I grieve that I did not have this counsel 22 years ago, I never went back to him, I have been there for my 4 children, and he continues to takes revenge and play the Disney Dad, though I have gone no contact with him, for several years; he usually goes through the kids, my family members, employer, church members, always the Paster, or by breaking into my home, and stalking me. I totally agree with you. I have been through hell. I had the impression that the courts, law enforcement, and the attorneys, were just sick and tired of divorce and domestic violence cases, and counselors were clueless. I could not get support. I attribute my cancer, now resolved, due to the stress and isolation. Glad for your Families Divided TV. Thank you!
I'm so sorry and can relate/believe what you've been through. It's so bizarre and I feel like friends and family think I'm exaggerating when I try to explain what my ex-husband has been doing. They don't see him doing these things, so they think I'm kooks. 💔
Oh my goodness! both my parents were narcissists and divorced when I was 6 years old. Both of them tried to alienate us from the other parent. Needless to say, as an adult I have alienated myself from both of them. As a result my father refused to protect us from the abuse of my step father and fight for us because he was too busy getting his fix from his new family. Listening to this just opened up my eyes to what I was truly living with.
I agree that Alienation is part of Narcissistic Abuse. I think in more archaic understanding of psychology such as presented in scriptures it lines up with the idea of being alienated from the father or God but also alienated from the self and others. I believe this can happen to children in homes even if the parents don't separate because it happened to me and through counseling I discovered Narcissistic abuse and I witnessed it as an adult with a boyfriend and his ex.
Excellent video. I wish I'd understood this information many years ago. Instinctively, I knew that leaving my now-ex would mean abandoning my daughter to him because I could see she "strongly preferred" him. Interestingly, after he and I separated, she cut him off (not explaining how he had alienated her from me until two years later after the divorce was final). Of course he accused me of alienating her from him at that time. It was mind bending to be married to him and to divorce him. And six years after the divorce was finished, he is trying to come back around me, pretending we are just old friends who lost touch. It's sickening, and I mean that literally.
I escaped my narsiccistic husband, he nearly emotionally killed me. I do not want my child ren to be around this sick individual who is not able to form any healthy relationships with anybody. Does it mean I am alienating my children? No I am protecting them.
Funny how neglectful and selfish a narcissist will claim alienation when the neglected scapegoated child doesn’t want to go along with with their selfishness anymore. Actions speak louder than terms of verbiage. These ppl will call you a narcissist and then make demands of you sexually, emotional, and financially even after the break up. These ppl are sick. And someone of us just want them to go to therapy before we leave our children with them to be damaged
I need this bloke as my lawyer. Chris, can you brush up and get certified in Australian law. I'll cover your flights, accommodation. Joking, not joking. Australian lawyers are hit and miss with this stuff. To find a lawyer that's skilled in areas of negotiating, trial, narcissism, parental alienation and stands by their ethics is nearly impossible. I need Chris to interview my prospective lawyers just to get a good one.
@@FamiliesDividedTV when I look back on the advice that I received from family lawyers, it was so misaligned with what was right for my case. I would go as far to say it was the opposite of what I needed. From listening to Chris you know he understands the games that covert narcs play and how to fight against it. Overt narcs, although painful, are so much easier to deal with.
I grieve that I did not have this counsel 22 years ago, I never went back to him, I have been there for my 4 children, and he continues to takes revenge and play the Disney Dad, though I have gone no contact with him, for several years; he usually goes through the kids, my family members, employer, church members, always the Paster, or by breaking into my home, and stalking me. I totally agree with you. I have been through hell. I had the impression that the courts, law enforcement, and the attorneys, were just sick and tired of divorce and domestic violence cases, and counselors were clueless. I could not get support. I attribute my cancer, now resolved, due to the stress and isolation. Glad for your Families Divided TV. Thank you!
So sorry for your situation. I am glad we can help. I hope other of our videos help as well.
I'm so sorry and can relate/believe what you've been through. It's so bizarre and I feel like friends and family think I'm exaggerating when I try to explain what my ex-husband has been doing. They don't see him doing these things, so they think I'm kooks. 💔
Oh my goodness! both my parents were narcissists and divorced when I was 6 years old. Both of them tried to alienate us from the other parent. Needless to say, as an adult I have alienated myself from both of them. As a result my father refused to protect us from the abuse of my step father and fight for us because he was too busy getting his fix from his new family. Listening to this just opened up my eyes to what I was truly living with.
I hope everyone finds peace and a love that brings fulfillment and joy
I agree that Alienation is part of Narcissistic Abuse. I think in more archaic understanding of psychology such as presented in scriptures it lines up with the idea of being alienated from the father or God but also alienated from the self and others. I believe this can happen to children in homes even if the parents don't separate because it happened to me and through counseling I discovered Narcissistic abuse and I witnessed it as an adult with a boyfriend and his ex.
So sorry for your situation. I hope our videos help you.
Excellent video. I wish I'd understood this information many years ago. Instinctively, I knew that leaving my now-ex would mean abandoning my daughter to him because I could see she "strongly preferred" him. Interestingly, after he and I separated, she cut him off (not explaining how he had alienated her from me until two years later after the divorce was final). Of course he accused me of alienating her from him at that time. It was mind bending to be married to him and to divorce him. And six years after the divorce was finished, he is trying to come back around me, pretending we are just old friends who lost touch. It's sickening, and I mean that literally.
So sorry for your situation. I do hope that our videos help you.
I escaped my narsiccistic husband, he nearly emotionally killed me. I do not want my child ren to be around this sick individual who is not able to form any healthy relationships with anybody. Does it mean I am alienating my children? No I am protecting them.
So sorry for your situation. I hope our videos help you.
wow. every box ticked
Funny how neglectful and selfish a narcissist will claim alienation when the neglected scapegoated child doesn’t want to go along with with their selfishness anymore.
Actions speak louder than terms of verbiage. These ppl will call you a narcissist and then make demands of you sexually, emotional, and financially even after the break up. These ppl are sick. And someone of us just want them to go to therapy before we leave our children with them to be damaged
I need this bloke as my lawyer. Chris, can you brush up and get certified in Australian law. I'll cover your flights, accommodation. Joking, not joking.
Australian lawyers are hit and miss with this stuff. To find a lawyer that's skilled in areas of negotiating, trial, narcissism, parental alienation and stands by their ethics is nearly impossible. I need Chris to interview my prospective lawyers just to get a good one.
Chris does work with other attorneys in other areas. He is really the best we believe.
@@FamiliesDividedTV when I look back on the advice that I received from family lawyers, it was so misaligned with what was right for my case. I would go as far to say it was the opposite of what I needed.
From listening to Chris you know he understands the games that covert narcs play and how to fight against it. Overt narcs, although painful, are so much easier to deal with.
@@gettingschooled3094 totally agree!