I Told Him Not To Stare At Her | Autism Mom Comes Home | Fathering Autism Vlog #81
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- Опубліковано 2 жов 2024
- Autism mom comes home and we made her cry. Abbie had a meltdown at the flea market so a lot of people stared at her. One guy wouldn't stop so I told him not to stare...with my dad voice. I feel bad about it but I had my fill of rude people and autism meltdowns.
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I continue to be so impressed by Isaiah. Not a typical 15 year old. I just want to hug him and tell him he's a great brother and son.
Hands up to that. And dad dont defend what you did adults should know betterxxx
Dawnie Brandy Don't defend what you did? I think you meant don't defend what he did, cause adults know better.
Seriously!!! He's amazing
Same! He is a fantastic kid and literally dad’s twin. Great family! They are so lucky to have each other.
I'm convinced he is not human. He is some heavenly being in disguise lol
Don't feel bad about defending your daughter! Some people need to be yelled at. I would've done the same thing...
Catherine Buyck I agree with you 100%
Catherine Buyck lol a lot of people need to be yelled at lol
Catherine Buyck I’ve taken care of kids like Abbie before and believe me I have yelled.
defending your child is one thing but being aggressive is unneeded... i think that’s what hes not proud of. also, sometimes these people staring are a lost cause. snapping at them will do no good. you cant explain autism to every person you encounter and i think thats something that would be hard to get used to as your child gets older. it would be hard to not constantly explain myself or my child and being aggressive towards someone for something they dont understand would make me feel bad as well:-“)
Catherine Buyck ..AGREED!! 💯
Isaiah is a perfect example of a good guy.
I think so. :)
Wholesome person**
Same with his Dad. Says so much about their family. I like Priscilla so much too!!
i think abi is secretly dancing to the music in her head 24/7
+Emily Hamm That's probably the most accurate comment of the evening. I agree 💯% lol
FatheringAutism i believe every autistic child is actually so genius that it makes it hard for them to function. maybe thats a little far fetched but thats how i feel. ive seen many autistic children who are just amazing prodigies. Examples are those who can paint or those who understand animals like no one else can. maybe abigail has a niche for music?
I've decided that she's the drummer in an all girl punk band.
Emily Hamm lmfao I'm not /that/ smart
Emily Hamm mood😂❤
When I found out Isiah was a 15 year old I was so so suprised and very impressed to see how mature he is. I am 15 and there are no boys that I know that are as mature and responsible as him, keep up the good work isiah, your a good son and brother!!
olivia R I can’t believe he’s only 15, I’m 15 as well and am incredibly impressed with his maturity compared to others
olivia Marie ..i agree! 🤗❤
WOW!! I HAD NOO IDEA ISIAH WAS 15!! 😲 I SERIOUSLY THOUGHT HE WAS LIKE 17..MAYBE 18!! HE IS SERIOUSLY SO MATURE FOR HIS AGE. HE IS A WONDERFUL PERSON WITH A HUGE HEART OF GOLD.* 💛 HE'S A GREAT BIG BROTHER && SON. 🙂
@@DEE-ho2cv he's actually 17 now.
DEE why all caps,you sound like you are yelling.
Your son is such a little gentleman! You should be so immensely proud of both your beautiful children, as I'm sure you are.
Lee King right. He needs to be a role model for these young men of this generation lol
Lee King He is very handsome to.
I think it's perfectly normal to loose it in those situations... It's hard enough to keep your cool when you feel anxious about how to deal with a meltdown in such a public place, you become so much more aware of the people around you it just adds to the stress.
My son is 4 and is non verbal as well. I've never been around any other autistic kids before and this is a new experience for our family. It helps so much to see how your family supports Abby. It gives us ideas on how we can help Aidan. There are so many similarities between Aidan and Abby. Thank you for posting.
Nick Algood Aidan is a very nice name. Best wishes to you!
You tell em daddy... Why I made shirts that say "Yes My Child is Autistic Don't Stare Ask Questions"
Barron 10 Acre Farm “ask questions” I love this! So many people are going to be curious and that’s okay, but staring is not and I don’t get why people think it is. Kudos to you!
Barron 10 Acre Farm That shirt is awesome!!
Hi Barron 🤗before I started watching F.A. I saw a child having a meltdown, did the same thing "stared " I didn't know about Autism 😭 , I have since apologized to that family, thanks to F.A! Asa,thank you🤗💖💗♥️
My son is 17 now and actually apologized for his autistic melt downs! He remembers them well! He has improved so much since he was a young child...talks now and even getting better socially a bit. I home schooled him 9yrs and he started 11th grade in a brick n mortar school this year too!
