A lil texting is cute if I want to be privately amused to reread 😂 but it cannot be substituted ,I want to look him in his eyes and experience this magnetic masculine energy big time !!!!
I literally just met a man a few days ago. We have only texted. This morning I politely told him exactly "You know you can call me sometimes. We both have surpassed teens & 20's. I like to hear a man's voice helps me get a clearer picture of who he is" He replied. "I understand & agree. I will definitely call you after work today"
@@msdemeanour You see I didn't even respond to the child's comment, clearly US Adults who are experienced understand. That comment only proved pure ignorance. HAVE A BLESSED DAY QUEEN 😎
The second to the last point is so true. Met a guy online. I almost ruled him out because he wasn't communicative. But he asked for my number and the first time we spoke, we spoke for 4 hours straight. I was shocked! He was such a great conversationalist.
Every relationship experiences challenges, but there is always a way to progress. My marriage was tested by significant problems, but with appropriate help, my wife and I worked through them and strengthened our bond. Solutions are available if you’re ready to put in the effort and work together. Stay hopeful-there’s always a way.
My relationship is going through major troubles, and losing her is unbearable for me. I love and miss my partner more than words can express and am ready to do whatever it takes to have her return. Any suggestions or guidance would be greatly appreciated.
Parting ways with someone you deeply care about is never easy, but in my particular circumstance, I was aided by a spiritual mentor who averted the collapse of my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
I'll promptly start searching for her online. I appreciate it. I'm optimistic that pursuing this approach will also lead to favorable outcomes for me; her absence weighs heavily on me.
We live in a day and age where communication is becoming more important then ever. I don't like texting, and it is indeed important to communicate this to your date/partner etc. Voice, video call or personal. Text lead most of the time to misunderstandings. I don't want to assume or ask questions: "what do you mean?" etc. 70% of communication is body language. So I prefer that, we have to go back to connect in a geniune way with each other. Text is indeed for a quick short messages and sweettt. I agree what you said, Stephan, I am protecting my energy, I am not always available. Thank you for this content. Many Love and Light.
@@L-M-O-1 I feel you. But I said responding immediately. Meaning I'm a busy woman and I have a busy life. I can make room for dating for someone worthy of my time but it gets complicated when people feel ENTITLED to my immediate response. It won't always be like that 🤷🏾♀️ and I don't have the mental capacity to explain to grown adults who are not on my phone plan why it took me a while to hit them back.
I’m the woman who does deep conversations through text. It’s hard for me in person, because when I’m with my person, I’m just having fun and I’m not thinking about anything serious.. but when I’m away from them, I have all the questions lol
Thanks for posting this video, Stephan! I agree with you about texting not being courting. Earlier this year, I met a guy at a restaurant, who asked for my number. Also, he said that he wanted to meet again in person, but that never happened. He only wanted to send text messages. Texting is okay sometimes, but I prefer telephone conversations and meeting in-person. I explained to him more than once that him and I should have phone conversations and meet in person. He agreed with me, but he continued to text me. As a result, I told him I was no longer interested.
My bf hates texting because we both take things the wrong way and end up arguing. BUT, I have suggested to him he can at least say "hope your day is going well, or thinking about you, etc, but he rarely even replies to my texts and sometimes doesn't. We do talk on the phone 5 nights a week (we are long distance) but it's just hard because I LOVE texting and when I do get a text, it brightens up my day
Just let someone loose because it was mostly calls and texts and he would never express his feelings about me. Three months without any expression of feelings is a little long I think. The closest thing he got to expressing anything about me was when he said, “You’re the smartest girl I know.” Whatever…
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Glad I found out now rather than way later after bonds or attachments formed! Thank you for your channel!! I have learned so much from you and won’t settle for less than I deserve!
I did the email thing after a big blow up and I felt a million times lighter, I could sleep better at night and he finally understood where I was coming from....Steph you are THE MAN!!! ❤ I got the idea when you was talking doing the who hurt me list, I just figured email would be faster than the U.S. Mail way...lol
Great video! My five year relationship came to an end a month ago. The love of my life chose to leave, and I can't stop thinking about him; I love him so deeply. I've done everything I can to win him back, but nothing seems to work. I'm feeling frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my efforts to move on, I just can't shake the thoughts of him. I don’t know why I’m sharing this, but I really miss him.
It's tough to let go of someone you care about. I can relate, my 12year relationship also ended, and I struggled to move on. I tried everything to get him back, even seeking help from a spiritual counselor who ultimately helped me reconnect with him.
it is normal to feel this way.....same thing happened to me after 5 years, honestly took a 1-1.5 years to fully be ready to date again, you will get through this I promise, remember your worth
I can't have a conversation with someone who dips in and out of the conversation itself, and doesn't always end the conversation with "I will talk to you later." and etc.
One of my closest friends & I made a promise to call or see eachother face to face when talking about the word of God or personal stuff. & we correct ourselves when we see we wrote something that could be misinterpreted. Good lessons, thank you.
