"Male R@pe Is Real and Very Common" - S*X Therapist Explains

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  • @girish884
    @girish884 2 місяці тому +1270

    Unfortunately there’s no law to protect men and even society isn’t ready to hear them

    • @swapnilbhosale7958
      @swapnilbhosale7958 2 місяці тому +16

      😂

    • @sasuke36571
      @sasuke36571 2 місяці тому +74

      @@swapnilbhosale7958 hass kyu rahi hai be jabh ladkio ko hoga toh bhi hasenge ok

    • @Priyaykanth2
      @Priyaykanth2 2 місяці тому +73

      Parliament laughed when Asaduddin Owaisi talked about it
      I know he is not a good person
      But in that case he was right
      Almost all Parliamentarians laughed

    • @shashidhar7476
      @shashidhar7476 2 місяці тому +8

      There are laws to protect minors, that's more than enough to deal with these incidents

    • @Priyaykanth2
      @Priyaykanth2 2 місяці тому +33

      ​@@shashidhar7476
      How will Minor Law help an Adult
      Adult Men are facing DV, Rape, Molestation, etc how will Minor Law help in these Cases
      In Jail Male Rape is like having daily food

  • @Vishakha_B897
    @Vishakha_B897 2 місяці тому +612

    My heart goes out to all men who have suffered in this manner, and remained unseen and unheard.

    • @Anant-K
      @Anant-K 2 місяці тому +4

      ❤❤

    • @Unlock18-re3ld
      @Unlock18-re3ld 2 місяці тому +17

      It's very complex to understand man rape as compared to female. Sad but truth. But thanks to social media ki ab ispe vi conversations ho rahi hai.😊 Nahi ajkal to aise vi females hai jo proud se bolti hai ki koi hot ladka ya man unka rape karde. Shocking hai but truth hai.

    • @JN_India
      @JN_India 2 місяці тому +6

      Many women have too...sadly

    • @mohammedraazi4943
      @mohammedraazi4943 2 місяці тому +10

      Men is rare , men are strong to protect themselves

    • @JN_India
      @JN_India 2 місяці тому

      @@mohammedraazi4943 in complete agreement

  • @karthikr177
    @karthikr177 2 місяці тому +504

    I spoke to a psychologist who was a counsellor and I was totally surprised when she did not know that in case of child abuse the number of affected boys is greater than girls. She did a small googling and then came back surprised. This is the kind of awareness that we have even with people who are educated in that particular field.

    • @KV_55555
      @KV_55555 2 місяці тому +14

      It's not her job actually. there are ways to get you out of your bad zone & they do that. You're talking about statistics she is not a data analyst.

    • @karthikr177
      @karthikr177 2 місяці тому +15

      @@KV_55555 agreed that it's not her job. It was just a surprise that she was prejudiced about the data.

    • @KV_55555
      @KV_55555 2 місяці тому +8

      @@karthikr177 By the way, even I am surprised. I didn't get the numbers until I saw the CHILD* part. Maybe it is so because ONE - our society don't view it as sexual harassment in case of boys which gives confidence to assaulters. SECOND - guys, when adults can take care of abusers so they target children that's why in case of girls most victims are adults & in the cases of guys most victims are children. Unfortunately I was also a victim of this (in childhood) & not once. I hate my memory, inability to do something more than those people 😔

    • @karthikr177
      @karthikr177 2 місяці тому

      @@KV_55555 I also had been abused as a kid. But one more data to note is that most of the abuses of boys are men. In all my different time periods of abuse only two were women. It is just that boys are available more than women and girls. As society mostly girls are protected more than boys. But I truly honestly believe that times have changed. 😊👍🙏

    • @mihirsharma0987
      @mihirsharma0987 2 місяці тому +8

      Yaa .I know about that ....boys are getting abused and harassed by men only ...I mean I have so many friends who have this story like they have sexually harrassed by their own relatives mostly are chacha , fufa and all the male members

  • @Home-o2v4h
    @Home-o2v4h 2 місяці тому +114

    She is absolutely right about the “seeing oneself as object” part.
    And
    Dominance is different from assertiveness.
    Dominance is imposing anything on others ( the one being dominated ).
    Assertiveness is not allowing anyone to impose anything on you.
    I am writing this comment because she used it synonymously.

  • @anamikaseth2102
    @anamikaseth2102 2 місяці тому +200

    She simplified it so well to understand...its time men addressed thos problem publicly so that it doesn't go unnoticed. Rape is scarring to both the genders equally

    • @mohammedraazi4943
      @mohammedraazi4943 2 місяці тому +3

      Not both gender men is a rare
      There is no need to pic a distant incident and paint it big

    • @deebhai6540
      @deebhai6540 2 місяці тому +1

      ​Bhai daru pilake dost ko pela yha us ko bhool gye kya ldka viral hua social media pe😂​@@mohammedraazi4943

    • @krishnalikhit5124
      @krishnalikhit5124 2 місяці тому +6

      @@mohammedraazi4943 who hurt you

    • @mohammedraazi4943
      @mohammedraazi4943 2 місяці тому +1

      @@krishnalikhit5124
      It is not easy to simply hurt men

    • @SouvenTudu1
      @SouvenTudu1 2 місяці тому +3

      ​@@mohammedraazi4943
      Then how come there is this video?

  • @daddy-w6o5
    @daddy-w6o5 2 місяці тому +589

    Finally someone is talking about the fact that men do get gr@ped and other issues like false accusations faced by men on a daily basis. We are finally getting heard boys, finally someone is talking about us

    • @sasuke36571
      @sasuke36571 2 місяці тому +23

      yes 100% of the victim man goes unreported .