My older brother has low functioning Autism, and we always have to ask ourselves if it's autism, or if it's him just being a brat. I understand Isaiah's struggle as well. A lot of the time I have to set aside my wants and/or needs to make him happy, but I've learned that It'll happen another day if we can do it.
I've been working at a gas station for about 5 months now. The town where I work has a large special needs community due to it being close to specialists. Its really nice because the regular customers are so sweet about explaining their hardships and spreading awareness. The gas station has slurpees that we give out free to children who make it through high sensory issues, I guess is the word. Its become another safe haven for the children.
That is pretty awesome. Kudos to your employer.
Isaiah.. you impress me. I'm 21 and have grown up a lot in recent years.. and when I was 15 I had no concept of the bigger picture, you do. You are an incredible young man. :-) your family are lucky to have you! X
I choked when Isaiah said "brothering autism here!" Hilarious!! He's a great brother!! Would love more Isaiah footage, he's a cool kid.
Kara Lee he needs his own channel
to be honest, what you said was perfectly valid and acceptable and you have every right to stand up for your daughter, people can't act so ignorant and not expect to get called out for it
I can understand being curious, its human nature. But straining just to stare is disgusting. I wouldn't be able to hold my temper back. Abigail is a beautiful young lady and she inspires me daily. Lots of love to your family this holiday season!
“Somebody I’m not naming any names here” zooms in on Abby 😂
🤣🤣🤣❤
I hate people staring at special needs people.
my sister gets stared and they actually make weird disgusted faces and laugh at her i get really angry :(
brianna dennison they act so stupid about too like they can't help themselves, so rude
They shouldn't stare. But they're just curious.
brianna dennison I hate people staring at people in general. It's just creepy and rude.
Heather Combs
Its OK to be curious, just not rude.
Such a beautiful and genuine reaction to her surprise. Amazing husband and father.
Beautiful children.
Bless you all
Dad I think you handle that situation perfectly ,I know it’s not easy but I think you did a great job with her👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Don't worry about lashing out at that guy. Sometimes you just have your fill of getting attention or being looked at and you just want to get things done. Don't forget though that you have a whole family full of Mass supporters that love each of you and are on your team.
Meltdowns. Ugh. I know. I think people stare at me and Joe because they think maybe I'm hurting him or kidnapping him. And balancing kids. People have no idea what us families deal with and the snap decisions we have to make. Don't be so hard on yourself. All we can do...is the best thing for the moment.
I agree Heather when my ADHD child had meltdowns people would stare at him screaming and hitting his head. He was verbal.
Heather Love who is Joe
Been watching this channel non stop and omg they are actually the most pure family in the entire world. Not only are they spreading such an important message but they are also just such amazing and open minded people. So much can be learned from you guys!!
“Somebody.. I’m not naming any names here, had a meltdown”
(Zooms in on Abbie)
Not funny that she had a meltdown, funny the way you told us who was having a meltdown.
Shes so cute haha
A sense of humor is the best way to go 😉
Awe... the crying over mom's "men" cleaning the house was a touching moment!! I'm really enjoying your channel!!! The Snapchats were hysterical!!!
Spoiler while I'm watching 😜
Asa, you were human, under strain of your daughters meltdown and the fact that you later talked about your behavior and regret just confirmed again what a great dad you are. Isaiah has been imprinted by such great role models that he will be able to show the world what empathy and patience in times of stress looks like. He's already such an amazing young man, you are blessed!
I think he is an old soul. He is a very good kid, smart and loving!
That was so cute, showing Abbie's reaction to seeing her mum again!
There isn't a video of that Baby Got Back dance, is there?
Unfortunately not. They keep the PTA talent show under pretty tight raps.
I love how you chose to focus on Isaiah and reward him for this weekend , it was unfortunate that abi had a meltdown but she was so happy when mama came home , Priscilla was so funny explaining her concert ❤️u guys
I know, wish we could see her perform!^^
The way she said it's for the children was so funny, I love y'all. I don't think you shouldn't feel bad I would have told him to stop staring too, some people are just rude. Y'all are amazing parents she's so lucky to have you and her amazing big brother.
i cant stop smiling looking at this family! my brother was born with his brain 98% developed so he isnt autistic very much but you are still so inspiring!!!!! you know what to do and you treat abbie and Isaiah right! you give them the attention they need. sure abbie may need a little more attention but that doesnt matter!
