Is Your Narcissist Happier With Someone Else?

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  • @goingaboutmyfathersbusines4359
    @goingaboutmyfathersbusines4359 8 років тому +189

    They will NEVER be happy...I feel sorry for the next person

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  8 років тому +60

      Amy Smith I feel sorry for the next 20 people. They're nasty.

    • @maylee3630
      @maylee3630 7 років тому +12

      My ex kept telling me that he was happy during our divorce case. I told him, "better her than me." I'm sure that whomever the new victim was, she has ran like hell!

    • @neen9438
      @neen9438 7 років тому +8

      Amy Smith
      They get worse 😕

    • @glitterboxglitterbox1939
      @glitterboxglitterbox1939 6 років тому +1

      Amy Smith really?

    • @Rahel8811
      @Rahel8811 6 років тому +7

      Glitterbox Glitterbox ya...just like they got worse and the negative behaviors came to light and increased they always get worse...

  • @malicor.8247
    @malicor.8247 8 років тому +138

    Being with the Narc for 6 years, he caused me to lose my job (kept showing up drunk at my place of business), lose my friends (triangulation and isolation), lose myself (I was no longer a separate entity, I was merely there to be at his beck and call), lose sight of my goals (by belittlement and guilt trips), lose a baby (physical abuse) lose sleep at night (stalking and harassment) and almost made me lose my life. I was ready to end it all. I was there.
    I'm glad I walked away instead.
    For the love of God people, get out while you can. And don't look back. Not even to glance over your shoulder.
    CNXG: Thanks for this awesomely raw, genuine video!

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  8 років тому +10

      Malinda Cordell I'm sorry for all your losses. You seem like a beautiful person that is bouncing back. Keep going and thank you so much for your nice words.

    • @malicor.8247
      @malicor.8247 8 років тому +8

      CNXG CrazyNarcissistXGirlfriend
      Ahhhh... Why am I JUST now seeing your comments?
      Your kind words did not fall on deaf ears, just a technological inept lady. 😊
      Thank you for your encouragement and support. You are a beautiful soul!

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  8 років тому +4

      Malinda Cordell You're welcome and thank you Malinda.

    • @SJohn-se5tp
      @SJohn-se5tp 6 років тому

      Thank you because I've been needing this.

    • @fitmamaroberta
      @fitmamaroberta 6 років тому +2

      Malinda Cordell. Awesome story. I relate. I am back living my life narc free. Thx for positive encouragement. I am no contact he triangulates in background. I will get thru this. Thx again!!❤

  • @DSD
    @DSD 8 років тому +245

    David that is the truth that *everyone* needs to understand because otherwise we can all waste time wondering and worry about. I think your advice of *don’t look at it* is *VERY IMPORTANT* because it is like self torture when you’re looking at it. They aren’t worth our time. Those “good times” were all illusions - they may have been real to us but they weren’t real to them. They just can’t be happy and once you’re hooked the cycle begins, “So let it begin”. Man *all* of our stories are *so* similar that I think you’re spot on. Your story is very similar to mine - it’s amazing really.

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  8 років тому +28

      Dad Surviving Divorce Isn't it just incredible how close all of our stories are. The day of my discovery, I could have sworn the guy talking in the video was talking about my ex! Then it was the next guy and even the next girl talking about her narc boyfriend.
      It is very important to not look. One day you can laugh at it but until then, you're right, it's not worth our time to set us back in our recovery.
      Thanks again Duane.

    • @cyberpunk8508
      @cyberpunk8508 8 років тому +6

      TBH it was real to some of them not every narc are the same man, my ex which is 17 of age loved me to deep depth the way she never did with no one else and i can easily tell if girl really love you or naw by my experience, my ex had BPD btw so she was a mess but what really corrupted her mind was the lack of her needs and wants not being met (as in money) job was hard to come by, she became miserable and unhappy and i know af she took advise from her friends, to her life was too short for her to be unhappily miserable and she wanted to take a break... BPD and NPD people are never happy, they might for couple of hours but....you know the rest...she's now the biggest attention seeker on Facebook she's a complete different person, not the same anymore but still have our couples pic post up on her page, i don't let get to my head tho... think im gonna block her.

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  8 років тому +16

      Tonio Lee Might as well block her. I have a BPD that constantly comes back and messages me. I finally pointed out her toxic behavior and told her I can't be around it. Thanks for sharing Tonio

    • @constanced6704
      @constanced6704 8 років тому +11

      Dad Surviving Divorce You are sooo right in every aspect!!

    • @motowngirl5891
      @motowngirl5891 7 років тому +5

      Dad Surviving Divorce ,mine blocked me so I don't know anything

  • @yvonce7309
    @yvonce7309 8 років тому +39

    The Ex-Narc l dated in the past complained about all of his Ex's. That they were crazy, jealous,abusive or bipolar. Pay close attention to the common denominator in all of the relationships. Evil Narcs don't
    just hurt others. They take pride in
    the pain they cause and than try to
    blame their victims. Never argue with
    a Narc who believes their own lies. No Contact with these shitty creatures.

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  8 років тому

      Yvonce' Thank you for your comment Yvonce'!

  • @rebeccachitham9528
    @rebeccachitham9528 8 років тому +36

    "Their bag of fucking psycho tricks" - David lol

  • @deedeeneri8202
    @deedeeneri8202 8 років тому +49

    I know they fake being happy. It's all show. They can't be happy if they are toting around guilt and anger and bitterness. Until they make ammends with you..they will only carry it into the next subequent relationships.

  • @rosarioperez7509
    @rosarioperez7509 8 років тому +102

    Their bag of tricks is just ridiculous and full of bullshit and lies. Their illusion of a relationship just doesn't exist. No therapist can fix it.

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  8 років тому +5

      Rosario Perez Perfectly put. Thank you Rosario and welcome to the channel - David

    • @GoWithDaFlowMo
      @GoWithDaFlowMo 3 місяці тому +1

      Mine went to therapy just one time and thought he was done cause he said she told him I was the problem, cause I was avoiding open and honest communication... He told her I was ghosting him constantly, but forgot to tell her he sended me over 20 messages EVERY single day and stalked me everywhere I went... It's useless..... 🥴

  • @R3cuzican
    @R3cuzican 4 роки тому +5

    “Fuck outta here”
    😂 I love how passionate you are♥️

  • @janice3691
    @janice3691 8 років тому +47

    So true! Image is everything to these guys. And constantly unhappy with you. Happy with everyone else it seems. So hard to be around. So confusing. Complete mind f**k. Great Video!

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  8 років тому +4

      Bonnie Lass It seems they're happy with other people because all they care about is they're image. They've hidden their true feelings their entire life. Thank you Bonnie.

  • @SM-mc1ti
    @SM-mc1ti 7 років тому +27

    David I have reached the stage where I can now answer the question "is my narc happier with someone else ?" My answer " who f cares ?"

  • @kerrirenner3935
    @kerrirenner3935 8 років тому +65

    Just freshly seperated from my husband of 7 years and I'm only now recognizing all of his crazy nonsense behavior I'm starting to realize that my life is going to be much better without him!

