My first ex said that yet still came back a couple of years later saying he didn’t feel for anyone like he felt for me. It happens. Feelings change due to circumstances, hurt feelings and so on. People and relationships are complicated. And a lot of people give up way too easily in my opinion. Their loss.
Let me offer a piece of advice here. When someone is stressed, just let them vent. Shut up and listen. Then if she asks for your advice, offer it. This is coming from a guy who has learned the hard way. Listen and be their rock guys.
Me and my boyfriend just broke up a few minutes ago, and he wants me to move on. Without explanation. So confusing, i dont understand why... ?!!! Painfulllll it hurts 😢😢😢😢 @Coach Craig Kenneth
The saddest day of my life. I feel like I hit with a rock. He said to me, that I can date other people. He will support me as a friend. He said now he's looking for his happiness, and that I should do the same my heart is totally 💔. The worst time of my life.
@@hwdareu5848 Really bad thing.... They even don't care if they hurt the other person, saying that! Hope you feel better, I'm focus in myself now. Life is wise, best revenge is find our happiness.
What I learned about my past relationship, as a result of the breakup, is this: I was in love with the dream, not the actual woman or reality. And, it took a lot of distortion of reality. We were together for 4 years, engaged, and had a baby.
@@ADayInTheLifeOfJames Wow, this is old, but…She recently got married, and I’m single. Never had another long-term relationship since. Coach Craig’s videos were great. I watched them for the first two years, anytime I felt I needed perspective.
he told me to forget it and pretend it never existed, he told me to have no hope, he told me to find someone else, I don't know what to do .... will it work without contact? ? he is very pride , he is in a relationship at the moment and I understood that, but I told him if there is a chance to reconcile after he will no longer be in that relationship, and he told me no, he said he had already decided. .. I don't know what to think, he is the only one I really love ... and I showed him a lot of effort I made to see how much I love him ... please any advice, no I don't want to lose him
It's funny how my Ex tells me to go better myself while she is actually going out cheating on me with another guy! How Evil! I'm happy the way I am thank you!
One is doomed to fail if they base / rate a relationship on feelings. Feelings go up and down The happiest a couple is the day of the wedding Got news for you Real life does not stay there. There will be ups and down. The unhappiest time ina relationship is just as the same It will not be like that forever See? Commitment to marriage generates love Not the other way around Love is closely tied to the way we feel Only God’s love is perfect You love someone today... tomorrow or 20’yrs down the road your feelings change Same person with good bad and mostly ugly at that point Commitment then takes over to look pass the ugly part and love becomes a by product. Marriage is a covenant not a contract A contract can be re done annulled or thrown out. Not a covenant God sets the rules for a covenant just like he did with his people. He will never turn his back on his people. His people can break the covenant but he will never do so Breaking a covenant does not annul it It is there.. the terms don’t change. Marriage is for life. The only thing God allows the marriage covenant to end is death of a partner. Therefore marrying another person while your partner is still alive is adultery point and simple. Not my words but Jesus. If you don’t like this, tough. If you feel it’s unfair, tough You and I did not create marriage God did
While my ex and I weren't married, I completely agree with what you've said. She left because her feelings ""aren't constant". I told her they fluctuate and that during those times they are low, that's when you *choose* to love your partner. I did that for her constantly; it pains me that she decided she couldn't do it for me. She wanted to chase the rush as well as the constant; I don't think she understands exactly how this love thing works. Ironic since she's had more relationships than me. It absolutely sucks we didn't work out because she was otherwise an amazing partner and we were so compatible on so many levels. Maybe one day she'll realise her mistake. Sometimes, I daydream that I'd take her back on that day; sometimes I daydream I've moved on and drive it in what she lost.
My X contacted me yesterday to ask me out to dinner and a movie. She said she will pay for everything. Also, she said there will be no kissing and or sex. She said she is not attracked to me physically or sexually. I turned down the offer. Then she texted me again say that I am into my feelings. I didn't respond to that and I will not contact her again. I did respond to the first message by saying. I will not be under those circumstances. Therefore, I will do no contact and maybe never contact her again. If she doesn't care about me. I will not care about her
Hi. Craig, thank you so much for your help. I been watching your videos for last three days. I was dating with someone for 3 months and he text me “ to forgive him and no to be angry but is better no to see each other any more “ I tex him back and told him “ I love your honestly” and the next day I text him aging and I say that I am agree with his decision. And I was feeling anxious about it. But I saw your videos and now I feel way better 😀 thank you so much you are the best 😀
Good afternoon Coach. First of all I want to say thank you for devoting so much of your time and energy to assisting so many people with so many different circumstances and relationship issues. It is quite powerful how much confidence you instill and how much of your obvious objective is to ultimately assist people in becoming much more developed in the actual person that they can be all around. I've watched easily a dozen videos, probably twice that, and certainly gain a lot of information out of all of them. What I have observed, especially in the relationship and getting ones X back videos, is that there does not seem to be much specificity related to divorces where children are involved. This is a subject that is, in my experience, much more regular than just a breakup where it is two people involved with one another for a certain period of time. My specific reality involves a woman and myself who are in the middle of getting divorced, and she has chosen to move on entirely... At least at this point in her understanding of how she feels about the relationship, but we are also co-parenting. I'm not sure if perhaps I just have not come across any videos that have this topic being touched on, but I certainly have not found any information almost anywhere, especially coming from you... Which I must say out of everyone that I have ever seen... You certainly seem to have a grasp on it more than any of the other coaches. I look forward to communicating with you more, perhaps personally once my budget allows me to do so, but in the meantime if there is any way that you could steer some of us involved with more complicated scenarios in the direction that has information pertaining to this matter specifically. Thank you again for everything that you share and for allowing us to be as vulnerable As You Are
Hey Coach Craig. Ive been watching your videos every day solid for at least 2 months now And thank you so much for putting them out there....Sometimes its the only thing that gets me through a day....seriously! I really want to book some coaching with you, but Ive been outta work for like a year now and Im flat broke. My partner left me about 3 months back now and Im in such a dark place I miss her so much Ive cried at least once a day since then I cant eat, sleep or do anything!
Lucky you! My ex never told me to move on. Until I decided to go in no contact, every time I spoke with him, trying to understand if he was sure about our breakup and told him I hoped he would have thought about a second chance for us, he just spoked about something else. He never told me "I hope you'll be happy, you should move on", and I'm still "waiting"... After 1 months of breakup and 2 weeks of no contact I still wait even if I think I should move on
@@dwightschrute8141 Iong story short: I decided to work on myself and move on. I figured out that that person and that situation was toxic for me. When I tried to go in No Contact, he called me or texed me, and It was a sort of on-off situation. During this on-off period I lost my grandpa and in that occasion he was Very mean and unrespectful of my loss. I was suffering and told him that I needed some love and help to face up to the situation (also because I leave very far from my family) and he just yelled at me that I was using my granpa to make him feel guilty cause he had not time for me, that I was an horrible person, that he was disgusted... I mean... This woke me up. This helped me to understand that he had some personal issues and that the best thing for me was to run away. I worked on myself, also with a psychologist, I made sport, I worked on personal goals... After One year he tried an indirect-direct approach with some reactions on my Instagram. I just ignored him. Now I feel happy, I still work on myself, I've found a person who really loves me as much as I do (funny thing: I know him from 12 years but there was never "the occasion") and I have learned that things happens and relationships work when you feel to be the author of your own happyness. If a relationships or a person makes you suffer, work on yourself and everything will be ok.
Abioseh T feel you there I was told the same. Feels like getting shot. It’s been to hard to handle some days but you have to do something when you’re feeling the worst even if you don’t want to it helps a lot.
@@UNOAlterEgo there was no abuse....ive never laid a hand on her and never insulted her verbally...she developed feelings for another man and claimed that I manipulated her into being into a long term relationship with me... We were togethet for 6 years
@@abioseht6284 i feel like all women are the same is a saying that could be true 🤣 I got told exactly that, manipulated her into it all. Wtf does that mean 🤣
@@xMikeyHardyx it really gives me the impression, now that I look back at it, that she really isn't capable of taking responsibility of her own decisions 😅😅
@@abioseht6284 Classic Narcissism. People say they find peace knowing they dodged a bullet. But for me, it makes me feel even more sad thinking she’s gonna go through a cycle of break ups because she’s not going to evaluate her own actions.
I gotten dumped many times in all my relationships and the last person I was with said he wanted nothing to do with me, that he doesn't want a relationship, to move on with someone else he told me and that he wants space, he dumped me in December 2023,, best thing to do is to by yourself to heal
@@sshuteandrew I believe in laying your cards on the table and if they don't like that then ok at least we have been straight and honest about how we feel
If a man is telling you to move on...and also telling you to find your own happiness...it sounds like he saying "i want you to go away" for 1 but also unknowingly implying that your own happiness would be somewhere away from him/without him, which seems like 2, he doesnt realize or care that you love him or find happiness with him, and 3, saying your own happiness means he's separated his happiness from you and/or his happiness mentally......you should probably just go and find your happiness elsewhere whether he means it or not...and not worry if he changes his mind cause he sounds lame anyway and you deserve better regardless. Best response would probably be "aww...ok, thank you" then walk and dont look back
@@vanessagras Well , often yes. Someone i dated back in 2017 (for a year) said the same thing (well he said that i should move on and he also told me to delete his phone nr etc) he blocked me after that. Guess what. He really meant it. He blocked me on any social media UNTIL THIS YEAR (2020) , he unblocked only a few weeks ago on instagram (probably thought ,hes save now... i found it kind of crazy ,seems like he was scared i would try contacting him again, which i never did... blocking for over 2 years is kinda overreacting i think. Especially since ive done NOTHING to him that could make him do this). I noticed it since i still had our conversations on there and i could see his profile again. That was the one time i experienced it, but it was not the case with several friends of mine, theyr ex did say the same but a while after, they got back together (from around 1 to 6 months after the breakup) ...so. Some men will NOT even tell you to move on or say ''delete my nr pls'' etc. ,they will simply not talk to you ever again , ignore you etc etc. you never know 100% , no matter WHAT they tell you... the only thing (if you want to get your ex back is try or wait...)