I agree, I was courting a wonderful man who was very good to me in every way. He was having a bad day at work, I was having a bad day at work as well. We had a misunderstanding in our communication via text and it ruined everything. He thought I was not being supportive when I was really being playfully flirting. He has NEVER disrespected me EVER so there was no reason for me to be vicious. We are communicating again after 6 weeks. I would really like for us to go back to being us.
I had to learn the hard way that long ass, deep conversations through texts will piss of both men and women!! No one wants to read an essay, letter or book via texts!! lol!! Great points!!
I think it really depends on your relationship, attachment styles, and availability. I have been in partnerships where we were not living together and sometimes people needed to think about what bugged them and how and they didn't always have the comfortability or time to personally talk something out, in person. I am in a multiplayer poly dynamic scenario and not everyone knows something bugs them until later and if there is enough partners in rotation, it might be weeks before you see eachother.
I've watched many videos of you and I appreciate how you articulate. Your various subjects. Actually listening, communicating,being present, verification, is crucial. Your perspective on male minds is lovely. Thank you so much!
I love deep conversations thru txt'ing when we're having disagreements.. Cause things said are documented and also you can always go back and reread them.. But a phone call unexpectedly can brighten someone's day.. Either unexpected says they're thinking about you,, you're on their mind.. You just have to know your person and where you stand in that relationship.. My relationship is already established
I hadn't dated for years. Getting back in the game is like a culture shock. I need effective communication and face to face discussions. Technology and social media take that away. However, that makes my weeding out the brothers quickly and easy. Communication is the foundation of a relationship, plus trust is paramount.
This is super important to me FACE time my GRACE time we all must admit that different strokes for different folks This actually got me Stephan " some men will send their package too"😊😊 my gish there,s never a dull moment with u and your channels
I hate texting, I definitely prefer phone conversations. I do love the idea of writing letters, takes me back to my high school days when there was no phones and texting lol, if you were really into someone you would write letters to each other and the message would be conveyed perfectly. The idea of writing a letter is very romantic to me. And Stephan you looking good in that color, skin tone just poppin lol. ❤...
When I started this relationship,, I preferred txt at the end of the day.. I didn't have to talk to him and I could watch my TV programs while replying back and forth. Once he became more important,, conversations shifted to verbal
Point n.1 I agree with! I'm not from the US and I think here texting is the preferred way to go. Calling would feel *very* invasive, both to men and women, no matter how much you like them.
I think the main benefit with texting is you dont have to both be ready at the exact same time to talk to each other, but can still get to know what the other person said. There can be many reasons for not being ready for a phone conversation in that moment, including being in a noisy place, around other people you may not want to hear the conversation, in the shower, at work etc. But calling on the other hand, lets you get to know each other much more, talking in real life time and hearing tone of voice. And thats needed sometimes. Nothing beats actually spending time together in real life.
It's actually a lot easier to just talk on the phone than physically text. I wanna hear your voice. I lose interest over texting, there's no way we're getting to know one another via text message. It's very immature, and like you said, it's easy to hide. What are you hiding??
I met someone and they told me they like texting one of the communication I said ok look like me have to start texting but I did also say I do prefer to communicate face to face, talking on the phone and he done that.
I recently met someone bumble and we’ve been talking a month. We’ve never spoke on the phone. I just met him last Saturday in person and everything matches up, but we haven’t talked on the phone at all. Text messages can get misconstrued and are much less intimate. I watched another one of Stephens videos this morning and it made me text him and ask him to call me after he gets off of work today. I have 7 questions I want to ask and see where his head is at and if he’s really interested. I hate texting. It’s so boring I swear 🤣
I love what you say about different things between men and women and is a great foundation for everybody to take in and apply to their life. I truly love it. You are a great speaker may God. Continue to bless you.
Thanks to Stephan for this video and also the hilarity of watching him talk about "provocative" pictures. I can't help but laugh as I watch Mr Man navigate that subject! Hell, he's laughing too! 😂😂❤
He always text first, he's not a type of person who likes to call but he said we can call if I want to, we met one time but were both busy with work and live across the country. We always argue and he'd still text me after argument. We know know each other 16 yrs ago we reconcile again.
Hey Stephan! I'm not a fan of texting, messaging etc. I'll send text messages every now and then. And I'll read them and respond...eventually if I happen to have my phone nearby and see it when it comes in. My preferred method of communication is face-to-face and phone calls. Yeah...I'm ol' school! (LOL) Oh... and Face-Time is a good option too. I'm a very sensual person! I like to see, hear, touch/feel etc. and you can't do that with text messages.
I don't mind texting because I like information in black and white plus I can be doing other things at the same time. If I'm relaxed then it's a call. One video call a week is enough for me because paying attention to facial expressions, observing the environment and listening to what he is saying were too exhausting for very long calls
@@Ziggimomspal68 because with video calls the lights have to be on and after a long day at work it is cosier with my lights off and I'm just listening to the sound of his voice which I find soothing
I don't like texting but I know that this is the time we are living in. Then getting to know a person is what is being done by texting them to get a feel of how they are and if the trust is really there.
@Mesem-tp7nxbut when you look into someone's eyes you can tell if they are serious about you or not. Because by texting someone people can say anything to you by messages but when you are face to face you can tell if that person is real or not.
