I'm PhD candidate, 28year old and still jobless. My friends have job, married, kids and beautiful family. *This is how we call loneliness in real life.* Those who relates me can understand.
As a 29 yr old single girl.. I am a post graduate and tried to enroll in phd. Got rejected cheated in love no friends everyone ditched me.. Bullied Harrased since school and college days .. Now I'm lonely.. Suffering from clinical depression.. Panic attacks.. Suicidal thoughts just I'm so done.. 💔 when it see around girls of my age and even juniors are married to well settled men and have kids living a great life. And here I'm still in search of validation.. And answers to the purpose of my life.
No one's life is perfect dude..I have many friends. .i observed everyone's life..those who are well settled. .they also missed many things..1 lost dad in childhood. .2nd lost mom during college days.3rd came from poor background,have built everything but his wife is unable to conceive baby..4th earns 6lakhs in annum but divorcee. .me without job and lovelife but blessed with parents and siblings and not so much money. .
I write in a personal notebook about my life and what is going on right now, my thoughts, positive thoughts and all that to not feel lonely and to let go of the negetive thoughts ...
@@anishvishwakarma3468 you are not respecting his/her feelings brw, atleast let other speak their mind to reveal their feelings, peoples like you have stopped the development of an individual in our society, or are you in depression? it's true in depression/anxiety any individual can be go wrong in words btw.
As a 16 yr old i feel so lonely and I can't express my feelings to anyone sometimes i feel too depressed 😢😢 no body wants to know what I think they just want to know about by exam results even my parents also can't understand my feelings and i don't have good friends also to deal with this loneliness
I'm a 22-year-old engineering student and it's really frustrating because I hardly have anyone to share what's going on in my head. I've never really used social media like most people do, so I don't thinks its the only reason behind loneliness among the masses. It seems like in today's age, nobody can escape loneliness. The only way I find solace is when I meditate or think about Ram and Hanuman.
It's sky high in EU and US. Depression due to loneliness is a top factor for mental illness in USA now, not some severe trauma or something. Japan and Korea have the highest suicide rates all due to loneliness. Mohak lives in the US with his family, thankfully he is blessed to be of Indian origin he won't be as lonely as a native of the US would. .
@@jashsylde8136 "thankfully he is blessed to be of Indian origin" bro, the western world, or basically anybody else has no respect for Indians. It's not something to be proud of 🫠
@@TooBlu_Vlogs it doesn't matter. We don't need the respect and approval of the Western world. We as Indians respect each other and we also respect people of other ethnicities. But when they induce attacks on us we will stand our the ground.
I'm a 18 year old girl who was going through loneliness at the age of 12 to 15 because of not having quality emotional connection with anybody but in 2020 i start to focus on myself and build myself for not be emotionally depended on someone, not comparing my life with others because i believe everybody have their own path in life, i also read many self improvement books and just going like that. Now I'm more happy to have my own company, i give quality time to myself before to anyone else i have also gain many skills like cooking, gaming, drawing, painting, workout, writing story, 3d animation and many more.
Brother read bhagvat gita & try to listen acharya prashant sir sabhi problems ke solution pr baat krte ha aatmgyan ko smjh paoge aur dukh se mukt ho poage 🙌
I am an introvert. But you may think introverts are more comfortable when they are alone. But that's totally different from loneliness, Research suggests that introverts are more likely to struggle with loneliness than non-introverts. Introverts need solitude and peace to recharge themselves. This makes it harder for them to create and sustain social connections.
Thats what I have been trying to explain to everyone but guess I am just bad at explaining. I am 17 and an introvert, Yess , I like spending time alone and feel exhausted after a social meeting, But again its not like I dont feel lonely just because I am an introvert, being lonely is diff than being alone... I like being alone not lonely... After I return from coaching, I am left feeling exhausted because I push myself out there to talk and make friends otherwise I would end up lonely
i am an extrovert but still very lonely , both quantity wise and quality wise and worse part about being extrovert and lonely is the touch starvation . i dont remember the last hug i got
I'm 23, lower middle class guy, you can imagine the level of depression and loneliness by the fact that our family didn't went out ( to enjoy or picnic) from last 15-20 years... And as I'm an adult now i have more things that triggers my depression and my loneliness... Like career, money my dreams... As an introvert since childhood i always suffered from mental health, anxiety, depression... I'm only 23 but feels like I'm 35 and seen lot of things in life...
In my case 34 guy still single..lost job during COVID.. prepared for government exam but couldn't get success then learning Java course..cook my favourite food.. reading novel... avoid loneliness otherwise you will pay for this
@@sougatmohapatra8540 I'm paying hardly already bro, I'm underweight, suffering from hairfall, grey hair, and many more health issues like my backache, sinus, i tried to change but i couldn't everytime i fail 😥 I don't want this anymore.. i want happiness and joy... I'm gonna get it somehow... So many things going on I can't even tell anybody... And this gonna make it like 3000 words or more 🥴😪
@@sougatmohapatra8540 happy for you bro, that u have actually started your life doing job earning money learning about society... In my case it's my dream to become even common indipendent (yet special for me) people like you...
I felt the same in 2019 when I completed my diploma in Mechanical Engineering. All my friends went for Btech, but I was confused and took a year off. It was really a bad period for me. I would pass my time sleeping and freelancing. And then 2020 came, which was even worse. It's better now because I have found meaning. I volunteer regularly with NGOs now that work on Waste Management in the Himalayas. I have a lot of friends there, and when we meet, we are an army of people who have one objective - to clean the beautiful Himalayas. I recommend teenage people or even those in their adulthood to join some NGO and volunteer. You will surely make meaningful friends there with whom you can connect. And yeah, get a Hobby.
It was april 27,1999 when I went abroad for first time on work to Sydney. As a 25 year old , having seen hostel life in IIIT Bombay and worked in Bangalore, it was a new experience. I felt so lonely being abroad , I would cry in my commute every day at least for 4 months. The most terrible time. I have developed phobia for being alone abroad ever since. Loneliness is a very serious issue. Now my daughters (twin) left for college 6 months ago and the same phobia took over. Now I have got adjusted to new life. Life is all about learning and unlearning. Great and eye opening video.
I have this fear of loneliness. Hence I would never go abroad for a job. I would stay in India, work and be independent and take care of my mom who's growing old day by day. Even she doesn't deserve to be left alone at this age when she would be needing me the most. I feel, money is important in life and it can buy us a lot of things, but at the same time our relations are also important. One can gradually earn money, but once a person is gone from this world, he's never coming back 😢. I would rather prefer to work in India and come back to home cooked food made by my mumma, and spend time with her after work and on weekends; rather than being over-ambitious, leaving my mom alone to shift abroad, while feeling lonely everyday travelling to work.
I am a 20 years old college going girl , I don't have many friends and I personally believe that be alone is far more better than hanging out with toxic people
i am 20 too but i think majority people in this world are good and helpful just be positive and good people will reach you automatically thats what happened to me ( Most of them are with me because they think i will be helpful enough to them / Study / Planning Stuff ) but thats how the world functions There are no free meals
@sudeshnamukherje1560 I am from maharashtra. I'm 19 years old and I am going through each every problem he covered. I'm addicted to watch web-series and I think it's the only thing I do. Whenever I get in situation to out of my home to get something or to do something " I FEAR ALOT ." I don't no what do. Even I can't go to a phychatris , Not because I don't want to but I cant Aford it. I live long away from my home village to study. Even there I couldn't make friends . I don't no how to talk, what to talk.
@@sudeshnamukherje1560 sister let me guess something , pls reply 1. Are you from West Bengal? 2. Do you usually end up eating more and have difficulty maintaining weight?? 3. Do you sleep for long hours like 8-10 hours???
Absolutely, Bang On. I am studying in USA. I always think I am not having any meaningful conversations and connections with anyone. Whatever conversations I have are mostly about what you did today, what did you watched, all surface level. No deep conversations.
I left India 2 years ago, leaving behind all my friends and family. For a solid year, I felt really lonely but I made so many meaningful connections throughout my time here. Now, I can't ever imagine leaving the people I care for behind. My only advice to people who are in the situation I was in is to put yourself out there and be true to yourself.
What sucks is the lack of respect towards hobbies. People severely lack recreational activities and entertainment, and have no concept of doing something “just for the heck of it”. If people stopped trying so hard at life and did things only for their enjoyment a lot of loneliness will subside. They’ll meet and compete with other similar minded individuals and actually start living life. It’s difficult to explain this to parents and other people who’ve just accepted life as it is. They don’t bother to look and see beyond the societal hivemind that India is. They’ll never know true fun, it hurts.
As a psychiatrist i had seen a lot of people students struggling with loneliness They have friends but they aren't buddies, so they feel difficulty in sharing Mental health is still under rated
yes sir. Myself being a teenager, I think, we are forgetting how to connect, because we are unable to find people to connect. Not that there is a scarcity of people, but there is scarcity of understanding. We never know what and how other people are, I mean we, as humans, and as people, we have some standards, and if those are not matched, we dont tend to talk to them. What do you think sir?
@@Someone_2406 i have noticed that people who have many friends are in a toxic relationship with them. they don't like it but only doing it for social media and peer pressure . many people have high standard for friendship or else they want no friends because their smartphone is a alternative . so its a 50/50 percent , people are feeling lonely because they have no good friends had not yet found the one with matching personalities or they are not investing in their friendship .
this is due to lack of empathy many people even my mother thinks that if you dont socialise you dont grow but on the case my self i like to be alone and dont like to bother people, but thing is i have embraced my solitude, and dont much care about external validation, my mother constanly misunderstand me and forces me to socialises in the expense of my mental health, she thinks that only way to grow is to socilise, but in my case i like to stay alone and that is fine by me, but my mother thinks that if dont socialise you will be lonley, i have convyed lot of time that i dont mind to alone, and happy, but my mother feels that is a problem
Well researched video! I went through something worst in my life just before covid. So I developed social anxiety. During covid, I began isolating myself from the toxicity I was facing. I started liking my own company. Then the loneliness started setting in. But there was something worse to come that I hadn't expected. Last year when things started to go back to normal in the society post-covid, I realised I've developed Agoraphobia. I would make plans to go out or travel but cancel at the final minute because I began getting panic attacks. So, loneliness or isolating oneself from the society are only the beginning of many more issues.
@@bharatlaljayswal2653 dekh is dunya me temporarily hai ham log jis bande se hamara kaam nikal raha hai wo tumhara dost simple khud me aisi skill develope karo ki log tumhe worthy samjhe its simple and complicated at the same time
I am a 17yo NEET aspirant I can totally agree to Mohak sir's point mentioned in 2:48. I think that my reason for lonliness is bcz of poor quality of relation among my circle. Beleive me I have ample no. of friends but I was suffering from lonliness badly a few months ago and I still wonder why. And nowadays as well I feel alone
Just don't force yourself to be friends with some specific people. Try to keep an open mind and be open to other people. Who would really love your company will be there for you. Who doesn't, would not. The goal is not to blame yourself for the things that are wrong, you have to do your best to be honest and happy with yourself.
U should focus on NEET & iski prep ke time tumhare pass time nhi hoga dusri chijo ke liye ek baar hi puri energy lagake clear kro college mai sochio ye sab
This is true. Not only Indians , I feel everyone throughout the world is lonely. Why? Because we aren't ready to accept and embrace. Bounded by our insecurities, orthodox perspectives, hatred, doubt for ourselves, We don't come up and support ourselves and others and same happens with us. The very AI, it's scope of information and rationality is increasing and in our case it's increasing. We don't deserve this. Being considerate, compassionate is our human essence. We need to empower the same and learn the new way of life ❤
Exactly. We are bounded by a lot hatred and insecurities. Everyone wants to stay in their bubble of ego and no one wants to go a bit out of their way to help or at least listen to someone's problems. I am going through this but hopefully i can change it in few years down the line and be more respectful and compassionate to others.