This is definitely another favorite for so many reasons. Thanks for being real, and for sharing all the moments, love, challenges, tears, and laughter. Isaiah's reaction to the prank at the end was priceless lol...had to rewind and watch again.
I totally understand the feeling that hit Priscilla when she realized y’all cleaned the house for her. As a mom who understands the reality of housework, that it’s a neverending, thankless job, to be considered of like that shows that you’re seeing her, and that you appreciate what she does. I’d cry too! ❤️😍😢😘
For the record, I would CRY too if my family cleaned before I got home😍😆
Love the vlog! Keep it up, y'all 💓
I am honestly glad you spoke up. That man should know better and if he didn't maybe he does now.
I think when people stare especially during a melt down they are wondering what is going on. I defended a Mom of an autistic teen once in Target where a rude customer starting yelling at the child. I said can't you see he is autistic. The Mom thanked me. My son who is 15 had full melt downs until age 8 age. He has ADHD, sensory issues, autistic tendencies but not enough to be on the spectrum. I find it easiest to explain to people who stare what is going on. Such as my daughter is autistic and she has meltdowns that she cannot help. I guess people could mistake it as a seizure. Since your daughter looks normal it makes people wonder all the more. If they cannot accept her being this way then to bad for him. Abbey is a precious girl. You are doing a great job. My son also has a blanket and still needs his milk in a warm sippy cup at bedtime. Yet he talks about video games and has friends at school but he doesn't want then to come over after school. When I drop him off at the bus stop he acts like a normal teen.
This all works and you have such a great son and daughter because of the excellent and down to Earth parenting from you and your wife. I love how you guys aren't fake about anything. I'm a fan and I just subscribed.
.I love replaying videos, memories.
.replay (20/02/20).
.😍😍😍😍😍😍.
“You should keep staring, that’ll fix things” is my favorite quote now
Yeah sometime I can’t help it too when people rudely, excessively stare at my son because of his humming. But we a human and from what I see you are an awesome dad.
Wow you make it all look so good and never once have i seen even a ounce of irritation or temper from you or mom or brother god bless you guys!! I really hope anyone that lives with autism to watch this to know there is help and your not the only ones!
I think sometimes those that stare are the "special needs". Not being ugly, just how I feel.
I am so tickled that you have opened Isaiah to photography. He is taking some pretty cool pictures.
Kudos to you two guys getting the house clean for Cilla! Big points!!
Abbie was ecstatic about mom coming home. So sweet.
Cilla, would love to see your performance, and you are right. We go to win!!
Love you all
Jessica Lynam kJ
Just found your channel the other day and I absolutely love your family. Catching up on old videos. You guys are doing such a good job!
Such a beautiful moment to see Priscilla emotional because you did the cleaning, she's precious!!! Beautiful family, Abbie is lucky to have such a caring family.
I love how you admit to your “wrongs” but I think it’s totally fine because people do not understand how rude people can be or clearly don’t understand that people have diagnosis .
Priscilla makes my life shine!! I know all the words to Baby Got Back as well! I am obsessed with this whole entire family! You guys are amazing!
Dont beat yourself up over it. We also had a few of those days. I wish there was a way the general public could be more educated about autism and more understanding.
Isaiah is a great big brother..
Awww Priscilla is so appreciative ❤️❤️❤️ I love your family so much! You guys are amazing parents and the best role models for us young parents with autistic babies! ☺️
Also, kudos to you and Isaiah for taking Abbie to the market. Just the word "no" can throw my little one into a complete meltdown. I really related to that part of the video and it's nice knowing it's not just me going through this. Thanks again for sharing some into your life & helping tips along the way. 😇
We've gotten several comments from people thanking us for helping them to know that they are not the only ones going through all of it. Honestly, comments like that and yours are what keep us making videos. Thanks for watching.
Good for you for saying Something to the jerk who was staring at you. My daughter gets that alot when we go out. I try to ignore it and distract her, but, sometimes, its hard.
I really admire you that you realize that Isaiah needs quality time with you as well. He seems like a very smart, together young man.
Your daughter is so cheerful!!
You must have done a great job raising her for her to be such a happy child!
Everytime I watch your videos it makes my day!
