Dark Night of the Soul (Stages, Purpose, & How to Get Through It)
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- Опубліковано 16 лип 2024
- In this video I discuss the Dark Night of the Soul, which is essentially a period in our life where we begin to lose many of the things we identify our sense-of-self with allowing the egoic self to begin to fall away. Oftentimes the Dark Night of the Soul is a very difficult period within one's healing journey, and it is important top be aware of the stages one will experience as they move through this aspect of their journey.
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Thank you for this video. I’m finally coming out of mine after 8 years. On top of the dark night, I also suffer from depression and anxiety, CPTSD, BPD, I’m also an HSP and empath and coming to terms with all of this almost put me in the grave. I’m doing better now, but damn it’s been a ride! I don’t wish this on anyone, but for those going through a similar experience: Hang on and get help. You’re not alone 💜 Sending you light and love my spiritual friends.
One of the biggest things I learned through this experience is that resistance to this process is the cause of the suffering. Once you figure out that you NEED to feel everything (good, bad, and ugly) and that you need to let go and go through it, reintegration will begin. Thank you so much for your videos!
Absolutely, whatever we resists persists. Even now, I tend to judge myself for all the emotions that come up and try to push them away, but eventually I always end up having to lean in and allow them to just flow through!
Thx
I need to understand this. Do you mean that you also need to feel physical pain from things like severe sensory processing issues (that cause my body to experience loud sounds like a jolt from a stun gun)? Is that somehow a part of this?
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Romans 8:1-3 (demons know this power but they are on the receiving end)
Been going through the dark night since my husband got sick and then suddenly passed away in 2021. Life as I knew it was over. My foundation gone. Dealing with beaucratic BS and financial issues ever since. Life is uncertain. Don't know whats going to happen to me and my son. Ive never prayed so much in my life, I meditate everyday. I know I'm going through a major transformation. I see signs all the time, especially repeating numbers. Its been the most difficult time of my life. And I hope I wont be going through it for years like some of the folks on these comments.
How are you now ?
My man, thank you for mentioning the suicidal ideation. While in this flurry or emotions and confusion, I often allow my mind to tell me that this ends in my suicide, and it feels so incredibly real that I sit and shake and cry. This process is brutal, and unlike anything I’ve ever felt. With the guidance of so many people out there like yourself on UA-cam I can see this has a beautiful ending.
Guy! I hope you managed to hang in there. By 1 i'd had a NDE. My entire childhood was a DNOTS. Suicide was my obsession. At 19 started therapy=the purge. Found reasons to stay alive (especially the arts!!!) Recently turned 70, miracle i did not succomb. It can get easier
@@carlorizzo827 still alive my friend, and doing way better. Thanks for checking in!
@@human4073 guffaw long long ago
Physical symptoms includes twitching in body , hair fall, pimples all over the body, fast micturation , excessive sleep in initial stages, nails grow rapidly, Aftershocks during sleep.
I visited a friend today and felt this incredible heaviness. I left her apartment and started crying uncontrollably for nothing I could really put my finger on
You have great videos.
I agree.
It is a sad reality though that abusive /neglectful parents usually bring this on. I’ve never heard of anyone with a “normal” childhood experiencing this because they grew up knowing their true self. Not blaming. Just an aspect thats rather angry that I even have to do this because other people for generations chose not to do the work. I am aligned with this. I realize it is more important for me to cultivate friendships that understand this process because only having friendships that don’t understand this has not been as fulfilling.
Yes I am in the stage of a hit of each but deep in the dark night. There’s days I feel good but days all I do is cry and just want to close my eyes and never wake up again. Purging big time. People have been leaving my life for two years now and recently quit smoking and canibas and having very bad withdrawals but I’m getting there, not eating much, can no longer eat junk or even meat. I just want to come out of this. Having three children with autism and adhd and bipolar doesn’t help me either , I also have adhd and bipolar. And my TF left me 8 weeks ago, my mother died three years ago, my son stopped taking to me, my grandkids are now with their father and haven’t seen them in over a year. This is a living nightmare , hardest thing I’ve ever gone through and feel like I’ve been going through this dark night of the soul slowly and now rapidly for 10-11 years now. I feel so helpless. I listen to so many meditations to help.
