She tricked the game from the beginning, no questions about family values or morals. She focused on superficial things and still lost. This says more about her than about the applicants.
At the time of the video she was 26, "younger than her" is a deal breaker and she "likes to party". PURELY on those two axes (ignoring everything else), I am SHOCKED this woman says she only finds bad men. If you're looking for a 30ish guy that either LIKES to party or is totally cool with his girlfriend partying, then 99% "not a keeper". (22, sure, but 30?) explains why none of the last batch stayed too.
@@tpsamwomen don't want mature. They want exciting, reckless relationships. There's nothing mature about tatted up chad plowing her up from time to time, there really isn't.
The guy that said "you're going to be single for a while" was just giving her a bit of reality. She can say it's rude but she obviously has never had anyone call out her BS before.
nah fr😂 shordy really said “i don’t wanna guy who’ll want kids within 7 years”. women think they last forever or something. baby them eggs shriveled up!
@@DMSProduktions She may not have grown up in a typical Asian culture, certainly I don't get the feeling she was born in Asia or spent much time there. But it doesn't matter because I've known some Asian women who are totally wacko, some born in the East and some in the West. It's not the culture, it's the person and how they perceive the world. The one in this video obviously thinks she deserves a guy with all these attributes and won't settle for anything less and only thinking of herself. As the guy leaving said, she's going to be single for a long time. I think being an attractive woman she has been programmed by men to think that way, they simply simped to her, as most men do with an attractive woman.
The funny thing is, ive come across her tinder twice and was still single. Last time i came across her was a little over 2 years ago, just before i connected with my now gf
I heard a story once about a woman who was looking for the perfect man, but with every man she met, she always found some problem. Then one day she met a guy who had all the qualities and characteristics she was looking for. But there was just one problem. He was looking for the perfect woman.
@@wedgeantilles8575 I am a regular modern young woman myself and I can tell you this lady's just a child. We are all better off with these people doing us a favor and excluding us. Bless her soul but she clearly has had no thought about what a lasting marriage actually takes to maintain. It sure as heck isnt height, partying, chocking, and being younger than your partner. I honestly feel bad for her. I also feel bad for you if you have come to believe that young modern women are normally like this. If this is all you find yourself, you are looking in the wrong places. I have undergrad students in a liberal arts women's college in a blue state who haven't even hit 21 yet and they have more common sense than this poor girl.
@@alex-dm3sn I hope you are right. All my experience in seing women looking for partners, they almost to a person have the exact same superficial and exclusionary and frankly stupid mindset as this young woman.
@@wedgeantilles8575 just like the woman in the video who only seems to find bad man, you only seem to find bad women. hmmmm what's the common denominator???
her standards were so arbitrary. no politics, religion, education, hobbies, friends, work, educating future children, disciplining children, time spent with family, holidays, traditions, financies. I’ve been married for 12 years, these things matter.
I mean most women are like that. Most women prefer men who are taller despite those things not having anything to do with personality, religion, education, etc.
The moment she mentions she likes choking, drinking, partying & dancing, but still has the guts to say she would like to end this cycle of bad man shocked me LMAO
She's 26 talking bout partying, then having the audacity to say she can't date someone younger... so you want someone in their late twenties or thirties who still wants to party? Get real. A MAN at that age that you'd be interested in, isn't a child who wants to party.
@@OfficialShamGawd a man by 30's would be too busy with their job, business, personal goals or even investments. I don't see any reason why men by their 30's would still want to go out party and get wasted for no reasons.. She's too crazy to think that a man can simply cater to her needs while she's giving nothing in return except for burning off his money..
@@OfficialShamGawdya i think she meant to date an unemployed man who smooches of his rich daddy's money and hence has own the genetic lottery and also has the time to party, be kinky and spoil her with daddy's money without having to work for the money. she is not looking for a serious relationship. she is looking for a hookup because she is pretty and it’s easy for her to get guys to sleep with her and thus she thinks she can keep continuing partying for more 7yrs and then be an adult and ready to settle down. i m pretty sure she is unemployed and not well educated herself and lives off her parents money and so she is delulu
Ya bruh like what? That many guys are into choking? This girl doesn't know what she's saying, either she has sexual trauma or romanticizes sexual trauma. Pisses me off girls like that
The biggest takeaway for me was that when she realized that her standards were unrealistic, she immediately resorted to common platitudes about not compromising values and not changing your standards to please others even though these colloquialisms are completely inapplicable to her situation. To make matters worse, she made sure to express how she herself had "suffered" in past relationships. Essentially, she perfectly demonstrates our propensity to latch on to any buzzwords, sayings, or phrases that will allow us to remain as the victims in our own stories even when all of the evidence points to the fact that we are actually the villain.
She's not a villain for not realizing her standards are silly and way too restrictive. She's just young and naive. If anything, she's an example of how someone challenging your opinions just makes you double down on what you believe, rather than make you think critically to the point where you might change your mind. She found a way to justify not changing what she wants, despite actual proof that she can decimate a dating pool with her "standards".
I had strict standards and then met the “perfect for me” man EXCEPT he was about 4 in shorter than me. Now why would I give up “perfect” for something so arbitrary, silly, and shallow. Happily married now for 23 yr!
Love this! My husband is also shorter than me. If I hadn’t dated him because he didn’t meet the superficial standard of height, I wouldn’t have my wonderful husband!
I'm 61 and 5' 10'. Women have been getting worse in their standards the older I get. This girl's :values" are warped. The last guy said it best. She'll be alone for a long time.
Her: Judges men's value by height, age and alcohol consumption. Also her: "How rude to tell me I'm gonna be single for a while!" Hypocrisy much? 😂 And also she wonders why she ends up with "bad men" 😂😂😂
Ya, problem is the worst judges of character have the most insane “standards,” they end up each time knowing the standards are incomprehensible & so end up with the worst guys cuz they have such low opinions in general. These types aren’t open to good men, they want to be lied to while chasing shallow pursuits.
Whats absurd about her claiming that was “rude” is SHE said she was going to die alone, and all he said is thats its going to be awhile before she finds someone
Agreed. There does not seem to be any recognition of what some women call "marriage material" in a man. Those factors would be: steady employment record, reasonable level of self-care and physical fitness (no smokers, for instance), membership in a Faith, healthy relationships with his own family, good communication skills. This "kid" is talking about the man's height because she likes to wear high heels. Wow, those things really contribute to the success of a marriage.
i'm guessing she was beyond spoilt by her parents. she is...turning me off as I'm her age and also of asian descent and I do NOT want to be her friend even. I disagree with 99% of the things she said
When your first priorities are partying , drinking, “a little choking” and height…………I wonder why she’s attracting undesirable guys? Priorities like morals, kindness, hard working, and temperament are stupid amyway
@@Undomaranel That's because when it's self deprecation you are still lying to yourself, "am I really this bad? No, I'm just over reacting" vs it being an objective fact about you as it came from an outside observer. If one person says it, 10 people think it.
@@pigpuke You're not always lying to yourself. In a joking tone as she typed it? Yeah. But lots of us attack ourselves on the regular, and you are what you eat. Hearing it from someone else just solidifies those thoughts.
I’m 70 years old and I couldn’t stop laughing throughout the entire video. What you kids have to go through for a mating ritual is absolutely hilarious.Back in my day we would simply say, “You truly are the most beautiful, intelligent and interesting woman I have ever met and would love it if we could date to see if there is more in our future “. That’s it. Nothing fancy. No talking about choking or feet. Just, do you want to see if we were made for each other. I’m starting to wonder if there’s a chance for the human race to continue into the future. LOL
Hi there, I'm 20 and yeahh... I can confirm you are absolutely right, it's impossible to find a normal person nowadays as girls have imposible standards and everyting is considered cringe (quirky) and/or lame.. I'm quite sad that 20yo's are single because of these kind of generations "values" 🤮
I'm sure when my generation gets in power all over the world, we will cause WW3. I heard many historians say that every time the last generation that experienced war dies, the following generations forget the horrors of war and they provoke it when they get the power. So since gen z never knew wars and forgot WW2, i'm sure my generation is the last of our civilisations. Sounds pesemistic but its a possibility more likely scenario.
It's interesting she thought at a simple observation about her extensive requirement list was rude. I mean ok it was a bit rude but not more rude than her list of mostly superficial and in some cases rather belittling demands. I feel like her maturity level is not on par with her age if she doesn't see that her list is weird and judgy and unlikely to get fulfilled. All that plus the guy has to also like her and she did not talk about what she planned to bring to the table, looks will only go so far.
@@OnceUponaTimeline in todays western society we haven’t raised women to think like that for a long time. Post feminist movement it’s been what can the world do for me rather than focusing on a value exchange. We’re now seeing this pattern of behaviour extend to women in older age categories.
This guy wasn't a hero. This guy like all others who stayed at the very end probably already did a lot of compromises. Maybe added an inch to his height, said he wanted to party while he hates that. That comment came from a place of resentful compromises. The hero is the single guy who left early on because he knows what he likes.
@@psychastheneia7 you’re thinking about it all wrong. He’s a hero for telling her what she needs to hear. He’s a hero for telling her what everyone else was thinking. Her superficial standards are crazy. It’s like me saying I’ll only date women who are thin with long legs, and natural chest of at least a size D cup. Men can’t control their height or age just as women can’t control the length of their legs and natural chest size. Majority of the population are under 6 feet tall so she’s limiting her dating pool. Majority of women do not have the features I stated.
@@HypocritesExposd a more effective way for delivering the same message would be everyone left her when they saw the red flags instead of hoping in the hopes to get laid. This way she wouldn't feel that she rejected them but they rejected her
To me, it's very sad that a woman of 26yrs talks and thinks and wishes as if she was a teen and hasn't learnt a thing about life and love yet... 💔 And calling those immature preferences (age, height, etc) your "VALUES" and congratulating yourself for not giving them even a second thought... wow, that's really self-delusional 🤦🏼♀️
I don’t think her standards are unrealistic, I’m a woman who just graduated college and I’m close to making six figures. If I can do it so can a man, and I’ve seen man in my field make it upon graduation. But I’ll admit maybe she could’ve lighten up on that one. As far as her other physical standards…that’s just what women want🤷🏾♀️ she definitely is superficial though, like what kind of background does she want him to be from? His personality. Characteristics. Values. That matters.
@@WacoBeautyQueen Her standards are completely unrealistic. Making 6 figures just after finishing college is not the norm. It's also very dependant on where you live. Cities/areas where everything's expensive will also have much higher pay, for example. Engineering jobs are the most paying jobs one can do after college and even they don't even come close to 6 figures just after college on average. Not that it doesn't happen, just know that if you do earn that much... you're well above the norm.
Let’s be honest. She seems superficial and shallow. None of the characteristics that she values will sustain a lasting relationship. They wouldn’t even keep a friendship going, let alone a marriage. I’ve been married 20 years. Met my husband in high school and now we have 3 boys and a granddaughter 😁. I can’t imagine how my life would’ve turned out if I had her perspective on men and relationships. I’d never want my boys to date any woman like her. My advice, RUN!!!
She doesn't seem like a bad person, just misguided by society. She seems kind. She had the guts to put herself up there and do this. I have some sympathy. I hope she keeps her chin up and learns more about what is important. And if she doesn't want to compromise, that's her choice. Best advice my parents gave (they were 19 and 21 at marriage) was that they laughed so much together. That's really important. They also grew up in the same small town and had similar thoughts on many issues.
Most guys don't care about height. That is why it's stupid calling a woman that is short delusional if she wants a tall man. If she is attractive she can find a tall man, since men won't prefer taller women in general. It is like saying to a man that wants a curvy woman "well you're not curvy yourself so how can you want a curvy woman" 😂 Men and women don't want the sqme thing.
My standards were simple: shared my faith, wanted kids, was a nerd who had interests and passions. Physical characteristics came secondary - i like brown eyes but it wasn't a deal breaker. Today I'm married to a wonderful, Christian man who likes fishing and blacksmithing, and we just welcomed our first child a few months ago. Standards are important - just make sure they're ones that matter in the long run!
It's crazy to me that _every single guy_ left, and that was based strictly on basic attributes. She didn't even touch on faith, lifestyle, employment, or any of the other incredibly important aspects of dating. It's just going to narrow her choices even further in the real world. She's in for a rough time.