    • @Priyaykanth2
      @Priyaykanth2 2 місяці тому +10

      Follow Men Right Activists Author Jyoti Tiwari Pandey

    • @Priyaykanth2
      @Priyaykanth2 2 місяці тому +9

      Follow Men Organisation
      *For Men India*

    • @daddy-w6o5
      @daddy-w6o5 2 місяці тому

      @@Priyaykanth2 I already know and follow them. Add Voice for Men India Instagram/YT channel and Deepika Narayan Bharadwaj to the list too

    • @daddy-w6o5
      @daddy-w6o5 2 місяці тому +13

      @@sasuke36571 there is no recognised govt body like a MEN's COMMISSION in India so who will report and represent crimes against men in front of policy makers, milords, media or the public in general?
      We live in a country where there is fucking national comm. for fishes but no national comm. for men despite being 50% of the population

  • @abheekdas7595
    @abheekdas7595 2 місяці тому +57

    Day by day I m getting addicted to Beer Biceps. So many unexplored but pertinent topics r discussed in this show.

  • @PracheeKorday
    @PracheeKorday 2 місяці тому +217

    It would be nice if male and female rpist meet eachother. Win win for both of them.

  • @aneeshkk2141
    @aneeshkk2141 2 місяці тому +177

    Teenage Boys,child getting sexually abused is a real thing.Parents should seriously look into this matter.

    • @RinTohsaka-dn3lp
      @RinTohsaka-dn3lp 2 місяці тому +4

      They don't care 😢

    • @kpopfanfrom2017
      @kpopfanfrom2017 2 місяці тому +2

      So true, there are many cases I've come through and I feel very sad for those little children's who have to go through these hell 😢💔

    • @Daniel4444-o9c
      @Daniel4444-o9c 2 місяці тому +4

      My neighbors kid who is 7 also got r@ped by his school seniors. But kya kare iss desh ko to victim blaming ki hi adat hai .Koi usko seriously nahi leta 😢

    • @kpopfanfrom2017
      @kpopfanfrom2017 2 місяці тому +1

      ​​@@Daniel4444-o9cBilkul sahi yaar, logo ko yaar apni mentality change karne ki jaroorat hain. Inn sab cheezon ko mazak mein nahi lena hain hume, pata nahi uss chote se bacche ke dil dimaag par kaisa asar pad raha hoga. Kitna bura lagta hain ye sab sunkar 😢

    • @Daniel4444-o9c
      @Daniel4444-o9c 2 місяці тому +2

      @@kpopfanfrom2017 Hmm ab ye bachaa toxic patriarchy ke jandjat me faske sochega ki agar mene iss baat ko share kiya to log mujhe kamjoor sochenge .

  • @sumitnanaware1667
    @sumitnanaware1667 2 місяці тому +81

    I do want to share one incident
    This is during the time when I was in school( around 6th or 7th) not knowing much.
    For Holidays I went to my Grandmother's home. There I had some new experience with elder brothers(2, college boys ) in that town. I did not know any better at that time what getting Raped is
    Now understanding what those Guys did at that time was Wrong, very wrong
    But still could not muster the courage to tell this to my parents or anyone around me
    Still thinking posting this here could be shameful for me. Dunno how many more young boys are facing the same

    • @SurajSingh-nd2sg
      @SurajSingh-nd2sg 2 місяці тому +15

      It's not shame bro. It just show that u have moved on with courage and are ready to stand against them in future.

    • @curious5218
      @curious5218 2 місяці тому +4

      I too was, when I was in 9th standard!

    • @harssitakeme8722
      @harssitakeme8722 2 місяці тому +2

      ​@@curious5218i hope your healing from it all you did not deserve that im so sorry for that ♡

    • @curious5218
      @curious5218 2 місяці тому

      @@harssitakeme8722 it was long time ago, so now I have healed fully. But it took several years though. Thank you for the concern

    • @coolguy-zm7tn
      @coolguy-zm7tn Місяць тому +2

      I am sorry to hear that, men need to be men again, and learn to stand for what is right rather than being victim

  • @Trentz2
    @Trentz2 2 місяці тому +102

    I think we should start by stopping the stereotype of Mard ko dard nahin hota or telling boys not to cry. I have seen this is so common. Ironically it’s usually men who in are very sarcastic and kind of mean to young boys and tell them not to cry. Who gave anyone the right to tell anyone “you should not feel hurt”. Yes, we want people to be a little resilient. But there is an encouraging way to tell that. Shaming someone will only stop them from sharing their pain, which is even more cruel.

    • @leenabhowmick5350
      @leenabhowmick5350 2 місяці тому +14

      Yes men ARE STRONG.
      CRYING DOSENT MAKE ONE WEAK.

    • @KashyapKashyap-zb5hg
      @KashyapKashyap-zb5hg 2 місяці тому

      I like how you managed to somehow blame everything on MEN.
      SAD 😭..