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  8 років тому +6

      Kerri Renner That is so good that you can see that. It gets so incredibly more fantastic when the veil is lifted. Separate yourself from the illusionist and the illusion disappears. Thank you so much and please let me know if you have any questions. - David
      crazynarcissistxgirlfriend@gmail.com

    • @kerrirenner3935
      @kerrirenner3935 8 років тому +3

      CNXG CrazyNarcissistXGirlfriend I watched a few of your videos and you just pretty much explained my whole life and marriage. When I date again I will be very cautious and look for those red flags

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  8 років тому +3

      Kerri Renner Good to hear Kerri and don't forget to love yourself first because you're perfect and there's nobody standing in your way now.
      You go girl!!!!⚘

    • @kerrirenner3935
      @kerrirenner3935 8 років тому +12

      I'm still in the process of figuring out how the heck I got caught into this mindfuckery I'm seriously just realizing that my normal was a false reality and it just feels surreal right now I'm like in a trance from day to day but I'm researching all of his behavior and the more I educate myself the more I learn it's not me that is crazy!

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  8 років тому +7

      Kerri Renner I know you don't feel normal and I know why but everything you are feeling is normal, a normal reaction to the emotional trauma you have endured. You are experiencing post traumatic stress. I made a video titled Neurogenesis : A New Brain, A New Life which might help you understand what's going on inside and what you can do to feel better.
      Separate yourself from the source and find reality.
      Talk about everything. This was not a normal relationship. You need to make some sense of what just happened.
      Educate yourself so you can understand your part, relieve yourself of some guilt and shame. Have knowledge to move on and not do this ever again.
      Heal.
      It's about time and knowledge. It's about you.
      Love yourself first even if someone else relies on you. Good luck ⚘

  • @NickKos-js1jx
    @NickKos-js1jx 8 років тому +50

    What you said fits pretty much 100 percent. Amazing how they all are the same. And to all those who just broke up or are confused and desperate - trust me, you will be so much better off without them! No matter what the circumstances, if you spend a little time alone working on yourself, you will move on and be happier and more successful than ever, while they continue spinning in their hamster wheel, stuck in the same place forever inside. Best revenge ever.
    Oh, and there's one thing i can add to that: if the narc is somewhat intelligent, with time they not only repeat the previous pattern, it actually gets worse. So the next victim is likely to cop something extra sweet at the end.

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  8 років тому +22

      Nick K Thank you Nick. Some people just don't understand. They think it's about not being 'over' the narc. It's not at all. It's about the damage they cause during and after the relationship.
      Good comment.

    • @victorysky1933
      @victorysky1933 7 років тому +1

      Thank you NicK K, I really needed to read what you wrote. In the initial stage of discard and NC it doesn't feel that way, not even months aftersometimes but with strength, courage and wisdom I forge ahead.

    • @robertbarone6724
      @robertbarone6724 6 років тому +1

      David, thank you so much for your insight, intelligence, and care on these people. Was married to one, attracted to me..need to work on that.. Just getting out of 3 year rollercoaster ride, gave her 10 chances, my heart, time , effort, and $ . Told her your not getting my soul..told me , I don't want it cold.. this is coming from a mother of a drug addict daughter and handicapped son.. then told me was running to Florida, leaving them in the care of the 80 year old grandmother...wow! Thank you again David... you are awesome!

    • @lancejevonacoligado5690
      @lancejevonacoligado5690 5 років тому

      Perfect!

  • @adrianaandsteven
    @adrianaandsteven 8 років тому +20

    I love this video. He threw in my face how he loved this new girl how she was his soulmate how he is finally fucking happy. It's a fucking lie he is destroying her too.

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  8 років тому +13

      adriana morales Anyone that says they are finally happy because they found someone is sick.

  • @bklynqueen5928
    @bklynqueen5928 4 роки тому +4

    He’ll never admit he’s seeing anyone else. According to him he’s single. He claims he wants no one else but me. But I’m the one who pushes him away.

  • @deedeeneri8202
    @deedeeneri8202 8 років тому +50

    They also lack remorse.Kinda reminds me of Cain from Cain and Abel...Cain had no remorse for killing his brother....I see alot of people like this...including my ex

    • @millybadze2117
      @millybadze2117 7 років тому +1

      Deedee Neri So very true!!!!! Thank you!!

    • @ce_1
      @ce_1 7 років тому +1

      So so true no remorse at all only blame the victim i saw it with my ex too

    • @SavedbyGrace19
      @SavedbyGrace19 3 роки тому

      Also like Judas..betrayal of Jesus..these people have legions of demons

  • @davidparker7108
    @davidparker7108 5 років тому +1

    David, I had EXACTLY the same thing. She was so depressed, blamed me for not valuing her enough. I didn't understand her. I didn't support her enough. All the time she would has light and turn it on me. She loved me more, when, in fact, her actions showed she didn't love me. I was faithful, tolerant, patient. But, all the time she would turn it around on me. Wanted to marry me, next day, dump me, block me. Used sex to draw me back in.
    I recently found out , the push and pull, the unhappiness she felt and anger and fighting and abuse, she did the same thing to her last ex. Said I was her soulmate. Bullshit. Said the same to the last one. So now she's moved on, had him lined up at work. I've been completely discarded, told to burn in hell, that she fucking hates me. I have 3 daughters from a previous marriage. That in itself was a major issue for her. Kept on going on about when I'm getting divorced. Soon as divorce came through she left me.

  • @dixiedobbins
    @dixiedobbins 8 років тому +29

    Loved the fortune cookie at the end. "THE LOSER GETS THE NARC" LOL.....PERFECTION!

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  8 років тому +4

      Dixie Dobbins Thanks Dixie! You are the winner! ⚘

  • @pippadaisychain7902
    @pippadaisychain7902 8 років тому +44

    I ran into my narc ex on the bus recently. I hadn't seen him since I went no contact five years ago. I heard that he got married. Well he got on the bus and, to put it bluntly, he looked sick, really sick, like about ten years older than he actually is, no colour in his face, and now uses a stick to walk with kind of sick. Definitely did not look happy.

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  8 років тому +5

      Pippa Daisychain HI Pippa, welcome to the channel. I guess a lifetime of damaging others didn't make him feel better? Thanks for sharing, people will have questions so for you I'm sure. - David

    • @pippadaisychain7902
      @pippadaisychain7902 8 років тому +10

      +CNXG CrazyNarcissistXGirlfriend It's probably all the bitterness and negativity finally catching up with him. Same thing happened with a previous narc ex. I went no contact, ran into him some years later, he looked really rough. Mine don't even bother trying to maintain any kind of pretence at that point, they just seem to give up.

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  8 років тому +6

      Pippa Daisychain We can't forget how messed up they are. Under the cold exterior, they are damaged themselves. They can't always keep up the illusion.

    • @talcareyifill5937
      @talcareyifill5937 6 років тому +4

      Karma plain and simple

    • @jerseymolina767
      @jerseymolina767 5 років тому

      Karma dear.

