I love to treat my man like a King and tell him he’s my King. He constantly compliments me and tells me kind things too. I have finally learned that being in a healthy and mature relationship means completely reciprocating.
you are the first male relationship coach that ever changed my perception of men and love-that genuinely good men exist and giving them love and vulnerability is worth it. thank you for always being so compassionate yet so real in every video, stephan. you're truly a blessing in the women's dating advice world, and i wish you the very best in love and life! 🥰
I love complementing and hyping my man up! ❤ It definitely gives you more power lol but I don’t do it for that … I genuinely love him and I’m proud to be with him. 😊
Thanks Stephan, you changed the way I 'knew' about dating which was - rules, playing games, and acting hard to get. You're a Godsend. I finally met and was able to identify someone who treats me like a queen because of your advice, which I take so seriously. Thank you!
Preach Coach @stephanspeaks Ladies heed the advice.... this is a real man telling you what men like.... open both ears and silence your 1 vocal ...unless you're offering praise, attraction, compliments , building up, or offering that flirty girl energy 😊😉💯 .
Great video! The attraction thing is huge for me. I want to keep the lust in my relationship. The same goes for my man. Nurture the relationship that God gives you, it is a beautiful thing ❤
Great video! My five year relationship came to an end a month ago. The love of my life chose to leave, and I can't stop thinking about him; I love him so deeply. I've done everything I can to win him back, but nothing seems to work. I'm feeling frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my efforts to move on, I just can't shake the thoughts of him. I don’t know why I’m sharing this, but I really miss him.
It's tough to let go of someone you care about. I can relate, my 12year relationship also ended, and I struggled to move on. I tried everything to get him back, even seeking help from a spiritual counselor who ultimately helped me reconnect with him.
This is so good. It is hard to give compliments if you have fear of rejection. That is something that needs to be overcome. It’s some thing that I have to be deliberate about ahead of time to think about those positive things about the person that I’m interested in. This is probably one of the most important podcasts that you’ve done that I need to do.
I am moving into a relationship and I am excited because sometimes you can just tell when things are just right for you and when something isn’t quite right for you. With me being in something for 14 years that didn’t work and moving past it I thought it was just a bunch of the same stuff out there after dating I actually found someone that felt the same way I feel and is afraid that he wouldn’t find his person. Well we shall see so far so good
First off...I LOVE your beard! Second...I love your beard! Third, I love your beard!! Did I mention that I love your beard? ☺Anyhoo, Great video! My take-away is that men and women basically want the SAME things from each other. We just need help expressing our needs and getting what we want. You do an excellent job breaking it all down for us. Thank YOU! I'm not dating anyone right now but these things are good to know. In regards to initiating intimacy/tapping into his needs and desires (sexually) I'm very open to that but ONLY in a marriage relationship. Committed relationship is not the same as covenant relationship. God recognizes covenant relationships which is marriage!
Sisters in Christ, I'm posting a comment as encouragement to all of you. Continue to keep God as the focus for your relationship. Do not allow the enemy to have a foothold. Stay disciplined and stay strong in your faith and the blessings that will pour from your commitment to our Heavenly Father when you find that special someone will be amazing! ❤
Hi Stephan, last week your content found me (in my feed). You are a beautiful soul. You have good content, what I like is that you speak with compassion and kindness. I will follow you, preparing to be blessed with my future husband. Thank you! Greetings from Curacao.
Thank you for your support.. I was in a relationship for 16yrs and mistreated. Left him it’s been 9yrssince. I found my current boyfriend 6mths ago that treats me like his queen. Ur correct about being vulnerable with your partner. It has changed my life for the better and positive in my relationship so far. It’s really difficult for me but I’m learning. I love him and feel my relationship is worth it. This video is so true and works if we constantly show our efforts in our relationship. Women need to stop thinking the man need to do everything first.
Great video, Stephan. Thank you. I'm very excited to ask the guy I'm getting to know what makes him feel appreciated, desired, and valued. All the best to you.
I believe this is the message all that I need. Thanks for such complete coverage and encouragement to up level ourself first. I haven't found the one for 20 years, and I believe it's because I haven't healed and do the work wholeheartedly. Just experienced another new relationship but fell apart. The message is timely and a great reminder. Thank you! ❤
LISTEN all relationships and men are not the same. Let's get back to healing, dating ourselves, and learning to show AND communicate our wants and desires to our partners. All this advice is OK for surface level dating. Long term requires truly learning each other and coming to HEALTHY compromises to help each other thrive and grow and our relationship.
