My late husband had parents like this. They stayed together in “marriage” for “the kids sake” until the youngest graduated high school. It’s was rough. And he told me like everyday “I wish my parents just got a divorce”
I was in one of these silent divorces till I got sick of waiting for him to change and while I rebuilt my career so I could afford to leave. Wish I'd left sooner but my self esteem was so crushed.
@donaldjohnson-d6i Not if the person love bombed you, made commitments, continually broke them once we had children. His word was worth precisely jack shit by the end. Don't make any promises you don't intend to keep. That is lack of integrity. He showed he wasn't the person he pretended to be. He didn't appreciate what he had. We went to marriage counselling as well. So that's why the silent divorce.
Some of us try desperately to have a meeting, to discuss the issues and hopefully resolve them. But that takes two people to agree and be willing to talk about it and work it through. That takes two people. When one person shuts down and or refuses to even talk about anything at all this just cannot work. When you are 74 and 79 and living on a low retirement income you cannot financially afford to divorce.
I can appreciate that John kept it real with her…. This is 100% her decision and choice. She is trying to pass the guilt over to something else to make herself feel better.
I don't think he digged enough on this one. There was obviously something going on, but he chalked it up to "you made the decision to leave", and that's kind of simplifying the issue.
Why do people kids think "kids don't know what going on"? They know people, I knew when my parents where trying act like everything was ok. When it wasn't.
Twenty years of studies show she is correct in staying as long as they are not evil to each other. If there is not a third person involved, it works and has for many, many generations.
This woman is lost. She knows it’s over and it’s toxic but has been listening to BS that is keeping her trapped. Shut out the noise, listen to yourself, and move like a grown woman.
Which is worse? Kids living in two separate 'houses' and potentially getting 2 extra parents they never asked for or living in one 'home' with parents who give each other the silent treatment? Both situations are terrible! There is no one is better than the other here. They have to go to counseling first and foremost. Both parties have to understand that they first have to give it their ALL before making life changing decisions. And don't forget prayer! LOTS of prayer!
Not once in history, have I ever heard a case of kids saying "I know you and dad hated each other, but thanks for not divorcing and living in misery for us."
I would think it kinda depends. If mom and dad are pleasant to each other like roommates, but have separate finances, aren’t sleeping together, and just peacefully do their independent things- I’m not so sure the kids would have a negative experience. They would have mom to interact with and dad to interact with on a daily regular basis.
Personally, as someone who has experienced parents living together but also divorce it's much worse than having them physically separated. It's a Beyond toxic environment and brings emotional and mental harm. The point I'm trying to make here is to choose wisely to get back together with one another or finally make that separation. All you are doing is causing more pain and suffering within the family.
1:29 - NO, Children are not the excuse to live together but disconnected/tense/angry/resentful/anxious or all of the above to drag the corpse of what was. Be separate and at peace. I witnessed this sad circus with my folks and we, my siblings and I (teens, pre-teen) KNEW it was over but they overstayed their home with ugly fight and the tense silences. It's horrible, nobody has a safe place (the exes or the kids)
You must be new here. The Ramsey Simpin' Solutions Team's default position is to always blame the man/husband/boyfriend/etc. unless it's outrageously obvious it's not.
Living with 2 parents who hate each other is a nightmare. Me and my siblings went through it. I was happy when my dad left. It was peaceful. Not that I wanted him to leave but the arguments and fighting stopped.
Coming from a child who had parents who stayed in the same house but didnt communicate, didnt have anything to do with each other and also chose to not be present for their children (not saying this is the case in this caller's scenario) i truly wish my parents got a divorce. Neither of them were happy, neither of them showed us what a marriage was..if anything, it showed us what marriages shouldnt be.. Good luck, caller.
Thar is what you think but statistically it is much worse. You can feel however you want but your mom could have married/dated a drunk that abused you. Thar is why you use stats and that stats are clear. It is never to the child’s benefit to divorce outside of abuse. You not thinking you got a good example is nothing. In a single parent household you will have mental illness. It is so rare to not have it happen.
@@djpuplexa lot of women in her position are taught to never degrade their husbands and if he cheated she might still defend him bc "if I gave him more abc, then he wouldnt have done xyz"
@@nikkisigmon8090 She had a kid with someone else she married him for security and financial reasons now they are older and she doesn't want to stay married it took damn near the whole call but that's the reasons. Men are in love women are in business.
