Why Indians Don't Divorce

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    India has the lowest divorce rate in the world! That should be a good thing, right? On the face of it, it shows that Indians are so much better at maintaining marriages. But are we, really? In this video, we talk about why the divorce rates in India are so low- one of the main reasons being the stigma against the idea of divorce. We also talk about how slowly but surely, the stigma is fading and more and more people are choosing to walk out of unhappy and abusive marriages- addressing the reasons behind such decisions as well.
    While making this video, we interviewed a couple of people for their opinions and experience about divorces in India and we'd like to thank them for their contribution. Both of them run support groups-Their details are mentioned below in case you want to reach out to them:
    1. Sumedha Bhosekar ( @BhosekarS )
    Founding Member - Puruhotra (@puruhotra),
    Member - SIF Karnataka (@SIFKtka) / SIF Movement
    Men's Rights Organisation,
    NGO to voice the Human Rights of men. Runs a helpline for men and their families ( 08882 498 498 )
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    00:00 Introduction
    01:32 Why are divorce rates so low in India
    07:31 legal troubles
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    16:23 Wider Acceptance
    17:20 Grey/Silver Divorces
    19:06 Cost of divorces

КОМЕНТАРІ • 4,3 тис.

  • @mohak_mangal
    @mohak_mangal  Рік тому +183

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  • @euphoriaOT72013
    @euphoriaOT72013 4 місяці тому +270

    There is a saying: "A divorced daughter is better than a dead daughter". Now, it can apply to both genders.

    • @lonelyboy4033
      @lonelyboy4033 Місяць тому +4

      A divorced son is a poor or possibly dead son. Thanks to the legal system of India

    • @anithapatnayakuni
      @anithapatnayakuni 27 днів тому

      Many parents in India think the other way. It is better to have a dead daughter than a divorced one.

    • @hsihdbssbcjtzksk7426
      @hsihdbssbcjtzksk7426 16 днів тому

      God, these people don't even think of the children. I don't think I would have survived if my mother was allowed to keep me in the divorce.

  • @moonlightstxars
    @moonlightstxars Рік тому +4847

    I would never understand why other people care so much about whos divorcing who like just because you're stuck in an unhappy marriage doesn't mean everyone else want to.

    • @Sailed_away
      @Sailed_away Рік тому +197

      Marraiges are more than that in india , it's a pact between man and woman till the eternity. And a lot of pride is staked on the marraige.
      Edit : not justifying anything , just providing a background of the importance of maraiges in india.

    • @akashpanchal8237
      @akashpanchal8237 Рік тому +38

      Because it's uncommon and that's why it grab people's attention

    • @midnightgamer4201
      @midnightgamer4201 Рік тому +198

      You are absolutely correct , indian society emphasises too much on the idea of an ideal family . The society expects you to stay in an unhealthy marriage just for the sake of upholding that image

    • @abhishekbijalwan2246
      @abhishekbijalwan2246 Рік тому +91

      @@Sailed_away so what to if you are in toxic relationship for eg man doing domestic violence with his wife , these quotes are good while being heard real life is unfair and difficult

    • @Sailed_away
      @Sailed_away Рік тому +61

      @@abhishekbijalwan2246 file a court case. Get your husband arrested. And get court to make him pay your alimony for the rest of eternity lol 💀

  • @s1147r
    @s1147r Рік тому +284

    We are living in a truly f*cked up society. No education and extreme stigma when it comes to divorce, s*x, financial independence, mental health, and addressing abuses. But somehow it's completely normal in our society when married couples have extra marital affairs, shaming single moms/dads, shaming divorced individuals, not giving a child's custody to dad even if mom is mental, women shaming women for even talking about legal separation, dowry, misusing the law, etc.
    I hope that the future generations evolve in a better way!

    • @kritika6675
      @kritika6675 8 місяців тому +9

      It is so sick that we live in this kind of world

    • @justanothermortal1373
      @justanothermortal1373 4 місяці тому +11

      ​​@@kritika6675I think it's mostly an Asian problem. Countries in the west are way more open to discussing these things. It's why they have more rights there.

    • @pjammin00
      @pjammin00 3 місяці тому +1

      ​@@justanothermortal1373 Dharm is slowly vanishing from homes and minds of people. INDIA does not have a word for DIVORCE- TALAAK. India was a deeply religious country, joint families was common because religion teaches good values like tolerance, perseverance, share & care for all. Because of those Rights western societies are losing their populations.Individualism is great?(its worse, all live alone, few children born to replace the older generations. Depression and many other diseases are common. Children from divorced parents, broken homes are scarred for life.

    • @haruk2312
      @haruk2312 2 місяці тому +1

      I like how blame mostly woman.

    • @anthonycosta128
      @anthonycosta128 2 місяці тому +3

      ​@@justanothermortal1373You know nothing about western countries those are far worse now

  • @aries4751
    @aries4751 3 місяці тому +61

    I think a child with divorcee parents has less depression than a child with married parents who fights every single day but not ready to give each other peace by seperating ... saying this from experience

    • @aarushikishore1417
      @aarushikishore1417 14 днів тому

      "Or trying to stay for the kids, when keeping it how it is
      Will only break their hearts worse"

  • @mrstrange218
    @mrstrange218 Рік тому +3878

    I think divorce is better than domestic violence and making everyone in the family suffer. Indians feel proud that India has one of the lowest divorce rates in the world but they don't realise that many couples would have actually separated if there were no societal taboos.

    • @loveraj9820
      @loveraj9820 Рік тому +92

      Yes agreed

    • @charvi4929
      @charvi4929 Рік тому +191

      The main point is that in India sex education is also not that common so couples have kids without deciding that if they are compatible enough to have 'em and after all these shits the child has to suffer.........and these things are so generalized that nobody talks about this shit

    • @rickycool6083
      @rickycool6083 Рік тому +49

      Indians also perform the best and behave the best compared to any other country, one of the primary indicators of that is low divorce trates. So no, lets not act like domestic violence is everywhere and in every family, and divorce ishealthy its not. Divorceis always bad for kids and primary reasons for divorce is lack of interest rather than any reason, adults should not behave that way.

    • @charvi4929
      @charvi4929 Рік тому +212

      @@rickycool6083 no broo divorce is good when marriage ain't working because I live in a family where my parents are constantly fighting they dont realize that I am watching them I am litrally suffering from trauma so it's actually better if parents get divorced
      yes that would be painful too but atleast I would not suffer from anziety

    • @phobic1818
      @phobic1818 Рік тому +22

      100% AGREED

  • @dsar8727
    @dsar8727 Рік тому +2055

    Divorce is not the problem, divorce is a solution to the problem. No point being stuck in an unhappy and unfulfilling marriage if you have already given it everything to make it work, sometimes getting a divorce will be the right thing to do.

    • @russtytan8080
      @russtytan8080 Рік тому +85

      I have seen couples who want to get divorced but they are pretending to be happy couple for sake of raising children.

    • @mightytitan1719
      @mightytitan1719 Рік тому +24

      but divorce shouldn't be a hasty decision otherwise it's no good its worse

    • @user-bw8yn3zr1s
      @user-bw8yn3zr1s Рік тому +3

      ❤❤❤

    • @user-bw8yn3zr1s
      @user-bw8yn3zr1s Рік тому +21

      ​@@russtytan8080 Tons of couples. Or, at least one partner in a marriage. But they are bound by this janmon ka bandhan, jo gala ghunta hi rehta hai till they die.

    • @raghunathpuvvala804
      @raghunathpuvvala804 Рік тому +6

      Agar aisa he to 100% divorcehi honge india me, har ghar mai coupls, couplhi nahin rehenge, har gharki kahani!

  • @tvrashid
    @tvrashid 2 місяці тому +72

    Divorce is not a problem, it is a solution.

    • @monsoonsummer9027
      @monsoonsummer9027 Місяць тому +13

      @AbhayKumar-md7rf I dunno man, i don't want my sister to be trapped in an abusive and love-less marriage. I care more about my love ones than what society and abhay kumar says

    • @aronblanche
      @aronblanche Місяць тому +2

      Didnt you see this video lol​@AbhayKumar-md7rf

    • @Itisha_11111
      @Itisha_11111 Місяць тому +7

      ​@AbhayKumar-md7rf Avarage Indian men ☕ ,, put all blame on women, it's not a new thing ,and it's not like we care about you all anymore.....
      ....Keep shouting

    • @lonelyboy4033
      @lonelyboy4033 17 днів тому +1

      Divorce is the way to get rich quick for women.

    • @hsihdbssbcjtzksk7426
      @hsihdbssbcjtzksk7426 16 днів тому +3

      My parents divorce was the best thing that ever happened to me. Sure, we had to work through a lot of trauma later but it was worth it. Though I still feel angry about the relatives trying to make them stay together for my sake.

