this kind of problem. Instead we have private prisons. Keeping the poor poor.
@@trapsenpaii Do you know the therapy could’ve been for trauma that she experienced maybe she was getting over the trauma I know you know nothing about her because let’s be honest no one in this common section knows what the fuck are they talking about except for me and I’m glad I do so I can defend people like this cause sometimes when people are acting stupidly things are perfectly reasonable like wanting to be in a relationship where you are both equals which is all this woman is asking for and a bunch of people hating on her foot well then they need to be someone to point out how stupid you are
@@ravenisnotmyname711 Exactly the type of person I'm talking about. You can tell them a million times what they need to do, yet they still come back with the same BS decade after decade.
The fact that the matchmakers point went right over her head doesn’t surprise me. She didn’t say you aren’t worthy of love but she did say you need to do some self reflection essentially.
It's ironic when a woman goes on a diatribe complaining about how poorly she was treated by her matchmaker. Yet after 10k comments, EVERYBODY AGREES WITH THE ERSTWHILE MATCHMAKER ❤😂
yea that's what I was thinking, thats actually a BAD combo if both are competitive.. I can just imagine the power struggle between two competitive people And both refusing to compromise because they feel they are right
That's bc you do not understand what a leader is. It is not about competition. She wants a man who is not a follower and has ambition to build a life and want better, not mediocrity. Which is fine for some but not what everyone wants.
Thank you! That immediately rubbed me the wrong way, I absolutely detest it when men or women go banging on about "alphas" and "betas" like it's an actual thing. I hate it, it's a massive ick
Fr. 100%. I always hate that because they put themselves in a corner where they're so overbearing and bossy that most men will say nah no thanks or if they do go for them they call them betas. It's stupid
@@melindaflynn763 its a service. she didnt become a matchmaker so she could give out freebies. additionally, what the matchmaker advised wouldve helped the woman if she just realized it wasnt a diss.
The way I read those whole situation is that the matchmaker will only accept specific kinds of women because they're what the men she has are after. Don't think this "advice" she gave her was anything other than a way to get rid of her.
@@krzysztofklimczak8297 10 years of therapy but she refuses to change anything about herself makes no sense. Wants a relationship with 2 leaders, because that always works out well. Whatever she's been doing clearly hasn't been working.and OMG lay off the makeup!
It is admirable that the matchmaker doesn't just take on anyone but excludes those who might be a waste of other clients' time and money. That is actually respectful of her real clients.
It was also respectful of this woman's time. She let her know that until she made some changes attempting to find a match for her would be a waste of her time and money. $350 well spent.
Yup. And who would have quessed that a OK looking woman who still hasn't found a partner at 38 should change some things about herself 😂 and she still didn't get it 🤦♂️
I’m wondering if this woman’s therapist is just a “yes person”. She needs a therapist that challenges her. That gets her to see different points of views and perspectives. Everyone can work on something about themselves. Especially if you’re almost 40 and can’t find love??! Maybe time to take a hard look at WHY. What can you do to improve upon yourself. Not completely change, but there is SOMETHING that is preventing you from finding your happiness. With that being said, I totally agree with the candidness of the matchmaker. Kudos to her for letting this woman know she “isn’t ready” which is NOT the same as “not worthy”. I also believe if the matchmaker isn’t going to provide services to this woman, she deserves some sort of a refund 🤷♀️ maybe not a full refund but something bc the matchmaker isn’t going to work for her. Just my honest opinion
I was speaking with a 23 year old relative and she was describing the type of man she wanted. He needs to be a “hard worker, driven, loyal, honest, selfless, etc” and I asked her if she was ready for a man like that. She looked confused. I explained that a man like that deserves a woman like that. I asked her how can we expect qualifies from a potential partner that we don’t posses? She didn’t get defensive. She actually listened. She was honest with herself an acknowledged she needed to work on some things.
I'm 24 and my dad told me the same thing when I turned 20. It caught me off guard but I saw he was right, so now instead of jumping into relationships, I'm trying out the whole "make myself someone who my ideal type would also be able to respect and love". Found out that it made me more introspective and quieter.
Clearly she doesnt have those qualities it seems but I get her. I wished for someone who had qualities that I never possessed. But at the end of the day, I found her and I actually learned them from her. Conclusion, surround yourself with family, friends, and even partners that can help you grow as a person and learn something positive from them. Your friend wasnt too off tho. I hope she finds him and learn from him. Some people do need that.
@@krumplethemal8831 Ha ha ha ha ha I’m so is your logic is so stupid one whole being single has nothing to do with it when she talked about therapy so she was with covering or something pops using trauma over something that happened to me that’s why she single maybe she isn’t connecting with the right people maybe she hasn’t been dating for a while your assumptions saying that because she wants to be strong and also be a northern have a strong man is the reason why she single is so stupid that it would actually take a mole level of IQ to agree with you
@@ChadrickKinman327 I know of a lot of "face cakers" that have this problem. They destroy their skin with too much cosmetics and/or chemical washes in a vain attempt to look better. Of course some people just didn't seem to win the lottery on looks either.
My matchmaker did not reject me, but did tell me my "I don't need a man wall" at first impression, and that if I showed more of my relaxed natural loosened up personality it would show more of who I am as a woman. I paid her $1000.00 for 5 introductions. I did take it to heart and did have some nice introductions, but no love connections. However my next 2 boyfriends I took it to heart more because I had no clue I may have been presenting myself as too hard. Met my husband just 6 months after her great advice.
Here's some Constructive Criticism, this Woman is 38 years Old, and still don't know that Men wanting Marriage don't want 'Type A' Women....that is just asking for a Divorce in the short term!!