  • @user-lu7pe3us7x
    @user-lu7pe3us7x 6 років тому +35

    My ex narcissistic last words. Babe pls I love you so much. You are all I ever want. I would not beg and chasing you for years and wait for you if it wasn’t you I wanted. You know I need a woman by my side. He then said. I need that woman to make me feel hole and I want that with you I want that woman to be you. You know how much I love you.. I said NO. A week later he was in a relationship.

    • @jerseymolina767
      @jerseymolina767 5 років тому +2

      Typical ...omg same thing said to my goodness...where on Earth are they watching these lines at lol

    • @princhipessa1969
      @princhipessa1969 5 років тому +5

      My ex said the same “I don’t want anyone but you” “I love you so much” drives 600 miles to tell me this in person. 3 months later she discarded me. 4 years together.

    • @GoWithDaFlowMo
      @GoWithDaFlowMo 3 місяці тому +1

      He wanted to go to Paris with me to propose cause I'm the love of his life and blabla, he told me that while working on a new supply right under my nose... Buddy I'm not blind nor stupid... Go to Paris with her, but you can't cause she wasn't interested in you in that way... She's now happy with a friend of mine and I'm happy being single... Priceless..... 😅😂

  • @marti-greciaodalyz8786
    @marti-greciaodalyz8786 5 років тому +2

    i truly believe that once you realize without a doubt how the narcissist really is and has been from the beginning, you no longer need to wonder or worry if he's happier with someone else, fact becomes that you'd wish he IS, for only then, will he be finally OUT of your life. That would be such a relief, as in good riddance!

  • @charlief5290
    @charlief5290 8 років тому +20

    Hard to hear but accurate. My ex narc kept me busy taking care of him. Every. Single. Need. Once we married it then that was he first hit me and at that moment I figured he was incapable of love. He used to say his ex-wife was crazy. You are right I would not have believed it if his ex wife would have told me he was an abusive manipulator. I chose to believe him but now I know the truth. I see him for what he is (thanks to your help) When he asked for the divorce I was relieved and I said YES.... he went ballistic and beat me to a pulp. He always swore he'd kill me if I left and to this day I fear for my life. He has the training for it and now the motive with felony charges pending. Take David seriously. It's a matter of life and death -YOUR LIFE.

  • @robyn9513
    @robyn9513 7 років тому +16

    I see the pain in your eyes and that's the exact same look in my eyes since my ex narc and I broke up. I've never experienced anything more painful in my life emotionally than I am now. I'd rather get in a ring with Rhonda Rousy and take my chances on getting a busted up face and some broken ribs bc you know that shit will eventually heal! Trying to explain all the pain you have inside from mental abuse to people that haven't experienced it, look at you like you're the crazy one and the more you try to defend yourself, the crazier you appear to other people esp. when the ex Narc sounds so convincing when blasting you on social media. I've realized I did nothing but waste my time trying to defend/explain myself when really, I shouldn't of had to. No one that goes through this kind of abuse/trauma should never ever try to explain yourself to other people. ITS NONE OF THEIR BUSINESS AND IT ONLY FEEDS FUEL TO THE NARCISSISTS POWER THEY FEEL THEY HAVE OVER YOU AND THE FLYING MONKEYS THAT DON'T REALIZE THEY ARE ONLY PUPPETS/SUCKERS!!! I wasn't aware of what narcissistic abuse was for a long time while being called the worst names ever and belittled while trying to work and care for my daughter in the same household. I was constantly walking on eggshells so nervous to even say one word in fear it would be the wrong one that would cause him to come up with a lame excuse to fight and call me names I don't call my worst enemy! To make it worse,I didn't realize what a fantastic liar he was until I wised up and found out he was cheating on me with a 56 year old lady who is rich and hes just a fucking landscaper by himself with no employees, but yet he would judge others that he thought were beneath his lawn mowing ass! That would piss me off so bad and I would start to say to myself, "There's got to be a name for this truly fucked up behavior! So when I opened up to a friend who is in school for Psychology and let her listen to a secret recording of him abusing me, she said," Oh honey, you fell into a trap of a Narcissist and there's too much for me to explain to you right now. so if I were you I'd go online and do my research on Narcissistic abuse and find out which one you think he falls under." I said, " WTF...THERE'S MORE THAN ONE TYPE LIKE A NASTY VIRUS!?" i DID MY RESEARCH AND ALMOST THREW UP FROM COMPLETE DEVASTATION! Especially when I found out there's no cure for it and even extremely difficult to treat! He ended up leaving me and took all my furniture and my sick mothers furniture and put it in storage instead of giving it back to me and moved in with this old lady (That looks like she should be a cast member on "Sons of Anarchy"!!! My hatred crying so much over this man has put me in a deep depression to where I find it difficult to show my daughter the love she deserves. Ive never felt more hopeless in my life. FUCK THESE VICIOUS MONSTERS THAT RIP OUT YOUR INSIDES BUT LEAVE YOU YOU COMPLETELY UNTOUCHED ON THE OUTSIDE SO YOU APPEAR NUTS TO OTHER PEOPLE...VERY SAD! It should be against the law here like it is in London. I find it too debilitating right now to even concentrate on goals especially hearing shit about him with his sugar mama.Gross! :'-(

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  7 років тому +1

      Robyn Newberry You will heal from this, thank you for sharing.

    • @robyn9513
      @robyn9513 7 років тому +2

      CNXG CrazyNarcissistXGirlfriend I apologize for the long rant. I was just really venting all my hurt and. anger.

    • @anniewilliams9317
      @anniewilliams9317 7 років тому +1

      I had to come back I have been reading these you are a very pretty girl you should really think this old woman for taking him she really did you a favor and you will see it and realize it give yourself some time and focus on yourself and not think of what it could because it really wasn't what you thought it was you will recover from this I wish I could tell you my story it's very long and drawn-out and unbelievable I keep on reading to see if I can find a similar story like mine but I can't force yourself to get up and get out and be around friends or family

    • @victorysky1933
      @victorysky1933 7 років тому +1

      Sorry you have experienced all of this. I see your post was some time ago. Hopefully you have healed. I agree with someone who replied you, at least you fond out now. It doesn't make it hurt any less but I had to find out what the ex husband was after 23 years of me being faithful and apparently an enabler. He took everything as they are so manipulative and the courts do not seem to be well equipped for their shenanigans and acting abilities (every order of protection was dropped by the same judge every time). Just when I though I had reprieve I fell into the arms of worse a borderline Narc. Months later am doing the work. It still hurts but everyday I am getting better and so will you. But you are right they are monters!

    • @kalmeerperd4676
      @kalmeerperd4676 5 років тому

      You feel better robyn? 2years down the line... Much love. This channel helps alot.

  • @jamiroquai30
    @jamiroquai30 4 роки тому +3

    I literally love you! You are the most straight forward, real, raw, tell it like it is UA-camr on Narcissists out there

  • @SongBirdheaven
    @SongBirdheaven 7 років тому +6

    Thank you! I almost believed I was going insane and at fault when I did nothing wrong!!! And yes...they DO destroy happiness even when tbe opportunity is there!!