  • @theepics3665
    @theepics3665 Рік тому +433

    My mom is a lecturer with a PhD. My dad is an officer in education department. I definitely feel my mom deserves better for not expecting anything from my dad even after 20 years of their marriage and taking great care of his family even when her own mother was on ventilator. She didn't hesitate a bit when she had to change my aunt's diapers who was fighting cancer. She never bought gold for herself or me. We never went on trips like any other family. We were not at all like a family. My father on the other hand wasn't someone we all saw. When my mom was pregnant with my elder brother, she was really depressed because of my father's behaviour. She was writing a death note after seeing which my dad said "if you die after writing 'my' name as the reason for your death, and if I'm put behind the bars, who's gonna take care of my big brother's kids?"
    My mom literally filed divorce after this but due to pressure from our so called family and society,she had to take it back. Few months ago my parents had a big fight. Now they're not talking to each other. My mom told me to finish my 12th (I'm in 12th now) and live in a hostel for my graduation because she'll be applying for transfer after their divorce next year. She even asked my big brother to stay in hostel (he's in 2nd year mbbs). Holding onto something hurts more than letting it go. Self respect must be the first thing to think about. I love both of my parents, but I respect my mother more than my dad.

    • @theepics3665
      @theepics3665 Рік тому +81

      @@thezoldics7648 mental abuse is definitely worse than the physical one. Both of my parents aren't clearly happy. They're not even a newly married couple, they've been married for 20 years. As the youngest in my family, I definitely don't want my parents to be like this. Their peace and my mother's self respect are more important to me than anything else. She tolerated him for 20 years, I definitely don't want her to suffer anymore. Thank you for replying though 🙏

    • @yomaddy
      @yomaddy Рік тому +25

      ​@@theepics3665 more power to your mom and you. Wish you all the peace, happiness and healthy life ahead❤❤❤

    • @theepics3665
      @theepics3665 Рік тому +11

      @@yomaddy thank you so much❤️❤️❤️ honestly you've such a kind heart

    • @playmobilegamescodm
      @playmobilegamescodm Рік тому +25

      My father's family was also very abusive to my mother.
      They told my mom, "You don't need to do any work, you will live like my daughter" but after marriage they said, "You must do all the work, our daughter won't because she is educated and beautiful unlike you".
      I suffered from depression due to their toxic behaviour, They forced me to study whole day and banned me from stepping outside the room and play with my friends. Without physical activities, I got depressed due to lack of healthy chemicals in brain which is released during playing or exercising.
      I sent this message in another thread.

    • @theepics3665
      @theepics3665 Рік тому +6

      @@playmobilegamescodm How's it going on now??

  • @ekamsat429
    @ekamsat429 Рік тому +563

    If marriage is considered to be a partnership for 7 lifetimes in India, then divorce should be a religiously permitted option for those couples who are currently in their 8th lifetime together.

  • @jackrawal2877
    @jackrawal2877 Рік тому +1358

    I hear people saying divorce is not good but yet it's better than living with a wrong partner

    • @Hinduism_is_best_bestie
      @Hinduism_is_best_bestie Рік тому

      Namo namo
      Everyday I'll sit down three times (morning, evening and night) and just whip myself up screeching and raging against anyone who says even one bad word against my PM Modiji. To me, it is imperative to have a guiding role model + respect and support our leaders. PM Modiji is therefore the obvious choice for support and I keep myself well oriented towards the direction of pro Nation, Nation building.
      There will be no limits to my devotion to PM Modiji. Anyone says one bad word means they are permanently ostracised from my life. Persistent hounding of PM Modiji with useless leftist buzzwords must invite death. One of these days, my devotion will be so resolute I will risk my life, my career, my future and my family's social standing. I will risk it all to bury some fucking liberals alive for their bullshit whinging against PM Modiji. Just the thought of them saying such things fills me up with anger, so much anger I get indigestion. Time to take antacid and view this as a positive development of my loyalty to PM Modiji. Just a warning to any liberals who sees this. You say one word in a bad manner and see what happens...

    • @peteck007
      @peteck007 Рік тому +35

      You're 14 years old bro it's not that easy

    • @m.z1256
      @m.z1256 Рік тому +55

      @@peteck007 what

    • @peteck007
      @peteck007 Рік тому +20

      ​@@m.z1256 I mean that this dude is teenagee and it seems he barely has any idea about adult world

    • @hustlerOP
      @hustlerOP Рік тому +14

      So ,why to marry a wrong parther.......

  • @RobertClive1757
    @RobertClive1757 Рік тому +183

    An unhappy family is a social evil, not divorce. Divorce is tool to resolve it.

    • @kritika6675
      @kritika6675 8 місяців тому +7

      Right but people think that divorcees are social evil

    • @quotesday9078
      @quotesday9078 7 місяців тому +2

      💯

    • @sumitghosh2778
      @sumitghosh2778 Місяць тому +1

      Divorce is a western concept. Don't adopt things that are irrelevant in our societies.

    • @MrSKYT-of7kt
      @MrSKYT-of7kt Місяць тому

      divorce ak hatiar ban chuka hain ladko ki finetieal or mental heath ki marne k liye

  • @Mani78906
    @Mani78906 Рік тому +32

    Definitely shaadi ek pavitra bandhan hai but agar wo pavitra hi na ho to shaadi ka na hona hi better hai 🙂

    • @vinay249
      @vinay249 Місяць тому

      Koi bhi cheez apne aap me pabitra ya apavitra nahi hoti. Par usko karne ka reason use pavitra banata hai.

  • @Tintin_Quarntino
    @Tintin_Quarntino Рік тому +97

    Highest in domestic violence
    Lowest divorce rate - india 😑😑

    • @balajiraju4157
      @balajiraju4157 Рік тому

      Lol . In every society men abuse women.... especially poor countries...india is not exception

    • @AsmitMaheshwari
      @AsmitMaheshwari Рік тому +7

      Violence se acha toh divorce le lo

  • @tanaymalikk
    @tanaymalikk Рік тому +1069

    I wanted to share my own perspective being the kid(I'm 18 rn) who was stuck in the middle of a divorce that never happened:
    For background, both my mother and father are from very well to do families and in no way experienced any sort of hardships growing up
    When I was 10 years old, that was the first time when I experienced my father breaking a glass on my mother's head. That one incident was just the start, he used to come drunk at night around 3 am everyday and used to start banging doors asking for somebody to serve him food.
    Incidents like these continued till when I was about 14 years old.
    One day he came up to my mother and started shouting that if you don't sleep with me right now I am going to jump out of the window and commit suicide.
    I clearly remember, this happened a day before the lockdown when my mom asked my nanu what she should do, and he surprisingly told her to pack all of our stuff and come to his place.
    for context, mom had told my nanu that she wanted a divorce, long before all of these incidents happened, but her whole family just shamed her and told her to deal with it on her own.
    Cases were filed, with no outcome, my dad had contacts with politicians and with the help of the very convenient corruption at play in our country, no one ever showed up in the courtroom, the dates kept on extending and the case is still stuck with my dad not paying anything for our education or living.
    For the first few years life was harsh, nanu rented us a place nearby and we stayed there, but because of the lockdown his business went downhill, company was stuck in a debt trap
    Now 4 years later, with my college about to start, I have no sort of financial security as to how we would even survive the next few years, and my dad is living a life of luxury without showing a care in the world.
    edit: The only reason we have managed to survive so far is because of the generous help by very close friends and families, especially my mother's sister, otherwise we would be on the road right now with nowhere to go.
    My younger brother is turning out to be exactly like mohak said, with anger issues, he can barely study, he has a habit of compulsively lying and stealing things.

    • @user-rb4lv4if9q
      @user-rb4lv4if9q Рік тому +125

      I am really sorry for what you have had to go through. Praying for things to get easier for you🙏🏼

    • @hermionegranger3513
      @hermionegranger3513 Рік тому +97

      More power to you and your mother... life is very hard sometimes u know..😔😔

    • @FantomwithanEff
      @FantomwithanEff Рік тому +66

      Oh my... My heart goes out to you and all the children and animals who have been victims... A massive collective hug

    • @SpiritualWorld24
      @SpiritualWorld24 Рік тому +29

      It's very painful 😖😣 may I know what you are thinking to do ahead

    • @sameeratallapureddy6854
      @sameeratallapureddy6854 Рік тому +33

      It’s a heartbreaking situation. I am sorry that u and ur brother are paying the price for ur parents situation. If u don’t mind me asking- what did u learn from ur parents position?

  • @pruthvipatel8433
    @pruthvipatel8433 Рік тому +240

    I was in an unhappy marriage for 14 years. Got divorced some 5 years back, got two wonderful kids with me. I was just a housewife while I was married. After my divorced got a job and started studying. Completed my LLB topped university and pursing LLM. After all this I still have a cordial relationship with my ex and in laws. The reason I want to share this is because if you decide to go for divorce to change your life then it will definitely change your life. I never thought I will be able to achieve this much respect in my career. Right now I give free legal advice to people going for divorce.

    • @rahuljagarwal153
      @rahuljagarwal153 Рік тому +9

      Question mark on husband's future ..as he has not been allowed kids with him.
      Who wil take care of him in his old age? What solution did the court gave for this problem?

    • @gzzhytihubgithabibhub
      @gzzhytihubgithabibhub Рік тому +18

      @@rahuljagarwal153
      I don't know why courts are so much biased towards women what about man is he not human women gets support from society and relatives but no one supports men and he suffers from loneliness get's mentally and financially broken why children were not allowed to stay with their father as they equally deserve to stay and love their childrens without husband how wife can procreate children women and man are equally designed by nature to procreate new offsprings

    • @rahuljagarwal153
      @rahuljagarwal153 Рік тому +1

      @@gzzhytihubgithabibhub this is western leftich ideology which is based on upabhog & destroys family structure. Old age homes r increasing, parents r sent to old age homes only after the son gets married & not before that. SO we know who is problematic. But still we haven't seen courts taking interest in this & in welfare & care of old aged parents. Now if laws r made to protect old aged parents then this wil help create joint family structure. But the forces which control leftich ideology want more nuclear families ..hence men r targets. So Family destruction is a key to it. Dekh ke to aisa hi lagta hai.

