I feel what the daughter is saying about the mom basically micromanaging how she parents her children. I went through the same thing with my dad, the difference is I got my children and moved out … WITH MY CHILDREN. No reason to leave your kids behind. 🤷🏾♀️
Well how about she doesn't keep getting pregnant by losers that can't support her OR pay child support so now SHE and HER kids have to live with HER mama? Like the judge said she kept choosing losers. And now her mom is raising her kids because she would rather choose a man over them🤷🏽♀️
My family tries to do that no matter who you live with but I don’t allow that with my children. My mother allowed that with my grandmother but I will not do the same. Because that doesn’t work for me and mine
This is sad.. the daughter mentioned she had problems reading growing up. If she had a learning disability she may have other issues developmentally. Parents like the plaintiff should Speak Life into their children..for the sake of the Grandchildren.
I agree she has 7 fingers and her mom didn’t try to get them fix and if she had difficulties reading she probably had other problems as stated but mother is controlling asf
When you are an adult and you live with your "controlling" parents and you don't like it, my advice is MOVE! Simple as that. You may have to suffer adverse consequences. Then you choose which set of consequences you can better deal with.
The daughter should NOT have been called out her name by her own mommy (I’ve been there I know how it feels)!!!! It’s also safe to say the daughter should have put the box on lock until the right man found her, but we all have a life & a story to tell❤️
thats what i dont understand about women, yhea everyone makes mistakes, but after you have the first kid and see the dad or relationship is not progressing or stable why have more kids until you get in a stable situation. you jus digging yourself in a whole mentally, emotionally, financially, spiritually, etc all you probably getting is a good nut here and there & thats not a equal trade off
I agree but when it comes to watching a woman and not just any woman but your daughter choose a man over her children while u raise them, the frustration and disappointment probably took over bc at that point it’s not about mommy being the victim, it’s about her being a burden to her own children. So while I wouldn’t call my child a b*****, I understand the mothers frustration and fear.
All that legions spirits running rampant in their lives and their family lineage and bloodline Speak life in and over your own life, your children, and family. Remember your choice to Proverbs 18:21
Why is every one making excuses for this grown woman because she cried at the end. She had 3 kids with a bum then leave her kids with the so called evil mom to be with another bum. All she did was make excuses for why she couldn't do everything.
That's what IM wondering. If you noticed though it's mostly women. There's actually a few women other than myself that agree with u. You know women can't hold other women accountable for being a deadbeat mother. As a mom I can see the plaintiffs frustration.
@michellebaker2573 yes exactly! Her mother clearly frustrated with the bad decisions she's making. If she's not made to be accountable she will come to her mom with baby number 4.
We got one in our family with several different baby daddy's, and grandma raising the kids while she run the streets. Poor baby's love her, cry for her and everything and she just walk away like they are nothing, so sad!!
“If I wasn’t your daughter, you’d hate me.” That’s deep right there. I believe the defendant when she says she never got the same love her brothers got. I believe that the mom takes the kids when she doesn’t like who the defendants is dating. I believe that she tries to parent over the defendant. The fact that she tried to sue her for gifts, speaks to the mother’s character
May all be true but the mom is also tired she has not 1 but 3 of her kids she is raising while she lives with her boyfriend..she is not giving her financial support for the kids
She thinks she has to settle for less because her mom berated her and her confidence is low. She has a learning disability and a physical handicap. She needs help. Hopefully she’ll go back home and learn a skill that will provide for her children. I’m surprised the judge didn’t offer her assistance.
I have to go with the mother on this one. The daughter is determined to keep heading down the path of a complete loser, and at the expense of her children and her relationship with her mother...
Same… sad story and as parents we are supposed to sit back and let our grown children make their own choices, but also ALWAYS be there to pick up and clean up the mess.. not really fair. Mom has her grandkids, but can’t tell the daughter nothing.. living under the moms roof and can’t support yourself, but mom has no input.. sounds like a lose lose situation for the mom and the grandkids.
The daughter is pathetic. Whatever lifestyle she is living is clearly destructive. The mother is getting the grandkids and putting them in sports etc so they don’t have to see the bs first hand. The daughter does not care at all. Her daughter was probably very unruly, so she may have called her out of her name a time or two. Was it right, heck no. But ur mom calling u a name when u were a child should make u be MORE of a mother to your own children, instead of letting that same mother raise them too ALL WHILE LIVING IN YOUR MOTHERS HOUSE. The mother wanted her daughter to do better and be better, that’s why she sued. It wasn’t really over the swimming lessons. Prayers out to both of them and the children.
The daughter got her priorities screwed up choosing a man over her kids and now her mom has the responsibility of taking care of them smh! She should have had to pay her for child care bc why should the mom have to bear the responsibility of all the expenses for her kids. She might as well get custody and she the daughter for child support. She sound like a spoiled brat mad at the world bc she lit herself in that predicament based on the men she chooses. I have no sympathy for a mother choosing a man over their kids and basically abandoning them. I’m surprised JM wasn’t hard on her!