I am an introvert myself. There were many such phases in my life where I felt lonely in spite of having a very supportive and caring family. The people used to understand me moved apart. I have somehow recovered from those past phases of life but sadly my father succumbed to the loneliness. When his children went in different directions, he became lonely. It caused dementia and schizophrenia in him. Later despite of having me by his side, he forgot how to open up. He lost every desire to live anymore. Ultimately his body gave up in spite of not having any serious medical issues. My wife constantly fears about me following the same direction. I regularly try to be assertive in life. Sometime forcefully pulling myself up and start again. Don't know how much difficult it would be in future but all we can do is fight for ourselves.
I moved to Beijing for 2 yrs after complition of my PhD. First 6 months I was extremely lonely and homesick. I watched friend's when I missed my friends and modern family when I missed family. It really helped. In today's fast paced world loneliness is inevitable and we can only help ourselves.
It's understandable that moving to a new city can bring about feelings of loneliness and homesickness. Finding solace in TV shows or movies that depict close friendships and family dynamics can be a way to temporarily alleviate those feelings. It's true that in today's fast-paced world, loneliness can be a common experience. Taking proactive steps to build connections, such as joining social groups or reaching out to like-minded individuals, can help create a sense of belonging. Ultimately, finding ways to support ourselves and prioritize our well-being is crucial in navigating loneliness.
Two years back I lost all of my friends because I saw their true face. Since last two years not even a single day was good for me and my family issues are also there. My dreams are incomplete for which I'm working hard. Hope this phase shall pass soon. Don't feel lonely guys it's just a bad phase of our life we shall pass it.
Its wonderful how a lot of us have similar stories, how a lot of us are working hard going through similar problems. Yet we all do it alone without thinking there might be people like us. Us lonely people need to create a community
@renu9677 yes, well said that majority people are toxic. I was living in town since 12 years. Last year I came in my village and saw the toxic face of some good people even in my old friend. It's better to live alone.
Some friend are not made by me it's just automatically made. If those friend are bad or they have dark truth or they just use you. It's very difficult part of your life. Majority people or friend are selfish. Keep distance from those type of people.
Hats off, Mohak. You have covered every topic precisely. I migrated 6 years ago, and I don't have a single friend, even though I am a working professional in the corporate sector. Especially during festivals, I always feel anxious. I also discussed it with my friends, but they simply replied, 'Yeh sabko hota hai, koi badi baat nahi
First of all cut of these shifty friends giving you this shitty advice. Join gym, clubs, activities, talk with people, including the opposite gender. Become a part of twitter and reddit groups that have similar interests to yours. Start somewhere. Only the starting point is hard. Best of luck. And stay away from anyone who tries to bring you down. Family and relatives included. You are an Adult, not a child.
@@m3gr3xbro i have friends who always feel jealous of me.. I get so much upset.. I mean aisa kya hai mere andar jo tumhe itne jala raha hai.. Why can't you be with me in the same way you be with others... whenever I make a new friend do teen din acha hota hai fir achanak he also is like jealous of me... Maine friends banane bhi chorrd diye... Bas school ke paanch che dost hai.. Yeh college waale dost tho ekdum bekaar bhai koi kaam ke nahi mai tho abhi intermediate ke 2md year mai hu jaise yeh year khata unke numbers block and delete kar dunga.. I don't need anyone😢
Your friends may be right that " yeh sabko hota hai" but not everyone can deal with that alone. Take help from a professional. Many corporates are making sure they provide possible help regarding mental health. Don't be shy using those facilities. You might feel more comfortable opening up and taking the right advice from strangers than your existing friends.
I think there's huge difference between loneliness and solitude, though mostly Indians are suffering from loneliness but there are some Indians too who love to enjoy their own company, who are comfortable with themselves instead of having fake toxic relationships with everyone so solitude is good for you but not loneliness!
I am a JEE aspirant and since I have started preparing for JEE I have encountered loneliness alot. I literally have no one to talk to and I feel so alone during most of the time. I had many friends before COVID but after COVID I don't have any friends and I stopped going to school as well cuz I don't feel same as I used to, I don't even like interacting with anyone there. COVID has change me and my overall personality alot. I don't know what to do and this loneliness is eating me from inside, rotting my inner self. 😔
Milte hain ....magar tum log usko din bhar ek entertainment ka sadhan banake rkhte ho , good morning , good afternood , good night , jaise ki uske paaas koi kaam dhaam hi nahi.
I wish mohak could also talk about solitude, there's is a difference between being alone and loneliness. You can enjoy your company by being alone which is also considered as "solitude"...doesn't matter which personality trait you have. You can be extrovert but lonely, introvert but alone/solitude and ambivert but can be both so your personality trait doesn't define anything. So convert your loneliness into your solitude 🔥 and you'll love the changes! *Remember: Jab insaan akela rahna seekh jata hai or usse apni company enjoy karna acha lgta hai toh usse duniya mai kisi ki zaroorat nahi hoti 🔥*
जिसका कोई नहीं होता उसका ईश्वर होता है। You are on a spiritual path👣 What is inside you only only real. I am greatful for the basic needs I have , I feel good spending time in gardening and with cows, they are always waiting for me to give them love and company🐎
So true! Loneliness and being alone are diff. The former is romanticized a lot now instead of viewing it in a positive stead for the development of your personality. It will not be comfortable, agreed but it is about putting effort into it as well. Your comment should be pinned buddy!
I don't agree. The need for social connection of all kinds isn't some weakness to be overcome. It's a basic need like hunger or thirst. You don't have to be okay being alone, because you're not supposed to be. The solution to loneliness is genuine human connection, much like good is the solution to hunger
@@saintofall3653 when you will have time to know about yourself? Don't you think you need to first know yourself than knowing another partner? Our facility act their best when you are 👤
'Loneliness has followed me my whole life. Everywhere. In bars, in cars, sidewalks, stores, everywhere. There's no escape. I am God's lonely man' - Travis Bickle, Taxi Driver (1976)
30 year old here.. Doing well in life, but feel very lonely inside.. Always think something is missing. This is the best awareness video on this channel.❤
I feel lonely and empty for a long time, and despite sharing this feeling with my therapist no clue what was found to resolve my issues. I had to leave my stable job because loneliness cause depression in me which was unavoidable. I'm out of work for 3 years now, and my social connection has been reduced to minimal. This video not only gives voice to many people who are suffering from loneliness but also put the topic at the forefront.
I'm sorry to hear about the challenges you have been facing with loneliness and depression. It can be disheartening when professional help doesn't provide immediate or clear solutions. Loneliness is a complex issue and its resolution might require exploring different approaches and strategies over time. It's important to continue seeking support from professionals, exploring self-care practices, and reaching out to social resources that can help rebuild and strengthen your social connections. Remember, you are not alone in experiencing these feelings, and there are resources available to support you on your journey towards healing and finding fulfillment.
all the power to you! ❤ i would suggest taking walks, getting a pet, joining hobby classes and reconnecting with old friends :) this may not be the solution but it might help you somewhat
Felling lonely and loneliness is the same. What you are trying to imply is called 'solitude'. You may be happy living alone in solitude but that doesn't make you lonely.
@@soumensantui think he meant being alone and loneliness... infact I'm one of those people who avoid social interaction as much as possible because people exhaust me very soon ....
I'm 35 years old and from my experience, loneliness has been the best part of my life.. Much better than selfish relationships and self serving family members..
Practically true..i am in same boat..but was remain behind in carrier than my other extrovert friends..who talks fake...laugh fake...but make people happy....and made lots of friends... And big circle
@@Vijay55234 I used to live in a joint family since childhood. But I never felt a personal level of connection with anyone.. As matters of priority would pop up, they would just do the bare minimum requirements.. We never able to speak my heart to anyone.. Nor would they see things from my pov.. So, I gradually stopped talking and took matters in my own hands.. Later I realized my friend's circle was no better either.. While they are good at the individual level, their first priority was again, their self serving families
I am a 22 year old guy living in Bangalore and sadly I feel lonely especially because I never had a girlfriend before and yet to get my first kiss and hardly any friends. After 3 rejections recently, my childhood friend who is 21 year old now turning 22 soon has agreed to meet up after I asked her out via Instagram but she replied to it after almost a month as she isn't that active on the app and she replied yeah ok and then I asked her when we can meet and she is offline again and yet to reply and I am waiting. But I also have been chatting with another girl on Instagram who used to be in the same school as me but we didn't know each other in school days. Now she is 19 year old and in 1st year of engineering and I am in last year of engineering and we chat daily about pretty much everything and send each other virtual hugs and I think I started to like her too but idk whether it will be fine to ask her out as we are in different colleges and my childhood friend didn't reject me but her college is very near to my home tho and honestly like both of them but still lonely as I didn't meet them in person yet.
@@manosijroy8282 focus on your carrier....girls ka aaj kal koi bhorosa nahi.. they are in high demand than boys... First become something,get good salary job and buy flat...and go for arrange marriage as early as possible....yae baat muje bhi kafi late samaj aayi...aur mere time muje koi samjahe wala nahi tha...as I was alone and in my fatacy world at age 22 to 27
Well done, Mohak Bhai. 'Loneliness' is something that is felt by millions but only a few hundred want to talk about it. We must accept "Loneliness" as a problem and try to make it easy to express each one's inner problems with others. Thanks to you for raising this issue.
Being 23 and Introvert till date.. Being alone and being lonely are two different things..! When I was 17 I use to feel bad coz of my less connections..! But than somehow I started vibing my own time. Today I'm glad that I'm what I am . I'm very productive being alone,less stressed, more happiness. I Love my life in which I have only one friend, which is of opp gender, My bro, My Sis, And my parents. Today I'm traveling solo.. and typing this..! Hope you all are doing good.. nd don't take being alone as a disease. It's the beet feeling if you start living with yourself! Have a good day.🥀
@@aseem7w9 Sorry for your bad day asmi7w... but I didn't add that I live alone in my 1bhk flat and meet them only on Sundays! It's Sunday morning and this weekend I can't go home coz of hospital duties at night. And I just woke up..saw your comment..it really made my day. thank you for this sweetness. hv a nice day ahead.
I have studied in over 7 schools. Because of my father's transfers hence building friendships were really difficult for me. Initially loneliness was hard. But i enjoy every bit of it. Yes i do have my parents i talk with them made some good friends in college and later on in my school too. Yet i am lonely. Now i enjoy it. It's been really fruitful for me as no one could ever influence me to do wrong things but yes sometimes when i sit alone wondering then i feel the need of talking to someone. Works both ways for me.
Thank you so much mohak sir to speak on such issues. 😢😢😢I am also too lonely 🙁 and no one really talks on such things. You are putting so much efforts to guide and heal persons like us. 👍 hats off 👏 👌 mohak sir. Aapke videos se maine it a kuch seekha jitna maine kabhi school mei nahi seekha. Keep shining ✨
Mohak bhai I don't know if you know, but because of content and videos like this, some of us are very grateful to you. Please don't stop exploring and covering topics like this when you reach 10+ million or 20+ million subscribers, because these topics are very important and people should be made aware of them.
I'm a 21 year old engineering student, and believe me in my class there's a bunch of people who think that they have the authority to insult, humiliate, ignoring those who ask for help and manipulate the important decisions of class according to their comfort , they have nothing to do with rest of the living beings of the same room , they just want to compete mercilessly. As if they already decided that the Most talented, rich and the people who have the max social status can live peacefully , rest can die... Togetherness is a myth People just want competition
Thank you so much for spreading this awareness. People think loneliness is something that does not exist, especially when you are surrounded by lots of people.
I am also lonely but I am not depressed. I felt depressed when I was connected with my neighbors and school mates. Disconnecting my life from them made my mental health much better and I began to live my life happily since then
I also used to feel alone for 2 year after my breakup But Then I decided Move on And started playing cricket Started running Meet new people Go every day for walk I improved my relation with my siblings and parents Nd now i m happy This method is so simple Pr ise karna muskil hai shuru mei pr krne sei hi result milega
I am a 19 year old living in canada and as usual completely alone. Making relationships is quiet difficult with anyone because if you try to talk with anyone, it seems that you are trying to harass them.
