You're so right! I met this guy, great connection, deep conversations, he knew I was looking for something serious. In fifteen days we met 7 times, then something changed, he said he would not be able to see me the following weekend and gave me some kind of stupid excuse, I felt something was off and asked God to take him out of my life if he wasn't right for me, then I told this guy "if you feel like you're not willing to take this further and make it more serious, please let me know". Two days later we had a conversation and he let me go, it hurt as hell, but at least it didn't waste my time and my energy. Do not be afraid of asking, of saying, girls.
This is simple,! You need boundaries. You tell the guy up front "I'm not having sex with you or anybody else until I'm married!" Right there you'll eliminate 75% of the men/BOYS!! YOU MUST HAVE BOUNDARIES!! NOT ONLY IN DATING BUT IN EVERY RELATIONSHIP! IT'S THAT SIMPLE!
You're right... I've just had a conversation with a man I thought I liked but he sent me his half-naked photo and wanted me to recipricate, which I didn't do. I know him from work but he didn't even make an effort to see me on a date once. We just texted. I thought he was one of the decent guys but guess not. I lost my interest. Not that I'm a nun but definitely I'm not that fast.
I totally agree!! I have done this and eliminated the man I was involved with. He couldn’t wait but at least had dignity to accept the truth and move on. ❤
@NavyVetE5 You phrased this beautifully. This feels like it is phrased perfectly center where it weeds out the wrong men on the back end without pushing away the good men on the front end. I say that because I see so many women sabotage themselves, by taking their boundary to the other extreme and turning it into a carnal, cussing, fuss fit where they say it over and over again like they are trying to fix a man. Good men usually get the point the first time and are looking to move on with life.
If you carry yourself with purity, that is, if you actually are, the man will know. The way you talk, dress, do you blush? Or do you flirt back? If you are flirting with some guy you just met, he will assume you do this with everyone Tom, dick, and harry.
Where are the men who are serious?… I literally am perplexed as to where they are ‘hiding’? I’m starting to put my toe in and I’m not sure what I ended was ‘worse’ than what I’m finding. :(
I asked a couple of questions to a really questionable man a few days ago. He did not directly answer the question clearly, but I got enough from his vibe to easily see his true intentions. It wasn't what I wanted, but I am now free of doubt. It is liberating to finally find out what you needed to know by asking. Just simply being direct. Now I can let go.
I know he's interesting in me cause he's still dating me without sex. I m always asking a variety of intentional questions. Sometimes, I put him on the spot. He still comes back for more. 😊
Not necessarly true , he can be playing " the long game" . Not looking for fast gratification . But either way , you made the smartest choice " to delay sex " .Because men early periods of dating when they get what they want they lose interestin in " emotional investement" which is the key to conquer a men
Off-topic, I know, but I enjoy Stephan's laughter. It makes me laugh too. Sometimes I come here knowing I'd learn and laugh. Like I know when to anticipate it. Once he says, "hold on... Hold on...", "Gimme a moment", "However..." or gives a pause before dropping a punchy line 😅. Thanks for your messages, they are both informative, humor-filled and therapeutic. And please don't stop with the laughter 😂
@amasslead In one of Stephan's previous videos, he addressed the subject of money. I think that it was either women asking men, or men asking women. Either way, he was addressing a subject that can normally be either cliche or very intense, but the way he addressed it had me almost rolling over laughing. 🤣 I will try to find the video and post the link for you. I think that one was probably from at least a year ago.
@amasslead I found the video. It is titled, "Men Hate When Women Do THESE Five Things In The Early Stages Of Dating." ua-cam.com/video/pzR3h130RAI/v-deo.htmlsi=c2JRKEcsBMPonacT
Certain guys lie...and will continue to lie and manipulate yall...because they don't care...and they get successful with it, cause women fall for the same ol tired games all the time. So it is what it is.
@@jayc5756Right. I've been caught up a few times with the tricks. I've just learned how to let go once I see it. Before I'd stay. Not anymore. Thanks!!!❤❤
This video is very timely because I am starting the process of dating again after being single for over a year. Thank you for sharing this helpful advice.
I’ve asked questions and have seen red flags in my relationship but he blatantly gaslights me. After a year and a half of being in this relationship, he basically disappeared right before Christmas. Said he’s “with family” then text me on NYE “happy new year. I love you ❤❤❤”. No phone calls and I have yet to meet his family. Relationship OVER.