I think a lot of y’all MISSED the whole dynamic of the case. The daughter getting pregnant at 17 was the first strike that set the mother off. The mom felt like the daughter was following in her footsteps. Notice the mother has what 6 kids? Anyway, the daughter got pregnant but also MARRIED the child’s father and bulit somewhat of a life with him for some time. She’s not out here sleeping with different men or partying too hard. The mother NEVER accepted the husband so instead of being supportive in her moving out- she grew resentful of the daughter waiting for her to fail so she could have her “I told you so moment”. How wasn’t the daughter taking care of her kids when she was living with her mom and paying bills thusly SUPPORTING THE HOUSE IN WHICH HER CHILDREN LIVE?! No body ever disputed that she paid. Her mom gets mad again that she wants to take her children to live in a situation that the grandmother doesn’t approve of so she sues her over GIFTS?! The daughter may make mistakes that WE ALL do but she tries her best to correct them and move forward. The grandmother is controlling, vindictive, and holds grudges. Then to admit to calling her daughter out of her name because she was with her bf (notice the mom NEVER said well she called me out of my name first or was disrespectful to me) is crazy.
That mother wants to have total control over her daughter. The daughter needs counseling. She is hurting really bad. I wonder if the stepfather abused her?
Her mom needs to give her tough love & allow her to be a Mother & Adult. She made bad decisions , so does everyone else but take accountability for yourself. I don’t know what 7 fingers had to do with anything 😐 but….. yeah the mom is enabling her from being her best
That young lady made bad decisions as a teen and still is making bad decisions as an adult that her mother tried to guide her away from. But because like many young folk, she has issues with authority, discipline and guidance, she wants to blame her mother for being "strict", "tough", and not loving when the reality is that her mother was trying to guide, support, and help her live a better life because she loves her. She got a lot of never blaming her mom, when her mother is caring for her children emotionally, financially, and physically! No one is going to do all of that for you without loving you and wanting good for you deeply. Parents are people, too! Her mother is not obligated to like how she behaves and just take it! And she needs to save those crocodile tears for her children who are going to accuse her of a lot more in a few years- probably neglect as well because she still seems like she hasn't learned to listen or have any discipline in her life.
Exactly this and many people forget us parents are people but if you want to have all these kids you should be able to raise them I don't mind helping but don't be living your best life and get mad when you get called out your name
I agree with you 1000%!!! Parents are supposed to let kids grow up and make their own decisions, despite how it affects everyone, but also supposed to pick up the pieces and clean up the mess when stuff don’t work out.. and not ask questions, give input nor complain about it 🤷🏾♀️
lmao how is that the case when she said she wanted her to stay with her and live with her instead of moving out and starting a life on her own. parents are important but theres a time you need to learn to step back and let you children make their own decisions and mistakes because they’re people too. this mother doesn’t seem to grasp that so no her actions dont appear to be mothering they come off overbearing and manipulative . especially when you call your own child out her her name that is just absolutely disgusting and a shame all of you are just ignoring that fact.
Both sides have valid points, Mom needs to slack back. I know she loves her gran babies but the daughter will never truly learn to parent correctly nor learn lessons if mom keep interfering. Daughter needs to mature up, stop searching for a man to love her, she is lacking love and acceptance. She’s searching in all the wrong places. She needs to prioritize being a mother, provide and utilize the support she has in a positive way. She needs to maybe go to school for something but her confidence needs to be built.
THE MOTHER JUST STOOD THERE AND LIED AND JM DIDN'T CALL HER ON IT. THE DAUGHTER STATED THAT HER MOTHER STARTED CALLING HER OUT OF HER NAME WHEN SHE WAS A TEENAGER. WHEN JM ASKED THE MOTHER SHE SAID , " NO SHE WAS A PARENT". 🤔 YET, SHE STARTED OFF SAYING THAT THE DAUGHTER HAD HER FIRST CHILD WHEN SHE WAS A TEENAGER.
What the mother fails to realize is She treats her daughter like sh*t and disguises it as a good support system. Ma'am, if you treat your daughter poorly, a man will treat her poorly as well, and tbh your poor daughter can't tell the difference because she's being manipulated in both directions.
Mom is giving NARCISSIST. She wants to control everything, even down to her grandkids. Once you don’t do what she wants, how she wants, she’ll cut you off until you “get with the program.”
@@elizabethkiya.9226 she did get her kids, her mother is probably TAKING THEM. It’s called emotional blackmail. You obviously never dealt with narcissistic person. My grandma acts JUST like this lady. Always giving things, and then taking them back. Always parenting her grandchildren over her children because “I’m the matriarch, so my word is bond.”
Seemed like she wanted sympathy for her disability and rightfully so. Having to live with a deformity can cause feelings of low self esteem so that may contribute to her staying in relationships that aren’t really serving her.
The best thing a parent can do for their fast daughters is to put them on birth control. Speaking from experience, i REFUSED to allow my daughters to have kids before they were ready!!!
That last conversation was painful to watch. We make mistakes and it's a heavenly mercy when mothers have an 'open-door' policy for the chance to 'reset, recover, and start again.' Thank goodness for second and third chances. But mothers should never call or label their daughters' demeaning titles or call them names. Those abusive words cut through to the soul. Shame.
And that’s why JM shut her down. I too was a teen mom. My daughter is graduating next year. If she wanted to get tutoring for her reading struggles she could have. She figured out how to take trips and be with the rapper with children by 4 different women. She did not push herself and maybe her environment was toxic. But she moved out without the children and still had time to start the process of getting a skilled trade/ training. Also if my mom was that toxic my children could not stay with her at all!!!
I kind of believe the daughter/defendant. Mom sounds like a narcissist. Why is she giving money then taking it back like a weapon from the daughter? I agree with Mathis…she would take back a gift to “punish” the daughter. And her grandkids.
The daughter has a lot of excuses- if her mom is so bad and was so bad as a mom, then she shouldn't want her mom to raise them. I can't stand when someone complains about how horrible of parents they have, but yet allow their kids to live with them. You can't use your parents as a convenience. The daughter chose to have them, take care of them they are your responsibility , your mom didn't choose to have 3 extra kids, this is her time to do what she wants. She raised her kids.
