Her DELUSIONAL Dating Standards Leave Her With No Man
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- Опубліковано 17 лис 2023
- Are modern women’s dating standards unrealistic? Jubilee ran an experiment having one young woman share her standards with 20 real men in a room with her. Did any make it through? Let’s watch and react.
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She tricked the game from the beginning, no questions about family values or morals. She focused on superficial things and still lost. This says more about her than about the applicants.
But also at the same time someone older and taller than her which tends to be people too mature to be with someone that superficial
At the time of the video she was 26, "younger than her" is a deal breaker and she "likes to party". PURELY on those two axes (ignoring everything else), I am SHOCKED this woman says she only finds bad men. If you're looking for a 30ish guy that either LIKES to party or is totally cool with his girlfriend partying, then 99% "not a keeper". (22, sure, but 30?) explains why none of the last batch stayed too.
Right! I said the same thing, the girls a “jump off”, not a wife
@@tpsamwomen don't want mature. They want exciting, reckless relationships. There's nothing mature about tatted up chad plowing her up from time to time, there really isn't.
Exactly. Imagine she'd said her age and gave that period for childbearing first. I suspect most guys would have immediately figured her out and left.
The guy that said "you're going to be single for a while" was just giving her a bit of reality. She can say it's rude but she obviously has never had anyone call out her BS before.
Seems her parents weren't very 'Asian' either!
That guy was savage, very truthful, but savage.
nah fr😂 shordy really said “i don’t wanna guy who’ll want kids within 7 years”. women think they last forever or something. baby them eggs shriveled up!
@@DMSProduktions She may not have grown up in a typical Asian culture, certainly I don't get the feeling she was born in Asia or spent much time there. But it doesn't matter because I've known some Asian women who are totally wacko, some born in the East and some in the West. It's not the culture, it's the person and how they perceive the world. The one in this video obviously thinks she deserves a guy with all these attributes and won't settle for anything less and only thinking of herself. As the guy leaving said, she's going to be single for a long time. I think being an attractive woman she has been programmed by men to think that way, they simply simped to her, as most men do with an attractive woman.
The funny thing is, ive come across her tinder twice and was still single. Last time i came across her was a little over 2 years ago, just before i connected with my now gf
Imagine her shock when a 6 foot guy tells her she's too short for him. Lol.
That's the comment 😂😂😂😂
Those aren't values, those are inner insecurities that she hasn't recognized
Did you notice how none of her "standards" had anything to do with the kind of men they were. They were all completely superficial.
Well, she is a regular modern woman. What exactly did you expect?
It’s a jubilee video, it’s not meant to be taken serious
@@wedgeantilles8575 I am a regular modern young woman myself and I can tell you this lady's just a child. We are all better off with these people doing us a favor and excluding us. Bless her soul but she clearly has had no thought about what a lasting marriage actually takes to maintain. It sure as heck isnt height, partying, chocking, and being younger than your partner. I honestly feel bad for her. I also feel bad for you if you have come to believe that young modern women are normally like this. If this is all you find yourself, you are looking in the wrong places. I have undergrad students in a liberal arts women's college in a blue state who haven't even hit 21 yet and they have more common sense than this poor girl.
@@alex-dm3sn I hope you are right. All my experience in seing women looking for partners, they almost to a person have the exact same superficial and exclusionary and frankly stupid mindset as this young woman.
@@wedgeantilles8575 just like the woman in the video who only seems to find bad man, you only seem to find bad women. hmmmm what's the common denominator???
Physically she's not unattractive, but as soon as she opens her mouth any attraction goes out the window
@@stevenedwards8353 xD
She's physically unattractive by my standards.
@@stevenedwards8353she’s a mid for an Asian before she started speaking. 0 right after
Her face is super crooked, to me that’s very unattractive but yea def personality is what tanks her here
@@stevenedwards8353Incel
"you're gonna be single for awhile" that guy's a hero
It's interesting she thought at a simple observation about her extensive requirement list was rude. I mean ok it was a bit rude but not more rude than her list of mostly superficial and in some cases rather belittling demands. I feel like her maturity level is not on par with her age if she doesn't see that her list is weird and judgy and unlikely to get fulfilled. All that plus the guy has to also like her and she did not talk about what she planned to bring to the table, looks will only go so far.
@@OnceUponaTimeline in todays western society we haven’t raised women to think like that for a long time. Post feminist movement it’s been what can the world do for me rather than focusing on a value exchange.
We’re now seeing this pattern of behaviour extend to women in older age categories.
When I was still single, I appreciated women like her. They quickly ensure you are aware that you are nowhere near whatever checklist she has and thus you can stop wasting time, money or emotions on them. It's a blessing in a very conceited disguise.
Did u increase ur height by stretching ur legs or change ur birth certificate to ur wife's birthday
lol so true! As soon as she said, 'I like to party' and 'I drink a lot' I was like 'So you're not a grown up yet? Later.'
I’m 70 years old and I couldn’t stop laughing throughout the entire video. What you kids have to go through for a mating ritual is absolutely hilarious.Back in my day we would simply say, “You truly are the most beautiful, intelligent and interesting woman I have ever met and would love it if we could date to see if there is more in our future “. That’s it. Nothing fancy. No talking about choking or feet. Just, do you want to see if we were made for each other. I’m starting to wonder if there’s a chance for the human race to continue into the future. LOL
Hi there, I'm 20 and yeahh... I can confirm you are absolutely right, it's impossible to find a normal person nowadays as girls have imposible standards and everyting is considered cringe (quirky) and/or lame.. I'm quite sad that 20yo's are single because of these kind of generations "values" 🤮
Older millennial here. You laugh, but your generation and gen x raised these cretins.
if i could time travel. i would go back in time and find a wife in the past. my chances of getting married in the past is a lot higher.
Those words would have swept me off my feet--that is how real men speak--direct, honest, and gentlemanly.
