My grandson was getting married and it was a FORMAL dress occasion. I bought a pant suit with sequins on the top and thought “I will never wear this again!” I finally returned it and bought a satin blouse which I wore with black dress pants and black heals and felt very comfortable in this outfit. And I will definitely wear that outfit again to a nice dinner or party.
It’s funny because people think that oh I can’t wear that I wore that to the last party. Really nobody remembers what you wore unless it was just really outstanding. I realize this year‘s ago. I have a simple V-neck longsleeve velvet burgundy dress that I like to wear at Christmas. I’ve had it for at least 10 years. It still looks great and it’s beautiful simple and classic. Nobody remembers it but I’ve got several photos of me in that same dress.
on a slightly related note: you mentioned (very accurately imo) that donating should always be the last option, and that got me thinking about discarding items. I see quite a lot of people being quite flippant about "just donating" it as a sustainable way to purge, even though most donated clothes end up in landfill, and I slightly struggle with guilt when letting things go because of this. I'd love to see a video on ideas on how to sustainably deal with the items you want to let go?
There are lots of options. If it's kids clothes a lot of daycares will accept used clothing for kids who have accidents. For adults, you have consignment, Poshmark, you can donate to a women's shelter or sometimes hospitals will take them for patients that may need support (the mental hospital in our city accepts clothing and creates a free shop for patients to go and get some clean "new" clothes).. you can do a clothing swap with neighbors... Lots of options
I always donate to a charity I support and believe in, such as the Salvation Army, all proceeds support their marvelous free addiction treatment centers👍👍
I rehome stuff to specific people. I gave a basket full of assorted items: dresses tops and sweaters to a young mom who hasn’t got a lot of excess money. She was delighted and I picked out stuff I thought she would wear. I used to take my stuff to work and my colleagues would choose anything they wanted. I don’t just landfill it or give it to places that will throw it away. I also make sure that the things I rehome are in good repair. I don’t mind seeing my clothes on others and I do lend items for occasions or travel. I have a dress that has been everywhere!
I love your message that the classics should be YOUR classics. The traditional list of classic items and cuts is NOT my style. But some pieces can work if I choose carefully: for instance, I will hardly ever choose to wear a blazer if it doesn't have stretch. Even a jacket or coat must allow ease of movement. I've had to relinquish many blazers over the years because they were too stiff or cut wrong. Knowing what feels best on my body is so empowering. 😊
All sweet advice! Just don’t wear black to a wedding in Europe. A tiny bit of black is ok. Top-to-to black is a big no-no, or black withe white - save it for funerals.
I had a wedding to go to recently and struggled to find something to wear. It seemed ridiculous to spend a large amount on one outfit I didn’t really like and would never wear again. I had the same inspiration to invest in separates I would wear again. I went to the wedding in a skirt I already owned and an elevated but simple top I can wear with multiple options. I felt great at the wedding as the outfit was really me! I had a lot of compliments too :)
Hey Alyssa, so I still haven't figured out my three words. I was watching another UA-cam video, I can't remember who it was some random one, but something fun that I've been doing is, instead of thinking of your three words when you're getting dressed. You stand in front of your closet and you say to yourself. How do I want to feel today? Say you want to say cozy and casual or casual and classy or funky and fresh lol then you pick pieces, that reflect those two things and put them together. It's been so fun to experiment with! You should give it a try!
Love your Tips on occasion wear. I don't have any lol but if I need it, I'll definitely follow your advice about the separates ! That makes so much sense
@@_inflection3209 🤗 Great advice. I haven't been able to narrow my style personality yet to 3 descriptors either. 🙃Get a lot more mileage asking myself what mood, message, or feelings I wish my outfit to convey that day. 💚Bridget from Cali☘️ (using my pal's YT acct)
@@teresacarle294 I think I just have a problem putting myself in a box. Like I'm this! Lol but I'm really that or that over there. So this has been a fun experiment for me! 💚
I've been using isolation for years, and it works. 6 years ago I isolated my "pregnant wardrobe", which was of great use once again, 1 year ago with my second pregnancy. The same is about "breast-feeding wardrobe"and so on.
Oh, man, I don’t have a disjointed closet, but do I wear my best outfits whenever I can? (I do not!) Can you speak to “saving” our best selves for … (when?)?
Ohhhhhhh! The hand me overs from my family!!! I am 5' 9" and both my mom and my sister are a lot shorter than me... The guilt is real sometimes! Today, I thank them for the clothes and then promptly put them in the Goodwill/Thrift store bag and consider it a favor that I am taking the clothes they no longer want to the thrift store. 😁😇
😂😂😂 that's hilarious that they are not the same size as you but keep giving their clothes 😂. Just be honest with them, they might know someone that could actually use the clothes, but are not giving it to them because they thought of you first, which is sweet, but misguided 😊
This was fun, thank you. My problem (not really) is I have these fantasy images of myself when I travel (i.e. Greece? A long billowy dramatic dress for a photo. Mexico? Beige and bright colours shorts and tops and hats i don't wear at home...). Quite often they don't translate well when I get back home and barely wear them again... OR (2) I think I'm clever with a small travel wardrobe but when i get there the atmosphere or weather is different than i expected and i only have a couple of things that are "appropriate" and i have to "make do" (maybe shop there, which is fun too) when I expected that i killed it (ouch, my poor ego). 😄
Your point about finding the classic closet essentials that work for you hit home so hard. No matter how much I’ve tried, blazers never felt comfortable to me - on my body or style wise. Cardigans filled that ‘outer layer’ gap blazers vacated, matching my three words before I defined them. Not to feed into the stereotype, but this librarian loves a cosy cardigan. It feels the energy of each piece matches mine.
I have Cardigans in almost all colors! They truly fit my personality and I love the Outfit combination that I create with them. I have a few blazers that I enjoy wearing but cardigans are definitely my go to layer.