7:20: I went through this stage while I was a teacher in the classroom. It was a wild experience and so upsetting at the time to feel like every image in fiction was a lie but even more that I had felt fulfilled as a teacher because I was reflecting my own traumas onto my students when I was focused on helping them.
THANK YOU!!! I am glad you mentioned about the suicide thoughts. Mine was very close. I was worried that I loss my mind, going crazy. My parents fought all the time. And from this I had been living with a split In myself, causing me to not feel whole. THANK YOU SOOOO MUCH!!! I hope you help tons of people! God bless you wilt love and light! Namaste
Im really glad this was so helpful!
Might you know of anyone in salina ks that understands the dark night of the soul!?? I cant seam to find any like minds here! Love love love to you all!!! Namaste
Surrender to god and acceptance is the key to come out from it
As much as early u learn lessons from this dark night of soul as much as early u will come out from it
Carl Jung also left beautiful theory about it. My first dark night of the soul was 10 years ago and spiritual awakening... along the way I forgot about it and had a few more lovely events... but since summer 2020 my ass has been kicked so hard that I cannot ignore it anymore. Especially after having a fire in the middle of the night. I started with more psychological approach in November and now I am adding spiritual approach.
and I keep hearing Lobo in my head 🙄
This is the best description of the dark night of the soul!! Thank you
I am in the 13th year of my dark night of the soul and it's painful and scary. I wish to come out someday. I don't know when. Thanks to videos and guides such as these, we know there's a way out to the other side. Thank you. :)
Hold on to the Cross, offer your suffering for salvation of others,l Have 40yrs of dark night, and l keep my faith in God
@@donnacurran3388 Thank you. Wish you warmth and light.
It's understandable to want an end particularly as this process is quite intense. You have to surrender control though. You have to accept what's coming up unconditionally with compassion, love, softness. Remember these emotions beliefs are part of your experience, part of your self. Talk to them, welcome them, tell them you love them, thank them, alchemise them. This is happening for you, not to you. When it gets difficult and confusing and crazy, try to welcome and accept these feelings too, try to alchemise them through gratitude, thanking them is very powerful. I too am going through this 12 years now and am intensely purging right now, it can be challenging and exhausting. Praying for you my friend. Remember you are always, always, your authentic loving Self
This has been one of the best videos describing the process. Thank you so much. I’m currently in a big purge and everything you described with what the ego is doing is spot on! Thank you for this 🙏🏻
Absolutely, the best video I have come across on the DNOTS! It has helped me tremendously 🙏
Nearly 3 years into my second dark night. After the first one I just went back into my avoidant ways, this time I’m really sitting with it but it’s horrible and wish it could end soon
I love that you broke it down in stages because I’ve came further than I thought I’m on stage 4 but I’ve sacrificed and started to embrace it. It’s a ride and I’m just waiting to reach my stop
You've just described exactly what I've been going through for the past few months. Thanks so much for explaining the stages. At times I feel as if I'm going insane, and thanks to people like you, I'm beginning to trust that The Dark Night of the Soul is the dissolution of the ego. Namaste. 🙏
Self care critical now✨
Thank you for this video. I don’t feel so alone after watching it. Again, thank you. ❤️
Only this week do I realise I have went through this experience for the last four years. What a relief to have it behind me. Thank you so much for explaining this🙏🏻❤️
This is the best explanation I have heard, however how does one "just surrender" when even your ability to put food on the table is gone and you have people expecting and looking to you to make a contribution? This is my current situation and I fear that I may not be around to get to the other side of this, that the stress of the shame and embarrassment will force my hand.
Same I’m scared I won’t get the things I desired and be happy. I’m scared if everything I thought was wrong.
Same. I'm isolating which has accelerated the healing process but I'm not fully functioning.
I don't think there is an answer besides listening to your inner voice for guidance.
Thank you for the descriptions of the stages! Hearing that helped, I think I'm getting into the void stage, literally today I thought about how naked I felt, and was so frustrated because I felt like I had let go of everything already and yet I still find myself feeling stuck in this shittiness, unable to live life normally - I still feel like I'm on another planet sometimes as others around me.