I totally agree with you in showing appreciation. I always show appreciation, even for simple things....I believe appreciation should be reciprocated.. What i despise is when you take something away because you feel you weren't appreciated.. I think is petty and unkind... Sometimes God does things for us we show no appreciation or forget too. I speak for myself, i will always be kind and give without expecting anything in return... In a romantic relationship with connection these things come naturally
You know Stefan, appreciation is the most important point nobody wants to feel that what he or she is doing isn't good enough ! Or its taken for granted! You know a women should be herself express and love freely why hold back ! Just be you ! This is my opinion and I think we all need some kindness and love ❤❤
This is extremely helpful, because i feel it's often very difficult to make men feel desirable on a consistent basis. Thank you for these amazing posts!
He is offering good advice! That I have followed him for several years. Since he is a man he is speaking from a man prospective and this is good advice. I also read your book “ He’s lying Sis this book really gave me some good advice with this guy that I had a FWB over two years ago Thank you Stephen 😊
You could CLEARLY want to do that and even make the effort to..meaning flirt and compliment him, but if the "communication source options" are limited due to his preference, then that makes that a bit challenging. So in that instance he must either be willing to sacrifice the type of communication source for that.🙏🏾
❤ love this content 👌🏾 It is the responsibility of the Queen of the house to compliment the King of the house. The duty of a woman, according to the bile, is to support his visions submit and respect. There's many aspects of life to complement from a person particularly the better half. Yes, I agree with you I as the woman have to take up my role and play it, keep up the good work Sir 👏🏾 🙌🏻
Unpopular opinion- this generation has so much emphasis on outward motivation and attraction and being self -centered. What will happen when the couple grows old or God forbid someone gets ill and can no longer perform and looks unattractive? Solid relationships are built and grow based on a foundation of friendship. Would you abandon a good friend and hurt them by being selfish?? Let’s get back to basics and the good old fashion solid God driven relationships and marriages. Pick up the Bible to renew thinking patterns 🙏❤️❤️
I definitely understand where you’re coming from, but I think some of us who grew up in “purity culture” from the 90’s, and a big emphasis was away from having attraction to your SO. So this is really a matter of balance. Because some people worry that God would give them a spouse they aren’t attracted to. They may be different than they expect, but there’s definitely some significant level of attraction.
Amen! If people would put God FIRST in their relationships and have moral standards and follow Biblical principles, there would be far less issues! 🙏💗✝️
Stephan, can you speak to this situation? I do these things for my guy. Do you think that a man can be afraid or skeptical about you doing these things as though it's a setup due to having bad relationships in the past?
Thank you Labossiere for this awsome video. Please let me say this...If my future husband happen to come across this comment. Sweetheart I love peony and gardenia flowers. They smell so good. Thank you again and Keep going sir❤💛💜.
I love complimenting my husband. Although he says, thanks baby, like it's no big deal but i guess by now it's not lol. But i also know he doesn't like his gut so I'm sure that plays a part in his dry response.
My man and I are not together right now. We have been back and forth, breaking up and getting back together. I needed time to get over my past hurt and scars in the beginning, but i didn't get that time to do it. I told him that I am healed from that for the month we haven't been together. In that time, he met someone, but he told her he's not looking for anything. This is what he told me. We still talk, but he thinks I need more time to healed but I don't think so. But he is adamant about me taking the time to " heal." What am I supposed to do? Is he saying that to not patch things up?
I show him appreciation, thank him for whatever he does and complement him. He said I show him enough love, appreciation him and make him feel wanted but he still doesn't want to be labeled as a relationship but wants to do all the relationship things. I don't understand it at all.
FACTS no doubts about this coach Steph but to be quite honest this must be given to a GOOD man and secondly its got to be MUTUAL considering both this relationship will be magnetic
I've been binge watching your chanel lately. Great videos! So this showing appreciation. I totally understand its importance. However i have an ex that wanted appreciation for those most basic things like feeding or spending time w his kids. Like really? I do the same and waaay more and didn't get appreciation for it nor did I need it because they are my kids. Its basic things that needs to be done all day everyday. Thoughts?