Omg I needed to hear the part about being on social media but not responding to my text, my boyfriend and I just had this discussion, thank you for a better understanding
I agree with the long texting messages. However, at times, I'm guilty of this myself. I would prefer a phone call and a time to look out for a phone call. I would like cards or letters. I hate texts because it is not all the time personable. I have to agree with you that text should be brief, but if the guy is really into you, then at some point, he needs to get on his A game with communicating with you. How else are you going to get to know the person?
I like texting especially off and on during the day when I’m at work. But I like to have a phone call in the evening. The person I’m seeing now really likes to text but if I tell him to call me he does right away or if I seem upset over text he calls me. He’s a good guy.
Talking is vital to a REAL relationship. You have to talk, laugh, and plan together. Nothing else can develop openly, clearly. Especially if not living nearby.
The way my mind and schedule are set up, we’re initially texting and calling to set up dates. If a man is local, I don’t take him seriously if there’s not a face-face within 1-2 weeks. If we like each other, I definitely become more liberal with my energy to communicate throughout the day if the connection is there and we discussed each other’s preferences. Once I’m in a relationship, I’m readily accessible/responsive through text and I’ll even chat on the phone to “cake”, share our days, and foreplay some “shake and bake” 😂.
In my experience, I’ve noticed that a lot of texting (before a first date or in between first couple of dates) creates a false sense of intimacy. It’s hard for me to gauge a conversation via text with someone I don’t know too well yet. Plus, what’s being discussed via texting can be discussed on the date. I say texting is for checking in every now and then and planning the next date. Is this wrong?
Long distance is all about texting, video calls. Communication is the key however it is. It shouldn’t be a big deal why is everything a problem these days. No matter what. Years ago was writing letters, telephone calls, emails. A relationship worked. Just go with the flow.
Im just very interested in how differently people can be when it comes to texting. I use to love texting but having the experiences ive had my interest slowed down. I just like to have an opened mind and go off what i like and whats best for them. As long as its healthy ❤
I was engaged with a man that tried having serious conversations via text. So not just woman LOL I verbalized my needs and no change. Needless to say I ended the engagement. Look for those red flags in anyone that is unable to have a face to face conversation to communicate.
I admit I thought texting someone for 2 mths was kind of dating. Pushed him to meet and then the abusive narcissist came out. There was something he was trying to hide
If I see a person constantly on their phone, I expect a faster response. But if I rarely see someone with a phone, I know I shouldn't expect a quick response. 🤣
No sir! He is grown. I dont care what he's been accustomed to doing with other women in the past. He is adult enough to know that all women are not the same! Make no assumptions!!!! Constant texts are unacceptable. And most definitely if you've addressed the texting and he continues.......bye bye👋🏿👋🏿👋🏿 No more excuses!
Jesus Christ is good, because it wise to keep my past and thoughts to myself, because he will never know lol anything until I open the conversation with him...
Me personally if a person's conversation is lame I will text you . Often women don't know how to self reflect in friendships so i can only imagine how horrible they are in dating.. ppl have their reasons why they rather text me I'm selective in who I talk to . I don't mind talking however you must be interesting. Just how iam .. if a man isn't interesting to talk to I probably won't date him .. every man I ever fell for was good at talking . That's key for me
Omg have made that mistake of trying to interpret tone of a text. I left a whole video voice note of how I miss him after a wonderful road trip we took and all I got was a bunch of kiss emojis. I felt like what? That’s all???? No words???!!! Then he video called me the next day to respond to my video note cuz he wanted to see me live to respond. Man…I felt guilty lol I have to remember he doesn’t write novels in texts like me lol
I told the guy I am dating (we’ve been in 5 dates) that I prefer calls over texts and he didn’t change it. He is respectful and kind during our dates, he asks me to see him and makes nice plans for us. But he would not call me. Idk should I cut him off?
I've dealt with way too many women that will not pick up the phone and chat for a few min. Also, I've dealt with women that dumped me because I wasn't "flirting properly" over txt. W TF🙄🙄🙄
These days, we have the wonderful convenience of voice notes and microphones that can transcribe our thoughts for us. It’s comforting to see how technology can make communication a little easier. 😊😅
If I ask him a conversation starting/thought provoking question, (to avoid the dry “hey”s and “”wyd” messages) and he gives a dry response to a thoughtful question, should/can I consider his communication skills off of that?
I'd like to know also. I'm a 34 year old virgin with no sexual experience of any kind. Was texting this 37 year old who would text like you said...basically like a teenage boy...while I'm writing multiple sentences and small paragraphs of leading questions. He finally called me...the first time was a disaster as I can hear loud noises and him talking around me and to whomever is in his group at the bar at 1:30am (which is a red flag for me at that age honestly). The second time was no highly intellectual, stimulating conversation and the vibe as the kids say, wasn't really natural. And texts always veered towards sex and constant pressure of me coming up to his place--we've never met in person in the daytime and hadn't even talked in the phone until I said a hard no and implied goodbye and get lost when he wanted to call him "daddy" which is reserved only for my biological father not some man or even a serious partner--, for which he said he'd pay for an Uber if I didn't want to drive to 40 min.
