Anger & Depression | Kati Morton

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  • Опубліковано 5 лис 2017
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 780

  • @farhan546
    @farhan546 4 роки тому +812

    I don't know why, everytime I feel sad that sadness turns into anger.

    • @stingrayyy
      @stingrayyy 4 роки тому +23

      Any suggestions on how to deal with it? Been struggling for the past few weeks.

    • @brittneywright7880
      @brittneywright7880 4 роки тому +48

      I hope your doing okay because I'm either angry and screaming or crying because I'm so.sick of my self

    • @farhan546
      @farhan546 4 роки тому +8

      @@brittneywright7880 I'm doing fine but until now, I don't know how to deal with it. People say I got anger issue but I'm not so sure myself.

    • @brittneywright7880
      @brittneywright7880 4 роки тому +7

      @@farhan546 people like us need to find the root of our problems and try to remove all the negativity. The hard part for me is removing the negativity.

    • @bobsanderz3005
      @bobsanderz3005 4 роки тому +17

      Everytime I feel anger, my anger turns to sadness. It’s like I have disappointed myself on such a profound level by my anger that I get deeply depressed

  • @Elixarq
    @Elixarq 4 роки тому +375

    When you grow up being the blame for everything you just grow up only to blame yourself for everything.

    • @spartjovic
      @spartjovic 4 роки тому +8

      Don't even have to grow up with it, bro I grew up with it and deal with it from everyone around me right now even.

    • @ayenice3484
      @ayenice3484 4 роки тому +1

      That’s my life ... then I found out I was supposed to be an abortion ... that’s when I figured out that my mistreatment was due to the fact that I wasn’t wanted.
      My “ mother” was supposed to abort me but the protesters scared her away. Not because she had a change of heart. Because some strangers were yelling at her so she went home my bi sexual “ father” didn’t like the decision my “ mother” made plus he was already an addict.
      Threaten me when I was just 5 saying I bought you into this world I’ll take you out! Only to me never to my also bi sexual brother. Then the fact that I’m not gay or bi makes them hate me more.
      My brother follows his fathers footsteps alcoholic, dope sniffer, bisexual, liar and very jealous person. Till this day my brother goes over to my “ mothers” house telling lies just so I don’t come around.
      See I was never part of that family and seeing and knowing that caused me to lash out but because it happened for so long that til this day I get frustrated fast especially when I’m accused of shit I don’t do.
      It’s definitely only a matter of time til I lash out except I’m not 8 or 13 or even 20 I’m older and am about my whits end.

    • @ankitasaini1219
      @ankitasaini1219 4 роки тому +5

      Uni Kitty you just concluded my life there.

    • @loribothwell5493
      @loribothwell5493 2 роки тому

      Yep, usually the kind and gentle get the brunt of things

  • @emmahribar
    @emmahribar 6 років тому +840

    I am so angry a lot of the time. I struggle to not yell and say what I think. It's like I'm pms all of the time.

    • @justawfulgamer7738
      @justawfulgamer7738 5 років тому +128

      this is what my depression looked like. Everyone pissed me off. I was starting to think i was just an asshole.

    • @random-user499
      @random-user499 5 років тому +6

      @@justawfulgamer7738 same.

    • @crazy_old_bat
      @crazy_old_bat 5 років тому +2

      This is my experience as well.

    • @715michala
      @715michala 5 років тому +1

      Why angry all the time?

    • @MyriamAkanicki
      @MyriamAkanicki 4 роки тому

      SAME‼️‼️‼️

  • @kmstirpitz4285
    @kmstirpitz4285 4 роки тому +144

    My anger and actions with depression made me ruin a lot of my social circle. It sucks and I've never felt more alone.

  • @cherry-cm2vt
    @cherry-cm2vt 4 роки тому +50

    Im so sick of my attidute! I got diagnosed with depression, anxiety and couple other clinical inlesses. I am angry ALL THE TIME. I get mad if somebody asks me a single question. I have to argue with my parents everyday! Especially my mom. I feel so bad how I treat my mother. I never meant to be angry on her for stupid things.

    • @Foxsxxy
      @Foxsxxy 3 роки тому +1

      Same but ion hurt family

    • @bincysimon8973
      @bincysimon8973 3 роки тому +1

      Same😕...How do u cope

  • @MrRockett88
    @MrRockett88 5 років тому +165

    I'm really having problems with my persistent depression coming out as anger. Maybe I'm irritable, and things that anyone would find annoying really set me off.

  • @LynHannan
    @LynHannan 6 років тому +255

    At my worst times, I often wished I were never born or could simply wish myself into non-existence. Is that considered suicidal? (I honestly don't think I would ever have the guts, as it can easily go "wrong" and leave you worse off than ever) I've tended to see it as wanting to escape rather than wanting to physically end my life, but maybe I'm wrong. I do have anger issues as well. I've also just found out that depression is linked with arthritis (not just because the pain wears you down), so I'm going to demand a referral to a Rheumatologist and hopefully work out a better pain relief regime, because depression meds don't help the physical pain, and I'm sick of being ignored.

    • @ChipMonsterDinosaurRex
      @ChipMonsterDinosaurRex 5 років тому +34

      I do the same thing, when I get really overwhelmed, angry or sad to the point where I can't stand it anymore. I want to escape as well.

