Why is GenZ LONELY?
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In the movie "The Lunchbox," the characters Saajan Fernandes and Ila depict different forms of loneliness, highlighting their multifaceted nature. Loneliness is not solely about being physically alone but also about lacking meaningful connections and social support. Shockingly, a survey found that 43% of Indians frequently experience loneliness, ranking India third globally. And research shows that extreme forms of loneliness can lead to depression. But why are more Indians lonely today and what can each one of us to combat it? That is what we shall find out in this video.
Loneliness affects countless individuals, and it's crucial to understand that help is available. If you or someone you know is struggling with loneliness, seek help and support to combat this significant mental health challenge. You are not alone; help is available.
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00:00 Intro
02:17 What is loneliness?
04:35 Why are Indians Lonely? 1) Societal Factors
09:09 Why are Indians Lonely? 1) Individual Factors
13:22 Implications
15:32 Solutions
I'm PhD candidate, 28year old and still jobless. My friends have job, married, kids and beautiful family. *This is how we call loneliness in real life.* Those who relates me can understand.
Rajat how long have you been like this ?
As a 29 yr old single girl.. I am a post graduate and tried to enroll in phd. Got rejected cheated in love no friends everyone ditched me.. Bullied Harrased since school and college days .. Now I'm lonely.. Suffering from clinical depression.. Panic attacks.. Suicidal thoughts just I'm so done.. 💔 when it see around girls of my age and even juniors are married to well settled men and have kids living a great life. And here I'm still in search of validation.. And answers to the purpose of my life.
@@Msharma30 go for arrainge marriage
No one's life is perfect dude..I have many friends. .i observed everyone's life..those who are well settled. .they also missed many things..1 lost dad in childhood. .2nd lost mom during college days.3rd came from poor background,have built everything but his wife is unable to conceive baby..4th earns 6lakhs in annum but divorcee. .me without job and lovelife but blessed with parents and siblings and not so much money. .
@@divyanshdwivedi9751 I'm never getting married. I'll just have to live for my parents.. As I'm their only child. They don't have anyone except me.
Maturity is realising that our parents were not wrong about the phone being the cause of our many problems.
Exactly 💯
I really regret .
Total agree 💯
The first time I used insta when I was 18 and deleted insta used for 4 months only no social media discipline I'm 19 now 😎😎
@@sigmamale6143Sigma male ☝️🤓
@@jawedeiberni8885true but initially its quite difficult
Being alone is peaceful, but feeling lonely kills. 🥀
yahh it's bullshit
@@anishvishwakarma3468 you are not respecting his/her feelings brw, atleast let other speak their mind to reveal their feelings, peoples like you have stopped the development of an individual in our society, or are you in depression? it's true in depression/anxiety any individual can be go wrong in words btw.
It's not the loneliness that hurts the most
It's the genuine lack of connection within people that feels scary
That's what it is!!
It'S NoT ThE LoNeLiNeSs ThAt HuRtS ThE MoSt, It Is ThE LoNeLiNeSs ThAt HuRtS MoSt
@@dontstresscuriositypeeks1211 🗿🗿🗿🗿
You basically defined loneliness duh 🙄
@dontstresscuriositypeeks1211 💀💀💀🗿🗿🗿
As a 16 yr old i feel so lonely and I can't express my feelings to anyone sometimes i feel too depressed 😢😢 no body wants to know what I think they just want to know about by exam results even my parents also can't understand my feelings and i don't have good friends also to deal with this loneliness
Me too but I have 0 friends
i felt it too. ypou may read the Gita to understand the error of your feelings and correct your thinking,
Touch grass bozo
Jhoot mat bole
bro if u really feel low talk to me i can prove that u r not alone there is not a single condition like depression exists
It's not limited to Indians, loneliness is amongst the most dreaded feeling across humanity.
It's sky high in EU and US. Depression due to loneliness is a top factor for mental illness in USA now, not some severe trauma or something.
Japan and Korea have the highest suicide rates all due to loneliness. Mohak lives in the US with his family, thankfully he is blessed to be of Indian origin he won't be as lonely as a native of the US would. .
@@jashsylde8136 "thankfully he is blessed to be of Indian origin"
bro, the western world, or basically anybody else has no respect for Indians. It's not something to be proud of 🫠
@@TBxDSha it doesn't matter. We don't need the respect and approval of the Western world. We as Indians respect each other and we also respect people of other ethnicities. But when they induce attacks on us we will stand our the ground.
@@TBxDSha😂
@@TBxDSha Proud to be Indian. Jai Hind nd, Jai Bharath. You be a coward and live in shame.
I am a 17yo NEET aspirant I can totally agree to Mohak sir's point mentioned in 2:48. I think that my reason for lonliness is bcz of poor quality of relation among my circle. Beleive me I have ample no. of friends but I was suffering from lonliness badly a few months ago and I still wonder why. And nowadays as well I feel alone
you have lots of time to build your life up don't lose hope
Just clear the exam get a college and make friends
Just don't force yourself to be friends with some specific people. Try to keep an open mind and be open to other people. Who would really love your company will be there for you. Who doesn't, would not. The goal is not to blame yourself for the things that are wrong, you have to do your best to be honest and happy with yourself.
U should focus on NEET & iski prep ke time tumhare pass time nhi hoga dusri chijo ke liye ek baar hi puri energy lagake clear kro college mai sochio ye sab
Hi ... be my friend
I moved to Beijing for 2 yrs after complition of my PhD. First 6 months I was extremely lonely and homesick. I watched friend's when I missed my friends and modern family when I missed family. It really helped. In today's fast paced world loneliness is inevitable and we can only help ourselves.
yes, your last words are true. In todays fast paced world loneliness is inevitable
How do u communicate in china , There people dont talk in english
@@sharathchandra6166 in academia people talk in English. For other things my Chinese friends were always there for me
It's understandable that moving to a new city can bring about feelings of loneliness and homesickness. Finding solace in TV shows or movies that depict close friendships and family dynamics can be a way to temporarily alleviate those feelings. It's true that in today's fast-paced world, loneliness can be a common experience. Taking proactive steps to build connections, such as joining social groups or reaching out to like-minded individuals, can help create a sense of belonging. Ultimately, finding ways to support ourselves and prioritize our well-being is crucial in navigating loneliness.