I actually prefer texting, but there are times when the tone with texting can be misconstrued and can cause a problem. Then there are a lot of clarifications that need to be had. 😒
Stephen’s videos are typically over 30 minutes long and they are too long for me. Does anyone have the cliff notes version/list of the 7 things not to text? Please and thank you if you do.
My dude calls me all the time Love it. But rarely texts except for the work he is doing. And occasional music videos focusing on the bass, which he plays and i am learning. But our chrono age is up there
I don’t let men pursue me over text anymore. All this crap is too much for me. Our brains have not adapted to this type of communication at all and it leads to so much miscommunication and ultimately pain. If a guy wants anything to do with me, he’ll use texting to plan actual time spent together. I’m very upfront about this boundary early on. In this day and age it keeps me single - but I prefer it to a relationship over text.
I don't agree on the last point especially in a dating app. You can try to put your best foot forward and be engaging and willing to hold a convo for the short 2-3 conversations to be had. I mean, effort. Smh.. why TF would I want to meetup if I'm already needing to pull teeth to start and be turned off??! Please.
I think if someone is not mentally available to respond to a text message they could send a quick msg or a quick voicenote saying that they received the message but will respond later. I think that's a good way to deal with this problem. That's what I would do.
I met a man a while back. All he wanted to do is text. And if he called, it was always when he was driving. And when I tried calling him, he would not answer. I found out that he is married. Lots of red flags
I'm gonna make him wait because he makes me feel ghosted when he takes a week to respond to my texts and calls. He claims that he shuts down and doesn't want to talk, so I want to see if it makes him feel like I feel when he doesn't respond. Just one time, and we'll discuss. Maybe I'm sensitive, but I doubt it.
@MjtheChicagokid Been there. I was on cloud 9 with a young man. Very into me, so I thought, but things changed once I gave into temptation. Once they get what they want..... So learn from this. Good luck The "one" is not far.
There comes a time when texting stops nourishing your spirit and only a honest to goodness verbal conversation can take you both to the next level 😊
A lil texting is cute if I want to be privately amused to reread
😂 but it cannot be substituted ,I want to look him in his eyes and
experience this magnetic masculine energy big time !!!!
I literally just met a man a few days ago. We have only texted. This morning I politely told him exactly "You know you can call me sometimes. We both have surpassed teens & 20's. I like to hear a man's voice helps me get a clearer picture of who he is" He replied. "I understand & agree. I will definitely call you after work today"
“We both have surpassed our teens and 20s” - wow, how condescending of you!!
@@offairhead Why is it condescending? Adults speak on a phone. We don't have relationships via SMS 🙄
@@msdemeanour You see I didn't even respond to the child's comment, clearly US Adults who are experienced understand. That comment only proved pure ignorance. HAVE A BLESSED DAY QUEEN 😎
And mine never calls after the promise 😢
@@offairheadUmmm ..are you ok? There was nothing condescending about that comment
The second to the last point is so true. Met a guy online. I almost ruled him out because he wasn't communicative. But he asked for my number and the first time we spoke, we spoke for 4 hours straight. I was shocked! He was such a great conversationalist.
That's surprising 😮 like you said
Every relationship experiences challenges, but there is always a way to progress. My marriage was tested by significant problems, but with appropriate help, my wife and I worked through them and strengthened our bond. Solutions are available if you’re ready to put in the effort and work together. Stay hopeful-there’s always a way.
My relationship is going through major troubles, and losing her is unbearable for me. I love and miss my partner more than words can express and am ready to do whatever it takes to have her return. Any suggestions or guidance would be greatly appreciated.
Parting ways with someone you deeply care about is never easy, but in my particular circumstance, I was aided by a spiritual mentor who averted the collapse of my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
I'll promptly start searching for her online. I appreciate it. I'm optimistic that pursuing this approach will also lead to favorable outcomes for me; her absence weighs heavily on me.
I promise you will not regret it
That's great you worked your way through isdues
We live in a day and age where communication is becoming more important then ever. I don't like texting, and it is indeed important to communicate this to your date/partner etc. Voice, video call or personal. Text lead most of the time to misunderstandings. I don't want to assume or ask questions: "what do you mean?" etc. 70% of communication is body language. So I prefer that, we have to go back to connect in a geniune way with each other. Text is indeed for a quick short messages and sweettt. I agree what you said, Stephan, I am protecting my energy, I am not always available. Thank you for this content. Many Love and Light.
Absolutely correct, thank you for your feedback
That part to the mental exhaustion and not answering my phone or text immediately because I DON'T HAVE THE MENTAL CAPACITY!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
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Then don't date. Since you don't have the mental capacity for it
Be prepared it's all part of the code
@@L-M-O-1 I feel you. But I said responding immediately. Meaning I'm a busy woman and I have a busy life. I can make room for dating for someone worthy of my time but it gets complicated when people feel ENTITLED to my immediate response. It won't always be like that 🤷🏾♀️ and I don't have the mental capacity to explain to grown adults who are not on my phone plan why it took me a while to hit them back.