    • @blondiieebabyy
      @blondiieebabyy 4 роки тому +16

      Seek help... I've told myself the same thing for 3 years "I would never" but then I did and it was a scary wake up call that "oh wait.. I would" so seek help❤️

    • @5elementism
      @5elementism 4 роки тому +11

      I had that with my last bout of depression. My counselor said those are passive suicidal thoughts, sorry you are dealing with these, the added to that empty feeling. Counseling helped, and still helps me a lot. If you are not seeing a counselor, give it a go. Hope you start to feel better soon.

    • @KwniStewart
      @KwniStewart 4 роки тому

      I have the same thoughts, I would never physically hurt myself but sometimes I wish I disappear from the earth, but without causing any pain to my body. It's weird I know...we need to see a therapist, personally I don't have money atm and also my country doesn't offer good counseling for free...I heard some terrible things so I only trust experienced and kind therapists

    • @goodintentions1302
      @goodintentions1302 4 роки тому

      Getting angry at the right people turned out to be my way to get myself out of depression. It wasn't intentional but it worked. For arthritis and other autoimmune disorders like MS, diabetes, lupus, chronic regional pain syndrome, etcetera it's good to look into LDN on Facebook. Low Dose Naltrexone has been extremely helpful for many people. Good luck with all of it!

  • @marcellaward6396
    @marcellaward6396 6 років тому +241

    Thank you for making people who struggle with mental illness feel like human beings that deserve love and care like everyone else. Your compassion is endless! I always enjoy your videos. :)

    • @christinalaura3832
      @christinalaura3832 6 років тому +7

      We're all human beings, and we ALL deal with struggles of our own! You deserve love just as much as anyone else does! Stay strong! :)

  • @xostrawberry21
    @xostrawberry21 6 років тому +423

    Me :10 minutes ago: I HATE EVERYTHING 😤 Kati: *uploads this video* me: okay. I’m okay

    • @sarahlynn8672
      @sarahlynn8672 6 років тому +2

      xostrawberry21 same

    • @Katimorton
      @Katimorton  6 років тому +20

      I am SO glad it was helpful :) xoxo

    • @TheCutie314159265
      @TheCutie314159265 6 років тому +1

      xostrawberry21 This could not be more accurate.

    • @mackenzihobbs2299
      @mackenzihobbs2299 6 років тому

      xostrawberry21 so true lmao

    • @stenionet
      @stenionet 6 років тому +2

      Every time I'm angry, I'm depressed. And vice versa.
      Is it so with everyone?

  • @MarkBenYehuda
    @MarkBenYehuda 3 роки тому +7

    I've realized my depression actually comes from the fact I hold back a lot. Whether personal thought about someone or want to confront people but they're actually afraid of it. And whoever I confront, they're the ones who become very defensive and struggling to gain the upper hand of this confrontation.

  • @itdwellsinthewoods
    @itdwellsinthewoods 4 роки тому +315

    I hope you realize that a lot of us just can’t afford help.

    • @scarynight999
      @scarynight999 4 роки тому +14

      Yep 😥

    • @Lunathewhat
      @Lunathewhat 4 роки тому +7

      Your right..

    • @copperrose4376
      @copperrose4376 4 роки тому +46

      Or can’t ask or feel comfortable to reach out
      I wish there was a society where we could all get free and accepted therapy

    • @Pioramic
      @Pioramic 4 роки тому +4

      itdwellsinthewoods sliding scale

    • @ayenice3484
      @ayenice3484 4 роки тому +10

      The right help doesn’t seem to exist

  • @Pxales
    @Pxales 6 років тому +292

    Talking ‘bout anger and depression, I have a quick question- How can I build my willpower to do things? The only thing that makes me do things is when I have someone holding me accountable to do things. It’s the only reason I’ve been able to do homework and getting out of the house. How do I hold MYSELF accountable to do stuff? I just don’t get out of bed if there’s no one forcing me to do anything, then I’m frustrated at myself... I know I should be doing my late assignments, so why can’t I force myself to do them? arghh

    • @NinjaBunni13
      @NinjaBunni13 6 років тому +37

      Sheepishness I'm in the same boat and I hate it so much. Like I know I can be better but it's so hard

    • @MissssSofie
      @MissssSofie 6 років тому +34

      This is such a good question, sheep! I struggle with the exact same thing. It's a cycle of procrastinating till the very last minute, not doing a good enough job, and then getting frustrated at myself ... So, yeah, I don't have an answer, but I do hope Kati or some other clever person does!

    • @EllyWinfield
      @EllyWinfield 6 років тому +18

      I would love a video on this!

    • @rachelpowell2338
      @rachelpowell2338 6 років тому +10

      Reminding yourself of how good you will feel once you get those assigments done!! There is no better feeling than accomplishing something that has been lingering over your head forever!