I broke no contact after 39 days and she said she didn’t expect me to reach out and that I moved on… she said she definitely doesn’t want a relationship and that we should move on… she was upset that I wasn’t around and she needed a friend
Damn! I've never said that to a man, not even my ex-husband, and I've never had a man fight for me "for months" the way he pursued her (well, he was a bit desperate), and yet ALL I'VE GOTTEN ARE MEN WHO DO NOT RESPECT ME! I hope that guy is doing better.
a year ago whenthis video was published, I was in cloud 9, we were just on our 2nd month of relationship...then come november we lived together...2 months ago he left me.I cannot believe i am listening to this now. I wish I can fast forward this moment I am in again to next year, I am pretty sure it will be better in the future.
Same happened to me, she told me she isnt happy anymore. I just cracked, started crying, started to beg for another chancee, i improved myself, after one month she told me that she is happy again. But i became to clingy needy, i wanted her for myself and after 3 months she said that its over. That we need space. I reached out after 45days, she said that she is 1000x better now, happy to be single and not wanting anyone. She is not mad at me, she said she hopes we can stay friends, and is willing to met after i get over her. That she is over me. My opinion is that, when they say that they are unhappy, its hard to fix is, i think she got over me while we were together, altho she told me everyday how much she loves me, how hot am i, how she wants to live with me. But it is hard to accept it
@Harry Pannu. Haha no why would I want to be with her? Ok, so after 6 months, one day i got mad and I went to her job to drop some of her stuff that she left behind.. She wasn't working.. After 30mins or so.. She wrote to me that if I am free that we can go out on a drink. So we met.. And all I say is that i was really dissapointed.. I thought that i'll see an improved version of her, but no, she started to drink, she said that she is drunk every weekend.. She was even drunk that day.. She started to smoke weed again.. Her skill was all fked up, acne.. She still lied about everything, wanted to make me feel bad, she lied to her family and bla bla.. Her mum called me to go out twice to talk but she bailed at the end.. In the mean time, i went to the gym, I got my dream job, I am fit, happy, i eat healthy.. And she even admitted that she wanted to be free again, be wild.. As she was doing before me.. 2 3 fuckboys weed party.. And i'm also 95% she got a new bf soon after me or even while she was with me, bcs she was acting strange, hiding her phone, not wanting to be with me and so on.. Anyway, it was hard first 2 months, but just do as everyone says, go to the gym.. Eat well, you will see some sexy new girls in the gym, you will get so much will to train and be a better person.. Work on yourself, and dont look back. Just forget everything and continue no contact. No simping😁 I blocked her posts and stories bcs when I saw something it ruined 4 - 6days for me. She still sees everything that I post, but doesnt matter. I'm done and happy
Dude, you make really good videos and I got to get your advice. My woman wigged out on me after 4 great months, she said we approach things differently and she wanted to end it. Them later I find out that she is hurting over the anniversary of her husband's death. So I think I need to just let her figure things out
For the second time; we broke up. And I haven't broken down or feel sad for 10 days since we broke up until I'm where I am now, on a trip to islands and I kept remembering him and how we used to go on trips to the beach and now I feel really down. One more thing is knowing he's also visiting the same country I am visiting when he always mentioned how busy he is and now he's on vacation with his friends ... I'm so lost and down right now haha thank you for your videos. :-)
Hi Coach Craig, my boyfriend broke up with me because I was not trusting him 100% because he lied to me in the past and gave me reasons for not trusting 100%, he knew about that for a while and one day he said it's just getting worse and he said because I dont trust him it's better to break up, I asked him to work things out and to help me gain the trust I lost, we had counseling sessions planed and he refused to stay together and work it out and see if counseling would help.....do I have any chances for him to come back and want to work on it ?
Good for you, don't fall in the same past behaviour. You will regret it. Communication is the key. I suggest you to break up with him before he does, if it's in the air. It's better to be the dumper than dumpee 😉 It can take forever, so who it's asking for a specific time frame, no one can give you am answer...
Me and my ex broke up about 4 months ago, she told me afterwards that she still loves me and has feelings for me but she wanted space and was too sad over a death in her family. She said she’d want to get back together one day but needs sometime to herself to deal with the situation. A few weeks later she told me that she doesn’t see herself being in a relationship for a long time. We still speak but not like we used to and I’ve tried to cut contact down with her. We’ve argued a few times since the split.
Ryan Daniel - Time to cut it off and just move on. When you genuinely care for some one, you wouldn’t let months go by before talking to them at that point they are just curious - there is no I Love you, BUT in a few months I may want to get back .... what? Here is the best advice I can give you.>>>>. Never make someone your priority, if they only make you their option.
Thanks coach...you have helped me initial days when I was really anxious Nd crazy....the break up with my ex was due to her family issues n it hurts...she asked me to move on..she s getting married now...I m.trying on self care as u state in videos
My ex broke up with me because he was sick and depressed told me to move on. We had a great relationship it’s so painful. I’m still waiting for him to com back I’m in no nc I wish he reaches out.
I asked my ex if I should move on and he said that I should do what I need to to be better. He just isn’t ready to give me what I want, but he knows that he was keeping me around cause he didn’t want to lose me. He said he really does want to be with me but he’s not ready. I told him was gunna block him so I’d stop obsessively social media stalking him but he didn’t like that idea however he understood but I kept taking him so I didn’t go thru with it, I did agree to mute him tho. He is letting me go because I need to heal although he doesn’t want to. I feel bad because I still want to be in contact with him but I know I need to do NC again. He kept saying that if things line up in the future for us to try again, he wouldn’t mind doing so just he isn’t ready rn. I feel so sad cause I want to have him in my life but I’ve never been someone to beg or over contact someone. I think I’m a fearful avoidant. He is as well I believe. So I guess the only thing I can do is move forward with my life.
Hey. I found your work while looking for some more experience. To be honest, i agree with things you learn and give people and i respect that. I follow Corey Wayne because he is more suitable for my characteristic, but you are a good coach too. Have a nice day !
Dear Craig, I have been watching your video every night for the last 3 months which are so valuable, I have learnt so much . I have 1 question: what does it mean when my ex keep telling me to find a new boyfriend? THANKS
Craig, I did a horrible thing, I ruined everything. After more than two months of no contact my ex said he moved on and is happy that everything ended. He didn’t regret leaving me. I blew up and wrote several accusing texts. I did that because he broke my heart and ruined my self esteem again. I regret deeply and wish I could go a week back when I haven’t said those things. Basically I made everything even worse and it looks like it is over. I feel remorseful but cannot even fix what I have done. Help me, please.
God dammit, i wish i saw this video sooner. She reached out, it started well, but things got back to the relationship, and we didnt fight or get angry. But things got sad, there were tears. Shes dating somebody new now and after I blockedr her for a while, then unblocked her, she has now blocked me. Just pain. But i know how much I have to work on myself, things I didnt do right, and valuable lessons to improve on. So those will be my goals for the next few months. I hope she does reach back out. She said that it was too soon to meet and talk, and only when im ready and moved on,can we maybe meet again, or talk or see eachother at some point.
My ex has accepted me as a friend but i fucked up and accused him really bad things, to the point he said "fine, i wont reply to you anymore, good luck moving on" idk what to do now :(
My ex broke up with me 5 months ago. I did everything I was not supposed to do. The grand gesture, tried to talk, you name it. After a month and a week of true no-contact, she contacted me yesterday. She sent me a text asking me which internet provider I was using..lol we texted back and forth and she appologized for making me suffer and she asked me not to hate her and to forgive her. I told her that if that made her feel better I forgave her but she then said something I didn't like. She said she wants to remain by herself for a while because she doesnt want to go back with me just because she feels sorry for me. Yes, that make sense but it doesn't sound good when a woman feels sorry for you. I asked her out for coffee one saturday. She said, "ok. If she comes, I'll take her to a bar and say, "I wonder if they have coffee here..lol let's see how it goes..
Nekromantic Blasphmerr It's your decision and you should take into consideration your own intuition and judgement when deciding the matter. I personally broke no contact and all it got me was getting pity from her and then blocked. Therefore I strongly urge you to not break no contact unless you have a rationally compelling reason to do so and to put your focus on your personal goals and mission. When I went through the process of deciding whether or not to break no contact I had strong attachment to her, and feelings of guilt which eventually drove me to contact her but as I came to learn very quickly, she had completely moved on and had no investment in me whatsoever. My love confession hit a brick wall. Above all you have to seperate emotion from behavior. Ask yourself: What would I do If I didn't care? And go from that, in every case she will respect you more for being unemotional and not weak/needy etc.