Your description is the first I've found that gives context, thank you
Feeling like I’m finishing up the Void into Reintegration & there’s still this piece of ego that wants to stay in the dark night, in the cycles of addictions & smallness. Whew, let it burn
Sending love & blessings to you all 🙏🏼
❤ thank you for a wonderful video my son went through this at 19 years old and college turned my life upside down 7 years we went through it and had no idea about Dark Knight of Soul any of that I just knew my son was diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia and I did not have a paranoid schizophrenia type of kid took away his basketball years he's 30 years old now but thankfully for however it push me deeper into my spiritual journey and to heal my kid no medications and changed his diet and his mindset he's a whole heck of a lot better everybody left him even if my ex-husband his dad but with my prayers and God and my current husband helped out however it was a journey❤❤❤❤
Whew! This is one of the best explanations of what I'm growing through. I actually thought about superstition that's how I'm being affected. You placed clarity and everything you said resonated. Thank you!!!💙
I’ve also wondered about if I have some type of spirit attachment.
You are absolutely spot-on right! I'm walking through the dark night right now, as are others around me. I SO APPRECIATE the clarity and simplicity of your words on this. I'm feeling more grounded in understanding after watching!!
Ok.... so i woke up feeling really good, eat 2 eggs and 1 chocolate chips pancake. About one hour ago. Sat in the sun for about 10 minutes now I'm feeling yucky again! I dont know how to find anyone in salina ks! YES this is getting scary! Aaaaaa. Ok so I'll watch this video again. Praying for some positive feedback! Love love love to all!!! Namaste
I went through this 6 years ago and it lasted about 3 years. It ended for me when I removed hate and judgment from my life and started viewing the world with discernment.
@@flyprincess69
I’ve been working on removing hate, resentment, disappointment, ect for 4 years and felt good about how far I’ve come. Feeling love for everyone…..and then wham! I sort of hit a wall. It’s been about 3 weeks now and I I’m not getting any better. It’s scary right now.
@@samanthamariah7625 ua-cam.com/video/qOh-iOaWTt8/v-deo.html
Remove the chocolate pancakes. Seriously, not a troll.
Sugar and white carbs (I’ve discovered) literally have a depressive affect on me…maybe it does for you too?
I’m sending you love. I’m in the second half of my DNOS. It’s a roller coaster. I high recommend Sophia Persephone and Christina Lopes work ..don’t give up ❤
I’m coming out of it after two plus years. I lost everything, my home, my job, money, my car, I had a crisis of faith where I questioned if God was real, my spiritual path shifted, my relationship to the divine shifted, my identity shifted and I had the death of my son to a drug overdose where he lost his battle to addiction, I cried out God and it was and is such painful time but at the same time there was so much beauty. Ya a modern medicine woman and step into my indigenous heritage and reclaimed my indigenous roots.
Thank you. I needed to here this.
Thank you for articulating this so clearly. I'm in it and ready to face it. It's very hard. Your observations are so clear, you are throwing out a life preserver. Thank you.
I've been going on wisdom gained from previous experiences with this unknowing darkness for the last year. But I've never walked through a patch that was this dark for this long.. I felt the need to hear some comfirmation to continue my journey with peace and faith. Your video was everything I already knew but needed to hear again just to remind myself I know this proces and I'm not going insane.. and I'm not alone. Thank you Zack, this was very meaningful and precise. You seem like an excellent coach!
Hang in there friend, I can totally relate to what you're experiencing and the doubts that come with it. The longer and darker the period is, the larger the growth and expansion we're preparing for!
@@zackalexander1173 Thank you, means a lot :)
Spot on once again! Thank you!
This was such a good breakdown to explain something so blurry. I am in the midst of Purge Void stages and just knowing what's going on instead of being at the mercy of seeming random and intense emotions is helpful. Thank you 🙌
Very grateful for this. Thank you ❤
So grateful for this wonderful content! very informative 🙏🏾
Thank you for explaining your videos so thoroughly!!! I appreciate you!
Thank you sooo much for listening to your calling! You’re absolutely fantastic! This resonates to the core. ❤️☺️🙏🏼
This is great man. Thank you
Thank you for this video. It’s the first time I’ve heard an amazing explanation of it. I’ve gone through it quite a few times in my life and I’m going through it again now. I’m in a place of isolation and it’s painful, so I will take your points onboard. I do feel I’m called to healing others, but it’s the not knowing how to.