Nahhh. Idk what was up with JM today. But I could tell that mother was toxic since the beginning. And for the defendent... why you showbup to court without numbers already drawn up?
JM had to have felt like: if her Mother was so bad or "toxic". Why have your kids been with her their whole lives? I think that the Defendant was trying to gain sympathy and the Judge wasn't falling for it.
700-1000 is what my daughter who does not live with me pays me to keep her kids. Granted, I have them a lot of the time, but she knows it's not ok to take advantage of her parents. She did have a loser #1 and has lived with me at times. But, she works very hard to take care of her responsibilities.
Not paying your parents for childcare is definitely not using them. Neither of my kid’s grandparents wouldn’t dare accept money for childcare. If they couldn’t afford to pay you would you still do it? They get spoiled though…we help each other ☺️
What does law school and college have to do with it? Just because you go 5o college doesn't mean you know everything about everything. Only a lot of knowledge on 1 subject
I think he thought it odd that she chose to say that as a child she "bumped heads" with her mother. I think the wording threw him off - a child bumping heads with their parent 🤨
Her mom is a narcissist. The fact that she wants her money back from taking care of her grandkids. Smh. She has to move out and take care of her kids on her own. Her mother do hate her
Seems to me that the defendant wasn't ready to be a parent or give up her partying lifestyle. But many of these women out here today pick the wrong men which is why they end up in a bad way. The child expenses and car insurance shouldn't have been an issue here between mother and daughter. Sad
When I was living with my parents, I was a mother not being able to mother my child. Lived in a very controlling, do as I say household. I was treated more as the sister to my child than a mother. I definitely know how she feels.
That's not surprising when you are a grown adult living in your mammas house still. The solution is to 1) not have out of wedlock children and 2) be a self sustaining adult living on your own before you have children. If you're having babies before being capable of either of those things, and still relying on your parents, then it stands to reason they're not going to trust you or respect you enough to mother your own kids. One of the biggest problems in our community is kids raising kids. That includes pregnant teenagers and young adults who haven't demonstrated the capability to live completely on their own.
@@micheleantionette_ and the advice to them is exactly the same if they have overbearing parents. The only difference is they don't have the added stigma of being grown ass adults who can't take care of themselves but still deciding to bring children into the world.
@@odog76543That's the typical do as I say not as I do response. If your kids make the same mistakes as you it's better to have more empathy and work with your kids than constantly display your disappointment and treat them like failures because the parent didn't do any better. They also need to do better at holding the fathers accountable because picking the wrong guy means there's no good father around to protect them from ending up with losers. Overbearing and controlling single mothers end up making their daughters their wives and the sons their husbands but you can't tell them that.
The daughter needs to grow up but the mother is stunning her growth. The mother almost needs the daughter to be emotionally/mentally/financially handicapped because it keeps her in control of everything and everyone. The daughter is also searching for love, sometimes the black daughter is only given tough love.
It's wasn't right .. its not an excuse for her to stop raising her own kids though Grandma does seem petty and controlling to want to be reimbursed for the gifts
That grandmother is awful. She needs to take her kids and get her own place. Maybe move far enough away from her mother so that she is forced to grow up and be an adult.
The mom is something else. You shouldn’t call your daughter out of her name. Also I don’t believe she’s putting a man before her children, I believe the mother is so controlling she won’t allow the young lady to parents her children because she wants to control the daughter and control everything she does. The momma need some help!!!! The daughter needs to get her kids and do better and get th away from that control freak!
I know someone just like the daughter. Wants her parents to raise her 2 kids while she parties etc. Then she wants to be the mother when it suits her. She thinks she is getting away with this crap now wait til her kids hate her for it and she will wish she listened
I understand the daughter I feel her, but she needs to get it together. Sometimes you have to kiss it until you can kick it. If she watching them kids for free idc how her mouth is...Set yourself a time limit 3-6 months get stable and move up out of her house with your children.... Y'all trying to adult in the same household and it's hard for some parents to see their kids as adults, especially when the children continuously make mistakes. You wrong for leaving your kids behind the whole situation is sad, mom should definitely cut her a lil slack she's hurting.
The Mother should have NEVER allowed the daughter to move back home once she got married and left UNLESS it was temporary 3-6 months. My mother and father told us we were all leaving home at 18 years old once we graduated from high school. We were either going to college, trade school, military or get a full-time job but we were getting out because they raised up and trained us to be independent. None of the 5 of us siblings EVER moved back home and we are ALL mid 50's to mid 60's years old. None of us EVER got in trouble with law enforcement either. Raise your children to be Independent and treat them as adults. Mutual respect is imperative between these two women. Best wishes to them both.
The mother/plaintiff is definitely overbearing and controlling, and is being messy towards her daughter, because her daughter is finally standing up for herself. I hope the daughter continues to gain self-esteem, and grow into the women and mother that she should be. For the mother, she needs a hobby or a puppy to control. 🤷🏽♀
All that legions spirits running rampant in their lives and their family lineage and bloodline Speak life in and over your own life, your children, and family. Remember your choice to Proverbs 18:21
@@latashaepps1060 no, she was trying CONTROL them. She wanted her grandchildren to be HER kids. She’s one of those mothers who think they can tell mom what to do because she gave birth to her. Like the haircut thing. She didn’t want her child’s hair cut, but granny wanted to what SHE wanted.
