Your Parents Are Lonely. Do Something Now.
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A big crisis is looming over our country and no one seems to be talking about it. I'm talking about the loneliness that is slowly engulfing our parents' generation. Contrary to what you might think, depression - often a consequence of loneliness - is more prevalent in our country than western countries. So what good are our family structures? We take pride in taking care of our parents, then why are our parents feeling lonely despite being around people? The issue is more complicated than you think but it's very urgent. And this is what I want to address in this video.
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The main reasons of loneliness of parents starts after high school of their children, in INDIA students are also so lonely, because of future tensions and also due to competitive exams and the failure, because of which both parents and students feel lonely.😒😕
Well if our parents could understand it then it would have been better
But what to understand bro?
@@creativity9014 our feelings
@@SUSBOII68 they were students too once, and probably treated the same way. In India, parents can be very rough , and often try not to be friends with their chidren. it is essential in parenting but then again, someone has to act mature
I am 25 and still tell my mom everything about life even when I got subject of mockery. I feel they are my parents and I must take time to learn to communicate them. I would learn communication skills to roam around a girl or get into a toxic friends group who just want attention from you but I won't do that for my parents. Why? We say terms like "helicopter parenting" n all but people don't understand the term cultural psychology which changes stuff altogether. Different cultures have different ways of behaving and you can't expect to follow white people psychology. This is just colonial mindset.
Living under same building, same room, and still feeling lonely while your family is together is a big crisis.
This is happening because of many reasons
Education System which is Sucking Blood from Child & Parents - Mental health, Financial Drain starts from childhood
Overpopulation issues less space for Fun - Open Ground, Park, etc
Little bit of Physical Activity - Package Foods, Old Cooked Food, not supported Sports from Childhood
Rather than Healthy Discussion of an issue Toxic Discussion, Taunts is Prioritised
They think taunting is better way of teaching by this Child gets cutoff from Parents
Beating is like good way of Teaching for them this also cutoff Child Emotional Connect with Parents
What Movies had shown them 40 - 50 years when they implemented those things in life it doesn't worked like that in so many cases they are Confused what to do
They feel shy in accepting there mistakes till they understand it next Generation got almost same habbit of it
This is happening because of many reasons
Education System which is Sucking 🩸 from Child & Parents - Mental health, Financial Drain starts from childhood
Only hope left is New Education Policy 📚
Which will change the System but it will take 20 - 30 years
They are Implementing it slowly slowly
You can search about it on Internet every month some news comes about it
If too much Force is Applied System will Collapse - Protest, Strike, etc
Already many Parties are against this
Some Teachers are Protesting against this
Some Parents are Protesting against minimum 6 year Rule for 1st Class Admission, No School Bag day, Open Choices, etc
They are Implementing it slowly slowly
We can search about it on Internet & get updates how things are happening in this Field
Every month some news comes about it
Everybody is Lonely brother 😐😐😐
🗣️:Fact
sahi hai but parents need some extra care at this age. They don't have much time left anyways 😢.
लड़े जंग वीर के तरह जब खून खौल फौलाद हुआ,"मरते दम तक डटे रहे वो तब ही तो देश आजाद हुआ!! ❤️💪
🇮🇳"जय हिन्द" 🇮🇳
Real.
Bro but we should take care of our parents . I have lost my dad 2 years back now Ik how it feels without him . I am just 16 years old and in future I will earn money but.. no one can fill that empty space . So advice u all who is reading my comment plz care ur parents.
When ever i try to talk to my parents, I regret it. Constant judgement, complain and so many things. They make me regret talking to them really.
And in childhood what would you do with them....bhaiii?
@@danish_thelearner mom only talked to me during childhood. Dad either remain silent or talk while giving punishment
@@danish_thelearnerbro thought he cooked 🤣
@@danish_thelearner bro tried to cook but it burnt!
💯💯
Parents themselves and their obsession over social status are becames biggest reason of stress and anxiety for child
+1
True , i got IIT Ropar CSE and my father was still mad at me that i couldn't get IIT delhi CSE.
The situation at my home was so toxic and i just wanted to leave my home i am not even 20 years old and i feel like my home is full of toxicity
@@LearnoPhile-xy8om Don't sweat it one bit. Follow your dreams, your accomplishment is commendable! Work hard during college, because what others have told you that "you only need to work until you get into IIT" is a blatant lie. Your fight is going to start in the middle of your 2nd year, after which you need to figure out how to up your CS skills, figure out internships, etc. Unless your dad is a Director of Engineering at a tech company or greatly accomplished in another field, I can say he doesn't know what he's talking about. (As for me, you may choose to "Google" my name to figure out my accomplishments!)
All the best!
True...
Totally agree 💯
"The biggest reason for our loneliness is the expectations we have from each other 😢
Yes!
Exactly 💯
Expectation is there when there is relationship. That is how people relate with each other. That is why we need family, that is why we live in a society.
Else, enter the forest, live a renounced life if you don't want any expectation from anyone or have expectation from anyone.
@@sarthakdas-qr1mo there's a difference between no expectations and unreasonable expectations. No one owes it to you to help you not feel lonely. Your mental health is your own responsibility.
@@vh7138 yes agreed unreasonable expectations is the problem but to say no expectations altogether is equivalent to throwing out the baby with the bath water.
This might be an unpopular opinion - but there is a reason many Indian children want to live away from their parents. My parents always see and treat me as a child. Despite multiple efforts to try and help them change their ways (eating and staying indoors for entertainment) they laugh at my attempts to stay fit in my own life, and are very often racist and do not want to make friends their own age. They only want their children to take care of them, but are authoritarian and will not budge from their positions. I love my parents and recognize they gave me a lot - but that is what a parent is supposed to do. Staying with my parents meant not achieving my full potential and succumbing to their negative habits. I know I am not alone in this situation. I look at other parents who have better relationships with their kids and often crave that.