Yup. And who would have quessed that a OK looking woman who still hasn't found a partner at 38 should change some things about herself 😂 and she still didn't get it 🤦♂️
Taking the matchmakers comment of “not being ready” and equating it to “not being worthy of love” is 100% a trauma response where we distort reality to fit the narrative we have in our heads about ourselves. This lady still has a lot of deep healing to do and it’s likely she has a lot of resistance in therapy as this is something a good therapist would try to work through with their client.
I may live in a different universe (Europe), and I have never seen capable, competent and intelligent men settling with a woman who doesn't have exactly the same traits. Rich people are marrying rich people, poor people are marrying poor people. Always have been like that, there may be few cases of poor marrying into rich families, but the reality is that people care for the social standing of their parents. And then there are these "bitcoin bros" and similar people who made money over past few years, and they are saying they don't care about women's education, intelligence etc., but the truth is that they only moved up in the monetary value, but their mind is still in the same place. Try hosting a dinner and invite somebody from a real money with a class, and see how you'll be looked down because your wife is stupid.
I always thought the same thing, its kind of like being put on med after med after med, they may not be the solution you were hoping they would be perhaps. Seek help elsewhere.
Nobody would bat an eye if someone told a man that he needed to work on himself in order to be ready for a relationship with the type of woman that he wants.
Well, men and women are so different from each other right? That’s the outcome. Double standards happen if we see men and women as not equal. I’m not saying that’s a bad or good thing, it just simply is.
I think everyone would bat an eye if a man was told he wasn't ready for a woman because he had too much feminine energy and wanted a woman who was a leader
The matchmaker gaver her feedback that was her money's worth. Little Miss is pretty intense, even in her initial manner of speaking. On second thought, the matchmaker was *very* tactful and *kind.* "... In therapy ten plus years..." is a huge red flag. Ruunnnn!
Yep... and to think... this information is also FREE. All she needed to do was ask a man what he looks for in a woman... most men will tell her for free.
Listen she been in therapy for over 10 years. After a decade of therapy if she ain't saying she's got some issues. There's no saving a woman no amount of therapy can help a woman. She absolutely insane
'I'm a type A leader and also wants a type A leader...' She's gonna end up alone or find someone to constantly fight with because both are going to demand their own way all the time. Matchmaker made a great call. Saved her reputation for matching actual relationships.
So she is gonna end up alone cause she is a leader but men don't end up alone when the same, you do know that not all women are the same all don't fall for that 2nd place and let men lead for then, you can do that
@@wallisvictor9688No one said she was going to end up alone, but OP is right. Two leader types are not likely to be a good match. They will always be fighting for that leader role.
The Matchmaker never said she wasn't worthy of love she just said she wasn't ready. Two different things.
100% someone who shifts the narrative to her own meaning would be exhausting to be in connection with.. too many mindgames.. shes not type A personality shes type toxic
The irony is that is what the Karen heard but just said those betas aren't worthy of it. Probably why she heard it because she felt it against others.
You mean you tell a woman one thing and she twists the words into what she thinks you said? No way!! 😂😂
Exactly, there is a huge difference.
This ! ❤
The fact the lady told her she wasnt ready yet, needed a bit more work, and her walls were too high, and this lady translates that to "not worthy of love" shows the matchmaker was indeed correct.
True but it never hurts to have standards either, men nowadays just want to f*ck and then dip, it’s good to know what you’re looking for
so paraphrasing also makes you unworthy of love. cool.
Exactly. If you can't take constructive criticism and hear what you're being told without getting defensive.... Yea, you're not ready to be in a committed, communicative relationship. She's not ready to *give* love.
@trrulieeeee See, you did exactly what the lady did. Kinda funny. No one said anyone was unworthy of love and she didn't paraphrase what the lady said. Since nothing the matchmaker said translated to her being unworthy of love. She told her she wasn't READY yet. Those are 2 very different things. If you don't see that then accountability isn't your strong suit either.
Are you the woman in this video? @@trrulieeeee
Has no chill. Looking for a man who also has no chill.
Matchmaker: No. That would be awful. 😂
Yeah, Fucking Skeletor is not the ideal partner.
Not to disagree with you but I think the matchmaker understood her a little differently. She said she's the leader type and is also looking for a leader type. You can't have two leaders. That's like a horse with two heads...so the lady understood her wants are not realistic for a relationship that will work... as a matter of fact I don't even believe the type of man she's looking for would give her a second glance based on what she puts out
@@Cue6bh You're right. That doesn't disagree with me at all. That is basically expanding on what I said. 😂
TBH she can end up dating a guy that's relatively half as dominant as her and I'm sure he'd tell her twice to stfu before telling her to kick rocks. I've never heard of a leader wanting to deal with another leaders bullshit when "leading".
-Alright babe I'm done organizing the itinerary for our trip. We leave at 8am tomorrow to make good time.
-no, actually I say we leave at 11 because 8 is too early and I don't want to take this route.
-fine bitch go on your own then. I'm out.
Yea. I don’t think “feminine energy” has anything to do with it. It seems to be more about being a bit high strung. Being a leader is fine and all, but a leader of what?
😂😂😂😂😂 I'm a leader, and I want a leader. When it's crunch time, who gets the final say?
Relationships are give and recieve.
In a healthy relationship the'power'continually shifts from one to the other and depending on the situation.
You have to be able to swim and float.
@@happierpathyou get to say whatever you want and only one will get to have a final say. That doesn’t mean you can’t convince them to say the final say.
@@happierpathwrong men decide relationships woman sex
The fact that this woman heard “unworthy” instead of “not ready”, proves the matchmakers point and shows that she probably needs more therapy.
