THE 3 WORD METHOD

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  • Опубліковано 6 лют 2025
  • I thought it would be fun (and helpful) to do a video all about the 3 WORDS and how to find them! I have done many videos on IG and TT but this is basically a culmination of all the necessary info that you need to find your own 3 words and define your style!
    In this video, I help Grace find her 3 words and give a step by step guide on how to find yours.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 190

  • @claremagee2592
    @claremagee2592 Рік тому +281

    Allison, I love that you made your subject matter expertise available at affordable price points: free (social) and ~$25 (book). This kind of socioeconomic inclusivity is refreshing and appreciated.

  • @ScrapHappy
    @ScrapHappy Рік тому +145

    I could watch you go through this process with 100 people... it's so good!

    • @kelseyyarnell5983
      @kelseyyarnell5983 8 місяців тому +8

      Yes, please make more videos like this! So so fun.

    • @hyeats
      @hyeats 4 місяці тому +1

      For real!! Should absolutely be a show.

  • @9catlover
    @9catlover 6 місяців тому +65

    1.what you normally wear/ wear a lot of
    2.what you put on mood boards/ pinterest
    3.how you want to feel

  • @oliviacurzi4124
    @oliviacurzi4124 Рік тому +136

    Please make these a series!! This was so helpful and fun to watch!

  • @wrendor9465
    @wrendor9465 11 місяців тому +19

    Layered/Timeless/Authentic ❤

  • @pantelman
    @pantelman Місяць тому +8

    (warning: long message) I can't thank you enough! You saved me! I'm a man just turned 50 and I was lost as to where I wanted my style to go. This is the first method that really helped and now that I come to think of it it's very empowering: you're not slave to rules but act on your own agency! Genious! /// My 3 words: "comfortable, mature, happy". /// Now your method reminded me of the practice of "Big Ideas" ("Understanding by Design" educational framework): you start with a high level concept (the highest the better up to the spiritual, social etc) and work backwards down to the particular and concrete /// So, I use each word as an umbrella to organise my thoughts about style. For example under "comfortable" I placed: "functional, elastic, soft, minimal, relaxed, unlayered, flowy, knit, effortless, undone, versatile etc". Under "mature": "refined, well made, luxurious, bespoke, flawless, expensive, quality, select pieces, timeless, sleek etc" and finally, "happy": "not serious, not one-dimensional, playful elements, a bit sexy, unexpected combinations, round not angular, lively, not monochromatic, not formal, mix and match, textured etc". /// I think the "emotional" word acts as a bridge between the first two. /// I wanted to bring my style into maturity, but had fallen into the trap of thinking of "mature" as a rule by which you have to dress under a certain code: blazers, tailored trousers, coats, turtlenecks, shirts, etc. The web is full of "style experts" actually *demanding* exactly that. Well, could be for someone else but not for me! I really hate them! They don't feel like me! Plus my lifestyle doesn't require them. So "mature" means smth quite different to me and Allison thank you for helping lift the burden! /// I feel that stylistically, I've suddenly grown a thousand years in one morning!!!

  • @JocieFire
    @JocieFire Рік тому +51

    Please make many of these! Helping people find their 3 words and dressing them up in outfits that fit them.

  • @ciao-vincci
    @ciao-vincci Рік тому +26

    The 3 word method is an absolute GAME CHANGER. The things I have purchased since exploring my 3 words have been amazing additions to my wardrobe!

  • @lizpollock2376
    @lizpollock2376 6 місяців тому +25

    Thank you! That was so helpful. 🙂 I surprised myself! 1. Reserved. 2. Boho 3. Free/Confident. That third one was a big surprise - I want to escape from my current style, I think it's a by product of childhood trauma where I just wanted to disappear or blend in. Now, at 60, I want to escape and be me! I'm creative and I want to walk that walk. I just need to figure out how to do that. So I just ordered your book and will re-visit my three words after doing some reading. ☺

  • @Jaimihyde
    @Jaimihyde Рік тому +48

    I love this video so much! It’s so refreshing to not hear the same capsule wardrobe talk and see people express themselves in their unique way ❤

  • @Androgynary
    @Androgynary Рік тому +16

    This method changed the game for me. I apply it not just for my fashion but also for my interior design style as well!