Yes, some parents never want to adjust with their kids or the times.
You still see women get married and are mentally broken down to leave their job and be a homemaker with no respect.
I kind of relate to this. They are used to a dynamic where the parent always has to tell the child what to do, be the taskmaster and lead/control what everyone in the house is doing. Some of them may have had this dynamic with their parents as well, and are repeating that. Or some parents are not able to handle the power dynamic and end up misusing that power when their kids are small, leading to long-term resentment and dissolution of the relationship. Like you mentioned, there’s also the massive shift in culture and values between generations, leading parents and children to have different focus and goals altogether. For me as a woman, for example, my standards for things like relationships, children and how I spend my time are often vastly different from what my mom and mother-in-law have. They are content with more traditional gender roles, whereas I am not.
In an ideal world, we would all listen to each other honestly and try to learn. We have a lot to learn from our parents’ stories and insight, and we need to acknowledge their full humanity, as they need to acknowledge ours as well. We both maybe need to drop our expectations and just have more curiosity about each other.
You wrote my mind, man. I have tried to involve them, but they alienate themselves and then try to embellish their version of how my life should be like. After 5 iterations of attempts, I gave up. It's been almost 2 years after my marriage , that I have contacted them. I have a daughter now, and fear their influence will make her life go in the same toxic path that I went through. With heavy heart, I am living each day, one at a time, and I will be punished for my sins one day, but at least my child won't have to go through what I have gone through.
I completely agree with you. Most of the Indian parents do not develop any hobbies, are strictly against trying new things, meeting new people. They are entirely dependent on their children to help them to get through their daily lives. I love my parents to death but at the end of the day you need to find something that makes you happy & you can do it independently. Depending too much upon someone is unhealthy for both the parties.
Thank you for this comment.
Such kahu na to hamara culture hi kharab hai na koi sports, na koi club, na book reading, na fitness, na koi music sikhna,, sirf agle pidhi ke bare mein sochna aur unse ummide palna aur parents kabhi jee hi nhi paate pura dhyaan unka baccho pr hota hai kabhi khud pr bhi dhyaan dena chahiye unhe aur jb baccha koi accha job krta hai to wo kahi bahar jata hai ya apne mein vyast rahta hai to parents ke paas apna kuch nhi bachta..
Our culture must reform.. That's it!!
This!!!
Very very good point.❤ my father didnt had any hobbies except getting groceries. My mother like gardening and does it alot.
We should learn some good stuff from the western culture, instead we are busy criticising them.
Best comment so far and that's the only solution.👍 It's true that we need social connections and something to do in life to live happily. Hobbies fulfill both the goals. Expecting everything from children will only result in depression.
So true... Indian parents koi plan hi ni krte ki krege kya job se retirement ke bad.... Or unke bache us phase me hote h struggle kr rhe hote h ya job me stability dhundhte h ... Pure time bacho ki job shadi ya unke bacho me engag hona chahte h jb ki wo us phase se gujar chuke h fir use me jaate h kitna weird h bacho ko krne do Bhai ab tumne ji liya wo phase... Ab dusri chize sochni chahiye apni health ya hobby pr kam kro pr nhi bacho se jada tension lege or koi solution km ghar me stress level or bdha dege... Negative bol bol kr..... Parents b full toxic mode pr chle jate h or bache dono side regrat me jite h stable ni ho pa rhe na parents ko khush kr pa rhe...
parents don't understand us, we don't understand them. Simple. Everyone's lonely they gotta get over it
Solution is get rich. So atleast financially you don't have to struggle and focus on solving the loneliness or such problems
Exactly
@@i-Consume-Only-Useful-ContentYes bro, money is soln of most of the problems.
sound like dad 😒
They are always trying to do good for their children and they just sometimes don’t realize that they are doing something that hurts u
This is by far the best comment section on any video of mohak, people sharing their personal experience gives me so much perspective on the relationship dynamics between a parent and their kids.
Genuinely speaking Mohak videos have the best comment section in all infotainment content creators
The reason is the toxic family system of India and parents failing to be there for their children emotionally which in turn makes their children have the same attitude towards the m
100%
My father used to be in electronics servicing business for 40 years. In my entire childhood all I could see was him going early and coming late. He enjoyed his life at his fullest along with mother who works for the government. He eventually retired and went to farming while my mom is about to retire soon. All my life I can remember about them is their expectations from me. They wanted me to do engineering which I obviously denied but they still force me to do other things their way. They can't understand or appreciate my personal perspective towards things which makes me a bad guy in their eyes. It hurts me that I can't make them understand cause they're too stubborn and just call me out on it. I do love them but in the end, if I stay with them in the long term the only thing which I'll see is their happiness and not mine. I know that I'm not alone in this sinking ship so I do appreciate others speaking out to their parents and doing something about it. Cause leaving them would be the most heartbreaking but a necessary process for self development.
Well I understand the situation. As old age comes a lot of stubbornness and anger issues come up, not to mention the memory problems. It's not easy to deal with. However you have to understand that they have no one else to turn to and get angry and stubborn. As they brought you up, they were in full control and suddenly when you start to take the call on how things should be done, they become rebellious. But you will have to manipulate things in such a way to make them feel they are in control so they are also happy. Remember your children grow up seeing how you treat your father and the cycle would just repeat itself.
For me nowadays l like act as dumb and idiot. For that u have to lot of lie to yourself.
Bro if they are narcissistic just leave them. Don't be too emotional like the others.
@@TheHomelander2099 bro if your mom was not an emotional fool na she not had to carry you in her stomach for 9 months so if you consider your parents are narcissistic then i am sorry to say but your mom was and is an emotional fool and ya don't think that what you have written made you a sigma. Please love your parents 🙏🙏
@@aditgadiya9680 bro whatever you're saying it doesn't make sense with what I said
😢Loneliness is not the absence of people, but the absence of purpose. It's the feeling of being disconnected from the world, and from oneself. But even in the darkest moments, remember that loneliness is a universal human experience, and that you are never truly alone.❤
True.