At 5:48 she explains the truth. She brought another man's child into their marriage. He agreed to raise the child and to care for her, but she thinks the level of his love or support wasn't enough. Specifically, she says he "resents" her daughter, without providing evidence of this resentment. Consequently, she cut him off emotionally, relationally, and physically. There needed to be more prodding on the front end of this conversation. The Ramsey show sure has gone soft on divorce in recent years.
Unfortunately you’re teaching your kids that a marriage is okay for two people to just be okay with each other and not truly love each other. Sometimes you’re teaching your child that it’s okay to ignore your partners wants and needs.
@@Sunnygirl1990 and kids aren't dumb, they're going to pick up on what's going on, even if they can't specifically identify it. My husband and I show affection for each other, forgiveness, unity and companionship every day. If we don't show that to our kids, how are they going to know it can be any different?
i feel for this Lady i was the Kid in the loveless household. my parents decided to wait till all the kids were out of high school to divorce. i can tell you this really messed me up in my views on what healthy relationships looks like let alone what a healthy marriage is supposed to be. it is hard for me to form healthy relationships. i finally got married in my 30s and it is a struggle to keep it healthy because how i was raised wants to creep in.
Im so confused by this call. She said her love died due to her husband resenting her daughter which she had from a previous relationship. And YET, if that is true, she is staying and keeping her daughter in the same house with a man that doesnt like her. What?!?! How can that be better for the kid?
Why do people think that it’s better for kids to reside in a house with no love between their parents in contrary it’s best for the kids to see their parents HAPPY if they are together or with someone else… the kids get to have 4 different sets of families (including step families). I know because I was one of those kids that had 4 families…I am a successful, educated, sane and happy person.quit holding on in these bad relationship people. Even love don’t last forever. TIP for men: stay very clean around a woman…crotch area clean, clean breathe, no body odor, no foot odor , no farting or burping around her…she will never leave!
Why do people do this? Call for advice and get annoyed when they don’t hear what they want? Ma’am, nobody is interested in validating your kooky arrangement with your estranged husband that still lives with you. Yeesh. Get a divorce and live in reality instead of cosplaying for your kid.
Why parents think they have to be a perfect couple to provide a role model of what relationships looks like? Why broken kids think the same? Yes, when the kids are young like pre 20s, they look for relationships around them to understand what it looks like. But when they grow up, they will understand it differently. My parents are Asian parents, they don’t visually show love to each other. I did not know their relationship until I am older, like late 30. What I am trying to say is your kids broken because they choose to. Yes possible You can play a small part in it but definitely not your fault. Don’t stress out too much and live too.
John is wrong for this . Children have a lower chance of being protected without both parents in the home . If the dad isn’t there you are doing a disservice to them
@@dudeorduuude5211reread what you wrote. How can someone be present in a location they don't regularly reside in? If the mom remarried or has other men in HER house, what say does he have?
He didn’t push her toward divorce, he just made her face the reality that that’s what she has already chosen and is just hiding from it. She’s the one who first used the word divorce, not him
Baloney is wrong here. Children want BOTH PARENTS TOGETHER. Stop gaslighting and pretending that children give a crap about the immature adults who can’t get along.
This is true and people definitely don't put enough work into their relationships and are surprised when they breakdown. Couples counseling should be far more standard and common than it is. It takes a lot of work to get along and keep a relationship that close and involved healthy. Now if you have a spouse who has say become a raging violent alcoholic or drug addict or something that's different but the vast majority of people who's marriages breakdown is simply from not putting in the work to build a strong relationship.
You are being willfully ignorant. This couple isn't together, they aren't working on their marriage and will never work on their marriage. You are clutching to a fantasy, when reality is they are living in a dysfunctional way, that hurts the children. Be present.
No, you don't stay in a marriage that's broken and leaving you both miserable, you take your spouse and you work your butts off to find your happy marriage again. That's biblical marriage
I love that last 5 secs, choose to sit across one and other and decide what is the next right choice. Even in marriage as is in finances, it’s about being intentional and having a plan.
she is the one that cheated! not him! ...good greif do not blame the man......dude should have left but he tried to forgive and move on and raise another mans kid....she is being nasty and has treated him terribly...he is staying cause he is the dad the kid knows...