    • @AllisonBornstein
      @AllisonBornstein  Рік тому +2

      I love that!! I do too!!! It really helps

    • @katieodea5378
      @katieodea5378 8 місяців тому

      The first thing I thought when I saw her living space was “warm and inviting”

  • @Just_Kirsty
    @Just_Kirsty 3 місяці тому +6

    I just got this in my recommendations and have already seen several other people talk about your three word method. I could never really wrap my head around it, though. It always felt like "How am I supposed to put my style into THREE words only?", especially because I wanted my personality to be reflected within it. It just didn't wanna click or work for me.
    But I did you very wrong, because now that I saw this video, even when I was just half way through, it clicked and I was able to find my three style words (versatile, bold, dynamic) and actually describe and write down what they mean to me personally and also how they can look like and be achieved. This was a breeze to watch and also incredibly helpful.
    And I have to admit, to find the second word, I had to write down many words that would describe the visuals of what I usually put on mood boards, to then find the matching word that actually describes the vibe that makes me like this specific aesthetic. But that wasn't even taking long and was a very fun exercise as well.
    So thank you very much for this video, even though I'm quite late to watching it.

  • @MuyassarSattar
    @MuyassarSattar 4 місяці тому +6

    I thank God for sending this video to me. My third emotional word made me cry. This method also helped me discover something important. May God bless you 🙏

  • @radiantmasterpiece5649
    @radiantmasterpiece5649 Рік тому +42

    These are my favorite kind of videos I watch on repeat!!

    • @acec8
      @acec8 Рік тому

      Same. Moooore please lol

    • @kimmaguire3621
      @kimmaguire3621 Рік тому

      Me too! Also book is preordered. 🎉

  • @witchlizisthis
    @witchlizisthis 6 місяців тому +11

    I love this method because it feels like it can work for anyone, regardless of their gender identity! My husband has watched some style advice videos with me, and he gets frustrated that the language feels exclusively feminine. I'm literally ordering your book now!!

  • @hyeats
    @hyeats 4 місяці тому +6

    Could not agree more about how great that strapless top outfit looked on her! And that would not be an obvious pairing at all but fits the 3 words perfectly. Impressed!!!

  • @TM-zq7qx
    @TM-zq7qx 3 місяці тому +3

    I’ve watched several videos for the purpose of identifying my 3 words. And I kept playing with the same 3 words (basic, romantic, polished) just didn’t know in what order to put them. However today I was finally able to realize that romantic or even funky was not my aspirational, but rather emotional word. So: “basic, polished, romantic” is my final result! 💐💐💐

  • @anitafischetti1746
    @anitafischetti1746 Рік тому +42

    Love this kind of video 😍 Please make it into a series 🙏🏻 And I'm really looking forward to reading your book, I already preordered it!!

  • @Heather.C.ButterflySage
    @Heather.C.ButterflySage Рік тому +6

    Practical. Aspirational. Emotional. Love this.

  • @LeGadabout
    @LeGadabout 6 місяців тому +3

    This kinda made me cry… so moving to see someone embrace their unique style.

  • @MissNickkieJ
    @MissNickkieJ Рік тому +4

    I appreciate the communication and how expressive this process was. This was SO helpful.

  • @dianehutchinson9257
    @dianehutchinson9257 Рік тому +15

    I am extremely late to the party because I only found out about you in the last few months, but I've binged all your content! I recently redid my closet using your method and it was brilliant!! I will definitely buy the book!

  • @seeit.sewit.sorted6255
    @seeit.sewit.sorted6255 Рік тому +2

    I already use a similar process that I got from another fab book, Style Statement - Live by your own design, Carrie McCarthy. They base your style on 2 words though. I found it really helpful. Great video, I agree would be good to see more like this.

  • @denisekirshenbaum7798
    @denisekirshenbaum7798 Рік тому +2

    The book is amazing. An incredible resource.

  • @karinefrommontreal
    @karinefrommontreal Рік тому +2

    I just bought your book « wear it well » cannot wait to define my style and make my own stylish identity❤🇨🇦

  • @bentleylicious
    @bentleylicious Рік тому +3

    Love these videos - you need your own show! And I've pre-ordered the book. Can't wait!

  • @AthalieM
    @AthalieM Рік тому +10

    I loved this format and hope to see it again. It was really helpful seeing your strategies in real time with a 'regular' person (though maybe not that regular....Grace has some amazing pieces!).

  • @debrajane7622
    @debrajane7622 Рік тому +15

    This was SO fabulous!!! 😍😍😍 More videos like this, please!! Can’t wait for the book as well! ❤️❤️❤️

  • @pchinn4373
    @pchinn4373 Рік тому +3

    I discovered you recently via Alyssa Beltempo. Although I am old enough to be your mother I still enjoy your styling concepts and just tweak for my age. Especially liked your Closet Edit and I pre-ordered your book so I can learn more from you.