Better therapy.
Therapy from a non woke therapist.
If 10+ years of therapy hasn't helped yet, it never will.
She needs our Lord Jesus Christ. Only He can change our hearts.
@@MrBalrog64 💯
"Ripe age of 38, been in therapy for 10+ years"
Matchmaker: "Your therapist isnt working."
I think she's overripe bordering on rotten by the age of 38
I can’t imagine starting therapy at my age (28) and going for 10 years without making any progress on self awareness.
You dont know where it started😅
Can't say didn't make any progress she could have came a very long way and that's why she's more confident in wanting to look for love. Even if she's not at 100% doesn't mean she started at the same level she is now.
@samu6874 thanks for the laugh
Sounds like the Matchmaker should become her therapist. 😂
"I'm a leader looking for a leader"
Honey.. That is never going to work.
What are two bosses going to do? Yell at each other and get nothing done.
Whole lot of assumptions in your response: Leaders are bosses. Leaders yell. Leaders do nothing.
I’d say that was $350 well spent. She gave her more truth in 1 session than her therapists have given her in 10 years apparently
Right, she obviously knows her own male clientele as well so she was basically letting her know that none of them would likely go for her. I'd rather reject someone up front than suggest them to go on potentially bad dates if that were my whole profession. No bad reviews on my site! 😅
To be fair, we don’t have any info on what she was like before those 10 years of therapy…
Facts
I could've told her that for free!
Yes
The matchmaker said the truth to her face for 350 dollars.. while the therapist been taking her money for years and lying to her LOL
YES
She has way too much makeup on to be told anything to her face. The truth can not be heard thru all those layers.
100%!!!! 10 years is a LONG time to be in therapy 😂
Best 350 she could've spent
Yea clearly her methods have been working beatifully
"I'm a driver and I'm looking for someone to drive my car while I'm also driving."
Said it in nutshell there, Magic. Can you imagine listening to that b******* all day long?
She wants a male leader but she doesn’t want to follow. No wonder she’s in therapy.
Just doesn’t work does it lol. Imagine them trying to make a decision, they will never get anywhere. I can imagine arguing all the time, especially on her behalf nagging, aaaah
@@taffydavis471 Yeah, this attitude is baffling to me. You want someone with enough of a backbone to actually be a leader in a relationship, and then to just exist in a constant state of challenging them. In what universe is that game fun? No man on Earth wants this.
@@magicman9552 good that humans aren't cars. Also there will be tons of men who will be ready for her. I thought men complained that they don't have the high end at the dating pool?
The matchmaker was honest and direct - you can’t have two leaders in a relationship who both want to run things. She didn’t say the woman was “unworthy”, just that her walls are too high.
I love the part where she's offended at the idea of changing herself for partnership, yet the whole point of partnership is that both parties are gonna have to do some changing to make things work. Nobody goes unchanged in a long term relationship.
Changing yourself without a partner is so unnatural unless you want to change a bad habit that you have a problem with. My personality hasn’t changed since I met my bf and his personality hasn’t changed either. We’re just compatible that’s it. If you want to get into a relationship with a mindset that you need to change you’re not ready for one. You’ll most likely put yourself in a very toxic situation where you and your partner are completely different to the point that you’re annoyed with each other all the time and you’re forcing yourself to be someone you’re not. Of course I compromise in my relationship but I would never call that “changing myself”. I just make sure me and my partner are happy and we make decisions that are good for both of us but I would never settle down for someone who doesn’t meet my standards in the first place.
The woman in the video shows narcissistic tendencies and probably has some mental health problems that’s why she can’t have a successful relationship. However this “matchmaker” is a scammer lol. I never had a dating app and I never went to a matchmaker I don’t know if it’s normal in the US (I’m from Europe) but paying someone 350$ for a visit where they tell you, you can’t find a partner is INSANE. The way she worded her expectations is kinda childish but still if someone is a matchmaker and they can only match one type of women they’re a shitty matchmaker if that’s even a real thing because it sounds like some psychic shit. Anyway saying she needs to be more feminine and her problems will go away is stupid as well. It’s much more deeper than that. She’s probably still dealing with a lot of stuff and needs to go to an actual psychiatrist (a doctor) not a therapist because the therapy aint working.
EDIT: Okay so many people misunderstood what I was trying to say. By changing yourself I meant a big change that everyone will notice. For example if you’re very introverted and meet with your friends once every 3 weeks/month and then you suddenly force yourself to become an extrovert and meet new people almost every single day and go to every party because you don’t believe anyone would want to date an introverted person then that’s what I call unnatural change. It’s obvious that we “change” everyday but it’s unnoticeable so I wouldn’t point that out.
@alicja5602 what? Changing yourself happens constantly, even if you don't realize it. If you're changing only qhen you have partners then you have personal problems you need to deal with, it's completely natural to change when you don't have a partner.
She didn't say it, but she was also rejected because she stated she'd like to be the boss in the relationship, as well as him, and it doesn't work like that. No relationship or marriage ever succeeds when both people are trying to be leaders, because there can only be one leader. One leader, and one supporter. So long as she has that mentality of wanting to be an equal leader, she'll never have a successful relationship. I'd have rejected her as well. She's 38, she should know full well that marriages never work if the wife is trying to be the boss/leader in the relationship as well.
@@alicja5602everyone changes throughout the lifespan of a relationship, and most like you don't realize it.
@@alicja5602 Shes not ready cuz she doesnt want to submit to a man but shes legit miserable being alone it sucks
She’s seeking out specific type of men that don’t prefer women like her, and the lady was nice enough to tell her the truth so she won’t waste her money and energy.