I cant fathom digitalizing our wardrobe! You young kids are so tech saavy👍👍for occasion wear, i wear what i love, you always can find cocktail dresses in any thrift shop for under 40.00👍thank you as always for another great video👍 yr amazing how you pack so light and make so many outfits!! Plz do a video on your purchases while travelling and why you bought them. I love what you mention when you find a fab piece but it doesn’t incorporate well into your existing wardrobe so you pass. 👍👍good thing to consider
I’ve been using Open Wardrobe for a few months now and it makes being stylish so effortless. Mornings are busy and I used to try so many things on I would end up leaving the house in something that didn’t quite “do it” for me. Now I plan my outfit the night before and leave the house every day looking my best. And I love that the AI suggests new outfits for me - there are new combinations I wouldn’t have thought of.
My mom has sooooo many old wedding guest outfits that were just taking up valuable real estate in her closet I suggested she store these items with me, so that she would be able to create space in her wardrobe for her daily staples and a few key statement pieces
In ten years of two occurrences of Big C, my weight has fluctuated. Kept 3 sizes. Current is in my closet. The other two are each in huge felt lined chests, ready for rotation as needed.
I don't care if I'm a bride, guest, wherever, whatever, I'm wearing a mauve dress lol. I think it's best to pick a wow color for you and incorporate that into your formal wear to use again and again. Keeping close to your day to day style/cut vs a fantasy self. Yes! Dressing for yourself! You said it.
I teared up watching your video! I’ve struggled so much with my disjointed closet and felt like I was alone in my fashion journey. So I sincerely want to thank you for your encouragement cause the struggle is real. And thank you for the tips and tricks in finding solutions. And kudos for showing us how slow fashion should really be done. My hat goes off to you! Great work and thank you 🙏🏾
The occasion wear and classic pieces are the things that get me. They often don't fit my style and it's taken me a while to learn to filter it through my own style and find "my" own twist on a piece. For instance, I really don't do white trainers or jeans, but somehow grey trainers or jeans feel just fine.
I LOVE the open wardrobe app!!! I have totally revamped & digitized my closet, I got rid of things I don't wear anymore, and fewer but matching pieces give me so many more options than just a room full of 'stuff'. Getting dressed is so much easier & faster now, and more fun ;)
I have a similar app, and surprise before checking out of my online shopping bag, I was able to see that I had already purchased needed sweaters last summer on clearance. Was a booth to purchase similar items at a higher cost. These apps really help us be more aware.
I’ve been donating my clothing but to a Mental Health facility that my sister works at. Quite often, the “clients” don’t have any clothing or very little. It’s quite sad really. My sister ensures that they are put to good use.
Love the white skirt, it's me when I was younger. You have no idea when I saw you wear it my vision opened. Rent is a great option or I can't remember the movie but the woman that made the gown from the drapes (just kidding).. Those black pants can really me dressed up, I love them. I could not believe how much a scarf really brings out your outfit. I wore a little scarf tied in my hair and got all these comments, who knew. It's all because of you and what you share with us. You really are a gem and help more than you know. Thank you!
@That Girl Netty The character Scarlett O'Hara in classic movie 'Gone With The Wind'. The description of turning curtain fabric into a gown was far more creative and fun in the book. Of course, Julie Andrews in 'The Sound of Music' had matching play outfits made for the Von Trapp children from patterned curtain fabric. Their father was slightly appalled! Poor darlings only had best clothes - nothing to ride bikes or horse around in.
Such practical and useful tips Alyssa! I do like occasion wear but keep them all together in one back section of my closet and only go there when I need them. And I also pull pieces that no longer fit me (too tight) but are high quality classic pieces and hang them in a garment box in the basement. And occasionally my adult daughter will browse and ‘shop’ for herself! I don’t like pulling out something from my closet that no longer fits, it’s just frustrating! Another great video!
Hi Alyssa , you nailed it - “hand me overs and guilt” and keeping those clothes that may not fit you now but you know you have chosen them for their quality and classic style! Keep the great advice coming! Thank you ! ❤️🇨🇦
I know the point of your channel is to not buy what I see. But that tulle skirt is exactly what I have been looking for. The white one at the beginning. Where did you get it? I would wear that to work with a cute but casual shirt with some nude coloured shoes. Kids would love it too because it's fun!
I love open wardrobe, it made me realise just how much clothing I actually have, to be honest, too much. Especially when I'm more than happy to outfit repeat. Thanks Alyssa 😊
Another great video, Alyssa! Good to hear you say once again that donating should be a final option. Not only does a huge percentage end up in landfill, but a significant amount ends up being burned in third world countries with the toxic smoke from synthetic fabrics causing health problems in the local population. So donate as a last resort, and then only donate good quality, saleable items. Clara 💕
@@Ingrid0410 As long as they are good quality, saleable items there is no problem, but many people donate worn out items that cannot be sold, and they end up in landfill or be burned and causing huge problems.
Thank you for this video. I am currently embarking on a 'no shopping' month while paying down my credit card balance. I have so many pieces in my wardrobe, and definitely feel that I am underutilizing many of them. Your suggestions will assist me in reimagining my wardrobe while having fun honing in on my 'three words'. Thank you.
Isn’t that tulle skirt sweet! I have seen those apps. But not quite ready to app yet! Occasion wear….good idea to keep it in the “spare” section or closet. I do lend stuff! I have had some magpie purchases but they have been for real special times. I have rehomed them if I grew out of them! One was a gold Ghost dress, I wore for our big bash millennium party. I do have some choir black +/- white items. I wore school uniforms handed down from my cousins who went to Catholic school. They were not cool when I went to school. They are cooler and preppie now but not back in the day! Always enjoy. Gotta find something to do girlie lunch Friday to go with my green loafers! Fun!
Great video! Thank you! A little tip - if you can't isolate some of your clothes in a different place, use a full length zipped dress storage bag, so that you can still hang it in the wardrobe, but it can contain your items that you want to isolate.