  • @alexisgaines7644
    @alexisgaines7644 3 місяці тому +1

    I had previously come up my 3 words over the last year of pondering and I am pleased to see that they fit with your method! Bold, narrative, absurd.

  • @helenlayley
    @helenlayley 4 місяці тому +1

    I clicked becuse Grace was casually dressed, printed t-shirt and more shapeless clothing.
    I enjoyed this!
    I do find that l got into a rut of my 'wear every day' plain coloured basics and that l have recently started to reach for more jewellery to get the life into my outfits, the personal aspects, the quirkiness.

  • @juliettepsvy1026
    @juliettepsvy1026 Рік тому +5

    This is amazing ! I love to watch these as I organize my cothes and closet. Please make more, a series is definitely called for !

  • @kristinagrom2270
    @kristinagrom2270 9 місяців тому +3

    This is so inspirational ❤ I even tweaked a bit my three words to make them feel more personal, I went from “casual, classic and bohemian” to “casual, elegant and soft”. Thank you very much now I feel like my 3 words will help me to shop better 🤗

  • @fionaastbury1907
    @fionaastbury1907 3 години тому

    Casual. Classic. Joyful!

  • @mirandamirandamirandamiranda_
    @mirandamirandamirandamiranda_ Рік тому +6

    So enjoyed this! And i love the way you engage with your clients- so open-minded/ encouraging whilst still helping to guide/ inspire!

  • @marionannmacredie
    @marionannmacredie Рік тому +2

    That corset with pants looks amazing! This is so helpful!! I struggle with exactly this … minimal AND fun 💞

  • @susanb3192
    @susanb3192 Рік тому +6

    ✔️Book preordered! 😁 So happy to support your great work even in a small way. Thank you, Allison!

  • @BrunaBarbosa-xp8yv
    @BrunaBarbosa-xp8yv 9 місяців тому +2

    Read your book and had such a hard time deciding my 3 words. This was SUPERRRR helpful. Can't wait to see more of these.

  • @sukaicosmica
    @sukaicosmica 8 місяців тому +1

    These series are gold. You are really a genius at analyzing every bit of the process of helping people distille their style.

  • @SKA1017
    @SKA1017 5 місяців тому +1

    I would LOVE it if you did some more of these🥰

  • @StefanieZoe
    @StefanieZoe 11 місяців тому

    Hi Girl!
    I am just loving you work, that fresh approach. It is a pity you didn't put out any new video for quite some time. I am glad for you to be busy a lot with your job. I was wondering if you would consider to film a video about fixes of outfit. You know... To put on a "regular" look you see women around to wear. And after do a fix so we can see what we are doing wrong.

  • @elizaollett
    @elizaollett 4 місяці тому +1

    ❤❤ 3 words method work for me too. I have never been this satisfied with my wardrobe before.

  • @pasitheathanatosasmr488
    @pasitheathanatosasmr488 6 місяців тому

    I found myself smiling when she had her outfit on! I love this so much. I did it myself for the first time this morning, and I feel like I unlocked the secret of my wardrobe!

  • @R-hp4mj
    @R-hp4mj 5 місяців тому

    Loved this video. You are so talented Allison! I also love how friendly, approachable, fun, and kind you are with clients. Doing what you do means you get to meet all kinds of personalities and help clients shine as they are and feel accepted. The way you ended the video was so cute!haha I think you are far from sounding like a news anchor. Muah, much love!

  • @aleksachyzynska
    @aleksachyzynska Рік тому +3

    Nice video idea ! The 3 word method is super interesting, I loved how you show the process of "researching" these words with Grace, it is really helpful how you proceed. the only thing I personally am less fan of are the outfits, they look great (the appearance isn't the "issue" at all and besides what is pretty to someone is subjective), but I find that these outfits are something we see everywhere, it is very cliché if I may say so, like a "cute" dress with a leather oversized blazer and chunky shoe...or a fitted top and oversized pants... I mean you see it everywhere, it would be nice to see eg a 3rd more original proposition.

    • @autodidact2289
      @autodidact2289 4 місяці тому

      This seems derivative of "What Not to Wear."

  • @adcoriginal
    @adcoriginal Рік тому +3

    Just preordered. 😊 Hope you post more because your videos are always so fun.

  • @_andreamakes
    @_andreamakes Рік тому +2

    Loved this video so much! It is definitely super inspiring to watch the whole process. Thank you for sharing and I hope to see more videos like this. Can‘t wait for your book!!