I listened to this to see if I could learn anything..... thankful that the only one missing is initiating sex! We aren't married yet & both want to wait. But that's definitely in the plans once I can! ❤ Thank you!
I did that for years 15.5 years and was asked not to right away. Give him space first. I respected this, yet it always felt to me like a “push away” from him. That I guess was my issue. I suppose it was trying to fit a circle into a square shape as My Mother says. 🤷🏻♀️I’m an anomaly as usual. lol.
Find out their love language. If words are one of their top love languages , then you know they will love compliments. I do love to give compliments to men and women regardless. ❤
Yes, he never tells you that, does he? He comes from the stance that all men are good and hard done-by, never that they’re liars, womanisers, fake, selfish and egotistical.
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I absolutely agree with all you have said
I love to treat my man like a King and tell him he’s my King. He constantly compliments me and tells me kind things too. I have finally learned that being in a healthy and mature relationship means completely reciprocating.
🙏
Reciprocation is key!
Way to go 👍
🥰❤
I’m the same way and I definitely see the difference in the relationship
you are the first male relationship coach that ever changed my perception of men and love-that genuinely good men exist and giving them love and vulnerability is worth it. thank you for always being so compassionate yet so real in every video, stephan. you're truly a blessing in the women's dating advice world, and i wish you the very best in love and life! 🥰
I treated my husband like a king…..but he just took and took.
I look forward to doing this with the right man
He took your love from granted,shame on him
Well then he wasen,t a king he was king Kong 😅
*"You Teach People How To Treat You!"*
~ Dr. Phil 💡💡💡
@@Clarablessing25 Also, shame on her for tolerating it! 🙄
I’m sorry that was your experience, but I’m glad that you were able to realize there are good men out there who won’t suck you dry.
Never put a crown on a clown & expect a king 👑
This is gospel
I love complementing and hyping my man up! ❤ It definitely gives you more power lol but I don’t do it for that … I genuinely love him and I’m proud to be with him. 😊
Thanks for sharing 🙏
I aspire to be like you when I start dating ❤
Cheers to you girl ramp up this feminine charm 😅
Thanks Stephan, you changed the way I 'knew' about dating which was - rules, playing games, and acting hard to get. You're a Godsend. I finally met and was able to identify someone who treats me like a queen because of your advice, which I take so seriously. Thank you!
🙌 that is so awesome to hear! I pray it all works out for the both of you.
The only dating coach I love and trust! Can't wait to start dating and putting your advice into action ❤
I'm happy to hear that 🙏
Preach Coach @stephanspeaks
Ladies heed the advice.... this is a real man telling you what men like.... open both ears and silence your 1 vocal ...unless you're offering praise, attraction, compliments , building up, or offering that flirty girl energy 😊😉💯 .
Great video! The attraction thing is huge for me. I want to keep the lust in my relationship. The same goes for my man. Nurture the relationship that God gives you, it is a beautiful thing ❤
Well said 🙏
Great video! My five year relationship came to an end a month ago. The love of my life chose to leave, and I can't stop thinking about him; I love him so deeply. I've done everything I can to win him back, but nothing seems to work. I'm feeling frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my efforts to move on, I just can't shake the thoughts of him. I don’t know why I’m sharing this, but I really miss him.
It's tough to let go of someone you care about. I can relate, my 12year relationship also ended, and I struggled to move on. I tried everything to get him back, even seeking help from a spiritual counselor who ultimately helped me reconnect with him.
That's incredible! How did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I contact one?
His name is Owen Abiola, and he’s an amazing spiritual counselor who specializes in bringing back lost loves.
Owen Abiola has incredible powers, and he can assist you.
Thank you for sharing this valuable information! I just looked him up online, and I'm impressed.
Everything goes both ways.
This is so good. It is hard to give compliments if you have fear of rejection. That is something that needs to be overcome. It’s some thing that I have to be deliberate about ahead of time to think about those positive things about the person that I’m interested in. This is probably one of the most important podcasts that you’ve done that I need to do.