Exactly. It gets better with time. Also, avoid stalking on social media. From experience I can tell you, it make you no favor at all... I'm not saying that you block her everywhere, but just do whatever it takes to stay away from it.
Do you think my ex husband of a long marriage Mean today he wants me to stop loving him and leave him alone. I still love him so much. We were together for 19 yrs we have 4 children together. Our marriage ended last fall. How can I be patient?
I had a 5 yr relationship but recently she broke up with me for the reason of she was unhappy and don't love me anymore we have a LDR for 10mos for a job opportunity for her. I was emotionally, mentally, physically stressed for a week now. We planned to see each other after I resigned in my previous work and follow her in her new assign place but this breakup ruin it all
Hello coach, I really need a advice. I have been with my ex for 6 years, till a month ago he broke up with me.. We had alot of issues going on in our relationship, he cheated on me for last 4 years, the next 2 years things has gotten changed and he has been always be there for me, but, every time we have an arguments he disappear out of my life, it's been on and off the same tack tick and I always took him back because I love him.. A month ago he broke up and I was hurt, so I stepped back so he can realize if he made the right decision. I start to move on, and all of sudden he showed up again telling me how he miss me and how much he truly love me that he wants me back.. After 3 days I was willing to give him a last chance but on top he told me he will move on without me. I'm confused, first he wanted me back but then after few days he saying that he doesn't love me that much than it used to be. How come that days before he wanted me back and saying he loves me so much.. How can someone so quick change their feelings???
Hey craig my ex broke up with me two months ago, i'm 22 and he's 26 and i now realize how stupid i am because i kept making mistakes and kept bugging him instead of giving him his space and i made another dumb mistake two weeks ago and we last talked those two weeks ago and so now it got to the point where he got really mad at me that day i made that dumb mistake and he blocked me off social media and he told me if i send him one text he will block my number as well, he told me i can live a few weeks being blocked. He said he doesnt hate me i'm just being annoying and dont get it and to just leave him alone. He broke up with me two months ago because he just wants to focus on his life and future and not others and then later on the road he told me to learn what he is and to move on, his birthday is next month and i just dont even know what to do at this point, he says that hes not a very emotional person and that he wasnt playing with my emotions, i'm trying to work on myself but i'm having a hard time to because this whole thing is effecting me soo much and i cant afford a private coaching so i just dont know what to do....
Craig, You rock. My ex went quiet and so did I . I went no contact and then she went and you predicted it indirect direct contact. She strted texting about things I had at her house. I did not ignore her. I replied to her. Kept all cool and balanced. She then went off about how I was ignoring her questions and I then replied as I was at work. So..... Question..... What do I do after this happens so I dont make this mistake again. I was honestly very much calm and cool as you taught me. Thoughts?
Craig, I talked to my ex the other day, to see if she wanted to try again. At the beginning she was doubting to give me a chance. But the longer we talked the more she became shorter and negative. She told me I messed up, that I broke her hear. She saw a future with me but I ruined it. Then my ex toldme to move on. What do I do now??
I said if she wanted to give me another chance to talk it out about us, like get some Starbucks or when we go to the dog park with our dog. But she didn't respond on that
Michiel N do not contact her again man work on your self become 2.0 lose weight gain muscle see graigs videos about master in relationships and when she comes back she will surely stay she may not come back too soon in my opinion it takes about 1-2 months dont get anxious about it just forget about it in the process of bettering yourself and always stay positive good vibrations use the law of attraction too
I no longer feel loved by her anymore & we added each other back on Snapchat today. & she was just the same & I got upset & starting crying. & texted her but then I just blocked her both her number and her Snapchat I’m gonna continue to heal myself & work on my personal growth.
Honestly, when I hear about guys fumbling secure women I dont know what to say... After being broken up with a fearful avoidant, secure women are EASY to handle. How do people still mess up with secure people?
My ex was leading me to believe that someone was interested in her during our relationship and she also had questionable boundaries with friends. I wanted answers in the end and she threatened a restraining order (i never threatened her) so I immediately stopped contacting her because that was just one more threat. She gaslit me. She threatened to leave in the beginning if there was a disagreement and then would pull me back in, she threatened to get online to find someone after we broke up and she did. To me, it seems like she tried to control things the entire time we were together via threats. She also implied she wanted to kill herself twice. All threats!! Not once did i chase her but i wanted answers like anyone would if someone implies that someone likes them while you are dating them. I felt like my hands were cuffed and i wasnt allowed to have a voice if something bothered me. She would make threats. She even reached out to my friend trying to get him roped in. I thought she was rather manipulative. This behavior will show up in her new relationship.
Need some advice. I was seeing a girl I met at the gym we was not together long enough to do anything. But I was falling for her and she was for me. After a couple weeks something silly happened and she cut the hole thing off. I went no contact for 4 and she never reached out but I did and we started talking again but I initiated all the time. We would see each other at the gym and we talk and we would kiss each other on the cheek goodbye there was a little flirting. I sent her a message asking if she wanted to go for a coffee or a drink but she made a excuse. Then I sent her a message saying that I still have feelings for her but she said that "we can't be together it wouldn't work". I haven't spoke to her since.
My ex actually ditched me and started cheating on me and then he discarded me and went to be with other people after 7 months came back created more confusion and then told me he hasn't come back to reconcile cz he came back on the day of my birthday we talked for a week I was anxious he was confused then he said he doesn't want to continue and he left and told me to move on
I actually broke no contact and I went to see him and he told me I pushed him too far and too late and he started tell me I pushed to far that night he also told me he start talking to one person the night of .. idk there no hope in this
What exactly does it mean when you've been told by your ex no matter what you will always have my heart always and then he runs off to live with another woman but he was contacting me until I told him to leave me alone I didn't want to be a third string on a fiddle like the last time I did he went with another woman she ended up getting him in trouble with police he wil always be my heart and soul I'll love him always but since I found out at Christmas he's been living with this woman since September he was just lying saying he wanted us to be back together and he was texting phoning and meeting me how could he do this again
Hi Greg my ex girlfriend told me to ignore you 2 :00 text message. And also she says she doesn't want to lead me on .so what should I do. I have done no contact from day one since we broke up about 1 month ago. Please help me
Man, I think I'm screwed..... Long story short.... She had a death in the family, we fought after it over something stupid, I went out of town on a business trip and blocked her everywhere, unbeknownst to me she was sending me messages warning me that I had abandoned her but I didn't read them as they were sent to my spam folder until I got back. I started sending her messages and she didn't respond for quite a long time, then she said we were over. I went into a tail spin of begging, pleading, writing love letters, buying things, showing up at her apt., she initially said she would give me a chance but the chance was just being able to text her. That didn't work out, then she said she changed her mind and turned cold as a fish and kept telling me to move on. She went from the most loving person to the coldest, indifferent person I have ever seen on the planet, I sent a few last messages and went into NC now for the last 25 days, and absolutely nothing from her. She knows I have a lot of bad things going on in my life and she hasn't reached out to ask about them. She literally has disappeared even though she promised me the world, we are soul mates, we will be together forever, etc....... and she's gone. She once told me that once she's done she's done a long time ago, This sux and I feel like it's hopeless. She left behind everything that we had built and not once did she even give it a chance to reconcile. In the beginning she was still telling me she loved me, she missed talking to me, etc but the begging ruined it. This shit sux, 3 years all down the drain.
MUSICIANSAVANT I feel your pain. I relate to you. Right now she's not telling you but she's going through the same hell of feelings you're going through. That's women to you. Lol I see a very good chance of her coming back to you. Your case involves no other man in the picture. Give her time. 25 days sounds like a lot but a lot for you not for her..lol
MUSICIANSAVANT she had a death in her family and you blocked her diverting her messages to your spam folder??!! f... hell what is wrong with you people? I see so much of this. Ignoring messages playing cool and not communicating when necessary, silent treatments etc. Then when you lose a person then you start caring? Well, I wouldn't take you back neither should she. Next time try to appreciate what you have when you have it. Are you all with NPD or what is this behaviour?
Truth Cooperator I left a lot of details because I don't want to write a novel here but we've been fighting and didn't talk for quite a while up leading up until to the death. I was there for her after the death happened and it wasn't something that came sudden it was a gradual death of cancer. We have been fighting for the last couple months quite a lot so after the last fight we both ignored each other and I went on my business trip. It was a training trip in which I needed to focus so I figured we weren't just going to talk for a while so I blocked her on my text messages. Look man everybody makes mistakes and it was just a perfect storm of bad things that happened at once. It doesn't mean I didn't care for her a means that we are both emotionally exhausted from fighting.
Like I said, there's a ton of history that I left out and a lot of details. She blocked me, I blocked her, then she reached out and I had no idea because we both had each other blocked. I've always been around to work things out but everything at the time was chaotic and hurtful , we were both hurting and as things have gone that way before, I figured we would just take some time out to calm things down. Trust me, I know I didn't handle things the best way then and after the breakup. My life changed on that day she sent her last message saying it's basically over. It's been a rough two months but hopefully there is light at the end of the tunnel either way.
I'm lost. My ex told me he cant be in a relationship right now because he has to focus on his mental health and issues with his kids. He said he cant commit right now because of fear from it after his divorce. He said I deserve someone who can give me what I want, and that I should move on. But he wants to remain friends because I'm his best friend. I want to be with him and told him I'd wait for him and be his friend until the time he felt he could. He because frustrated with me. I told him if he needs me I'm here (I'm worried about his mental health and want him to know hes not alone). But I also said I need time and space to be able to get to the point where we could be friends. I want him back. I dont care if he can commit to marriage. That's not a deal breaker for me, but he seems to think it should be. What do I do???