    • @ABD-od2xh
      @ABD-od2xh 11 місяців тому +1

      but deep down u r still alone

    • @mihirthakkar7998
      @mihirthakkar7998 11 місяців тому +12

      @@rahuljagarwal153 also ask her how much alimony she got ?

  • @dellerikofta
    @dellerikofta 11 місяців тому +20

    Divorce is best thing about women freedom. Its a gift.

  • @pokpaklalisa6338
    @pokpaklalisa6338 Рік тому +64

    I don't give a f**k about what anybody says..but I really want my parents to get a divorce. Their toxic behaviour towards one another had a great impact on me and my sister and now we both fear marriages.

    • @sushil8424
      @sushil8424 Рік тому +14

      Yup bro . Only solution you have in this situation is to get financially independent as soon as possible . And ya I agree with you that we should not blame a divorced person . In fact we should treat him as a normal person .

    • @Suzenla
      @Suzenla Місяць тому +6

      Same here.
      I'm not able to have any healthy relationship now due to the imprints their fights left in my mind

    • @MUSKANSHARMA-nh4qf
      @MUSKANSHARMA-nh4qf Місяць тому

      Same here..

    • @hsihdbssbcjtzksk7426
      @hsihdbssbcjtzksk7426 16 днів тому +1

      Same here. Plus, one of them was extremely abusive to me. I am so glad that parent didn't fight for my custody or I would be dead by now.

  • @deepsikhadeb1370
    @deepsikhadeb1370 Рік тому +813

    Being an only daughter of divorced parents I totally agree with Mohak... I am an adult now but still suffering from insecurity, fear of relationships, childhood trauma etc because of my parent's divorce. My father was very abusive and my maa raised me by herself only. It is the child who suffers the most mentally for whole life💔 but atleast I am happy that now me and maa are happy and at a peaceful environment.

    • @bangtanmoosahu
      @bangtanmoosahu Рік тому +20

      For real. I still have ptsd 🥲

    • @rachelbegmusic
      @rachelbegmusic Рік тому +26

      Something that already happened is irreversible. But what you can do for your better future is heal from those insecurities , fear of relationships , specifically from your childhood traumas . Only after healing , start dating .
      Its better to be late in marrying the right one than to marry early with the wrong one .
      More love & strength to you.❤

    • @subashhamal1412
      @subashhamal1412 Рік тому

      You need me.

    • @pranaya2800
      @pranaya2800 Рік тому +8

      Divorce should be taken only if spouse is physically or mentally abusive person and not for trivial reasons like it happens in the western countries.
      We indians think about kids parenting. Because after divorce it affects the life of children.

    • @nashrahurooj1885
      @nashrahurooj1885 Рік тому +46

      @@thewalker338 What is wrong with you man.lossing verginity does not means she is not good person. It depends on someone personal choice .why are you taking only about girls ? Whay about boys ? Are all of them vergin before marrige ?

  • @vishwadeepsingh86
    @vishwadeepsingh86 Рік тому +116

    Such a gender balanced video. Hat's off to Mohak and Team.

    • @viveksingh222
      @viveksingh222 Рік тому +6

      Bro, you spoke my mind.

    • @Warlord_Megatron
      @Warlord_Megatron Рік тому

      Look how much gender bias there is in India that people are surprised to see a neutral video. This is funny for being too stupid

  • @Istudy10
    @Istudy10 Рік тому +30

    Thank You for covering this topic. My dad lost his sister to suicide because of her abusive husband. It caused a rift between him and his sister's husband. They use to be close to each other, especially his sister's husband but then after her death my dad hated him. The person who had the worst affect from her suicide was her son. My dad went to his wedding since very few people showed up and that marriage was only able to happen with the help of few of the relatives that they were in contact with, otherwise it was inpossible. Infact in his reception, only 5% showed up.

  • @amy19955
    @amy19955 Рік тому +165

    My chachi is in a loveless marriage since 23 years...and my cousin got divorced after 3 years of marriage , our family is so mean to my cousin because she chose herself over a idiot man but respects and literally celebrates my chachi's courage because she's surviving in this since many years .....I feel so upset about these two woman in my family ....I really have no idea why it's so difficult for the family members to accept them as they are and support them😢

    • @prajakt0789
      @prajakt0789 Рік тому +7

      Ask your cousin to remarry everything will fall in place. They simply want people to stay married that's it. Marriage is an assurance that there is someone available for you always.

    • @amy19955
      @amy19955 Рік тому +9

      @@prajakt0789 yes I do understand that and she's looking for a partner too but it's just that the behaviour of family members towards her was just disgusting

    • @user-bw8yn3zr1s
      @user-bw8yn3zr1s Рік тому +15

      @@prajakt0789 this should not be a solution. the family and society should change and accept divorce normally.

    • @A.K.00
      @A.K.00 5 місяців тому +2

      "our family is so mean to my cousin because she chose herself over a idiot man but respects and literally celebrates my chachi's courage because she's surviving in this since many years" ...because miserable people love to see others miserable as well.

  • @fromtheneverland3278
    @fromtheneverland3278 Рік тому +1190

    I’m going through a divorce myself right now. Filing next month. It’s all so relatable. My mother is trying desperately to keep me in the unhappy marriage. I feel so cornered and isolated.
    Thank you for discussing the issue.

    • @mohak_mangal
      @mohak_mangal  Рік тому +309

      Sending you lots of love ❤️ ❤️❤️

    • @peteck007
      @peteck007 Рік тому +37

      Han bhai aur ek baat batana kya society bhi tumko pareshan kar rahi hai (asking not to get divorced)?

    • @Ludhiana1948
      @Ludhiana1948 Рік тому +43

      Bhai india me prenaptial agreement hona chahiye shaadi se pehle

    • @sharunps4356
      @sharunps4356 Рік тому +10

      muuu mmu mmuu shiva 😂😂

    • @PrashantSharma-bs7dr
      @PrashantSharma-bs7dr Рік тому +5

      ​@@sharunps4356 😂😂😂😂 us video ko dekhne ke baad jo tumne socha vahi maine bhi socha😅

  • @prize5ighter
    @prize5ighter Рік тому +94

    I remember back in 2007 or 08, this rumour somewhat spread internally spread in my school among my classmates that my parents are divorced.
    The possible reason for this rumour could be that my Dad used to be the only parent who used to visit the school and collect (my) books during the summer break as I used to be on summer vacation mode with mom at her hometown. The other reasoning for this is also that, even during PTMs, my Dad used to be the only parent who would visit the school as the school was already 25-30kms from my school somewhere in the outskirts and this couldn't have made possible for my mom to visit alone. So, my Dad used to take a day off and visit school for PTM.
    It was a couple of years later, when I left the school and I happened to have a girlfriend on social media (was 14-15 at that time), who was never in my school but happened to be a friend of my schoolmate, and one day, while chatting, she told me, "your parents are divorced, I've heard it from your friends".
    I was kinda shocked to read this text as this was the first time I read this about my parents. Even though so far in my comment, I may appear very supportive of my mom, but, unfortunately, my mom has a mental health issue, she was diagnosed with schizophrenia in 2015. She was having mental health issues since early or mid 2007 and had started making our home environment a livng hell. My Dad, someone who used to step out of the house, for his job, to make the ends meet, and being a 5th or 6th std school-going kid, it was difficult to interpret and ohsere the changes in one of the parents. To this day, this has been going on at some capacity and there was this one situation when back in 2010, as a 8th std kid, my Dad after having a verbal fight with mom, told me that "the only reason why I'm bearing with her is because of you, otherwise when you were a small kid, my parents and relatives had told me to leave her and remarry. But I didn't want to remarry and make your life a living hell" (which obviously has been despite having a mom who gave birth to me). So, he was somewhat trying to blame me at that point. I've a younger sibling who's almost 9 years younger than me and it was after her birth, I was able to witness and become aware of the changes in my mom's behaviour which takes me back to the 2007 days. The relatives on my mom's side, in later years, said that "your mom's the sharpest kid of mine / sharpest sibling of ours, and it's only after yout sister's birth, she has become like this". For few years, I used to think like this and didn't use to have a good sibling relationship with my sis. Over the years, we became very good to each other, and I appreciate her existence in my life and I often quote her as the Doraemon to my version of Nobita.
    To this day, at the age of 55, my Dad has been taking care of our home and not letting us, both the siblings feel the void of a mom, and trying to give us the best life he can, cooking the best of the best food and taking care of us more than we can even expect. I'm glad to have atleast one parent who is able to operate so well as fully grown adult, otherwise seeing myself as a 26 year old man, with some minor issues, I've been functioning like how an adult should be, but due to my alcohol addictions which I developed since November 2022 due to some issues, I don't think that I can become a good and responsible parent and set an example. Before alcohol, cigarettes used to my go-to stress killer because I didn't know other stuff rather than trying to accept the healthier path and improve myself for the long run, I've been "depending" on substances and wasting my Dad's money and efforts. I hope very soon i give up these habits and stop sounding like someone who can't quit these and needs them on a regular basis.