@@Sophia.sunsun i dont like your hat sophia
*Loneliness* hits harder than being *single* ...... 💀 💔
(Edit):- Lonely with 743 souls
@@Dare_devil_001 Approved ✅
But why you feel lonely and sad ? Don't give answers like I don't have friends ok
@@Dare_devil_001 that might be the most accurate feelings put into words together in the entire comments column. Nice one dear friend.
@@noelinx Remember....having no friends doesn't make one lonely rather being unaware of self makes one dreadful
@@ExHinduArjunNayak जय श्री राम ❤
"As a 22 year old"
Loneliness has followed me my whole life, There is no escape 🙂
Bhai hilake soja
We are still kids bro, just enjoy each and every part of life to the fullest. Find positivity in things.
Bro wait for 69
Skill issue.
@@DetectiveConan2your words may make some sense but itne saare emojis kaun daalta hai kya hai yeh😭
Aajkal ese dost milte hi kha hain...jinse dil ki baate ki ja sake .....😢
I'm a 18 year old girl who was going through loneliness at the age of 12 to 15 because of not having quality emotional connection with anybody but in 2020 i start to focus on myself and build myself for not be emotionally depended on someone, not comparing my life with others because i believe everybody have their own path in life, i also read many self improvement books and just going like that. Now I'm more happy to have my own company, i give quality time to myself before to anyone else i have also gain many skills like cooking, gaming, drawing, painting, workout, writing story, 3d animation and many more.
That nice
I feel very lonely I can't to get deper connection with any one I will try on you
I am an introvert. But you may think introverts are more comfortable when they are alone. But that's totally different from loneliness,
Research suggests that introverts are more likely to struggle with loneliness than non-introverts. Introverts need solitude and peace to recharge themselves. This makes it harder for them to create and sustain social connections.
Very true
Exactly exactly
Thats what I have been trying to explain to everyone but guess I am just bad at explaining. I am 17 and an introvert, Yess , I like spending time alone and feel exhausted after a social meeting, But again its not like I dont feel lonely just because I am an introvert, being lonely is diff than being alone... I like being alone not lonely... After I return from coaching, I am left feeling exhausted because I push myself out there to talk and make friends otherwise I would end up lonely
I agree
i am an extrovert but still very lonely , both quantity wise and quality wise and worse part about being extrovert and lonely is the touch starvation . i dont remember the last hug i got
As a 24year old, I can't express my feelings and feel very lonely. It's a relief that I am not the only one in this situation.
The thing is the more u will be in your social media the less u will be socially lonely.
जिसका कोई नहीं होता उसका ईश्वर होता है। You are on a spiritual path👣 What is inside you only real.
@@Dannydaringyes bhaiya yadi spiritual path me ho to akelapan mahsoos nahi hota
Yes, I'm 20 years i tired my life sometimes i want to die
Brother read bhagvat gita & try to listen acharya prashant sir sabhi problems ke solution pr baat krte ha aatmgyan ko smjh paoge aur dukh se mukt ho poage 🙌
You came alone, you will go alone. When you accept this reality you won't ever feel lonely.
I made peace with this and never felt loneliness.
Yes mene vhi abhi 2 sal bad feel Kiya me kitna lonely hu
There’s a difference between being “lonely” & “loneliness” .
I may choose to live alone but that doesn’t mean I’m suffering from loneliness
Felling lonely and loneliness is the same. What you are trying to imply is called 'solitude'. You may be happy living alone in solitude but that doesn't make you lonely.
@@soumensantui think he meant being alone and loneliness... infact I'm one of those people who avoid social interaction as much as possible because people exhaust me very soon ....
I'm a 22-year-old engineering student and it's really frustrating because I hardly have anyone to share what's going on in my head. I've never really used social media like most people do, so I don't thinks its the only reason behind loneliness among the masses. It seems like in today's age, nobody can escape loneliness. The only way I find solace is when I meditate or think about Ram and Hanuman.
Read bhagvat Gita...do physical exercise cook your favourite food...do yoga...God bless you
Same
Same
Listen to Aacharya Prashant.
@@rittikgoswami7964 baate to bekar karta hai wo : ) ho sakta hai aapko theek lagi hogi but mujhe total nonsense.
I am a 20 years old college going girl , I don't have many friends and I personally believe that be alone is far more better than hanging out with toxic people
i am 20 too but i think majority people in this world are good and helpful
just be positive and good people will reach you automatically
thats what happened to me
( Most of them are with me because they think i will be helpful enough to them / Study / Planning Stuff )
but thats how the world functions
There are no free meals
@sudeshnamukherje1560 I am from maharashtra. I'm 19 years old and I am going through each every problem he covered.
I'm addicted to watch web-series and I think it's the only thing I do. Whenever I get in situation to out of my home to get something or to do something " I FEAR ALOT ."
I don't no what do.
Even I can't go to a phychatris , Not because I don't want to but I cant Aford it.
I live long away from my home village to study. Even there I couldn't make friends . I don't no how to talk, what to talk.
@@_kartik_chauhan yes I agree but you know people are very complicated ,it's very difficult to understand someone
So true. I am blessed to have good friends. I did drop a lot of toxic people on the way, including parents to a great extent.
@@sudeshnamukherje1560 sister let me guess something , pls reply
1. Are you from West Bengal?
2. Do you usually end up eating more and have difficulty maintaining weight??
3. Do you sleep for long hours like 8-10 hours???
It's okay guys. Many millions of people are lonely. Find a purpose and work on it. Without purpose you are really lonely. I went through that phase. I'm lonely now, but never felt alone because I do something everyday to achieve my goals.