I have mixed feelings about my Ex, we have a long history and kids but feel so angry about him leaving with no idea it was coming. We see each other occasionally because we have kids but I always just feel anger towards him.
What if she says dont move on. And she hot and cold. When shes around her mother. Shes cold. What should I do? Been doing no contact. 2 and half weeks now. There is more to it. The story.
Stay strong dude!no contact works with patience it gives her the time and space to miss you especially if you lived together.2.5weeks is no time at all give it a month or two but focus on you!get yourself out there walk upto random women ask them out for a date flirt a little have fun being single!dont be sad or licking your wounds hey you got with your ex didn't you?so you arnt that bad and must be quite a catch !look on it as the past and it was an amazing experience and learning curve dont feel bitter!if she smells or sees your not over her then it will push her further away because you seem needy and desperate!women want what they cant have and if she cant have you or your too easily available doing nothing she wont come back it's not a good trait is it? If and when she contacts you ask her if shes available another day instead set a date for dinner at yours and she can bring some wine and make dinner together and have fuuuun!!dont bring up the past dont bring up the relationship just have fun dont say you miss her just play it cool!listen to her and dont over do texts and calls keep it short say you enjoyed speaking to her but you've gotta go keep the calls and texts for dates . All the best buddy I honestly wish you the best of luck.
@@lazyreaper992 id really advise any guy out there struggling with a break up to go watch coach corey waynes channel!this guys good but corey is like a wizard without the nicety haha its just straight to the point.
Hi Craig...I just want to request if you could make a video out of this topic... I've been in no contact with my ex for almost 5 months but he is always giving hidden messages in his twitter which is very uncommon to him... what do you think? He is always saying goodbye to me which I found very depressing. Though I managed ng how to deal with my personal feelings but I feel uncomfortable coz of my abandonment issue and I hate goodbyes... Please consider... Thank you so much...
I really relate on thia though not on the police part... Hardest part here is she is also my coworker in a different department in the same company we work in... Its been a month now since we broke up.. I still love her still doing the no contact period... Hope you could help me.. If you have skype hope to have a session with you
Hey coach I need some kind of help. About a year and a half ago I began seeing a female coworker. I was with my ex fiancé at the time when I met my female Coworker. She’s 11 years younger then me too. I was and still am so drawn towards her. Never had this feeling with any woman. Well she decided that we shouldn’t see each other like that anymore. She said that we argue too much and that she didn’t deserve me. I really don’t know what to do because I still very much am in love with her and we still work together but not in the same area anymore. She still tries to make some small talk with me but I’ve been just trying to leave her alone and see if she wants to come back to me but she said she thinks we should talk to other people but when she said it her body language wasn’t saying the same thing. But she said she didn’t want me anymore. I need help. It’s been almost 3 weeks since all that and I really miss her so much it’s caused me to have anxiety. Please help. Is there any way I can do payments for you coaching. I’m a single father and it’s kind of tough to just put some 300-500 just like that.
You have some great videos and insight! So happy I found your channel about a week after my girlfriend dumped me after a six month relationship that started off good and the last month of our relationship she was hot and cold. I was very good to her and showed her every day how much I loved her. I made her a priority. She ended it with me. It definitely hurt me really bad! Definitely have learned alot from you that I didn't realize while in the relationship. I was actually going back in fourth in my head on texting her. Then I seen where you stress zero contact. So I have literally watched a bunch of your videos everyday. It's been almost a month and she did finally text me. It was very short but she was definitely thinking about me. I made sure I didn't respond back with I miss you or I love you. Did like you said i was polite but definitely didn't make her think I was desperate or she still has me on the hook. We got really serious and both of us even talked about a future together. It was like she totally just disconnected from me. We never faught about anything really. I hope she appreciates me now that I am gone and realizes things. Thanks Coach!
My kids mother blocked me on everything and started to take pics on social wit this guy lower then me I mentioned it to her who this person is to look out for her interests she said leave me the fuck alone what don’t I get she don’t want me anymore what do I do I still got feelings for her
Hey Coach, Thank you so much for this Channel. I have done an email coaching with you, and i am trying to get my wife back. We are going to court next Wednesday to sign paperwork for a divorce. There is no way i can get into contact with her, other than through email. She has changed her phone number and blocked me on all social media. What can i do to get her back. We have been in a relationship for 15 years. We have also been through a lot. I believe that she is a Narcissist. I have cut off the majority of my friend through the year and she has a whole new group of single friend she hangs out with. I made all of the mistake when the breakup occurred. The hand written letter, begging, trying to show logic. I even went as far a stalking her one time, and trying to hack into her phone.( This is why she changed her number) I have been in no contact for over a month and nothing. I feel like i have been thrown away like a piece of trash.
Should I say to my ex "I didn't respect your decisions when you wanted at the time and I was to needy and clingy I'm really learning from this" should I say that this is really coming from the heart or should I just go straight to no contact after being in contact with her for the last four days since we broke up. Should I say good morning then automatically use no contact
My Ex Broke up with me about 2 months ago. Our relationship was back and forth for 14 years. I would need an hour to Skype with you Craig just to tell you our history to get you caught up to what happened. LOL. I wish I would of come across your videos before then because I did everything wrong. As far as I can tell its totally over, and shes not coming back. because the last thing she said almost 2 weeks ago was that she hopes I can find what it is I want and can be happy. I dont see how it can be repaired and I cant see her changing her mind after that last statement
She reached out after 3 weeks of no contact telling me she misses me crying telling me how upset she was that I never fixed the issues in the relationship a day later she's like I need to move on like wth.. u called me telling me u missed me now u telling me to move on!!!
My ex didnt tell me to move on or were never getting back together. We talked about our issues and what we needed to work on. She told me to focus on myself not sure if its the same as move on?
My ex broke up with me after 5 years being together he said he doesn't love me anymore and our relationship is very toxic, so many fights and I always suspect him about something he didn't do, he had given me alot of chances but I always fail , I already begged for him but he just pushed me away. Honestly I don't know what to do now 😢😢😢😢 he said that I should move on with my life and forget about him it's been weeks that I keep coming to his place to get him back but all he did was to push me away. Do you think we still have a chance?
is there any way to get your ex gf back one's it's over and there indifferent? Can you get that connection back? She wasn't in different right after The Break-Up but she is now.
This is a good example of why you need to guard your heart. Partners can turn cold and change their feelings on a dime. Protect and love yourself.
Stacey Swope I needed to hear this! Thank you
Avinash Narang Best wishes!! 💗
Stacey Swope like wise!
exactly
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My first ex said that yet still came back a couple of years later saying he didn’t feel for anyone like he felt for me. It happens. Feelings change due to circumstances, hurt feelings and so on. People and relationships are complicated. And a lot of people give up way too easily in my opinion. Their loss.
Let me offer a piece of advice here. When someone is stressed, just let them vent. Shut up and listen. Then if she asks for your advice, offer it.
This is coming from a guy who has learned the hard way. Listen and be their rock guys.
Very well advised👌
I wish I had
My ex told me to move on and that her feelings have changed. I don’t have faith in the NC rule. Heart broken
Me too
Me too
Same
Same
Did they change?
If this video gets a lot of likes I might be inspired to do a Saturday video ;)
Me and my boyfriend just broke up a few minutes ago, and he wants me to move on. Without explanation. So confusing, i dont understand why... ?!!! Painfulllll it hurts 😢😢😢😢 @Coach Craig Kenneth
The saddest day of my life. I feel like I hit with a rock. He said to me, that I can date other people. He will support me as a friend. He said now he's looking for his happiness, and that I should do the same my heart is totally 💔. The worst time of my life.
Lol...that's what my ex gf told me after post breakup 😀 we broke up 1 month ago after been together for 4 years
@@hwdareu5848 Really bad thing.... They even don't care if they hurt the other person, saying that! Hope you feel better, I'm focus in myself now. Life is wise, best revenge is find our happiness.
@@sakura178ji yeah .. they will come back if they truly loved us once.. when we have already moved on
@@sakura178ji best revenge is revenge 😁 Don't do anything stupid by the way ahah
Blue Garden hows it going now?
What I learned about my past relationship, as a result of the breakup, is this: I was in love with the dream, not the actual woman or reality. And, it took a lot of distortion of reality.
We were together for 4 years, engaged, and had a baby.
Happy to hear that!! ☺☺
This is my exact situation right now.
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@@ADayInTheLifeOfJames Wow, this is old, but…She recently got married, and I’m single. Never had another long-term relationship since. Coach Craig’s videos were great. I watched them for the first two years, anytime I felt I needed perspective.
he told me to forget it and pretend it never existed, he told me to have no hope, he told me to find someone else, I don't know what to do .... will it work without contact? ? he is very pride , he is in a relationship at the moment and I understood that, but I told him if there is a chance to reconcile after he will no longer be in that relationship, and he told me no, he said he had already decided. .. I don't know what to think, he is the only one I really love ... and I showed him a lot of effort I made to see how much I love him ... please any advice, no I don't want to lose him
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Reminds me of the Morrissey song, "The More You Ignore Me, The Closer I Get"
It's funny how my Ex tells me to go better myself while she is actually going out cheating on me with another guy! How Evil! I'm happy the way I am thank you!