Thanks for this!
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Jiddu krishnamurthy said loneliness happens when you think too much about yourself and not others
@@jaylogu5675make sense for some.. But not everyone I guess.. Maybe u r in condition where no one likes u u.. What about that case?
Her dad found her naked, lying motionless on the floor with a broken pelvic girdle, disfigured limbs and shattered pieces of glasses in her eyes, bleeding incessantly. Her plight in those final minutes is unimaginable. Her parents were denied any contact with her dead body for 3 hours . A scapegoat is in custody. Dean said she was psychotic. After the transfer to CBI, renovation work started in the hospital. At this point it's not just a doctor issue anymore, it's just inhumane. We keep unlocking lower levels of inhumanity year after year. Fools were those, who even hoped there would be reforms after the Nirbhaya case. It's been 12 years. Nothing has changed.
Please raised you voice and do something regarding this case.
Means 10 people😢
Shame on wb government
Yess please raise ur voice
Government in general.. it's not just wb girls who are not safe, it's all of us@@Yash-yu7eq
@@Yash-yu7eq
Shame on govt .why not sahme on the society
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shame on parents who raised their son like rapiest...trust me
I appreciate the empathy you have expressed in this video. No one deserves to be lonely. But sadly a lot of people this age group are extremely selfish. My parents and many of the 1950-65 born folks, have 7-8 siblings, and they're always arguing and comparing and gossiping amongst each other. There is a general idea that just because someone is older, they deserve respect even if they express rudeness and ill behaviour. There is chronic envy and jealousy, abundant negative comments and zero positive reinforcements. Their chronically ill behaviour causes others to withdraw because you have to walk on eggshells around them and constantly be careful to not anger them because you disagree with them. Then these same people complain that no one wants to speak to them.
I empathize with the loneliness epidemic, but a deep bond and connection can only be built if both parties are kind and compassionate, and not ego driven narcissists.
Meanwhile CEOs like Narayan Murthy, Anupam Mittal, Kunal Shah and many others like them want us to work for unrealistic 70/80/100/120 hrs. a week which drains so many precious hours from our personal lives which we would gladly like to spend with our parents.
exactly they should realise that We have a personal life too
Exactly , vikasit bharat by 2047. Not just parents, even new born will be lonely
That's the target plus imameind
Biggest scam
@@AdhyatmVidhisahi baat hai kya karenge aise viksit bharat ka jisme log apni family ko hi time nahi de paye
If one spend those many hours in their 20s to gain skills, that can take them to a position where they can generate or bring wealth to their families and the country. Most bootstrapped entrepreneurs, not born with a silver spoon, would have spent so much time.
How many hours a week do you think Mohak worked at his peak youth years, to gain the competence to produce high value content now?
Having said that, we do not have a social net, or structure without which people lose meaning in life after retirement.
Parents and kids need to meet in the middle, and find ways to spend quality time together.
Thank you Mohak for making videos on Topic that are serious but people often neglect it.
Please make a video on daddy issues 🙏
@@Aman-pr3pobruh lmao
Yes
Well, quite often, the parents are toxic, and the children feel the need to keep them at hand.
Don't you wonder that elderly people from western countries ever feel lonely??? Even if they do feel lonely there's a high chance that percentage would be far less compared to the elderly people of our country and that's because they don't stop learning,they take care of themselves and hace active social life, unlike our parents whose entire indentity is being parent...they don't ever participate in clubs,they don't enegage in activities that would strengthen their body and mind and most important they think that it's the job of kids to raise them again,make THEM feel happy
Once they become parent they are nothing now
They are left being parent
So real!
I think self love is very our generation concept.
Realest
I think we also need to acknowledge that most parents in India didn't have the money and time for leisurely activities while they were raising kids...
So true
Oversimplification of the problem. Many a times, the elderly are quite nasty and selfish. They will take out the guns of Sanskar every time they want something done their way. They will always preach about the things they have never followed in their lives. Many of them have never lived with their parents but expect that from their own kids. They dont want to move at all and want all the household work done by others, especially their daughter in laws.
I 100% agree. A lot of hypocritical mindset and behavior. I feel annoyed after having a conversation with an elderly person. Not always but sometimes it's very tough. They also judge very quickly 😂
@@VarallikaMehta23 so true!
@@VarallikaMehta23 two ladies discussing about taking care of elders 🙄 reality is many of you haven't work in your homes but after marriage you have to take responsibilities & everyone whether a man or a woman don't want any type of responsibilities. I have seen my mother shared a good bond with my dadi & now my wife also taking responsibility and sharing a bond with my mother. I have a very fantastic bond with my in laws. My wife also doing a job but she never complained about my mother. It's about responsibility and seeing in laws as own father & mother 👍
Things are good for u doesn't mean other has the same. @@Supermanmaurya28
@@Supermanmaurya28 just because apke case Mai ye hua doesn't necessarily mean har case mai ho daughter in law agar apni saas ko maa maane bhi tab bhi efforts do trf se hone chiye aapke case mai esa tha u r very lucky but unfortunately har case mai nhi hota esa
The very first thing I did just halfway through the video was to book movie tickets for tomorrow for the whole family, realising that my parents might be lonely.
Thank you :)
वीडियो के बीच में सबसे पहला काम जो मैंने किया वह यह था कि पूरे परिवार के लिए कल के लिए मूवी टिकट बुक करना था, यह महसूस करते हुए कि मेरे माता-पिता अकेले हो सकते हैं।
Hindi translation 🗿🗿
Lucky you are to live with your parents
Nice❤@@Abhis_Raw
Which movie are you going to watch with your family??