I'm sure when my generation gets in power all over the world, we will cause WW3. I heard many historians say that every time the last generation that experienced war dies, the following generations forget the horrors of war and they provoke it when they get the power. So since gen z never knew wars and forgot WW2, i'm sure my generation is the last of our civilisations. Sounds pesemistic but its a possibility more likely scenario.
her standards were so arbitrary. no politics, religion, education, hobbies, friends, work, educating future children, disciplining children, time spent with family, holidays, traditions, financies. I’ve been married for 12 years, these things matter.
congrats 🎉 🤝🏾my parents going on 45. another thing to add: start by being a friend first. it’ll definitely help to find your “one”
Agree
I mean most women are like that. Most women prefer men who are taller despite those things not having anything to do with personality, religion, education, etc.
@@Mr.YasQueen taller, sure, but much taller is arbitrary.
@@snuffeldjuret Both are and my point still stands.
I’m 6’7”, thin, make over 6 figures, and I chose to marry a woman who is 5’4”, and a few years older than me. Why? Because she gives me peace. Cooking, and family are her absolute passions, and she recognizes we both are flawed people who want to build the other up to make each other the best versions of ourselves we could possibly be in this life. But good God, can that woman cook!
Proving that the way to a man's heart is through good food lol. This is really wholesome though :)
sooo, you make seven figures?
That's beautiful.
Dont use the name of GOD ALMIGHTY in vain❤
@@nestorcastillo9107 you mistake the mere use of God’s name as speaking it vainly. When in fact, I am praising his name by saying, “But good God can she cook.”
I'm 5'8". My wife is 5'5". Where do these women get their standards?
Tiktok, bad and delusional mom, bad and vapid "friends", social media, bad influencers and youtubers with no moralties and loathe kids happiness, oh and delusional doting dads
Where do women get these standards? Women have a hive mind that makes them a bit brain damaged.😂😂😂
The moment she mentions she likes choking, drinking, partying & dancing, but still has the guts to say she would like to end this cycle of bad man shocked me LMAO
Me too😁😬
She's 26 talking bout partying, then having the audacity to say she can't date someone younger... so you want someone in their late twenties or thirties who still wants to party? Get real. A MAN at that age that you'd be interested in, isn't a child who wants to party.
@@shamelblack4559 a man by 30's would be too busy with their job, business, personal goals or even investments.
I don't see any reason why men by their 30's would still want to go out party and get wasted for no reasons..
She's too crazy to think that a man can simply cater to her needs while she's giving nothing in return except for burning off his money..
@@shamelblack4559ya i think she meant to date an unemployed man who smooches of his rich daddy's money and hence has own the genetic lottery and also has the time to party, be kinky and spoil her with daddy's money without having to work for the money. she is not looking for a serious relationship. she is looking for a hookup because she is pretty and it’s easy for her to get guys to sleep with her and thus she thinks she can keep continuing partying for more 7yrs and then be an adult and ready to settle down. i m pretty sure she is unemployed and not well educated herself and lives off her parents money and so she is delulu
Ya bruh like what? That many guys are into choking? This girl doesn't know what she's saying, either she has sexual trauma or romanticizes sexual trauma. Pisses me off girls like that
Her: Judges men's value by height, age and alcohol consumption.
Also her: "How rude to tell me I'm gonna be single for a while!"
Hypocrisy much? 😂
And also she wonders why she ends up with "bad men" 😂😂😂
15:25 Crazy cat lady vibes
Ya, problem is the worst judges of character have the most insane “standards,” they end up each time knowing the standards are incomprehensible & so end up with the worst guys cuz they have such low opinions in general. These types aren’t open to good men, they want to be lied to while chasing shallow pursuits.
Whats absurd about her claiming that was “rude” is SHE said she was going to die alone, and all he said is thats its going to be awhile before she finds someone
@@AudieHollandNo way, I am a crazy cat lady and I am nothing like that. 😮
@@tonkasfinest7780 I cannot take anyone seriously who admit they're crazy.
As a "666" man, myself, I've found, the majority of women who reject most men in hopes I'll come along, finally meet me and are crushed when they find out that they do not meet my standards.
Yup
i read your comment before she explained the what 666 meant and got confused and worried 😭
Then they try to go back to the ones they rejected and are denied by them 😆
Sex toys are very realistic nowadays, plus they are much cheaper, safer, make less noise & are always available.
Amen.
We've never met and yet you have my immediate respect. Never change.
This girl is not fixable. The reason she only attracts bad guys is because they are players… which means they’ll say anything to do the deed and then they’re out.
The biggest takeaway for me was that when she realized that her standards were unrealistic, she immediately resorted to common platitudes about not compromising values and not changing your standards to please others even though these colloquialisms are completely inapplicable to her situation. To make matters worse, she made sure to express how she herself had "suffered" in past relationships. Essentially, she perfectly demonstrates our propensity to latch on to any buzzwords, sayings, or phrases that will allow us to remain as the victims in our own stories even when all of the evidence points to the fact that we are actually the villain.
You just described the modern woman perfectly :)
@@wedgeantilles8575 Naw, he just described modern society perfectly
She's not a villain for not realizing her standards are silly and way too restrictive. She's just young and naive. If anything, she's an example of how someone challenging your opinions just makes you double down on what you believe, rather than make you think critically to the point where you might change your mind. She found a way to justify not changing what she wants, despite actual proof that she can decimate a dating pool with her "standards".
@@jude-zd9msmy thought as well. The victim card tactic is used in many areas of society so the bad guys look like the good guys.
@@rand0mn33ssyes shes a villain. She was 26.
I had strict standards and then met the “perfect for me” man EXCEPT he was about 4 in shorter than me. Now why would I give up “perfect” for something so arbitrary, silly, and shallow. Happily married now for 23 yr!
Love this! My husband is also shorter than me. If I hadn’t dated him because he didn’t meet the superficial standard of height, I wouldn’t have my wonderful husband!
That’s a long time! Congrats!
I dated a man who was as tall as me in his combat boots, when I was barefoot 😂
It’s not shallow it’s a personal preference is all.
this wouldnt be a problem unless you banged up other chad looking guys before him
She’s nearly 26 but comes off as very immature.