I remember being young, 20, and telling my mom that all the guys I met wore goofy shoes. I can't even believe that ever mattered to me, but at the time, it mattered. I thought Mr. Right would be wearing a three piece suit (big in the 80s) and driving an Italian sports car. I never forgot what my mom said to me, "When you meet the right guy, you won't even mind if he's barefoot." Fast forward 18 months, I meet a guy who's wearing work boots and walking everywhere because he cracked up his car. No big executive job, he's blue collar all the way. Super fast forward 43 years, we are still together and still in love ❤️ Thanks mom ❤
Tbf I think a lot of woman go through that phase. I kinda did for the first year in college. Probably or books we read occurs from the shows or dramas we watch, get absorbed in social media or whatnot. Most woman do grow out of that phase. This girl did not
I was into fitness and tracks,so I always wanted a guy with super fit athletic body. I actually dated an athlete for a very short while,nothing was clicking and we were not attracted to each other after knowing each other a bit. External beauty and superficial traits would only work for a short time. My husband is fit but nowhere near athletic,he has a paunch and a dad bod and I loveee it.
Its sad that none of her standards actually create a healthy relationship. The questions she asked (her standards) are the exact reason she keeps "attracting bad guys"
It’s not just the guys she is attracting. I think lots of guys would find her physically attractive enough to date. But it’s the guys she is choosing using superficial metrics that turn out to be bad guys. Of course! She didn’t select based on personality so finding a compatible personality would just be a statisticalooook fluke.
As soon as she got to "I like to party / drink a lot", she moved from date / wife material to "Hit it and quit it",..... and guys are still going to stick around,..... why wouldn't they?
@dadada3529 «26 is the edge for a traditional valued men» that standard can be considered adequate only if the man himself is 30 y.o. or younger. Y’all love to discuss “high standards” of modern women, and yet you’re totally fine with men’s bs. Your man is a misogynist, congrats on that.
As a guy who's 5'3", I've been happily married to my 5'5" wife for 8 years because we had more realistic standards with what we both were looking for. Yes we had height preferences but that wasn't a deal breaker. There are more important things in life.
I don't think her biggest trouble is going to be finding a guy with her standards. I think it's going to be finding and keeping a meaningful relationship with those standards alone.
When I was still single, I appreciated women like her. They quickly ensure you are aware that you are nowhere near whatever checklist she has and thus you can stop wasting time, money or emotions on them. It's a blessing in a very conceited disguise.
I actually had a woman in a bar ask me to dance. I said "No, I ... " and was cut off by her screeching "Well, fuck you! You asshole" as she turned and stormed off. I made sure she saw me as I went to the bathroom using a cane from a badly sprained ankle.
My parents married for love in the early 50s when that wasn't always the "way it was done." She loved to dance. He hated to dance. They would go out with her cousins and she would dance with them. They made it work. Seriously, some of this stuff is INSANE!!
@@lauriemeyer7030an ex berated me publicly in a club many years ago because I told her I was too tired to dance. She had all her work friends there, and I just wanted to sit and relax. She ended up leaving the dancefloor and coming over to sit with me, but it wasn't for solidarity sake, she just wanted to fight. When I tried to leave the club, she got physical with me. Embarrassing and humiliating. Glad I said adios to that relationship.
The whole “I want a 6ft tall guy” when you are a woman of an average height is stupid. I’m 5’5”, my man is 5’8”. When I wear heels, we’re basically the same height. He is the best partner, and he’s hot as hell. I would’ve missed out on the last 6 years of being with an amazing man if I had the same ridiculous height criteria as some as these women. And bonus…I don’t have to break my neck when I kiss him!!
I love that with all her demands (and we didn’t even hit what I’m sure would have been interesting career/income requirements), she wiped out a room full of guys and then seemed genuinely shocked when told ‘you’re going to be single for a while’. And please, when you’re talking about your values, they don’t include dancing, drinking, partying, height or age. They aren’t values. Even the ‘I’d only want kids after seven years’ bit isn’t a value. That’s a preference and most likely one you’ve derived from being self centred.
Hi, English is not my first language and I'm not from America so I'm curious about what is exactly values, i would like to not misunderstanding. Can you explain it to me please? Googling it is kinda tricky maybe
When she starts mentioning age, you can see the maturity level. It’s not a 10 year difference, it’s 1 month younger is off putting for her, tells you a lot about her maturity and where she is in life, she just wants to date, she’s not looking for someone to spend a lifetime with.
Yep, she's a party girl who wants someone with her who looks good, picks up checks and doesn't want to settle down until she is ready. Plenty of guys like that out there - and most will dump her when she starts that "I want something more" talk after a couple of years. None will find any reason to marry her, so long as she is in this party phase.
Yeah last time i thought like that I was 14, 15 maybe. When I wasnt dating at all. My partner is 2 years younger then me and I never really think about it. Hes one of the most mature people I know.
@@ErgoProxy12345 ?? her values: "men does not need to be a provider in the family", her preferences: "income not required, i can provide." her values: "people in relationship should be honest with each other. her perferences: "men who do not lie, or looks like someone who would lie". there are many more examples and better ones that i cannot think of at the moment. our values guide a lot of what we choose in life than you realize. don't be naive
Her dating standards are kind of red flags tbh. The way I got together with my hubby was talking about music, politics, our hobbies, talking about our pasts, what we want for the future, favorite foods, and sharing each other's culture. We were friends for about a month, but then we both realized that we were actually totally in love. We didn’t jump into it looking to fulfill ourselves, we did it because we loved each other and wanted to give that love to each other. It wasn't as selfish as dating seems to be now. Been married ten years, and we are still very much in love.
Difference is you wanted to marry. So when a guy seemed to be compatible with your personality you jumped on it. This girl is still in her 17 year old party girl phase despite being 26. She is not even looking for a possible life partner, she is looking for a guy to party with and do crazy stuff with like a young party girl. Most 18 year old's looking for a guy aren't actually thinking about marriage but just to have a boyfriend for fun. Well she is the same but the problem is she isn't 19 anymore but 26. Maybe she was a late bloomer and getting her frustrations out now, who knows but her current age isn't compatible with her mentality. If we assume she found a guy that very moment a possible marriage will still be around 2 years away at best so she will be 28. Just right before she gets on her 30's so she needs to find a guy asap if she doesn't want to be pass her 30's looking for a guy and she shouldn't be looking for parties and drinking and intense moments etc. She is not a teen anymore but she hasn't realized.
Ahh the woman who imitates, mocks and degrades men. You want to know this ... Well, I think disgusting is a little bit of far fetch lol. But it's true that majority of the times that guys cosplay as girls it just doesn't look good :/. I actually don't think I've seen one that wasn't cringe yet. - “Hjonk Hjonk” (5 upvotes)
I’m single and my values that I won’t compromise on are things like actual character: honesty, hard working, fidelity….etc. her standards are just superficial and ridiculous
"Hey guys ! I like to party, get drunk and talk about fetishes with people I've met 5 minutes ago. Also for some unknown reason I seem to be attracting bad men". From the title I was expecting her to have absurdly high standards, turns out they were just absurd. She would have had her 4 matches if she dropped her idiotic age rule.
The thing is, she attracted these younger guys because they're at her level. The qualifiers she gave are held by younger guys. She's painfully unaware that she just outted her maturity level.
That last line got me, is not to please someone else, is to please you. You are the one who will benefit from having someone in your life to take you out, and make you happy.
She couldn't understand why she had bad luck with bad men and then the first things she mentions that she likes are partying, drinking, and choking lmao
She said she likes to drink and party, and then complains about having bad relationships in the past and doesn’t want to address that. She seems to be one of these foolish party girls that constantly goes for the bad boy and never learns her lesson and will get embittered over time.
This girl is not fixable. The reason she only attracts bad guys is because they are players… which means they’ll say anything to do the deed and then they’re out.
I think it's even worse. The guys at the top tier (Chad) don't even have to be players. Since so many women try to get them, they can just choose, hump and dump. When women complain about all men being bad, they are actually right - everyone below 8 is not even considered a men
No one is unfixable, but no guy/relationship is going to change her. She is going to have to do that on her own. She may be 33 or older before that happens, but it can happen. It can take a while for people to grow up and realize what is really important in life and relationships. It would have been cool to see her expound upon her relationship with her family, which is obviously important to her, but for some reason, she doesn't see the parallel to a lasting romantic relationship.
Over 210 years ago Jane Austen in "Pride and Prejudice" already demolished insane standards applied by men and women seeking partners. Darcy: "The word is applied too liberally. I do not know more than half a dozen women that are truly accomplished." Lizzie: "Goodness, you must comprehend a great deal in the idea." Darcy: "I do. She must have a knowledge of music, singing, drawing, dancing, and the modern languages to deserve the word, and something in her air and manner of walking. And she must improve her mind by extensive reading." Lizzie: "I'm no longer surprised at your knowing only six accomplished women - I wonder at you knowing any." Darcy: "Are you so severe on your own sex?" Lizzie: "I never saw such a woman. She would certainly be a fearsome thing to behold." (This dialogue, directly from Austen's book, is taken from the condensed version used in the 2005 movie adaptation. The whole point is that this woman is doing the same thing Darcy did, and which Austen via Lizzie mocks, because no such woman (or man) exists; what Darcy describes isn't an actual woman, he's describing an ancient mythical Greek goddess such as Athena).
The guy at the end wasn't rude. He just shared his view about facts based on her and he's statistically correct, and she just immediately thought that was rude to point that out? 😁
I’m 6’7”, thin, make over 6 figures, and I chose to marry a woman who is 5’4”, and a few years older than me. Why? Because she gives me peace. Cooking, and family are her absolute passions, and she recognizes we both are flawed people who want to build the other up to make each other the best versions of ourselves we could possibly be in this life. But good God, can that woman cook!
@@nestorcastillo9107 you mistake the mere use of God’s name as speaking it vainly. When in fact, I am praising his name by saying, “But good God can she cook.”
I'm basically only subscribed to sports and chess channels, but your objective/educated analysis on topics that the zeitgeist has misconstrued is refreshing. Smashing that subscribe as they say
😊my parents 6'4 and 5' . I turned out 5'7, my 13 yr old son is already 5'9 with size 14 feet, I've started sitting him down when I need to tell him off
The first girl saying that she needs a guy making over 500K, is actually pretty reasonable. Because it's going to take at least 450K to feed and stable her.
First red flag for me is the 20 guys sitting on the floor, surrounding a girl sitting on a stool. Just the optics of this is stomach turning. Which I guess is symbolic of society as a whole now, where we place all women on a pedestal
At one of them should have been breaking dancing and ignoring her… At one of them should have been pretending to be mentally handicapped and mastubating.
It was the cocky attitude of taking a picture of herself while sitting right in front of them and sending it in the group chat for me. It was just weird lol. Just really showed how much she cares about looks, especially her own. At least that's my take.
Amala I am sorry but this woman is not sweet she’s only superficially sweet she’s actually very shallow. Her standards were 5’10” actually 5’11” and above, nobody younger than her by even a month I.e. younger than 26, someone who likes to party, which is much more typical for someone in their early 20s and teens, and someone who is willing to choke her. Those were all standards that she needs for a guy to have a relationship with her. Those are all extremely shallow standards, indicating that she’s not a sweet woman, but a shallow one only appearing to be sweet.
The problem with waiting for Mr Right at that age, is you need to ask why he's still single. The longer she waits, the harder it'll be to find someone her age that's both perfect and single.
Or she just doesn't want children at all, but feels pressured. That was me. I am now in my 50s and not having kids was the best decision I ever made. I don't drink or party (never have), but I wasn't interested in raising a family.
At the beginning when she said she has had a pattern of bad men, is an enormous red flag, means she has been a 304 for lots of guys way out of her league. I would RUN away from this girl just after that 1 statement.
I remember as a young man my dad said choose a partner that has a good head on her shoulders because at the end we all get ugly and if you don’t choose wisely your stuck with ugly and dumb . 😂😂
"These are values and things that I don't want to change right now." - Height - Interest in drinking heavily and "partying" - 26 or older - Kids, but not for until you're 33+ Yeah... Solid values right there.