Hi Stephan and chat, happy Blessed Mondayyyy!🤗 I can totally agree and relate! I've been dating a guy for aout 5-6 months, and at one point I noticed a change in his actions/our communication. So we went on a date and I brought it up to him (because I prefer to have these conversations face to face). He helped me understand as well as we came to an understanding collectively... And it LITERALLY STRENGTHENED our relationship/dynamic. So I thank God for 2 mature adults being able to talk and come to an understanding moving forward. And Thank you, Stephan! I referenced you/your content to a guy friend of mine, who I believe will find it helpful in his life. Continued Blessings 🙌🏾🎁🌟
Great video, I've been single over eight years and is considering dating next year for a husband . And your videos are inspiring/preparing me for such. Thank you!
You really have to love someone to establish a great physical relationship, at any age. As you get older with children raised and out of the house, it's really good to know what you want from a relationship.
Not me laughing hard when Stephan said “ hey look I’m looking for a man to settle down with and if that’s not what u want get the hell out of my life 😂😂😂honestly are there women who talk like that😂
Awesome video! I always say. Fall in love with yourself (healing)and that way, you can see through all the foolishness! Thank you! I pray that, as you pour into us, God pour back into you.🙏❤
🔥🔥🔥Lovely video❣️ 💯 I feel when a woman is within her true intentions it must reflect coming from her mindset and her heart ❤️ of her soul first in order to see her reflection within a man who sees himself as being the KING who will overstand her. Sometimes, without saying a 1 word... Real will recognize Real in spirit...
Guy I'm seeing just started saying that a few days ago. I told him that phrase said he didn't take me serious. He turns on his "Rico suave face and voice" He doesn't even know he's done.
I feel so much better after watching this! To clear up all the whispers, the fly monkey talk....it's time for me, the cougar, to just live in the present, approach my boy, and simply ask for his intentions!!!
For the intentions with me question. Should you ask this in the talking stage( just meeting someone or wait until after a few dates. When they have gotten to know u better?) When is too early to ask that question?
If you can be single be it But if you get married or even remarried Please be careful Make sure the woman or man show you openness Love warmth intimacy respect etc
Thank you so much for your obedience and sending out this video today. It's night time here in Namibia, Windhoek. But this is Really what I needed to hear tonight. Exactly what I needed. This was my confirmation too. Really appreciate you and getting to know you on social media. Thank God for you too.
I love this particular conversation. We should have more of them, Stephan! I'd like to see what your perspective is on divorced couples getting back in the dating field or dealing with this same topic. Sitiuationships etc.
From my exoerience in one instance in particular usually BEFORE you run into the divine partner TMH has ordained for you..he will have given you and your mate intuitive downloads in the spiritual and physical to show you particular things. So there is already an awareness. That's after you've had your "awakening" in life..."To die is to have meant..to have a....etc.
Exactly , actually my female friend asked the guy she's dating his intentions and he told her that at present he has loads of financial commitments something about paying off debts therefore he just wants them to enjoy dating ? nd my poor friend believes he will eventually talk marriage with her at some point because tha'ts what she really wants. So yeah pure intentions are there in the some light.
There is a spiritual marraige that happens before the actual physical..Ordained means "meant to be"...ALREADY WRITTEN IN THE STARS. As above so below...
I agree, but men have a struggle with this conversation. Some men think that because you express that you are dating with intentions or because you let them know you want to be married one day, they assume you are saying you want them to be the husband or boyfriend. They assume the conversation is signing them up for the "role" and it's NOT! I may decide after two or three weeks of dating a guy, I'm not interested. NEXT!
My problem is that I always fall for the ones who are emotionally unavailable and even try to give myself in ways that I want to make them like me more trying to speed up their feelings for me like you said in the begening always put your boundaries up first and foremost. I've jumped in to what I think I've asked God for and he delivers all of the things I'm looking for but the ones who really are patient and want Mt best are the ones I'm never attracted to 😢sadend ne because I set myself up to be hurt and disappointed
Please come back to NY!! I bought a Ticket and was not able to attend the event this summer😔 Thank YOU for what you do!! You have a way of communicating that is real and we can feel that your intentions are true and good. God bless you always!!
Thank you🤗 for being able to share.🙏A man with great intentions won't use the word intentions because he knows it's an emotional word. I've been dating online, and I can differentiate the type of man that use that word based on what they described. They're looking for and if it's just pictures of themselves. Most of the time when a man says he's dating with intentions . he does not describe sharing his world. He describes wanting someone to validate him. That's what I have experienced personally, but that's how I have weave the ?🧐 from the real😇 🤝
You are absolutely on point!! He desperately needs the validation without doing the work (clear consistent communication) for starters. First he wanted marriage right away then FWB then just faded away. Good riddance
Such teachings are true and so much insightful ❤some guy said I should stop looking at ur videos but I feel he is insecure and hurt for such practical reasons...🎉🎉🎉
I asked a man what does he want with me, he said, simply sex, no relationship now, I said, I do want that and I want marriage, then he turned around a few days later and said, he wants a relationship, and wants to move in with me. Keep in mind, I know this guy for about a week? he lives in my complex. Now that I do not want a relationship, as I am trusting what he initially said, he is losing his mind... huh?