Some don't ever. But after 30 it's more likely that they do.
She’s a 6. So instead of looking for 6 pack, 6 figures, 6 foot… she should just be looking for another 6 like herself.
She clearly has a misunderstanding of "values" and "standards". She thinks her unrealistic standards are values.
She lecture her values and yet judges men by physical descriptions.
From a mathematical point of view 6 feet and 26 are values xD
@@yelinbinicisi3642math values not romantic values
I don’t think her standards are unrealistic, I’m a woman who just graduated college and I’m close to making six figures. If I can do it so can a man, and I’ve seen man in my field make it upon graduation. But I’ll admit maybe she could’ve lighten up on that one. As far as her other physical standards…that’s just what women want🤷🏾♀️ she definitely is superficial though, like what kind of background does she want him to be from? His personality. Characteristics. Values. That matters.
@@WacoBeautyQueen Her standards are completely unrealistic. Making 6 figures just after finishing college is not the norm. It's also very dependant on where you live. Cities/areas where everything's expensive will also have much higher pay, for example. Engineering jobs are the most paying jobs one can do after college and even they don't even come close to 6 figures just after college on average. Not that it doesn't happen, just know that if you do earn that much... you're well above the norm.
I love how she admits "I'm gonna die alone" then when one of the dudes says "you're gonna be single for awhile" she gives the shocked Pikachu face😂
Literally surprised by the fact that someone dared to tell her something she agreed to be true
Because saying something self depreciating hits much differently than anyone else confirming it. We all know that from childhood.
@@Undomaranel That's because when it's self deprecation you are still lying to yourself, "am I really this bad? No, I'm just over reacting" vs it being an objective fact about you as it came from an outside observer. If one person says it, 10 people think it.
Truth hurts.
@@pigpuke You're not always lying to yourself. In a joking tone as she typed it? Yeah. But lots of us attack ourselves on the regular, and you are what you eat. Hearing it from someone else just solidifies those thoughts.
This just proves how immature and unrealistic modern woman can be. At the time, she was 26 years old…26!! The last comment before he walked off is spot on. As social media continues to reinforce her unrealistic expectations of men, she will remain alone and most likely, a proud cat mom.
"You're gonna be single for a while".
EMOTIONAL DAMAGE
I remember being young, 20, and telling my mom that all the guys I met wore goofy shoes. I can't even believe that ever mattered to me, but at the time, it mattered. I thought Mr. Right would be wearing a three piece suit (big in the 80s) and driving an Italian sports car. I never forgot what my mom said to me, "When you meet the right guy, you won't even mind if he's barefoot." Fast forward 18 months, I meet a guy who's wearing work boots and walking everywhere because he cracked up his car. No big executive job, he's blue collar all the way. Super fast forward 43 years, we are still together and still in love ❤️ Thanks mom ❤
Did you watch 'Miami Vice' a lot?
Tbf I think a lot of woman go through that phase. I kinda did for the first year in college. Probably or books we read occurs from the shows or dramas we watch, get absorbed in social media or whatnot. Most woman do grow out of that phase. This girl did not
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I was into fitness and tracks,so I always wanted a guy with super fit athletic body. I actually dated an athlete for a very short while,nothing was clicking and we were not attracted to each other after knowing each other a bit. External beauty and superficial traits would only work for a short time. My husband is fit but nowhere near athletic,he has a paunch and a dad bod and I loveee it.
Work boots aren't goofy shoes though, right? So it's a win all around.
As soon as she got to "I like to party / drink a lot", she moved from date / wife material to "Hit it and quit it",..... and guys are still going to stick around,..... why wouldn't they?
That's where she became a future false accusations girl and someone else have said she belongs to the streets. RIP godfather
My man told me that men look at women in two ways: girlfriend or wife. When she got to “party and drink”, all guys stayed there already know what they were going to get. Even there would be a boy left for her in the end, he won’t marry her. And her age is really dangerous. 26 years old is at the edge for a traditional valued man. If she is keeping her life style, she will be a single woman or a trash collector.
@@dadada3529 «26 is the edge for a traditional valued men» that standard can be considered adequate only if the man himself is 30 y.o. or younger. Y’all love to discuss “high standards” of modern women, and yet you’re totally fine with men’s bs. Your man is a misogynist, congrats on that.
First thing that made me stop considering her was that she said "They need to"
They, not He
Gooooooooood catch
The guy at the end wasn't rude. He just shared his view about facts based on her and he's statistically correct, and she just immediately thought that was rude to point that out? 😁
I actually had a woman in a bar ask me to dance. I said "No, I ... " and was cut off by her screeching "Well, fuck you! You asshole" as she turned and stormed off. I made sure she saw me as I went to the bathroom using a cane from a badly sprained ankle.
😂
Like that women accusing a blind men to staring at her. I don't like this odds to find this type of chicks to be honest.
My parents married for love in the early 50s when that wasn't always the "way it was done." She loved to dance. He hated to dance. They would go out with her cousins and she would dance with them. They made it work. Seriously, some of this stuff is INSANE!!
I’m so sorry, man. ‘Women’ like her are self-righteous and expect just ANYBODY to weaken at their presence. I feel bad for your ears and your ankle. 😅
@@lauriemeyer7030an ex berated me publicly in a club many years ago because I told her I was too tired to dance. She had all her work friends there, and I just wanted to sit and relax. She ended up leaving the dancefloor and coming over to sit with me, but it wasn't for solidarity sake, she just wanted to fight. When I tried to leave the club, she got physical with me. Embarrassing and humiliating. Glad I said adios to that relationship.
Let’s be honest. She seems superficial and shallow. None of the characteristics that she values will sustain a lasting relationship. They wouldn’t even keep a friendship going, let alone a marriage. I’ve been married 20 years. Met my husband in high school and now we have 3 boys and a granddaughter 😁. I can’t imagine how my life would’ve turned out if I had her perspective on men and relationships. I’d never want my boys to date any woman like her. My advice, RUN!!!