If you want to potentially marry, then it's ok to be picky. Even urealistically picky. It's life we're talking about here. She probably doesn't want a guy that bad
the "the must be 6" thing" is kinda crazy cus only 14% of the GLOBAL as in ENTIRE WORLDs male population is 6"+ and that isn't spread evenly across the globe either the scandinavian countries, africa, and america have like 13/14 of the total 14% as someone who is 6" and the sentiment hold with most of the people i know that are my height or taller a woman that isn't at least 5'10" demanding a man that is 6" is an instant turn-off
My husband is the opposite of everything I thought I wanted and was attracted to . But he was everything that I did not know I needed. We need to stop selecting who we get to know and just become openly social again , there are many gems around us that go unnoticed.
This! My sister was constantly cycling through had men who used her and didn’t seem to really care for her. That is, until she really opened herself up to men she would normally turn away. She finally married at 40 years old and they seem really happy and he treats her right.
I’m 5’3, my husband is 5’8. When we met, I made more money than him slightly…he got an amazing job and now I’m a spoiled housewife!! 💅🏻 Thank you all you to all the shallow women who passed him up
@@MrGecros You have to take into account that a big part of what makes height attractive in men is not just the height difference in relation to the woman in question, but also in relation to other men. That is why even 5'2 women are attracted to 6'4 guys, because they are dominant physically with respect to other men. Just because a man who is 5'7 is tall compared to a 5'2 woman doesn't mean she will perceive him as tall, since she doesn't just compare him just to herself (that is the bare minimum I guess), but to other men as well.
@@Antonio_Serdarwe all talk about low limits (6'0) - no one talks about upper limit. 6'4 seems to be the ceiling sweet spot. I know women (5'3) who passed on 6'6 guys because too tall. A friend's brother 7'1 had harder times to find a girlfriend than a 5'8 friend who was smat and attracted quite some women before finding his 5'7 wife. Back to the basics: data show that in general women prefer men who are '6 - '10 taller then they are. Since most women are 5'2 - 5'6 that leaves us were? 5'8 - 6'4 ... surprise surprise... the 6'0 thing is just easier to promote on tiktok than 5'8...or it is exactly the middle...maybe a hideous latent alliance between social media and "maths"...btw men prefer women '4-'6 inch smaller in general...where does that leave the ideal woman for a 5'8 - 6'2 average male? Exactly 5'2-5'8...this is almost where all the average 50% women are mostly. Ppl. perceive something around the physical average parameters as attractive...social media sells it as "high standards" or even "high values" the absolute mediocre of the mediocre and ppl forget about the real questions...exactly as the lady that initiated this discussion said: what about interests, desires, ethical values, family, priorities in life etc.
Nah, telling a group of strangers you want to be choked during sex is definitely asking for trouble. I would have walked out just on that statement alone.
The saddest part is: this woman's standards, though ridiculous on many accounts, are actually much more lenient than MANY women in today's society. I personally find it frustrating as a man that prefers women my age, or a little older, because it's sadly very common for women to refuse a man that's even SLIGHTLY younger than them. Stay strong guys! The right girl is out there, it's just a bit harder to find them in today's dating landscape!
@@eldengoat421 Focus on yourself, make yourself a better person. Go to the gym regularly, try to better your financial situation. Don't focus on finding a partner all the time, sometimes men just need s3x, so find that wherever you can. Best case scenario for this advice is it will help you find a partner, worst case scenario it will lessen the feelings of disappointment. When your confidence is high, disappointment has much less impact on you.
I predict that in about 10 - 20 years we'll see a spike in depression and mental illness in women. These shallow lifestyles don't lead to happiness in the long run.
I don't understand why it's a deal breaker that your potential partner is a bit younger than you(I'm a woman btw and I've been in a relationship with someone younger than me)
I would've walked out when she said she likes to party. She's not looking for a real relationship, she's looking for a guy that she can party with. A woman like that isn't wife/mother material.
The fact she thinks that last comment was rude says it all. ENTITLEMENT and NARCISSISM. Dude just held up the mirror for her to see herself and she lacks the emotional intelligence to see she’s causing her own misery.
@@pigpuke she doesn’t want to date anyone anyway. She wants to party, drink, and sleep around. The contest was rigged from the beginning with the woman they chose. Although I’m sure she’s a representative sample unfortunately.
@@grahepo What human with a working brain would LIKE her choices? If you feel insulted by the truth, it's on you. Good luck with people around you needing to tell you lies, so you feel good.
All I could think through this was "do any of these men want to be a yes"? I could see a lot of men saying "I meet your criteria but I'm still noping out".
When the guy told her that she's going to be single for awhile it wasn't rude. It was an accurate observation based on her given "requirements". Her "values" or whatever you want to call them are rather shallow and unrealistic. My Wife is a little more than two years older than me. She was 5 foot tall at the time and I was 6 foot. She drank a little at the time but I don't drink; never have. She quit a few years later of her own volition. She was told early in life that she could never have children. That wasn't a problem. We now have two wonderful sons that we are very proud of. Life isn't predictable. When we married I was literally unemployed. We've had a wonderful 50 years together and are still counting. If you allow yourself and the other person to just be yourselves and work together on life you should be just fine. Having a list of "requirements" can just get in the way of life if you let them rule your decisions.
my thoughts exactly - 'requirements' can change as you mature as a person, or within the relationship... they even may not matter at all if you get to know someone in a more 'organic'/natural way, like we used to in the real world.... crazy that people now use this method to find Mr. or Ms. Right.....
THAT's what I mean! That's what women today don't seem to understand. That life can change, and you literally cannot predict who is going to turn out how. Anybody can change, at ANY POINT in their lives! You can only do your best, and help your partner. How much greater the joy of collaborating on life and growing together, than finding somebody fully fledged and perfectly accomplished and set in their ways, and you don't have anything to aid them with or help them to change in themselves? What basis is there then for loyalty and gratitude and a feeling of being on the same team?
She says being able to take care of children is really important to her, yet she didn't ask any questions about education, income, or family values but asked if they like to choke, drink alcohol, dance, and if they are 6 foot or not. I can see why she only attracts bad men.
As a guy, my first standard is a Godly woman with a pleasant character. That alone knocks out the majority of single women nowadays. My second is finding one that is proportional, doesn't matter fat or skinny, just don't be ridiculous either direction...and that knocks out almost all the rest.
@@morgaena3313physical characteristics are something you can't change...much. Ideology isn't restrained by physical characteristics unless you are a bigot.
For the second one, too fat or too skinny just find one where she happily lets you take charge of her diet. In otherwords become the cook or adopt a meal plan and exercise together. Stuff like that is fixable granted a compromise.
She wants older guys that are probably "more mature." But those older guys can see through her immaturity and the younger guys are a deal breaker. So that other guy had it right...."you're gonna be single....." King.
About two decades ago when Internet dating was big, I was talking with a gal and we seemed to have a lot in common. She worked in an office, and I was a computer tech at a major aerospace firm making good money. In fact, my income was about the same as hers, but she completely killed it when she actually said she would not date anybody that did not have a college degree because she could never date somebody more stupid than she was. Now I did not go to college, I spent a decade in the military and largely taught myself computers. And I actually got offended, because she was equating college with intelligence. And needless to say I never talked to her again after that. That was about the time I stopped trying to meet people online. I learned there was a reason why most were trying that, they wanted something completely unrealistic.
I’m a mechanical engineer, some of the smartest people I have worked with did not have college degrees, but many of dumbest did! She did you a favor by rejecting you for a lack of a college degree.
@@mikeb1520 She did not reject me, she did not realize I did not have a degree. That was a comment she made in passing, thinking I must have been a Computer Science major I guess. But I did reject her for her bigotry.
My girl for a long time graduated Suma Cum Laude. She was very smart on her studied matter but zero common sense in general matters. Once we took an IQ test for fun and i beat her by 12 points. She hated that because i dont even have a GED. I also was in the military. Went in open contract and was assigned fire direction for artillery because of my ASVAB scores, especially in math.
@@RONNIEJNZN I also had a high ASVAB score, and specifically signed up as Infantry because I wanted the challenge. Later in my career I worked on the PATRIOT missile system then IT. And it always irks me how prejudiced some are when they think most in the military are idiots.
@@michaelmartin4552 I understand the near-bigotry when referring to military smarts. Some of the most intelligent and capable human beings are found throughout all the branches, IMO - speaking from the POV of a Marine Veteran. My family members who've earned advanced degrees may be "smarter" in their narrow field of study - but as far as general everyday knowledge (esp. operating, repairing, or upkeeping anything), I pretty much run circles around them, LOL - and I'm far from a college degree (ie: I dropped out midway through the first semester of freshman year, LOL - right after coming back from Desert Storm and EOSing).....
Who in the right mind says “I love to party” to strangers 😅 it’s ok to enjoy going out and have few drinks. But this is basically telling everyone “hey I’m emotionally immature and looking for someone fun”
A lot of Asians grow up in very strict households and like to enjoy their freedom in their 20s when they have independence from their parents. If that includes going to the club, so what.
Bleh... you're reading too much into it. They could just mean they like to be social. A party could be dinner or hanging out at a friends place with a few people.
@@MrAkaacer For sure 😂 You are to idealistic. Partying means 99% of the time you drink yourself to the ground in the local club and maybe do 1night stand with a total stranger
There’s nothing wrong with having standards, but dismissing someone for shallow reasons is a one way ticket to singledom. I think she is just young and doesn’t really know what makes a man attractive. I will admit I was a little more shallow when I was younger, but age and life experience has taught me that I really don’t care about the things that I have been conditioned into thinking make a perfect partner, and I now concentrate on whether someone makes me smile, laugh, feel good, feel happy and feel safe. Those are the qualities that I look for now, not what they look like, their age, how tall they are or how much money they earn. The superficial things really don’t matter if someone makes you happy ♥️
It depends on her expectation limit what she want, if she want married she sould be set a boundaries logically and start find a man, like traditional woman was.
@@VergilTheLegendaryDarkSlayer, even that's debatable for some men, especially guys who are smokers themselves... personally I am a smoker and have no qualms about dating a smoker, but I smoke tobacco and if she smokes, I won't date someone who smokes anything but tobacco... and yes I'm trying to quit, but if I manage to quit, I won't date a smoker unless she's trying to quit
There needs to be SOME overlap of values as well. I don't care if a girl votes Conservative (or Republican for Americans) but UKIP etc is an absolute no-go.
I watched a fun show where they interviewed a bunch of girls about their dating standards and calculated the percentage of men they are looking for. Height, income, age, bodytype. That alone, not considering their hobbies and interests, resulted in the top 1% of men! Girls you better make sure you have something to deliver, if your standards are that high. Those top 1% men can choose whoever and can get away with it.
There's another one out there, forgot the name but it's the dude in the flannel shirt who always has a panel of women. One of the girls was asked about her standards & said basically the same things the girl in this vid said. When the host asked what she brings to the table for that perfect guy in question that she's looking for, she basically just said her vag.....
Funny enough a lot of these women complain about male privilege, yet ironically the only men they wanna date are those with privilege (rich, tall, good looking, etc)
If one of your deal breakers is you won’t date someone younger than you, you can get caught in an endless loop. Your dating options could be limited to people who can’t hold a relationship or divorced people, and if you don’t want children yet that could eliminate more options.
Yep completely agree. I never wanted to date anyone emotionally immature, but bam I’m married to a man 2 years younger than me, and he’s the most mature man ever. Age has absolutely nothing to do with compatibility, if she keep living in her delulu land, doesn’t matter how cute she is, she’s either gonna be single or not being taken seriously for a long time. You are what you are looking for. You cannot find a mature giving man, if you’re not a mature giving woman, and vice versa
Yep. I know someone who was happily married to someone ten years younger than he was. He did say that it felt weird because, as a High School Senior, you don't walk by an elementary school and think about if one of those third graders is going to be the love of your life. But they met as much older, mature adults, NOT as the kids they were back in their school days, so it didn't matter. This woman could be going through the same thing. Right now, at 26, dating someone in their early 20s might seem strange. She's only a few years removed from an era where something like seniors dating freshmen could be a big deal. But as one's age goes up, it would be reasonable to expect age gaps to be less of a concern.