Also I loved that she gets to pick what she wants to eat for breakfast
Isaiah reminds me of my 15 yr old son. I have 5 kids from19,15,13,13 and my 7yr old. Out of all 5 he is the best with her. My question is when Abigail has a meltdown and it affects Isaiah like in this video what do you do? Do you apologies to him,do you talk it over with him or does he understand and nothing needs to be said?
Please tell me the PTA talent show was recorded and can be found somewhere on the internet 😂
lol yes 😊
Not saying there won't be a leak of it someday but not from me. Lol. They are pretty strict on taking video during the performances.
ABBIE IS SOOOO HAPPY TO SEE YOU ... SHE ‘S SO EXCITED TO SEE BACK ! ... 🥰🥰🥰
I am "a hippie " too but I fortunately live in rural South Georgia and I have 8 plus deer tracks on road to my house daily. I love it, came here in 2000 from a city, was crazy when I moved but love it now! Abbie's excitement of seeing her momma was beautiful. Isaiah was so cute when he got his camera. ... I would be like so many people that would be running to subscribe to Brothering Autism! !!
That smile Abbie gave mom was priceless! 💗
Sweetest family. Abigail is stunningly beautiful with her sweet little features. Momma is always happy & smiling. Love her joyful laugh! Isaiah is sweet, caring and so full of honor. Happy he got his camera & can't wait to check out his insta pics! And dad, you love each of them so deeply & specifically to whatever it seems their heart needs. Makes such a difference! May you all be blessed beyond measure & protected during the hurricane. Sending prayers your way. Angels surround each of you & all of Florida!
This is such a good reminder about the meltdown triggers and possibly reinforcing the behavior. I feel like I need to hear this every day. Thank you for your insight.
I'm glad you stood up for her
Priscilla is sooo tipsy here lol. I am living for it
Priscilla always makes me mom cry lol you guys are so insightful!!!💜
Lol I just had to come back and watch the ending of this video again because it’s so hilarious. The way Isaiah responded to the firework had me in stitches laughing. I watched it over and over lol. “Sigh”.....I needed that laugh. 🤣😂
“I’m a mom of course I want to come home to a clean house”.... HELLO!! THANK YOU!!
And that was so nice!!!
You did what you needed to do, i think Dad voicing it Is the best option sometimes.
Hey ppl are cruel and you have every right to say something if they dont have manners teach them!!!!!! You guys rock
I stare sometimes because I'm trying to process what I'm seeing. I don't ever mean it rudely and as soon as I make up my mind, I attempt to stop. I would be horrified if I was yelled at for staring, but I don't ever want to do it so persistently that it warrants a yell. This was deserved though. He stared and stared and he should not have been staring like that. Good job! I mean that, good job. Great job, in fact. You had so much going on, and in the middle of it all, you took the opportunity to tell someone that this happens, and his stares won't stop it.
Oh I'd love to come home to a clean house lol
I love you guys. And you’re so inspiring and I’ve worked with mainly special needs adults. However “adult” is 18 and up. We all know most of us are far from adults at age 18! So dealing and helping ppl with at an age so much is happening in ones life can be challenging. However not impossible like you all have proven. I had an ex that constantly made remarks how he just would lose his mind “ messing with people like that”. Which infuriated me. He’s the type to stare and I wish he had someone like yourself set him straight !
God bless y’all and thank you for sharing
Got to say I love your music choices. Very awesome. You guys are the best.
If you are not staring to see how you can help or make sure everything's ok then mind your own business. I hate to think people are thinking "well maybe you shouldn't bring her/him to a place like this" It's like people think people with disabilities should be locked away. It's the community's job to help out it's people out.
Fathering Autism...now that my son talks to me he has enlightened me on things that were going on in his head. His meltdowns could have been from crazy things like picking out a shirt and feeling bad all day for the shirt he left behind. Or the shoes that didnt get worn today! A sad blanket that didnt come shopping with him!
(I let him bring his soft blanket in stores most of the time) He told me his brain feels like everything has feelings and that he worried about his cloths and blankeys.
Insightful! Great he could express this. Helps us learn.
You are the best father it's amazing to see
Your an amazing dad!
Don't apologize for sticking up for daughter!!
People can be so rude, it's rude period to stare!
I must add
Your son is so mature for his age.. You raise your children beautifully dad!!