    • @RinTohsaka-dn3lp
      @RinTohsaka-dn3lp 2 місяці тому +1

      Men are brave but men cry too 😢

    • @kpopfanfrom2017
      @kpopfanfrom2017 2 місяці тому +5

      Someone said this, I want to say it louder to all the men and boys in the world "YOU ARE ALLOWED TO CRY, YOU CAN CRY TOO"
      Pata nahi kyon log bachpan se ladkon ke dimaag mein ye bhar dete hain, "Mard ko dard nahi hota", are kyun nahi hota, bhai hota hain bahut hota hain, par dukh iss baat ka hain ki ki koi unhe samajhne waala nahi hain 😢

    • @RinTohsaka-dn3lp
      @RinTohsaka-dn3lp 2 місяці тому +1

      @@kpopfanfrom2017 only teenagers/introvert can understand each other's pain

  • @pranobkalita5710
    @pranobkalita5710 2 місяці тому +7

    Madam you are so right about our cultural differences and no one has written 👍🙏

  • @mkmultilearn
    @mkmultilearn Місяць тому +20

    I am a male of 26 years old. I have faced sexual assault and getting stabbed by my neighbour in my childhood😢. This trauma chased me for many years😢. Even till today, I have this traumatic conditions affecting my mental thinking abilities😢

    • @ThvIan247
      @ThvIan247 9 днів тому +1

      Bruh stay strong
      I'm really sorry that it happened to you. Hope you are doing fine now. You are a strong person. Take care💗

  • @JaiMaharashtraMazha
    @JaiMaharashtraMazha 2 місяці тому +31

    Bro young stallion men even get stalked, that too by married women who are taking advantage of laws
    But there are amazing lovely women too who make you feel happy
    Attraction needs to be genuine not forced

  • @cappycapyt
    @cappycapyt 2 місяці тому +47

    2:00 New meme material

  • @t.c.0001
    @t.c.0001 2 місяці тому +34

    This is again a stereotype that women are the head of family or are given equal or more importance in Karnataka. You got really lucky to be born in a progressive family.

    • @HarshaG.S-f7n
      @HarshaG.S-f7n 2 місяці тому +6

      She said comparatively. Women in Karnataka have better rights compared to other states

    • @mttra2716
      @mttra2716 2 місяці тому +1

      @@HarshaG.S-f7n Even that is not true bro... may be hardly countable families!

  • @SreeDSv
    @SreeDSv 17 днів тому +1

    such a sensitive topic, she explained it so beautifully so that a lay person can understand. should be part of curriculum reaching all kids how to be safe and aware of themselves from these kind of atrocities

  • @vikasdhawan3451
    @vikasdhawan3451 2 місяці тому +542

    " 3 Cheers to equality "
    -To marry me, He should earn 3X than me but after marriage i want equality.
    - I can choose not to work outside, I can choose not to work at home but providing for the family is his duty.
    - I want my name in our matrimonial home but even if i am working, paying EMI is his liability.
    - I don't want his family name but I want share in his ancestral property.
    - I don't want his name in our child's passport but he has to fund our international/national holidays.
    - I have absolute clarity if my husband has an affair, it is cruelty. If i cheat on my husband it is my body my sexuality.
    - If wife leaves a husband it will be her new opportunity, If husband leaves a wife he will be shamed by society.
    - A separated wife always a victim, a separated husband is by default always guilty.
    Three cheers to equality.

    • @boos_2
      @boos_2 2 місяці тому +83

      Little bit of exaggeration out there. Divorce and cheating is shameful for both genders

    • @surajneupane260
      @surajneupane260 2 місяці тому +72

      @@boos_2 its not about which one is more shameful its about hypocracy

    • @Trentz2
      @Trentz2 2 місяці тому +43

      I am sorry you went through such hell. But don’t let one or few women change your opinion. Please hear me out. When you are hurt and angry, especially when you have been taken advantage of and then also been shamed, it’s really really difficult to behave in mature and wise way, I accept. But if you give in , you are giving your tormentor absolute power over yourself not just when you are in the relationship but also after you have left her. Giving someone so much power, even when they are no longer in our lives is a huge harm we are doing to ourselves.
      As someone who has been in a similar situation, I can choose to hate all men and blame them for everything. But that’s wrong on my part. Because if I choose to hate and say all men are like that, then I am just walking into the trap set by the perpetrator. Because people who are that sadistic, want you to be depressed for “committing the huge crime of leaving them”. That’s how they see it.
      Lastly, don’t let media affect your opinion, they will make whatever is in trend. You don’t have to take my word for it. Take any top actor, watch any of his latest movie and there will be this huge message on feminism, now go back to the early 2000s, 90s or earlier, the same actor will shame a women for wearing jeans or some have worse dialogue of a woman’s purpose, that I can’t even type. Today the same hypocrite yaps about feminism. I am not just saying male actors, some female actors,directors and magazine editors and a very famous female columnist.
      The point is you will always come across hypocrites in your life, irrespective of gender, age, social or economic status. Please don’t give them even more power over you by falling victim to the mindset they want you to believe you. That’s the cruel mind control games they play. Hopefully you heal soon. 🙏🙏🙏

    • @boos_2
      @boos_2 2 місяці тому +33

      @@surajneupane260 you should look at villages and middle class families. This is a pitcure of rich and west influenced people. Typically in any household, a man dominates his wife. Mostly if not all. In my house my dad is dominating and also in other family members man is the dominant one. So build a pitcure according to what you see not according to movies. Because of course they are west influenced

    • @boos_2
      @boos_2 2 місяці тому +29

      @@vikasdhawan3451 bro just chill... you know it that women are under pressure much more than men. It's the movies you have watched which say this... in real life and in any typical household who is the boss everybody knows that very well

  • @shreyak9962
    @shreyak9962 2 місяці тому +16

    I appreciate you for telling that you are bisexual. Most people are not brave enough to say it as they are afraid of being judged

  • @drfaizanmirza6546
    @drfaizanmirza6546 2 місяці тому +9

    A very valid topic. Please dig up male to male rape and trans to male rape too. Topics such as these are taboo in our society, but victims and perpetrators are all out there. And one question that I'd like to ask... can the victim of such rape have a predisposition towards becoming a preparator later in life? I see that happens...

    • @ELisa-qf2mw
      @ELisa-qf2mw 29 днів тому +1

      As a therapist I would answer: it does happen, but it's less common than one may think.