    • @prize5ighter
      @prize5ighter Рік тому +7

      Sorry for few of the grammatical and spelling mistakes. While writing I didn't notice but after re-reading, I found many grammatical mistakes.
      Didn't expect this, but thank you so much for coming across and giving it a heart, @Soch bhai.

    • @gamingcircus2637
      @gamingcircus2637 Рік тому +1

      What happened to your mom then?

    • @prize5ighter
      @prize5ighter Рік тому +3

      @@gamingcircus2637 she's still there with us physically, but not mentally.
      She's in her own world.

    • @gamingcircus2637
      @gamingcircus2637 Рік тому

      @@prize5ighter you mean she lost her consciousness or she went into comma?

    • @prize5ighter
      @prize5ighter Рік тому +5

      @@gamingcircus2637 no not like that. What I meant to say is she stays with us only, but due to her mental health, she always remains away from us within the bedroom which my parents share and she interacts with us very rarely.
      Physically she's all fine, but mentally she isn't. I don't know or can explain that whether she has forgotten how to interact with people or she prefers to stay alone that too from us only. Because of her illness, she thinks that we 3 - my Dad, my sis and I are harmful for her and could potentially harm her.

  • @xavier-ir6kf
    @xavier-ir6kf Рік тому +17

    My parents got divorced when i was 9 my dad was abusive to my mother and me. My dad married my mom because she was from a rich family and after marriage he was demanding more and more money from my mom and her parents. When she refused he would beat her. Finally after they got divorced my father forcefully took me to live with him because the house and land belonged to my mom for 5 years i constanty suffered from his abuses then my mom filed for my custody and i was let to go with my mom. Its been 6 years now living with my mom my college is about to start but like mohak said i never had depression or any sorts of those things happen to me infact i was happy that i was seperated from dad. My dad married again and now has a kid he never paid for child support we never asked him to do so my mom is a nurse and i deliver newspapers at morning since i was 16 during vactions i would even for catering jobs. The only downside is i hide this from everyone i know i have quite a lot of friends when they ask me about my dad i would have to make some lies about it.

  • @withamberarya
    @withamberarya Рік тому +277

    Loved the way u switched from divorce to balding and again divorce.
    Before u said traya , i thought the balding is also part of divorce.

  • @dandaelione
    @dandaelione Рік тому +585

    my parents got divorced when i was 5 years old. living through the experience, i am glad that they did. it is so much better than to have an unhappy home where they are always shouting and fighting.

    • @abrajitota3618
      @abrajitota3618 Рік тому +8

      Cool but in that case you live with someone else like any relative or someone, and that person is abuse you mentally and physically. The same word you can use that time.

    • @karthiknarayan6765
      @karthiknarayan6765 Рік тому +8

      Do you know what parenting means ??
      U will realize once you become a parent

    • @abrajitota3618
      @abrajitota3618 Рік тому +55

      @@karthiknarayan6765 what you're trying to say

    • @m.z1256
      @m.z1256 Рік тому +25

      @@karthiknarayan6765 ?

    • @m.z1256
      @m.z1256 Рік тому +3

      @@abrajitota3618 what

  • @_motivated.soch14
    @_motivated.soch14 6 місяців тому +12

    My father and mother always fighting with each other. And they don't love eachother but both are living together because of society pressure but I think that It is better to take divorce. 😢
    Now I'm 17 year old and my mother face soo many opperations from my father. Also she doing hardwork and earning money.
    Apart from this she also mannage every money related issue in my home.

  • @AmandeepSingh-dv7jy
    @AmandeepSingh-dv7jy 2 місяці тому +14

    Divorce is better than staying in an abusive marriage

  • @msbrave4107
    @msbrave4107 Рік тому +251

    People have to understand that everytime relationship cannot work. So it's better to be separate than to be in an unwanted relationship which may be the reason for further problems like affairs or abuse in future. Which can cause the wrong impact on the children (if they have).

    • @mpsinghchauhan9346
      @mpsinghchauhan9346 Рік тому +8

      Well said bro

    • @Theflaghasfallen
      @Theflaghasfallen Рік тому +7

      Bro it's actually very simple , hear me out why relationships doesn't work.
      1.There is no physical attraction to make the relationship going. There might be exceptions where this is not needed but the truth is it matters. Otherwise why would people want to good look.
      2. The man or women abuses their partner because they think they are better than them and can order them around. This happened in the previous generations and before.
      3. Genuinely there is no emotional contribution from either party causing the relationship to break.
      As long as you are attractive and emotionally sane may be financially independent and get a decent partner , I can't see why the relationship wouldn't work.

    • @pranaya2800
      @pranaya2800 Рік тому +4

      Divorce should be taken only if spouse is physically or mentally abusive person and not for trivial reasons like it happens in the western countries.
      We indians think about kids parenting. Because after divorce it affects the life of children.

    • @msbrave4107
      @msbrave4107 Рік тому +18

      @@pranaya2800 Yea you are right. But I think the constant fightings between parents affect the children more than the divorce do.

    • @carx_thunder
      @carx_thunder Рік тому +3

      @@msbrave4107 log to fir ek dusre se man bhar gya isliye bhi divorce le lenge. fights can still be solved. divorce leke bacho ki zindagi kyu kharab karni hai?

  • @rajkumaar1999
    @rajkumaar1999 Рік тому +351

    Divorce is not a sigma but the way to move on from toxic marriages
    And society must understand it

    • @rpaafourever7908
      @rpaafourever7908 Рік тому +18

      @@thezoldics7648 Nope it's mostly men that say this, research shows that married men are happier than unmarried on average whereas its the opposite for women. Most probably because they get free access to sex to accommodate higher testosterone, free housework, admin work, ready made child-rearing, now wives are mostly earning also.. give us a break 😃

    • @AdityaYadav-ui3yc
      @AdityaYadav-ui3yc Рік тому

      @@rpaafourever7908 20 % women are working and rest 80%👏. Talking about sex as if girls hate sex . There is high % of women who just want to marry a rich man so that their dreams can be fulfilled without doing any hard work .
      What about the concept marry a man then file for a divorce and take their half property. Oops 🤫 this is business

    • @J7pat7
      @J7pat7 Рік тому +3

      @THE ZOLDICS It is up to the people in the marriage what they want to do .

    • @saniiftikar6500
      @saniiftikar6500 Рік тому +2

      @@rpaafourever7908 survey link??

    • @vatsalparmar5740
      @vatsalparmar5740 Рік тому +10

      Sigma nhi bhai stigma hota hai 😭

  • @snigdharoy1938
    @snigdharoy1938 11 місяців тому +7

    I Hear People Saying Divorce is Not Good But Yet Divorce is Better Than Living With a Wrong Partner..

  • @shinjin2241
    @shinjin2241 Рік тому +5

    i have only seen 2 divorces in my life and don't want to see more divorce
    Divorces will start downfall of Indian society and family system
    Instead of encouraging divorces we should work on making people's behavior and habits change

  • @priyanshupriyam5996
    @priyanshupriyam5996 Рік тому +126

    It is better to get seperated than to stay in toxic unwanted relationship which kills from inside each and everyday

    • @pranaya2800
      @pranaya2800 Рік тому +4

      Divorce should be taken only if spouse is physically or mentally abusive person and not for trivial reasons like it happens in the western countries.

    • @rajshekharnayak
      @rajshekharnayak Рік тому

      my story
      we were frnds for 5yrs,
      live in for 1 yr.
      got married, stayed together for 2yr. then now separated ,
      she stays in her hometown doing business, i stay near my company away 3days train journey.
      now no phones , no talk .
      i only talk to her in dreams .
      what is abusive , what is western culture..

    • @pranaya2800
      @pranaya2800 Рік тому +2

      @@priyanshupriyam5996 spouse refers to both

    • @sunilranjandas5714
      @sunilranjandas5714 Рік тому

      Doesn't matter, what matters is money. If your spouse is a high earner then divorce is of no use. Money matters, not emotions or so called social rights.

    • @rpaafourever7908
      @rpaafourever7908 Рік тому +3

      @@pranaya2800 Nope it's mostly men that say this, research shows that married men are happier than unmarried on average whereas its the opposite for women. Most probably because they get free access to sex to accommodate higher testosterone, free housework, admin work, ready made child-rearing, now wives are mostly earning also.. give us a break 😃

  • @sritamasanyal8173
    @sritamasanyal8173 Рік тому +134

    If the legal system is not asking any intrusive questions when two people decide to get married, they should not be so invasive when it comes to their divorce too. 🤷‍♀️

    • @adityachauhan3205
      @adityachauhan3205 Рік тому +6

      Preach!!!

    • @zebarizvi9393
      @zebarizvi9393 Рік тому

      Yaa... Phuppi bi wale questions they would ask in a family court.

    • @DragonOfTheMortalKombat
      @DragonOfTheMortalKombat Рік тому +2

      @@adityachauhan3205 cope.

    • @riscnx
      @riscnx Рік тому +1

      Because Marriage is social affair, where society recognised the union.
      And divorce is cheating the society's trust when they recognised the union. It's it's obvious for courts to ask why divorce.