I felt the same in 2019 when I completed my diploma in Mechanical Engineering. All my friends went for Btech, but I was confused and took a year off. It was really a bad period for me. I would pass my time sleeping and freelancing. And then 2020 came, which was even worse. It's better now because I have found meaning. I volunteer regularly with NGOs now that work on Waste Management in the Himalayas. I have a lot of friends there, and when we meet, we are an army of people who have one objective - to clean the beautiful Himalayas.
I recommend teenage people or even those in their adulthood to join some NGO and volunteer. You will surely make meaningful friends there with whom you can connect. And yeah, get a Hobby.
👍
thank you for the suggestion, i will try this !!
It was april 27,1999 when I went abroad for first time on work to Sydney. As a 25 year old , having seen hostel life in IIIT Bombay and worked in Bangalore, it was a new experience. I felt so lonely being abroad , I would cry in my commute every day at least for 4 months. The most terrible time.
I have developed phobia for being alone abroad ever since.
Loneliness is a very serious issue.
Now my daughters (twin) left for college 6 months ago and the same phobia took over. Now I have got adjusted to new life.
Life is all about learning and unlearning.
Great and eye opening video.
Go for spirituality, hobbies, community work
@@santusanturohit4832 thank you bro. I am doing the same now.
I have this fear of loneliness. Hence I would never go abroad for a job. I would stay in India, work and be independent and take care of my mom who's growing old day by day. Even she doesn't deserve to be left alone at this age when she would be needing me the most.
I feel, money is important in life and it can buy us a lot of things, but at the same time our relations are also important. One can gradually earn money, but once a person is gone from this world, he's never coming back 😢. I would rather prefer to work in India and come back to home cooked food made by my mumma, and spend time with her after work and on weekends; rather than being over-ambitious, leaving my mom alone to shift abroad, while feeling lonely everyday travelling to work.
Yes this is the problem but how can we solve this. Even you make new friends you can't just express everything.
You have a point. But soon in India, we will be more lonely than our western counterparts.
We don't hate being alone , we hate feeling alone 💔
Someone don't know difference between lonely and alone
@@drgurbaxkaur442 You can be alone but not feel alone , You can feel alone but not be alone
ahahhaha kya likh diya mene
@@_kartik_chauhankehna kya chahte ho ?
Kitne logo ka group hai tumhara?
You are not alone almost everyone is ...
Well researched video!
I went through something worst in my life just before covid. So I developed social anxiety. During covid, I began isolating myself from the toxicity I was facing. I started liking my own company. Then the loneliness started setting in. But there was something worse to come that I hadn't expected. Last year when things started to go back to normal in the society post-covid, I realised I've developed Agoraphobia. I would make plans to go out or travel but cancel at the final minute because I began getting panic attacks.
So, loneliness or isolating oneself from the society are only the beginning of many more issues.
I am an introvert myself. There were many such phases in my life where I felt lonely in spite of having a very supportive and caring family. The people used to understand me moved apart. I have somehow recovered from those past phases of life but sadly my father succumbed to the loneliness. When his children went in different directions, he became lonely. It caused dementia and schizophrenia in him. Later despite of having me by his side, he forgot how to open up. He lost every desire to live anymore. Ultimately his body gave up in spite of not having any serious medical issues. My wife constantly fears about me following the same direction. I regularly try to be assertive in life. Sometime forcefully pulling myself up and start again. Don't know how much difficult it would be in future but all we can do is fight for ourselves.
I'm 23, lower middle class guy, you can imagine the level of depression and loneliness by the fact that our family didn't went out ( to enjoy or picnic) from last 15-20 years... And as I'm an adult now i have more things that triggers my depression and my loneliness... Like career, money my dreams... As an introvert since childhood i always suffered from mental health, anxiety, depression... I'm only 23 but feels like I'm 35 and seen lot of things in life...
In my case 34 guy still single..lost job during COVID.. prepared for government exam but couldn't get success then learning Java course..cook my favourite food.. reading novel... avoid loneliness otherwise you will pay for this
U need Immediate help
@@sougatmohapatra8540 I'm paying hardly already bro, I'm underweight, suffering from hairfall, grey hair, and many more health issues like my backache, sinus, i tried to change but i couldn't everytime i fail 😥 I don't want this anymore.. i want happiness and joy... I'm gonna get it somehow...
So many things going on I can't even tell anybody... And this gonna make it like 3000 words or more 🥴😪
@@sougatmohapatra8540 happy for you bro, that u have actually started your life doing job earning money learning about society... In my case it's my dream to become even common indipendent (yet special for me) people like you...
@rohitchopra7780 Try to involve in more physical activities, try to avoid Instagram and other social media, you will be fine.😊
As a psychiatrist i had seen a lot of people students struggling with loneliness
They have friends but they aren't buddies, so they feel difficulty in sharing
Mental health is still under rated
yes sir. Myself being a teenager, I think, we are forgetting how to connect, because we are unable to find people to connect. Not that there is a scarcity of people, but there is scarcity of understanding. We never know what and how other people are, I mean we, as humans, and as people, we have some standards, and if those are not matched, we dont tend to talk to them. What do you think sir?
@@Someone_2406 i have noticed that people who have many friends are in a toxic relationship with them. they don't like it but only doing it for social media and peer pressure . many people have high standard for friendship or else they want no friends because their smartphone is a alternative . so its a 50/50 percent , people are feeling lonely because they have no good friends had not yet found the one with matching personalities or they are not investing in their friendship .
Agree
@@gamersmania8494 Exactly! lack of connection!
this is due to lack of empathy many people even my mother thinks that if you dont socialise you dont grow but on the case my self i like to be alone and dont like to bother people, but thing is i have embraced my solitude, and dont much care about external validation, my mother constanly misunderstand me and forces me to socialises in the expense of my mental health, she thinks that only way to grow is to socilise, but in my case i like to stay alone and that is fine by me, but my mother thinks that if dont socialise you will be lonley, i have convyed lot of time that i dont mind to alone, and happy, but my mother feels that is a problem
I'm a 21 year old engineering student, and believe me in my class there's a bunch of people who think that they have the authority to insult, humiliate, ignoring those who ask for help and manipulate the important decisions of class according to their comfort , they have nothing to do with rest of the living beings of the same room , they just want to compete mercilessly. As if they already decided that the
Most talented, rich and the people who have the max social status can live peacefully , rest can die...