How are we supposed help our lonely parents when we ourself face a bunch of mental diseases.
Don't be selfish...Had they thought similarly then you wouldn't at the stage where you're today
@@djohn0909 Once we become a parent we realise the real meaning of our parents situation
This is a loop where the solution and issues are in two different era
Kaash tumhare parents bhi yahi soch kar tumhe akela chodh dete🙂
😢
Well brother you can help others to help yourself. I've tried doing it and it helps massively.
Perhaps 50% of depressed parents can be explained by bratty or self-indulged children, sure.
But probably 50% or more of such parents who are lonely or depressed thrashed their children, never emotionally connected, never took interest in the child's interests, never developed a single conversation with the child, demeaned the child routinely, physically and emotionally neglected their children while expecting god-like reverence in response. In general, they expected their child to be SEEN but never HEARD. Then those parents turn around and complain when their every desire is not met, children dream of an escape from that toxic life.
People should ask themselves why if when 2 parents live together they become lonely, but a child living by themselves remains elated. The truth is between the parents themselves, 99% of the time there is some deep resentment, no social connection between husband and wife, no real interest taken in each other except for their "duty" and social obligations (like serving food, or paying for whatever bills). Beyond this duty, these types of parents remain in a toxic relationship with everyone in their lives, not just their children.
Those parents never knew how to be in a relationship with anyone, and now find a socially acceptable excuse to blame the children, when really the children and the family is a product of their horrendous parenting.
Why all these is extremely resonating with me. Parents, especially father expect you to do what they want not listening about what the child wants. That leads to a toxic image of parents in the child's mind. That is why when the child grow up they do what had been happening with them since they were very small. And, society blames the child for forgetting their parents. How is this justified??
Explains many things
On point💯
उनमें से बहुतों कि भावना ग़लत नहीं है
पर उस भावना को लागू करने का तरीका गलत है
तरीका जब बदले जब उस पर वो बात करना चाहें
जवान अवस्था में अपने तरीके के बारे में वो सुन्ना नहीं चाहते
बुढ़ापे के समय बाद में जब परिणाम आते हैं
फिर सोचते हैं ऐसा कैसे हो गया
हमने तो सब ठीक किया था
Finally someone spoke the truth
My parents were not there for me you know...i will do exactly what they did to me..support them financially but emotionally no. They always crushed my feelings,never appreciated me, made me feel sidelined...so tgats what they get now. Let them be lonely...i am not going to talk with them just to relive my trauma.
It's fine. I can understand.
Its ok, be a good parent to your children!
this.
Same. Ain't no nationalist can say, "In the end,They are your parents vro🤡" when they don't know what people like us have faced.
Relatable😂
Dear Mohak Mangal Team'
I would humbly request you all to please make a video on Kolkata's RG KAR HOSPITAL case . please help the VICTIM to get justice by letting people know what is happening in KOLKATA. This is not a state issue now it is a national issue. It is not only about doctors safety but it is about the safety of women in India and please also address this problem faced by Female doctors in rural areas. The sister should get justice and whole India should know about this case and support the protesters. JUSTICE SHOULD BE GIVEN . i am asking you to make a video in this because people who are still unaware about this come to know about this and people should help the victim , the sister to get justice . PLEASE MAKE A VIDEO ..
Yes please! We request
if you try to treat your children like assests and try to dictate them and abuse them especially fathers this is bound to happen
they will always try to run away as far away from them as possible.and later how do you expect them to love you back when you leave them in boarding school from 3rd class and expect them to love you with out you being part of their life
sometimes i would look at my father photo just to remember his face because i never got to stay with him even i stay always comapring me with others and shaming me infront of my relatives and friends whay would i want such a person in my life.
everyone do not get parents who are just friendly and underrstanding th ereality is most of the parents are just abusive😞
true... abuse is a very common occurence by parents towards their kids. The kid's own brain won't feel safe with parents and the sad part is that the kids do not even know why they feel repulsed. Most important of all, indian parents including mine are unapologetic.
Thank you for this comment
Great topic to touch, also a matter of discussion Mohak.
You considered good points but not major ones (mentioned below), and I would love to see if you could create a second part on it too.
1. Living together limits few things, either it's eating habits or daily schedule, that needs to be on a common ground (not reliable in work related scenarios).
2. Single girl child who got married, please consider all possibilities (OfCourse, no issues with ones who got money).
3. Adamant parents, hark to talk and not easy to make a point.
4. Parents who do not socialize at all, how can they start it all of a sudden if they struggle with daily tasks.
5. Finding a common topic with large age gaps is hard, either parent won't hear it, or child would spend the time pretending to understand.
6. Money problems are not solvable anyways. If they have to stay away, they got to stick to it.
Single Girl Child issue can be Solved by Joint Family System
But for this Family shouldn't be Toxic, not indulging into each other family member too much specially when they want there own Space
Only then they can Live Jointly & happily
Sport's can help in many ways
If you don't like hard sports or doesn't have capability of it
You can Play Soft Sports like - Badminton 🏸, Table Tennis 🏓, etc
If you want more fun then don't count every match score
Enjoy the Activity without the hassle of loosing or winning
Not only parents todays youngsters also suffering from loneliness
but when i visit my village in Maharashtra i don't feel loneliness
I was born in a middle class family, my mother died at young age. My dad and my grandmother are the only people who take care of me. When I was 8 years old I was diagnosed with ODD and learning disability. They made me feel guilty about it. I have a lot of anxiety. I stopped bathing for days.They always compare themselves to other kids, it affected me so much that I felt s***idal, they yell at me every d**mn day for not being like the other kids. My dad m**********s and watches p**** in front of me, even though I'm a minor, he doesn't know what privacy means.i solve it by using headphones at full volume and covering myself with a blanket. when my grandmother and my father are not at home. I feel like I didn't do anything wrong, I don't feel guilty like I feel. I want to stay away from them as much as possible so I don't feel guilty.
