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Idk, sometimes the ones closest to you deal out the biggest betrayals, I'm not saying you're wrong, but a core friendship doesn't really guarantee anything.
@@stefanossinani8653 thanks is happening with me right now , but I took some courage and decided that I will confront her tonight and end it , I shouldn't put so much discomfort and disrespect within myself , it is totally not worth it ,the problem is I love her so much
Shoutout to all the strong brave souls who leave the one they love because the relationship is turning us into something we are not and loving oneself comes first
I'm devastated, my heart is broken...I had to do it, it's been 7 months and I'm starting to forget why I left, all the good times are bubbling up! Argh! Must stay strong, and carry on. Coming across this and reading the comments is actually helping ☮💓💕
i just did it today and it was my first time breaking up with someone. it was so hard and they kept insisting we could make it work even though i told them i need to take care of my own personal issues. i thought i would feel better after breaking it off but i just feel so terrible for hurting them.
I have one major issue with this video, namely the "emotional connection" part. The problem I have is that people forget oxytocin stops producing after so long and that feeling of "in love" is no longer there. This is where (in a marriage especially) it is up to that person to remind themselves what the core components of the person they loved are and to CHOOSE to love them still. Love is odd.... It starts as a sensation, evolves to a choice, then becomes a sensation again. Getting married is supposed to say "I know there's going to be a point where I question this, but as long as we don't cheat or beat, we work it out". Seems a lot of folk forgot that....
@@trappart9209 that definitely is part of it, but the love hormones wear off every so often. Hence why marriage is supposed to be through better and worse, cuz there are going to be times you don't "feel" in love. Then you have to remember what makes them special enough you married them. If both do this, you come out stronger together
dang one of the ones i left that i wanted to last i left for all 6 combined, temped to reach out but i feel like they would even care less then they did before about my well being my emotions. and they would most likely not see what i would mean
The other reasons are: 1. Don’t feel appreciated 2. Taken for granted for 3. They hold a grudge on you instead of forgiving you. After saying sorry 4. They belittle your efforts and sacrifices 5. They only take and not give.
@@marcusknoll9500 shit went sideways. She took me for granted and used my past as a way to punish me. When on the other hand I fking forgave her shitty past.
Howabout someone who repeats the same mistakes after apologizing over and over? Howbout that person having abused you for your mistakes in your life for 9+ years himself? I mean physical, verbal, and sexual abuse. And him withholding all sexual and non-sexual intimacy until he desires to give it, usually when he sees the relationship is in danger. Howabout a lack of respect for you despite how you tried to be respectful and understanding? I mean, I even tried to kill myself multiple times... because I believed I was inadequate.
I loved someone once but they didn't love themselves enough to accept that. I want to point out that if you aren't happy alone you won't be happy together
I left my ex because I didn't feel I am heard. Funny thing is every time he tell something about his daily life problems, I responded w/ all my care and love.I am always the one who gives and receive nothing. It drained me so much. I don't feel loved and cared. Best decision is to just leave the relationship for my own sake.now I have my peace.
"6. They no longer feel an emotional connection" Love is actually a commitment more than an emotional feeling. If you're making important life decisions based on whimsical feelings that constantly fluctuate, you're going to end a lot of great relationships and hurt a lot of innocent people. If instead you make a commitment to a partnership because of (reasons why you value this person) then you will work to make it work no matter the weather .. that's love.
I recently left my partner who I truly loved and still do but I left because he was verbally abusive and I didn't feel respected. I miss him every day. Do u think I made the right decision
@@TB-wt6et Only you can answer that question. Love/respect/commitment has to be given and received by both partners, not just one, or it doesn't work. From personal experience: we miss the mask our partners wore at the beginning, and are confused by the person we ended up with after the mask came off. Maybe look up videos about red flags prospective partners can display early on (like being rude/short to help staff at the same time as being sweet to you), and then deep dive through your memories with this person and try to identify when they had their mask on and when it came off to be abusive towards you. Then go over what you loved and now miss about them, and see if your relationship was with the mask or that person. No one is perfect, it takes 2 so don't solely blame them or yourself, take the pain and memories from this experience and grow from it. If you can learn what went wrong and what you failed to see before, maybe you can pass by others just like this last partner so you'll still be available and mentally ready for when someone doesn't display these red flags in the future and you'll know their value. Just remember it takes time and honest introspection to find your answers, no one else can answer it for you. :)
@@jasonhutchins3518 thank you for your advice. It makes sense to me and ur right hes not the only one that is at fault I think I didn't feel respected cos I didn't feel like I deserved respect because I was depressed. I let myself go and I changed but he asks me to come back all the time and see if we can get things back on track. I don't know what to do
@@TB-wt6et Sometimes it _is_ all one person's fault. If your guy was verbally abusive, you are not to blame! You did not cause him to be that way and you can't make him stop being abusive. We have this belief in our society that it is both people's fault and there are two sides to every story, etc. I'm here to tell you that this is not always the case. Abusive people are very adept at finding their victims. They look for someone who has low self-esteem, someone kind and thoughtful, someone they can manipulate. This is why you will see a narcissist married to the nicest, sweetest person you've ever known. It is why a man who is physically violent will choose a quiet woman who tends to blame herself when anything goes wrong. These abusers know how to confuse such a person. Psychopaths are especially good at figuring out a person's weaknesses and using it against them. Please don't fall into the trap women far too often find themselves in. Women are much more likely to take the blame for things that are not their fault. You had no hand in your ex being verbally abusive. He is responsible for his actions, not you. Also I want to add this, I know you wrote this 5 months ago, but just in case you took him back, please set boundaries. You must not accept any abuse. If he does it again, tell him to get help and go to a therapist, and LEAVE HIM if he refuses. You could do therapy as a couple or individually, but just don't accept any abuse from him. Abuse escalates as an abusive relationship goes on. He will test how much abuse you will take and then alowly push those limits. This is true of verbal abuse and physical abuse. Don't take him back unless he gets help. You deserve better. In general, if anyone verbally abuses you, I find it helpful to _label_ it for what it is. So if your partner says something abusive, you immediately respond with "that is called verbal abuse and I will not put up with it." Call it out and label it.
Don’t miss him, I think it’s more of a habit than love. Start a new life, make your self productive and busy. You deserve peace and respect, ppl who love you will not verbally abuse you. You gotta understand you deserve a decent healthy relationship.
The best advice I could give people is to get out of auto pilot every now and then and really think and reflect how you treat your partner and how they treat you.
Thank you after watching your video I found so many mistake I made to my special person! And I’m deeply grateful to have been with her and I feel better that she walk away now for not wasting her time with me anymore.
Since even dating is online rn, just a piece of advice: If you won't be able to meet each other soon because of travel restrictions, think twice about getting attached to someone online. No matter how well you click. Even though he/she is REALLY your type. You may be able to build and sustain a relationship despite the distance, but can the other person do that? Ofc, it goes without saying that there are cases like this^ that still work, but it doesn't hurt to be careful. U just might save yourself from potential heartache ;)
It's painful how much I related to all of this, having to leave someone you love is the most painful thing I have ever done in my life. Worst part is knowing they will never understand. It's been years and I'm still trying to heal.
I did the same, and still love him 30years later. However, I've thrived without him and had a happy and productive life, but have never wanted to replace him. Notwithstanding, have had plenty of respectable offers.
Lindsey, I know exactly how you feel. What I had to learn is that I was longing for the person he appeared to be at the start, but the mask came off after the wedding and I ended up adapting to another person altogether. Loss of emotional connection and many other parts of the video until I had to leave to save my sanity and health. When your partner has a public face and a private face he saves only for you, it can make you a bit insane. I still love the man I thought he was, but it is an illusion, so I must let it fully die. Hope that helps you.
Why isn't there a no. 7 - because they need to settle their own inner demons first because they know it'll be detrimental in the future for their relationship?
Because either they never leave their inner demons and come back to that person they supposedly wanted to leave them for OR they just can't let those inner demons go.. Which is sad but in the end it means you don't love them or yourself :/
What if you say these things to the other person and they just don’t really understand anything?? What if they feel that these reasons can be sorted but still they don’t even make an effort because they feel the reasons are too small???
I’ve been feeling guilty for having broken up our relationship. But now that I saw this video and remembered the reasons why I’ve taken that decision, it helped me feel a little better about that. Thank you!
Well said. ua-cam.com/video/RoQyZRWIenY/v-deo.html. But there's also a song that says"I'd rather have bad times with you ,than good times with somebody else?
Iv been with my husband for 27 yrs nd he ran are relationship he is a good guy just I never felt heard or matter how I felt the bad was not enough to leave didn't talk enough or put are self or marriage first it was a mended family that his fam always put b4 us soo now he has cancer I will care for him tell the end I aloud how I become feeling I l I very him nd he loves me I chose to seek my emotions else were no intimate emotions nd still choose to stay together to much in voted to just walk away tell death do us part is my loyal nd devotion once again we aloud how others take are kindness for are weakness nd not show appreciation
They don't feel adequate. Believe it or not, a person who loves you is always at risk of leaving whenever you don't make them feel like they are enough for you. If you are always making them feel like they're not doing enough for the relationship, then they end up feeling hopeless and inadequate.
But does the feeling of not good enough stem from the partner's actions or from within oneself? Maybe the partner just hopes you can be yourself but there are just too many self-imposed expectations? T-T
I always feel like I’m not doing enough and that I’m annoying them. I’m always messaging them at the worst times. Whenever they’re doing school or homework or hanging out with cousins and family or doing something they enjoy, I always message them and then I feel annoying. Their notifications don’t work right so whenever they leave me on read because they just got my message from a few hours ago, it really hurts, but I’m just going to not message them for a week so that I don’t bother them and they can have time to themselves without worrying about me being annoying and always messaging them.
@@-azure-6782 aaaand I have the exact same problem. nice,amazing btw ya wanna talk about it on discord? not to be that one dude but im just tryna find someone else to talk to besides them :")
The first nine years of our marriage hit all these problems. We were both struggling with our respective mental illnesses and the entire relationship was about to fall apart, with my wife leaving me, and she was in agony when she thought about it. We hung in for so long because we were close friends and loved each other dearly, and we pushed each other to seek help. In our case, meds and therapy allowed us to finally have our own thoughts without so many triggers, and because we were friends, we were able to repair the hurt and build on the good stuff. Now our relationship involves all the needs outlined in this video, plus more. When one of us becomes disregulated, the other can be there as loving support. Self-care saved our marriage.
I left my partner of 7 years. But all the things you listed are the reasons I left, our mental illnesses truly drained me, I caretakered them so long and eventually couldn't support myself. They tried to take care of me but where still requiring their own space and time. I waited too long to ask for help and that's on me to accept, but now it's on me to get the help without requiring focusing on them. Parts of me worry I made the wrong call, so much was missing from our relation and I am unsure what the right call is. I'm happy you were able to work through it all. I hope to rekindle as better people or find someone I can have that connection with again who is able to take care of me the same I take care of them
honestly the physical intimacy part and the emotional connection part hit home for me. and the one little scene where the guy thinks "why am i still here? just to suffer?" is how i feel every day. i've been in a long term relationship with my girlfriend for 4 years and 6 months and i feel like she isn't attracted to me anymore and doesn't feel an emotional connection with me anymore. it's silly that i think this because we're actually still dating right now. she hasn't broken up with me yet. but i feel like i might have to break up with her. the problem is i'm already to emotionally invested into our relationship and attached to her that even JUST thinking about breaking up overwhelms me with feelings of heartbreak and loneliness and it makes me want to cry. but at the exact same time i feel miserable in my relationship. i mean what are the chances that she wants to break up with me too but is also in the same situation i am? maybe it's possible that she still loves and cares about me but wants to break up with me and can't bring herself to do it because she's also attached and emotionally invested into our relationship anymore. but honestly i feel like she definitely isn't attracted to me anymore and like she definitely doesn't feel that emotional connection. in fact, it's possible she might not even love me at all. she always gives me reassurance and tells me she loves me whenever i ask if she still does but lately it's starting to sound like a huge lie. her words say that she loves me while her actions and behavior say that she definitely doesn't. it's like there's no way to solve this situation without going through tremendous amounts of pain. either i break up with her and feel heartbroken or i stay with her and feel miserable. i know whoever reads this might be thinking "just tell her how you feel and talk things out. communication will help you figure it out together". but i've already tried that. i could always try it again but i feel like i'm not gonna get any different or better results. i don't know honestly... i'm sorry for using the comment section to vent about my feelings. i don't want to burden anyone else with what i'm going through.
Honestly I’m in the same boat. 6 year relationship with my boyfriend and almost all his actions say he doesn’t love me but all his words do. It’s hard me and him just broke up and of course this is all my fault lol. But honestly that pain is going to linger on you till you start resenting her and the relationship ends more messy. I say try it out and just keep notes of pros and cons and really think about yourself and what you need. Try talking once you know what you need if it isn’t met then the harder part will have a happier ending.
I think you both have to talk about it. If still can be fix, and if not then you both have to get away from that relationship. Everyday it's like you both are wasting your time spending it to the things that don't let you grow anymore.