Togetherness is a myth
People just want competition
To come over loneliness, we can do one thing, we should visit temples frequently, especially at the time of aarti and bhajans. I'm practicing this from last few months and this actually works, the ringing of bells and shankha literally soothe my mind, I humbly request all to visit temples at least on weekends. JAI SHREE KRISHNA 🕉
You have given good advice. Sometimes it feels better when you feel you can only express your feelings to God since no one else understands you well. But I felt it can give you temporary relief only. Because ultimately you need someone to talk to you, understand you even if not with words but by their physical presence. You cannot find solace just listening to aartis and bhajans alone. You need a companion to be beside you.
And yes it works! ❤🩹
What sucks is the lack of respect towards hobbies. People severely lack recreational activities and entertainment, and have no concept of doing something “just for the heck of it”. If people stopped trying so hard at life and did things only for their enjoyment a lot of loneliness will subside. They’ll meet and compete with other similar minded individuals and actually start living life.
It’s difficult to explain this to parents and other people who’ve just accepted life as it is. They don’t bother to look and see beyond the societal hivemind that India is. They’ll never know true fun, it hurts.
For me loneliness is the fun. I have plentiful of time to solve my puzzle games such as 3×3×3 rubix cube and learning to invent gravity destructor.
This is the actual reason. Underrated comment that a lot of people won't accept 🫥
@@satyasankalpapanigrahi9416 lol
But it's their choice if they wish to live that way
Problem is there is no social security in India that's why we have to work hard to earn at least.
As an Introvert, I feel energetic whenever I get lonely.😅 I concentrate on my skills, no one to judge me, no one criticize me, I do workout, do programming. I love loneliness.😅
same here
I think you got the wrong idea, being alone and loneliness are COMPLETE DIFFERENT THINGS. Though i like the fact that you enjoy your own company being alone . Wish you the best for your upcoming endeavours : )
Sounds like a cope
Dam now I know why I don't feel lonely..im introvert..but wierd I can talk with people easily ..so I can't say I'm complete introvert 😂
Extremely same here 😂 I am also introvert, I use to listen music alone, also i do programming
Being lonely and introvert is something different experience
Absolutely, Bang On. I am studying in USA. I always think I am not having any meaningful conversations and connections with anyone. Whatever conversations I have are mostly about what you did today, what did you watched, all surface level. No deep conversations.
Thanks a lot mohak for such a lovely video on such a painful yet unseen sufferings we often go through !!
I was suffering from loneliness back in 2020. For me fortunately covid happened and I went back to my parents. It genuinely helped and I got to know they were also facing same problem. Thanks Mohak for spreading awareness about this.
Brother read bhagvat gita & try to listen acharya prashant sir sabhi problems ke solution pr baat krte ha aatmgyan ko smjh paoge aur dukh se mukt ho poage 🙌
Lol Xavier is Also Facing Loneliness Problems 😂😂
@@statusyard3122 rss wala 😂 again coming to convert
@@parthosarathiroy5559😂🥴
I'm glad that you found solace and support by reconnecting with your parents during the challenging times of 2020. Family can be a great source of comfort and understanding when facing loneliness. It's heartwarming to hear that my efforts in spreading awareness about loneliness have made a positive impact. Remember, reaching out and sharing our experiences can help create a sense of community and support for others who may be going through similar struggles.
I left India 2 years ago, leaving behind all my friends and family. For a solid year, I felt really lonely but I made so many meaningful connections throughout my time here. Now, I can't ever imagine leaving the people I care for behind. My only advice to people who are in the situation I was in is to put yourself out there and be true to yourself.
😂😂😂😂
@@Real_mutual_fund_guidewhat’s so funny ?
@@CHUSLIM_ read the para and compare it with present time of kalyug.......if u have mind u too will laugh on such chindi raichand
This is a real problem stupid kalyug wale
dies it really work
Sometimes loneliness leads to emotional abandonment and that just kills my soul💔
Hey.. thanks a lot for raising this important topic and mentioning our work for lonely senior citizens! We have many programmes across India for low income and middle class elders. We will be very happy to increase our impact by benefiting more and more seniors dealing with loneliness, anxiety, depression and other mental and physical health issues. Keep up your good work! 👍🙌👏
I'm 23 year old & I do not have any friends. I FEEL SO LONELY. I can relate this video from my heart
🥲🥲
me hu tera dost bata bhai kis topic ke bare me baat karni hai
you are BATMAN
Same here
but I'm २१ years old
@@_kartik_chauhanI also want friends 😭😭😭
@@bharatlaljayswal2653 dekh is dunya me temporarily hai ham log jis bande se hamara kaam nikal raha hai wo tumhara dost
simple khud me aisi skill develope karo ki log tumhe worthy samjhe its simple and complicated at the same time
This is true. Not only Indians , I feel everyone throughout the world is lonely. Why? Because we aren't ready to accept and embrace. Bounded by our insecurities, orthodox perspectives, hatred, doubt for ourselves, We don't come up and support ourselves and others and same happens with us. The very AI, it's scope of information and rationality is increasing and in our case it's increasing. We don't deserve this. Being considerate, compassionate is our human essence. We need to empower the same and learn the new way of life ❤
Exactly. We are bounded by a lot hatred and insecurities. Everyone wants to stay in their bubble of ego and no one wants to go a bit out of their way to help or at least listen to someone's problems. I am going through this but hopefully i can change it in few years down the line and be more respectful and compassionate to others.
Un installing Instagram helps actually.
In my case 34 guy unemployed single from birth.lost job during COVID.. learning Java course...cook mutton watch ULLU with beer..
Ghanta
❤
this is genuinely the best video i have ever watched. Kudos to this case format that you present. Thoroughly researched issues with solutions.
Great work Mohak
Whenever you feel lonely don’t look for people but for purpose.