    • @KunalBajpaiKanpur
      @KunalBajpaiKanpur Рік тому +5

      Legal system should not be involved at all in the family matters

  • @albertishu9066
    @albertishu9066 Рік тому +4

    Very sensitive topic yet very beautifully presented....thank you for this video...best content ❤

  • @rohinisharma810
    @rohinisharma810 Рік тому +4

    My parents are also living in an abusive relationship for more than 17 years now and honestly it had very adverse effect on my mental health since childhood.

  • @aryant1884
    @aryant1884 Рік тому +499

    10:10 These very similar things happened to my uncle. He is still fighting the case in the court, and due to that he can't even find a job and have to survive on the bare minimum. Thanks to Mohak for bringing this issue which not only affects women but men too. We need to normalize divorce in abusive relationships.

    • @peteck007
      @peteck007 Рік тому +6

      Shuruat aapse kro ya kisi dost ki madad kro, unhe support do.

    • @divyanshsingh1078
      @divyanshsingh1078 Рік тому +40

      yeah as much as i support women in domestic violence, i support men in domestic violence too. actually a little bit more, because seriously men might be very few in victim category. but its still way harder for them to come out. but hopefully with Johnny Depp case, men can get more freedom in expression.

    • @franzka9824
      @franzka9824 Рік тому +11

      but he talked about women like 90% time here

    • @hitendratiwari1990
      @hitendratiwari1990 Рік тому +14

      ​@@divyanshsingh1078.....why men are less victims????why you people always support women???in every hardships there are men who support????? When you get accident on the road and you will lying there like a snake...you gf will not come to save you...there will be MEN❤

    • @anuragnathyal5889
      @anuragnathyal5889 Рік тому +13

      @@hitendratiwari1990 You misunderstood his comment. He said "I support men a little more".
      What are you arguing about

  • @YouTube_user_2020
    @YouTube_user_2020 Рік тому +192

    Our society needs to be aware themselves and our legal system also needs to be updated also need to accept the divorces

    • @anandsharma7430
      @anandsharma7430 Рік тому

      Lawyers and judges are used to milking divorces.
      They are not adjusting towards increasing throughput and sales. They are just milking legacy customers.
      The divorce lawyer industry is not willing to scale up and expand their market even if the demand is obviously there, thanks to thoughtless arranged marriages by hyper enthusiastic peer pressured Indian parents haunted by "char log kya kahenge".

    • @nikhiltirmare4654
      @nikhiltirmare4654 Рік тому +1

      But Bhai tere opinion ki zarurat nahi thi kisi ko

    • @YouTube_user_2020
      @YouTube_user_2020 Рік тому +1

      @@nikhiltirmare4654 Thanks but yeh option ki bhi kya zaroorat

    • @nikhiltirmare4654
      @nikhiltirmare4654 Рік тому

      @@UA-cam_user_2020 arre bas mazak tha zyada seriously mat lena but accha tha tumhara comment 🫂

  • @sureshnishtala2887
    @sureshnishtala2887 Рік тому +3

    very well researched ....thank you Mohak

  • @happylucky198
    @happylucky198 Рік тому +16

    As somebody who has gone through a divorce, my experience tells me the family of the girl never wants to accept her back, especially if there is a brother. They see her as a financial liability and a source of embarrassment. It happens a lot even in so called educated families. Relatives also play a big hand in introducing such toxic ideas that makes us women fear even going back even for a short duration, to our parents homes, post divorce.
    Secondly, the brothers also feel insecure about the inheritance they might lose due to the presence of their female siblings.. Causing rifts as in my case. Now I have moved out and stay by myself post divorce. Its more peaceful than the toxic societal relationships.

    • @yourblackstar19
      @yourblackstar19 10 місяців тому +1

      When your brother gets married there will be more issues but atleast you have someone who can help you if you are sick or something. Don’t spoil your relationship with your brother or get married again or adopt a child. I know sounds bad but people need support in life

  • @curiouslyunruffled
    @curiouslyunruffled Рік тому +256

    The real cowards are people who choose to stay in toxic marriages, not the ones who seek divorce from a mentally/physically abusive union. Thank you Mohak for this well-researched commentary video, I hope this reaches more and more Indians!

    • @ohgauch
      @ohgauch Рік тому +50

      Cowards? Had you been in that situation you might do the same. Their circumstances, background, up bringing, knowledge, finances, support system, personal beliefs and value systems are way diff than yours. Refrain from judging others with the same lens. Very poor assessment and choice of words on your behalf.

    • @curiouslyunruffled
      @curiouslyunruffled Рік тому +24

      @@ohgauch My opinion is a very subjective one because it's based on real-life experience pertaining to my family. And hence my so-called judgment is targeted only to people who might be in a similar boat so whoever shall relate will agree with me. I obviously come from a fairly privileged background and yet am privy to many toxic marriages in my circle that could've been done away with had both parties been more mature and headstrong. I never said that my opinion is the gospel truth and hence whoever reads it is free to agree to it or not. And trust me, I concur that every couple has to handle and balance its own personalized baggage of internal/external factors like you mentioned. So kindly refrain from generalizing what strangers on the internet have to say without knowing their entire backstory. Thank you!

    • @ohgauch
      @ohgauch Рік тому +6

      @@curiouslyunruffled 👍

    • @uncannyroaches5933
      @uncannyroaches5933 Рік тому +27

      Cowards? Please think twice before speaking as it is a very sensitive issue.
      I'm 19 year old, and my parents divorced when I was 10. Half my life was taken away from me.
      So maybe they are happy in their own life, but they destroyed mine in the process

    • @srikanthsv79
      @srikanthsv79 Рік тому +30

      ​@@uncannyroaches5933 learn to live on your own, I grew up with single mom too yet il be the only one to get us UNSC seat.
      Live on your own as nobody owes you anything, parents need to be happy too & they will be happy when away from each other

  • @abdulkaleem8927
    @abdulkaleem8927 Рік тому +115

    We're human we do make mistakes, I don't know why people don't understand it. In my friend neighbors house there was a girl who run away at the day of her marriage because she don't wanted to get married with that guy. The exact reasons behind her decision remain unknown to me. However, since that incident, no man has ever chosen to marry her. She has faced constant rejection. Even her own family did not offer support, resulting in daily conflicts within their household. At last she got married at the age of 36 as second wife. She endured a 12-year wait before finding a partner to marry. In my perspective, it seemed like society's way of punishing her. But why? Simply because she refused to spend her life with the person they had chosen for her. Indian society really sucks

    • @kafka1343
      @kafka1343 Рік тому

      @io mn and ex hindus are waiting for you cause sanatan promotes 7 janmo ka pseudoscience which ruined the life of widows and tonn of girl in name of sita
      Ghar me aurat peette rhe Or sath janmo ka rishta chale lol

    • @kafka1343
      @kafka1343 Рік тому

      Lol bro islam completely condemn the forceful marriage of girls
      There are ton of hadith where without consent marriage of women being broken and they married to there choice husband

    • @user-7707
      @user-7707 Рік тому

      ​@@iomn😂😂

    • @nknawaz4
      @nknawaz4 Рік тому

      @io mn try harder😂

    • @HyperMusic13
      @HyperMusic13 Рік тому

      ​@io mn lol😂😂

  • @An11Ran
    @An11Ran Рік тому +3

    I love that your videos have become longer because now you go deep into the topic!!

  • @deshanisenanayake759
    @deshanisenanayake759 11 місяців тому +5

    I have no words to say! You are running the best UA-cam channel in this century. Talking about the most important social issues in India where nobody talks. You are an amazing impactful person to this society and you change the world. Please continue the hard work!

  • @theundiscoveredjourney_
    @theundiscoveredjourney_ Рік тому +394

    I feel Divorce is an individual choice and legal system should not be an obstacle in that journey. Its great if problems between couples are sorted out with time. But if there isn't a way out of this mess then divorce is the only solution and it shouldn't be stigmatized.

    • @speedbird-777
      @speedbird-777 Рік тому +6

      i 100% agree with you

    • @speedbird-777
      @speedbird-777 Рік тому +2

      I wish someone sued the legal system over this

    • @goldennamedcooper
      @goldennamedcooper Рік тому +2

      @@Dwitiya_Nasti_OM muslims already do that so no problem

    • @Abhinav_Nayana_Sailen
      @Abhinav_Nayana_Sailen Рік тому +5

      ​@द्वितीय नास्ती (ओ३म्) Sources, now

    • @pranaya2800
      @pranaya2800 Рік тому +5

      Divorce should be taken only if spouse is physically or mentally abusive person and not for trivial reasons like it happens in the western countries.
      We indians think about kids parenting. Because after divorce it affects the life of children.