My intuition is telling he’s not the one. I even have dreams about it. BUT bc I like him so much and see “potential” in him and I am naturally a giver I really want to be here for him and watch him grow into a true man. I am willing to enjoy the ride bc it is what it is to me! Can I also say I love being a sugar momma 😂 I think that’s my problem!!! You should make a video about sugar momma’s and daddy’s 😂. Yeszir
When praying to God I try not to passive for the reasons mentioned in this video. So I try to be more detail. Now I'm messing up somewhere, and maybe because in the past, I did ask for signs.
Oh my God, I asked a guy that revealed to me what was his intentions and he basically said I have been in love with you for 4 1/2 years. My intentions is to marry you and even with that I just was speechless and immediately I put myself in the go with the flow mode, but now listening to this I have to rethink this. Because I am convincing myself that I don’t deserve the love that I give.
If you're not interested in sex with the other person, tell them. If they stay and continue on, ask their intentions. If they dodge the questions and try to manipulate you, or try to step on your boundaries, huge red flag. Run. He aint it.
Need a video on exactly how to tell a good man you want to wait until marriage. It's a delicate topic, and even more so if it's a good relationship in which you already have feelings for each other....it's more intimidating when you already have chemistry. Hopefully he'll be ok with it but you really can't predict how it will go. Would appealing to their masculinity help? Like telling them you're trusting them to protect your virtue/morals? And instead of treating them like they can't handle it, instead, treat them like you expect the best of them, that they'll be able to have self control. They will be your hero by fighting the battle of lust, right along with you. That's something they should hear, I assume.
After starting a few relationships, I wish I had asked these questions, in a nice way, rather than trying to guess their intentions, at age 68 time is short. Spent my life married so being single is harder, but I have learned to let people go immediately if it's not right without taking it so personally as rejection. Best advice Stephan.❤❤❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
If looking for advice, I'd say something like, 'I'm really attracted to you, however my purity is important to me and I have decided to wait until marriage. I know if I slept with you, I wouldn't feel good about myself afterward, so I don't even want to go down that road pre-marriage.' Your thoughts?
@MWroses I am so glad that you asked this question. It might vary a little depending on what I would call either the level or variation of good in the man, or his standards, but the one thing that I would say would probably be common among them all is not to repeat it over and over again because I would say that good men are most likely to get the point on the first, or second time tops, and are ready to move on with life. I know that definitely applies with me. I can understand her need to state that boundary, but, after that, I need to move on and figure out what she wants out of life in the meantime. I also happen to be anti-cussing, so, if someone states that boundary with cuss words, I am most likely going to say it is a no-go. I might be lenient if she says something like, "no d-word sex until marriage" if no other cuss words pop up in the conversation afterwards. I am willing to tolerate a word or two here and there, except for the f-word. If she drops that, we are done unless she can commit to not using that word again. She can find a man that wants to put up with that.
I'm going to spell it out. My periods are a problem. Right now, I'm infuriated. The indifference towards my period bothers me. My pain isn't funny. That's why I expect the women to be understanding. I have to be alone because it triggers my mood.
In other words, I just want to sleep with you with no intention of ever marrying you, until I get bored and annoyed by you and I look for another person to sleep with. Don’t accept it ladies, have some standards
Hi Steven I got about halfway through this particular one and man everything you said hit home I too stayed in a Friends with Benefits relationship thinking that maybe one day he'll really start liking me and not yes I knew him before I went to bed with him but as I got to know him I could see that he was not really going to stay with me and if he did it was only just to go to the bedroom and that was it that's all he liked me for so I agreed to this like a fool thinking it would you know thinking all he'll grow to like me no I had to ask him do you even like me and then of course he said yes I like you and if you got to ask a man for them to tell you they like you that's pretty pathetic so he never once said that I know he wasn't in love with me and that's okay anyway you speak a lot of truth I was wondering did you study this or do you just know all this because you studied life and you've been through it I'm just curious Steven thank you
I did all of these Stephan. I learned from your previous videos and from Tony Gaskins' too...to keep my legs closed until marriage! So this guy dating me two months ago I asked him his intentions from the start, he said he's serious with me but after a month his real intentions came out. One time he got drunk and we video called, he felt lusty after that call and he wanted to come over in my apartment to take me out and this is late at night too. I'm pretty sure he wanted to have sex with me (he said it indirectly but I'm a woman I know that's what he wanted that night) even though he's not even my boyfriend yet. I said no to all of that. The next day he wanted me to lend him money. He dumped me after our confrontation because he could not get what he wanted, sex and money. He said he's not pursuing any longer and made excuses that I don't trust him that I'm always overthinking and all. Eww the man revealed his true self after a month of being so sweet and a gentleman. Glad he did not become my boyfriend! He's fake. He's an idiot. He's out. Next!