Living together peacefully, finances better, kids get daily contact with both parents. But I agree they should try to fix the relationship at least to be positive with each other.
In New Mexico, alimony laws are 30-50% for marriages under 20 years so she’d still get a payday for about 6 years or so if she divorced now. If she sticks it out another 7 years she might be able to get permanent alimony, but then she probably wouldn’t get a nice child support check. Decisions decisions.
The research is clear as a bell, in the absence of violence, addictions etc., kids have far better outcomes with 2 parents together than apart. This is sad but true. This woman either needs to get out or just accept she is where she is
@@stitchy_linnearth. There are worse situations than two parents whom don’t like each other. What happens if a stepparent doesn’t like you? That was what I got to enjoy as a kid. Single parent homes are at every statistical disadvantage imaginable.
@@stitchy_linn Growing up without both parents is associated with a host of poor child outcomes. Children from single-parent and stepparent families have higher poverty rates and lower levels of educational and occupational attainment than children who grow up with both their biological or adoptive parents (Astone & McLanahan, 1991; Biblarz & Raftery, 1993, 1999; DeLeire & Kalil, 2002; Kiernan, 1992; McLanahan & Sandefur, 1994; Wojtkiewicz, 1993). They report greater substance use and risk-taking behavior, such as smoking, drinking, and drug use (Carlson, 2006; DeLeire & Kalil, 2002; Hoffmann & Johnson, 1998).
You can't sell children and divide the profits and most often the man in that relationship is the loser in that situation he goes from being a father to being a babysitter and from being a parent to being a paycheck
In today's modern world, It happens to women too. Thank God I dumped my ex with kids, he thought I would be the babysitter & provide financially if we got married. These single parents need to get their life together
He resents being the walking wallet for a single mom and her kid by someone else. And she doesn't want to lose the paycheck. She has a kid by a previous marriage. She already proved the biblical "til death do us part" never meant a thing to her.
But the husband knew the situation going in, right? He should have probably considered how he would feel about her child from a previous relationship before he proposed.
So they share kids?? She completely threw me off at the end of the call when she says the husband resents the step kid. 🥴 I mean I guess they make perfect roommates if the house is peaceful like she said 🤣
@@289Mustang67i listened to the full video. She Literally said at the beginning she was divorcing the husband. Bt John kept blaming the husband. It took him the full 10min to see she is leaving the husband. John is that biased
She's already violating Biblical principles. You need to look at the verses which say that married couples should not live separate lives permanently but only for a season. There's more to following God's plan for marriage than simply avoiding a court declaring your marriage over. John encouraged reconciliation if it was at all possible, but both Jade and John recognized she had already left her husband.
This hits close to home for me as a wife, and it actually encourages me to not give up on trying to connect. You'll hear no shaming from me as it's easy to fall into this category of relationship. So much so that most marriages struggle to some degree of this. Maybe she will think differently, or be convicted in a new way too.
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I mistakenly thought this would be a place to receive positive feedback. Apparently I was mistaken. So, I deleted my original comment and replaced it with this one. I will continue to internalize and will not make the mistake of reaching out for help again.
If you're a true Christian, the Bible prohibits divorce. You have to be careful who you choose to marry. If you leave your spouse to marry another, it's adultery.
Now divorce is silent? Lol. Silent divorce, silent quitting, etc. etc. These people are just playing games with reality and dancing all around it while turning them into cute trends. No wonder everyone is so unhappy.
My biggest issue with Delony is he gives no room for pragmatism. Everything is black & white for this guy. You are either living an amazing life or you are not. This woman is trying to be pragmatic and keep her family together. She should be partially commended for that.
Totally agree. In this guy's cute candyland world either everything's awesome or you throw in the towel... The guy has the emotional maturity of a kindergartner.
They didnt seem to want to understand her reasons and instead made her feel she should be doing more. Life isn't always that easy. She was implying he was hurtful to her daughter, if it were his show, he'd have said protect that minor child.