Seems like the judge and the mother are both forgetting that she is not married to the daughters father. What does that say about HER choices. Pot calling the kettle black. She sounds like she is controlling. Mother needs a hobby🤨
The difference is the daughter's father and step father were involved in her life. The daughter's children do not have their father and even when he was in the picture they were all living wit the mom. Relationships don't always work out, but a good man will still take care of his kids
i'm a native atlantan and we are tired of all these "move in" folks. they are loud, rude and have brought their problematic behaviors with them. sorry, but not sorry.
Choose a man horse or cow over anything. My DAUGHTER will NEVER LOSE ME. PERIOD! I would support her! She is not on DRUGS, COMMITTING CRIMES ETC. I would be there for my daughter with open arms LOVE & SUPPORT! I would NOT belittle her I would build her up enough so that she would know she is better than her situation! PERIOD!
Being called Bs and h#@s from my mom since the age of 5 I understand the pain and lack of confidence it causes you in your teenage and adult life..but at the end of the day get your kids while you living the life with your man..trying to make it easy and satisfying for him while putting a burden on your mom and causing your kids emotional issues..no more excuses
choosing men over your children is top tier disgusting…
Exactly.
Top top tier. There’s nothing worse.
Agreed
And the men are usually no good. The reason why they're single mothers to begin with, not choosing good men.
This!!! 💯💯💯💯
My mom has always taught me that two queens can't live in one castle. Get yo own spot and raise your kids your way.
This is a fact!
My mom told me the same thing 😮!!
preach
Did we have the same Mom? My mom told me the same thing EXACTLY like that 😂
@@Coco-ef9ps 😂
I feel what the daughter is saying about the mom basically micromanaging how she parents her children. I went through the same thing with my dad, the difference is I got my children and moved out … WITH MY CHILDREN. No reason to leave your kids behind. 🤷🏾♀️
Well how about she doesn't keep getting pregnant by losers that can't support her OR pay child support so now SHE and HER kids have to live with HER mama? Like the judge said she kept choosing losers. And now her mom is raising her kids because she would rather choose a man over them🤷🏽♀️
My family tries to do that no matter who you live with but I don’t allow that with my children. My mother allowed that with my grandmother but I will not do the same. Because that doesn’t work for me and mine
Bravo!!!
Why has adult you move out your parents house if you don't want their big input in your life simple
How are you feeling anything when she’s not even raising her kids. You must be a bum collector too, 😂😂😂😂😂
This is sad.. the daughter mentioned she had problems reading growing up. If she had a learning disability she may have other issues developmentally. Parents like the plaintiff should Speak Life into their children..for the sake of the Grandchildren.
I agree.
I agree she has 7 fingers and her mom didn’t try to get them fix and if she had difficulties reading she probably had other problems as stated but mother is controlling asf
Calling your own child out their name is completely disgusting i will say. But when you have kids you gotta grow up or dont have kids. That simple!!
Mom raised her so putting her daughter down is putting herself down.
That's a weak mindset far as I'm concerned. I didn't do well cause you called me names.... Good luck surviving then.
Huge pet peeve. Those type of women will allow a bf to do whatever. I stay far away from those evil ppl
Being called a name does not stop u from being a successful person this soft world we live in. Plus, She said that was said to her as an adult.
Babies having babies and no one taught ANY of them how to be a grown up
When you are an adult and you live with your "controlling" parents and you don't like it, my advice is MOVE! Simple as that. You may have to suffer adverse consequences. Then you choose which set of consequences you can better deal with.
The daughter should NOT have been called out her name by her own mommy (I’ve been there I know how it feels)!!!! It’s also safe to say the daughter should have put the box on lock until the right man found her, but we all have a life & a story to tell❤️
thats what i dont understand about women, yhea everyone makes mistakes, but after you have the first kid and see the dad or relationship is not progressing or stable why have more kids until you get in a stable situation. you jus digging yourself in a whole mentally, emotionally, financially, spiritually, etc all you probably getting is a good nut here and there & thats not a equal trade off
The daughter is a user and loser. Can't even stand on her own, but can make a family with a wannabe rapper.
I agree but when it comes to watching a woman and not just any woman but your daughter choose a man over her children while u raise them, the frustration and disappointment probably took over bc at that point it’s not about mommy being the victim, it’s about her being a burden to her own children. So while I wouldn’t call my child a b*****, I understand the mothers frustration and fear.
Exactly you should never call a child out of their name it sticks with them
All that legions spirits running rampant in their lives and their family lineage and bloodline
Speak life in and over your own life, your children, and family. Remember your choice to Proverbs 18:21
Judge Mathis caught on to the fact the mother wants to control the daughter and make decisions for her kid and I’m glad he did. The mom is a trip.
she cant even financially catch up to move and when she does her mom sabotages her
So why did she leave the kids with the mom for a man. If you feel this way why not take your children
It wouldn't a issue if the daughter picked her children and left.
Why is every one making excuses for this grown woman because she cried at the end. She had 3 kids with a bum then leave her kids with the so called evil mom to be with another bum. All she did was make excuses for why she couldn't do everything.
That's what IM wondering. If you noticed though it's mostly women. There's actually a few women other than myself that agree with u. You know women can't hold other women accountable for being a deadbeat mother. As a mom I can see the plaintiffs frustration.
@michellebaker2573 yes exactly! Her mother clearly frustrated with the bad decisions she's making. If she's not made to be accountable she will come to her mom with baby number 4.
I agree 100% the mom kept trying to let her do better but she didn’t want to
Faxxxx !