  • @bio3m
    @bio3m 8 років тому +50

    The truth. Found out the ex narc pulled the exact same stunts on the new guy. Like down to the T, out if the exact same playbook. It was fucking freaky

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  8 років тому +23

      Nick Bloem I did the same thing. It is really freaky, no shit. They don't have personalities. Only their disorder. It makes them so much more predictable after being experienced.
      I'm just glad it's not me anymore. I'm glad it's not you anymore. Don't go back. Don't find another one.

    • @odinson2008
      @odinson2008 8 років тому +10

      They all went to the same school of Narcissism. Last night I was speaking to someone that's fresh out of a breakup with his N and the stories ran PARALLEL with each other. It's uncanny how two different people can be the same person.
      “Red Flag” - When you find someone doing the same things your ex did - “RUN”!

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  8 років тому +4

      The Truth Hurts Luv_Doctor In all the time of been doing this I've heard the exact same story so many times. It's amazing and it's what gives victims confirmation. These stories are important. Let your friend know about my channel if you think it will help him. Thank you. - David

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  8 років тому +1

      Nick Bloem Hey Nick, just want to thank you for being a supporter of the channel from the very beginning. Would love for you to be involved more in the future somehow if you want. I'm writing a book, planning on a live podcast, stuff like that if you're interested?

    • @bio3m
      @bio3m 8 років тому +6

      Yea, bud. I also have a channel related to narcs. So, def would be down for anything

  • @naturopath100
    @naturopath100 5 років тому +1

    Married to him 40 years worse the last 20. Use to withhold sex to punish, ghosted constantly, serial cheater and liar. Always thought it was me and I was suspicious. Now I know about this and have realised all the things I denied were my intuition telling me stuff that he said was my dark twisted way of viewing the world. I used to wait on him hand and foot literally. Never appreciated any of it.

  • @ashleajade86
    @ashleajade86 8 років тому +29

    Oh I like u! Im subscribed to a few other channels but I like the way u speak about them lol! little bit more real and less textbook! This video lifted me up a bit today

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  8 років тому

      Ashlea Crawford Thank you Ashlea!

  • @PHG_Jersey
    @PHG_Jersey 7 років тому +2

    this by far, is my favorite video. I honestly watch this one 10 times a day, and it gets funnier every time I watch. they were miserable before you, they were miserable with you.......and they're miserable every day after! best shit ever

  • @SeaPea
    @SeaPea 5 років тому +2

    YOU are my favorite coach. I’m sorry that you lived this narcissistic abuse but am grateful for the experiences you share to help each of us going through it now.

  • @harriethatesyou3976
    @harriethatesyou3976 7 років тому +1

    from the bottom of my fucking heart, I give thanks to you for posting this video. Currently in a triangle that's fucking my head up and literally no one understands. Was beginning to think that there was something wrong with me because she was/is willing to "work on herself" with this new girl and would not extend the same courtesy to me. Started to compare myself to the new supply. Needed this brutally-honest wake-up call. THANK you.

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  7 років тому

      Harriet hatesYou Thank you and I'm so sorry where you're at, it gets so much better.

  • @Sheldoncash9588
    @Sheldoncash9588 7 років тому +6

    This is the realist way I have ever heard this laid out!!! Love it! Thanks so much you just saved me from making a stupid phone call.

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  7 років тому

      Sheldoncash9588 That's great, thank you for sharing.

  • @jamesandrew62
    @jamesandrew62 8 років тому +4

    This hits the nail on the head, thank you, Appearance is everything, flattery to draw you in then your spare time/energy is sucked up to uphold there self gratification cycles. exept you get blamed & scapegoated, ahhhhhhhhhh it's unbearable.

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  8 років тому +2

      jamesandrew62 Thank you James and welcome to the channel! Appearance is so important to them... what else do they have?

  • @vickilangone7824
    @vickilangone7824 7 років тому +6

    Just found your page and truly loved your video and the message! Had this experience happen just recently and honestly my first time ever being a girlfriend/ex girlfriend was to a narcissist. So it's definitely been an awakening and having to see him move on was hard but just like you said, they truly are never happy. I remember countless stories about all his exes. More than I could count! Everything was their fault. No thank you! I pray and wish the best for the new supply and that she'll be strong afterwards, but as the narc is concern, I'm much better off and learned what was needed. My happiness doesn't depend on any other person but me and it's a sad lie they live thinking otherwise!
    Thanks again for the great message! You're truly helping many!! ❤️

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  7 років тому

      Vicki Langone Thank you so much Vicki! Welcome to the channel and I'm glad you're away from Narcissists!

    • @vickilangone7824
      @vickilangone7824 7 років тому +1

      CNXG CrazyNarcissistXGirlfriend you're so welcome! Thank you as well! Happy to be apart of your channel!

  • @sherrywhite1225
    @sherrywhite1225 7 років тому +2

    Healing, recently went no contact. Had a terrible day, found your video. Thank you!!! Gave me strength to get through another day.

  • @eyeoffthetiger2691
    @eyeoffthetiger2691 6 років тому +3

    Thank you David..great video..just needed to hear this! I wanted to confront the narc but I didn't..he doesn't deserve my time. I heard that he is back with his Ex. It didn't take much time for him to move on..what a loser ughh

  • @jameswinkels2465
    @jameswinkels2465 7 років тому +2

    It is so liberating listening to a man who shares the same experience as myself. Thirty days ago I evacuated our shared domain because I had enough of her mental and physical abuse. She told me who her next source of supply is, threatened me to go to him. Previous to this She hid my car keys so I couldn't leave. She knew I knew all about her narcissism. Just as you describe in this video. While she was at work I used another form of transportation to move my property out, established a post office address. I was trapped about the car issue but when the time arrived to make a final departure.i told her I had to leave. She spit in my face and threw her drink on me. I have since hired an attorney to recover my car and the balance of my property. I believe she holds onto my things to eventually Hoover me back when her new source of supply gets ugly. You're right about all future relationships she may have, they will ALL fail. Maintain a positive image about yourself because she is the loser not you. She is a doomed mentally ill soul and will NEVER EVER be a woman I deserve.

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  7 років тому

      James Winkels Thank you James, thank you for sharing your story.

  • @lisasullivan934
    @lisasullivan934 6 років тому +4

    I think I love you! 6 months no contact and I finnd out my ex narc and the girl he triangulated me with got their own place. 2 days I've been back and forth in my mind but you snapped me out. Thank you very much. Subscribed and recommended.

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  6 років тому

      Lisa Sullivan That is terrific Lisa, thank you and stay beautiful!

  • @sutoor99
    @sutoor99 6 років тому +2

    she never called me names ever. It was all emotional at the end and that was gut-wrenching. Catch them in a lie and they keep denying it. Crazy!!!!

  • @robinwillowmoon
    @robinwillowmoon 6 років тому +8

    OMG, you are so right. My ex-narc left me and moved in with and is a relationship with a 71 year old lady who looks like Willie Nelson, no disrespect to Willie. And he is not that old, late 50's. I didn't get it until he left that he was a narc, and from your videos, I have learned they will basically f%ck anything to get their fix. I almost fell of my chair laughing when I saw his new supply and how happy those both look. Poor old gal has no idea what he is going to do to her. You are so right, he was not happy when I met him, and he is not happy now. I just wish these people were not so good at sucking you in. They leave a path of destruction behind them.