I am moving into a relationship and I am excited because sometimes you can just tell when things are just right for you and when something isn’t quite right for you. With me being in something for 14 years that didn’t work and moving past it I thought it was just a bunch of the same stuff out there after dating I actually found someone that felt the same way I feel and is afraid that he wouldn’t find his person. Well we shall see so far so good
First off...I LOVE your beard! Second...I love your beard! Third, I love your beard!! Did I mention that I love your beard? ☺Anyhoo, Great video! My take-away is that men and women basically want the SAME things from each other. We just need help expressing our needs and getting what we want. You do an excellent job breaking it all down for us. Thank YOU! I'm not dating anyone right now but these things are good to know. In regards to initiating intimacy/tapping into his needs and desires (sexually) I'm very open to that but ONLY in a marriage relationship. Committed relationship is not the same as covenant relationship. God recognizes covenant relationships which is marriage!
Amen! I'm encouraged to see other "Sisters In Christ" here who have moral standards and Godly principles guiding their lives... Be blessed! 🙏💗✝️
Amen. Blessings sis
Sisters in Christ, I'm posting a comment as encouragement to all of you. Continue to keep God as the focus for your relationship. Do not allow the enemy to have a foothold. Stay disciplined and stay strong in your faith and the blessings that will pour from your commitment to our Heavenly Father when you find that special someone will be amazing!
❤
I love that you often inject some humour while discussing "delicate issues!" Your laugh is priceless, Stephan! 🙏👍
😊 thank you, I appreciate that
Hi Stephan, last week your content found me (in my feed). You are a beautiful soul. You have good content, what I like is that you speak with compassion and kindness. I will follow you, preparing to be blessed with my future husband. Thank you! Greetings from Curacao.
💯 agree in the last point. Just don't let yourself go. It takes little effort to make yourself look good and keep your man!
Please keep sharing these suggestions! I completely agree! Thank you! 🫶
Did all of this. Yes, yes, they always felt special but it was never enough and at one point, I had to leave.
Narcissist
Thank you Steven~
Thank you for your support.. I was in a relationship for 16yrs and mistreated. Left him it’s been 9yrssince.
I found my current boyfriend 6mths ago that treats me like his queen. Ur correct about being vulnerable with your partner.
It has changed my life for the better and positive in my relationship so far. It’s really difficult for me but I’m learning. I love him and feel my relationship is worth it. This video is so true and works if we constantly show our efforts in our relationship. Women need to stop thinking the man need to do everything first.
Don’t forget about this 1️⃣ we can be a team and still ave a leader… deep word
Thank you so much for sharing great video. Sending Love and Positive Vibes to you and all the beautiful souls out there ❤️💥🩷💥💜💥💙💥
Thanks for the tips Stephan. 🙏🏽🙌🏽♥️
My pleasure 🙏
We as a culture didn’t practice that way and we modeled our parents as well. We have to unlearn to create the life we desire!
Great video, Stephan. Thank you. I'm very excited to ask the guy I'm getting to know what makes him feel appreciated, desired, and valued. All the best to you.
Listen up ladies, Stephan is letting his future wifey know how to get him, how to keep him and or how to lose him 😊🌹
😂😂😂😂 yeah, that's true
😀!!is that such a bad thing though! Maybe we all should put it outhere to find the one!😊🙏🏽💚
This is really good (as usual😉) thx Stephan!
As always some really insightful points which I greatly appreciate.
Im glad you enjoyed it
Being thankful. Happy to be around him.
I believe this is the message all that I need. Thanks for such complete coverage and encouragement to up level ourself first. I haven't found the one for 20 years, and I believe it's because I haven't healed and do the work wholeheartedly. Just experienced another new relationship but fell apart. The message is timely and a great reminder. Thank you! ❤
These are great advice!!! ❤
Thank you very much
LISTEN all relationships and men are not the same. Let's get back to healing, dating ourselves, and learning to show AND communicate our wants and desires to our partners. All this advice is OK for surface level dating. Long term requires truly learning each other and coming to HEALTHY compromises to help each other thrive and grow and our relationship.
I totally agree with you in showing appreciation. I always show appreciation, even for simple things....I believe appreciation should be reciprocated.. What i despise is when you take something away because you feel you weren't appreciated.. I think is petty and unkind... Sometimes God does things for us we show no appreciation or forget too. I speak for myself, i will always be kind and give without expecting anything in return... In a romantic relationship with connection these things come naturally
THANKS STEPHAN, FOR EVERYTHING YOU BRING TO THE TABLE! ALWAYS INSIGHTFUL!