    • @teeo3044
      @teeo3044 6 років тому +10

      +1. There was a time when literally the only things I did were commitments/Dr's appointments, pharmacy etc. The only time I managed to break out of it in the last couple of years was taking daytime walks in the park, starting once a week and gradually increasing to 3-4.
      I wonder in my case if it's a self-worth thing... Like if someone else is relying on me I'm forced into action, but if it's me that's in peril I struggle to ask for help or help myself. :/

  • @cryskiiim
    @cryskiiim 6 років тому +17

    I've never realized that depression and anger were so closely associated with each other. Thanks for spreading awareness and giving outlets for help. Much love xx

  • @alittlebindi25
    @alittlebindi25 5 років тому +68

    My anger in depression is born out of complete hopelessness. I can think of a million goals I have but also a million reasons why those goals won't be achievable. Doesn't help that I live in a situation where the only person on my side is my mom -- sometimes, when she feels like it. My father is emotionally closed off and too judgemental (always has been, especially since he's a Baby boomer who thinks millennials are wasting their potential and buys into a million stereotypes that he didn't honestly care for when he was younger) and my brother has his own mental health and also a tendency to criticise. I feel so alone most of the time and the only thing my psychiatrist suggested was a small dose of thyroid medication and more vitamin D.

  • @SuviTuuliAllan
    @SuviTuuliAllan 6 років тому +79

    Depression sucks but can't help it because I always mess things up and I can't stop expecting perfection from myself. It makes no sense.

    • @FrankLuver96
      @FrankLuver96 6 років тому

      Suvi-Tuuli Allan i feel this...

    • @Cyatkiten
      @Cyatkiten 6 років тому +2

      Suvi-Tuuli Allan wow...I never related to a comment so much. I may not be able make you feel any better. And I may not fully understand what your going threw. But you are definitely not alone.

    • @33goodwitch
      @33goodwitch 5 років тому

      Suvi-Tuuli Allan you spelled everything in your post correctly :) and you are alive so there must be at least one thing you can latch on to that you have done right :) it's hard to get through it but I find if I try to think of at least one thing I have done right or feel good about it can break up the consistent negativity. Also pick something and purposefully just do it, not perfectly just get it done than tell your self that you did well because you were just doing it, and that is it. This helps me some when I start getting too perfectionist.
      Hope this helps, hang in there you are an amazing and beautiful soul

  • @benjibluebird
    @benjibluebird 6 років тому +81

    I've been being really horrible to myself lately, straight up starving myself these past three days but I've been watching your previous videos and I just hope you know how much of an impact you have on people because you gave me the willpower to pull myself together and plan a lunch with my RA.
    P.S. you're super gorgeous and kind ❤

    • @juneingram669
      @juneingram669 6 років тому +3

      Alex Lemay Covers that's great that you feel better

    • @Katimorton
      @Katimorton  6 років тому +7

      Awe I am SO glad that I can be a motivating resource for you!! You got this!! I am proud of you for making that lunch plan with your RA!!! xoxo

    • @715michala
      @715michala 5 років тому +2

      Hi Benji.cook a nice meal , have a bath or shower , wash you hair lovey :) the UK is enough to drive anyone to depression! !! Hope all is well.

    • @tannatalie6218
      @tannatalie6218 5 років тому +1

      Same here.....

  • @kaylawerkman6398
    @kaylawerkman6398 6 років тому +15

    Perfect timing. I tend to get angry at myself more than anything. I'll hold back from my therapist and get mad, I'll say something wrong and get furious at myself. I'm using a secondary emotion (anger) to cover up my sadness which sucks but I'm working on it. I hope and pray I'll get better

  • @DtheBEE
    @DtheBEE 4 роки тому +14

    I just feel like destroying the world sometimes you know?? My rage is the only thing keeping me going at this point.

    • @jiyuuskiyuu1465
      @jiyuuskiyuu1465 4 роки тому

      fr tho

    • @adri6658
      @adri6658 3 роки тому

      I hate everyone around me, I just wanna get back to the same person I was 2 years ago but it's hard.

    • @SRBOMBONICA86
      @SRBOMBONICA86 2 роки тому +1

      I want all the world to be destroyed sometimes

    • @everydayfun9531
      @everydayfun9531 Рік тому

      I hate everyone and everything and just wish I didn't exist its Mentally Tiring to even Live and Deal with Bull**** with family most of the time especially with my mom and dad.

  • @lifenoggin
    @lifenoggin 6 років тому +91

    SO HELPFUL! :) Thanks Kati!

  • @kaylanelson4620
    @kaylanelson4620 6 років тому +17

    I've struggled with this SO MUCH lately. I've noticed it and tried my hardest to not act out in anger but it just makes it worse. My friends and even some of my teachers have noticed that I have been really angry lately but I had no reason to be angry, now I know that it was just my depression. I've not been hanging out with my friends and whenever i'm around them I get really angry. Thank you kati for creating this video and releasing it at the perfect time. I've been drowning for weeks and I'm definitely going to try to use these techniques. 💜

    • @tomastade5794
      @tomastade5794 3 роки тому

      I know you may not read this but in case you did you are you filling now? I am going through the same thing right not that you have been going 2 years ago and I need your advice.

    • @kaylanelson4620
      @kaylanelson4620 3 роки тому

      Tomas Woldesemayat i’m better now then I was back then. I am now on an antidepressant and it is mind blowing how well it works for me. Things that used to make me explode now don’t even bother me. It takes a lot for me to get angry and if I do, I diffuse within minutes instead of hours to days like before.

  • @davidb7550
    @davidb7550 4 роки тому +34

    How do you fight the depression and the anger when the systems in place constantly grind you down? You try and try, but you're constantly knocked down by forces outside of your control.

    • @Tiffany-ov2jf
      @Tiffany-ov2jf 4 роки тому

      I hope you're on medication, I'm just saying because I used to have a really bad time until I decided to take therapeutic help

    • @jesuschrist1280
      @jesuschrist1280 4 роки тому

      @@Tiffany-ov2jf yeah meds are gona help you for sure...