I’m a 62 year old divorced woman with three grown children. I just want consistent intimacy. I don’t want to get married or live with anyone and I have made this known to my current partner and we are both on the same page for now. I also want to add that maturity and older age allows you to know your true self. The down side is that youth is wasted on the young.
I asked this man....are you seeing anyone else....does anyone think they are seeing you...he said...what do you think? Manipulation....trying to leave me guessing...he also said he was going with the flow too....ion want no one who may ignore me, wont answer question, or is caught up over his ex...he not even worth much atp
Hey Stephan,i met this amazing man but he is very poor in communication. He always assures me of long term relationship especially he is facing work related stress he will just shut down,zero communication ,sometimes i overthink but i realize he genuinely love me.What can i do?
What if he’s got legitimate intentions on having a committed relationship, but there’s still a lot of damage and trauma from his last relationship and he doesn’t see that he thinks he’s healed
I think as women we need to stop clinging and carrying so much in the beginning of a relationship. In the sense of believing his action more than anything. Do not have sex with him. Stay focused on your goals. He will want to court you if he likes you! But wait to see who he becomes after those six months, we all have representatives. Also manifest and write your list. You’ll be surprised after you evolve in life how different the type of man you want will be. Do not settle for less!
PREVENTION is better than CURE ,theese 7 points listed are super effective in weeding off those creepy bad minded MEN Thanks Steph this video hit me as BREAKING NEWS
You're so right! I met this guy, great connection, deep conversations, he knew I was looking for something serious. In fifteen days we met 7 times, then something changed, he said he would not be able to see me the following weekend and gave me some kind of stupid excuse, I felt something was off and asked God to take him out of my life if he wasn't right for me, then I told this guy "if you feel like you're not willing to take this further and make it more serious, please let me know". Two days later we had a conversation and he let me go, it hurt as hell, but at least it didn't waste my time and my energy. Do not be afraid of asking, of saying, girls.
I experienced the same thing. It’s okay too❤😢😊
7 times in 15 days! Sounds overwhelming...didn't you have other things to do or you dropped everything for him?
Dont say that! Not cool..@@cshell2001
Rejection is our protection. God sees what we don’t
You asked for a serious relationship after 17 days??
This is simple,! You need boundaries. You tell the guy up front "I'm not having sex with you or anybody else until I'm married!" Right there you'll eliminate 75% of the men/BOYS!!
YOU MUST HAVE BOUNDARIES!! NOT ONLY IN DATING BUT IN EVERY RELATIONSHIP! IT'S THAT SIMPLE!
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You're right... I've just had a conversation with a man I thought I liked but he sent me his half-naked photo and wanted me to recipricate, which I didn't do. I know him from work but he didn't even make an effort to see me on a date once. We just texted. I thought he was one of the decent guys but guess not. I lost my interest. Not that I'm a nun but definitely I'm not that fast.
I totally agree!! I have done this and eliminated the man I was involved with. He couldn’t wait but at least had dignity to accept the truth and move on. ❤
@NavyVetE5 You phrased this beautifully. This feels like it is phrased perfectly center where it weeds out the wrong men on the back end without pushing away the good men on the front end.
I say that because I see so many women sabotage themselves, by taking their boundary to the other extreme and turning it into a carnal, cussing, fuss fit where they say it over and over again like they are trying to fix a man. Good men usually get the point the first time and are looking to move on with life.
If you carry yourself with purity, that is, if you actually are, the man will know. The way you talk, dress, do you blush? Or do you flirt back? If you are flirting with some guy you just met, he will assume you do this with everyone Tom, dick, and harry.
This is SO timely as I'm starting to date again after 10 years of being in a relationship!
You're welcome 🙏
Same here and it’s hard out here!!
Same here. And boy have men changed.
Where are the men who are serious?… I literally am perplexed as to where they are ‘hiding’? I’m starting to put my toe in and I’m not sure what I ended was ‘worse’ than what I’m finding. :(
@@boyybar I agree! It’s hard, but I’ve learned the stronger your boundaries and dating standards, the better.
I asked a couple of questions to a really questionable man a few days ago. He did not directly answer the question clearly, but I got enough from his vibe to easily see his true intentions. It wasn't what I wanted, but I am now free of doubt. It is liberating to finally find out what you needed to know by asking. Just simply being direct. Now I can let go.