  • @SRSK186-j9y
    @SRSK186-j9y 2 місяці тому +9

    She made a valid point on the ice berg part. An incident or accident has a multidimensional and multi-fold effect.

  • @CDR289
    @CDR289 Місяць тому +23

    Honestly, as a girl myself, some females actually doesn’t even wanna consider the fact that maybe males are also suffering. They’re just like “we’ve more pressure than boys”, “boys always get what they want”, “boys life is so simple” BUT it’s not always like this. Every human faces difficulty in their life. Nobody have a ‘perfect’ life. Nothing is perfect. Not girls life, nor boys life. Whenever we speak about ‘gender equality’ we should actually be equal to opposite gender also. That’s what gender equality means. Yes, there’re men who rape girls, and they should receive punishment, but let’s face it, even some men are victims of rape, sexual abuse and sometimes even gets framed by girls when actually they haven’t even raped them. There’s this thing I noticed that like “if boys are raping us then we’ll also rape them” and that’s entirely foolish and absurd. Like, if you’re really angry about boys raping girls then first of all, stop commenting about their clothes and stand with them against those rapists. And boys, please stop believing this “boys should cry” and “mard ko dard nahi hota” shits. Crying doesn’t make you weak. If there’re people who taunts you about it then ignore them, or simply just tell them to ‘fck off and mind your own business’😅, and its high time you start sharing your stories, if you have one , and make the world aware of those boys who’re suffering. They deserve justice and they SHOULD get it.

    • @AdityaKashyap-mg5cw
      @AdityaKashyap-mg5cw Місяць тому +2

      While I agree with the first part of your comment, I slightly disagree with what you said at the end. In a survey in UK amongst middle aged men who committed suicide, 91% had sought professional help, 80% of them were not were deemed not to be at a low risk of committing suicide, so the saying should be we need to listen to all victims when they speak out.

    • @priyarajan5748
      @priyarajan5748 Місяць тому

      But what is punishment for women rapists who rape men or young boys???
      What your country law States for this crime???

    • @priyarajan5748
      @priyarajan5748 Місяць тому +1

      You completely justifying women rape men and boys...
      Why women rape boys???
      Are young boys have 8" inch size???
      Why this society not speak about male victims and women rapists????
      Apart from this men also suffered lot of fake cases.
      Women rapists arw more in count nowadays. Were is the law for men??
      India is not safe country for men and boys.

    • @arpitasingh6427
      @arpitasingh6427 29 днів тому

      ​@@priyarajan5748our country where judge is men and even the representatives are men they says " a men can't get r@ped" they just straigh deny it and its soo freaking heartbreaking

  • @_kshitijsingh.1799
    @_kshitijsingh.1799 2 місяці тому +3

    Thanks ranveer for bringing this out because no one talks about it because teh victim is men but that's true many mens have been through this

  • @mayak2676
    @mayak2676 2 місяці тому +38

    Laws should be gender neutral

  • @toxoreed4313
    @toxoreed4313 2 місяці тому +20

    men are much more misused but firstly we are taught not to cry/complain and secondly even if we do people ignore us as WEAK MEN

    • @_Shubham_K
      @_Shubham_K 2 місяці тому +2

      Men should not be Crying infront of People especially women.
      If Men are crying then they should do it alone.
      Especially Men should be Emotionally Strong.

    • @prabha6886
      @prabha6886 2 місяці тому +4

      ​@@_Shubham_K now I can say Admi hi aadmi ka Dushman hota hai.
      Why shouldn't men cry? Do you know the sui-cide rate of men? Even though the number of women in depression is more than the number of men in depression but men do suic!de(s) more?
      Because of this "Men don't cry" thing.
      Crying helps, it relaxes your mind. So if you are not comfortable crying in front of Women or anyone, cry alone or whatever emotion you have just learn to *Express* .
      It will help you and also it will keep other people safe from you.

    • @_Shubham_K
      @_Shubham_K 2 місяці тому

      @@prabha6886 Mai Feminazi gang ke Member ki tarah nahi hu ki Gender dekh ke discrimination karu. Mai Men ko bacha raha hu. Nahi to aap yaa phir apke ke Jaise log Men ko weak bana doge. Aur phir khud hi ekdin apne husband ko chorkar aur kisi ke saath bhaag Jaoge, yaa phir ghut-ghut ke Jina parega uss coward husband ke saath. Indian Men especially Indian Hindu Men ko weak karne keliye bahut Gang kaam mai laga hai, bahar se to iske liye bahut funding aate hai.

    • @kpopfanfrom2017
      @kpopfanfrom2017 2 місяці тому

      ​@@prabha6886Same, point of view

    • @Dubeyrashiwa
      @Dubeyrashiwa Місяць тому

      ​@@prabha6886 man should cry but not infront of people

  • @radheshyamdhurve5375
    @radheshyamdhurve5375 2 місяці тому +83

    The Bharatiya Nyaya Sanhita (BNS), which has replaced the IPC, no longer recognises sexual crimes against men due to the removal of Section 377. As for transgender people, they now must rely solely on the Transgender Act 2019, which has significantly lower penalties than the rape law for women

    • @Priyaykanth2
      @Priyaykanth2 2 місяці тому +11

      It's good New Laws have come
      But they have Given too much Power to Police
      Men Issues is neglected
      BNS 69 like one sided law is added

    • @daddy-w6o5
      @daddy-w6o5 2 місяці тому

      @@Priyaykanth2 the new laws are the copy paste of the older IPC ones, but the newer BNS articles are arguably worse than the IPC articles. With BNS, the police and the ruling party will have absolute power over the police and the administration and to some extent the judiciary, which is very BAD for democracy.
      And btw, the BNS articles are absolutely gender biased, so bad for MEN as well

    • @daddy-w6o5
      @daddy-w6o5 2 місяці тому +1

      ​@@Priyaykanth2 BNS articles are nothing but copy-paste of the former IPC, but with added police brutality.
      With BNS, the ruling party will have the absolute power over the police, the executives and to some extent the judiciary(its actually happening). With BNS, they want to have absolute control over the public, which is bad for democracy.
      The BNS articles are absolutely gender biased as well, and ANTI MEN.