My late husband had parents like this. They stayed together in “marriage” for “the kids sake” until the youngest graduated high school. It’s was rough. And he told me like everyday “I wish my parents just got a divorce”
One spouse can't fix it if the other spouse doesn't want to
The Bible also says that you're to not to hold back emotionally and physically. Fulfil those commands and you won't have to worry about a divorce.
That’s a total load of crap and you know it.
As a child I didn’t concern myself with my parents’ issues. Personally, I’m glad they stayed together.
I was in one of these silent divorces till I got sick of waiting for him to change and while I rebuilt my career so I could afford to leave. Wish I'd left sooner but my self esteem was so crushed.
@donaldjohnson-d6i Not if the person love bombed you, made commitments, continually broke them once we had children. His word was worth precisely jack shit by the end. Don't make any promises you don't intend to keep. That is lack of integrity. He showed he wasn't the person he pretended to be. He didn't appreciate what he had. We went to marriage counselling as well. So that's why the silent divorce.
I had similar experience. It really sucks. We lived separate for many years , but married on paper. I was busy working 2 jobs, raising my kid.
@@elnoraabduqadir2297 Life is better now for me. I hope it's better for you. I practice gratitude every day.
Some of us try desperately to have a meeting, to discuss the issues and hopefully resolve them. But that takes two people to agree and be willing to talk about it and work it through. That takes two people. When one person shuts down and or refuses to even talk about anything at all this just cannot work. When you are 74 and 79 and living on a low retirement income you cannot financially afford to divorce.
I appreciate Dr John calling her out
I can appreciate that John kept it real with her…. This is 100% her decision and choice. She is trying to pass the guilt over to something else to make herself feel better.
Kept it real? He blames the man
I don't think he digged enough on this one. There was obviously something going on, but he chalked it up to "you made the decision to leave", and that's kind of simplifying the issue.
@@MrsGator7 No, he's blaming both of them. She isn't taking accountability any more than her spouse is.
@dlghtfl1 Of course, the one time Deloney holds a woman accountable you say he dropped the ball!
Why do people kids think "kids don't know what going on"? They know people, I knew when my parents where trying act like everything was ok. When it wasn't.
Twenty years of studies show she is correct in staying as long as they are not evil to each other. If there is not a third person involved, it works and has for many, many generations.
Marriage is falling in love over and over again. Life is a series of growth steps. Steps go up as well as down.
She said she has a roommate
This woman is lost. She knows it’s over and it’s toxic but has been listening to BS that is keeping her trapped. Shut out the noise, listen to yourself, and move like a grown woman.
Which is worse? Kids living in two separate 'houses' and potentially getting 2 extra parents they never asked for or living in one 'home' with parents who give each other the silent treatment? Both situations are terrible! There is no one is better than the other here. They have to go to counseling first and foremost. Both parties have to understand that they first have to give it their ALL before making life changing decisions. And don't forget prayer! LOTS of prayer!
Not once in history, have I ever heard a case of kids saying "I know you and dad hated each other, but thanks for not divorcing and living in misery for us."
I would think it kinda depends. If mom and dad are pleasant to each other like roommates, but have separate finances, aren’t sleeping together, and just peacefully do their independent things- I’m not so sure the kids would have a negative experience. They would have mom to interact with and dad to interact with on a daily regular basis.
I would have rather my parents stay together than what i endured w my step dads..... 🤷🏻♀️
I'm so happy my parents got divorced. It was so much better for me and my siblings
@@arthrodea..what’s the point of that? The only thing left to do is move out and coparent in that scenario
@@summersalix do you have any pics?
Another BIG FAT L for Deloney. How does he assume the husband “left”. Good for her for saying they both “left”. Deloney is so biased against men
Way to go John, you kept it real. Love the advice. She is safe. Only she is tired and wants to see other people
Personally, as someone who has experienced parents living together but also divorce it's much worse than having them physically separated. It's a Beyond toxic environment and brings emotional and mental harm. The point I'm trying to make here is to choose wisely to get back together with one another or finally make that separation. All you are doing is causing more pain and suffering within the family.
1:29 - NO, Children are not the excuse to live together but disconnected/tense/angry/resentful/anxious or all of the above to drag the corpse of what was. Be separate and at peace. I witnessed this sad circus with my folks and we, my siblings and I (teens, pre-teen) KNEW it was over but they overstayed their home with ugly fight and the tense silences. It's horrible, nobody has a safe place (the exes or the kids)
2:30 she left him. Why did you automatically blame HIM?