I took a year gap for neet 2023,and chose self /home study. Trust me,i know what and how "loneliness" feels like. I deactivated all social media accounts,all my friends are too busy studying and attending coachings that we hardly ever talk on phone or even chat. My day from Monday to Saturday was the same as usual, 🙃 Wake up - Study - have breakfast -study - Lunch - Study - dinner - Study - sleep - wake up n vice versa. I felt so frustrated,and burnt out and i would get angry and annoyed for silly reasons. I became so depressed. I watched lots of motivational videos too,but no use cos the motivation would last max for 1-2 weeks and then ,i would be back to my original form, lonely. Sometimes i would have panic and anxiety attacks and i would stay awake till morning. This went on for many months 🙃 Loneliness ain't no small issue man
I have been suffering from depression and anxiety for the last few years but nobody noticed anything about me, not even my girlfriend. I just hope and pray I don't do anything stupid which might hurt my dear ones.
Loneliness, Depression, Anxiety Facing Together , I have no-one to share my problems with Not even a Friend , the only thing i use to do is Crying Alone at midnight So that no one can see my tears ...😢 Saying that I'm suffering from depression is casual nowadays but Suffering is just A very hard phase with which I'm suffering
In a room full of people...I would still feel the loneliness lurks in me. There isn't a single being that would listen to me or understand. If there's anyone who talks to me is either they need my help or their friends are busy. I'm always a backup friend to everyone. But I still give my time to everyone because I know how it feels to be ignored. I only shared this because...it feels good to share with people who would feel like me.
As an Introvert, I feel energetic whenever I get lonely.😅 I concentrate on my skills, no one to judge me, no one criticize me, I do workout, do programming. I love loneliness.😅
I think you got the wrong idea, being alone and loneliness are COMPLETE DIFFERENT THINGS. Though i like the fact that you enjoy your own company being alone . Wish you the best for your upcoming endeavours : )
Extremely same here 😂 I am also introvert, I use to listen music alone, also i do programming Being lonely and introvert is something different experience
How contrasting is it that in the time of this social media era , where we are watching thousands of people interacting with hundreds of them still feeling lonely That teaches us the biggest lesson of our life that we don't need thousands and hundreds of people around us we just want 2-4 people with whom we can talk giggle laugh and cry on their shoulders but unfortunately we all are in a herd race to showcase the world 🥺❤️
Thank you so much Mohak Bhaiya... For acknowledging this issue. ❤ I hope our community will change someday, And we'll never feel alone ever. Take love ♡
One thing that's helped me tremendously to navigate through loneliness is my introverted nature. For various reasons, I couldn't make friends in school, I was the only loner out of 40 students in my class and this is how it has been for a long time. But this was the time that also helped me contemplate life, I read a lot of books, meditated, explored philosophies and chose the spiritual path that aligned with my ideas, it's been comforting in that way.
Bhai i make friends a lot of friends actually.. But hota hai ki voh aisi feeling dete hai as if voh mujhe jal rahe they're jealous of me... Mujhe yahee baat achi nahi lagti... Mujhe zyada marks aagaye tho jalna.. Mai acha dikhu tho jalna.. I mean aisa kya hai mujhe mein jo tumhe itna jealous feel kara raha hai.. Pata nahi yaar that's why I stopped making friends or I start talking with people who are complete strangers to me atleast voh log ache se baat tho karenge not as yeh dost jo hamesha jalte rehte hai mujhse...
I can relate to this a lot ,not necessarily now but yes 2 months before . I am a NEET aspirant and I had just completed my 10th when COVID and lockdown started. My first lockdown was very good because all my family was with me all the time . We spent a lot of good time together but then my parents went back to work and I was alone with my sister. Now I was in 11th but the lockdown was still there so we just couldn't go out anywhere to enjoy or shop , just stay at home . I started becoming serious about my ppn so I thought I shouldnt waste my time talking to friends so I purposefully reduced talking to them but little did I know that I would become lonely . 11th and 12th passed somehow but I didn't get a seat so I took a drop but drop year was the worst for me with no social interactions, no friends, no going outside as a result, I couldn't concentrate on my studies like before in 10th etc . Whenever I would sit to study , negative thoughts and overthinking would come in my way . I also started day dreaming a lot .I also had stress whether I would get selected this year or no.This never happened with me before but I think all of this happened because of COVID and lockdown. I had no interactions with anybody in my drop year hence I couldn't study properly at all . I also couldn't do the things I loved to do because I didn't have time to . I wish all this comes to an end asap and life returns to normal,like how it was before the pandemic . I am ok now and not feeling that lonely because after exam finished, I met all my cousins and family members. We also went outside 😊 I taking another drop to prepare for neet this year Neet 2024 Edit - Guys I got bds 🎉😊
Ah this will come to an end soon bruh Its similar to my story I am a medical student now So don't give up, IT WILL END! I may sound wrong to some people, but make a good friend i would say Or a gf In my case, this was the one who helped me through all this negativity And i got mbbs In my case, that person came as a blessing for me If you find such a heavenly person, then they can really help u I don't speak sh*t like learn to live alone Love yourself blah blah Cuz i know how it feels when everyone can give their expert advice but noone can help! Think smarter If you can have a person who can make your life much easier Then suffering alone doesn't make any sense to me Take care bruh :)
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12th std was the most depressed phase of my life till now. I started to bunk tuition and college. I lied to my parents. I was at home all day. Then I was started to think of sucide like there is nothing in this world. I got myself up from that situation but still I feel lonely sometime. The best thing you can do is go outside meet people and do not compare yourself with others.
I don't know how many times I cried watching SOCH videos. They just talk about something we can't give words to. I don't know how to thank to you amazing people, but thanks, I mean... thanks from the bottom of my heart. All your videos you make mean a lot to people like me. Watching your videos I and people like me become aware of these problems we didn't have any word for. Thank you again, SOCH Team.
It's okay guys. Many millions of people are lonely. Find a purpose and work on it. Without purpose you are really lonely. I went through that phase. I'm lonely now, but never felt alone because I do something everyday to achieve my goals.
Entire my life I have dealt with loneliness. I don't know why people do not talk about this often but now At this point of my life I have become accoustomed with loneliness. I have never found a person who can match my energy at mental, intellectual and emotional level result is that I had friends in my life but not someone who could understand or resonate my vibration. This is heartbreaking to know that I am only 19 and I am already tired of my life and have to deal with this till my last days. I was extrovert earlier now I have become introvert and drew boundary lines . I try to enjoy my own company and vibe with myself...
It's better to choose to be alone than to be lonely surrounded by friends and family. I'm a 19 year old guy living in Japan. I love you my brothers and sisters. Stay patient and strong.🫶❤️
Can't believe youtube suggested this video while I'm actually going through it. I'm an introvert since childhood. Inferiority complex, low self esteem lack of confidence are part of my growing up years, both my parents and majorly relatives have contributed to it. Mocking about my looks, my attitude, my teaching profession, they have done it all. Now 39 and mother of 2 bright kids loving husband comfortable life still i feel lonely. My social circle has reduced to 1/3rd in last 5 years. Especially after I quit my job after second delivery to take care of kids. Fedup of relatives gossips and taunts over the years since childhood, now i have stopped going to any family functions, ours is a big family and in a year there are minimum 50-100 functions. Friends circle is also reduced as I feel guilty for not having a stable career while they all have. Neighbors don't even talk to eachother in this city unlike small towns. I don't like joining any kittys or groups. I do feel alone, depressed, sometimes not feeling like doing day to day tasks. But I put all efforts and try my best to do everything for my family. My husband is very supportive and understanding. Loneliness is not only about being unable to connect with people in the family, there could be various reasons. Sometimes you just get fedup with the people around you.
True, I am facing some what same in terms of social perspective, I am single my family is loving and caring towards me, but what I feel is not the loneliness rather I just miss myself, life circumstances has changed me but not in the person I thought I will become as an adult, and that is what upsets me, I am working towards it and hoping something good will turnout in future, Best wishes for ur better future as well.
Your story is almost my story. Married when i was 16 and moved to another city. Had to leave my school friends and family. In-laws were not very cooperative. It's been 20 years now i have three kids moved back to my own city but lost contact with all my friends and there's no way i could find them again. When i see my cousins and siblings with their friends i really feel lonely. I wish I could find one true friend 😢
Highs and lows are common in ones life . I share everything with my dad just because he said me to be open which i was not. when i attained my 17. I was fine before lockdown as things were getting worse i had to confess father which really helped me.
Much needed content , You gained a lot of respect for this ! As an Undergraduate studying in a different city from my hometown , a majority of my friends migrated to different cities too. Whenever i get back home from college , i feel a disconnect in the social relationships. I only connect with a few people and outside them I am not vocal at all. Any kind of social communication gives me anxiety, so insomnia too happens. This video was much needed , it made me feel like i’m not alone ❤
There was a phase in my life when I used to feel lonely when surrounded by family or relatives or anyone except close friends, but when I am alone, I never used to feel lonely at all. This slightly changed overtime, but even now I enjoy being alone
I just wanted to take a moment and appreciate you Mohak! As goes your channel name, it really does change the way I think at issues and this one connected at every level. I used to study in the US and worked there for while too. Way tougher for me as an introvert to make connections. Overtime though, I got my socials figured and a lot of lessons learnt. Thank you again for doing what you are Mohak! All the very best for everything ahead too!
Bro infuture mujhe v abroad Jana hai higher education ke liye I think aapse mujhe achi mentorship mil sakti hai and I also need a senior who guide me please will you be my friend🙂🙌
Wish I could multitask like Mohak I am just doing my graduation and woh bhi nai ho raha dhang se This is a very different suggestion people may not approve but mohak should bring a time management video Staying in US,has a wife,has done job, completed masters that too mba,and manages a 2 mil+ active yt channel which uploads regularly Gajab ke aadmi hai yaar🫡
@@divitkarekar5803technically he isn't? The script the editing, he setup the team for that reason. He's just the face of the channel there's 13 people working behind that face
An outstanding content Team 🙌 Hat's off. Literally almost everyone around is going through the same crisis but no one is ready to speak or listen or accept the fact. Especially when we go through a worst phase of life we feel much lonely and this loneliness feel like someone hitting hard & u start feeling a real physical pain . Think about so many other things & eventually land up in depression. People who are living with parents & family also feel lonely and depressed coz we have so much to speak & share but there's no one to listen, understand & console. We only have people who say "Just chill! Tu bohot zyada soch rahi hai😢" but no one understands us 😢
Hats off to you , for bringing such an important topic, we all suffer from some sort of loneliness , but its very important to realise the issue and accept it......
Hey.. thanks a lot for raising this important topic and mentioning our work for lonely senior citizens! We have many programmes across India for low income and middle class elders. We will be very happy to increase our impact by benefiting more and more seniors dealing with loneliness, anxiety, depression and other mental and physical health issues. Keep up your good work! 👍🙌👏
I am a 20 years old college going boy facing loneliness. Here is my experience. I moved out of my hometown for study. From childhood I am used to live in a joint family, playing and spending fun times with my cousins, participating in family gossips and gatherings & I enjoyed to live like that. Also I got very lucky in having close friends with whom I had a lot of fun times, cycling all over my village. But for my better future I have to leave all of this behind. Most probably in few years I will work as a Software Engineer in a Big City (i.e. Bangalore) away from all of this. In financial and career wise it will be nice but then I think will it be worth to sacrifice closeness with family and friends and suffering from loneliness. May be earning a little less but having family and friends beside will ultimately make me more satisfied than the previous option. I think financial success sometimes comes with “Loneliness”. And it is really difficult to choose what to do.