    • @amishayadav_LAW
      @amishayadav_LAW 2 місяці тому +2

      @@radheshyamdhurve5375 No, section 377 still exists in BNS

  • @MrFreeMan01
    @MrFreeMan01 2 місяці тому +22

    A very interesting video, i learnt a lot.

  • @dhirendramisra9310
    @dhirendramisra9310 2 місяці тому +2

    This lady’s comments make sense. Well explained

  • @AbanStudies-bv8xt
    @AbanStudies-bv8xt 2 місяці тому +12

    There is strict law for boy under 18 raped by man : Posco !! We need to aware boys of this no victim keeps silent and bring some societal changes to raise voice of boys ! For Rape of men above 18 by another man : We need strict law !! For Rape of Men of any age by a single women : Ye to jo victims hai vahi btayenge

  • @TheFunTechGuy24
    @TheFunTechGuy24 2 місяці тому +2

    Finally a show whereby no filters and much editing. Best, no Nepo lobby!

  • @maverick_8707
    @maverick_8707 23 дні тому

    I listened the whole podcast, there are things that I even don't know exists, this is such a deep one, loved the whole episode though, we want such podcast

  • @megha6865
    @megha6865 2 місяці тому +109

    I want to share real incident which happened in late 1970s in Belgaum Karnataka. A man was gang raped by 4 women who were medical students belonging to elite family. He died eventually after the assault. Those women were let go and went back to Delhi from where they came from. I cant recall he was a milkman or one who delivers video cassette. He had come to their flat to deliver and those women raped him.
    This you wont see in news but it is in memory of locals of Belgaum.

    • @karthikss1985
      @karthikss1985 2 місяці тому +21

      This story is told in every district of karnataka😂😂.

    • @Beast_Bramha
      @Beast_Bramha 2 місяці тому +2

      in which area this incident happened

    • @megha6865
      @megha6865 2 місяці тому +10

      @@karthikss1985 My friends father who is a doctor was their class mate that time. College name is JNMS

    • @yogeshmahajanlegal
      @yogeshmahajanlegal 2 місяці тому +6

      These were just the rumors as same story was also heard in context to Women college of delhi. University.

    • @GeoShubh
      @GeoShubh 2 місяці тому +4

      May be they were LGBTQs. Women have so many opportunities to get love why would they force it on someone?

  • @manjunath_tonshyal
    @manjunath_tonshyal Місяць тому +4

    Have suffered in school and couldn't come out of it for a long time. But now I know it wasn't my mistake. No one is going to kill me like my teacher said. School are the place where parents send their child to be educated but when you get raped in school and you tell your teacher something wrong had happened to you and then they say "Kisiko mat batana. Apne parents ko bhi mat batana they will kill you." And then you start feeling that you were wrong. It was your mistake. I am 30 now and finally I accepted that something wrong happened to me in the school when I was in 3rd and I didn't do anything wrong but I was the victim there. I was the one who was raped. And coz of that I went into a caccoon and finally I realised that it's time to come out and be strong and stand for myself.
    Please teach your kids about good and bad touch. Tell them to share everything that happens in the school. Be a friend to them and understand them.

  • @kumarn7179
    @kumarn7179 2 місяці тому +30

    It's so simple! CONSENT is required!

    • @_Shubham_K
      @_Shubham_K 2 місяці тому +2

      It's not so simple. Consent is not enough. Many 13-14 year old young girl gives you consent, but we as a adult should not do this things. It's like a child wanna more chocolate, but parents should not give their children such type of chocolate which can harm children Teeth.

    • @shivamkumarnirala5062
      @shivamkumarnirala5062 2 місяці тому

      Exactly

    • @Saintindisguise897
      @Saintindisguise897 2 місяці тому

      ​@@_Shubham_K here comes indian philosophy which says your body is just a vehicle don't roam anywhere in the direction of lust/desire
      Just drive this vehicle of body to it's ultimate destination

    • @TheUnknownGuyFromVoid
      @TheUnknownGuyFromVoid Місяць тому

      ​@@_Shubham_Kvery well explained

  • @ayushmankar4100
    @ayushmankar4100 2 місяці тому +30

    Means everything is based on "consent" irrespective of any gender

  • @manojkumar2709
    @manojkumar2709 2 місяці тому +12

    I personally know a guy who was spiked in his hotel room by the gay receptionist and at midnight he came into the room and did wrong ❌. Indian law should be updated

    • @RinTohsaka-dn3lp
      @RinTohsaka-dn3lp 2 місяці тому

      Congress ko vote do 😊

    • @mlg1279
      @mlg1279 2 місяці тому

      ​@@RinTohsaka-dn3lp CONgress created/retained the outdated laws for decades

    • @kpopfanfrom2017
      @kpopfanfrom2017 2 місяці тому +2

      @@manojkumar2709 How badly these things happen, and no one cares to talk about it 😢

    • @arjunsharma2506
      @arjunsharma2506 Місяць тому +1

      ​@@RinTohsaka-dn3lp fir to rice bag mil jayega 😂

  • @akhiloffl
    @akhiloffl 2 місяці тому +7

    Ranveer dropped the word Hesitation from his dictionary 😂❤

  • @manjotkaur5653
    @manjotkaur5653 Місяць тому +1

    I am a law student, recently due to some event taking place, this topic came up of good touch and bad touch. Everyone was serious when it was about girls, but as soon as i said about boys they all went laughing and said "ladke ko agar ladki bad touch karegi to usko to maza hi aayega na" also stuff like "ladko ka rape to practically possible hi ni hai" and what not.....even men themselves refuse to acknowledge their problems due to the societal ideas of "masculinity".