My classic piece I purchased that everyone says is a must have, including your chanel, is a button down shirt. I hate them. I find them uncomfortable. Yet, I bought several thinking "this time it'll be more comfortable and I will wear it." Nope. The shirts hang in my closet and I never wear them. I have finally given myself permission to dislike the classic button down and I don't care who says I have to have one. I feel the same about black clothing. I don't like wearing black. At all. Yet, everywhere it's you must/should have black trousers, black jeans, black tee, black sweater, black blazer, etc. You are told black is timeless and classy and looks good on everyone. Well, again I have accepted that I do not like black. I will no longer buy black clothes. I'm gonna forgo the button down and the color black for my beloved knitwear and all the lovely navy, browns, and greys.
😖 Yes, there's a lot of peer pressure out there to conform to a rather ➡️narrow⬅️ definition of what constitutes classic & timeless. 😊It can take some of us a lifetime trying to figure out what suits our body shape, temperament, & lifestyle too. 🥰 I'd love to wear all the blazers I bought for the office outside, but I can't bear 'em until temps finally drop🌡below 70° in our perpetually 🌞 sunny skies. Otherwise, I will roast🥵. It's the same w/most knits. I prefer a lighter soft jersey cotton, esp. that has some give in the fabric to form around my curves. ⏳️With an hourglass figure, I usually have to ⬆️size up⬆️ on button downs to fit ➡️bust⬅️ w/o bulging. As a result, I'm usually left with all this ⬅️excess➡️ fabric around my middle. Trust me, it's not a good look on anyone😖. I only own a handful of silky, tailored button down tops that drape nicely that remain in rotation. 😉Although I also have two solid & two plaid formal men's dress shirts handed down by a friend. I will occasionally wrap or knot 'em over other things when I'm in the mood. I'm pretty passionate about black〰️& would be heart 💔 broken to move to a place it's thought of as strictly funeral gear ☠️. It can instantly make me feel like a 🌟 million dollars 🌟. I will occasionally wear camel or khaki on bottom⬇️, but I always need black (or a crisp white) on top⬆️ to bring the drama. I will sometimes sport a deep chocolate 🍫 brown head to toe, but anything in the beige or off-white color family drains all life from my face🤣. 💚Bridget from Cali☘️ (using my pal's YT acct)
🔨 You nailed it with your comprehensive list of challenges, & how they can make your overall wardobe disjointed. 🤗 Probably spent a lifetime focused on Occasion Dressing. 🤔Maybe not exclusively for 💲expensive special social outings as you've detailed here, but def sourced outfits with precise activities in mind. Clothing specifically ear marked for corporate work, dates, church, casual play, lounging, sport, etc. Know my closet still doesn't have 💯% cohesion, but it's improving thanks to fashion influencers like yourself who are helping me refine my overall style. Training me how to maximize cost per wear by mixing high/low pieces from my different categories in more creative ways. Choosing clothing that will serve a wider variety of purposes. 😉Never more appreciative to have had extra space to store clothing. Always found that seasonal rotation is a smart way to freshen my closet. ⏳️Plus, as an hourglass, it's been tricky to find clothing that fits my extreme proportions w/o add'l tailoring. So I often bought duplicates in different colors. Having fluctuated ⬆️up & down⬇️ in weight later in life, I've never been so grateful to have retained both smaller & larger sized clothing. It allowed me to shop my closet, esp. helpful in financially lean times too. 😁Truly thankful to have found style tricks to reduce larger items when needed too. I wouldn't deliberately shop oversized, but I don't mind them. Once I feel confident about my weight stability & maintenance, I'll either get some of the higher quality things tailored or pass them on. 💚Bridget from Cali☘️ (using my pal's YT acct)
Nailed it with the special occasion outfits. I am in that situation right now, struggling to find an outfit for a wedding and looking for alternatives .
I have a very large closet and already isolate my special occasion clothes but ai need to see if they match two of my descriptors. Your comment to dress for ME and not the occasion will really help me decide what to wear next time. So great to get a surprise Wednesday video. 👏
I use My Closet. I find it useful to record outfits that work well, and outfits that work in theory, but not when I put them on. Also, by recording outfits worn in the calendar I can see which I really wear, and remind myself to try other combinations. I keep various sections for what is stored, and what I need to review and get rid of. It's easier working visually than doing it on a spreadsheet or paper, just time consuming photographing everything at the beginning.
Haha...ha... Mia Cara Alyssa, I really feel that you are reading my mind... I am now taking some "unique" pieces out of my regular closet, and put them into my other "exotic" clothing closet. Now my closet looks more peaceful with the correct orders (colors, styles and etc.). Grazie mille 😄
Magpie here!! I used to get so distracted by print and colour and everything was very disjointed. I am improving while not losing myself along the way.
I like having mine in black storage bags-in a less visible place in my closet. A larger one for sure but def not a luxurious one! Same with out of season outerwear
I agree with all! I recall helping a friend go through her closet for her season and time and use. We got rid of so much and all she needed was one vanilla colored blouse and a light in her closet! She felt so ready to put her outfits together and has learned so much over time and feel so much more confidence now. For me? I appreciate Alyssa's tips for weeding out and not being afraid to let go of my too-full closet! I hope to really concentrate on the three words for me and then apply it to what I have and let the other clothes find out for whom they are best! Thank you so much.
You got me with Hand me overs/Gifts. I have an aunt whom I love who has started buying me clothes that she likes and thinks I would like also. Besides the fact that she is 20 years older, our styles are TOTALLY different. I feel so bad immediately giving these items away.
Oh Alyssa, if only I got to see this video 2 months ago, especially the occasion wear purchase tips...would have saved me some pennies. .lol Love the idea of keeping the occasion wear separate in another closet. ..really great advice given, thank you. Will definitely work on these tips going forward. Remain blessed xxx
This was a most excellent video, Alyssa. It makes so much sense to me. Beginning tomorrow, I am taking my special event wear out of my closet and putting it in my guest room closet. I don't need the visual while putting together outfits for my daily rotation. It clutters my mind. And now that you've mentioned it in this video, I cannot undo in my mind. Hahaha. Thanks very much. I appreciate your hard work and these videos.