I've been in a longterm relationship also, I feel like I'm always the one who tried to save our relationship, I'm inlove with him but he doesn't seem inlove with me anymore, I don't wanna break up with him coz I want him to be my first & last, I don't wanna start over again with another guy. But there's a time came when he doesn't even try, he didn't talk for me for months, and I realized everything from those time. Slowly, my love for him fades, though it hurts me a lot at first, I've come to many realizations. I've learned to let him go, and that was one of the best things I did coz I met a lot of better person in my life.
the fact that you still have to ask her if she love you..thats a red flag.. Thats your intution kicking in that its pretty much over.. Yall, just hanging by the thread.
@@iamauroraborealis I understand all to well. I’ve had to work on building myself back. I realized those early feelings weren’t coming back and I’ve learned to find peace within myself. Life is very complicated and situations we get ourselves into don’t always turn out the way our hearts dream of.
@@iamauroraborealis yeah same, its 10 years of friendship that i had built together with her but suddenly, the distance lately is getting further and further. Idk what is happening.
@@iamauroraborealis even if its extremely hard to accept but I understand. Idk if its "lose my friends season in 2022" but suddenly lost one after another all a sudden. All friends ive known for sometime, some since school days. Then again some people can maintain their friendship for so long and still meet up and chat like nothing, lucky them.
1. They don't feel respected 1:20 2. They don't feel emotionally supported 1:42 3. You relationship has experienced a loss of physical intimacy 2:13 4. They don't feel adequate 3:20 5. They don't feel listened to 3:43 6. They no longer feel an emotional connection 4:20 I hope I could help! (:
@Oliver R. How does that equate to that? If you choose to date yourself and accept every part of yourself as you are, you can be able to distinguish any red flags if you come across a mate that you are sure to be with
This is so true, me and my girlfriend have been together about 5 months and we’re friends for 8 months prior to our dating. I watched this video after the fact and all of this is so valid. My gf would ask me to do a lot of things like don’t raise my voice, don’t ignore her or don’t hang up on her and I would always work with her and understand her, but then she would do the same thing to me and I kept telling her it’s not fair you ask me to do all these things but when I ask the same you just say it’s who you are and you’re not willing to change. When we’d talk about it she wouldn’t say anything or just be upset so I broke it off. She loves me very much and was able to see what she was doing was hurting our relationship and was able to promise she will listen and understand when something upsets me. Communication and empathy is so important, if you’re struggling then take this video and my trial serious because it’s true.
The worst feeling is when you didn't know what went wrong and why they suddenly walked out of your life and ended your relationship/friendship without any communication about it.
I just left my girlfriend and I feel this video helped me understand better my sadness... I feel that #3 were the reasons why I felt so hopeless. I decided to break up to try to re-build our relationship from the ground up through friendship. However, I still fear that I might have lost her forever as a lover... I guess that's the thing about life, there is a risk to everything... Much love to anyone suffering right one. I hope you find some peace.✌️
You're brave and willing to re-build because you still believes in her. I envy you. I don't think my boyfriend has the same thought as you because he choose to cheat on me.
i had to cut off a friend, mostly because she was manipulating and gaslighting me. looking back at the relationship as a whole, i felt like a lot of these signs were true in our friendship-- i didn't feel respected, heard, appreciated and therefore inadequate. thank you for posting your videos-- they've been helping me cope and heal.
Im the one who left. 100% correct. Some people don't listen to cues nor see them, especially during stressful times. Telling them straight forward of how you feel its the best way to let them know what you're lacking. It brings a huge chance for the other to change it. Or go to couples therapy. If its still doesn't work, Its best to leave. And that its one of the hardest things you'll ever do in your life! Trust me. Im day 3 away. Its not selfish, you will feel like you are tho, get a support group you'll need it!!! Cant stress that enough! Know they will be ok, you'll be ok, and loved will always be with you, sucks and it really is tough love. You did something you didn't want to do! You're strong and loved! (Loveable) Im sorry to others who are going through this. Its the worst feeling in the world. You got this and it will be ok.
I left as well. I struggled with the feelings of guilt for months and it still sits in the back of my mind at times. I just couldn’t see any other option
@@iDepth_- the best thing I been told is to forgive them and yourself. Forgiving them is easy. Forgiving yourself not so easy. I hope you are doing ok. Hope you have a loving support system. ❤️
I left two weeks ago for several of these reasons. It’s absolutely one of the most painful things I’ve gone through butI I told her many times I was unhappy and counseling didn’t help. She’s hurting a lot right now but she had her chance.
Shout out to those guys that suffer even after they gave their all and their best. Shout out to those guys that sucked up the pain and tried to move on. Shout out to those guys that stopped themselves from breaking down to tears and crying their eyes out. I feel you.
@@divine555 youre just being willfully ignorant if you believe there arent people who are in love with people that abuse them. Majority of the time people will more willingly accept abuse from loved ones than from those they have no connection too. They forgive and downplay the abuse or even blame themselves. I suggest looking into it for yourself.
I related to this video so much from the position of the leaver! Leaving my last relationship was extremely hard because of how much I loved the person I was with... but all of those things added up just made me need to leave the relationship for my own happiness and well-being. Word of advice for anyone watching this video: If you want to keep your relationship healthy and going, take these items as things to make sure you have in your relationship: respect... emotional support... communicating & listening... etc etc... every point was spot on a part of what lead me to ending my last one.
One of the worst feelings is when you love someone that doesn't love you back. It took almost 15 years for me to realize that she truly doesn't feel the same way smh
It took me 27 years to realize I was with someone who never believed in me to begin with. I know he loved me but not the same way I loved him. We weren't like minded anymore 🥺 .
@@cecillesalvosa9319 It's ok its my fault all the clues were there I chose not to see them. I'm lucky there's still time but I have to heal first :) Bless you.
What about incompatibility? I think that's important, too. If you love a person but feel incompatible because your core values are different and get in the way of your relationship that's also a reason why people leave someone. You realize you don't want to sacrifice your values for the person you love and you don't want your partner to change and sacrifice theirs, either.
I think that somehow fits in these reasons. You can stay together, but it will be some work with different values. It can cause emotional distance, disrespect. I think you really need to talk about this a lot to find a way through it. And always have an understanding for the other person. All together I left my last realtionship because of incompatibility. 😅 The love was gone, as well as the respect, intimacy in every way... but our different plans of and priorities in relationshilps and life, caused this huge distance - and all those other mean things - and made this constellation unbearable.
@lylavati I agree that you can try to work it out. I also agree that sometimes it just happens that it won't work. Sometimes it just doesn't work out even if you try. On the long run if the values clash with each other and taking big decisions gets difficult and might make one unhappy it's for the best to leave, no matter how much you love someone. In a relationship you make certain sacrifices but then there are some that you shouldn't make. For me, in order for a relationship to work long-term it takes compromise and certain sacrifice. Those two are fundamental for me in order to be able to agree on things. My ex didn't think that way. I wanted at least two kids. He only wanted one. I would have liked to get married, he didn't. I'm more of a family person, he isn't. I wouldn't consider myself and extrovert but I'm more social than him. He's pretty much a loner and he likes it. My family has only seen him once or twice every year in the almost 5 years we've been together. He doesn't like sacrificing a lot of time for others, not even his best friends. He rather likes taking that time to spend gaming on his PC. I always try to defend his way of being in front of others but at some point I just realized I'm sacrificing my values and beliefs for him and he wouldn't. So I decided to leave. If I'm not willing anymore to sacrifice important things for him I'm not going to ask him to do the same. Changing your beliefs and values for someone else, basically sacrificing yourself to become someone you're not is not a sacrifice you should make. It's such a shame because other than that he's a really great guy and he was an incredibly loving and caring boyfriend. He always respected me. We had a lot of heated discussions when it came to attending my family events but other than that we never really argued about anything. Obviously since I do love him, the seperation sucks...it hurts a lot. But I just think in the end we both would be better off with someone more compatible.
Great point. That was the case with me once. This girl had feelings for me once, and I did for her but at different times, but because we weren’t compatible for one another, I had to turn it down because If love isn’t compatible then it will never work. True love is something that reveals itself years after knowing someone, or at a certain time unexpectedly. It’s more of a realisation imo.
Having left partners who I loved, I think one thing not mentioned in this video is external pressures on relationships. In my experience, family can be a very damaging influence (one that I'm now, as a middle-aged man, learning to manage better). Constant pressure from external factors can cause otherwise loving relationships to fail.
Do you mind giving me more insight on that? I am going through similar as my boyfriend does not see a long-term relationship with me due to my family being jacked up. His family is also terrible and he says he doesn't want to enter into a marriage with someone with a sucky family.
Sometimes, the other person is just using us for his/her needs, still the other partner keeps on loving so much. This time, we think - true love may change the heart, but it doesn't. We keep fooling our minds.
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Well said. ua-cam.com/video/RoQyZRWIenY/v-deo.html. But there's also a song that says"I'd rather have bad times with you ,than good times with somebody else?
I decided to end it when I realized I never got what I truly wanted out of the relationship. They were able to skate by with putting little to no effort into the things I wanted, meanwhile I was sacrificing my own goals and dreams to make them happy. 4 years later it was time for me to go.
It means you had high expectations and stressed him the fk out. And you expect compensation for choosing to sacrifice youself. That was conditional and with an expectation. I broke up with her today because it was insanely stressful with all the expectations. We were both in love. People need to feel safe to show love and sacrifice, not stressed.
I just ended a relationship because the woman was not intimate. She's had a series of relationships where men have neglected her and she thinks that's normal. And in return she has learned to be physically distant. Limited affection and sometimes cold. I couldn't handle it. It just felt unhealthy. I'm pretty sad about it. But I don't know what I can do. Best to get out now.
She's still wounded, don't stay in such relationship, you'll just bleed. I tell you, just let go especially you're aware that it's unhealthy. Don't waste your time.
Wow this was recommended to me after I broke up with my ex an hour ago.We were together for four years and I was the one who ended it.These were exactly the reasons why I left him,all of it.I was so torn if I was overacting or it was the right thing to do.It hurts so bad and I can’t help but blame myself for being rash sometimes but I also feel better.He said I built him as a person and asked why it wasn’t the case for me.I just realized maybe it’s a matter of treatment,not a matter of inspiration.I literally changed myself for him so we can have a healthy relationship but he can’t even respect me.I’m so tired of leading our relationship. Man,feelings are sure complicated.I just hope time will really heal my heart.
Same my wife left me 4 months ago because of this I was working on all this but she called me and said she’s better now be herself. I was hoping for her to come back but I think it’s over
Speaking from experience, breaking up with someone is just as hard as being broken up with. It took me the entire summer to get over someone I left because I wasn’t being respected enough
That's because yer a btch That's the social wisdom anyway. We are living organisms. Its not ganna be good no matter what. Most of you are Duuuuuuuuumb so since respect is defined by each person entirely differently your all only assuming that anyone ever did respect you.
Walking away is not easy but that's what I did 5 years into my marriage because 5 of the 6 reasons you mentioned were missing and it was healthier for me to be alone than be in a toxic relationship. It took the next 14 years of my life to work on myself and learn to say NO to toxic relationships. Now I am in a healthy relationship that gives me all that I need. Walking away was the best thing to do🙏🏽❤
As women, I think we feel pressure to have children and settle before a certain age. Do you have thoughts on this? I'm curious based on your experience what you think.
How did u find out healthy relationship ? Im 34 and struggling with all these points in relation but I'm scared to leave because I might be alone for rest of life
I've been in a toxic relationship for almost 15yrs. It's so hard the past yr. He relapsed on his alchohol too. I can't take this at all sounds stupid but it's mentally put me through the ringer. My family and counselors are helping. So I'm trying to stay busy!! I talk to God alot. It's not easy.
Even when you expressed your feeling / emotion to your partner, they tend to brush it off and ignore it.. repeating in expressing how you feel will only make you look sucks and loser.. thats why ending it would be better for your own happiness.
Thank you, this helped more than anything I've heard so far. I loved her with every ounce of love I had inside of me, and she said she was not the person for me. She promised me so many things yet still choose to walk away from me. I cared for her, always listened, never belittled her, always there. She said she loved me so much especially because of how I loved her, that she knew I loved her because of how nice I was even when she was mean to me. I gave her everything even when I didn't feel it in return and she still told me she was not my person, and that even if she learns herself she's not sure she will ever want it again. Now I don't, but I'm heartbroken because she never reassures me. I see most of you in the comments talk about being hurt and having to leave, but what about them hurting you... and leaving you too, even after the promises to always love you. I can't find a UA-cam video to help me through my misery. Please help
I take this as less of a coincidence and more of a sign that a video titled “6 reasons people leave the ones they love” showed up in my notifications. Last night my boyfriend was crying and said he wanted to break up. He loves me but he wanted to leave me because he was really sad and depressed and he didn’t want to burden me with his emotions, feeling he didn’t deserve to be loved after how he would act around me (well he isn’t around me. It’s long distance bc of covid but you get the idea). He goes through a lot of trauma. He grew up with abusive parents and lives with Dissociative identity disorder (multiple personality disorder). He was bullied and teased all his life for it. All he wanted was someone to love him but all his previous relationships ended in break up because none of them took the time to understand his feelings and frustrations. I never took his anger or any times he got upset personally. Having grew up with depression and other troubles of my own, I understood where he was coming from. He would cry and get angry all the time but I was always there for him. He was waiting for me to leave him and abandon him like others before him, but that never happened. I just had to tell him I love him and that I would never abandon him bc he means the world to me. Im really glad our conversation last night didn’t end in break up because if he left me I don’t know what I’d do without him nor would I want to imagine how he would cope without someone there love him
If you choose to leave someone, do it in a respectful way. Just because the relationship needs to be ended, doesn't mean the other person has done anything wrong, necessarily. And if you are the one who is being left, let them go and don't be a jerk about it. You love them and want them to be happy, so let them go find happiness.