@@sweetnys1you’re right. Many are just less busy or idle and feel too entitled !
I’m the woman who does deep conversations through text. It’s hard for me in person, because when I’m with my person, I’m just having fun and I’m not thinking about anything serious.. but when I’m away from them, I have all the questions lol
This is legit me 🙄 so frustrating 😅
So me… Totally get it
Thanks for posting this video, Stephan! I agree with you about texting not being courting. Earlier this year, I met a guy at a restaurant, who asked for my number. Also, he said that he wanted to meet again in person, but that never happened. He only wanted to send text messages. Texting is okay sometimes, but I prefer telephone conversations and meeting in-person. I explained to him more than once that him and I should have phone conversations and meet in person. He agreed with me, but he continued to text me. As a result, I told him I was no longer interested.
Good for you for not settling ❤❤
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My bf hates texting because we both take things the wrong way and end up arguing. BUT, I have suggested to him he can at least say "hope your day is going well, or thinking about you, etc, but he rarely even replies to my texts and sometimes doesn't. We do talk on the phone 5 nights a week (we are long distance) but it's just hard because I LOVE texting and when I do get a text, it brightens up my day
Just let someone loose because it was mostly calls and texts and he would never express his feelings about me. Three months without any expression of feelings is a little long I think. The closest thing he got to expressing anything about me was when he said, “You’re the smartest girl I know.” Whatever…
Sorry to hear things played out that way
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Glad I found out now rather than way later after bonds or attachments formed! Thank you for your channel!! I have learned so much from you and won’t settle for less than I deserve!
He might be intimidated you.
I did the email thing after a big blow up and I felt a million times lighter, I could sleep better at night and he finally understood where I was coming from....Steph you are THE MAN!!! ❤ I got the idea when you was talking doing the who hurt me list, I just figured email would be faster than the U.S. Mail way...lol
That is so awesome to hear 🙌❤️
Thx! 😊@@MeetStephanSpeaks
Great video! My five year relationship came to an end a month ago. The love of my life chose to leave, and I can't stop thinking about him; I love him so deeply. I've done everything I can to win him back, but nothing seems to work. I'm feeling frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my efforts to move on, I just can't shake the thoughts of him. I don’t know why I’m sharing this, but I really miss him.
It's tough to let go of someone you care about. I can relate, my 12year relationship also ended, and I struggled to move on. I tried everything to get him back, even seeking help from a spiritual counselor who ultimately helped me reconnect with him.
That's incredible! How did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I contact one?
Owen Abiola has incredible powers, and he can assist you.
Thank you for sharing this valuable information! I just looked him up online, and I'm impressed.
it is normal to feel this way.....same thing happened to me after 5 years, honestly took a 1-1.5 years to fully be ready to date again, you will get through this I promise, remember your worth
Deep conversations that need to be verbally communicated in-person or over the phone.
Most definitely!
I can't have a conversation with someone who dips in and out of the conversation itself, and doesn't always end the conversation with "I will talk to you later." and etc.
One of my closest friends & I made a promise to call or see eachother face to face when talking about the word of God or personal stuff. & we correct ourselves when we see we wrote something that could be misinterpreted. Good lessons, thank you.
🙌❤️ that is awesome to hear
I agree, I was courting
a wonderful man who was very good to me in every way. He was having a bad day at work, I was having a bad day at work as well. We had a misunderstanding in our communication via text and it ruined everything. He thought I was not being supportive when I was really being playfully flirting. He has NEVER disrespected me EVER so there was no reason for me to be vicious. We are communicating again after 6 weeks. I would really like for us to go back to being us.
Texting has no tone of voice. For me, tone of voice is very important. People often times have misconceptions from a text message.
I'm glad you did this because texting has changed the dynamics of dating. I understand now more than ever.
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Texting is for players, so I don't respond. A man can text, "hello, beautiful" to multiple women at the same time. Ugh. 🙄
Get busy at the moment not on the phone consistently , timing too , takes a break at times . This Truth
I had to learn the hard way that long ass, deep conversations through texts will piss of both men and women!! No one wants to read an essay, letter or book via texts!! lol!! Great points!!
I think it really depends on your relationship, attachment styles, and availability.
I have been in partnerships where we were not living together and sometimes people needed to think about what bugged them and how and they didn't always have the comfortability or time to personally talk something out, in person.
I am in a multiplayer poly dynamic scenario and not everyone knows something bugs them until later and if there is enough partners in rotation, it might be weeks before you see eachother.
If you can't communicate with the person any other way.
I love reading an essay, letter & book via text some men can share their feelings better and go more into detail when they're NOT face to face.
@@greenfaery25🤮
I agree and this can go both ways as well.
Absolutely!
I've watched many videos of you and I appreciate how you articulate. Your various subjects. Actually listening, communicating,being present, verification, is crucial. Your perspective on male minds is lovely. Thank you so much!
I love deep conversations thru txt'ing when we're having disagreements.. Cause things said are documented and also you can always go back and reread them..
But a phone call unexpectedly can brighten someone's day.. Either unexpected says they're thinking about you,, you're on their mind..
You just have to know your person and where you stand in that relationship..