  • @reyesalejandra85
    @reyesalejandra85 4 роки тому +1

    Out of all the coaching videos I’ve seen you’re the only one that helped me. 🥺🤍 thank you

  • @SM-mc1ti
    @SM-mc1ti 8 років тому +7

    I like the point u made. "Look what they have to offer"Absolutely nothing! My ex used sex to get his other supplies and bragged he was s great lover. Boy he was a lot of work ! He shamed me to the core. Oh dear dear. One day I just couldn't take it. I asked him to look at the mirror and I pointed out all
    His flaws ! He didn't like it.

  • @INTJIsland
    @INTJIsland 6 років тому +1

    Your words are true. Forty-four years ago, my narc ex-wife left me (thank goodness) looking for greener pastures, after 3.5 years of marriage. She went through a number of live-in relationships before she landed her next husband. Then a few years later she left him and moved on to husband number 3. She then moved on to husband number 4. I have no idea how many guys she went through besides the ones she married but I'm guessing, since she is now 65, that she won't be moving on to greener pastures again unless she finds a blind old millionaire.
    One thing that I always felt in my heart was that she would never be happy. Well, a few years ago our son came to visit my wonderful second wife of now over 42 years and me, and said exactly what I had been thinking all along, "Mom will never be happy." There was a time when I would have taken pleasure in that fact. When she ripped my heart right out of my chest and threw it on the ground and stomped all over it, I wanted her to hurt like I hurt. Today, I only (mostly anyway) feel pity for what her life has been and what it will be like in the future. It won't get better. It is all about her, and yet that never satisfies. It is an endless hunger, and the more she feeds it the more pain she creates, and the more she wants to consume. It is a wilderness they wander into and there is no way out. The punishment is in the end equal to the crime. It is a shame it had to be that way, for I once truly loved her, but in the end it is as it should be. She made her bed, and now...
    I will say this about her, she schooled me well on what I wanted in a woman and what I did not want. So, when I met my second wife, I recognized gold when I saw it. :-)
    By the way, I spent a decade in Barstow, California. Now, I live way up north in the Pacific Northwest and I ain't coming back. It's all yours. :-)

  • @abcdefghijklmneha
    @abcdefghijklmneha 6 років тому +4

    He was soo miserable the last time I talked to him. He was with the "girl of his dreams." Then again he was not happy. One moment the new supply was "amazing" the other moment, the new supply was "bipolar".

  • @trispr
    @trispr 7 років тому +2

    This video was hilarious! I'm going to watch this video every tin my son's dad pulls another attempt at destroying my happiness. THEY WILL NEVER CHANGE. God bless those souls.

  • @feliciaallen6228
    @feliciaallen6228 7 років тому +3

    Wow, this is both of my exes!! A continuous vicious cycle. Compare notes and same deceit, manipulation, infidelity, impulsiveness, lacking career/family goals and the list goes on!! They destroy every person or thing that they touch. Yes, this is accurate. I'm glad both of these people are out of my life.

  • @Jodisgr8
    @Jodisgr8 7 років тому +2

    Love how candid you are... Thank you.. your comments bring me comfort...

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  7 років тому

      Jodisgr82 Thank you so much.

  • @fluffylegs8598
    @fluffylegs8598 8 років тому +24

    It is so nice to hear this from a man Thiis is the other side of the coin but the same, the exact same. Yeah but it's not nice. it's nice that your not a dead emotional plank. Thank you for making this video it means a lot to help others.

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  8 років тому +2

      Alana Walls Thank you so much and welcome to the channel Alana! - David

  • @williambr88
    @williambr88 4 роки тому +1

    When i met the ex narc she was broken. I tried to build her up and i did for the most part. It was like my life energy was being transferred to her slowly over the course of two years. Then when my energy bar was at 2% she left for her new supply.

  • @diljo69
    @diljo69 8 років тому +4

    I just love your videos. It's so true. I so feel like going off on my ex Narc and asking why,, But he won't give 2 shits less.

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  8 років тому +5

      Jolene Hietala He would love some emotional drama and to see that he still as a hold on you. It's you that someday won't give two shits less.

  • @thewizardshu6695
    @thewizardshu6695 4 роки тому

    Mine rushed and married her very quickly, he wanted me to know this so he wrote to me and told me he was happily married. I don’t ever look him up, never have. He rushed me into a commitment as well, he wouldn’t let us take our time and get to know one another. Now I know why. The opposite of love isn’t hate it’s indifference. I honestly truly hope that he has changed, I hope she’s okay and mentally and physically safe. I have nothing against her, no need for her to suffer, I suffered enough. Nobody else needs to go through that. If you’re reading this, it doesn’t matter whether he’s happy, what matters is whether you’re happy. Narcissists may win the small petty battles, but you won the big war by getting rid of that person from your life.

  • @mysticqueen74
    @mysticqueen74 7 років тому +59

    You are spot on man!

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  7 років тому

      mysticqueen74 Thank you!

    • @Rahel8811
      @Rahel8811 6 років тому +3

      mysticqueen74 what hurts me to see good people who did the work to figure out these narcs are kind sweet loving genuine loving people who should not even have to have experience or knowledge about this. It’s good to learn and have knowledge but it just is disappointing to see these experiences happening to nice ppl who deserve loving true bonding relationships.

  • @Guidice00
    @Guidice00 8 років тому +2

    Good shit!! straight to the point videos! Dated a girl for 6.5 months, PERFECT for 2.5 then she flipped shit, verbally attacking me and my dog, which she had no issues before, and now my dog is a HUGE problem for, hated him, wanted him off the bed, all his behaviors she hated, said she was jealous of him, wanted me to jump through all her hoops to please her. She raged, emotional outbursts, suicide attempts ER visits, nasty death words boarderlining psychotic... she is for sure Boarderline and Narc. NO empathy, never took my feelings into consideration, always about her and what i needed to do for her. ACTIONS NEVER met up with her words, even to the day i went NC and shes been in therapy nothing changed with her. SELFISH POS.

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  8 років тому +1

      Michael Guidice Hey Michael, thanks for sharing. That is exactly how my ex was about my Rottweiler. She moved in to my house, no job, no money and complained all day about the dog and he was perfect.
      Isn't it incredible what six months with one of these people can do?

  • @tigerprint7960
    @tigerprint7960 8 років тому +4

    Hi,
    To answer your question toward the end of your video David. Yes, absolutely, I got something out of this video,,,my first chuckle of the day!!! Spilling out of the fortune cookie the words, "The Loser Gets the Narc!!!: Precious beyond description!
    Give me more!!!

  • @mikaelmeyerhoffer5231
    @mikaelmeyerhoffer5231 5 років тому

    3:50 that has been helpful for me the way you said ”they are being fooled”. You put that in words and emotion very well. Same as we were getting fooled before.