You must be new here. The Ramsey Simpin' Solutions Team's default position is to always blame the man/husband/boyfriend/etc. unless it's outrageously obvious it's not.
Living with 2 parents who hate each other is a nightmare. Me and my siblings went through it. I was happy when my dad left. It was peaceful. Not that I wanted him to leave but the arguments and fighting stopped.
They not fighting in this case
Coming from a child who had parents who stayed in the same house but didnt communicate, didnt have anything to do with each other and also chose to not be present for their children (not saying this is the case in this caller's scenario) i truly wish my parents got a divorce. Neither of them were happy, neither of them showed us what a marriage was..if anything, it showed us what marriages shouldnt be..
Good luck, caller.
Thar is what you think but statistically it is much worse. You can feel however you want but your mom could have married/dated a drunk that abused you. Thar is why you use stats and that stats are clear. It is never to the child’s benefit to divorce outside of abuse. You not thinking you got a good example is nothing. In a single parent household you will have mental illness. It is so rare to not have it happen.
Totally agree witb John 💯 %. Selfish woman who didn't choose wisely to begin with obviously.
Sounds like she is the problem
Yup otherwise she would of exactly had a reason. She wants the house and bills paid.
Yeah
@@djpuplexa lot of women in her position are taught to never degrade their husbands and if he cheated she might still defend him bc "if I gave him more abc, then he wouldnt have done xyz"
@@nikkisigmon8090 She had a kid with someone else she married him for security and financial reasons now they are older and she doesn't want to stay married it took damn near the whole call but that's the reasons. Men are in love women are in business.
Yup, she’s the problem.
I have no idea what this lady called about. I can't follow any of what she is saying .
At 5:48 she explains the truth. She brought another man's child into their marriage. He agreed to raise the child and to care for her, but she thinks the level of his love or support wasn't enough. Specifically, she says he "resents" her daughter, without providing evidence of this resentment. Consequently, she cut him off emotionally, relationally, and physically. There needed to be more prodding on the front end of this conversation. The Ramsey show sure has gone soft on divorce in recent years.
That's what always happens when you put ink on your body (graffiti on the Temple).
Dr devorcey the feminist is happy to support her in destroying her family. He'll say anything to keep from holding her accountable in any way
They’re soft on the ladies because that’s who buys books.
Same as the modern church and why men have stopped going.
They don't even pretend to be anti-divorce anymore. It's so disappointing.
This is a false dichotomy, why not fix the marriage? Why not encourage option 3 and choose to start over and build something new.
I agree with her. It is better for the kids to stay in the same house in this situation if there no arguments etc
Unfortunately you’re teaching your kids that a marriage is okay for two people to just be okay with each other and not truly love each other. Sometimes you’re teaching your child that it’s okay to ignore your partners wants and needs.
@@Sunnygirl1990 and kids aren't dumb, they're going to pick up on what's going on, even if they can't specifically identify it. My husband and I show affection for each other, forgiveness, unity and companionship every day. If we don't show that to our kids, how are they going to know it can be any different?
No, they will feel the pain and tension and what is left unsaid.
i feel for this Lady i was the Kid in the loveless household. my parents decided to wait till all the kids were out of high school to divorce. i can tell you this really messed me up in my views on what healthy relationships looks like let alone what a healthy marriage is supposed to be. it is hard for me to form healthy relationships. i finally got married in my 30s and it is a struggle to keep it healthy because how i was raised wants to creep in.
Blessings and prayers for you
@@TheAfricawewant-f4s Thank you I appreciate it
Im so confused by this call. She said her love died due to her husband resenting her daughter which she had from a previous relationship. And YET, if that is true, she is staying and keeping her daughter in the same house with a man that doesnt like her. What?!?! How can that be better for the kid?
Sounds about right for a call from Albuquerque 😂
Why do people think that it’s better for kids to reside in a house with no love between their parents in contrary it’s best for the kids to see their parents HAPPY if they are together or with someone else… the kids get to have 4 different sets of families (including step families). I know because I was one of those kids that had 4 families…I am a successful, educated, sane and happy person.quit holding on in these bad relationship people. Even love don’t last forever.