Classic pieces or trend pieces the internet told us we needed!! Yep, as soon as I heard about skinny jeans way back when...I was like NO WAY, not my style, not on my body! Along the way I bought one pair, which I donated pretty soon after. Now that trend has moved on and I am sure zillions of skinny jeans are being abandoned for wide leg jeans! RIP skinny jean! It is never ending. At least now I have the confidence to say no! BTW is Open Wardrobe a free app?
Alyssa, today's video is excellent as the information you share is so pertinent for me and I'm sure many others who save those "goal weight" clothes. Placing "special event" clothing in a separate location is brilliant. I have so many "hand me overs" that I NEVER wear but feel guilty donating them so ultimately I will be clearing out many items that make my closet chaotic. Thank you so much for the great ideas!
Who would ever expect the Barbie movie to be a costume event? My friend’s special needs daughter asked us to all wear pink, which I *never* wear. Fortunately Salvation Army had a pink polo shirt (a closet staple). Pink artificial daisies stitched to existing white jeans ankles can be removed easily. Target had a pink bag I can see wearing as a color pop with frequently worn clothes. Special occasion meets costume.
hahaha, I felt so attacked when you mentioned that some of your viewers already mentioned the app, guilty as charged ;) ps: loved your ideas! You are so respectful to different people, bodies, lifestyles, I really love it.
CIAO Alyssa, You justo inspire me with this video, as a matter efect, I'm a summer hater. Now that fall is un here @ California, inspire ti do, what You point it make wardrobes for autum. I love turtlenecks, and I can pur together thansition pieces this fall, with mummer tips with courdoroy jackets ir pants. Justo bed the inspiration. Thanks! And hugs to Apollo boy ❤️❤️🤜
It is a very good idea to separate the occasional outfits from every day ones. I store all my clothes in one wardrobe and sometimes got confused with what I really have. I only separate by seasons. I think that storing every day outfits together with megpie pieces as a spice up pieces can be a great game changer. Thank you Alyssa for sharing your experience with us!
I agree for renting occasion wear...but it can be quite expensive...recently i bought purple suit on sale for wedding and Im going to wear it for my office
Thanks for the link to OpenWardrobe, Alyssa. I used StyleBook until I had to replace my phone & couldn’t access my work in the app. This one seems more intuitive. Thx again!
I miss when you would list what you're wearing with links. Please bring that back :) It's nice to learn about and buy from sustainable brands and see what you purchase second hand.
Hello Alyssa. Love your videos. They've helped me put a pause on shopping so I can think more about the current options in my closet - which I'm finding are many!
Hello Alyssa, I want to ask you a personal question. If you don’t feel comfortable about then don’t answer because don’t want offend. So, I think your skin is really beautiful and I wonder do you tan? Or is your skin that beautiful color all by itself? Be well and be at peace.
I had to come back to say how much I LOVE the Open Wardrobe app. It has been so fun and inspiring to have my items available digitally in one place where I can "try out" different ideas. The AI outfit suggestions have been really great too, putting together things I wouldn't have necessarily thought of myself but that I ended up liking. Anyway, I just wanted to say thanks for introducing me to the app! Love your content and philosophy around slow fashion and personal style.
My body is in a big fluctuation period (had a baby, I hope I'll have more babies) and it's taken my daughter getting to 2 to actually put the smaller clothes away. They might never fit, it doesn't really matter, but having them take up half my wardrobe was madness
I love your top and I’ve been looking for ages for a top like this! Can you tell me the name of the brand? :) I could find it in your closet videos, but maybe I didn’t search enough
I love sequined, beaded, satin, tulle, and formal occasion outfits. They are so pretty and fantasy driven. Unfortunately not even cruise ship travel demands it and at my age and being retired, there’s no wedding but more and more funerals to attend. Even typical dress has no chance debuting. I have to force myself to not buy any even when it’s $10.
Thank you for this wonderful video! This is the summary of the solution to my problems when it comes to buying clothes. Will definitely revisit this video from time to time to remind myself.
My grandson was getting married and it was a FORMAL dress occasion. I bought a pant suit with sequins on the top and thought “I will never wear this again!” I finally returned it and bought a satin blouse which I wore with black dress pants and black heals and felt very comfortable in this outfit. And I will definitely wear that outfit again to a nice dinner or party.
That is my standard and I change it with several sequent shawls and jewelry.
It’s funny because people think that oh I can’t wear that I wore that to the last party. Really nobody remembers what you wore unless it was just really outstanding. I realize this year‘s ago. I have a simple V-neck longsleeve velvet burgundy dress that I like to wear at Christmas. I’ve had it for at least 10 years. It still looks great and it’s beautiful simple and classic. Nobody remembers it but I’ve got several photos of me in that same dress.
on a slightly related note: you mentioned (very accurately imo) that donating should always be the last option, and that got me thinking about discarding items. I see quite a lot of people being quite flippant about "just donating" it as a sustainable way to purge, even though most donated clothes end up in landfill, and I slightly struggle with guilt when letting things go because of this.
I'd love to see a video on ideas on how to sustainably deal with the items you want to let go?
Agree. Seems like the problem starts with bringing it in. What is already there has to go sometime.
I use Poshmark. I sell things that don't end up working for me, maybe that's an option for you
There are lots of options. If it's kids clothes a lot of daycares will accept used clothing for kids who have accidents. For adults, you have consignment, Poshmark, you can donate to a women's shelter or sometimes hospitals will take them for patients that may need support (the mental hospital in our city accepts clothing and creates a free shop for patients to go and get some clean "new" clothes).. you can do a clothing swap with neighbors... Lots of options
I always donate to a charity I support and believe in, such as the Salvation Army, all proceeds support their marvelous free addiction treatment centers👍👍
I rehome stuff to specific people. I gave a basket full of assorted items: dresses tops and sweaters to a young mom who hasn’t got a lot of excess money. She was delighted and I picked out stuff I thought she would wear. I used to take my stuff to work and my colleagues would choose anything they wanted. I don’t just landfill it or give it to places that will throw it away. I also make sure that the things I rehome are in good repair. I don’t mind seeing my clothes on others and I do lend items for occasions or travel. I have a dress that has been everywhere!