Yeah... the energy she has is the exact opposite of what her ideal type of man is looking for... but she's self aware enough to see that :(
But, she did spend 350$ to talk to her. Consultant fees.
@@moonstar3856 It’s therapy fee
Who tf is looking for a 38 year old woman who wants to make ALL the decisions in the house? There's no future for younger guys, and older guys can't be bothered with this nonsense.
@@moonstar385610+ years of therapy to one consultation is a drop in the bucket.
Too many chefs spoil the soup
Applaud that match maker. She is doing God's work by protecting good men from this toxic woman.
A good leader doesn’t blurt out “I’m a leader!” They just lead. I get the vibe she likes to be controlling.
Yup!!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
I do too and a man like she's looking for will not go for that usually
No shit Sherlock?
Women are never leaders
@cindy1234650 Ever. The man she is convinced she deserves will not be looking for an arrogant, middle aged, hit the wall shrew.
She clearly hasn’t listens to her therapist any more than she listened to the matchmaker. She doesn’t want a relationship, she wants a business partner.
And? That’s traditionally what marriages are
Marriages are a business
@@thatsrealroughbud...2394 marriages are partnerships yes but she isn’t looking for a partner, she wants an underling.
@@thatsrealroughbud...2394 marriage is a partnership…but this woman wants someone more like an employee…I would have to see the benefits package that went with that “marriage”.
@@thatsrealroughbud...2394 There's a reason she's 38, single, and been in therapy for 10 years.
Love that people can be so self-absorbed, self-centered, selfish, and downright stupid all at the same time. Amazing.
What you want is irrelevant when what you want doesn't want you.
Good job matchmaker for not setting a man up with a toxic woman who doesn't know self reflection or how to be a woman.
There’s no right way to be a woman. Believe it or not women can be leaders too
She spent 10 years paying a lying therapist but couldn't make it one session with a truthful matchmaker.
That's what I was thinking, too. The therapists these days are more like yes men. They're all about confirming one's feelings and crap rather than making people face accountability.
Therapy is only as good as you make it. They aren’t magic and can only go on your own perception/things you tell them.
Spot on 🎯
@@sparklywastaken1426no, they definitely coddle people and reinforce whatever believes or things they're saying.
10 years in therapy?😳
She literally said her problem in the first two sentences. The men she is attracted to are not attracted to her. That's not something a matchmaker can magically change.
Yeah, she wasn't trying to diminish her but letting ber know what she deals with and what she sees in her work. I've seen another matchmaker online say the same thing but in the inverse. She said the men who come to matchmakers are 1. Rich 2. Older 3. Want a certain type of woman physically: pretty, thin, young looking, simple-minded, the barbie type. But that comes along with a certain mentality. The women that would actually make them happy are actually more of the intelligent, bosses , mature women, but those women aren't beautiful. Also she mentioned that they want loyal women, but the barbie types are seldom loyal. She said these men need to date older accomplished women, but they aren't attracted to them. So it's the conundrum of men and women not wanting those that would suit them and being attracted to those who will not act how they want. She said she actually stopped being a matchmaker for this reason.
@@angelasu418 yup.
She also says she's a leader-type personality and is looking for someone who is also a leader type. Matching 2 dominating people will almost certainly create a lot of conflict unless they are more calm & level-headed. She does not give off the vibe of being a calm, level-headed person. More like a drama queen that ran straight to the internet for validation and attention.
And hence why she's not ready.
@wikus2411 exactly! The way she took the lady's words and then put her own meaning on it, and the meaning was insulting. That demonstrates that she's not level headed. Ppl that take others' words and make them into weapons when they weren't being used that way.. TOXIC!
i personally think it's sad ppl spend so much time in "therapy" and they never actually become healed of their character flaws. I feel bad that they are being strung along in this system. I have seen family members in therapy for years, never any improvement in their mental state if anything, she is worse. I had trauma too from growing up, so I went to therapy. I switched therapists twice because they weren't working for me, then recognized it wasn't helping me and decided to do my own healing. I'm def doing alot better than I was at that point in my life. I personally see therapy to be equivalent to our medical system, which in alot of ways keeps u sick by giving treatments, but no cures. Not saying it's all bad, I think there's a place for them both, but some ppl just simply need Jesus.
That was the best 350 she spent . Match maker was honest and did the right thing
When you meet an experienced professional and you think you know better than them.
She's mad at the $350...🤔 She needs to be mad at the amount of money she has paid for 10+ years of questionable therapy...
Exactly.
Therapy ONLY works, if the person themselves put in the Work to change, not bitch and complain about the same thing every appointment.....nothing will ever change then!!
Truth. It will be the best $350 she’s ever spent if she is willing to do the self reflection and practice what the matchmaker suggested.
💯
Odds are her therapist is another woman gassing her up if this is where she is at.
"I want to be a leader" "I also want him to be the leader" sounds like a recipe for 1 year divorce
Forever the optimist.
She would be a nightmare for 99% of men to live with. There may be a 1% guy that suits her. Good luck finding him.
To be 38 and that tightly wound.... doesnt sound fun.. she seems 48
Sounds like she wants her opinion to also hold weight in the relationship and decisions to be made with her. Sounds like she wants a man who knows his strengths AND weaknesses understands they are a team and let her lead in the areas she is strong in in where he may not be as well as know how to follow like any real leader does.
@@JirehaNikole ? If that's your opinion on men then I hate to break it to you lady but I think you need to fix your taste. Stop attracting bad men. What you listed is the bare minimum and if you haven't gotten that, why did you stick around?? You attract what you are, so, upgrade yourself.
Dont be mad at the matchmaker. Be mad at your therapist girl.