You've been very fortunate, both of you.
Pink hair is your first red flag.
Her standards are absolutely pathetic she's definitely going to be alone just like me
My standards were simple: shared my faith, wanted kids, was a nerd who had interests and passions. Physical characteristics came secondary - i like brown eyes but it wasn't a deal breaker.
Today I'm married to a wonderful, Christian man who likes fishing and blacksmithing, and we just welcomed our first child a few months ago.
Standards are important - just make sure they're ones that matter in the long run!
Hopefully more women will take your advice to heart!
Best wishes to You, and your family.
Same I honestly just want a man who is a Christ follower, healthy, and has love to share with me and my future kid or kids
@@jice7074thank you! God bless
You smart
The whole “I want a 6ft tall guy” when you are a woman of an average height is stupid. I’m 5’5”, my man is 5’8”. When I wear heels, we’re basically the same height. He is the best partner, and he’s hot as hell. I would’ve missed out on the last 6 years of being with an amazing man if I had the same ridiculous height criteria as some as these women. And bonus…I don’t have to break my neck when I kiss him!!
This! Technically I am considered taller. I am 5'7. My husband is 5'8. I always joke that it's absolutely perfect because all of our parts match up😂😂😂
LMAO, break my neck!
And 69 is easier for you
This. I don’t need to look like a guy’s child when I’m standing next to him anyway.
When I wear heels, I’m taller than my boyfriend, and he says it’s so sexy 🥰 been together 8 years ❤
I'm over 6 ft and when I was dating, anyone who had height requirements was an instant turn off for me...
I kind of understand preferences but I don't really get making it some kind of requirement when there are so many other things that are truly important, honesty, trustworthiness, good simpatico, etc. Would you really throw it all away because he's a year younger or does not meet a specific height requirement? She sounds like she's recruiting runway models, not boyfriends. And I think we all realize she was just getting started with that list but she ran out of men, oops!
I wish Amala nothing but the best with her future content. I just started listening to her on UA-cam. I had doubts at first but, she completely changed my mind.
I don't think her biggest trouble is going to be finding a guy with her standards. I think it's going to be finding and keeping a meaningful relationship with those standards alone.
The two smartest guys in that room left when she asks who wouldn’t date her
It's crazy to me that _every single guy_ left, and that was based strictly on basic attributes. She didn't even touch on faith, lifestyle, employment, or any of the other incredibly important aspects of dating. It's just going to narrow her choices even further in the real world.
She's in for a rough time.
In about 10 years, she'll be crying out on tiktok asking where all the men are.
I wonder how many guys thought about that as they left.
Thank you for using the word "based" correctly. 🍺
i'm 100% sure she's gonna be all alone for the rest of eternity. she will sit day after day while all the good men will slip away one by one.
Well CATS love unconditionally!
Appreciate the support of men. I was one of the lucky ones. I left my abusive GF before we got married. It's really shitty to be scared to talk to women now, but I'm soured. WTF happened to being a good, hard-working man, and having a woman want that?
Sounds like maybe a self esteem thing, do what you can to get help, psychology, whatever. The thing is if your self esteem is good, then rejection hurts less and if they are mean to you, then you'd know you would not tolerate it and leave right away next time, so there'd be less to fear. The mean girl showed you your weakness but you can work towards fixing that, you can take what was bad about that relationship and turn it around to make you a better stronger person for the future.
the "build-a-mate" culture we have around dating shows how delusional we are about our "standards" and values. half of us at that young of an age don't know ourselves enough to know what ACTUALLY matters for us. life requires tolerance, compromise, and problem solving - your love interest is a part of life.
this whole concept of "not settling" has gone corrupt where the merit in that notion can barely shine when we are using height and age as criterias that realistically do no correlate to anything valuable in a relationship except the early sexual attraction (enter tangent:), which is important but you have to leave your fantasy and realise a 10 or 9 is not necessary for a sexual relationship as, besides looks, there's way more necessary for something enjoyable and real (end: tangent). heck even religion isn't necessarily a deal-breaker.
the date shopping just is not an effective way to find compatibility, conversation and doing things together is.
Its sad that none of her standards actually create a healthy relationship. The questions she asked (her standards) are the exact reason she keeps "attracting bad guys"
Through her preference, she wanted a Chad. But she wonders why she kept getting "bad" men.
Exactly guys who are 26 and older who are still partying are immature and are honestly not someone who wants a serious relationship yet.
It’s not just the guys she is attracting. I think lots of guys would find her physically attractive enough to date. But it’s the guys she is choosing using superficial metrics that turn out to be bad guys. Of course! She didn’t select based on personality so finding a compatible personality would just be a statisticalooook fluke.
Her: "Don't be into feet. That's just weird."
Also her: "Please crush my esophagus."
One of those timeline paradoxes we love so much. 🙄 lol
you misinterpreted that, she implied that light choking is okay. She said “if you want to crush my esophagus…. Please leave”
@@elaina7056never ruin a good joke
@@elaina7056ah yes, because misrepresenting what she said is definitely the issue here….
The irony would be if she ended up being a Dubai Porta Potty
A pregnancy at 35 is still geriatric, but they use different terminology because the snowflakes got offended.
I was 36 when my kid was born. My spouse was 34. So having kids at 30 years of age is not impossible but there will be restriction and counter measure you should consider studying before attempting to have a kid/children after x amount of years.
Dating should be kept at dating standards and expectations. It is a different level of compared to getting engaged and married. Regardless if you believe in faith or not. Being a partner and not married and then have kids, I would feel sorry for those kids who doesn't have proper directions if their parents separated for the most stupid reasons.
Have kids after you're married, not before. I can't stress this enough. Commitment goes a long way, you will have fights and arguments but that's part of love and loving each other, support each other. Not a one sided business partner. You can agree and disagree on things, but things can work by communicating and keep your manners and emotional status checked.