Love your show!❤
Thank you very much
That was very nicely said! Thank you Stephan, you are doing a great job👏🏾👏🏾. I would love to shake your hand..😊🤝🏾🙏🏽💚💚🙌🏾
Happy Monday, Sir😊🙏🏽
Happy Monday 🙏
How soon is this desire meant to start? I went on 3 dates with someone who wanted that straight away from date one and I think that was way too early.
Thank you Stephen my future husband will be happy, always learning from your content
Always my pleasure ❤
Wonderful video! I absolutely love this video & the topics!💯❤️❤️ Great job!👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
You know Stefan, appreciation is the most important point nobody wants to feel that what he or she is doing isn't good enough ! Or its taken for granted! You know a women should be herself express and love freely why hold back ! Just be you ! This is my opinion and I think we all need some kindness and love ❤❤
Thanks Stephan for this video
Very good information.. Thank you.. Always open to improve ama learn how to have a good relationship
I keep saying men and women are more alike than most realize or are willing to admit. Reciprocation is key
Great post!!!
Thank you very much
This is extremely helpful, because i feel it's often very difficult to make men feel desirable on a consistent basis. Thank you for these amazing posts!
Stephan Speaks, can't wait to see what you'll create next
Thank you. And stay tuned! 🙏
Thanks alot this really happened ❤ .. continue the good work
Thank you for this reading 📖
All the best to you! Hope things are well with you🎉❤
Thank you I appreciate that
❤I love your advices. ❤ I love everything about your adwaces in every session. Thank you. Love ❤.
“You will know them by their fruits.”
Hello Stephan, I always enjoy watching your videos, your advice is brilliant, I feel enlightened by your videos. 👍
Stephan Speak❤ I thank God for you my brotha🙏🏽💯💪🏽🥰
He is offering good advice! That I have followed him for several years. Since he is a man he is speaking from a man prospective and this is good advice. I also read your book “ He’s lying Sis this book really gave me some good advice with this guy that I had a FWB over two years ago Thank you Stephen 😊
Thank you.
Thank you for watching
You could CLEARLY want to do that and even make the effort to..meaning flirt and compliment him, but if the "communication source options" are limited due to his preference, then that makes that a bit challenging. So in that instance he must either be willing to sacrifice the type of communication source for that.🙏🏾
So happy I found your channel 😊
Thanks Stephan. I found it really hard to find out what is my husband deéires. He always said he doesn’t need anything
Love your videos , thank you ❤ such good info
❤ love this content 👌🏾
It is the responsibility of the Queen of the house to compliment the King of the house. The duty of a woman, according to the bile, is to support his visions submit and respect. There's many aspects of life to complement from a person particularly the better half. Yes, I agree with you I as the woman have to take up my role and play it, keep up the good work Sir 👏🏾 🙌🏻
Unpopular opinion- this generation has so much emphasis on outward motivation and attraction and being self -centered. What will happen when the couple grows old or God forbid someone gets ill and can no longer perform and looks unattractive? Solid relationships are built and grow based on a foundation of friendship. Would you abandon a good friend and hurt them by being selfish?? Let’s get back to basics and the good old fashion solid God driven relationships and marriages. Pick up the Bible to renew thinking patterns 🙏❤️❤️
I definitely understand where you’re coming from, but I think some of us who grew up in “purity culture” from the 90’s, and a big emphasis was away from having attraction to your SO. So this is really a matter of balance. Because some people worry that God would give them a spouse they aren’t attracted to. They may be different than they expect, but there’s definitely some significant level of attraction.
Amen! If people would put God FIRST in their relationships and have moral standards and follow Biblical principles, there would be far less issues! 🙏💗✝️
The flowers thing is so true! I'm a woman who doesn't melt over flowers lol 😂
I’m 50 years young… was married most of my adult life and my men IQ has improved astronomically because of your videos ❤❤❤
Shukran 😘
Stephan, can you speak to this situation? I do these things for my guy. Do you think that a man can be afraid or skeptical about you doing these things as though it's a setup due to having bad relationships in the past?