    • @abhipawar8422
      @abhipawar8422 4 роки тому

      David B Try Anulom vilom breathing you will notice immediate relief.

    • @mskay9597
      @mskay9597 7 місяців тому

      That’s the worst part for me. You’re not alone. I’m so tired 😒

  • @dejameja9
    @dejameja9 4 роки тому +5

    I just wish we could all be happy . I wish it was that easy 💔

    • @RashaOmar-fg5gu
      @RashaOmar-fg5gu 3 роки тому

      Life:Happiness- UHHA HA HA AHA HA that’s hilarious

  • @goofball2228
    @goofball2228 Рік тому +2

    I have ADHD, OCD, Anxiety, and I’ve been experiencing depression as well. I always feel angry, sad, and anxious.

  • @benjamincalhoun9506
    @benjamincalhoun9506 3 роки тому +2

    I get so mad all the time and I just got diagnosed with depression, I’m slowly working towards a happier life thank you video

  • @Lynn-pw7iz
    @Lynn-pw7iz 4 роки тому +28

    I'm either sad, Irritated or having a mental breakdown and wanting to dye my hair purple at 3 in the morning

    • @feralsnufkin3211
      @feralsnufkin3211 4 роки тому +1

      Oof mood

    • @kadenburton9860
      @kadenburton9860 4 роки тому

      Me , i dyed my hair because of a mental breakdown😳

    • @Lynn-pw7iz
      @Lynn-pw7iz 4 роки тому

      @@kadenburton9860 I honestly think it's like a new beginning type thing y'know? 😔

    • @kadenburton9860
      @kadenburton9860 4 роки тому

      Chelsea Art. Yeah, i get that.

    • @Foxsxxy
      @Foxsxxy 3 роки тому

      Bruhhh

  • @Emjh56
    @Emjh56 6 років тому +25

    I needed this video right now. Thank you Kati! You're last 2 videos came at perfect timing!

    • @Katimorton
      @Katimorton  6 років тому +1

      I am so glad it was helpful and well timed!! xoxo

  • @marissavanoudtshoorn8153
    @marissavanoudtshoorn8153 6 років тому +61

    I don't self harm any more .. But I did get something to replace it with... When something is bothering me or I stress or get very angry, I start cleaning the house like crazy... And I will clean All day from morning to that night... Is it still bad way of coping ? I feel like its better than hurting myself....

    • @athenacaputo
      @athenacaputo 6 років тому +11

      Marissa Van Oudtshoorn I'm not a mental health professional but I know people who do this and I would say it's a good thing, obviously it's better than self harming. If you feel like you need to do something else, try adult colouring books, I find those help with my anxiety and they might help you avoid self harm. This is just my two cents but I hope it helps 😊

    • @lynnsixx7416
      @lynnsixx7416 5 років тому +1

      @@athenacaputo THANKs for that 👍 I did not know they had adult coloring books I'm gonna try that

    • @athenacaputo
      @athenacaputo 5 років тому

      lynn Sixx I have two of them, they helped me to deal with my stress and anxiety when my dad was having surgery. Best gifts I've ever been given. I would also recommend getting a good set of colouring pencils or markers. It just makes it a lot more fun when you're not struggling to get a good colour pay off, it's worth the money 😊

    • @aquarius2284
      @aquarius2284 5 років тому +3

      Just remember when you have kids, pls don't make them obsess over cleaning as well or criticize them for not being as thorough

    • @mariaespudiya4985
      @mariaespudiya4985 4 роки тому +3

      Thats productive, me if i get angry, i crash things, break things.. Lash out

  • @sarahjane4730
    @sarahjane4730 5 років тому +1

    Hey Kati! My name is Sarah, I’m 19 and I was in a very bad car accident in December of 2018. I haven’t been able to walk for 2.5 months so far and I’ve gotten quite depressed especially with all of the pain medications’ side effects. This video is very helpful and many others are too. I’ve never sent anyone from UA-cam anything but I am thinking of writing you a hand written letter to tell you my story, what I’m going through and how I’m managing my ptsd and depression. ❤️ Much Love, Sarah

  • @sashal6002
    @sashal6002 4 роки тому +5

    I had to laugh and cry with the second tip, surround yourself with positive people....i don't have aynone around me.

  • @idkwhatimdoin5174
    @idkwhatimdoin5174 4 роки тому +4

    The saddest thing for me is that my whole family loves me, they take care of me, but that one person in the mirror doesn’t

  • @nic3152
    @nic3152 5 років тому +52

    I feel as though I’m trying to convince myself I have depression just to have something to blame for my issues, is that something that’s normal or am I just messed up in an entirely different way

    • @teenyweeny3005
      @teenyweeny3005 4 роки тому +9

      Dawn W i feel the same way. i wish i knew the answer, but i mean.. if you have the symptoms you most likely do

    • @boefje_0733
      @boefje_0733 4 роки тому +6

      Dawn W damn... exactly this is how i feel, thinking about that feeling even makes me so damn angry to the point where i lay in my bed like now its 04:35am and i cant sleep...