And what if she had an older brother AND a younger brother? Then both older and younger men would remind her of her brother so she can't date anybody except a man born the same month and year as herself?
Tiktok, bad and delusional mom, bad and vapid "friends", social media, bad influencers and youtubers with no moralties and loathe kids happiness, oh and delusional doting dads
Social media. I'm a teacher and hear 12 year old girls rip on a guys height. Didn't happen a few years ago, at least not to the extent. Being tall is more of a status thing. I refuse to believe a 5'3 woman and a 6'3 feel comfortable being that large apart. I understand being taller than her. But being a whole foot bigger is unrealistic and doesn't make sense of evolutionary speaking. Historically, the average male height for centuries and / or even the last 2,000 years was 5'7. Women historically did not go for men way bigger cause humans are not designed to have huge height gaps, or else all men would be taller than all women. Roughly half of all women are in and around the same height minus or plus 2 inches as half of all men. It's braging rights.
"I seem to be attracting bad men." No, lady, you're choosing those bad boys, spot on, Amala! Love your channel. Still undecided what I find more attractive: you, period, or the fact that you lend hope to a dating world I often think is beyond redemption. It's good, and inspiring, to see there are still modern women out there who are not insanely entitled and/or hopelessly detached from reality. It's so refreshing.
Most sensible guys stop partying so much once they turn 27. That standard about liking to party probably eliminated those guys who are older than she is.
@@paulinejackson5861 Except they aren't victims. Any moderately attractive woman these days attracts _all_ men (because that is how attraction works). Good men, with jobs, their own houses, responsible, and decent human beings. But she doesn't want the nice guy: she wants Chad, who flakes on her, treats her like crap, ghosts her, etc. Because the good men are boring to her; she wants the charismatic jerk, the bad boy, who gives her the butterflies, while she has thousands of good men in her friend zone. So yes, her choices are her own, and she chooses poorly.
I would totally agree with the "dont compromise your standards" line. However, if ur standards revolve around very specific and somewhat superficial attributes such as height, age, whether u like to drink or not...well that's a different story.
"That was rude.." She has got to be the dumbest child in that room. Her parents must be proud! The guy was honest, which she was looking for, and absolutely correct. Should I also mention, well within his rights to say. He sat there all day playing that dating game and like everyone that left realized, she will be alone.
You know what’s funny… salary wasn’t even in the equation for this round. Imagine how quickly she would’ve thinned the herd if she said they need to make over $100k!
This is online dating in a nutshell. As a lesbian I've spent a lot of time on tindr. They make it sooo easy to narrow the pool with their dealbreaking standards: "swipe left if you don't support blm, acab, trans rights, 14th vaccination, down with the patriarchy, etc". Tell me who you ARE and we can work around any differences from there. There was a girl who didn't have all that bs in her bio and we matched. Despite her being a few years younger than me (I'm 25, she's 21) and not being my usual "type", I decided to give her a chance. We clicked and have been dating for a few months now! Tldr, the "perfect person" doesnt exist, so don't be so picky before you even get to know a person, because you never know what you're missing out on!
Agreed, it's the "you don't know what you don't know" principle. I don't understand why so many people think that they know exactly what they want in all these superficial categories when they have barely experienced a fraction of what exists in the world. Explore, be curious, be genuine, you'll learn things you never knew you never knew, and a whole new world will open up to you. I spent 7 years living abroad in 18 different countries, and I can say that just the exposure to so many cultures and languages and standards of living totally rewrote some of my interests and values. There are things I used to love that I now find boring, and I have some totally new interests that I like more than many old favorites.
so true!!! i had this exact same experience and just went with who i thought would be a good solid person and the chemistry and physical attraction came so quickly after! honestly it’s not hard to develop an attraction to someone when they hit many of your green flags as well as being a good, solid, dependable, reliable person with integrity and decency. and anyways attraction in the completely superficial and physical sense is very overrated. look for partners in life, not just fuck buddies!
My poor husband. He was 5'5" and I'm 5'6". He couldn't dance to save his life. He was and still is my treasure. Ladies, you might be passing up a treasure. PS I was older by four months.
This just proves how immature and unrealistic modern woman can be. At the time, she was 26 years old…26!! The last comment before he walked off is spot on. As social media continues to reinforce her unrealistic expectations of men, she will remain alone and most likely, a proud cat mom.
Unless gunpoint or blackmailed taken style like Liam Neeson with no backbone. I've seen it work through sources who changed because it took a extreme lunatic to make them admit which horrifying and gross but at least they changed.
this video is sooooo satisfying.....like being rejected by 20 ppl within a mere 15 minute of conversation while being really pretty is like soo downright embarrasing......nd funny thung is this convo didnt even have in depth complex cirterias which r even more trickier like personalities and family values nd yet to be left alone despite just targetting the superficial aspects for which guys r best known for.......i really wanna see whom shed end up marrying and having a child with
She tricked the game from the beginning, no questions about family values or morals. She focused on superficial things and still lost. This says more about her than about the applicants.
But also at the same time someone older and taller than her which tends to be people too mature to be with someone that superficial
At the time of the video she was 26, "younger than her" is a deal breaker and she "likes to party". PURELY on those two axes (ignoring everything else), I am SHOCKED this woman says she only finds bad men. If you're looking for a 30ish guy that either LIKES to party or is totally cool with his girlfriend partying, then 99% "not a keeper". (22, sure, but 30?) explains why none of the last batch stayed too.
Right! I said the same thing, the girls a “jump off”, not a wife
@@tpsamwomen don't want mature. They want exciting, reckless relationships. There's nothing mature about tatted up chad plowing her up from time to time, there really isn't.
Exactly. Imagine she'd said her age and gave that period for childbearing first. I suspect most guys would have immediately figured her out and left.
The guy that said "you're going to be single for a while" was just giving her a bit of reality. She can say it's rude but she obviously has never had anyone call out her BS before.
Seems her parents weren't very 'Asian' either!
That guy was savage, very truthful, but savage.
nah fr😂 shordy really said “i don’t wanna guy who’ll want kids within 7 years”. women think they last forever or something. baby them eggs shriveled up!
@@DMSProduktions She may not have grown up in a typical Asian culture, certainly I don't get the feeling she was born in Asia or spent much time there. But it doesn't matter because I've known some Asian women who are totally wacko, some born in the East and some in the West. It's not the culture, it's the person and how they perceive the world. The one in this video obviously thinks she deserves a guy with all these attributes and won't settle for anything less and only thinking of herself. As the guy leaving said, she's going to be single for a long time. I think being an attractive woman she has been programmed by men to think that way, they simply simped to her, as most men do with an attractive woman.
The funny thing is, ive come across her tinder twice and was still single. Last time i came across her was a little over 2 years ago, just before i connected with my now gf
I heard a story once about a woman who was looking for the perfect man, but with every man she met, she always found some problem. Then one day she met a guy who had all the qualities and characteristics she was looking for. But there was just one problem. He was looking for the perfect woman.
Wow
BARS
Period point blank!
That brings me tears of joy. Thank-you for the story.😊
Damn sad ending the man unable to find true love at the end of the story 😢
The minute she texted "I like to party" I thought 'Oh No.' then she texted "I drink a lot." That's where I would've left.
LOL. I automatically thought COCAINE. BOOGER SUGAR
Partying in your 20s is great fun. But then you grow up.
I would've left at the first question.
She’s nearly 26 but comes off as very immature.
Some don't ever. But after 30 it's more likely that they do.
I was shocked she’s 26 and still acts like a 20 year old. Some of the 20 year old guys there seemed more mature than her smh.
@ParanoidAndroid86 It's called "the biological time clock." It destroyed the feminist movement of the 1970s.
These days they are 35 and still immature. She can be a CEO and still behave like a kid.
/comes of as American
Did you notice how none of her "standards" had anything to do with the kind of men they were. They were all completely superficial.
Well, she is a regular modern woman. What exactly did you expect?
It’s a jubilee video, it’s not meant to be taken serious
@@wedgeantilles8575 I am a regular modern young woman myself and I can tell you this lady's just a child. We are all better off with these people doing us a favor and excluding us. Bless her soul but she clearly has had no thought about what a lasting marriage actually takes to maintain. It sure as heck isnt height, partying, chocking, and being younger than your partner. I honestly feel bad for her. I also feel bad for you if you have come to believe that young modern women are normally like this. If this is all you find yourself, you are looking in the wrong places. I have undergrad students in a liberal arts women's college in a blue state who haven't even hit 21 yet and they have more common sense than this poor girl.
@@alex-dm3sn I hope you are right. All my experience in seing women looking for partners, they almost to a person have the exact same superficial and exclusionary and frankly stupid mindset as this young woman.
@@wedgeantilles8575 just like the woman in the video who only seems to find bad man, you only seem to find bad women. hmmmm what's the common denominator???
her standards were so arbitrary. no politics, religion, education, hobbies, friends, work, educating future children, disciplining children, time spent with family, holidays, traditions, financies. I’ve been married for 12 years, these things matter.
congrats 🎉 🤝🏾my parents going on 45. another thing to add: start by being a friend first. it’ll definitely help to find your “one”
Agree
I mean most women are like that. Most women prefer men who are taller despite those things not having anything to do with personality, religion, education, etc.
@@Mr.YasQueen taller, sure, but much taller is arbitrary.
@@snuffeldjuret Both are and my point still stands.
i was in new york 4 years ago and saw her on the subway, she didnt look very happy and also didnt have a ring on her finger, I WONDER WHY😭
The moment she mentions she likes choking, drinking, partying & dancing, but still has the guts to say she would like to end this cycle of bad man shocked me LMAO
Me too😁😬
She's 26 talking bout partying, then having the audacity to say she can't date someone younger... so you want someone in their late twenties or thirties who still wants to party? Get real. A MAN at that age that you'd be interested in, isn't a child who wants to party.
@@OfficialShamGawd a man by 30's would be too busy with their job, business, personal goals or even investments.
I don't see any reason why men by their 30's would still want to go out party and get wasted for no reasons..
She's too crazy to think that a man can simply cater to her needs while she's giving nothing in return except for burning off his money..
@@OfficialShamGawdya i think she meant to date an unemployed man who smooches of his rich daddy's money and hence has own the genetic lottery and also has the time to party, be kinky and spoil her with daddy's money without having to work for the money. she is not looking for a serious relationship. she is looking for a hookup because she is pretty and it’s easy for her to get guys to sleep with her and thus she thinks she can keep continuing partying for more 7yrs and then be an adult and ready to settle down. i m pretty sure she is unemployed and not well educated herself and lives off her parents money and so she is delulu
Ya bruh like what? That many guys are into choking? This girl doesn't know what she's saying, either she has sexual trauma or romanticizes sexual trauma. Pisses me off girls like that
The biggest takeaway for me was that when she realized that her standards were unrealistic, she immediately resorted to common platitudes about not compromising values and not changing your standards to please others even though these colloquialisms are completely inapplicable to her situation. To make matters worse, she made sure to express how she herself had "suffered" in past relationships. Essentially, she perfectly demonstrates our propensity to latch on to any buzzwords, sayings, or phrases that will allow us to remain as the victims in our own stories even when all of the evidence points to the fact that we are actually the villain.
You just described the modern woman perfectly :)
@@wedgeantilles8575 Naw, he just described modern society perfectly
She's not a villain for not realizing her standards are silly and way too restrictive. She's just young and naive. If anything, she's an example of how someone challenging your opinions just makes you double down on what you believe, rather than make you think critically to the point where you might change your mind. She found a way to justify not changing what she wants, despite actual proof that she can decimate a dating pool with her "standards".
@@jude-zd9msmy thought as well. The victim card tactic is used in many areas of society so the bad guys look like the good guys.
@@rand0mn33ssyes shes a villain. She was 26.
I had strict standards and then met the “perfect for me” man EXCEPT he was about 4 in shorter than me. Now why would I give up “perfect” for something so arbitrary, silly, and shallow. Happily married now for 23 yr!
Love this! My husband is also shorter than me. If I hadn’t dated him because he didn’t meet the superficial standard of height, I wouldn’t have my wonderful husband!
That’s a long time! Congrats!