  • @queenesquiresquad
    @queenesquiresquad 6 років тому +7

    Omg. My ex narc describes all of us women before me, me and his new gf as "amazing and beautiful." Lol. He had a new gf within a couple of days after we broke up

    • @foxeiax
      @foxeiax 5 років тому +3

      Song Stress same with my ex. Days after break up he found the love of his life lol

  • @lamiacedar3809
    @lamiacedar3809 5 років тому

    Thank you David, I will take care of myself, I will be happy and I DONT NEED them.

  • @ce_1
    @ce_1 7 років тому +3

    your mentioning exactly the type of guy i was dating and when i found out he cheated on me i moved out with a broken heart 4 months pregnant and he has been seeing more or less 5/6 women right after i moved out of his place i am better of without him i realize and much happier cause of what he put me through when i sacrificed so much for him but now i understand clearly when i listened to the video i pitty him.

  • @molarbear8725
    @molarbear8725 6 років тому

    100% TRUE. highs and lows. the lows are never okay. the highs are not worth it and it is exhausting in a cycle of highs and lows.

  • @simplyk6965
    @simplyk6965 8 років тому +20

    Yes, yes, yes! In the process of divorcing the narc. I just found out the he and the girlfriend has been having couples counselling. They haven't even been together a year! What happened to the 'honeymoon phase'? During our relationship he'd tell me I was the only thing that made him happy, this made me work hard at trying to maintain this elusive happiness. Of course they can't be happy. His permanent emotional state is 'quietly seething'. He even confessed he will always be searching.

    • @simplyk6965
      @simplyk6965 8 років тому +2

      Great video, thanks!

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  8 років тому +8

      The Matrix Yeah, always searching for a new victim!
      Thanks for sharing. - David

    • @dontpanic80
      @dontpanic80 5 років тому

      Quietly seething ! 😂

  • @fighaus5197
    @fighaus5197 8 років тому +2

    I just wanted to say thank you. This has been so difficult for me. And you just about saved me. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  8 років тому +1

      Angie Gutierrez You are so welcome Angie. Thank you for your nice words.

    • @fighaus5197
      @fighaus5197 8 років тому +1

      CNXG CrazyNarcissistXGirlfriend
      Not sure if you have a Facebook where you add others than close friends, but if you do. Add me please.
      Itshoney00@gmail.com
      Angie Aileen

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  8 років тому +1

      Angie Gutierrez I'm starting a Facebook page for the channel very soon.

  • @KidultSense
    @KidultSense 7 років тому +34

    This is too accurate!!

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  7 років тому

      NeverPerfectByKidult Thank you!

  • @LevityBrevity
    @LevityBrevity 7 років тому +1

    Dude!!! You are sooo right. The narc I dated was textbook. 25 yo, no job, still living at home, drinking and smoking pot everyday.... Yet would belittle my job of 4 years working as a Medical Assistant, tell me my job sucks, I need to lose weight, using my fears/insecurities against me, being jealous of my talents instead of proud of me, tried to take money from me, cheated on me. Left me for 6 months, came back and when I wouldn't jump back into a relationship....told me he fell out of love with me. Mind games and manipulation are his M.O. He has nothing, quits everything he starts, and dreams of being a movie star (yet can't even keep a job at FedEx for more than 2 months) totally felt entitled to anything and everything. So glad I dodged that bullet.

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  7 років тому +1

      malhunt7 Typical. Typical shit bag. I'm gold you're away from him and thank you for your support.

  • @ellenmixon1767
    @ellenmixon1767 6 років тому +3

    They have no responsibility, they have no money... if they have they gamble... , they dont think for tomorrow, ..... they dont give a shit ....

  • @kasiareola
    @kasiareola 7 років тому +1

    Great video! You saying "think what they have to offer" helped me a lot.
    They have to offer a lot of fun times. But nothing more than that...

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  7 років тому

      kasia.kaisa Even the fun times are fake. Thanks for your comment.

  • @HeavyMetalPedal
    @HeavyMetalPedal 7 років тому +3

    "They only destroy happiness. " David that is right on the money!

  • @melissamarie7598
    @melissamarie7598 6 років тому +2

    I know I’m late watching this, but I’m so glad I found this video/your channel . I so needed this, made me laugh most of it....stuff like this makes me feel so much better, and happy I’m doing no contact and doing so well.

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  6 років тому

      Melissa Marie Thank you Melissa and welcome to the channel!

  • @kendraloher1723
    @kendraloher1723 5 років тому +3

    I wish his ex wife would've warned me. Haha
    I think she and I and his other victims should form a club and send out flyers to warn other women.

  • @xw6475
    @xw6475 7 років тому +1

    wow, You are so right and your words are spot on every single time. He told me that when he broke up, he was miserable but i remembered so clear when he was with me, he didnt seem to be happy either. It was all about how and what can he do to control me, control my thoughts while he think he is the god, the most sexy guy on earth. He told me once he can get any girl he wanted as long as he tried.

  • @lanotte7454
    @lanotte7454 8 років тому +10

    Thank you! I needed this so much... I'm still in the middle of the hell he's made for me though... Hope I can get out someday soon..

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  8 років тому +1

      Lanotte You are so welcome Lanotte and welcome to the channel. I hope you can find more information from my other videos. I also have a full list of channels I recommend on my subscribers list that may be of more help to you. Also feel free to email me if you have any questions.
      David
      crazynarcissistxgirlfriend@gmail.com

    • @anniewilliams9317
      @anniewilliams9317 7 років тому +1

      Lanotte the sooner you do it the better you will feel

  • @AuthorLHollingsworth
    @AuthorLHollingsworth 6 років тому

    Every time I listen to you, I feel so much better. These immoral demons will not change. God, bless!

  • @brucemason7541
    @brucemason7541 8 років тому +6

    Thank you for that:) I just saw my Narc on FB this morning with a new guy and I was in my head all day at work. After being with her for 2 years and seeing her "in a relationship" on FB and just like you said the pic of them together looking so happy and all the damn comments it"s painful. Everything you say about what you experienced is exactly the same as me . so weird ! Anyway watching your video when I got home helped me calm my mind down and also laugh a little :) Poor bastard ! If he only knew.....

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  8 років тому +1

      Bruce Mason HI Bruce, thank you so much. I am so glad to have lifted a little pain. I hope some other videos will help more. Always read the comments for advice and other stories. Please ask me anything. - David

  • @diamond_holistics
    @diamond_holistics 4 роки тому +1

    You decode the narcissists like a boss!!!!!!

  • @tiffanyragan8819
    @tiffanyragan8819 6 років тому +3

    Thanks for this video...although I've gone no contact I still have my narcs phone number stored in my phone (but blocked) however although he is blocked, he can update his phone status thru Samsung and it shows me updates and he changed his picture this am to one with his new girlfriend and they are at a place where he and I use to go stay on the weekends in a cabin on the river. Of course they look happy as can be. So I'm trying not to dwell on it because this is the same girl he felt obligated to email me and tell me he was with several weeks ago and that they had slept together and he was happy and she is 20 years younger than him, So deep down I know what he is doing and he is wanting it to get to me, but It still hurts because i actually loved this man. So I needed to see this video this am to help me cope. And remind me that this is no different than how it was when we first met. So thank you kindly

  • @SophiaArias320
    @SophiaArias320 7 років тому +1

    Best video I’ve seen on UA-cam about narcissism - well said 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

  • @chepkoechc
    @chepkoechc 8 років тому +3

    First time he discarded me he had another woman in his profile three days later......and he hovered me back.......then after a month i got him cheating.........then he had profile of another woman same day......it is laughable the extent they go to hurt us. It is so cheap of him to think he can pull such on me. Luckily i had worked on myself first time he discarded me and broke me to a million pieces. Am hurting but watching this really gives me relieve.....i should not have gone back after first discard..... but i did.....here i am again having to walk the recovery road a second time . But am glad am out of it.I pity the current cover girl.