Hi Stephan. Could you maybe do a video of how to make a man feel desired whilst waiting for marriage.
Thank you Labossiere for this awsome video. Please let me say this...If my future husband happen to come across this comment. Sweetheart I love peony and gardenia flowers. They smell so good. Thank you again and Keep going sir❤💛💜.
God help me find my significant other n show him love ❤️ ❤❤
🙌🙏❤️
I agree 100%!!! If you don’t feed the🔥, it will die!!!Be vulnerable & honest! Most of all…JUST HAVE FUN!!!
Where's the bullet point guy? 😂
I call my guy my knight in white. He knows I desire him( he affectionately calls me his freako). He proposed to me and he's 12 yrs younger( I'm 63).
You go girl!! 🙏👍
My man is too..
Great video tfs
Thank you very much 💯
I love complimenting my husband. Although he says, thanks baby, like it's no big deal but i guess by now it's not lol. But i also know he doesn't like his gut so I'm sure that plays a part in his dry response.
My man and I are not together right now. We have been back and forth, breaking up and getting back together. I needed time to get over my past hurt and scars in the beginning, but i didn't get that time to do it. I told him that I am healed from that for the month we haven't been together. In that time, he met someone, but he told her he's not looking for anything. This is what he told me. We still talk, but he thinks I need more time to healed but I don't think so. But he is adamant about me taking the time to " heal." What am I supposed to do? Is he saying that to not patch things up?
On point ❤
I show him appreciation, thank him for whatever he does and complement him. He said I show him enough love, appreciation him and make him feel wanted but he still doesn't want to be labeled as a relationship but wants to do all the relationship things. I don't understand it at all.
He’s using you to fulfilled his needs.
I believe in making the move
What a beautiful background ❤
Thank you 🙏
@@MeetStephanSpeaks of course!!
Which reveals our handsome coach
FACTS no doubts about this coach Steph but to be quite honest
this must be given to a GOOD man and secondly its got to be MUTUAL
considering both this relationship will be magnetic
Heart healthiness ultimately affects the mind. This is also a "Kingdom benefit".
The flower situation I agree. My ex just doesn’t get it!
It’s a common issue
I've been binge watching your chanel lately. Great videos!
So this showing appreciation. I totally understand its importance. However i have an ex that wanted appreciation for those most basic things like feeding or spending time w his kids. Like really? I do the same and waaay more and didn't get appreciation for it nor did I need it because they are my kids. Its basic things that needs to be done all day everyday. Thoughts?
Yes
I listened to this to see if I could learn anything..... thankful that the only one missing is initiating sex! We aren't married yet & both want to wait. But that's definitely in the plans once I can! ❤ Thank you!
LADIES, let's listen to Stephan!!!! 😮 It works hahahahahaha 😂
Thank you 🙏
@@MeetStephanSpeaks 🤣🤣🤣 I just met a blue collar king hahahaha thanks for your tips! I pray Jesus makes me a better woman for him !!! 🙏🩷 God bless
@@DaniiiDaniii8 I love it... *"A Blue Collar King!"* 👑
I like listening to you❤
🎶🎵🎙🤴🏾👸🏾It's so nice. Just like heaven.👼🏾 All I knoow is 11:11.🎵🎶
Stephen, how do you deal with a boyfriend who takes you back to be friends whenever an issue arises?
I tried this and the more I loved him, the more he despised me
I did that for years 15.5 years and was asked not to right away. Give him space first. I respected this, yet it always felt to me like a “push away” from him. That I guess was my issue. I suppose it was trying to fit a circle into a square shape as My Mother says. 🤷🏻♀️I’m an anomaly as usual. lol.
📢"EQUAL GIVE AND TAKE"✅- It's that simple, and can be no other way really.😊
Oh ok 👍
🙏❤️
I'll come back and listen to this when I get the right man lol.
Find out their love language. If words are one of their top love languages , then you know they will love compliments. I do love to give compliments to men and women regardless. ❤
This is why moving in together without marriage is fraught with problems. Use restraint.
LOVE LANGUAGES ❤
REAL Chocolate
Is a cue. One flower 🌹
Then how do you find the right one?
Yes, he never tells you that, does he? He comes from the stance that all men are good and hard done-by, never that they’re liars, womanisers, fake, selfish and egotistical.