As Indians most of us will connect only if we see any benefits otherwise we don't. The concept of helping others selflessly, connection with elderly and family is long gone. The credit goes to social media
Didn't your previous generation do the same thing? Stop saying cliches and blame it all on social media to garner a few likes from the intellectually lazy people who easily buy cliches. People in the previous generation are the ones who taught us to not engage in social altercations. They raised their kids to be engineers/doctors for the only selfish reasons so they can secure future benefits. They taught us to not be involved in politics and selflessly fight for freedom and justice. They kept us away from our own scriptures like Mahabharata so they do not risk in-group family fighting. They raised us with the mindset to always compare ourselves and compete with siblings/neighbors and be constantly jealous of them. They raised us to not be friends with people coming from lower socioeconomic conditions. Where did the previous generation learn to do this back then? Social media wasn't there before the first decade of the 21st century! Do you know what actually has made people not care about connection, love, friendship? It is our collective decision to READ /\/\∆RX, FOLLOW S0C!∆L!SM and then neglect our human tendency to crave for friendship, love, a sense of meaning, legacy and culture. We ourselves have made an uneducated political choice to prioritize our material needs over our spiritual needs and live like nihilistic materialists. And that's why today we are facing this consequence!
@@shubhamsingh6774 Bro ... Don't joke .... You guys only care about the girls who have good appearance and are good looking whether it is academic field or any other field ..... They are so many talented girls but some of them are not so much successful just because of their appearance and boys don't like them or support them .....
@@shubhamsingh6774Bro ... Don't joke .... You guys only care about the girls who have good appearance and are good looking whether it is academic field or any other field ..... They are so many talented girls but some of them are not so much successful just because of their appearance and boys don't like them or support them .....
As someone who faced loneliness ( i am 19now), That was such a terrible situation to be, although one decision changed my life forever, as mohak mentioned, the community, for instance i started goig to the gym, the people who were aqauintance a few months ago, are now more than friends, dont give up, keep hope and believe in the divine, Hope this was helpful
Loneliness breeds from our very homes itself. I bet most of our parents don't even realise what is the value of mental health in today's world. I was brought up well educated and but one thing my parents were never able to give me is the freedom and that feeling that yes they are my own. My parents especially my mother was very strict back then, and i could never muster up the courage to talk about anything to her and gradually i learnt to keep everything within myself. I could never speak freely, express my feelings and everything with them. As i grew up over the years, my teenage days, thereafter as i grew up to be an adult i kept everything within myself. All my moments of joy and pain, i could never share with them. And now suddenly when I'm 28 and barely speak with anyone, they come to ask me why don't i talk much, why do i behave this way.
As a fifteen-year-old, I have lived through most of my short life being alone. I'm the introvert in the class, and the less social and uninteresting one in my family. I was introduced to the internet in 2012 when my Facebook was created. I played games on my laptop instead of going out with friends. I'm still like that to this day. I swear I have been to a friend's house a single time and then never again. Due to the pandemic, I wasn't able to form any good relationships with any friends at school. And then I had to change schools in the ninth grade. I was doing great at school, but still, no friendships. I got an addiction. Not drugs or anything... I still can't admit it. Then my depression hit, due to loneliness and the addiction and derealisation. The summer vacations were going on. When they ended, I couldn't go to school for about three months. My parents were worried the whole time and I couldn't tell them the cause. The final exams had almost arrived when I opened up to my parents, crying about my depression. My internal marks had fallen due to practicals, and projects being missing entirely. My attendance percentage had fallen quite low. After much quarrel and crys, I was taken to a neuropsychologist, where I was diagnosed with clinical depression. I took medicine for two weeks but then never went back there. I wanted therapy but my p addiction was my constraint for not taking it. I could never tell the doctor what was actually going on. The finals were here and I wouldn't want to give them. Still, each night, I would cram and till the morning I was so unmotivated I wouldn't want to give the exam. Thanks to my parents who would coercively drop me off to school, I managed to get 84% in ninth. I feel I could've done better but it's okay. Now I am in tenth and still want to get therapy. I still feel I can't trust a therapist. I go blank sometimes when people talk to me. I am very much of a hikikomori and aware about this concept since a long time. What approach can I take to fix my life?
Hey,even i have been to therapy and trust me it actually helps There is client confidentiality so they won't tell it to your parents Pls go to therapy and open up slowly about everything Also the fact that you go blank when you talj with ppl, therapy can even solve that since you speak to your therapist who is irl person Study hard for your 10th and go to a good college,all the best for your future 👍🏻
Am I the only person who never feel lonely when alone...I guess one should hv goals that they enjoy doing..like spending time on exercise, on art, on science ,on spirituality or just go for a walk..taking your own responsibility is the most beautiful thing...A person who has understood this ..will never feel alone ...❤
Hey, thanks for discussing on this topic, i have been feeling alone since long time i'm an ambivert , i have cool cousins, family and few friends but still somehow i feel alone..... whenever something hurts me i couldn't control my tears , i miss my own self and energy
Thanks a lot for making this video, a lot of students who come abroad face this issue. Changing from a collectivistic family based society to an individualistic society is very very difficult. The connections here are made very differently and soft skills and hobbies are lacking in Indian students thanks to hectic school and college schedules back in India
I am from maharashtra. I'm 19 years old and I am going through each every problem you covered. I'm addicted to watch web-series and I think it's the only thing I do. Whenever I get in situation to out of my home to get something or to do something " I FEAR ALOT ." I don't no what do. Even I can't go to a phychatris , Not because I don't want to but I cant Aford it. I live long away from my home village to study. Even there I couldn't make friends . I don't no how to talk, what to talk
@@NHassan-om6ys the major problem with me is that I can't talk to people fluently as others. I don't get anything to talk. I am an introvert and I fear of my face expressions and my looks.
Your topic selection is best.. loneliness has been the most underrated topic for discussion. I am happy that you have selected this topic and represented all the aspects of it very well. I have also been a victim of loneliness after my break-up for almost 1 year... So I can understand the importance of this topic... Thankyou Mohak...
I was suffering from loneliness back in 2020. For me fortunately covid happened and I went back to my parents. It genuinely helped and I got to know they were also facing same problem. Thanks Mohak for spreading awareness about this.
Just a small suggestion. Kindly refrain from using the word "buddhe" when you are referring to older people. It is highly demeaning and insulting. Use respectful and sensitive expressions like "senior citizens", "varisht nagarik", or "vriddh jan" when you are referring to persons of an advanced age group.
@@ubi_dubium_ibi_libertas they are called budha because they destroyed this country by giving too much birth. Budha is exact word these lustful should get.
The problem with the society today is that we have distractions like social media, OTT platforms, etc. to ignore the problem of loneliness and because of that, this problem never gets addressed properly. And with social media, we see pics of people going here and there and then comes the FOMO and people just forget what they are actually suffering from.
I am 19 years old student and I live alone. I can totally relate with all points that you had discussed in this video. From last 15 - 20 days i am struggling with the same problem.
I'm PhD candidate, 28year old and still jobless. My friends have job, married, kids and beautiful family. *This is how we call loneliness in real life.* Those who relates me can understand.
Rajat how long have you been like this ?
As a 29 yr old single girl.. I am a post graduate and tried to enroll in phd. Got rejected cheated in love no friends everyone ditched me.. Bullied Harrased since school and college days .. Now I'm lonely.. Suffering from clinical depression.. Panic attacks.. Suicidal thoughts just I'm so done.. 💔 when it see around girls of my age and even juniors are married to well settled men and have kids living a great life. And here I'm still in search of validation.. And answers to the purpose of my life.
@@Msharma30 go for arrainge marriage
No one's life is perfect dude..I have many friends. .i observed everyone's life..those who are well settled. .they also missed many things..1 lost dad in childhood. .2nd lost mom during college days.3rd came from poor background,have built everything but his wife is unable to conceive baby..4th earns 6lakhs in annum but divorcee. .me without job and lovelife but blessed with parents and siblings and not so much money. .
@@divyanshdwivedi9751 I'm never getting married. I'll just have to live for my parents.. As I'm their only child. They don't have anyone except me.
It's not the loneliness that hurts the most
It's the genuine lack of connection within people that feels scary
That's what it is!!
It'S NoT ThE LoNeLiNeSs ThAt HuRtS ThE MoSt, It Is ThE LoNeLiNeSs ThAt HuRtS MoSt
@@dontstresscuriositypeeks1211 🗿🗿🗿🗿
You basically defined loneliness duh 🙄
@dontstresscuriositypeeks1211 💀💀💀🗿🗿🗿
but building genuine connections demand time ,which is something that no one has, either you or the one to whom you try to connect
I write in a personal notebook about my life and what is going on right now, my thoughts, positive thoughts and all that to not feel lonely and to let go of the negetive thoughts ...
Being alone is peaceful, but feeling lonely kills. 🥀
yahh it's bullshit
@@anishvishwakarma3468 you are not respecting his/her feelings brw, atleast let other speak their mind to reveal their feelings, peoples like you have stopped the development of an individual in our society, or are you in depression? it's true in depression/anxiety any individual can be go wrong in words btw.
Trust me adopt a pet❤
@@Huzaifa-zd8wi I have one
Agreed @@birlabusiness
As a 16 yr old i feel so lonely and I can't express my feelings to anyone sometimes i feel too depressed 😢😢 no body wants to know what I think they just want to know about by exam results even my parents also can't understand my feelings and i don't have good friends also to deal with this loneliness
Me too but I have 0 friends
i felt it too. ypou may read the Gita to understand the error of your feelings and correct your thinking,
Touch grass bozo
Jhoot mat bole
bro if u really feel low talk to me i can prove that u r not alone there is not a single condition like depression exists
I'm a 22-year-old engineering student and it's really frustrating because I hardly have anyone to share what's going on in my head. I've never really used social media like most people do, so I don't thinks its the only reason behind loneliness among the masses. It seems like in today's age, nobody can escape loneliness. The only way I find solace is when I meditate or think about Ram and Hanuman.
Read bhagvat Gita...do physical exercise cook your favourite food...do yoga...God bless you
Same
Same
Listen to Aacharya Prashant.
@@rittikgoswami7964 baate to bekar karta hai wo : ) ho sakta hai aapko theek lagi hogi but mujhe total nonsense.
It's not limited to Indians, loneliness is amongst the most dreaded feeling across humanity.
It's sky high in EU and US. Depression due to loneliness is a top factor for mental illness in USA now, not some severe trauma or something.
Japan and Korea have the highest suicide rates all due to loneliness. Mohak lives in the US with his family, thankfully he is blessed to be of Indian origin he won't be as lonely as a native of the US would. .
@@jashsylde8136 "thankfully he is blessed to be of Indian origin"
bro, the western world, or basically anybody else has no respect for Indians. It's not something to be proud of 🫠
@@TooBlu_Vlogs it doesn't matter. We don't need the respect and approval of the Western world. We as Indians respect each other and we also respect people of other ethnicities. But when they induce attacks on us we will stand our the ground.
@@TooBlu_Vlogs😂
@@TooBlu_Vlogs Proud to be Indian. Jai Hind nd, Jai Bharath. You be a coward and live in shame.
I'm a 18 year old girl who was going through loneliness at the age of 12 to 15 because of not having quality emotional connection with anybody but in 2020 i start to focus on myself and build myself for not be emotionally depended on someone, not comparing my life with others because i believe everybody have their own path in life, i also read many self improvement books and just going like that. Now I'm more happy to have my own company, i give quality time to myself before to anyone else i have also gain many skills like cooking, gaming, drawing, painting, workout, writing story, 3d animation and many more.
That nice
I feel very lonely I can't to get deper connection with any one I will try on you
@@AbhishekSingh-01 yo wtf?
can you name the book's please😶
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As a 24year old, I can't express my feelings and feel very lonely. It's a relief that I am not the only one in this situation.
The thing is the more u will be in your social media the less u will be socially lonely.
जिसका कोई नहीं होता उसका ईश्वर होता है। You are on a spiritual path👣 What is inside you only real.
@@Dannyjournalyes bhaiya yadi spiritual path me ho to akelapan mahsoos nahi hota
Yes, I'm 20 years i tired my life sometimes i want to die
Brother read bhagvat gita & try to listen acharya prashant sir sabhi problems ke solution pr baat krte ha aatmgyan ko smjh paoge aur dukh se mukt ho poage 🙌
I am an introvert. But you may think introverts are more comfortable when they are alone. But that's totally different from loneliness,
Research suggests that introverts are more likely to struggle with loneliness than non-introverts. Introverts need solitude and peace to recharge themselves. This makes it harder for them to create and sustain social connections.