I was thinking that, you can spend years in therapy and go nowhere if they can’t challenge you and push you to grow. Some people just seek out a therapist to reassure them and validate themselves. lol
"In therapy for 10+ years..."
Wasted money!
You can’t have 2 leaders on a team unless one is willing to compromise when there is a disagreement. Relationships are give and take.
Why not? There are so many things to do and rule over not just in the family but in life in general, plenty of room for leadership.
My grandfather was a colonel. But my grandmother was the one who ruled the household and she was a teacher. They loved each other, respected each other opinions, so I'm not sure why 2 people can't be equals. When in fact that is exactly the type of relationship me and my own husband have for 10 years now.
@mashakachan9213 Clearly your grandmother was the leader in that relationship.
That doesn't mean they didn't love or respect each other but it's clear one was the leader and the other wasn't.
@ninjawizard3865, no, that is not true. She ran the household. But followed her husband when his job required relocation. I guess if you truly belive that equal partnership is impossible nothing that I say will change your opinion. And that is fine.
Nope only 1 leader in a relationship period !!!! @@mashakachan9213
"Im looking for a man who's ALSO a leader"..........Two leaders can't lead. Wtf!! Matchmaker was absolutely right.
It's not a game good cop bad cop.
@nataliesuper5836?
Everybody knows the Vatican has two Popes and thst the United States has two Presidents. Next election Biden and Trump will be running the country together.
She means, he makes the money, while she bosses him around and makes all the decisions. Cake/eat.
I don’t think so I think if he just made her money and she could boss him around she wouldn’t be attracted to him. I think that’s what she was saying.
Aghh the natural progression from boss Babe to Baron Catwoman 😂
Bruh, 10+ years of therapy... I got a feeling her therapist told her "You be you, and don't worry what others say" and she took that to heart.
I think after 38 years and 10 years of therapy, you shouldn’t even have needed that match maker to tell you something needed to change.
Common, just ten years!. Ten years is too short clear out the weeds
Maybe she should get another therapist 😂
It’s sounding like, she found a therapist who told her what she was ready and willing to hear, not someone to help her do what the matchmaker said, because in 10 years you haven’t learned to listen and take advice/criticism.. that’s the one robbing her😅
@@jessimarim_m9387I think she does therapy and just goes with the motions. Doesn’t actually grow or try. Just does it to do it. Doesn’t actually want to change.
Unless she paying for everything then I'm out, unless she wants to chill, but she don't seem like the chill type.
She twisted the matchmakers words so hard 😭
“She told me I might have my own issues and I was like ‘what!?’” 😂😂
Feminism ruined her chances!
she's cooked
Who is that match maker. She is weeding out the ones not ready and I like her standards.
Bruh. Let me know if you find that matchmaker. She's gonna make a living for her honesty.
When it comes to relationships, it is give and take so if you are not into that, you really are wasting time. Just hire someone. Good for the matchmaker not to take her money knowing her current state won't work
Yes she’s weeding out those not for her, while also displaying it in a masculine way. The type of man she wants, wants a wife not another leader. You can be a woman & display strength but real men who are attracted to women are attracted to feminine females & this lady displays too much testosterone
they have to bc men are the ones who pay the match makers bills and men don't want these nasty garbage dump women
@@lamarques And you've met all of these leaders?
She hears “you’re not ready” and immediately goes to “you don’t deserve it.” 😂
Well both are true.
Not wrong interpretation tho. Its like saying YOU are the problem, so you go and throw away everything that makes you a "you".
Explains the being in therapy part...
@@youmakemyskyblueI mean, 10+ years of therapy apparently didn’t worked
10 years in therapy? She should ask for her money back...
😂😂😂 she gave you every penny's worth of advice!!!
Essentially, for $350, the matchmaker found you worthy of hearing the truth, respected you enough to tell you the truth, and even offered suggestions for self-improvement. In one hour.
More than most therapists do in years at that.
The matchmaker definitely offered more help than therapy for 10 years!
I’ve been in therapy a handful of times. And my first thought going in is “when will I have what I need to not be here anymore”. Therapy isn’t supposed to be a lifelong thing. Get your tools and move on.
She got more from the matchmaker, than the therapist.
Even my therapists said most people don't need to be in therapy for more than 3 years. After that you're not making progress, you're just paying for a boat.
Therapy is a cure for mental sickness. If you're not getting cured, the cure ain't working.
Not true. I see a therapist for life time because I am always experiencing new issues that could be a trauma that settles but I have someone to talk thru it that knows me.
Then you're paying for a boat.
, Amy Coello
@@AmyCoello Then your therapist has failed to prepare you to handle those things.
Two things happen in therapy. You go because of an issue...you deal with that issue and learn how to deal with similar issues while finding the root cause. that doesn't take 20 years, or 10, not even 5. You should also walk away with the tools to help yourself deal with future issues.
If you keep coming back for the same "issues" in a different form....You HAVE FAILED to listen and your therapist has failed to provide you with tools to deal with life.
What I got from this was "This lady isn't worth the trouble." Finding her a partner would've taken way too much time away from more normal clients.
Matchmaker knows an impossible job when she sees one lol. There cannot be two chefs in the kitchen.
And here's the actual problem. She took the honest criticism as an insult, NOT as friendly advice to actually do something about it. The MAIN problem of this generation.
Dude, she's almost 40. So unless your about 60-70, kind of a dumb comment about generations. I'd say its more of either men not being in their daughters lives or being told like every other girl "they're a princess". Thats nothing new.
The difference today is that we enable delusional people instead of help them. Mostly because the generation before her and I destroyed most of the free mental facilities that would handle this kind of problem. Instead we have private prisons. Keeping the poor poor.