Rapture Ready as if she is already better? Please. Not her job.
Fuck that ! I know how u feel but I hope she doesn't see someone else.
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One is doomed to fail if they base / rate a relationship on feelings.
Feelings go up and down
The happiest a couple is the day of the wedding
Got news for you
Real life does not stay there. There will be ups and down.
The unhappiest time ina relationship is just as the same
It will not be like that forever
See?
Commitment to marriage generates love
Not the other way around
Love is closely tied to the way we feel
Only God’s love is perfect
You love someone today... tomorrow or 20’yrs down the road your feelings change
Same person with good bad and mostly ugly at that point
Commitment then takes over to look pass the ugly part and love becomes a by product.
Marriage is a covenant not a contract
A contract can be re done annulled or thrown out.
Not a covenant
God sets the rules for a covenant just like he did with his people. He will never turn his back on his people. His people can break the covenant but he will never do so
Breaking a covenant does not annul it
It is there.. the terms don’t change.
Marriage is for life. The only thing God allows the marriage covenant to end is death of a partner. Therefore marrying another person while your partner is still alive is adultery point and simple. Not my words but Jesus.
If you don’t like this, tough.
If you feel it’s unfair, tough
You and I did not create marriage God did
While my ex and I weren't married, I completely agree with what you've said. She left because her feelings ""aren't constant". I told her they fluctuate and that during those times they are low, that's when you *choose* to love your partner. I did that for her constantly; it pains me that she decided she couldn't do it for me. She wanted to chase the rush as well as the constant; I don't think she understands exactly how this love thing works. Ironic since she's had more relationships than me. It absolutely sucks we didn't work out because she was otherwise an amazing partner and we were so compatible on so many levels. Maybe one day she'll realise her mistake. Sometimes, I daydream that I'd take her back on that day; sometimes I daydream I've moved on and drive it in what she lost.
@@daenithriuszanathos9306 update
THANK U SOOO MUCH FOR WRITING THISSS......GOD BLESS YOUUU....IM CATHOLIC AND JESUSCHRIST HAS SAVED AND TRANSFORMED MY LIFE IN EVERY SINGLE WAY!!!!
My X contacted me yesterday to ask me out to dinner and a movie. She said she will pay for everything. Also, she said there will be no kissing and or sex. She said she is not attracked to me physically or sexually. I turned down the offer. Then she texted me again say that I am into my feelings. I didn't respond to that and I will not contact her again. I did respond to the first message by saying. I will not be under those circumstances. Therefore, I will do no contact and maybe never contact her again.
If she doesn't care about me. I will not care about her
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I love you man I'm going threw a lot and you really make me feel like I have hope
Hi. Craig, thank you so much for your help. I been watching your videos for last three days. I was dating with someone for 3 months and he text me “ to forgive him and no to be angry but is better no to see each other any more “ I tex him back and told him “ I love your honestly” and the next day I text him aging and I say that I am agree with his decision. And I was feeling anxious about it. But I saw your videos and now I feel way better 😀 thank you so much you are the best 😀
Hard to think positive right now, She told me a week ago to move on.. havent heard from her since, it hurts.
Good afternoon Coach. First of all I want to say thank you for devoting so much of your time and energy to assisting so many people with so many different circumstances and relationship issues. It is quite powerful how much confidence you instill and how much of your obvious objective is to ultimately assist people in becoming much more developed in the actual person that they can be all around. I've watched easily a dozen videos, probably twice that, and certainly gain a lot of information out of all of them. What I have observed, especially in the relationship and getting ones X back videos, is that there does not seem to be much specificity related to divorces where children are involved. This is a subject that is, in my experience, much more regular than just a breakup where it is two people involved with one another for a certain period of time. My specific reality involves a woman and myself who are in the middle of getting divorced, and she has chosen to move on entirely... At least at this point in her understanding of how she feels about the relationship, but we are also co-parenting. I'm not sure if perhaps I just have not come across any videos that have this topic being touched on, but I certainly have not found any information almost anywhere, especially coming from you... Which I must say out of everyone that I have ever seen... You certainly seem to have a grasp on it more than any of the other coaches. I look forward to communicating with you more, perhaps personally once my budget allows me to do so, but in the meantime if there is any way that you could steer some of us involved with more complicated scenarios in the direction that has information pertaining to this matter specifically. Thank you again for everything that you share and for allowing us to be as vulnerable As You Are
Hey Coach Craig. Ive been watching your videos every day solid for at least 2 months now And thank you so much for putting them out there....Sometimes its the only thing that gets me through a day....seriously! I really want to book some coaching with you, but Ive been outta work for like a year now and Im flat broke. My partner left me about 3 months back now and Im in such a dark place I miss her so much Ive cried at least once a day since then I cant eat, sleep or do anything!
Lucky you! My ex never told me to move on. Until I decided to go in no contact, every time I spoke with him, trying to understand if he was sure about our breakup and told him I hoped he would have thought about a second chance for us, he just spoked about something else. He never told me "I hope you'll be happy, you should move on", and I'm still "waiting"... After 1 months of breakup and 2 weeks of no contact I still wait even if I think I should move on
What happened ?
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@@dwightschrute8141 Iong story short: I decided to work on myself and move on. I figured out that that person and that situation was toxic for me. When I tried to go in No Contact, he called me or texed me, and It was a sort of on-off situation. During this on-off period I lost my grandpa and in that occasion he was Very mean and unrespectful of my loss. I was suffering and told him that I needed some love and help to face up to the situation (also because I leave very far from my family) and he just yelled at me that I was using my granpa to make him feel guilty cause he had not time for me, that I was an horrible person, that he was disgusted... I mean... This woke me up. This helped me to understand that he had some personal issues and that the best thing for me was to run away.
I worked on myself, also with a psychologist, I made sport, I worked on personal goals... After One year he tried an indirect-direct approach with some reactions on my Instagram. I just ignored him.
Now I feel happy, I still work on myself, I've found a person who really loves me as much as I do (funny thing: I know him from 12 years but there was never "the occasion") and I have learned that things happens and relationships work when you feel to be the author of your own happyness.
If a relationships or a person makes you suffer, work on yourself and everything will be ok.
My ex told me I was a reason for her depression when we were fighting.... I'm still recovering from that
Abioseh T feel you there I was told the same. Feels like getting shot. It’s been to hard to handle some days but you have to do something when you’re feeling the worst even if you don’t want to it helps a lot.
@@UNOAlterEgo there was no abuse....ive never laid a hand on her and never insulted her verbally...she developed feelings for another man and claimed that I manipulated her into being into a long term relationship with me... We were togethet for 6 years
@@abioseht6284 i feel like all women are the same is a saying that could be true 🤣 I got told exactly that, manipulated her into it all. Wtf does that mean 🤣
@@xMikeyHardyx it really gives me the impression, now that I look back at it, that she really isn't capable of taking responsibility of her own decisions 😅😅
@@abioseht6284 Classic Narcissism. People say they find peace knowing they dodged a bullet. But for me, it makes me feel even more sad thinking she’s gonna go through a cycle of break ups because she’s not going to evaluate her own actions.
I gotten dumped many times in all my relationships and the last person I was with said he wanted nothing to do with me, that he doesn't want a relationship, to move on with someone else he told me and that he wants space, he dumped me in December 2023,, best thing to do is to by yourself to heal
What if it's a man telling you to move on? And also asking you to find your own happiness? Does he really mean it and will he change his mind?
How are you now?
Mine said same bc I pushed for more. Made him run
@@sshuteandrew I believe in laying your cards on the table and if they don't like that then ok at least we have been straight and honest about how we feel
If a man is telling you to move on...and also telling you to find your own happiness...it sounds like he saying "i want you to go away" for 1 but also unknowingly implying that your own happiness would be somewhere away from him/without him, which seems like 2, he doesnt realize or care that you love him or find happiness with him, and 3, saying your own happiness means he's separated his happiness from you and/or his happiness mentally......you should probably just go and find your happiness elsewhere whether he means it or not...and not worry if he changes his mind cause he sounds lame anyway and you deserve better regardless. Best response would probably be "aww...ok, thank you" then walk and dont look back
@@vanessagras Well , often yes. Someone i dated back in 2017 (for a year) said the same thing (well he said that i should move on and he also told me to delete his phone nr etc) he blocked me after that. Guess what. He really meant it. He blocked me on any social media UNTIL THIS YEAR (2020) , he unblocked only a few weeks ago on instagram (probably thought ,hes save now... i found it kind of crazy ,seems like he was scared i would try contacting him again, which i never did... blocking for over 2 years is kinda overreacting i think. Especially since ive done NOTHING to him that could make him do this).
I noticed it since i still had our conversations on there and i could see his profile again. That was the one time i experienced it, but it was not the case with several friends of mine, theyr ex did say the same but a while after, they got back together (from around 1 to 6 months after the breakup) ...so. Some men will NOT even tell you to move on or say ''delete my nr pls'' etc. ,they will simply not talk to you ever again , ignore you etc etc. you never know 100% , no matter WHAT they tell you... the only thing (if you want to get your ex back is try or wait...)