  • @hypersynesthesia
    @hypersynesthesia Місяць тому

    I have the challenge that I keep changing my mind about the words; I dress very intentionally and exploratively every day and I could pick about 50 interchangeable words… (colourful, playful, comfortable, chameleonic, severe, louche, grown-up, vintage, warm, sharp, ugh the list goes on). I like to play & experiment; I refuse to be cold or uncomfortable; I like room to move, but I prefer to define my shape (straight up&down, coathanger shoulders) than slomp about in anything really drapey or oversized (I tuck everything in!) I want to look sharp & cool & rock n roll but also love quite joyful, mad use of colour.
    At the moment I think I’m settled on ‘easy, expressive, structured’.
    Mainly this has reminded me I need to do quite an aggressive closet clearout!

  • @bridgetfernando5854
    @bridgetfernando5854 Рік тому +1

    Fantastic video - so fun, and practical, and helpful to those of us struggling to find our personal style and build a cohesive wardrobe. Absolutely loved it!

  • @nancytrobaugh1424
    @nancytrobaugh1424 Рік тому +2

    Love everything about this video! I find myself trying to find my three words. Almost there!! Thank you!

  • @e.machocolat775
    @e.machocolat775 Рік тому

    Allison this was such a big help, I preorder you book as soon as you mentioned it, and i can't. Thank you

  • @HazeyFantazeyW
    @HazeyFantazeyW Рік тому +2

    I love these videos I always learn something new from Alison I’m going to start thinking about my 3 words and I’m preordering the book so looking forward to receiving it 😊👏

  • @jillbrenda
    @jillbrenda Рік тому +2

    Love this. Omg I need to make a styling session. I have different issues but totally get every thing she struggles with. ❤

  • @hijlaa
    @hijlaa Рік тому +2

    I think I have my 3 words down and since I started narrowing that down, I feel like my summer style is coming into its own more now than it has ever done. It´s still not my favorite season to dress for, but I feel less distracted

  • @KatjaWolf-cq5no
    @KatjaWolf-cq5no Місяць тому

    So inspirieren. Danke Dir für all Deine Ideen und Gedanken.🤩

  • @karycastonguay4825
    @karycastonguay4825 4 місяці тому

    I have been looking for my three words for a while now and I think I found it thanks to your method, I can't wait to get dress tomorrow morning😊

  • @KatieRosebraugh
    @KatieRosebraugh Рік тому +1

    Okay I love your dress and boots look!

  • @barbb1672
    @barbb1672 Рік тому +1

    Already pre-ordered your book after I discovered you here on UA-cam. Looking very much forward to receiving it!

  • @LittleDebbie11
    @LittleDebbie11 5 місяців тому +2

    Holy crap! So cool. My 3:
    Comfortable // Whimsical // Gracious

  • @filipaazevedo8706
    @filipaazevedo8706 10 місяців тому +1

    O melhor vídeo explicando o método das 3 palavras. Super!

  • @CattLovins
    @CattLovins Рік тому +2

    Love this concept and loved seeing the process! Can’t wait to read the book!

  • @barbarinachiesa3634
    @barbarinachiesa3634 7 місяців тому

    The look with the pink dress is just perfect 😍

  • @SallyRuckerllamalady
    @SallyRuckerllamalady Рік тому +1

    Can't wait to read the book.

  • @mmmvillalobos
    @mmmvillalobos Рік тому +1

    definitely going to buy ittttttt

  • @martynakubajewska6974
    @martynakubajewska6974 Рік тому +2

    I can't wait your book! ❤ I hope that it will be available in Poland someday 🥰

  • @sophiachalkley9839
    @sophiachalkley9839 Рік тому +1

    LOVE LOVE LOVE!!! ❤❤❤

  • @tinasteiger-lee284
    @tinasteiger-lee284 Рік тому +1

    Thanks so much, Allison. I love your videos and styling tipps and also just preordered your book to support you.

  • @artapothecary53
    @artapothecary53 6 місяців тому

    So great- she was glowing

  • @Stacyparris
    @Stacyparris Рік тому +1

    This was so helpful! Please do more!

  • @hotpink3459
    @hotpink3459 5 місяців тому +5

    I don't understand how many of the words are supposed to be about the fit of the clothes (oversized, fitted) vs the style (romantic, classic)

  • @nalalog
    @nalalog 8 місяців тому +6

    i think mine would be
    1. casual/comfy
    2. polished
    3. eclectic !