Hah I was in a 9 year relationship and he ghosted me and broke up with me through my dad. He’s 38, btw. Then his mommy came out and he suckled her teet all the way home.
I don't wish anyone happiness that hurts me because they wont repeatedly listen, stone wall etc. I know I also have my flaws but this isn't respectful at all.
I loved my boyfriend for 4 years, but I was emotionally and verbally abused. I saw the red flags but ignored it, I thought I can make it better. We lost our physical intimacy connection. I couldn't take it any longer, he became very angry, he sucked out my energy, constant yelling, I was his target. He'd yell at me of nonsense. I was disrespected, used, taken for granted, controlled, and anything else you can think of. I loved him and it was so hard to let him go, but I know if I stayed I wouldn't be here any longer.
we are always attracted to people that feel familiar, even if that familiarity is violent. You absolutely did the right thing, take a good look at your reasons for being attracted to someone who is abusive and realise its not your fault - you can change your next relationship by walking away the second you see any of the red flags, before getting too involved. Hang in there! :)
Omg. It seems like you wrote this for me. I was also verbally abused from the very beginning but I just ignored all the red flags and stayed for 2years.He had hurt me physically as well. Resentment has turned me into a monster. I had to leave before the situation gets worst.
Yes, zero emotional support, no respect for me, horrible communication. These are some of the reasons I ended up my relationship with my ex girlfriend. I gave literally all of my heart and strength for her and our relationship, but she never done the same. Three weeks and counting of freedom and self respect and love again.
Another reason is personal change or growth. I was with someone for 11 years and as time went on, I realized that the things that were important to us were very different in comparison. I felt like I took on most of the responsibilities of the household and started resenting my partner for not appreciating what I did with anything more than empty words and gifts. His actions said that he didn't actually care what I went through and expected me to continue taking care of everything. I kept telling him that what I wanted and needed more than anything was his help. When a person is exhausted and spends all of their time and energy taking care of someone that their life revolves around, that person gets burnt out in every way and gifts and thanks just don't cut it. I asked if we could get a new couch, new bed, a vacuum, stuff that in my eyes, we needed. I didn't think that they were shallow or unreasonable requests. I slept on an ancient futon, then an ancient couch for 8 of those 11 years so as not to disturb his sleep. I just wanted us both to be comfortable and able to function. He said it was all too expensive, but he had to always have the latest gaming consoles. Even the strongest love has a breaking point. If you really love someone who loves you too, please listen to their needs or you will lose them and end up wasting so much time in both of your lives.
It’s crazy how you go through this and think you are the only one hurting but there is so many people going through it 💔 I just broke up with my ex 4 days ago moved out. I’m sad and miss him but I know later on I’ll be happier
This video really helped me. The person I was with never listened to me or even cared about what I had to say. They had not even the slightest of respect for me. For me, that was what most killed and ruined the relationship for me. I’m sure he developed these traits and behaviors from his family but that is no excuse for me to tolerate being treated that way when I love with my all.
I stopped physical contact with him even tho I craved it, the cuddling had to stop because emotionally I was hurting. The rest of the list are reasons I felt it was time to walk away despite the love I have for them that will never go away.
People in a relationship will sometimes complain, and that's normal. However, people need to hear positive comments too. I know someone that kept hearing nothing but negative comments. The woman he lived with could find fault, but could never give a compliment. He would vent to me, and eventually left her. He did say that if she would just say something nice or complimentary occasionally, that that would be a tremendous lift for him. However, apparently she couldn't. People need to hear positive things as that makes them feel like they are important and cherished. Negativity all the time doesn't work.
7. Sometime your partner just don't value you anymore and the desire to mate with other partners keeps growing. They start to develop FOMO and a huge for exploring intimacy with other people. If your are their first long-term partner maybe they don't know what to expect from you. They try to find empty excuses to rationalise their feelings. They try to change you to shape you the way they think you should be. Maybe they will learn to appreciate who you were only after going through a serie of difficult relationships, breakups and harsh realisations. They might have regrets one day but you, you will be at peace, knowing that you have everything to be a good soul and a great heart.
Or maybe they won't. It's all about deciding how far someone wants to give up on himself and compromise. In my case, I have compromised my ass off and now I am stuck with a child and her.
I strongly related to this video, I left my girlfriend whom I loved so much. it was hard to leave her, but it was worth it. I realized that there are other people out there who would be more than happy to have you as a partner. much love to all who had to leave their loved ones.
Left my wife 5 years ago for all these reasons. Part of me will always love her. I love what we had but I had to accept she was not treating me right for several years. All attempts to restore ‘us’ failed as she was just not interested anymore. So I moved away for both of us.
If I could add something in here is that in relationships, you mustn't compile any record of your partner's mistakes! All of us are bound to make it after all. Be understanding enough, if it's possible, before you go to bed in the evening, you have to free yourself from that anger and say sorry to them before you go to sleep! Hope this would help! Thank you again Psych2goers team! You're all amazing! 🙂
This was so helpful emotionally and mentally to understand why I’m feeling this way, but walking away from someone I love your truly help me to understand. Truly thank you for the info.
That was me. For 13 years I was afraid to leave because it felt like I was giving up. Only to realize he had given up 10 years ago. No hugs, no affection, no playfulness, no emotional intimacy and definitely no sex. Made me feel like a burden and an annoyance and I found myself isolating… It’s been a year and a half and it’s been the best year and a half of my life. He refused to acknowledge or even talk about how to make it better, meanwhile I was driving into self help stuff and doing the work. Our son knew I had to go and we never talk to him about any of it come on it’s just from what he saw. I wanted to set an example for him of what real love should be, because that wasn’t it. Best decision I’ve ever made. Now I have a great guy who loves me so much and it’s the best sex of my life, and he’s truly my best friend. You deserve the same!
@@kdlofty oh yeah I try , he won't talk just silent treatment and playing the blame game ,if he says anything at all , he comes from a long line of emotional abandonment men in his family his dad did the same to his mom , grandpa same to his grandma...ect. I told my self many lies in the beginning to mask why the distance an lack of communication.
Maybe it is the way you treat him? Of course not. Women are perfect creatures God put on earth for one reason only, to point out the man's flaws and nag him into submission.
Sometimes the one who leave is the one who loved the most, but doesn't reciprocated or just taken for granted. It's hard to leave someone whom you shared years of your life. So cheers to those brave souls who finally have courage to leave the toxic relationships. Truely, love just ain't enough.
I did all I could on my part. I tried to give emotional support, I tried to make him feel special and I gave him reassurance because I don't want him to feel hurt or ignored. However, I think our wants oppose with one another. He's not the type of person I want and need to have in a relationship. He neither respects me or listens to me. He gives me reasons to feel insecure. I don't feel loved anymore, moreover, it's leaning more towards hate, which left me deeply scarred after he deliberately left me. After that, I came to the conclusion that it probably wasn't love since the beginning, and that was one thing I clearly misinterpreted. I mistook sexual attraction for love. Later on, he tried communicating with me again? It made me wonder what for. But maybe he's back because he's bored and I'm the only one gullible enough to fall for his acts. Lately, I've learnt to be more in line with myself and what I actually want. This connection we have should not advance, since his intentions are obviously not pure, and nowadays, I think I'm doing quite alright in avoiding him. I don't want to get stuck in an emotionally draining situation ever again.
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You're realizing what's really going on. And someone like that can't be trusted. Been there honey and had to learn the hard way do. And if he's done it to you, know you're probably not the first or last he's done it too and know you're value and respect yourself enough to walk away. I think you already know this though. ❤
Sometimes you have to leave a loved one to protect him/her from yourself or a former partner. If you are lucky, you can come together again, when the problem is solved. Just make sure your love knows, that he/she is not the reason and that you really loved him/her.
I’ve been feeling/going through all those six reasons for several years, just holding onto my relationship for sake of my kids. But now that my kids are all grown up, it’s time to separate and go on with my life. Not easy living with someone who doesn’t show any emotions or feelings towards you!!
I had a functional relationship once. My girlfriend fell deeper and deeper into depression because of terrible things which happened in her childhood while I was a bystander who couldn't find a real way to help her. In the end we also lost all intimate contact and she broke up but I managed to convince her to get professional help. Every now and than I looked if everything is okay with her. Now roughly 8 years later I see her several times a year and we are very good friends who can tell everything to each other. I highly doubt that we will be a pair ever again but she often thanks me for the help in the rough times and I am happy that it turned out that way -> I just want to say: the end of love can have endless reasons but it doesn't allways mean the end of a relationship.
I relate big time. This is exactly what I just went through. I couldn’t tolerate the toxic relationship anymore even tho I still love him very much 🙏🏽❤️
Sometimes we meet the one we know is the right one for us, but at the wrong moment of our lives. Like I did. I hope I can be as strong and brave as you were to make this much needed decision, because I know I'll suffer. I love her and I'll still love her when I leave, and I know she loves me too, but I just can't give her the best version of me right now.
@@angelkhulz8207 because I'm broken. She is growing as an individual, while I'm sinking with the losses I've had this year, and at some point I couldn't even give her the emotional support she needed because I was too busy feeling so damn sorry for myself, so I can't avoid thinking that I'll sink her as well.
i recently just went through something similar, except that they were the one who ended up leaving :( i hope you are doing okay !! stay strong and remember that there is a light at the end of the tunnel !
Sweetie you need a husband or maybe not, but you definitely shouldn’t have a girlfriend, our Father God isn’t pleased with it. I’m not judging you, I’m just sharing the gospel with you as it pertains to you. Your WORTHY to be SAVED
I left my gf because i didn't feel she was really listening to my problems. I was always there when she needed to, and solved whatever i made wrong. She didn't. She just listened, but took no action to solve the problem until it was way too late.
I just lost the love of my life because of all of these reasons. We started off as friends and lived together for 6 years. We grew apart. I miss her dearly.
Some True Points why people leave the person they love 1. Mutual respect 2. They don't feel vulnerable 3. Missing physical intimacy 4. They don't feel adequate 5. Don't feel listen to (less communication) 6. Lack of emotional connection
Sounds like a personal low self-esteem issue. I believe if the individual learn to love themselves more they would know when to leave way before the relationship get serious but at the same time people change their mind despite if all these things were provided. I know people who met their opposite as friends then end up either breaking up or divorced because they no longer love each other due to falling out of love. Problem with love is an emotion that go on/off but commitment is being able to ride it out. Everything in life is a work in progress and it don't matter who your with good or bad. Yes there is many variables between good or bad in a person but realistically to lay out this video as some form of universal law is misleading. If what you laid out is accurate then their wouldn't be broken families after broken families, everyone would never enjoy being single and be in content and grateful with the person they have.
@@jamesreid3954 I was in in overdose stage she left me now I just only smoke cigarette and weed..we're still talking sometimes.after she left me she felt in love with my and her bf now both they're broke I feel sorry..uuuuhhhuuum!! Despite all the talks still loving her. I don't know what my great love Is just sacrifice? Or A new beginning its tough. Sad but true #metallica
I remember being vulnerable once. I remember as if it were yesterday. The empty void I was in was filled in a second the moment I saw her. My thoughts, body and soul fixated on her. Her beauty was limitless and her voice was gentle. Moments that a person will never forget mainly when one feels as if the air in their lungs were their last. I was completely vulnerable that I fell deeply in love with this woman. 4 years later, I know parts of her but she knows all of me. That day she wore a dress white as if were the first light I saw. No color could radiate her Beauty and flaws more than white. My heart was in awe. Music started playing but was drowned out when all I could do was gaze upon her elegance. It truly was a sight to behold. Words were exchanged but before I could say anything, her love was sealed with another. I love her. I always will but her happiness is what matters.
Yep, and when communication is no longer reciprocated, saying goodbye/walking away is the only way to disconnect from any emotional connections. Then a mind can finally be at rest and the healing process can start.
True. Well said. ua-cam.com/video/RoQyZRWIenY/v-deo.html. But there's also a song that says"I'd rather have bad times with you ,than good times with somebody else?
I just recently broke up with my girlfriend of 7 years and this video summed up my decision to leave perfectly. Thank you for showing me the proper way to describe the emotions that I was feeling.
I left my old partner once because of his lack of communication rather he would basically fall off the map.! I love them so much I came back he asked me what is it I want and I told him. He said that I'm glad we're back together because I do love you and miss you and the only person that has actually truly inspired me to follow my dreams. Yet and still the lack of communication is what drove me crazy! I spoke on it several times so I couldn't speak on it any longer I realize you didn't respect my opinion or my feelings so I had to leave... I still miss him still think of him and still love him deeply but I realize that the reality is he is a not ready for a serious commitment even though he said he wanted to marry me and great detail. But he is awesome not ready to come to the realization then I am a person who has feelings and I will Express them when I feel they are not being honored! It's all the lines single I'm no longer with heartache or rather headache good night
Its difficult to love someone who feels they are inadequate. Its impossible for you to change there mind. They have to gain confidence on their own before they're ever ready for a real relationship.