Wow damn! This comment needs to be pinned! ❤
What if one didn't be able to find purpose?
@@aaftabsaiyed4570 You can...Dhundne se bhagwan bhi mil jate hai
'Loneliness has followed me my whole life. Everywhere. In bars, in cars, sidewalks, stores, everywhere. There's no escape. I am God's lonely man' - Travis Bickle, Taxi Driver (1976)
Two years back I lost all of my friends because I saw their true face. Since last two years not even a single day was good for me and my family issues are also there. My dreams are incomplete for which I'm working hard. Hope this phase shall pass soon. Don't feel lonely guys it's just a bad phase of our life we shall pass it.
Its wonderful how a lot of us have similar stories, how a lot of us are working hard going through similar problems. Yet we all do it alone without thinking there might be people like us. Us lonely people need to create a community
Majority of people are toxic that is why lonliness exists
In my case 34 guy unemployed during COVID.. learning Java course..still single from birth...cook mutton watch ULLU with beer 🍺🍺.. single no tension
@renu9677 yes, well said that majority people are toxic. I was living in town since 12 years. Last year I came in my village and saw the toxic face of some good people even in my old friend. It's better to live alone.
Some friend are not made by me it's just automatically made. If those friend are bad or they have dark truth or they just use you. It's very difficult part of your life. Majority people or friend are selfish. Keep distance from those type of people.
How contrasting is it that in the time of this social media era , where we are watching thousands of people interacting with hundreds of them still feeling lonely
That teaches us the biggest lesson of our life that we don't need thousands and hundreds of people around us we just want 2-4 people with whom we can talk giggle laugh and cry on their shoulders but unfortunately we all are in a herd race to showcase the world 🥺❤️
Thanks a lot for making this video, a lot of students who come abroad face this issue. Changing from a collectivistic family based society to an individualistic society is very very difficult. The connections here are made very differently and soft skills and hobbies are lacking in Indian students thanks to hectic school and college schedules back in India
I am a JEE aspirant and since I have started preparing for JEE I have encountered loneliness alot. I literally have no one to talk to and I feel so alone during most of the time. I had many friends before COVID but after COVID I don't have any friends and I stopped going to school as well cuz I don't feel same as I used to, I don't even like interacting with anyone there. COVID has change me and my overall personality alot.
I don't know what to do and this loneliness is eating me from inside, rotting my inner self. 😔
Bhai struggle mai sab akelai hotai hai success mai sab sath hotai hai burai time ka saamna akelai hi karna padta hai
Jee par dhyan dai
Your story is same as mine
Bhai same kahani the day i started improving my self the day i lost all my friends... Apart from my parents their is no one
Same situation with me when I started preparing neet exam 😢
As a neet aspirant i can confirm this
In this country, there is a person every 2 to 3 meters from you, yet there is no one in a kilometer for you.
Ab family ke sath dekhne layak movie nahi banti hai..
More like family bahut jyada conservative hai aur romantic scene dhek kar awkward hone lagti hai.
I have studied in over 7 schools. Because of my father's transfers hence building friendships were really difficult for me. Initially loneliness was hard. But i enjoy every bit of it. Yes i do have my parents i talk with them made some good friends in college and later on in my school too. Yet i am lonely. Now i enjoy it. It's been really fruitful for me as no one could ever influence me to do wrong things but yes sometimes when i sit alone wondering then i feel the need of talking to someone. Works both ways for me.
I'm 35 years old and from my experience, loneliness has been the best part of my life.. Much better than selfish relationships and self serving family members..
Practically true..i am in same boat..but was remain behind in carrier than my other extrovert friends..who talks fake...laugh fake...but make people happy....and made lots of friends...
And big circle
@@Vijay55234 I used to live in a joint family since childhood. But I never felt a personal level of connection with anyone.. As matters of priority would pop up, they would just do the bare minimum requirements.. We never able to speak my heart to anyone.. Nor would they see things from my pov.. So, I gradually stopped talking and took matters in my own hands.. Later I realized my friend's circle was no better either.. While they are good at the individual level, their first priority was again, their self serving families
I am a 22 year old guy living in Bangalore and sadly I feel lonely especially because I never had a girlfriend before and yet to get my first kiss and hardly any friends. After 3 rejections recently, my childhood friend who is 21 year old now turning 22 soon has agreed to meet up after I asked her out via Instagram but she replied to it after almost a month as she isn't that active on the app and she replied yeah ok and then I asked her when we can meet and she is offline again and yet to reply and I am waiting. But I also have been chatting with another girl on Instagram who used to be in the same school as me but we didn't know each other in school days. Now she is 19 year old and in 1st year of engineering and I am in last year of engineering and we chat daily about pretty much everything and send each other virtual hugs and I think I started to like her too but idk whether it will be fine to ask her out as we are in different colleges and my childhood friend didn't reject me but her college is very near to my home tho and honestly like both of them but still lonely as I didn't meet them in person yet.
@@manosijroy8282 focus on your carrier....girls ka aaj kal koi bhorosa nahi.. they are in high demand than boys...
First become something,get good salary job and buy flat...and go for arrange marriage as early as possible....yae baat muje bhi kafi late samaj aayi...aur mere time muje koi samjahe wala nahi tha...as I was alone and in my fatacy world at age 22 to 27
@@Vijay55234 I agree with your comment except the arranged marriage part. I can't really imagine an arranged marriage in future.
First i was alone
but after watching this video
am lonely 😭😭😭
same
😭😭😭😭😭 mai bhi
Toxic Work Culture and Smart Phone fucked us. End of the discussion.
Thanks for coming up with such weel-researched and informative videos Mohak! Thanks for bringing this topic up and spreading awareness.
I wish mohak could also talk about solitude, there's is a difference between being alone and loneliness. You can enjoy your company by being alone which is also considered as "solitude"...doesn't matter which personality trait you have. You can be extrovert but lonely, introvert but alone/solitude and ambivert but can be both so your personality trait doesn't define anything.
So convert your loneliness into your solitude 🔥 and you'll love the changes!