I dated a man who was as tall as me in his combat boots, when I was barefoot 😂
It’s not shallow it’s a personal preference is all.
this wouldnt be a problem unless you banged up other chad looking guys before him
I'm 61 and 5' 10'. Women have been getting worse in their standards the older I get. This girl's :values" are warped. The last guy said it best. She'll be alone for a long time.
Her: Judges men's value by height, age and alcohol consumption.
Also her: "How rude to tell me I'm gonna be single for a while!"
Hypocrisy much? 😂
And also she wonders why she ends up with "bad men" 😂😂😂
15:25 Crazy cat lady vibes
Ya, problem is the worst judges of character have the most insane “standards,” they end up each time knowing the standards are incomprehensible & so end up with the worst guys cuz they have such low opinions in general. These types aren’t open to good men, they want to be lied to while chasing shallow pursuits.
Whats absurd about her claiming that was “rude” is SHE said she was going to die alone, and all he said is thats its going to be awhile before she finds someone
@@AudieHollandNo way, I am a crazy cat lady and I am nothing like that. 😮
@@tonkasfinest7780 I cannot take anyone seriously who admit they're crazy.
She is extremely immature for her age.
Agreed. There does not seem to be any recognition of what some women call "marriage material" in a man. Those factors would be: steady employment record, reasonable level of self-care and physical fitness (no smokers, for instance), membership in a Faith, healthy relationships with his own family, good communication skills. This "kid" is
talking about the man's height because she likes to wear high heels. Wow, those things really contribute to the success of a marriage.
i'm guessing she was beyond spoilt by her parents. she is...turning me off as I'm her age and also of asian descent and I do NOT want to be her friend even. I disagree with 99% of the things she said
Physically she's not unattractive, but as soon as she opens her mouth any attraction goes out the window
@@stevenedwards8353 xD
She's physically unattractive by my standards.
@@stevenedwards8353she’s a mid for an Asian before she started speaking. 0 right after
Her face is super crooked, to me that’s very unattractive but yea def personality is what tanks her here
@@stevenedwards8353Incel
When your first priorities are partying , drinking, “a little choking” and height…………I wonder why she’s attracting undesirable guys? Priorities like morals, kindness, hard working, and temperament are stupid amyway
I love how she admits "I'm gonna die alone" then when one of the dudes says "you're gonna be single for awhile" she gives the shocked Pikachu face😂
Literally surprised by the fact that someone dared to tell her something she agreed to be true
Because saying something self depreciating hits much differently than anyone else confirming it. We all know that from childhood.
@@Undomaranel That's because when it's self deprecation you are still lying to yourself, "am I really this bad? No, I'm just over reacting" vs it being an objective fact about you as it came from an outside observer. If one person says it, 10 people think it.
Truth hurts.
@@pigpuke You're not always lying to yourself. In a joking tone as she typed it? Yeah. But lots of us attack ourselves on the regular, and you are what you eat. Hearing it from someone else just solidifies those thoughts.
I’m 70 years old and I couldn’t stop laughing throughout the entire video. What you kids have to go through for a mating ritual is absolutely hilarious.Back in my day we would simply say, “You truly are the most beautiful, intelligent and interesting woman I have ever met and would love it if we could date to see if there is more in our future “. That’s it. Nothing fancy. No talking about choking or feet. Just, do you want to see if we were made for each other. I’m starting to wonder if there’s a chance for the human race to continue into the future. LOL
Hi there, I'm 20 and yeahh... I can confirm you are absolutely right, it's impossible to find a normal person nowadays as girls have imposible standards and everyting is considered cringe (quirky) and/or lame.. I'm quite sad that 20yo's are single because of these kind of generations "values" 🤮
Older millennial here. You laugh, but your generation and gen x raised these cretins.
if i could time travel. i would go back in time and find a wife in the past. my chances of getting married in the past is a lot higher.
Those words would have swept me off my feet--that is how real men speak--direct, honest, and gentlemanly.
I'm sure when my generation gets in power all over the world, we will cause WW3. I heard many historians say that every time the last generation that experienced war dies, the following generations forget the horrors of war and they provoke it when they get the power. So since gen z never knew wars and forgot WW2, i'm sure my generation is the last of our civilisations. Sounds pesemistic but its a possibility more likely scenario.
"you're gonna be single for awhile" that guy's a hero
It's interesting she thought at a simple observation about her extensive requirement list was rude. I mean ok it was a bit rude but not more rude than her list of mostly superficial and in some cases rather belittling demands. I feel like her maturity level is not on par with her age if she doesn't see that her list is weird and judgy and unlikely to get fulfilled. All that plus the guy has to also like her and she did not talk about what she planned to bring to the table, looks will only go so far.
@@OnceUponaTimeline in todays western society we haven’t raised women to think like that for a long time. Post feminist movement it’s been what can the world do for me rather than focusing on a value exchange.
We’re now seeing this pattern of behaviour extend to women in older age categories.
This guy wasn't a hero. This guy like all others who stayed at the very end probably already did a lot of compromises. Maybe added an inch to his height, said he wanted to party while he hates that. That comment came from a place of resentful compromises.
The hero is the single guy who left early on because he knows what he likes.
@@psychastheneia7 you’re thinking about it all wrong. He’s a hero for telling her what she needs to hear. He’s a hero for telling her what everyone else was thinking. Her superficial standards are crazy. It’s like me saying I’ll only date women who are thin with long legs, and natural chest of at least a size D cup. Men can’t control their height or age just as women can’t control the length of their legs and natural chest size. Majority of the population are under 6 feet tall so she’s limiting her dating pool. Majority of women do not have the features I stated.
@@HypocritesExposd a more effective way for delivering the same message would be everyone left her when they saw the red flags instead of hoping in the hopes to get laid. This way she wouldn't feel that she rejected them but they rejected her
To me, it's very sad that a woman of 26yrs talks and thinks and wishes as if she was a teen and hasn't learnt a thing about life and love yet... 💔
And calling those immature preferences (age, height, etc) your "VALUES" and congratulating yourself for not giving them even a second thought... wow, that's really self-delusional 🤦🏼♀️
She clearly has a misunderstanding of "values" and "standards". She thinks her unrealistic standards are values.
She lecture her values and yet judges men by physical descriptions.
From a mathematical point of view 6 feet and 26 are values xD
@@yelinbinicisi3642math values not romantic values
I don’t think her standards are unrealistic, I’m a woman who just graduated college and I’m close to making six figures. If I can do it so can a man, and I’ve seen man in my field make it upon graduation. But I’ll admit maybe she could’ve lighten up on that one. As far as her other physical standards…that’s just what women want🤷🏾♀️ she definitely is superficial though, like what kind of background does she want him to be from? His personality. Characteristics. Values. That matters.
@@WacoBeautyQueen Her standards are completely unrealistic. Making 6 figures just after finishing college is not the norm. It's also very dependant on where you live. Cities/areas where everything's expensive will also have much higher pay, for example. Engineering jobs are the most paying jobs one can do after college and even they don't even come close to 6 figures just after college on average. Not that it doesn't happen, just know that if you do earn that much... you're well above the norm.
Those aren't values, those are inner insecurities that she hasn't recognized
Let’s be honest. She seems superficial and shallow. None of the characteristics that she values will sustain a lasting relationship. They wouldn’t even keep a friendship going, let alone a marriage. I’ve been married 20 years. Met my husband in high school and now we have 3 boys and a granddaughter 😁. I can’t imagine how my life would’ve turned out if I had her perspective on men and relationships. I’d never want my boys to date any woman like her. My advice, RUN!!!
You've been very fortunate, both of you.
She doesn't seem like a bad person, just misguided by society. She seems kind. She had the guts to put herself up there and do this. I have some sympathy. I hope she keeps her chin up and learns more about what is important. And if she doesn't want to compromise, that's her choice. Best advice my parents gave (they were 19 and 21 at marriage) was that they laughed so much together. That's really important. They also grew up in the same small town and had similar thoughts on many issues.
0:29 - 0.35 the $500k is just for her food expense
Imagine her shock when a 6 foot guy tells her she's too short for him. Lol.
That's the comment 😂😂😂😂
actually they should. then they'll go back to dating dudes closer to their height.
that's me, I'm 6'1 and I prefer someone taller than 5'9
Does that ever happened?
Most guys don't care about height.
That is why it's stupid calling a woman that is short delusional if she wants a tall man. If she is attractive she can find a tall man, since men won't prefer taller women in general.
It is like saying to a man that wants a curvy woman "well you're not curvy yourself so how can you want a curvy woman" 😂
Men and women don't want the sqme thing.
My standards were simple: shared my faith, wanted kids, was a nerd who had interests and passions. Physical characteristics came secondary - i like brown eyes but it wasn't a deal breaker.
Today I'm married to a wonderful, Christian man who likes fishing and blacksmithing, and we just welcomed our first child a few months ago.
Standards are important - just make sure they're ones that matter in the long run!
Hopefully more women will take your advice to heart!
Best wishes to You, and your family.
Same I honestly just want a man who is a Christ follower, healthy, and has love to share with me and my future kid or kids
@@jice7074thank you! God bless
You smart
It's crazy to me that _every single guy_ left, and that was based strictly on basic attributes. She didn't even touch on faith, lifestyle, employment, or any of the other incredibly important aspects of dating. It's just going to narrow her choices even further in the real world.
She's in for a rough time.
In about 10 years, she'll be crying out on tiktok asking where all the men are.
I wonder how many guys thought about that as they left.
Thank you for using the word "based" correctly. 🍺
i'm 100% sure she's gonna be all alone for the rest of eternity. she will sit day after day while all the good men will slip away one by one.
Well CATS love unconditionally!
First Red Flag was doing this via text with no actual communication.
I don't think that this is on her. I think that it was the imposed format.
I remember being young, 20, and telling my mom that all the guys I met wore goofy shoes. I can't even believe that ever mattered to me, but at the time, it mattered. I thought Mr. Right would be wearing a three piece suit (big in the 80s) and driving an Italian sports car. I never forgot what my mom said to me, "When you meet the right guy, you won't even mind if he's barefoot." Fast forward 18 months, I meet a guy who's wearing work boots and walking everywhere because he cracked up his car. No big executive job, he's blue collar all the way. Super fast forward 43 years, we are still together and still in love ❤️ Thanks mom ❤
Did you watch 'Miami Vice' a lot?
Tbf I think a lot of woman go through that phase. I kinda did for the first year in college. Probably or books we read occurs from the shows or dramas we watch, get absorbed in social media or whatnot. Most woman do grow out of that phase. This girl did not
❤❤❤❤
I was into fitness and tracks,so I always wanted a guy with super fit athletic body. I actually dated an athlete for a very short while,nothing was clicking and we were not attracted to each other after knowing each other a bit. External beauty and superficial traits would only work for a short time. My husband is fit but nowhere near athletic,he has a paunch and a dad bod and I loveee it.
Work boots aren't goofy shoes though, right? So it's a win all around.
Its sad that none of her standards actually create a healthy relationship. The questions she asked (her standards) are the exact reason she keeps "attracting bad guys"
Through her preference, she wanted a Chad. But she wonders why she kept getting "bad" men.
Exactly guys who are 26 and older who are still partying are immature and are honestly not someone who wants a serious relationship yet.
It’s not just the guys she is attracting. I think lots of guys would find her physically attractive enough to date. But it’s the guys she is choosing using superficial metrics that turn out to be bad guys. Of course! She didn’t select based on personality so finding a compatible personality would just be a statisticalooook fluke.
As soon as she got to "I like to party / drink a lot", she moved from date / wife material to "Hit it and quit it",..... and guys are still going to stick around,..... why wouldn't they?
That's where she became a future false accusations girl and someone else have said she belongs to the streets. RIP godfather
@dadada3529 «26 is the edge for a traditional valued men» that standard can be considered adequate only if the man himself is 30 y.o. or younger. Y’all love to discuss “high standards” of modern women, and yet you’re totally fine with men’s bs. Your man is a misogynist, congrats on that.
Yep. Not one of those dudes would have been interested in her as a wife.
This youtuber is unbelievable, her clear thoughts and correct ideas are restoring some of my faith in girls 😅
Just dont put these kind of girls as the representation of all girls dont let this people be over the actual good girlies just bcs their the loudest😔✊
As a guy who's 5'3", I've been happily married to my 5'5" wife for 8 years because we had more realistic standards with what we both were looking for. Yes we had height preferences but that wasn't a deal breaker. There are more important things in life.