As a guy who's 5'3", I've been happily married to my 5'5" wife for 8 years because we had more realistic standards with what we both were looking for. Yes we had height preferences but that wasn't a deal breaker. There are more important things in life.
Bingo
I recently found a model who got a BF that's 6'3 but she's 7'0.
I have a sister that is 5’9” and her husband is 5’4”. They have been married for 7 years now.
I'm barely 5 feet. I had a guy once tell me that I had so much going for me but I was too short. He was 5'6" not exactly a giant. I dodged a bullet.
I don't think I've ever met a man who was secure enough to admit being under 5'5" - even when he definitely was. Bravo! I respect that a lot.
I love that with all her demands (and we didn’t even hit what I’m sure would have been interesting career/income requirements), she wiped out a room full of guys and then seemed genuinely shocked when told ‘you’re going to be single for a while’. And please, when you’re talking about your values, they don’t include dancing, drinking, partying, height or age. They aren’t values. Even the ‘I’d only want kids after seven years’ bit isn’t a value. That’s a preference and most likely one you’ve derived from being self centred.
i absolutely agree with her that as a woman, she should have her standards of what she wants from a partner and not have to compromise. that being said, she's clearly not ready for a serious long term relationship if the first things that come out of her mouth about herself are partying and the types of kinks she likes in bed and also the lack of realization that her preferences are what attracts the bad partners. but keep it up girl!
I love the “you’re gonna be single for a while” TAKE THAT SIMP CULTURE!! 😂
It’s reality. Best girls usually scooped up early. Lots are so goddam delusional it’s sad. Really sad
These are not values, they are preferences.
Perfectly said. But shallow preferences at that
@@ianstephens333 bros, values and preferences are connected.
Whims, I would say.
@@medes1062 not really in this context. What you vote for and your height are not connected.
@@ErgoProxy12345 ?? her values: "men does not need to be a provider in the family", her preferences: "income not required, i can provide." her values: "people in relationship should be honest with each other. her perferences: "men who do not lie, or looks like someone who would lie". there are many more examples and better ones that i cannot think of at the moment. our values guide a lot of what we choose in life than you realize. don't be naive
I remember as a young man my dad said choose a partner that has a good head on her shoulders because at the end we all get ugly and if you don’t choose wisely your stuck with ugly and dumb . 😂😂
Would never stay with someone like her.
I just saw this channel today. Amala where have you been all my life.
She said she likes to drink and party, and then complains about having bad relationships in the past and doesn’t want to address that.
She seems to be one of these foolish party girls that constantly goes for the bad boy and never learns her lesson and will get embittered over time.
Telling a bunch of strangers, on camera, that you like be choked is the sign of a psycho😅
she's not... she's perfect
@@medes1062 Apparently you're a psycho too. LOL.
Maybe just no filter kinky.
Nah, telling a group of strangers you want to be choked during sex is definitely asking for trouble. I would have walked out just on that statement alone.
@@foulplay99..not a long term material for sure. She wanted a Chad to play rough.
I came across your channel by sheer chance and pleased I did. Congratulations for being such a mature young woman and presenting yourself as a very intelligent individual. You also have an “angel” for giving out your points of view. Felicidades.
0:28 in her defence 500k SA Rand is like 24k EUR/27k USD that’s not that delusional 😂
When she starts mentioning age, you can see the maturity level. It’s not a 10 year difference, it’s 1 month younger is off putting for her, tells you a lot about her maturity and where she is in life, she just wants to date, she’s not looking for someone to spend a lifetime with.
Yep, she's a party girl who wants someone with her who looks good, picks up checks and doesn't want to settle down until she is ready. Plenty of guys like that out there - and most will dump her when she starts that "I want something more" talk after a couple of years. None will find any reason to marry her, so long as she is in this party phase.
I know a lot of couples that have 10 years on each other and are perfectly mature, she's just reaching.
This is how kids dated in middle school
Yeah last time i thought like that I was 14, 15 maybe. When I wasnt dating at all.
My partner is 2 years younger then me and I never really think about it. Hes one of the most mature people I know.
The guys are looking for much the same, or they would have bailed at all the choking party girl comments.... :D
"Hey guys ! I like to party, get drunk and talk about fetishes with people I've met 5 minutes ago. Also for some unknown reason I seem to be attracting bad men".
From the title I was expecting her to have absurdly high standards, turns out they were just absurd. She would have had her 4 matches if she dropped her idiotic age rule.
The thing is, she attracted these younger guys because they're at her level. The qualifiers she gave are held by younger guys. She's painfully unaware that she just outted her maturity level.
@@artofambraholy f that makes sense 😂
I remember reading that the 6 foot rule is only a thing in the USA because everybody else uses the metric system. 6 feet is therefore some kind of a mental hurdle. It is a rounded figure. 5'11" is not. Less than 6 is less than 6.
In the metric system 6ft is 183cm and 5'11" is about 180cm. I'll bet if you asked an American woman if she cared whether a man was 180 or 183 cm she wouldn't care as much. Its still 180 of something.
The increments of feet an inches are mentally more significant than the increments of centimetres so it has a bigger influence on women's thinking and standards.
On the 7 years married before kids, the young lady just doesn’t want to give up her drinking and partying before that many years in.
Over 210 years ago Jane Austen in "Pride and Prejudice" already demolished insane standards applied by men and women seeking partners.
Darcy: "The word is applied too liberally. I do not know more than half a dozen women that are truly accomplished."
Lizzie: "Goodness, you must comprehend a great deal in the idea."
Darcy: "I do. She must have a knowledge of music, singing, drawing, dancing, and the modern languages to deserve the word, and something in her air and manner of walking. And she must improve her mind by extensive reading."
Lizzie: "I'm no longer surprised at your knowing only six accomplished women - I wonder at you knowing any."
Darcy: "Are you so severe on your own sex?"
Lizzie: "I never saw such a woman. She would certainly be a fearsome thing to behold."