*Remember: Jab insaan akela rahna seekh jata hai or usse apni company enjoy karna acha lgta hai toh usse duniya mai kisi ki zaroorat nahi hoti 🔥*
जिसका कोई नहीं होता उसका ईश्वर होता है। You are on a spiritual path👣 What is inside you only only real. I am greatful for the basic needs I have , I feel good spending time in gardening and with cows, they are always waiting for me to give them love and company🐎
So true! Loneliness and being alone are diff. The former is romanticized a lot now instead of viewing it in a positive stead for the development of your personality. It will not be comfortable, agreed but it is about putting effort into it as well. Your comment should be pinned buddy!
I don't agree. The need for social connection of all kinds isn't some weakness to be overcome. It's a basic need like hunger or thirst.
You don't have to be okay being alone, because you're not supposed to be. The solution to loneliness is genuine human connection, much like good is the solution to hunger
@@saintofall3653 when you will have time to know about yourself? Don't you think you need to first know yourself than knowing another partner? Our facility act their best when you are 👤
@@Dannydaring building healthy meaningful connections is as important as spending time with yourself and knowing yourself
I think there's huge difference between loneliness and solitude, though mostly Indians are suffering from loneliness but there are some Indians too who love to enjoy their own company, who are comfortable with themselves instead of having fake toxic relationships with everyone so solitude is good for you but not loneliness!
I love it how everyone is sharing their problems.
It is really heart warming to see Mohak addressing such important issues. I actually found out about your channel very recently and it blew my mind. Your videos are very informative and interesting. Keep up the good work. 💕💕
When Britney Spears said, my loneliness is killing me. I felt it.
@@Sauravkumar-kt1td
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@@Sauravkumar-kt1tddosti achi aur asli honi chaiye ladko ko sirf relationship chaiye hota h timepass
@@Ridham33571aree didi tum ladka kyu use kar rhi uska nam le jisne kiya apke sath aap sabhi ko kyu generalise kar rhe
Tauba tauba britmey spear to hardly lonely hai. Hollywood ke bad crowd ne usko barbad kardiya hai. Retire hojati to life normal hoti uski.
@@Sauravkumar-kt1td yes we can just make an account and get messages from creeps. Thnx
Being 23 and Introvert till date..
Being alone and being lonely are two different things..!
When I was 17 I use to feel bad coz of my less connections..!
But than somehow I started vibing my own time.
Today I'm glad that I'm what I am .
I'm very productive being alone,less stressed, more happiness.
I Love my life in which I have only one friend, which is of opp gender, My bro, My Sis, And my parents.
Today I'm traveling solo.. and typing this..!
Hope you all are doing good..
nd don't take being alone as a disease.
It's the beet feeling if you start living with yourself!
Have a good day.🥀
bruh
Says I'm alone but brags about a good friend, brother, sister and parents smh
@@aseem7w9hahahah so true people like this are very good at rationalising the problems !
@@aseem7w9 Sorry for your bad day asmi7w...
but I didn't add that I live alone in my 1bhk flat and meet them only on Sundays!
It's Sunday morning and this weekend I can't go home coz of hospital duties at night.
And I just woke up..saw your comment..it really made my day.
thank you for this sweetness.
hv a nice day ahead.
Es channel ki har ek vedio bhuuut Sara positive impact add on krti hai....har ek dekhne vale shaks pe ..... consciously or unconsciously.....ye har movie ya web series ya koi bhi other content jisko dekhne k bad personality m kuch meaningful add nhi hota..se laakh Guna achi hai.....aapki vedioes dekhne ka cost benefit bhuuut high hai....❤❤
Valuable and relevant content Mohak bro. As we all work to earn money or yearn knowledge we often forget the family and culture as a result we get to have self doubts, FOMO and more which comes under Loneliness. See loneliness is good but at which time. Yes if we have to move so long we have to move alone, but having a connection with people in real time really gives you a real change and feel. I noticed this before I go to work, When I had an interaction with my friends related to work and get to have a chance of talk to human. So having connection with Human Being provides a sense of accountability and people do remember the help. Usually people giveup their effort and by stand not to help, but if you break the chain you would get a nice feel. After getting to know people just say Hi or have a minute talk even though you are busy.
Hats off, Mohak. You have covered every topic precisely. I migrated 6 years ago, and I don't have a single friend, even though I am a working professional in the corporate sector. Especially during festivals, I always feel anxious. I also discussed it with my friends, but they simply replied, 'Yeh sabko hota hai, koi badi baat nahi
Will you be my friend..🙌🙂
First of all cut of these shifty friends giving you this shitty advice. Join gym, clubs, activities, talk with people, including the opposite gender. Become a part of twitter and reddit groups that have similar interests to yours. Start somewhere. Only the starting point is hard. Best of luck. And stay away from anyone who tries to bring you down. Family and relatives included. You are an Adult, not a child.
@@m3gr3xyou gave a reply with clarity.. I used to wonder why am I avoiding my friend's and family 🙏
@@m3gr3xbro i have friends who always feel jealous of me.. I get so much upset.. I mean aisa kya hai mere andar jo tumhe itne jala raha hai.. Why can't you be with me in the same way you be with others... whenever I make a new friend do teen din acha hota hai fir achanak he also is like jealous of me... Maine friends banane bhi chorrd diye... Bas school ke paanch che dost hai.. Yeh college waale dost tho ekdum bekaar bhai koi kaam ke nahi mai tho abhi intermediate ke 2md year mai hu jaise yeh year khata unke numbers block and delete kar dunga.. I don't need anyone😢
Your friends may be right that " yeh sabko hota hai" but not everyone can deal with that alone. Take help from a professional. Many corporates are making sure they provide possible help regarding mental health. Don't be shy using those facilities. You might feel more comfortable opening up and taking the right advice from strangers than your existing friends.
In my school days i made a lot of friends even helped many of them when they no one else to help but once a thought hit me that how many actually cared about me .. from 12th grade i chose to be alone .. some days later i felt lonely like never before, It was hard for me to talk to my friends as they weren't interested in having conversation with me .. i was betrayed by one of my mates who used to follow me which made things difficult for me to interact with people like i used to ..