  • @Area51_S4
    @Area51_S4 Місяць тому

    Nice & Open Discussion...👍👍👍👍... Unfortunately it is a rare discussion in Indian Culture.... Indian culture ignores these type of topics & considers it as taboo...This was a problem in the past & still is.... 😭

  • @ARCPA1040
    @ARCPA1040 2 місяці тому +2

    Good questions. Very well explained Ma’am 👏

  • @DipteeShelke
    @DipteeShelke 2 місяці тому +4

    Ranveer aise very imp topics ke vedio ko aap plz hindi me banae Taki zyada se zyada log iss topic ko samze.

  • @Kitzey2k
    @Kitzey2k 2 місяці тому +51

    Not just rape, boys are threatened as well. I'm a Bangalorean from birth and was threatened for a fake accident, was taken to an isolated road saying to take him to a Clinic, threatened me and demanded 10k for his fake wounds. Alone and unable to argue, had to get out of there and reach home safe, had no other choice. This happened yesterday in Vijayanagar, Bangalore. Forget walking on street or travelling in public transport. People aren't safe travelling on their own transport.
    I'm mentally disturbed thinking why me. I lost my dad and have tons of responsibilities and still such shit happens to people like me😔

    • @user-ty7lw3rr6g
      @user-ty7lw3rr6g 2 місяці тому +4

      bhaii i will pray for u every thing will be finee

    • @hobosapien7735
      @hobosapien7735 2 місяці тому

      Do research on these topics for self sufficiency -
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    • @ee_30_harshitaarya33
      @ee_30_harshitaarya33 2 місяці тому +2

      Bhai Stay Strong!!!

    • @kpopfanfrom2017
      @kpopfanfrom2017 2 місяці тому +2

      Stay strong bro, and please don't blame yourself for anything, I pray to God everything will be fine very soon, till then please stay strong

    • @ShivduM
      @ShivduM 2 місяці тому +2

      Looks like its happening in every area of Bangalore, yesterday one north Indian guy ran towards me for seeking help with his nose bleeding. After few minutes one guy came in bike and gave his phone left immediately as I questioned him what went wrong. Poor guys lost his money but I could help help him with only 50rp for bus ticket. Be careful guy's

  • @alkasoli4002
    @alkasoli4002 2 місяці тому +3

    I know two guys from bipolar india group...there should be law for men too...there are cases of sexual harrasment too

  • @nabanitanath5481
    @nabanitanath5481 2 місяці тому +93

    She is unable to explain what he had asked for.

    • @zzitckhcmhjg9089
      @zzitckhcmhjg9089 2 місяці тому +12

      Exactly....said everything but what he asked

    • @kizon7468
      @kizon7468 2 місяці тому +5

      She pretty much explained it and by this I remember the shadows of my past which still haunts me 😖

    • @MALHAR1542
      @MALHAR1542 2 місяці тому +1

      True!

    • @Deepaksahaofficial
      @Deepaksahaofficial 2 місяці тому +1

      You can explain

    • @RinTohsaka-dn3lp
      @RinTohsaka-dn3lp 2 місяці тому

      Assamese girl?

  • @lorddigital4525
    @lorddigital4525 2 місяці тому +1

    This salesboy is super clever, he is playing the big game. But he is also bringing in Western woke influence among quite a lot of young Indians.

  • @manjunathmnm
    @manjunathmnm 2 місяці тому

    Wonderful conversation.. She literally told the fact...👍👌

  • @nishikumarjain
    @nishikumarjain Місяць тому +1

    Sexual violence against men in India is a subject that is often overlooked, despite its existence. Though rape laws in India are primarily framed around male perpetrators and female victims, incidents of men being sexually assaulted and raped by women do occur. The lack of legal recognition, societal stigma, and cultural expectations discourage male survivors from reporting their experiences or seeking help.
    In recent years, there has been a growing demand for India’s sexual assault laws to become gender-neutral, which would allow men to seek justice more effectively.
    In India, very few support systems for male survivors of sexual violence or rape. However, some men’s rights groups like Men welfare trust, Vaastav, Daaman NGO and others with mental health professionals have started addressing this gap, although progress is slow.

  • @kiranchristopher11
    @kiranchristopher11 2 місяці тому +1

    Good content Bro. You are doing well

  • @Karthik_S-i3z
    @Karthik_S-i3z Місяць тому +2

    Thank you so much for bringing this yo the fore, survivor here

  • @ankushkoul84
    @ankushkoul84 2 місяці тому +1

    ❤ for 2 lesbians can't be in love ... For the first time in my memory I have seen someone talk about affection as a part of homosexuality .

  • @kircyclone
    @kircyclone Місяць тому +2

    I don't read newspapers much. Still I have read two instances of men being r@ped by women. Both happened in the state of keralam.

    • @scientific.journey07
      @scientific.journey07 Місяць тому +2

      Brother there was a case in Indore but because there is no law in India for men so police reject these types of cases. We haven't seen venus but it doesn't mean it doesn't exist

  • @sangitanadimetla9807
    @sangitanadimetla9807 29 днів тому

    No matter boy or girl facing these issues but our society need to accept these issues and start helping the affected one rather than saying chup hojao aisi baatein bola nahi karte, being an affected one i can completely understand 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢 and somehow m not able to come out of this harsh truth of my life 😭😭😭

  • @SureshKumar-gu9cu
    @SureshKumar-gu9cu 2 місяці тому +14

    Men issues are very very real. Deliberately women do not talk about it, but they want men to support them for their issues. Equality by psuedo-feminism is actually not equal.