I know he's interesting in me cause he's still dating me without sex. I m always asking a variety of intentional questions. Sometimes, I put him on the spot. He still comes back for more. 😊
You are getting fooled. Mark my words. He gets his sex somewhere else. Let him go .
Not necessarly true , he can be playing " the long game" . Not looking for fast gratification . But either way , you made the smartest choice " to delay sex " .Because men early periods of dating when they get what they want they lose interestin in " emotional investement" which is the key to conquer a men
I like the way Stephan says, "Let's keep this thing going."
Off-topic, I know, but I enjoy Stephan's laughter. It makes me laugh too. Sometimes I come here knowing I'd learn and laugh. Like I know when to anticipate it. Once he says, "hold on... Hold on...", "Gimme a moment", "However..." or gives a pause before dropping a punchy line 😅. Thanks for your messages, they are both informative, humor-filled and therapeutic. And please don't stop with the laughter 😂
@amasslead In one of Stephan's previous videos, he addressed the subject of money. I think that it was either women asking men, or men asking women. Either way, he was addressing a subject that can normally be either cliche or very intense, but the way he addressed it had me almost rolling over laughing. 🤣 I will try to find the video and post the link for you. I think that one was probably from at least a year ago.
@amasslead I found the video. It is titled, "Men Hate When Women Do THESE Five Things In The Early Stages Of Dating." ua-cam.com/video/pzR3h130RAI/v-deo.htmlsi=c2JRKEcsBMPonacT
Me too😅
I agree Stephan has a cute and infectious laugh. 😂😍
You are right! They don't have to lie really
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Certain guys lie...and will continue to lie and manipulate yall...because they don't care...and they get successful with it, cause women fall for the same ol tired games all the time. So it is what it is.
@@jayc5756Right. I've been caught up a few times with the tricks.
I've just learned how to let go once I see it. Before I'd stay. Not anymore. Thanks!!!❤❤
This video is very timely because I am starting the process of dating again after being single for over a year. Thank you for sharing this helpful advice.
I’ve asked questions and have seen red flags in my relationship but he blatantly gaslights me. After a year and a half of being in this relationship, he basically disappeared right before Christmas. Said he’s “with family” then text me on NYE “happy new year. I love you ❤❤❤”. No phone calls and I have yet to meet his family. Relationship OVER.
Be strong and let him go
Hi Stephan and chat, happy Blessed Mondayyyy!🤗
I can totally agree and relate! I've been dating a guy for aout 5-6 months, and at one point I noticed a change in his actions/our communication.
So we went on a date and I brought it up to him (because I prefer to have these conversations face to face). He helped me understand as well as we came to an understanding collectively... And it LITERALLY STRENGTHENED our relationship/dynamic.
So I thank God for 2 mature adults being able to talk and come to an understanding moving forward.
And Thank you, Stephan!
I referenced you/your content to a guy friend of mine, who I believe will find it helpful in his life.
Continued Blessings 🙌🏾🎁🌟
Great video, I've been single over eight years and is considering dating next year for a husband . And your videos are inspiring/preparing me for such. Thank you!
You're welcome 🙏
You really have to love someone to establish a great physical relationship, at any age.
As you get older with children raised and out of the house, it's really good to know what you want from a relationship.
Well said 🙏
You know your videos are always helpful and informative, counselor. That's one of the reasons why I love watching them. 😉❤️💯
Thank you so much! 🙏
I'm introverted Stephan. I really need my space today. I choose to be around women also.
This is my first time viewing a recent vido of yours. I've been watching the "3 years ago" ones😂
Not me laughing hard when Stephan said “ hey look I’m looking for a man to settle down with and if that’s not what u want get the hell out of my life 😂😂😂honestly are there women who talk like that😂
yes prayers first !!
🙏 absolutely!
Awesome video! I always say. Fall in love with yourself (healing)and that way, you can see through all the foolishness! Thank you! I pray that, as you pour into us, God pour back into you.🙏❤
🔥🔥🔥Lovely video❣️ 💯 I feel when a woman is within her true intentions it must reflect coming from her mindset and her heart ❤️ of her soul first in order to see her reflection within a man who sees himself as being the KING who will overstand her. Sometimes, without saying a 1 word... Real will recognize Real in spirit...
In my experience go with the flow means I’m not wanting a relationship with you
In most cases, yes
Guy I'm seeing just started saying that a few days ago. I told him that phrase said he didn't take me serious. He turns on his "Rico suave face and voice"
He doesn't even know he's done.
Season greetings ❤️ thanks for this
You're welcome 🙏
Real quick, love the backdrop 🙌🏻
Thank you 😊
Fasting, only with liquids, helped me to connect more with my Spirit and hear God more Clear and Direct. And diminishing my emotions and flesh.