Bingo
I recently found a model who got a BF that's 6'3 but she's 7'0.
I have a sister that is 5’9” and her husband is 5’4”. They have been married for 7 years now.
I'm barely 5 feet. I had a guy once tell me that I had so much going for me but I was too short. He was 5'6" not exactly a giant. I dodged a bullet.
I don't think I've ever met a man who was secure enough to admit being under 5'5" - even when he definitely was. Bravo! I respect that a lot.
I don't think her biggest trouble is going to be finding a guy with her standards. I think it's going to be finding and keeping a meaningful relationship with those standards alone.
The two smartest guys in that room left when she asks who wouldn’t date her
@@jayduong9838noticed that too, would have left after that snobby text as well
FACTS 💯💯
When I was still single, I appreciated women like her. They quickly ensure you are aware that you are nowhere near whatever checklist she has and thus you can stop wasting time, money or emotions on them. It's a blessing in a very conceited disguise.
Did u increase ur height by stretching ur legs or change ur birth certificate to ur wife's birthday
lol so true! As soon as she said, 'I like to party' and 'I drink a lot' I was like 'So you're not a grown up yet? Later.'
That is the light at the end of the tunnel, protection by their own ignorance
Her: "I'm gonna die alone!"
Him: "You're gonna be single for a while!"
Her: "That's rude!"
I actually had a woman in a bar ask me to dance. I said "No, I ... " and was cut off by her screeching "Well, fuck you! You asshole" as she turned and stormed off. I made sure she saw me as I went to the bathroom using a cane from a badly sprained ankle.
😂
Like that women accusing a blind men to staring at her. I don't like this odds to find this type of chicks to be honest.
My parents married for love in the early 50s when that wasn't always the "way it was done." She loved to dance. He hated to dance. They would go out with her cousins and she would dance with them. They made it work. Seriously, some of this stuff is INSANE!!
I’m so sorry, man. ‘Women’ like her are self-righteous and expect just ANYBODY to weaken at their presence. I feel bad for your ears and your ankle. 😅
@@lauriemeyer7030an ex berated me publicly in a club many years ago because I told her I was too tired to dance. She had all her work friends there, and I just wanted to sit and relax. She ended up leaving the dancefloor and coming over to sit with me, but it wasn't for solidarity sake, she just wanted to fight. When I tried to leave the club, she got physical with me. Embarrassing and humiliating. Glad I said adios to that relationship.
The whole “I want a 6ft tall guy” when you are a woman of an average height is stupid. I’m 5’5”, my man is 5’8”. When I wear heels, we’re basically the same height. He is the best partner, and he’s hot as hell. I would’ve missed out on the last 6 years of being with an amazing man if I had the same ridiculous height criteria as some as these women. And bonus…I don’t have to break my neck when I kiss him!!
This! Technically I am considered taller. I am 5'7. My husband is 5'8. I always joke that it's absolutely perfect because all of our parts match up😂😂😂
LMAO, break my neck!
This. I don’t need to look like a guy’s child when I’m standing next to him anyway.
When I wear heels, I’m taller than my boyfriend, and he says it’s so sexy 🥰 been together 8 years ❤
|''m 5'11". I don't get the height requirement at all. Why would it matter if he is shorter than me? It makes no sense.
I love that with all her demands (and we didn’t even hit what I’m sure would have been interesting career/income requirements), she wiped out a room full of guys and then seemed genuinely shocked when told ‘you’re going to be single for a while’. And please, when you’re talking about your values, they don’t include dancing, drinking, partying, height or age. They aren’t values. Even the ‘I’d only want kids after seven years’ bit isn’t a value. That’s a preference and most likely one you’ve derived from being self centred.
Hi, English is not my first language and I'm not from America so I'm curious about what is exactly values, i would like to not misunderstanding. Can you explain it to me please? Googling it is kinda tricky maybe
“Your gonna be single for a while” 😂😂 Hes right and she needed to hear it. She calls her opinions “values”, they aren’t.
When she starts mentioning age, you can see the maturity level. It’s not a 10 year difference, it’s 1 month younger is off putting for her, tells you a lot about her maturity and where she is in life, she just wants to date, she’s not looking for someone to spend a lifetime with.
Yep, she's a party girl who wants someone with her who looks good, picks up checks and doesn't want to settle down until she is ready. Plenty of guys like that out there - and most will dump her when she starts that "I want something more" talk after a couple of years. None will find any reason to marry her, so long as she is in this party phase.
I know a lot of couples that have 10 years on each other and are perfectly mature, she's just reaching.
This is how kids dated in middle school
Yeah last time i thought like that I was 14, 15 maybe. When I wasnt dating at all.
My partner is 2 years younger then me and I never really think about it. Hes one of the most mature people I know.
The guys are looking for much the same, or they would have bailed at all the choking party girl comments.... :D
These are not values, they are preferences.
Perfectly said. But shallow preferences at that
@@ianstephens333 bros, values and preferences are connected.
Whims, I would say.
@@medes1062 not really in this context. What you vote for and your height are not connected.
@@ErgoProxy12345 ?? her values: "men does not need to be a provider in the family", her preferences: "income not required, i can provide." her values: "people in relationship should be honest with each other. her perferences: "men who do not lie, or looks like someone who would lie". there are many more examples and better ones that i cannot think of at the moment. our values guide a lot of what we choose in life than you realize. don't be naive
The fact that she can’t date without thinking of her brother is very strange…
Yeah it's like wtf 😆
An Asian born and raised in Alabama will do that to ya 💀
Freud would have fun with that one
As long her brother's isn't named Jaime.
@@philjones3824 Or Targaryen
The very idea of the "dating market" is so much corrupt
Her dating standards are kind of red flags tbh.
The way I got together with my hubby was talking about music, politics, our hobbies, talking about our pasts, what we want for the future, favorite foods, and sharing each other's culture. We were friends for about a month, but then we both realized that we were actually totally in love.
We didn’t jump into it looking to fulfill ourselves, we did it because we loved each other and wanted to give that love to each other. It wasn't as selfish as dating seems to be now.
Been married ten years, and we are still very much in love.
Difference is you wanted to marry. So when a guy seemed to be compatible with your personality you jumped on it.
This girl is still in her 17 year old party girl phase despite being 26. She is not even looking for a possible life partner, she is looking for a guy to party with and do crazy stuff with like a young party girl. Most 18 year old's looking for a guy aren't actually thinking about marriage but just to have a boyfriend for fun.
Well she is the same but the problem is she isn't 19 anymore but 26.
Maybe she was a late bloomer and getting her frustrations out now, who knows but her current age isn't compatible with her mentality.
If we assume she found a guy that very moment a possible marriage will still be around 2 years away at best so she will be 28. Just right before she gets on her 30's so she needs to find a guy asap if she doesn't want to be pass her 30's looking for a guy and she shouldn't be looking for parties and drinking and intense moments etc.
She is not a teen anymore but she hasn't realized.
Every single one of her standards was completely superficial and, ultimately, meaningless.
Ahh the woman who imitates, mocks and degrades men. You want to know this ... Well, I think disgusting is a little bit of far fetch lol. But it's true that majority of the times that guys
cosplay as girls it just doesn't look good :/.
I actually don't think I've seen one that wasn't cringe yet. - “Hjonk Hjonk” (5 upvotes)
Liar you don't love him.
I'm under 5'0 by a lil, my husband is 5'9 I'm fine with that. Plus 6'0 or taller is just too tall for me, so I'm fine with that.
I’m single and my values that I won’t compromise on are things like actual character: honesty, hard working, fidelity….etc. her standards are just superficial and ridiculous
She's just what All Modern Western Fea-males are NOW
"Hey guys ! I like to party, get drunk and talk about fetishes with people I've met 5 minutes ago. Also for some unknown reason I seem to be attracting bad men".
From the title I was expecting her to have absurdly high standards, turns out they were just absurd. She would have had her 4 matches if she dropped her idiotic age rule.
The thing is, she attracted these younger guys because they're at her level. The qualifiers she gave are held by younger guys. She's painfully unaware that she just outted her maturity level.
@@artofambraholy f that makes sense 😂
That last line got me, is not to please someone else, is to please you. You are the one who will benefit from having someone in your life to take you out, and make you happy.
I love how all her "values" are things out of mens controls or habits that will lead her to bad relationships.
This!
She couldn't understand why she had bad luck with bad men and then the first things she mentions that she likes are partying, drinking, and choking lmao
She said she likes to drink and party, and then complains about having bad relationships in the past and doesn’t want to address that.
She seems to be one of these foolish party girls that constantly goes for the bad boy and never learns her lesson and will get embittered over time.
This girl is not fixable. The reason she only attracts bad guys is because they are players… which means they’ll say anything to do the deed and then they’re out.
I think it's even worse. The guys at the top tier (Chad) don't even have to be players. Since so many women try to get them, they can just choose, hump and dump. When women complain about all men being bad, they are actually right - everyone below 8 is not even considered a men
Yeah, she is maintaining her “values” because she has plenty of short term options. But those are guys who just want to use her.
No one is unfixable, but no guy/relationship is going to change her. She is going to have to do that on her own. She may be 33 or older before that happens, but it can happen. It can take a while for people to grow up and realize what is really important in life and relationships. It would have been cool to see her expound upon her relationship with her family, which is obviously important to her, but for some reason, she doesn't see the parallel to a lasting romantic relationship.
"you're gonna be single for a while" - a slap of reality. That's not rudeness. He just being honest.
Over 210 years ago Jane Austen in "Pride and Prejudice" already demolished insane standards applied by men and women seeking partners.
Darcy: "The word is applied too liberally. I do not know more than half a dozen women that are truly accomplished."
Lizzie: "Goodness, you must comprehend a great deal in the idea."
Darcy: "I do. She must have a knowledge of music, singing, drawing, dancing, and the modern languages to deserve the word, and something in her air and manner of walking. And she must improve her mind by extensive reading."
Lizzie: "I'm no longer surprised at your knowing only six accomplished women - I wonder at you knowing any."
Darcy: "Are you so severe on your own sex?"
Lizzie: "I never saw such a woman. She would certainly be a fearsome thing to behold."
(This dialogue, directly from Austen's book, is taken from the condensed version used in the 2005 movie adaptation. The whole point is that this woman is doing the same thing Darcy did, and which Austen via Lizzie mocks, because no such woman (or man) exists; what Darcy describes isn't an actual woman, he's describing an ancient mythical Greek goddess such as Athena).
And the goddess does not exist.
Surely women cannot draw, sing, read, understand music, dance and understand other languages while also having a positive air about her
@@boba6890very very well put, my friend!
Actually I thought he was describing Lizzie, especially with the last part 😂
re " She would certainly be a fearsome thing to behold" - haha, thus we have the modern woman with crazy standards - fearsome to behold! 🤣
The guy at the end wasn't rude. He just shared his view about facts based on her and he's statistically correct, and she just immediately thought that was rude to point that out? 😁
That's Generation "Safe Space" for you
I’m 6’7”, thin, make over 6 figures, and I chose to marry a woman who is 5’4”, and a few years older than me. Why? Because she gives me peace. Cooking, and family are her absolute passions, and she recognizes we both are flawed people who want to build the other up to make each other the best versions of ourselves we could possibly be in this life. But good God, can that woman cook!
Proving that the way to a man's heart is through good food lol. This is really wholesome though :)
sooo, you make seven figures?
That's beautiful.
Dont use the name of GOD ALMIGHTY in vain❤
@@nestorcastillo9107 you mistake the mere use of God’s name as speaking it vainly. When in fact, I am praising his name by saying, “But good God can she cook.”
I'm basically only subscribed to sports and chess channels, but your objective/educated analysis on topics that the zeitgeist has misconstrued is refreshing. Smashing that subscribe as they say
My 6'4" brother married a girl 4'11". We teased him saying they couldn't get married, but they are still going strong 28 years later.