    • @neogeo1670
      @neogeo1670 4 роки тому +7

      If you have "issues" you feel depressed... if it last for a period of time and starts affecting your abilities and/or general life quality it is defined as Depression

    • @Autistic_Tarkov_Guy
      @Autistic_Tarkov_Guy 3 роки тому +2

      @@teenyweeny3005 very normal. I've always wanted a label just to have something to blame as it feels better to blame something that's not me

    • @nic3152
      @nic3152 3 роки тому

      @@boefje_0733 omg me too me too! Sorry I never saw any of these comments! I barely sleep anymore unless it’s in the day

  • @trekkintexan5160
    @trekkintexan5160 3 роки тому +2

    This is so me. Im so tired of being constantly angry

  • @corhydron111
    @corhydron111 6 років тому +29

    Hi Kati, could you make onw about "coming out" with depression to loved ones?
    I've been trying to hint at my own depression to my parents, dropping allusions here and there but they mostly either ignore it or more or less intentionally misinterpret my hints as jokes. Whenever I try to tell them about my issues they interrupt me and go on ang on about how much more depressed THEY are and how I have no real problems, compared to them.

    • @ameliamaciorowska5754
      @ameliamaciorowska5754 6 років тому +5

      Yes! I'd love to see a video about that! I hate that I can't find the right words to let my family know how much I'm suffering. This causes me a great deal of frustration.

    • @pond666
      @pond666 6 років тому +8

      I think that many people secretly feel depressed or dysthimic for many years to the point they think it's normal and that everyone else who complains about depression has got to be exaggerating.

    • @JessChristophers
      @JessChristophers 6 років тому +1

      I think Kati has done videos on asking for help. And I’m sure she touches on what happens when people aren’t listening to us.

    • @eloisemarie5219
      @eloisemarie5219 6 років тому

      corhydron111 I know she has others but here's a video Kati did about that. ua-cam.com/video/9Az5InKdKV0/v-deo.html

  • @arran7600
    @arran7600 6 років тому +1

    To those who are reading this, I hope you're okay, I hope you have a great week and thank you for staying here
    Please stay strong or if not, talk with a friend or someone you love
    You're so amazing!
    Thank you Kati for this video, I was recently recommended your channel by my closest friend, your channels great!

  • @MissssSofie
    @MissssSofie 6 років тому +9

    Loved this video! I feel like anger in depression is something we don't talk enough about ... It's tricky for me, because anger is my least favourite emotion to feel, ever! I find it soooo uncomfortable ... ick!
    Also I love the background!

    • @teeo3044
      @teeo3044 6 років тому +1

      Sofie P | It's well known that once you get into therapy for a while that exploring the parts of our psyches that we don't actually like about ourselves (anger for example) is an important milestone, usually at a later stage in therapy, if at all. My therapist asked if I was angry a couple of times during our work (possibly as I've suffered more injustice in my life than average) and I responded "nooo never, I'm the least angry most laid back person ever, I always go out of my way to avoid confrontation", which is true.
      A couple of months later I had a revelation/breakthrough in session and was like "whoaaa I'm reaaaaly angry" I made a joke that she had opened Pandora's box and I was now going to leave the room and run around in the streets like a wild orangutan. Inevitably I didn't do that haha. She told me some anger is an important emotion as it tells us where our boundaries are, and not to disregard it.
      But I still don't know what to do with the newly discovered 'angry corner' of my self. More therapy is in scheduled eventually so hopefully I'll work it out.

    • @MissssSofie
      @MissssSofie 6 років тому +1

      Thank you so much for your answer, Tom! What you're saying makes total sense! I started therapy a couple of months ago and we're kind of getting to like "the root of me" slowly, so I'll make sure to bring this up to her. And funny that you say boundaries, because I've struggled with that A LOT. And oh wow I wouldn't know what to do with it if I suddenly found myself full of anger! I can imagine that could be quite scary, not being able to control it. But, hey, as long as we're working on it, right? :)

    • @teeo3044
      @teeo3044 6 років тому

      Sofie P | Of course! I enjoy discussing things that resonate with me.
      One step at a time, I haven't really discussed a lot of the things that I don't like about myself in therapy, anger being one of them, there's often lots of steps to go through before those kind of discoveries. In my case, with anger, I've seen how destructive it can be in my family and I don't like conflict - so I've developed an opposite where I deny any anger in me exists, to defy my upbringing and prove I'm not like them. A healthy middle ground exists somewhere where some anger can be protective.
      Oh and it wasn't so much that I suddenly experienced actual anger in therapy, I realized and saw how much was suppressed over the years. All the best with your therapy I hope it works out well. :)

  • @user-vv6jr3vm5x
    @user-vv6jr3vm5x 3 роки тому +3

    Lashing out my anger makes me happier

  • @Zerothnz
    @Zerothnz 6 років тому

    I've only recently discovered your channel Kati, but it's already one of my favourite subscriptions. Thank you for talking about these things, the world needs more of it

  • @swansong900
    @swansong900 6 років тому +2

    "If you used to love horseback riding" I'm so glad that was an example. I love riding and thankfully, I haven't lost the release I get from it so far. Working with animals is really helpful for me, it might be helpful for others too.

  • @emmablackwell37
    @emmablackwell37 6 років тому

    This video has literally been my life for the past few months. Thank you for the videos you upload and for simply being you. You always make me feel better and help me better understand my illness. Lots of love. Keep being you xxxx

  • @FaidraP.
    @FaidraP. 6 років тому +1

    You are so precise and positive and accurate and available. Thank you. I feel relief in knowing that people like you exist out there Kati.