My relationship is already established
Mentally available… Great point!💯
Excellent video!👏🏼💯❤️
I love that you’re always keeping it real, speaking truth & never sugarcoating your message!❤️
I hadn't dated for years. Getting back in the game is like a culture shock. I need effective communication and face to face discussions. Technology and social media take that away. However, that makes my weeding out the brothers quickly and easy. Communication is the foundation of a relationship, plus trust is paramount.
This is super important to me FACE time my GRACE time
we all must admit that different strokes for different folks
This actually got me Stephan " some men will send their package too"😊😊 my gish there,s never a dull moment with u and your
channels
lol 😂 🙂
I hate texting, I definitely prefer phone conversations. I do love the idea of writing letters, takes me back to my high school days when there was no phones and texting lol, if you were really into someone you would write letters to each other and the message would be conveyed perfectly. The idea of writing a letter is very romantic to me. And Stephan you looking good in that color, skin tone just poppin lol. ❤...
I forgot that. Yes...middle school through college. Face-to-face and letters. ❤
When I started this relationship,, I preferred txt at the end of the day.. I didn't have to talk to him and I could watch my TV programs while replying back and forth. Once he became more important,, conversations shifted to verbal
Ahh timely vid again! God Bless!
God bless you too 🙏
Point n.1 I agree with! I'm not from the US and I think here texting is the preferred way to go. Calling would feel *very* invasive, both to men and women, no matter how much you like them.
I think the main benefit with texting is you dont have to both be ready at the exact same time to talk to each other, but can still get to know what the other person said. There can be many reasons for not being ready for a phone conversation in that moment, including being in a noisy place, around other people you may not want to hear the conversation, in the shower, at work etc. But calling on the other hand, lets you get to know each other much more, talking in real life time and hearing tone of voice. And thats needed sometimes. Nothing beats actually spending time together in real life.
It's actually a lot easier to just talk on the phone than physically text. I wanna hear your voice. I lose interest over texting, there's no way we're getting to know one another via text message. It's very immature, and like you said, it's easy to hide. What are you hiding??
I met someone and they told me they like texting one of the communication I said ok look like me have to start texting but I did also say I do prefer to communicate face to face, talking on the phone and he done that.
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I recently met someone bumble and we’ve been talking a month. We’ve never spoke on the phone. I just met him last Saturday in person and everything matches up, but we haven’t talked on the phone at all. Text messages can get misconstrued and are much less intimate. I watched another one of Stephens videos this morning and it made me text him and ask him to call me after he gets off of work today. I have 7 questions I want to ask and see where his head is at and if he’s really interested. I hate texting. It’s so boring I swear 🤣
I love what you say about different things between men and women and is a great foundation for everybody to take in and apply to their life. I truly love it. You are a great speaker may God. Continue to bless you.
Thank you very much, I truly appreciate that
Thanks to Stephan for this video and also the hilarity of watching him talk about "provocative" pictures. I can't help but laugh as I watch Mr Man navigate that subject! Hell, he's laughing too! 😂😂❤
facts. if a guy is comfortable just texting me for 2 weeks, especially if he doesn’t make plans, he will NOT be hearing back from me
You caught my attention with this headline!🤗
Glad to hear 🙏
Fr same
I love your channel! UA-cam is a better place, because you're here! Keep being awesome!
Thank you so much ❤ I appreciate your support
@MeetStephanSpeaks you're most welcome ❤️
He always text first, he's not a type of person who likes to call but he said we can call if I want to, we met one time but were both busy with work and live across the country. We always argue and he'd still text me after argument.
We know know each other 16 yrs ago we reconcile again.
Hey Stephan! I'm not a fan of texting, messaging etc. I'll send text messages every now and then. And I'll read them and respond...eventually if I happen to have my phone nearby and see it when it comes in. My preferred method of communication is face-to-face and phone calls. Yeah...I'm ol' school! (LOL) Oh... and Face-Time is a good option too. I'm a very sensual person! I like to see, hear, touch/feel etc. and you can't do that with text messages.
I don't mind texting because I like information in black and white plus I can be doing other things at the same time. If I'm relaxed then it's a call. One video call a week is enough for me because paying attention to facial expressions, observing the environment and listening to what he is saying were too exhausting for very long calls
Interesting perspective on the FaceTiming
Really? What if you were living together, sharing the same spaces? Seems kind of odd that you don’t want face to face…
@@Ziggimomspal68 because with video calls the lights have to be on and after a long day at work it is cosier with my lights off and I'm just listening to the sound of his voice which I find soothing
ALWAYS VERY TUNED FROM UGANDA
Thank you!! 🙏
I don't like texting but I know that this is the time we are living in. Then getting to know a person is what is being done by texting them to get a feel of how they are and if the trust is really there.
❤ might be shyness like me I'm much more comfortable with messages because I'm immensely shy reserved self conscious 💚🙏🌼
@Mesem-tp7nxbut when you look into someone's eyes you can tell if they are serious about you or not. Because by texting someone people can say anything to you by messages but when you are face to face you can tell if that person is real or not.