Fasting is a great thing to do!
It's wonderful u fast, but true fast doesnot include any food or liquid.
29:23 hits home! I have consistently shown up for this man for him to always have an excuse on why he can’t show up for me.
The fact that when I cry and become emotional drives him away is making me cry mid video. 19:30
I’m sorry to hear that 🙏
absolutely... right from the start!
Thank you 🙏
Thanks Stephan! Very informative and much appreciated!🙏🩶 Happy Holidays!
My pleasure ❤ and happy holidays to you as well
I feel so much better after watching this! To clear up all the whispers, the fly monkey talk....it's time for me, the cougar, to just live in the present, approach my boy, and simply ask for his intentions!!!
I’m really happy this was helpful to you
Is there an easy way to walk away? You say walk away, but it seems maybe easier said than done.
Excellent video & topics!
You’re always on point… I love it! 💯👏🏼❤️❤️❤️
Thank you, I’m glad you enjoyed it
@@MeetStephanSpeaks you’re welcome 😉
@@MeetStephanSpeaks you’re welcome!👍🏼
@@MeetStephanSpeaks you’re welcome 😉
For the intentions with me question. Should you ask this in the talking stage( just meeting someone or wait until after a few dates. When they have gotten to know u better?) When is too early to ask that question?
Never too early. Day 1, because transparency is important.
If you can be single be it
But if you get married or even remarried
Please be careful
Make sure the woman or man show you openness
Love warmth intimacy respect etc
Thank you so much for your obedience and sending out this video today. It's night time here in Namibia, Windhoek. But this is Really what I needed to hear tonight. Exactly what I needed. This was my confirmation too. Really appreciate you and getting to know you on social media. Thank God for you too.
My pleasure ❤ I’m glad it was helpful to you
Stephan, I cannot thank you enough for sharing your knowledge. I’ve probably listened to 50 of your videos. Life changing for sure 🙏🏻
I love this particular conversation. We should have more of them, Stephan! I'd like to see what your perspective is on divorced couples getting back in the dating field or dealing with this same topic. Sitiuationships etc.
From my exoerience in one instance in particular usually BEFORE you run into the divine partner TMH has ordained for you..he will have given you and your mate intuitive downloads in the spiritual and physical to show you particular things. So there is already an awareness. That's after you've had your "awakening" in life..."To die is to have meant..to have a....etc.
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I LOVE listening to your videos .
Exactly , actually my female friend asked the guy she's dating his intentions and he told her that at present he has loads of financial commitments something about paying off debts therefore he just wants them to enjoy dating ? nd my poor friend believes he will eventually talk marriage with her at some point because tha'ts what she really wants. So yeah pure intentions are there in the some light.
This video is on point #mapepo. 👌🏾
I know that the title is about exposing intentions, but this is also good dating advice in general, especially the part about being authentic.
Hi, Pray ur Day and the weekend has been Great and thanks for the message.
There is a spiritual marraige that happens before the actual physical..Ordained means "meant to be"...ALREADY WRITTEN IN THE STARS. As above so below...
I pretty much always date with the right intentions.I can't speak for everyone else, but indefinetly it's not everyone.
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Love your videos but please can you add time stamps 😢
You Right Brother
Thank you 😊
my brother my friend these people are something else all you and i can do is pray for them 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I agree, but men have a struggle with this conversation. Some men think that because you express that you are dating with intentions or because you let them know you want to be married one day, they assume you are saying you want them to be the husband or boyfriend. They assume the conversation is signing them up for the "role" and it's NOT! I may decide after two or three weeks of dating a guy, I'm not interested. NEXT!
What can I say! You are bang on every point you made! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙏🏽💚
If over time you can read my body, you can experience🫶 my body, but that's when it is implemented that we are committed responsibly.🤗🙏
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My problem is that I always fall for the ones who are emotionally unavailable and even try to give myself in ways that I want to make them like me more trying to speed up their feelings for me like you said in the begening always put your boundaries up first and foremost. I've jumped in to what I think I've asked God for and he delivers all of the things I'm looking for but the ones who really are patient and want Mt best are the ones I'm never attracted to 😢sadend ne because I set myself up to be hurt and disappointed
Please come back to NY!! I bought a Ticket and was not able to attend the event this summer😔 Thank YOU for what you do!! You have a way of communicating that is real and we can feel that your intentions are true and good. God bless you always!!
Thank you.
May God bless you.
Our Intuition is the Father❤
Good video! 🎉
Thank you very much 🙂
Sounds good to me. Thanks Stephen. Certainly appreciate your videos. Merry Christmas to you and your subscribers!!❤️🙏🏾😇
Telepathic type "beings" already understand alot, because of the level of ancension journey they are on. Like my Bubba already knows.