It's this one.... He left with the reason of thinking I deserve better and he will never amount to anything that will make me happy.. And he got it all so wrong. I wanted no one else and I did my best to make him see his worth and make him heal from all his trauma and insecurities.. I still pray he heals someday..
@@sessrinwillreignsupreme5050 I feel so bad for you that this happened. I agree it is almost impossible to change someones mind in this. I know, because I did this a couple of years ago with someone I truly cared for. Everything was going great, but I felt like I could not be myself and after a while, that caused a falling out between us. And that was it. Done for me. I was convinced that continuing in this (seemingly beautiful) relationship would only cause her more frustration and disappointment. ‘Why would she love me if she really knew who I was’. I learned (years later) that this seed was planted at a very early age, and that I was in total denial. I had no idea what was going on, but no matter what, I had to do it. So painful. I felt I had no one to talk to, and I felt so alone. There is always a regret about what I did not do to prevent it, but I am grateful that she is doing very well as of now and I hope you are too, I hope that this made you a stronger person. I wish you all the best in the furure. Love you all for sharing this. Stay strong 😘😋
The Lord gave us free will, when a person walks out on you, that is the main sign that they want to be free. Never force someone to want to be with you, that is not healthy for you. You need to understand that if someone doesnt want to be with you, it's okay, you will find someone else that does.
@@Hazelryntong2896 Let him go. Ask God to disconnect you from him, ask God to remove that love for him out of your heart. Release that person, love should balance. Stop hurting yourself more and more, move on and try to meet new people or focus on studies.💜
The "emotional bonding" only occurred when we were together (only once a week by his suggestion). Once he left my home, he wouldn't communicate often. We were both single and retired, though in our early fifties. I told him twice that he was kind of cutting our emotional bond when we weren't together. Then I had a terrible vertigo episode and he didn't try to help me. That was the moment I decided that he didn't deserve me. I don't know how I handle my emotions, and the truth is that I didn't shed a tear. In one side was the bliss of our encounters and in the other my dignity. I decided for the latter one. Our relationship lasted eleven months and was very enriched by talking, music, laughter. We're are both cult people so we had a lot of talking material. I truly believe we have to take care of our partners in order to fulfill our part in a relationship.
You said exactly what I had gone through. I still Love him so much but then I can't be with him, its the hardest, saddest n most hurting decision of mylife. Its been 13months n m still having real hard time to move on. Felt lighter to know they are others like me who had gone through the same pain. "Stay strong to those who are going through this pain. You are not alone." Thank you.❤
This was insightful and relatable, it just stings when one person tries too hard to accommodate the other and then the other person gaslights you and makes you think like you’re the problem…
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Life is short. Discuss your feelings with your partner, and if they don't mind losing you, then it's okay to leave. Don't leave someone who genuinely loves you for mere insecurities Guys only feel regret for leaving someone they love when they realise that person did no wrong and was the best for them, you can argue with your keyboard As much as I did my best to make my ex happy, he left me anyway, and even though I still love him ill never go back to such a confused person
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Stay strong 💪💪♥️.💓💪. Well said. ua-cam.com/video/RoQyZRWIenY/v-deo.html.
I disagree. I did leave for mere insecurities and it was one of the best things I ever did and it lead to the new blessing and that is a new man who after eleven years of dating has now become my husband.
I can resonate with the first one, as well as having enough respect to be honest with your partner. Sometimes it’s the little things that matter but go unnoticed. We all deserve respect.
Strange knowing I felt these things during the relationship yet I was the one broken up with. Sticking around even though someone is hurting you hoping you can create change together only for them to disregard you as soon as they experience a fraction of what you've been experiencing. I think it gets forgotten that emotions have a chain reaction, what you give out to someone is what they take in and give back. You don't show love... over time neither will your partner, you dont listen over time your partner will stop speaking and sharing, you don't support vulnerability overtime your partner will stop being vulnerable.
I heve faced the same fate ! I have been going through so many videos and comments about this but you are the one i found closest to. Thank you for the comment and don't feel you are alone ! currently i don't know what to do and feels like "somebody please kill me"😢
“You don’t understand me” - she said. On the other hand she doesn’t share her expectations. Accidentally, i found this couple questions game “Lovify”. In this game, you have to guess what your partner likes. My gf loved it. Whenever I guess wrong, I ask her more about her expectations, and we are trying to improve. One day i wanna marry her 💞
Pretty accurate. I divorced my wife for a myriad of reasons, some of them were mentioned in this video. Everything I did was never enough, if I made a mistake it was blown out of proportion. Every misstep I made wasn't exaggeration and everything she didn't do was always excused. If she was ever in the wrong it would take her days to figure it out and only if I apologize for how I reacted when it hurt me. I could go on for paragraphs but the point is, I can relate and confirm that this video is pretty much spot on. I'm doing much better now and happier than I've been in a long time. I'm on my way to a better life and helping my child heal and recover from the trauma that they experienced and partly do to my ex-wife's not listening to me and her talks behavior that most people if not all people in her social circle will never hear about or believe that she was guilty of.
Dude this is literally me. You wrote my words. I wouldn't hear the end of my one mistake, or my insecurity would repeatedly hit me in the face. I was perfectly understanding of even her abusive anger outbursts and all insecurities. I'd distance due to stress and she'd still blame me for acting different because others were nicer to her that day. I broke up just today. It feels like shit since we loved (I loved way more deeply I guess) but these are red flags aren't they. Have you moved on?
I've left someone I truly love. And I don't exactly know why. But I honestly believe that it was the best I could've done for both of us. I still love her, and I don't know I'd love anyone else like I loved her. And though it hurts me like hell, I'm strangely happy with it.
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"the best relationships are the ones that have genuine friendship at their core."
True. Well said 💓💯
This is Very True
Idk, sometimes the ones closest to you deal out the biggest betrayals, I'm not saying you're wrong, but a core friendship doesn't really guarantee anything.
@@azure8696 true. Stay strong
My wife is my best friend, that’s what’s sustained us for 20 years.
It's better to be alone, than to be with someone who makes you feel alone.
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Or it's better to be alone than to wish you were alone...
Bro my relationship was one sided i put so much effort all that for nothing 🥲
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@@stefanossinani8653 thanks is happening with me right now , but I took some courage and decided that I will confront her tonight and end it , I shouldn't put so much discomfort and disrespect within myself , it is totally not worth it ,the problem is I love her so much
Shoutout to all the strong brave souls who leave the one they love because the relationship is turning us into something we are not and loving oneself comes first
Very true Jorge! It was excruciating, but I had to do it.
I'm devastated, my heart is broken...I had to do it, it's been 7 months and I'm starting to forget why I left, all the good times are bubbling up! Argh! Must stay strong, and carry on.
Coming across this and reading the comments is actually helping ☮💓💕
@@AnneWilkynson Me too though its been 10 months for me. It hurts I wish I didn't and now Idk where he is, if he's ok or not.
i just did it today and it was my first time breaking up with someone. it was so hard and they kept insisting we could make it work even though i told them i need to take care of my own personal issues. i thought i would feel better after breaking it off but i just feel so terrible for hurting them.
@@jelbell5709 Me too. And now I want to get back together with him but he doesn't answer me anymore. It's ok you did what was right for you.
I have one major issue with this video, namely the "emotional connection" part. The problem I have is that people forget oxytocin stops producing after so long and that feeling of "in love" is no longer there. This is where (in a marriage especially) it is up to that person to remind themselves what the core components of the person they loved are and to CHOOSE to love them still. Love is odd.... It starts as a sensation, evolves to a choice, then becomes a sensation again. Getting married is supposed to say "I know there's going to be a point where I question this, but as long as we don't cheat or beat, we work it out". Seems a lot of folk forgot that....
This deserves to be on top💜
Notice the very little likes… people don’t like the truth.
@@shahkhan9219 😂 I have found the quickest way to anger someone is pointing out the truth.
I see emotional connection as being involved in lives of each other
@@trappart9209 that definitely is part of it, but the love hormones wear off every so often. Hence why marriage is supposed to be through better and worse, cuz there are going to be times you don't "feel" in love. Then you have to remember what makes them special enough you married them. If both do this, you come out stronger together
When
1. Don't feel respected
2. Don't feel emotionally supported
3. Lacking Non sexual physical Intimacy
4. Don't feel adequate
5. Don't feel listened
6. Don't feel emotional connection
Well I felt everything except 3
how can the 3th happen... we can't even get closer to each other
but I don't care I will be alone cus I want it's so much easier
@@diogocasstro it isn't lol, that's what you think before you get out
@@hihwsjai188 yeah ok... sowwy
dang one of the ones i left that i wanted to last i left for all 6 combined, temped to reach out but i feel like they would even care less then they did before about my well being my emotions. and they would most likely not see what i would mean
The other reasons are:
1. Don’t feel appreciated
2. Taken for granted for
3. They hold a grudge on you instead of forgiving you. After saying sorry
4. They belittle your efforts and sacrifices
5. They only take and not give.
We've all been there..
This is more realistic than the information from the video.
What Happ with your past relationship that went bad
@@marcusknoll9500 shit went sideways. She took me for granted and used my past as a way to punish me. When on the other hand I fking forgave her shitty past.
Howabout someone who repeats the same mistakes after apologizing over and over? Howbout that person having abused you for your mistakes in your life for 9+ years himself? I mean physical, verbal, and sexual abuse. And him withholding all sexual and non-sexual intimacy until he desires to give it, usually when he sees the relationship is in danger. Howabout a lack of respect for you despite how you tried to be respectful and understanding? I mean, I even tried to kill myself multiple times... because I believed I was inadequate.
I loved someone once but they didn't love themselves enough to accept that. I want to point out that if you aren't happy alone you won't be happy together
You have to be be whole and not depend upon some to make you happy all the time.
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I left my ex because I didn't feel I am heard. Funny thing is every time he tell something about his daily life problems, I responded w/ all my care and love.I am always the one who gives and receive nothing. It drained me so much. I don't feel loved and cared. Best decision is to just leave the relationship for my own sake.now I have my peace.
This is the same with me. It sucks
You were able to leave. That's great. Be proud of yourself.
agreed.
Me too
That was a communication problem
He is regretting it
Give him another chance
The seventh reason is when you don't trust them anymore. Without trust a relationship dies ...
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Mariana popescu That is the most important part of a relationship...if you dont trust them ,why be with them?🤷🏻♀️🙇🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🙇🏻♀️🤷🏻♂️🙇♂️👎
"6. They no longer feel an emotional connection"
Love is actually a commitment more than an emotional feeling. If you're making important life decisions based on whimsical feelings that constantly fluctuate, you're going to end a lot of great relationships and hurt a lot of innocent people. If instead you make a commitment to a partnership because of (reasons why you value this person) then you will work to make it work no matter the weather .. that's love.
I recently left my partner who I truly loved and still do but I left because he was verbally abusive and I didn't feel respected. I miss him every day. Do u think I made the right decision
@@TB-wt6et Only you can answer that question. Love/respect/commitment has to be given and received by both partners, not just one, or it doesn't work.
From personal experience: we miss the mask our partners wore at the beginning, and are confused by the person we ended up with after the mask came off. Maybe look up videos about red flags prospective partners can display early on (like being rude/short to help staff at the same time as being sweet to you), and then deep dive through your memories with this person and try to identify when they had their mask on and when it came off to be abusive towards you. Then go over what you loved and now miss about them, and see if your relationship was with the mask or that person.
No one is perfect, it takes 2 so don't solely blame them or yourself, take the pain and memories from this experience and grow from it. If you can learn what went wrong and what you failed to see before, maybe you can pass by others just like this last partner so you'll still be available and mentally ready for when someone doesn't display these red flags in the future and you'll know their value.
Just remember it takes time and honest introspection to find your answers, no one else can answer it for you. :)
@@jasonhutchins3518 thank you for your advice. It makes sense to me and ur right hes not the only one that is at fault
I think I didn't feel respected cos I didn't feel like I deserved respect because I was depressed. I let myself go and I changed but he asks me to come back all the time and see if we can get things back on track. I don't know what to do
@@TB-wt6et Sometimes it _is_ all one person's fault. If your guy was verbally abusive, you are not to blame! You did not cause him to be that way and you can't make him stop being abusive. We have this belief in our society that it is both people's fault and there are two sides to every story, etc. I'm here to tell you that this is not always the case. Abusive people are very adept at finding their victims. They look for someone who has low self-esteem, someone kind and thoughtful, someone they can manipulate. This is why you will see a narcissist married to the nicest, sweetest person you've ever known. It is why a man who is physically violent will choose a quiet woman who tends to blame herself when anything goes wrong. These abusers know how to confuse such a person. Psychopaths are especially good at figuring out a person's weaknesses and using it against them.
Please don't fall into the trap women far too often find themselves in. Women are much more likely to take the blame for things that are not their fault. You had no hand in your ex being verbally abusive. He is responsible for his actions, not you.