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  8 років тому +1

      Chepkoech C Now you know what happened when you go back!

  • @becca7038
    @becca7038 3 роки тому

    Just love yr videos. Truth. As last I texted my ex back he said he was just "checking in on me" so my dumb butt answered. Then he told me how happy he was and how wonderful his life is now. And he believes he loves his new woman, one that I know had been in the pic although couldn't get him to admit to it. Abused me told others I abused him I mean typical narc. This one was obvious sociopath. OBVIOUS to me. I don't need validation on that I know what I endured. No more hoovers I went off social media... He actually started a big big argument and I react very BAD finally and of course had me on record
    ... Couldn't just break up image is everything to the flunkies. Those ppl are ones there when this next relationship fails, backing narc up to the b**** I'm abusive. Forget they know the truth. That's how important it was to him to get this girl. But he got bored.. fizzled out. Idk what's going on now. F it. Moving forward..
    .

  • @msmarv1554
    @msmarv1554 8 років тому +7

    Thank you so much!! I needed to hear that.. I was about to let my ex's current gf know about him being a narc.. but yes you said it is not my responsibility

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  8 років тому +1

      msmar v You will merely be accused of stalking. Thank you for sharing msmar - David

  • @tamara_abran
    @tamara_abran 7 років тому

    I so dame love u!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    Every single thing u said is 100% true! u just nailed it. Ur just more than awesome!
    I was 18, turning 19 soon and i have unfortunate dated a narc for 2 years (it was on and off) and then i married him, keep in mind that he's only a year older. I couldn't take any more, then i divorced him after 2 an half months. He had exposed his true colors to me and revealed his mask of his face. I obv didn't recognize that i was in a domestic abusive relationship but, all praise to the lord i had gotten really good advice and assistance from my family, my social counselor, my friends, etc. I used to remember that his life was so miserable before i had met him and then i came as i turned his life by giving him money, cleaning the house, ( we used to live with his mom and his older sister cuz he broke. He so so so lazy to go work and when he worked, he got fired that same months.) i used to be literally his slave. Now he stalking me, trying to get me jealous by dating another girl in my neighborhood to give him attention and to see me react . Don;t get me wrong, i'm not cuz that is her lose. She has no clue who he really is and what is past was like. She can take the left overs. That's her problem, ain't mine. There is a reason why i call him my " ex" husband. Long story short, i'm just really happy he's out of my life and that he's wasting his own time trying to get me jealous and trying to get my attention cuz i really don't care. I moved on!
    Most of all, u have opened my mind even more about how they function? Who they really are? there tactics? and the list goes on!
    Ur actually a huge blessing on earth!
    Keep up what ur doing and educate people on these messed up people that are running around lose when there supposed to be in a mentally ill hospital.

  • @danihartery-smith1140
    @danihartery-smith1140 8 років тому +14

    Your awesome and I love your videos. Recently escaped my narc exes just employed no contact and your videos are really helping and inspiring me. Thank you ❤️

    • @constanced6704
      @constanced6704 8 років тому +7

      danielle hartery-smith Please keep up the No Contact!!! It's the only way you will ever keep your sanity!! I wish I had access to all these videos 8 yrs ago! That's how long Ive been abused by a Narcissist!! Good luck & hope all goes well for you in the future! ❤️

    • @danihartery-smith1140
      @danihartery-smith1140 8 років тому +4

      Connie Baker thank you for your kind words and support, I most definitely will. I feel like I'm awake and aware of everything for the first time in my life so I will not be going back there xx

  • @sflo4538
    @sflo4538 7 років тому +1

    Good times are short... always something wrong. Bingo. The new supply is now driving around stalking him because he's made her so insecure and she thinks he's running back to me. Little does she know I'm sooo long gone.........

  • @AmethystDreaming
    @AmethystDreaming 8 років тому +3

    Brilliant! You are so right. We would all share the same notes! The crazy narc I was with had two failed marriages and did exactly the same to both those poor women as he did to me.

    • @AmethystDreaming
      @AmethystDreaming 8 років тому +1

      p.s. I think you are absolutely gorgeous and if you were closer, in the UK, I would say let's have a tea/beer/wine. Look in the mirror and see what a lovely soul you have and she does not deserve you, nor did she ever deserve you.

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  8 років тому +2

      AmethystDreaming Know one you know em all. No personality, only disorder!
      Thanks again

  • @thundavolt
    @thundavolt 7 років тому +1

    Something that might help and most people avoid when it comes to healing is talking to one of their exs. You will be blown away. It will sound like the person is telling your own story to you. The surprise I got was that the guy I spoke to was still making excuses for the woman even though he had moved on and had a family.

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  7 років тому

      thundavolt Yes, it can be very validating!

  • @Tazzopardi1971
    @Tazzopardi1971 6 років тому +4

    My Ex literally told me that he doesnt have any Emapathy. He told me to check my emotions at the door. One time when I was crying he asked me where my Back Bone was.. ??

  • @latanyahawkins1964
    @latanyahawkins1964 6 років тому +2

    Everything you said is so true i went through the same thing, i like how real you are talking about it, you got to laugh to keep from crying but it help me out. Thanks.

  • @budblack1766
    @budblack1766 7 років тому +3

    Best example given so far triple thumbs up

  • @tvsrn44
    @tvsrn44 4 роки тому +1

    My ex was such a huge narcissist. We were trying to fix our friendship, and he started wrapping gifts for his new girlfriend on the video call, making me witness all of that without feeling a pinch of guilt.
    Oh and he apparently got “serious” with her literally within a month of our break up.
    🙂

  • @songelee2519
    @songelee2519 7 років тому +5

    You Hit it Right On!!!!! thank you I had to hear it from some other person Who knows exactly what they are talk talking about. Thank you 😇

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  7 років тому +1

      sondra moreno You're welcome Sondra, thank you!

  • @CookieH14
    @CookieH14 6 років тому

    This video is so freaking awesome. Pure accuracy with a splash of comedy to take the edge off. I love it.