I decided to move on like nothing had happened , and though it wasn't easy to make new friends i tried my best and found some who need someone .. now I feel a lot better as I don't have that someone but I'm their someone who they need 😊
Same brother my batchmate treated me like that i don't know what i did now a days i feel powerful according to my post but according to social life i feel like a joker 😢
Hats off to you mohak sir
You sure are doing a great job by making videos on underrated but serious topics
These videos helps alot♥️
We are very happy when We see some Indian Have raise topic those very important for society.
The worst feeling is when you have your family and friends around you but you still feel lonely
I took a year gap for neet 2023,and chose self /home study. Trust me,i know what and how "loneliness" feels like. I deactivated all social media accounts,all my friends are too busy studying and attending coachings that we hardly ever talk on phone or even chat.
My day from Monday to Saturday was the same as usual, 🙃
Wake up - Study - have breakfast -study - Lunch - Study - dinner - Study - sleep - wake up n vice versa.
I felt so frustrated,and burnt out and i would get angry and annoyed for silly reasons. I became so depressed. I watched lots of motivational videos too,but no use cos the motivation would last max for 1-2 weeks and then ,i would be back to my original form, lonely.
Sometimes i would have panic and anxiety attacks and i would stay awake till morning. This went on for many months 🙃
Loneliness ain't no small issue man
Same problem with me
@@Wfrmen nahi 🥲
Same
Same here.. 🥲
@@axolotl4808kitne aaye mera bhi same story but 450 pe atak gya..
Well researched and such an informative video all together you have uploaded besides everything's I genuinely want to say that I am grateful for your existence man it takes a lot to talk about stuff like this it could be overwhelming at times too. I am grateful for you mann
I am suffering from overthinking and that is the reason of my loneliness and depressed life...
30 year old here.. Doing well in life, but feel very lonely inside.. Always think something is missing.
This is the best awareness video on this channel.❤
The competition to get a job and a good life is so high that there's no time to smile at someone - every youngster can relate
I was in Infosys Bangalore back in 2014 but was feeling homesick. I took a tough step to come back to my hometown Indore and started freelancing and now turned into a company. When I look back it feels very satisfied that I am living with family and took a right step that time 😁😁😁. I can't explain how good I feel every single day.
I feel same , so i go to temple and pray and talk with lot's people that's make me feel better..
I'm Indian, I love being alone. I really hate conversations. I'm better this way! And believe me this doesn't bother me. I don't feel lonely.
To be honest, Being alone and being lonely are totally different things.
Difference is minute but still huge.
Thank you so much mohak sir to speak on such issues. 😢😢😢I am also too lonely 🙁 and no one really talks on such things. You are putting so much efforts to guide and heal persons like us. 👍 hats off 👏 👌 mohak sir. Aapke videos se maine it a kuch seekha jitna maine kabhi school mei nahi seekha. Keep shining ✨
I have been suffering from depression and anxiety for the last few years but nobody noticed anything about me, not even my girlfriend. I just hope and pray I don't do anything stupid which might hurt my dear ones.
If anyone needs someone to talk to , I am always here, you can talk with me.
Acceptance of a problem is the first step to a reasonable solution. Correct.
“हर तरफ़ हर जगह बेशुमार आदमी,
फिर भी तनहाईयों का शिकार आदमी।”
~ निदा फ़ाज़ली
The best vlog i have come across till now under Indian content creators related to this topic. Research, content arrangement, speech flow really great. Good work ! Loved it.
Very informative and needed video.
Thanks for bringing out this topic infront of all.
Love you bro
“The loneliness you feel is actually an opportunity to reconnect with others and yourself.” -Maxime Lagac
Wah Bhai kya Motivational quote hai 😅
Usko saayad being effective in being alone keh saktein hai yaa ek ache will power walein insaan ka sochne ka lihajah samjh saktein hai. Kyuki jab koi saayad akela mehsus karein jo usko Acha nahi lagein tabh woh productive honein ke wajai deep inside overthink karega negative aspects ka. I hope aap mujhe wrong bolo agar mein hoon, kyuki I am also concerned about my opinion..
Can't believe youtube suggested this video while I'm actually going through it. I'm an introvert since childhood. Inferiority complex, low self esteem lack of confidence are part of my growing up years, both my parents and majorly relatives have contributed to it. Mocking about my looks, my attitude, my teaching profession, they have done it all. Now 39 and mother of 2 bright kids loving husband comfortable life still i feel lonely. My social circle has reduced to 1/3rd in last 5 years. Especially after I quit my job after second delivery to take care of kids. Fedup of relatives gossips and taunts over the years since childhood, now i have stopped going to any family functions, ours is a big family and in a year there are minimum 50-100 functions. Friends circle is also reduced as I feel guilty for not having a stable career while they all have. Neighbors don't even talk to eachother in this city unlike small towns. I don't like joining any kittys or groups. I do feel alone, depressed, sometimes not feeling like doing day to day tasks. But I put all efforts and try my best to do everything for my family. My husband is very supportive and understanding. Loneliness is not only about being unable to connect with people in the family, there could be various reasons. Sometimes you just get fedup with the people around you.
True, I am facing some what same in terms of social perspective, I am single my family is loving and caring towards me, but what I feel is not the loneliness rather I just miss myself, life circumstances has changed me but not in the person I thought I will become as an adult, and that is what upsets me, I am working towards it and hoping something good will turnout in future, Best wishes for ur better future as well.
"Quality matters more than quantity" having one good friend is far better than than those 800 followers.
This is very serious topic no one is taking about it , You are doing great job.
I can relate to this a lot ,not necessarily now but yes 2 months before .