(This dialogue, directly from Austen's book, is taken from the condensed version used in the 2005 movie adaptation. The whole point is that this woman is doing the same thing Darcy did, and which Austen via Lizzie mocks, because no such woman (or man) exists; what Darcy describes isn't an actual woman, he's describing an ancient mythical Greek goddess such as Athena).
And the goddess does not exist.
Surely women cannot draw, sing, read, understand music, dance and understand other languages while also having a positive air about her
@@wyattcole5452 Perhaps you should actually read Austen. This was Regency England; everyone, including Lizzie, would view our modern ideas of "accomplishment" as nothing but bare understanding. Darcy was talking about the standards of his time, which were mastery; he expected an "accomplished woman" to be Jane Austen, Frida Kahlo, Aretha Franklin, Martha Argerich, linguist Kató Lomb (spoke 20 languages), and Martha Graham combined. No such woman has ever existed or ever will, which is why Lizzie rightly responds as she does.
Darcy falls in love with Lizzy despite her not meeting his inane standards; Lizzy falls in love with Darcy despite his not meeting hers. Darcy initially comes off as rude/ insensitive; Lizzy attributes it to his wealth. Lizzie thinks Wickham is virtuous because he's poor and claims victim status. (Sound familiar?) In reality Wickham's a depraved con-artist, liar, gambled his money away, nearly destroyed Darcy's sister to whom Darcy is both a brother and surrogate father. Darcy doesn't act out of malice; he's trying to protect those he loves from the Wickhams of the world. Darcy sees what a remarkable spirit/ mind Lizzie has, how fierce/ fearless she is; she constantly makes the moral choice instead of the political one. Darcy is devastated when Lizzie tells him off. Lizzie says Darcy is the opposite of what a gentleman should be; he's damaged her beloved sister Jane, and Lizzie uses Darcy's own words so he understands that what he's said leads her to refuse his marriage proposal. Lizzie says: "I enquire why with such an evident design at insulting me you told me you liked me against your better judgment...and the inferiority of my birth?" Darcy is haunted by what Lizzy says because he thought he was a gentleman yet realizes Lizzy is right; he's prejudiced. It causes Darcy to question everything he's done, forcing him to reexamine how he's behaved. Darcy's true nobility emerges when he sets his pride aside and fixes his mistakes; saves Lydia, brings Bingly and Jane together when he pulled them apart, and saves the reputation of the Bennet family. Why do Lizzy and Darcy fall in love when neither checks any box on either list? They're the same; both are good people with the same moral strength, integrity, and fundamental values. What keeps them apart is their Pride and Prejudice, a large part of which is embodied in the unrealistic lists they've both made of what a partner should be instead of what an actual partner who is right for them actually is.
@@boba6890very very well put, my friend!
Actually I thought he was describing Lizzie, especially with the last part 😂
The first girl saying that she needs a guy making over 500K, is actually pretty reasonable.
Because it's going to take at least 450K to feed and stable her.
LMAO 😂😂😂
Behemoths are an expensive... hobby at best. I could never.
Yo you cooked her 😂😂😂😂
And it's unfair to her stablemates.
💀💀
I think the point is not to change to please others, but to change in orden to please our true corte needs. Being capable to love with more freedom
From an 53 old romanian: I love your way of thinking!!!
RESPECT !!!
Her dating standards are kind of red flags tbh.
The way I got together with my hubby was talking about music, politics, our hobbies, talking about our pasts, what we want for the future, favorite foods, and sharing each other's culture. We were friends for about a month, but then we both realized that we were actually totally in love.
We didn’t jump into it looking to fulfill ourselves, we did it because we loved each other and wanted to give that love to each other. It wasn't as selfish as dating seems to be now.
Been married ten years, and we are still very much in love.
Difference is you wanted to marry. So when a guy seemed to be compatible with your personality you jumped on it.
This girl is still in her 17 year old party girl phase despite being 26. She is not even looking for a possible life partner, she is looking for a guy to party with and do crazy stuff with like a young party girl. Most 18 year old's looking for a guy aren't actually thinking about marriage but just to have a boyfriend for fun.
Well she is the same but the problem is she isn't 19 anymore but 26.
Maybe she was a late bloomer and getting her frustrations out now, who knows but her current age isn't compatible with her mentality.
If we assume she found a guy that very moment a possible marriage will still be around 2 years away at best so she will be 28. Just right before she gets on her 30's so she needs to find a guy asap if she doesn't want to be pass her 30's looking for a guy and she shouldn't be looking for parties and drinking and intense moments etc.
She is not a teen anymore but she hasn't realized.
Every single one of her standards was completely superficial and, ultimately, meaningless.
Ahh the woman who imitates, mocks and degrades men. You want to know this ... Well, I think disgusting is a little bit of far fetch lol. But it's true that majority of the times that guys
cosplay as girls it just doesn't look good :/.
I actually don't think I've seen one that wasn't cringe yet. - “Hjonk Hjonk” (5 upvotes)
Liar you don't love him.
I'm under 5'0 by a lil, my husband is 5'9 I'm fine with that. Plus 6'0 or taller is just too tall for me, so I'm fine with that.
I like how she thinks choking is cool, but liking feet is too freaky. 😂
Wacko
Both would be a dealbreaker for me but I know people who would love to be choked. Roleplay 💀
@@lunarialoonaticthe choking thing is a red flag because they can use it to claim rape
Amalia, nice production work. Really cool channel.
Amana, it is FAR more important that a man lives a life of HONOR than one of compassion.
The fact that she can’t date without thinking of her brother is very strange…
Yeah it's like wtf 😆
An Asian born and raised in Alabama will do that to ya 💀
Freud would have fun with that one
As long her brother's isn't named Jaime.
@@philjones3824 Or Targaryen
I love how all her "values" are things out of mens controls or habits that will lead her to bad relationships.
This!
She couldn't understand why she had bad luck with bad men and then the first things she mentions that she likes are partying, drinking, and choking lmao
Some people say women like this come from a family without a father, but they also come from families where the father doesn't tell them NO, and spoils them rotten. That girl will never grow up and will just become a self centred brat. You have to have conversations with your kids, so they don't turn out like this.