That's crazy! U trolling
They just might have average sized children
rip the tall genetic line
😊my parents 6'4 and 5' . I turned out 5'7, my 13 yr old son is already 5'9 with size 14 feet, I've started sitting him down when I need to tell him off
@@amyc.peters1064 My parents are 6’2 and 4’9. I’m standing at 5’6 as a grown man…..
The first girl saying that she needs a guy making over 500K, is actually pretty reasonable.
Because it's going to take at least 450K to feed and stable her.
LMAO 😂😂😂
Behemoths are an expensive... hobby at best. I could never.
Yo you cooked her 😂😂😂😂
And it's unfair to her stablemates.
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First red flag for me is the 20 guys sitting on the floor, surrounding a girl sitting on a stool. Just the optics of this is stomach turning. Which I guess is symbolic of society as a whole now, where we place all women on a pedestal
At one of them should have been breaking dancing and ignoring her… At one of them should have been pretending to be mentally handicapped and mastubating.
It was the cocky attitude of taking a picture of herself while sitting right in front of them and sending it in the group chat for me. It was just weird lol. Just really showed how much she cares about looks, especially her own. At least that's my take.
i saw on another reaction video that she also has an onlyfans
How in Christ is this stomach churning?
They do this with guys on the stool surrounded by girls, and people who are bi surrounded by both sexes so try again
My husband is 6.75 years younger than me and we've been married 33 years! He's awesome. 😊
Amala I am sorry but this woman is not sweet she’s only superficially sweet she’s actually very shallow. Her standards were 5’10” actually 5’11” and above, nobody younger than her by even a month I.e. younger than 26, someone who likes to party, which is much more typical for someone in their early 20s and teens, and someone who is willing to choke her. Those were all standards that she needs for a guy to have a relationship with her. Those are all extremely shallow standards, indicating that she’s not a sweet woman, but a shallow one only appearing to be sweet.
She's not looking for a relationship, she just wants another sausage.
Her behind-closed-doors preferences firmly place her in the category of "dirty 'ore"
In fewer words: She is the regular modern woman.
Women ☕
@@alastairthegreat2887Morons ☕️
Like you.
She’s gonna find exactly what she’s looking for. Sadly for her he’s gonna be wanting someone completely different.
"...find what she's talking about..."
There's a difference from what she'll actually looking for. She's been finding that already.
The problem with waiting for Mr Right at that age, is you need to ask why he's still single. The longer she waits, the harder it'll be to find someone her age that's both perfect and single.
On the 7 years married before kids, the young lady just doesn’t want to give up her drinking and partying before that many years in.
Or she just doesn't want children at all, but feels pressured. That was me. I am now in my 50s and not having kids was the best decision I ever made. I don't drink or party (never have), but I wasn't interested in raising a family.
At the beginning when she said she has had a pattern of bad men, is an enormous red flag, means she has been a 304 for lots of guys way out of her league. I would RUN away from this girl just after that 1 statement.
I remember as a young man my dad said choose a partner that has a good head on her shoulders because at the end we all get ugly and if you don’t choose wisely your stuck with ugly and dumb . 😂😂
"These are values and things that I don't want to change right now."
- Height
- Interest in drinking heavily and "partying"
- 26 or older
- Kids, but not for until you're 33+
Yeah... Solid values right there.
If you want to potentially marry, then it's ok to be picky. Even urealistically picky. It's life we're talking about here. She probably doesn't want a guy that bad
Choking. You forgot choking
the "the must be 6" thing" is kinda crazy cus only 14% of the GLOBAL as in ENTIRE WORLDs male population is 6"+ and that isn't spread evenly across the globe either the scandinavian countries, africa, and america have like 13/14 of the total 14%
as someone who is 6" and the sentiment hold with most of the people i know that are my height or taller a woman that isn't at least 5'10" demanding a man that is 6" is an instant turn-off
She must have forgotten the part where 30+ having kids gets harder.
And don't forget being kinky in bed
My husband is the opposite of everything I thought I wanted and was attracted to . But he was everything that I did not know I needed. We need to stop selecting who we get to know and just become openly social again , there are many gems around us that go unnoticed.
This! My sister was constantly cycling through had men who used her and didn’t seem to really care for her. That is, until she really opened herself up to men she would normally turn away. She finally married at 40 years old and they seem really happy and he treats her right.
It’s not about changing your “values” it’s about compromise
I’m 5’3, my husband is 5’8. When we met, I made more money than him slightly…he got an amazing job and now I’m a spoiled housewife!! 💅🏻
Thank you all you to all the shallow women who passed him up
I love that last sentence 😂 best wishes to forever be treated as the queen you are and a long loving marriage between you two. ❤
yessss!!! hahah im so happy for you
That's a 5-inch difference. She is 5'6, for her, this would be definitely a 5'11" guy. Just to put it straight.
@@MrGecros
You have to take into account that a big part of what makes height attractive in men is not just the height difference in relation to the woman in question, but also in relation to other men.
That is why even 5'2 women are attracted to 6'4 guys, because they are dominant physically with respect to other men.
Just because a man who is 5'7 is tall compared to a 5'2 woman doesn't mean she will perceive him as tall, since she doesn't just compare him just to herself (that is the bare minimum I guess), but to other men as well.
@@Antonio_Serdarwe all talk about low limits (6'0) - no one talks about upper limit. 6'4 seems to be the ceiling sweet spot. I know women (5'3) who passed on 6'6 guys because too tall. A friend's brother 7'1 had harder times to find a girlfriend than a 5'8 friend who was smat and attracted quite some women before finding his 5'7 wife. Back to the basics: data show that in general women prefer men who are '6 - '10 taller then they are. Since most women are 5'2 - 5'6 that leaves us were? 5'8 - 6'4 ... surprise surprise... the 6'0 thing is just easier to promote on tiktok than 5'8...or it is exactly the middle...maybe a hideous latent alliance between social media and "maths"...btw men prefer women '4-'6 inch smaller in general...where does that leave the ideal woman for a 5'8 - 6'2 average male? Exactly 5'2-5'8...this is almost where all the average 50% women are mostly. Ppl. perceive something around the physical average parameters as attractive...social media sells it as "high standards" or even "high values" the absolute mediocre of the mediocre and ppl forget about the real questions...exactly as the lady that initiated this discussion said: what about interests, desires, ethical values, family, priorities in life etc.
Telling a bunch of strangers, on camera, that you like be choked is the sign of a psycho😅
she's not... she's perfect
@@medes1062 Apparently you're a psycho too. LOL.
Maybe just no filter kinky.
Nah, telling a group of strangers you want to be choked during sex is definitely asking for trouble. I would have walked out just on that statement alone.
@@foulplay99..not a long term material for sure. She wanted a Chad to play rough.
The saddest part is: this woman's standards, though ridiculous on many accounts, are actually much more lenient than MANY women in today's society. I personally find it frustrating as a man that prefers women my age, or a little older, because it's sadly very common for women to refuse a man that's even SLIGHTLY younger than them. Stay strong guys! The right girl is out there, it's just a bit harder to find them in today's dating landscape!
You keep thinking that. I've accepted the fact I'm probably gonna die alone
@@eldengoat421 Focus on yourself, make yourself a better person. Go to the gym regularly, try to better your financial situation. Don't focus on finding a partner all the time, sometimes men just need s3x, so find that wherever you can. Best case scenario for this advice is it will help you find a partner, worst case scenario it will lessen the feelings of disappointment. When your confidence is high, disappointment has much less impact on you.
I predict that in about 10 - 20 years we'll see a spike in depression and mental illness in women. These shallow lifestyles don't lead to happiness in the long run.
I don't understand why it's a deal breaker that your potential partner is a bit younger than you(I'm a woman btw and I've been in a relationship with someone younger than me)
@@yasminchan7425 age and maturity are not the same thing. As long they are an adult of course. Outlook on life matters more than anything else.
I would've walked out when she said she likes to party. She's not looking for a real relationship, she's looking for a guy that she can party with. A woman like that isn't wife/mother material.
The fact she thinks that last comment was rude says it all. ENTITLEMENT and NARCISSISM. Dude just held up the mirror for her to see herself and she lacks the emotional intelligence to see she’s causing her own misery.
Indeed, half her superficial preferences were just her being rude to the men around her.
@@pigpuke she doesn’t want to date anyone anyway. She wants to party, drink, and sleep around. The contest was rigged from the beginning with the woman they chose. Although I’m sure she’s a representative sample unfortunately.
the guys comment was rude, why do u think he said if not to insult her bec he didnt like her choices
@@grahepo
What human with a working brain would LIKE her choices?
If you feel insulted by the truth, it's on you. Good luck with people around you needing to tell you lies, so you feel good.
All I could think through this was "do any of these men want to be a yes"? I could see a lot of men saying "I meet your criteria but I'm still noping out".
When the guy told her that she's going to be single for awhile it wasn't rude. It was an accurate observation based on her given "requirements".
Her "values" or whatever you want to call them are rather shallow and unrealistic. My Wife is a little more than two years older than me. She was 5 foot tall at the time and I was 6 foot. She drank a little at the time but I don't drink; never have. She quit a few years later of her own volition. She was told early in life that she could never have children. That wasn't a problem. We now have two wonderful sons that we are very proud of. Life isn't predictable. When we married I was literally unemployed. We've had a wonderful 50 years together and are still counting. If you allow yourself and the other person to just be yourselves and work together on life you should be just fine. Having a list of "requirements" can just get in the way of life if you let them rule your decisions.
What made me laugh was that she said that he was being rude. Hello? She’s the rude one.
Standards used to be about behavior. Now it's like picking a sacrificial cow, all about the body.
This is 100% a pin worthy comment 👌🏻🥇🏆🏅✨
my thoughts exactly - 'requirements' can change as you mature as a person, or within the relationship... they even may not matter at all if you get to know someone in a more 'organic'/natural way, like we used to in the real world.... crazy that people now use this method to find Mr. or Ms. Right.....
THAT's what I mean! That's what women today don't seem to understand. That life can change, and you literally cannot predict who is going to turn out how. Anybody can change, at ANY POINT in their lives! You can only do your best, and help your partner. How much greater the joy of collaborating on life and growing together, than finding somebody fully fledged and perfectly accomplished and set in their ways, and you don't have anything to aid them with or help them to change in themselves? What basis is there then for loyalty and gratitude and a feeling of being on the same team?
I think it’s strange to sit in front of a group of people while texting with them instead of actually talking to them. I guess it’s the new age.
It's just the format of the show.
She says being able to take care of children is really important to her, yet she didn't ask any questions about education, income, or family values but asked if they like to choke, drink alcohol, dance, and if they are 6 foot or not. I can see why she only attracts bad men.
As a guy, my first standard is a Godly woman with a pleasant character. That alone knocks out the majority of single women nowadays. My second is finding one that is proportional, doesn't matter fat or skinny, just don't be ridiculous either direction...and that knocks out almost all the rest.
Based comment. If your lady isn't grounded with our Creator you are getting a literal countdown.
Again, you say this but if a woman preferred a tall guy you would flip your shit and start screaming about women being superficial
@@morgaena3313physical characteristics are something you can't change...much. Ideology isn't restrained by physical characteristics unless you are a bigot.
😅 ok that's funny cuz it's kinda true but. Don't give up, stay close to God and she will appear when you are both ready.
For the second one, too fat or too skinny just find one where she happily lets you take charge of her diet. In otherwords become the cook or adopt a meal plan and exercise together.
Stuff like that is fixable granted a compromise.
She wants older guys that are probably "more mature." But those older guys can see through her immaturity and the younger guys are a deal breaker. So that other guy had it right...."you're gonna be single....." King.
Exactly right, the only guys stupid enough to want her are too stupid to see what a waste she is
I like how she thinks choking is cool, but liking feet is too freaky. 😂
Wacko
Both would be a dealbreaker for me but I know people who would love to be choked. Roleplay 💀
@@lunarialoonaticthe choking thing is a red flag because they can use it to claim rape
Amala, you've got the brains of your projenitors with the way you artfully remained balanced and agreeable to all. Kudos.
About two decades ago when Internet dating was big, I was talking with a gal and we seemed to have a lot in common. She worked in an office, and I was a computer tech at a major aerospace firm making good money. In fact, my income was about the same as hers, but she completely killed it when she actually said she would not date anybody that did not have a college degree because she could never date somebody more stupid than she was.
