Stop helping your Dad. Work overtime and buy your own farm. If you keep allowing your Dad to disrespect your wife then I hope you enjoy being single. Might not be in a year or two but your wife will get tired of it.
No, YOU missed the point from what I'm saying. It's not healthy for a marriage if one spouse lets his/her family disrespect the person they're married to. If the guy is already starting to question if he needs to stick around then he should get out or talk it out before resentment causes a relationship to fall apart.
@@ashleym4030 I'm a counselor and this is one of the biggest conflicts I see in counseling sessions is disrespect from in laws from the other spouse's family to my client. I agree with u and the person who's family it is needs to establish boundaries and put their foot down defend your spouse
@@colin1818 It's difficult however there is cheap farmland for sale all over the Midwest. Look up the listings yourself. Buying farmland isn't as prohibitive as some may think.
You are supposed to leave your parents and cleave to your wife. If this isn't your livelihood, and your family isn't treating your wife right, make your wife the priority. If you put your parents above your wife, your marriage will not be good.
Ashlie Leavelle your totally 100% right. This guy's main priority is his wife, children and his job. If his father is disrespectful to the son's wife, that is not ok. The farm is not his livelihood. He needs to stand up to his father and say dad, you need to listen because the way you are disrespecting my wife is not ok. If you don't start being respectful to my wife, I won't come around anymore.
Something like this happened to my dad and not only did he not receive any of the land, but he was cut out of the profit from the sale of the property while his siblings got hundreds of thousands.
sounds like my dad when I help him with his chores. He always talks down on me while I'm helping him. It's like... "you're too slow" "you're not ready for real life" "you don't know how to be an adult" "you're not washing the car right". At least I'm not in debt and retiring with less than 300k. I'll pay off my home before he does.
I have a father like that too.I am 30 now but i have had to put him in his place.It did involve nasty words and sometime not speaking.But he came around after i stopped talking to him.Its kinda like a bully.You can stand up to the bully and put him in his place or let him keep harassing you.I set boundaries and i am now able to talk down to him if need be and he says nothing back.I think he actually respects me more now since i told him off and told him how its gonna be.I stood up to him and he respects that.Maybe you need to have a man to man talk.Sometimes that's what a father wants.He wants you to understand and he wants to be understood.Just let him know how you feel.
Idk what this has to do with wanting or not wanting to be a farmers wife? The father is disrespecting the son's wife. It's his responsibility as her husband to defend her. It's that simple. But this whole video seemed to be about the father/son relationship and barely mentioned the wife at all...
Chris seemed hurt that he was cut off, too. He wouldn’t look at Dave at all after that. Looked down and away. I could be reading into it but it struck me as he felt disrespected by that.
One thing to think about also is over 20 years people can change their mind. Even if his dad says today, he want to pass the family farm down to him, 20 years from now he can change his mind for any number of reasons. My advice is if his dad does say he wants to pass it down, get something in writing now. I learned from experience that down the road people will come out of the wood work and go to extreme lengths to stop you from inheriting the family farm. Get it in writing now.
Dave, did you just tell Chris to stop, as in stop talking, so that you could take over the conversation? Extremely rude! You're letting your ego override your manners.
Thinking this is an example of why you shouldn't marry too young. It's not about your actual age, it's about how ready you are to cut the cord. Just be honest. If you're 18 and are ready to belong to a spouse instead of parents, cool. If you're 30 and still think of mom and dad as mom and dad, you're not ready.
It's the best financial advice in the world for telling Dave for the son to move on and support himself and his family. Dave also stated that the will terms need to be stated and given to family members ahead of time. Please tell me how this is not financial advice for both family, business, and estate planning.
BUCK UP SON...... dear lord.... ANY man disrespect your wife.... punch his lights out.... cut off the relationship.... get done. MAN UP ... MAN. YOU are holding yourself hostage over an inheritance. MAN UP. What has happened to the MEN in the world??????
Better have a GOOOD look at the books before you want it. The family farm days are closer to over than you might think. Hard work and heavy debt. That may be why dad is such a drag. Hope deferred ...
This isn't a financial problem. As a perspective Doctor in psychology, I am starting to become irritated you are giving advice to your callers. You don't have the credentials to help theses people bropono.
Well, let me put it the other way, Does a professor with a degree in economics and deeply in debt have the credentials to tell me what to do with my money? I do not think so. That you have a degree and some sort of paper does not mean I have to listen to you, there are some other things better than credentials, it is called school of life. This man has it and I like receiving not only financial advice but other stuff too, no need to thank me brother.