This generation? She's an early millenial, she is not a part of "this generation" 😂
Exactly!
If she actually worked towards changing instead of posting “insults” to tik tok, she wouldn’t be single
This generation? Lol, how old are you?
She's been in therapy for 10+ years. This woman needs to sue her therapist for a refund.
Some people are in therapy their whole lives and never do the work. 🤷♀️
Therapy usually is a lifelong journey, it's not medication -- you don't stop when you're "cured." You continue to grow and learn... she has not.
@@trapsenpaii Do you know the therapy could’ve been for trauma that she experienced maybe she was getting over the trauma I know you know nothing about her because let’s be honest no one in this common section knows what the fuck are they talking about except for me and I’m glad I do so I can defend people like this cause sometimes when people are acting stupidly things are perfectly reasonable like wanting to be in a relationship where you are both equals which is all this woman is asking for and a bunch of people hating on her foot well then they need to be someone to point out how stupid you are
What's wrong with fherapy?? Having someome to talk to, destress and unload is quiye healthy vs people thag unoad on gb with rants
@@ravenisnotmyname711 Exactly the type of person I'm talking about. You can tell them a million times what they need to do, yet they still come back with the same BS decade after decade.
The fact that the matchmakers point went right over her head doesn’t surprise me. She didn’t say you aren’t worthy of love but she did say you need to do some self reflection essentially.
It's ironic when a woman goes on a diatribe complaining about how poorly she was treated by her matchmaker.
Yet after 10k comments, EVERYBODY AGREES WITH THE ERSTWHILE MATCHMAKER ❤😂
She wants a competition, not a partner. Undatable.
yea that's what I was thinking, thats actually a BAD combo if both are competitive.. I can just imagine the power struggle between two competitive people And both refusing to compromise because they feel they are right
Yeah if you want to be the leader, you can't also date a leader. It'll just be a constant power struggle and arguing.
That's bc you do not understand what a leader is. It is not about competition. She wants a man who is not a follower and has ambition to build a life and want better, not mediocrity. Which is fine for some but not what everyone wants.
@@lotusgrl444It doesn't have to be bad..
@@mermaid4109This woman gives off creepy Mulvaney-esque energy ... neither understands the concept of femininity. I'd have to assume fatherlessness
She was telling her the truth, and saving her from failing with the dates.
And saving her money for that matter 😂
😂😂hahhaa so agree
Therapy is a fancy word for being gaslit for an hour at 100/h rate.
There's nothing wrong with being type A. At all. But as soon as she said "beta male" I was like, "Oh boy. Here we go."
Thank you! That immediately rubbed me the wrong way, I absolutely detest it when men or women go banging on about "alphas" and "betas" like it's an actual thing. I hate it, it's a massive ick
Fr. 100%. I always hate that because they put themselves in a corner where they're so overbearing and bossy that most men will say nah no thanks or if they do go for them they call them betas. It's stupid
*SAME*
I wouldn't be too surprised if I see twilight and fsog series on her ebook or bookshelf. Y'know what they say "if she's a Wattpad reader, RUN"
So she wants a man she can respect, nothing wrong with that.
@@rorirm Not at all. But categorizing men into beta and alpha males is cringe-worthy at best.
At least the match maker didn't waste her time and gave the reason and advice.
no but she still took her 350$
@@melindaflynn763 its a service. she didnt become a matchmaker so she could give out freebies. additionally, what the matchmaker advised wouldve helped the woman if she just realized it wasnt a diss.
@@melindaflynn763 Which demonstrates that this woman also doesn't know how to handle money.
She should have gone to the pet shop and brought a cat.
The way I read those whole situation is that the matchmaker will only accept specific kinds of women because they're what the men she has are after. Don't think this "advice" she gave her was anything other than a way to get rid of her.
If you paid $350 for a matchmaker, that alone is a red flag.
Goes for the men too...
Truth hurts lady.
The matchmaker must run a great service by not taking trash in just for the added revenue.
Shes protecting her actual clients. Good for her.
10 years of therapy, say less 😂
@@krzysztofklimczak8297
10 years of therapy but she refuses to change anything about herself makes no sense.
Wants a relationship with 2 leaders, because that always works out well.
Whatever she's been doing clearly hasn't been working.and OMG lay off the makeup!
It is admirable that the matchmaker doesn't just take on anyone but excludes those who might be a waste of other clients' time and money. That is actually respectful of her real clients.
It was also respectful of this woman's time. She let her know that until she made some changes attempting to find a match for her would be a waste of her time and money. $350 well spent.
Yup. And who would have quessed that a OK looking woman who still hasn't found a partner at 38 should change some things about herself 😂 and she still didn't get it 🤦♂️
I’m wondering if this woman’s therapist is just a “yes person”. She needs a therapist that challenges her. That gets her to see different points of views and perspectives. Everyone can work on something about themselves. Especially if you’re almost 40 and can’t find love??! Maybe time to take a hard look at WHY. What can you do to improve upon yourself. Not completely change, but there is SOMETHING that is preventing you from finding your happiness. With that being said, I totally agree with the candidness of the matchmaker. Kudos to her for letting this woman know she “isn’t ready” which is NOT the same as “not worthy”. I also believe if the matchmaker isn’t going to provide services to this woman, she deserves some sort of a refund 🤷♀️ maybe not a full refund but something bc the matchmaker isn’t going to work for her. Just my honest opinion
Unlike the "therapist" charging $100 or more per hour for 10 years to have her still being this not self aware. 👀
Not only that, it's the matchmaker's reputation on the line as well. Her success in the business depends on the success of the people she matches.
She definitely comes off as a little too headstrong.