I love your message that the classics should be YOUR classics. The traditional list of classic items and cuts is NOT my style. But some pieces can work if I choose carefully: for instance, I will hardly ever choose to wear a blazer if it doesn't have stretch. Even a jacket or coat must allow ease of movement. I've had to relinquish many blazers over the years because they were too stiff or cut wrong.
Knowing what feels best on my body is so empowering. 😊
An addition, if you live in a small space. I've found that using garment bag's helps to separate the one-off pieces from the capsule workhorse pieces.
All sweet advice! Just don’t wear black to a wedding in Europe. A tiny bit of black is ok. Top-to-to black is a big no-no, or black withe white - save it for funerals.
love the whole slow fashion and shop your closet concepts. having said that, I love your black sandals in this video. help!
I had a wedding to go to recently and struggled to find something to wear. It seemed ridiculous to spend a large amount on one outfit I didn’t really like and would never wear again. I had the same inspiration to invest in separates I would wear again. I went to the wedding in a skirt I already owned and an elevated but simple top I can wear with multiple options. I felt great at the wedding as the outfit was really me! I had a lot of compliments too :)
Hey Alyssa, so I still haven't figured out my three words. I was watching another UA-cam video, I can't remember who it was some random one, but something fun that I've been doing is, instead of thinking of your three words when you're getting dressed. You stand in front of your closet and you say to yourself. How do I want to feel today?
Say you want to say cozy and casual or casual and classy or funky and fresh lol then you pick pieces, that reflect those two things and put them together.
It's been so fun to experiment with! You should give it a try!
Love your Tips on occasion wear. I don't have any lol but if I need it, I'll definitely follow your advice about the separates ! That makes so much sense
Oh. I love that idea!! That makes sense for me😊
@@_inflection3209 🤗 Great advice. I haven't been able to narrow my style personality yet to 3 descriptors either. 🙃Get a lot more mileage asking myself what mood, message, or feelings I wish my outfit to convey that day.
💚Bridget from Cali☘️
(using my pal's YT acct)
@@teresacarle294 I think I just have a problem putting myself in a box. Like I'm this! Lol but I'm really that or that over there. So this has been a fun experiment for me! 💚
I've been using isolation for years, and it works. 6 years ago I isolated my "pregnant wardrobe", which was of great use once again, 1 year ago with my second pregnancy. The same is about "breast-feeding wardrobe"and so on.
The more I watch, the better my wardrobe becomes. Thank you so much!
Oh, man, I don’t have a disjointed closet, but do I wear my best outfits whenever I can? (I do not!) Can you speak to “saving” our best selves for … (when?)?
Ohhhhhhh! The hand me overs from my family!!! I am 5' 9" and both my mom and my sister are a lot shorter than me... The guilt is real sometimes! Today, I thank them for the clothes and then promptly put them in the Goodwill/Thrift store bag and consider it a favor that I am taking the clothes they no longer want to the thrift store. 😁😇
😂😂😂 that's hilarious that they are not the same size as you but keep giving their clothes 😂. Just be honest with them, they might know someone that could actually use the clothes, but are not giving it to them because they thought of you first, which is sweet, but misguided 😊
This was fun, thank you. My problem (not really) is I have these fantasy images of myself when I travel (i.e. Greece? A long billowy dramatic dress for a photo. Mexico? Beige and bright colours shorts and tops and hats i don't wear at home...). Quite often they don't translate well when I get back home and barely wear them again... OR (2) I think I'm clever with a small travel wardrobe but when i get there the atmosphere or weather is different than i expected and i only have a couple of things that are "appropriate" and i have to "make do" (maybe shop there, which is fun too) when I expected that i killed it (ouch, my poor ego). 😄
Your point about finding the classic closet essentials that work for you hit home so hard. No matter how much I’ve tried, blazers never felt comfortable to me - on my body or style wise. Cardigans filled that ‘outer layer’ gap blazers vacated, matching my three words before I defined them. Not to feed into the stereotype, but this librarian loves a cosy cardigan. It feels the energy of each piece matches mine.
As I knitter I also wear almost exclusively cardigans (and sweaters) as my outerwear!
I have Cardigans in almost all colors! They truly fit my personality and I love the Outfit combination that I create with them. I have a few blazers that I enjoy wearing but cardigans are definitely my go to layer.
Edgy, colourful, comfy
I cant fathom digitalizing our wardrobe! You young kids are so tech saavy👍👍for occasion wear, i wear what i love, you always can find cocktail dresses in any thrift shop for under 40.00👍thank you as always for another great video👍 yr amazing how you pack so light and make so many outfits!! Plz do a video on your purchases while travelling and why you bought them. I love what you mention when you find a fab piece but it doesn’t incorporate well into your existing wardrobe so you pass. 👍👍good thing to consider
I’ve been using Open Wardrobe for a few months now and it makes being stylish so effortless. Mornings are busy and I used to try so many things on I would end up leaving the house in something that didn’t quite “do it” for me. Now I plan my outfit the night before and leave the house every day looking my best. And I love that the AI suggests new outfits for me - there are new combinations I wouldn’t have thought of.
My mom has sooooo many old wedding guest outfits that were just taking up valuable real estate in her closet
I suggested she store these items with me, so that she would be able to create space in her wardrobe for her daily staples and a few key statement pieces
In ten years of two occurrences of Big C, my weight has fluctuated. Kept 3 sizes. Current is in my closet. The other two are each in huge felt lined chests, ready for rotation as needed.
I don't care if I'm a bride, guest, wherever, whatever, I'm wearing a mauve dress lol. I think it's best to pick a wow color for you and incorporate that into your formal wear to use again and again. Keeping close to your day to day style/cut vs a fantasy self. Yes! Dressing for yourself! You said it.