  • @kiranmultani1075
    @kiranmultani1075 Рік тому +85

    More than 70 percent marriages I know including mine would have been broken if people were open to divorce 😢

    • @MischiefL0ki
      @MischiefL0ki Рік тому +6

      Power to you maam

    • @rpaafourever7908
      @rpaafourever7908 Рік тому

      @@thezoldics7648 Nope it's more... it's mostly men that say this, research shows that married men are happier than unmarried on average whereas its the opposite for women. Most probably because they get free access to sex to accommodate higher testosterone, free housework, admin work, ready made child-rearing, now wives are mostly earning also.. give us a break 😃 also Indian men are mostly physically unattractive with no game so chances of finding another woman are low and so are chances to get all those other things mentioned earlier 😂

    • @gzzhytihubgithabibhub
      @gzzhytihubgithabibhub Рік тому

      70 percent that means the majority of the population is not matured enough to be considered qualified to enter in the institute of marriage

  • @Cartooni-me
    @Cartooni-me 5 місяців тому +4

    If couple want divorce then just give them simple but our society makes thing difficult

  • @sausamyself7585
    @sausamyself7585 Рік тому +7

    When it comes to inequality, india is on top notch❤

  • @SaibrataPunyasloka
    @SaibrataPunyasloka Рік тому +35

    Even after a financial independence many just choose to stay.... Not in the culture but it's all about "log kya kahenge".... Sigh ...such a saddening thing...

    • @rickycool6083
      @rickycool6083 Рік тому

      Log kya kahenge has a lot more value than people give it credit for. Social shame and praise for various things affects the life of you and your children, and making the world your enemy is neither a brave thing nor a right thing to do. Its simply foolish. Maybe check out negatives of divorces and society before saying its wrong, its not. America is perfect example, with over 50% divorce, no guy wants to marry and no woman is ever satisfied and more than 1/3 children come from single parent household and tend to do bad in everything in life. This is just the tip of the ice berg.

    • @SaibrataPunyasloka
      @SaibrataPunyasloka Рік тому +3

      @@Ezra-wy7ux I think that's a separate issue all together... But then abuse, bad mental health of parents has a great effect on the child as such and hence laws framed should try to consider these as well I think

  • @sohamsteel1345
    @sohamsteel1345 Рік тому +109

    I have seen how my father tortured my mother..I was contemplating suicide when I was of class 8, as I grew , I and my mother somewhat adjusted, and now things have cooled. I used to ask my mother, on why she never divorced him ,she replied, I CAN'T EVEN SEND YOU TO SCHOOL BECAUSE, WHEN THEY WIL GIVE A FORM, THEY WIL ASK The FATHER'S name, not of the mother.. Our low life indian society is a degenerated cr*p...Divorce is any day better than a extremely toxic relationship...god help them whose lives have wasted because if the fear of divorce .

    • @shivampandya1562
      @shivampandya1562 Рік тому +8

      From 1990's for schools both parents name are given

    • @rickycool6083
      @rickycool6083 Рік тому +17

      If you have no respect for society than what makes you think society will have any respect for you? Divorce is always an option but its the last option. Mother's name can be given instead of your father's name, but you were too ignorant to figure it out. Fathers name is there cause in almost all cases father is the one who is the primary breadwinner and typically head of the household. And yes divorce is still bad, maybe instead look beyond your anecdotal life experience and read the stats for divorced couple around the world.

    • @gsdjessie
      @gsdjessie Рік тому +14

      It's not necessary to use my father's name . I have my mother's name as a middle name She has worked hard to keep me happy and give me everything so she deserves this so that everyone will know me as her child. I tell my name proudly to everyone.

    • @jabirmohammedhussain7091
      @jabirmohammedhussain7091 Рік тому +1

      ​​@@gsdjessie ok hindu, woman now go and drink your husband's feet water. it contains all the holy water in it.

    • @balajiraju4157
      @balajiraju4157 Рік тому

      @@jabirmohammedhussain7091 why are you butthurt... pervert

  • @liquidator8078
    @liquidator8078 Рік тому

    Sir you're doing a really great job, i like how you put the argument both side and tell us the pro n cons of the things that many people don't.

  • @easy_hair
    @easy_hair Рік тому +2

    You are right mohak.....stress is one of the reason in hairloss that we often ignore it.....mujhe bhi hairfall ho rhe the that was genetic and exaggerated by stress and vitamin deficiency......aur mujhe insab se niklane aur mere baal wapas laane mein traya ne bahut help Kiya....they have a wonderful team who will cater your hairloss and health issue including stress management.....their hair coaches are so polite and helped you with all your queries and doubts regarding hairloss.....if you are also facing such hairfall problem, you must go for traya

  • @PROOB-xq2rq
    @PROOB-xq2rq Рік тому +39

    I don't even understand why divorce itself is a big legal matter, just some paperwork and the couple are free to separate.

    • @lawdose7
      @lawdose7 Рік тому +5

      Meet a lawyer ....mutual separation is easiest way for divorce

    • @PROOB-xq2rq
      @PROOB-xq2rq Рік тому +8

      @Hersheyyy And I object to them, it they want to separate just let it happen, why such a hassle even legally?

    • @parusahu6961
      @parusahu6961 Рік тому +3

      Well we are not in an animistic society so marriage is not just paper work....

    • @MOHAMMED-gi2uh
      @MOHAMMED-gi2uh Рік тому

      It is not so easy, if it was so easy more than marraige halls divorce lawyers would have been more easy

    • @srikrishnak196
      @srikrishnak196 Рік тому

      ​@@PROOB-xq2rq Yes but they should do that before having kids

  • @anupriyaghosh8442
    @anupriyaghosh8442 Рік тому +205

    I think the main problem is not divorce . The problem is not achieving the maturity enough to choose the right life partner .

    • @anupriyaghosh8442
      @anupriyaghosh8442 Рік тому +22

      @@usersYT that is what I said still maximum of human beings don't have that maturity and foresightedness to choose the right person .

    • @prajakt0789
      @prajakt0789 Рік тому +21

      Rightly pointed out. First need to work on creating thoughtful sensitive individuals in the society. It will take great work.

    • @architsrivastav1724
      @architsrivastav1724 Рік тому +6

      Rightly said bro that's the main point

    • @rachelbegmusic
      @rachelbegmusic Рік тому +13

      Exactly . This is the truth. People marry very early out of love.
      The fact is one should heal themselves, develop their awareness , let time & self work develop them into more matured beings .
      Healthy people make healthy relationships.

    • @-atamimsiddiqui3042
      @-atamimsiddiqui3042 Рік тому +5

      ​@@anupriyaghosh8442most people aren't mature enough to understand day to day situations, I have seen it in both public setting and private setting

  • @sufyanmukri9610
    @sufyanmukri9610 Рік тому +7

    Very informative. You highlighted both parts that divorce can be good or bad. It shouldnt be done too easily nor linger several years. Proper therapy needs to be done in advance to prevent divorce n fix marriage. I appreciate you sharing that men are being abused n harassed too and women face loneliness& depression more

  • @adwaitkulkarni
    @adwaitkulkarni 11 місяців тому +1

    Bro keep making such videos! It shocks me when Indian people talk about the low divorce rates so proudly online. This was much needed, thank you.

  • @therealgrimreaper68
    @therealgrimreaper68 Рік тому +34

    People think low divorce rates are good, they're not. It only means more people are stuck in abusive and unhappy marriages

  • @BenKIKON99
    @BenKIKON99 3 місяці тому +3

    _Thank you for sharing such a vital issue in the country... May God bless you and your work_
    🗿👍

  • @mikeplays6413
    @mikeplays6413 Рік тому +2

    one of the best videos i have seen till now, this man is doing great stuff

  • @ambarsarwala
    @ambarsarwala Рік тому +18

    Divorce Is A Blessing If... Your Partner Is Not Happy With U... At Least...Live Your Life With Peace... 😌

  • @ivinitmittal
    @ivinitmittal Рік тому +240

    We must be really open to the concept of divorce, I mean like it's way better than a toxic/violent marriage and alse better for the kids in the long run, as growing up in an abusive home leaves mental scars that don't heal....

    • @rickycool6083
      @rickycool6083 Рік тому

      Take a look at US before saying that, divorce enforces slacky behaviour and attitutde to give up when times get tough. Single parent households literally produce the worst kids. You have way better ways to deals with bad people in marriages than divorce. Not to mention divorce laws alsohurt men way more than women, so it be used to scam men too.

    • @MrSigriwal
      @MrSigriwal Рік тому +4

      But most things like wearing veil and traditional roles are for the betterment of married woman like crimes against women in saudi arabia and iran are really low .Plus Marriage is something very important and is the main thing which keeps society stable

    • @peteck007
      @peteck007 Рік тому

      We are not open because the system or the whole Indian culture made us lazy. Parents make their kids lazy and overly dependant on other people. Also a reason why people don't have guts to divorce even when they feel like they got the terrible partner.

    • @ilikeu12
      @ilikeu12 Рік тому

      ​@@MrSigriwal lol you are dumb what kind of statistics are you talking about in Iran violence against women is an all time high

    • @bloodwargaming3662
      @bloodwargaming3662 Рік тому +3

      ​@@MrSigriwal lmao

  • @rashmisbeautifullife1841
    @rashmisbeautifullife1841 Рік тому +1

    Very nice Mohak. Specially that last part where you recommend about couple therapy and touched that because of children , it is so so difficult to make a balance in taking a divorce yet not letting family break . Very good topic. India needs more awareness on this topic breaking the hypocrisy of an old nonfunctional system.

  • @tanuyadav7217
    @tanuyadav7217 7 місяців тому +2

    What a video Mohak , love it !