This video is a life saver. 🌺 I understand many things now.
Thank you for this video ❤
This is perfect.
Thank you
This is so helpful. Thankyou for sharing this with us all 🙏❤️🌟
Thanks Zack … today I’ve had the tiniest shift back into the light and this video has been very helpful 🙏🏻
Very clear presentation … that’s where I am right now…
I’m on stage 5 thank God! And thank God for the lessons🧘🏾♀️🙌🏾🤍
Thanks for sharing!! 🙏🙏
Wow do I appreciate you and this video , 2 yrs now been going through this and no one to talk to about this but found a good channel and it has been helping me through this by watching videos. I’m about to turn 65 so a lot of yrs and beliefs under my belt built up. Fucking hell right now in all areas of life but excited for what’s to come after this, hang in there people. Thank you so much for this video brother. Namaste
Thank you Zach, I am currently in the thick of it and it is soooo comforting to know that you are not going crazy whilst being in it and just wishing for it to end. This seems so foreign. I am beyond grateful🙏🏽
I'm pretty sure this is what I'm going through right now. Healing my spirit. Thank you for the video.
Excellent breakdown of the DNOTS. I've had two so far in my life, and you describe the process well.
I needed thus so much ,,, thank you xxx
I've been going through this. I've sought information, Eckhart Tolle, Buddhist concepts and practices, Pema Chodron, personal professional counseling from those who understand the nature of egoic attachments - for survival. Neuropsychology, etc. This video described succinctly what i have been through, gave me an exciting realization that what I've been through is not insanity, but a natural, logical process of knowing who I am. And it's good - hard work - but intrinsically good. Opens a world of possibilities that my egoic mind, programmed, hard wired habitual thinking, could not have imagined as Happiness. Freedom. Peace.
Sadly, most people think it only happens once... but it happens either continuously or for a long period of time
Amazing Video!
Thank you so much brother. I'm trying to not give up
It helps if your forgive all and let go for give all attachments and let go even all people who hurt your they didn’t know and forgive the ones that did THEN forgive yourself past lives people You hurt or may have - forgive your ancestors too for what they may have done and release it all ... feel your heart ♥️ open and release the baggage forgive and love yourself and then say now you allow your heart to be filled with light and love from higher source and you will be amazed. I had no fear after this and realize what I am not WHO I felt lighter and also gave everything away even jewelry o started to FEEL that I was getting messages to do things for others and I would stop ✋ whatever I was doing to help people it was a lot then I scaled it back and have a balance now that is beautiful! Good luck with your journeys and know you are not what you think 🤔 at all YOU are much more!!!
Thank you very much for this video
I hope I come out of this. Thank you!
Absolutely you will , your creator can see you thru out the storm never give up look at the sky's the earth is here for you. Much blessings to you, stay strong
Great video!!
Thank you man
It's really the grieving process isn't it? 🤔 Just on steroids if the loss was heavier. Void as depression (attachment to past) being the longest stage; reintegration as acceptance sets you free to make new, healthier connections.
Non-attachment 🗝
Thank you! Thank you! Multiple Dark Nights unfortunately alcohol abuse drug them out many years longer. Sensing another might be on the horizen. My back is tight and in spazams...bracing. Be like water!
Good video, you do a good job❤.
Thank you !
Bless you bro
This is" EXACTLY " what I am going through
So helpful
Thank you
Great video. Thank you. Ive been going through this for 15yrs now. I cry every day.. but im coming out the other side. You describe all the feelings ive had so well. Peace.
Thank You wery much! I needed this. I'm very religious muslim,but European,convert,I do not speak arabic and have no conections with people outh of Western culture. So I have no one around me to tell me theese things or to help me with this. You can imagine now how hepfull You are to me tight now! Thank You a lot! ❤️
Can You give me advice how to combine work and sicial obligations with this stage of spiritual growing? Specialy becsuse I've been social activist for lest 20 years or even longer. I would apriciate Your ansver. And thanks again!
Thank you.