Now I did not go to college, I spent a decade in the military and largely taught myself computers. And I actually got offended, because she was equating college with intelligence. And needless to say I never talked to her again after that. That was about the time I stopped trying to meet people online. I learned there was a reason why most were trying that, they wanted something completely unrealistic.
I’m a mechanical engineer, some of the smartest people I have worked with did not have college degrees, but many of dumbest did! She did you a favor by rejecting you for a lack of a college degree.
@@mikeb1520 She did not reject me, she did not realize I did not have a degree. That was a comment she made in passing, thinking I must have been a Computer Science major I guess. But I did reject her for her bigotry.
My girl for a long time graduated Suma Cum Laude. She was very smart on her studied matter but zero common sense in general matters. Once we took an IQ test for fun and i beat her by 12 points. She hated that because i dont even have a GED. I also was in the military. Went in open contract and was assigned fire direction for artillery because of my ASVAB scores, especially in math.
@@RONNIEJNZN I also had a high ASVAB score, and specifically signed up as Infantry because I wanted the challenge. Later in my career I worked on the PATRIOT missile system then IT. And it always irks me how prejudiced some are when they think most in the military are idiots.
@@michaelmartin4552 I understand the near-bigotry when referring to military smarts. Some of the most intelligent and capable human beings are found throughout all the branches, IMO - speaking from the POV of a Marine Veteran. My family members who've earned advanced degrees may be "smarter" in their narrow field of study - but as far as general everyday knowledge (esp. operating, repairing, or upkeeping anything), I pretty much run circles around them, LOL - and I'm far from a college degree (ie: I dropped out midway through the first semester of freshman year, LOL - right after coming back from Desert Storm and EOSing).....
Her: "Don't be into feet. That's just weird."
Also her: "Please crush my esophagus."
One of those timeline paradoxes we love so much. 🙄 lol
you misinterpreted that, she implied that light choking is okay. She said “if you want to crush my esophagus…. Please leave”
@@elaina7056never ruin a good joke
@@elaina7056ah yes, because misrepresenting what she said is definitely the issue here….
The irony would be if she ended up being a Dubai Porta Potty
Who in the right mind says “I love to party” to strangers 😅 it’s ok to enjoy going out and have few drinks. But this is basically telling everyone “hey I’m emotionally immature and looking for someone fun”
A lot of Asians grow up in very strict households and like to enjoy their freedom in their 20s when they have independence from their parents. If that includes going to the club, so what.
Bleh... you're reading too much into it. They could just mean they like to be social. A party could be dinner or hanging out at a friends place with a few people.
@@MrAkaacer For sure 😂 You are to idealistic. Partying means 99% of the time you drink yourself to the ground in the local club and maybe do 1night stand with a total stranger
pro tip if a girl under 35 says they like to dance they mean clubbing aka like to "party"
She brings up partying and rough kinky sex to total strangers, def not wife material
"That one's rude", That one ? That one ? A person or an object 😢
There’s nothing wrong with having standards, but dismissing someone for shallow reasons is a one way ticket to singledom. I think she is just young and doesn’t really know what makes a man attractive. I will admit I was a little more shallow when I was younger, but age and life experience has taught me that I really don’t care about the things that I have been conditioned into thinking make a perfect partner, and I now concentrate on whether someone makes me smile, laugh, feel good, feel happy and feel safe. Those are the qualities that I look for now, not what they look like, their age, how tall they are or how much money they earn. The superficial things really don’t matter if someone makes you happy ♥️
My standards were once *the* standards. I'm living in a cesspool.
It depends on her expectation limit what she want, if she want married she sould be set a boundaries logically and start find a man, like traditional woman was.
Most guys’ standards:
Be biological female
Be alive
Be caring
Don’t be utterly dumb
Be moderately attractive
Non smoker is a must as well
Yet people blame men for the decline of marriages.
@@VergilTheLegendaryDarkSlayer, even that's debatable for some men, especially guys who are smokers themselves... personally I am a smoker and have no qualms about dating a smoker, but I smoke tobacco and if she smokes, I won't date someone who smokes anything but tobacco... and yes I'm trying to quit, but if I manage to quit, I won't date a smoker unless she's trying to quit
@@MrEli768 the main reason I won't date a smoker is because I cough uncontrollably around cigarette smoke
There needs to be SOME overlap of values as well. I don't care if a girl votes Conservative (or Republican for Americans) but UKIP etc is an absolute no-go.
I watched a fun show where they interviewed a bunch of girls about their dating standards and calculated the percentage of men they are looking for. Height, income, age, bodytype. That alone, not considering their hobbies and interests, resulted in the top 1% of men! Girls you better make sure you have something to deliver, if your standards are that high. Those top 1% men can choose whoever and can get away with it.
Yep saw 1 where only money and age was a range selection and they all ware looking for lower then 1% of all males in the world
There's another one out there, forgot the name but it's the dude in the flannel shirt who always has a panel of women. One of the girls was asked about her standards & said basically the same things the girl in this vid said. When the host asked what she brings to the table for that perfect guy in question that she's looking for, she basically just said her vag.....
Funny enough a lot of these women complain about male privilege, yet ironically the only men they wanna date are those with privilege (rich, tall, good looking, etc)
@@Mr.YasQueenthat's a great line to put it into perspective
If you want Superman, you'd better be Barbie. What does she have to offer?
She successfully eliminated every single guy without ever learning what any of them are like.
If one of your deal breakers is you won’t date someone younger than you, you can get caught in an endless loop. Your dating options could be limited to people who can’t hold a relationship or divorced people, and if you don’t want children yet that could eliminate more options.
Stock UP on CAT FOOD!
Yep completely agree. I never wanted to date anyone emotionally immature, but bam I’m married to a man 2 years younger than me, and he’s the most mature man ever. Age has absolutely nothing to do with compatibility, if she keep living in her delulu land, doesn’t matter how cute she is, she’s either gonna be single or not being taken seriously for a long time.
You are what you are looking for. You cannot find a mature giving man, if you’re not a mature giving woman, and vice versa
Yep. I know someone who was happily married to someone ten years younger than he was. He did say that it felt weird because, as a High School Senior, you don't walk by an elementary school and think about if one of those third graders is going to be the love of your life. But they met as much older, mature adults, NOT as the kids they were back in their school days, so it didn't matter.
This woman could be going through the same thing. Right now, at 26, dating someone in their early 20s might seem strange. She's only a few years removed from an era where something like seniors dating freshmen could be a big deal. But as one's age goes up, it would be reasonable to expect age gaps to be less of a concern.
And what if she had an older brother AND a younger brother? Then both older and younger men would remind her of her brother so she can't date anybody except a man born the same month and year as herself?
@@megalodon1726 Haha, then she is SCREWED!
I'm 5'8". My wife is 5'5". Where do these women get their standards?
Tiktok, bad and delusional mom, bad and vapid "friends", social media, bad influencers and youtubers with no moralties and loathe kids happiness, oh and delusional doting dads
Where do women get these standards? Women have a hive mind that makes them a bit brain damaged.😂😂😂
Probably from Tiktok
tv, movies, music. fake things to match their personalities
Social media. I'm a teacher and hear 12 year old girls rip on a guys height. Didn't happen a few years ago, at least not to the extent. Being tall is more of a status thing. I refuse to believe a 5'3 woman and a 6'3 feel comfortable being that large apart. I understand being taller than her. But being a whole foot bigger is unrealistic and doesn't make sense of evolutionary speaking. Historically, the average male height for centuries and / or even the last 2,000 years was 5'7. Women historically did not go for men way bigger cause humans are not designed to have huge height gaps, or else all men would be taller than all women. Roughly half of all women are in and around the same height minus or plus 2 inches as half of all men. It's braging rights.
"I seem to be attracting bad men." No, lady, you're choosing those bad boys, spot on, Amala!
Love your channel. Still undecided what I find more attractive: you, period, or the fact that you lend hope to a dating world I often think is beyond redemption. It's good, and inspiring, to see there are still modern women out there who are not insanely entitled and/or hopelessly detached from reality. It's so refreshing.
Most sensible guys stop partying so much once they turn 27. That standard about liking to party probably eliminated those guys who are older than she is.
You are victim blaming. Not a woman's fault for men's bad behaviour.
@@paulinejackson5861 Except they aren't victims. Any moderately attractive woman these days attracts _all_ men (because that is how attraction works). Good men, with jobs, their own houses, responsible, and decent human beings. But she doesn't want the nice guy: she wants Chad, who flakes on her, treats her like crap, ghosts her, etc. Because the good men are boring to her; she wants the charismatic jerk, the bad boy, who gives her the butterflies, while she has thousands of good men in her friend zone. So yes, her choices are her own, and she chooses poorly.
@@paulinejackson5861nope, turns out having dogshit superficial standards that don't work in real life, don't end up working in real life 🤯
@@paulinejackson5861I hope you get the mental aid you require to get your sexist ass out of here, misandry and misogyny are scourges upon this planet
I would totally agree with the "dont compromise your standards" line. However, if ur standards revolve around very specific and somewhat superficial attributes such as height, age, whether u like to drink or not...well that's a different story.
"That was rude.." She has got to be the dumbest child in that room. Her parents must be proud! The guy was honest, which she was looking for, and absolutely correct. Should I also mention, well within his rights to say. He sat there all day playing that dating game and like everyone that left realized, she will be alone.
You know what’s funny… salary wasn’t even in the equation for this round. Imagine how quickly she would’ve thinned the herd if she said they need to make over $100k!
She ran out of guys before financials came into question 😂😂😂
That's a gratuitous assumption on your part.
This is online dating in a nutshell. As a lesbian I've spent a lot of time on tindr. They make it sooo easy to narrow the pool with their dealbreaking standards: "swipe left if you don't support blm, acab, trans rights, 14th vaccination, down with the patriarchy, etc". Tell me who you ARE and we can work around any differences from there.
There was a girl who didn't have all that bs in her bio and we matched. Despite her being a few years younger than me (I'm 25, she's 21) and not being my usual "type", I decided to give her a chance. We clicked and have been dating for a few months now!
Tldr, the "perfect person" doesnt exist, so don't be so picky before you even get to know a person, because you never know what you're missing out on!
Agreed, it's the "you don't know what you don't know" principle. I don't understand why so many people think that they know exactly what they want in all these superficial categories when they have barely experienced a fraction of what exists in the world. Explore, be curious, be genuine, you'll learn things you never knew you never knew, and a whole new world will open up to you.
I spent 7 years living abroad in 18 different countries, and I can say that just the exposure to so many cultures and languages and standards of living totally rewrote some of my interests and values. There are things I used to love that I now find boring, and I have some totally new interests that I like more than many old favorites.
Good on you! You dodged many bullets.
so true!!! i had this exact same experience and just went with who i thought would be a good solid person and the chemistry and physical attraction came so quickly after! honestly it’s not hard to develop an attraction to someone when they hit many of your green flags as well as being a good, solid, dependable, reliable person with integrity and decency. and anyways attraction in the completely superficial and physical sense is very overrated. look for partners in life, not just fuck buddies!
You shouldn’t be a lesbian.
Did you cut and paste your comment? Have you been scissoring?
Love women like you. You're like a light of hope in the complete darkness.
My poor husband. He was 5'5" and I'm 5'6". He couldn't dance to save his life. He was and still is my treasure. Ladies, you might be passing up a treasure. PS I was older by four months.
Does he choke you though?
This just proves how immature and unrealistic modern woman can be. At the time, she was 26 years old…26!! The last comment before he walked off is spot on. As social media continues to reinforce her unrealistic expectations of men, she will remain alone and most likely, a proud cat mom.
Someone like her will never admit fault, never admit they are wrong.
Unless gunpoint or blackmailed taken style like Liam Neeson with no backbone. I've seen it work through sources who changed because it took a extreme lunatic to make them admit which horrifying and gross but at least they changed.
this video is sooooo satisfying.....like being rejected by 20 ppl within a mere 15 minute of conversation while being really pretty is like soo downright embarrasing......nd funny thung is this convo didnt even have in depth complex cirterias which r even more trickier like personalities and family values nd yet to be left alone despite just targetting the superficial aspects for which guys r best known for.......i really wanna see whom shed end up marrying and having a child with