To be honest, I don't know if I'll make it out alive after 4 years.
Edit: some thoughts, mohak mangal was born in privileged family, he met his parents expectations. What about those who are born in middle family? I don't think his video reached target audience (judging from the comment section of this video)
Your mental health and wellbeing are very important. Being surrounded by people who love you and care for you without any judgement is the best. Move out from your home when the situation is right. Not every parent deserves children.
Hope u are ok .sometime I feel that.please talk to someone
Please ask for help. Don't get shy
I understand your situation , well never lose hope , try to move out of the family 🙃 ( I know it's going to be very hard for you , but you won't regret it later ) only if you aren't minor .
thats quite a troubled childhood you had there. Hope you find solace in people who you trust and can perhaps move out, for your own well being. Times will change & you will find sunnier days in your life!
So sorry to hear what you are going through. It's unfortunate we have parents who are insensitive in front of their kids. Sorry about your mother's loss too.
Stay strong. You know what is right and wrong. Remember that your identity is not based on what your parents, grandparents or friends think about you.
Your identity is your kindness, loyalty, love ,empathy and who you are as a person.
Concentrate on building yourself up. There is light at the end of the tunnel. Never ever give up.
It may be tough now, but great days are ahead of you.
All the best. 🎉🎉🎉
I’m childfree by choice … it is sad people have children with the expectation that the children will give them life purpose…
How do you deal with constant judgement and lecture from in-laws and maybe your own parents?
If there are proper job opportunities in Hometown, no one will leave their parents alone. In small cities, people who have completed their post-graduation also get merely a salary of 10k-20k per month that too after crossing so many hurdles, which is too low to carry out monthly expenses.
It's better to earn early and later group back together 🙂
This is a very good point. India must bring good job opportunities in other cities also apart from those big cities. We don't want to leave our parents and just because we don't have proper jobs in hometown we have to leave them anyhow
@@ushmedax2004this country is shit just search abt kolkata case
You are absolutely right
@@ushmedax2004 yes they dont want to develop the towns and villages...keep everything congested in the city and make money
yes. this is the reason i moved closed to family. and i have realized about this i am 25 now and if i don't spend time with them now i know i will regret this in my life. two days ago me and my brother took our parents to zoo where they for the first time saw tiger and some other animals i have started doing this and will keep in mind going forward in life
we failed as society humanity is no more . Justice for kolkata doctor
Please remove her name
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Please don't use the name
Please don't use the name. May the victim's soul rest in peace and receive justice. ❤🙏
😢
On the flip side, a lot of times even though you want to invite them to live with you, it just doesn't work out because they are too stubborn. They come to your house and try to make you change your lifestyle to suit their old mindset. They don't believe in science, trust fake whatsapp news over our informed opinions, and are openly sexist and racist a lot of times. No one wants to ruin their own marriage by indulging such obtrusive parents. They'd rather live alone than compromise on their mindset.
The reason for this is the parents themselves, they destroy their childrens childhood with their toxic and over expecting nature and then the child gets frustated with such idiots and decides not to talk to them, first of all parents need to know their responsibility before blaming the children of this generation
Al Qur'an
Chap 17 verses 23-24
23:-And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], "uff," and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word...
24:- And lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy and say, My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small...
Plz at the end they are our PARENTS 🙏
Muslims believe
Father is the door of HEAVEN
And
There's a paradise under the mom's feet .....
@@danish_thelearnerI Know several muslim girls and one muslim boy who were forced into underage marriage by their parents . Guess who don't talk to their parents anymore.
@@RuhulAmin-px2jiparents forced!!!! 😮 OMG.... Now how can we say that at the end they are our parents so accept their apology, no u can't don't tolerate highly unacceptable things even if imposed by your parents
@@OmGautam-tj8km Are you being sarcastic? If not then you have a problem.
This topic was highly underrated until now. Thanks for a video about this serious issue.
I also went abroad to build my future, and I could have lived a very happy life over there, but I always thought of my old parents getting lonely day by day and also noticed their sad faces during video calls, so I came back permanently telling them that I don't like it here anymore because if I would have told them that I'm coming back for them then they would have never allowed me to do that and act like they are very happy.
Now I see those smiling faces everyday. I have decided that I would chase my ambitions when they won't be alive, but till then I will never ever make them feel sad or lonely.
❤
Not all parents deserve children.
So out of context here
Yes absolutely 😢
@@nitesh6472 no it doesnt. children never ask to be born.
@@PurviGujar neither did parents want a specific child
@@creammycup2853 your point?
Message to current generation: Don’t sacrifice everything that you have to kids, save something for yourself. Prepare yourself financially, physically and mentally for life after 40s or 50s.
You have given birth to your kids. They dint ask for it. They are also humans who want to achieve something in life. Kids are not investments that will give you benefits later in life.
Don’t force your kids to be with you all the time, love should come naturally.
Think that you are responsible for your kids until they turn adults and let them handle their life later on. Learn from animals they leave their kids to survive.
Spend time with your partner. No one other than partner will stay with you till the end. Just remember this.
Mohak bhai you were born in an privileged business family, you didn't really have to worry about meeting parents expectations!
privelege doesn't equal to that. you need to touch some grass.
@@yashaswinikrishnan1878 Mohak's parent actually said this to him " Beta tumhe jo acha lage wo karo " A line that no middle class children have ever heard.
@@jayyadav6576 lmao yes but still, there can be still things which he might have struggled with
@@yashaswinikrishnan1878 different situations different problems different expectations. just because you have money it doesnt mean you dont have any problems, sure you dont have any financial constraints but theres more to life than just money
@@apollo2744 exactly, what i said.