  • @katiet1739
    @katiet1739 Рік тому +2

    So enjoy this! This video helped me whittle down my three words 😊

  • @Piddeaux
    @Piddeaux Рік тому +2

    casual/classic/relaxed

  • @thesarahcandice
    @thesarahcandice Рік тому +1

    Can you do a video just on jewelry? How it can change the tone of an outfit. I need some tips in the department :)

  • @elisavioletta
    @elisavioletta Рік тому +2

    love it! she had already a great style though

  • @TatianaTaninaNo1
    @TatianaTaninaNo1 Рік тому +2

    Love your methods! Can't wait for the book already ❤

  • @veesvoyages
    @veesvoyages 11 місяців тому +1

    Just been recommended this video from YT and I love the concept! The final looks are gorgeous!

  • @faithowan2680
    @faithowan2680 Рік тому

    Missed seeing this kind of closet video. Please do more!!

  • @regroovable
    @regroovable Рік тому +4

    Love this Allison ❤
    Just a note *ASPIRATIONAL, not *ASPERATIONAL on the overlay 😊

    • @amiesparkle00
      @amiesparkle00 Рік тому +1

      Thank you! Spelling errors drive me nuts lol

  • @JDLS-v8p
    @JDLS-v8p Рік тому

    Book preordered! Can’t wait. I need help 😂

  • @TimeMovie93150
    @TimeMovie93150 5 місяців тому

    i just bought this book i can't wait!!!!

  • @9catlover
    @9catlover 6 місяців тому

    loved watching this. it's so fun. like Grace was really discovering herself even though all the clothes were her, she just needed help to make what she had bring her personality out. It's genius

  • @clarisselibene
    @clarisselibene 6 місяців тому

    Confortable / elegant / light

  • @heatherframpton9693
    @heatherframpton9693 10 місяців тому +1

    Brand new subscriber here ...by recommendation of Christina Mychas! Thanks Allison, for the content! 😊❤

  • @yasminastyle
    @yasminastyle Рік тому

    uuu I loved this video! also, that feeling when Allison mentioned the book, but I've already pre-ordered 😎
    I'm sooo looking forward to it!

  • @kelly.smith22
    @kelly.smith22 Рік тому

    My favourite kind of video 👏🏼

  • @dilettagazzaroli2904
    @dilettagazzaroli2904 Рік тому

    Looove your YT video! Please do more ♥️

  • @Kp1sCreations111
    @Kp1sCreations111 Рік тому +1

    Excellent presentation ❤❤❤ very very interesting video ❤❤❤ great work ❤❤❤ have a wonderful day ❤❤❤

  • @karinefrommontreal
    @karinefrommontreal Рік тому

    Im so buying the book! Maybe for my Christmas wishlist

  • @stephaniex8776
    @stephaniex8776 Рік тому

    just foun dyour videos, so helpful!

  • @marionannmacredie
    @marionannmacredie Рік тому +1

    OMG is that a fellow New Zealander!!! So cool to see this!! ❤❤❤❤❤💞

    • @sonyafby
      @sonyafby Рік тому +1

      Pretty sure she’s Australian

    • @carolannf
      @carolannf 7 місяців тому

      I thought an Aussie. But I’m happy for either ☺️

  • @karenburns8387
    @karenburns8387 Рік тому

    Really looking forward to your book.

  • @Kiroii_28
    @Kiroii_28 Місяць тому

    Just found you and ❤loved it

  • @violettelarsen4608
    @violettelarsen4608 5 місяців тому

    It would be so cool if you made more 3 word method videos analyzing different celebrities or influencers. 🙏✨💚🌞
    Maybe - Alexa Chung, Zippy Seven, Vicky Montanari

  • @pasitheathanatosasmr488
    @pasitheathanatosasmr488 6 місяців тому

    Such a great method. I love it.

  • @stargazerbird
    @stargazerbird Рік тому

    This really works. Loved the looks.

  • @kimidoodles
    @kimidoodles Рік тому

    Could this method still apply if you have a very limited closet? Weight loss, plus a new baby, plus decluttering has reduced what I have to a very small amount and it’s all basically boring. I feel boring when I wear it.
    Definitely going to preorder your book!

    • @AllisonBornstein
      @AllisonBornstein  Рік тому +1

      YES! Of course! You don’t have to have a lot of clothes to have style

  • @Leuka_
    @Leuka_ 4 місяці тому +1

    Mine would be Comfortable, Feminine, and Respectable or Stylish. I feel like you can have some flexibility with the emotional word depending on your mood or where you're going.

  • @dcoughla681
    @dcoughla681 Рік тому

    I love these videos. I can’t wait for the book! I

  • @baebald1842
    @baebald1842 Рік тому

    i love your videos so much-- i'll definitely be preordering your book!