I broke no contact after 39 days and she said she didn’t expect me to reach out and that I moved on… she said she definitely doesn’t want a relationship and that we should move on… she was upset that I wasn’t around and she needed a friend
Damn! I've never said that to a man, not even my ex-husband, and I've never had a man fight for me "for months" the way he pursued her (well, he was a bit desperate), and yet ALL I'VE GOTTEN ARE MEN WHO DO NOT RESPECT ME! I hope that guy is doing better.
a year ago whenthis video was published, I was in cloud 9, we were just on our 2nd month of relationship...then come november we lived together...2 months ago he left me.I cannot believe i am listening to this now. I wish I can fast forward this moment I am in again to next year, I am pretty sure it will be better in the future.
Wing Rance Hi, what happened?
It's now next year how are you doing ?
Same happened to me, she told me she isnt happy anymore. I just cracked, started crying, started to beg for another chancee, i improved myself, after one month she told me that she is happy again. But i became to clingy needy, i wanted her for myself and after 3 months she said that its over. That we need space. I reached out after 45days, she said that she is 1000x better now, happy to be single and not wanting anyone. She is not mad at me, she said she hopes we can stay friends, and is willing to met after i get over her. That she is over me.
My opinion is that, when they say that they are unhappy, its hard to fix is, i think she got over me while we were together, altho she told me everyday how much she loves me, how hot am i, how she wants to live with me.
But it is hard to accept it
@Harry Pannu. Awesome😁
@Harry Pannu. Haha no why would I want to be with her?
Ok, so after 6 months, one day i got mad and I went to her job to drop some of her stuff that she left behind.. She wasn't working..
After 30mins or so.. She wrote to me that if I am free that we can go out on a drink.
So we met.. And all I say is that i was really dissapointed.. I thought that i'll see an improved version of her, but no, she started to drink, she said that she is drunk every weekend.. She was even drunk that day.. She started to smoke weed again.. Her skill was all fked up, acne.. She still lied about everything, wanted to make me feel bad, she lied to her family and bla bla.. Her mum called me to go out twice to talk but she bailed at the end.. In the mean time, i went to the gym, I got my dream job, I am fit, happy, i eat healthy..
And she even admitted that she wanted to be free again, be wild.. As she was doing before me.. 2 3 fuckboys weed party..
And i'm also 95% she got a new bf soon after me or even while she was with me, bcs she was acting strange, hiding her phone, not wanting to be with me and so on..
Anyway, it was hard first 2 months, but just do as everyone says, go to the gym.. Eat well, you will see some sexy new girls in the gym, you will get so much will to train and be a better person.. Work on yourself, and dont look back. Just forget everything and continue no contact. No simping😁 I blocked her posts and stories bcs when I saw something it ruined 4 - 6days for me.
She still sees everything that I post, but doesnt matter. I'm done and happy
Dude, you make really good videos and I got to get your advice. My woman wigged out on me after 4 great months, she said we approach things differently and she wanted to end it. Them later I find out that she is hurting over the anniversary of her husband's death. So I think I need to just let her figure things out
For the second time; we broke up. And I haven't broken down or feel sad for 10 days since we broke up until I'm where I am now, on a trip to islands and I kept remembering him and how we used to go on trips to the beach and now I feel really down. One more thing is knowing he's also visiting the same country I am visiting when he always mentioned how busy he is and now he's on vacation with his friends ... I'm so lost and down right now haha thank you for your videos. :-)
Hi Coach Craig, my boyfriend broke up with me because I was not trusting him 100% because he lied to me in the past and gave me reasons for not trusting 100%, he knew about that for a while and one day he said it's just getting worse and he said because I dont trust him it's better to break up, I asked him to work things out and to help me gain the trust I lost, we had counseling sessions planed and he refused to stay together and work it out and see if counseling would help.....do I have any chances for him to come back and want to work on it ?
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my ex girlfriend told me when she broke up with me she would always have love for me..... i feel there was other forces controlling her
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Any update??
She just telling you that because she just doesn't wanna seem so cold but in reality they don't give a F k about u
My ex told me to move on and he came back to me and he said he could not move on. What the heck!!
How long it takes?
Good for you, don't fall in the same past behaviour. You will regret it. Communication is the key.
I suggest you to break up with him before he does, if it's in the air. It's better to be the dumper than dumpee 😉
It can take forever, so who it's asking for a specific time frame, no one can give you am answer...
How long did it take?
Lol
Yes my ex told me he will not interested of me again n he regret to know me
But I’m not done anything wrong
Me and my ex broke up about 4 months ago, she told me afterwards that she still loves me and has feelings for me but she wanted space and was too sad over a death in her family. She said she’d want to get back together one day but needs sometime to herself to deal with the situation. A few weeks later she told me that she doesn’t see herself being in a relationship for a long time. We still speak but not like we used to and I’ve tried to cut contact down with her. We’ve argued a few times since the split.
Ryan Daniel - Time to cut it off and just move on. When you genuinely care for some one, you wouldn’t let months go by before talking to them at that point they are just curious - there is no I Love you, BUT in a few months I may want to get back .... what? Here is the best advice I can give you.>>>>. Never make someone your priority, if they only make you their option.
Thanks coach...you have helped me initial days when I was really anxious Nd crazy....the break up with my ex was due to her family issues n it hurts...she asked me to move on..she s getting married now...I m.trying on self care as u state in videos
My ex broke up with me because he was sick and depressed told me to move on. We had a great relationship it’s so painful. I’m still waiting for him to com back I’m in no nc I wish he reaches out.
I asked my ex if I should move on and he said that I should do what I need to to be better. He just isn’t ready to give me what I want, but he knows that he was keeping me around cause he didn’t want to lose me. He said he really does want to be with me but he’s not ready. I told him was gunna block him so I’d stop obsessively social media stalking him but he didn’t like that idea however he understood but I kept taking him so I didn’t go thru with it, I did agree to mute him tho. He is letting me go because I need to heal although he doesn’t want to. I feel bad because I still want to be in contact with him but I know I need to do NC again. He kept saying that if things line up in the future for us to try again, he wouldn’t mind doing so just he isn’t ready rn. I feel so sad cause I want to have him in my life but I’ve never been someone to beg or over contact someone. I think I’m a fearful avoidant. He is as well I believe. So I guess the only thing I can do is move forward with my life.
Update, did he come back & how long did it take you heal?
Basically yes he said Hope will still be friends he has no feeling for anyone he is happy playing the field let him get on with his life
Please help after two weeks of no contact my ex cornered me in a conference room at work, made small talk then hugged me, this left me confused
Good sign and the fact he hugged you means he misses you stay patient - just realised this was 4 months ago can you update me please
Hey. I found your work while looking for some more experience. To be honest, i agree with things you learn and give people and i respect that. I follow Corey Wayne because he is more suitable for my characteristic, but you are a good coach too. Have a nice day !
Any response you got from that?
Dear Craig, I have been watching your video every night for the last 3 months which are so valuable, I have learnt so much .
I have 1 question: what does it mean when my ex keep telling me to find a new boyfriend? THANKS
When a guy says that, it means he has no feelings for you!
what if she told you to move on if you never cheated or did anything to really hurt her and you broke up over some misunderstandings??
I need to hear the response to this! Cause im going through this currently
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Feeling extreme pain. I m from Bangladesh. I m trying no contact after 17 year.
Craig, I did a horrible thing, I ruined everything. After more than two months of no contact my ex said he moved on and is happy that everything ended. He didn’t regret leaving me. I blew up and wrote several accusing texts. I did that because he broke my heart and ruined my self esteem again. I regret deeply and wish I could go a week back when I haven’t said those things. Basically I made everything even worse and it looks like it is over. I feel remorseful but cannot even fix what I have done. Help me, please.
Ugh I’ve done that too. Shit got worse and worse
Do women ever change their mind? Lol, everytime the wind blows
Yes, we might say things and mean the opposite!
God dammit, i wish i saw this video sooner. She reached out, it started well, but things got back to the relationship, and we didnt fight or get angry. But things got sad, there were tears. Shes dating somebody new now and after I blockedr her for a while, then unblocked her, she has now blocked me. Just pain. But i know how much I have to work on myself, things I didnt do right, and valuable lessons to improve on. So those will be my goals for the next few months. I hope she does reach back out. She said that it was too soon to meet and talk, and only when im ready and moved on,can we maybe meet again, or talk or see eachother at some point.
Do you have advice when it the man breaking up?
Craig, hows coach Margaret doing?
She's doing well! She will be filming with me again soon!
That's fantastic news! i'm so glad
My ex has accepted me as a friend but i fucked up and accused him really bad things, to the point he said "fine, i wont reply to you anymore, good luck moving on" idk what to do now :(
My ex broke up with me 5 months ago. I did everything I was not supposed to do. The grand gesture, tried to talk, you name it. After a month and a week of true no-contact, she contacted me yesterday. She sent me a text asking me which internet provider I was using..lol we texted back and forth and she appologized for making me suffer and she asked me not to hate her and to forgive her. I told her that if that made her feel better I forgave her but she then said something I didn't like. She said she wants to remain by herself for a while because she doesnt want to go back with me just because she feels sorry for me. Yes, that make sense but it doesn't sound good when a woman feels sorry for you. I asked her out for coffee one saturday. She said, "ok. If she comes, I'll take her to a bar and say, "I wonder if they have coffee here..lol let's see how it goes..
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It's your decision and you should take into consideration your own intuition and judgement when deciding the matter. I personally broke no contact and all it got me was getting pity from her and then blocked. Therefore I strongly urge you to not break no contact unless you have a rationally compelling reason to do so and to put your focus on your personal goals and mission. When I went through the process of deciding whether or not to break no contact I had strong attachment to her, and feelings of guilt which eventually drove me to contact her but as I came to learn very quickly, she had completely moved on and had no investment in me whatsoever. My love confession hit a brick wall.