Currently Visiting Zagreb for a few days. Croatian fashion is banging!
I teared up watching your video! I’ve struggled so much with my disjointed closet and felt like I was alone in my fashion journey. So I sincerely want to thank you for your encouragement cause the struggle is real. And thank you for the tips and tricks in finding solutions. And kudos for showing us how slow fashion should really be done. My hat goes off to you! Great work and thank you 🙏🏾
Thank you so much Akilah!!
The occasion wear and classic pieces are the things that get me. They often don't fit my style and it's taken me a while to learn to filter it through my own style and find "my" own twist on a piece. For instance, I really don't do white trainers or jeans, but somehow grey trainers or jeans feel just fine.
I LOVE the open wardrobe app!!! I have totally revamped & digitized my closet, I got rid of things I don't wear anymore, and fewer but matching pieces give me so many more options than just a room full of 'stuff'. Getting dressed is so much easier & faster now, and more fun ;)
I have a similar app, and surprise before checking out of my online shopping bag, I was able to see that I had already purchased needed sweaters last summer on clearance. Was a booth to purchase similar items at a higher cost. These apps really help us be more aware.
I’ve been donating my clothing but to a Mental Health facility that my sister works at. Quite often, the “clients” don’t have any clothing or very little. It’s quite sad really. My sister ensures that they are put to good use.
Love the white skirt, it's me when I was younger. You have no idea when I saw you wear it my vision opened. Rent is a great option or I can't remember the movie but the woman that made the gown from the drapes (just kidding).. Those black pants can really me dressed up, I love them. I could not believe how much a scarf really brings out your outfit. I wore a little scarf tied in my hair and got all these comments, who knew. It's all because of you and what you share with us. You really are a gem and help more than you know. Thank you!
@That Girl Netty The character Scarlett O'Hara in classic movie 'Gone With The Wind'. The description of turning curtain fabric into a gown was far more creative and fun in the book. Of course, Julie Andrews in 'The Sound of Music' had matching play outfits made for the Von Trapp children from patterned curtain fabric. Their father was slightly appalled! Poor darlings only had best clothes - nothing to ride bikes or horse around in.
You always make me smile when you model your clothes! Always an added little jig!! So much fun 🥰❤️
Yes to separates for occasion wear: by matching them with different tops or bottoms they will look "new"
Such practical and useful tips Alyssa! I do like occasion wear but keep them all together in one back section of my closet and only go there when I need them. And I also pull pieces that no longer fit me (too tight) but are high quality classic pieces and hang them in a garment box in the basement. And occasionally my adult daughter will browse and ‘shop’ for herself! I don’t like pulling out something from my closet that no longer fits, it’s just frustrating! Another great video!
Just downloaded Open Wardrobe - awesome!!
Hi Alyssa , you nailed it - “hand me overs and guilt” and keeping those clothes that may not fit you now but you know you have chosen them for their quality and classic style! Keep the great advice coming! Thank you ! ❤️🇨🇦
So glad you liked those tips Eileen! xx
Love your point about "classics" not working for everyone. So liberating!
I know the point of your channel is to not buy what I see. But that tulle skirt is exactly what I have been looking for. The white one at the beginning. Where did you get it?
I would wear that to work with a cute but casual shirt with some nude coloured shoes. Kids would love it too because it's fun!
I just love how you put things into perspective. Thank you Ms. Beltempo!
Thank you for being here wRen!
So nice to see an article about you in Insider. Way to spread the word about slow fashion! This video was quite helpful as well.
I love open wardrobe, it made me realise just how much clothing I actually have, to be honest, too much. Especially when I'm more than happy to outfit repeat. Thanks Alyssa 😊
Another great video, Alyssa! Good to hear you say once again that donating should be a final option. Not only does a huge percentage end up in landfill, but a significant amount ends up being burned in third world countries with the toxic smoke from synthetic fabrics causing health problems in the local population. So donate as a last resort, and then only donate good quality, saleable items. Clara 💕
To me donating is first. What we loved someone else can enjoy now
@@Ingrid0410 As long as they are good quality, saleable items there is no problem, but many people donate worn out items that cannot be sold, and they end up in landfill or be burned and causing huge problems.
Thank you for this video. I am currently embarking on a 'no shopping' month while paying down my credit card balance. I have so many pieces in my wardrobe, and definitely feel that I am underutilizing many of them. Your suggestions will assist me in reimagining my wardrobe while having fun honing in on my 'three words'. Thank you.
Isn’t that tulle skirt sweet! I have seen those apps. But not quite ready to app yet! Occasion wear….good idea to keep it in the “spare” section or closet. I do lend stuff! I have had some magpie purchases but they have been for real special times. I have rehomed them if I grew out of them! One was a gold Ghost dress, I wore for our big bash millennium party. I do have some choir black +/- white items. I wore school uniforms handed down from my cousins who went to Catholic school. They were not cool when I went to school. They are cooler and preppie now but not back in the day! Always enjoy. Gotta find something to do girlie lunch Friday to go with my green loafers! Fun!
Great video! Thank you! A little tip - if you can't isolate some of your clothes in a different place, use a full length zipped dress storage bag, so that you can still hang it in the wardrobe, but it can contain your items that you want to isolate.
My classic piece I purchased that everyone says is a must have, including your chanel, is a button down shirt. I hate them. I find them uncomfortable. Yet, I bought several thinking "this time it'll be more comfortable and I will wear it." Nope. The shirts hang in my closet and I never wear them. I have finally given myself permission to dislike the classic button down and I don't care who says I have to have one. I feel the same about black clothing. I don't like wearing black. At all. Yet, everywhere it's you must/should have black trousers, black jeans, black tee, black sweater, black blazer, etc. You are told black is timeless and classy and looks good on everyone. Well, again I have accepted that I do not like black. I will no longer buy black clothes.
I'm gonna forgo the button down and the color black for my beloved knitwear and all the lovely navy, browns, and greys.