Her matchmaker: “you may look like a bride, but you will never bring your family honor!”
She wants a leader to submit to her so she can lose respect for him and call him a beta. The logic is undeniable.
Viscous cycle of lunacy
And then dump him because she was tricked into believing he was an alpha, am I right?
Dude yes, you got it!
That's a whole lot of projection there friend. You can't suss out a person's entire personality from a 20-second clip.
@@emmaobrien1376 Exactly. These people are just bullies.
That matchmaker just saved some poor man from the worst date of his life.
RealMVP
Why do people always comment the most extreme things when there’s quite literally 0 context at all
@Matthew-sl8dx there's more than enough context for this comment.
Probably the worst nightmare of his life. Lo😂
@@Matthew-sl8dx 0 context? Yea there is context you fool, you just apparently can't stop drooling on yourself.
That matchmaker told her the ABSOLUTE TRUTH. Her therapist has spent ten years lying to her.
Lmao that match maker was cheaper than the therapist, told her all she needed to know and fix in less then an hour vs 10 years😂
I was speaking with a 23 year old relative and she was describing the type of man she wanted. He needs to be a “hard worker, driven, loyal, honest, selfless, etc” and I asked her if she was ready for a man like that. She looked confused. I explained that a man like that deserves a woman like that. I asked her how can we expect qualifies from a potential partner that we don’t posses? She didn’t get defensive. She actually listened. She was honest with herself an acknowledged she needed to work on some things.
Kudos for her!
I'm 24 and my dad told me the same thing when I turned 20. It caught me off guard but I saw he was right, so now instead of jumping into relationships, I'm trying out the whole "make myself someone who my ideal type would also be able to respect and love". Found out that it made me more introspective and quieter.
Agree. Why are you asking for things you don’t give !
Clearly she doesnt have those qualities it seems but I get her.
I wished for someone who had qualities that I never possessed. But at the end of the day, I found her and I actually learned them from her.
Conclusion, surround yourself with family, friends, and even partners that can help you grow as a person and learn something positive from them.
Your friend wasnt too off tho. I hope she finds him and learn from him. Some people do need that.
I'm 25 y/o and sure of what i am but if i ask for those expectations, people say i dream too much LOL
The matchmaker has a reputation to protect. Letting this lady be a part of her roster would be a disaster for the brand.
Yep, if I was in a dating pool and that match maker send something like that to me I would be informing her that I no longer require her services.
@@CD-vb9fiwell the matchmaker dumped her already so... think you have the same ego problem this crazy 38yo harpy has. 🤣
Intern, this would be an amazing ad for her, lol to advertise her business😂
Exactly she damn well knows it ain't gunna be easy to find someone for her lol
That therapist has been her “yes go girl” for 10 years, just taking her money 💀💀
She uses "I've been in therapy for 10+ years" like a pick up line.
If her way worked, she wouldn't be single at 38.
That's it 100% and so obvious yet she still can't see it..
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You wouldn’t say that about a man
@@krumplethemal8831 Ha ha ha ha ha I’m so is your logic is so stupid one whole being single has nothing to do with it when she talked about therapy so she was with covering or something pops using trauma over something that happened to me that’s why she single maybe she isn’t connecting with the right people maybe she hasn’t been dating for a while your assumptions saying that because she wants to be strong and also be a northern have a strong man is the reason why she single is so stupid that it would actually take a mole level of IQ to agree with you
@@knowvilleknows1075Doesn't work the same way for men and women
Imagine being desperate enough to go to a matchmaker yet not wanting to hear what they have to say 😂
People do this with lawyers all the time
"This matchmaker needs to change. Not me !!!!"
Right!
💯😊
Well, matchmakers are not infallible..
If you’re in therapy for 10 years. I think it safe to say that you’re not ready
Therapy for 10 PLUS YEARS??? 😂😂😂
thats the first thing she needs to fix lol
The matchmaker gave her the answer ten years of therapy could not
Fire the therapist, hire the matchmaker as new therapist.
Yep, that matchmaker was being honest... her therapist is just a taking her money.
and this lady is 38 ?? I thought she was 54 !!
@@ChadrickKinman327 I know of a lot of "face cakers" that have this problem. They destroy their skin with too much cosmetics and/or chemical washes in a vain attempt to look better. Of course some people just didn't seem to win the lottery on looks either.
@@ChadrickKinman327cmon she does not look 50 anything.
@@Bouch1018 You're right. I'm sorry. She looks 62.
Edit : 54 is the new 27 🫵😁👈
My matchmaker did not reject me, but did tell me my "I don't need a man wall" at first impression, and that if I showed more of my relaxed natural loosened up personality it would show more of who I am as a woman. I paid her $1000.00 for 5 introductions. I did take it to heart and did have some nice introductions, but no love connections. However my next 2 boyfriends I took it to heart more because I had no clue I may have been presenting myself as too hard. Met my husband just 6 months after her great advice.
"38 years and been in therapy for 10+ years"
Stop right there, lady.
I learned a long time ago that contructive criticism isnt meant to hurt your feelings, its meant to help you grow.
That and being willing to admit to your own failures. That's life-changing.
Here's some Constructive Criticism, this Woman is 38 years Old, and still don't know that Men wanting Marriage don't want 'Type A' Women....that is just asking for a Divorce in the short term!!
Yup. And who would have quessed that a OK looking woman who still hasn't found a partner at 38 should change some things about herself 😂 and she still didn't get it 🤦♂️
Now we just need all other women to hold themselves accountable for their decisions.