Also I want to add this, I know you wrote this 5 months ago, but just in case you took him back, please set boundaries. You must not accept any abuse. If he does it again, tell him to get help and go to a therapist, and LEAVE HIM if he refuses. You could do therapy as a couple or individually, but just don't accept any abuse from him. Abuse escalates as an abusive relationship goes on. He will test how much abuse you will take and then alowly push those limits. This is true of verbal abuse and physical abuse. Don't take him back unless he gets help. You deserve better. In general, if anyone verbally abuses you, I find it helpful to _label_ it for what it is. So if your partner says something abusive, you immediately respond with "that is called verbal abuse and I will not put up with it." Call it out and label it.
Don’t miss him, I think it’s more of a habit than love. Start a new life, make your self productive and busy. You deserve peace and respect, ppl who love you will not verbally abuse you. You gotta understand you deserve a decent healthy relationship.
The best advice I could give people is to get out of auto pilot every now and then and really think and reflect how you treat your partner and how they treat you.
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@@saniahamed8140 I'm reporting you!! Get off this thread!!
Thank you after watching your video I found so many mistake I made to my special person! And I’m deeply grateful to have been with her and I feel better that she walk away now for not wasting her time with me anymore.
Since even dating is online rn, just a piece of advice:
If you won't be able to meet each other soon because of travel restrictions, think twice about getting attached to someone online. No matter how well you click. Even though he/she is REALLY your type. You may be able to build and sustain a relationship despite the distance, but can the other person do that?
Ofc, it goes without saying that there are cases like this^ that still work, but it doesn't hurt to be careful. U just might save yourself from potential heartache ;)
too late 🙍🏼♀️ . texas to new york .. it’s far :/ .
@@marielyc2424 darling , Malaysia and Netherlands :)
@@marielyc2424 Try America from South Africa, that's even worse.
@@afallenhuman i get u , u 8000+ miles me 10000+ . Life is shit aint it :(
@@cocomelon3431 Yeah..sadly.
It's painful how much I related to all of this, having to leave someone you love is the most painful thing I have ever done in my life. Worst part is knowing they will never understand. It's been years and I'm still trying to heal.
Worst thing is knowing deep down inside that it’s for the best, but not being able to explain it. Hope you find your peace of mind.
I did the same, and still love him 30years later. However, I've thrived without him and had a happy and productive life, but have never wanted to replace him. Notwithstanding, have had plenty of respectable offers.
@@Esteban-MK64 exactly
Five years on ,I still love him.,he's moved on .Maybe I can now he's found someone else .
Lindsey, I know exactly how you feel. What I had to learn is that I was longing for the person he appeared to be at the start, but the mask came off after the wedding and I ended up adapting to another person altogether. Loss of emotional connection and many other parts of the video until I had to leave to save my sanity and health. When your partner has a public face and a private face he saves only for you, it can make you a bit insane. I still love the man I thought he was, but it is an illusion, so I must let it fully die. Hope that helps you.
Why isn't there a no. 7 - because they need to settle their own inner demons first because they know it'll be detrimental in the future for their relationship?
I think it's because inner demons can cause any of the 6 to happen in a relationship, which is why demons are problematic in the first place.
This is what happened to me after it ended. It sucks man. I feel so full and worthless sometimes
Because either they never leave their inner demons and come back to that person they supposedly wanted to leave them for OR they just can't let those inner demons go.. Which is sad but in the end it means you don't love them or yourself :/
@@ClaudiaXanaP sorry, but I disagree that those are really the only options.
What if you say these things to the other person and they just don’t really understand anything??
What if they feel that these reasons can be sorted but still they don’t even make an effort because they feel the reasons are too small???
Hard decision to make, but I believe it's even harder to cope with the feeling of slowly losing yourself as time goes. You can't recover from that.
That's true, you lose faith with the world forever
I’ve been feeling guilty for having broken up our relationship. But now that I saw this video and remembered the reasons why I’ve taken that decision, it helped me feel a little better about that. Thank you!
Ohh I’m really sorry for the lost of your relationship hope things goes well for you
Hi Rafaela how are you doing
Well said. ua-cam.com/video/RoQyZRWIenY/v-deo.html. But there's also a song that says"I'd rather have bad times with you ,than good times with somebody else?
I feel the same way
Iv been with my husband for 27 yrs nd he ran are relationship he is a good guy just I never felt heard or matter how I felt the bad was not enough to leave didn't talk enough or put are self or marriage first it was a mended family that his fam always put b4 us soo now he has cancer I will care for him tell the end I aloud how I become feeling I l I very him nd he loves me I chose to seek my emotions else were no intimate emotions nd still choose to stay together to much in voted to just walk away tell death do us part is my loyal nd devotion once again we aloud how others take are kindness for are weakness nd not show appreciation
They don't feel adequate. Believe it or not, a person who loves you is always at risk of leaving whenever you don't make them feel like they are enough for you. If you are always making them feel like they're not doing enough for the relationship, then they end up feeling hopeless and inadequate.
You're totally right!
It really happens.
But does the feeling of not good enough stem from the partner's actions or from within oneself? Maybe the partner just hopes you can be yourself but there are just too many self-imposed expectations? T-T
I always feel like I’m not doing enough and that I’m annoying them. I’m always messaging them at the worst times. Whenever they’re doing school or homework or hanging out with cousins and family or doing something they enjoy, I always message them and then I feel annoying. Their notifications don’t work right so whenever they leave me on read because they just got my message from a few hours ago, it really hurts, but I’m just going to not message them for a week so that I don’t bother them and they can have time to themselves without worrying about me being annoying and always messaging them.
@@-azure-6782 aaaand I have the exact same problem. nice,amazing
btw ya wanna talk about it on discord? not to be that one dude but im just tryna find someone else to talk to besides them :")
The first nine years of our marriage hit all these problems. We were both struggling with our respective mental illnesses and the entire relationship was about to fall apart, with my wife leaving me, and she was in agony when she thought about it. We hung in for so long because we were close friends and loved each other dearly, and we pushed each other to seek help.
In our case, meds and therapy allowed us to finally have our own thoughts without so many triggers, and because we were friends, we were able to repair the hurt and build on the good stuff.
Now our relationship involves all the needs outlined in this video, plus more. When one of us becomes disregulated, the other can be there as loving support.
Self-care saved our marriage.
Amazing and not something that's emphasized in relationships. Inspiring thank you for sharing.
Congrats to you both 😊
How did you convince your partner to communicate and solve the problems instead of giving up? Please.
I left my partner of 7 years. But all the things you listed are the reasons I left, our mental illnesses truly drained me, I caretakered them so long and eventually couldn't support myself. They tried to take care of me but where still requiring their own space and time. I waited too long to ask for help and that's on me to accept, but now it's on me to get the help without requiring focusing on them.
Parts of me worry I made the wrong call, so much was missing from our relation and I am unsure what the right call is. I'm happy you were able to work through it all. I hope to rekindle as better people or find someone I can have that connection with again who is able to take care of me the same I take care of them
Or an open relationship could work too
honestly the physical intimacy part and the emotional connection part hit home for me. and the one little scene where the guy thinks "why am i still here? just to suffer?" is how i feel every day. i've been in a long term relationship with my girlfriend for 4 years and 6 months and i feel like she isn't attracted to me anymore and doesn't feel an emotional connection with me anymore. it's silly that i think this because we're actually still dating right now. she hasn't broken up with me yet. but i feel like i might have to break up with her. the problem is i'm already to emotionally invested into our relationship and attached to her that even JUST thinking about breaking up overwhelms me with feelings of heartbreak and loneliness and it makes me want to cry. but at the exact same time i feel miserable in my relationship. i mean what are the chances that she wants to break up with me too but is also in the same situation i am? maybe it's possible that she still loves and cares about me but wants to break up with me and can't bring herself to do it because she's also attached and emotionally invested into our relationship anymore. but honestly i feel like she definitely isn't attracted to me anymore and like she definitely doesn't feel that emotional connection. in fact, it's possible she might not even love me at all. she always gives me reassurance and tells me she loves me whenever i ask if she still does but lately it's starting to sound like a huge lie. her words say that she loves me while her actions and behavior say that she definitely doesn't. it's like there's no way to solve this situation without going through tremendous amounts of pain. either i break up with her and feel heartbroken or i stay with her and feel miserable. i know whoever reads this might be thinking "just tell her how you feel and talk things out. communication will help you figure it out together". but i've already tried that. i could always try it again but i feel like i'm not gonna get any different or better results. i don't know honestly... i'm sorry for using the comment section to vent about my feelings. i don't want to burden anyone else with what i'm going through.
Honestly I’m in the same boat. 6 year relationship with my boyfriend and almost all his actions say he doesn’t love me but all his words do. It’s hard me and him just broke up and of course this is all my fault lol. But honestly that pain is going to linger on you till you start resenting her and the relationship ends more messy. I say try it out and just keep notes of pros and cons and really think about yourself and what you need. Try talking once you know what you need if it isn’t met then the harder part will have a happier ending.
I think you both have to talk about it. If still can be fix, and if not then you both have to get away from that relationship. Everyday it's like you both are wasting your time spending it to the things that don't let you grow anymore.
I've been in a longterm relationship also, I feel like I'm always the one who tried to save our relationship, I'm inlove with him but he doesn't seem inlove with me anymore, I don't wanna break up with him coz I want him to be my first & last, I don't wanna start over again with another guy. But there's a time came when he doesn't even try, he didn't talk for me for months, and I realized everything from those time. Slowly, my love for him fades, though it hurts me a lot at first, I've come to many realizations. I've learned to let him go, and that was one of the best things I did coz I met a lot of better person in my life.
Bro, break up with her. It’s over. My girl left me 2-3 days ago, and much of what you described was in place.
the fact that you still have to ask her if she love you..thats a red flag.. Thats your intution kicking in that its pretty much over.. Yall, just hanging by the thread.
This hits home. Sometimes it’s not easy to walk away. A relationship should build you up and not break you down.
@@iamauroraborealis I understand all to well. I’ve had to work on building myself back. I realized those early feelings weren’t coming back and I’ve learned to find peace within myself. Life is very complicated and situations we get ourselves into don’t always turn out the way our hearts dream of.
@@iamauroraborealis yeah same, its 10 years of friendship that i had built together with her but suddenly, the distance lately is getting further and further. Idk what is happening.
@@iamauroraborealis even if its extremely hard to accept but I understand. Idk if its "lose my friends season in 2022" but suddenly lost one after another all a sudden. All friends ive known for sometime, some since school days. Then again some people can maintain their friendship for so long and still meet up and chat like nothing, lucky them.
My ex relationship did build me up and didn't break me down and yet I still realized that God gave me the freedom to walk away and never go back.
@Sasha fierce sometimes it’s not quite that easy.
1. They don't feel respected 1:20
2. They don't feel emotionally supported 1:42
3. You relationship has experienced a loss of physical intimacy 2:13
4. They don't feel adequate 3:20
5. They don't feel listened to 3:43
6. They no longer feel an emotional connection 4:20
I hope I could help! (:
Thank you! :D💕
Thanks!
Ty
How did you respond 2 months ago, when mine says it was uploaded a few minutes ago? 😳
@@nikkid4890 I was thinking the same thing.... 😬😬😬
I would rather be alone then be in a toxic relationship.
We all have toxic traits
I Totally Agree with you 😊 No Toxic Relationship !!!
@Oliver R. How does that equate to that? If you choose to date yourself and accept every part of yourself as you are, you can be able to distinguish any red flags if you come across a mate that you are sure to be with
@Oliver R. Oliver dont Jinx me. LOL😃
Best option
This is so true, me and my girlfriend have been together about 5 months and we’re friends for 8 months prior to our dating. I watched this video after the fact and all of this is so valid. My gf would ask me to do a lot of things like don’t raise my voice, don’t ignore her or don’t hang up on her and I would always work with her and understand her, but then she would do the same thing to me and I kept telling her it’s not fair you ask me to do all these things but when I ask the same you just say it’s who you are and you’re not willing to change. When we’d talk about it she wouldn’t say anything or just be upset so I broke it off. She loves me very much and was able to see what she was doing was hurting our relationship and was able to promise she will listen and understand when something upsets me. Communication and empathy is so important, if you’re struggling then take this video and my trial serious because it’s true.
When you can't trust the person you most love, you are forced to choose between that person and yourself, and you should always choose yourself
I recommend you to a great man his spells and manifestations are the best.💯💯💯💯💯
He helped get my ex back a few days ago under 24 hours without any delay💖💖💖💖
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The reason for me is when the tears became more than the laughs.
Same for me..who needs that shit??
Same...
Same
@@berifan390 same
@@sandrakissack1332 .we must take care of our self right now I'm so tired. The right person will come in a right moment ❤🌸
The worst feeling is when you didn't know what went wrong and why they suddenly walked out of your life and ended your relationship/friendship without any communication about it.
Yay trust issues
Exactly! I hate ghosting!
I recommend you to a great man his spells and manifestations are the best.💯💯💯💯💯
He helped get my ex back a few days ago under 24 hours without any delay💖💖💖💖
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I just left my girlfriend and I feel this video helped me understand better my sadness... I feel that #3 were the reasons why I felt so hopeless. I decided to break up to try to re-build our relationship from the ground up through friendship. However, I still fear that I might have lost her forever as a lover... I guess that's the thing about life, there is a risk to everything... Much love to anyone suffering right one. I hope you find some peace.✌️
You're brave and willing to re-build because you still believes in her. I envy you. I don't think my boyfriend has the same thought as you because he choose to cheat on me.