We got one in our family with several different baby daddy's, and grandma raising the kids while she run the streets. Poor baby's love her, cry for her and everything and she just walk away like they are nothing, so sad!!
“If I wasn’t your daughter, you’d hate me.” That’s deep right there. I believe the defendant when she says she never got the same love her brothers got. I believe that the mom takes the kids when she doesn’t like who the defendants is dating. I believe that she tries to parent over the defendant. The fact that she tried to sue her for gifts, speaks to the mother’s character
May all be true but the mom is also tired she has not 1 but 3 of her kids she is raising while she lives with her boyfriend..she is not giving her financial support for the kids
@@LeshaFBaby true
I think the love was tough because Mom saw herself in the daughter. that's just how it is.
Did y’all here the mom said stop choosing a man over your kids… that is the problem right there!!!
@@rondaallen7211 nope. I’m tired of that excuse. These mothers will coddle their sons, and make their daughters feel like shit
She thinks she has to settle for less because her mom berated her and her confidence is low. She has a learning disability and a physical handicap. She needs help. Hopefully she’ll go back home and learn a skill that will provide for her children. I’m surprised the judge didn’t offer her assistance.
I get being stern as a mother and grandmother but I see a lot of control and belittlement.
On the other hand, daughter is a bum and irresponsible.
They both ain't shyt
Because she appears to be throwing her life away
Mom's punishing her grandchildren
because her adult daughter refuses to
obey her .... Lady, you ain't no better!!!
Some parents really don’t acknowledge how they affect their children and the type of adult they grow into. Your children represent you!
Man over kids happens too often
I have to go with the mother on this one. The daughter is determined to keep heading down the path of a complete loser, and at the expense of her children and her relationship with her mother...
Same… sad story and as parents we are supposed to sit back and let our grown children make their own choices, but also ALWAYS be there to pick up and clean up the mess.. not really fair. Mom has her grandkids, but can’t tell the daughter nothing.. living under the moms roof and can’t support yourself, but mom has no input.. sounds like a lose lose situation for the mom and the grandkids.
The daughter is pathetic. Whatever lifestyle she is living is clearly destructive. The mother is getting the grandkids and putting them in sports etc so they don’t have to see the bs first hand. The daughter does not care at all. Her daughter was probably very unruly, so she may have called her out of her name a time or two. Was it right, heck no. But ur mom calling u a name when u were a child should make u be MORE of a mother to your own children, instead of letting that same mother raise them too ALL WHILE LIVING IN YOUR MOTHERS HOUSE.
The mother wanted her daughter to do better and be better, that’s why she sued. It wasn’t really over the swimming lessons. Prayers out to both of them and the children.
Daughter has a lot of excuses. Regardless of the past, once you have kids you have to get out in gear and do better period
I left home at 18. I raised my son, and anything my mom did or any guidance was a bonus.
Just get out of your mother’s home and take your kids with you!
I think the issue is she cant even financially catch up and when she does her mom sabotages her
The daughter got her priorities screwed up choosing a man over her kids and now her mom has the responsibility of taking care of them smh! She should have had to pay her for child care bc why should the mom have to bear the responsibility of all the expenses for her kids. She might as well get custody and she the daughter for child support. She sound like a spoiled brat mad at the world bc she lit herself in that predicament based on the men she chooses. I have no sympathy for a mother choosing a man over their kids and basically abandoning them. I’m surprised JM wasn’t hard on her!
*sue
You hit the nail on the head. I was baffled about JM ruling.
I think a lot of y’all MISSED the whole dynamic of the case. The daughter getting pregnant at 17 was the first strike that set the mother off. The mom felt like the daughter was following in her footsteps. Notice the mother has what 6 kids? Anyway, the daughter got pregnant but also MARRIED the child’s father and bulit somewhat of a life with him for some time. She’s not out here sleeping with different men or partying too hard. The mother NEVER accepted the husband so instead of being supportive in her moving out- she grew resentful of the daughter waiting for her to fail so she could have her “I told you so moment”. How wasn’t the daughter taking care of her kids when she was living with her mom and paying bills thusly SUPPORTING THE HOUSE IN WHICH HER CHILDREN LIVE?! No body ever disputed that she paid. Her mom gets mad again that she wants to take her children to live in a situation that the grandmother doesn’t approve of so she sues her over GIFTS?! The daughter may make mistakes that WE ALL do but she tries her best to correct them and move forward. The grandmother is controlling, vindictive, and holds grudges. Then to admit to calling her daughter out of her name because she was with her bf (notice the mom NEVER said well she called me out of my name first or was disrespectful to me) is crazy.
Thank you! I thought I dreamed all of this.
Amen!!! We are not blind!! We know those types of mothers!!!
Judge Mathis was with the plantifg until she tried to get the gifts back from her grandkids. Doc switched up real quick
That was a shady request 😂
That mother wants to have total control over her daughter. The daughter needs counseling. She is hurting really bad. I wonder if the stepfather abused her?
Her mom needs to give her tough love & allow her to be a Mother & Adult. She made bad decisions , so does everyone else but take accountability for yourself. I don’t know what 7 fingers had to do with anything 😐 but….. yeah the mom is enabling her from being her best
Wishing both of them well, because I bet they are going to work all this out..