TIP for men: stay very clean around a woman…crotch area clean, clean breathe, no body odor, no foot odor , no farting or burping around her…she will never leave!
No more connection there. Shocking. Divorce and all the pain associated isnt the answer - getting a grip, and working out your vows is the amswers
Already blaming the husband. She never said it was he who left and she sounds like she wanted out.
Why do people do this? Call for advice and get annoyed when they don’t hear what they want?
Ma’am, nobody is interested in validating your kooky arrangement with your estranged husband that still lives with you. Yeesh. Get a divorce and live in reality instead of cosplaying for your kid.
This! They don’t have a magical way of changing things. She needs to get a divorce or fix the marriage (which she doesn’t want to do).
He doesn’t need to sign anything, just file for divorce.
Why parents think they have to be a perfect couple to provide a role model of what relationships looks like? Why broken kids think the same? Yes, when the kids are young like pre 20s, they look for relationships around them to understand what it looks like. But when they grow up, they will understand it differently. My parents are Asian parents, they don’t visually show love to each other. I did not know their relationship until I am older, like late 30. What I am trying to say is your kids broken because they choose to. Yes possible You can play a small part in it but definitely not your fault. Don’t stress out too much and live too.
So you married him on the basis of he married you and made a vow to you and that child but if your pushing him away what does she expect
Man, the number bots in the Ramsey Show comment section is bizarre. Every video.
It's out of control
Yea the number of folks be blessed with x money thanks to x person ads are nuts.
financial side of you tube is a hot spot for em
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John is wrong for this . Children have a lower chance of being protected without both parents in the home . If the dad isn’t there you are doing a disservice to them
Dad being present, doesn't mean it has to be in the same house.
@@dudeorduuude5211reread what you wrote. How can someone be present in a location they don't regularly reside in? If the mom remarried or has other men in HER house, what say does he have?
Its finances that is keeping her there.. She can't afford to move.
Or him
She said she just got a new roommate.
Calling a financial show with a marriage question is nonsensical (even though this particular show features John Deloney).
Most of the people that call in with financial problems actually have really big marital problems.
Agreed. Another nonsensical notion is that they can diagnose marital problems during a 5 minute phone call
Deloney and Ken Coleman need to exit. Their youth pastor psychobabble is a waste of time. The channel is great with Dave, Rachel, Jade, George.
@@olasek7972 That's why they often recommend counseling, which should last longer than 5 minutes.
@@elizabethallen4353 Deloney is fine
john if u gonna talk about the bible tell her that GOD said 1 man & 1 woman together for life unless it's adultery
Keep the kids in the home and you and your husband take turns coming in and out to care for them.
Insane! This is becoming so common! I know of at least 9 people going through this exact same thing...
Falling out of love with husband but not leaving and making everyone miserable?
he threatened to leave, he threatened to stay. Everything is a threat, unless he pays
Pushing people towards divorce is evil.
He didn’t push her toward divorce, he just made her face the reality that that’s what she has already chosen and is just hiding from it. She’s the one who first used the word divorce, not him
They keep blaming the guy ,, lol... what if its all her !!! ??
It literally is all her. She keeps admitting it and John won’t accept it lol
Why wasn’t this just on the Baloney show?
“You’re playing legal semantics with the Bible. Stop.” Ngl that quote goes hard from Delony 😂
Love is not a feeling it is an act
Kevin samuels. Never marry a babymom
Baloney is wrong here. Children want BOTH PARENTS TOGETHER. Stop gaslighting and pretending that children give a crap about the immature adults who can’t get along.
This is true and people definitely don't put enough work into their relationships and are surprised when they breakdown. Couples counseling should be far more standard and common than it is. It takes a lot of work to get along and keep a relationship that close and involved healthy. Now if you have a spouse who has say become a raging violent alcoholic or drug addict or something that's different but the vast majority of people who's marriages breakdown is simply from not putting in the work to build a strong relationship.
You are being willfully ignorant. This couple isn't together, they aren't working on their marriage and will never work on their marriage. You are clutching to a fantasy, when reality is they are living in a dysfunctional way, that hurts the children. Be present.