I would've reacted to someone staring the same way! I have had Several not so nice pieces of advice for flat out rude people! My Mom had Alzheimer's and during a few stages of her disease she would uncontrollably yell and/or have destructive meltdowns. During that time the last thing I needed was whispers, Stares, or laughs! I've lost my cool but it's ok, and I'm ok with it. I would do it again! When you want to protect the integrity of your Child, Parent, or Loved one that's just normal. Other than children, grown Adults should know better than to stare! Several times with My Mom living with the disease she faced so many challenges, and I could cry thinking of the times it wasn't worth saying something to someone who would make a joke.
Best Wishes and I'm getting those Box Tops together! I did have some out of date 😕.. so I'm currently going through them now! Love your Channel! Love your Family!
Team Maass Squad 💙
“You should keep staring. That will fix things!” - best response ever. I’m going to use this when people stare at me.
“You should keep staring, that’ll fix things” is the epitome of DAD SASS and I love it, I may need to use it one day
I worked for an out-of-home respite program and I have always reacted to those stares in the same way. Its really hard not to. Its like havent you ever seen someone have a bad day? Mind ya business!
@19:46 I'm more patient with children who stare out of curiosity and inexperience but I'm less forgiving of adults who SHOULD KNOW BETTER even if they are curious!
I feel it man! People that over stare usually don't have an understanding of children on the spectrum...
Very rude!
I would have done the same thing!
I love this family so much💖💖💖💖💖
Your son is a true blessing A1
I dont blame you bro I would confront him too, i cant stand when people look at you like your not trying or that it's your fault and they are misbehaving....if only it was that simple.
I think Abbie was a rockstar in her past life lol
We are tree loving hippies too.. Got ten acres full of them.
#jelly
"Well thank you British guy." I'm laughing omg.
Potter Kid lol me too
Potter Kid yes so funny!!!
Seen the British candy review.? Ace and Isaiah's impersonation of a British accent was funny (from British English speaker 😉)
You said very sensible things about the flea market incident at the end of the video
Nature is important. The little critters need a place to live! Peace out fellow Hippie 😁
The kindness in this family never ceases to warm my heart.
Your family is absolutely amazing!
My nephew's where diagnosed with autism one on the higher spectrum and the lil one on the lower you are amazing parents i learned a lot from you guys . The guy who almost broke his neck looking at abbie is not cool that broke my heart and i know from experience with my nephews that what is normal for us can be painful and triggering to them that sends them into anxiety. Abbie is so lucky to have a big brother and two loving parents and an amazing bestfriend that is her voice and very protective over her.
Best thing to understand an calm yourself down is that nobody is intentionally being a douche! My daughter is in a wheelchair and I used to get so freakin angry at vehicles parked over footpaths and being force into traffic, then I realised, they weren't being dicks, they just didn't know.
So glad I have subscribed to you guys ! I'm 22 and live in the U.K and have autism - SPD , PDA. luckily my friends and family know what to do with meltdowns but my friends are so supportive and aren't happy when people stare at me 😭 my neighbours recently have brought a motorbike which has been setting me off like crazy so I'm going to bed with earplugs and ear defenders on. but my neighbours realised how upset it's been making me and brought us chocolate 😂😂
"It's for the kids" Baby Got BACK 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Awesome dad, cool brother, amazing mother, cute dog and she is so pretty and lovable!People around me say I'm really strict with my 2 autistic children and are always staring and judging I wish that the staring or judging can once in a while turn in to compliments/ encouragement!😪😒but oh well☺👍👍👍
If people insist on staring you have every right to say something.
I love the way you think and I love the sarcasm
dont blame u, that's extremely rude to stare like that while you're going thru a hard situation. Dont ever feel bad for calling people out on their crap. stand up for your family. You're an A+ Dad!
Amazing video😊👍🏼. I'm not good at spelling so I'll just say your son is the sweets thing to Abby and y'all are the sweetest parents ever😄. Also Abby is the cutest thing ever 🤗. Y'all are such a funny family😄. I absolutely love your UA-cam channel😃.
Good for you for speaking up. some people need to be told something. Next time he'll think twice before he is rude like that.💪💪💪👏👏👏👏👏👏
I totally get you saying something. I've had to say something multiple times to multiple people. Unfortunately, it's always been the the River City Marketplace that I've had to say something. Walmart and Ross. Girls had a staring problem and were literally pointing and laughing at my brother because he looks different (Williams syndrome). I NEVER lose my cool, but over my brother, I do. I even end up getting so angry at the people that I cry while I'm telling at them so I think you did way better than I ever could, Asa.