😖 Yes, there's a lot of peer pressure out there to conform to a rather ➡️narrow⬅️ definition of what constitutes classic & timeless. 😊It can take some of us a lifetime trying to figure out what suits our body shape, temperament, & lifestyle too.
🥰 I'd love to wear all the blazers I bought for the office outside, but I can't bear 'em until temps finally drop🌡below 70° in our perpetually 🌞 sunny skies. Otherwise, I will roast🥵. It's the same w/most knits. I prefer a lighter soft jersey cotton, esp. that has some give in the fabric to form around my curves.
⏳️With an hourglass figure, I usually have to ⬆️size up⬆️ on button downs to fit ➡️bust⬅️ w/o bulging. As a result, I'm usually left with all this ⬅️excess➡️ fabric around my middle. Trust me, it's not a good look on anyone😖.
I only own a handful of silky, tailored button down tops that drape nicely that remain in rotation. 😉Although I also have two solid & two plaid formal men's dress shirts handed down by a friend. I will occasionally wrap or knot 'em over other things when I'm in the mood.
I'm pretty passionate about black〰️& would be heart 💔 broken to move to a place it's thought of as strictly funeral gear ☠️. It can instantly make me feel like a 🌟 million dollars 🌟.
I will occasionally wear camel or khaki on bottom⬇️, but I always need black (or a crisp white) on top⬆️ to bring the drama. I will sometimes sport a deep chocolate 🍫 brown head to toe, but anything in the beige or off-white color family drains all life from my face🤣.
💚Bridget from Cali☘️
(using my pal's YT acct)
same
🔨 You nailed it with your comprehensive list of challenges, & how they can make your overall wardobe disjointed. 🤗 Probably spent a lifetime focused on Occasion Dressing. 🤔Maybe not exclusively for 💲expensive special social outings as you've detailed here, but def sourced outfits with precise activities in mind. Clothing specifically ear marked for corporate work, dates, church, casual play, lounging, sport, etc.
Know my closet still doesn't have 💯% cohesion, but it's improving thanks to fashion influencers like yourself who are helping me refine my overall style. Training me how to maximize cost per wear by mixing high/low pieces from my different categories in more creative ways. Choosing clothing that will serve a wider variety of purposes.
😉Never more appreciative to have had extra space to store clothing. Always found that seasonal rotation is a smart way to freshen my closet. ⏳️Plus, as an hourglass, it's been tricky to find clothing that fits my extreme proportions w/o add'l tailoring. So I often bought duplicates in different colors. Having fluctuated ⬆️up & down⬇️ in weight later in life, I've never been so grateful to have retained both smaller & larger sized clothing. It allowed me to shop my closet, esp. helpful in financially lean times too.
😁Truly thankful to have found style tricks to reduce larger items when needed too. I wouldn't deliberately shop oversized, but I don't mind them. Once I feel confident about my weight stability & maintenance, I'll either get some of the higher quality things tailored or pass them on.
💚Bridget from Cali☘️
(using my pal's YT acct)
Nailed it with the special occasion outfits. I am in that situation right now, struggling to find an outfit for a wedding and looking for alternatives .
I have a very large closet and already isolate my special occasion clothes but ai need to see if they match two of my descriptors. Your comment to dress for ME and not the occasion will really help me decide what to wear next time. So great to get a surprise Wednesday video. 👏
I use My Closet. I find it useful to record outfits that work well, and outfits that work in theory, but not when I put them on. Also, by recording outfits worn in the calendar I can see which I really wear, and remind myself to try other combinations. I keep various sections for what is stored, and what I need to review and get rid of. It's easier working visually than doing it on a spreadsheet or paper, just time consuming photographing everything at the beginning.
Haha...ha... Mia Cara Alyssa, I really feel that you are reading my mind... I am now taking some "unique" pieces out of my regular closet, and put them into my other "exotic" clothing closet. Now my closet looks more peaceful with the correct orders (colors, styles and etc.). Grazie mille 😄
My magpies are almost always jackets, so I wear them with monochrome white, black or denim tops and bottoms (bottoms are almost always jeans).
I adore your taste and how you share such wonderful ideas with us. I look forward to each of your posts, Alyssa!!
Thank you so much Lori! xx
Magpie here!! I used to get so distracted by print and colour and everything was very disjointed. I am improving while not losing myself along the way.
I like having mine in black storage bags-in a less visible place in my closet. A larger one for sure but def not a luxurious one! Same with out of season outerwear
I agree with all! I recall helping a friend go through her closet for her season and time and use. We got rid of so much and all she needed was one vanilla colored blouse and a light in her closet! She felt so ready to put her outfits together and has learned so much over time and feel so much more confidence now. For me? I appreciate Alyssa's tips for weeding out and not being afraid to let go of my too-full closet! I hope to really concentrate on the three words for me and then apply it to what I have and let the other clothes find out for whom they are best! Thank you so much.
You got me with Hand me overs/Gifts. I have an aunt whom I love who has started buying me clothes that she likes and thinks I would like also. Besides the fact that she is 20 years older, our styles are TOTALLY different. I feel so bad immediately giving these items away.
Oh Alyssa, if only I got to see this video 2 months ago, especially the occasion wear purchase tips...would have saved me some pennies. .lol
Love the idea of keeping the occasion wear separate in another closet. ..really great advice given, thank you. Will definitely work on these tips going forward. Remain blessed xxx
This is my best video of you. Thank you lots for sharing the open wardrobe App.
This was a most excellent video, Alyssa. It makes so much sense to me. Beginning tomorrow, I am taking my special event wear out of my closet and putting it in my guest room closet. I don't need the visual while putting together outfits for my daily rotation. It clutters my mind. And now that you've mentioned it in this video, I cannot undo in my mind. Hahaha. Thanks very much. I appreciate your hard work and these videos.