That young lady made bad decisions as a teen and still is making bad decisions as an adult that her mother tried to guide her away from. But because like many young folk, she has issues with authority, discipline and guidance, she wants to blame her mother for being "strict", "tough", and not loving when the reality is that her mother was trying to guide, support, and help her live a better life because she loves her. She got a lot of never blaming her mom, when her mother is caring for her children emotionally, financially, and physically! No one is going to do all of that for you without loving you and wanting good for you deeply. Parents are people, too! Her mother is not obligated to like how she behaves and just take it! And she needs to save those crocodile tears for her children who are going to accuse her of a lot more in a few years- probably neglect as well because she still seems like she hasn't learned to listen or have any discipline in her life.
Well said.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 YES ALL OF THIS
Exactly this and many people forget us parents are people but if you want to have all these kids you should be able to raise them I don't mind helping but don't be living your best life and get mad when you get called out your name
I agree with you 1000%!!! Parents are supposed to let kids grow up and make their own decisions, despite how it affects everyone, but also supposed to pick up the pieces and clean up the mess when stuff don’t work out.. and not ask questions, give input nor complain about it 🤷🏾♀️
lmao how is that the case when she said she wanted her to stay with her and live with her instead of moving out and starting a life on her own. parents are important but theres a time you need to learn to step back and let you children make their own decisions and mistakes because they’re people too. this mother doesn’t seem to grasp that so no her actions dont appear to be mothering they come off overbearing and manipulative . especially when you call your own child out her her name that is just absolutely disgusting and a shame all of you are just ignoring that fact.
Both sides have valid points, Mom needs to slack back. I know she loves her gran babies but the daughter will never truly learn to parent correctly nor learn lessons if mom keep interfering. Daughter needs to mature up, stop searching for a man to love her, she is lacking love and acceptance. She’s searching in all the wrong places. She needs to prioritize being a mother, provide and utilize the support she has in a positive way. She needs to maybe go to school for something but her confidence needs to be built.
THE MOTHER JUST STOOD THERE AND LIED AND JM DIDN'T CALL HER ON IT. THE DAUGHTER STATED THAT HER MOTHER STARTED CALLING HER OUT OF HER NAME WHEN SHE WAS A TEENAGER. WHEN JM ASKED THE MOTHER SHE SAID , " NO SHE WAS A PARENT". 🤔 YET, SHE STARTED OFF SAYING THAT THE DAUGHTER HAD HER FIRST CHILD WHEN SHE WAS A TEENAGER.
Exactly
She was a mother as a teenager she said she had her first child at 17 which means she was pregnant at 16..
What the mother fails to realize is She treats her daughter like sh*t and disguises it as a good support system. Ma'am, if you treat your daughter poorly, a man will treat her poorly as well, and tbh your poor daughter can't tell the difference because she's being manipulated in both directions.
The realest explanation thus far.
Mom is giving NARCISSIST. She wants to control everything, even down to her grandkids. Once you don’t do what she wants, how she wants, she’ll cut you off until you “get with the program.”
Ok so tell the defendant get HER KIDS AND GET OUT HER HOUSE 😂😂😂
@@elizabethkiya.9226 she did get her kids, her mother is probably TAKING THEM. It’s called emotional blackmail. You obviously never dealt with narcissistic person. My grandma acts JUST like this lady. Always giving things, and then taking them back. Always parenting her grandchildren over her children because “I’m the matriarch, so my word is bond.”
She still filing taxes while the mother has custody of her children!!!!! *The daughter is disgraceful!!!!*
He was wrapping boxes since 11.
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The Defendant is just not mature; she's not grown.... she's just old
Why do mothers call their daughters bitches and wonder why they end up with the type of men they do? Love comes home first
Seemed like she wanted sympathy for her disability and rightfully so. Having to live with a deformity can cause feelings of low self esteem so that may contribute to her staying in relationships that aren’t really serving her.
The best thing a parent can do for their fast daughters is to put them on birth control. Speaking from experience, i REFUSED to allow my daughters to have kids before they were ready!!!
girls can go to doctor to get birth control, read, be a adult . it is so simple and easy…
How will the mother put this grown woman on "birth control"???
@@kakraamissah-tetteh974 the original commenter was referring to when the defendant was a teenager
@@isisdiamonique5481 thank you for having a brain and being able to comprehend!
That last conversation was painful to watch. We make mistakes and it's a heavenly mercy when mothers have an 'open-door' policy for the chance to 'reset, recover, and start again.' Thank goodness for second and third chances. But mothers should never call or label their daughters' demeaning titles or call them names. Those abusive words cut through to the soul. Shame.
You are her enabler
AGREED !!!! Let her go and let her learn
Arlove was a childhood friend. I’m praying that her and her daughter resolve these issues.
Girl please! Everyone got cussed out in my hood. We mostly all got degrees or a trade and our kids have superceded us. Excuses
😂😅😂I hollered!
I never got cussed out
And that’s why JM shut her down. I too was a teen mom. My daughter is graduating next year. If she wanted to get tutoring for her reading struggles she could have. She figured out how to take trips and be with the rapper with children by 4 different women. She did not push herself and maybe her environment was toxic. But she moved out without the children and still had time to start the process of getting a skilled trade/ training.
Also if my mom was that toxic my children could not stay with her at all!!!
I kind of believe the daughter/defendant. Mom sounds like a narcissist. Why is she giving money then taking it back like a weapon from the daughter? I agree with Mathis…she would take back a gift to “punish” the daughter. And her grandkids.
Define your clinical definition of a narcissist, please.
The daughter has a lot of excuses- if her mom is so bad and was so bad as a mom, then she shouldn't want her mom to raise them. I can't stand when someone complains about how horrible of parents they have, but yet allow their kids to live with them. You can't use your parents as a convenience. The daughter chose to have them, take care of them they are your responsibility , your mom didn't choose to have 3 extra kids, this is her time to do what she wants. She raised her kids.