Very true
Exactly exactly
Thats what I have been trying to explain to everyone but guess I am just bad at explaining. I am 17 and an introvert, Yess , I like spending time alone and feel exhausted after a social meeting, But again its not like I dont feel lonely just because I am an introvert, being lonely is diff than being alone... I like being alone not lonely... After I return from coaching, I am left feeling exhausted because I push myself out there to talk and make friends otherwise I would end up lonely
I agree
i am an extrovert but still very lonely , both quantity wise and quality wise and worse part about being extrovert and lonely is the touch starvation . i dont remember the last hug i got
I'm 23, lower middle class guy, you can imagine the level of depression and loneliness by the fact that our family didn't went out ( to enjoy or picnic) from last 15-20 years... And as I'm an adult now i have more things that triggers my depression and my loneliness... Like career, money my dreams... As an introvert since childhood i always suffered from mental health, anxiety, depression... I'm only 23 but feels like I'm 35 and seen lot of things in life...
In my case 34 guy still single..lost job during COVID.. prepared for government exam but couldn't get success then learning Java course..cook my favourite food.. reading novel... avoid loneliness otherwise you will pay for this
U need Immediate help
@@sougatmohapatra8540 I'm paying hardly already bro, I'm underweight, suffering from hairfall, grey hair, and many more health issues like my backache, sinus, i tried to change but i couldn't everytime i fail 😥 I don't want this anymore.. i want happiness and joy... I'm gonna get it somehow...
So many things going on I can't even tell anybody... And this gonna make it like 3000 words or more 🥴😪
@@sougatmohapatra8540 happy for you bro, that u have actually started your life doing job earning money learning about society... In my case it's my dream to become even common indipendent (yet special for me) people like you...
@rohitchopra7780 Try to involve in more physical activities, try to avoid Instagram and other social media, you will be fine.😊
I felt the same in 2019 when I completed my diploma in Mechanical Engineering. All my friends went for Btech, but I was confused and took a year off. It was really a bad period for me. I would pass my time sleeping and freelancing. And then 2020 came, which was even worse. It's better now because I have found meaning. I volunteer regularly with NGOs now that work on Waste Management in the Himalayas. I have a lot of friends there, and when we meet, we are an army of people who have one objective - to clean the beautiful Himalayas.
I recommend teenage people or even those in their adulthood to join some NGO and volunteer. You will surely make meaningful friends there with whom you can connect. And yeah, get a Hobby.
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thank you for the suggestion, i will try this !!
It was april 27,1999 when I went abroad for first time on work to Sydney. As a 25 year old , having seen hostel life in IIIT Bombay and worked in Bangalore, it was a new experience. I felt so lonely being abroad , I would cry in my commute every day at least for 4 months. The most terrible time.
I have developed phobia for being alone abroad ever since.
Loneliness is a very serious issue.
Now my daughters (twin) left for college 6 months ago and the same phobia took over. Now I have got adjusted to new life.
Life is all about learning and unlearning.
Great and eye opening video.
Go for spirituality, hobbies, community work
@@santusanturohit4832 thank you bro. I am doing the same now.
I have this fear of loneliness. Hence I would never go abroad for a job. I would stay in India, work and be independent and take care of my mom who's growing old day by day. Even she doesn't deserve to be left alone at this age when she would be needing me the most.
I feel, money is important in life and it can buy us a lot of things, but at the same time our relations are also important. One can gradually earn money, but once a person is gone from this world, he's never coming back 😢. I would rather prefer to work in India and come back to home cooked food made by my mumma, and spend time with her after work and on weekends; rather than being over-ambitious, leaving my mom alone to shift abroad, while feeling lonely everyday travelling to work.
Yes this is the problem but how can we solve this. Even you make new friends you can't just express everything.
You could have simply started with, 25 year old, started my first job...
Maturity is realising that our parents were not wrong about the phone being the cause of our many problems.
Exactly 💯
I really regret .
Total agree 💯
The first time I used insta when I was 18 and deleted insta used for 4 months only no social media discipline I'm 19 now 😎😎
@@sigmamale6143Sigma male ☝️🤓
@@jawedeiberni8885true but initially its quite difficult
I am a 20 years old college going girl , I don't have many friends and I personally believe that be alone is far more better than hanging out with toxic people
i am 20 too but i think majority people in this world are good and helpful
just be positive and good people will reach you automatically
thats what happened to me
( Most of them are with me because they think i will be helpful enough to them / Study / Planning Stuff )
but thats how the world functions
There are no free meals
@sudeshnamukherje1560 I am from maharashtra. I'm 19 years old and I am going through each every problem he covered.
I'm addicted to watch web-series and I think it's the only thing I do. Whenever I get in situation to out of my home to get something or to do something " I FEAR ALOT ."
I don't no what do.
Even I can't go to a phychatris , Not because I don't want to but I cant Aford it.
I live long away from my home village to study. Even there I couldn't make friends . I don't no how to talk, what to talk.
@@_kartik_chauhan yes I agree but you know people are very complicated ,it's very difficult to understand someone
So true. I am blessed to have good friends. I did drop a lot of toxic people on the way, including parents to a great extent.
@@sudeshnamukherje1560 sister let me guess something , pls reply
1. Are you from West Bengal?
2. Do you usually end up eating more and have difficulty maintaining weight??
3. Do you sleep for long hours like 8-10 hours???
Absolutely, Bang On. I am studying in USA. I always think I am not having any meaningful conversations and connections with anyone. Whatever conversations I have are mostly about what you did today, what did you watched, all surface level. No deep conversations.
On point
I left India 2 years ago, leaving behind all my friends and family. For a solid year, I felt really lonely but I made so many meaningful connections throughout my time here. Now, I can't ever imagine leaving the people I care for behind. My only advice to people who are in the situation I was in is to put yourself out there and be true to yourself.
😂😂😂😂
@@Real_mutual_fund_guidewhat’s so funny ?
@@CHUSLIM_ read the para and compare it with present time of kalyug.......if u have mind u too will laugh on such chindi raichand
This is a real problem stupid kalyug wale
dies it really work
What sucks is the lack of respect towards hobbies. People severely lack recreational activities and entertainment, and have no concept of doing something “just for the heck of it”. If people stopped trying so hard at life and did things only for their enjoyment a lot of loneliness will subside. They’ll meet and compete with other similar minded individuals and actually start living life.
It’s difficult to explain this to parents and other people who’ve just accepted life as it is. They don’t bother to look and see beyond the societal hivemind that India is. They’ll never know true fun, it hurts.
For me loneliness is the fun. I have plentiful of time to solve my puzzle games such as 3×3×3 rubix cube and learning to invent gravity destructor.
This is the actual reason. Underrated comment that a lot of people won't accept 🫥
@@satyasankalpapanigrahi9416 lol
But it's their choice if they wish to live that way
Problem is there is no social security in India that's why we have to work hard to earn at least.
As a psychiatrist i had seen a lot of people students struggling with loneliness
They have friends but they aren't buddies, so they feel difficulty in sharing
Mental health is still under rated
yes sir. Myself being a teenager, I think, we are forgetting how to connect, because we are unable to find people to connect. Not that there is a scarcity of people, but there is scarcity of understanding. We never know what and how other people are, I mean we, as humans, and as people, we have some standards, and if those are not matched, we dont tend to talk to them. What do you think sir?
@@Someone_2406 i have noticed that people who have many friends are in a toxic relationship with them. they don't like it but only doing it for social media and peer pressure . many people have high standard for friendship or else they want no friends because their smartphone is a alternative . so its a 50/50 percent , people are feeling lonely because they have no good friends had not yet found the one with matching personalities or they are not investing in their friendship .
Agree
@@gamersmania8494 Exactly! lack of connection!
this is due to lack of empathy many people even my mother thinks that if you dont socialise you dont grow but on the case my self i like to be alone and dont like to bother people, but thing is i have embraced my solitude, and dont much care about external validation, my mother constanly misunderstand me and forces me to socialises in the expense of my mental health, she thinks that only way to grow is to socilise, but in my case i like to stay alone and that is fine by me, but my mother thinks that if dont socialise you will be lonley, i have convyed lot of time that i dont mind to alone, and happy, but my mother feels that is a problem
Well researched video!
I went through something worst in my life just before covid. So I developed social anxiety. During covid, I began isolating myself from the toxicity I was facing. I started liking my own company. Then the loneliness started setting in. But there was something worse to come that I hadn't expected. Last year when things started to go back to normal in the society post-covid, I realised I've developed Agoraphobia. I would make plans to go out or travel but cancel at the final minute because I began getting panic attacks.
So, loneliness or isolating oneself from the society are only the beginning of many more issues.
I'm 23 year old & I do not have any friends. I FEEL SO LONELY. I can relate this video from my heart
🥲🥲
me hu tera dost bata bhai kis topic ke bare me baat karni hai
you are BATMAN
Same here
but I'm २१ years old
@@_kartik_chauhanI also want friends 😭😭😭
@@bharatlaljayswal2653 dekh is dunya me temporarily hai ham log jis bande se hamara kaam nikal raha hai wo tumhara dost
simple khud me aisi skill develope karo ki log tumhe worthy samjhe its simple and complicated at the same time
I am a 17yo NEET aspirant I can totally agree to Mohak sir's point mentioned in 2:48. I think that my reason for lonliness is bcz of poor quality of relation among my circle. Beleive me I have ample no. of friends but I was suffering from lonliness badly a few months ago and I still wonder why. And nowadays as well I feel alone
you have lots of time to build your life up don't lose hope
Just clear the exam get a college and make friends
Just don't force yourself to be friends with some specific people. Try to keep an open mind and be open to other people. Who would really love your company will be there for you. Who doesn't, would not. The goal is not to blame yourself for the things that are wrong, you have to do your best to be honest and happy with yourself.
U should focus on NEET & iski prep ke time tumhare pass time nhi hoga dusri chijo ke liye ek baar hi puri energy lagake clear kro college mai sochio ye sab
Hi ... be my friend
This is true. Not only Indians , I feel everyone throughout the world is lonely. Why? Because we aren't ready to accept and embrace. Bounded by our insecurities, orthodox perspectives, hatred, doubt for ourselves, We don't come up and support ourselves and others and same happens with us. The very AI, it's scope of information and rationality is increasing and in our case it's increasing. We don't deserve this. Being considerate, compassionate is our human essence. We need to empower the same and learn the new way of life ❤
Exactly. We are bounded by a lot hatred and insecurities. Everyone wants to stay in their bubble of ego and no one wants to go a bit out of their way to help or at least listen to someone's problems. I am going through this but hopefully i can change it in few years down the line and be more respectful and compassionate to others.
Un installing Instagram helps actually.
In my case 34 guy unemployed single from birth.lost job during COVID.. learning Java course...cook mutton watch ULLU with beer..
Ghanta
❤
I am an introvert myself. There were many such phases in my life where I felt lonely in spite of having a very supportive and caring family. The people used to understand me moved apart. I have somehow recovered from those past phases of life but sadly my father succumbed to the loneliness. When his children went in different directions, he became lonely. It caused dementia and schizophrenia in him. Later despite of having me by his side, he forgot how to open up. He lost every desire to live anymore. Ultimately his body gave up in spite of not having any serious medical issues. My wife constantly fears about me following the same direction. I regularly try to be assertive in life. Sometime forcefully pulling myself up and start again. Don't know how much difficult it would be in future but all we can do is fight for ourselves.
