I would love to have a look at the research showing that 50% are not based on shame and just an overevaluation of self. I'm not yet fully aware of overevaluation that isn't rooted in compensatory mechanisms. And haven't met a grandiose narcissist whose ego isn't fragile. If the notion of "I'm better than you" truly secure than it is not easily threatened by opposition or contrary evidence. Our overestimations of ourselves are corrected through lived experience, which is then integrated into our self assessment. Meaning it would naturally correct overestimations. However, when rooted in shame, the lived experience proving otherwise is a threat to be denied and may lead to narcissistic injury. So this piece I'd love to learn and understand more about.
I watched these video three times! This is precious knowledge! Thank you Terry and all of those who helped to make sense of these so important issues! I would like to add that to form this kind of relationship of trust and loving confrontation we need to work our own narcissistic traits and our anger, rejection and disrespect for the narcissistic behaviour. Especially if we had parents that traumatised us with this kind of behavour. In somatic psychotherapy (biosynthesis) there are exercises that help the couple realise the narcissistic dynamic very easily.
Hi Terry--I love your work. It would be great if you could give some acknowledgement to the foundational work of The Jean Baker Miller Institute (JBM Towards a New Psychology of Women) and particularly to the seminal work of Dr Judith Jordan, who brilliantly framed and defined what"relational" means, and how a relationship with authenticity (and Zest!) is essential between therapist and patient.
I would love to have a look at the research showing that 50% are not based on shame and just an overevaluation of self. I'm not yet fully aware of overevaluation that isn't rooted in compensatory mechanisms. And haven't met a grandiose narcissist whose ego isn't fragile. If the notion of "I'm better than you" truly secure than it is not easily threatened by opposition or contrary evidence. Our overestimations of ourselves are corrected through lived experience, which is then integrated into our self assessment. Meaning it would naturally correct overestimations. However, when rooted in shame, the lived experience proving otherwise is a threat to be denied and may lead to narcissistic injury. So this piece I'd love to learn and understand more about.
what an excellent video!!!! bravo.
I watched these video three times! This is precious knowledge! Thank you Terry and all of those who helped to make sense of these so important issues! I would like to add that to form this kind of relationship of trust and loving confrontation we need to work our own narcissistic traits and our anger, rejection and disrespect for the narcissistic behaviour. Especially if we had parents that traumatised us with this kind of behavour.
In somatic psychotherapy (biosynthesis) there are exercises that help the couple realise the narcissistic dynamic very easily.
Beautifully added, Georgia - thank you for commenting!
There is a compulsive component to narcissism. Also an escape into dystopian fantasy. They're reality adjacent yet not quite in reality.
Hi Terry--I love your work. It would be great if you could give some acknowledgement to the foundational work of The Jean Baker Miller Institute
(JBM Towards a New Psychology of Women) and particularly to the seminal work of Dr Judith Jordan, who brilliantly framed and defined what"relational" means, and how a relationship with authenticity (and Zest!) is essential between therapist and patient.