Omg I needed to hear the part about being on social media but not responding to my text, my boyfriend and I just had this discussion, thank you for a better understanding
Whatabout online dating? How long should we text? Thank you for your great insights and advices. Very helpful😊
I love texting it gives u time to thing about responses and I have a busy house with kids, animals, and career so texting can fit right in with my Day
I agree with the long texting messages. However, at times, I'm guilty of this myself. I would prefer a phone call and a time to look out for a phone call. I would like cards or letters. I hate texts because it is not all the time personable. I have to agree with you that text should be brief, but if the guy is really into you, then at some point, he needs to get on his A game with communicating with you. How else are you going to get to know the person?
I agree I must do in person time with a person I don’t like texting
I like texting especially off and on during the day when I’m at work. But I like to have a phone call in the evening. The person I’m seeing now really likes to text but if I tell him to call me he does right away or if I seem upset over text he calls me. He’s a good guy.
8 texts to make a man lose interest...
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Always love Your videos , much Love From Canada 🇨🇦
Thank You ☺️
Thank you very much ❤️
Texting should be for shopping lists and flirting. It doesn't work in the long run trying to build a relationship.
Talking is vital to a REAL relationship. You have to talk, laugh, and plan together. Nothing else can develop openly, clearly. Especially if not living nearby.
The way my mind and schedule are set up, we’re initially texting and calling to set up dates. If a man is local, I don’t take him seriously if there’s not a face-face within 1-2 weeks. If we like each other, I definitely become more liberal with my energy to communicate throughout the day if the connection is there and we discussed each other’s preferences. Once I’m in a relationship, I’m readily accessible/responsive through text and I’ll even chat on the phone to “cake”, share our days, and foreplay some “shake and bake” 😂.
In my experience, I’ve noticed that a lot of texting (before a first date or in between first couple of dates) creates a false sense of intimacy. It’s hard for me to gauge a conversation via text with someone I don’t know too well yet. Plus, what’s being discussed via texting can be discussed on the date. I say texting is for checking in every now and then and planning the next date. Is this wrong?
Keeping texts short and simple is such a good rule of thumb!
I actually had a guy break up with me via text. And we are in our 70s. Some men just don't grow up
25:05 same here, since most ask for provocative pictures, just that qtn is a turn off. For a regular picture is understandable
Stephan you give very good info. Thanks👍🏽
Thank you very much 😁
Thank you for the great vids .
Listening from Kenya❤
Thank you for your support 🙏❤️
This is a great video. Thank you, Stephan! Bless your heart.🙏🏽❤️
By the way you look good in any color.🥰
I’m glad you like it and thank you very much 😊
Long distance is all about texting, video calls. Communication is the key however it is. It shouldn’t be a big deal why is everything a problem these days. No matter what. Years ago was writing letters, telephone calls, emails. A relationship worked. Just go with the flow.
Im just very interested in how differently people can be when it comes to texting. I use to love texting but having the experiences ive had my interest slowed down. I just like to have an opened mind and go off what i like and whats best for them. As long as its healthy ❤
I enjoy listening to your videos, which is very informative. It's just too long! 😅 I got to hear till the middle and was done.
I hate when someone calls me, I def prefer texting😁
That's true, men want to be desired too. I give mines a lot, I want him to know, I only desire him.
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It works both ways imo
I was engaged with a man that tried having serious conversations via text. So not just woman LOL I verbalized my needs and no change. Needless to say I ended the engagement. Look for those red flags in anyone that is unable to have a face to face conversation to communicate.
Thank you for that information. 😊
I’m glad you enjoyed it
Just ordered your book, I'll give you some feed back. Thanks
Great video, thanks for sharing!
Always my pleasure 🙂
Thank you Brother 🙏
I can't believe how old new school I am.. unique 😅😊glory to God 🙏🏾✨️🙏🏾
I admit I thought texting someone for 2 mths was kind of dating. Pushed him to meet and then the abusive narcissist came out. There was something he was trying to hide
If I see a person constantly on their phone, I expect a faster response. But if I rarely see someone with a phone, I know I shouldn't expect a quick response. 🤣
Idc what time we in if she into texting instead of picking up a phone to talk ....she's not the one....
I can understand that
Same
Yes!
Period!
Totally agree!
No sir!
He is grown. I dont care what he's been accustomed to doing with other women in the past. He is adult enough to know that all women are not the same! Make no assumptions!!!!
Constant texts are unacceptable.
And most definitely if you've addressed the texting and he continues.......bye bye👋🏿👋🏿👋🏿
No more excuses!
I don’t agree with that mindset but I understand if that’s how you choose to handle things
I agree with you, because if a man does something I don't like and I express my feelings about it he usually gets worse.😂
Agree this is sometime to much?
lol a man sounds like a breast lol...with no brains... sounds like Dorothy of the Wizard of Oz
Jesus Christ is good, because it wise to keep my past and thoughts to myself, because he will never know lol anything until I open the conversation with him...
I find with texting people avoid certain questions purposely
This can definitely happen
True
Am a face to face girl.