Im.here im.alone got heart broken scaredctrust anyone
i had to cut off a friend, mostly because she was manipulating and gaslighting me. looking back at the relationship as a whole, i felt like a lot of these signs were true in our friendship-- i didn't feel respected, heard, appreciated and therefore inadequate. thank you for posting your videos-- they've been helping me cope and heal.
Same, this happened to me recently as well
Same happened with me and I chose to leave my partner for 9 years or so vecause of all these reasons
Same here with any long time friends or not very long time friends. Walk away.
Similar situation happened to me too, this video was quite helpful 😃
@@sabrinaanabtawi Yeah, nobody have grown and change. And who wants Trump who is narcissistic and manipulative anyway?
Im the one who left. 100% correct. Some people don't listen to cues nor see them, especially during stressful times. Telling them straight forward of how you feel its the best way to let them know what you're lacking. It brings a huge chance for the other to change it. Or go to couples therapy. If its still doesn't work, Its best to leave. And that its one of the hardest things you'll ever do in your life! Trust me. Im day 3 away. Its not selfish, you will feel like you are tho, get a support group you'll need it!!! Cant stress that enough! Know they will be ok, you'll be ok, and loved will always be with you, sucks and it really is tough love. You did something you didn't want to do! You're strong and loved! (Loveable) Im sorry to others who are going through this. Its the worst feeling in the world. You got this and it will be ok.
I left as well. I struggled with the feelings of guilt for months and it still sits in the back of my mind at times. I just couldn’t see any other option
@@iDepth_- the best thing I been told is to forgive them and yourself. Forgiving them is easy. Forgiving yourself not so easy. I hope you are doing ok. Hope you have a loving support system. ❤️
I left two weeks ago for several of these reasons. It’s absolutely one of the most painful things I’ve gone through butI I told her many times I was unhappy and counseling didn’t help. She’s hurting a lot right now but she had her chance.
Thank you for this it helps a lot.
@@DaveMSippel ‘she had her chance’
here you go my g👊
Shout out to those guys that suffer even after they gave their all and their best. Shout out to those guys that sucked up the pain and tried to move on.
Shout out to those guys that stopped themselves from breaking down to tears and crying their eyes out.
I feel you.
yep
Crying is ok. If releases tensed up emotions.
True
Awesome. Well said. ua-cam.com/video/RoQyZRWIenY/v-deo.html.
can you explain why men quietly sabotage their connections by staying silent when their love needs them to speak up?
It hurts leaving the person you love. But sometimes, it's necessary.
Well said 😢
@@karthi_bioraja8075if you leave them you don't love them lol
@@divine555 this toxic mindset is exactly why people stay in abusive relationships, you are wrong.
@@SPARKEH91226 it's not abusive to stay with someone you love, unless you actually hate them, then him ahead and abandon them
@@divine555 youre just being willfully ignorant if you believe there arent people who are in love with people that abuse them. Majority of the time people will more willingly accept abuse from loved ones than from those they have no connection too. They forgive and downplay the abuse or even blame themselves. I suggest looking into it for yourself.
I related to this video so much from the position of the leaver! Leaving my last relationship was extremely hard because of how much I loved the person I was with... but all of those things added up just made me need to leave the relationship for my own happiness and well-being. Word of advice for anyone watching this video: If you want to keep your relationship healthy and going, take these items as things to make sure you have in your relationship: respect... emotional support... communicating & listening... etc etc... every point was spot on a part of what lead me to ending my last one.
One of the worst feelings is when you love someone that doesn't love you back. It took almost 15 years for me to realize that she truly doesn't feel the same way smh
She probably told you but you didn't believe her. I'm sure she's shown you time and again.
It took me 27 years to realize I was with someone who never believed in me to begin with. I know he loved me but not the same way I loved him. We weren't like minded anymore 🥺 .
Over 30 years, i'm broken but one day I hope to find someone honest and true.
😭😭😭
@@cecillesalvosa9319 It's ok its my fault all the clues were there I chose not to see them. I'm lucky there's still time but I have to heal first :) Bless you.
What about incompatibility? I think that's important, too. If you love a person but feel incompatible because your core values are different and get in the way of your relationship that's also a reason why people leave someone. You realize you don't want to sacrifice your values for the person you love and you don't want your partner to change and sacrifice theirs, either.
I think that somehow fits in these reasons. You can stay together, but it will be some work with different values. It can cause emotional distance, disrespect. I think you really need to talk about this a lot to find a way through it. And always have an understanding for the other person.
All together I left my last realtionship because of incompatibility. 😅 The love was gone, as well as the respect, intimacy in every way... but our different plans of and priorities in relationshilps and life, caused this huge distance - and all those other mean things - and made this constellation unbearable.
I can agree to an extent... but however true love will always last
I agree, true love will always prevail.❤
@lylavati I agree that you can try to work it out. I also agree that sometimes it just happens that it won't work.
Sometimes it just doesn't work out even if you try. On the long run if the values clash with each other and taking big decisions gets difficult and might make one unhappy it's for the best to leave, no matter how much you love someone. In a relationship you make certain sacrifices but then there are some that you shouldn't make.
For me, in order for a relationship to work long-term it takes compromise and certain sacrifice. Those two are fundamental for me in order to be able to agree on things. My ex didn't think that way.
I wanted at least two kids. He only wanted one. I would have liked to get married, he didn't. I'm more of a family person, he isn't. I wouldn't consider myself and extrovert but I'm more social than him. He's pretty much a loner and he likes it. My family has only seen him once or twice every year in the almost 5 years we've been together. He doesn't like sacrificing a lot of time for others, not even his best friends. He rather likes taking that time to spend gaming on his PC.
I always try to defend his way of being in front of others but at some point I just realized I'm sacrificing my values and beliefs for him and he wouldn't. So I decided to leave. If I'm not willing anymore to sacrifice important things for him I'm not going to ask him to do the same. Changing your beliefs and values for someone else, basically sacrificing yourself to become someone you're not is not a sacrifice you should make.
It's such a shame because other than that he's a really great guy and he was an incredibly loving and caring boyfriend. He always respected me. We had a lot of heated discussions when it came to attending my family events but other than that we never really argued about anything.
Obviously since I do love him, the seperation sucks...it hurts a lot. But I just think in the end we both would be better off with someone more compatible.
Great point. That was the case with me once. This girl had feelings for me once, and I did for her but at different times, but because we weren’t compatible for one another, I had to turn it down because If love isn’t compatible then it will never work. True love is something that reveals itself years after knowing someone, or at a certain time unexpectedly. It’s more of a realisation imo.
Having left partners who I loved, I think one thing not mentioned in this video is external pressures on relationships. In my experience, family can be a very damaging influence (one that I'm now, as a middle-aged man, learning to manage better). Constant pressure from external factors can cause otherwise loving relationships to fail.
Very true. It's usually the wife's mother telling her to leave.
I agree. Through my 41 year marriage, dealing with my toxic MIL has been very hard and caused some very bad fights between my husband and I.
@@novelist99 🩷
Do you mind giving me more insight on that? I am going through similar as my boyfriend does not see a long-term relationship with me due to my family being jacked up. His family is also terrible and he says he doesn't want to enter into a marriage with someone with a sucky family.
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"Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened."
- Dr. Seuss
@Your Replica lol right
I wanna...hnnN- *cries*
Awwww!
My ex talked bad about me behind my back and now I'm blocked from his social media ._.
@@dxrkbunny1406 makes sense
Sometimes, the other person is just using us for his/her needs, still the other partner keeps on loving so much. This time, we think - true love may change the heart, but it doesn't. We keep fooling our minds.
Well said. ua-cam.com/video/RoQyZRWIenY/v-deo.html. But there's also a song that says"I'd rather have bad times with you ,than good times with somebody else?
@ Staying alone is the best option ... ✝️✝️✝️
@@riddhivalecha5434 Sorry to hear. But look at the video. It might help your perspective. Well said. ua-cam.com/video/RoQyZRWIenY/v-deo.html.
I like living alone. I have extra money and I don't have to pay for someone elses lifestyle.
@@Jason-gt6ko Sorry to hear. But look at the video. It might help your perspective. Well said. ua-cam.com/video/RoQyZRWIenY/v-deo.html.
I decided to end it when I realized I never got what I truly wanted out of the relationship. They were able to skate by with putting little to no effort into the things I wanted, meanwhile I was sacrificing my own goals and dreams to make them happy. 4 years later it was time for me to go.
It means you had high expectations and stressed him the fk out. And you expect compensation for choosing to sacrifice youself. That was conditional and with an expectation. I broke up with her today because it was insanely stressful with all the expectations. We were both in love. People need to feel safe to show love and sacrifice, not stressed.
I just ended a relationship because the woman was not intimate. She's had a series of relationships where men have neglected her and she thinks that's normal. And in return she has learned to be physically distant. Limited affection and sometimes cold. I couldn't handle it. It just felt unhealthy. I'm pretty sad about it. But I don't know what I can do. Best to get out now.
She's still wounded, don't stay in such relationship, you'll just bleed. I tell you, just let go especially you're
aware that it's unhealthy. Don't waste your time.
Wow this was recommended to me after I broke up with my ex an hour ago.We were together for four years and I was the one who ended it.These were exactly the reasons why I left him,all of it.I was so torn if I was overacting or it was the right thing to do.It hurts so bad and I can’t help but blame myself for being rash sometimes but I also feel better.He said I built him as a person and asked why it wasn’t the case for me.I just realized maybe it’s a matter of treatment,not a matter of inspiration.I literally changed myself for him so we can have a healthy relationship but he can’t even respect me.I’m so tired of leading our relationship.
Man,feelings are sure complicated.I just hope time will really heal my heart.
It will!! Where there is a door closed, a Window will open for you
Sending love, I'm also in the same spot. It's been 3 weeks though
I understood every last word you said, I’m going through the same thing 😢
Give your heart time to heal, and take as much time as your heart needs.
Same my wife left me 4 months ago because of this I was working on all this but she called me and said she’s better now be herself. I was hoping for her to come back but I think it’s over
Speaking from experience, breaking up with someone is just as hard as being broken up with. It took me the entire summer to get over someone I left because I wasn’t being respected enough
That's because yer a btch
That's the social wisdom anyway.
We are living organisms. Its not ganna be good no matter what. Most of you are Duuuuuuuuumb so since respect is defined by each person entirely differently your all only assuming that anyone ever did respect you.
No it’s not and it’s insensitive to suggest it.
@@jaybee4288 be insensitive and people will gain wisdom, be sensitive and war will be unleashed upon the earth
@@jaybee4288 Speak for yourself, your experience isn't like everybody else's
I’m experiencing this myself I feel awful.
I pray that everyone who watches this finds true and lasting love. 🧡🤗
Thank you
Amen! Amen!
Keep your self holy, love God and the peace and joy (inspite of pin-pricks ...in life) will be there all along.
Thank you. Likewise. ☺️
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Walking away is not easy but that's what I did 5 years into my marriage because 5 of the 6 reasons you mentioned were missing and it was healthier for me to be alone than be in a toxic relationship. It took the next 14 years of my life to work on myself and learn to say NO to toxic relationships. Now I am in a healthy relationship that gives me all that I need. Walking away was the best thing to do🙏🏽❤
As women, I think we feel pressure to have children and settle before a certain age. Do you have thoughts on this? I'm curious based on your experience what you think.
How did u find out healthy relationship ? Im 34 and struggling with all these points in relation but I'm scared to leave because I might be alone for rest of life
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I've been in a toxic relationship for almost 15yrs. It's so hard the past yr. He relapsed on his alchohol too. I can't take this at all sounds stupid but it's mentally put me through the ringer. My family and counselors are helping. So I'm trying to stay busy!! I talk to God alot. It's not easy.
It always is, well done🤗
"They can't give you the kind of love you need to feel loved" / "You have opposing love languages" I think these are worth noting as well
AGREED! My problem is exactly on that Point actually
Even when you expressed your feeling / emotion to your partner, they tend to brush it off and ignore it.. repeating in expressing how you feel will only make you look sucks and loser.. thats why ending it would be better for your own happiness.
Thank you, this helped more than anything I've heard so far. I loved her with every ounce of love I had inside of me, and she said she was not the person for me. She promised me so many things yet still choose to walk away from me. I cared for her, always listened, never belittled her, always there. She said she loved me so much especially because of how I loved her, that she knew I loved her because of how nice I was even when she was mean to me. I gave her everything even when I didn't feel it in return and she still told me she was not my person, and that even if she learns herself she's not sure she will ever want it again. Now I don't, but I'm heartbroken because she never reassures me. I see most of you in the comments talk about being hurt and having to leave, but what about them hurting you... and leaving you too, even after the promises to always love you. I can't find a UA-cam video to help me through my misery. Please help
You need to let go. It will take some time. Give yourself time to heal too.