Looks like she had a simp of a dad, if I have daughters I will tell them no, also teach them to split the bills minus personal expenses, have a morality, not having kids out of wedlock, and make them work by 15
@@timothyloayza6789 exactly! Teach them the value of hard work and the value of money, and respect.
@@Gollumfili yup I will not delude her like so many out here. Plus if she cheats on her husband, I'll help him and make sure she gets nothing and out of the family.
I am 5'10" and have gone out with guys who were 5'11". Who they are is more important than wearing heels
I’m single and my values that I won’t compromise on are things like actual character: honesty, hard working, fidelity….etc. her standards are just superficial and ridiculous
She's just what All Modern Western Fea-males are NOW
She wants older guys that are probably "more mature." But those older guys can see through her immaturity and the younger guys are a deal breaker. So that other guy had it right...."you're gonna be single....." King.
Exactly right, the only guys stupid enough to want her are too stupid to see what a waste she is
My husband is the opposite of everything I thought I wanted and was attracted to . But he was everything that I did not know I needed. We need to stop selecting who we get to know and just become openly social again , there are many gems around us that go unnoticed.
My values include being a genuine Christian, having the same child raising ideas (i.e. not screaming yelling and abusing them, homeschooling cuz i was screwed over in public school, and teaching kindness), being kind and true, trusting on both sides, not pushing for things like sex, not manipulating each other, etc. I've been hurt a lot and I'm thankful that my husband is my perfect match. He's also been hurt a lot and we've found great comfort in each other.
Good you'll make a great parent we need morality again
She’s gonna find exactly what she’s looking for. Sadly for her he’s gonna be wanting someone completely different.
"...find what she's talking about..."
There's a difference from what she'll actually looking for. She's been finding that already.
The problem with waiting for Mr Right at that age, is you need to ask why he's still single. The longer she waits, the harder it'll be to find someone her age that's both perfect and single.
My 6'4" brother married a girl 4'11". We teased him saying they couldn't get married, but they are still going strong 28 years later.
That's crazy! U trolling
They just might have average sized children
rip the tall genetic line
😊my parents 6'4 and 5' . I turned out 5'7, my 13 yr old son is already 5'9 with size 14 feet, I've started sitting him down when I need to tell him off
@@amyc.peters1064 My parents are 6’2 and 4’9. I’m standing at 5’6 as a grown man…..
Damn. First time seeing your channel supper sub i like your content 💯
If you’re supposed to inform people about you as a person, and all can say is you like to party and drink…..might want to rethink getting into a relationship and focus on finding hobbies that won’t kill you prematurely.
I think it’s strange to sit in front of a group of people while texting with them instead of actually talking to them. I guess it’s the new age.
You know what’s funny… salary wasn’t even in the equation for this round. Imagine how quickly she would’ve thinned the herd if she said they need to make over $100k!
She ran out of guys before financials came into question 😂😂😂
Amala has such a fun energy here.
I'm 5'2, and gosh it sucks, but at least it helps me keep my expectations real
The fact she thinks that last comment was rude says it all. ENTITLEMENT and NARCISSISM. Dude just held up the mirror for her to see herself and she lacks the emotional intelligence to see she’s causing her own misery.
Indeed, half her superficial preferences were just her being rude to the men around her.
@@pigpuke she doesn’t want to date anyone anyway. She wants to party, drink, and sleep around. The contest was rigged from the beginning with the woman they chose. Although I’m sure she’s a representative sample unfortunately.
the guys comment was rude, why do u think he said if not to insult her bec he didnt like her choices
@@grahepo
What human with a working brain would LIKE her choices?
If you feel insulted by the truth, it's on you. Good luck with people around you needing to tell you lies, so you feel good.
All I could think through this was "do any of these men want to be a yes"? I could see a lot of men saying "I meet your criteria but I'm still noping out".
"These are values and things that I don't want to change right now."
- Height
- Interest in drinking heavily and "partying"
- 26 or older
- Kids, but not for until you're 33+
Yeah... Solid values right there.
If you want to potentially marry, then it's ok to be picky. Even urealistically picky. It's life we're talking about here. She probably doesn't want a guy that bad
Choking. You forgot choking
everything else i agree, but in the society we live in who would even want to raise kids.
the "the must be 6" thing" is kinda crazy cus only 14% of the GLOBAL as in ENTIRE WORLDs male population is 6"+ and that isn't spread evenly across the globe either the scandinavian countries, africa, and america have like 13/14 of the total 14%
as someone who is 6" and the sentiment hold with most of the people i know that are my height or taller a woman that isn't at least 5'10" demanding a man that is 6" is an instant turn-off
She must have forgotten the part where 30+ having kids gets harder.
Love your channel ❤️
Amala, you look great. keep up the good work.
First red flag for me is the 20 guys sitting on the floor, surrounding a girl sitting on a stool. Just the optics of this is stomach turning. Which I guess is symbolic of society as a whole now, where we place all women on a pedestal
At one of them should have been breaking dancing and ignoring her… At one of them should have been pretending to be mentally handicapped and mastubating.
It was the cocky attitude of taking a picture of herself while sitting right in front of them and sending it in the group chat for me. It was just weird lol. Just really showed how much she cares about looks, especially her own. At least that's my take.
i saw on another reaction video that she also has an onlyfans
How in Christ is this stomach churning?
They do this with guys on the stool surrounded by girls, and people who are bi surrounded by both sexes so try again
The saddest part is: this woman's standards, though ridiculous on many accounts, are actually much more lenient than MANY women in today's society. I personally find it frustrating as a man that prefers women my age, or a little older, because it's sadly very common for women to refuse a man that's even SLIGHTLY younger than them. Stay strong guys! The right girl is out there, it's just a bit harder to find them in today's dating landscape!