I am a NEET aspirant and I had just completed my 10th when COVID and lockdown started. My first lockdown was very good because all my family was with me all the time . We spent a lot of good time together but then my parents went back to work and I was alone with my sister. Now I was in 11th but the lockdown was still there so we just couldn't go out anywhere to enjoy or shop , just stay at home . I started becoming serious about my ppn so I thought I shouldnt waste my time talking to friends so I purposefully reduced talking to them but little did I know that I would become lonely . 11th and 12th passed somehow but I didn't get a seat so I took a drop but drop year was the worst for me with no social interactions, no friends, no going outside as a result, I couldn't concentrate on my studies like before in 10th etc . Whenever I would sit to study , negative thoughts and overthinking would come in my way . I also started day dreaming a lot .I also had stress whether I would get selected this year or no.This never happened with me before but I think all of this happened because of COVID and lockdown. I had no interactions with anybody in my drop year hence I couldn't study properly at all . I also couldn't do the things I loved to do because I didn't have time to .
I wish all this comes to an end asap and life returns to normal,like how it was before the pandemic .
I am ok now and not feeling that lonely because after exam finished, I met all my cousins and family members. We also went outside 😊
I taking another drop to prepare for neet this year
Neet 2024
Ah this will come to an end soon bruh
Its similar to my story
I am a medical student now
So don't give up, IT WILL END!
I may sound wrong to some people, but make a good friend i would say
Or a gf
In my case, this was the one who helped me through all this negativity
And i got mbbs
In my case, that person came as a blessing for me
If you find such a heavenly person, then they can really help u
I don't speak sh*t like learn to live alone
Love yourself blah blah
Cuz i know how it feels when everyone can give their expert advice but noone can help!
Think smarter
If you can have a person who can make your life much easier
Then suffering alone doesn't make any sense to me
Take care bruh :)
Same situation dido😢
All the best
All the best my friend. I know you'll do good 👍
dont take drop if your score is below 100 of cutt off score
Its a genuine request to you !
Mohak bhai I don't know if you know, but because of content and videos like this, some of us are very grateful to you. Please don't stop exploring and covering topics like this when you reach 10+ million or 20+ million subscribers, because these topics are very important and people should be made aware of them.
I'm 28 years old. On this September it will be 29. Still I'm not able to make proper friends with others because of lingual, social & cultural barriers. Feeling lonely even since childhood. I'm still getting scolded by externals. Feeling at one stage that I must end my life. I can't tolerate with devilish laughs at those externals. Loneliness must be eradicated.
Thank you @Mohak sir for making this useful video.
The video is so amazingly researched I like the way you represents the facts towards us
I feel lonely and empty for a long time, and despite sharing this feeling with my therapist no clue what was found to resolve my issues. I had to leave my stable job because loneliness cause depression in me which was unavoidable. I'm out of work for 3 years now, and my social connection has been reduced to minimal. This video not only gives voice to many people who are suffering from loneliness but also put the topic at the forefront.
Start Scribbing and Journalising ...you will get all the answers and your life will be Zinga Lala La....
I'm sorry to hear about the challenges you have been facing with loneliness and depression. It can be disheartening when professional help doesn't provide immediate or clear solutions. Loneliness is a complex issue and its resolution might require exploring different approaches and strategies over time. It's important to continue seeking support from professionals, exploring self-care practices, and reaching out to social resources that can help rebuild and strengthen your social connections. Remember, you are not alone in experiencing these feelings, and there are resources available to support you on your journey towards healing and finding fulfillment.
If your therapist solves your problem. His job is no longer needed😂
all the power to you! ❤ i would suggest taking walks, getting a pet, joining hobby classes and reconnecting with old friends :) this may not be the solution but it might help you somewhat
Loneliness, Depression, Anxiety Facing Together , I have no-one to share my problems with Not even a Friend , the only thing i use to do is Crying Alone at midnight So that no one can see my tears ...😢 Saying that I'm suffering from depression is casual nowadays but Suffering is just A very hard phase with which I'm suffering
I write in a personal notebook about my life and what is going on right now, my thoughts, positive thoughts and all that to not feel lonely and to let go of the negetive thoughts ...
Loved that you chose such a critical topic. It was an eye Opener.
I really appreciate your work mohak. ❤
”You can't be lonely when you love the person you alone with"
💯
Acha Guruji
🙏
Well done, Mohak Bhai. 'Loneliness' is something that is felt by millions but only a few hundred want to talk about it. We must accept "Loneliness" as a problem and try to make it easy to express each one's inner problems with others. Thanks to you for raising this issue.
As a 15 year old girl with strict parents, i never shared my problems with anyone not even my parents because they never tried to understand me , nobody knows that how I fight with my depression, loneliness, famil issues, acadmic problems. Now, i even have trust issue on people 😢
15 year and depression.
Do some physical activities and yoga everything will be ok
My friends and I are millennials and we used to share things about our life during high school and college life during the late 2000s when FB was the rage. But as we graduated and got busy with office us friends realised the more we share on these platforms the less we have in common to speak about to update each other. For some interesting reason none of my friends and I post on social media anymore and are keeping in touch with each other.
I also used to feel alone for 2 year after my breakup
But
Then I decided
Move on
And started playing cricket
Started running
Meet new people
Go every day for walk
I improved my relation with my siblings and parents
Nd now i m happy
This method is so simple
Pr ise karna muskil hai shuru mei pr krne sei hi result milega
Loneliness breeds from our very homes itself. I bet most of our parents don't even realise what is the value of mental health in today's world. I was brought up well educated and but one thing my parents were never able to give me is the freedom and that feeling that yes they are my own. My parents especially my mother was very strict back then, and i could never muster up the courage to talk about anything to her and gradually i learnt to keep everything within myself. I could never speak freely, express my feelings and everything with them. As i grew up over the years, my teenage days, thereafter as i grew up to be an adult i kept everything within myself. All my moments of joy and pain, i could never share with them. And now suddenly when I'm 28 and barely speak with anyone, they come to ask me why don't i talk much, why do i behave this way.
I used to wonder why the feeling of loneliness and lack of social interaction were uncommon in the past time. Now I get it.
Kudos 👏 Guys, I want to be a part of your team guys with your contents and topics, your topics are praise worthy, always adding value to good social society.