Ive been in mine almost 2 years. I keep praying for it to end
Amazing
Brilliant
Going through it right now 😪
I can't figure out whether I've been through it or not. I definitely have experienced elements of these stages after my dad's passing which spiritually awakened me but there's no clarity as to what I experienced was actually the dark night of the soul or just the pain of my dad's passing which brought in depression and insomnia. I felt a disconnect from God, felt empty, my belief system changed, I changed but everything was a mix.
From my experience with the dark night, you absolutely know when you're going through it. All the boxes are checked. Your in the pit. It totally sucks. If you're questioning it , it's probably not a dark night.
YESSS!!!
Feel like I might be at the void part.
Swear I'm going through this right now. 😭
I`m in stage between 3 and 4....i feel a lot of grief but also feel empty.
Is it possible to have a mental illness and dark night? Is it possible to confuse a mental illness with a dark night?
Definitely
This is really helpful as I am going through this at the moment. I am on antidepressants so will I still be able to go through this process? Xx
Immerse yourself in the Word of God and in prayer for the Light
Perf vid
I guess today is the “ this is happening, this is real” for me 😩 sigh
The dark is all about insecurity, muscles, death, authority, pain and high testosterone.
How you deal with isolation?? Ive struggled to build up the right friendships cause due to childhood trauma an abandonment I've been a people pleaser all this time.. I was not even aware. I suddenly don't wanna see anyone.. but I feel im going maddd so many days alone...
i dont trust anyone, and yes, a lot of emotions crying at any time.. all falling down, mad in a way with myself for treating me so badly and putting me down so much in friendships and relationships.. is it good to find a therapist? a psycoanalist? I just left mine after 3 years of psychoanalysis....
so in this void alone in a way... how do you deal with loneliness??? and isolation?? or is it supposed to be like this..alone? full time...
Whay if I don’t knownwhat do i have to let go of (idk what for m I attached)
Attachment? Purging the ego ? Losing sense of self ? = Buddhist Philosophy
hi zack. my name is dana and i think i’m going through the dark night of the soul but i’m not sure. i don’t know if it’s the dark night or depression or soul death. all i know is i’m so unhappy and scared and i can’t do anything. i’m so angry but then i know what i’m feeling. i feel like so lost and angry. i had several “mental breakdowns” i think i have no idea what the hell is wrong with me. i feel numb sometimes and all i could think about is emotional addiction and then i cry and i feel so alone and lost and scared. i hope you could give me an answer anything would be helpful. please just anything. i i think i went through a narcissistic relationship with my father and everything i’ve healed and built is shattered. now that he’s gone i think this is the dark night but i don’t know anything i’ve lost trust in myself and in the world.
I would highly suggest either way.. accept, surrender, and self care. All is unfolding. ❤️
Hello how long did this dark night last?
@@norarosales2223 no time frame...
How long can this last? I’ve been in dysfunctional mode for like 3 years during covid I started drinking wayyyy too much got in a lot of trouble with the law but then quit drinking.. I seem like this video explains litterally my last 3 years. Happiness might not be too far off then is what you’re saying.
4 years almost for me
im going through this and when it happened over night i lost all my memories, where i was who i was what i ever did.. every single memory about me i lost i cant remember anything at all.. i thought i have dementia or amnesia is complete memory and identinity loss normal? nobody mentions it
I feel that way too...I don't how I got to where I am...super weird theres a a lapse in memory...
Is there a way I can speak to you?
Weeks……. Try years.
I just went thru this! and it started with a trip on mushrooms and went to hell from there! OMFG if I had a gun id kill myself in a second!
First 20sec my answer is no
Im 3.5 years in,and still no end in sight.Ive lost just about everyone.Whats the longest this can go on for?
What is it you do to go through these emotions?
I am sorry it’s so hard! Are you still in it?
Don't make it a life style you gotta break through brother never give up stay strong, I wish you many blessings
Yes. Just keep surrendering and listen to the subtle energy.
Yes still going through DNOTS.The onion of untruth keeps peeling away,and becoming less.But coming out on top of things,its a destructive process as you all know. Blessings and thanks for the replies 🙌🙌
When does the Dark Night of the Soul typically happen? What are the prerequisites in order to experience this?
Is it possible to have a Dark Night of the Soul years after an ego death? 🙏
Don’t keep saying “ right” like you’re clueless about what you’re talking about.