That match maker is saving some dude out their from him dealing with this 😂
I would cut My Ding-A-Ling off if I woke up next to this woman with no wake up in the morning😂😂😂😂
Taking the matchmakers comment of “not being ready” and equating it to “not being worthy of love” is 100% a trauma response where we distort reality to fit the narrative we have in our heads about ourselves. This lady still has a lot of deep healing to do and it’s likely she has a lot of resistance in therapy as this is something a good therapist would try to work through with their client.
😂 good therapist = good joke
Or she's just delusional and these are her defense mechanisms coming out.
Well said.
@@agoodnight1050 They might be few and far between, but I had one that helped me save my life.
As far as I can tell, she's just evil. Whether or not that comes from trauma is a different question.
The vast majority of Alpha men don’t want an Alpha woman. She was trying to help you understand that.
So alpha men don't want women like themselves the want the opposite so that they can what take advantage of them
Period.
It's a turnoff for us.
@@thatcrazymick😂😂😂😂 sure buddy. We got an alpha right here everyone! BTW if you have to say you're an pha you're not an alpha.
I may live in a different universe (Europe), and I have never seen capable, competent and intelligent men settling with a woman who doesn't have exactly the same traits. Rich people are marrying rich people, poor people are marrying poor people. Always have been like that, there may be few cases of poor marrying into rich families, but the reality is that people care for the social standing of their parents.
And then there are these "bitcoin bros" and similar people who made money over past few years, and they are saying they don't care about women's education, intelligence etc., but the truth is that they only moved up in the monetary value, but their mind is still in the same place. Try hosting a dinner and invite somebody from a real money with a class, and see how you'll be looked down because your wife is stupid.
“So what are you looking for in a potential partner?”
“I don’t want a BETA MALE”
“Oh”
Look at the tattoo a on her arm😂😂😂
Belongs to the streets😂😂😂
If you’ve been in therapy for 10 years, it’s not working
Facts 😂
People that go to therapy either try to help themselves or do not want help themselves change, and she's definitely the second one
I always thought the same thing, its kind of like being put on med after med after med, they may not be the solution you were hoping they would be perhaps. Seek help elsewhere.
Loads of people go to therapy regularly the same they would get a doctor checkup, not necessarily because they have a huge urgent issue
Because she doesn't listen to professional advice..
A video that makes you completely understand the matchmaker's point of view.
Stale old eggs don't sell well.😂🥚🍳
i love how we tell kids, " be you, do change for anyone, there's someone for everyone" but then there is this.
She's 38. Let's pause for a minute and pray for the dozens of men she destroyed along the way.
Nobody would bat an eye if someone told a man that he needed to work on himself in order to be ready for a relationship with the type of woman that he wants.
But nobody would tell a man he wasn't ready for a relationship if he said "I'm a leader and want a strong woman"
Well, men and women are so different from each other right?
That’s the outcome. Double standards happen if we see men and women as not equal. I’m not saying that’s a bad or good thing, it just simply is.
I think everyone would bat an eye if a man was told he wasn't ready for a woman because he had too much feminine energy and wanted a woman who was a leader
@@TalulaRich If he wasn't actually a leader and claimed to be then yes they would
@@eldaguadiana6927 yes men and women are different. That's why we have double standards
That matchmaker did her more good than the therapist.
Girl how is it gon be 2 leaders? That right there told me all I needed to know. Like what. 😂
Matchmaker was looking for the entire human race
It's funny that she's upset about spending the money on the matchmaker who gave her more therapy and honest reflection than a therapist of 10 years...
" Your walls are too high."
So she puts up another wall and places the matchmaker on the other side of it.
😂😂😂
Roblox "OOF"
Cause the matchmaker was rude to her.
Sis knew the matchmaker was right... She just didn't want to hear it
The matchmaker gaver her feedback that was her money's worth. Little Miss is pretty intense, even in her initial manner of speaking. On second thought, the matchmaker was *very* tactful and *kind.*
"... In therapy ten plus years..." is a huge red flag. Ruunnnn!
$300 for advice she desperately needed to hear is a bargain
Probably half of what her therapist costs....and they don't seem to be doing the best job...
Yep... and to think... this information is also FREE. All she needed to do was ask a man what he looks for in a woman... most men will tell her for free.
It's only worth it if she takes the advice. I don't think she accepted it.
Yes lmaoo
Now if only she had enough brain cells and self awareness to comprehend it
She wants to lead
But also wants a leader
Not sure she understands how relationship dynamics work.
The power struggle I saw just from her saying that
Yep, that's why cars have only one steering wheel.
Yep, that's why cars have only one steering wheel.
Yep, that's why cars have only one steering wheel.
Yep, that's why cars have only one steering wheel.
Listen she been in therapy for over 10 years. After a decade of therapy if she ain't saying she's got some issues. There's no saving a woman no amount of therapy can help a woman. She absolutely insane
Up and coming "Cat lady " 😂
Respect for the matchmaker - integrity & honesty are rare.
You can tell she is fun at parties, introduces herself as a type "a" personality,
'I'm a type A leader and also wants a type A leader...' She's gonna end up alone or find someone to constantly fight with because both are going to demand their own way all the time. Matchmaker made a great call. Saved her reputation for matching actual relationships.
So she is gonna end up alone cause she is a leader but men don't end up alone when the same, you do know that not all women are the same all don't fall for that 2nd place and let men lead for then, you can do that
@@wallisvictor9688Exactly, just let the girl be the person she is bro
@@wallisvictor9688No one said she was going to end up alone, but OP is right. Two leader types are not likely to be a good match. They will always be fighting for that leader role.
@@hellod7961 she demanded a leader, you useless fool. She's going to end up as the 2nd, you don't get to be the first when you demand a LEADER.
You’re right never can two people in a relationship equal thank you for teaching me the work right away
Your stupid by the way