I take this as less of a coincidence and more of a sign that a video titled “6 reasons people leave the ones they love” showed up in my notifications. Last night my boyfriend was crying and said he wanted to break up. He loves me but he wanted to leave me because he was really sad and depressed and he didn’t want to burden me with his emotions, feeling he didn’t deserve to be loved after how he would act around me (well he isn’t around me. It’s long distance bc of covid but you get the idea). He goes through a lot of trauma. He grew up with abusive parents and lives with Dissociative identity disorder (multiple personality disorder). He was bullied and teased all his life for it. All he wanted was someone to love him but all his previous relationships ended in break up because none of them took the time to understand his feelings and frustrations. I never took his anger or any times he got upset personally. Having grew up with depression and other troubles of my own, I understood where he was coming from. He would cry and get angry all the time but I was always there for him. He was waiting for me to leave him and abandon him like others before him, but that never happened. I just had to tell him I love him and that I would never abandon him bc he means the world to me. Im really glad our conversation last night didn’t end in break up because if he left me I don’t know what I’d do without him nor would I want to imagine how he would cope without someone there love him
This is one of most beautiful thing I have read in a while🥺❤️✨
I hope you and your boyfriend stay together!! I Wish you the best for the future ☺️
Hope you and your boyfriend have a loving and understanding relationship and a delightful future 😊
You're a gem.
@@thereisnosanctuary6184 thank you
If you choose to leave someone, do it in a respectful way. Just because the relationship needs to be ended, doesn't mean the other person has done anything wrong, necessarily. And if you are the one who is being left, let them go and don't be a jerk about it. You love them and want them to be happy, so let them go find happiness.
Hah I was in a 9 year relationship and he ghosted me and broke up with me through my dad. He’s 38, btw. Then his mommy came out and he suckled her teet all the way home.
I don't wish anyone happiness that hurts me because they wont repeatedly listen, stone wall etc. I know I also have my flaws but this isn't respectful at all.
I did related
I loved my boyfriend for 4 years, but I was emotionally and verbally abused. I saw the red flags but ignored it, I thought I can make it better. We lost our physical intimacy connection. I couldn't take it any longer, he became very angry, he sucked out my energy, constant yelling, I was his target. He'd yell at me of nonsense. I was disrespected, used, taken for granted, controlled, and anything else you can think of. I loved him and it was so hard to let him go, but I know if I stayed I wouldn't be here any longer.
we are always attracted to people that feel familiar, even if that familiarity is violent. You absolutely did the right thing, take a good look at your reasons for being attracted to someone who is abusive and realise its not your fault - you can change your next relationship by walking away the second you see any of the red flags, before getting too involved. Hang in there! :)
Omg. It seems like you wrote this for me. I was also verbally abused from the very beginning but I just ignored all the red flags and stayed for 2years.He had hurt me physically as well. Resentment has turned me into a monster. I had to leave before the situation gets worst.
“I know if I stayed I wouldn’t be here any longer.” This is exactly it. Sending you a huge hug and heaps of understanding.❤️
Sorry to hear. Stay strong 💪💪♥️.Well said. ua-cam.com/video/RoQyZRWIenY/v-deo.html.
Wow.. exactly my story
Yes, zero emotional support, no respect for me, horrible communication. These are some of the reasons I ended up my relationship with my ex girlfriend.
I gave literally all of my heart and strength for her and our relationship, but she never done the same.
Three weeks and counting of freedom and self respect and love again.
This is for the ones who left .
HOW BRAVE OF YOU. How brave of you to choose to find yourself and worth again :))
Thank you ❤️
Thank you so much, that was exactly what I needed to Hear❤️
Been 8 months and still don't feel like that.
@@ken45y It will come!!
This is for the ones who were strong enough to STAY and stick it out. Something today's generations know nothing about.
Another reason is personal change or growth. I was with someone for 11 years and as time went on, I realized that the things that were important to us were very different in comparison. I felt like I took on most of the responsibilities of the household and started resenting my partner for not appreciating what I did with anything more than empty words and gifts. His actions said that he didn't actually care what I went through and expected me to continue taking care of everything. I kept telling him that what I wanted and needed more than anything was his help. When a person is exhausted and spends all of their time and energy taking care of someone that their life revolves around, that person gets burnt out in every way and gifts and thanks just don't cut it. I asked if we could get a new couch, new bed, a vacuum, stuff that in my eyes, we needed. I didn't think that they were shallow or unreasonable requests. I slept on an ancient futon, then an ancient couch for 8 of those 11 years so as not to disturb his sleep. I just wanted us both to be comfortable and able to function. He said it was all too expensive, but he had to always have the latest gaming consoles. Even the strongest love has a breaking point. If you really love someone who loves you too, please listen to their needs or you will lose them and end up wasting so much time in both of your lives.
God knows I love this man with all my heart but he doesn't respect and appreciate me so I just decided to leave him alone once and for all.
I wish I had that strength. Maybe I'll build it up one day.
@@OGAngie it's still a struggle but I will make it through. Thinking about him right now 💔
It’s crazy how you go through this and think you are the only one hurting but there is so many people going through it 💔 I just broke up with my ex 4 days ago moved out. I’m sad and miss him but I know later on I’ll be happier
@@deeegnima2541 What if he came back a changed man?
@@blaxpoitation8528 too late
This video really helped me. The person I was with never listened to me or even cared about what I had to say. They had not even the slightest of respect for me. For me, that was what most killed and ruined the relationship for me. I’m sure he developed these traits and behaviors from his family but that is no excuse for me to tolerate being treated that way when I love with my all.
6 things to keep your relationship healthy and going:-
1. Respect eachother.
2. Emotional support.
3. Physical intimacy.
4. Adequacy.
5. Communicate.
6. Emotional connection.
All the things my ex girlfriend didnt have.
I stopped physical contact with him even tho I craved it, the cuddling had to stop because emotionally I was hurting. The rest of the list are reasons I felt it was time to walk away despite the love I have for them that will never go away.
People in a relationship will sometimes complain, and that's normal. However, people need to hear positive comments too. I know someone that kept hearing nothing but negative comments. The woman he lived with could find fault, but could never give a compliment. He would vent to me, and eventually left her. He did say that if she would just say something nice or complimentary occasionally, that that would be a tremendous lift for him. However, apparently she couldn't. People need to hear positive things as that makes them feel like they are important and cherished. Negativity all the time doesn't work.
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Well said. I agree. Well said. ua-cam.com/video/RoQyZRWIenY/v-deo.html.
I left someone I still love, but I'm always worried if saying too much positive things would actually give a wrong idea, perhaps?
@@roxanarego486 I guess it's more about framing the negatives in a way that doesn't hurt the other person. Most people find this hard, though...
7. Sometime your partner just don't value you anymore and the desire to mate with other partners keeps growing. They start to develop FOMO and a huge for exploring intimacy with other people. If your are their first long-term partner maybe they don't know what to expect from you. They try to find empty excuses to rationalise their feelings. They try to change you to shape you the way they think you should be. Maybe they will learn to appreciate who you were only after going through a serie of difficult relationships, breakups and harsh realisations. They might have regrets one day but you, you will be at peace, knowing that you have everything to be a good soul and a great heart.
Or maybe they won't. It's all about deciding how far someone wants to give up on himself and compromise. In my case, I have compromised my ass off and now I am stuck with a child and her.
Yeah, sometimes they just take you for granted because of the insatiable human need to always do better
I strongly related to this video, I left my girlfriend whom I loved so much. it was hard to leave her, but it was worth it. I realized that there are other people out there who would be more than happy to have you as a partner. much love to all who had to leave their loved ones.
Thank you
Peace and joy of the Lord to the genuine partners🙏💖
Yup I did too ;-)
Left my wife 5 years ago for all these reasons. Part of me will always love her. I love what we had but I had to accept she was not treating me right for several years. All attempts to restore ‘us’ failed as she was just not interested anymore. So I moved away for both of us.
If I could add something in here is that in relationships, you mustn't compile any record of your partner's mistakes! All of us are bound to make it after all. Be understanding enough, if it's possible, before you go to bed in the evening, you have to free yourself from that anger and say sorry to them before you go to sleep!
Hope this would help! Thank you again Psych2goers team! You're all amazing! 🙂
This was so helpful emotionally and mentally to understand why I’m feeling this way, but walking away from someone I love your truly help me to understand. Truly thank you for the info.
The reason for me is my husband withholding his attention and care, he doesn't communicate with me. No hugs nothing , emotional abandonment.
Did you try to find out why?
That was me. For 13 years I was afraid to leave because it felt like I was giving up. Only to realize he had given up 10 years ago. No hugs, no affection, no playfulness, no emotional intimacy and definitely no sex. Made me feel like a burden and an annoyance and I found myself isolating… It’s been a year and a half and it’s been the best year and a half of my life. He refused to acknowledge or even talk about how to make it better, meanwhile I was driving into self help stuff and doing the work. Our son knew I had to go and we never talk to him about any of it come on it’s just from what he saw. I wanted to set an example for him of what real love should be, because that wasn’t it. Best decision I’ve ever made. Now I have a great guy who loves me so much and it’s the best sex of my life, and he’s truly my best friend. You deserve the same!
@@ComradeFromRhody401 God bless you and your new life, thank you for your awesome inspiring tweet. I wish all good things for you!💕
@@kdlofty oh yeah I try , he won't talk just silent treatment and playing the blame game ,if he says anything at all , he comes from a long line of emotional abandonment men in his family his dad did the same to his mom , grandpa same to his grandma...ect. I told my self many lies in the beginning to mask why the distance an lack of communication.
Maybe it is the way you treat him? Of course not. Women are perfect creatures God put on earth for one reason only, to point out the man's flaws and nag him into submission.
Sometimes the one who leave is the one who loved the most, but doesn't reciprocated or just taken for granted. It's hard to leave someone whom you shared years of your life. So cheers to those brave souls who finally have courage to leave the toxic relationships. Truely, love just ain't enough.
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I didn't leave the one i loved he died and left me
I did all I could on my part. I tried to give emotional support, I tried to make him feel special and I gave him reassurance because I don't want him to feel hurt or ignored. However, I think our wants oppose with one another. He's not the type of person I want and need to have in a relationship. He neither respects me or listens to me. He gives me reasons to feel insecure. I don't feel loved anymore, moreover, it's leaning more towards hate, which left me deeply scarred after he deliberately left me. After that, I came to the conclusion that it probably wasn't love since the beginning, and that was one thing I clearly misinterpreted. I mistook sexual attraction for love. Later on, he tried communicating with me again? It made me wonder what for. But maybe he's back because he's bored and I'm the only one gullible enough to fall for his acts. Lately, I've learnt to be more in line with myself and what I actually want. This connection we have should not advance, since his intentions are obviously not pure, and nowadays, I think I'm doing quite alright in avoiding him. I don't want to get stuck in an emotionally draining situation ever again.
I can refer you to the powerful relationship restorer who helped me manifested my ex back permanently with more love and commitment. He can help you and bless your relationship perfectly❤❤💯
Whatapp him,
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You're realizing what's really going on. And someone like that can't be trusted. Been there honey and had to learn the hard way do. And if he's done it to you, know you're probably not the first or last he's done it too and know you're value and respect yourself enough to walk away. I think you already know this though. ❤
... Well, that's why God puts sex to be WITHIN MARRIAGE to avoid all confusion, but people people abuse it outside of marriage. :/
Sometimes you have to leave a loved one to protect him/her from yourself or a former partner. If you are lucky, you can come together again, when the problem is solved. Just make sure your love knows, that he/she is not the reason and that you really loved him/her.
"It is because I understand, that I left, that I am leaving." - Dot (Sunday in the Park with George)
I can feel
I’ve been feeling/going through all those six reasons for several years, just holding onto my relationship for sake of my kids. But now that my kids are all grown up, it’s time to separate and go on with my life. Not easy living with someone who doesn’t show any emotions or feelings towards you!!
That must be especially hard! I hope you recover. Happy New Year! 🎊
I had a functional relationship once. My girlfriend fell deeper and deeper into depression because of terrible things which happened in her childhood while I was a bystander who couldn't find a real way to help her. In the end we also lost all intimate contact and she broke up but I managed to convince her to get professional help. Every now and than I looked if everything is okay with her.
Now roughly 8 years later I see her several times a year and we are very good friends who can tell everything to each other. I highly doubt that we will be a pair ever again but she often thanks me for the help in the rough times and I am happy that it turned out that way -> I just want to say: the end of love can have endless reasons but it doesn't allways mean the end of a relationship.
I relate big time. This is exactly what I just went through. I couldn’t tolerate the toxic relationship anymore even tho I still love him very much 🙏🏽❤️
Damn I still miss her. She was my everything. I still left and I know it was better for both of us.
Sometimes we meet the one we know is the right one for us, but at the wrong moment of our lives. Like I did. I hope I can be as strong and brave as you were to make this much needed decision, because I know I'll suffer. I love her and I'll still love her when I leave, and I know she loves me too, but I just can't give her the best version of me right now.
@@OrdepLiveira Why?
@@angelkhulz8207 because I'm broken. She is growing as an individual, while I'm sinking with the losses I've had this year, and at some point I couldn't even give her the emotional support she needed because I was too busy feeling so damn sorry for myself, so I can't avoid thinking that I'll sink her as well.
i recently just went through something similar, except that they were the one who ended up leaving :( i hope you are doing okay !! stay strong and remember that there is a light at the end of the tunnel !
@@lovebaejins sometimes it's better to say goodbye, and it makes more sense than hurting yourself for longer.
All 6 reasons are the reasons why my ex girlfriend and I broke up. I never got closure with her but this video helped.
Sweetie you need a husband or maybe not, but you definitely shouldn’t have a girlfriend, our Father God isn’t pleased with it. I’m not judging you, I’m just sharing the gospel with you as it pertains to you. Your WORTHY to be SAVED
Relationships should uplift and build you and not to destroy you, either way it will change you.