  • @foodreligion78
    @foodreligion78 Рік тому +92

    Women are not safe in public spaces, but that does not mean that they are safe in their private spaces. Various cases of domestic violence are reported. Cases of domestic violence such as marital rape, dowry deaths, mental torture, bride burning, and female infanticide are reported daily

    • @Proteinrichyash
      @Proteinrichyash Рік тому +27

      Yes this is sad but do you know our Indian society doesn't even see that a wife abusing his husband or beating his husband as a domestic violence for example you can her from any man "yaar agar mai yeh karunga toh biwi bohot maregi" And you'll have normal reaction but when a women says that "agar aaj yeh nahi kiya toh mera pati bohot marega" You'll have a completely different reaction, how normalized it is 💀

    • @rishiraul
      @rishiraul Рік тому +10

      ​@@Proteinrichyash true feminist
      Kaha milti hai tum jaisi ldkiya Samriddhi 🙇🏻‍♂️

    • @pranaya2800
      @pranaya2800 Рік тому +3

      Divorce should be taken only if spouse is physically or mentally abusive person and not for trivial reasons like it happens in the western countries.

    • @rosec_rose6661
      @rosec_rose6661 Рік тому

      Its always joked that if a man is beaten by wife which is so wrong!
      It is shamed or ignored when a wife is beaten by man
      Abuse is abuse it doesnt see gender it's the indian mentality that makes it disturbing
      Both gender shall not beat each other to make understand seperate or get divorce you are just adding sins to your pathetic life

    • @Proteinrichyash
      @Proteinrichyash Рік тому +1

      @@rishiraul ❤😅

  • @commentatorxyz5514
    @commentatorxyz5514 Рік тому +35

    Biggest issue with marriage is - you expect your partner to meet your needs (besides sex), while your partner expects similarly from you.
    Since their needs never end but your patience ends at some point, you can't actually ever complete your partners' needs.

    • @anandsharma7430
      @anandsharma7430 Рік тому +4

      The word is "wants". Needs are universally accepted. Wants are individual and endless. Sorry for being pedantic.

    • @Sameer2107
      @Sameer2107 Рік тому +2

      @@anandsharma7430 You are punctilious

    • @user-uz1xg1jp1m
      @user-uz1xg1jp1m Рік тому +2

      the biggest reason ppl want to divorce is abuse dude

    • @rpaafourever7908
      @rpaafourever7908 Рік тому

      It's mostly men with no prospects that say this, research shows that married men are happier than unmarried on average whereas its the opposite for women. Most probably because they get free access to sex to accommodate higher testosterone, free housework, admin work, ready made child-rearing, now wives are mostly earning also.. give us a break 😃 also Indian men are mostly physically unattractive with no game so chances of finding another woman are low and so are chances to get all those other things mentioned earlier 😂

  • @onlyaalu
    @onlyaalu Рік тому +2

    Your topic selection is at best currently... really loving it.

  • @aarifhussain5340
    @aarifhussain5340 5 місяців тому +3

    Divorce is healthy and life saving

  • @swarajherole3650
    @swarajherole3650 Рік тому +62

    Divorce becomes necessary in case of domestic violence or infedility..however when people say the marriage is taking a toll on their mental health.. doesn't everything in life?..How many things will we run away from?..we just need to communicate better and try and solve the issues..

    • @prajakt0789
      @prajakt0789 Рік тому +1

      Truth.

    • @loonadom676
      @loonadom676 Рік тому +8

      But when that communication also fails to solve the problems, divorce becomes a necessity.

    • @anweshabhatta5951
      @anweshabhatta5951 Рік тому +4

      Sometimes inlaws are also the reason for arguements between husband and wife

    • @rpaafourever7908
      @rpaafourever7908 Рік тому

      It's mostly men that say this, research shows that married men are happier than unmarried on average whereas its the opposite for women. Most probably because they get free access to sex to accommodate higher testosterone, free housework, admin work, ready made child-rearing, now wives are mostly earning also.. give us a break 😃 also Indian men are mostly physically unattractive with no game so chances of finding another woman are low and so are chances to get all those other things mentioned earlier 😂

    • @theredstar6493
      @theredstar6493 Рік тому

      This is what I was wondering, people say if they're not happy in marriage they should leave
      Like who'll define happy? A person may not be happy even after having everything they wanted to, on top of that you'll punish an innocent side (mostly men are at the receiving end by being financially responsible)
      I feel adultery, DV and some heinous crimes should be a reason for divorce at any moment in marriage whereas every other reason should become invalid once you have kids involved

  • @asithch
    @asithch Рік тому +63

    Thanks Mohak! Your video really resonated with me. I'm going through a mutual divorce right now, and it's been really tough. I know that sometimes people fall out of love, and that a marriage can become toxic. It's better to be separated than to suffer in a relationship that is no longer working.
    But the hardest part for me has been the social prejudice against divorcees. I'm ashamed to say that I'm a divorcee, even though I did nothing wrong.
    Your video reminded me that I'm not alone. There are many people who have gone through what I'm going through, and they have come out the other side. I'm determined to rebuild my life, and I know that I will be stronger for it.
    Thank you again for your video. It has given me hope.

  • @tejassalankar5746
    @tejassalankar5746 7 місяців тому +2

    I know many men stuck in marriage and facing domestic abuse. Some managed to change it into a good relationship but some just could not do anything about it and are stuck for life in it.

  • @smartankit8996
    @smartankit8996 Рік тому

    what a hard work man .... soo much research, content, arrangement,......👍👍👍

  • @AsmitaMishra-vq7xj
    @AsmitaMishra-vq7xj Рік тому +55

    in India ....divorce rate is less ..not because people are happy in there relationships.....its there fear of ..."log kya kahenge"....they give more importance to society than their owm happiness

    • @fahadnazir945
      @fahadnazir945 Рік тому +3

      And who will marry devorced women espically who have children

    • @parusahu6961
      @parusahu6961 Рік тому

      Same western reasoning of if something is good outside west then the people are shit simple....

    • @aryanchoudhary378
      @aryanchoudhary378 Рік тому +2

      ​@@fahadnazir945 true even if someone wants to marry a divorce women or men first their family Stop them

    • @Dattebayo3089
      @Dattebayo3089 Рік тому +5

      Most women dont go for divorce cuz they are not self independent. And women always think for lavish life and a husband who is way richer. Many women r marrying a person by seeing his wealth not heart and behavioral. Even rich women also like models, actresses, politicsians. Women is most responsible as they choose men by seeing their wealth.

    • @AsmitaMishra-vq7xj
      @AsmitaMishra-vq7xj Рік тому +1

      @@fahadnazir945 and why do you think marriage is necessary for happy life....if one is self independent and satisfied , they should not worry about society

  • @yashwantsawant7736
    @yashwantsawant7736 Рік тому +11

    Divorce is far better than being suffered through Unhappy, Mental Pressure , Domestic Violence and Women treat as object

  • @Debangshu.Chanda
    @Debangshu.Chanda Рік тому +5

    Thanks mohak bhaiya,for bringing out male issues at the public domain. You are truly an unbiased man👍👍👍

  • @abhishekhota7620
    @abhishekhota7620 3 місяці тому

    Really needed this - thanks man.

  • @evilnightbot3131
    @evilnightbot3131 Рік тому +84

    This comment section clearly shows how we are still not mentally developed yet to accept divorces in society if a women get abused or a men gets disrespect so what should they do? Should they stay with that toxic person for their whole life or leave that person and start a new better life? Indians need to grow alot. So sad to see this comments❌

    • @angrymanwithsillymoustasche
      @angrymanwithsillymoustasche Рік тому +12

      Because people think it's western culture against our culture

    • @evilnightbot3131
      @evilnightbot3131 Рік тому +23

      @@angrymanwithsillymoustasche it's not about western or indian its about freedom of a person either it's a male or female. They should able to choose whom they want to spend their life with.

    • @supremacy1243
      @supremacy1243 Рік тому +13

      I guess Vedic(hindu) marriage speaks about marital bonding is upto 7th reincarnation of both husband and wife , but i still thinks it's better to be separated rather than living in abusive marriage

    • @rickycool6083
      @rickycool6083 Рік тому

      Maybe you are not mentally developed and matured enough to realise duties as a adult is more important than your likes and dislikes. Compromise and coordination would be immpossible if people can just leave like its nobody's buisiness. A family unit must stay strong and it is the thing which makes indians so successful and well behaved among any other nations. Compare data with US with over 50% divorce rate to see the contrast. You will see that youare the dumb one.

    • @rickycool6083
      @rickycool6083 Рік тому +2

      @@evilnightbot3131 Use that freedom to work with your life partner and make it work, people won't do the hard work if they don't have to. Everybody faces difficulty in their realtionships leaving is not the optimal choice especially for adults. And people do choose in india, even in arranged marriages, so drop the idea as if its oppressive and all people are sad. Indian families tend to be happier and more vibrant than european and american ones.