A few years ago, when I was 25, I lost my mother to a sudden cardiac arrest just outside the hospital. There was nothing our family could do in that moment, and it was a devastating experience. However, I find some solace in knowing that, due to the COVID-19 lockdowns, I was able to spend a lot of quality time with her during her final years.
It's natural to have regrets, especially when you're working hard to achieve dreams that you hope to share with your loved ones. But when someone you care deeply about is suddenly taken from you, it can feel like your world is falling apart. This experience has taught me the importance of cherishing every moment with your family, because at the end of the day, they are the ones who matter most-and you are the one who matters most to them. Celebrate every success with them while you can, and never take their presence for granted.
Hii, take care.
Hope you're doing fine now.
@@behera.samikshya_ somewhat better but there is always a void and being an introvert it is very difficult to find something else to distract but I am still coping. It still makes me feel better that there are still people caring :)
@@kunaljoshi6892take care bro
@@kunaljoshi6892 I understand and even relate to you with the introvert thing, I went to watch a movie alone last week, I don't think I'll ever be able to put it into words how finding solace in one's self feel but i would just really recommend you to do the same, go out with yourself, watch a movie, eat your favourite meals, buy something you like and come back.
Sending you and your angel mom much love. Always be happy stranger.
I can say this clearly that Mohak you're the only UA-camr who raises issues like these. Issues which are underrated or no-one talks about. Thank you so Much.
What about Kolkata doctor rape case?
@@Arpitjain134 wait for some days and he'll post a video on that too, he's quite good in raising concerning topics.
@@Arpitjain134 investigation is still going on. Don't be like I'll make video without knowing anything..
Everybody other than children to college kids are lonely, also most Indian parents aren't even that good that you wanna stay with them, like in my home, for past 21 years(my whole life), all I've heard from my mom is how my father used to beat her, and from my father how she does not love him, now truth be told i am fed up since 10th class and my first aim in my life is to leave my home, now i am so close to, i will prepare for cat exam and get a good mba college, reservation should help there, once i do get a college i am out and never coming back, now tell me in this condition if my parents are suddenly feeling lonely, is it my fault ?, i dont think so, they should've thought about their future and what they were doing when they were fighting like animals
Totally get your point
Exactly. Their issues are not worth it. Go live your life.
totally my story
I can't tell you how peaceful my life was after leaving home
I sometimes feel guilty, my mother says I'm the reason she has to stay with father
I know she doesn't have anyone else to share her pain, but I don't know what should I do?
What I observed in most Indian families is - once parents enter into old age, like mostly after retirement , they think their children are the only reason to live the rest of their life and literally some of them will be waiting for death. This is just Devastating. Even, when parents help themselves, it is considered as disrespecting parents by children in our society. Parents should find some purpose in life other than just their children.Our parents should start looking after themselves and care less about children since we are mature enough to look after ourselves. Parents should get busy in their life by engaging themselves in making new hobbies, maintaining social circle, etc. In this competitive world, it is better not to expect children to always stay with their parents. But now, as we children , its our responsibility to create such an environment for our parents and for their mental health.
Here I promise to never ever leave my parents in a situation where they feel alone or helpless. I promise to never go to bed if I have not talked for atleast 5min with my parents. I promise to always try to understand their problems without them saying it. I promise to try to adjust to maximum on things that i may not like but they think is essential. I promise to always make efforts to make their each day a fairy tale. I want to fulfill all their wishes. Please god give me strength and capability to do so.
Such an important but ignored issue.... good that you covered this Mohak
I have sacrificed USA opportunity for my parents because im only son for them.
I never leave them alone
Be with your parents always
You are a true man bro, hope your life will be better in the future compared to if you moved abroad and left your parents to fend off alone.
@@sa34w thanks 😊
"Be with your parents always"
Order de rha hai bhai tu to.
@@peak_911 I was born in poor family, also my parents have lived a poor middle class life. Now im capable to make my parents happy and give them all happiness in life which they did not do, like seating in own car, living in good house, taking them out for vacation. Usually ppl leave them because they want to have independent life and move abroad.
Ever thought of taking them abroad with you??
I haven't even watched the video, and I want to say this right off the bat, that most parents are purely evil. They want to have babies so that they can extract some value out of them, either it's about family heritage, or legacy, or they want somebody to care for them in old age, or they want to live their dreams vicariously through them, etc. There is always something in for them. They all choose to give birth to a soul which would be subject to intense suffering, just so that they can benefit off of them in some or the other way. If you truly want to have a son/daughter, ADOPT. The adopted child will probably be more grateful for your efforts, than your own blood. Don't say that "oh, we did so much for them, but in the end they left us alone". You were the one expecting something in the first place. It's pure BS.
Lol people gonna be so triggered. But hard agree
i feel the same. Parents compare their children from others but we don't compare them with other parents or at least we don't compare in front of them. I try to be best of daughter only to hear only taunts and no appreciation. If you are achieveing then you're agood child and if not then not anyone but parents itself will lower your self confidence
Get well soon bro
I agree
Yeah,my parents want me to become an IAS officer because it's "her" dream, although I wanna be a businessman. So I'll do all the hardwork,just to fulfill someone else's dream.
At this moment, kids are more depressed & lonely because of tough world....
Good Job Mohak for highlighting this issue and spreading awareness. Keep it up
Seriously bro... Meri parents ke saath banti hi nhi....
Unko vahi toxic family rivalry ya toxic society ke ishaaro pe chalna pasand aata hai... Aur mereko bilkul bhi nhi...
Isliye mein to bolta hi nhi ab unse... 😢❤
Over expectation parents ka baccho se problem hain hamare India main
This video made me miss my Nana-Nani a lot, they both passed away, Nana in 2011 and Nani in 2015. They were both 97, were farmers and lived in a village.