This is the type of tough love we need in our conversations about relationships
He doesn't want to give half his shit to you lady.. gotta use some logic...😂😂😂😂
People will come up with any excuse not to do the right..but hard...thing...
Oh she's dying to "do" the "hard" thing. She wants Tyrone on the side all up in there.
No, you don't stay in a marriage that's broken and leaving you both miserable, you take your spouse and you work your butts off to find your happy marriage again. That's biblical marriage
Growing up with parents who SHOULD have divorced but stay together because of you, and tell you that, is a horrible way to grow up.
Love how its always the mans fault.
Right.
Her: i left him
John: he left you
I love that last 5 secs, choose to sit across one and other and decide what is the next right choice. Even in marriage as is in finances, it’s about being intentional and having a plan.
At this point, not getting married is also a good idea coz listening to the stories on this show really just amazes me everytime.
At this point I don’t think happy marriages exist
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No. You fear relationships, or hold onto bitterness, and so use this as an excuse to not even try. Coward.
She doesn’t sound transparent. She’s selective about what she’s saying and it’s hard to get help when you can’t be honest.
The dude has severed the marriage.
Ma'am why are you still married but single? Obviously the marriage was not ordained.
Translation: I'm over him. Can I start dating other people but still fake having a happy family for the kids?
Further translation: "Can this dude Tyrell go balls-deep with no consequences on my life?"
Creepy. So in her religion she can't divorce if her partner is stealing, violating her or the kids? I would pick a new religion.
she is the one that cheated! not him! ...good greif do not blame the man......dude should have left but he tried to forgive and move on and raise another mans kid....she is being nasty and has treated him terribly...he is staying cause he is the dad the kid knows...
Agreed. She chose to leave him. This is 100% her.
She wants a home and his money.
Living together peacefully, finances better, kids get daily contact with both parents. But I agree they should try to fix the relationship at least to be positive with each other.
Let me keep my child in a home where the man of the house resents her. Because that’s healthy. 🙄
Move on from this toxicity.
These calls are so stupid and pointless.
You don’t know if she’s religious, don’t assume that
In New Mexico, alimony laws are 30-50% for marriages under 20 years so she’d still get a payday for about 6 years or so if she divorced now. If she sticks it out another 7 years she might be able to get permanent alimony, but then she probably wouldn’t get a nice child support check. Decisions decisions.
Alimony is ridiculous
Jon: Are you safe👀
Cashier:Sir, this is a Wendys
Wait, I thought it was Ken's turn to get lunch.
Now he's got DR saying "I'm scared to death" in more recent calls. 🙄 Ugh, infuriating.
The research is clear as a bell, in the absence of violence, addictions etc., kids have far better outcomes with 2 parents together than apart. This is sad but true. This woman either needs to get out or just accept she is where she is
Absolutely not true! What planet are you from?
@@stitchy_linnearth.
There are worse situations than two parents whom don’t like each other. What happens if a stepparent doesn’t like you? That was what I got to enjoy as a kid.
Single parent homes are at every statistical disadvantage imaginable.
@@stitchy_linn you're the delusional one here
@@stitchy_linn Growing up without both parents is associated with a host of poor child outcomes. Children from single-parent and stepparent families have higher poverty rates and lower levels of educational and occupational attainment than children who grow up with both their biological or adoptive parents (Astone & McLanahan, 1991; Biblarz & Raftery, 1993, 1999; DeLeire & Kalil, 2002; Kiernan, 1992; McLanahan & Sandefur, 1994; Wojtkiewicz, 1993). They report greater substance use and risk-taking behavior, such as smoking, drinking, and drug use (Carlson, 2006; DeLeire & Kalil, 2002; Hoffmann & Johnson, 1998).
Would you buy $225,000 worth of Beanie Babies? Or Rolex's? You're hoping this car holds or gains value as a "collectors item". That's a joke.
You can't sell children and divide the profits and most often the man in that relationship is the loser in that situation he goes from being a father to being a babysitter and from being a parent to being a paycheck
Not with that attitude, you can't
@@welon17 huh? say what
In today's modern world, It happens to women too. Thank God I dumped my ex with kids, he thought I would be the babysitter & provide financially if we got married. These single parents need to get their life together
He resents being the walking wallet for a single mom and her kid by someone else.
And she doesn't want to lose the paycheck.