You keep thinking that. I've accepted the fact I'm probably gonna die alone
@@eldengoat421 Focus on yourself, make yourself a better person. Go to the gym regularly, try to better your financial situation. Don't focus on finding a partner all the time, sometimes men just need s3x, so find that wherever you can. Best case scenario for this advice is it will help you find a partner, worst case scenario it will lessen the feelings of disappointment. When your confidence is high, disappointment has much less impact on you.
I predict that in about 10 - 20 years we'll see a spike in depression and mental illness in women. These shallow lifestyles don't lead to happiness in the long run.
I don't understand why it's a deal breaker that your potential partner is a bit younger than you(I'm a woman btw and I've been in a relationship with someone younger than me)
Agreed I don’t go for younger woman because I don’t want to end up on a sex offender registry.
I’m 18 and besides that I like more mature (adult) women who are stable and take charge.
These woman are probably the same except that isn’t my standard for a partner.
In the future I would be fine with a younger woman. As long as she isn’t too crazy or entitled.
Key statement: "these are values I don't want to bend and change RIGHT NOW". Give it a decade and she will be wishing she did
At least she has an inkling that something might change -- as it should, in gaining maturity.
Lady you are so right the most important thing is the core values. Its really that simple.
As a guy, my first standard is a Godly woman with a pleasant character. That alone knocks out the majority of single women nowadays. My second is finding one that is proportional, doesn't matter fat or skinny, just don't be ridiculous either direction...and that knocks out almost all the rest.
Based comment. If your lady isn't grounded with our Creator you are getting a literal countdown.
Again, you say this but if a woman preferred a tall guy you would flip your shit and start screaming about women being superficial
@@morigaena333physical characteristics are something you can't change...much. Ideology isn't restrained by physical characteristics unless you are a bigot.
😅 ok that's funny cuz it's kinda true but. Don't give up, stay close to God and she will appear when you are both ready.
For the second one, too fat or too skinny just find one where she happily lets you take charge of her diet. In otherwords become the cook or adopt a meal plan and exercise together.
Stuff like that is fixable granted a compromise.
Who in the right mind says “I love to party” to strangers 😅 it’s ok to enjoy going out and have few drinks. But this is basically telling everyone “hey I’m emotionally immature and looking for someone fun”
A lot of Asians grow up in very strict households and like to enjoy their freedom in their 20s when they have independence from their parents. If that includes going to the club, so what.
Bleh... you're reading too much into it. They could just mean they like to be social. A party could be dinner or hanging out at a friends place with a few people.
@@MrAkaacer For sure 😂 You are to idealistic. Partying means 99% of the time you drink yourself to the ground in the local club and maybe do 1night stand with a total stranger
pro tip if a girl under 35 says they like to dance they mean clubbing aka like to "party"
She brings up partying and rough kinky sex to total strangers, def not wife material
We need more women like Amala. Level headed...
Most guys’ standards:
Be biological female
Be alive
Be caring
Don’t be utterly dumb
Be moderately attractive
Non smoker is a must as well
Yet people blame men for the decline of marriages.
@@VergilTheLegendaryDarkSlayer, even that's debatable for some men, especially guys who are smokers themselves... personally I am a smoker and have no qualms about dating a smoker, but I smoke tobacco and if she smokes, I won't date someone who smokes anything but tobacco... and yes I'm trying to quit, but if I manage to quit, I won't date a smoker unless she's trying to quit
@@MrEli768 the main reason I won't date a smoker is because I cough uncontrollably around cigarette smoke
There needs to be SOME overlap of values as well. I don't care if a girl votes Conservative (or Republican for Americans) but UKIP etc is an absolute no-go.
About two decades ago when Internet dating was big, I was talking with a gal and we seemed to have a lot in common. She worked in an office, and I was a computer tech at a major aerospace firm making good money. In fact, my income was about the same as hers, but she completely killed it when she actually said she would not date anybody that did not have a college degree because she could never date somebody more stupid than she was.
Now I did not go to college, I spent a decade in the military and largely taught myself computers. And I actually got offended, because she was equating college with intelligence. And needless to say I never talked to her again after that. That was about the time I stopped trying to meet people online. I learned there was a reason why most were trying that, they wanted something completely unrealistic.
I’m a mechanical engineer, some of the smartest people I have worked with did not have college degrees, but many of dumbest did! She did you a favor by rejecting you for a lack of a college degree.
@@mikeb1520 She did not reject me, she did not realize I did not have a degree. That was a comment she made in passing, thinking I must have been a Computer Science major I guess. But I did reject her for her bigotry.
My girl for a long time graduated Suma Cum Laude. She was very smart on her studied matter but zero common sense in general matters. Once we took an IQ test for fun and i beat her by 12 points. She hated that because i dont even have a GED. I also was in the military. Went in open contract and was assigned fire direction for artillery because of my ASVAB scores, especially in math.
@@RONNIEJNZN I also had a high ASVAB score, and specifically signed up as Infantry because I wanted the challenge. Later in my career I worked on the PATRIOT missile system then IT. And it always irks me how prejudiced some are when they think most in the military are idiots.
@@michaelmartin4552 I understand the near-bigotry when referring to military smarts. Some of the most intelligent and capable human beings are found throughout all the branches, IMO - speaking from the POV of a Marine Veteran. My family members who've earned advanced degrees may be "smarter" in their narrow field of study - but as far as general everyday knowledge (esp. operating, repairing, or upkeeping anything), I pretty much run circles around them, LOL - and I'm far from a college degree (ie: I dropped out midway through the first semester of freshman year, LOL - right after coming back from Desert Storm and EOSing).....
No questions about religion.
No questions about relationship responsibilities.
No questions about behaviors.
She doesn’t have harm values. She has superficial needs.
It's always sad when someone thinks they're going to be young and pretty for a long time, especially when that's clearly all they have to trade on.
I was once asked by a girl what the most attractive quality in a woman was. I replied "respiration".
When she asked what I meant, I told her I wasn't allowed to have sex with dead girls any more by Court order.
😂
I would have loved that answer! I like a sense of humor
If you're saying your british... that would fit stereotypes 😂
Mortophobe!