My Nana was a freedom fighter and was imprisoned by the British in the early 20th century, also worked as a criminal investigator and caught an illegal opium smuggling operation. He had to leave school at age 10 and became a child laborer to support his family. But regrettably I only found out about these things after he passed away and never got to hear from him about these experiences. Moreover, my grandparents only spoke Punjabi, whereas I grew up speaking Hindi and did not understand Punjabi well while they were alive. But despite not being able to understand each other, I always knew they loved me, and were always so happy that it brought them to tears when they saw me, because I grew up in the US and hardly got to see them. That unconditional love is something that gives me strength even when things are difficult in life.
Parents are lonely because of their ego and over a small thing they cut off the ties with their children.
Otherwise, nobody wants to make their parents feel alone.
Great job Mohak 👏🏻👏🏻for bringing light onto these kind of issues
✅ parents are stuck in their own cages of expectations ❌
parents must take lessons from birds✅
Let us consider a fact that there are still some people who does domestic violence to their children and wife.
That child who saw her mother being beaten for silly reasons only has this way to extract his revenge.
But tum sabko ye point kaha dikhega "parents is life" wala gyan bhi toh chodna hai.
1.4 Billion people still suffering from loneliness. it shows how much we lost our family culture. Sad.
Bro 1.4 billion is whole India population and funny thing if you're or me are lonely that's doesn't mean everyone is lonely look society know the reality most of introvert are lonely not everyone
true sadly
@@RonakVanjara-q6h I am talking about indias population and still we feel lonely. It doesn't mean everyone is lonely.
@@RonakVanjara-q6hI think they mean "1.4 bilion, and people still...."
@@Learnwing i understand what do you mean that's Little writing mistake you forgot to put *BUT*
The most important factor in loneliness for parents I find is that they are not active in their communities. They put all their eggs/ energies in one basket.... The kids
This also isolates the kids because the parents become very clingy and have huge expectations from the kids.
Ofcourse the changing family/ social structures viz a viz single family, isolation in so called gated communities seems to create distances
Bhaiya maine 2024 mein hei IIT ka 1st attempt diya aur clear nhi ho paya.Aaj mein ghar mein baitha hu mujhe har roj papa tana marte hai ki tu kuch nhi kar payega.Agar mai aaj ghar se bhagkar kuch kaam Karu to phir mammi bhaut lonely feel karegi batao mai kya karu 😭😭
Aur sayad mere jaise India mein bhut se log hai.
Bhai abhi tumhare paas kaafi samay hai life banane ka. Bas samajhdari se kaam lo aur bina chinta ke mehnat karo. Zyada mat socho. Thode bahut taane aur daant bhi zaruri hotein hain.
@@abhisheksing8379 thanks Bhai🙏
don't be tense my brother, there are lot of opportunities in life, agar aapko stress ho raha hai to aap kisi aapne close one se baat karo bahut aacha feel hoga aapko aapne parents ke sath time spend karo.
GOOD LUCK BRO FOR YOUR LIFE :)
Khali haath aye the hum, Khali haath jayenge.. everyone dies alone😢
Bass pyar ke do mithe bol jhilmilayenge to hass kyuki duniya ko hai hasaana😢😢😢
Thanks, I have been ignoring my mother for so long and from today, she will be my main priority. Thank you for making me realise that ♥️ 🙏
You are not the only one who is doing this mistake brother, calling my mom rn
"A parent's love is whole no matter how many times it is divided."
You will realise something when you have kids of your own: "You will always love your kids more than they love you".
There is no avoiding this and there is an evolutionary reason for it. Your kids are your future. But to your kids you are their past. A species needs to look to the future instead of the past if it wishes to survive, grow and prosper.
@@meerkats9317this all seems rosy but sab ke sath nhi hota laxman
i question the authenticity of that statement. there is always a child that is loved more they will not agree to the fact but the people who study this will tell you.
also "1 x 1 = 2"
these quotes only sound good
Everybody is not lonely but they are just feeling lonely....❤❤
Wth does this mean? If you're feeling lonely then you're lonely. Its like saying alot ppl aren't happy they're just feeling happy.
@@alive6281 it means we are surrounded by our loved ones yet we feel lonely
For example, after break up
loneliness is different from being alone bro
Most people are poor and middle class they are always depressed stressed, lonely
Loneliness has followed me my whole life,everywhere in bars,in cars,sidewalks,stores,everywhere
There's no escape.
I am God's lonely man.-Taxi driver
Justice for RG KAR hospital rape & murder case😢
Justice for the Kolkata Doctor
Firstly parents are not ready to leave the place they are leaving and join the city of their children
Now u tell me how can a child find their livelihood in small city
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Thanx 😅
Thanks
Hello Sir, Please make people aware of the horrible incident that happened in West Bengal, at R G Kar Medical College and hospital, a Female doctor is r@ped and brutally killed in her college seminar room while she taking rest after hectic 36 hour's long duty in medical college. What is more horrible and disheartening that Medical College administration tries to hide it, declaring it as suicide and also try to vandalised the crime scene and rid of evidences, please Sir do check news, and Raise your voice 🙏🙏🙏🙏
My greatest respect to you for creating this video. I am 49 years old and have no children so will not suffer in the same way but we will find a way.
This is such a beautiful and important topic. It's a powerful reminder of how much our parents mean to us and the significance of staying connected. Thank you for bringing this to light. I'd love to see more videos like this that inspire us to cherish and support our loved ones.
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While taking care of parents in their last years might be possible for some boys. But for a majority of Girls, who are the sole child of their parents, it's impossible to take care or even to be with them after marriage. The only thing they can do is Talk on Calls. Sad 💔
Well you don't have to do that...maybe marry a guy who would support you to live with your parents
We have to accept the fact that many of us don’t spend enough time with our parents and many realise this when they almost em,,…jao abhi hug kar k aoo sabhi ko meto PG me hu so I can’t but if you’re with them…spend time with them brdr. Great video mohak bhaiyaa!