I know that you feel you have the credentials to give advice. But for myself, I will take advice from the man or woman with LIFE EXPERIENCE over your piece of paper and academics anyway. BTW I know with a fellow with a doctorate who couldn't function well in society or get anything but a base level wage. I am not trying to belittle you personally. I do however feel that too many academics think they have all the answers...but they don't.
If the caller keeps quiet and allowing his wife to be disrespected , he is going to find himself without a farm AND a wife in the future.
We see how long his wife will stay with him before SHE realizes that working for free on a farm is more important to him than she is.
I know precisely how that wife feels. My husband does not stand up to his parents when they are disrespectful to me. It hurts.
That is ridiculous, he needs to get a backbone.
Bobbi Clinger you need to learn how to say something back.
This husband is a wimp. Leave the stupid farm.
@@arleneaugustahair8393 It's not that easy. I've been there.
Stop helping your Dad. Work overtime and buy your own farm. If you keep allowing your Dad to disrespect your wife then I hope you enjoy being single. Might not be in a year or two but your wife will get tired of it.
No, YOU missed the point from what I'm saying. It's not healthy for a marriage if one spouse lets his/her family disrespect the person they're married to. If the guy is already starting to question if he needs to stick around then he should get out or talk it out before resentment causes a relationship to fall apart.
One does not simply buy a farm in California.
@@ashleym4030 I'm a counselor and this is one of the biggest conflicts I see in counseling sessions is disrespect from in laws from the other spouse's family to my client. I agree with u and the person who's family it is needs to establish boundaries and put their foot down defend your spouse
@@MrJohn-kb1eu - One does not simply buy a farm anywhere. The barriers to entry are massive. That's why most farms are passed down through a family.
@@colin1818 It's difficult however there is cheap farmland for sale all over the Midwest. Look up the listings yourself. Buying farmland isn't as prohibitive as some may think.
Wow...I really needed to hear this. I am in a similar situation and was unsure what to do. Now it's clear.
You are supposed to leave your parents and cleave to your wife. If this isn't your livelihood, and your family isn't treating your wife right, make your wife the priority. If you put your parents above your wife, your marriage will not be good.
Ashlie Leavelle your totally 100% right. This guy's main priority is his wife, children and his job. If his father is disrespectful to the son's wife, that is not ok. The farm is not his livelihood. He needs to stand up to his father and say dad, you need to listen because the way you are disrespecting my wife is not ok. If you don't start being respectful to my wife, I won't come around anymore.
Something like this happened to my dad and not only did he not receive any of the land, but he was cut out of the profit from the sale of the property while his siblings got hundreds of thousands.
sounds like my dad when I help him with his chores. He always talks down on me while I'm helping him. It's like... "you're too slow" "you're not ready for real life" "you don't know how to be an adult" "you're not washing the car right". At least I'm not in debt and retiring with less than 300k. I'll pay off my home before he does.
I have a father like that too.I am 30 now but i have had to put him in his place.It did involve nasty words and sometime not speaking.But he came around after i stopped talking to him.Its kinda like a bully.You can stand up to the bully and put him in his place or let him keep harassing you.I set boundaries and i am now able to talk down to him if need be and he says nothing back.I think he actually respects me more now since i told him off and told him how its gonna be.I stood up to him and he respects that.Maybe you need to have a man to man talk.Sometimes that's what a father wants.He wants you to understand and he wants to be understood.Just let him know how you feel.
Sounds like Mommy should have ask you to do the yard work. At least she would have made you feel good about being to slow.
jimm bou You bring nothing to this conversation.Leave.
pontiachotshot Oh you mean I am not a victim? Ok I will leave because you asked me nicely. But next time say PLEASE!!
Mommy taught me well
@@williamblair35 too*
talked more of the dad and sons relationship. I didn't hear how the wife feels having a spinless husband who doesn't back her up!!
You cant be serious. She doesn't want to be a farmers wife and you know what the outcome of that will be.
Idk what this has to do with wanting or not wanting to be a farmers wife? The father is disrespecting the son's wife. It's his responsibility as her husband to defend her. It's that simple.
But this whole video seemed to be about the father/son relationship and barely mentioned the wife at all...
Bros before hoes
ALEX isnowlessstupid Yup you sure are
That's GREAT advice. I've seen this happen to several families that found things out "after the fact".
Dave's advice to wife. Dump the husband.
That was the best answer i've ever heard the other guy give.
Poor Chris, got cut off, and he was doing so great.
lol. that made me giggle
Chris seemed hurt that he was cut off, too. He wouldn’t look at Dave at all after that. Looked down and away. I could be reading into it but it struck me as he felt disrespected by that.