I moved to Beijing for 2 yrs after complition of my PhD. First 6 months I was extremely lonely and homesick. I watched friend's when I missed my friends and modern family when I missed family. It really helped. In today's fast paced world loneliness is inevitable and we can only help ourselves.
yes, your last words are true. In todays fast paced world loneliness is inevitable
How do u communicate in china , There people dont talk in english
@@sharathchandra6166 in academia people talk in English. For other things my Chinese friends were always there for me
It's understandable that moving to a new city can bring about feelings of loneliness and homesickness. Finding solace in TV shows or movies that depict close friendships and family dynamics can be a way to temporarily alleviate those feelings. It's true that in today's fast-paced world, loneliness can be a common experience. Taking proactive steps to build connections, such as joining social groups or reaching out to like-minded individuals, can help create a sense of belonging. Ultimately, finding ways to support ourselves and prioritize our well-being is crucial in navigating loneliness.
@@Sophia.sunsun i dont like your hat sophia
Two years back I lost all of my friends because I saw their true face. Since last two years not even a single day was good for me and my family issues are also there. My dreams are incomplete for which I'm working hard. Hope this phase shall pass soon. Don't feel lonely guys it's just a bad phase of our life we shall pass it.
Its wonderful how a lot of us have similar stories, how a lot of us are working hard going through similar problems. Yet we all do it alone without thinking there might be people like us. Us lonely people need to create a community
Majority of people are toxic that is why lonliness exists
In my case 34 guy unemployed during COVID.. learning Java course..still single from birth...cook mutton watch ULLU with beer 🍺🍺.. single no tension
@renu9677 yes, well said that majority people are toxic. I was living in town since 12 years. Last year I came in my village and saw the toxic face of some good people even in my old friend. It's better to live alone.
Some friend are not made by me it's just automatically made. If those friend are bad or they have dark truth or they just use you. It's very difficult part of your life. Majority people or friend are selfish. Keep distance from those type of people.
"Quality matters more than quantity" having one good friend is far better than than those 800 followers.
Hats off, Mohak. You have covered every topic precisely. I migrated 6 years ago, and I don't have a single friend, even though I am a working professional in the corporate sector. Especially during festivals, I always feel anxious. I also discussed it with my friends, but they simply replied, 'Yeh sabko hota hai, koi badi baat nahi
Will you be my friend..🙌🙂
First of all cut of these shifty friends giving you this shitty advice. Join gym, clubs, activities, talk with people, including the opposite gender. Become a part of twitter and reddit groups that have similar interests to yours. Start somewhere. Only the starting point is hard. Best of luck. And stay away from anyone who tries to bring you down. Family and relatives included. You are an Adult, not a child.
@@m3gr3xyou gave a reply with clarity.. I used to wonder why am I avoiding my friend's and family 🙏
@@m3gr3xbro i have friends who always feel jealous of me.. I get so much upset.. I mean aisa kya hai mere andar jo tumhe itne jala raha hai.. Why can't you be with me in the same way you be with others... whenever I make a new friend do teen din acha hota hai fir achanak he also is like jealous of me... Maine friends banane bhi chorrd diye... Bas school ke paanch che dost hai.. Yeh college waale dost tho ekdum bekaar bhai koi kaam ke nahi mai tho abhi intermediate ke 2md year mai hu jaise yeh year khata unke numbers block and delete kar dunga.. I don't need anyone😢
Your friends may be right that " yeh sabko hota hai" but not everyone can deal with that alone. Take help from a professional. Many corporates are making sure they provide possible help regarding mental health. Don't be shy using those facilities. You might feel more comfortable opening up and taking the right advice from strangers than your existing friends.
I think there's huge difference between loneliness and solitude, though mostly Indians are suffering from loneliness but there are some Indians too who love to enjoy their own company, who are comfortable with themselves instead of having fake toxic relationships with everyone so solitude is good for you but not loneliness!
I am a JEE aspirant and since I have started preparing for JEE I have encountered loneliness alot. I literally have no one to talk to and I feel so alone during most of the time. I had many friends before COVID but after COVID I don't have any friends and I stopped going to school as well cuz I don't feel same as I used to, I don't even like interacting with anyone there. COVID has change me and my overall personality alot.
I don't know what to do and this loneliness is eating me from inside, rotting my inner self. 😔
Bhai struggle mai sab akelai hotai hai success mai sab sath hotai hai burai time ka saamna akelai hi karna padta hai
Jee par dhyan dai
Your story is same as mine
Bhai same kahani the day i started improving my self the day i lost all my friends... Apart from my parents their is no one
Same situation with me when I started preparing neet exam 😢
As a neet aspirant i can confirm this
Aajkal ese dost milte hi kha hain...jinse dil ki baate ki ja sake .....😢
yup, everybody is seeking nonsense fun
Milte hain ....magar tum log usko din bhar ek entertainment ka sadhan banake rkhte ho , good morning , good afternood , good night , jaise ki uske paaas koi kaam dhaam hi nahi.
I wish mohak could also talk about solitude, there's is a difference between being alone and loneliness. You can enjoy your company by being alone which is also considered as "solitude"...doesn't matter which personality trait you have. You can be extrovert but lonely, introvert but alone/solitude and ambivert but can be both so your personality trait doesn't define anything.
So convert your loneliness into your solitude 🔥 and you'll love the changes!
*Remember: Jab insaan akela rahna seekh jata hai or usse apni company enjoy karna acha lgta hai toh usse duniya mai kisi ki zaroorat nahi hoti 🔥*
जिसका कोई नहीं होता उसका ईश्वर होता है। You are on a spiritual path👣 What is inside you only only real. I am greatful for the basic needs I have , I feel good spending time in gardening and with cows, they are always waiting for me to give them love and company🐎
So true! Loneliness and being alone are diff. The former is romanticized a lot now instead of viewing it in a positive stead for the development of your personality. It will not be comfortable, agreed but it is about putting effort into it as well. Your comment should be pinned buddy!
I don't agree. The need for social connection of all kinds isn't some weakness to be overcome. It's a basic need like hunger or thirst.
You don't have to be okay being alone, because you're not supposed to be. The solution to loneliness is genuine human connection, much like good is the solution to hunger
@@saintofall3653 when you will have time to know about yourself? Don't you think you need to first know yourself than knowing another partner? Our facility act their best when you are 👤
@@Dannyjournal building healthy meaningful connections is as important as spending time with yourself and knowing yourself
'Loneliness has followed me my whole life. Everywhere. In bars, in cars, sidewalks, stores, everywhere. There's no escape. I am God's lonely man' - Travis Bickle, Taxi Driver (1976)
We don't hate being alone , we hate feeling alone 💔
Someone don't know difference between lonely and alone
@@drgurbaxkaur442 You can be alone but not feel alone , You can feel alone but not be alone
ahahhaha kya likh diya mene
@@_kartik_chauhankehna kya chahte ho ?
Kitne logo ka group hai tumhara?
You are not alone almost everyone is ...
We are very happy when We see some Indian Have raise topic those very important for society.
*Loneliness* hits harder than being *single* ...... 💀 💔
(Edit):- Lonely with 743 souls
@@Dare_devil_001 Approved ✅
But why you feel lonely and sad ? Don't give answers like I don't have friends ok
@@Dare_devil_001 that might be the most accurate feelings put into words together in the entire comments column. Nice one dear friend.
@@sahasvik Remember....having no friends doesn't make one lonely rather being unaware of self makes one dreadful
@@ExHinduArjunNayak जय श्री राम ❤
30 year old here.. Doing well in life, but feel very lonely inside.. Always think something is missing.
This is the best awareness video on this channel.❤
I feel lonely and empty for a long time, and despite sharing this feeling with my therapist no clue what was found to resolve my issues. I had to leave my stable job because loneliness cause depression in me which was unavoidable. I'm out of work for 3 years now, and my social connection has been reduced to minimal. This video not only gives voice to many people who are suffering from loneliness but also put the topic at the forefront.
Start Scribbing and Journalising ...you will get all the answers and your life will be Zinga Lala La....
I'm sorry to hear about the challenges you have been facing with loneliness and depression. It can be disheartening when professional help doesn't provide immediate or clear solutions. Loneliness is a complex issue and its resolution might require exploring different approaches and strategies over time. It's important to continue seeking support from professionals, exploring self-care practices, and reaching out to social resources that can help rebuild and strengthen your social connections. Remember, you are not alone in experiencing these feelings, and there are resources available to support you on your journey towards healing and finding fulfillment.
If your therapist solves your problem. His job is no longer needed😂
all the power to you! ❤ i would suggest taking walks, getting a pet, joining hobby classes and reconnecting with old friends :) this may not be the solution but it might help you somewhat
There’s a difference between being “lonely” & “loneliness” .
I may choose to live alone but that doesn’t mean I’m suffering from loneliness
Felling lonely and loneliness is the same. What you are trying to imply is called 'solitude'. You may be happy living alone in solitude but that doesn't make you lonely.
@@soumensantui think he meant being alone and loneliness... infact I'm one of those people who avoid social interaction as much as possible because people exhaust me very soon ....
I'm 35 years old and from my experience, loneliness has been the best part of my life.. Much better than selfish relationships and self serving family members..
Practically true..i am in same boat..but was remain behind in carrier than my other extrovert friends..who talks fake...laugh fake...but make people happy....and made lots of friends...
And big circle
@@Vijay55234 I used to live in a joint family since childhood. But I never felt a personal level of connection with anyone.. As matters of priority would pop up, they would just do the bare minimum requirements.. We never able to speak my heart to anyone.. Nor would they see things from my pov.. So, I gradually stopped talking and took matters in my own hands.. Later I realized my friend's circle was no better either.. While they are good at the individual level, their first priority was again, their self serving families
I am a 22 year old guy living in Bangalore and sadly I feel lonely especially because I never had a girlfriend before and yet to get my first kiss and hardly any friends. After 3 rejections recently, my childhood friend who is 21 year old now turning 22 soon has agreed to meet up after I asked her out via Instagram but she replied to it after almost a month as she isn't that active on the app and she replied yeah ok and then I asked her when we can meet and she is offline again and yet to reply and I am waiting. But I also have been chatting with another girl on Instagram who used to be in the same school as me but we didn't know each other in school days. Now she is 19 year old and in 1st year of engineering and I am in last year of engineering and we chat daily about pretty much everything and send each other virtual hugs and I think I started to like her too but idk whether it will be fine to ask her out as we are in different colleges and my childhood friend didn't reject me but her college is very near to my home tho and honestly like both of them but still lonely as I didn't meet them in person yet.
@@manosijroy8282 focus on your carrier....girls ka aaj kal koi bhorosa nahi.. they are in high demand than boys...
First become something,get good salary job and buy flat...and go for arrange marriage as early as possible....yae baat muje bhi kafi late samaj aayi...aur mere time muje koi samjahe wala nahi tha...as I was alone and in my fatacy world at age 22 to 27
@@Vijay55234 I agree with your comment except the arranged marriage part. I can't really imagine an arranged marriage in future.
Well done, Mohak Bhai. 'Loneliness' is something that is felt by millions but only a few hundred want to talk about it. We must accept "Loneliness" as a problem and try to make it easy to express each one's inner problems with others. Thanks to you for raising this issue.
Being 23 and Introvert till date..
Being alone and being lonely are two different things..!
When I was 17 I use to feel bad coz of my less connections..!
But than somehow I started vibing my own time.
Today I'm glad that I'm what I am .
I'm very productive being alone,less stressed, more happiness.
I Love my life in which I have only one friend, which is of opp gender, My bro, My Sis, And my parents.
Today I'm traveling solo.. and typing this..!
Hope you all are doing good..
nd don't take being alone as a disease.
It's the beet feeling if you start living with yourself!
Have a good day.🥀
bruh
Says I'm alone but brags about a good friend, brother, sister and parents smh
@@aseem7w9 Sorry for your bad day asmi7w...
but I didn't add that I live alone in my 1bhk flat and meet them only on Sundays!
It's Sunday morning and this weekend I can't go home coz of hospital duties at night.
And I just woke up..saw your comment..it really made my day.
thank you for this sweetness.
hv a nice day ahead.