Classic pieces or trend pieces the internet told us we needed!! Yep, as soon as I heard about skinny jeans way back when...I was like NO WAY, not my style, not on my body! Along the way I bought one pair, which I donated pretty soon after. Now that trend has moved on and I am sure zillions of skinny jeans are being abandoned for wide leg jeans! RIP skinny jean! It is never ending. At least now I have the confidence to say no! BTW is Open Wardrobe a free app?
Alyssa, today's video is excellent as the information you share is so pertinent for me and I'm sure many others who save those "goal weight" clothes. Placing "special event" clothing in a separate location is brilliant. I have so many "hand me overs" that I NEVER wear but feel guilty donating them so ultimately I will be clearing out many items that make my closet chaotic. Thank you so much for the great ideas!
Always love this advice from you.
Do you have a shortie or video on how to fold and tuck the basic button up?
Who would ever expect the Barbie movie to be a costume event? My friend’s special needs daughter asked us to all wear pink, which I *never* wear. Fortunately Salvation Army had a pink polo shirt (a closet staple). Pink artificial daisies stitched to existing white jeans ankles can be removed easily. Target had a pink bag I can see wearing as a color pop with frequently worn clothes. Special occasion meets costume.
Would love to see a maternity or mama friendly themed video 🙂
Yes! Great idea! Or dressing for plus size gals, or style over 60
Your videos are such an inspiration...thank you so very much.💐 I have saved so much money and have become so much more creative with what I have.
Yes! My 2023 goal is gonna be to look more put together, as a wife and mother❤ love you videos Alyssa😘
hahaha, I felt so attacked when you mentioned that some of your viewers already mentioned the app, guilty as charged ;)
ps: loved your ideas! You are so respectful to different people, bodies, lifestyles, I really love it.
Love the black tank you are wearing in this video. Can you share where it’s from? Love your channel too!
Oh my, so much fun and probably exactly the tool I need. Started immediately! 😄
Happy 5 years!❤️
Thank you! 😊
Classic pieces was for me. I haven’t figured out my 3 words but I know that I never reach for a white button down shirt or a blazer! 😂🫠
Thanks for the recommendations!
CIAO Alyssa, You justo inspire me with this video, as a matter efect, I'm a summer hater.
Now that fall is un here @ California, inspire ti do, what You point it make wardrobes for autum. I love turtlenecks, and I can pur together thansition pieces this fall, with mummer tips with courdoroy jackets ir pants. Justo bed the inspiration. Thanks! And hugs to Apollo boy ❤️❤️🤜
It is a very good idea to separate the occasional outfits from every day ones. I store all my clothes in one wardrobe and sometimes got confused with what I really have. I only separate by seasons. I think that storing every day outfits together with megpie pieces as a spice up pieces can be a great game changer.
Thank you Alyssa for sharing your experience with us!
I agree for renting occasion wear...but it can be quite expensive...recently i bought purple suit on sale for wedding and Im going to wear it for my office
Thanks for the link to OpenWardrobe, Alyssa. I used StyleBook until I had to replace my phone & couldn’t access my work in the app. This one seems more intuitive. Thx again!
Love your message. Thank you!
Thanks for the reminders, Alyssa
I miss when you would list what you're wearing with links. Please bring that back :) It's nice to learn about and buy from sustainable brands and see what you purchase second hand.
Alyssa- I’m so glad I have found you and you have really helped me change my style even at this stage of my life! Thank you!
Hello Alyssa. Love your videos. They've helped me put a pause on shopping so I can think more about the current options in my closet - which I'm finding are many!
I love your camel blazer and have been looking for one for years. Any chance you’ll tell us the style and brand!? 😊 Thank you.
I will definitely check out that app! This was so fun and something I struggle with Very helpful. Thank you! 🙏♥️
Oh my goodness what an excellent video this plus your three words oh my God Holy Grail! Thanks honey big kiss!
Hi Alyssa, I’ve been watching your videos for a while now, just love them!
I love your style. Is it possible to share links as to where you shop? Thanks
Alyssa, would you mind sharing who makes the sandals you are wearing in the beginning of the video. Thank you!
Hello Alyssa, I want to ask you a personal question. If you don’t feel comfortable about then don’t answer because don’t want offend. So, I think your skin is really beautiful and I wonder do you tan? Or is your skin that beautiful color all by itself? Be well and be at peace.
I had to come back to say how much I LOVE the Open Wardrobe app. It has been so fun and inspiring to have my items available digitally in one place where I can "try out" different ideas. The AI outfit suggestions have been really great too, putting together things I wouldn't have necessarily thought of myself but that I ended up liking. Anyway, I just wanted to say thanks for introducing me to the app! Love your content and philosophy around slow fashion and personal style.
What a great video, Alyssa! Definitely a lot of food for thought.
Love the wide black trousers, where are they from?
Great video. I think it is important to have a balance of good basic foundation & unique pieces that you can mix and match.
My body is in a big fluctuation period (had a baby, I hope I'll have more babies) and it's taken my daughter getting to 2 to actually put the smaller clothes away. They might never fit, it doesn't really matter, but having them take up half my wardrobe was madness
Keep in mind that your bones are now in different positions, so it might not even be healthy to return to your pre-pregnancy clothes again. 🙃
That video was indeed what I needed these days! Thank you so much
I love your top and I’ve been looking for ages for a top like this! Can you tell me the name of the brand? :) I could find it in your closet videos, but maybe I didn’t search enough
So very good. Thank you. Am a new subscriber and I find your channel really interesting and helpful.
Excellent video 👍
Thank you, this content was both interesting and enlightening. I shall work on removing those items and storing them elsewhere.
I love sequined, beaded, satin, tulle, and formal occasion outfits. They are so pretty and fantasy driven. Unfortunately not even cruise ship travel demands it and at my age and being retired, there’s no wedding but more and more funerals to attend. Even typical dress has no chance debuting. I have to force myself to not buy any even when it’s $10.
Thank you for this wonderful video! This is the summary of the solution to my problems when it comes to buying clothes. Will definitely revisit this video from time to time to remind myself.
I love your videos! Thanks!