  • @CharuttaDasture
    @CharuttaDasture Рік тому +57

    I feel happy reading this comment section. We guys specially this generation has evolved and learned so much and still open to learn....i assume and have a feeling most of us are open to transformation❤

    • @devangpatel4461
      @devangpatel4461 Рік тому

      Love ❤U Meri Charu

    • @rpaafourever7908
      @rpaafourever7908 Рік тому +8

      @@thezoldics7648 Nope it's mostly men that say this, research shows that married men are happier than unmarried on average whereas its the opposite for women. Most probably because they get free access to sex to accommodate higher testosterone, free housework, admin work, ready made child-rearing, now wives are mostly earning also.. give us a break 😃

    • @kritika6675
      @kritika6675 8 місяців тому

      No most people of this generation are also same I completed my 12th this year we had a chemistry teacher who was a divorcee and students used to make fun about her and they even made a rumour that she is having an affair with our principal because she was seen in a restaurant with her although her parents are supportive

    • @FiestyForce
      @FiestyForce 7 місяців тому +3

      ​@@thezoldics7648Divorced women aren't stupid that they'll just let someone use and throw them. This is just fear mongering.

  • @b2gupta012
    @b2gupta012 11 місяців тому +1

    I liked the way you carefully presented this sensitive topic. 😊

  • @keerthiadimulam9319
    @keerthiadimulam9319 11 місяців тому +5

    Let me tell you, my parents decided to part their ways after 27 years of marriage. Was that a happy marriage? No, not at all. My father had trust issues and self worth issues which impacted on my mom negatively. He never trusted my mom around other men, while I know how hard my mom tried to make him understand that she wasn't doing anything wrong. It impacted my mental health so much that once they were in an argument and I suddenly got fits out of nowhere. Now it doesn't mean that I'm weak, it's just that I've had enough for a 15 year old (I'm 23 now). Relatives said, it's time to get your girl married and now you're talking about breaking your own marriage? Well, I luckily have a wonderful boyfriend with a very understanding and healthy family and they understand everything that we've been through. Sometimes, honestly the best thing you can do is walk away. I pity my mom so much, she never knew what a healthy marriage and a loving husband meant. Even after all this, I sincerely hope she finds a man who truly loves her before she dies.

  • @siddhantverma9015
    @siddhantverma9015 Рік тому +51

    Mohak, your work is impeccable. Your choice of topics, the research on it and the calmness in your voice is what makes you stand apart from other channels.
    Really appreciate your work.

  • @anuragnathyal5889
    @anuragnathyal5889 Рік тому +18

    I have also talked with someone about solution for this problem ( she was also facing problems in her marriage) . Her very first response was : financial freedom is the most important. So yes financial freedom is a very a good point said in this video.

  • @Priyanka03000
    @Priyanka03000 Рік тому

    You just earned a new subscriber with this great awareness content🎉Hats off to you for talking about it❤❤❤literally I'm impressed 😊

  • @amanprasad1345
    @amanprasad1345 Рік тому +37

    Divorce lawyers : thanks mohak for increasing our customers

  • @KRB696
    @KRB696 Рік тому +103

    This is one of many reasons I advocate living in together before anything. Which is still seen as something too unrealistic for India.

    • @abhinandannuli7574
      @abhinandannuli7574 Рік тому +18

      by far the best and most practical thing to do.. live together for at least 2 years before you marry each other.. if you survive that, and still want to marry each other, then go ahead and do it.. but most people dont understand that they're making their decisions based on a feeling of romantic connection which might turn into the biggest trauma of their life..

    • @mogleesh-22
      @mogleesh-22 Рік тому +13

      Exactly, live in should be encouraged more. It's good know your partner before in marriage. It lowers the chances of divorce. And leads to happy marriage.

    • @peteck007
      @peteck007 Рік тому +1

      बॉयफ्रेंड/गर्लफ्रेंड होना और उनसे शादी करना ये बात तो आम हो चुकी है, पर मेरी माने तो शादी से पहले इस तरह से बिल्कुल भी 24 घंटों साथ नहीं रहना चाहिए.. इससे केवल निराशा ही हाथ लगती है. आजकल प्रेमी/प्रेमिकाएँ एक दुसरे के साथ बिना एक छत के नीचे रहे भी बेहद कुछ कर लेते है, तो ऐसे समय मे शादी होने तक संयम रखने से वैवाहिक जीवन सुखकर बिताया जा सकता है

    • @mehraan6327
      @mehraan6327 Рік тому +3

      Or maybe we should live in forever.

    • @hey_you.
      @hey_you. Рік тому +1

      ​@@abhinandannuli7574 This💯

  • @aangkurosaki9824
    @aangkurosaki9824 Рік тому +67

    Why do Indians hate divorce?
    Because we have unhinged expensive weddings

    • @MOHAMMED-gi2uh
      @MOHAMMED-gi2uh Рік тому

      That is the mistake of people who conduct them

    • @uncannyroaches5933
      @uncannyroaches5933 Рік тому +1

      It is also a permanent investment.
      Bank se lekar aadhar card ya jo bhi govt documents hai jaha bhi money involved hai sab kuch linked hai. In some cases, apartment ya flat ya house ka ownership bhi transfer ya share karte hai.
      Marriage certificate de rakha hota h koi insurance mein aur fir agar beech m toot Gaya toh waha loss.
      Also, when married tumne usko bohot saare cheeze khareed ke bhi Dena padega saaree, all that designer stuff, or idk whatever involving money.
      Itna bada investment hai

  • @nerdysweethappy3531
    @nerdysweethappy3531 Рік тому +1

    All the examples were very nice covering each and every topic and pov.. thankyou mohak.. I really like your videos very much the way you explain.. and I also want to request you for a video for young women nowadays not wanting to get married

  • @DheerajPal335
    @DheerajPal335 Рік тому +2

    भाई बहुत ही important video लाते हैं आप लोग... Thank you for your great job.

  • @mpsinghchauhan9346
    @mpsinghchauhan9346 Рік тому +27

    One message to all my brothers and sisters and to my all elders with due respect, that one must ensure with 100 % time and efforts that with whom you wanted to marry and be in relationship.

  • @dipshikhadas5470
    @dipshikhadas5470 Рік тому +30

    My mom never get devorced because of the "Devorcee tag", now after almost 30 years she wants to live separately, she's severely depressed, I only saw the harmony of our house based on her sacrifice which is not good. I wish I could help her.

    • @trueword4971
      @trueword4971 Рік тому

      So you should not marry. You have to face same consequences like your mother

    • @JustMe54328
      @JustMe54328 Рік тому +1

      It’s sad! But many women live like this, including my aunts. One was married to an alcoholic, one to a dowry-beggar.

    • @Honeybear0488
      @Honeybear0488 11 місяців тому

      @@trueword4971that’s not a solution to the problem. Their mom needs support group to help her be strong in taking the choice of divorce. After years of living unhappily, she probably needs that mental assurance that people won’t blame her.

  • @vandanarana6164
    @vandanarana6164 7 місяців тому +3

    Every person man or women , they should take Divorce instead of being available in toxic marriage. Marriage should be sacred not toxic for anyone. Divorce should not be considered as taboo or alien thing and their choices should be respected.

  • @user-ng8ey2xy2b
    @user-ng8ey2xy2b Рік тому

    Thank you Mohak for this video😊

  • @teenakhatri3650
    @teenakhatri3650 Рік тому +32

    Great work! This clearly shows what a bad marriage can do to a person, how openness to this can help at various social issues. Small step towards happy society. Peak point was the insight of mental health of single mother.

  • @hrkuchsirfira-xf9qf
    @hrkuchsirfira-xf9qf Рік тому +16

    He missed a point..It is right that children from divorced parents might find it hard but children seeing their parents fighting for over years also had a huge impact on them and in future they lose faith over concept of marriage.

  • @col.waltervonschonkopf69
    @col.waltervonschonkopf69 7 місяців тому +1

    People judge divorcees so harshly and discriminate against them even if their marriage was unhappy. People would rather that people died from sadness in bad marriages than divorce.

  • @rhythmjoshi8939
    @rhythmjoshi8939 Рік тому

    Love how your videos talk about the issues that men and women face with such topics cause more than often people barely talk about the taboos , issues that men, too have to face when talking about such sensitive issues

  • @aakhthuu
    @aakhthuu Рік тому +6

    When the country's respected PM is a divorcee, divorce should not be a big issue anymore.

  • @Unavailableayush
    @Unavailableayush Рік тому +66

    " I am single " I am am happy that I am independent.
    I can live my life differently unlike others.
    I can work for my passion rather than giving up.

    • @rahiyanakhtar8450
      @rahiyanakhtar8450 Рік тому +2

      👍

    • @thewalker338
      @thewalker338 Рік тому +7

      Virgin ladki chahiye, Second hand ko to divorce dena hi hoga

    • @Juststayhopeful
      @Juststayhopeful Рік тому

      @@thewalker338 yeah

    • @Lalalqnd
      @Lalalqnd Рік тому

      ​@@thewalker338I hope this is sarcastic humour.

    • @moon-star-galexy
      @moon-star-galexy Рік тому

      ​@@Lalalqnd nope, he is scammer copy pasting it in almost every reply and it's quite pathetic honestly

  • @Al3xAckerman
    @Al3xAckerman Рік тому +1

    In 2021 me and my mom ran away from my abusive father but my mom’s sisters Shamed her a lot for it but my grandparents and her brother supported both of us. Now we’re living a happy life without my dad.

  • @Oswald820
    @Oswald820 3 місяці тому +1

    If we had equitable laws where a divorced wife had equal property rights in a marriage, many women and children could walk out of an abusive family. Yes, laws exist but the ground reality is that they rarely get implemented.