I have studied in over 7 schools. Because of my father's transfers hence building friendships were really difficult for me. Initially loneliness was hard. But i enjoy every bit of it. Yes i do have my parents i talk with them made some good friends in college and later on in my school too. Yet i am lonely. Now i enjoy it. It's been really fruitful for me as no one could ever influence me to do wrong things but yes sometimes when i sit alone wondering then i feel the need of talking to someone. Works both ways for me.
In this country, there is a person every 2 to 3 meters from you, yet there is no one in a kilometer for you.
Thank you so much mohak sir to speak on such issues. 😢😢😢I am also too lonely 🙁 and no one really talks on such things. You are putting so much efforts to guide and heal persons like us. 👍 hats off 👏 👌 mohak sir. Aapke videos se maine it a kuch seekha jitna maine kabhi school mei nahi seekha. Keep shining ✨
Mohak bhai I don't know if you know, but because of content and videos like this, some of us are very grateful to you. Please don't stop exploring and covering topics like this when you reach 10+ million or 20+ million subscribers, because these topics are very important and people should be made aware of them.
I'm a 21 year old engineering student, and believe me in my class there's a bunch of people who think that they have the authority to insult, humiliate, ignoring those who ask for help and manipulate the important decisions of class according to their comfort , they have nothing to do with rest of the living beings of the same room , they just want to compete mercilessly. As if they already decided that the
Most talented, rich and the people who have the max social status can live peacefully , rest can die...
Togetherness is a myth
People just want competition
Thank you so much for spreading this awareness. People think loneliness is something that does not exist, especially when you are surrounded by lots of people.
I am also lonely but I am not depressed. I felt depressed when I was connected with my neighbors and school mates. Disconnecting my life from them made my mental health much better and I began to live my life happily since then
I also used to feel alone for 2 year after my breakup
But
Then I decided
Move on
And started playing cricket
Started running
Meet new people
Go every day for walk
I improved my relation with my siblings and parents
Nd now i m happy
This method is so simple
Pr ise karna muskil hai shuru mei pr krne sei hi result milega
I am a 19 year old living in canada and as usual completely alone. Making relationships is quiet difficult with anyone because if you try to talk with anyone, it seems that you are trying to harass them.
I took a year gap for neet 2023,and chose self /home study. Trust me,i know what and how "loneliness" feels like. I deactivated all social media accounts,all my friends are too busy studying and attending coachings that we hardly ever talk on phone or even chat.
My day from Monday to Saturday was the same as usual, 🙃
Wake up - Study - have breakfast -study - Lunch - Study - dinner - Study - sleep - wake up n vice versa.
I felt so frustrated,and burnt out and i would get angry and annoyed for silly reasons. I became so depressed. I watched lots of motivational videos too,but no use cos the motivation would last max for 1-2 weeks and then ,i would be back to my original form, lonely.
Sometimes i would have panic and anxiety attacks and i would stay awake till morning. This went on for many months 🙃
Loneliness ain't no small issue man
Same problem with me
@@Wfrmen nahi 🥲
Same
Same here.. 🥲
@@axolotl4808kitne aaye mera bhi same story but 450 pe atak gya..
Acceptance of a problem is the first step to a reasonable solution. Correct.
I'm Indian, I love being alone. I really hate conversations. I'm better this way! And believe me this doesn't bother me. I don't feel lonely.
To be honest, Being alone and being lonely are totally different things.
Difference is minute but still huge.
I have been suffering from depression and anxiety for the last few years but nobody noticed anything about me, not even my girlfriend. I just hope and pray I don't do anything stupid which might hurt my dear ones.
Loneliness, Depression, Anxiety Facing Together , I have no-one to share my problems with Not even a Friend , the only thing i use to do is Crying Alone at midnight So that no one can see my tears ...😢 Saying that I'm suffering from depression is casual nowadays but Suffering is just A very hard phase with which I'm suffering
Same situation
Want to connect??
In a room full of people...I would still feel the loneliness lurks in me. There isn't a single being that would listen to me or understand. If there's anyone who talks to me is either they need my help or their friends are busy. I'm always a backup friend to everyone. But I still give my time to everyone because I know how it feels to be ignored. I only shared this because...it feels good to share with people who would feel like me.
As an Introvert, I feel energetic whenever I get lonely.😅 I concentrate on my skills, no one to judge me, no one criticize me, I do workout, do programming. I love loneliness.😅
same here
I think you got the wrong idea, being alone and loneliness are COMPLETE DIFFERENT THINGS. Though i like the fact that you enjoy your own company being alone . Wish you the best for your upcoming endeavours : )
Sounds like a cope
Dam now I know why I don't feel lonely..im introvert..but wierd I can talk with people easily ..so I can't say I'm complete introvert 😂
Extremely same here 😂 I am also introvert, I use to listen music alone, also i do programming
Being lonely and introvert is something different experience
How contrasting is it that in the time of this social media era , where we are watching thousands of people interacting with hundreds of them still feeling lonely
That teaches us the biggest lesson of our life that we don't need thousands and hundreds of people around us we just want 2-4 people with whom we can talk giggle laugh and cry on their shoulders but unfortunately we all are in a herd race to showcase the world 🥺❤️
Thank you so much Mohak Bhaiya... For acknowledging this issue. ❤
I hope our community will change someday, And we'll never feel alone ever.
Take love ♡
One thing that's helped me tremendously to navigate through loneliness is my introverted nature. For various reasons, I couldn't make friends in school, I was the only loner out of 40 students in my class and this is how it has been for a long time. But this was the time that also helped me contemplate life, I read a lot of books, meditated, explored philosophies and chose the spiritual path that aligned with my ideas, it's been comforting in that way.
जिसका कोई नहीं होता उसका ईश्वर होता है। You are on a spiritual path👣 What is inside you only real.
Bhai i make friends a lot of friends actually.. But hota hai ki voh aisi feeling dete hai as if voh mujhe jal rahe they're jealous of me... Mujhe yahee baat achi nahi lagti... Mujhe zyada marks aagaye tho jalna.. Mai acha dikhu tho jalna.. I mean aisa kya hai mujhe mein jo tumhe itna jealous feel kara raha hai.. Pata nahi yaar that's why I stopped making friends or I start talking with people who are complete strangers to me atleast voh log ache se baat tho karenge not as yeh dost jo hamesha jalte rehte hai mujhse...
@@zaynnnnnnnnnnnnnnn I could relate to that. :( Also no one usually talks to you first unless you do and when you don't, the conversation is paused.
Same situation. I'm in 11th, I've been studying for 13 years in same school, still Lonely 🙂
@@Ragedabhix you need some physical hobby, like drt game🎲 🎯Trust me your mind feels better.
I can relate to this a lot ,not necessarily now but yes 2 months before .
I am a NEET aspirant and I had just completed my 10th when COVID and lockdown started. My first lockdown was very good because all my family was with me all the time . We spent a lot of good time together but then my parents went back to work and I was alone with my sister. Now I was in 11th but the lockdown was still there so we just couldn't go out anywhere to enjoy or shop , just stay at home . I started becoming serious about my ppn so I thought I shouldnt waste my time talking to friends so I purposefully reduced talking to them but little did I know that I would become lonely . 11th and 12th passed somehow but I didn't get a seat so I took a drop but drop year was the worst for me with no social interactions, no friends, no going outside as a result, I couldn't concentrate on my studies like before in 10th etc . Whenever I would sit to study , negative thoughts and overthinking would come in my way . I also started day dreaming a lot .I also had stress whether I would get selected this year or no.This never happened with me before but I think all of this happened because of COVID and lockdown. I had no interactions with anybody in my drop year hence I couldn't study properly at all . I also couldn't do the things I loved to do because I didn't have time to .
I wish all this comes to an end asap and life returns to normal,like how it was before the pandemic .
I am ok now and not feeling that lonely because after exam finished, I met all my cousins and family members. We also went outside 😊
I taking another drop to prepare for neet this year
Neet 2024
Edit - Guys I got bds 🎉😊
Ah this will come to an end soon bruh
Its similar to my story
I am a medical student now
So don't give up, IT WILL END!
I may sound wrong to some people, but make a good friend i would say
Or a gf
In my case, this was the one who helped me through all this negativity
And i got mbbs
In my case, that person came as a blessing for me
If you find such a heavenly person, then they can really help u
I don't speak sh*t like learn to live alone
Love yourself blah blah
Cuz i know how it feels when everyone can give their expert advice but noone can help!
Think smarter
If you can have a person who can make your life much easier
Then suffering alone doesn't make any sense to me
Take care bruh :)
Same situation dido😢
All the best
All the best my friend. I know you'll do good 👍
dont take drop if your score is below 100 of cutt off score
Its a genuine request to you !
Es channel ki har ek vedio bhuuut Sara positive impact add on krti hai....har ek dekhne vale shaks pe ..... consciously or unconsciously.....ye har movie ya web series ya koi bhi other content jisko dekhne k bad personality m kuch meaningful add nhi hota..se laakh Guna achi hai.....aapki vedioes dekhne ka cost benefit bhuuut high hai....❤❤
12th std was the most depressed phase of my life till now. I started to bunk tuition and college. I lied to my parents. I was at home all day. Then I was started to think of sucide like there is nothing in this world. I got myself up from that situation but still I feel lonely sometime. The best thing you can do is go outside meet people and do not compare yourself with others.
I don't know how many times I cried watching SOCH videos. They just talk about something we can't give words to.
I don't know how to thank to you amazing people, but thanks, I mean... thanks from the bottom of my heart. All your videos you make mean a lot to people like me. Watching your videos I and people like me become aware of these problems we didn't have any word for.
Thank you again, SOCH Team.
Hii dear
It's okay guys. Many millions of people are lonely. Find a purpose and work on it. Without purpose you are really lonely. I went through that phase. I'm lonely now, but never felt alone because I do something everyday to achieve my goals.
This is very serious topic no one is taking about it , You are doing great job.
The competition to get a job and a good life is so high that there's no time to smile at someone - every youngster can relate
Entire my life I have dealt with loneliness. I don't know why people do not talk about this often but now At this point of my life I have become accoustomed with loneliness. I have never found a person who can match my energy at mental, intellectual and emotional level result is that I had friends in my life but not someone who could understand or resonate my vibration. This is heartbreaking to know that I am only 19 and I am already tired of my life and have to deal with this till my last days. I was extrovert earlier now I have become introvert and drew boundary lines . I try to enjoy my own company and vibe with myself...
Please Instagram I'd
Same here
Anusmita i m from odisha i can be your friend don't this me as creep ,i m genuinely want a good opposite gender friend
@@farmeryaar5860kyu tujhe didi ki loneliness dur karni
U cant find a group of people who will meet all ur expectation. Each person is unique.
“हर तरफ़ हर जगह बेशुमार आदमी,
फिर भी तनहाईयों का शिकार आदमी।”
~ निदा फ़ाज़ली
It's better to choose to be alone than to be lonely surrounded by friends and family. I'm a 19 year old guy living in Japan. I love you my brothers and sisters. Stay patient and strong.🫶❤️
Can't believe youtube suggested this video while I'm actually going through it. I'm an introvert since childhood. Inferiority complex, low self esteem lack of confidence are part of my growing up years, both my parents and majorly relatives have contributed to it. Mocking about my looks, my attitude, my teaching profession, they have done it all. Now 39 and mother of 2 bright kids loving husband comfortable life still i feel lonely. My social circle has reduced to 1/3rd in last 5 years. Especially after I quit my job after second delivery to take care of kids. Fedup of relatives gossips and taunts over the years since childhood, now i have stopped going to any family functions, ours is a big family and in a year there are minimum 50-100 functions. Friends circle is also reduced as I feel guilty for not having a stable career while they all have. Neighbors don't even talk to eachother in this city unlike small towns. I don't like joining any kittys or groups. I do feel alone, depressed, sometimes not feeling like doing day to day tasks. But I put all efforts and try my best to do everything for my family. My husband is very supportive and understanding. Loneliness is not only about being unable to connect with people in the family, there could be various reasons. Sometimes you just get fedup with the people around you.