Chris should have had more of a chance to answer. Dave, you cut him out of the call!!
who is Chris - his son? an employee in training?
Dave is a typical old guy who has to have complete control over the conversation and decides who talks and who doesn't.
Dave turning his head from the camera 😹😹😹
Clarification is always key.
Know where you stand ... ask your parents-grand parents questions... Be kind to each other
Respect is earned not given freely
One thing to think about also is over 20 years people can change their mind. Even if his dad says today, he want to pass the family farm down to him, 20 years from now he can change his mind for any number of reasons. My advice is if his dad does say he wants to pass it down, get something in writing now. I learned from experience that down the road people will come out of the wood work and go to extreme lengths to stop you from inheriting the family farm. Get it in writing now.
Chris seemed really hurt after Dave cut it off. And I think Dave cut him off pretty rudely so I don’t blame him.
He was talking too long really.
Simp
He likes working on the farm... but not working for you and your wife's future? Ie. Your Daddy is your wife. Nice!
Really enjoy all of these videos!
Dave, did you just tell Chris to stop, as in stop talking, so that you could take over the conversation? Extremely rude! You're letting your ego override your manners.
Its daves show
If you meant at 3:31 , I’m pretty sure he said stuff
Thinking this is an example of why you shouldn't marry too young. It's not about your actual age, it's about how ready you are to cut the cord. Just be honest. If you're 18 and are ready to belong to a spouse instead of parents, cool. If you're 30 and still think of mom and dad as mom and dad, you're not ready.
No you won’t get the farm dad will sell it when he gets it passed to him.
Exactly my thinking
It is common for families to dangle carrots that you don't get.
when dave becomes more than a financial coach
Sorry what part of this question is about needing financial advice?!
It's the best financial advice in the world for telling Dave for the son to move on and support himself and his family. Dave also stated that the will terms need to be stated and given to family members ahead of time. Please tell me how this is not financial advice for both family, business, and estate planning.
BUCK UP SON...... dear lord.... ANY man disrespect your wife.... punch his lights out.... cut off the relationship.... get done. MAN UP ... MAN. YOU are holding yourself hostage over an inheritance. MAN UP. What has happened to the MEN in the world??????
son sides with sire, its a sad day if your throwing punchs with your dad
They'd rather live with mommy and daddy at all costs and live in fantasy never never land
rebellious man Exactly, before your father takes your wife.
@@silverreverence6176 Sure. But sad days happen.
I hate when that happens
Sativa Verte
Wow, thats a tough situation!
Never "hope" for an inheritance. Its a long long wait and the 20 year old mistress will end up with it.
put the dad in his place.
Nobody disrespect my wife unless he wants broken nose.
Who should you cleave to after marriage?
Better have a GOOOD look at the books before you want it. The family farm days are closer to over than you might think. Hard work and heavy debt. That may be why dad is such a drag. Hope deferred ...
Chris is handsome.
This reminds me of Brandon and Julia from 90 Day fiance.
This is baloney , there is no such thing as a family farm , a farm is a farm ,everything is owned by someone that has a family
If there is no future in the family farm
Go to work on someone else's farm on the side and build a nice nest egg for retirement..
He's a good son.
Not really he's working on the farm to get something out of it 😂
What happened to chris brown? He was a good addition
"I'm working on the farm because i hope to inherit it"
😂😂 his father raised an opportunist he shouldn't have to work on the farm just to get something back
Never, never, never plan your life around an expectation of an inheritance.
it is Chris and l.
No, it's not.
This isn't a financial problem. As a perspective Doctor in psychology, I am starting to become irritated you are giving advice to your callers. You don't have the credentials to help theses people bropono.
Well, let me put it the other way, Does a professor with a degree in economics and deeply in debt have the credentials to tell me what to do with my money? I do not think so. That you have a degree and some sort of paper does not mean I have to listen to you, there are some other things better than credentials, it is called school of life. This man has it and I like receiving not only financial advice but other stuff too, no need to thank me brother.
Milan Broz RIGHT ON!
I know that you feel you have the credentials to give advice. But for myself, I will take advice from the man or woman with LIFE EXPERIENCE over your piece of paper and academics anyway.
BTW I know with a fellow with a doctorate who couldn't function well in society or get anything but a base level wage.
I am not trying to belittle you personally. I do however feel that too many academics think they have all the answers...but they don't.
Where did you study? It's pro bono, a Latin word
Drummergeorge someone with your "credentials" should know that it is "pro bono" not "bropono".