That’s the best way to do it
Me personally if a person's conversation is lame I will text you . Often women don't know how to self reflect in friendships so i can only imagine how horrible they are in dating.. ppl have their reasons why they rather text me I'm selective in who I talk to . I don't mind talking however you must be interesting. Just how iam .. if a man isn't interesting to talk to I probably won't date him .. every man I ever fell for was good at talking . That's key for me
Omg have made that mistake of trying to interpret tone of a text. I left a whole video voice note of how I miss him after a wonderful road trip we took and all I got was a bunch of kiss emojis. I felt like what? That’s all???? No words???!!! Then he video called me the next day to respond to my video note cuz he wanted to see me live to respond. Man…I felt guilty lol I have to remember he doesn’t write novels in texts like me lol
I told the guy I am dating (we’ve been in 5 dates) that I prefer calls over texts and he didn’t change it. He is respectful and kind during our dates, he asks me to see him and makes nice plans for us. But he would not call me. Idk should I cut him off?
You are bringing very good.points.... I agree with what you are saying ..I text sometimes when necessary....but I like one on one communication .
I've dealt with way too many women that will not pick up the phone and chat for a few min.
Also, I've dealt with women that dumped me because I wasn't "flirting properly" over txt. W TF🙄🙄🙄
You sure know how to pick 'em.😮
@dezydream6472 🤣🤣
@@dezydream6472 It happened al lot with dating apps
U will make better choices next time
These days, we have the wonderful convenience of voice notes and microphones that can transcribe our thoughts for us. It’s comforting to see how technology can make communication a little easier. 😊😅
If I ask him a conversation starting/thought provoking question, (to avoid the dry “hey”s and “”wyd” messages) and he gives a dry response to a thoughtful question, should/can I consider his communication skills off of that?
I'd like to know also. I'm a 34 year old virgin with no sexual experience of any kind. Was texting this 37 year old who would text like you said...basically like a teenage boy...while I'm writing multiple sentences and small paragraphs of leading questions. He finally called me...the first time was a disaster as I can hear loud noises and him talking around me and to whomever is in his group at the bar at 1:30am (which is a red flag for me at that age honestly). The second time was no highly intellectual, stimulating conversation and the vibe as the kids say, wasn't really natural. And texts always veered towards sex and constant pressure of me coming up to his place--we've never met in person in the daytime and hadn't even talked in the phone until I said a hard no and implied goodbye and get lost when he wanted to call him "daddy" which is reserved only for my biological father not some man or even a serious partner--, for which he said he'd pay for an Uber if I didn't want to drive to 40 min.
I actually prefer texting, but there are times when the tone with texting can be misconstrued and can cause a problem. Then there are a lot of clarifications that need to be had. 😒
Stephen’s videos are typically over 30 minutes long and they are too long for me. Does anyone have the cliff notes version/list of the 7 things not to text? Please and thank you if you do.
My dude calls me all the time
Love it. But rarely texts except for the work he is doing. And occasional music videos focusing on the bass, which he plays and i am learning. But our chrono age is up there
I don’t let men pursue me over text anymore. All this crap is too much for me. Our brains have not adapted to this type of communication at all and it leads to so much miscommunication and ultimately pain.
If a guy wants anything to do with me, he’ll use texting to plan actual time spent together. I’m very upfront about this boundary early on. In this day and age it keeps me single - but I prefer it to a relationship over text.
I agree!
I’ll never accept texting as a form of communication ever again! Never ends well 😭
1. Being offended by men who text more than call ……it’s easier to hide behind texting ..talk to him about the texting..,
thanks for the message cause I’m a big fan of text messages gonna change my way on that.Merci
I’m glad you found the video helpful
So question, what if it's a long distance relationship? How is the deep conversations to be held then? Otherwise thank you for the great information 😊
I don't agree on the last point especially in a dating app. You can try to put your best foot forward and be engaging and willing to hold a convo for the short 2-3 conversations to be had. I mean, effort. Smh.. why TF would I want to meetup if I'm already needing to pull teeth to start and be turned off??! Please.
I think if someone is not mentally available to respond to a text message they could send a quick msg or a quick voicenote saying that they received the message but will respond later. I think that's a good way to deal with this problem. That's what I would do.
I met a man a while back. All he wanted to do is text. And if he called, it was always when he was driving. And when I tried calling him, he would not answer. I found out that he is married. Lots of red flags
I'm gonna make him wait because he makes me feel ghosted when he takes a week to respond to my texts and calls. He claims that he shuts down and doesn't want to talk, so I want to see if it makes him feel like I feel when he doesn't respond. Just one time, and we'll discuss. Maybe I'm sensitive, but I doubt it.
A week?? No!! He's not into you. Slowly move on. You can do better.
@dezydream6472 yeah. It was a good year and then this foolishness. Too bad. He was really consistent and loving and I thought he was the one.
@MjtheChicagokid Been there. I was on cloud 9 with a young man. Very into me, so I thought, but things changed once I gave into temptation.
Once they get what they want..... So learn from this. Good luck The "one" is not far.
Hudge disrespect not nice
Your not sensitive, your speaking Facts 💯. I feel like you do, It doesn't take that much time out of your day to acknowledge a person you like...