Thank you🤗 for being able to share.🙏A man with great intentions won't use the word intentions because he knows it's an emotional word. I've been dating online, and I can differentiate the type of man that use that word based on what they described. They're looking for and if it's just pictures of themselves. Most of the time when a man says he's dating with intentions . he does not describe sharing his world. He describes wanting someone to validate him. That's what I have experienced personally, but that's how I have weave the ?🧐 from the real😇 🤝
You're welcome 🙏
You are absolutely on point!! He desperately needs the validation without doing the work (clear consistent communication) for starters. First he wanted marriage right away then FWB then just faded away. Good riddance
Truth 💯
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Thankyou stefan
You're welcome 🙏
Such teachings are true and so much insightful ❤some guy said I should stop looking at ur videos but I feel he is insecure and hurt for such practical reasons...🎉🎉🎉
You didn't tell him did you?
I asked a man what does he want with me, he said, simply sex, no relationship now, I said, I do want that and I want marriage, then he turned around a few days later and said, he wants a relationship, and wants to move in with me. Keep in mind, I know this guy for about a week? he lives in my complex. Now that I do not want a relationship, as I am trusting what he initially said, he is losing his mind... huh?
My intuition is telling he’s not the one. I even have dreams about it. BUT bc I like him so much and see “potential” in him and I am naturally a giver I really want to be here for him and watch him grow into a true man. I am willing to enjoy the ride bc it is what it is to me! Can I also say I love being a sugar momma 😂 I think that’s my problem!!! You should make a video about sugar momma’s and daddy’s 😂. Yeszir
Thanks for your feedback 🙏
Wow 😂
You sound like Mom!
@@arielwest7249😂❤
@@Sunlightsam24 Yes, in exchange for some suga and his time if you know what I mean 😏
When praying to God I try not to passive for the reasons mentioned in this video. So I try to be more detail. Now I'm messing up somewhere, and maybe because in the past, I did ask for signs.
Many or some have not had "the awakening"..
Oh my God, I asked a guy that revealed to me what was his intentions and he basically said I have been in love with you for 4 1/2 years. My intentions is to marry you and even with that I just was speechless and immediately I put myself in the go with the flow mode, but now listening to this I have to rethink this. Because I am convincing myself that I don’t deserve the love that I give.
Fantastic insights!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Thank you ❤
True life!
Sex is for married couples
If you're not interested in sex with the other person, tell them. If they stay and continue on, ask their intentions. If they dodge the questions and try to manipulate you, or try to step on your boundaries, huge red flag. Run. He aint it.
Need a video on exactly how to tell a good man you want to wait until marriage. It's a delicate topic, and even more so if it's a good relationship in which you already have feelings for each other....it's more intimidating when you already have chemistry. Hopefully he'll be ok with it but you really can't predict how it will go. Would appealing to their masculinity help? Like telling them you're trusting them to protect your virtue/morals? And instead of treating them like they can't handle it, instead, treat them like you expect the best of them, that they'll be able to have self control. They will be your hero by fighting the battle of lust, right along with you. That's something they should hear, I assume.
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After starting a few relationships, I wish I had asked these questions, in a nice way, rather than trying to guess their intentions, at age 68 time is short. Spent my life married so being single is harder, but I have learned to let people go immediately if it's not right without taking it so personally as rejection. Best advice Stephan.❤❤❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
If looking for advice, I'd say something like, 'I'm really attracted to you, however my purity is important to me and I have decided to wait until marriage. I know if I slept with you, I wouldn't feel good about myself afterward, so I don't even want to go down that road pre-marriage.' Your thoughts?
@MWroses I am so glad that you asked this question. It might vary a little depending on what I would call either the level or variation of good in the man, or his standards, but the one thing that I would say would probably be common among them all is not to repeat it over and over again because I would say that good men are most likely to get the point on the first, or second time tops, and are ready to move on with life.
I know that definitely applies with me. I can understand her need to state that boundary, but, after that, I need to move on and figure out what she wants out of life in the meantime.
I also happen to be anti-cussing, so, if someone states that boundary with cuss words, I am most likely going to say it is a no-go. I might be lenient if she says something like, "no d-word sex until marriage" if no other cuss words pop up in the conversation afterwards. I am willing to tolerate a word or two here and there, except for the f-word. If she drops that, we are done unless she can commit to not using that word again. She can find a man that wants to put up with that.
I'm going to spell it out. My periods are a problem. Right now, I'm infuriated. The indifference towards my period bothers me. My pain isn't funny. That's why I expect the women to be understanding. I have to be alone because it triggers my mood.