  • @AavleeSharma-ug2qr
    @AavleeSharma-ug2qr 2 місяці тому +1

    I am a girl and I respect boys who respect everyone 😊😊

  • @AlokKumar-ly1zl
    @AlokKumar-ly1zl 2 місяці тому +3

    If men and women are both equal then why there is different laws. All the laws have to be gender neutral.

  • @abhirampatil6773
    @abhirampatil6773 Місяць тому

    Maybe it’s because of our social evolution aswell, what I think is in earlier days it was pretty common for kings to marry multiple princesses the reason was territorial capitalisation , so there were many instances where when the king used to go out for wars, it was a tradition for kings all wives to take care of each other, mentally even sexually aswell it’s sakhi savitri concept, but vice versa wasn’t a thing where queen married multiple kings and they took care of each other when she went to war
    So homophobia in men is very common than homophobia in women probably

  • @arpangurung4090
    @arpangurung4090 Місяць тому

    I would urge everyone to watch Gaurav Sharma's recent podcast on rape of men happening in india.We only talk about female rape quite often but we tend to forget about the rape of a man happening in india.Fact of the matter is laws of India is biased towards the females no doubt about that and women rapists is exploiting the faultlines of laws.Thank you for highlighting this serious issue and there has to be talks about the rape happening to men also👀🤔🙏

  • @ultrareflexor1978
    @ultrareflexor1978 2 місяці тому +20

    A wise person once said: reality is often disappointing

  • @meet31100
    @meet31100 2 місяці тому +7

    If we talk about sexual assault as men I guess they would think that why are you making that kinda joke and telling us your fantasies women can't do that but IRL evil has no gender

  • @amitkumarmeraman5191
    @amitkumarmeraman5191 Місяць тому +1

    I am so sorry to hear that Indian women don't raape the men... We are so backward... Govt should promote the women for doing so for women empowerment and equality...❤❤❤❤

    • @KashyapKashyap-zb5hg
      @KashyapKashyap-zb5hg Місяць тому +1

      Are you intoxicated..? 🤔🤔

    • @amitkumarmeraman5191
      @amitkumarmeraman5191 Місяць тому

      @@KashyapKashyap-zb5hg
      No, I am taking coffy and promoting woman empowerment in all the carriers.....💅💅💅💅

  • @ELisa-qf2mw
    @ELisa-qf2mw 29 днів тому

    Lesbian relationships being sexualized as a "show" for the straight male gaze; male rape victims being underestimated and dismissed; common sense failing at grasping the psychological and relational nuances of abusive relationships; male rape victims being unable to acknowledge their own trauma : all these problems we have also in Europe.
    I would also add one thing I expected her to tackle on the "how can a man be raped" point: she correctly debunks the false idea that erection necessarily equals consent, but I would add that also unwanted kisses, intimate touches, attentions or sexual threats are rape (and crimes) even without full intercourse. It's like this for women, why would it be different for men?

  • @magicalasmr9452
    @magicalasmr9452 2 місяці тому +4

    Har Har Mahadev 😢

  • @OMSalvi-fi3tf
    @OMSalvi-fi3tf 2 місяці тому +7

    We need gender neutral laws and National commission for men

  • @amitarmori2729
    @amitarmori2729 2 місяці тому +3

    I i also get sexually assault in my school but no one believed...😢😢😢

  • @BlueDotPaw
    @BlueDotPaw 2 місяці тому +2

    I really don't understand why was this even a question? If you can say women lubricated while rape is still a rape if forced. Same goes for men...it is still a rape even when if he was erect.

  • @pascalwager4544
    @pascalwager4544 2 місяці тому

    I applaud both of them for bringing awareness to the general public about these very difficult topics but I think they should have done more homework before the podcast both seem ill prepared for it. His questioned don't seem will thought out and I don't think she appears to express herself fully.

  • @BruceWayne-gj9gv
    @BruceWayne-gj9gv 2 місяці тому +6

    Why normal feels 1.25X 😂

  • @achal4452
    @achal4452 Місяць тому

    Damn this iceberg i didn't knew it. thanku

  • @sidhartharora2542
    @sidhartharora2542 Місяць тому +2

    ranveer is not trying to understand that rape is not just about a woman forcibly raping a guy, but consent, knowing what is right n wrong, doing with someone who is fully aware of what hes doing, not manipulating him all these things matter as well, and if by chance the mans other bonds n relationships are affected by it, then it will be included in it, u just cant deny it that this is not rape.thats again closing aspects of rape, and referring it to phyiscal voilance only. why do we say No means no, or marital rape, anything done without consent or with manipulation comes in rape.

  • @sam917fly
    @sam917fly 2 місяці тому +5

    male, female and trans. that is it.

  • @neelchonpule110
    @neelchonpule110 24 дні тому

    3:00 FINALLY SOMEONE ASKED IT.

  • @anuiyer-h8r
    @anuiyer-h8r 2 місяці тому +3

    Hot men like Ranveer will face such things 😊

    • @RinTohsaka-dn3lp
      @RinTohsaka-dn3lp 2 місяці тому

      True😢😂😂

    • @ee_30_harshitaarya33
      @ee_30_harshitaarya33 2 місяці тому +3

      Are you mad??? Aissa kisi bhi aurat ya aadmi ke saath nahin hona chahiye!!!😠😠😠

  • @princeofheaven19
    @princeofheaven19 2 місяці тому +6

    There is no section in BNS to prosecute male rape

  • @hafizsyeed2911
    @hafizsyeed2911 2 місяці тому +6

    This women is like (Chamak challo) . She is doing over acting nonsense with no knowledge

  • @pradeeptacreatives5465
    @pradeeptacreatives5465 2 місяці тому +1

    But for girls these incidents are common and very Very brutal 😔

  • @alienism4229
    @alienism4229 2 місяці тому +2

    me seing the oscillations of ranveer's head like that of my grandfathers old pendulum clock.