I left my gf because i didn't feel she was really listening to my problems. I was always there when she needed to, and solved whatever i made wrong. She didn't. She just listened, but took no action to solve the problem until it was way too late.
I come here to listen to this girl... Her voice itself has a healing power.
Leaving someone you truly love has to be one of the hardest things one will ever do in their whole lifetime. 😢💜
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@@ericus1331 Thank you Eric but nobody can help in my case thanks anyway🙂
I just lost the love of my life because of all of these reasons. We started off as friends and lived together for 6 years. We grew apart. I miss her dearly.
Same situation as you. But we only lasted a year living together in the end.
Some True Points why people leave the person they love
1. Mutual respect
2. They don't feel vulnerable
3. Missing physical intimacy
4. They don't feel adequate
5. Don't feel listen to (less communication)
6. Lack of emotional connection
7. Partner has an addiction to drugs
8. Gaslighting you
@@Berkovicka Yes definitely!! 8 lol
Sounds like a personal low self-esteem issue. I believe if the individual learn to love themselves more they would know when to leave way before the relationship get serious but at the same time people change their mind despite if all these things were provided. I know people who met their opposite as friends then end up either breaking up or divorced because they no longer love each other due to falling out of love. Problem with love is an emotion that go on/off but commitment is being able to ride it out. Everything in life is a work in progress and it don't matter who your with good or bad. Yes there is many variables between good or bad in a person but realistically to lay out this video as some form of universal law is misleading. If what you laid out is accurate then their wouldn't be broken families after broken families, everyone would never enjoy being single and be in content and grateful with the person they have.
@@jamesreid3954 I was in in overdose stage she left me now I just only smoke cigarette and weed..we're still talking sometimes.after she left me she felt in love with my and her bf now both they're broke I feel sorry..uuuuhhhuuum!!
Despite all the talks still loving her.
I don't know what my great love
Is just sacrifice?
Or
A new beginning its tough.
Sad but true #metallica
as someone who left someone i loved, this did give me closure and validation
I remember being vulnerable once. I remember as if it were yesterday. The empty void I was in was filled in a second the moment I saw her. My thoughts, body and soul fixated on her. Her beauty was limitless and her voice was gentle. Moments that a person will never forget mainly when one feels as if the air in their lungs were their last. I was completely vulnerable that I fell deeply in love with this woman. 4 years later, I know parts of her but she knows all of me. That day she wore a dress white as if were the first light I saw. No color could radiate her Beauty and flaws more than white. My heart was in awe. Music started playing but was drowned out when all I could do was gaze upon her elegance. It truly was a sight to behold. Words were exchanged but before I could say anything, her love was sealed with another. I love her. I always will but her happiness is what matters.
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A person walks away because the other one didn't care! ❤️ Yourself enough to walk away.
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Yep, and when communication is no longer reciprocated, saying goodbye/walking away is the only way to disconnect from any emotional connections. Then a mind can finally be at rest and the healing process can start.
@@oseremenlaura5968 .
True. Well said. ua-cam.com/video/RoQyZRWIenY/v-deo.html. But there's also a song that says"I'd rather have bad times with you ,than good times with somebody else?
I just recently broke up with my girlfriend of 7 years and this video summed up my decision to leave perfectly. Thank you for showing me the proper way to describe the emotions that I was feeling.
I left my old partner once because of his lack of communication rather he would basically fall off the map.! I love them so much I came back he asked me what is it I want and I told him. He said that I'm glad we're back together because I do love you and miss you and the only person that has actually truly inspired me to follow my dreams. Yet and still the lack of communication is what drove me crazy! I spoke on it several times so I couldn't speak on it any longer I realize you didn't respect my opinion or my feelings so I had to leave... I still miss him still think of him and still love him deeply but I realize that the reality is he is a not ready for a serious commitment even though he said he wanted to marry me and great detail. But he is awesome not ready to come to the realization then I am a person who has feelings and I will Express them when I feel they are not being honored! It's all the lines single I'm no longer with heartache or rather headache good night
You are so brave 💖
I have similar situation!
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What do you mean by lack of communication?
Stay strong. Well said. ua-cam.com/video/RoQyZRWIenY/v-deo.html.
Its difficult to love someone who feels they are inadequate. Its impossible for you to change there mind. They have to gain confidence on their own before they're ever ready for a real relationship.
It's this one.... He left with the reason of thinking I deserve better and he will never amount to anything that will make me happy.. And he got it all so wrong. I wanted no one else and I did my best to make him see his worth and make him heal from all his trauma and insecurities.. I still pray he heals someday..
@@sessrinwillreignsupreme5050 same happened to me... stay strong 💕
@@carolinabasaez9069 thank you.. And to you too
@@sessrinwillreignsupreme5050 I feel so bad for you that this happened. I agree it is almost impossible to change someones mind in this. I know, because I did this a couple of years ago with someone I truly cared for. Everything was going great, but I felt like I could not be myself and after a while, that caused a falling out between us. And that was it. Done for me. I was convinced that continuing in this (seemingly beautiful) relationship would only cause her more frustration and disappointment. ‘Why would she love me if she really knew who I was’. I learned (years later) that this seed was planted at a very early age, and that I was in total denial. I had no idea what was going on, but no matter what, I had to do it. So painful. I felt I had no one to talk to, and I felt so alone. There is always a regret about what I did not do to prevent it, but I am grateful that she is doing very well as of now and I hope you are too, I hope that this made you a stronger person. I wish you all the best in the furure. Love you all for sharing this. Stay strong 😘😋
@@sessrinwillreignsupreme5050 same happened to me after 6 years , she said I deserved better
She has issues with self worth
The Lord gave us free will, when a person walks out on you, that is the main sign that they want to be free. Never force someone to want to be with you, that is not healthy for you. You need to understand that if someone doesnt want to be with you, it's okay, you will find someone else that does.
....for none shall luck a mate.
That for me.i love him but most of the time he never like me.everyday am crying
I understand but I cannot leave him.what to do
@@Hazelryntong2896 Let him go. Ask God to disconnect you from him, ask God to remove that love for him out of your heart. Release that person, love should balance. Stop hurting yourself more and more, move on and try to meet new people or focus on studies.💜
Thanks for ur suggestion on me
.I pray every time but i dnt get any answer from God. I cry every day.i know that he dislike n don't love me
The "emotional bonding" only occurred when we were together (only once a week by his suggestion). Once he left my home, he wouldn't communicate often. We were both single and retired, though in our early fifties. I told him twice that he was kind of cutting our emotional bond when we weren't together. Then I had a terrible vertigo episode and he didn't try to help me. That was the moment I decided that he didn't deserve me. I don't know how I handle my emotions, and the truth is that I didn't shed a tear. In one side was the bliss of our encounters and in the other my dignity. I decided for the latter one. Our relationship lasted eleven months and was very enriched by talking, music, laughter. We're are both cult people so we had a lot of talking material. I truly believe we have to take care of our partners in order to fulfill our part in a relationship.
You forgot one: they don’t feel ready for commitment
Another one, they betrayed your trust and completely blindsided you.
It's been 30 years since I had a relationship with someone and I'll keep waiting until that special someone comes along
Life is too short to wait for someone ❤️ ..when they had actually moved on in there lives
@@dr.apoorva4897 You missed the point..hes waiting for a special person..not for someone to come back.
@@margomazzeo1680 what about the point he hasn't had anyone in 30 fukn years ????
better to be alone than be with the wrong person
There is NO special someone out there for you. You're gonna be alone till you pass away. 🤣
You said exactly what I had gone through. I still Love him so much but then I can't be with him, its the hardest, saddest n most hurting decision of mylife. Its been 13months n m still having real hard time to move on. Felt lighter to know they are others like me who had gone through the same pain. "Stay strong to those who are going through this pain. You are not alone." Thank you.❤
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This was insightful and relatable, it just stings when one person tries too hard to accommodate the other and then the other person gaslights you and makes you think like you’re the problem…
Leaving someone you love is the hardest thing to do. 🥺😢😭
😤Some men were created to be celibate. Celibacy is their test in the world. Because they're sensitive and emotional and because they are dependent on people and human emotions of feelings of love and loyalty, celibacy is their test and celibacy is their answer. Celibacy is their blessing and celibacy they think is their curse. And whenever an intelligent and wise man goes into a relationship and seeks love and happiness in this world from a woman, he ends up suffering so much through other reasons that he ends up emotionally and mentally breaking down and becoming depressed and dependent upon a man emotionally physically and eventually sexually.
And many of them end up falling in love with younger boys after sexually being involved with an intelligent and emotional man who feels dishonoured and humiliated by the sexually serving their boyfriends and husbands.
The answer is very simple. Celibacy...
Purity. Piety. Chastity.
Although for a person who is mentally and emotionally depressed and spends all his life crying weeping and wailing and being sad, the greatest nightmare of that person is to be single and chaste. But if they could suffer that pain of celibacy for 3 to 5 years, then they would find such happiness and such fulfilment in their lives and they would never ever have to go through the long part of seeking sexual pleasure from a woman and then falling in love with a man and then becoming a criminal to keep that man and then becoming a murderer and a monster and a weak person who is dependent on another person's love and has to destroy the universe and every religion and every law just to justify themselves and they're sick sexual sexuality.
Although celibacy and Chastity is a word of fear and terror to men. These two words hold every honour, every friendship, every happiness, every power, every fulfilment, health happiness honour respect true friendships ultimate happiness and ultimate success in this world and the next for every single emotional and intelligent man.
No man in the world suffered because of celibacy. No man in the world ever suffered because of chastity. No man was ever famed because he was celibate. No man was ever tortured because he was chaste. No man was ever tortured and humiliated and assaulted because he was pious. No man was ever killed murdered or framed for being celibate and chaste and pure
Life is short. Discuss your feelings with your partner, and if they don't mind losing you, then it's okay to leave. Don't leave someone who genuinely loves you for mere insecurities
Guys only feel regret for leaving someone they love when they realise that person did no wrong and was the best for them, you can argue with your keyboard
As much as I did my best to make my ex happy, he left me anyway, and even though I still love him ill never go back to such a confused person
Stay strong 💪💪♥️.💓💪. Well said. ua-cam.com/video/RoQyZRWIenY/v-deo.html.
If you don't mind me asking, what kind of insecurities? I may have a similar problem. Your insight could be a great help.
at the same time you would leave him if he showed insecurity. you cant fix it , just ignore it. But do you want that all your life?
I disagree. I did leave for mere insecurities and it was one of the best things I ever did and it lead to the new blessing and that is a new man who after eleven years of dating has now become my husband.
@@EmilyGloeggler7984 well that isn't always the case
I can resonate with the first one, as well as having enough respect to be honest with your partner. Sometimes it’s the little things that matter but go unnoticed. We all deserve respect.
Strange knowing I felt these things during the relationship yet I was the one broken up with. Sticking around even though someone is hurting you hoping you can create change together only for them to disregard you as soon as they experience a fraction of what you've been experiencing. I think it gets forgotten that emotions have a chain reaction, what you give out to someone is what they take in and give back. You don't show love... over time neither will your partner, you dont listen over time your partner will stop speaking and sharing, you don't support vulnerability overtime your partner will stop being vulnerable.
I heve faced the same fate ! I have been going through so many videos and comments about this but you are the one i found closest to. Thank you for the comment and don't feel you are alone ! currently i don't know what to do and feels like "somebody please kill me"😢
Me too. I gave my all but he took it for granted. Although I admit, I must have done all the things like in the video.
“You don’t understand me” - she said. On the other hand she doesn’t share her expectations. Accidentally, i found this couple questions game “Lovify”. In this game, you have to guess what your partner likes. My gf loved it. Whenever I guess wrong, I ask her more about her expectations, and we are trying to improve. One day i wanna marry her 💞
Pretty accurate. I divorced my wife for a myriad of reasons, some of them were mentioned in this video. Everything I did was never enough, if I made a mistake it was blown out of proportion. Every misstep I made wasn't exaggeration and everything she didn't do was always excused. If she was ever in the wrong it would take her days to figure it out and only if I apologize for how I reacted when it hurt me. I could go on for paragraphs but the point is, I can relate and confirm that this video is pretty much spot on.
I'm doing much better now and happier than I've been in a long time. I'm on my way to a better life and helping my child heal and recover from the trauma that they experienced and partly do to my ex-wife's not listening to me and her talks behavior that most people if not all people in her social circle will never hear about or believe that she was guilty of.
Sounds like she was a Narcissist.
Dude this is literally me. You wrote my words. I wouldn't hear the end of my one mistake, or my insecurity would repeatedly hit me in the face. I was perfectly understanding of even her abusive anger outbursts and all insecurities. I'd distance due to stress and she'd still blame me for acting different because others were nicer to her that day. I broke up just today. It feels like shit since we loved (I loved way more deeply I guess) but these are red flags aren't they. Have you moved on?
I’ve had to step out of a relationship because I checked off almost every one of these reasons. This was surprisingly eye opening.
I've left someone I truly love.
And I don't exactly know why.
But I honestly believe that it was the best I could've done for both of us.
I still love her, and I don't know I'd love anyone else like I loved her.
And though it hurts me like hell, I'm strangely happy with it.
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