Reason for loneliness is their strange expectation that kids will come and take care of them. Truth is, we are heading towards US lifestyle, where after 18 kids and parents have their own life. Kids building their life already whereas parents are struggling to get it adjusted to this new culture.
You seemed to have provided just one side of the argument. Most of the time parents want it to be like that. They would rather belittle, abuse, manipulate their child to protect their social status. I am a trans woman living away from my parents. And I can tell you everytime I try to talk to them I have an instant regret. They don't see their child as human rather as a trophy for them.
Aspirants of our country are becoming extremely lonely and dealing with pressure and stress.😢
yess brother, muje bhi bahut stress hota hai ki jitna love mere parents ne diya kya me unhe return me de paunga. 😔
Brought tears to my eyes. I’m just 25 and I’m living from my parents the last seven years .
13:44 senior citizen clubs 18:34 financial independence by saving/investing money 22:03
thankful to you for spreading this knowledge among youth to take care of their elders in their old age. which we have forgotten over time. keep making these videos. thanks to you once again.
I don’t have a father and I live abroad. This video made me realise i should call mom more often, ty
If you are working and also staying with your family then it's the biggest achievement
A social circle is very important it will decide the trajectory of life
Kuch log to isliye bhi apne parents se nahi milte,ki kahi wo hamaare aansu naa dekh le.
😢
Aapne Aisa kyon likha hai? Iske peechhe ki kahaani kya hai, matlab agar aapko bataane mein koi pareshani Na Ho to?
Shukriya.
Sunita God love you
thanks for changing our perspectives!♥
Nowadays we talk a lot about DEPRESSION, but we often exclude older people and show them as villains. But it was high times, we acknowledge their pain and sorrows too. Maybe they couldn't give you the mental support that you needed. but you can break the trend! you can love them back.
edit: typo
Parents se jada unke bacche jada lonely haaa bro
The way you are taking your example only, its truly commendable. It shows your honesty. Keep it up brother, never change that
One of the most realistic comment section i have ever seen in a video... Btw I'm quite lucky to have such an understanding parents who r always supportive and encouraging to what ever i want to do in my life... I do understand many children have parents which may be fall in the category of borderline toxic abd 4 them it would have been tough to live it... Pr still thk u mohak for bringing this video and let us know how to solve the issue of loneliness which our parents may face...
After reading the comment section even I'm feeling very lucky to have very loving and supporting parents who almost have a friend-like relationship with me. There are only 2 instances from my childhood where I remember my parents beating me, and it was for very valid reasons. I'm thinking its because both my parents were brought up in Mumbai and not some rural town/village.
Everything comes down to money. If you have enough money, you won't have to migrate and people also do connect with them who are affluent. But I don't get why Mohak is living in the US when he can do his work from India as well. Either come to India and live with your parents or take them also with you in the US. I don't think money is a problem for his family.
Mere parents to mujhe kamre ka darwaza bhi band nahi karne dete. Pata nahi andar kya kar Raha hoga? 💦😤😊
😂😂😂
atleast tumhara apna kamra hai 😂😂
@@alienn_o.o Abhi Mila hai bhai, warna 10-12 saal toh gupt-mutthi maari hai
You are the only person who recognises this problem and makes a video. Thank you
I dnt think so...parents are still better. We are more lost, confused, stressed, depressed, anxious. Indian parents can never be lonely they have a joint set up of family
Justice for Kolkata female doctor
Money can solve 99% of all problems
Still people say money can't buy happiness
Yes, some delusional minded 🤡 will argue with you in this matter. But it's true.
Money can buy everything except happiness and class
@@swatisaini6447 bruhh you look classy when you are wearing 3 piece suit from a good brand and not when you are wearing ripped tshirts or shit,you need money to buy CLASS
A person in BMW will always look more classy than a person on an scooter or something
@@ErenYeager0607 expensive kapdo se classy nahi bante, behaviour aur values se bante hai
@@swatisaini6447 gareebo wala argument de rhe ho, garib ganda bhikari agar paise maangne aaye to half time tum hi usse dur bhaga doge
Most of the humans aisa hi karenge
Parents ko nahi but mai khud Lonely jaroor hu 🥲
Pls talk about the issue going on in kolkata its really an emergency. We need u to spread awareness
So beautiful coverage...!! Very important that we all must do as a society to bring back - connect, social connection empathy love and togetherness back into our society.
Maybe if parents stop living for societal status and actually listen to children, they won't feel lonely now. They used all their prime years to strangle their children for status in society . Now, once everything is over and no worries for status, they are crying about loneliness. Even now, if a child says lets just live normal with a minimum amount and live happily together they won't accept. They are the reason for loneliness. They keep demanding regardless of their childs wishes.
Request:
Please give solution to elders as well from elders perspective, how they handle the situation. Elders have time, they may be able implement and handle it better.
Bro the thumbnail is so relatable my mom daily messages me good morning and good night 😍
And do you reply?
@@noelinx yeah always 🖤
@@omshah9803 that's good 😊
I think more than parents, their kids are lonely because they have lived their life but kids life just started.
Topmost reason is less money or poverty, Jobless ness, marriage at right age, good life partner selection, work pressure/stress, mental issues, less paying jobs, society pressure(very cruel), have to leave house because of jobs outside etc..😢🥺🥺😔
Really Great Video highlighting the actual issues of our society. Once having the greatest, joliiest cultures, our country now is breaking down in terms of our interpersonal social fabric. Materialistic things like money have taken over our priorities due to conditions prevailing forcing people to relocate which eventually breaks down the personal connections we once possessed. I believe the issue can only be resolved if both youngsters and senior take account of this and proactively increase interactions getting rid of selfish or transactional relationships our country is slowly evolving into.
Very Important topic to make a video when such small insignificant things are happening in west bengal