If I’m living with my parents I’m doing whatever is needed.
Nahhh. Idk what was up with JM today. But I could tell that mother was toxic since the beginning. And for the defendent... why you showbup to court without numbers already drawn up?
How was the mother toxic? She not only has to still raise her 30 year old teenage daughter AND raise her own grandkids. 6ou would be "toxic" too
JM had to have felt like: if her Mother was so bad or "toxic". Why have your kids been with her their whole lives? I think that the Defendant was trying to gain sympathy and the Judge wasn't falling for it.
OLDER MOMMA YOU TRIPPING. THAT DAUGHTER WAS TRYING
700-1000 is what my daughter who does not live with me pays me to keep her kids. Granted, I have them a lot of the time, but she knows it's not ok to take advantage of her parents. She did have a loser #1 and has lived with me at times. But, she works very hard to take care of her responsibilities.
Not paying your parents for childcare is definitely not using them. Neither of my kid’s grandparents wouldn’t dare accept money for childcare. If they couldn’t afford to pay you would you still do it? They get spoiled though…we help each other ☺️
not paying is not taking advantage. It's called being a grandparent, part of a village, supporting each other, etc.
@@roxyj3182 exactly!!
You’re actually taking advantage of your daughter
You can’t love ur grandchildren if u charging ur daughter to keep them.
“u shouldn’t choose a man over your children”
Mathis went to college and law school and doesn't know what "bump heads" means?
😂😂😂😂
What does law school and college have to do with it? Just because you go 5o college doesn't mean you know everything about everything. Only a lot of knowledge on 1 subject
He wanted her to give examples
@@TopherGrant you learn critical thinking skills.
I think he thought it odd that she chose to say that as a child she "bumped heads" with her mother. I think the wording threw him off - a child bumping heads with their parent 🤨
Her mom is a narcissist. The fact that she wants her money back from taking care of her grandkids. Smh. She has to move out and take care of her kids on her own. Her mother do hate her
Raise your children, or you will be raising your grandchildren.
Her kids would be with her period. Grandma stop playing with her.
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Jm did nothing but talk down to this young lady
Not me pausing looking at her fingers 🤦🏽
She had both parents and additional male role model.. still mess with these type of men with multiple kids smh
Her daughter has a mindset of a child because of her mother
I know someone like this
Seems to me that the defendant wasn't ready to be a parent or give up her partying lifestyle. But many of these women out here today pick the wrong men which is why they end up in a bad way. The child expenses and car insurance shouldn't have been an issue here between mother and daughter. Sad
i mean, she was 17, she was jus a kid herself. what i see with alot of young people boys & girls tho is “its all fun and until 💩 get real”
Theres no good men in the hood.
It happens all the time, but most of the daughters eventually learn and figure out love and or Men.
@@TopherGrantThat happens everywhere troll,even in your neck of the woods and I shouldn't have fed you, but oh well..
@@jasonallen3678 he's not a troll.
This mom is a control freak. She is manipulative & does not want her daughter to leave her, so she'll sabotage her daughter to get her way. Gross!
When I was living with my parents, I was a mother not being able to mother my child. Lived in a very controlling, do as I say household. I was treated more as the sister to my child than a mother. I definitely know how she feels.
That's not surprising when you are a grown adult living in your mammas house still. The solution is to 1) not have out of wedlock children and 2) be a self sustaining adult living on your own before you have children.
If you're having babies before being capable of either of those things, and still relying on your parents, then it stands to reason they're not going to trust you or respect you enough to mother your own kids. One of the biggest problems in our community is kids raising kids. That includes pregnant teenagers and young adults who haven't demonstrated the capability to live completely on their own.
@odog76543 well you have grown people without kids living with their parents and still face certain types of parents.
@@micheleantionette_ and the advice to them is exactly the same if they have overbearing parents. The only difference is they don't have the added stigma of being grown ass adults who can't take care of themselves but still deciding to bring children into the world.
@@odog76543 whatever you say
@@odog76543That's the typical do as I say not as I do response. If your kids make the same mistakes as you it's better to have more empathy and work with your kids than constantly display your disappointment and treat them like failures because the parent didn't do any better. They also need to do better at holding the fathers accountable because picking the wrong guy means there's no good father around to protect them from ending up with losers. Overbearing and controlling single mothers end up making their daughters their wives and the sons their husbands but you can't tell them that.
The daughter is just blowing out hot air!!!
“He’s just no good for her”… as if her daughter was a prize lmao
The daughter needs to grow up but the mother is stunning her growth.
The mother almost needs the daughter to be emotionally/mentally/financially handicapped because it keeps her in control of everything and everyone. The daughter is also searching for love, sometimes the black daughter is only given tough love.
Sounds like the daughter is incapable of making responsible decisions, so I can see why the mother feels the need to micromanage
My daughter was born with 2 thumbs....an no joke she uses that whenever she doesn't want to do her chores
Don't push it girl had to do much in household than boy
It's wasn't right .. its not an excuse for her to stop raising her own kids though
Grandma does seem petty and controlling to want to be reimbursed for the gifts
That grandmother is awful. She needs to take her kids and get her own place. Maybe move far enough away from her mother so that she is forced to grow up and be an adult.
If the mom/grandmother is so bad or name calling why would you leave your kids with her and why keep having them???? The math ain’t mathing!!