Go with the Flo
In other words, I just want to sleep with you with no intention of ever marrying you, until I get bored and annoyed by you and I look for another person to sleep with. Don’t accept it ladies, have some standards
What if he's not interested in connecting, but at the same time he won't let go and wants to get married. It's so confusing.
Sounds like he's just wanting to keep you around but don't really want you.. Just tells you what your want to hear..
So true!!!
Thank you for watching
Hello Stephan all you are saying is true.But without God nothing is going to work.If his intentions don't have God on the list red flag.
Hi Steven I got about halfway through this particular one and man everything you said hit home I too stayed in a Friends with Benefits relationship thinking that maybe one day he'll really start liking me and not yes I knew him before I went to bed with him but as I got to know him I could see that he was not really going to stay with me and if he did it was only just to go to the bedroom and that was it that's all he liked me for so I agreed to this like a fool thinking it would you know thinking all he'll grow to like me no I had to ask him do you even like me and then of course he said yes I like you and if you got to ask a man for them to tell you they like you that's pretty pathetic so he never once said that I know he wasn't in love with me and that's okay anyway you speak a lot of truth I was wondering did you study this or do you just know all this because you studied life and you've been through it I'm just curious Steven thank you
I did all of these Stephan. I learned from your previous videos and from Tony Gaskins' too...to keep my legs closed until marriage! So this guy dating me two months ago I asked him his intentions from the start, he said he's serious with me but after a month his real intentions came out. One time he got drunk and we video called, he felt lusty after that call and he wanted to come over in my apartment to take me out and this is late at night too. I'm pretty sure he wanted to have sex with me (he said it indirectly but I'm a woman I know that's what he wanted that night) even though he's not even my boyfriend yet. I said no to all of that. The next day he wanted me to lend him money. He dumped me after our confrontation because he could not get what he wanted, sex and money. He said he's not pursuing any longer and made excuses that I don't trust him that I'm always overthinking and all. Eww the man revealed his true self after a month of being so sweet and a gentleman. Glad he did not become my boyfriend! He's fake. He's an idiot. He's out. Next!
I’m a 62 year old divorced woman with three grown children. I just want consistent intimacy. I don’t want to get married or live with anyone and I have made this known to my current partner and we are both on the same page for now. I also want to add that maturity and older age allows you to know your true self. The down side is that youth is wasted on the young.
Hi Stephan, can you talk about helping women understand male fragile ego please?
no 1-7 in the comments or in the timeline nore in the discribtion?
How soon do we need to ask those questions? I can't figure these people out.
Merry Christmas 🎄
Yes yes and yes 👍👍
Can you tell me how you pray to hear God while you are praying, like you state at the end of the video?
I asked this man....are you seeing anyone else....does anyone think they are seeing you...he said...what do you think? Manipulation....trying to leave me guessing...he also said he was going with the flow too....ion want no one who may ignore me, wont answer question, or is caught up over his ex...he not even worth much atp
Thanks ❤
Hey Stephan,i met this amazing man but he is very poor in communication. He always assures me of long term relationship especially he is facing work related stress he will just shut down,zero communication ,sometimes i overthink but i realize he genuinely love me.What can i do?
“The stankness is coming out” 😂
If TMH hasn't showed someone "This is whom your husband or wife is going to be..then why waste time with it?"...
🎶🎵🎶I maybe tall, and might be stocky, maybe I'm of the race of the An......🎶🎵🎶
What if he’s got legitimate intentions on having a committed relationship, but there’s still a lot of damage and trauma from his last relationship and he doesn’t see that he thinks he’s healed
I think as women we need to stop clinging and carrying so much in the beginning of a relationship. In the sense of believing his action more than anything. Do not have sex with him. Stay focused on your goals. He will want to court you if he likes you! But wait to see who he becomes after those six months, we all have representatives. Also manifest and write your list. You’ll be surprised after you evolve in life how different the type of man you want will be. Do not settle for less!
How soon should I ask about the intentions with me?
I'm currently on day 4 of no contact bc a lack of reciprocation.😢
You got this!!! Stay strong
Women have options as well. I think men forget that 😂 always keep em open ladies (just be safe while doing it)👏🏽💯
PREVENTION is better than CURE ,theese 7 points listed are super effective in weeding off those creepy bad minded MEN
Thanks Steph this video hit me as BREAKING NEWS
I'm waiting for marriage. I'm not gonna ruin dating time. I can date others. Interview and background time whoses worth keep dating.
My birthday is Christmas day
Happy Belated Birthday 🎂 🥳
@walkaminutewithme4787 thanks
What do you think about men who are open to everything? They are up for a relationship or to have fun?