Above all you have to seperate emotion from behavior. Ask yourself: What would I do If I didn't care? And go from that, in every case she will respect you more for being unemotional and not weak/needy etc.
The only advice if you are the dumpee: No Contact For Life. If she dumped you, she needs to contact you first.
Nick Fire yes, but not just to get her back but also for your own sanity. Let her come to you, if not move on. Like this you show strength.
Exactly. It gets better with time. Also, avoid stalking on social media. From experience I can tell you, it make you no favor at all... I'm not saying that you block her everywhere, but just do whatever it takes to stay away from it.
Can't really say that I have moved on completely, but I'm on it. He broke up with me one month ago, also one month of no contact.
so what about when its your wife, during a separation. do I move on? we have 2 kids together so I can't really do no contact. need some advice.
Brooks Toso any improvement?
I got showered with attention then told to forget it happened and never heard from him again
Do you think my ex husband of a long marriage Mean today he wants me to stop loving him and leave him alone. I still love him so much. We were together for 19 yrs we have 4 children together. Our marriage ended last fall. How can I be patient?
when someone says, move on. then what should i tell him?
I had a 5 yr relationship but recently she broke up with me for the reason of she was unhappy and don't love me anymore we have a LDR for 10mos for a job opportunity for her. I was emotionally, mentally, physically stressed for a week now. We planned to see each other after I resigned in my previous work and follow her in her new assign place but this breakup ruin it all
These comments are depressing, and nobody gives updates
Right😭😭
What if she has replaced me and filled that void with a “bestfriend” who may have her interested ?
Tbh that's what happened wimme, she left me after finding new friends
Sameish boat. Guy bestfriends ruin fucking everything.
Everyone need to be happy
Great video bro..
Hello coach, I really need a advice. I have been with my ex for 6 years, till a month ago he broke up with me.. We had alot of issues going on in our relationship, he cheated on me for last 4 years, the next 2 years things has gotten changed and he has been always be there for me, but, every time we have an arguments he disappear out of my life, it's been on and off the same tack tick and I always took him back because I love him.. A month ago he broke up and I was hurt, so I stepped back so he can realize if he made the right decision. I start to move on, and all of sudden he showed up again telling me how he miss me and how much he truly love me that he wants me back.. After 3 days I was willing to give him a last chance but on top he told me he will move on without me. I'm confused, first he wanted me back but then after few days he saying that he doesn't love me that much than it used to be. How come that days before he wanted me back and saying he loves me so much.. How can someone so quick change their feelings???
Hey craig my ex broke up with me two months ago, i'm 22 and he's 26 and i now realize how stupid i am because i kept making mistakes and kept bugging him instead of giving him his space and i made another dumb mistake two weeks ago and we last talked those two weeks ago and so now it got to the point where he got really mad at me that day i made that dumb mistake and he blocked me off social media and he told me if i send him one text he will block my number as well, he told me i can live a few weeks being blocked. He said he doesnt hate me i'm just being annoying and dont get it and to just leave him alone. He broke up with me two months ago because he just wants to focus on his life and future and not others and then later on the road he told me to learn what he is and to move on, his birthday is next month and i just dont even know what to do at this point, he says that hes not a very emotional person and that he wasnt playing with my emotions, i'm trying to work on myself but i'm having a hard time to because this whole thing is effecting me soo much and i cant afford a private coaching so i just dont know what to do....
How are you now ? :)
Craig, You rock. My ex went quiet and so did I . I went no contact and then she went and you predicted it indirect direct contact. She strted texting about things I had at her house. I did not ignore her. I replied to her. Kept all cool and balanced. She then went off about how I was ignoring her questions and I then replied as I was at work. So..... Question..... What do I do after this happens so I dont make this mistake again. I was honestly very much calm and cool as you taught me. Thoughts?
Craig,
I talked to my ex the other day, to see if she wanted to try again. At the beginning she was doubting to give me a chance. But the longer we talked the more she became shorter and negative. She told me I messed up, that I broke her hear. She saw a future with me but I ruined it. Then my ex toldme to move on.
What do I do now??
Michiel N Dang dude what did you say? You should have never brought up getting back together.
I said if she wanted to give me another chance to talk it out about us, like get some Starbucks or when we go to the dog park with our dog. But she didn't respond on that
Michiel N do not contact her again man work on your self become 2.0 lose weight gain muscle see graigs videos about master in relationships and when she comes back she will surely stay she may not come back too soon in my opinion it takes about 1-2 months dont get anxious about it just forget about it in the process of bettering yourself and always stay positive good vibrations use the law of attraction too
Michiel N You should have never brought it up. She probably feels smothered and trapped by you asking that.
Yes he shouldnt but not all hope is lost since they were so close to see a future together
I no longer feel loved by her anymore & we added each other back on Snapchat today. & she was just the same & I got upset & starting crying. & texted her but then I just blocked her both her number and her Snapchat I’m gonna continue to heal myself & work on my personal growth.
When I see her I feel so sad my body sweat fully
Same...feel ya
Honestly, when I hear about guys fumbling secure women I dont know what to say... After being broken up with a fearful avoidant, secure women are EASY to handle. How do people still mess up with secure people?
Do the Saturday video...but DO NOT GET BURNED OUT! It would be a tragedy for us poor souls. We luv you Coach Craig. Cheers, Rob
Can you please do a video on LDR ?
Thanks
My ex was leading me to believe that someone was interested in her during our relationship and she also had questionable boundaries with friends. I wanted answers in the end and she threatened a restraining order (i never threatened her) so I immediately stopped contacting her because that was just one more threat. She gaslit me. She threatened to leave in the beginning if there was a disagreement and then would pull me back in, she threatened to get online to find someone after we broke up and she did. To me, it seems like she tried to control things the entire time we were together via threats. She also implied she wanted to kill herself twice. All threats!! Not once did i chase her but i wanted answers like anyone would if someone implies that someone likes them while you are dating them. I felt like my hands were cuffed and i wasnt allowed to have a voice if something bothered me. She would make threats. She even reached out to my friend trying to get him roped in. I thought she was rather manipulative. This behavior will show up in her new relationship.
Need some advice. I was seeing a girl I met at the gym we was not together long enough to do anything. But I was falling for her and she was for me. After a couple weeks something silly happened and she cut the hole thing off. I went no contact for 4 and she never reached out but I did and we started talking again but I initiated all the time. We would see each other at the gym and we talk and we would kiss each other on the cheek goodbye there was a little flirting. I sent her a message asking if she wanted to go for a coffee or a drink but she made a excuse. Then I sent her a message saying that I still have feelings for her but she said that "we can't be together it wouldn't work". I haven't spoke to her since.
Henry Gains she is not into you. Move on
Anything happened
My ex actually ditched me and started cheating on me and then he discarded me and went to be with other people after 7 months came back created more confusion and then told me he hasn't come back to reconcile cz he came back on the day of my birthday we talked for a week I was anxious he was confused then he said he doesn't want to continue and he left and told me to move on
I actually broke no contact and I went to see him and he told me I pushed him too far and too late and he started tell me I pushed to far that night he also told me he start talking to one person the night of .. idk there no hope in this
What exactly does it mean when you've been told by your ex no matter what you will always have my heart always and then he runs off to live with another woman but he was contacting me until I told him to leave me alone I didn't want to be a third string on a fiddle like the last time I did he went with another woman she ended up getting him in trouble with police he wil always be my heart and soul I'll love him always but since I found out at Christmas he's been living with this woman since September he was just lying saying he wanted us to be back together and he was texting phoning and meeting me how could he do this again
Hi Greg my ex girlfriend told me to ignore you 2 :00 text message. And also she says she doesn't want to lead me on .so what should I do. I have done no contact from day one since we broke up about 1 month ago. Please help me
Man, I think I'm screwed..... Long story short.... She had a death in the family, we fought after it over something stupid, I went out of town on a business trip and blocked her everywhere, unbeknownst to me she was sending me messages warning me that I had abandoned her but I didn't read them as they were sent to my spam folder until I got back. I started sending her messages and she didn't respond for quite a long time, then she said we were over. I went into a tail spin of begging, pleading, writing love letters, buying things, showing up at her apt., she initially said she would give me a chance but the chance was just being able to text her. That didn't work out, then she said she changed her mind and turned cold as a fish and kept telling me to move on. She went from the most loving person to the coldest, indifferent person I have ever seen on the planet, I sent a few last messages and went into NC now for the last 25 days, and absolutely nothing from her. She knows I have a lot of bad things going on in my life and she hasn't reached out to ask about them. She literally has disappeared even though she promised me the world, we are soul mates, we will be together forever, etc....... and she's gone. She once told me that once she's done she's done a long time ago, This sux and I feel like it's hopeless. She left behind everything that we had built and not once did she even give it a chance to reconcile. In the beginning she was still telling me she loved me, she missed talking to me, etc but the begging ruined it. This shit sux, 3 years all down the drain.
MUSICIANSAVANT I feel your pain. I relate to you. Right now she's not telling you but she's going through the same hell of feelings you're going through. That's women to you. Lol I see a very good chance of her coming back to you. Your case involves no other man in the picture. Give her time. 25 days sounds like a lot but a lot for you not for her..lol
MUSICIANSAVANT she had a death in her family and you blocked her diverting her messages to your spam folder??!! f... hell what is wrong with you people? I see so much of this. Ignoring messages playing cool and not communicating when necessary, silent treatments etc. Then when you lose a person then you start caring? Well, I wouldn't take you back neither should she. Next time try to appreciate what you have when you have it. Are you all with NPD or what is this behaviour?