She’s sharing to much of her relationship issues with her mom, and she’s going to stay anyway!
Talks too much
Sad and she still doesn't see that it's wrong to have her mother raising her kids. Choosing a man.
Haven't live with my mom in yrs and I went thru this with my mom
The mom is something else. You shouldn’t call your daughter out of her name. Also I don’t believe she’s putting a man before her children, I believe the mother is so controlling she won’t allow the young lady to parents her children because she wants to control the daughter and control everything she does. The momma need some help!!!! The daughter needs to get her kids and do better and get th away from that control freak!
I never understand adult children who are still dependent and constantly still need their parents help but don't want their input 🤔
Doyle is so immature 😂😂😂
Girl save those tears, get your kids ma'am. Can't play victim when you choose a man over your kids and your mama raising em.
Hope that Dannisha and her children are doing well now.
Homegirl needs healing and therapy to undo how she was raised. Then take those kids back.
Then don't live in your mama's house
EXACTLY !!!!
Period
Y’all will condone “corporal punishment” but calling an adult child out their name is where she crossed the line? Idk about that one too much 🥴
I can see why Judge Mathis was cancelled. He has become a very angry person who takes it out on his cases.
Doesn’t he have a new show that’ll be airing?
@@danyellereney3277Yes, Fall 2023. Byron Allen's production company is behind the new show. ⚖️
His anger has nothing to do with cancellation though 😂 judge judy would’ve been off air many years ago if that was the case
I know someone just like the daughter. Wants her parents to raise her 2 kids while she parties etc. Then she wants to be the mother when it suits her.
She thinks she is getting away with this crap now wait til her kids hate her for it and she will wish she listened
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I understand the daughter I feel her, but she needs to get it together. Sometimes you have to kiss it until you can kick it. If she watching them kids for free idc how her mouth is...Set yourself a time limit 3-6 months get stable and move up out of her house with your children.... Y'all trying to adult in the same household and it's hard for some parents to see their kids as adults, especially when the children continuously make mistakes. You wrong for leaving your kids behind the whole situation is sad, mom should definitely cut her a lil slack she's hurting.
Let me write that down… kiss it til you can kick it. I like that one
@@rottie615 My mom always told us that growing up 😂
Why is she not raising her own children?
Maybe the rapper doesn't want the kids around 😢
The Mother should have NEVER allowed the daughter to move back home once she got married and left UNLESS it was temporary 3-6 months. My mother and father told us we were all leaving home at 18 years old once we graduated from high school. We were either going to college, trade school, military or get a full-time job but we were getting out because they raised up and trained us to be independent. None of the 5 of us siblings EVER moved back home and we are ALL mid 50's to mid 60's years old. None of us EVER got in trouble with law enforcement either. Raise your children to be Independent and treat them as adults. Mutual respect is imperative between these two women. Best wishes to them both.
The mother/plaintiff is definitely overbearing and controlling, and is being messy towards her daughter, because her daughter is finally standing up for herself. I hope the daughter continues to gain self-esteem, and grow into the women and mother that she should be. For the mother, she needs a hobby or a puppy to control. 🤷🏽♀
I love Judge Mathis lord knows I do but college isn't for everybody. Some ppl are just lucky and thankful to graduate high school.
@javalynbanner5185 that's why he also mentioned trade school
Mom is disappointed. The daughter is lost. She settles for no good men because she’s disabled 😢
Something is off about them. Why would a mother want her grown daughter with children to live with her? To be mothered by her?
If she's disabled, the mom will get a check for her. I bet that's the reason
THEY DO THIS!! Her mother is in the wrong
All that legions spirits running rampant in their lives and their family lineage and bloodline
Speak life in and over your own life, your children, and family. Remember your choice to Proverbs 18:21
Those kids, her children...referring your grandbabies as that.....questionable...
Mama def. Controlling, and mad cause she took her children
Of course she is mad she is tired. Grandma shouldn't have to raise grandkids.
The daughter is crap. Mama Is tired
@@latashaepps1060 no, she was trying CONTROL them. She wanted her grandchildren to be HER kids. She’s one of those mothers who think they can tell mom what to do because she gave birth to her.
Like the haircut thing. She didn’t want her child’s hair cut, but granny wanted to what SHE wanted.
Did you watch the case the kids live back with the grandma
Seems like the judge and the mother are both forgetting that she is not married to the daughters father. What does that say about HER choices. Pot calling the kettle black. She sounds like she is controlling. Mother needs a hobby🤨
The difference is the daughter's father and step father were involved in her life. The daughter's children do not have their father and even when he was in the picture they were all living wit the mom. Relationships don't always work out, but a good man will still take care of his kids
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Amen!
Jigsaw granny is a baddie😻🔥
all these kids having kids lord please help em
I would want my money back too as a grandparent 😂 if you took them out.
i'm a native atlantan and we are tired of all these "move in" folks. they are loud, rude and have brought their problematic behaviors with them. sorry, but not sorry.
Choose a man horse or cow over anything. My DAUGHTER will NEVER LOSE ME. PERIOD! I would support her! She is not on DRUGS, COMMITTING CRIMES ETC. I would be there for my daughter with open arms LOVE & SUPPORT! I would NOT belittle her I would build her up enough so that she would know she is better than her situation!
PERIOD!
Being called Bs and h#@s from my mom since the age of 5 I understand the pain and lack of confidence it causes you in your teenage and adult life..but at the end of the day get your kids while you living the life with your man..trying to make it easy and satisfying for him while putting a burden on your mom and causing your kids emotional issues..no more excuses