She has a kid by a previous marriage. She already proved the biblical "til death do us part" never meant a thing to her.
But the husband knew the situation going in, right? He should have probably considered how he would feel about her child from a previous relationship before he proposed.
These people give terrible advice, based on little information. I'm out.
So they share kids?? She completely threw me off at the end of the call when she says the husband resents the step kid. 🥴 I mean I guess they make perfect roommates if the house is peaceful like she said 🤣
2:42 See John. She left him. He did not leave her. SHE asked for a divorce.
4:02 John blaming again. SHE SHE won’t sit down.
@@Scarface_445 It pays to listen to the end of the video before commenting.
@@289Mustang67i listened to the full video. She
Literally said at the beginning she was divorcing the husband. Bt John kept blaming the husband. It took him the full 10min to see she is leaving the husband. John is that biased
@@Shortballa11 "Divorcing" and "leaving" aren't always the same thing. Some people file for divorce after the other spouse leaves.
@@289Mustang67 did you listen to the call. She made it very very very clear she was the one leaving. Like rlly clear
Getting tired of your spouse is not Biblical grounds for divorce. Such horrible advice.
following the bible is terrible advice.
But this lady needs to face reality. They cannot drag eachother to live up to that ideal. She is in divorce land now.
@@ST-rj8iu this is insanely ignorant. I bet in your view we should all become gay, trans, communists who sleep around and only care about ourselves.
She's already violating Biblical principles. You need to look at the verses which say that married couples should not live separate lives permanently but only for a season. There's more to following God's plan for marriage than simply avoiding a court declaring your marriage over. John encouraged reconciliation if it was at all possible, but both Jade and John recognized she had already left her husband.
It's usually middle aged fat women who say this.
This hits close to home for me as a wife, and it actually encourages me to not give up on trying to connect. You'll hear no shaming from me as it's easy to fall into this category of relationship. So much so that most marriages struggle to some degree of this. Maybe she will think differently, or be convicted in a new way too.
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It was her choice and mostly her otherwise she would have went to exactly why.
It’s not an easy thing to go through, I know.
My ex said to me we have to make this work for the kids i told him if it didnt work for us it wont work for the children
Wow this lady has warpes view of marriage. Notjing biblical about tjlhis.
It's simply called lying to yourself to justify things you know aren't right or are easier than what needs to be done.
She sounds incredibly immature.
I mistakenly thought this would be a place to receive positive feedback. Apparently I was mistaken. So, I deleted my original comment and replaced it with this one. I will continue to internalize and will not make the mistake of reaching out for help again.
She needs a legal separation and divorce. She's liable for his financial actions
She'll never leave. She will be miserable forever
I was 32 when my mom divorced my dad. I told her, "why now!?!?!? You put up with it all this years. And dragged us all?"
She needed help raising y’all
If you're a true Christian, the Bible prohibits divorce. You have to be careful who you choose to marry. If you leave your spouse to marry another, it's adultery.
So what was her reasoning?
Being a single mom is no walk in the park.
Because it was passed time to do so.
Why did she call in to a financial show?
Hi . Dave, the current legal LAW of marriage is in NO way equal to historical religions. modern marriage, modern Laws and Rules.
Dave Ramsey completely out of touch and delusional.
My wife is imaginary, my divorce is silent too.
Similar situation here
Now divorce is silent? Lol. Silent divorce, silent quitting, etc. etc. These people are just playing games with reality and dancing all around it while turning them into cute trends. No wonder everyone is so unhappy.
Yea you’re fooling God into believing you are still married. Ok
No she left him and has a person living with her in her husbands house
My parents toxic marriage is why I have no plans to EVER get married.
This guy give the worst advise
Stop promoting marriage lol
My biggest issue with Delony is he gives no room for pragmatism. Everything is black & white for this guy. You are either living an amazing life or you are not. This woman is trying to be pragmatic and keep her family together. She should be partially commended for that.
Totally agree. In this guy's cute candyland world either everything's awesome or you throw in the towel... The guy has the emotional maturity of a kindergartner.
They didnt seem to want to understand her reasons and instead made her feel she should be doing more. Life isn't always that easy. She was implying he was hurtful to her daughter, if it were his show, he'd have said protect that minor child.