  • @drnisargchavan
    @drnisargchavan 2 місяці тому +22

    Madam you are talking about child abuse
    Not male rape
    In your support I can say it’s difficult to explain and prove male rape

    • @aneeshkk2141
      @aneeshkk2141 2 місяці тому

      No, Teenage Boys also get sexually abused.

    • @drnisargchavan
      @drnisargchavan 2 місяці тому +4

      Again below 18 it’s rape with consent also and law consider them as child

    • @amishayadav_LAW
      @amishayadav_LAW 2 місяці тому +2

      @@aneeshkk2141 but it comes under POSCO. Let's come out with real problem so tht men can get gender neutral rape laws

  • @JimyArtz-rk6ms
    @JimyArtz-rk6ms 2 місяці тому +31

    One like for men 😅

  • @arpitasingh6427
    @arpitasingh6427 29 днів тому

    Its pain me to see when a man start being vocal about the harrasm€nt he face the who start laughing and making fun of him is the men themselves its soo heartbreaking to see even our govt. And court denied that man can be r@ped too its really heartbreaking and painful i can't even imagine the pain those men have to face face just because they are men

  • @suvarna76
    @suvarna76 19 днів тому

    Empathy should be translated as आत्मीयता rather than ममता. And आत्मीयता is an Indian thing irrespective of the region.

  • @harshsinha6655
    @harshsinha6655 2 місяці тому

    RANVEER I REALLY WANT YOU TO CALL NITYANAND MISRA. HE IS AN IMMACULATE SANSKRIT PROFESSOR. HE ALSO HAS A UA-cam CHANNEL AND HE IS OMG ! ❤❤❤

  • @ahaohoaha5728
    @ahaohoaha5728 Місяць тому +1

    Past mein meri 2 girl friends ne mujh par zor chala kar physical relationship banana chaha tha lekin strength ke wajah se kar nahi payi ..uss samay samajh nahi aata ki yeh bhi rape attempt hain kyunki movie serial dekh kar humara Perceptions aise bann chuke hain ki ladkiyan rape nahi kar sakti...

  • @manuushan1257
    @manuushan1257 19 днів тому +1

    I always worries for my son.

  • @HassanAskari-vt4do
    @HassanAskari-vt4do 2 місяці тому

    I know lot of boys in teens victim of this. They are ashamed to tell or ask.

  • @AritraBanerjee-cc5vu
    @AritraBanerjee-cc5vu 2 місяці тому +2

    I didn't know being feminine means having attraction towards males

    • @kizon7468
      @kizon7468 2 місяці тому

      Well being feminine means that calmness and what we call it mamta Or mamatwa

  • @dilshadali7102
    @dilshadali7102 2 місяці тому +21

    Now this video triggers my past trauma 😊

  • @Hisham-sj8jd
    @Hisham-sj8jd 2 місяці тому

    In UAE it's happening with Arab ladies ..as a home driver experienced it.

  • @harshtiwari207
    @harshtiwari207 Місяць тому

    Hats off bhai ❤

  • @HRgaming-jk3nw
    @HRgaming-jk3nw 2 місяці тому +3

    Bhai thumbnail Aisa lagate ho ki dekhana hi padta hai

  • @prateekvasudev8894
    @prateekvasudev8894 2 місяці тому +4

    This provides an important understanding. But I couldn’t find the healing part. Does someone share the part where they discuss about healing and share any other things that might have someone. Thanks in advance.

  • @syedibrahim-to2wl
    @syedibrahim-to2wl 27 днів тому

    yaar ranveer madam sahi kaha..........yahan tu ladies first hai bhai....

  • @vlogychance
    @vlogychance 2 місяці тому +1

    Ranveer::::: wooooow😂

  • @user-ou9sk8vu7z
    @user-ou9sk8vu7z 2 місяці тому +1

    She's saying everything except replying to the question 😂

  • @dex78911
    @dex78911 2 місяці тому +2

    Wtf is happening in this dame world!!!!!!!!!!👽

  • @sitiscans
    @sitiscans 2 місяці тому +5

    It can happen when your boss is a lady

  • @sayanghosh449
    @sayanghosh449 2 місяці тому +1

    The funny part is that an woman is raising the voice

  • @moderntimes4814
    @moderntimes4814 21 день тому

    It's sad for everyone

  • @shashikalavinitaiyer2815
    @shashikalavinitaiyer2815 Місяць тому +1

    Boy child is in more danger from 15yr old boys more nowadays

  • @sushmithagowda2759
    @sushmithagowda2759 2 місяці тому +1

    She is from karnataka ❤ kannadiga ❤

    • @coolguy-zm7tn
      @coolguy-zm7tn Місяць тому

      Not something to be proud of, we are a conservative society, and also progressive at the same time, her attitude and personality doesn’t sit well with us, doesn’t remotely represent who we are and what we stand for, just because she is kannadiga doesn’t mean we stand by her or appreciate her stance

  • @beastbison7626
    @beastbison7626 2 місяці тому +1

    Harsh Reality of our Society.
    Women brutally assault their husbands but poor husbands can’t even open their mouth. Firstly coz of legal consequences and secondly the societal shame. Sad state of affairs.