True, I am facing some what same in terms of social perspective, I am single my family is loving and caring towards me, but what I feel is not the loneliness rather I just miss myself, life circumstances has changed me but not in the person I thought I will become as an adult, and that is what upsets me, I am working towards it and hoping something good will turnout in future, Best wishes for ur better future as well.
Your story is almost my story. Married when i was 16 and moved to another city. Had to leave my school friends and family. In-laws were not very cooperative. It's been 20 years now i have three kids moved back to my own city but lost contact with all my friends and there's no way i could find them again. When i see my cousins and siblings with their friends i really feel lonely. I wish I could find one true friend 😢
First i was alone
but after watching this video
am lonely 😭😭😭
same
😭😭😭😭😭 mai bhi
Highs and lows are common in ones life . I share everything with my dad just because he said me to be open which i was not. when i attained my 17. I was fine before lockdown as things were getting worse i had to confess father which really helped me.
I love it how everyone is sharing their problems.
Much needed content , You gained a lot of respect for this ! As an Undergraduate studying in a different city from my hometown , a majority of my friends migrated to different cities too. Whenever i get back home from college , i feel a disconnect in the social relationships. I only connect with a few people and outside them I am not vocal at all. Any kind of social communication gives me anxiety, so insomnia too happens. This video was much needed , it made me feel like i’m not alone ❤
There was a phase in my life when I used to feel lonely when surrounded by family or relatives or anyone except close friends, but when I am alone, I never used to feel lonely at all. This slightly changed overtime, but even now I enjoy being alone
even i too do the same
Because u are busy and had purpose in life
I just wanted to take a moment and appreciate you Mohak! As goes your channel name, it really does change the way I think at issues and this one connected at every level. I used to study in the US and worked there for while too. Way tougher for me as an introvert to make connections. Overtime though, I got my socials figured and a lot of lessons learnt. Thank you again for doing what you are Mohak! All the very best for everything ahead too!
Bro infuture mujhe v abroad Jana hai higher education ke liye I think aapse mujhe achi mentorship mil sakti hai and I also need a senior who guide me please will you be my friend🙂🙌
Thanks a lot mohak for such a lovely video on such a painful yet unseen sufferings we often go through !!
congratulations for completing MBA while running such a great and inspiring channel
Wish I could multitask like Mohak
I am just doing my graduation and woh bhi nai ho raha dhang se
This is a very different suggestion people may not approve but mohak should bring a time management video
Staying in US,has a wife,has done job, completed masters that too mba,and manages a 2 mil+ active yt channel which uploads regularly
Gajab ke aadmi hai yaar🫡
@@divitkarekar5803technically he isn't? The script the editing, he setup the team for that reason. He's just the face of the channel there's 13 people working behind that face
An outstanding content Team 🙌 Hat's off. Literally almost everyone around is going through the same crisis but no one is ready to speak or listen or accept the fact.
Especially when we go through a worst phase of life we feel much lonely and this loneliness feel like someone hitting hard & u start feeling a real physical pain . Think about so many other things & eventually land up in depression. People who are living with parents & family also feel lonely and depressed coz we have so much to speak & share but there's no one to listen, understand & console.
We only have people who say "Just chill! Tu bohot zyada soch rahi hai😢" but no one understands us 😢
Hats off to you , for bringing such an important topic, we all suffer from some sort of loneliness , but its very important to realise the issue and accept it......
Hey.. thanks a lot for raising this important topic and mentioning our work for lonely senior citizens! We have many programmes across India for low income and middle class elders. We will be very happy to increase our impact by benefiting more and more seniors dealing with loneliness, anxiety, depression and other mental and physical health issues. Keep up your good work! 👍🙌👏
I am a 20 years old college going boy facing loneliness. Here is my experience.
I moved out of my hometown for study.
From childhood I am used to live in a joint family, playing and spending fun times with my cousins, participating in family gossips and gatherings & I enjoyed to live like that.
Also I got very lucky in having close friends with whom I had a lot of fun times, cycling all over my village.
But for my better future I have to leave all of this behind.
Most probably in few years I will work as a Software Engineer in a Big City (i.e. Bangalore) away from all of this. In financial and career wise it will be nice but then I think will it be worth to sacrifice closeness with family and friends and suffering from loneliness.
May be earning a little less but having family and friends beside will ultimately make me more satisfied than the previous option.
I think financial success sometimes comes with “Loneliness”.
And it is really difficult to choose what to do.
You picked up a really serious issue, great work 👍
As Indians most of us will connect only if we see any benefits otherwise we don't. The concept of helping others selflessly, connection with elderly and family is long gone. The credit goes to social media
True ☑
True bro i think it's all money based friendship nowadays
You cant deny the fact
That men are more lonely than females
Its a fact👍
The actual reason. Simple.
Didn't your previous generation do the same thing? Stop saying cliches and blame it all on social media to garner a few likes from the intellectually lazy people who easily buy cliches.
People in the previous generation are the ones who taught us to not engage in social altercations. They raised their kids to be engineers/doctors for the only selfish reasons so they can secure future benefits. They taught us to not be involved in politics and selflessly fight for freedom and justice. They kept us away from our own scriptures like Mahabharata so they do not risk in-group family fighting. They raised us with the mindset to always compare ourselves and compete with siblings/neighbors and be constantly jealous of them. They raised us to not be friends with people coming from lower socioeconomic conditions.
Where did the previous generation learn to do this back then? Social media wasn't there before the first decade of the 21st century!
Do you know what actually has made people not care about connection, love, friendship? It is our collective decision to READ /\/\∆RX, FOLLOW S0C!∆L!SM and then neglect our human tendency to crave for friendship, love, a sense of meaning, legacy and culture. We ourselves have made an uneducated political choice to prioritize our material needs over our spiritual needs and live like nihilistic materialists. And that's why today we are facing this consequence!
Whenever you feel lonely don’t look for people but for purpose.
Wow damn! This comment needs to be pinned! ❤
@@Yesunakya0 You can...Dhundne se bhagwan bhi mil jate hai
@@shubhamsingh6774 Bro ... Don't joke .... You guys only care about the girls who have good appearance and are good looking whether it is academic field or any other field ..... They are so many talented girls but some of them are not so much successful just because of their appearance and boys don't like them or support them .....
@@shubhamsingh6774Bro ... Don't joke .... You guys only care about the girls who have good appearance and are good looking whether it is academic field or any other field ..... They are so many talented girls but some of them are not so much successful just because of their appearance and boys don't like them or support them .....
As someone who faced loneliness ( i am 19now), That was such a terrible situation to be, although one decision changed my life forever, as mohak mentioned, the community, for instance i started goig to the gym, the people who were aqauintance a few months ago, are now more than friends, dont give up, keep hope and believe in the divine, Hope this was helpful
Loneliness breeds from our very homes itself. I bet most of our parents don't even realise what is the value of mental health in today's world. I was brought up well educated and but one thing my parents were never able to give me is the freedom and that feeling that yes they are my own. My parents especially my mother was very strict back then, and i could never muster up the courage to talk about anything to her and gradually i learnt to keep everything within myself. I could never speak freely, express my feelings and everything with them. As i grew up over the years, my teenage days, thereafter as i grew up to be an adult i kept everything within myself. All my moments of joy and pain, i could never share with them. And now suddenly when I'm 28 and barely speak with anyone, they come to ask me why don't i talk much, why do i behave this way.
As a fifteen-year-old, I have lived through most of my short life being alone. I'm the introvert in the class, and the less social and uninteresting one in my family.
I was introduced to the internet in 2012 when my Facebook was created. I played games on my laptop instead of going out with friends. I'm still like that to this day. I swear I have been to a friend's house a single time and then never again.
Due to the pandemic, I wasn't able to form any good relationships with any friends at school. And then I had to change schools in the ninth grade. I was doing great at school, but still, no friendships.
I got an addiction. Not drugs or anything... I still can't admit it. Then my depression hit, due to loneliness and the addiction and derealisation. The summer vacations were going on. When they ended, I couldn't go to school for about three months.
My parents were worried the whole time and I couldn't tell them the cause. The final exams had almost arrived when I opened up to my parents, crying about my depression. My internal marks had fallen due to practicals, and projects being missing entirely. My attendance percentage had fallen quite low.
After much quarrel and crys, I was taken to a neuropsychologist, where I was diagnosed with clinical depression. I took medicine for two weeks but then never went back there. I wanted therapy but my p addiction was my constraint for not taking it.
I could never tell the doctor what was actually going on.
The finals were here and I wouldn't want to give them. Still, each night, I would cram and till the morning I was so unmotivated I wouldn't want to give the exam. Thanks to my parents who would coercively drop me off to school, I managed to get 84% in ninth. I feel I could've done better but it's okay.
Now I am in tenth and still want to get therapy. I still feel I can't trust a therapist. I go blank sometimes when people talk to me. I am very much of a hikikomori and aware about this concept since a long time.
What approach can I take to fix my life?
Hey,even i have been to therapy and trust me it actually helps
There is client confidentiality so they won't tell it to your parents
Pls go to therapy and open up slowly about everything
Also the fact that you go blank when you talj with ppl, therapy can even solve that since you speak to your therapist who is irl person
Study hard for your 10th and go to a good college,all the best for your future 👍🏻
P addiction means por*n?
Am I the only person who never feel lonely when alone...I guess one should hv goals that they enjoy doing..like spending time on exercise, on art, on science ,on spirituality or just go for a walk..taking your own responsibility is the most beautiful thing...A person who has understood this ..will never feel alone ...❤
Hey, thanks for discussing on this topic, i have been feeling alone since long time i'm an ambivert , i have cool cousins, family and few friends but still somehow i feel alone..... whenever something hurts me i couldn't control my tears , i miss my own self and energy
You're making videos on most meaningful and the most important topic of our life and society. Hats off 👍👍
The worst feeling is when you have your family and friends around you but you still feel lonely
Thanks a lot for making this video, a lot of students who come abroad face this issue. Changing from a collectivistic family based society to an individualistic society is very very difficult. The connections here are made very differently and soft skills and hobbies are lacking in Indian students thanks to hectic school and college schedules back in India
I am from maharashtra. I'm 19 years old and I am going through each every problem you covered.
I'm addicted to watch web-series and I think it's the only thing I do. Whenever I get in situation to out of my home to get something or to do something " I FEAR ALOT ."
I don't no what do.
Even I can't go to a phychatris , Not because I don't want to but I cant Aford it.
I live long away from my home village to study. Even there I couldn't make friends . I don't no how to talk, what to talk
You are weak
Just say hi to people. And make small talk. Its the first step to make friends.
Don't worry this too shall pass
@@NHassan-om6ys the major problem with me is that I can't talk to people fluently as others. I don't get anything to talk. I am an introvert and I fear of my face expressions and my looks.
@@39madhurie well hope so
Your topic selection is best.. loneliness has been the most underrated topic for discussion. I am happy that you have selected this topic and represented all the aspects of it very well. I have also been a victim of loneliness after my break-up for almost 1 year... So I can understand the importance of this topic... Thankyou Mohak...
I was suffering from loneliness back in 2020. For me fortunately covid happened and I went back to my parents. It genuinely helped and I got to know they were also facing same problem. Thanks Mohak for spreading awareness about this.
Lonliness is just a temporary feeling of sadness. Which faced by all people. Learn to live lonely.
Just a small suggestion. Kindly refrain from using the word "buddhe" when you are referring to older people. It is highly demeaning and insulting. Use respectful and sensitive expressions like "senior citizens", "varisht nagarik", or "vriddh jan" when you are referring to persons of an advanced age group.
@@ubi_dubium_ibi_libertas they are called budha because they destroyed this country by giving too much birth. Budha is exact word these lustful should get.
The problem with the society today is that we have distractions like social media, OTT platforms, etc. to ignore the problem of loneliness and because of that, this problem never gets addressed properly. And with social media, we see pics of people going here and there and then comes the FOMO and people just forget what they are actually suffering from.
Some how you're right
Thanks Bro for acknowledging.
I am 19 years old student and I live alone.
I can totally relate with all points that you had discussed in this video. From last 15 - 20 days i am struggling with the same problem.