  • @TheAngie9409
    @TheAngie9409 8 років тому +15

    Lol. Your spot on. My ex narc is all about his image. He can't keep a job. He is a wanna be weather man. He has no meteorologist seal degree. Just a associate degree. He is very charming , he gets hired then they see the lazy attention seeking man he is n they let him go. He can't find another weather job. He's a clown really. They want serious ... he told me he was going to be a famous weatherman on the weather channel. Lmbo 😂. He's 56. Please. Does not live in reality. He had 3 labor jobs n got fired after 3 days. Wow. He lives off mom n dad again. Until he finds his next victim. He almost drained my back account. Stupid me. Lol it was a intense miserable 8 months. Because I'm so strong and wouldn't put up with his crap. He could not control me n it devastated him. Lol. I got to laugh. Great video. Thanks

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  8 років тому +3

      angie jenkins Thank you so much for sharing Angie. You describe him so well. It's kinda easy to describe them because there's not much to them, no substance. So pathological they're predictable.
      I don't know of any famous weather men??? I think Jerry Springer did the weather, could be wrong. lol
      What dreams of grandeur they have. Just little children with out a care for anyone else. They need us but kill us. A cancerous parasite.
      You seem to have the healthiest outlook you can have under the circumstances. At least you realize that this is his problem and not yours.
      Thanks again and let me know if you have any questions.
      David
      crazynarcissistxgirlfriend@gmail.com

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  8 років тому

      angie jenkins Thank you so much for sharing Angie. You describe him so well. It's kinda easy to describe them because there's not much to them, no substance. So pathological they're predictable.
      I don't know of any famous weather men??? I think Jerry Springer did the weather, could be wrong. lol
      What dreams of grandeur they have. Just little children with out a care for anyone else. They need us but kill us. A cancerous parasite.
      You seem to have the healthiest outlook you can have under the circumstances. At least you realize that this is his problem and not yours.
      Thanks again and let me know if you have any questions.
      David
      crazynarcissistxgirlfriend@gmail.com

    • @TheAngie9409
      @TheAngie9409 8 років тому +1

      CNXG CrazyNarcissistXGirlfriend I have lots of questions. Lol. They are parasites. How in the heck they get away with it. It blows my mind. Ugh. They Infiltrate every good soul ... lol. Jerry springer comment. Love it

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  8 років тому +4

      angie jenkins They get away with it because you can't see it and nobody understands. They've learned how to mimic others and fit in.
      It's a balance of empathy. They have none and we have lots of the stuff. They cast a line with some poor me bullshit and we bite it... we're hooked. They're Predators.

    • @TheAngie9409
      @TheAngie9409 8 років тому +10

      CNXG CrazyNarcissistXGirlfriend... yep. All that in a nutshell !! Weird how u wake up one day and say. Hmmmm. Something not quite right. But by then ur already sucked in. He always gave a monologue. Lol. Then when I was quiet because God forbid I interrupted. He says. Well Now is the time to say something. LOL. He's emotional abuse was crazy. I'm like oh heck no !! I confused him greatly. Lol. I never gave in to his BS. I just would smile n nod. To myself I'm like really dude. They think they r entitled.. makes me so mad. Lol. He said Angie. Just submit to the relationship. LOL !! Oh u mean give u my money n other stuff.??!! Ur so difficult he would say. Lol. I'm sorry I'm laughing cause it's crazy. But at the same time. It's still abuse n I'm healing. They are demons

  • @TrinketStarz
    @TrinketStarz Рік тому

    These video's help so much when I come across other survivors of narc abuse.

  • @AwakenedOne-qu
    @AwakenedOne-qu 8 років тому +13

    three in three years, that's slow, mine has 4 guys looking for her a, got married in Florida and went to see another boyfriend in Calif. Damn she's gotten around, all of that in less than 4 months, but she really did a number on me. She's still hoovering me. I'm really glad I got out!!

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  8 років тому +8

      DisEnchantedPersons Good for you! After the discard my ex moved back to our home state. She had sex with 3 of her ex boyfriends, 2 of my friends and dating someone the whole time. That's just what I've heard. They're disgusting individuals. Thank you so much for sharing and welcome to the channel. - David

  • @aquadisiak9357
    @aquadisiak9357 4 роки тому

    I just want you to know that I am so grateful for your Channel. I have listened to other channels regarding psycho ex-girlfriends but you seem to be able to drive it home. You're the type of person I can really relate to you have so much emotion and great intelligence. Right now it seems like I listen to your videos all day and all night they really help they really put things into perspective and help me get through this. I wish I could double subscribe.

  • @rqhstlouis
    @rqhstlouis 8 років тому +10

    mine dated at least 5 in less than a yr while he dated me. just crazy.

  • @tamaragriffin6022
    @tamaragriffin6022 7 років тому +2

    love it."bag of psycho tricks". They are truly nuts

  • @monicahoward7443
    @monicahoward7443 8 років тому +3

    ...and this is my favourite one! gave me such a powerful back!

  • @clinbaker7359
    @clinbaker7359 6 років тому +1

    I'm just so hurt that I can't have my Angela back. But I guess she never really truly existed in the first place. That hurts even more when I think about it. Everything good was just an illusion, and everything bad just left me feeling like an empty shell of who I used to be. I'm in theropy now, but I'm having such a hard time shaking this feeling of emotional distress. I hope time and my own intellect will hurry up and help me heal. I don't wish this on my worst enemy. I was truly in love. I've broke up in relationships before, but narcissists leave you mentally broken and pitiful. In reality if things were my fault, I'd probably feel better. At least I would know I deserve the break up. I'm going to continue with theropy because I feel so broken. I know it's not the end of the world. But for now I don't feel like I'm part of it.

  • @craylalove
    @craylalove 8 років тому +6

    Thank You for being strong enough to share your experience as a man. We as men have to share more freely our painful experiences with others in order to grow and heal. I just exited 25yrs of exposure in a relationship/marriage with Narcissist/Borderline.
    You are dead on with all of your information. Everything resonated with me especially them not wanting you to better yourself. They will question your goals which in turn will make you question yourself and lessen your self-confidence. You ask yourself, why would my loved one question my goals or dreams? There must be something to second guess.? No, that is them refocusing your time and energy on them. They are very good at that and they will keep you busy with things to distract your focus that makes you feel constantly unsettled and uncomfortable.
    The other thing that you hit on was them never being happy and that the good times are short lives because they will cover the memory with something negative and that could be anything from a hypochondriatic episode or a fabricated concern or worry of some sort.
    Great Stuff and you did help me! Thank You!

    • @fluffylegs8598
      @fluffylegs8598 8 років тому +5

      T Brown I am a narc survivor and I'm female. I have had no protection from the law and no-one understands the level these monsters will sink to. If I said psychopath then I might get some help. Look after yourself and stay safe but keep no contact.

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  8 років тому +3

      T Brown Awesome, thank you so much for sharing! Your comment will help someone else... confirmation. Thanks again. - David

  • @alinaterinte8955
    @alinaterinte8955 4 роки тому

    This is the first video that made me smile and made me feel better...after 13 years...of struggle I finally have the chance to heal...

  • @ianfit4task581
    @ianfit4task581 8 років тому +6

    I'm feeling it.Bro,Narc Droid ExGf,was all ways Right.spent more time at the Doctor's and on FB

    • @daviddemars
      @daviddemars  8 років тому +2

      ian fit4task You got it. Such a simple observation but rings such a bell.

  • @tammyhardin1792
    @tammyhardin1792 3 роки тому

    YOU ARE SO RIGHT THEY ARE SO CLUELESS AND EXHAUSTIVE I JUST SO GLAD HE IS GONE