  • @Dr_SummerGDavis
    @Dr_SummerGDavis 5 років тому

    Thank you so much for this video. I've recently started seeing a therapist for major depressive disorder after battling with it for about 15 years. Specifically talking about anger in depression helped a few things click for me.

  • @Azperry2
    @Azperry2 6 років тому +2

    Thank you for this video, Kati ❤️❤️
    It’s been a rough couple weeks for me and seeing your face always cheers me up!

  • @liveyerrlifex26
    @liveyerrlifex26 5 років тому +2

    I think externalization of a problem can be life changing. It separates us from the problem. Love love love this and you ❤️

  • @bemeeklezvelveeta6719
    @bemeeklezvelveeta6719 6 років тому

    I've been doing SO much better since I started watching your videos and taking your words to heart, thank you so much Kati :)

  • @SuzannahBee1
    @SuzannahBee1 4 роки тому

    I’ve got anger in depression at the moment, but it’s an anger which is because of things that happen to me and how I’m thwarted in my life despite how long and hard I’ve battled to get somewhere. It’s external sources causing my anger and depression.

  • @prod.daveinthebuildin
    @prod.daveinthebuildin 4 роки тому +1

    I cried. This spoke to me. You've earned a subscriber. Thank You.

  • @hatesquats
    @hatesquats 6 років тому

    Just wanted to say how much I appreciate your videos. I can hear it in your voice & see it in your face that you truly care about your watcher’s mental health & this is not just a UA-cam channel for you to make money. You’re amazing Katie!

  • @theheaterguyryan5052
    @theheaterguyryan5052 4 роки тому

    I get bad headaches and am tired of being angery all the time and also my sister inlaw lives with us, life is shit at the moment she is so disrepectful thank you for your wisdom.

  • @Captain.Basketcase
    @Captain.Basketcase 6 років тому

    Katie, I love you so much. I am so grateful that I found your videos they are very helpful to me and I very much appreciate the hard work you do on your channel and your website and social media. You are truly an inspiration to me and many others, I share your videos all the time and try to get people to either open up about how they are feeling and not feel stigmatized all the time and to at least think about getting help. When I get in my low depressive episodes and struggle with life, I watch your videos. You have a beautiful calming voice and it makes me feel like I am cared about even though I know you are just talking to a camera and do not know me... You make me feel like you are talking to me personally... If that even makes sense..
    And another thing, I work in customer service in a call center where I help people and educate them and stuff and I have started saying "Does that make sense?" with the same exact tone and manner as you do and it seems to calm them down if they were angry and they actually think about what I have told them because they realise that I am not going to stop explaining things in different ways if they need more clarification.
    I have been diagnosed with depression, borderline personality disorder, fibromyalgia, ptsd and anxiety. I have learned so much about how to deal with my issues from you and I know this is a massive long comment, but I am giving you virtual internet hugs right now.

  • @lalelu1280
    @lalelu1280 6 років тому

    Thank you so much, Katie. Good to know that there are people like you. Greetings from Germany

  • @ZumieZumes
    @ZumieZumes 6 років тому

    Thank you Katie! You always know what to say. So happy I found you on the Mental Illness Happy Hour Podcast.

  • @nikherzog9187
    @nikherzog9187 6 років тому

    Thank you so much for this video. Lately my biggest problem has been anger. I've always been a positive person so I've never had to deal with controlling my anger.

  • @iridiansanchez8617
    @iridiansanchez8617 6 років тому

    Even if everything in my life ends up making me feel hopeless or disappointed in me or anyone else, I know that I can come here and enjoy to know that someone like you exists and watch you be the person that I wished I had in my life or was blind to see.

  • @followingbreadcrumbs
    @followingbreadcrumbs 6 років тому +2

    talking about how angry i am with myself about my anger, those are usually some pretty interesting sessions. thank you for covering this topic Kati

  • @estherfallick8177
    @estherfallick8177 6 років тому

    Thanks, Kati! Your videos bring so much peace.

  • @wyndellalmazan9535
    @wyndellalmazan9535 3 роки тому

    Thank you for making me realize and understand whats happening to me right now. I really feel shitty about myself and I always get mad when someone asks me if you are okay or if they are doing simple stuff. I really relate to that. I didn't know that I had been surrounding myself with negativity. Thanks for the tips. You deserved a like and subscribe for this.

  • @nicaart1680
    @nicaart1680 3 роки тому

    Hi Katie. I just bumped in on your UA-cam Channel then I just watched this. Few days ago I had mental breakdown I'm just crying and crying for about 15 minutes and I felt so lonely and helpless that night. This video help me a lot to motivate myself and get up and keep on moving forward. Again thank you Katie. 🥺♥️

  • @annabellamarietv
    @annabellamarietv 6 років тому

    i have lashed out a lot recently and it could possibly be due to my depression, it really pushes away the people i'm around all the time. thank you for making this video to help me understand myself better!

  • @ukumazing
    @ukumazing 6 років тому

    Thank you so much Kati, you've really helped me these past few months, so much so I'm taking the first step and getting professional help. Or at least going about getting it. xx

  • @datawizard130
    @datawizard130 6 років тому +56

    Hm, depression just makes me lazy,sad and not want to deal with people. Or motivates me to make changes. Guess I've had a different experience.