Truth Cooperator I left a lot of details because I don't want to write a novel here but we've been fighting and didn't talk for quite a while up leading up until to the death. I was there for her after the death happened and it wasn't something that came sudden it was a gradual death of cancer. We have been fighting for the last couple months quite a lot so after the last fight we both ignored each other and I went on my business trip. It was a training trip in which I needed to focus so I figured we weren't just going to talk for a while so I blocked her on my text messages. Look man everybody makes mistakes and it was just a perfect storm of bad things that happened at once. It doesn't mean I didn't care for her a means that we are both emotionally exhausted from fighting.
MUSICIANSAVANT I understand, but what did you think blocking her messages would do? How would it solve the problems you were having? Think about it.
Like I said, there's a ton of history that I left out and a lot of details. She blocked me, I blocked her, then she reached out and I had no idea because we both had each other blocked. I've always been around to work things out but everything at the time was chaotic and hurtful , we were both hurting and as things have gone that way before, I figured we would just take some time out to calm things down. Trust me, I know I didn't handle things the best way then and after the breakup. My life changed on that day she sent her last message saying it's basically over. It's been a rough two months but hopefully there is light at the end of the tunnel either way.
Thank you for this video!
They told me to stop loving them so much ?
Spot on in my situation towards the end.
I'm lost. My ex told me he cant be in a relationship right now because he has to focus on his mental health and issues with his kids. He said he cant commit right now because of fear from it after his divorce. He said I deserve someone who can give me what I want, and that I should move on. But he wants to remain friends because I'm his best friend. I want to be with him and told him I'd wait for him and be his friend until the time he felt he could. He because frustrated with me. I told him if he needs me I'm here (I'm worried about his mental health and want him to know hes not alone). But I also said I need time and space to be able to get to the point where we could be friends. I want him back. I dont care if he can commit to marriage. That's not a deal breaker for me, but he seems to think it should be. What do I do???
Is that you two in your profile pic? 😂
I have mixed feelings about my Ex, we have a long history and kids but feel so angry about him leaving with no idea it was coming. We see each other occasionally because we have kids but I always just feel anger towards him.
Update?
What if she says dont move on. And she hot and cold.
When shes around her mother. Shes cold.
What should I do?
Been doing no contact. 2 and half weeks now.
There is more to it. The story.
Stay strong dude!no contact works with patience it gives her the time and space to miss you especially if you lived together.2.5weeks is no time at all give it a month or two but focus on you!get yourself out there walk upto random women ask them out for a date flirt a little have fun being single!dont be sad or licking your wounds hey you got with your ex didn't you?so you arnt that bad and must be quite a catch !look on it as the past and it was an amazing experience and learning curve dont feel bitter!if she smells or sees your not over her then it will push her further away because you seem needy and desperate!women want what they cant have and if she cant have you or your too easily available doing nothing she wont come back it's not a good trait is it?
If and when she contacts you ask her if shes available another day instead set a date for dinner at yours and she can bring some wine and make dinner together and have fuuuun!!dont bring up the past dont bring up the relationship just have fun dont say you miss her just play it cool!listen to her and dont over do texts and calls keep it short say you enjoyed speaking to her but you've gotta go keep the calls and texts for dates . All the best buddy I honestly wish you the best of luck.
@@iwantit162 that's good good advice I mean I had to reread that like few times lol and let sink it in. but that was good thank you.
@@lazyreaper992 id really advise any guy out there struggling with a break up to go watch coach corey waynes channel!this guys good but corey is like a wizard without the nicety haha its just straight to the point.
Hi Craig...I just want to request if you could make a video out of this topic...
I've been in no contact with my ex for almost 5 months but he is always giving hidden messages in his twitter which is very uncommon to him...
what do you think? He is always saying goodbye to me which I found very depressing. Though I managed ng how to deal with my personal feelings but I feel uncomfortable coz of my abandonment issue and I hate goodbyes... Please consider... Thank you so much...
That penchant logo goes hard 🔥
I really relate on thia though not on the police part... Hardest part here is she is also my coworker in a different department in the same company we work in... Its been a month now since we broke up.. I still love her still doing the no contact period... Hope you could help me.. If you have skype hope to have a session with you
Hey coach I need some kind of help. About a year and a half ago I began seeing a female coworker. I was with my ex fiancé at the time when I met my female Coworker. She’s 11 years younger then me too. I was and still am so drawn towards her. Never had this feeling with any woman. Well she decided that we shouldn’t see each other like that anymore. She said that we argue too much and that she didn’t deserve me. I really don’t know what to do because I still very much am in love with her and we still work together but not in the same area anymore. She still tries to make some small talk with me but I’ve been just trying to leave her alone and see if she wants to come back to me but she said she thinks we should talk to other people but when she said it her body language wasn’t saying the same thing. But she said she didn’t want me anymore. I need help. It’s been almost 3 weeks since all that and I really miss her so much it’s caused me to have anxiety. Please help. Is there any way I can do payments for you coaching. I’m a single father and it’s kind of tough to just put some 300-500 just like that.
You have some great videos and insight! So happy I found your channel about a week after my girlfriend dumped me after a six month relationship that started off good and the last month of our relationship she was hot and cold. I was very good to her and showed her every day how much I loved her. I made her a priority. She ended it with me. It definitely hurt me really bad! Definitely have learned alot from you that I didn't realize while in the relationship. I was actually going back in fourth in my head on texting her. Then I seen where you stress zero contact. So I have literally watched a bunch of your videos everyday. It's been almost a month and she did finally text me. It was very short but she was definitely thinking about me. I made sure I didn't respond back with I miss you or I love you. Did like you said i was polite but definitely didn't make her think I was desperate or she still has me on the hook. We got really serious and both of us even talked about a future together. It was like she totally just disconnected from me. We never faught about anything really. I hope she appreciates me now that I am gone and realizes things. Thanks Coach!
Thats my fear aniexty from being abandoned 😔
my ex told me to move on, are my chances done for good to get back together? :S
Citlalli Ramos any luck?? Has he got back to you??
What is your situation now? My heart goes out to you
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Your the best thank you so much you help me so much with your video
fantastic video
My kids mother blocked me on everything and started to take pics on social wit this guy lower then me I mentioned it to her who this person is to look out for her interests she said leave me the fuck alone what don’t I get she don’t want me anymore what do I do I still got feelings for her
Hey Coach,
Thank you so much for this Channel. I have done an email coaching with you, and i am trying to get my wife back. We are going to court next Wednesday to sign paperwork for a divorce. There is no way i can get into contact with her, other than through email. She has changed her phone number and blocked me on all social media. What can i do to get her back. We have been in a relationship for 15 years. We have also been through a lot. I believe that she is a Narcissist. I have cut off the majority of my friend through the year and she has a whole new group of single friend she hangs out with. I made all of the mistake when the breakup occurred. The hand written letter, begging, trying to show logic. I even went as far a stalking her one time, and trying to hack into her phone.( This is why she changed her number) I have been in no contact for over a month and nothing. I feel like i have been thrown away like a piece of trash.
What is your situation now terribly sad all of this
Should I say to my ex "I didn't respect your decisions when you wanted at the time and I was to needy and clingy I'm really learning from this" should I say that this is really coming from the heart or should I just go straight to no contact after being in contact with her for the last four days since we broke up. Should I say good morning then automatically use no contact
Perhaps just apologize then say you will leave her alone for good. She might come around when she has more space then what she is comfortable with?
My Ex Broke up with me about 2 months ago. Our relationship was back and forth for 14 years. I would need an hour to Skype with you Craig just to tell you our history to get you caught up to what happened. LOL. I wish I would of come across your videos before then because I did everything wrong. As far as I can tell its totally over, and shes not coming back. because the last thing she said almost 2 weeks ago was that she hopes I can find what it is I want and can be happy. I dont see how it can be repaired and I cant see her changing her mind after that last statement
Did she change her mind
Anything?
She reached out after 3 weeks of no contact telling me she misses me crying telling me how upset she was that I never fixed the issues in the relationship a day later she's like I need to move on like wth.. u called me telling me u missed me now u telling me to move on!!!
This guy is really funny. I feel much better!
I wished I never ended things bad with my ex. I was patient swallow all her baggage until the very end
how about my ex leave me for her another ex? couch craig can you do video about this.. please..
My ex didnt tell me to move on or were never getting back together. We talked about our issues and what we needed to work on. She told me to focus on myself not sure if its the same as move on?
Sean Griffin yes. That means “it’s over.” It happened to me. I was told to focus on myself & I never heard from him again.
I hear from her multiple times a week
My ex broke up with me after 5 years being together he said he doesn't love me anymore and our relationship is very toxic, so many fights and I always suspect him about something he didn't do, he had given me alot of chances but I always fail , I already begged for him but he just pushed me away. Honestly I don't know what to do now 😢😢😢😢 he said that I should move on with my life and forget about him it's been weeks that I keep coming to his place to get him back but all he did was to push me away. Do you think we still have a chance?
Move on.
Update?
is there any way to get your ex gf back one's it's over and there indifferent? Can you get that connection back? She wasn't in different right after The Break-Up but she is now.