Thank you for recognizing that is is indeed catastrophic harm. I am a mother who has spent what feels like ten lifetimes as the parent who is alienated against. Not only did the father of my child actively participate in manipulating our child against me, he was also severely physically, mentally, financially and you name it, abusive to me. The result is a 34 year old daughter who hates her mother so extremely it is unbelievable, incompressible and will never be resolved. But also a daughter who lives a torturous existence in multiple ways. Depression, low self- esteem, psychopathic lying, and drug addiction have destroyed her life without her getting one single day of being normal, at peace or just ok. I cannot exaggerate things enough to express what the reality is. There is no hope for any kind of treatment because it seems no one can begin to comprehend the truth behind the craziness of our relationship and the situation we call life. I feel the optical emotional and psychological harm has destroyed me after years of desperation trying to cope. Now that adult daughter has a child who at 11 months old is also being affected. The baby is being harmed. But because of all we have been through I am not able to get anyone to even listen. And the mother of the baby is now an expert in manipulation and dishonesty. I try to believe the mental illness my adult daughter sufferers with will show itself somehow to the person who will be able to save my granddaughter from the abuse but I do not know if that will happen.
I was married for 10 years, got pregnant and divorced my husband. He was an alcoholic and drug addict and I knew I couldn’t raise a child in a healthy way being with him. He disappears and ends up in prison. I never once bad mouthed him to my daughter as she was growing up. I told her that he just made a lot of bad choices in his life. On her birthday, I always told her that I know your Dad is thinking about you today. She actually meet her father for really the first time when she was 19 and he was in prison. I knew that if I said bad things about her father, since he was a part of her, that could be translated to she was bad also.
This was absolutely fascinating. I am appreciative for the researchers who are conducting such a comprehensive and insightful study of this sad phenomenon. This is very promising in terms of ultimately helping families reunify. Thank you so much.
I weighed my daughter 2 years ago, to promote self care, and discipline. I said we would work out together as I could see she was unhappy with gaining weight. This did not bother the daughter that much, and she continued to come and see me for the next 18 months. Turns out in the background, her mom had booked her into to numerous doctors appointments & therapy. got her diagnosed with tics & an eating disorder. Trained her to into victimhood, and my daughter cut me off 8 months ago, last month they tried to get me charged with harassment. Guess what mom told the policeman "That I weighed the daughter" .......Thats right shes still hung up on it persistently 2 years later
You can go to court over abuse, if your kids don't see it, don't put them in the middle. Talk to them in a healthy way and Tell them when they are old enough to understand. Not when their brains can't process. If they were present during abuse they already see it. Get them counseling and protect them thru courts. True Alienation , the alienatir is the abuser not the alienated parent.
Thank you Bill for your ongoing research.
What I don’t understand is why the “experts” cannot see the catastrophic harm being perpetrated.
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Thank you for recognizing that is is indeed catastrophic harm. I am a mother who has spent what feels like ten lifetimes as the parent who is alienated against. Not only did the father of my child actively participate in manipulating our child against me, he was also severely physically, mentally, financially and you name it, abusive to me. The result is a 34 year old daughter who hates her mother so extremely it is unbelievable, incompressible and will never be resolved. But also a daughter who lives a torturous existence in multiple ways. Depression, low self- esteem, psychopathic lying, and drug addiction have destroyed her life without her getting one single day of being normal, at peace or just ok. I cannot exaggerate things enough to express what the reality is. There is no hope for any kind of treatment because it seems no one can begin to comprehend the truth behind the craziness of our relationship and the situation we call life. I feel the optical emotional and psychological harm has destroyed me after years of desperation trying to cope. Now that adult daughter has a child who at 11 months old is also being affected. The baby is being harmed. But because of all we have been through I am not able to get anyone to even listen. And the mother of the baby is now an expert in manipulation and dishonesty. I try to believe the mental illness my adult daughter sufferers with will show itself somehow to the person who will be able to save my granddaughter from the abuse but I do not know if that will happen.
I was married for 10 years, got pregnant and divorced my husband. He was an alcoholic and drug addict and I knew I couldn’t raise a child in a healthy way being with him. He disappears and ends up in prison. I never once bad mouthed him to my daughter as she was growing up. I told her that he just made a lot of bad choices in his life. On her birthday, I always told her that I know your Dad is thinking about you today. She actually meet her father for really the first time when she was 19 and he was in prison. I knew that if I said bad things about her father, since he was a part of her, that could be translated to she was bad also.
This was absolutely fascinating. I am appreciative for the researchers who are conducting such a comprehensive and insightful study of this sad phenomenon. This is very promising in terms of ultimately helping families reunify. Thank you so much.
So glad it was helpful. I hope other of our videos help as well.
Thank you for your prayers and the great help, and your kindness. May God bless your work at Families Divided.
Thank you kindly. I do hope other videos we share help too.
Sometimes I can't help my frustration boiling over and badmouthing their mother in front of them. I really must stop, its not fair on the kids.
Don’t beat yourself over it. Take a deep breath. I’ve done it too.
Wow! What I wouldn’t do to hear those very words come from my own husband!👍
If you know better, please do better.
Love this message please keep sharing everything to my group..
So glad it was helpful and I will.
18:45 Madi with @TheAnti-AlienationProject would enjoy more learning with Dr. Bernet.
Is there a way to become part of a study? I have been experiencing severe parental alienation as the targeted parent.
I weighed my daughter 2 years ago, to promote self care, and discipline. I said we would work out together as I could see she was unhappy with gaining weight. This did not bother the daughter that much, and she continued to come and see me for the next 18 months. Turns out in the background, her mom had booked her into to numerous doctors appointments & therapy. got her diagnosed with tics & an eating disorder. Trained her to into victimhood, and my daughter cut me off 8 months ago, last month they tried to get me charged with harassment. Guess what mom told the policeman "That I weighed the daughter" .......Thats right shes still hung up on it persistently 2 years later
So very sorry for your situation. I do hope other of our videos help.
It's not badmourhing if it's true, and it's dangerous not to be honest with the kids about an abuser.
You can go to court over abuse, if your kids don't see it, don't put them in the middle. Talk to them in a healthy way and Tell them when they are old enough to understand. Not when their brains can't process. If they were present during abuse they already see it. Get them counseling and protect them thru courts. True Alienation , the alienatir is the abuser not the alienated parent.
For the love of God POST (in the video description or in the video) INFORMATION ABOUT HOW TO ORDER, SCORE, AND EVALUATE THE PARQ TEST!!!!!
It is in there. Perhaps you missed it. Dr. Bernet tells you in the video.