    • @mariekuehler7972
      @mariekuehler7972 6 років тому

      I'm A Nice Guy same

    • @Katimorton
      @Katimorton  6 років тому +9

      Everyone is different!! Today's video was only touching on those who find themselves angry and easily upset when depressed. xoxo

    • @datawizard130
      @datawizard130 6 років тому +1

      Kati Morton Love your videos Katie!

    • @33goodwitch
      @33goodwitch 5 років тому

      I'm A Nice Guy lazy is not a great word to use, instead say your feeling unmotivated, that has the ability to be changed :) and is more action oriented, also it is a very negative way to speak to yourself and therfore reinforces the negative feelings, hope you feel better :) you are a rocks star and are totally awesome!!!!

    • @715michala
      @715michala 5 років тому +1

      Yes I'm lazy when feeling down.I eat like a pig and wonder where I'm going on this journey called life .

  • @nicoledalton6192
    @nicoledalton6192 6 років тому

    Thanks for the video Katie! I friggin love you and your work. As an aspiring graduate student /future clinician, you inspire me every day! I currently work as a recovery coach at MN on the east coast. I admire your creativity in the mental health field so so much!

  • @ironicabeatriz
    @ironicabeatriz 6 років тому

    Your videos are saving my day. Thank you very much!

  • @qualitymango8771
    @qualitymango8771 6 років тому

    I went to hospital today for my depression and by God I was so angry at how it was handled , I got home and just lashed out and broke everything in site.
    This video is very accurate and is helpful.
    Thank you.

  • @ingridangelb8
    @ingridangelb8 6 років тому

    You are great. You are my main source when I'm looking for arguments to fight back my negative thoughts. An I am very thankful because you put the things like in a text book so we can all understand. Thanks

  • @blobbyblobby5627
    @blobbyblobby5627 4 роки тому +1

    Your so great, keep coming back to your videos when I need head space.❤️

  • @boujiatexas1870
    @boujiatexas1870 5 років тому +1

    This is exactly what i was looking for . love you videos

  • @nicolegallegos699
    @nicolegallegos699 6 років тому +1

    You make me feel normal. Like I am gonna be ok. Thank you. You have helped me in some dark times.

  • @creamsoda9334
    @creamsoda9334 6 років тому +1

    Externalizing the anger... That's something I never thought about doing. I'll try it out. Thanks Katie! Always so helpful.

    • @mandolaa4855
      @mandolaa4855 3 роки тому

      If I'll externalize my anger, I'll fight so bad a tsunami of emotions will come out

  • @beck3498
    @beck3498 6 років тому

    I’m doing a project on the stigma of mental health for school. This not only will make a great resource for research, but also was just something I needed. Having a rough day today so thank you for affirming that anger is not just me being an angry person.

  • @trippymartian8847
    @trippymartian8847 3 роки тому +1

    It is all on me. My life, my responsibility, my choices. I know it’s my fault that’s why my depression is silent and hidden.
    “How you feeling today?”
    “Whatever.”
    “Hmm🤔”

  • @reubenbulko
    @reubenbulko 4 роки тому

    This is the best video on depression I’ve ever seen, mostly because she’s not some medical doctor and seems to have very in depth personal experience with all of this so this is very comforting as I can relate to all of this and with the people in the comments!

  • @cprime4097
    @cprime4097 6 років тому

    You help me so much! Thank you for what you do!!

  • @eloisemarie5219
    @eloisemarie5219 6 років тому

    So good Kati. Thx. Needed this right now. I love that you are using your tag line again.

  • @marwafayed8020
    @marwafayed8020 6 років тому

    you are absolutely right . It is the negative thoughts which are the main cause. I discovered that I was conditioned since an early age to think negative thoughts towards myself because of my toxic narcisstic family , but gradually after getting older & dad s death & marriage of my 2 narcisstic brothers , everthing is going to the better.

  • @xspilemesterx_5384
    @xspilemesterx_5384 3 роки тому +2

    Good advice. I’m not strong enough and I’m too scared to go get help. Life sucks

  • @NinjaBunni13
    @NinjaBunni13 6 років тому +1

    This video was so helpful, thank you Kati 💛

  • @33goodwitch
    @33goodwitch 5 років тому +1

    Along with the showering thing, brush your teeth, it always feels good to have minty fresh breath when it feels like nothing else is good, feeling warm and clean is so amazing :)

  • @TraumaSurvivorCynthia
    @TraumaSurvivorCynthia 6 років тому +23

    I am depressed with severe PTSD and anxiety since my Dad was murdered.😩😓😳

    • @RJones-tn5vg
      @RJones-tn5vg 6 років тому +6

      :(

    • @iflymilly
      @iflymilly 6 років тому +8

      Cindy Smith so sorry :( yes please reach out to someone! We’re all on this earth for each other, you know. Lots of love your way 💕

    • @TraumaSurvivorCynthia
      @TraumaSurvivorCynthia 6 років тому +8

      iflymilly
      I have been through 36 therapists in 18 years..... I finally found a therapist that knows what shes doing.🌺🌴

    • @layslifestyle2265
      @layslifestyle2265 6 років тому

      Cindy Smith lucky ya

    • @gamergirllia209
      @gamergirllia209 5 років тому +2

      Omg I’m so sorry 😥

  • @Windradini
    @Windradini 6 років тому +1

    thank youuuu Kati :D
    i love your videos, its giving me a hope to keep living

  • @xosammyj09
    @xosammyj09 6 років тому

    I’ve finally accepted the fact that my anxiety and depression is both mental and chemical. Sometimes there’s only so much I can do, and medication is my best option right now. Thank you for clarifying why angry depression happens 💗

  • @joewalker9930
    @joewalker9930 4 роки тому

    Even though I'm still struggling with depression and anger for 3 years now, this video helped me a lot.

  • @iamaloafofbread8926
    @iamaloafofbread8926 4 роки тому +21

    Hi I'm just a loaf of bread wiggling by

  • @CliffRooks
    @CliffRooks 6 років тому +7

    This is honestly my favorite channel :-)

    • @juliakristinamah
      @juliakristinamah 6 років тому

      I agree with you! One of my favorite channels too!

  • @sarahansdell4976
    @sarahansdell4976 6 років тому

    Great video and advice Kati. Thank you always .

  • @stellarfrosting
    @stellarfrosting 3 роки тому

    Showering is awesome, simple, life-saving thing to do when depressed!!

  • @nikkimckay860
    @nikkimckay860 3 роки тому

    Come across this video from kati s channel I don't remember ever seeing this video I know it's a old video from 2017 but I had this a week ago I when I'm feeling very depressed and at my worst I have angry thoughts and I get angry and sometimes say horrible things to someone I like or care about depression makes you angry at yourself I know how it feels having anger when you are depressed because sometimes I just shout or swear at myself in my mirror being genuinely angry is 1 thing but being angry when your in a depressed state is worse having someone or something to ease your anger helps can t believe I missed this video glad I found it

  • @melissa4856
    @melissa4856 6 років тому

    My hurt, anxiety and depression and walls comes across as anger 😑 done with it at the moment.period.whew need a moment. Thank you for for posting this.

  • @silviac6120
    @silviac6120 5 років тому +4

    I just argued with my significant other because I feel like shit and sometimes some things he does confirm things I think of myself and I explode. It's a loop of "why am I even here if you don't even like me" and symilar things.

  • @danielrestrero6846
    @danielrestrero6846 4 роки тому +1

    I do thank you, your video has got me today!

  • @blainefiasco8225
    @blainefiasco8225 4 роки тому +1

    I was just super rude to a cashier. I never do that and feel terrible. My anger issues are getting. Good to know a technique to indirectly help.

  • @herekittykitty0099
    @herekittykitty0099 3 роки тому

    this woman is a genius and she doesn’t mince words

  • @ashleydjanie7633
    @ashleydjanie7633 4 роки тому

    I subscribed. I'm impressed thank you for making this video

  • @cinnamonrobinson2267
    @cinnamonrobinson2267 3 роки тому

    I realized my anger was just grief and I’m working on it thank you for this video

  • @marymerp1894
    @marymerp1894 4 роки тому +3

    It pisses me off a lot when people asks me if I’m mad making me even madder because I always have a little frown on my face but that doesn’t mean I’m mad I’m just used to having my face looking like that. But now I’m pissed because everyone is always pressuring me to do this, to do that, to calm down, to be less angry and I just want to explode and punch everyone because I’m tired of everything and everyone I’m so done with everyone’s bullshit like LEAVE ME THE HELL ALONE

  • @aussiecowboah8825
    @aussiecowboah8825 3 роки тому +1

    That quote resonated with me soooooooo much.

  • @foxmfilms
    @foxmfilms 6 років тому

    this video was uploaded at the perfect moment thank you

  • @icoyglorioso3569
    @icoyglorioso3569 4 роки тому

    Thanks for the advices.

  • @jonathanalvarado2704
    @jonathanalvarado2704 5 років тому

    Thing is that even when you do fight back it creates something that Numbs all emotions. Happiness, anger, sadness is all trapped around a box trying to get in and you can feel it but you feel empty. It’s weird even when you have people around you. You can be “happy and social” but inside you feel hollow. Sometimes it’s so numbing you feel if someone died in front of you you wouldn’t feel anything. It’s weird it’s like when I feel the most pain it just all vanishes you feel cold and hollow and people are annoying, with friends who you used to be cool with being seen as “useless”

    • @jonathanalvarado2704
      @jonathanalvarado2704 5 років тому

      Advantage is I don’t feel like other people. I judge myself in harsh manners and others. If I mess up it’s my fault and my job to fix it, crying or being sad does nothing. When I drink though all those feelings come back for a time so I like to write how I feel and it’s crazy cuz when I look at it it’s just not me sober

  • @Xavier-qu2vn
    @Xavier-qu2vn 3 роки тому +2

    My anger Is what keeps my depression away

    • @Butterflygirl327
      @Butterflygirl327 3 роки тому

      Same here my anger stops me from crying and it keeps my own depression away.

    • @Xavier-qu2vn
      @Xavier-qu2vn 3 роки тому

      @@Butterflygirl327 I was fighting someone older than me and he kept asking me if I'm done and I said no and I kept going and a beat him

  • @tbearmcconnelly1762
    @tbearmcconnelly1762 6 років тому

    It doesn't matter anymore cuz I'm giving up!!!I'm tired of fighting my MDD,ED & BPD & getting nowhere dispite the fact I putting every effort into changing things but nothing helps.So why bother trying anymore!!!I'm obviously not worth it!!!
    Thank you for this video Kati!!!You are amazing!!!